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Alternatives: Goblin pretty- make any snarky comment on my appearance and I'll steal your shoes. Dragon pretty- eat them. Changeling pretty- when someone comments you, pretend that you're them, steal their name and copycat every single thing about them until they break down and have a tantrum
after decades of trying to be beautiful, now women have to be a certain 'type' of beautiful? being beautiful just by being you isn't enough, ever and especially now? i hate how fast the beauty standards change
I agree, but I think many women struggle to see themselves as pretty past these trends. Personally I recommend looking at different great beauties in all types of times and cultures. Interestingly the likelihood is that you will find one that is pretty close to how you look. And then that lets you consider the standards that made that true and their style. Look for things that are potentially uplifting and not terribly downgrading with over the top critiques. It's far more mentally healthy.
Ikr I watch her videos to get an insight of the trends but now ppl consider diff types of pretty? And it doesn't even apply to everyone? Bye I'm going back to my cave
this is so weird bc i’ve deleted everything except youtube so whenever i see something about tiktok trends i’m just…. shocked people think this way and put any energy towards these things. deleting those apps was such a good decision 😅
As a person who knew she had a body image issue since middle school as MySpace was fading out, yeah delete all you can. Remember these sites just want to make money through consumerism so making people insecure is their tactic. Don't live your life like it is a stereotype early 2000s high school.
I did that too and I wholly agree. Although I still have Instagram and Facebook, but only use them to look at/up info about the university I've applied for, and sometimes I watch animal videos on Instagram too. But I'm so happy without using social media, I see people scrolling for hours on end and feel sick now, because I know how much I over thought just anything using those platforms.
I think it’s cute to tell each other we’re all beautiful but I wish we allowed ourselves to just be ugly as well. I think we all know that what society calls “beautiful” only encompasses a certain number of people. The reality is that a lot of us are gonna be considered ugly and we should stop being so looks obsessed and focus on being happy and confident despite our physical appearance. ❤
Disagree on most being "ugly"; most are *average* . Just like it's gonna be rare for someone to be pretty/beautiful, it's also rare for someone to be legit ugly. Vast majority are average. And average is fine! Why is "average" such a dirty thing?!
why must we call ourselves ugly in the first place? beauty is subjective and these trends prove it. going from extremely skinny bony heroin chic to BBLs and slim thick, full baby cheeks to buccal fat removal, sharp noses to flat button noses, just goes to show how impressionable our perception of beauty is because these are almost on complete different ends of the spectrum. to me beauty is a spectrum, with a wide variety of unique features and characteristics, rather than just beautiful vs ugly. our sense of aesthetics is really dependent on the era we live in. it’s up to us to call ourselves beautiful regardless and radiate that confidence from the inside, empower ourselves than just resign ourselves to being ugly. it’s hard to do it. but not a single one of us looks exactly like the other, and i think that’s a beautiful thing. let’s all be kind to ourselves ❤
@@IceQueen975 yeah maybe you’re right, but I think that even if someone considers themselves to be below average it still shouldn’t matter and we shouldn’t have to worry so much about the way that we look, average or otherwise.
I fully agree with you. Beauty as a concept and construct WILL exclude others but it shouldn’t matter because physical beauty isn’t the end all be all nor should be the focal point of one’s worth and lovability. It should be their humanity that we value the most. We should be able to call ourselves ugly just like we can be comfortable not being the best artists or the best at math. We shouldn’t fear being ugly as if our whole sense of worth and happiness relies on being naturally pleasing to the eye.
honestly, i just wish i could stop caring if i'm pretty or not. life is so much more than just being percieved as beautiful. you can be cute, you can be ugly, the reality is that it does not really matter; standards are majorly influenced by the economy of the society we live in, for example now that plastic surgery is so accessible the "rules of beauty" are constantly changing just so you could spend more money on retouching your face/body. i don't really know if anyone will ever read this, but i promise you that you could be the most gorgerous person in the world to somebody just because of your personality or wisdom, or simply because they love you. remeber, please, that you are loved no matter what.
Absolutely! And the standards will always be changing because companies profit off of our insecurities. The beauty & cosmetic surgery industries need to us to find new “flaws” within ourselves so they can market us new products and procedures. It’s all a big scam.
Honestly, I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t pay attention to trends anymore. I think I’m pretty. Therefore I am pretty. 🤷🏼♀️ If society doesn’t like it, who the hell cares? I only care about what I think of myself. 🤣 If I’m good enough for me, then that’s all I need.
Once you think about life outside of social media (the planet, animals, sky, art, childhood, nostalgia, ur fav things, memories, pictures, etc), you will realize how silly and highschool these trends are. They are so meaningless and only really exist inside a tiny screen. If u feel overwhelmed or insecure , put down ur phone and look at the sky or childhood pictures when u were little and happy and didnt care how you looked. If you get a bad thought, immediately flip the narrative and think of at LEAST one positive thing u love. 💗
Just interact and talk with your grandparents, parents and older people in general who are wiser and more mature than kids your age... They lived before internet/social media era was thing big thing and they lived a very simple more carefree life, childhood... So yea it's refreshing to hear them talk about their times
Friends, I'm in my 30s. I purged social media years ago. NONE OF THIS WILL MATTER. no one gives a f if your nose is asymmetrical or what kind of eyes you have or what “type” you are. Go out and live your lives, breathe fresh air, cultivate kindness, fight capitalism, do your life on your own terms. Social media is NOT life! Love you all, stay safe.
For me capitalism is not bad but consumerism like for example people can not enjoy half the things they want to consume nor they can but they still want to buy or watch things too much of them, that is so tiring. You have to have balance.
I once read this quote somewhere: 'You not finding me attractive is not going to stop me from being attractive," and it stuck with me so much. If all individuals, regardless of gender, adapt this mindset, nothing will stop us from being confident.
The thing is we(society) value soooooo much our external appearance that being pretty especially us young women we are now OBSESSED, in a bad way. Taking care of yourself is good, fitting beauty standards is good but too much is too much. Is tiring...
Last week me and my family were watching tv and there was a report about a civilian female pilot...and my sisters were like: "she isn't pretty😒"...😂 she lands an fn passenger jet on the runway and still not being appreciated unless she is pretty..
@@Omar_ToxicBanana1701 yeah I have a friend who literally the first thing she'll say about any woman is whether she's pretty or not.. like does it matter? I don't even care half the time
yea its just getting too tedious with the type of beauty like okay you look good i think thats enough why do you have to be so meticulous about everything?
It's so dumb, if you think you're pretty, then you're pretty. That's it, that should be all there is to it. I've never been happier since one day I just decided I would tell myself I'm pretty, and now after years, nothing can change my mind. I feel confident in myself. It's still sad how much power the beauty standard has on people, especially young people. I only turn 17 this month, and I already went through this entire journey of finding self confidence, and it breaks my heart knowing so many people younger than me aren't at the point I'm at just yet.
I agree, and guess what? Social media is all about making you not feel pretty. Bc its constant comparison, and its not even honest comparison. So if you want to start feeling prettier, the cheapest way you can do so is by limiting the time you spend on tiktok and instagram. BELIEVE ME
I've always called myself forest gremlin pretty, and I think I'm really gonna stick with that. It actually makes me feel better about myself and my unique features!!! Growing up, I felt like the ugliest girl in the world for not having the most typically attractive features. I began referring to myself as a gremlin as a joke, because I felt like it fit my looks and my personality. One day, someone commented on my pic online saying that I had a very natural essence and they thought I looked like a wood elf. That comment actually made me feel uniquely pretty for the first time, and now I can look at myself with acceptance rather than with distain. We can define our own beauty, social standards be damned!
omg I also grew up very insecure about some of my features, and one day for some reason I saw some humor in them, like I thought I looked funny, not in a way I thought people should make fun of me, but these things were just parts of myself that made me just not conventionally attractive, and that humor turned into acceptance, and now these are things that I like about myself and even make me feel beautiful in my own way It's a bit of a strange way to look at oneself but if we all tried fitting into one of the categories mentioned in the video it would've literally been impossible for people like me or you to feel good about ourselves and honestly it feels soo much better feeling beautiful because you're yourself rather than ticking all the boxes for being "popular pretty" or "model pretty"
It’s funny how trends get recycled and people think they’ve created something new. First it was puppy eyes vs cat eyes, then Asian vs western make-up now it’s doe eyes vs siren eyes 😂
finally someone who also noticed how the doe/siren eye thing is just a repackaged version of puppy/cat eyes, not a lot of people notice/believe it when i point it out for some reason 💀
I can imagine what might come next: "what type of cute are you - spicy cute, baby cute, popular cute, or cute cute?". Society comes up with the weirdest trends to fit people in a box. This is so toxic, especially for many young girls who believe that this is all life is about. There is so much more to women than being "pretty". I don't have TikTok so I was so shocked to learn about this new "classification". In a way, I'm glad that I didn't know about it because god knows how I would have been influenced. Thank you Zoe for putting this video out there to remind us that there is so much more than what society deems us to be, and that living outside of the box can sometimes be more beneficial.
