Pay no mind to his nonsense. He would love to see you battle it out with his new supply. Let her keep the "trophy" all to herself. Say nothing to him, to the new supply, and to the flying monkeys. You will get stronger as time goes by. Trust me ... TIME ... heals everything!
This dirtbag went to other,then left her pregnant when he came back from a trip after she took him to the airport. Some real evil. I really don't wish that on anyone. Smh
@princess nelson, I know it said they enjoy a battle with the new supply, but it's so pointless and stupid. If that's who they really want why be hung up a battle with the ex? You hoppedto another person and gotyour supply so y try to get more with a battle. Justinsane!
I did the discard first but felt bad about it, crazy isn't it? I broke up I don't know how many times! I'm so done! He acted like he didn't have a care in the world!
I left with my head up after 12 years of a terrible life only to find myself in even greater misery. He is relentless in his punishment, has taken my children away, destroyed me financially and smear campaigned the holy crap out of me. And almost did he win. I considered suicide first than became tremendously angry and disregulated. I went through several years of deep deep trench but at last understood that sometimes ppl have to pay a very high price to get free and start healing. In hindsight I would never allow for a second of it over again. I started DBT therapy and have gained a great deal of understanding. Still fighting for my children at court...I am no longer a victim but a survivor working hard on becoming a true thriver.
They sure can’t, when I left my narcissistic ex she lost her mind. Amazing how she was so willing to make the changes then when I was practically begging for months lol. Found her new supply a week after we broke up and was rubbing him in my face while begging me to get back together. Hitting “block this number” never felt so empowering lol.
Triagulation is the worst tactic to get someone back or prove your self worth. Being an Honorable, Desirable and Healthy person is so much more ATTRACTIVE 😘
The best thing that ever happened to you guys is the discard. You are blessed. Like Dr Carmen said, show no emotions. Get into yourself, get your hair and nails done, eat well, exercise and live well. Talk to God and watch the videos and build up your self esteem so you can learn the warning signs. God bless you both. We support you. Sending you love ❤️❤️🤗🤗🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Oh man, I smelled the discard in the air...He desperately tried to put me on the shelf, but I changed my phone number and went no contact before he could discard me. But, he still stalks me on social media with fake accounts...pathetic. Much love Dr. for your wisdom.
Midlife Wild Your better off without him. I did same with my ex. I knew she was working on a new supply and trying to degrade me while putting him on a high chair.. So I ended it and it made her furious. Many times she's messaged and I've told her I'm done. There is no winners in abuse, but at least we don't leave the loser.
It's funny because she thinks he be with me,Yeah that's the life,I havent seen that clown,and I don't want to it's like looking at vomit,when you act some spoiled food,I really hope he dog her ass out, that bitch is out of control sending pictures of them in bed.Even used my car and video,Bitchhhhhh please,she don't have shit but her ugly ass mouth
TMG As if this disorder is not painful Enough alone. My ex was so sneaky he Would wait until l was asleep and go on line and pay to watch women performing while he watched!! Go to church with me the next day as if nothing happened!! 🤷🏽♀️ l just know l am so glad God freed me from hell!! Blessings to you😇
How about right next to you? The Narc I was with purchased the property Right next to mine when we were together ( with a pole barn on it no house) he had the inside finished ( living area with bathroom) 🤭🤢🤮 I discarded him by letting him think he discarded me 🥴 it worked, but the parasite 🦠 IS NEXT DOOR... knowing what I know, I’m on guard a LOT.. he still manages to keep my grown children on a string, when they mention him, I just grey rock 😑 last wk. he was riding dirt bikes next door making a ruckus show, mind you, he bought my daughter (13) a dirt bike she is now paralyzed 😥 I was a widow with 3 girls 😳 He almost destroyed me, but God rescued me.. I was pulled from the pit 🥰🙏🏼😇 I Will not move !!!! I’m going to stay here where I have lived for 34 years I own & love my home, I won’t run from him! I will fear no man, for Jesus is with me, I feel like he spy’s on me sometimes, but I have gardened for many years planting shrubs and trees and such to make My property very private 🤨 and I have a dog and she is a great watch dog 👍🏼😇 I pull my shades tight at dusk 😂🤣😂😳🥴🙏🏼
Just ignore him Dont pay him any attention they are just doing that to make you jealous they love to hurt people and make you cry dont pay him any attention stay in your house dont look at him ignore him
Hello everyone! I left my narcissist two months ago. And now he is talking about marriage with his second baby mom who he left homeless and pregnant in Cali two years ago. I recently had a pregnancy scare and happy to find out I am not. I am grateful I got away. But now I am battling the feeling of being used.
FINALLY, I have heard from survivors who have a discarded narc that lives directly across the street! His new supply moved in immediately after we were through. This situation makes no contact extremely difficult each and every day. When I open my front door I am on display to both of them. Winter is not as bad, but in summer we are outside in full view. I am a Master gardener - have been for decades. She is out there now doing all the grunt labor for him, scrubbing porch, cutting grass. She is totally duped. Quit her job and left her kids for him - He has her isolated and enslaved. And I am the crazy, eccentric ex. I can see it in her body language. My god, it is hard. But I will NOT be pressured to sell my home and move!! Un uh sisters!! Never!
Graceless Lady I thought I was the only one this could happen to Mine is next door. He thinks I don’t know I’m in the middle of divorce I filed I discarded him He’s with a fat old lawyer perfect victim for him a sugar grandma As long as she has a big tv he’s happy. 🤣
Yes and think your cheating because they are ALWAYS cheating and paranoid! I went to the gym at 5am....narc was asleep. 10 min after I left, he called to find out where I was. That wasnt good enough do he got up and drive to the gym to check. They are crazy we are not
Simply go back to the FIRST time you ever felt something wasn’t right or the first time he gave you the silent treatment....how long did take for his mask to slip after y’all got together? Her devaluation been started. And the fact she’s across the street....she’s super insecure. And lastly BE CAREFUL because some will kill the supply. What he did to you he WILL do it again and it gets worse with each person they go to. Girl God saved your life. Trust me.....you will heal. Keep your house. Work on yourself. God has seen ALL of his behavior and God will repay.
In God's eye. Narc or anyone will reap what you sow. People think they are getting away with terrible things they have done to others. It Doesnt work that way. It will come back at them!! You might not see it, but it will happen. Don't take revenge on them. If you do, all you are doing is keeping the abuse going. GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF IT!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
@TMG the very first time i.felt kind of weird about him was when he ask me to be his girlfriend like right away, but for months it seemed like everything was good until the new supply called me out of the blue talking about she is girfriend been seeing each other for 2 months! Craziest garbage, claimed he did that after we had a stupid argument at the beach! Pathetic excuse
@@ChefSkates looking thru his phone, now his with yet another supply starting to plaster pictures on fb, when he was with the previous ones one he had a couple of pics on there, saying she was his rock and everything,took no time to discard her! Dang horrific shame! How stupid does he look posting different pics of relationships he bounces in. Wow!
what you're saying is so true because it is what I went through when I was the new supply years ago. It really knocked my self esteem the subtle comparisons between me and the girl before.. he made her sound like she was so horrible to him but so beautiful at the same time and just this it girl and it was pressure and hard to live up to and was breaking me down. I remember crying so much. When I finally left him and now I'm the old supply I can only imagine now what is going on.
Unless u turn the tables on them and make them go through EVERYTHING they did to u. (Happened in my case) I narc injured him and two months later he's still suffering. I told him how does THAT feel. I felt that five years! How does that taste. Now I'm ready to discard. I did this ONLY BECAUSE I felt so betrayed lied to and abused I just got so angry n took things into my own hands. Eben though I know how dangerous it is to do so. I don't recommend doing this. But he hurt my kids separated my oldest son from the home. Tried doing that to my 12 year old as well. Until I put my foot down. U can hurt me all u want but don't MESS with my kids
Great video! I feel for the lady with the Narcissist who lives across the road. However, you discarded him first and he has to live with that shame which Narcissists hate. Walk away and don't look back. That's what I did and although I know even after a year that I'm still being stalked I'll never go back. Life is a lesson or a blessing and you are blessed because you got away! 😎
Same thing happened to me . Wife of 21 years moved across the street to my x friends house . They already married 3 years to this date . It sucks but neighbors are in shock as well . Found out about narc abuse from my current girlfriend. We have to be happy that the demon has left our home . Thank you Jesus!!!! It gets better as you get more info on this subject . Thank you Dr .
YES! When we got together she wouldn't stop going on about her ex, to the point I wondered if she was actually over him... she had painted him as a bad partner with horrible memories, but then wouldn't stop talking about him..
wow. this new supply was being a stalker towards me whilst he was encouraging her. They both planned to sleep together and I'm so glad 😁 Now I move forward with no guilt, my kids support me being happy with someone else, it has been a year now. I laugh because I know I'm a topic of conversation in their home and I make no apologies for it. Thanks Dr. Carmen.
Thank you Carmen. I was put on the shelf without warning and it hurt. My narc is a female covert narc, and she had no problem triangulating me with the new supply in public. And the new supply had an air of "I'm all that ". Pissed me off for a minute though. I removed my self from their company whenever possible. Thank God for the support from narc abuse/healing community, for their support and guidance. The lies, manipulation, and gaslighting became more obvious when I stepped back from the triangulation. I believed I was inadequate for minute, then it became obvious. I allowed the narc to minimize my self....but I starting finding it after opening up to some people. There wasn't anything wrong with me...the narc wanted a new supply for whatever reason. It has been a slow process of healing from being put on the shelf...not discarded. I have to admit the narc hoovering to reconnect is tempting. Seems the longer I stay away from the narc the better I feel, I am not so quick to go back to feeling like I dont have a choice or being in a funk. The narc and the new supply study me from afar and that's ok..So to the anonymous woman that's my 2 cents. Be encouraged and continue to reach out to others that can help you. We love you .....🙏
Thank you for these videos. Healing it's almost over 3 months NC. Lost 20 pounds ended up on medication. What monsters. Age is irrelevant they think they are 18. Starting to heal & feel hopeful about my own life. With therapy support & personal healing. The trauma starts to leave.
bernicey99 I get it I also lost 18 lbs. I filed for divorce. My narc pursued the fat old lawyer next door. I pretend I don’t know. She bought him a big tv that’s all he needs and a sugar grandma. Pretty sick. He was fuming when I filed for divorce. He sickens me divorce will be over soon. I’m just grateful he’s gone.
