I concur as I know now why I am called ‘weird ‘ too intense , I am extreme extrovert , an ENFP , and hence leadership is noted in references from school . Captain of sports teams , dance captain for a show overseas , and I don’t stress , I am in my element , but I often don’t complete tasks . Too many ideas so get judged . I learnt a lot through my well versed in this topic and his introverted self , genius IQ but not my confidence !
I am more then just introvert then, because I go out of my way to avoid being around people at all costs. I have a quiet voice so it's hard to communicate lol. After actually talking for a while I go home, rethink what I've done and hate myself for the next twenty years
I'm an extrovert and my best friend is introvert so, I know how introverts are, they're not all shy and socially awkward. They just don't want to be with a whole lot of crowd because they don't know what to do with them and whoever says that parties are not for introvert is a complete lie, they just need a friend to be comfortable with, then they won't care who they're surrounded with and that's one of the best thing about them. All extrovert should have an introvert friend. They make the best combo.
I am introvert, I read a lot, watch documentaries, paint, sculpt and I love nature. I can't be around loud people, they stress me out. Thank you for sharing this.
I like this. It counters that idea that extroverts need stimuli or else their brains aren't as active (?) and suggests maybe introverts and extroverts just have different stimuli. I'm an ambivert. Sometimes I crave to be around others, get to know the intricate works of their minds, hear their stories, learn how they tick, and form connections with them. Sometimes I crave to be alone, get to know new piano pieces to play, hear my own thoughts, learn how to mod a game or form better connections with myself. Both stimulate me. Maybe that just mean my brain is even quieter without stimuli haha but I'd like to think it's just normal to need input sometimes.
They could make noise out of a paper bag. I’ve given up expecting much peace and serenity when those people are around. Half of them are absolute fucking wankers with undiagnosed ADHD.
i'm the same that's why i have such a hard time finding a girlfriend i'm like a Panda bear lol i couldn't stand being with a woman that is loud neurotic wanting to go clubs and pubs it's unbearable to me i want somebody calm and quiet stoic and genuine and interesting but it's catch 22 because those type of women don't advertise or put themselves out there so they are very rare to find lol
@@truthfilterwell it depends I suppose, generally yes, but not all "loud" girls are the same... But yeah I'd still try and avoid them lol I hate pubs, but I do like the bars with soft music, maybe a nice conversation over a drink would be nice 😊 but yeah I hate people who talk too much (and not even loud lol), sometimes people talk about stuffs that I'd already known and it annoys me so much lol
I'm also an introvert. I've taken the past year off from work and spend most days home with just my cats. I'm never bored. And over the years, I've discovered that I don't travel well with other people. If I do travel with a friend, I have to get my own hotel room or else after a day I'm feeling overwhelmed and will make any excuse to bow out of sightseeing to stay in bed just for some alone time.
@FlyfishermanMike @Sprouts Which is weird, because I love social interaction, speaks before I think, could easily switch between conversations, etc, everything you'd find typically extrovert. Yet, I have no problem with this isolation; I love spending time alone, work from home, playing single player RPGs, look at videos (such as these) alone, etc. Clearly I must be ambivert, right?
Actually i like socializing with close circle friends, i cant totally live without them, but only close friends. I get awkward or confused if I am to interact with many strangers.. but after socializing so much I get annoyed to everyone and just want to stay on my room surf the net and play games. Afterwards, I am fine.
Same and i m in my 40 s already . I didnt change . I m lucky to have a few but real faithfull friends . I m still amazed how so many people are just nasty ( men or women ) specially in groups , rude or fake ... But i give them less and less attention . Lots of nice or interesting people tó focus on
I'm an introvert, but not shy. In my profession, I've done public speaking to hundreds of people, and thought nothing of it. That said, I can identify with a Facebook post I saw un a YT video: "After I speak to a person for an hour, I need to be alone for 24 hours".
I can quess that you are a sensitive and sentimental person that in a one-on-one talk is rather the listener than the one who talks, you do worry to say something wrong or unsuitable since you are a responsible man. I would be glad about your reply =)
@@sakuranovaryan9261 To want to talk to a crowd, is a life-style, a choice that you make , if you consider the whole crowd as one person and try to talk with him as you would talk in an eye to eye talk. try it, it will surprise you.
I get teased by extroverts for being quiet, avoidant, and kind of awkward, but I avoid them because they are energy vampires seeking to steal my life force. True story.
everyone seems to be an introvert in the comments so here is an extroverted person's point of view. Being outside is like a part of you, especially during quarantine most of us literally lost a part of ourselves. We find it hard to get through the day because we are deprived of social attention, it's a fuel that keeps us going. Sometimes you may find us annoying, but if you really try and slow us down we will listen. Also, not all extroverts think introverts are quiet or annoying. Most of us are dying to say 'hi' but are scared that you would ignore us or you would think we are the annoying ones breaking your silence.
Aww I never thought this is how extraverts feel 👉👈 I've always thought extraverts just prefer to mingle with other extraverts so they can recharge from each other. Though is chatting with extraverts enough during quarantine? I sometimes try to chat my extraverted friends from time to time since I don't really know how they're coping.
That's why I really feel bad for a lot of you that are stuck inside. As an introvert, I thrive on being alone. If I was still at home (currently deployed), literally nothing in my life would have changed because of the pandemic. However for you guys, like you said, being outside and socializing is your fuel. The only thing that I hope with what's going on is now that extroverts are experiencing how it feels to be an introvert in social gatherings, extroverts can respect us a bit more. A lot of extroverts couldn't understand how we feel when being dragged to huge social events and how it drained us, but now that you guys are the ones being drained, hopefully perspective kicks in. Anyways, I really do hope that things back home get back to normal soon for you guys. I know what you guys are feeling right now, and it sucks.
Welcome to the painful life of an introvert, where society worships and is pretty much completely structured around your opposite personality sibling! Sorry I just can't help my smartass tendency when extroverts complain about their new lives in the covid climate. Aside from that, your complaints are still valid of course. Thank you for sharing the extrovert's perspective.
I'm a total introvert, I was once in a four-hour long group meeting with 8 people during university and didn't speak a single word. However, when the self-proclaimed leader of our group questioned my involvement, I showed her the 16-page meeting minute that I had written and the half-page analysis and summary. Basically, I concentrated the four hours of brainstorming and various tangents into something the group can work with moving forward.
@@KAT-dg6el I'm both, I was picked on during middle school because English was not my native language so people keep making fun of my accent, bad grammar, poor sentence structure, and wrong word choice. However, I am quite certain that I'm an introvert because, if given the choice between intermingling with others or being by myself, I will most definitely choose being by myself. I have 10,000 ways of keeping myself entertained and doing things when along, whereas I feel totally lost when in a group situation.
@@roxannejarrett11 Ever had anyone question your contributions? It is at once the most hilarious and annoying thing that happens in my life whenever I'm doing group work. I'm always just rolling my mind's eye at the audacity of those idiots who just spent the last 40 minutes arguing over boobs or butts while I'm the only person in the group doing actual "work", only for them to turn around and ask me if I've actually done anything.
Your example sounds more like you are shy or the group was lead by a few 'loud mouths' who actually wouldn't let other people talk. Though i think shyness is correlated to introversion, so you may be both.
As an introvert, I've found that people will often cut me off while I'm formulating an answer, or finish my sentence for me in a way that's terribly shallow compared to what I was actually going to say, if not completely wrong. I think this is why introverts are tormented by extroverts, while the reverse isn't an issue. To them we are boring or invisible, but not an impediment to their expression.
I feel like there is a lot of people claiming they are introverts, when they are in fact extroverts. Just like how being introvert doesn’t mean ur socially awkward and/or shy, being extrovert doesn’t mean ur not socially awkward and/or shy. You might be a shy extrovert, who associate that shyness to introversion, either consciously or unconsciously.
Exactly. I like to call myself a "traumatized extroverted", because I'm naturally very extroverted but negative backlash to that during childhood has made me very shy
I feel like I am definitely a shy, socially awkward extrovert, just because I love when people talk to me and we can laugh together and have fun but i’m very scared to approach people sometimes and am not very confident with myself. today I was at work and i’m relatively new, i’m still a trainee at hideaway pizza, but today I just felt really good and friendly with my other coworkers that and that felt great and once I get pretty comfortable in the environment I can go and talk to people so I don’t know I kinda went off but oh well.... 👉🏻👈🏻
I think the protagonist of "Dear Evan Hansen" is a good representation of an extrovert that has social anxiety, he wants to have a friend and talk everyday, but he can't because of his anxiety
The reverse is equally true. A lot of people will pretend to be extroverted because it is associated with more rewards and recognition, promotions at work and (wrongly so) leadership qualities. Then when you sit down with them and have a deep discussion, you realise they are a totally different person from what they pretend.
The description of the introvert child felt quite accurate to me. Superficial conversions in group settings are the most draining thing one can experience, it's essentially people talking about their own selves or gossiping... then wondering why we can't be bothered to join in! Also I am convinced that there are way more people with introvert tendencies than they dare to admit, because of social pressure and greater rewards being associated with displaying extroverted forms of behaviour.
I will do my fair share of keeping up social trust, by engaging in some small talk. It's called small because it's something everyone can join in, no qualifications needed. It's how we gauge who we can trust, and who we cannot, before we start sharing important things and revealing ourselves.
@@whereisyourhumanity7557 Na its small talk because it has no significance in anything. it normally doesnt drain people unless its countless people doing it or someone your talking to can not get past it. You really need that to trust someone? Ill always trust people to a point. @Pritish Appadoo I also believe their are a greater number of people who are more introverted but i think they develop extraverted tendencies easier than what the video states. I think it just takes more good feeling in meeting people and it will become easier and more fulfilling to do so.
@@whereisyourhumanity7557even after realizing a person is trustworthy, I still would never reveal personal things about myself to anybody. My wall will always be between me and everybody else.
So true. I was a pharmaceutical sales rep and those people back bite. I reached above my target by making 450% above my sales target yet people in company doubted my abilities. The Dr's loved my services because I actually listened. Sometimes I questioned why whenever other reps and their managers went in to see the Dr before me there was so much laughter (mostly fake) and jokes. Then when it was my turn nobody was laughing. I just went in, did my job and left. I provided real solutions for their patients especially with regards to formulates and medical aids. I still wonder what is always so funny with other reps going in there cause diseases and medication are not a joke it's about people's lives and their health.
I think moving towards ambivert happens because we have to push ourselves to function in a largely extroverted world. Otherwise we tend to get overlooked as useless for jobs.
Same here. I highly suspect environmental factors matter as well. When younger, you were surrounded by all types of people, including some really high energy, super extroverts, which exhausted your energy much faster. As you get older, especially after entering your professional life, you’re much likely to be surrounded by people with temperament similar to yourself, which makes social situation much more pleasant. On top of that, my work for example, requires a lot of independent work, with very minimal social interactions. At the end of the day I actually crave human interactions.
Ambivert here! I'm around 54% ex and 46% in and for me, I get stimulated by both! But once there's too much of one thing, like when I haven't had alone time for a while I get overwhelmed but if I'm alone for too long I get lonely and underestimulated. For me, my social life is a balancing act! Talking to people gives me a boost in energy and confidence but being by myself gives me time to think about life!