As a teenager in the midst of all this despite not having tiktok, i see these trends. I absorb these trends. And Im a 15-year-old black girl, who doesn’t have any money to keep up with any of them. And I feel like If we’re going with a realistic standard, Im not gonna be any of the “4- pretty’s” and ad much as i try to accept it, when you happen to go to a school with some diversity, but not much, sometimes its really hard. I always thought that when I got older it wouldn’t matter, but no matter how hard I try, it feels like it always will. I know this seems like a really pointless rant, and there’s probably people in the comments who are going to be like “it doesn’t matter what the color of your skin is” and im going to say, that sometimes it does. It really does matter sometimes, and the beauty standards at my school, are 1. Blonde, Brown, or Black hair 2.Skinny 3. Long eyelashes 4. Be Rich 5. Have confidence 6. Be on a sports team. Thats what it’s like at my school. That’s what i have to live up to. And I shouldn’t have to. Nobody should have to. So here’s my question. Why does it matter what type of pretty we are? I thought all that was supposed to matter was personality and just how you are as a person. Sorry, i just needed to get that off my chest. Also id love to know other people’s opinion in the comments, and i hope i didn’t offend anyone, I was just saying whats one my mind about this topic.
Your thoughts are valid✨ I’m also 15 and schools seem to have more standards than countries. At my school it’s all about tanning and being as tan as you can but still “white"? Girls always complain about how ”white” they are while I’m over here 7 shades off ed sheeran 😀 Can’t wait to be out of it and get rid of the weird looks 💅
i’m also a 15 year old black girl and you’re right. i try to just ignore it tho and invalidate all of these stupid trends (cuz they’re not valid at all). it seems to be working. obviously i’m insecure sometimes but i also have days where i’m feeling myself and most days i literally just don’t care.
I am a little younger than 15 and I totally can relate. Having naturally red hair and not being allowed to dye it and skin that turns red no matter what i do, people will laugh and tell me my hair looks orange. They will make fun of you if you don’t like the same things as them and me liking different music and celebrities i will get laughed at.
You're absolutely right. Take it from someone who happens to be in her late 20s: as long as you're presentable (clean, affable, good-natured), you ARE pretty! It's tough being a teenager and feeling that you have to blend in, but you don't really have to. Uniqueness is pretty. I used to envy textured and colored (red/brownish) hair. I used to want to be taller and more androgynous. But those aren't me. And notice those aren't typical beauty standards. Each people has their own perception of what's pretty and it should be normalized. You have plenty of time to learn what makes someone attractive - be it rabbit teeth, wide nose, small nose, freckles, small eyes, big eyes, thin lips, big lips, idk what else society find undesirable - be assured that there will be people who find your features cute! A lot of time it's not based on standards. :)
Hi sis, I’m a 17 (soon to be 18) year old black girl. I know exactly how you feel. I was (and am still) an overweight black girl when I was 15 years old in a predominantly white school. It was rough and it wrecked my self image and confidence. I do want to tell you, though that it gets so much better. Do not compare yourself to others but find your own beauty. It truly shines from within. I consider myself to be quite pretty now but it took the work to not compare myself to other people’s beauty but to find my own instead. Remember that you are absolutely beautiful no matter what the beauty standards are. Remain confident in this fact and remember that beauty standards differ not only from society to society but even from person to person. Whatever the socially “acceptable” beauty standard is at the time, individuals still have their own personal preferences. Hence you should find your own beauty, accentuate it and rest confidently in your amazing beauty. You are an amazing person and you’ve got this! Stay strong
As someone who’s never been conventionally attractive it’s kind of liberating to not place myself against these trends and standards. I’m also learning to love myself and accept my own natural self as I am ❤️
i know this has been said a million times, but outer beauty means absolutely nothing if you dont have inner beauty. whats beautiful to me? being kind, appreciating the small things, learning, helping others, etc. i hope ppl still remember that once your youthful looks fade, as they always do, who you are on the inside never does.
I saw something somewhere where someone said something along the lines of “flowers are pretty but so are Christmas lights and they look nothing alike” Beauty is found everywhere and it doesn’t always look the same. There’s no need to define yourself or other people as “that type of pretty” when beauty comes in many different forms. ✨🌷💕💫 Totally love your videos Zoe!!! 💕
It is so hard being told every day in every corner of the internet and trend world that I am probably ugly....or average at best. But these videos really do help me look at these things with a more critical lens, and help me remind myself that...I am human, humans don't look like Instagram/ tik tok filters, and I am beautiful to plenty of people in real life. Again it is hard, as the internet does its job well by selling whatever will grab the consumer. So no matter if I subscribe to it or not, at the end of the day I can define my beauty and I shouldn't worry if someone else agrees or disagrees with that definition.
this is why we need to have self love. as a woman we are constantly having to face these trends: buccal fat removal, what type of pretty are you, siren or doe eyes, slim thick, skinny, the list goes on! outward beauty is so temporary yet the world puts it above everything else. the trends are constantly changing and so are you so why keep up with something that will always keep switching up on u? your weight will fluctuate, your skin color changes depending on the season, one day your skin will wrinkle, but the soul will always be beautiful
Something that feels nasty to me about the 'what type of pretty are you' trend thats going on is that all of the types of pretty feel the same??? Like they all feel like there is significant overlap between the types, to the point where I'm still confused as to where the differences are because they all feel like they boil down to meeting the same ole beauty standard in extremely similar ways. It feels like we're recycling the same old stuff over and over and over again instead of actually diversifying and dissecting what is 'pretty'.
I was thinking the same thing that most of these girls look the same 😅 so I don’t understand how they feel terrible when going through this list because they look like how most other girls look
I put a time limit on my phone to only be able to use tiktok for about 20 minutes a day and I pretty much only watch people that I already follow (artists, fashion creators and crafters) really helped me to curate the content that appears to me so lately I click on your videos having no ideia what you're talking about, that feels great to my mental health lol
After centuries of trying to be beautiful, I finally know the meaning of beauty. It is in the eye of the beholder and runs deeper than just appearance.
there's nothing wrong with wanting to be pretty, but as an indian person I feel like these trends are very eurocentric??? The "4 types of pretty trend" definitely doesn't take into account ethnic features. we'll never really be labelled as "model pretty" or "standard pretty", or even pretty at all, because our face will never be able to align with the one they've dubbed as "pretty". Beauty comes in so many forms, and it's so amazing how everyone is beautiful in their own way, just for being human. I don't get why we aren't celebrating that :(
Thank you so much Zoe, as a 12 year old you really boost up my self esteem I watch your videos every upload and I love the content you make,even if you don't see this,please know that you are inspring lots of little girls out there,much love from Illnios :)
It's insane how much confident and prettier I see myself in the mirror ever since I stopped using Instagram or tiktok. I take pics without filters, I don't even bother twice to check pics that others take of me, I don't care anymore lol. I'm just vibing and living and if people don't find it "pretty" or aesthetic then idc at least I feel at peace with myself. Ppl would care less if we didn't fuel each other's insecurities. Loved the video:)♥️
I am a very insecure person-so every time I see girls online with filters, makeup and with an edited body saying that they are 'ugly'...I want to literally cryyyy
seeing people complain about being pretty or being called pretty (cos apparently pretty people deserve and need first time deep compliments) or cry about being considered a 7/10 when ur deep in the negatives LMAO
I'm really into body types and learning about what clothing looks best on someone based on bone structure and certain features. It's really fun to research Kibbe😇 and an innocent approach to finding your style. The 80s models were know as natural body types because of their naturally athletic build making them look strong or fit some traits include: long limbs, broad shoulders, wide ribcage, straight hips, and wild healthy hair. Which would explain the use of shoulder pads and thick coats. The heroin chic is often known as dramatics. Kate's bones structure has always been delicate looking and that's just the features of dramatics. Long, narrow, and sharp not broad like naturals . It seems like the internet is really favoring the dramatics right now and sleek cashmere dresses. Some claim nothing looks good on them, but since I've learned abt this it's really fun to learn what designers favor body types like Chanel really likes gamines (essences) which would be lily rose depp, lily allen, and audrey Hepburn for example. The 70s is the best for naturals because of the width in clothing making a vibrant larger than life look. Standard pretty giving no explanation other than meeting the beauty standards is just absurd bc every country is different what we find standard here is unique in another country.. It has no structure or system. Ppl are lumping it all together. There's pretty based on culture and sexual dimorphism. Then there's ✨style✨ which can be anything! Then there is your pure bone structure, vertical line, and facial features. The best part is that none of this really matters unless you're into it (style, fashion, and body types) bc everyone's preferences are different.