You are freaking amazing. Where do you work for narcissistic abuse treatment? This country needs women like you. You are the first who I think knows what you're talking about when it comes to narcissists.
I appreciate your wisdom Queen I am a man who was married and had 5 children with a female Narc I divorced her 4 years ago from a 28 years of being married evrything u speak about is true 28 years I indurd physical emotional abuse and physcological abuse and spiritual abuse It would take a 500 page book to explain the things that were done to me and my children I am educating myself on narcs I feel its my duty to educate people on this subject I thank u so much for your wisdom !
Thank you! You made some really good points about Narcissists can have A VARIETY of other disorders ALONG with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. EXCELLENT POINT!!
Thank you Dr. Carmen. I've been watching your channel for the last four years. You helped me heal from several narcissistic people that was in my family,dating circle, or work situations. I didn't find out about the narcissistic new source of supply vs the old source until it was too late until the damages were done to my finances and mental health. I ended up developing mental health disorders like schizo. When I was in college I only studied very little psychology. I ended up in debt. I'm trying to learn that I need to forgive myself about stuff that I didn't know about because I didn't come from the most educated family. I didn't realize i had my sources of supply while these narcs had there sources.
Oh my God, this is so scary.That's so many people are going through the same exact thing.My now ex-husband moved basically around the corner from my house with the new supply.She knew about me.She was even my kid's teacher. I put him out before.I even knew about her because I knew something wasn't right.And he refused to pay bills.He refused to give me money.He refused to help with the kids all hoping that I will lose everything I had. Now telling me how I have an apartment.And she has a house and I would tell him.Yes, she does, but you don't have anything.When I met you, you live in on your grandmother's couch.You didn't even have a bank account before I married you.While it is really some sick people out here
My Narc used to triangulate me with so many women it was mind numbing. The biggest triangulation was with his dead wife. I really used to think so low of myself. I was horribly abused physically but the worst was the emotional and mental abuse
Felicia Carrington That’s a disaster that’s waiting to happen girl get your popcorn sit back have a glass of wine and watch the show begin in the mean time do you, be happy and realize that these are emotionally stunted little boys inside of a man’s body it’s honestly sad when you think about it that way! but after what they’ve done to you all you can do is laugh....
They go to the hotels with their new supply they play cat and mouse when they see you the new supply will pull up beside of him they do it to make you jealous i stop chasing him let the new supply have him
It hurt me to the core. The new supply looks exactly like me , i mean EXACTLY LIKE ME except she's heavier. Same complexion, hairstyle, job, we even sound alike. It's so creepy to the point that my friends thought it was an old picture of me, or she was my sister. He threw up in my face that i didn't have certain things such as my own car, my own place (which i had prior) and she had her own (trianglating). But he wanted to judge me at that time because I just started working again from being laid off previously (when his ass was back at his moms as well). He 1st discarded me for her, then returned 4months later apologizing, and I thought it was sincere, but now I realize, he never really addressed what he had done. And I guess He was pissed because I never chased him, so he came back to get familiar supply. I'm new to all this narcissist info, which is very informative and I'm grateful of knowing now, just wish I knew then to have avoided all of this. He went back to the same supply which he's "so-called" helping because she just created some online clothing business. But thinking back, it was things I did overlook. Things he has said that I thought was just a joke because that's how we were. But I see he was dead serious. He even had me around his entire family, friends, coworkers, everything. And had her around them as well, and that was real painful. And they sat there and played along grinning in my face. So damn slimey!! The kicker is, supply had a boyfriend also. Occasionally I have those thoughts of revenge and hate, but I try my best to get through it and let it go with prayer. He's a bus driver on all of my routes I catch. He even told me he would watch me in the mirror while driving. The fact that he plotted and stalked me, and I never knew, is so evil.
Omg, mine pics women that look like me or that study me and then try to mimic me. This is extremely sickening! These woman then decide to hate me, talk crap about me and actually get angry with me because he, " talks" about me all the time.... These twisted ass psychopaths need to be euthanized!!
@@maryannegelsi-perry1353 I know, it's crazy. I found out about her when she posted a pic of them out at some function. He aint have a care in the world, knowing I'd see it. Everything was out of the blue. I don't know what he told her about me or even if he mentioned me at all. After the 2nd time, i went no contact because I found out about her again. And he never reached out to me to ask why he hadn't heard from me either. Nut he had a nerve to start liking pics I posted on IG. I blocked his ass. But i noticed however, i get a lot of random friend request from guys I don't even know but I find out that they are friends with the chick. They're really crazy.
@@Danni215 we need to be grateful they are gone!! I remind myself daily that this was the lesson I needed to become the abundant, patient and loving queen that God intended me to be!! We survived this to become tue greater part of "the I Am!" To me it was humbling and grounding and I thank God that I have a conciousness that knows right from wrong!
I have seen my narc go through many that look identical to me or same career same amount of kids. List goes on and on....that's were I set back and laugh because I know he can search and try to find me in everyone but no one is like me and I'm happy to tell him no every step of the way.
Wow!!! This man has discarded me and everything you said the new supply did!!! & he did even down to the house purchase! Oh my gosh!!! This is insane. Thank you for this video.
I work with the narc I had “transactionship “ with. While with me she started transaction with coworker right next to me. Then looks at me like I’m the one with a problem when I found out. I caused narc injury and she went to managers at work accusing me of harassment. Also, threatened me with police. This happened in 12/18. So I started no contact. Still in no contact. Through no contact I began to heal. Learning about NPD and honestly I see the fact that she did what she did as a blessing.She makes sure I see her with new supply. She’s doing with him all she did with me. I show no emotion. I don’t feel shame. I don’t feel bad. If Anything , new supply took a huge problem off of my back. What’s disgusting is how she still tries to lock eye contact with me anytime she can. She knows that’s just about the only thing she can do because if she tries reaching out to me, I will definitely protect myself with managers. Last time she made eye contact she looked Like she was sad. Like If I was supposed to ask what was wrong. That look could have been a Hoover. Can’t be sure. But my mindfulness warns me that anything she does will ultimately be an attempt to have me fired at work. So even if she doesn’t want to have me fired, because she would loose what used to be a Good source and the ability to gain me as a source again , all I repeat to myself is she is evil she is up to no good and this makes no contact easier to execute.
Exactly I agree with Dr. Bryant... This Is ALL strategic & I've been feeling the fool plenty of times but if ANYONE should feel ashamed&embarrassed, It IS THEM!!! They're ridiculous and have absolutely NO INTEGRITY..... Those that do would NEVER EVER dream of playing these childish, entitled, selfish,pathetic games. Keep your head up, be grateful you are YOU and have a loving heart& they are D actors@best... Hope they get well paid for their roles.....
Dr. Carmen, I am still having to take it one day at at time. I just got out of the triangulation and even spoke directly with the new supply. You are on point about all of this. It sad, unhealthy all the same.
To anonymous: I'm in the same situation. The narc owns the land right next to my house. After over a year of NC found out he plans on building right next to me (or so he says). He came lurking around last month and put 100's of flags all over the land to make it appear he was designing a home. Dr. Bryant is right. They can't handle being discarded. He's only doing all that he is doing to get to you. You stay in your beautiful home! I plan on staying in mine. I designed it, built it, paid for it, and I'll be damned if ole narcy is going to run me out of there! Besides, they only look like fools to the reasonable person by doing these stunts.
I would boss up in my clothes and outter appearance while I work on myself. I would start staying away from the house and take a suitcase with me and make it look like I’m on vacation. I would let him watch my glow-up. And for the record I’m STILL no contact and naw I don’t take his calls lol.
On the contrary...I would be allll up in my house...playing all kinds of motivational music...having cook out...throwing parties for friends....etc...yes and vacationing...for real....BUT not to get back at him...no contact needs to be mental as well as physical. As long as the BOSS Up is about YOU and bringing love and light into her life...vs to get back at him....
TMG , I like the suitcase idea 🤣😂🤣😂 that’s funny 😄 I am in that situation, he’s right next to my property, I be been no Contact 3 years, he comes and goes.. I’ve become indifferent 😐 I don’t care what he does as long as his butt don’t step on my property 🤨 😂🤣 I know what he is and I go about my business, I garden again, play my jams outside, while I enjoy peace again NO MONSTERS ALLOWED!
Yes ma’am it would be a show every time I walked out that door I wouldn’t care if I was just going to Walmart I would be in an evening gown 😂😂 hopping in an Uber XL
Omg this video helped so much and I thank you. I have been triangulated twice. I am much stronger and really see the things being done. It's pretty predictable. I discarded him first for six mths but he practically forced me out. He was chatting with another woman right in front of me. It really wakes you up to the fact they never cared for you. It was all fake and lies. I've been getting knowledge and I'm moving on. Trying to work in my escape plan. This helps and clarifies things I didn't understand fully.
You did a great thing by discarding him. Im sorry his new supply is right across the street. But this may make a stronger in time. This is such a confusing thing i was triangulated and i got out. I wish you the best hun.
Just better yourself girl! I’m going through it myself with a narc that left me after I stayed with him while he was locked up for 2 years and we were together for 4 years.. paid for his lawyer and all that.. then he came home and discarded me and 2 months later he’s engaged to her and trying to have babies .. it’s so much.. I was crying everyday but it’s okay just pray about it and cry it all out and focus on yourself .. I was stuck on feeling like if she’s better .. but nope 👎🏽 she’s not 💯💪🏽 trust me! He will be back! And that’s when you say no.. and move on.. and honey that feeling feels good!😩😂💯💪🏽🥰 Love thy self 🥰 you’ll be okay! And everyone that’s going through this💯👌🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
Yes when he came home I went through his phone and found out he had another woman the whole time and she knew about me .. it was his teenage love .. I guess they were together when they were 19 and now he’s 31 and they’re trying to make shit work now .. smh 🤦🏾♀️ and the crazy part is that he’s been dealing with her the whole time him and I were together the whole 4 years was a freaking lie.. she said him and her been going on for 13 years now.. talk about hurt.. I even went to jump on her and he knocked me to the ground to protect her .. I was so angry.. I know I should’ve not gotten out of character but man.. I was so hurt.. I put my hands on him.. knowing he was going to whoop me.. but I was so hurt and I felt so betrayed.. I punched him in his face when he was sleeping .. and even though he always put his hands on me.. that was my first time ever putting my hands on a man ever in my life .. I was so hurt I just wanted to whoop his ass for everything he’s done to me
@@sakoya21 oh hell no girl f*** him for real. How dare him do such a thing. How dumb of her to be Ok with him having a outside relationship and she knew. Just stupid all the way. I am sorry 😥
Even though I struggle after 15 years of on again off again with a narcasist and am aware of Some of the serious damage I'm living with and compiling... I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to share your knowledge and in doing so are empowering so many people who would have otherwise been imprisoned in the shadows of what is for some a pain unknown until listening to your words. You bring light into the darkness and are instrumental in changing the world by touching so many positively. Please know it's a gift I'm personally grateful for. Thank you. You save lives.