I think this is where I would place myself, though I have had some difficulty in doing so. I believe that childhood trauma had something to do with muddying my understanding. I suffer loneliness when I am alone, but being around others is emotionally triggering, causing me to invariably feel alienated from even my best friends when we comprise a group. I have only found one association wherein I feel dependably safe (which I will not name here because I don't want to give the wrong impression, as if I am advertising for it) and which allows me the space to experience that alienation within a context of belonging.
I'm also an ambivert, I am not afraid of talking to others and most of the times, I am also not shy either, but I don't speak with everyone too frequently.
I used to be an ultra-introvert in high school. Nowadays people laugh at me when I say I am an introvert, just because I’m not shy and I smile all the time. I believe socializing is just like any other skill that you can learn and there is nothing wrong with getting a few social hacks here and there.
Shy and introversion are completely separate, you can be extroverted and shy. Introversion is one of the 4 pillar of the personality types, Shy is a character trait. It's just that introverts are more likely to become Shy, because they have less reasons to interact with people, while extroverts, because they're more motivated to interact, are less likely to be Shy.
Teachers wanted to hold me back in elementary school because I was too quiet even though I had straight A’s. I love that people are actually acknowledging differences. It is hard to be a quiet child growing up in a loud world without support or answers. 🥰
Teachers are generally A-grade A-Holes. The ones who respect and teach to different personality types are extremely rare, as rare as gems. Most go down the easy road of letting the most talkative pupils express themselves rather than seeking a balance.
I'm an introvert but my life is so filled with "down time" and solitude, I actually look forward to parties, meetups, social gatherings, etc.. Simply because I need some of that and I rarely get it.
Baruch Cohen: I'm just guessing: Are you fighting your latent extrovert in order to claim that you are really an introvert? What would be the point in that?
@@waggishsagacity7947 Even the most introverted need some basic level of socialization. I get next to zero which is not good. Part of it is due to - I have arranged my life that way. Work from home, member of no churches or organizations, etc.. Human beings are social animals after all, we evolved that way. So some of it is required and necessary. So I really enjoy the rare moments when I do get some of it.
@@danthaman7777 The thing about introverts, as I experience[d] it, is that we are NOT recluses, but certainly not Party Animals. An extrovert, I believe, needs to recharge the batteries with social contacts galore; the introvert, with a smattering of interaction, like honey and coriander, respectively. But one knows these things from experience.
I don't feel like an introvert until I'm around people ^^' But I adore extroverted people. I can kick back and just listen. They have so much to share and speak so confidently- it's uplifting and encouraging ♡
Introverted definitely. I remember people getting mad at me because I don’t answer them quickly. Most of the time it’ll take me a good thirty seconds to come up with an answer. That’s why I learned to lie quickly.
Yeah I can lie too, pretty easy but some people forget what they lied i.e they access thier short term memory. But I take the whole thing into consideration, long term memory.
I love to give parties, but I hate going to them. Making sure everyone has food, drink and playing music makes me feel like I'm socializing without actually getting stuck in a conversation.
Definitely an introvert, i get my energy back by staying away from people, i hate talking to many people at once it makes my brain hurt anf i hate talking about subjects i don't enjoy so i end up leaving the group or stay quiet which makes people think I'm shy
Lilhungrybruh I just flipped the switch now I’m getting tired of people thinking shy = introvert. I am introverted but I can socialize pretty easily, it’s just I get drained a lot after socializing that it could stress me out. Shy extroverts and outgoing introverts exist.
I had a friend who told me she was an introvert because she was shy.. And when I explained to her what an introvert means she told me I was wrong and that I should search it up because introvert is about how shy you are🤦🏻♀️ and fun fact she is an extrovert
This is the best explanation of introverts I’ve seen. A lot of people don’t believe I’m an introvert because I’m not shy and can talk to anyone. But I don’t do small talk or casual friendships. I like deep intimacy and a lot of alone time.
As an introvert, I wish I had a teacher who had allowed more thinking time, for years I've questioned why I can't be as quick as others with answers and though my grades were good I thought since I lacked this I mustn't be as smart
Same here. I've often thought I'm "slow," especially in school, but got decent grades. In recent years, I've realized, if given time to think thru questions and issues and to frame my answers and opinions, I can actually be pretty bright.
I had the same problem! My teacher's would lower my grades for "lack of participation", even though I scored very well on tests. But the problem was never that I wasn't paying attention or that I didn't know the answer to a question, but rather that someone else always answered it faster.
I'm not quite sure when or why, but at some point it seems like it became trendy to identify as an introvert. I expected the comment section to reflect this and seem to have been correct (extrovert comments are few and far between compared to introvert comments). I'd be interested in reading anyone's thoughts on this phenomenon.
The internet is a platform fitting for introverts. Before, society was ruled by extroverts who could not understand introversion. They tried to force introverts into a extroverted form, which was suffocating. On the internet introverts can engage in the sort of discussion they enjoy. They can dwell on topics they're interested in, on a deeper level and more thinking time. They can infinitely explore and feed their mind with new knowledge and ideas. Since the internet is so all-encompassing in today's world, through it introverts are also noticed, since they get as much space as extroverts. They are also encouraged with the fact that there actually exist a huge amount of introverts, there's nothing wrong with them, unlike what they were told before.
I am guessing because, we are better at expressing our feelings through writing. I personally, used to be called a lot of names growing up been weird the most common one, and knowing not only that I'm not weird, but also that there is a lot more people like me than I thought makes me feel good (imagining this is the other reason why the comments section is booming with people saying "I'm an introvert too".
I think it's a fad because everyone wants to be special. Take the INFJ personality type for instance. Rarest personality type but completely over represented by people who insist that they are one. Aside from unicorn and skittle fart psychology, the INFJ probably is your chameleon serial killer at worst, I think that should be added so that people who simply lack personal conviction aren't so quick to hop on board the INFJ wannabe train.
I'm an introvert. I get sick of people telling me I spend too much time alone. Us introverts are misunderstood. Even when I was in the infants at school, I liked playing by myself. I was full of imagination. Nothing wrong with that.
I love how you mentioned that introverts are not necessarily shy, but rather prefer quiet time to recharge after being surrounded by people. This is something that many people don't understand, so it's great to see it explained clearly in this video.
Hell yeah I'm a ambivert : I like going out in parties and talk with everyone. And I like being alone at home for long period and don't talk to anybody !
I've been mostly an introvert. In 5th grade, i took on being an extrovert, and was immediately, consistently ridiculed for my extroversion. So, I receded, stayed an introvert to protect myself, all through public school. Eventually, I became a musician, studying intensely at home. I became enamored about performance, and began to try it at open mic's. I developed my skills, and drew people who coached me, encouraged me. I became comfortable on stage. Eventually, I wanted to perform for a living. A partner showed me how to market myself (an extrovert's work), do business. I bit the bullet, got work, got to work. I did it for 10 years.... but the introvert within prevailed. I got tired of the endless, relentless hustle. It was time to recede. I became a welder, where I could sit at my bench, and get lost in my work. On occasion, I'd do a performance... and my inner extrovert would pop out. I'd be humorous, entertaining, witty, magnanimous, everyone had a good time. I do like both aspects of myself now... but am mostly, an introvert. I live most of the time, alone, and enjoy it immensely... but persue opportunities to perform, be the entertainer.
Introverts don't exactly like small talk because it's just the white of the bread. There are no real nutrients in it, just empty calories. We wanna get straight to the meat!
I don't think anyone really likes small talk. Extroverts find it boring, too. We just go along with it because we think other people like it. An extrovert who is a little brainy will usually try and steer the conversation to deeper and more interesting topics.
I can understand why you’d feel that way, but it’s being able to turn small talk into real talk that beats all. So you gotta think of it as an entry point for people who don’t already know you well. Small talk has real value when it’s done with intention. Use your tools.
It's a true joy when you happen on someone who shares your sense of humor or wit or just your general mindset. Much of time you have to play the common man's game and spout general popular euphemisms but internally your in your own world and pick your spots to talk but generally are having a inner ongoing conversation/ narrative with yourself.
I'd describe myself as being an introvert, and I can definitely relate to the part about being drained by social situations. Especially in groups with people who im not close friends with. I can last a little while, but after that i find it hard to keep up, then I end up being quiet, and I get this feeling like im not being myself which i think is the worst part.
I am introverted. I'm fine with talking over technology. I also get wasted (insanely exhausted) when around lots of people. I am also very paranoid and not very trusting of strangers. Also, my short term memory often fails on me.
also 70 plus, and an introvert "heyoka", Jungian theory also proposes that in each of his 4 archetypes as we mature with age all move towards a middle ground. We as introverts living in an extroverted world need to grasp that complex and learn how to function in that world. Shyness is not a intrinsic part of introversion. The best course is to understand the differences. I am married to an extreme extrovert (22 yrs) an accept that she will never understand me while I can read her like a book! We lean on each other.
As an introvert, because I was usually quiet, sometimes in group settings other people thought that I was disinterested, or outright dumb and assumed I couldn't follow what was discussed. This is really frustrating. Has anyone else experienced this?
yes! all the time. people who i’m not friends with or who don’t know me tend to think im boring and don’t have a personality which i personally don’t think is the case at all. while i’m not shy or afraid to speak my thoughts, i always take longer than my extroverted friends to warm up to people and think of what i want to say. it’s not that we’re incapable, we’re just wired differently
After this video I can say I’m definitely mixed. I love talking to people and I gain energy by socializing, but I only like meaningful conversations. More over, when I first meet a person I’m definitely quiet and shy, but the more they know me I’m becoming more extroverted 😄
being mixed or close to the middle is great, cuz you gain energy by socializing and by being alone- but do too much of one or the other and then it starts becoming annoying.. i think mixed are the superior group.
This might be the best educational video I've ever watched in my almost 11 years of surfing youtube like a maniac. Such simple, yet well explained concepts. Awesome job !
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Ambiverts need more attention in videos like these. I'm a total ambivert myself. I always want to hear everyone's input and then think about the information, chew on it for a bit, and come up with some more ideas. Then suggest those ideas to others. And then think about them some more. It's a cycle. While I have a tendency to come up with quick ideas, I also despise superficial conversations and would rather be alone than deal with boring people who chat about inane things. All my friends are introverts and I don't get along well with extroverts because my inconsistent energy makes it hard for us to interact. I'm not quite introverted enough to balance them, but not extroverted enough to keep up with them. Introverts are so easy. They handle both sides of me really well because I don't stress them out as much as extroverts do. I wish there was more research on ambiversion though. I know I'm not the only person who feels like a walking paradox.
Just wrote a long post about the change I went thru from extro to introvert in the hope I might find out if others change also,,, guess I can delete the post now, Thanks.
It can be, it means you're developing other parts of yourself I guess. I, as an introvert, sometimes try to be more extraverted...still working on it :P
That's good actually. You have realised over time that sometimes you could make a fool out of yourself. It's better to spend more time on thinking and later responding only when necessary.
Y K I think your confusing things u can’t change from being a introvert to a extrovert it’s impossible u ether lose or gain energy when u socialize with other people or you lose or gain energy when your alone by yourself. Depending on which answer u give u will better understand your behaviour.
@@kenshinscott you missed the end of the video It clearly says, extroverts might start to think more and introverts might start to express and speak out more eventually. Nobody is perfectly introvert or extrovert. We tend to swing in the middle.
