3 Strategies for Turning Boys into Men (in a society that doesn’t want them to)

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  • THIS is how we raise our boys into men in a society that doesn’t want them to.
    Men, we’ve got to step up!
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  • @jian71ful
    @jian71ful 6 лет назад +5100

    Growed up without a father.
    Making an effort to learn masculinity by myself

    • @jlzpacheco
      @jlzpacheco 6 лет назад +328

      Jyan Machia Welcome to the majority 😂

    • @cosmonucleus7076
      @cosmonucleus7076 6 лет назад +148

      Jyan Machia Same here brother.

    • @vinikabrito
      @vinikabrito 5 лет назад +238

      Jyan Machia I have a father, but i do not spend much time with him, so we're on similar boats

    • @markpaugh6113
      @markpaugh6113 5 лет назад +116

      The great thing about your comment is you can decide what kind of man you want to be. That's what I did for myself in the same situation. This guy will help you along the right path.

    • @madhavdharaiya195
      @madhavdharaiya195 4 года назад +26

      More power to u bro

  • @justmarcin8555
    @justmarcin8555 4 года назад +5056

    We should teach more about toxic feminity of today.

    • @joebob978
      @joebob978 4 года назад +248

      Or just tell em to shut the hell up and stop listening to nonsense.

    • @crzxm
      @crzxm 4 года назад +95

      Ignore it. Move on.

    • @tylermcflyer3061
      @tylermcflyer3061 4 года назад +16

      just Marcin DAY UMM straight

    • @ameerskater
      @ameerskater 4 года назад +147

      i was literally just going to type this. the real issue is toxic femininity brother. its a real bad problem in america today

    • @Tiger-gp7ri
      @Tiger-gp7ri 4 года назад +71

      The damage has been done with women it is what is I predict by 2030 women will be played out because of the introduction of the artificial womb U can’t unfuck over 100 years of feminism but what u can do as good men is help boys become men with red pill of knowledge of how the world really works trying to change women is like trying to talk to a wall your wasting your time spend your time helping boys and men cuss remember it’s us against everyone else NO ONE gives a Fuck about us brotherhood is all we have left

  • @TheMonrrou
    @TheMonrrou 4 года назад +1341

    I would add a 4th:
    Stay educated, well informed, and learn to think critically.

    • @QuinnTheChin
      @QuinnTheChin 4 года назад +39

      Critical thinking is probably the most important...then they'd realize how dumb this dude's rant is lmao

    • @TheMonrrou
      @TheMonrrou 4 года назад +39

      @@QuinnTheChin
      I don't think he has bad intentions.
      The delivery could have been a little more refined, but the message is not negative.

    • @QuinnTheChin
      @QuinnTheChin 4 года назад +18

      @@TheMonrrou it's not overtly negative, but the entirety of it is a misunderstanding of the arguments surrounding toxic masculinity and, in general, what it means to be masculine. Masculinity is a loaded word and by demanding that boys be more masculine, we're implying that 'feminine' things are lesser. Women make up roughly 50%-- how are we supposed to discount that? (And that's to say that women are all feminine; they're not) Further, a lot of our masculine traits are determined be culture. The Iroquois, for example, were governed by women. Would they be saying that men had no room in their politics? Wouldnt their conceptions of 'femininity' (and masculinity) be very different? If we look at other cultures, it becomes painfully obvious that these things (masculinity and femininity) are culturally constructed, and if we're limiting the contributions of half the population, then isnt our culture wrong? Clinging to masculinity is ridiculous and the idea of "turning boys to men" through masculinity is contributing to a toxic culture, one that devalues the feminine, one that stupidly indoctrinates people with corrupted media and leaves us with garbage like this-- a dude trying to make up for his high voice with a beard and a rant about being a 'man'
      - a guy

    • @bryancm1844
      @bryancm1844 4 года назад +8

      Let's just teach our kids something
      That our parents didn't, to make them better than us

    • @javiergutierrez4630
      @javiergutierrez4630 4 года назад +1

      I give props to all my professors rn who preach critical thinking 👌

  • @EquinoXReZ
    @EquinoXReZ 4 года назад +583

    Looking at his beard just turned me into a man.

  • @colerakocy2250
    @colerakocy2250 4 года назад +3013

    Finally RUclips recommended something that wasn’t a waste of my time

    • @thelux8539
      @thelux8539 4 года назад +7

      Fr this is what RUclips should be like

    • @IntentionalityMentor
      @IntentionalityMentor 4 года назад +4

      Right

    • @sgt0187
      @sgt0187 4 года назад +12

      A glitch in the RUclips algorithm, somehow this got through. Very happy it did!!

    • @doom5895
      @doom5895 4 года назад +6

      Remember when youtube was good? Remember oney?

    • @wadecarnes8159
      @wadecarnes8159 4 года назад +2

      Cole Rakocy facts

  • @matthewkevinobispo6582
    @matthewkevinobispo6582 4 года назад +1476

    1. Be a Dad
    2. Be a Father Figure
    3. Be in a Leadership Position and Role.
    :)

    • @ejRecording
      @ejRecording 4 года назад +31

      And... teach them how to grow big beards*

    • @boyo4172
      @boyo4172 4 года назад +52

      1. Don't be an incel hating women and blaming society for your inability to succeed
      2. Well, that's it actually.

    • @osmacar5331
      @osmacar5331 4 года назад +13

      4. Be the authority for your children
      you forgot that

    • @NathanKirby2001
      @NathanKirby2001 4 года назад +2

      What if you dont have a dad

    • @dutch4973
      @dutch4973 4 года назад +1

      Dunford00 if length of facial hair is your benchmark of manhood then odds are you’re a pussy

  • @thecowboy9698
    @thecowboy9698 4 года назад +50

    My dad taught me that man works hard, he provides for his family, and gives generously of his time to his family and others, he is not ashamed to admit when hes wrong, and most importantly I would say, my dad taught me that a man is honest, and that a man does what he says he will do.

