Never feel jealous of the narc's new significant other. Instead feel sorry for them. They are about to live the life you just escaped from. They are being love bombed and we all know whats in store next for the poor unsuspecting soul! Pray for the narc's new supply. They are going to need your secret prayers. Narcs dont change!! NEVER NEVER NEVER!
Girlllllll yessssss!!!! Mine just got engaged last month to his new supply...he will never changed he just know what she wants and he gave her that ring...buuttttt poor girl dont know whats in store for her...i hope she dont get pregnant because lord....
Idk if i can ever pray for the new supply its been 2 mnths and theyre not slowing down and hes playing step daddy with my kid and he left a engagement for this narc garbage so they can both go down cuz im the only one thats suffering for my loss of a 30yr relationship smh
For a long time after the relationship I couldn’t figure out why he was such a different person with the new supply. He was a large man, and he instantly lost weight. He became interested in healthy food. He begin fasting and wanted to become a vegan. I now realize, all of this was because he changed because his new supply was interested in these things. He had to take on a new character and become the person that he thought she wanted him to be. This is the same thing he did with me. He pretended to be the person I wanted, but I caught on to the act and walked away. He says everything is all my fault. I’m so glad I left I had so many questions, than I watched your video and something broke free from me. I get it! It was not my fault. This video woke me up! Thank you 🙂
Thanks for putting yourself out there. I’m almost 42 now and it took this long to realize this happens. All my family are narcs and the entire region that I live in are mostly narcissistic. End times folks. Jezebel is everywhere. Stay strong empaths!
Just stopped by for a reminder tune up. Yep. Multiple points well stated. Clarity only really comes after a period of zero contact. It's like a brush with death with no exaggeration. Thanks !
I had a ex boss who is a narc. He studied me for months. I was diagnosed with breast cancer and “BAM” he went in for the kill along with his flying monkeys. I went out for my surgery and when I got back. He put in all these lies to HR and he was able to get rid of my position at the time I need my health insurance to start chemo...I was depressed I didn’t know what to do... he look me right in my face with a smirk on his face and walked away. He kicked me while I was down and out. I realize how bad narcs are and they NEVER stop putting your name out there. I pray everyday that his karma comes sooner than later. I continue to watch these videos to help me through. Thank you Dr. Carmen Bryant
They actually do shapeshift for the new supply. They change, but the game is the same. It’s kinda like rolling a piece of chewed gum across a dirty surface, they pick up everything in their path and just keep rolling and shifting with each new supply.
Yes I always said it’s like a rubix cube. There’s no foundation to them or core. They just change who they are at the drop of a dime. Mine was amazing, we just fit like we knew each other all our lives. After I left and went back his whole personality, clothing style, music taste, hobbies had changed.. I was like who are you??? Little did I know he was mirroring his new toxic supply
2yrs later and this video is still very much powerful. Still struggling through my recovery. I go to group and attend therapy sessions regularly and watch different life coach videos on here which has helped me along the way. I thought I was at a place where I was over the trauma bonding thing and out of nowhere, I been feeling down as of lately and just very disconnected with what is going on around me. And even though I been going to these therapeutic sessions, I’m still having a hard time on trying to shake this funk. I started to feel like maybe the new supply is getting treated better. Maybe the new supply is not getting abused because she “look” so happy. In the back of my mind, I know it’s not true because I use to be her. Behind closed doors, i was absolutely miserable....so why do i still feel jealous?? But watching this video made me realize is that I can not rush my grieve and tell myself it’s okay to take my time on this healing process. Putting in the work is definitely not easy, but videos like these uplifts me and let’s me know that soon, i will get to the light that’s at the end of the tunnel. I learned so much about me on this journey. I’m so at peace within myself and love myself in many more ways then before because of encouraging videos like these. It let you know you that you are not alone! I’m so thankful of you sharing and educating us on what a narc is and their behavior in ways to understand... Appreciate your content🙌🏾🙌🏾
I can definitely relate. You mentioned that she "looks" happy. I just replied to say that if you are looking at them on social media, you should stop. That is a definite sabotage to our recovery. You are basically just reinjuring yourself over and over if you watch the "show". And it causes you to doubt your truth. Don't even look, focus on your rebuilding and knowing what you know you know
20yrs married to a narcissist. I have discovered the breakdowns in myself that kept me attached to this dysfunction. My healing process is liberating. Thank you for the information. Bless you.
Here is what I know about the narcissist from my own experience. They are deathly afraid of being alone, because being alone forces them to face their true self. Secondly, They are deathly afraid of passion/love because it's a sign of weakness and they could never withstand the emotional pain of their non-existent broken heart. Lastly, it tears them up inside to see you happy with someone else after they discard you. These traits are not so easy to figure out when you first meet the narcissist but you will realize it in hindsight. Narcissists have many weaknesses and they will go to great lengths to hide them. They are hollow people, there is nothing inside them.
You are correct. They HATE being alone. I met my ex narc boyfriend on a dating site and he told me he joined the day after his ex-wife moved out and he added, he didn't want to be alone!! I was idealized, showered with flowers and gifts, and intimacy. About 14 months into the relationship, that all changed. No more intimacy, and I could tell his "image of me" had changed. I broke up with him and have been no contact and it's been a sigh of relief! I spoke with a couple of friends, and we all agree... As soon as I left him he got on a dating site ASAP! I feel truly sorry for his next victim. He's one sick f@&k.