Good content. I've realized that whether introverted or extroverted, there's usually a spectrum and often times a scale, so it makes sense that two people can be introverted and weirdly distinct from each other.
The simplest yet the most comprehensive vid on the Introvert/Extrovert dichotomy ever! (That's saying something coz I'm a psychology graduate). Kudos! 👏
This video does oversimplify the Extraversion/Introversion theory. Hell, everyone wants to be an introvert if you say that "introverts think more." Kinda like how 16 personalities calls the INTJ type the "Mastermind." Of course everyone wants to be smart. Theres obviously also the other case where (cultural) bias is against introverts.
Definetly what's my thougt, ofc it would take many hours of video material to explain it detailed, but I think even in a 6-7 minutes video you need to take a little more time to mention a little detail. For example my Friend claims he is extrovert, but in a conversation he listens carefully, and takes his time to think about it, and then he can speak fast and clearly about it, you can train that, but often you are an extrovert AND think before you speak naturally. A little Detail mention or at least links to different (detailed) scources and studies in the describtion would be much better.
@@wladynoszhighlights5989 Humans are by nature social animals. However, we are also not in any way close to a hive-mind type of thing. This puts humans pretty much somewhere in the middle of things, if you will. Introversion/extraversion is also (newsflash) almost always measured and rated subjectively.
If he said "think more", than it was perhaps poorly phrased. At least in how "think more" can be interpreted, words are often vague and sentences can have more meaning. First I think that the term thinking, and thinking(thoughts) are in general over-rated. The brain is among other things, a storage unit of information. What that information is, are in simple terms, everything. Memories. Language. Body language. So on. For the most part people are essentially sitting on data, pulling it out as needed. So for the purposes of this comment, thinking will be defined as a process: Listening, pulling up relevant data, and forming it into an understandable sequence that can be then translated into an understandable language that can be conveyed. With that definition in mind, I think it is more correct to say that introvert "think more", and please do not misunderstand, this isn't inherently positive, and that extrovert "think less" in the same manner. In that, I mean the process of going from a listening state to gathering data and forming a sentence, takes a longer time. And "thinking less" means taking less time for "thinking" to happen. "thinking" and "thoughts" being as I described. Of course, nobody is 100 percent extrovert or introvert, a mix of both which might mean very different things for different people.
I'm an Ambivert, several tests give me near 50/50 results in intro/extraversion. Not sure what practical use it is but I just get on with life as it comes like the rest of us.
Most of my friends are extroverted and their constant small talk can be really draining as I don’t know how to keep up. However I’m not shy and do enjoy socializing with smaller groups of good friends. It takes me weeks to warm up to someone where as my friends make instant connections. Best way I can explain it.
The culture in the USA has been HEAVILY skewed towards extroversion to the point where it's a problem. Most business leaders are prejudiced against introverts. Even Susan Cain will tell you this.
It is extremely challenging in the work force. All this "outgoing personality" "people person" "team player" crap really is in my opinion another form of discrimination. They actually put that in their employment ads and job descriptions. Where's all the outrage introverts LOL
@David Sanchez Be careful not to "sell your soul" though. You have attached "extra money" to your personality type.... You may "miss the point" of life.
@David Sanchez America is evil. We are the world's leading creator and distributor of sin. That makes us the most evil country. Pride is the #1 sin. Sin is evil.
I was just talking about this with some of my friends. As a group we're a mix of extroverts and introverts, but one of my more introverted friends said that during the pandemic he realized he is more extroverted than he thought, as while he mostly prefers to take time to himself and not be in groups, his depression worsened from not being out as much even though he doesn't live alone. Early on he thought it wouldn't affect him much since he already was indoors a lot, but it definitely made a big difference. I guess it's like the girl in the video who sits in the park and watches others have fun- my friend likes to just go to the grocery store or sit in a quiet booth at a restaurant with maybe one other person and just have the other people be an ambient part of his surroundings, but it actually gives him a lot of the socialization he needs. I don't totally get it myself, but I think it's pretty cool that he figured that out about himself.
Oh! Yeah agree with your last line. And hehe lol "I don't get it totally" was funny. It is similar to have food and not feel hungry than not bave food even though you are not hungry at times. He just would need to be around people, know that people exist. Not necessarily talk to them. What sort are you, Melvin?
@@johno9399 the answer is that's why it's generally balanced,that's a hypothetical question/suggestion that could never come to reality so let him be himself
That’s very funny Brian. I hope it’s not that bad, but I can relate. Your time to shine will come and now is! While the extroverts are stressing out over isolation we are creating our reality. Be the man. Be the new normal. ☮️❤️🙏🏻😁
Totally! The Meyers-Briggs puts me at 60% introvert. I previously worked 5 years in a highly social career and when I left it took me 6 months of mostly solitude to recuperate. I then lived with family and cared for children so I rarely or never was completely alone. I now work parttime as a cashier. I see a lot of people but don't have to form deep relationships. I loathe small talk and often talk life and politics with people I don't know. If I work more than 30 hours per week I become irritable. I am not shy at all but I often have to force myself to do social things. I would much rather avoid obligation, even though I am responsible to a fault.
it is not so simple. Jung also wrote about intuitives/sensitive & feelers/thinkers. These ideas were expanded upon by Myers-Briggs in "Gifts Differing". The resultant MBTI psychometrics are a practical & widespread tool in business & very easy to use once mastered. They also help in relationships & self-awareness. Highly recommended to read Myers-Briggs
Introvert: -Party?- You mean me, my dog, best friend, Netflix, and ice cream? Extrovert: Party? *COUNT ME IN* Ambivert: Party? (On Monday) *COUNT ME IN* (On Tuesday) You mean me, my dog, best friend, Netflix, and ice cream?
That's why I consider myself ambiverted. I have a group chat with several friends and they'll say we should hang out one day and I'll be into it. Then, if they do the same the next day, I usually feel "socialed out."
These rare traits are more important to me: -Empthay -seeing things at a different angle or from different person perspective. -and enjoy seeing people doing well.
Empathy is so important to you that you misspelled it? Are you an Empath? Someone who just really cares more about other people (besides her two ex husbands and kids who she made wards of the state so she could go on Tinder and declare herself especially caring)?
@@vectorequilibrium4493 Kirk Patrick isn't angry . . . he's just an asshole, that's all. Wait! He spotted a spelling error, so that makes him a _pedantic_ asshole. Hold on, though . . . he made up a story about someone he's never met and doesn't otherwise know from a bale of hay. That makes him a pedantic mythomaniac asshole. And if he was so lavishly nasty in his comment because he drank too much tonight, that would make him a pedantic and mythomaniacal alcoholic asshole. But maybe he's also a troll. That would make him . . . well, you see the pattern.
Extremely introverted, to the point where I actually would love to forsake my human nature and not communicate with anyone and live happily with myself.
Well, you're just selfish. You did not evolve to the original intended design. They were your choices, probably chosen due to fears. You can potentially fix yourself by realizing that you are what is broken, and they are just what is flawed.
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Wow I learned I'm an ambivert. Really explains why I was so outgoing and social during my elementary/preteen years, but suddenly in high school I started to feel my energy drain from the constant expectations of my family and friends, and instead of being honest and asking for help I just cowered into introversion and all my friends from back then were scared off cause I was a completely different person and that must have made them think I was lying the whole time or manipulating them. 7 years later, I got diagnosed for adult ADHD-C a month ago and started meds, slowly but surely leaning towards extrovert again now, I'm making eye contact and smiling at random people and it feels both awesome and depressing that it's going to probably going to shift back and forth between the 2 for the rest of my life
crowds drain my strength. i float around exploring crowds conversations, this makes it easier to disappear when needed. you'll typically find me chillin' with the pets.
I am Extrovert, and thanks to Spouts for this video, it is reaching me about the Introverted personality, so i can understand what my GFs thinking, because she is Introvert...
As a hopeless introvert I applaud you and thank you for being open minded. Were not really so mysterious but warning: we observe EVERYTHING so don't try anything slick. It will not go by unnoticed LOL
You can never hurt an introvert. He has already seen that coming multiple times in multiple ways in his head. Introverts are multidimensional and multifaceted. As an Introvert I tend to think that way. And people find me stoic of some kind because I don't react to any kind of situations whether it is shocking, funny or sad. As I have already seen that coming.
Introverts are very introspective and understand the human condition quite well. So, how can you be hurt or shocked when you expect humans to be just that, humans?
@@fromthefountofyouth introverts get hurt long before the actual situation arises. They get hurt in every possible way. So theres no hurting left for them at the time of actual reaction. Same goes for happiness, excitement and sorrow.
I am an introvert for sure. I am okay interacting with others, but I really enjoy spending time by myself. I am not shy of talking in front of people, I am a teacher I speak with children and families all the time; but again I love when I don't have to talk.
Man fr, I thought I was just tripping. Just because someone is charged around other people doesn't mean they don't think as much. Maybe they like SHARING their ideas with others, totally a bias way to present extroverts.
@@emperorza5777 Well, I think there's probably something to it. It just rolled me that the polite sounding British man kept making backhanded insults. Reminds me of DHMIS episode 1, " ...green is not a creative color..."
@Kitty'sCrown48 Your self esteem is fine. Well, I don't know that, but I'll just say that the video doesn't kill your self esteem. You kill your self esteem when you decide that that is what the video means. Don't give your personal power to a RUclips if it makes you feel bad in an unconstructive way. Also, more generally, if you're having trouble with self-esteem, I'd recommend learning to laugh at yourself. Life's going to be much less painful if you learn to love yourself and not take yourself so seriously.
I really appreciate this video. I had never thought in terms of exterior stimuli affecting mental energy. I do know that trying to come up with small talk has always been exhausting. I never realized the opposite could be true.
From an extreme extrovert, small talk is always an exciting opportunity to exchange new ideas, every person an interesting master of the entire universe of their life and I want to know what they've learned so far, data exchange lol cuz I've got my gold nuggets tip of my tongue always lmao always ready to form alliances, but I went to coding school 2019, have a lot to learn from introverts for sure
I feel like everyone in this thread is mad at the extraverts. As an ambivert, I would love to speak in their defense. They help hold the world together. They are catalysts for new ideas. If the whole world were introverts, you’d have a lot of people who are just experts in one of two things and they would never talk to each other. When experts in different fields interact, we get some of the best ideas.
It's not exactly a convincing defense you've given there. Introverts may be experts in "one of two things" (sic), but the one thing you're the expert is producing most lazy clichés in one paragraph 👏 not sure how that leads to the generation of the "best ideas"? You also forget one key difference. Introverts are essentially self-reliant and can live without the stimulation of other people. Extroverts can't, they need interaction. There is one category there that would be helpless without the other, and it's not the one you think.
@@oldskoolmusicnostalgia Would you mind rewording your first paragraph? I couldn’t understand what you were trying to say after you quoted “one or two things.” Extroverts and introverts need each other just as much. You think that since extraverts acknowledge their need for people, they need introverts and not vise versa. This is false. For one thing, all humans need other humans. For another, extraverts can spend all of their time with other extraverts same as introverts can hide in their holes and never come out. The world needs both. There is a website, (I don’t remember what it’s called, but I read a book about it) where people can post problems from their field of study and anyone can answer. Most of the answers were from people of slightly different fields. The spread of ideas is a powerful thing. I don’t understand why you’re being so mean, by the way. I hope you feel better soon.