This generation has become obsess with labels and these social outlets don’t help. Please delete your socials bc if you continue you are putting your mental health at risk. That’s a lil extreme but try it out and if you can’t, just filter the things you pay attention. Define beauty for yourself and become that definition and don’t forget that we are all beautiful in his eyes ❤.
no your absolutely right its crazy how in our education system we talk about how generalizing and labelling are stigmatizing and then all we do is go on social media and create illusionary terms of what it means to be "attractive" to try and exclude and dehumanize people. We definitely need to stop supporting this content.
*You always make relatable content Zoe, more such dark truth behind toxic cultures and trends videos please, sending you tons of love and hugs, xoxo* 🥰❤🌟😘💖💫✨
I'm so glad I'm at that age where nobody looks my way anymore. It's freeing to just be yourself and not feel pressure to live up to some childish beauty standard.
it feels almost dehumanizing attempting to sort myself into one of these categories, like I am so much more than that, and so is literally everyone else. This is all so exhausting
This feels like a quiz I would take on a sketchy website in 2013/2014/2015...the answer would be inaccurate but I would consult my friends who would then give a possibly more accurate response that would accomodate my race and body as well. And then forget all about it later.
I'm very flattered by your confidence. The universal truth everyone must see. I appreciate your work very much, you've inspired me and made me love myself. As being a tenager, I'm starting to get concerned about my looks and always thought I've never cared for these thing when I was young but suddenly why. Hanging out with my friends after COVID-19🦠😷I saw everyone is into too much social media, trusting useless thoughts etc. And I saw how much they compared themselves to others and get sad and depressed. Well, your video sure motivates them and myself to become a better person. I appreciate 😊your wonderful thoughts and the courage. Thank you ❤
I remember being 11 and constantly being told my big lips were ugly, then I’m 14 and everyone wants big pink lips. I didn’t know whether to be happy or angry or whatever cuz i was trying to process the switch. It just shows how following beauty standards is so tiring, it changes with influencers and industries picking and choosing features to market and ppl following it blindly
i thought my lips were ugly because of how big they were. even though big lips are trendy the big lips they’re talking about is just the type a white person with big lips would have. didn’t rlly help since i hated my two toned lips
I'd like to see you make a video about beauty standards in different countries, that definitely would be interesting, I know people talked about beauty standards from different centuries and how those changed but yeah
i have the impression that the Zoes videos get better and better every time, from the content to the edit, it's so good! love this chanel Zoe, thank you for everything 💗
This intoxicating trend of beauty made me so insecure for so long, that i became blind to my own face. Recently me and a school friend went into the city for some shopping. And i went into a game shop for a plushie that i liked. When i came out she pointed out that my interaction with the (m) clerk was peak pretty privilege. And i realised she was right when i replaced myself in that conversation with her (she's got a very 'extreem' alt look, with dyed hair, that often digusts men). He was so pleasant and apologetic to me when he did something wrong. In a way that was super over the top and unnesesairy. It was SO weird. And i never noticed it before, simply bc of the things i saw online.
Whenever I see things like this and I start worrying about if I am pretty, I think about a quote that I saw on Pinterest years ago. (Idk who said it or if I am quoting it right, it's been a while) "Christmas lights and wild flowers are both pretty. You wouldn't compare them directly because they are so different but they are both beautiful." Whenever I find myself comparing my face and body and life to someone else's, I just remind myself of that quote. Maybe they are Christmas lights and I am a wildflower. We both have our seasons and our places and we are both beautiful in our own ways. We should celebrate our different beauties because what a boring world we would live in if we were all the same
zoe…thank you. just thank you for everything. i’m literally crying, realising how i’ve let media get to me, not seeing the harm they can cause…i knew it, i just didn’t want to believe it. thank you for helping me realise there truly is no definition or pretty, handsome, ugly, hot, sexy, cute, we are all just different. and different is the only truly beautiful thing. different is all of us, it’s everyone. we can learn to disregard our biases so we can appreciate all beauty for all of its worth
Ahhh Zoeee!! Love all your videos! As someone who spends no time on TikTok, these breakdowns and well-articulated videos are always a friendly reminder to stay far away from that corner of society/the internet...Thanks for taking one for the team! 😆
Wow. You know normally I don’t like to watch stuff like this and me not having social media. But after watching I realized how happy I am that I don’t have it. You are absolutely beautiful. From one woman to another. Thanks for the break down.
Zoe Can you just do a video to talk about how family pressure on their kids to become the most perfect person they ever meet effect their mental health. My whole family and even my siblings think that I have to be perfect even though they don't say it but they don't accept and realise that they do, I told them many times about it and they always blame me for that. Now I have mental health issues, social anxiety, stress and anxiety of being later than my peers, a wake, sleepy, comfortable and happy even though I am only 18 yo. I will be so thankful if you did it. I am lost right now so much.
My type of pretty is basically neoclassical portrait pretty? I look at master paintings from the 1800s and show them to people as an example of what I think I look like. People usually say, "what? You're not THAT ugly," (even my own parents). It just makes me feel worse because I think those portraits are beautiful.
Us as women are perpetrators of this. You can claim the patriarchy all day but the sad reality is women do this to each other. Most men I know just want a good woman who will love him and give him peace, that’s the average guy I don’t think it’s fair to box all men in this idea that Hollywood producers and the average guy have the same ideals when it comes to beauty. Also what is beauty or being told you are pretty? It’s either for self validation or validation from others and neither are good for us as society. We can’t blame every little thing on the patriarchy, ladies we are part of the problem.
i’m so glad someone said this. Its so important to support other women, we should be boosting each others confidence and not competing and trying to destroy it!
I am a guy and i will pick up average looking women with great personality and similar interest as me over a hot narcisist.Facial structure is important for attraction but these women take it beyond to the extreme with makeups,fillers,filters.And constantly asking "How do i look babe" "do you like my eyes now""do you like this dress on me" "i grew some pimples i can't show my face without makeup" All these stress makes men miserable.If you are beautiful,you don't have to put heavy makeups to look hot.Eyeliner and lipstick is enough.And if you have long eyelashes then eyeliner is not even necessary.And you can put on lipgel and still look hot
“ person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” -Roald Dahl
Never heard of this topic before… so lucky, that American social media doesn’t apply on other countries. The amount of attention towards body’s and individual views is crazy. I heard (doesn’t have to be true) that people from America are more offended when you tell them there are ugly or broke, rather than that they have a bad personality. Insane… Please shift your focus on something that truly has a meaning and brings happiness
as a teenager I personally don't care if people find me pretty or not, and Im glad that im like that, but I start to worry about other girls at school because I was in class the other day and three of my classmates were talking about getting a nose job ( keep in mind were 14-15) but there already fine and don't need it! Im glad Zoe is spreading awareness about this, loads of love to you♥
In times such as ours there is a great pressure to come up with concepts that help men understand their dilemma; there is an urge toward vital ideas, toward a simplification of needless intellectual complexity. Sometimes this makes for big lies that resolve tensions and make it easy for action to move forward with just the rationalizations that people need. But it also makes for the slow disengagement of truths that help men get a grip on what is happening to them, that tell them where the problems really are.
Society has become so insanely vain, it’s shocking. Just focus on being a good person. Focus on educating yourself. Focus on helping those less fortunate than yourself. Focus on environmental efforts. Focus on human connection. Focus on your passions and creating things with your hands. Focus on cultivating joy. Stop focusing on your appearance and what other people think of you.