This was fantastic and exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been struggling with feeling like my ex narcissist treated me badly because I allowed him to. That he was only a bad guy to me but maybe would be good to his new supply. Maybe I wasn’t good enough or didn’t deserve to be treated well but she is. But after 17 years with him, I was pretty empty at the end and just let him get away with abusing me (emotionally, verbally, etc). Now he has a new supply and seems like a different guy to her. He’s been working out, spending time with her and her family (when over the years he rarely wanted to come hang out with my family anymore), and taking her, her kids, and our kids to a vegan/vegetarian restaurant (something he would never do with me). This video gave me some reassurance that he is just acting... like he did with me in the beginning. But I agree the common denominator is me. Thankfully I don’t think my previous relationships were with narcissists... he was the first one. I just need to make sure I heal and “demagnetize” myself to ensure any future relationships are with healthy, good men. Thank you so much for what you do!!!!!!
I was never discarded but he did go on to lead a double life. This went on for two years before I found out. Once I found out I discarded him. The other woman believed all his lies and they announced their engagement 3 weeks after I discarded him. This was almost a year and a half ago. They still haven't married, which confirms what I suspected all along….he was just using her for a place to live. (that's how and why he was living his double life….temporarily moved out of state to work on his court case. thought he'd only be gone 6 months. found this woman and moved into her home. so much for being gone 6 months. his court case is still going on and he's been living in this woman's home for over 3 years now.)
Thank you so much! I love your approach, a perfect blend of clinical, personal, cultural and military. I was with a narc 2 1/2 years when he discarded me. Now I am clear why he did this, I was getting tired of his flirting, his lying, and I began to hold him accountable. He did not like that. I am 4 months no contact and feel I am about 80 percent healed. I love how you explained how he studied me and became what I longed for. This has been so hard but I know I will make it out of this nightmare! Thanks again.
I discarded my ex narc.its been 2 yrs almost.i really feel sorry for the new supply.he going to take her on a roller coaster ride of hell. I. Got off that ride. Im stress free and happy. Still. Learning all i can about narcissist. .
Great video! He does act like his new supply is a new car! He started wearing a big cowboy hat because his new supply dresses western! Talk about gettn a big laugh from me when I seen this! They just morph into whoever they think you want them to be.
Just found you last week and I really appreciate your videos, thank you! I also wanted to say, your hair always looks so fabulous and you're just gorgeous! AND, of course, your content has been very helpful. Even though it's terrible that the narcissist doesn't change, at least it's validating that there is nothing I could have done and I gave my all. Leaving (although HARD) was the best choice. I just LOVE the new car analogy; that was perfect!
You are quite knowledgeable, I'm learning more about this personality disorder. Sometime I am overwhelmed . I was in a narcissist relationship for 23 years I kept searching for answers over and over.. Alot of people don't believe these people exist. It can be a scary relationship to be involved in. I'm Greatful for finding a person such as you. Everyone said, I was crazy. I discarded him, I was frightened till I got out. I can only advise others to do the same. First put a plan together. Let only people you can trust know what you are planning. Always try to stay calm @ the narcissist. Stay silent, don't react to them. I had a friend he was a retired cop. He knew everything.If something should happen to me.
He took two Kim Wilson Narcissist Videos after i discarded him and posted it on his facebook. He said i was the Narcissist and to watch out for me. This was almost 2 years ago so your right on about that. Its real.
I've met so many of these types of people in relationships. It gets easier over time, but still different because they have so many different reasons each time this betrayal/discard and explosive attitude comes up. I am feeling better and you give so much insight. Thank you for helping.
Mine ex narc found 18 years younger supply than him (and me). We both are 40 years old. I discarded him before he did me. And yes, he always talks about his exes, to made me jealosy. And he did. Great videos, thank you so much! You look and sound gorgeus ❤
The narc I was dealing with got himself a new supply from out of town. He's starting her off the same way as he did me, He likes to smoke and drink and he needs someone to supply that for him. He doesnt make enough money for that extra enjoyment and he rewards you back through sex. So the poor thing is going to think she on top of the world and has no ideal what about to come to her. I feel sorry for her
Thank you for doing these videos. They are helping me more than you'll ever know. I didn't even know he was one til after I left him! What gets me is they're all alike??? II left him 2and half months ago and he's already got him new supply. We jus had our 25th wedding anniversary. I wasn't there, but he kept telling me he was liking being alone, & I could stay as long as I liked??? We've never been apart this long!? Then I heard a woman's voice and he told me it was the cat!? The cat can't meow!!! Some other b.s. was done and I was supposed to go back but ended up missing my train!!!! God stopped me and I know it... I just couldn't bring myself to go back. I do have to go back to sell the house and get my poor lil dog. Oh and of course a divorce!!! Many blessings to youl and yours...
I believe they repeat the same cycle they might make a few adjustments but they will always be unfaithful, manipulators, abusers and liars. I'm not a hater but I hope his new supply gets what she deserves for helping him tear me down and cheat on me, I did not deserve that. hopefully he will cheat on her as well, since she thought it was hilarious once a cheater always a cheater. what goes around comes around.