Being introvert does not mean u just know about one or two things in particular. Thats a stupid comment. Introvert doesnt mean u cant express yourself and have long conversations and talk about different subjects with someone. U just get tired of people a lot quicker and need to recharge yourself by being alone.
If you’re an introvert and want a social life try to get into psychology, I’ve found that studying people makes it pretty fun to go out into social situations. Instead of just talking or interacting you’re studying people and practicing experiments with yourself as a variable. If the topic of conversation is boring you’ll find stimulation in reading body language and even little subconscious cues that people give off. From there you may act on them(not in a harmful way) to see what happens further or if you notice distress you can see if certain things you’ve learned may ease them.
Of course we now casually use these terms to indicate how 'social' we are - how much we enjoy or avoid company. But in my understanding, Jung's original use of the terms was to do with in which realm we seek out meaning and gratification. An extrovert measures his success & satisfaction by how he has achieved, and secured his place, out in the world - which includes the social world, but only as one component. Reward is looked for outside of Self. By contrast, an introvert is more focused on personal integration, and the cultivation of her/his own feelings and integrity. So reward/satisfaction is sought _internally._ Expression of this integrity, out in the world, is secondary to his/her sense of who (s)he is. Example: an extrovert musician may enjoy the validation of having hit records. Introverted musicians may be more concerned with growing as a writer - following their own path. Either type may enjoy company sometimes, and require solitude at other times.
We’re all ambiverts but the more we accomplish within either introverted/extroverted activities, the stronger our ability is to use those activities to replenish energy! Basically the more you practice, the better you get. I believe everyone has the ability to get great at being both!!
As an ambivert, I can tell you how ambiverted brains work. We do tend to come to simple answers fast, like extroverts, but more complex answers can also be uttered by us and it still takes a long time to develop them, so we are also similar to introverts. Our thinking method tends to depend on the situation. We are also both creative and social and tend to need more of one, but can't be without the other. I love to have alone time, but I can't stand it when I am not socializing at all. Any ambiverts here that are able to relate?
I'm wondering if I'm in this category. I love being around coworkers and I'm usually fast to respond to questions and such. But I still look for my time away to recharge. Being alone has never bothered me. In fact my husband (way introvert) and I both have basically our own person space we designed and hang out in
Love how introverts must profess that they're introverts.. Also, sounds like he's saying introverts are more intelligent.. Always been my contention that I'd interact more if people were more interesting to talk to..
He just said that introverts take more time to think things through. But it's not that simple: some introverts are just as quick to judge a situation as he claims is natural for extroverts. After all, Jung did not only have an introversion/extroversion graph, there was also thinking/sensing, judging/perceiving. When he talks about the quick answers vs the slowly considered answers, he's talking about judging/perceiving. On that note, the video is incorrect.
I wouldn't assume all introverts are intelligent, but I haven't met many extroverts who impressed me with their intelligence... at least not when interacting with them personally. I think this is probably because (1) always talking means never pausing long to think, and (2) everybody has stupid thoughts, but introverts are less likely to voice them... basically the Mark Twain adage "it's better to be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth and confirm it beyond doubt."
I believe that I am an ambivert. I have taken the Myers-Briggs personality test about 6 times and have fallen on both sides of the Extraversion / Introversion category about equally. I had been calling myself an extraverted introvert before I heard the term ambivert.
since the 20s and 60s, we've made a lot of progress discovering the relationships that genetics and environment have on brain development. but despite this, I think the original ideas hold true. I also think that our inner extrovert and inner introvert come out of hiding when in the company of people who interest us-- and even more so in comfortable environments
As an extrovert, I love having an introvert wife. We are rapid to make wise decision; we are fun to talk when topic interests us... More importantly, we had great match makers called Our Parents who know our weaknesses and strengths that make us PERFECT match
After watching the video, I believe I am an introvert. All the characteristics were very very relatable i felt like was being described. This video was very helpful!
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I am an Introvert,it's taken me over 40 years to be proud of that fact. Some extroverts I meet think I'm ignorant or shy or maybe even too stupid to comment on their conversations. I like to sit quietly and study people before I integrate fully with new people.Those people who think I'm shy soon get a surprise because I'm actually quite outspoken and have clear defined views on things that are close to my heart and I won't back down. I'm either your best friend or your worst enemy and I'll be clear and honest about which of the above relate to you. For those people who take the time to get to know me,they all find the their patience paid off.
I'd say I'm between introvert and ambivert then. More introverted tho, the big thing not convincing me of full out introvert is that I can think of the best options in seconds
I am extreme in both, i need peace and quiet but i also need high energy stimulation... i easily join groups and interact like an extrovert, but after some time i need to go into myself again.... sort of like a cycle.
I'm extroverted and hubby's introverted. I love his patience but it takes him forever to make simple decisions haha. We run a business together. He's so great at the accounting side of things, but I deal with clients ^^
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I concur as I know now why I am called ‘weird ‘ too intense , I am extreme extrovert , an ENFP , and hence leadership is noted in references from school . Captain of sports teams , dance captain for a show overseas , and I don’t stress , I am in my element , but I often don’t complete tasks . Too many ideas so get judged . I learnt a lot through my well versed in this topic and his introverted self , genius IQ but not my confidence !
True
Thank God for the first time in a video someone actually got it right that being shy and introvert aren't the same thing..
I am insecure, shy, and an introvert
Tbh I am shy a bit more on the extroverted side person and I am sure there are many people like that!
I am more then just introvert then, because I go out of my way to avoid being around people at all costs. I have a quiet voice so it's hard to communicate lol. After actually talking for a while I go home, rethink what I've done and hate myself for the next twenty years
Let's just hope he gets the fact that extraverts aren't dumb next time
@@MikaHD But the guy in the video didn't say that, and it could be easily misinterpretated.
I feel the most extroverted when I’m socializing with another introvert.
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its the uncomfortable silence that edges you on
Yeahhh hahahHhaha
@@NotoriousBINGO why is this so true
Me too
I'm an extrovert and my best friend is introvert so, I know how introverts are, they're not all shy and socially awkward. They just don't want to be with a whole lot of crowd because they don't know what to do with them and whoever says that parties are not for introvert is a complete lie, they just need a friend to be comfortable with, then they won't care who they're surrounded with and that's one of the best thing about them.
All extrovert should have an introvert friend. They make the best combo.
Wow.... very perceptive ✔️☑️🙏👏🏾🤓🎆💕❤️🌹🌺👩🏫⛅🌄
Its good to see that some people understand the 'introverts'🥺
My bestfriend is the same I love her so much
@@abcdabcd8605 yes, us introverts are very mysterious... oooohhh ahhhh. *mysteriously walks off into the distance*
why is there always some reference to a party in this conversation
I am introvert, I read a lot, watch documentaries, paint, sculpt and I love nature.
I can't be around loud people, they stress me out.
Thank you for sharing this.
I like this. It counters that idea that extroverts need stimuli or else their brains aren't as active (?) and suggests maybe introverts and extroverts just have different stimuli.
I'm an ambivert. Sometimes I crave to be around others, get to know the intricate works of their minds, hear their stories, learn how they tick, and form connections with them. Sometimes I crave to be alone, get to know new piano pieces to play, hear my own thoughts, learn how to mod a game or form better connections with myself.
Both stimulate me. Maybe that just mean my brain is even quieter without stimuli haha but I'd like to think it's just normal to need input sometimes.
They could make noise out of a paper bag. I’ve given up expecting much peace and serenity when those people are around. Half of them are absolute fucking wankers with undiagnosed ADHD.
i'm the same that's why i have such a hard time finding a girlfriend i'm like a Panda bear lol i couldn't stand being with a woman that is loud neurotic wanting to go clubs and pubs it's unbearable to me i want somebody calm and quiet stoic and genuine and interesting but it's catch 22 because those type of women don't advertise or put themselves out there so they are very rare to find lol
@@truthfilterwell it depends I suppose, generally yes, but not all "loud" girls are the same... But yeah I'd still try and avoid them lol I hate pubs, but I do like the bars with soft music, maybe a nice conversation over a drink would be nice 😊 but yeah I hate people who talk too much (and not even loud lol), sometimes people talk about stuffs that I'd already known and it annoys me so much lol
I'm also an introvert. I've taken the past year off from work and spend most days home with just my cats. I'm never bored. And over the years, I've discovered that I don't travel well with other people. If I do travel with a friend, I have to get my own hotel room or else after a day I'm feeling overwhelmed and will make any excuse to bow out of sightseeing to stay in bed just for some alone time.
You know you're an introvert when Corona didn't change your life that much.
Hehe. True
@FlyfishermanMike @Sprouts Which is weird, because I love social interaction, speaks before I think, could easily switch between conversations, etc, everything you'd find typically extrovert. Yet, I have no problem with this isolation; I love spending time alone, work from home, playing single player RPGs, look at videos (such as these) alone, etc.
Clearly I must be ambivert, right?
I have been doing social distancing all my life, and I like it that way.
@@D4V30 I'm the same way. I can live with people at the same time I can live without them just as easily.
Read as the virus or the beer brand, I relate to both/each. Many of Us have learned the same
Actually i like socializing with close circle friends, i cant totally live without them, but only close friends. I get awkward or confused if I am to interact with many strangers.. but after socializing so much I get annoyed to everyone and just want to stay on my room surf the net and play games. Afterwards, I am fine.
Introvert
I can relate m8 lol
Hi5. I can relax, discuss and joke with close family & friends but with others involved I go quiet and lay low. Groups of people are the worst
Same and i m in my 40 s already . I didnt change . I m lucky to have a few but real faithfull friends . I m still amazed how so many people are just nasty ( men or women ) specially in groups , rude or fake ... But i give them less and less attention . Lots of nice or interesting people tó focus on
Fck i can relate hahahahaha
As an introvert, I've practiced social distancing for years.
Well the work has paid off. You're gonna need it in these times😂
Wait a second, social distance is normal now?
Pffft.... I was distancing before it was cool. 😎
@@charliegarrison9688 it's actually lame
You're right hydrocritical, staying away from people who are sick is sooo lame 😂
I'm an introvert, but not shy. In my profession, I've done public speaking to hundreds of people, and thought nothing of it. That said, I can identify with a Facebook post I saw un a YT video: "After I speak to a person for an hour, I need to be alone for 24 hours".
Same here. I can talk to any size group, but I hate one-on-one. I get sweaty and anxious.
Im an ambivert / extraverted but I hate public speaking
I can quess that you are a sensitive and sentimental person that in a one-on-one talk is rather the listener than the one who talks, you do worry to say something wrong or unsuitable since you are a responsible man.
I would be glad about your reply =)
It's weird cause I'm an introvert but I can never talk to a crowd would rather talk one on one. But I wonder what it's like.
@@sakuranovaryan9261 To want to talk to a crowd, is a life-style, a choice that you make , if you consider the whole crowd as one person and try to talk with him as you would talk in an eye to eye talk.
try it, it will surprise you.
I get teased by extroverts for being quiet, avoidant, and kind of awkward, but I avoid them because they are energy vampires seeking to steal my life force. True story.
i love how this is super relatable
Those vampires sound dope hope they don't vape wait those are introverts.
same :/
That is very true, extroverts are draining.
as an extrovert i can confirm, i will consume your energy
I think I understand... introverts have arrows going into their head, while extraverts have arrows coming out of their head.
