Raising Boys and the Making of a Man
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- Опубликовано: 21 апр 2017
- In this day and age, I believe a young boy could grow up and go their entire life without getting a good idea of what it really means to be a man. Some were blessed enough to have good fathers who understood what it meant to be a man and passed on this knowledge to their sons. Increasingly more so, this is a rarity, as 1/3 of all kids now grow up in a home without their biological fathers. The statistics regarding crime rates associated with those growing up in fatherless homes is startling. I wonder how much crime would simply disappear if every home had a good father figure in it raising children well. How many gangs would simply dry up and disappear? I think cops would find themselves refreshingly bored. I know this is all wishful thinking, but my point is this: fathers need to step up. Think of the impact if you and I came alive as fathers? Your children will grow up and affect the lives of countless others and their children will go on and do the same. This ripple affect - this opportunity of compounding influence - has got to overwhelmingly dwarf whatever the majority of us may hope to accomplish at our jobs. Love your kids men. Teach them to be strong, dedicated, focused, gentle, fierce, loyal - teach them to be men.
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The day you released this video is the day I brought my newborn son home from the hospital. Looking forward to raising him up.
+ROBERT PETERSON sooo cool! Congrats
How is raising you son going?!
Enjoy....it's the best job you'll ever have
Just got this video in my recommended happy third birthday to your son ! Stay safe in covid 🤘
nate y thank you sir but birthday is April 20th
John, my dad died when I was 4. I grew up in a fatherless home with a drug addicted mom. My journey into true “manhood” has taken me a lot longer than it would have otherwise. One thing that has always been very clear to me is how important dads are. I could always physically see the difference they made in other families and some of my best memories are of men taking a few minutes or a few days out of their lives to offer me a hand in understanding my role in the world. As a dad now myself, I’m able to take all of my negative experience in life and use it as motivation to see that my son gets the things he deserves as a growing boy. It’s the most rewarding and emotionally demanding job I’ve ever had.
I guess what I’m saying is that you hit the nail on the head. I carry the scars of growing up without a dad with me everywhere I go. As a man, though, I’m able to decide how those scars affect me. I use them as a reminder of the power I wield in my son’s life and as a motivator to be the best dad I can possibly be.
Just wanted to pass along a thank you.
Thanks for your comment. My 5 yr old nephew is in the same situation. I lost my brother (his father) in a car accident three months ago and worry about his son. I see him almost everyday when I go to walk their dog for my sister-in-law and play with him for an hour. My brother and I didn't have good father figures so to see my brother create a good life for himself and begin his journey into fatherhood felt really good. I relate to what you mentioned about certain men just taking a few moments to bond and teach. I have a couple deep memories of men I've met only a handful of times. I hope to help guide my nephew in a way my brother would both approve and be proud of.
Great video John Lovell. Kids need dads presence, not dads presents.
AMEN!
I will be using this quote. Thank you
Your opening statement is what I’ve taught my children all their lives. If a man (not politically correct) doesn’t try to instill courage and morality into his children’s lives, they may not ever grow to be courageous and moral. Love your channel!
John, I am a boy (17) that aspires to be a man like you one day.
Thank you for all the wisdom on this channel, such a valuable resource for any person, but especially for me.
So thank you, from another appreciative viewer.
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This is my favorite channel by far. You bridge the gap between warrior skills/lifestyle and essential cultural values. Keep it up!
"Disorder in the society is the result of disorder in the family"
-St Elizabeth Ann Seton
Say that backwards.... that’s the truth
While I appreciate this video it turned out the opposite for me. I haven't seen my father since I was a young child, but instead of becoming some soft ill-disciplined, or overly aggressive boy, I took the initiative and became my own father figure. I graduated early from Highschool with almost all A's, got a job at my local military base (civilian), got accepted with a close to full ride scholarship to University, and am in the process of joining the Canadian Armed forces as an Infantry Officer. I am not saying this to brag, but just to show all of those people without a dad/father figure to be your own, and to take your own road. (You prob should anyway but it is really important to those without direct motivation to push yourselves :]
There are many 'great' men who were raised by their single mothers. And that's probably what fueled your success. I read about men like you in the book "Outliers" by Malcolm Gladwell.
Single mom here, so proud of who my sons have become.