Im so thankful for your vid. My Ex Narc lives in front of my home. His Ex Wife and their children too. Since last year it was a pure triangulation story..he was with me then with her (even they‘re divorced since two years-its an on/off between them).. I am gonna move-my rent is too high now and I can‘t stand this getting watched by him or her even by the Kids also anymore..so glad I found your Channel..gives me such strength! Be blessed
Dr Carmen Bryant you have incredible mind I play your video back twice , you have you much knowledge about this disorder . You tell it like it is in a professional Format . Keep up the great service you are providing to the community . Yes we need this knowledge when we have to deal with the wife or husband or co workers and other relationships were in . I have the wisdom to know That what am doing for me and my daughters that give me the will to fight for what right . Thanks for the comments about the house 🏠 love that I built a new house for the family , so if she chooses to leave , go but this house I leave for my Daughters am 66 years old I built this house with with my heart for us . I always say never give up . and also my name is Ray in Spanish Rey is king 🤴.
Omg! I left. I got out during summer of 2018. 18 years with an unstable man. No more control, manipulation, etc. I am free. I wore an emanicipation shirt to court. Long story but this is the start of my freedom baby!!
I will never forget the day that my current husband allowed his son to bring his (my husband’s) ex wife into my driveway. The son said he was “just stopping by” to ask my husband a question. I was at work watching this on my security camera, and never once did my husband ask her to leave. Even gave her a drink. This is a person that he said he absolutely cannot stand. When I asked him why he never asked her to leave, he said he didn’t want to hurt his sons feelings. I believe it was to show off our new house to her. Four years later, I’m still trying to forgive, but honestly will never forget.
Absolutely briliant , exactly how that dynamic is going on .Its a lot of hurt people here making videos with different resoults .You are realy professional about , sadly is not to much therapists have any clues about NPD .Thank you
Love your show. To the lady living across from her Narc. Honey this is your time to bring out your true Diva. Hold your head high and stay fabulous. We've all been there. The best revenge is your success.
Honey! Let me first say, May God bless you! Stay strong and God would NEVER put on you more than you can stand!!!! Mine of 28 years, moves less than a mile down the street. We have 4 kids together and he has a 1 year old (next month) with her. I was devastated but now,...........Praise God, I’m good! Ms Lady, PRAY PRAY PRAY. The wisdom God will give you may hurt but it’s true and once you accept it, pain, and all, comes joy and within the pain, comes joy and revelation. I can’t lie, I backed off the prayers cause some of it was toooo painful and I I tacked life’s(bills, personal issues, getting stuck and then grinding again) got in my vision back, now that I’m back on working on me and my spirit, I don’t give a hoot about where he lives or with who. I’m now looking at how to protect the kids from being blind now. And this video is ON POINT!!!! I just stated that to him. I know what he’s done (dogging me out--I don’t care because it’s lies so whatever) I know she probably thinks a certain way about me, I really don’t care accept when she verbally attacked my kids. 😡😡😡 I was willing to go to jail but not for murder so I decided to change it around. Called Child Protective Services, got my kids out of the house and went home. His arrogance ended him up in jail that night and he actually yelled “see what you did” I Nicely pointed out that that was him and all his doing. Also I still haven’t met her or said one word to her. The others in the past were never my concern, and neither is she until she went left with the kids. . He usually treated them (new supplies) worse once I found out about them. This one he thinks is different cause he actually left and told the kids he loved her in front of me. That’s after lying to me 2 days b4. The funny thing is.....he wasn’t ALLOWED to stay and is never welcomed back and He knows it. I don’t know and don’t care what he has told the new supply. So he’s butt hurt. All I know is with every time he tries to turn a situation around on me to make me look bad or himself victim, I check him....REAL QUICK. I see it now and now I feel like I am controlling my outcome. She can have it. She doesn’t even know what she has. Just what he has told her. Sad for them. Great freedom for me. You got this girl, take it as a restart button.
Dr. Carman Bryant, thank you for opening my eyes. My Narc ex-gf hit me the combo (love-bomb, devalued, and then discard). Worst part of all is my psychiatrist was useless and did not how to help me. My Narc Ex-gf was useless. She had nothing to offer and useless to society. I can laugh about it now because her new man is not even at my level. She went from me “a Grade A+” to low level dude. 😂😄 I feel really good once I heard what happen.
This is one of the best and straight to the point Narc videos I’ve come across. You ROCK girl!! I could really use your advice on my pending divorce. My Narc is everything that you said, from taking credit for all That I’ve done, triangulation, etc. And now his lawyer is telling him we need to set a date to finalize the divorce, but he is arrogant enough to think that he can talk me out of my decision to move forward with the divorce. Now he loves me, now he was just hurt back then so that’s why he did what he did.. etc.. How much is a consultation with you..
I want to give a very big"thank you" to u Mrs.Carmen!🤗 I can't express enough how much your videos are helping me thru this process! It's a wound that I've never experienced before..well,this deliberate. You have given alot of insight to me trying to stay positive 👍 & ino it's a work in progress. I'm learning more& more about myself than anything else by far😀I appreciate you putting these videos out for people like me who knows what I'm going thru& understands how to coach me thru it as well..having a source like this Ican go2, outside of my circle, that won't judge me or try2 sway me one way or another. Thanks & bless u 💜🙏🙏🙏💜
That is exactly what my My narcissistic ex Did. The month we started dating he got a American Express gold card with a $10000 limit this man did not make enough money to pay off that credit card but at the time I did not know he played like he was daddy warbucks. He took me on trips bought me gifts bought me a ring bought me a $400 dooney and Bourke purse at Disney world sent me extravagant giftd. But 2 months into going out he brings up when we're married or we move in together we can have a joint bank account! now I'm older I raise my daughter on my own I own a business and I told him absolutely not we will not have a joint bank account and I'm not marrying anybody until I've dated them for 2 years. He looked completely heartbroken he literally sobbed and looked disappointed like a little kid who was told they couldn't have ice cream. When I started catching on to what he was because I got to know the ex wife and she was absolutely nothing like what he had said she was And I started to get to know his children I started questioning things! I asked him a few times are you marrying me to get ahold of my money and he would always say no I have enough of my own money. but 9 months in he starts complaining to me that he can't pay that high of a payment on his gold card. Now I'm very strong and very stubborn I fell for some of it but I kept my distance and I paid attention to the red flags kept journals because I started catching on to the gas lighting and the word salad and his manipulating games. I said to him that's not my problem I didn't tell you to get the gold card I didn't tell you to buy all the stuff I never asked you to take me on those trips every bit of that was your idea. I kept telling you it was too much but you didn't listen to me. Once he realized that I was not going to marry him or move in with him he started the Devalue where he was going to discard me but I discarded him. He actually took me to small claims court to try to get me to pay half of that gold card. Thankfully the judge listen to my side of the story I told him about that financial entanglement he had with his ex wife and what he had done to her and that he was trying to get me to marry him to get my money and to make me pay off his bills and I caught on and hes angry! the judge only made me Pay $420 that was a cost of 2 plane tickets for 2 trips that we had went on. I wrote him a check then and I rounded it up to 500; I said I'll give you another $80 just to be nice! It felt so good to be vindicated in court he went in there so cocky thinking that he would get all that money and he got nothing!
I was married to a narcissist for 14yrs and after he discarded me he started flaunting the new supply to family and friends 8 days later. You described my narcissist to a T. Everything you said was right on point, and has been my life with him year by year even now that we have been separated for 6 months and he has been with this new supply.
This is so true! I divorced him & he was in a relationship 3 weeks later! I feel sorry for her! He triangulated me & will do the same to her when the love bombing is over! He did everything to me that you are saying!
i allowed my ex narc back after 4 months of no contact. He would tell me he loved, missed me and that he wants to work things out. I would always say no and i set boundaries. come to find out, he has had a gf , lives with her the entire time, he was pursing me! I would occasionally ask if he had a gf but he denied her. He doesnt know that i know he has a gf! and I dont know if i should tell his gf. as for him, i blocked him. don't care for him.
Hey you lovely amazing person! I know you are because that narc tried to leech of you and tried to lift your personality because they were jealous of who you were. The best revenge you can serve is being happy and confident because that will not only bring amazing people into your life and uplift everyone around you, it will help him feel irrelevant and forgotten while you become more amazing and fulfilled by the day!
Wow every word is on point. This video has opened my eyes so wide. I'm blessed I've gotten rid of my ex he's definitely a narcissists. He's no longer my problem thank you Lord.
I’m so ashamed and can’t stop feeling bad because I made a huge mistake and fell right into his trap. He showed up unexpectedly to my home with gifts for our son with his girlfriend (who I didn’t know about) and I blew up and got angry. I know I’m definitely a topic in their home and it’s securing everything he said about me. Why did he have to come to my home with HER and so late? I’m such a fool and totally helped him out. My heart is so broken and I feel like shit.