  • @unndunn1
    @unndunn1 4 года назад +334

    I’m a strong, well educated, independent woman and I agree 100% with what you’re saying. Telling a 5 year old that they’re toxic is terrible, and will do more harm than anything. My father was a tough, old school man who worked his ass off for my brothers and me. He made me feel safe, confident, and loved. He also taught me how to fight off an attacker, shoot a gun, change the oil in my car, change a tire, and gave me a toolbox and a handgun when I got my first apartment. He showed my brothers how to be “real” men; good, strong, self sufficient men who treat their wives and other women with respect but don’t apologize for who they are. Boys need men around them. If it’s not their father then other men should step in.
    I wish everyone had a dad like mine.

    • @samjames6890
      @samjames6890 4 года назад +11

      Strong, well-educated, independent? You're also very humble, aren't you?

    • @unndunn1
      @unndunn1 4 года назад +21

      Gerbil Abuser you completely missed the point. I’m all of those things because of my father and the way I was raised.

    • @samjames6890
      @samjames6890 4 года назад +1

      @@unndunn1 lol, so you're totally dependent then on your papa?

    • @unndunn1
      @unndunn1 4 года назад +31

      Gerbil Abuser I feel sorry for you. Have a nice day

    • @snubdawg1386
      @snubdawg1386 4 года назад +18

      @@unndunn1 that's how a real man responds to a internet troll ... you proved your point

  • @Shino-lr2wi
    @Shino-lr2wi 4 года назад +1409

    Watched this and now my dog isn't a good boy anymore. *He's a good MAN*

    • @LegendaryLegend4
      @LegendaryLegend4 4 года назад +5

      CrustyMilk slept on 💀

    • @mr.anderson2459
      @mr.anderson2459 4 года назад +4

      Underrated

    • @georgehutcheson9679
      @georgehutcheson9679 4 года назад

      Only in your mind. He can be a good boy but, its impossible for him to become a good man. Either it IS or it ISN'T in my world. 🇺🇸✌🙏👍

    • @Shino-lr2wi
      @Shino-lr2wi 4 года назад +3

      @@georgehutcheson9679 what?

    • @eleojoakor9088
      @eleojoakor9088 4 года назад +2

      CrustyMilk 😂😂😂😂😂. I seriously can't stop laughing

  • @BREAKOUT444
    @BREAKOUT444 4 года назад +1463

    It's so hard trying to be a man when your father was clearly a boy.

    • @bloggersrealityshow2317
      @bloggersrealityshow2317 4 года назад +10

      Killakommie Foyomommie Great comment man, but change your name so more People can seriously accept your Message and put the work in which is needed 💪🏻

    • @malibudolphin3109
      @malibudolphin3109 4 года назад +37

      .Go to the Bible
      .God is your Father
      .He has lots of insight he shares in the Holy Bible

    • @FritzHitz
      @FritzHitz 4 года назад +1

      Matt Montegomery yes! Or a baby

    • @0kelvinzer0
      @0kelvinzer0 4 года назад +1

      I don't know. It just came naturally to me.

    • @luop_4209
      @luop_4209 4 года назад

      Matt Montegomery ye

  • @christianjavier1776
    @christianjavier1776 4 года назад +311

    Society looks down on men. I’m going through a custody battle with my ex and the judge already hates be without even knowing me.

    • @Kingdeme
      @Kingdeme 4 года назад +14

      Christian Javier look up Misandry Today, the guy went through 2 custody battles and won. He should have some tips for you

    • @mrblack7536
      @mrblack7536 4 года назад +7

      I hope you get your kids bro stay strong brother

    • @nickv1008
      @nickv1008 4 года назад +12

      Christian, the system is prejudice against men in general, and minorities. My grandson at 15 has criminal record that no "white" or female would ever be charged with. I have seen the system change since the 1950s, and it's not really getting better. Good luck to you.

    • @caiohenrique1111
      @caiohenrique1111 4 года назад +5

      Im from brazil, having the same problem here bro, went to the audience, when i walked in and saw 4 women i knew right there i was fucked. Good luck.

    • @anthonyjacinto2622
      @anthonyjacinto2622 4 года назад +4

      No he hates you cause you beat her ass in front of your kid . Lmao

  • @mopedmarathon
    @mopedmarathon 4 года назад +116

    Glad this wasn’t a rant about “toughening kids up” with what mostly could be described as breaking them down with bullying until they turn into bitter hateful angry people. I agree that kids in general need guidance in matters like this as otherwise they can be suddenly overwhelmed by the stresses of adulthood. I agree that without a positive male role model they can take the wrong path. My dad wasn’t about much when I was young but the father’s of my close friends were good role models who helped shape me into what I am today.

    • @jakenicholaides3214
      @jakenicholaides3214 4 года назад +5

      You don't toughen someone up by bullying them if your talking about stopping your sons growing up to be pussies then it's not bullying

    • @zeelzezuzlordoffries8716
      @zeelzezuzlordoffries8716 4 года назад +3

      I think thats the shit that makes the femmies call masculinity toxic. Some think masculinity is being a big chest beatinbg loud mouth bully.

    • @steve00alt70
      @steve00alt70 4 года назад +7

      @@jakenicholaides3214 yall have some backwards 1950s thinking.
      If a boy wants to play with a pink car let him.

    • @Jennawatkins73026
      @Jennawatkins73026 3 года назад

      @@steve00alt70 I AGREE

    • @sylon7717
      @sylon7717 11 месяцев назад

      Agreed!. Seen so many boys, or men broken down to a mere shell in the name of “toughening up”. Tough people don’t become tough because they were abused. It’s total bullshit when I hear that. Discipline is a whole other thing.

  • @galvestonkayakoutfitters4446
    @galvestonkayakoutfitters4446 6 лет назад +1030

    Step it up gentlemen, we got this. Peace.

    • @djcezcez8120
      @djcezcez8120 4 года назад +14

      iceman4154 wait, what?