I was only with my ex narc for 4 months but man the love bombing was insane. Vacations you name it. Broke up July 1st she was with the new supply July 4th and lied and said she was going over her sisters who I never met or new existed
U kinda blew my mind when u said the narcissist at some point talked badly about they’re ex and had nothing positive to say about them becuz it’s true👌🏾 she literally only mentioned only bad things about him and at the time i was like how could he treat her this way but now that I know what i know now I see that was part of her game. Now she’s doing that w me.
as a 24 yr victim of 2 relationships of narcissist abuse, I honestly have nothing positive to say regarding my x's whereas, with rule of thumb that nothing good is said of, I would be a Narcissist..when I have picked up on this particular red Flag, generally I ask Further questions as to explain a particular example of why, or what do they think may have provoked or procured the negative behaviors .. why do they think their X reacted in such a way. I tend to base my perception on those responses. it took myself a very long time to ask why again whereas the open door to be shamed and blamed but I now have learnt to identify by such responses. thank you Dr. Bryant for any added knowledge regarding this truly complex yet almost simple behavior pattern shared by Narcissistic thinking people! whereas once an understanding is gained about the thought processes behind the wheel of abusive tendencies.. surely then it seems less complex. Thank you and God Bless
The ex narcissist's new source of supply is a former friend, who is married with a 20 year old son and is 22 years older than him. She was very well aware of what she was getting into having seen how,much anguish and hurt he inflicted on me. Yet, she colluded with him to mentally torture me. Why she did that is still a mystery?😔
Why is it, if he doesn't wantto be alone it's like he acted in a way on puropse to make me leave, but before that said he wasn't breaking up with me. Senseless!
My ex just recently cheated. She lied and denied after I had proof of her seeking attention from other men. Her current significant other was a guy I noticed always commenting and her messaging from time to time. She swore on her grandmother they did nothing but kiss then proceed to send me pictures of them together admitting to having sex. Towards the end she was shutting me out, not answering calls or texts while she would go out and make excuses as to why. The thing that drives me crazy is really what if she doesn’t do that to him? What if he’s better in her eyes and she chooses not to to that?
Dr.Carmen Bryant. I am worried I made him better for the next. I told him all he did, I told him he should not want that for his daughters too. What if he gets better at hiding it because of what I said. I am honestly worried and scared he will do that and it will be my fault.
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Thank you for replying to me! I don't mean I made him better in a healthy way, but because I told him he's a narcissist and how I caught on to it. Like I meant I made him a better narcissist because he knows how to hide it for longer for his new supply because I told him what clued me into it. He's convinced her that I am crazy and just want him back and she thinks she has won a prize, he seems better at hiding it now.
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Thank you. I try very hard. We live feet away from each other and he blasts his music in his truck every day for long periods to get my attention, it's parked out side my bedroom. It's hard to put it behind me with constant reminders and I can't move due to a foundation problem in my condo. I feel very stuck and he enjoys torturing me. I"ve come a long way but I'm still hurting.
I feel the same way!!!! I built mine uppppppp...i hate that...now i feel his new supply gets what i help build...he wouldnt have his license if it wasnt for me...i feel the same way as u dooooooooo
Narcs new supply has money an he is taking it I my house my company my brand new truck.an post pictures we were away for weekend.And he cant even hold a job.U want something u work for it an earn it.Than u can say it belongs to me
my ex is slapping it on my face saying the new supply is better.. very kind and understanding and don't point out his mistakes. Ofcourse she don't know him yet. He is even saying I cant accept he has already move on and that he already love someone who loves him too.
I went through the samething but worst. On type of that her being everything he ever desire.i was called ugly ,fat,damaged,bad mom and so fourth.He even told me God bless him with the women he always wanted.Still to this day no respect and he is very in love and changed for her.
Dr. Carmen, can what you speak about narcissists also be applied to the people with BPD? I had an (unfortunate) experience with someone who has diagnosed BPD/NPD comorbidity. He was predominantly BPD (suicide threats, cutting, splitting...) but narcissistic traits were strong as well (grandiosity, feeling of entitlement, strong reactions to criticism).
He was not interested of our children. None. He hated tattoos. He was never at home. He did not exercise. Now with the new supply - stays at home, play with children, took a tattoo, started to go the gym... Wow.
Hell no. She downgraded to a pot bellied loser. She had to replace my energy level with an entire hiking/kayaking group. Judging from the appearance of the NS he is not the outdoorsy type. She intentionally never introduced me to her kayaking group knowing full well when we crashed and burned she would need to go back to them(they are not boring any longer) and they would be her prime audience to smear me to. I am learning a great deal about the disorder.
Happy New Year Dr Carman Bryant. A question l like to ask. I had a fling with a narcissist over 6 years ago, going through a vulnerable time losing my late mother. Yes, he starting ignoring me and stuff! I knew there was something that was not right with him from day one! He was passive aggressive, things he said didn't add up. He created chaos, confusion and drama. He was basically sick and twisted! He would put photos of his supply on social media looking grandiose. He would send his flying monkeys out and he has even stalked me in the past, don't know as he was working! And remember this supply was on his mother and sister's friend list on Facebook back then. It was his mother's birthday this week and you saw photos that his sister took of past and present. There was a picture of him when he was a little boy with his mother on the beach. Anyway, let's get back to the present. I now believe he has settled down with new supply/girlfriend, although she lives in another town. He was holding hands in his sister's photo which suggests he is now serious, another photo was with him, niece and nephew and another little girl, I believe she was also married before. He sat there with mother on sofa and he is smiling, his new supply/girlfriend is sat on the armchair of the sofa. He is a recovering addict and he moves in the same circles. I know I have put a comment on both mother and sister's timeline even though I am not on their friend list in the past. The mother has never really put anything on her timeline, but this time she filtered things through of previous birthday wishes and put 2 photos on their and the year when she was born, which everything looks odd, I suspect his family are narcissists too! What is your opinion of all of this - could this be the one for him or is it all an illusion???
My ex's father of her 1st child was locked up shortly after she was born. When he got out, he stayed away, abandoning his daughter. Her second child's father was triangulated with me when I got her pregnant, then discarded. I was with her for 5 years, 4 years too long. She would yell at me like I was one of her children. Narcissist??
Gurl, after back n forth, sex, all, I'm good! I hope the hpmewreckers gets what he gave! She knew, trusted, and came for my Home@ hope they get the whole thang they deserve, God dont bless you with someone's man...