Practicing your responses trains you that was just a test you’ll do better next time they don’t stop don’t beat yourself up analyze and regroup you got this you’ll get another chance with them always
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse Thank You for replying and you were right I did have another chance. This time around I maintained my composure and everything he said to I simply said you have the right to your opinion. It’s hard but I wait til I’m out of sight and allow the tears to flow. I know she is my blessing and doing me a great favor but it still breaks my heart. This too shall pass
@@vcmartinez22 I feel your pain and I am in the same situation. You are a wonderful person and I know this because the narcissist was attracted to you. They like tearing down good people. We will get through this. They are ungodly humans and we should not want to be with them. They are truly cruel which is the opposite of us. I continue to pray and watch this videos which is my form of counseling,lol. I will pray for you too so you are not alone💖
ONCE this lady u talking about lifts that blind fold and sees the narc for who he really is and how insecure he really is she will no longer even think about him the other woman or any anything that has to do with him. TRUST ME its possible.
this video was quite informative and accurate. my ex narc was publicly talking about me about how great I was. Poor new supply must be so humiliated , her new wife is dreaming about another man.
This is a very informative video! Question: I was in a situation where I was being groomed to be the new primary supply. The narc was getting ready to discard the primary supply to be with me. But I have been studying narcissism for about 6 years so I knew what he was and what he was doing. I called him out and discarded him during the love bombing stage.... lol! Talk about a narc injury. Because he wasn’t locked in with me I threw him off. Now after over two years he is with the same supply that he was getting ready to discard for me. They both stalk my social media and she takes pics of her ring for me to see.... lol! The old supply is obsessed with me! And I know that the narc is behind her Facebook posts targeting me.... What gives? I know why he’s mad but I don’t understand why she is mad.... she’s been there for years and is still there.... smh! The whole thing is comical to me 🤦🏾♀️
She is just extremely insecure and being abused. The only power she has right now is to be able to stalk you and control what image is out there of them.
BlackWomen WiseUp it’s because some kind of way he made a point for her to find out about you. It’s sad but it’s true. He did that shit on purpose to get her upset.
BlackWomen WiseUp I went through this very thing. I did fall into the "defend myself" moment for a min but came to my senses real quick after learning about Narcs & their triangulation games. It had gotten so bad that the "recycled supply/flying monkey" was sending messages to my FB messenger from multiple fake profiles & screen shooting anything i posted public that she felt she could attack. He was also sending messages from fake profiles pretending to be looking for his own family & asking stupid ?? like are you blood or married into the family... Just cont nonesense... I had to change all social media acct names & go private on every platform of those I have & closed old ones I don't use. He/she were creating profiles in my name. I mean she even said "I will fight for him but I wont compete" I was like you sound just as stupid as he did when he spoke at times. She would post on my pinterest and anywhere she could find me. She even called my phone & would leave text messages all while laying next to my hubo narc nightly and yall are in love & meant to be together but yet yall stalking & watching me. If that were true why you would not even stop so low to harass me (someone you dont even know), oh I forgot I'm the star in your household & your actions confirm it. I had to get the Sheriff's involved bc her harassment got so outrageous while he in background orchestrating it all. He used to drive three hrs & stalk my home (might still be doing it, changed vehicles)....... Our daughter (she hasnt seen him physically since her first bday & seen him through Skype since Sept 2017) & I havent tlkd to him since Jan 2018 he went Mia after I said I would get my lawyers to go over any paperwrk he sends to me to ensure legitimacy. Had his step mom to contact me (she hadn't verbally talked with us since before he left us, just text) in Dec 2018 & she asked why he say he cant talk to you. After listening to this its bc he knows I'm too strong now for him to play his pathetic narc games with & they won't work. They are both obsessed stalkers. It became comical to me as well. Thankfully I'm in a much better place than I was when it all first started..
They are pathetic is hell, the one he left to go too, he discarded her then came back, and left again and went to a new one, sorry, game playing, childish.bastards
LadyCmac98 wow! Thank you for giving me some insight! I have deactivated all of my social media and now they both can’t find me.... lol! Now they are both mad that I am offline?! 🤷🏾♀️ His lady is really coming unglued now! All of her posts are public but yet he still hasn’t posted nothing public about them together at all.... lol! He doesn’t even mention her just the children they have in common. I’m grateful that I have made moved to a different county and can put this all behind me! Lol.... they can keep it up but I won’t be watching! Smh....
My ex goes back and forth with telling me that he has a new girlfriend and then tells me he was just playing. I’m sure she knows of me but he’s never put her in my face. He did tell me that his girlfriend doesn’t want him talking to me, lol. So high school.
Mine had an affair with an employee of ours while I was pregnant with our son. Yup I wanted back in the business accounts and I wanted to have equal control as to how we spent our money from our business that we equal invested in and started together at the beginning of the relationship. I know he is wanting her to fight with me now. She is married to him and is the step mom of our kids. She will give me the finger when she picks up the kids. Yesterday she sat in the driveway with my 12 yo son getting him to come back into the house to get irrelevant things. She then just sat in the truck with him to pretend to be taking to my son while staring in my windows. I had to just stay inside. Even if my son wasn’t there I wouldn’t give into that drama. I am way better than both of them. I know he is doing exactly what you said. After 9 years of being single I am so glad I got away and the beast is her problem
YOU ARE THE TRUTH ! OMG YOU EXPLAINED HIM TO THE T. HE IS EVEN TRYING TO USE OR SON TO MAKE ME JEALOUS. IM SO OVER ALL HIS LIES. 22 YEARS OF BULLSHIT! GOODBYE ITS STILL IS LIKE HAVING PTSD. LONGING TO BE ABUSE AGAIN. THIS TIME THESE VIDEOS HELPED ME. THANK YOU THREW THIS PROCESS OF TRANSFORMATION.
Get rid of these bums during the move bomb phase to reclaim the most power or when they discard be ghost when they come back. That’s what I did. And heck naw, never cry in front of them. I would go to Starbucks or somewhere else and cry then come back talking and laughing on the phone like nothing happened.
@TMG. Oh well i get very emotional when I'm mad or at church in the spirit, so I don't have tomgo somewhere else and cry, but I was the one to discard him first this last time. I just hate when i feel like going off talking about the foul crap he did, I'm trying but it's very hard!!
After finishing a relationship with a narcissist, even if it lasted only few months, first thing you have to do is change your door lock. They have a copy even if you didn't give them one. Second: 99 %chances are you have a spy application in your phone. They know where you go, what you talk and with who. So reset the phone to the factory settings. ...or buy another one. Have a good healing journey. ❤
Ex husbands new source of supply reached out to me a few days ago apologizing after he broke up with her for her believing the bad stuff he said about me. I sent her some links to your videos. He tried to get back with me for about a week or but I discarded him and he had a new "Facebook official" relationship posted 2 days after and posting how happy he FINALLY is now😁. I am stupid for listening for even 1 day to him
I discarded him and moved upstairs in October and he won't leave. I also keep reminding him that we will never be together again. I only see disdain, hate for him for what he did for 18 yrs. I never heard of a narsisist until I saw a doctor on you tube. Talking about them a d I saw the signs right after we got Married. I immediately put up a wall so that I would not build feelings for him. He would never be able to buy a home like this one. When I met him he was living in a little flea infested apartment with his dog. He is determined not to leave.i am the primary buyer on the mortgage and he is determined not to leave.
All they want is for you to agree and ignore their negative behavior. Ignore and elevate to positive people,places,and things. Never let them drain or take over your mind
I was a new supply. The ex found me on fb msg. Harassing me. It lasted three months. I ended things. She got married to the ex that same year🤔 I always blamed myself for not being good enough for her. This is a great video for awakening.
Omg you are so right I bought a home after it was done and new SUV he told everyone he gave it to me in divorce lol I laughed when that got back to me.
loved this video.. you articulate your points very well. would you ever make a video about triangulation between 3 long-time friends? i feel like this is whats happening to me recently and I'm looking for more info on it. thank you
You’re so right very paranoid very secretive I really think I’m the only one that saw thru this man. I kind of felt sorry for the abuser. He love bombed me no matter how much I ran or who the other supplies were I can tell he found someone far bcuz the stalking stopped the texting constantly but he always came around but I think I pulled the nail in the casket by confronting him about a baby he denies. So now I’m discarded for good
Pay no mind to his nonsense. He would love to see you battle it out with his new supply. Let her keep the "trophy" all to herself. Say nothing to him, to the new supply, and to the flying monkeys.
You will get stronger as time goes by. Trust me ... TIME ... heals everything!
Princess Nelson just like school kids huh? I am so glad that I went no contact this year from both of them then!
I agree, let her keep "that" trophy!"
This dirtbag went to other,then left her pregnant when he came back from a trip after she took him to the airport. Some real evil. I really don't wish that on anyone. Smh
Great advice.
@princess nelson, I know it said they enjoy a battle with the new supply, but it's so pointless and stupid. If that's who they really want why be hung up a battle with the ex? You hoppedto another person and gotyour supply so y try to get more with a battle. Justinsane!
When WE discard FIRST THAT’S BOSS! They can’t handle that.
I did the discard first but felt bad about it, crazy isn't it? I broke up I don't know how many times! I'm so done! He acted like he didn't have a care in the world!
I left with my head up after 12 years of a terrible life only to find myself in even greater misery. He is relentless in his punishment, has taken my children away, destroyed me financially and smear campaigned the holy crap out of me. And almost did he win. I considered suicide first than became tremendously angry and disregulated. I went through several years of deep deep trench but at last understood that sometimes ppl have to pay a very high price to get free and start healing.
In hindsight I would never allow for a second of it over again.
I started DBT therapy and have gained a great deal of understanding. Still fighting for my children at court...I am no longer a victim but a survivor working hard on becoming a true thriver.
TMG Exactly! I cut his ass off and told him what he can do I’m done with all his foolishness
They sure can’t, when I left my narcissistic ex she lost her mind. Amazing how she was so willing to make the changes then when I was practically begging for months lol. Found her new supply a week after we broke up and was rubbing him in my face while begging me to get back together. Hitting “block this number” never felt so empowering lol.
Yep and if you discard first they hold that against you to
Triagulation is the worst tactic to get someone back or prove your self worth. Being an Honorable, Desirable and Healthy person is so much more ATTRACTIVE 😘
The best thing that ever happened to you guys is the discard. You are blessed. Like Dr Carmen said, show no emotions. Get into yourself, get your hair and nails done, eat well, exercise and live well. Talk to God and watch the videos and build up your self esteem so you can learn the warning signs. God bless you both. We support you. Sending you love ❤️❤️🤗🤗🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
We support you and I believe in you 😊
Oh man, I smelled the discard in the air...He desperately tried to put me on the shelf, but I changed my phone number and went no contact before he could discard me. But, he still stalks me on social media with fake accounts...pathetic. Much love Dr. for your wisdom.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂my story I put that side piece away like nobody business
Sad you stay stable
@c omw Truth×100!! Taking a break or going private for a while is extremely healthy & helpful🙏
Midlife Wild Your better off without him. I did same with my ex. I knew she was working on a new supply and trying to degrade me while putting him on a high chair.. So I ended it and it made her furious. Many times she's messaged and I've told her I'm done. There is no winners in abuse, but at least we don't leave the loser.