I’m proud to be mirror pretty, the type of pretty where we all wonder why no one can really see us like we sometimes see ourselves in the mirror. But then it’s something that is really personal and we can’t exploit. I’m proud that people consider me ugly because at the end of the day I can look in the mirror and see something people miss.
as someone who doesn't care about their appearance at all i thoroughly enjoy these trends. it's literally just a fun flavor of the month kinda thing i don't know why people get in their feels about it. it'll literally be old news in a week just have fun
This is why I like the Kibbe and Kitchener systems. They describe body and face types in a neutral way and they're just guidelines on how certain styles will make you shine and others you may get lost in. It's helped me a lot considering I would try on certain trends and wonder why they looked weird on me. If you're insecure with your looks, I recommend looking into the Kibbe body type and Kitchener facial essence systems. No body or facial type is loved more than the other, it's all about style.
I would love to hear your thoughts on things like the kibbie craze that I'm seeing everywhere right now. I feel like it's a bit alienating the way it tells women (and exclusively women) how they will or will not look pretty, how they should behave and what they should wear based on those really strange criteria
society's hyperfixation on beauty and beauty standards always ended up being out of reach for me to the point that i kinda just gave up on meeting them and it's less out of self-love and more out of self-loathing. and from there it spiralled out of control into the mindset of If I'm Not Pretty I Might As Well Be Smart which ended up leading me to overwork and burn out myself constantly in school to prove that even if i'm Not Pretty i can still be Worth Something, right? news flash: It Did Not Work not only was the self-loathing that the mindset stemmed from absolutely unhealthy, it put an unfair standard on myself to make up for something i never lacked in the first place, something that had criteria that changed all the goddamn time. not to mention i was still unintentionally feeding into Societal Beauty Hyperfixation by trying to meet it in other ways. and now that i know what my mindset has been it's been hard to unlearn but eventually I'll get there. self-love is hard to learn with the way society is but once you get there it's pretty damn rewarding.
7:21 I was distracted by some bathing foam popping, when you said that. By the second "you" I just whipped my head right back at the screen, as if you are a teacher who told me to focus again 😂😂
i've been doing some inner work about needing validation in terms of who i am as a person, and how outward validation will never be enough as long as /I/ don't see value in myself, and the same goes for beauty. these tiktoks are a 'flex' for the girls who fit into the beauty standard but it's also sad because they are just out there on the INTERNET asking for validation, and they will never be happy until they actually love themselves. i hope this makes sense lmao
The most scary thing about it is that 90% of those "trends" are created by young women too... Like, we're the collective who suffers the most from these but still it is mainly our "fault" to them to exist/spread through the internet. This "desire" of physically pleasing everyone around us (derived from gender inequality and the need to claim male attention to get anywhere) is so draining, yet we keep "playing the game", y'know?
yea its really sad to see that even though we are aware of what the issues are we just keep creating more. At the end of the day the more effort and time you put into your looks the prettier you will be, but it needs to be deeper than just that. if you don't have a balance you will constantly feel inadequate as you age.
i dobt even have tiktok anymore. every trend is about looks. its never a challenge or quarantine crafts, its now “small nose filter, do i look cute as a cartoon, back profiles, what i eat in a day. i redownloaded it earlier this year and in 3 days it convinced me i needed a nose job. (i literally have a cute nose, everyone has always loved it. our brains werent meant to see so many faces all day.
I had to ask myself a pretty crazy question recently. If I were to look exactly the way I desire. And the same time, the popular trends in beauty change to be in direct contrast to what I think to be beautiful. Would I still view it as beautiful? Its yes of course. It reminds me of a time that someone I knew was talking about how my hair looked like I put a wig on. It seemed like he was trying to insult me but I didn't feel anyway about it. I sort of felt happy. That my actual hair that grows out of my scalp looked so shiny and artificial that people thought that " Nah, that girl's hair cannot possibly be real. It HAS to be hair she bought." Like I felt so happy about it. Family have told the same thing to me about my face and my lips too. To be clear, in my country, big lips aren't seen as beautiful here. So when people try to """""insult""""" my lips I feel so good because I genuinely think bigger lips as beautiful. I know beauty is meant to be appreciated so even if you are the only one that sees yourself as beautiful. Appreciate the hell out of yourself!!!
Speaking as someone in their 30s (not sure how old everyone else is in this neck of the RUclips woods!) I would brand this as ‘a load of nonsense’. Seriously - when you get older, and join the real world, you come to realise the real things that matter. AND IT’S NOT THIS. Maybe it’s because I grew up in the wholesome world of MSN messenger and MySpace - but I think some people need to realise that Instagram and TikTok filters and standards are not compatible in the REAL WORLD. Seriously, folks - having your health and genuinely taking care of yourself is so much more important than upholding made-up aesthetics. ❤
Well iam one of ur fans actually Zoe u changed my life u helped me alot and I can't really explain. Tnx so much ur the best person in the world. U are always my idol. I love u tnx 💖💖
I Che k every day to see if Zoe has a new video and when she does I get so excited and I feel like my day just gets better! Her videos are so interesting :)
This makes me so proud that the only thing I go to do on tiktok is search for anime edits to post on my status. I have to come on to RUclips to keep up with ongoing trends and stuff otherwise I couldn't be bothered. I also can't afford any altercations anyway.
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@@sippinlean277 bruh this isnt the place to preach
@@anon-n1d yes it is, everywhere is
@@sippinlean277 💀💀
Dark vs light feminine
Doe eyes vs siren eyes
Symmetrical vs asymmetrical
Natural vs glam
High sculpted cheekbones vs round face
It's EXHAUSTING 😪
Alternatives:
Goblin pretty- make any snarky comment on my appearance and I'll steal your shoes.
Dragon pretty- eat them.
Changeling pretty- when someone comments you, pretend that you're them, steal their name and copycat every single thing about them until they break down and have a tantrum
Yeah i agree and i hate it that everyone thinks that we can change our looks just to fit in a trend. We aren’t any clothes or something
Truly 😮💨
I wanna believe they were trying to be inclusive, but this is out of control
@@s.j.warlock4901I do have a thing for shoes and a group of mean girls said I look like a troll once. I love this! Haha
I just asked my friend what kind of pretty I am. She said: "Pretty annoying".
Man, I love my friends 🥺
real friends you have here
@@adenarmy7257 I know right 😄
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amazing
That is so real oml
after decades of trying to be beautiful, now women have to be a certain 'type' of beautiful? being beautiful just by being you isn't enough, ever and especially now? i hate how fast the beauty standards change
The beauty standards never change..Stop coping
I agree, but I think many women struggle to see themselves as pretty past these trends. Personally I recommend looking at different great beauties in all types of times and cultures. Interestingly the likelihood is that you will find one that is pretty close to how you look. And then that lets you consider the standards that made that true and their style. Look for things that are potentially uplifting and not terribly downgrading with over the top critiques. It's far more mentally healthy.
Ikr I watch her videos to get an insight of the trends but now ppl consider diff types of pretty? And it doesn't even apply to everyone? Bye I'm going back to my cave
@@Omar_ToxicBanana1701nah. Part of beauty standards is that they r always moving goal posts
Or also known as pls get off the tik tok bubble, touch grass, you have 100 missed calls from your mom, she misses you!
this is so weird bc i’ve deleted everything except youtube so whenever i see something about tiktok trends i’m just…. shocked people think this way and put any energy towards these things. deleting those apps was such a good decision 😅
Yes same! I deleted tiktok a few years ago and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made! I’m glad lots of other people have deleted the app.
I completely agree! I feel so much better not being on tiktok.
As a person who knew she had a body image issue since middle school as MySpace was fading out, yeah delete all you can. Remember these sites just want to make money through consumerism so making people insecure is their tactic. Don't live your life like it is a stereotype early 2000s high school.
deleted it because I have exams, but didn't realise how much it affected my mental health until I stopped and looked at the app from the outside
I did that too and I wholly agree. Although I still have Instagram and Facebook, but only use them to look at/up info about the university I've applied for, and sometimes I watch animal videos on Instagram too. But I'm so happy without using social media, I see people scrolling for hours on end and feel sick now, because I know how much I over thought just anything using those platforms.