I feel like he did and bothers me! Cus I feel like he moved on with out me and didn’t give me any closure at all and he didn’t even dump me when he got married I had to dump him when he got engaged cus I’m like who does that to someone.
Glitterbox Glitterbox hi there. Sounds like you started off as the primary source of supply while he was searching for a replacement. Like someone swinging from monkey bars, if you understand that concept. He replaced you with a new source of supply and you became secondary and either would have stayed secondary or been hoovered whenever he wanted supply from you. Narcs never give you closure.....ever, you have to find your own closure they want their former sources of supply with gaping bleeding wounds it provides them with fuel. And no they are not happier they just have a new shiny toy until they get tired of that one and find another shiny toy. They appeared happy with you until they went to a new supply, they still play the same game different people and new persona based on the new supply. I hope that made sense and I hope you heal.
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse your right he use to tell me that she was a b for cheating on him he told me that he was cheated on twice i felt sorry for him. But now that I see him totally looking different that he looks so fake now!
Dr are you there? Its really hard right now.I left to preserve my sanity. I loved him though now I know it was an illusion. I wish he would disappear. But he seems to be with someone on my job. I did not want to know anything about what he was doing, but he brought it to my job. How do I deal with that. How do I put on blinders when its right in front of my face ? It hurts so bad.
Even if you leave your job, he will come for you. I know what you are going through. I worked with my ex narc. I found out that he was involved sexually with a "friend" of mine, that worked with us. I wanted to end my life... Who goes through a double dose of trauma? Us....Everyday I would watch these videos and slowly I started to realize that this was supposed to happen. Love bomb...devalue....discard. it was not me....yes it hurts like hell...but look at what you are seeing as a made up movie...same script, different cast. The only difference is that you can live at the end of your movie. Their situation will not last. Pray...hard....even when your heart feels like it is dying..
One time when she was drunk she said I was in Renee reality tv show on mtv. I thought it was a joke but it was her mask coming off. Now able she watched all those reality tv shows to mirror the people or learn different mask to use. Real l word to be gay. I’d like to know what you think dr. Carmen?
bon bailey hi go check out my video on narcissists and sex and then go watch a background history of a narcissist and tell me what you think If that does not answer your question I will address it in a video if that’s ok but it should
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Hello Dr. Carmen God released your videos to me during this pandemic. I know now that first He is my Savior and I literally go to sleep with your assignments in my ear every since I’ve received them. The HEALING has begun and stay encouraged as I’ve been. Going on 34 years of torment and I’ve finally received my BREAKTHROUGH. Many Blessings to you. Laura😘
Never feel jealous of the narc's new significant other. Instead feel sorry for them. They are about to live the life you just escaped from. They are being love bombed and we all know whats in store next for the poor unsuspecting soul! Pray for the narc's new supply. They are going to need your secret prayers. Narcs dont change!! NEVER NEVER NEVER!
Girlllllll yessssss!!!! Mine just got engaged last month to his new supply...he will never changed he just know what she wants and he gave her that ring...buuttttt poor girl dont know whats in store for her...i hope she dont get pregnant because lord....
Anjelena Mcguire if she got pregnant she’s screwed
@@anjelenamcguire8335 According to HG Tudor, the narcissist's ring is "the suffering." OMG.
Idk if i can ever pray for the new supply its been 2 mnths and theyre not slowing down and hes playing step daddy with my kid and he left a engagement for this narc garbage so they can both go down cuz im the only one thats suffering for my loss of a 30yr relationship smh
And you were hurt why not leave it be
For a long time after the relationship I couldn’t figure out why he was such a different person with the new supply. He was a large man, and he instantly lost weight. He became interested in healthy food. He begin fasting and wanted to become a vegan. I now realize, all of this was because he changed because his new supply was interested in these things. He had to take on a new character and become the person that he thought she wanted him to be.
This is the same thing he did with me. He pretended to be the person I wanted, but I caught on to the act and walked away. He says everything is all my fault. I’m so glad I left I had so many questions, than I watched your video and something broke free from me. I get it! It was not my fault.
This video woke me up! Thank you 🙂
I'm still flabbergasted how someone can play a role 24/7. I've seen and experienced it but it's mind boggling trying to understand it.
Thanks for putting yourself out there. I’m almost 42 now and it took this long to realize this happens. All my family are narcs and the entire region that I live in are mostly narcissistic. End times folks. Jezebel is everywhere. Stay strong empaths!
Just stopped by for a reminder tune up. Yep. Multiple points well stated. Clarity only really comes after a period of zero contact. It's like a brush with death with no exaggeration. Thanks !
Brad McEwen hi sir, Thank you for your support and subscribing.
I had a ex boss who is a narc. He studied me for months. I was diagnosed with breast cancer and “BAM” he went in for the kill along with his flying monkeys. I went out for my surgery and when I got back. He put in all these lies to HR and he was able to get rid of my position at the time I need my health insurance to start chemo...I was depressed I didn’t know what to do... he look me right in my face with a smirk on his face and walked away. He kicked me while I was down and out. I realize how bad narcs are and they NEVER stop putting your name out there. I pray everyday that his karma comes sooner than later. I continue to watch these videos to help me through. Thank you Dr. Carmen Bryant
They actually do shapeshift for the new supply. They change, but the game is the same. It’s kinda like rolling a piece of chewed gum across a dirty surface, they pick up everything in their path and just keep rolling and shifting with each new supply.