What's scary is I haven't heard a word from it. I saw his sidechick at my local grocery store and she live 20 to 30 minutes away as does he.
Like Quinn Holliday said it's only a transactionship anyway what's going on across the street is just another transaction it is not a relationship!
MsLee 💯
MsLee whoooo Right On?!!!!!!!
It's funny because she thinks he be with me,Yeah that's the life,I havent seen that clown,and I don't want to it's like looking at vomit,when you act some spoiled food,I really hope he dog her ass out, that bitch is out of control sending pictures of them in bed.Even used my car and video,Bitchhhhhh please,she don't have shit but her ugly ass mouth
OMG!!! He moved across the street! My heart just did a back flip🙄.......🤯. God be with you!!
Shirley when I discarded my Narc I found out after I had left he had supplies next door and across the street. What a bum.
TMG As if this disorder is not painful
Enough alone. My ex was so sneaky he
Would wait until l was asleep and go on line and pay to watch women performing while he watched!! Go to church with me the next day as if nothing happened!! 🤷🏽♀️ l just know l am so glad God freed me from hell!! Blessings to you😇
Tmg@@shirleymadiva6886 wow, bums for sure.
How about right next to you? The Narc I was with purchased the property Right next to mine when we were together ( with a pole barn on it no house) he had the inside finished ( living area with bathroom) 🤭🤢🤮 I discarded him by letting him think he discarded me 🥴 it worked, but the parasite 🦠 IS NEXT DOOR... knowing what I know, I’m on guard a LOT.. he still manages to keep my grown children on a string, when they mention him, I just grey rock 😑 last wk. he was riding dirt bikes next door making a ruckus show, mind you, he bought my daughter (13) a dirt bike she is now paralyzed 😥 I was a widow with 3 girls 😳 He almost destroyed me, but God rescued me.. I was pulled from the pit 🥰🙏🏼😇 I Will not move !!!! I’m going to stay here where I have lived for 34 years I own & love my home, I won’t run from him! I will fear no man, for Jesus is with me, I feel like he spy’s on me sometimes, but I have gardened for many years planting shrubs and trees and such to make My property very private 🤨 and I have a dog and she is a great watch dog 👍🏼😇 I pull my shades tight at dusk 😂🤣😂😳🥴🙏🏼
Just ignore him Dont pay him any attention they are just doing that to make you jealous they love to hurt people and make you cry dont pay him any attention stay in your house dont look at him ignore him
Hello everyone! I left my narcissist two months ago. And now he is talking about marriage with his second baby mom who he left homeless and pregnant in Cali two years ago.
I recently had a pregnancy scare and happy to find out I am not. I am grateful I got away. But now I am battling the feeling of being used.
FINALLY, I have heard from survivors who have a discarded narc that lives directly across the street! His new supply moved in immediately after we were through. This situation makes no contact extremely difficult each and every day. When I open my front door I am on display to both of them. Winter is not as bad, but in summer we are outside in full view. I am a Master gardener - have been for decades. She is out there now doing all the grunt labor for him, scrubbing porch, cutting grass. She is totally duped. Quit her job and left her kids for him - He has her isolated and enslaved. And I am the crazy, eccentric ex. I can see it in her body language. My god, it is hard. But I will NOT be pressured to sell my home and move!! Un uh sisters!! Never!
WOW! That is a hard situation for you. Ignore them both and go GRAY ROCK - if the try to talk to you, be as boring as possible. God bless.
@@texuztweety Thanks. Btw, I love your moniker. Fabulous :}
You're stronger than me...I'd have to move.
Graceless Lady I thought I was the only one this could happen to
Mine is next door.
He thinks I don’t know I’m in the middle of divorce I filed I discarded him
He’s with a fat old lawyer perfect victim for him a sugar grandma
As long as she has a big tv he’s happy. 🤣
Lol mine lives on the next street. Moved the new supply in the same day
I feel bad for the new supply because she actually think it's okay to do this...sad
And they always cheating always
So pathetic they ALWAYS have to cheat!
ALWAYS !!! Even if nothing is wrong in the relationship
Mary Dothard that i already knew about that one though!
Yes and think your cheating because they are ALWAYS cheating and paranoid! I went to the gym at 5am....narc was asleep. 10 min after I left, he called to find out where I was. That wasnt good enough do he got up and drive to the gym to check. They are crazy we are not
If my ex narc cheated on me he’ll cheat on his new supply wife
Do not sweetheart feel belittled by your narc you're fabulous and he knows it! Wave on your way to your fabulous life
Simply go back to the FIRST time you ever felt something wasn’t right or the first time he gave you the silent treatment....how long did take for his mask to slip after y’all got together? Her devaluation been started. And the fact she’s across the street....she’s super insecure. And lastly BE CAREFUL because some will kill the supply. What he did to you he WILL do it again and it gets worse with each person they go to. Girl God saved your life. Trust me.....you will heal. Keep your house. Work on yourself. God has seen ALL of his behavior and God will repay.
TRUTH! 💯💯💯
In God's eye. Narc or anyone will reap what you sow. People think they are getting away with terrible things they have done to others. It Doesnt work that way. It will come back at them!! You might not see it, but it will happen. Don't take revenge on them. If you do, all you are doing is keeping the abuse going. GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF IT!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
@TMG the very first time i.felt kind of weird about him was when he ask me to be his girlfriend like right away, but for months it seemed like everything was good until the new supply called me out of the blue talking about she is girfriend been seeing each other for 2 months! Craziest garbage, claimed he did that after we had a stupid argument at the beach! Pathetic excuse
Luvingme fed up! How did she get your number lol?
@@ChefSkates looking thru his phone, now his with yet another supply starting to plaster pictures on fb, when he was with the previous ones one he had a couple of pics on there, saying she was his rock and everything,took no time to discard her! Dang horrific shame! How stupid does he look posting different pics of relationships he bounces in. Wow!
what you're saying is so true because it is what I went through when I was the new supply years ago. It really knocked my self esteem the subtle comparisons between me and the girl before.. he made her sound like she was so horrible to him but so beautiful at the same time and just this it girl and it was pressure and hard to live up to and was breaking me down. I remember crying so much. When I finally left him and now I'm the old supply I can only imagine now what is going on.
Unless u turn the tables on them and make them go through EVERYTHING they did to u. (Happened in my case) I narc injured him and two months later he's still suffering. I told him how does THAT feel. I felt that five years! How does that taste. Now I'm ready to discard. I did this ONLY BECAUSE I felt so betrayed lied to and abused I just got so angry n took things into my own hands. Eben though I know how dangerous it is to do so. I don't recommend doing this. But he hurt my kids separated my oldest son from the home. Tried doing that to my 12 year old as well. Until I put my foot down. U can hurt me all u want but don't MESS with my kids
So true. They attack your self esteem with the other person. Starts off subtle than gets worse.
Great video! I feel for the lady with the Narcissist who lives across the road. However, you discarded him first and he has to live with that shame which Narcissists hate. Walk away and don't look back. That's what I did and although I know even after a year that I'm still being stalked I'll never go back. Life is a lesson or a blessing and you are blessed because you got away! 😎
Same thing happened to me . Wife of 21 years moved across the street to my x friends house . They already married 3 years to this date . It sucks but neighbors are in shock as well . Found out about narc abuse from my current girlfriend. We have to be happy that the demon has left our home . Thank you Jesus!!!! It gets better as you get more info on this subject . Thank you Dr .
Wow Doc! You have literally broke the game down on narcissism 🙏🏾🙏🏾💯
Judah Fire either we can be victims forever or go tell the secrets and exposed the game 🤚🏽🤛🏽👊🏾
YES! When we got together she wouldn't stop going on about her ex, to the point I wondered if she was actually over him... she had painted him as a bad partner with horrible memories, but then wouldn't stop talking about him..
wow. this new supply was being a stalker towards me whilst he was encouraging her. They both planned to sleep together and I'm so glad 😁 Now I move forward with no guilt, my kids support me being happy with someone else, it has been a year now. I laugh because I know I'm a topic of conversation in their home and I make no apologies for it.
Thanks Dr. Carmen.
Thank you Carmen. I was put on the shelf without warning and it hurt. My narc is a female covert narc, and she had no problem triangulating me with the new supply in public. And the new supply had an air of "I'm all that ". Pissed me off for a minute though. I removed my self from their company whenever possible. Thank God for the support from narc abuse/healing community, for their support and guidance. The lies, manipulation, and gaslighting became more obvious when I stepped back from the triangulation. I believed I was inadequate for minute, then it became obvious. I allowed the narc to minimize
my self....but I starting finding it after opening up to some people. There wasn't anything wrong with me...the narc wanted a new supply for whatever reason. It has been a slow process of healing from being put on the shelf...not discarded. I have to admit the narc hoovering to reconnect is tempting. Seems the longer I stay away from the narc the better I feel, I am not so quick to go back to feeling like I dont have a choice or being in a funk. The narc and the new supply study me from afar and that's ok..So to the anonymous woman that's my 2 cents. Be encouraged and continue to reach out to others that can help you. We love you .....🙏
Thank you for these videos. Healing it's almost over 3 months NC. Lost 20 pounds ended up on medication. What monsters. Age is irrelevant they think they are 18. Starting to heal & feel hopeful about my own life. With therapy support & personal healing. The trauma starts to leave.
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I get it I also lost 18 lbs.
I filed for divorce.
My narc pursued the fat old lawyer next door.
I pretend I don’t know.
She bought him a big tv that’s all he needs and a sugar grandma. Pretty sick.
He was fuming when I filed for divorce.
He sickens me divorce will be over soon.
I’m just grateful he’s gone.
You are freaking amazing. Where do you work for narcissistic abuse treatment? This country needs women like you. You are the first who I think knows what you're talking about when it comes to narcissists.