The visual depiction in this video did not age well.. lol extraverts do be looking like covid-19 tho
gamestarz2001 😂😂😂
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@@xxxod Probably because they're less experienced with social distancing, and thus, get COVID-19 faster. ;)
introverts look like the SCP foundation logo and extroverts look like COIVD-19
everyone seems to be an introvert in the comments so here is an extroverted person's point of view.
Being outside is like a part of you, especially during quarantine most of us literally lost a part of ourselves. We find it hard to get through the day because we are deprived of social attention, it's a fuel that keeps us going. Sometimes you may find us annoying, but if you really try and slow us down we will listen. Also, not all extroverts think introverts are quiet or annoying. Most of us are dying to say 'hi' but are scared that you would ignore us or you would think we are the annoying ones breaking your silence.
Huh! That was new.
I really related to the part of "being outside is like a part of you". But it is hard to explain to introverts
Aww I never thought this is how extraverts feel 👉👈 I've always thought extraverts just prefer to mingle with other extraverts so they can recharge from each other. Though is chatting with extraverts enough during quarantine? I sometimes try to chat my extraverted friends from time to time since I don't really know how they're coping.
That's why I really feel bad for a lot of you that are stuck inside. As an introvert, I thrive on being alone. If I was still at home (currently deployed), literally nothing in my life would have changed because of the pandemic. However for you guys, like you said, being outside and socializing is your fuel.
The only thing that I hope with what's going on is now that extroverts are experiencing how it feels to be an introvert in social gatherings, extroverts can respect us a bit more. A lot of extroverts couldn't understand how we feel when being dragged to huge social events and how it drained us, but now that you guys are the ones being drained, hopefully perspective kicks in.
Anyways, I really do hope that things back home get back to normal soon for you guys. I know what you guys are feeling right now, and it sucks.
Welcome to the painful life of an introvert, where society worships and is pretty much completely structured around your opposite personality sibling!
Sorry I just can't help my smartass tendency when extroverts complain about their new lives in the covid climate. Aside from that, your complaints are still valid of course. Thank you for sharing the extrovert's perspective.
I'm a total introvert, I was once in a four-hour long group meeting with 8 people during university and didn't speak a single word. However, when the self-proclaimed leader of our group questioned my involvement, I showed her the 16-page meeting minute that I had written and the half-page analysis and summary. Basically, I concentrated the four hours of brainstorming and various tangents into something the group can work with moving forward.
@@KAT-dg6el I'm both, I was picked on during middle school because English was not my native language so people keep making fun of my accent, bad grammar, poor sentence structure, and wrong word choice. However, I am quite certain that I'm an introvert because, if given the choice between intermingling with others or being by myself, I will most definitely choose being by myself. I have 10,000 ways of keeping myself entertained and doing things when along, whereas I feel totally lost when in a group situation.
This is me, all day and night! Hello fellow soul!
@@roxannejarrett11 Ever had anyone question your contributions? It is at once the most hilarious and annoying thing that happens in my life whenever I'm doing group work. I'm always just rolling my mind's eye at the audacity of those idiots who just spent the last 40 minutes arguing over boobs or butts while I'm the only person in the group doing actual "work", only for them to turn around and ask me if I've actually done anything.
Your example sounds more like you are shy or the group was lead by a few 'loud mouths' who actually wouldn't let other people talk.
Though i think shyness is correlated to introversion, so you may be both.
Yes, I always raise my hand to take notes at meetings
A have the feeling that 90% of the viewer are introverts.
yeap, extroverts dont watch youtube videos. They're busy socializing
Generally speaking, introverts are more interested in this kind of stuff.
@@wherecoldwindsblow8225 maybe because we are a minority and our behaviour is sometimes not liked by the society.
@@NutRageous10 so glad that I don't mess with Kinda things.
Yep extroverts are busy out there messing with other people and talking about themselves.
As an introvert, I've found that people will often cut me off while I'm formulating an answer, or finish my sentence for me in a way that's terribly shallow compared to what I was actually going to say, if not completely wrong. I think this is why introverts are tormented by extroverts, while the reverse isn't an issue. To them we are boring or invisible, but not an impediment to their expression.
I feel like there is a lot of people claiming they are introverts, when they are in fact extroverts. Just like how being introvert doesn’t mean ur socially awkward and/or shy, being extrovert doesn’t mean ur not socially awkward and/or shy.
You might be a shy extrovert, who associate that shyness to introversion, either consciously or unconsciously.
Exactly. I like to call myself a "traumatized extroverted", because I'm naturally very extroverted but negative backlash to that during childhood has made me very shy
I feel like I am definitely a shy, socially awkward extrovert, just because I love when people talk to me and we can laugh together and have fun but i’m very scared to approach people sometimes and am not very confident with myself. today I was at work and i’m relatively new, i’m still a trainee at hideaway pizza, but today I just felt really good and friendly with my other coworkers that and that felt great and once I get pretty comfortable in the environment I can go and talk to people so I don’t know I kinda went off but oh well.... 👉🏻👈🏻
Finally a good comment that clears misconceptions.
I think the protagonist of "Dear Evan Hansen" is a good representation of an extrovert that has social anxiety, he wants to have a friend and talk everyday, but he can't because of his anxiety
The reverse is equally true. A lot of people will pretend to be extroverted because it is associated with more rewards and recognition, promotions at work and (wrongly so) leadership qualities. Then when you sit down with them and have a deep discussion, you realise they are a totally different person from what they pretend.
The description of the introvert child felt quite accurate to me. Superficial conversions in group settings are the most draining thing one can experience, it's essentially people talking about their own selves or gossiping... then wondering why we can't be bothered to join in!
Also I am convinced that there are way more people with introvert tendencies than they dare to admit, because of social pressure and greater rewards being associated with displaying extroverted forms of behaviour.
I will do my fair share of keeping up social trust, by engaging in some small talk. It's called small because it's something everyone can join in, no qualifications needed. It's how we gauge who we can trust, and who we cannot, before we start sharing important things and revealing ourselves.
@@whereisyourhumanity7557 Na its small talk because it has no significance in anything. it normally doesnt drain people unless its countless people doing it or someone your talking to can not get past it. You really need that to trust someone? Ill always trust people to a point.
@Pritish Appadoo I also believe their are a greater number of people who are more introverted but i think they develop extraverted tendencies easier than what the video states. I think it just takes more good feeling in meeting people and it will become easier and more fulfilling to do so.
@@whereisyourhumanity7557even after realizing a person is trustworthy, I still would never reveal personal things about myself to anybody. My wall will always be between me and everybody else.
@Pritap, you are giving me extrovert energy
So true. I was a pharmaceutical sales rep and those people back bite. I reached above my target by making 450% above my sales target yet people in company doubted my abilities. The Dr's loved my services because I actually listened. Sometimes I questioned why whenever other reps and their managers went in to see the Dr before me there was so much laughter (mostly fake) and jokes. Then when it was my turn nobody was laughing. I just went in, did my job and left. I provided real solutions for their patients especially with regards to formulates and medical aids. I still wonder what is always so funny with other reps going in there cause diseases and medication are not a joke it's about people's lives and their health.
it might change over time, i used to be extreme introvert in childhood, and moves towards ambivert later on
Chan Wai Tung me too
I use to be extrovert and become introvert
I think moving towards ambivert happens because we have to push ourselves to function in a largely extroverted world. Otherwise we tend to get overlooked as useless for jobs.
thats not change.. we learn and adapt in this extroverted world
Same here. I highly suspect environmental factors matter as well. When younger, you were surrounded by all types of people, including some really high energy, super extroverts, which exhausted your energy much faster. As you get older, especially after entering your professional life, you’re much likely to be surrounded by people with temperament similar to yourself, which makes social situation much more pleasant. On top of that, my work for example, requires a lot of independent work, with very minimal social interactions. At the end of the day I actually crave human interactions.
Ambivert here! I'm around 54% ex and 46% in and for me, I get stimulated by both! But once there's too much of one thing, like when I haven't had alone time for a while I get overwhelmed but if I'm alone for too long I get lonely and underestimulated. For me, my social life is a balancing act! Talking to people gives me a boost in energy and confidence but being by myself gives me time to think about life!
Same here!
Yeah, same for me. And I love this balance in life.✌️
I think this is where I would place myself, though I have had some difficulty in doing so. I believe that childhood trauma had something to do with muddying my understanding. I suffer loneliness when I am alone, but being around others is emotionally triggering, causing me to invariably feel alienated from even my best friends when we comprise a group. I have only found one association wherein I feel dependably safe (which I will not name here because I don't want to give the wrong impression, as if I am advertising for it) and which allows me the space to experience that alienation within a context of belonging.
Honestly same here😌✨️
I'm also an ambivert, I am not afraid of talking to others and most of the times, I am also not shy either, but I don't speak with everyone too frequently.
I feel very extroverted lately
_opens window blinds a little_
*sees a person*
Ok I guess I've had enough social interaction for a day.
*Closes the blinds*
Gets outside and light blinds him
@@OmegaMusicYT Gang gang
@epiclolyay Yep
Laughed out loud at that.
I used to be an ultra-introvert in high school. Nowadays people laugh at me when I say I am an introvert, just because I’m not shy and I smile all the time. I believe socializing is just like any other skill that you can learn and there is nothing wrong with getting a few social hacks here and there.
Same coin, other side: knowing how to be by yourself is also just like any other skill you can learn.
Shy and introversion are completely separate, you can be extroverted and shy.
Introversion is one of the 4 pillar of the personality types, Shy is a character trait.
It's just that introverts are more likely to become Shy, because they have less reasons to interact with people, while extroverts, because they're more motivated to interact, are less likely to be Shy.
So introverted that when they announced lockdown I thought, "Streets are empty, my time go out."
Lock down was lovely for being out, no people, no noisy vehicles, quiet supermarkets, I missed that when it went back to normal.
Same here!😃😄
1000%!!! 🤣🤣😍
God I love empty streets. I get anxious when I see many people around..
Naw a good amount of extroverts ignore or dont care about covid or go out prepared but get too excited remeber covid and messup
Teachers wanted to hold me back in elementary school because I was too quiet even though I had straight A’s. I love that people are actually acknowledging differences. It is hard to be a quiet child growing up in a loud world without support or answers. 🥰
So true. It's like teachers, who are often extroverts, can't comprehend anything beyond their own extroverted ways.
Teachers are generally A-grade A-Holes. The ones who respect and teach to different personality types are extremely rare, as rare as gems. Most go down the easy road of letting the most talkative pupils express themselves rather than seeking a balance.
I know a fair number of teachers who are introverts. My best friend is a very introverted teacher. People are shocked she is a teacher!
I'm an introvert but my life is so filled with "down time" and solitude, I actually look forward to parties, meetups, social gatherings, etc.. Simply because I need some of that and I rarely get it.
Baruch Cohen: I'm just guessing: Are you fighting your latent extrovert in order to claim that you are really an introvert? What would be the point in that?