Yes I always said it’s like a rubix cube. There’s no foundation to them or core. They just change who they are at the drop of a dime. Mine was amazing, we just fit like we knew each other all our lives. After I left and went back his whole personality, clothing style, music taste, hobbies had changed.. I was like who are you??? Little did I know he was mirroring his new toxic supply
2yrs later and this video is still very much powerful. Still struggling through my recovery. I go to group and attend therapy sessions regularly and watch different life coach videos on here which has helped me along the way. I thought I was at a place where I was over the trauma bonding thing and out of nowhere, I been feeling down as of lately and just very disconnected with what is going on around me. And even though I been going to these therapeutic sessions, I’m still having a hard time on trying to shake this funk. I started to feel like maybe the new supply is getting treated better. Maybe the new supply is not getting abused because she “look” so happy. In the back of my mind, I know it’s not true because I use to be her. Behind closed doors, i was absolutely miserable....so why do i still feel jealous?? But watching this video made me realize is that I can not rush my grieve and tell myself it’s okay to take my time on this healing process. Putting in the work is definitely not easy, but videos like these uplifts me and let’s me know that soon, i will get to the light that’s at the end of the tunnel. I learned so much about me on this journey. I’m so at peace within myself and love myself in many more ways then before because of encouraging videos like these. It let you know you that you are not alone! I’m so thankful of you sharing and educating us on what a narc is and their behavior in ways to understand... Appreciate your content🙌🏾🙌🏾
I can definitely relate. You mentioned that she "looks" happy. I just replied to say that if you are looking at them on social media, you should stop. That is a definite sabotage to our recovery. You are basically just reinjuring yourself over and over if you watch the "show". And it causes you to doubt your truth. Don't even look, focus on your rebuilding and knowing what you know you know
I find so much strength, validation, and empowerment in your videos. Thank you!
Great analogy of a new car and a Narcissist, in reference to how Narcissist act with their new supply.
20yrs married to a narcissist. I have discovered the breakdowns in myself that kept me attached to this dysfunction. My healing process is liberating. Thank you for the information. Bless you.
Here is what I know about the narcissist from my own experience. They are deathly afraid of being alone, because being alone forces them to face their true self. Secondly, They are deathly afraid of passion/love because it's a sign of weakness and they could never withstand the emotional pain of their non-existent broken heart. Lastly, it tears them up inside to see you happy with someone else after they discard you. These traits are not so easy to figure out when you first meet the narcissist but you will realize it in hindsight. Narcissists have many weaknesses and they will go to great lengths to hide them. They are hollow people, there is nothing inside them.
You are correct. They HATE being alone. I met my ex narc boyfriend on a dating site and he told me he joined the day after his ex-wife moved out and he added, he didn't want to be alone!! I was idealized, showered with flowers and gifts, and intimacy. About 14 months into the relationship, that all changed. No more intimacy, and I could tell his "image of me" had changed. I broke up with him and have been no contact and it's been a sigh of relief! I spoke with a couple of friends, and we all agree... As soon as I left him he got on a dating site ASAP! I feel truly sorry for his next victim. He's one sick f@&k.
I would really like to see a video on karma.
Me too
This was fantastic and exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been struggling with feeling like my ex narcissist treated me badly because I allowed him to. That he was only a bad guy to me but maybe would be good to his new supply. Maybe I wasn’t good enough or didn’t deserve to be treated well but she is. But after 17 years with him, I was pretty empty at the end and just let him get away with abusing me (emotionally, verbally, etc). Now he has a new supply and seems like a different guy to her. He’s been working out, spending time with her and her family (when over the years he rarely wanted to come hang out with my family anymore), and taking her, her kids, and our kids to a vegan/vegetarian restaurant (something he would never do with me). This video gave me some reassurance that he is just acting... like he did with me in the beginning. But I agree the common denominator is me. Thankfully I don’t think my previous relationships were with narcissists... he was the first one. I just need to make sure I heal and “demagnetize” myself to ensure any future relationships are with healthy, good men. Thank you so much for what you do!!!!!!
I was never discarded but he did go on to lead a double life. This went on for two years before I found out. Once I found out I discarded him. The other woman believed all his lies and they announced their engagement 3 weeks after I discarded him. This was almost a year and a half ago. They still haven't married, which confirms what I suspected all along….he was just using her for a place to live. (that's how and why he was living his double life….temporarily moved out of state to work on his court case. thought he'd only be gone 6 months. found this woman and moved into her home. so much for being gone 6 months. his court case is still going on and he's been living in this woman's home for over 3 years now.)
Renee typical narcissist and using supply for fuel
Thank you so much! I love your approach, a perfect blend of clinical, personal, cultural and military. I was with a narc 2 1/2 years when he discarded me. Now I am clear why he did this, I was getting tired of his flirting, his lying, and I began to hold him accountable. He did not like that. I am 4 months no contact and feel I am about 80 percent healed. I love how you explained how he studied me and became what I longed for. This has been so hard but I know I will make it out of this nightmare! Thanks again.
You absolutely will hang in their I’m cheering you on
I discarded my ex narc.its been 2 yrs almost.i really feel sorry for the new supply.he going to take her on a roller coaster ride of hell. I. Got off that ride. Im stress free and happy. Still. Learning all i can about narcissist.
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If it was bad for you guess how much more intense it will be for the next
Here for a reminder...it’s hard not to think I made a mistake about walking away. Thanks for this video.
You made the right choice
Same here. I sometimes feel I made a mistake In walking away. Now I realize I didn’t.
Great video! He does act like his new supply is a new car! He started wearing a big cowboy hat because his new supply dresses western! Talk about gettn a big laugh from me when I seen this! They just morph into whoever they think you want them to be.
Curita Hughes Same here , I've watched over 100 video did not help, but when Dr. Carmen dropped the Bomb ☺I woke up completely Im so grateful .