I think it’s cute to tell each other we’re all beautiful but I wish we allowed ourselves to just be ugly as well. I think we all know that what society calls “beautiful” only encompasses a certain number of people. The reality is that a lot of us are gonna be considered ugly and we should stop being so looks obsessed and focus on being happy and confident despite our physical appearance. ❤
Disagree on most being "ugly"; most are *average* . Just like it's gonna be rare for someone to be pretty/beautiful, it's also rare for someone to be legit ugly. Vast majority are average. And average is fine! Why is "average" such a dirty thing?!
why must we call ourselves ugly in the first place? beauty is subjective and these trends prove it. going from extremely skinny bony heroin chic to BBLs and slim thick, full baby cheeks to buccal fat removal, sharp noses to flat button noses, just goes to show how impressionable our perception of beauty is because these are almost on complete different ends of the spectrum. to me beauty is a spectrum, with a wide variety of unique features and characteristics, rather than just beautiful vs ugly. our sense of aesthetics is really dependent on the era we live in. it’s up to us to call ourselves beautiful regardless and radiate that confidence from the inside, empower ourselves than just resign ourselves to being ugly. it’s hard to do it. but not a single one of us looks exactly like the other, and i think that’s a beautiful thing. let’s all be kind to ourselves ❤
@@IceQueen975 yeah maybe you’re right, but I think that even if someone considers themselves to be below average it still shouldn’t matter and we shouldn’t have to worry so much about the way that we look, average or otherwise.
@@germainelowpt7206 yeah exactly!
I fully agree with you. Beauty as a concept and construct WILL exclude others but it shouldn’t matter because physical beauty isn’t the end all be all nor should be the focal point of one’s worth and lovability. It should be their humanity that we value the most. We should be able to call ourselves ugly just like we can be comfortable not being the best artists or the best at math. We shouldn’t fear being ugly as if our whole sense of worth and happiness relies on being naturally pleasing to the eye.
honestly, i just wish i could stop caring if i'm pretty or not. life is so much more than just being percieved as beautiful. you can be cute, you can be ugly, the reality is that it does not really matter; standards are majorly influenced by the economy of the society we live in, for example now that plastic surgery is so accessible the "rules of beauty" are constantly changing just so you could spend more money on retouching your face/body. i don't really know if anyone will ever read this, but i promise you that you could be the most gorgerous person in the world to somebody just because of your personality or wisdom, or simply because they love you. remeber, please, that you are loved no matter what.
Absolutely! And the standards will always be changing because companies profit off of our insecurities. The beauty & cosmetic surgery industries need to us to find new “flaws” within ourselves so they can market us new products and procedures. It’s all a big scam.
Yeah i guess
that first sentence really hit me, looking attractive has become a priority in today's society
Honestly, I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t pay attention to trends anymore. I think I’m pretty. Therefore I am pretty. 🤷🏼♀️ If society doesn’t like it, who the hell cares? I only care about what I think of myself. 🤣 If I’m good enough for me, then that’s all I need.
@@alexandra6188 exactly! I also think i am pretty
Once you think about life outside of social media (the planet, animals, sky, art, childhood, nostalgia, ur fav things, memories, pictures, etc), you will realize how silly and highschool these trends are. They are so meaningless and only really exist inside a tiny screen. If u feel overwhelmed or insecure , put down ur phone and look at the sky or childhood pictures when u were little and happy and didnt care how you looked. If you get a bad thought, immediately flip the narrative and think of at LEAST one positive thing u love. 💗
Exactly
Such a great meaningful comment
thank u🤎
This made me cry lol so sweet
Just interact and talk with your grandparents, parents and older people in general who are wiser and more mature than kids your age... They lived before internet/social media era was thing big thing and they lived a very simple more carefree life, childhood... So yea it's refreshing to hear them talk about their times
Yes, your comment is so accurate, thank you for this amazing comment!
Friends, I'm in my 30s. I purged social media years ago. NONE OF THIS WILL MATTER. no one gives a f if your nose is asymmetrical or what kind of eyes you have or what “type” you are. Go out and live your lives, breathe fresh air, cultivate kindness, fight capitalism, do your life on your own terms. Social media is NOT life! Love you all, stay safe.
For me capitalism is not bad but consumerism like for example people can not enjoy half the things they want to consume nor they can but they still want to buy or watch things too much of them, that is so tiring. You have to have balance.
This was such a good message tbh.
Well said!!!❤❤❤❤
Thank you I needed that❤
This went from "love yourself because in 30 years it won't matter what the trend is" to "destroy capitalism"
I once read this quote somewhere: 'You not finding me attractive is not going to stop me from being attractive," and it stuck with me so much. If all individuals, regardless of gender, adapt this mindset, nothing will stop us from being confident.
The thing is we(society) value soooooo much our external appearance that being pretty especially us young women we are now OBSESSED, in a bad way. Taking care of yourself is good, fitting beauty standards is good but too much is too much. Is tiring...
Last week me and my family were watching tv and there was a report about a civilian female pilot...and my sisters were like: "she isn't pretty😒"...😂 she lands an fn passenger jet on the runway and still not being appreciated unless she is pretty..
@@Omar_ToxicBanana1701 yeah I have a friend who literally the first thing she'll say about any woman is whether she's pretty or not.. like does it matter? I don't even care half the time
yea its just getting too tedious with the type of beauty like okay you look good i think thats enough why do you have to be so meticulous about everything?
It's so dumb, if you think you're pretty, then you're pretty. That's it, that should be all there is to it. I've never been happier since one day I just decided I would tell myself I'm pretty, and now after years, nothing can change my mind. I feel confident in myself. It's still sad how much power the beauty standard has on people, especially young people. I only turn 17 this month, and I already went through this entire journey of finding self confidence, and it breaks my heart knowing so many people younger than me aren't at the point I'm at just yet.
Great comment!
@@alexah8521 thank you so much 😊
I agree, and guess what? Social media is all about making you not feel pretty. Bc its constant comparison, and its not even honest comparison. So if you want to start feeling prettier, the cheapest way you can do so is by limiting the time you spend on tiktok and instagram. BELIEVE ME
@@lalailm real!
I've always called myself forest gremlin pretty, and I think I'm really gonna stick with that. It actually makes me feel better about myself and my unique features!!! Growing up, I felt like the ugliest girl in the world for not having the most typically attractive features. I began referring to myself as a gremlin as a joke, because I felt like it fit my looks and my personality. One day, someone commented on my pic online saying that I had a very natural essence and they thought I looked like a wood elf. That comment actually made me feel uniquely pretty for the first time, and now I can look at myself with acceptance rather than with distain. We can define our own beauty, social standards be damned!
omg I also grew up very insecure about some of my features, and one day for some reason I saw some humor in them, like I thought I looked funny, not in a way I thought people should make fun of me, but these things were just parts of myself that made me just not conventionally attractive, and that humor turned into acceptance, and now these are things that I like about myself and even make me feel beautiful in my own way
It's a bit of a strange way to look at oneself but if we all tried fitting into one of the categories mentioned in the video it would've literally been impossible for people like me or you to feel good about ourselves and honestly it feels soo much better feeling beautiful because you're yourself rather than ticking all the boxes for being "popular pretty" or "model pretty"
I absolutely love this. Go on with your bad self :)
FOREST GREMLIN PRETTY, it's awesome!
Ahhh yess!!
I love that. I read lots of books w faeries and it's kind of comforting how weird and diverse their beauty standards are.
It’s funny how trends get recycled and people think they’ve created something new. First it was puppy eyes vs cat eyes, then Asian vs western make-up now it’s doe eyes vs siren eyes 😂
right?? like they're literally the same
LOL
finally someone who also noticed how the doe/siren eye thing is just a repackaged version of puppy/cat eyes, not a lot of people notice/believe it when i point it out for some reason 💀
Funniest thing is, it's mostly just how they line their eyes and whether or not they wear dramatic lashes😂
Ikr
I can imagine what might come next: "what type of cute are you - spicy cute, baby cute, popular cute, or cute cute?". Society comes up with the weirdest trends to fit people in a box. This is so toxic, especially for many young girls who believe that this is all life is about. There is so much more to women than being "pretty".
I don't have TikTok so I was so shocked to learn about this new "classification". In a way, I'm glad that I didn't know about it because god knows how I would have been influenced.
Thank you Zoe for putting this video out there to remind us that there is so much more than what society deems us to be, and that living outside of the box can sometimes be more beneficial.
Aka Which Spice Girl are you?
As a teenager in the midst of all this despite not having tiktok, i see these trends. I absorb these trends.