@@waggishsagacity7947 Even the most introverted need some basic level of socialization. I get next to zero which is not good. Part of it is due to - I have arranged my life that way. Work from home, member of no churches or organizations, etc.. Human beings are social animals after all, we evolved that way. So some of it is required and necessary. So I really enjoy the rare moments when I do get some of it.
This is an interesting perspective.
I think an introvert needs like 5 percent socialization Nd you crave the 5 percent then rest. But you're at zero now
@@danthaman7777 The thing about introverts, as I experience[d] it, is that we are NOT recluses, but certainly not Party Animals. An extrovert, I believe, needs to recharge the batteries with social contacts galore; the introvert, with a smattering of interaction, like honey and coriander, respectively. But one knows these things from experience.
I don't feel like an introvert until I'm around people ^^'
But I adore extroverted people. I can kick back and just listen. They have so much to share and speak so confidently- it's uplifting and encouraging ♡
Introverted definitely. I remember people getting mad at me because I don’t answer them quickly. Most of the time it’ll take me a good thirty seconds to come up with an answer.
That’s why I learned to lie quickly.
Person: Do you want to go outside or stay inside?
You: ...
30 secs later
You: or
Yeah I can lie too, pretty easy but some people forget what they lied i.e they access thier short term memory. But I take the whole thing into consideration, long term memory.
I swear
Dr. M. H.
Tried it, people usually get mad at me.
Yeah same
I avoid social gatherings like the plague. I'm owning this lock down.
Yeah, my life hasn't changed very much these past few months...
Haha! Me, too, I was anti-social before it was cool.
My lifestyle hasn't changed since the Corona social distancing.
My life's gotten kinda *better* actually, everything else happening in the world sucks though
@@matkosmat8890 you are ASOCIAL not anti-social.
Ambiverts : {Exist}
Thanos : *"Perfectly balanced, as all things should be"*
Alfian Fahmi I see you
*_Thanos approves_*
It’s a false term don’t believe in things that are not true be smart it’s been debunked and rejected by the scientific community
@@kenshinscott Yeah, whatever dude. I've already heard that some scientists tryna debunk the introvert-extrovert theory. It's not unheard of.
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I love to give parties, but I hate going to them. Making sure everyone has food, drink and playing music makes me feel like I'm socializing without actually getting stuck in a conversation.
Tch, can you imagine
Talking to seniors?
Absolute madlad right there
Thank you for this
😂😂
Also a shout-out to the business leader who achieved his position in spite of having no eyes.
Well Folks like it takes time to be comfy with em
Definitely an introvert, i get my energy back by staying away from people, i hate talking to many people at once it makes my brain hurt anf i hate talking about subjects i don't enjoy so i end up leaving the group or stay quiet which makes people think I'm shy
I swear people think the meaning of shy is anti-social and timid
Lilhungrybruh I just flipped the switch now I’m getting tired of people thinking shy = introvert. I am introverted but I can socialize pretty easily, it’s just I get drained a lot after socializing that it could stress me out. Shy extroverts and outgoing introverts exist.
Banana Cheryl i know but if you don’t participate in a conversation. People think you are shy. Which for them means anti social, which is wrong
Karima Bou this is why introversion is wrong
of course it's wrong, it's anti social disorder
"I'm An InTrOvErT bEcAuSe I'm ShY"
I'm an introvert because I recharge by myself.
I had a friend who told me she was an introvert because she was shy.. And when I explained to her what an introvert means she told me I was wrong and that I should search it up because introvert is about how shy you are🤦🏻♀️
and fun fact she is an extrovert
Finally a good comment.
I'm an introvert becaue I'm shy
Precisely
What if I’m shy but I also recharge by myself?
This is the best explanation of introverts I’ve seen. A lot of people don’t believe I’m an introvert because I’m not shy and can talk to anyone. But I don’t do small talk or casual friendships. I like deep intimacy and a lot of alone time.
As an introvert, I wish I had a teacher who had allowed more thinking time, for years I've questioned why I can't be as quick as others with answers and though my grades were good I thought since I lacked this I mustn't be as smart
Same here. I've often thought I'm "slow," especially in school, but got decent grades. In recent years, I've realized, if given time to think thru questions and issues and to frame my answers and opinions, I can actually be pretty bright.
Scott Herod yeah, but your still slow
@@kindcolt2747 That is what it said....
LOLthisfun its fine to be slow u are slow who cares?
I had the same problem! My teacher's would lower my grades for "lack of participation", even though I scored very well on tests. But the problem was never that I wasn't paying attention or that I didn't know the answer to a question, but rather that someone else always answered it faster.
I really like those drawings. And the way you explain psychological facts is so punchy and at the same time scientific. You've done great job here!
Thank you!!!
I'm not quite sure when or why, but at some point it seems like it became trendy to identify as an introvert. I expected the comment section to reflect this and seem to have been correct (extrovert comments are few and far between compared to introvert comments). I'd be interested in reading anyone's thoughts on this phenomenon.
The internet is a platform fitting for introverts. Before, society was ruled by extroverts who could not understand introversion. They tried to force introverts into a extroverted form, which was suffocating.
On the internet introverts can engage in the sort of discussion they enjoy. They can dwell on topics they're interested in, on a deeper level and more thinking time. They can infinitely explore and feed their mind with new knowledge and ideas.
Since the internet is so all-encompassing in today's world, through it introverts are also noticed, since they get as much space as extroverts. They are also encouraged with the fact that there actually exist a huge amount of introverts, there's nothing wrong with them, unlike what they were told before.
This is mostly accurate. My parents treated me like I was broken because I preferred the company of books to that of other kids
I am guessing because, we are better at expressing our feelings through writing. I personally, used to be called a lot of names growing up been weird the most common one, and knowing not only that I'm not weird, but also that there is a lot more people like me than I thought makes me feel good (imagining this is the other reason why the comments section is booming with people saying "I'm an introvert too".
Could it be that this topic appeals more to introverts than extroverts?
I think it's a fad because everyone wants to be special. Take the INFJ personality type for instance. Rarest personality type but completely over represented by people who insist that they are one. Aside from unicorn and skittle fart psychology, the INFJ probably is your chameleon serial killer at worst, I think that should be added so that people who simply lack personal conviction aren't so quick to hop on board the INFJ wannabe train.
I'm an introvert. I get sick of people telling me I spend too much time alone. Us introverts are misunderstood. Even when I was in the infants at school, I liked playing by myself. I was full of imagination. Nothing wrong with that.
Same
I love how you mentioned that introverts are not necessarily shy, but rather prefer quiet time to recharge after being surrounded by people. This is something that many people don't understand, so it's great to see it explained clearly in this video.
Hell yeah I'm a ambivert : I like going out in parties and talk with everyone. And I like being alone at home for long period and don't talk to anybody !
Finally someone like me! Hahahaah
I think that's called bi-polar
@@deseanp93 im pretty sure that's not what it means
@@deseanp93 as a bi-polar introvert, I thought your comment was hilarious.
DeSean 😃
I identify as an ambivert. Some days I wanna hang out and party while some days I want to stay home and chill. Anyone else an ambivert?
Same.. it depends what mood im in really
The Life Formula I am ✌🏼
@@gbhemmy4441 me too
Same
Me here same
I've been mostly an introvert.
In 5th grade, i took on being an extrovert, and was immediately, consistently ridiculed for my extroversion. So, I receded, stayed an introvert to protect myself, all through public school.
Eventually, I became a musician, studying intensely at home. I became enamored about performance, and began to try it at open mic's. I developed my skills, and drew people who coached me, encouraged me. I became comfortable on stage.
Eventually, I wanted to perform for a living. A partner showed me how to market myself (an extrovert's work), do business.
I bit the bullet, got work, got to work. I did it for 10 years.... but the introvert within prevailed. I got tired of the endless, relentless hustle. It was time to recede. I became a welder, where I could sit at my bench, and get lost in my work.
On occasion, I'd do a performance... and my inner extrovert would pop out. I'd be humorous, entertaining, witty, magnanimous, everyone had a good time.
I do like both aspects of myself now... but am mostly, an introvert. I live most of the time, alone, and enjoy it immensely... but persue opportunities to perform, be the entertainer.
Introverts don't exactly like small talk because it's just the white of the bread. There are no real nutrients in it, just empty calories. We wanna get straight to the meat!
I don't think anyone really likes small talk. Extroverts find it boring, too. We just go along with it because we think other people like it. An extrovert who is a little brainy will usually try and steer the conversation to deeper and more interesting topics.
I can understand why you’d feel that way, but it’s being able to turn small talk into real talk that beats all. So you gotta think of it as an entry point for people who don’t already know you well. Small talk has real value when it’s done with intention. Use your tools.
The video said we use our long term memory more, we probably don't want useless info hardcoded into our memories
but u cant get to the "meat" without the small talk "appetizer".
Go vegan ;)
It's a true joy when you happen on someone who shares your sense of humor or wit or just your general mindset.
Much of time you have to play the common man's game and spout general popular euphemisms but internally your in your own
world and pick your spots to talk but generally are having a inner ongoing conversation/ narrative with yourself.
Any introvert here?
Me
( _h-h-he-here_ ?)
hello fella
Moi
Me 😁
I'd describe myself as being an introvert, and I can definitely relate to the part about being drained by social situations. Especially in groups with people who im not close friends with. I can last a little while, but after that i find it hard to keep up, then I end up being quiet, and I get this feeling like im not being myself which i think is the worst part.
I am introverted. I'm fine with talking over technology. I also get wasted (insanely exhausted) when around lots of people. I am also very paranoid and not very trusting of strangers. Also, my short term memory often fails on me.
I hate when i really want to interact with someone, but after like an hour of talking I feel like a Zombie. Its so annoying
I feel you on the short term memory, mine is absolutely atrocious.
It’s like your talking about me, i only like to be around with very few certain old friends
Are we the same person?
The only time I have a problem with my memory is
What was I saying?
Good presentation. As an introvert in her 70s, I can remember when introversion was considered to be a psychological problem.
Lmao that's kinda crazy just because of how many people are introverts
also 70 plus, and an introvert "heyoka", Jungian theory also proposes that in each of his 4 archetypes as we mature with age all move towards a middle ground. We as introverts living in an extroverted world need to grasp that complex and learn how to function in that world. Shyness is not a intrinsic part of introversion. The best course is to understand the differences. I am married to an extreme extrovert (22 yrs) an accept that she will never understand me while I can read her like a book! We lean on each other.
There is still an implication. They labelled us as anti-social, when we are simply non-social.
You know you’re an introvert when lockdown is heaven on earth, and you look forward to the next.
I think lockdown days are over (sadly).
As an introvert, because I was usually quiet, sometimes in group settings other people thought that I was disinterested, or outright dumb and assumed I couldn't follow what was discussed. This is really frustrating. Has anyone else experienced this?
yes! all the time. people who i’m not friends with or who don’t know me tend to think im boring and don’t have a personality which i personally don’t think is the case at all. while i’m not shy or afraid to speak my thoughts, i always take longer than my extroverted friends to warm up to people and think of what i want to say. it’s not that we’re incapable, we’re just wired differently
After this video I can say I’m definitely mixed. I love talking to people and I gain energy by socializing, but I only like meaningful conversations. More over, when I first meet a person I’m definitely quiet and shy, but the more they know me I’m becoming more extroverted 😄
being mixed or close to the middle is great, cuz you gain energy by socializing and by being alone- but do too much of one or the other and then it starts becoming annoying.. i think mixed are the superior group.