It's a virtual support group. God Bless, and thank you. Bless whomever shared her story.
I appreciate your wisdom Queen I am a man who was married and had 5 children with a female Narc I divorced her 4 years ago from a 28 years of being married evrything u speak about is true 28 years I indurd physical emotional abuse and physcological abuse and spiritual abuse It would take a 500 page book to explain the things that were done to me and my children I am educating myself on narcs I feel its my duty to educate people on this subject I thank u so much for your wisdom !
Thank you! You made some really good points about Narcissists can have A VARIETY of other disorders ALONG with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. EXCELLENT POINT!!
I think add disorder is very related, because to me the boredom comes with that,not being able to sit still,tantrum, etc
Thank you Dr. Carmen. I've been watching your channel for the last four years. You helped me heal from several narcissistic people that was in my family,dating circle, or work situations. I didn't find out about the narcissistic new source of supply vs the old source until it was too late until the damages were done to my finances and mental health. I ended up developing mental health disorders like schizo. When I was in college I only studied very little psychology. I ended up in debt. I'm trying to learn that I need to forgive myself about stuff that I didn't know about because I didn't come from the most educated family. I didn't realize i had my sources of supply while these narcs had there sources.
Oh my God, this is so scary.That's so many people are going through the same exact thing.My now ex-husband moved basically around the corner from my house with the new supply.She knew about me.She was even my kid's teacher. I put him out before.I even knew about her because I knew something wasn't right.And he refused to pay bills.He refused to give me money.He refused to help with the kids all hoping that I will lose everything I had. Now telling me how I have an apartment.And she has a house and I would tell him.Yes, she does, but you don't have anything.When I met you, you live in on your grandmother's couch.You didn't even have a bank account before I married you.While it is really some sick people out here
He’s in prison. I use to send him so much money.. i heals it down for 3 and a half years... so happy it’s over.
Carmen, your mouth spits honey and medicine. Thank you. Two thumbs way up!
My Narc used to triangulate me with so many women it was mind numbing. The biggest triangulation was with his dead wife. I really used to think so low of myself. I was horribly abused physically but the worst was the emotional and mental abuse
Why cant I just can't stop caring
Mine hides the new supply very well. But he is dumb at the same time.
Same here! Mary Dothard you don’t trust words you trust patterns!
She has him on her Facebook,he doesn't have her on his.Yet she says she meet her husband, the fool propose to every relationship.
Felicia Carrington That’s a disaster that’s waiting to happen girl get your popcorn sit back have a glass of wine and watch the show begin in the mean time do you, be happy and realize that these are emotionally stunted little boys inside of a man’s body it’s honestly sad when you think about it that way! but after what they’ve done to you all you can do is laugh....
They go to the hotels with their new supply they play cat and mouse when they see you the new supply will pull up beside of him they do it to make you jealous i stop chasing him let the new supply have him
It hurt me to the core. The new supply looks exactly like me , i mean EXACTLY LIKE ME except she's heavier. Same complexion, hairstyle, job, we even sound alike. It's so creepy to the point that my friends thought it was an old picture of me, or she was my sister. He threw up in my face that i didn't have certain things such as my own car, my own place (which i had prior) and she had her own (trianglating). But he wanted to judge me at that time because I just started working again from being laid off previously (when his ass was back at his moms as well). He 1st discarded me for her, then returned 4months later apologizing, and I thought it was sincere, but now I realize, he never really addressed what he had done. And I guess He was pissed because I never chased him, so he came back to get familiar supply. I'm new to all this narcissist info, which is very informative and I'm grateful of knowing now, just wish I knew then to have avoided all of this. He went back to the same supply which he's "so-called" helping because she just created some online clothing business. But thinking back, it was things I did overlook. Things he has said that I thought was just a joke because that's how we were. But I see he was dead serious. He even had me around his entire family, friends, coworkers, everything. And had her around them as well, and that was real painful. And they sat there and played along grinning in my face. So damn slimey!! The kicker is, supply had a boyfriend also. Occasionally I have those thoughts of revenge and hate, but I try my best to get through it and let it go with prayer. He's a bus driver on all of my routes I catch. He even told me he would watch me in the mirror while driving. The fact that he plotted and stalked me, and I never knew, is so evil.
Omg, mine pics women that look like me or that study me and then try to mimic me. This is extremely sickening! These woman then decide to hate me, talk crap about me and actually get angry with me because he, " talks" about me all the time.... These twisted ass psychopaths need to be euthanized!!
@@maryannegelsi-perry1353 I know, it's crazy. I found out about her when she posted a pic of them out at some function. He aint have a care in the world, knowing I'd see it. Everything was out of the blue. I don't know what he told her about me or even if he mentioned me at all. After the 2nd time, i went no contact because I found out about her again. And he never reached out to me to ask why he hadn't heard from me either. Nut he had a nerve to start liking pics I posted on IG. I blocked his ass. But i noticed however, i get a lot of random friend request from guys I don't even know but I find out that they are friends with the chick. They're really crazy.
@@Danni215 we need to be grateful they are gone!! I remind myself daily that this was the lesson I needed to become the abundant, patient and loving queen that God intended me to be!! We survived this to become tue greater part of "the I Am!" To me it was humbling and grounding and I thank God that I have a conciousness that knows right from wrong!
I have seen my narc go through many that look identical to me or same career same amount of kids. List goes on and on....that's were I set back and laugh because I know he can search and try to find me in everyone but no one is like me and I'm happy to tell him no every step of the way.
Wow!!! This man has discarded me and everything you said the new supply did!!! & he did even down to the house purchase! Oh my gosh!!! This is insane. Thank you for this video.
Wow thanks for posting this. I went through triangulation for about 1-2 years. Didn’t realize until it ended. Thanks a lot!!!
I work with the narc I had “transactionship “ with. While with me she started transaction with coworker right next to me. Then looks at me like I’m the one with a problem when I found out. I caused narc injury and she went to managers at work accusing me of harassment. Also, threatened me with police. This happened in 12/18. So I started no contact. Still in no contact. Through no contact I began to heal. Learning about NPD and honestly I see the fact that she did what she did as a blessing.She makes sure I see her with new supply. She’s doing with him all she did with me. I show no emotion. I don’t feel shame. I don’t feel bad. If
Anything , new supply took a huge problem off of my back. What’s disgusting is how she still tries to lock eye contact with me anytime she can. She knows that’s just about the only thing she can do because if she tries reaching out to me, I will definitely protect myself with managers. Last time she made eye contact she looked
Like she was sad. Like
If I was supposed to ask what was wrong. That look could have been a Hoover. Can’t be sure. But my mindfulness warns me that anything she does will ultimately be an attempt to have me fired at work. So even if she doesn’t want to have me fired, because she would loose what used to be a
Good source and the ability to gain me as a source again , all I repeat to myself is she is evil she is up to no good and this makes no contact easier to execute.
Exactly I agree with Dr. Bryant...
This Is ALL strategic & I've been feeling the fool plenty of times but if ANYONE should feel ashamed&embarrassed, It IS THEM!!!
They're ridiculous and have absolutely NO INTEGRITY.....
Those that do would NEVER EVER dream of playing these childish, entitled, selfish,pathetic games.
Keep your head up, be grateful you are YOU and have a loving heart& they are D actors@best...
Hope they get well paid for their roles.....
You are a beautiful woman inside and out. Thank you so much for all that you do. Truly a blessing.
I’m so honored coming from a beautiful Queen
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse thank you so much
Dr. Carmen, I am still having to take it one day at at time. I just got out of the triangulation and even spoke directly with the new supply. You are on point about all of this. It sad, unhealthy all the same.
To anonymous: I'm in the same situation. The narc owns the land right next to my house. After over a year of NC found out he plans on building right next to me (or so he says). He came lurking around last month and put 100's of flags all over the land to make it appear he was designing a home. Dr. Bryant is right. They can't handle being discarded. He's only doing all that he is doing to get to you. You stay in your beautiful home! I plan on staying in mine. I designed it, built it, paid for it, and I'll be damned if ole narcy is going to run me out of there! Besides, they only look like fools to the reasonable person by doing these stunts.
I would boss up in my clothes and outter appearance while I work on myself. I would start staying away from the house and take a suitcase with me and make it look like I’m on vacation. I would let him watch my glow-up. And for the record I’m STILL no contact and naw I don’t take his calls lol.
On the contrary...I would be allll up in my house...playing all kinds of motivational music...having cook out...throwing parties for friends....etc...yes and vacationing...for real....BUT not to get back at him...no contact needs to be mental as well as physical.
As long as the BOSS Up is about YOU and bringing love and light into her life...vs to get back at him....
TMG , I like the suitcase idea 🤣😂🤣😂 that’s funny 😄 I am in that situation, he’s right next to my property, I be been no Contact 3 years, he comes and goes.. I’ve become indifferent 😐 I don’t care what he does as long as his butt don’t step on my property 🤨 😂🤣 I know what he is and I go about my business, I garden again, play my jams outside, while I enjoy peace again NO MONSTERS ALLOWED!
Yes ma’am it would be a show every time I walked out that door I wouldn’t care if I was just going to Walmart I would be in an evening gown 😂😂 hopping in an Uber XL
Omg this video helped so much and I thank you. I have been triangulated twice. I am much stronger and really see the things being done. It's pretty predictable. I discarded him first for six mths but he practically forced me out. He was chatting with another woman right in front of me. It really wakes you up to the fact they never cared for you. It was all fake and lies. I've been getting knowledge and I'm moving on. Trying to work in my escape plan. This helps and clarifies things I didn't understand fully.
You did a great thing by discarding him. Im sorry his new supply is right across the street. But this may make a stronger in time. This is such a confusing thing i was triangulated and i got out. I wish you the best hun.