And Im a 15-year-old black girl, who doesn’t have any money to keep up with any of them. And I feel like If we’re going with a realistic standard, Im not gonna be any of the “4- pretty’s” and ad much as i try to accept it, when you happen to go to a school with some diversity, but not much, sometimes its really hard. I always thought that when I got older it wouldn’t matter, but no matter how hard I try, it feels like it always will.
I know this seems like a really pointless rant, and there’s probably people in the comments who are going to be like “it doesn’t matter what the color of your skin is” and im going to say, that sometimes it does. It really does matter sometimes, and the beauty standards at my school, are
1. Blonde, Brown, or Black hair
2.Skinny
3. Long eyelashes
4. Be Rich
5. Have confidence
6. Be on a sports team.
Thats what it’s like at my school.
That’s what i have to live up to.
And I shouldn’t have to.
Nobody should have to.
So here’s my question.
Why does it matter what type of pretty we are?
I thought all that was supposed to matter was personality and just how you are as a person.
Sorry, i just needed to get that off my chest.
Also id love to know other people’s opinion in the comments, and i hope i didn’t offend anyone, I was just saying whats one my mind about this topic.
Your thoughts are valid✨ I’m also 15 and schools seem to have more standards than countries. At my school it’s all about tanning and being as tan as you can but still “white"? Girls always complain about how ”white” they are while I’m over here 7 shades off ed sheeran 😀 Can’t wait to be out of it and get rid of the weird looks 💅
i’m also a 15 year old black girl and you’re right. i try to just ignore it tho and invalidate all of these stupid trends (cuz they’re not valid at all). it seems to be working. obviously i’m insecure sometimes but i also have days where i’m feeling myself and most days i literally just don’t care.
I am a little younger than 15 and I totally can relate. Having naturally red hair and not being allowed to dye it and skin that turns red no matter what i do, people will laugh and tell me my hair looks orange. They will make fun of you if you don’t like the same things as them and me liking different music and celebrities i will get laughed at.
You're absolutely right. Take it from someone who happens to be in her late 20s: as long as you're presentable (clean, affable, good-natured), you ARE pretty!
It's tough being a teenager and feeling that you have to blend in, but you don't really have to. Uniqueness is pretty. I used to envy textured and colored (red/brownish) hair. I used to want to be taller and more androgynous. But those aren't me. And notice those aren't typical beauty standards. Each people has their own perception of what's pretty and it should be normalized.
You have plenty of time to learn what makes someone attractive - be it rabbit teeth, wide nose, small nose, freckles, small eyes, big eyes, thin lips, big lips, idk what else society find undesirable - be assured that there will be people who find your features cute! A lot of time it's not based on standards. :)
Hi sis, I’m a 17 (soon to be 18) year old black girl. I know exactly how you feel. I was (and am still) an overweight black girl when I was 15 years old in a predominantly white school. It was rough and it wrecked my self image and confidence. I do want to tell you, though that it gets so much better. Do not compare yourself to others but find your own beauty. It truly shines from within. I consider myself to be quite pretty now but it took the work to not compare myself to other people’s beauty but to find my own instead. Remember that you are absolutely beautiful no matter what the beauty standards are. Remain confident in this fact and remember that beauty standards differ not only from society to society but even from person to person. Whatever the socially “acceptable” beauty standard is at the time, individuals still have their own personal preferences. Hence you should find your own beauty, accentuate it and rest confidently in your amazing beauty.
You are an amazing person and you’ve got this! Stay strong
As someone who’s never been conventionally attractive it’s kind of liberating to not place myself against these trends and standards. I’m also learning to love myself and accept my own natural self as I am ❤️
i know this has been said a million times, but outer beauty means absolutely nothing if you dont have inner beauty. whats beautiful to me? being kind, appreciating the small things, learning, helping others, etc. i hope ppl still remember that once your youthful looks fade, as they always do, who you are on the inside never does.
I saw something somewhere where someone said something along the lines of “flowers are pretty but so are Christmas lights and they look nothing alike”
Beauty is found everywhere and it doesn’t always look the same. There’s no need to define yourself or other people as “that type of pretty” when beauty comes in many different forms. ✨🌷💕💫
Totally love your videos Zoe!!! 💕
It is so hard being told every day in every corner of the internet and trend world that I am probably ugly....or average at best. But these videos really do help me look at these things with a more critical lens, and help me remind myself that...I am human, humans don't look like Instagram/ tik tok filters, and I am beautiful to plenty of people in real life. Again it is hard, as the internet does its job well by selling whatever will grab the consumer. So no matter if I subscribe to it or not, at the end of the day I can define my beauty and I shouldn't worry if someone else agrees or disagrees with that definition.
Honey, if it is you on the profile, you are not ugly. I swear. You are gorgeous!
You’re pretty the way you are girl. Everyone is. It’s society that is ugly, not women that are ugly.
@@ardenalexa94that last sentence is so true. i’m gonna think of that next time i feel bad about how i look and i think everyone else should too, ty ❤
ahaha, i hope youve watched zoes video on "average" beauty
“What type of pretty you are?”
“No, thanks. I’m just ugly :)”
These trends always ruined my life, thank you Zoe for being amazing and giving me something to recover with. 💜
this is why we need to have self love. as a woman we are constantly having to face these trends: buccal fat removal, what type of pretty are you, siren or doe eyes, slim thick, skinny, the list goes on! outward beauty is so temporary yet the world puts it above everything else. the trends are constantly changing and so are you so why keep up with something that will always keep switching up on u? your weight will fluctuate, your skin color changes depending on the season, one day your skin will wrinkle, but the soul will always be beautiful
literally! the only person on our side is ourselves at this point. so we gotta be strong for us
“What is the most attractive feature a girl can have?” “Thighs… eyes…”
Me - YES I HAVE THOSE
😂
🤣🤣🤣
Something that feels nasty to me about the 'what type of pretty are you' trend thats going on is that all of the types of pretty feel the same??? Like they all feel like there is significant overlap between the types, to the point where I'm still confused as to where the differences are because they all feel like they boil down to meeting the same ole beauty standard in extremely similar ways. It feels like we're recycling the same old stuff over and over and over again instead of actually diversifying and dissecting what is 'pretty'.
I was thinking the same thing that most of these girls look the same 😅 so I don’t understand how they feel terrible when going through this list because they look like how most other girls look
yeah like model pretty and naturally pretty overlap lot. And you can be popular pretty because you are naturally pretty
tbh I can't blame any teenage girls currently going through their "not like other girls" phase for not wanting anything to do with this type of stuff
Real. Cause I wouldn't want anything to do with this shit at their age either.
As a 10yo idk why girls my age are so obsessed with Sephora and Stanleys 😰
@@GloobiaGloobdo yay a normal one
Love all the all non sense analysis. Thank you. Internet needs more down to earth people like you
I put a time limit on my phone to only be able to use tiktok for about 20 minutes a day and I pretty much only watch people that I already follow (artists, fashion creators and crafters) really helped me to curate the content that appears to me so lately I click on your videos having no ideia what you're talking about, that feels great to my mental health lol
I think we all have our OWN unique beauty,we're all pretty in our own way
After centuries of trying to be beautiful, I finally know the meaning of beauty. It is in the eye of the beholder and runs deeper than just appearance.
there's nothing wrong with wanting to be pretty, but as an indian person I feel like these trends are very eurocentric??? The "4 types of pretty trend" definitely doesn't take into account ethnic features. we'll never really be labelled as "model pretty" or "standard pretty", or even pretty at all, because our face will never be able to align with the one they've dubbed as "pretty".
Beauty comes in so many forms, and it's so amazing how everyone is beautiful in their own way, just for being human. I don't get why we aren't celebrating that :(
Thank you so much Zoe, as a 12 year old you really boost up my self esteem I watch your videos every upload and I love the content you make,even if you don't see this,please know that you are inspring lots of little girls out there,much love from Illnios :)
It's insane how much confident and prettier I see myself in the mirror ever since I stopped using Instagram or tiktok. I take pics without filters, I don't even bother twice to check pics that others take of me, I don't care anymore lol. I'm just vibing and living and if people don't find it "pretty" or aesthetic then idc at least I feel at peace with myself. Ppl would care less if we didn't fuel each other's insecurities. Loved the video:)♥️
I am a very insecure person-so every time I see girls online with filters, makeup and with an edited body saying that they are 'ugly'...I want to literally cryyyy
FRRR
seeing people complain about being pretty or being called pretty (cos apparently pretty people deserve and need first time deep compliments) or cry about being considered a 7/10 when ur deep in the negatives LMAO
I'm really into body types and learning about what clothing looks best on someone based on bone structure and certain features. It's really fun to research Kibbe😇 and an innocent approach to finding your style.