@@disguisedcat1750 omg exactly
@@disguisedcat1750 It is easier bring mixed. Every group has their strong points.
I'm pretty much an introvert, unless I feel like you get my sense of humor, then I'm funniest guy in the room. It's weird how that works.
bell110 ya me to
"I'm funniest guy in the room" cringe but ok
Keep thinking that you’re the funniest
@@turolretar but... but... the guy in the mirror laughs every time... |->
That happens with me lol
This might be the best educational video I've ever watched in my almost 11 years of surfing youtube like a maniac. Such simple, yet well explained concepts. Awesome job !
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Ambiverts need more attention in videos like these. I'm a total ambivert myself. I always want to hear everyone's input and then think about the information, chew on it for a bit, and come up with some more ideas. Then suggest those ideas to others. And then think about them some more. It's a cycle. While I have a tendency to come up with quick ideas, I also despise superficial conversations and would rather be alone than deal with boring people who chat about inane things. All my friends are introverts and I don't get along well with extroverts because my inconsistent energy makes it hard for us to interact. I'm not quite introverted enough to balance them, but not extroverted enough to keep up with them. Introverts are so easy. They handle both sides of me really well because I don't stress them out as much as extroverts do. I wish there was more research on ambiversion though. I know I'm not the only person who feels like a walking paradox.
Took me 35 years to realize I wasn't abnormal, just an introvert!
When I was young extrovert. As I got older I am introvert.
Nah, you just learned to use your other cognitive functions to fuel your main introverted characteristic.
Yes,me too!
@Ulfa I think it's because most of us learn how stupid and arrogant most people are and how shitty the world is the more mature we get. My theory.
Just wrote a long post about the change I went thru from extro to introvert in the hope I might find out if others change also,,, guess I can delete the post now, Thanks.
@@BigDGolf-23 These people don't even know what they're talking about😂. There are many extroverts who think they are introvert. I'm an infp
I used to be the biggest extrovert but growing up has made me more and more introverted and I don't know if that's a good thing.
It can be, it means you're developing other parts of yourself I guess. I, as an introvert, sometimes try to be more extraverted...still working on it :P
That's good actually.
You have realised over time that sometimes you could make a fool out of yourself.
It's better to spend more time on thinking and later responding only when necessary.
it's probably a sign that you're gaining wisdom and thinking deeper about things.
Y K I think your confusing things u can’t change from being a introvert to a extrovert it’s impossible u ether lose or gain energy when u socialize with other people or you lose or gain energy when your alone by yourself. Depending on which answer u give u will better understand your behaviour.
@@kenshinscott you missed the end of the video
It clearly says, extroverts might start to think more and introverts might start to express and speak out more eventually.
Nobody is perfectly introvert or extrovert. We tend to swing in the middle.
Good content.
I've realized that whether introverted or extroverted, there's usually a spectrum and often times a scale, so it makes sense that two people can be introverted and weirdly distinct from each other.
The simplest yet the most comprehensive vid on the Introvert/Extrovert dichotomy ever! (That's saying something coz I'm a psychology graduate). Kudos! 👏
This video does oversimplify the Extraversion/Introversion theory.
Hell, everyone wants to be an introvert if you say that "introverts think more."
Kinda like how 16 personalities calls the INTJ type the "Mastermind." Of course everyone wants to be smart.
Theres obviously also the other case where (cultural) bias is against introverts.
Definetly what's my thougt, ofc it would take many hours of video material to explain it detailed, but I think even in a 6-7 minutes video you need to take a little more time to mention a little detail. For example my Friend claims he is extrovert, but in a conversation he listens carefully, and takes his time to think about it, and then he can speak fast and clearly about it, you can train that, but often you are an extrovert AND think before you speak naturally. A little Detail mention or at least links to different (detailed) scources and studies in the describtion would be much better.
@@wladynoszhighlights5989 Humans are by nature social animals. However, we are also not in any way close to a hive-mind type of thing. This puts humans pretty much somewhere in the middle of things, if you will. Introversion/extraversion is also (newsflash) almost always measured and rated subjectively.
frig off extroverts we need to recharge with out you mongrels.
If he said "think more", than it was perhaps poorly phrased. At least in how "think more" can be interpreted, words are often vague and sentences can have more meaning. First I think that the term thinking, and thinking(thoughts) are in general over-rated. The brain is among other things, a storage unit of information. What that information is, are in simple terms, everything. Memories. Language. Body language. So on. For the most part people are essentially sitting on data, pulling it out as needed.
So for the purposes of this comment, thinking will be defined as a process: Listening, pulling up relevant data, and forming it into an understandable sequence that can be then translated into an understandable language that can be conveyed.
With that definition in mind, I think it is more correct to say that introvert "think more", and please do not misunderstand, this isn't inherently positive, and that extrovert "think less" in the same manner.
In that, I mean the process of going from a listening state to gathering data and forming a sentence, takes a longer time.
And "thinking less" means taking less time for "thinking" to happen. "thinking" and "thoughts" being as I described.
Of course, nobody is 100 percent extrovert or introvert, a mix of both which might mean very different things for different people.
Sorry but INFP think more than INTJ
I'm an Ambivert, several tests give me near 50/50 results in intro/extraversion. Not sure what practical use it is but I just get on with life as it comes like the rest of us.
Most of my friends are extroverted and their constant small talk can be really draining as I don’t know how to keep up. However I’m not shy and do enjoy socializing with smaller groups of good friends. It takes me weeks to warm up to someone where as my friends make instant connections. Best way I can explain it.
I find small talk to be unnecessary
Shout out to all my fellow introverts.
Book Pixels hi there, what’s that tree mean to you in your profile picture?
Now you are extrovert
Don’t shout at me, it’s overwhelming.
Hi!👋😊💕
I acknowledge you... But from a distance and only silently.
I’m sooooo introvert! I literally lose energy if I have to socialize for long. And I enjoy my own companion. That way I gain energy!
Moderately drinking can help occasionally at parties.
But if you control the frame you can manage it also without.
I am in sales..go figure...😏
Rob Goodsight Same here, sales lol
The culture in the USA has been HEAVILY skewed towards extroversion to the point where it's a problem. Most business leaders are prejudiced against introverts. Even Susan Cain will tell you this.
It is extremely challenging in the work force. All this "outgoing personality" "people person" "team player" crap really is in my opinion another form of discrimination. They actually put that in their employment ads and job descriptions. Where's all the outrage introverts LOL
@David Sanchez You have GOT to tell me what your line of work is!!!
@@bobbiellison4315 Was this sarcasm? The LOL makes it seem sarcastic. This is good sarcasm.
@David Sanchez Be careful not to "sell your soul" though. You have attached "extra money" to your personality type.... You may "miss the point" of life.
@David Sanchez America is evil. We are the world's leading creator and distributor of sin. That makes us the most evil country. Pride is the #1 sin. Sin is evil.
I was just talking about this with some of my friends. As a group we're a mix of extroverts and introverts, but one of my more introverted friends said that during the pandemic he realized he is more extroverted than he thought, as while he mostly prefers to take time to himself and not be in groups, his depression worsened from not being out as much even though he doesn't live alone. Early on he thought it wouldn't affect him much since he already was indoors a lot, but it definitely made a big difference. I guess it's like the girl in the video who sits in the park and watches others have fun- my friend likes to just go to the grocery store or sit in a quiet booth at a restaurant with maybe one other person and just have the other people be an ambient part of his surroundings, but it actually gives him a lot of the socialization he needs. I don't totally get it myself, but I think it's pretty cool that he figured that out about himself.
Oh! Yeah agree with your last line. And hehe lol "I don't get it totally" was funny.
It is similar to have food and not feel hungry than not bave food even though you are not hungry at times.
He just would need to be around people, know that people exist. Not necessarily talk to them.
What sort are you, Melvin?
I'm like 1% extroverted. My idea of being extroverted is opening the blinds and letting sun in.
Do you feel like that is intended human function? Or do you feel broken?
What if all humans were like you?
@@johno9399 the answer is that's why it's generally balanced,that's a hypothetical question/suggestion that could never come to reality so let him be himself
That’s very funny Brian. I hope it’s not that bad, but I can relate. Your time to shine will come and now is! While the extroverts are stressing out over isolation we are creating our reality. Be the man. Be the new normal. ☮️❤️🙏🏻😁
It's been 3 week with out saying a verbal word to any one and only a hand full of texts and RUclips posts for me so far.
My best friend is an extrovert and its actually quite sad when hes alone as he starts begging you/others to spend time with him
damn...
awh
Cutie pie, we must protect
I also do this😣😣...
as an extreme extrovert being lonely and quiet is so awful
Totally! The Meyers-Briggs puts me at 60% introvert. I previously worked 5 years in a highly social career and when I left it took me 6 months of mostly solitude to recuperate. I then lived with family and cared for children so I rarely or never was completely alone. I now work parttime as a cashier. I see a lot of people but don't have to form deep relationships. I loathe small talk and often talk life and politics with people I don't know. If I work more than 30 hours per week I become irritable. I am not shy at all but I often have to force myself to do social things. I would much rather avoid obligation, even though I am responsible to a fault.
Thank you for the informational video on Introverts, Extraverts, & Ambiverts, and all their differences and how they obtain energy as well
it is not so simple. Jung also wrote about intuitives/sensitive & feelers/thinkers. These ideas were expanded upon by Myers-Briggs in "Gifts Differing". The resultant MBTI psychometrics are a practical & widespread tool in business & very easy to use once mastered. They also help in relationships & self-awareness. Highly recommended to read Myers-Briggs
Thank you for one of the few reasonable responses on here.
www.noted.co.nz/health/health-psychology/myers-briggs-personality-test-long-debunked-still-used
Take it a step further and look up cognitive functions.
The 'Big Five' theory is a similar model, but from what I've heard, is considered a more reliable one than Myers-Briggs.
Jung was heavily influenced by astrology.
Introvert: -Party?- You mean me, my dog, best friend, Netflix, and ice cream?
Extrovert: Party? *COUNT ME IN*
Ambivert: Party? (On Monday) *COUNT ME IN* (On Tuesday) You mean me, my dog, best friend, Netflix, and ice cream?
Introverts and extroverts alike will show up to a LAN party.
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That's why I consider myself ambiverted. I have a group chat with several friends and they'll say we should hang out one day and I'll be into it. Then, if they do the same the next day, I usually feel "socialed out."
Yup, kinda of like that
These rare traits are more important to me:
-Empthay
-seeing things at a different angle or from different person perspective.
-and enjoy seeing people doing well.
Hear hear!! 🤘
Empathy is so important to you that you misspelled it? Are you an Empath? Someone who just really cares more about other people (besides her two ex husbands and kids who she made wards of the state so she could go on Tinder and declare herself especially caring)?
Kirk Patrick A lot of anger there Kirk?! What is more important than all these labels we place on ourselves is a healed person moving forward.
@@vectorequilibrium4493 Kirk Patrick isn't angry . . . he's just an asshole, that's all. Wait! He spotted a spelling error, so that makes him a _pedantic_ asshole. Hold on, though . . . he made up a story about someone he's never met and doesn't otherwise know from a bale of hay. That makes him a pedantic mythomaniac asshole. And if he was so lavishly nasty in his comment because he drank too much tonight, that would make him a pedantic and mythomaniacal alcoholic asshole. But maybe he's also a troll. That would make him . . . well, you see the pattern.