Just better yourself girl! I’m going through it myself with a narc that left me after I stayed with him while he was locked up for 2 years and we were together for 4 years.. paid for his lawyer and all that.. then he came home and discarded me and 2 months later he’s engaged to her and trying to have babies .. it’s so much.. I was crying everyday but it’s okay just pray about it and cry it all out and focus on yourself .. I was stuck on feeling like if she’s better .. but nope 👎🏽 she’s not 💯💪🏽 trust me! He will be back! And that’s when you say no.. and move on.. and honey that feeling feels good!😩😂💯💪🏽🥰 Love thy self 🥰 you’ll be okay! And everyone that’s going through this💯👌🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
girl that happen for real? how long ago was that
Girl he came home 11/18/2018 and I’ve been sick ever since 😩
@@sakoya21 he came home? You mean when he came home from jail that's when it happened
Yes when he came home I went through his phone and found out he had another woman the whole time and she knew about me .. it was his teenage love .. I guess they were together when they were 19 and now he’s 31 and they’re trying to make shit work now .. smh 🤦🏾♀️ and the crazy part is that he’s been dealing with her the whole time him and I were together the whole 4 years was a freaking lie.. she said him and her been going on for 13 years now.. talk about hurt.. I even went to jump on her and he knocked me to the ground to protect her .. I was so angry.. I know I should’ve not gotten out of character but man.. I was so hurt.. I put my hands on him.. knowing he was going to whoop me.. but I was so hurt and I felt so betrayed.. I punched him in his face when he was sleeping .. and even though he always put his hands on me.. that was my first time ever putting my hands on a man ever in my life .. I was so hurt I just wanted to whoop his ass for everything he’s done to me
@@sakoya21 oh hell no girl f*** him for real. How dare him do such a thing. How dumb of her to be Ok with him having a outside relationship and she knew. Just stupid all the way. I am sorry 😥
Even though I struggle after 15 years of on again off again with a narcasist and am aware of
Some of the serious damage I'm living with and compiling... I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to share your knowledge and in doing so are empowering so many people who would have otherwise been imprisoned in the shadows of what is for some a pain unknown until listening to your words. You bring light into the darkness and are instrumental in changing the world by touching so many positively. Please know it's a gift I'm personally grateful for. Thank you. You save lives.
Im so thankful for your vid. My Ex Narc lives in front of my home. His Ex Wife and their children too. Since last year it was a pure triangulation story..he was with me then with her (even they‘re divorced since two years-its an on/off between them).. I am gonna move-my rent is too high now and I can‘t stand this getting watched by him or her even by the Kids also anymore..so glad I found your Channel..gives me such strength! Be blessed
Dr Carmen Bryant you have incredible mind I play your video back twice , you have you much knowledge about this disorder . You tell it like it is in a professional Format . Keep up the great service you are providing to the community . Yes we need this knowledge when we have to deal with the wife or husband or co workers and other relationships were in . I have the wisdom to know That what am doing for me and my daughters that give me the will to fight for what right . Thanks for the comments about the house 🏠 love that I built a new house for the family , so if she chooses to leave , go but this house I leave for my Daughters am 66 years old I built this house with with my heart for us . I always say never give up . and also my name is Ray in Spanish Rey is king 🤴.
You sir are truly a King you stay strong
I have PTSD, because of narc abuse. Thank you for your expertise! Your videos do help me to get by. God bless you!
Omg! I left. I got out during summer of 2018. 18 years with an unstable man. No more control, manipulation, etc. I am free. I wore an emanicipation shirt to court. Long story but this is the start of my freedom baby!!
I will never forget the day that my current husband allowed his son to bring his (my husband’s) ex wife into my driveway. The son said he was “just stopping by” to ask my husband a question. I was at work watching this on my security camera, and never once did my husband ask her to leave. Even gave her a drink. This is a person that he said he absolutely cannot stand. When I asked him why he never asked her to leave, he said he didn’t want to hurt his sons feelings. I believe it was to show off our new house to her. Four years later, I’m still trying to forgive, but honestly will never forget.
Absolutely briliant , exactly how that dynamic is going on .Its a lot of hurt people here making videos with different resoults .You are realy professional about , sadly is not to much therapists have any clues about NPD .Thank you
Love your show. To the lady living across from her Narc. Honey this is your time to bring out your true Diva. Hold your head high and stay fabulous. We've all been there. The best revenge is your success.
Honey! Let me first say, May God bless you! Stay strong and God would NEVER put on you more than you can stand!!!! Mine of 28 years, moves less than a mile down the street. We have 4 kids together and he has a 1 year old (next month) with her. I was devastated but now,...........Praise God, I’m good! Ms Lady, PRAY PRAY PRAY. The wisdom God will give you may hurt but it’s true and once you accept it, pain, and all, comes joy and within the pain, comes joy and revelation. I can’t lie, I backed off the prayers cause some of it was toooo painful and I I tacked life’s(bills, personal issues, getting stuck and then grinding again) got in my vision back, now that I’m back on working on me and my spirit, I don’t give a hoot about where he lives or with who. I’m now looking at how to protect the kids from being blind now. And this video is ON POINT!!!! I just stated that to him. I know what he’s done (dogging me out--I don’t care because it’s lies so whatever) I know she probably thinks a certain way about me, I really don’t care accept when she verbally attacked my kids. 😡😡😡 I was willing to go to jail but not for murder so I decided to change it around. Called Child Protective Services, got my kids out of the house and went home. His arrogance ended him up in jail that night and he actually yelled “see what you did” I Nicely pointed out that that was him and all his doing. Also I still haven’t met her or said one word to her. The others in the past were never my concern, and neither is she until she went left with the kids. . He usually treated them (new supplies) worse once I found out about them. This one he thinks is different cause he actually left and told the kids he loved her in front of me. That’s after lying to me 2 days b4. The funny thing is.....he wasn’t ALLOWED to stay and is never welcomed back and He knows it. I don’t know and don’t care what he has told the new supply. So he’s butt hurt. All I know is with every time he tries to turn a situation around on me to make me look bad or himself victim, I check him....REAL QUICK. I see it now and now I feel like I am controlling my outcome. She can have it. She doesn’t even know what she has. Just what he has told her. Sad for them. Great freedom for me. You got this girl, take it as a restart button.
Dr. Carman Bryant, thank you for opening my eyes. My Narc ex-gf hit me the combo (love-bomb, devalued, and then discard). Worst part of all is my psychiatrist was useless and did not how to help me.
My Narc Ex-gf was useless. She had nothing to offer and useless to society. I can laugh about it now because her new man is not even at my level. She went from me “a Grade A+” to low level dude. 😂😄 I feel really good once I heard what happen.
I watch this everyday to remind me how GOD is moving in my life! I don’t like my cross but it is mine to bare!
Amen
This is one of the best and straight to the point Narc videos I’ve come across. You ROCK girl!! I could really use your advice on my pending divorce. My Narc is everything that you said, from taking credit for all That I’ve done, triangulation, etc. And now his lawyer is telling him we need to set a date to finalize the divorce, but he is arrogant enough to think that he can talk me out of my decision to move forward with the divorce. Now he loves me, now he was just hurt back then so that’s why he did what he did.. etc.. How much is a consultation with you..
So happy I found your channel ❤️❤️ it has helped me so much, especially today .
The best thing you can do is go no contact, block, delete. When he finds a way to reach you...and he will....ignore.
Good video 👍
I want to give a very big"thank you" to u Mrs.Carmen!🤗 I can't express enough how much your videos are helping me thru this process! It's a wound that I've never experienced before..well,this deliberate. You have given alot of insight to me trying to stay positive 👍 & ino it's a work in progress. I'm learning more& more about myself than anything else by far😀I appreciate you putting these videos out for people like me who knows what I'm going thru& understands how to coach me thru it as well..having a source like this Ican go2, outside of my circle, that won't judge me or try2 sway me one way or another. Thanks & bless u 💜🙏🙏🙏💜
I’m honored and so grateful you are here
That is exactly what my My narcissistic ex Did. The month we started dating he got a American Express gold card with a $10000 limit this man did not make enough money to pay off that credit card but at the time I did not know he played like he was daddy warbucks. He took me on trips bought me gifts bought me a ring bought me a $400 dooney and Bourke purse at Disney world sent me extravagant giftd. But 2 months into going out he brings up when we're married or we move in together we can have a joint bank account! now I'm older I raise my daughter on my own I own a business and I told him absolutely not we will not have a joint bank account and I'm not marrying anybody until I've dated them for 2 years. He looked completely heartbroken he literally sobbed and looked disappointed like a little kid who was told they couldn't have ice cream. When I started catching on to what he was because I got to know the ex wife and she was absolutely nothing like what he had said she was And I started to get to know his children I started questioning things! I asked him a few times are you marrying me to get ahold of my money and he would always say no I have enough of my own money. but 9 months in he starts complaining to me that he can't pay that high of a payment on his gold card. Now I'm very strong and very stubborn I fell for some of it but I kept my distance and I paid attention to the red flags kept journals because I started catching on to the gas lighting and the word salad and his manipulating games. I said to him that's not my problem I didn't tell you to get the gold card I didn't tell you to buy all the stuff I never asked you to take me on those trips every bit of that was your idea. I kept telling you it was too much but you didn't listen to me. Once he realized that I was not going to marry him or move in with him he started the Devalue where he was going to discard me but I discarded him. He actually took me to small claims court to try to get me to pay half of that gold card. Thankfully the judge listen to my side of the story I told him about that financial entanglement he had with his ex wife and what he had done to her and that he was trying to get me to marry him to get my money and to make me pay off his bills and I caught on and hes angry! the judge only made me Pay $420 that was a cost of 2 plane tickets for 2 trips that we had went on. I wrote him a check then and I rounded it up to 500; I said I'll give you another $80 just to be nice! It felt so good to be vindicated in court he went in there so cocky thinking that he would get all that money and he got nothing!
Miss Kim narc free you and me I love it go Queen 👑
I was married to a narcissist for 14yrs and after he discarded me he started flaunting the new supply to family and friends 8 days later. You described my narcissist to a T. Everything you said was right on point, and has been my life with him year by year even now that we have been separated for 6 months and he has been with this new supply.
That sure is a lot of diagnoses. Where I come from we call it having the devil inside you...
This is so true! I divorced him & he was in a relationship 3 weeks later! I feel sorry for her! He triangulated me & will do the same to her when the love bombing is over! He did everything to me that you are saying!
This is the most accurate description of what happens too the T and I’m a man going through this
i allowed my ex narc back after 4 months of no contact. He would tell me he loved, missed me and that he wants to work things out. I would always say no and i set boundaries. come to find out, he has had a gf , lives with her the entire time, he was pursing me! I would occasionally ask if he had a gf but he denied her. He doesnt know that i know he has a gf! and I dont know if i should tell his gf. as for him, i blocked him. don't care for him.