The 80s models were know as natural body types because of their naturally athletic build making them look strong or fit some traits include: long limbs, broad shoulders, wide ribcage, straight hips, and wild healthy hair. Which would explain the use of shoulder pads and thick coats.
The heroin chic is often known as dramatics. Kate's bones structure has always been delicate looking and that's just the features of dramatics. Long, narrow, and sharp not broad like naturals . It seems like the internet is really favoring the dramatics right now and sleek cashmere dresses.
Some claim nothing looks good on them, but since I've learned abt this it's really fun to learn what designers favor body types like Chanel really likes gamines (essences) which would be lily rose depp, lily allen, and audrey Hepburn for example. The 70s is the best for naturals because of the width in clothing making a vibrant larger than life look.
Standard pretty giving no explanation other than meeting the beauty standards is just absurd bc every country is different what we find standard here is unique in another country.. It has no structure or system. Ppl are lumping it all together. There's pretty based on culture and sexual dimorphism. Then there's ✨style✨ which can be anything! Then there is your pure bone structure, vertical line, and facial features. The best part is that none of this really matters unless you're into it (style, fashion, and body types) bc everyone's preferences are different.
This generation has become obsess with labels and these social outlets don’t help. Please delete your socials bc if you continue you are putting your mental health at risk. That’s a lil extreme but try it out and if you can’t, just filter the things you pay attention. Define beauty for yourself and become that definition and don’t forget that we are all beautiful in his eyes ❤.
no your absolutely right its crazy how in our education system we talk about how generalizing and labelling are stigmatizing and then all we do is go on social media and create illusionary terms of what it means to be "attractive" to try and exclude and dehumanize people. We definitely need to stop supporting this content.
*You always make relatable content Zoe, more such dark truth behind toxic cultures and trends videos please, sending you tons of love and hugs, xoxo* 🥰❤🌟😘💖💫✨
i think the type of beauty just depends on the person's vibe, styling and aesthetic.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you, my love, are the beholder.
An affirmation I tell myself often 😌
I'm so glad I'm at that age where nobody looks my way anymore. It's freeing to just be yourself and not feel pressure to live up to some childish beauty standard.
it feels almost dehumanizing attempting to sort myself into one of these categories, like I am so much more than that, and so is literally everyone else. This is all so exhausting
This feels like a quiz I would take on a sketchy website in 2013/2014/2015...the answer would be inaccurate but I would consult my friends who would then give a possibly more accurate response that would accomodate my race and body as well. And then forget all about it later.
lmao like Buzzfeed
I'm very flattered by your confidence. The universal truth everyone must see. I appreciate your work very much, you've inspired me and made me love myself. As being a tenager, I'm starting to get concerned about my looks and always thought I've never cared for these thing when I was young but suddenly why. Hanging out with my friends after COVID-19🦠😷I saw everyone is into too much social media, trusting useless thoughts etc. And I saw how much they compared themselves to others and get sad and depressed. Well, your video sure motivates them and myself to become a better person. I appreciate 😊your wonderful thoughts and the courage. Thank you ❤
I remember being 11 and constantly being told my big lips were ugly, then I’m 14 and everyone wants big pink lips. I didn’t know whether to be happy or angry or whatever cuz i was trying to process the switch. It just shows how following beauty standards is so tiring, it changes with influencers and industries picking and choosing features to market and ppl following it blindly
i thought my lips were ugly because of how big they were. even though big lips are trendy the big lips they’re talking about is just the type a white person with big lips would have. didn’t rlly help since i hated my two toned lips
This video is really great to tell everyone that your pretty no matter what because everyone just care about being pretty and being popular
I'd like to see you make a video about beauty standards in different countries, that definitely would be interesting, I know people talked about beauty standards from different centuries and how those changed but yeah
i have the impression that the Zoes videos get better and better every time, from the content to the edit, it's so good! love this chanel Zoe, thank you for everything 💗
This intoxicating trend of beauty made me so insecure for so long, that i became blind to my own face. Recently me and a school friend went into the city for some shopping. And i went into a game shop for a plushie that i liked. When i came out she pointed out that my interaction with the (m) clerk was peak pretty privilege. And i realised she was right when i replaced myself in that conversation with her (she's got a very 'extreem' alt look, with dyed hair, that often digusts men). He was so pleasant and apologetic to me when he did something wrong. In a way that was super over the top and unnesesairy. It was SO weird. And i never noticed it before, simply bc of the things i saw online.
Whenever I see things like this and I start worrying about if I am pretty, I think about a quote that I saw on Pinterest years ago. (Idk who said it or if I am quoting it right, it's been a while) "Christmas lights and wild flowers are both pretty. You wouldn't compare them directly because they are so different but they are both beautiful." Whenever I find myself comparing my face and body and life to someone else's, I just remind myself of that quote. Maybe they are Christmas lights and I am a wildflower. We both have our seasons and our places and we are both beautiful in our own ways. We should celebrate our different beauties because what a boring world we would live in if we were all the same
zoe…thank you. just thank you for everything. i’m literally crying, realising how i’ve let media get to me, not seeing the harm they can cause…i knew it, i just didn’t want to believe it. thank you for helping me realise there truly is no definition or pretty, handsome, ugly, hot, sexy, cute, we are all just different. and different is the only truly beautiful thing. different is all of us, it’s everyone. we can learn to disregard our biases so we can appreciate all beauty for all of its worth
Ahhh Zoeee!! Love all your videos! As someone who spends no time on TikTok, these breakdowns and well-articulated videos are always a friendly reminder to stay far away from that corner of society/the internet...Thanks for taking one for the team! 😆
Wow. You know normally I don’t like to watch stuff like this and me not having social media. But after watching I realized how happy I am that I don’t have it. You are absolutely beautiful. From one woman to another. Thanks for the break down.
Zoe
Can you just do a video to talk about how family pressure on their kids to become the most perfect person they ever meet effect their mental health.
My whole family and even my siblings think that I have to be perfect even though they don't say it but they don't accept and realise that they do, I told them many times about it and they always blame me for that.
Now I have mental health issues, social anxiety, stress and anxiety of being later than my peers, a wake, sleepy, comfortable and happy even though I am only 18 yo.
I will be so thankful if you did it.
I am lost right now so much.
Your videos always spark my imagination and critical thinking!❤
You really make made my day today❤
I literally cried a little when Zoe said "you watching this, yes you, are pretty" 😭
Aww, Im pretty sure she wasn't wrong when she said you were pretty
I loved your video. I'm a 18yo french girl and i enjoy listenning to your videos. It's really interresting and useful
My type of pretty is basically neoclassical portrait pretty? I look at master paintings from the 1800s and show them to people as an example of what I think I look like. People usually say, "what? You're not THAT ugly," (even my own parents). It just makes me feel worse because I think those portraits are beautiful.
thank you for the biggest reality check of my life. i just found ur channel but i already appreciate you sm
Your videos are a breath of fresh air 🥹
i feel like every person has an individual and unique “pretty category” for them.
reminder: you are beautiful 🤍
Us as women are perpetrators of this. You can claim the patriarchy all day but the sad reality is women do this to each other. Most men I know just want a good woman who will love him and give him peace, that’s the average guy I don’t think it’s fair to box all men in this idea that Hollywood producers and the average guy have the same ideals when it comes to beauty. Also what is beauty or being told you are pretty? It’s either for self validation or validation from others and neither are good for us as society. We can’t blame every little thing on the patriarchy, ladies we are part of the problem.
i’m so glad someone said this. Its so important to support other women, we should be boosting each others confidence and not competing and trying to destroy it!
i don’t think we should go far to absolve men of any responsibility here but we def do this to ourselves too.
I am a guy and i will pick up average looking women with great personality and similar interest as me over a hot narcisist.Facial structure is important for attraction but these women take it beyond to the extreme with makeups,fillers,filters.And constantly asking "How do i look babe" "do you like my eyes now""do you like this dress on me" "i grew some pimples i can't show my face without makeup"
All these stress makes men miserable.If you are beautiful,you don't have to put heavy makeups to look hot.Eyeliner and lipstick is enough.And if you have long eyelashes then eyeliner is not even necessary.And you can put on lipgel and still look hot
@@emilyanne9513 I never said we shouldn’t absolve men…..