    • @jude9876
      @jude9876 4 года назад

      @@iceman4154 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

    • @genesis4k
      @genesis4k 4 года назад +3

      iceman4154 okay let’s take a chill pill. There are good woman
      Edit: not many but there definitely are good women

    • @Chronorust
      @Chronorust 4 года назад +3

      @@iceman4154 Is that what you think about your mother, sister or friends as well? It's funny, I can't tell if you're being serious 😂 Acting and thinking this way is seriously helping to isolate from the problems instead of coming together to understand and solve them.

    • @zeelzezuzlordoffries8716
      @zeelzezuzlordoffries8716 4 года назад

      @@Chronorust I believe masuclinity is getting a bad rep because you have the worse ones preaching it. Kind of like christianity

  • @imdjc4
    @imdjc4 4 года назад +623

    "Who makes a boy into a man
    It's the job of another man
    Who knows his role as a father
    He bothers to give his son his soul" - Chuck D, 1991

  • @tahirisaid2693
    @tahirisaid2693 9 месяцев назад +228

    Ryan Holidays book, “the obstacle is the way” got me through one of the hardest moments in my life. I would listen to it over and over on Audible for days. I recommend it. Hearing the quotes from stoic philosophers makes me feel strong and limitless. And it got me to realize that the secret to making a million is making better investment.

    • @tahirisaid2693
      @tahirisaid2693 9 месяцев назад

      I started out with a financial advisor called *" Rochelle Dungca Schreiber ".* Her honest approach gives me complete ownership and control of my positions, and her rates are incredibly affordable given my ROI. However, do your due diligence before contacting a financial advisor.

    • @tahirisaid2693
      @tahirisaid2693 9 месяцев назад

      You can glance her name up on the internet and verify her yourself. She has years of financial market experience

  • @tarasicristiandrei1869
    @tarasicristiandrei1869 4 года назад +59

    It's refreshing to see someone talking about masculinity on youtube, without being a mgtow or pick up artist.

    • @chrisgould101
      @chrisgould101 3 года назад +7

      Mgtow was just a response to the extremist feminism currently plaguing us. There's no such thing as toxic masculinity though.. masculinity is beautiful.

    • @robinluich6626
      @robinluich6626 3 года назад +2

      As a woman I find this awesome.

  • @mosesdevadass6056
    @mosesdevadass6056 4 года назад +522

    I’m 16 but I’m going to remember this video for a long time

    • @donlekrosan4291
      @donlekrosan4291 4 года назад +4

      Would you look at that I thought I was one of a kind

    • @tasbruh3770
      @tasbruh3770 4 года назад +3

      Moses Devadass Same bro

    • @bobbylacomb7394
      @bobbylacomb7394 4 года назад +4

      Same brother

    • @WheelBite97
      @WheelBite97 4 года назад +16

      Ace Degenerate your comment is dumb

    • @bigtimepimpin666
      @bigtimepimpin666 4 года назад +9

      @Ace Degenerate you judge the guy because he'd rather spend time with his kid than trying to keep uo with the Jones. Great

  • @nobu8953
    @nobu8953 6 лет назад +432

    This is 100% accurate. I am a paraprofessional to a boy with a lot of anger issues, which therapists were claiming he was emotional unstable and put him on prescription drugs. After I began working with him, of course with a lot of patience because he was constantly angry and defiant, he matured and no longer needs meds or the help of his therapist to cope. He has no father and I knew that this had to be the root of his problem, with me by his side he felt like he had that leader there to guide him. He is now working hard in his studies and is taking his time to work on his low temperament. I've been a great help to this boy and we have developed the much needed Father/Son bond he desperately needed. Men aren't so bad in the world after all.

    • @Orderofman
      @Orderofman  6 лет назад +31

      Glad you're working on this important issue.

    • @gunner1387
      @gunner1387 4 года назад +10

      Get him in martial arts

    • @justsomebird4285
      @justsomebird4285 4 года назад +9

      scott Kelley Agreed. Athletics as a whole is a great step, not only is it good for their health, but they can form friendships and bonds in a friendly and competitive community. I took Taekwondo when I was young and it really helped me a ton and later I moved on to Jiu Jitsu, Boxing, Kickboxing, and MMA.

    • @ghosttankcommander5397
      @ghosttankcommander5397 4 года назад +1

      Rafa Mart they never where so bad... society wants them to look and be bad so they can control them easier..

    • @williammorse8330
      @williammorse8330 4 года назад +4

      God bless you for your patience and insight..... you have probably saved this young man's life.... greetings from
      Bellows Falls, Vermont

  • @marcelolage1395
    @marcelolage1395 4 года назад +290

    4th: watch 70's, 80's and 90's action movies with him

    • @zeelzezuzlordoffries8716
      @zeelzezuzlordoffries8716 4 года назад +14

      Dragonball Z dude. Epitome of manliness.

    • @mixnflix101
      @mixnflix101 4 года назад +29

      Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Bruce Willis, Kurt Russel.. them old action movies are testosterone in film form lol. I remember hitting 10 years old and convincing my Father I was finally ready for 18 rated movies and watched Commando, Predator and Soldier back to back. That was a good day lol.

    • @keith_da_chief
      @keith_da_chief 4 года назад +6

      Emphasis on the 80's and 90's.

    • @MrMetalsi
      @MrMetalsi 4 года назад +2

      Yes let him watch: A Bronx Tale

    • @ajsienda
      @ajsienda 4 года назад +3

      Just watch Charles Bronson movies

  • @LiveLifeMusik
    @LiveLifeMusik 4 года назад +221

    Crazy how much more relavent this is a year later.

    • @eleojoakor9088
      @eleojoakor9088 4 года назад +1

      A. Ross Official 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @ligninman
      @ligninman 4 года назад +4

      Little did you know this was needed for at least 20 years now

    • @secondeye1574
      @secondeye1574 4 года назад +2

      it’s not, only triggered conservatives think this is relevant. masculinity is a construct so the idea that theres something inherently essential to learning to be a man is stupid

    • @steampunkastronaut7081
      @steampunkastronaut7081 4 года назад +2

      @@secondeye1574 No wonder you have no name.