Hey you lovely amazing person!
I know you are because that narc tried to leech of you and tried to lift your personality because they were jealous of who you were. The best revenge you can serve is being happy and confident because that will not only bring amazing people into your life and uplift everyone around you, it will help him feel irrelevant and forgotten while you become more amazing and fulfilled by the day!
No one explains it better than this ❤️💯
This information is so deep
I am so pissed and triggered.
You snatched off my blindfold.
Wow. That's all i can say is wow. Crazy! All the pieces of the puzzle fit.
Wow every word is on point. This video has opened my eyes so wide. I'm blessed I've gotten rid of my ex he's definitely a narcissists. He's no longer my problem thank you Lord.
I’m so ashamed and can’t stop feeling bad because I made a huge mistake and fell right into his trap. He showed up unexpectedly to my home with gifts for our son with his girlfriend (who I didn’t know about) and I blew up and got angry. I know I’m definitely a topic in their home and it’s securing everything he said about me. Why did he have to come to my home with HER and so late? I’m such a fool and totally helped him out. My heart is so broken and I feel like shit.
Practicing your responses trains you that was just a test you’ll do better next time they don’t stop don’t beat yourself up analyze and regroup you got this you’ll get another chance with them always
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse Thank You for replying and you were right I did have another chance. This time around I maintained my composure and everything he said to I simply said you have the right to your opinion. It’s hard but I wait til I’m out of sight and allow the tears to flow. I know she is my blessing and doing me a great favor but it still breaks my heart. This too shall pass
@@vcmartinez22 I feel your pain and I am in the same situation. You are a wonderful person and I know this because the narcissist was attracted to you. They like tearing down good people. We will get through this. They are ungodly humans and we should not want to be with them. They are truly cruel which is the opposite of us. I continue to pray and watch this videos which is my form of counseling,lol. I will pray for you too so you are not alone💖
ONCE this lady u talking about lifts that blind fold and sees the narc for who he really is and how insecure he really is she will no longer even think about him the other woman or any anything that has to do with him. TRUST ME its possible.
this video was quite informative and accurate. my ex narc was publicly talking about me about how great I was. Poor new supply must be so humiliated , her new wife is dreaming about another man.
It's called a Relationshit. Love Ya Dr. Bryant.Hope all is well. Thank You So Much In your Awesome humble Talk. Bless You.
This is a very informative video! Question: I was in a situation where I was being groomed to be the new primary supply. The narc was getting ready to discard the primary supply to be with me. But I have been studying narcissism for about 6 years so I knew what he was and what he was doing. I called him out and discarded him during the love bombing stage.... lol! Talk about a narc injury. Because he wasn’t locked in with me I threw him off. Now after over two years he is with the same supply that he was getting ready to discard for me. They both stalk my social media and she takes pics of her ring for me to see.... lol! The old supply is obsessed with me! And I know that the narc is behind her Facebook posts targeting me.... What gives? I know why he’s mad but I don’t understand why she is mad.... she’s been there for years and is still there.... smh! The whole thing is comical to me 🤦🏾♀️
She is just extremely insecure and being abused. The only power she has right now is to be able to stalk you and control what image is out there of them.
BlackWomen WiseUp it’s because some kind of way he made a point for her to find out about you. It’s sad but it’s true. He did that shit on purpose to get her upset.
BlackWomen WiseUp I went through this very thing. I did fall into the "defend myself" moment for a min but came to my senses real quick after learning about Narcs & their triangulation games. It had gotten so bad that the "recycled supply/flying monkey" was sending messages to my FB messenger from multiple fake profiles & screen shooting anything i posted public that she felt she could attack. He was also sending messages from fake profiles pretending to be looking for his own family & asking stupid ?? like are you blood or married into the family... Just cont nonesense... I had to change all social media acct names & go private on every platform of those I have & closed old ones I don't use. He/she were creating profiles in my name. I mean she even said "I will fight for him but I wont compete" I was like you sound just as stupid as he did when he spoke at times. She would post on my pinterest and anywhere she could find me. She even called my phone & would leave text messages all while laying next to my hubo narc nightly and yall are in love & meant to be together but yet yall stalking & watching me. If that were true why you would not even stop so low to harass me (someone you dont even know), oh I forgot I'm the star in your household & your actions confirm it. I had to get the Sheriff's involved bc her harassment got so outrageous while he in background orchestrating it all. He used to drive three hrs & stalk my home (might still be doing it, changed vehicles)....... Our daughter (she hasnt seen him physically since her first bday & seen him through Skype since Sept 2017) & I havent tlkd to him since Jan 2018 he went Mia after I said I would get my lawyers to go over any paperwrk he sends to me to ensure legitimacy. Had his step mom to contact me (she hadn't verbally talked with us since before he left us, just text) in Dec 2018 & she asked why he say he cant talk to you. After listening to this its bc he knows I'm too strong now for him to play his pathetic narc games with & they won't work. They are both obsessed stalkers. It became comical to me as well. Thankfully I'm in a much better place than I was when it all first started..
They are pathetic is hell, the one he left to go too, he discarded her then came back, and left again and went to a new one, sorry, game playing, childish.bastards
LadyCmac98 wow! Thank you for giving me some insight! I have deactivated all of my social media and now they both can’t find me.... lol! Now they are both mad that I am offline?! 🤷🏾♀️ His lady is really coming unglued now! All of her posts are public but yet he still hasn’t posted nothing public about them together at all.... lol! He doesn’t even mention her just the children they have in common. I’m grateful that I have made moved to a different county and can put this all behind me! Lol.... they can keep it up but I won’t be watching! Smh....
My ex goes back and forth with telling me that he has a new girlfriend and then tells me he was just playing. I’m sure she knows of me but he’s never put her in my face. He did tell me that his girlfriend doesn’t want him talking to me, lol. So high school.
Mine had an affair with an employee of ours while I was pregnant with our son. Yup I wanted back in the business accounts and I wanted to have equal control as to how we spent our money from our business that we equal invested in and started together at the beginning of the relationship. I know he is wanting her to fight with me now. She is married to him and is the step mom of our kids. She will give me the finger when she picks up the kids. Yesterday she sat in the driveway with my 12 yo son getting him to come back into the house to get irrelevant things. She then just sat in the truck with him to pretend to be taking to my son while staring in my windows. I had to just stay inside. Even if my son wasn’t there I wouldn’t give into that drama. I am way better than both of them. I know he is doing exactly what you said. After 9 years of being single I am so glad I got away and the beast is her problem
You are spot on my situation . Thank you
You are a lovely person Dr.Carmen and very generous.
Thank you
YOU ARE THE TRUTH ! OMG YOU EXPLAINED HIM TO THE T. HE IS EVEN TRYING TO USE OR SON TO MAKE ME JEALOUS. IM SO OVER ALL HIS LIES. 22 YEARS OF BULLSHIT! GOODBYE ITS STILL IS LIKE HAVING PTSD. LONGING TO BE ABUSE AGAIN. THIS TIME THESE VIDEOS HELPED ME. THANK YOU THREW THIS PROCESS OF TRANSFORMATION.
Get rid of these bums during the move bomb phase to reclaim the most power or when they discard be ghost when they come back. That’s what I did. And heck naw, never cry in front of them. I would go to Starbucks or somewhere else and cry then come back talking and laughing on the phone like nothing happened.
💖💖💖You Rock!💖💖💖
@TMG. Oh well i get very emotional when I'm mad or at church in the spirit, so I don't have tomgo somewhere else and cry, but I was the one to discard him first this last time. I just hate when i feel like going off talking about the foul crap he did, I'm trying but it's very hard!!
After finishing a relationship with a narcissist, even if it lasted only few months, first thing you have to do is change your door lock. They have a copy even if you didn't give them one.
Second: 99 %chances are you have a spy application in your phone. They know where you go, what you talk and with who. So reset the phone to the factory settings. ...or buy another one.
Have a good healing journey. ❤
Be blessed to be out of the relationship
Ex husbands new source of supply reached out to me a few days ago apologizing after he broke up with her for her believing the bad stuff he said about me. I sent her some links to your videos. He tried to get back with me for about a week or but I discarded him and he had a new "Facebook official" relationship posted 2 days after and posting how happy he FINALLY is now😁. I am stupid for listening for even 1 day to him
I discarded him and moved upstairs in October and he won't leave. I also keep reminding him that we will never be together again. I only see disdain, hate for him for what he did for 18 yrs. I never heard of a narsisist until I saw a doctor on you tube. Talking about them a d I saw the signs right after we got Married. I immediately put up a wall so that I would not build feelings for him. He would never be able to buy a home like this one. When I met him he was living in a little flea infested apartment with his dog. He is determined not to leave.i am the primary buyer on the mortgage and he is determined not to leave.
All they want is for you to agree and ignore their negative behavior. Ignore and elevate to positive people,places,and things. Never let them drain or take over your mind
I was a new supply. The ex found me on fb msg. Harassing me. It lasted three months. I ended things. She got married to the ex that same year🤔 I always blamed myself for not being good enough for her. This is a great video for awakening.
Omg you are so right I bought a home after it was done and new SUV he told everyone he gave it to me in divorce lol I laughed when that got back to me.
His new supply tells me about the abuse she endures and then makes excuses of why it's okay for him to do it.
As Dr. Bryant explains all I keep hearing is Tamia- Stranger In My House. Let me find out Tamia been up on game.
loved this video.. you articulate your points very well. would you ever make a video about triangulation between 3 long-time friends? i feel like this is whats happening to me recently and I'm looking for more info on it. thank you
Thank you so much Knowledge is POWER I never knew about this
You’re so right very paranoid very secretive I really think I’m the only one that saw thru this man. I kind of felt sorry for the abuser. He love bombed me no matter how much I ran or who the other supplies were I can tell he found someone far bcuz the stalking stopped the texting constantly but he always came around but I think I pulled the nail in the casket by confronting him about a baby he denies. So now I’m discarded for good
You have helped me so much, thank you x
U ARE SO RIGHT....I AM ABOUT TO GO BACK TO MY GYM REGIMEN AND ENJOY LIFE!!!
You are beautiful inside and out. Thankyou for all your help ♥️