@@bigneiltoo oh well. I'll leave it on here for you to stir on 😁
It's important to know that being depressed and staying in all day due to our governments response to Covid does not make you an Introvert.
My God. I hope everyone reads this. 👏🏿
Extremely introverted, to the point where I actually would love to forsake my human nature and not communicate with anyone and live happily with myself.
@Suq Madiq Me to.
And yet you're reaching out to people with RUclips comments.
Covid19 granted your wish!
@Will M No one is 100% introverted. Maybe I'm not the one who needs to think more before typing. And don't be so rude.
Well, you're just selfish. You did not evolve to the original intended design. They were your choices, probably chosen due to fears. You can potentially fix yourself by realizing that you are what is broken, and they are just what is flawed.
With the help of philosophy ive become more extraverted, not giving a damn helps alot.
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How?
With the help of philosophy i have become even more introverted
It's almost like that's all philosophy is about. Not giving a damn
I'm on the same route, but I'm not as far down it. Those stoicism videos have been a worthy find
omg your channel should get more subs than you've gotten now. i love your vids, it's verry educating. thankyou, Sprouts!
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Wow I learned I'm an ambivert. Really explains why I was so outgoing and social during my elementary/preteen years, but suddenly in high school I started to feel my energy drain from the constant expectations of my family and friends, and instead of being honest and asking for help I just cowered into introversion and all my friends from back then were scared off cause I was a completely different person and that must have made them think I was lying the whole time or manipulating them.
7 years later, I got diagnosed for adult ADHD-C a month ago and started meds, slowly but surely leaning towards extrovert again now, I'm making eye contact and smiling at random people and it feels both awesome and depressing that it's going to probably going to shift back and forth between the 2 for the rest of my life
crowds drain my strength. i float around exploring crowds conversations, this makes it easier to disappear when needed. you'll typically find me chillin' with the pets.
I am Extrovert, and thanks to Spouts for this video, it is reaching me about the Introverted personality, so i can understand what my GFs thinking, because she is Introvert...
As a hopeless introvert I applaud you and thank you for being open minded. Were not really so mysterious but warning: we observe EVERYTHING so don't try anything slick. It will not go by unnoticed LOL
You can never hurt an introvert. He has already seen that coming multiple times in multiple ways in his head. Introverts are multidimensional and multifaceted. As an Introvert I tend to think that way. And people find me stoic of some kind because I don't react to any kind of situations whether it is shocking, funny or sad. As I have already seen that coming.
Introverts are very introspective and understand the human condition quite well. So, how can you be hurt or shocked when you expect humans to be just that, humans?
@@fromthefountofyouth introverts get hurt long before the actual situation arises. They get hurt in every possible way. So theres no hurting left for them at the time of actual reaction. Same goes for happiness, excitement and sorrow.
@@KAT-dg6el aren't we all?
I am an introvert for sure. I am okay interacting with others, but I really enjoy spending time by myself. I am not shy of talking in front of people, I am a teacher I speak with children and families all the time; but again I love when I don't have to talk.
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Yea, why would I want to come out as an extrovert with those descriptions?
Man fr, I thought I was just tripping. Just because someone is charged around other people doesn't mean they don't think as much. Maybe they like SHARING their ideas with others, totally a bias way to present extroverts.
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Well, I think there's probably something to it.
It just rolled me that the polite sounding British man kept making backhanded insults.
Reminds me of DHMIS episode 1, " ...green is not a creative color..."
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Your self esteem is fine.
Well, I don't know that, but I'll just say that the video doesn't kill your self esteem. You kill your self esteem when you decide that that is what the video means.
Don't give your personal power to a RUclips if it makes you feel bad in an unconstructive way.
Also, more generally, if you're having trouble with self-esteem, I'd recommend learning to laugh at yourself. Life's going to be much less painful if you learn to love yourself and not take yourself so seriously.
I really appreciate this video. I had never thought in terms of exterior stimuli affecting mental energy. I do know that trying to come up with small talk has always been exhausting. I never realized the opposite could be true.
From an extreme extrovert, small talk is always an exciting opportunity to exchange new ideas, every person an interesting master of the entire universe of their life and I want to know what they've learned so far, data exchange lol cuz I've got my gold nuggets tip of my tongue always lmao always ready to form alliances, but I went to coding school 2019, have a lot to learn from introverts for sure
I feel like everyone in this thread is mad at the extraverts. As an ambivert, I would love to speak in their defense. They help hold the world together. They are catalysts for new ideas. If the whole world were introverts, you’d have a lot of people who are just experts in one of two things and they would never talk to each other. When experts in different fields interact, we get some of the best ideas.
It's not exactly a convincing defense you've given there. Introverts may be experts in "one of two things" (sic), but the one thing you're the expert is producing most lazy clichés in one paragraph 👏 not sure how that leads to the generation of the "best ideas"?
You also forget one key difference. Introverts are essentially self-reliant and can live without the stimulation of other people. Extroverts can't, they need interaction. There is one category there that would be helpless without the other, and it's not the one you think.
@@oldskoolmusicnostalgia Would you mind rewording your first paragraph? I couldn’t understand what you were trying to say after you quoted “one or two things.”
Extroverts and introverts need each other just as much. You think that since extraverts acknowledge their need for people, they need introverts and not vise versa. This is false. For one thing, all humans need other humans. For another, extraverts can spend all of their time with other extraverts same as introverts can hide in their holes and never come out. The world needs both.
There is a website, (I don’t remember what it’s called, but I read a book about it) where people can post problems from their field of study and anyone can answer. Most of the answers were from people of slightly different fields. The spread of ideas is a powerful thing.
I don’t understand why you’re being so mean, by the way. I hope you feel better soon.
Being intraverted or extraverted has nothing to do with having ideas. Also, you can know more than 1 or 2 things if you're intraverted.
@@oldskoolmusicnostalgia Both extroverts and introverts are needed for society. That is why they both exist in large numbers.
Being introvert does not mean u just know about one or two things in particular. Thats a stupid comment. Introvert doesnt mean u cant express yourself and have long conversations and talk about different subjects with someone. U just get tired of people a lot quicker and need to recharge yourself by being alone.
If you’re an introvert and want a social life try to get into psychology, I’ve found that studying people makes it pretty fun to go out into social situations. Instead of just talking or interacting you’re studying people and practicing experiments with yourself as a variable. If the topic of conversation is boring you’ll find stimulation in reading body language and even little subconscious cues that people give off. From there you may act on them(not in a harmful way) to see what happens further or if you notice distress you can see if certain things you’ve learned may ease them.
Any books you would suggest for getting into psychology?
Of course we now casually use these terms to indicate how 'social' we are - how much we enjoy or avoid company. But in my understanding, Jung's original use of the terms was to do with in which realm we seek out meaning and gratification. An extrovert measures his success & satisfaction by how he has achieved, and secured his place, out in the world - which includes the social world, but only as one component. Reward is looked for outside of Self. By contrast, an introvert is more focused on personal integration, and the cultivation of her/his own feelings and integrity. So reward/satisfaction is sought _internally._ Expression of this integrity, out in the world, is secondary to his/her sense of who (s)he is. Example: an extrovert musician may enjoy the validation of having hit records. Introverted musicians may be more concerned with growing as a writer - following their own path. Either type may enjoy company sometimes, and require solitude at other times.
Introvert ≠ shy. People need to understand this!
Yeah. I’m an extrovert and I’m shy
We’re all ambiverts but the more we accomplish within either introverted/extroverted activities, the stronger our ability is to use those activities to replenish energy! Basically the more you practice, the better you get. I believe everyone has the ability to get great at being both!!
That s one of the best ,if not the best,channel for learning stuff about psychology in a simple and clear way.Congratulations
The association is always with “how they think” when I believe it should be more of “how they expresses themselves”
As an ambivert, I can tell you how ambiverted brains work. We do tend to come to simple answers fast, like extroverts, but more complex answers can also be uttered by us and it still takes a long time to develop them, so we are also similar to introverts. Our thinking method tends to depend on the situation. We are also both creative and social and tend to need more of one, but can't be without the other. I love to have alone time, but I can't stand it when I am not socializing at all.
Any ambiverts here that are able to relate?
I'm wondering if I'm in this category. I love being around coworkers and I'm usually fast to respond to questions and such. But I still look for my time away to recharge. Being alone has never bothered me. In fact my husband (way introvert) and I both have basically our own person space we designed and hang out in
@@FeatheryFool Yeah, you might be ambiverted.
Fellow ambivert here 👋
Yeah!!! An ambivert here!
Yeah! Ambivert here 😊
Love how introverts must profess that they're introverts..
Also, sounds like he's saying introverts are more intelligent..
Always been my contention that I'd interact more if people were more interesting to talk to..
He just said that introverts take more time to think things through. But it's not that simple: some introverts are just as quick to judge a situation as he claims is natural for extroverts. After all, Jung did not only have an introversion/extroversion graph, there was also thinking/sensing, judging/perceiving. When he talks about the quick answers vs the slowly considered answers, he's talking about judging/perceiving. On that note, the video is incorrect.
I wouldn't assume all introverts are intelligent, but I haven't met many extroverts who impressed me with their intelligence... at least not when interacting with them personally. I think this is probably because (1) always talking means never pausing long to think, and (2) everybody has stupid thoughts, but introverts are less likely to voice them... basically the Mark Twain adage "it's better to be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth and confirm it beyond doubt."
I believe that I am an ambivert. I have taken the Myers-Briggs personality test about 6 times and have fallen on both sides of the Extraversion / Introversion category about equally. I had been calling myself an extraverted introvert before I heard the term ambivert.
since the 20s and 60s, we've made a lot of progress discovering the relationships that genetics and environment have on brain development.
but despite this, I think the original ideas hold true.
I also think that our inner extrovert and inner introvert come out of hiding when in the company of people who interest us--
and even more so in comfortable environments
As an extrovert, I love having an introvert wife. We are rapid to make wise decision; we are fun to talk when topic interests us... More importantly, we had great match makers called Our Parents who know our weaknesses and strengths that make us PERFECT match
After watching the video, I believe I am an introvert. All the characteristics were very very relatable i felt like was being described. This video was very helpful!
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I am an Introvert,it's taken me over 40 years to be proud of that fact. Some extroverts I meet think I'm ignorant or shy or maybe even too stupid to comment on their conversations. I like to sit quietly and study people before I integrate fully with new people.Those people who think I'm shy soon get a surprise because I'm actually quite outspoken and have clear defined views on things that are close to my heart and I won't back down. I'm either your best friend or your worst enemy and I'll be clear and honest about which of the above relate to you. For those people who take the time to get to know me,they all find the their patience paid off.
I'd say I'm between introvert and ambivert then. More introverted tho, the big thing not convincing me of full out introvert is that I can think of the best options in seconds
I am extreme in both, i need peace and quiet but i also need high energy stimulation... i easily join groups and interact like an extrovert, but after some time i need to go into myself again.... sort of like a cycle.
I'm extroverted and hubby's introverted. I love his patience but it takes him forever to make simple decisions haha. We run a business together. He's so great at the accounting side of things, but I deal with clients ^^