    • @secondeye1574
      @secondeye1574 4 года назад +1

      @@steampunkastronaut7081 no wonder you have no argument

  • @brettolson9544
    @brettolson9544 4 года назад +640

    They already have been teaching 5 year old boys about "toxic masculinity" through TV, movies, music, and in school. Often not overtly, but very subtlely and often.

    • @markflierl1624
      @markflierl1624 4 года назад +56

      That's true. The only things kids are learning are the extremes. Hollywood shows them either extremely aggressive men or incompetent and homosexual men.

    • @joebob978
      @joebob978 4 года назад +28

      Sooner or later, you gotta show your kid the bible and explain how the world is evil and run by the devil.

    • @sala.9668
      @sala.9668 4 года назад +4

      Mark Flierl good observation. Yes. All to subtle.

    • @nickb3383
      @nickb3383 4 года назад +10

      You need to counter that. Find male mentors for your son. And become a mentor to him. You need to show him that it's great to be a boy and a man. That the bullshit political propaganda doesnt care about his well being in the long run. Masculinity is something that we need in this world. Without it we are as good as done as a species.

    • @shrektical7674
      @shrektical7674 4 года назад

      True story bro

  • @willyslife1903
    @willyslife1903 4 года назад +226

    My nephew didn't have a dad around so I was his father and friend when he had no father figure I taught him everything I could from being a good person, work hard, honest, how to study and get info, fishing, how to fight, workout, eat for health etc... there is alot to being a father figure... number 1 is being there

    • @wisegeo356
      @wisegeo356 4 года назад +8

      willy's life 💯💯

    • @turtletaleswithcrush
      @turtletaleswithcrush 4 года назад +1

      You are a good person

    • @myfirstcrappyvideobilly
      @myfirstcrappyvideobilly 4 года назад +1

      That's a good thing you did

    • @ramingr
      @ramingr 4 года назад +1

      That's really great. However, had it been a girl, would that change anything?

    • @willyslife1903
      @willyslife1903 4 года назад

      @@ramingr no.. we have other neices as well and we show them how to work on cars and change tires and all the stuff the boys know.. girls need to learn what the guys do to. My wife has an automotive degree like me and we both have fishing, hunting camping etc. Back grounds.

  • @GawgaCracka
    @GawgaCracka 4 года назад +19

    My 15 year old son, who's been homeschooled since 1st grade, is now doing college freshman lesson plans, we work out daily, say the pledge, and pray everyday, at 15 he is certainly more mature than most millenials in their mid 20's living in their parents basement. Good on ya brotha, glad to have found your channel.🇺🇸

  • @professormeowingtonsphd1326
    @professormeowingtonsphd1326 4 года назад +425

    It's hard to turn a boy into a man if he's not even a boy anymore.

    • @umarsyed7538
      @umarsyed7538 4 года назад +3

      huh...good point

    • @orrinwells6571
      @orrinwells6571 4 года назад +26

      lol 😂 that’s fucked and true

    • @Spreadingwingsmine
      @Spreadingwingsmine 4 года назад +24

      I am a sissy boy but I identify as a man with a beautiful boy pussy

    • @pammunoz546
      @pammunoz546 4 года назад +3

      Enserio Notemientó hmm yum

    • @TheAnarchist99
      @TheAnarchist99 4 года назад +9

      @@Spreadingwingsmine you're gay

  • @toddh2410
    @toddh2410 4 года назад +302

    And teach them how to do things like home repair and improvements. Teach them how to fix your own dam brakes on their car so they don’t have to pay a huge amount of money for someone else to do it. Teach them to use their hands and not depend so much on other people.

    • @countseppuku1775
      @countseppuku1775 4 года назад +43

      I agree. As a young shy teen, I worked in maintenance with other grown men. It really helps you develop confidence. The knowledge that you can fix things on your own, is something you can’t replace.

    • @Savvynomad225
      @Savvynomad225 4 года назад +14

      And teach them to lift weights and build strength.
      "Strong people are harder to kill than weak people and more useful in general."
      Mark Rippetoe

    • @ViriatusYT
      @ViriatusYT 4 года назад +15

      @@Savvynomad225 Better make them learn how to fight. Muscles wont make you win a fight if you dont know to fight.

    • @Savvynomad225
      @Savvynomad225 4 года назад +10

      @@ViriatusYT sure. In the process of learning to fight, also learn to get strong. Most of the best fighters are also very strong.

    • @osmacar5331
      @osmacar5331 4 года назад +15

      we should teach that to all, not just males, women need to stop being taught to be prissy shits and men to not be as aggressive, women need to pull their weight and men need to stop pulling ALL the weight, that comment is a little sexist towards men in saying only a true man can fix things

  • @SammyG-123
    @SammyG-123 4 года назад +371

    A hugely disproportionate amount of America's most deadly mass shooters grew up without a stable father in the home.

    • @towmater1451
      @towmater1451 4 года назад +29

      Probably because like half the country is divorced

    • @tylermcflyer3061
      @tylermcflyer3061 4 года назад +18

      SammyG 123 yep we don’t need less masculinity we need more of it

    • @ghosttankcommander5397
      @ghosttankcommander5397 4 года назад +7

      SammyG 123 right then they want to blame at-15s... a simple tool... over the man problem... BECAUSE THEY STARTED IT!

    • @ghosttankcommander5397
      @ghosttankcommander5397 4 года назад +6

      Tyler Mcflyer indeed or else a more masculine society is gonna blow through our forces and grab this country easy... because feminized men don’t join the armed forces...