@@emilyanne9513 I said WE are part of the problem too, not that men arent
tysm for this!!!! this made me more realize how tiktok itself made me think of myself differently 😢
“ person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
-Roald Dahl
There is no category for pretty, because everyone is beautiful in their own way
Never heard of this topic before… so lucky, that American social media doesn’t apply on other countries. The amount of attention towards body’s and individual views is crazy. I heard (doesn’t have to be true) that people from America are more offended when you tell them there are ugly or broke, rather than that they have a bad personality. Insane…
Please shift your focus on something that truly has a meaning and brings happiness
Your voice is so unique and everything you say is so well spoken, thank you for the videos:)
as a teenager I personally don't care if people find me pretty or not, and Im glad that im like that, but I start to worry about other girls at school because I was in class the other day and three of my classmates were talking about getting a nose job ( keep in mind were 14-15) but there already fine and don't need it! Im glad Zoe is spreading awareness about this, loads of love to you♥
In times such as ours there is a great pressure to come up with concepts
that help men understand their dilemma; there is an urge
toward vital ideas, toward a simplification of needless intellectual
complexity. Sometimes this makes for big lies that resolve tensions
and make it easy for action to move forward with just the rationalizations
that people need. But it also makes for the slow disengagement
of truths that help men get a grip on what is happening to
them, that tell them where the problems really are.
Society has become so insanely vain, it’s shocking. Just focus on being a good person. Focus on educating yourself. Focus on helping those less fortunate than yourself. Focus on environmental efforts. Focus on human connection. Focus on your passions and creating things with your hands. Focus on cultivating joy. Stop focusing on your appearance and what other people think of you.
I’m proud to be mirror pretty, the type of pretty where we all wonder why no one can really see us like we sometimes see ourselves in the mirror. But then it’s something that is really personal and we can’t exploit. I’m proud that people consider me ugly because at the end of the day I can look in the mirror and see something people miss.
At the end, it doesn't matter how you look, what matters is how you feel about yourself.
as someone who doesn't care about their appearance at all i thoroughly enjoy these trends. it's literally just a fun flavor of the month kinda thing i don't know why people get in their feels about it. it'll literally be old news in a week just have fun
This is why I like the Kibbe and Kitchener systems. They describe body and face types in a neutral way and they're just guidelines on how certain styles will make you shine and others you may get lost in. It's helped me a lot considering I would try on certain trends and wonder why they looked weird on me.
If you're insecure with your looks, I recommend looking into the Kibbe body type and Kitchener facial essence systems. No body or facial type is loved more than the other, it's all about style.
I love how some people are going to click this video to find out what kind of pretty they are but instead are going to be hit with hard facts
I would love to hear your thoughts on things like the kibbie craze that I'm seeing everywhere right now. I feel like it's a bit alienating the way it tells women (and exclusively women) how they will or will not look pretty, how they should behave and what they should wear based on those really strange criteria
Zoe I really .love your haircut & style! Please never change! But of course….
That sharp intellect!
i am so glad tiktok is banned in our country.
Damn I'm jealous
India?
Ikr it’s a relief
this stuff leaks into insta reels though, and instagram reels are popular in india
But insta is almost tiktok reposts 😭😭😭
I actually really want (and need) to know how to be financially stable in your 20's.
You made me feel good about my self and making me feel pretty in my own way. Thank you🤩😘
society's hyperfixation on beauty and beauty standards always ended up being out of reach for me to the point that i kinda just gave up on meeting them and it's less out of self-love and more out of self-loathing.
and from there it spiralled out of control into the mindset of If I'm Not Pretty I Might As Well Be Smart which ended up leading me to overwork and burn out myself constantly in school to prove that even if i'm Not Pretty i can still be Worth Something, right?
news flash: It Did Not Work
not only was the self-loathing that the mindset stemmed from absolutely unhealthy, it put an unfair standard on myself to make up for something i never lacked in the first place, something that had criteria that changed all the goddamn time.
not to mention i was still unintentionally feeding into Societal Beauty Hyperfixation by trying to meet it in other ways.
and now that i know what my mindset has been it's been hard to unlearn but eventually I'll get there.
self-love is hard to learn with the way society is but once you get there it's pretty damn rewarding.
I love the confidence of the women buying into this categorization that was created a whole week ago.
Voting for a new trend: what type of smart are you?
- wise smart
- intelligent smart
- memory smart
- spiritually smart
- clown
i like this
7:21 I was distracted by some bathing foam popping, when you said that. By the second "you" I just whipped my head right back at the screen, as if you are a teacher who told me to focus again 😂😂
Can we just normalize how everyone is beautiful in their own way??
i've been doing some inner work about needing validation in terms of who i am as a person, and how outward validation will never be enough as long as /I/ don't see value in myself, and the same goes for beauty. these tiktoks are a 'flex' for the girls who fit into the beauty standard but it's also sad because they are just out there on the INTERNET asking for validation, and they will never be happy until they actually love themselves.
i hope this makes sense lmao
The most scary thing about it is that 90% of those "trends" are created by young women too... Like, we're the collective who suffers the most from these but still it is mainly our "fault" to them to exist/spread through the internet. This "desire" of physically pleasing everyone around us (derived from gender inequality and the need to claim male attention to get anywhere) is so draining, yet we keep "playing the game", y'know?
yea its really sad to see that even though we are aware of what the issues are we just keep creating more. At the end of the day the more effort and time you put into your looks the prettier you will be, but it needs to be deeper than just that. if you don't have a balance you will constantly feel inadequate as you age.
i dobt even have tiktok anymore. every trend is about looks. its never a challenge or quarantine crafts, its now “small nose filter, do i look cute as a cartoon, back profiles, what i eat in a day. i redownloaded it earlier this year and in 3 days it convinced me i needed a nose job. (i literally have a cute nose, everyone has always loved it. our brains werent meant to see so many faces all day.
Girl, I had the "intenporel beauty" from someone at work years ago. Like vintage pretty. I'm still baffled
I had to ask myself a pretty crazy question recently.
If I were to look exactly the way I desire. And the same time, the popular trends in beauty change to be in direct contrast to what I think to be beautiful. Would I still view it as beautiful?
Its yes of course.
It reminds me of a time that someone I knew was talking about how my hair looked like I put a wig on. It seemed like he was trying to insult me but I didn't feel anyway about it. I sort of felt happy. That my actual hair that grows out of my scalp looked so shiny and artificial that people thought that " Nah, that girl's hair cannot possibly be real. It HAS to be hair she bought." Like I felt so happy about it.
Family have told the same thing to me about my face and my lips too. To be clear, in my country, big lips aren't seen as beautiful here. So when people try to """""insult""""" my lips I feel so good because I genuinely think bigger lips as beautiful. I know beauty is meant to be appreciated so even if you are the only one that sees yourself as beautiful. Appreciate the hell out of yourself!!!
Speaking as someone in their 30s (not sure how old everyone else is in this neck of the RUclips woods!) I would brand this as ‘a load of nonsense’.
Seriously - when you get older, and join the real world, you come to realise the real things that matter. AND IT’S NOT THIS.
Maybe it’s because I grew up in the wholesome world of MSN messenger and MySpace - but I think some people need to realise that Instagram and TikTok filters and standards are not compatible in the REAL WORLD.
Seriously, folks - having your health and genuinely taking care of yourself is so much more important than upholding made-up aesthetics. ❤
Well iam one of ur fans actually Zoe u changed my life u helped me alot and I can't really explain.
Tnx so much ur the best person in the world. U are always my idol. I love u tnx 💖💖
I Che k every day to see if Zoe has a new video and when she does I get so excited and I feel like my day just gets better! Her videos are so interesting
:)
The fact that i feel so much better about myself after watching this video like I don't have ro fit in any trend or aesthetic to feel pretty
Remember. your body is not a trend. Don't treat it like one
I wait for your videos so eagerly , and it's so worth the wait everytime.
I'd actually be happy to be "standard pretty"!
It's better than simply "ugly"!
You're amazing. Honestly love all of your videos and you keep me so grounded.
why can’t we just stop comparing everyone. social media is so toxic, sad how younger generations are growing up in this.
This makes me so proud that the only thing I go to do on tiktok is search for anime edits to post on my status. I have to come on to RUclips to keep up with ongoing trends and stuff otherwise I couldn't be bothered. I also can't afford any altercations anyway.
Thanks for talking about these types of things, love your hair btw