Just found you last week and I really appreciate your videos, thank you! I also wanted to say, your hair always looks so fabulous and you're just gorgeous! AND, of course, your content has been very helpful. Even though it's terrible that the narcissist doesn't change, at least it's validating that there is nothing I could have done and I gave my all. Leaving (although HARD) was the best choice. I just LOVE the new car analogy; that was perfect!
Thank God you can stomach watching me lol thank you
Thank you Dr Bryant for using the word victim for the new supply !!! For me that word alone is enough and summarizes it all.... Unvarnished reality...
You are quite knowledgeable, I'm learning more about this personality disorder. Sometime I am overwhelmed . I was in a narcissist relationship for 23 years
I kept searching for answers over and over.. Alot of people don't believe these people exist. It can be a scary relationship to be involved in.
I'm Greatful for finding a person such as you.
Everyone said, I was crazy.
I discarded him, I was frightened till I got out.
I can only advise others to do the same. First put a plan together. Let only people you can trust know what you are planning. Always try to stay calm @ the narcissist.
Stay silent, don't react to them.
I had a friend he was a retired cop.
He knew everything.If something should happen to me.
You have helped me grow so much I started listening to you the day I left and I found acceptance within myself and clarity because of your videos❤
He took two Kim Wilson Narcissist Videos after i discarded him and posted it on his facebook. He said i was the Narcissist and to watch out for me. This was almost 2 years ago so your right on about that. Its real.
Same happened to me.
😂😂😂 What?
I've met so many of these types of people in relationships. It gets easier over time, but still different because they have so many different reasons each time this betrayal/discard and explosive attitude comes up. I am feeling better and you give so much insight. Thank you for helping.
You kill me... You met the representative 🤣🤣🤣
I love your videos...very inspiring insightful and you always make me laugh 😘😘😘
I’m so HAPPY I found your channel!!!! I love the way you explain things. You are spot on.
Thank you Queen and thank you for being here
Very insightful post - he's just playing a role *absolute gold
They wanna the new supply to keep working harder and be different from the old supply
So the new supply is always competing with the old supply and the narcissist will make sure of it.
Mine ex narc found 18 years younger supply than him (and me). We both are 40 years old. I discarded him before he did me. And yes, he always talks about his exes, to made me jealosy. And he did.
Great videos, thank you so much! You look and sound gorgeus ❤
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse why is that?
Triangulation
I think he has been through 250 pieces of appliances since me... And probably went through at least 10 when he was with me 🤣🤣😁😫🤮🤮🤮
So funny!😂😄
Paula Dsilva 😂😂😂😂
Paula Dsilva you are funny 😂😂😂🤣
@@ludmilamaksimova5516 funny but sad
@@pauladsilva9374 exactly...luckily you came out safe...from anything I hope. Damn😒😞😢
The narc I was dealing with got himself a new supply from out of town. He's starting her off the same way as he did me, He likes to smoke and drink and he needs someone to supply that for him. He doesnt make enough money for that extra enjoyment and he rewards you back through sex. So the poor thing is going to think she on top of the world and has no ideal what about to come to her. I feel sorry for her
Thank God the narcissist I dealt with is not educated enough to watch any videos like this
Thank you for doing these videos. They are helping me more than you'll ever know. I didn't even know he was one til after I left him! What gets me is they're all alike??? II left him 2and half months ago and he's already got him new supply. We jus had our 25th wedding anniversary. I wasn't there, but he kept telling me he was liking being alone, & I could stay as long as I liked??? We've never been apart this long!? Then I heard a woman's voice and he told me it was the cat!? The cat can't meow!!! Some other b.s. was done and I was supposed to go back but ended up missing my train!!!! God stopped me and I know it... I just couldn't bring myself to go back. I do have to go back to sell the house and get my poor lil dog. Oh and of course a divorce!!! Many blessings to youl and yours...
I believe they repeat the same cycle they might make a few adjustments but they will always be unfaithful, manipulators, abusers and liars.
I'm not a hater but I hope his new supply gets what she deserves for helping him tear me down and cheat on me, I did not deserve that.
hopefully he will cheat on her as well, since she thought it was hilarious once a cheater always a cheater.
what goes around comes around.
I was only with my ex narc for 4 months but man the love bombing was insane. Vacations you name it. Broke up July 1st she was with the new supply July 4th and lied and said she was going over her sisters who I never met or new existed
Thanks so much for this confirmation because I was recently discarded by my husband of 12 years. My mind plays tricks on me at times
U kinda blew my mind when u said the narcissist at some point talked badly about they’re ex and had nothing positive to say about them becuz it’s true👌🏾 she literally only mentioned only bad things about him and at the time i was like how could he treat her this way but now that I know what i know now I see that was part of her game. Now she’s doing that w me.
as a 24 yr victim of 2 relationships of narcissist abuse, I honestly have nothing positive to say regarding my x's whereas, with rule of thumb that nothing good is said of, I would be a Narcissist..when I have picked up on this particular red Flag, generally I ask Further questions as to explain a particular example of why, or what do they think may have provoked or procured the negative behaviors .. why do they think their X reacted in such a way. I tend to base my perception on those responses. it took myself a very long time to ask why again whereas the open door to be shamed and blamed but I now have learnt to identify by such responses. thank you Dr. Bryant for any added knowledge regarding this truly complex yet almost simple behavior pattern shared by Narcissistic thinking people! whereas once an understanding is gained about the thought processes behind the wheel of abusive tendencies.. surely then it seems less complex. Thank you and God Bless
The Representative 😂🤣
I’m LAUGHING!
He came back to impregnate me. 😓 he is now with the new supply.
“Exciting and new”, just like The Love Boat 😂!!