    • @tylermcflyer3061
      @tylermcflyer3061 4 года назад

      Ghost tankcommander Bingo and it’s already happening to Europe

  • @jeremysears4263
    @jeremysears4263 4 года назад +32

    This man is spitting wisdom. He's got *vision*
    That's what men need. Vision

    • @chrisgould101
      @chrisgould101 3 года назад

      We have vision. Currently that vision is being blurred with the false tears of feminists and the thick smog of Marxism infiltrating western society. It's time to fight back.

  • @zekezzekekan2144
    @zekezzekekan2144 4 года назад +18

    I was raised without a father or a male influence in my life. I'm so happy there's people like you doing stuff like this on RUclips.
    My mom does her best but only a man can teach men certain things.
    I found myself a good role model on what it's like to be a man and he's got an epic beard to match.

    • @Jennawatkins73026
      @Jennawatkins73026 3 года назад +1

      I'm so sorry this man poisoned your brain on what a "REAL" man should. i wish you the best in life. 😀👍✨

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 3 года назад

      @@Jennawatkins73026 what is a real man then?

    • @GigaNigga140
      @GigaNigga140 Год назад +2

      @@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 never ask a melanie what a man should be like

  • @ameerskater
    @ameerskater 4 года назад +50

    I was raised fatherless for the most part, and I took it upon myself and joined the military and I think that helped get me on the right track and taught me a lot about manhood

    • @kirkdunn1379
      @kirkdunn1379 4 года назад +4

      I would agree
      Am not a military man not do I agree with politics behind most of it, still I cant deny I've seen more boys grow up to be men they military so there has to be something to it.....

  • @hayden-uw7cy
    @hayden-uw7cy 4 года назад +176

    Respect from Germany 👍 we have the same Problems here

    • @sebastianp.7880
      @sebastianp.7880 4 года назад +8

      Arguably even worse from my experience at least

    • @SupaHoon
      @SupaHoon 4 года назад +12

      Don't worry, your new guests will father the next generation in your absence

    • @jaeggerhead
      @jaeggerhead 4 года назад +2

      Haven't met one single man in germany yet. Just boys trying so hard to be alpha lmao. Why even bother being alpha when u can be the omega

    • @spyfox9796
      @spyfox9796 4 года назад +4

      SupaHoon True that, our lovely friends will do that 😡
      Germans have to stand strong and as a unit to become the glorious nation we once were (1960-2000‘s)

    • @petrovanu
      @petrovanu 4 года назад +4

      @@spyfox9796 bro in case you forgot not even the 2 WW could not change The Germans!I live here and I'm convinced that they have more mans per/square meter than anywhere!

  • @morningnapalm9963
    @morningnapalm9963 4 года назад +10

    1:04 Wow. The emotions in these eyes. So full of heart, of passion, and a conviction of purpose. That is manly.
    "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

  • @yuri-nt3np
    @yuri-nt3np 4 года назад +12

    Sir, you are being a dad like my dad never was. In 3 or 4 vids that I've seen I learned more than with him. And I'm 19 yrs old

  • @antonioalviar575
    @antonioalviar575 4 года назад +20

    I just have to say, thanks. We need to speak the truth. I was hoodwinked Into thinking my masculinity was toxic for most of my life. It's only in my adult life did I actually realize how deeply I'd been programmed. It hurts you and stunts your growth as a man. Handicaps you even. But recovery is always possible. No matter how you've been traumatized or indoctrinated growing up. Follow your instincts. Seek answers and we get to actually find them.

  • @muhammadmahboobulhaq4144
    @muhammadmahboobulhaq4144 4 года назад +501

    4. Dont have children without marriage/relationship

  • @eljefeguapobarbon
    @eljefeguapobarbon 4 года назад +4

    This is why my boys grew into great young men and why I still respect my father. Dad. Coach. Mentor. Repeat.

  • @jerrad3587
    @jerrad3587 4 года назад +92

    How could anyone dislike this? This dude is spot on the money.

    • @downsjmmyjones101
      @downsjmmyjones101 4 года назад +9

      He's quite wrong actually. He thinks toxic masculinity is an indictment of men when it's an indictment of a cultural belief about men.
      Other than that he seems to be right. In order to have a positive influence on society, men have to at least be a part of society. He seems to just be hammering on the absent father problem.

    • @billyt.7306
      @billyt.7306 4 года назад

      @@downsjmmyjones101 Because he hates gay people. "Absent father" argument always equals homophobia, or at least that's the way I've seen every homophobe present it.

    • @downsjmmyjones101
      @downsjmmyjones101 4 года назад +7

      @@billyt.7306 How is it an indication of homophobia?

    • @NigelUltra
      @NigelUltra 4 года назад +10

      Homophobia doesn't exist. Nobody holds an irrational fear of gays.

    • @AK-cq6px
      @AK-cq6px 4 года назад

      because masculinity ≠ toxic masculinity. this dude speaks nonsense

  • @FlatlandMando
    @FlatlandMando 4 года назад +27

    No more passive tv watching & beer bellies! This guy speaks well of the issues. Thinking well often = speaking well

  • @georgestacey9558
    @georgestacey9558 6 лет назад +26

    Reminds me of how young male elephants without older male elephants ( killed off by poachers) will be more aggressive and destructive. I grew up without a father (in my case my father died, yet it has some of the same problems of just being neglected) what a burden that can be in the long run just trying to figure things out. Thank God for men who do for their sons in the way you've laid out. If someone brings a life into this world they owe them that much.

    • @georgestacey9558
      @georgestacey9558 6 лет назад

      Lee Davenport I am not an elephant, I agree. There is differences. Though to learn from other forms of life is always possible. Besides I found it interesting and wanted to share it, seemed like a good spot to bring it up. And life has a way of programming us, I also agree then that I have programming to work through that may be harmful. In fact I agree very much that we (me too of course) can be hypnotized by many things, and believe things without qustion. Did I miss something here with regards a basic attitude or thought? I'm I being one sided? Maybe I sound like I'm saying we should trust blind comformity, just because it is more smiled upon by the group, more tamed? I like Confucius type respect for my elders, to a degree, yet I believe young Chinese began to be manipulated and pushed around unjustly by the tradition at some point. I try not to be black and white on life and there is always context to consider. Thank you for bringing this up, I think there is something there to consider.

    • @georgestacey9558
      @georgestacey9558 6 лет назад

      Lee Davenport I just want to add that my father died when I was young, he was from a world now gone, I'm 40, he died at 56 in 1987. Cancer. Be for he got real sick he was very hard on me, I believe I was carrying wood twice my sizes around the time I could walk, he was set to make me a man, he would beat on me for the smallest reasons and I spent a lot if time hiding beneath the bed and such. I was 8 when he passed, leaving his education (?) mid driff and me maybe damaged and confused, so I know education of that sort, even with good intention can do harm (you shouldn't beat on a child and one could die without completing the task of making one's son tough, if it is tough, to the brutal sides of life, leaving just a mess). Like wise I hate a billboard in our town of John Wayn which has the quote "I don't like a quiter son" because who knows how someone will take it and be ironically discouraged and estranged from the community instead of encouraged or inspired (another possibility to be fair). Someone paranoid, and broken may be effected by the sign in a way someone with a different circumstance maybe effected. I don't believe that is weak sentiment, but practical consideration, the world is a tower of Bable and real time understanding is always better then generic hype.

  • @mojave7025
    @mojave7025 4 года назад +6

    "Be constructive, not destructive". Love this. Thank you

  • @candiced710
    @candiced710 2 года назад

    Thank you! Amazing video!

  • @stevenrichards8880
    @stevenrichards8880 4 года назад +16

    Well spoken sir! God bless you and your family.

  • @zzzz5449
    @zzzz5449 4 года назад +141

    Sweden is like USA but more hardcore liberal. Sweden has taken it to a whole new level so if you want to stop what’s happening over in the States, you need to act fast before it’s to late like it is in Sweden

    • @austinmac2693
      @austinmac2693 4 года назад +37

      Wilbur Wafer lmao Sweden is in complete decay now. Overrated asf

    • @darthdarthbinkss
      @darthdarthbinkss 4 года назад +50

      @Wilbur Wafer Oh yes, Sweden, the country with one of the highest rape rates in the world.

    • @theandy4ever
      @theandy4ever 4 года назад +15

      @Wilbur Wafer Singapore, Japan, Australia, Spain etc but that's besides the point. Everyone is dead inside these days, low paying jobs push people to work longer hours. Ain't nobody got time for family

    • @zzzz5449
      @zzzz5449 4 года назад +23

      Wilbur Wafer Sweden is a paradise for leftist scunks and immigrants. Stop saying Sweden is the best country etc. because it’s really not. Everyone with working brain cells can tell that Sweden is a shitty place...

    • @drosnova2911
      @drosnova2911 4 года назад +9

      @Wilbur WaferDon't conflate high standards of living with actually living well.

  • @jderpz23
    @jderpz23 4 года назад +10

    Take accountability and responsibility.
    Do the right thing.
    Be awesome.

  • @ryanj4423
    @ryanj4423 4 года назад +1

    More power to you brother.

  • @LoVE.B.
    @LoVE.B. 4 года назад +4

    I woke up one day and my dad was gone, no where to be seen. I am more of a man than he is. When he looks at me he is so ashamed of what he didn't teach me. I am a proud dad of three beautiful girls and they bring out the best of me. My 1 year old is getting the best of me. And you young "men" out there stay with your kids and they will become something amazing. Cherish every day. 🙏

  • @prashantkrishnankutty6038
    @prashantkrishnankutty6038 4 года назад +338

    8 feminist and single mom's disliked this video

    • @YoTeeFan
      @YoTeeFan 4 года назад +9

      Yup, I was just going to say that, the unhappy 8 people have no idea how this message is STRAIGHT UP in our grill and needs to be said!!

    • @bethanyudonome4219
      @bethanyudonome4219 4 года назад +10

      Single moms would love to have dinner real men in their community. Men who don't find it a priority to trash talk women. Are you gay?

    • @prashantkrishnankutty6038
      @prashantkrishnankutty6038 4 года назад +1

      @@YoTeeFan just see a women who is just going to hit the wall is calling men gay. Isn't it pathetic and funny.

    • @prashantkrishnankutty6038
      @prashantkrishnankutty6038 4 года назад +2

      @YoungRe3hunnid on point my man

    • @prashantkrishnankutty6038
      @prashantkrishnankutty6038 4 года назад +3

      @Sailor of the Mind it isn't neccessary you have to have a father to succeed in life but he can guide you. I know some men of our generation are beta and childish. You only need your heavenly father to succeed in life.

  • @mecofranklin2402
    @mecofranklin2402 4 года назад +1

    Excellent message!!

  • @renwood500
    @renwood500 2 года назад

    Thank you! Excellent commentary!

  • @abelroman5210
    @abelroman5210 6 лет назад +34

    We have to model the behaviors we want our boys to emulate as fathers and leaders in our houses. Excellent video. Thanks for sharing and God bless!

  • @eltm6146
    @eltm6146 6 лет назад +4

    Great words mate !!!

  • @GirlRot96
    @GirlRot96 4 года назад +1

    Love the podcast man. So glad for the RUclips channel as well.

  • @CapitolHillNudeBeach
    @CapitolHillNudeBeach 4 года назад +1

    Hell Yes. This is the most important job we have. Keep fighting the good fight bro.

  • @brenhinalimpic3174
    @brenhinalimpic3174 4 года назад +3

    I was talking about this today, how great that I coincidentally came across this video.
    Subscribed!

  • @Radioactive_Treehouse
    @Radioactive_Treehouse 4 года назад +3

    This is one of the greatest videos I've ever watched. I can't thank you enough!

  • @allieb7321
    @allieb7321 4 года назад +1

    Honestly I’m so glad I came across your channel. You speak on the issue so clearly and are a breathe of fresh air that‘s been badly needed. Thank you for sharing!