If she was don't change for me, she will be never change to no one, because I was treating her so good with everything
They don't want to be treated good...they want chaos...being happy os boring...they like negative energy and feed off of it..otbturns them on
That car example was hilarious 😭
The ex narcissist's new source of supply is a former friend, who is married with a 20 year old son and is 22 years older than him. She was very well aware of what she was getting into having seen how,much anguish and hurt he inflicted on me. Yet, she colluded with him to mentally torture me. Why she did that is still a mystery?😔
So sorry that happened to you
He loved bombed her
Great analogy comparing the new car, to the way the Narcissist views new supply.
Why is it, if he doesn't wantto be alone it's like he acted in a way on puropse to make me leave, but before that said he wasn't breaking up with me. Senseless!
My ex just recently cheated. She lied and denied after I had proof of her seeking attention from other men. Her current significant other was a guy I noticed always commenting and her messaging from time to time. She swore on her grandmother they did nothing but kiss then proceed to send me pictures of them together admitting to having sex. Towards the end she was shutting me out, not answering calls or texts while she would go out and make excuses as to why. The thing that drives me crazy is really what if she doesn’t do that to him? What if he’s better in her eyes and she chooses not to to that?
I think I turned into a narcissist. I don't care about my ex narcissist at all. Glad he is gone. Glad he has a trashed life.
SAVE TRUMP you may have narcissistic tendencies because of the relationship but you may not be a narcissist
SAVE TRUMP 😂😂😂😂
Narcs never change they just ☝ up you they havent changed just a didnt scheme for the new supplyer its all about fuel like the monsters they are not 💘
netty bear right
You are so insightful, down to the details. 💕
You are genius and class.much love and thank you so much
Dr.Carmen Bryant. I am worried I made him better for the next. I told him all he did, I told him he should not want that for his daughters too. What if he gets better at hiding it because of what I said. I am honestly worried and scared he will do that and it will be my fault.
No one makes them better they get worse and better at the game of illusion they are worse with the new supply especially after that mask slips
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Thank you for replying to me! I don't mean I made him better in a healthy way, but because I told him he's a narcissist and how I caught on to it. Like I meant I made him a better narcissist because he knows how to hide it for longer for his new supply because I told him what clued me into it. He's convinced her that I am crazy and just want him back and she thinks she has won a prize, he seems better at hiding it now.
Don’t worry you focus on you she will soon discover I promise you he’s not your problem anymore
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Thank you. I try very hard. We live feet away from each other and he blasts his music in his truck every day for long periods to get my attention, it's parked out side my bedroom. It's hard to put it behind me with constant reminders and I can't move due to a foundation problem in my condo. I feel very stuck and he enjoys torturing me. I"ve come a long way but I'm still hurting.
I feel the same way!!!! I built mine uppppppp...i hate that...now i feel his new supply gets what i help build...he wouldnt have his license if it wasnt for me...i feel the same way as u dooooooooo
Narcs new supply has money an he is taking it I my house my company my brand new truck.an post pictures we were away for weekend.And he cant even hold a job.U want something u work for it an earn it.Than u can say it belongs to me
You are so awesome..you nailed it on point for my situation...Thank you so much❤️
Experience is the best lesson💯
Yes, they will change the way they dress...
For example, an older man will start to wear skinny Jeans, sagging or leather pants. 😱😱😱
Bless you, you have no idea how much your videos help.
Thank you so much for this.
Thank you sister. You kick straight Facts ! 👍
awesome awesome!!!! thank you so much!! so happy I've discovered your videos!!
Kitt Katy I’m honored and grateful you are learning
Thank you .... you're wonderful !
my ex is slapping it on my face saying the new supply is better.. very kind and understanding and don't point out his mistakes. Ofcourse she don't know him yet. He is even saying I cant accept he has already move on and that he already love someone who loves him too.
You stay away from that abuser.You and baby to be...doesnt need him! My son will be 5...he never wanted to meet him.Move on!!
I went through the samething but worst. On type of that her being everything he ever desire.i was called ugly ,fat,damaged,bad mom and so fourth.He even told me God bless him with the women he always wanted.Still to this day no respect and he is very in love and changed for her.
Dr. Carmen, can what you speak about narcissists also be applied to the people with BPD? I had an (unfortunate) experience with someone who has diagnosed BPD/NPD comorbidity. He was predominantly BPD (suicide threats, cutting, splitting...) but narcissistic traits were strong as well (grandiosity, feeling of entitlement, strong reactions to criticism).
Absolutely not! None of them changed 😂😂😂
He was not interested of our children. None. He hated tattoos. He was never at home. He did not exercise.
Now with the new supply - stays at home, play with children, took a tattoo, started to go the gym... Wow.
Just to make you mad…it’s fake
Good info
Hell no. She downgraded to a pot bellied loser. She had to replace my energy level with an entire hiking/kayaking group. Judging from the appearance of the NS he is not the outdoorsy type. She intentionally never introduced me to her kayaking group knowing full well when we crashed and burned she would need to go back to them(they are not boring any longer) and they would be her prime audience to smear me to. I am learning a great deal about the disorder.