  • @danielc7564
    @danielc7564 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. Very encouraging. LETS DO THIS

  • @coleharris8045
    @coleharris8045 6 лет назад +7

    You know Ryan, I think one the most important things on my journey towards true manhood (it's early days yet) has been people like you. People who are preaching the right message, telling boys what manhood looks like. Thank you.

  • @Max-cq7ni
    @Max-cq7ni 4 года назад +4

    We need more people like you dawg. You explained it beautifully.

  • @billbill825
    @billbill825 4 года назад +1

    Beautiful message! Way to go.

  • @tatotato4307
    @tatotato4307 4 года назад +1

    I've started this journey a year ago and even though it's not easy at all, I see improvement in my social circle and myself. I'm grateful to see that others are taking notice of the situation that we as a society are in. Thank you!

  • @vinnyrivera485
    @vinnyrivera485 4 года назад +3

    Amen!! We have to be a force for change in our communities!!

  • @brice9996
    @brice9996 4 года назад +4

    2:10 Yes !! Exactly ! Spot on Brother !!!

  • @UndergroundAuthenticOfficial
    @UndergroundAuthenticOfficial 4 года назад +3

    I'm loving this content....definitely something I'm happy to have found and would love to get involved in what you're doing! Keep up the great work men!

  • @claymiked6582
    @claymiked6582 4 года назад +1

    This was good. Thank you.

  • @prettz9742
    @prettz9742 4 года назад +5

    Good video sir. you've earned yourself a new subscriber. Keep up the good work

  • @mrhuntalot123
    @mrhuntalot123 4 года назад +14

    Grew up never knowing my dad. Trying to become a man at the age of 20 with many drugs and failures under my belt.

    • @terklark5237
      @terklark5237 4 года назад +2

      Bro God loves you and always will, he is your ultimate father, seek guidance from the Holy Spirit
      No matter what a huge amount of people are rooting for you

    • @myfirstcrappyvideobilly
      @myfirstcrappyvideobilly 4 года назад +1

      I met my father at 27. He was cool. Really chill. My Mom likes to call 911 in an argument so I assume she did that and he left because in Baltimore in 1981 the police were dangerous for a black man.

  • @_solo_17
    @_solo_17 4 года назад

    Spot on brother, subscribed 👍

  • @rzub
    @rzub Год назад

    Thank you for making this video Sir.

  • @taylorwestbrook14
    @taylorwestbrook14 4 года назад +4

    As a new father man I think this is freaking awesome! Subbed for sure

  • @dandyandy2046
    @dandyandy2046 4 года назад +4

    As a dad of two young men, I cannot express how important this message is.

  • @rileygraham1506
    @rileygraham1506 4 года назад +1

    Great video. Everyone needs to see this. Rock on 🤘

  • @aceboogie959
    @aceboogie959 4 года назад

    Straight to the point. Thank you Sir

  • @etiblmca9267
    @etiblmca9267 6 лет назад +5

    Such an easy message to understand, but still many fathers aren't there. Please share this video so fathers can become dads.

  • @jekubb4348
    @jekubb4348 4 года назад +22

    Never had a “dad”! I’m a dad now myself...a man myself!!! I had to learn how to be! What do you say to a young person like myself who has to find their own way!?

    • @charlesmckinley29
      @charlesmckinley29 4 года назад +3

      Jekub B find a mentor. Someone in your church, work or social circle that is older than you and has his stuff together and is willing to give you advice and guidance when you need it. Look at a man's friends and you see who he is. Stay strong. I will pray for you. There is a lot of good information here and over at Warrior Poets Society.

    • @abum3thedon
      @abum3thedon 4 года назад

      Boy! you are very strong, god doesn't put you in situation you cannot handle.when l read your comment i remember lots of great ppl such as Tupac, Lebron James... They were in situation like you but they made themselves.

    • @fabulousimcatbulous690
      @fabulousimcatbulous690 4 года назад

      What kind of things you expect to be said to you about that?
      Genuinely curious.

    • @robinluich6626
      @robinluich6626 3 года назад

      Look for a good male role model.
      Decide what kind of person you want as a dad and be that kind of person

  • @melanearico2189
    @melanearico2189 2 года назад

    Thank you for this video.

  • @88yaz88
    @88yaz88 4 года назад

    ❤this is wonderful to see and I'm 100% supporting this.

  • @definitionez2104
    @definitionez2104 4 года назад +6

    God bless you, you are a man amongst men

  • @smcful4199
    @smcful4199 4 года назад +3

    Yeah, man it's a power. Love what you are saying.

  • @pound4poundbeast
    @pound4poundbeast 4 года назад

    This is BY FAR one the best channels!

  • @orispacheco3325
    @orispacheco3325 4 года назад

    Aaaaaand subscribed. Well spoken

  • @blacktailed4life628
    @blacktailed4life628 4 года назад +3

    So true I’m coaching multiple sports it’s amazing how many broken homes there are. Remember some of these boys take more time who knows what they have been through. Don’t give up on them it’s amazing to watch them transform. It takes love and patience through understanding to break down the barriers. Children are a mirror image of there surroundings what are we influencing? And why?

  • @vurhn2009
    @vurhn2009 4 года назад +3

    We sure do live in a society, gamers, kakyoin, and joker gangs rise up!

  • @pedroerocha4194
    @pedroerocha4194 4 года назад

    Awesome, thank you

  • @mauricevdc6548
    @mauricevdc6548 4 года назад

    Wow thank you great video

  • @andrepastor520
    @andrepastor520 4 года назад +3

    Also, teach them that society is going after them. Be proud of manhood and stay true.

  • @jediscum33
    @jediscum33 4 года назад +3

    I always say the only thing harder then being a parent is being a step parent. Also shout out to all my fatherless fathers out there. It’s hard being a first generation father but thanks to this channel and channels like it there is information for those of us that give a flip. Thank you.

  • @matthewschemers
    @matthewschemers 4 года назад

    Great video man.

  • @tonyolivieri6308
    @tonyolivieri6308 4 года назад

    Thank you for saying this out loud!!

  • @atakansakalli
    @atakansakalli 4 года назад +66

    Isn’t it weird that most of the things that considered as “manly” are merely the common sense of what people should do? For example being a good role model or teaching children how to be responsible. I do not think that anyone within its right mind, believes that fathers or mothers should ignore their children and I seriously do not believe that anyone calls these obvious bad behaviours Toxic Masculinity. I believe there are misunderstanding of terms. Why would toxic masculinity mean something that is exteremely opposite of common senses?

    • @downsjmmyjones101
      @downsjmmyjones101 4 года назад +7

      Toxic masculinity is a cultural belief that men are inherently better leaders and should ignore emotional vulnerability as well as many other incorrect ideas about men.
      Your first sentence is an interesting argument for gender being useless though. That's a fun one.

    • @atakansakalli
      @atakansakalli 4 года назад +2

      @@downsjmmyjones101 I didnt understand what you tried to say in 2nd paragraph

    • @downsjmmyjones101
      @downsjmmyjones101 4 года назад +5

      @@atakansakalli The idea that what is manly is shared among the genders is the first step. From there you can say that the genders share a lot more. Eventually gender starts to look pretty silly with all the similarities.

    • @yu_cp8978
      @yu_cp8978 4 года назад +1

      Well, feminists aren't wrong when they say society values men's traits more than women's. The difference is that they think that's bad.

    • @shawnbenoit3774
      @shawnbenoit3774 4 года назад +4

      @@yu_cp8978 I don't think society necessarily believes that. If anything men are at a point of self reflection because of so much damage caused by us, even our offspring, even our future men. You yourself is inherently making femininity a lesser to masculinity when they both go hand in hand.

  • @chompchompmaster2885
    @chompchompmaster2885 4 года назад +4

    As a 15 year old without a father watching this kinda hits home as I dont really know what to do to become a real man

    • @shawnbenoit3774
      @shawnbenoit3774 4 года назад

      Yes you do

    • @Jennawatkins73026
      @Jennawatkins73026 3 года назад

      hey buddy i'm no parent by any means but you don't have to fit societys norms of "BECOMING A REAL MAN". be whatever the fuck you want to be. if you wanna wear a dress, you do that. if you want to wear a skirt, you do that. if you want to be gay, bi pan, or anything other than a typical cis straight male you FUCKING DO THAT. there is no such thing as a man but there is such thing as a......
      human.

  • @299justme
    @299justme 4 года назад

    Well said!

  • @melagrazal
    @melagrazal 5 месяцев назад

    Right on brother!

  • @johnnyc1227
    @johnnyc1227 6 лет назад +13

    I remember watching a program about elephants in an African game preserve where the older male elephants were culled or moved. The younger elephants started destroying things & occasionally killing a Rhino or other animal. Someone finally thought to bring in older males, guess what they calmed the young ones & things got way better no more running amok causing trouble.

    • @Orderofman
      @Orderofman  6 лет назад +2

      Have you read Lord of the Flies?

    • @johnnyc1227
      @johnnyc1227 6 лет назад +2

      I know several school principles & teachers they have told me of the bedlam in their classrooms caused by laws & protocols made up by legislators & other functionaries that limit what they can do as discipline. Teachers are not allowed to touch that is restrain, no grabbing a hand or arm, no blocking a child's egress or access to anything, if the child is threatening to kill or throwing things the teacher has to clear the classroom & leave the child in that room to do what he wants. In one instance a child who was "relatively" calm in the morning was on a morning only school. The grandparents raising him got lawyers (one of their specialties) to make the school take him for the entire day. This boy (grade school)has threatened to kill & has chocked an aid & has access to his grandparents guns. If a child is this much of a problem he/she can be suspended or moved to another school but if he has been diagnosed with any mental or etc.. problem nothing can be done. The teachers in one district know a couple of teens that most won't be surprised if they come shooting. Then there is a recent shooter who was known by kids , teachers & police to be a threat but a local politician w/cooperating police chief didn't do anything about him because their policy was not to arrest or cause a record to be made for kids so as not to impede their way into college. The last one was in the news. This is the result of our "liberal progressives" trying to craft a perfect world. We know how that's turning out & then some wonder why there are all these shootings.

  • @matthewsawczyn6592
    @matthewsawczyn6592 4 года назад +7

    As Jordan Peterson says: take on responsibility. "Lift a damn load!" That's what we crave

  • @Aaron-ge1hy
    @Aaron-ge1hy 4 года назад +1

    Well said, sir!

  • @zulu6ix290
    @zulu6ix290 4 года назад +1

    These are great points

  • @bronx_logannoexcusesworkou3639
    @bronx_logannoexcusesworkou3639 4 года назад +3

    Good talk. Lead by example
    Also great beard.

  • @ryderwilson7955
    @ryderwilson7955 4 года назад +41

    So the source of every true man is his father
    **Fatherless child left the chat**
    literally me

    • @edgarift
      @edgarift 4 года назад +4

      Ryder Wilson we’re here for you brother

    • @shawnbenoit3774
      @shawnbenoit3774 4 года назад +2

      My dad was fatherless and used the neglect as a way to be the exact opposite of what his dad was to me.

    • @shawnbenoit3774
      @shawnbenoit3774 4 года назад

      @Dr. Jekyll pretty good lol I was a punk teenager but grew out of that. Just be heavily involved in your child's life and reassure them that you're always there. Teach what you learned and learn from them what you need to work on yourself.

    • @Mantis858585
      @Mantis858585 4 года назад

      Find a good role model.

    • @breadskate4622
      @breadskate4622 4 года назад +2

      Then become what your father never was

  • @BrainDead235
    @BrainDead235 4 года назад

    Preach my man good shit

  • @justinjacobsen7159
    @justinjacobsen7159 4 года назад

    Amen brother, keep on keeping on and teaching Truth.