After you discard them why they still run behinde you for years
What are some new steps to take when you’ve left and feeling empty
Requires you to invest in yourself find a counselor if you need one or a coach to help you through the process
Happy New Year Dr Carman Bryant. A question l like to ask. I had a fling with a narcissist over 6 years ago, going through a vulnerable time losing my late mother. Yes, he starting ignoring me and stuff! I knew there was something that was not right with him from day one! He was passive aggressive, things he said didn't add up. He created chaos, confusion and drama. He was basically sick and twisted! He would put photos of his supply on social media looking grandiose. He would send his flying monkeys out and he has even stalked me in the past, don't know as he was working! And remember this supply was on his mother and sister's friend list on Facebook back then. It was his mother's birthday this week and you saw photos that his sister took of past and present. There was a picture of him when he was a little boy with his mother on the beach. Anyway, let's get back to the present. I now believe he has settled down with new supply/girlfriend, although she lives in another town. He was holding hands in his sister's photo which suggests he is now serious, another photo was with him, niece and nephew and another little girl, I believe she was also married before. He sat there with mother on sofa and he is smiling, his new supply/girlfriend is sat on the armchair of the sofa. He is a recovering addict and he moves in the same circles. I know I have put a comment on both mother and sister's timeline even though I am not on their friend list in the past. The mother has never really put anything on her timeline, but this time she filtered things through of previous birthday wishes and put 2 photos on their and the year when she was born, which everything looks odd, I suspect his family are narcissists too! What is your opinion of all of this - could this be the one for him or is it all an illusion???
THANK YOU💛👌🙏THIS HAIRSTYLE IS SOO CUTE ON YOU!😍😘👋
That’s exactly how the Egyptian culture is.
Absolutely not they never change get your popcorn…. Wash rinse repeat
My ex's father of her 1st child was locked up shortly after she was born. When he got out, he stayed away, abandoning his daughter. Her second child's father was triangulated with me when I got her pregnant, then discarded. I was with her for 5 years, 4 years too long. She would yell at me like I was one of her children. Narcissist??
Gurl, even when I cook, and the kids are around, I say bring food to your dad..he's never gonna make me a villian
Gurl, after back n forth, sex, all, I'm good! I hope the hpmewreckers gets what he gave! She knew, trusted, and came for my Home@ hope they get the whole thang they deserve, God dont bless you with someone's man...
5 years wasted so much on every level 😥
I feel like he did and bothers me! Cus I feel like he moved on with out me and didn’t give me any closure at all and he didn’t even dump me when he got married I had to dump him when he got engaged cus I’m like who does that to someone.
Glitterbox Glitterbox hi there. Sounds like you started off as the primary source of supply while he was searching for a replacement. Like someone swinging from monkey bars, if you understand that concept. He replaced you with a new source of supply and you became secondary and either would have stayed secondary or been hoovered whenever he wanted supply from you. Narcs never give you closure.....ever, you have to find your own closure they want their former sources of supply with gaping bleeding wounds it provides them with fuel. And no they are not happier they just have a new shiny toy until they get tired of that one and find another shiny toy. They appeared happy with you until they went to a new supply, they still play the same game different people and new persona based on the new supply. I hope that made sense and I hope you heal.
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse thank u dr. I understand now! Thank u for your advice then!
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse your right he use to tell me that she was a b for cheating on him he told me that he was cheated on twice i felt sorry for him. But now that I see him totally looking different that he looks so fake now!
@@glitterboxglitterbox1939 it was a game to get to your emotions
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MISS CARMEN, I AM THAT BITCH! GOD GOTS ME!
Dr are you there? Its really hard right now.I left to preserve my sanity. I loved him though now I know it was an illusion. I wish he would disappear. But he seems to be with someone on my job. I did not want to know anything about what he was doing, but he brought it to my job. How do I deal with that. How do I put on blinders when its right in front of my face ? It hurts so bad.
Sammy can you leave your job?
Try to get into counseling he knows what he is doing
Can you transfer within the job
Even if you leave your job, he will come for you. I know what you are going through. I worked with my ex narc. I found out that he was involved sexually with a "friend" of mine, that worked with us. I wanted to end my life... Who goes through a double dose of trauma? Us....Everyday I would watch these videos and slowly I started to realize that this was supposed to happen. Love bomb...devalue....discard. it was not me....yes it hurts like hell...but look at what you are seeing as a made up movie...same script, different cast. The only difference is that you can live at the end of your movie. Their situation will not last. Pray...hard....even when your heart feels like it is dying..
One time when she was drunk she said I was in Renee reality tv show on mtv. I thought it was a joke but it was her mask coming off. Now able she watched all those reality tv shows to mirror the people or learn different mask to use. Real l word to be gay. I’d like to know what you think dr. Carmen?
Great video. Plus you're very attractive! Subscribed! 😎
Lord mine told me he was an angel here to save me, dear Jesus. Told him no twice and he kept trying different ways. He was anything but an angel.
But his ass was acting diff, he's never been happy with anything too long, I knew...
Like Jaden Smith
Also are they self destuctive?
100! I knew, mentioned the change...nae...
Just one simple question on the female narcissisist will they pretend to love you just to have sex and then they discard for more?
bon bailey hi go check out my video on narcissists and sex and then go watch a background history of a narcissist and tell me what you think
If that does not answer your question I will address it in a video if that’s ok but it should
Dtop that Danish Page into Google Translate for a quick read from Danish to English
Thank you
How can I contact you by email?
drcarmenbryant@outlook.com
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Thank you.
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Hello Dr. Carmen God released your videos to me during this pandemic. I know now that first He is my Savior and I literally go to sleep with your assignments in my ear every since I’ve received them. The HEALING has begun and stay encouraged as I’ve been. Going on 34 years of torment and I’ve finally received my BREAKTHROUGH. Many Blessings to you. Laura😘
They know more than God!!!
You are so beautiful ❤️😎
Are you mixed? Can't think of what celebrity you look like.
Little like J-Lo
@@bowilliam3865 no I think not
@@braniofan7894 Maybe it's that New York twang and a little bit
@@bowilliam3865 who knows?
I think she resembles Rosie Perez 👌☺️