This is exactly what needs to be widespread moreso. I never understood how important maturing into a man was until I had a son of my own.
im not going to lie... I'm a 25 year old who fucked up most of his life despite having an amazing father who gave me everything I ever could have hoped for, trying my god dam hardest to to enlist as a 11x. I lost that great man almost 4 years ago in December and come October I will be a father to my first born boy. I'm scared shitless of failing as a father and honestly just in life. but i found your channel last night in the early hours of a sleepless night and i have not stopped watching your videos but this one...this one hit to close to home. and you sir. have given me hope. regardless of if my past will ruin my chances for enlistment I will not fail as a father. stay safe sir and god bless.
Another great message as always. Thanks John
I'm from a broken home, good step dad that tried but i had to learn my own way, often at my own Peril and even jail time. I'm 47 with 2 6 year old twins, boy and girl and an 8 year old son. Fatherhood is the most difficult, scary, demoralizing, happy, joyous and blessed part of a mans life. I work hard, love my wife, love my kids and i want my boys to be honorable, trusted rocks. Guns are a big part of that through practice, hunting and eating what we kill. I want to raise independent children that can take care of each other. Not an easy task and i fail at it often. I am a man without any friends. I run a mid sized company and i have work friends but for the past 15 years or so i have found myself alone without other men to do life together. Other men's input is very important to me and i thank you John for sharing. My kids pick up on my lack of friends as well. I don't want them to turn out like me. Big question: how in the hell do i build a brotherhood of friends? All opinions are welcome! Having friends would make my life better.
I have a strong relationship with my brother and friends in my church. Find a church that teaches the Word of God. The Bible is God's word. And pick one up for yourself. Read it in its plain words don't worry about some sort of mystery or magic or something, God will reveal Himself and truth through it. God said: in this world you will have trouble, but fear not I have overcome the world.
G Moll church is a big part of our lives. I was an associate pastor at our church for a number of years and find great hope and understanding through the word of God. Thanks for stating the truth GMoll. These days people are scared to suggest the truth and the most abundant source of life!
Well said friend, well said.
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This was a great piece John. Well put together for a "rant" or "sneeze"
Not only for the sake of your son, or sons, but for the sake of society as well.
Bless you!
Best thing i have heard you teach yet! Huge Eldredge fan here. Read many of his books. Part of protecting our families is raising our children right! So glad to see you using your platform for this good!
Amen, brother. Good men in America need to start yelling this from the roof tops. I honestly believe most of our issues are parenting issues in this country. The crazy millenials didn't raise themselves and give themselves all of those participation trophies.
Fathers are the leaders, heros, masters and role models of every son that precedes them. God bless.
So true John, my father was constantly away be it during the invasion of iraq in 2003 through to other deployments before and after including northern ireland then after it all i was with him through his struggle with PTSD which led to us being in a semi homeless state and me not seeing him for a few years. But before all that he would take me running and hiking up mountains lecturing me on military history and spurring me on and up it by making it seem like we were in and amongst the jungles of vietnam under IDF fire. He really made me the man i am today for better or worse and we even squeezed in a military parade together when i was 17 just before his retirement(British Army join at 16), now it's come full circle and after my deployment to afghanistan he was by my side with any PTSD i may have had.
Brought my boy home on Monday. Excited to get to work teaching him by example. Thanks for the quality message.
I find myself ever more grateful to have found your channel. Thank you for all you have done for our country and our people.
Great topic
Fatherhood is the most challenging objective I have ever had to negotiate. I am really liking your videos.
Great Stuff! We are a society of fatherless children and absentee parents in general. I see it in almost every young man I meet these days.
Thanks John. I struggle with my teenage boy everyday . He's a beautiful soul but extremely confused . Never give up and do the right thing even when no one is looking that's what my Dad taught me . I hope I can do the same for my son . 🇺🇸
As a kid without a real father this resonates deeply with me. My biological father is in and out of jail and owes thousands in child support. I talk to him every now and again and it feels like I’m talking with a stranger. My family and I have been homeless for almost a year now. Going from a shelter to family to family again has been really exhausting. But I’m just glad there’s men like you on YT that I can look to for as “father figures”
I was lucky as child to have a father, and mother, who knew how to raise a child. The last one to carry the family name. Then I had another. I am proud to have grown another like I was raised. Truly a man's man. We make no excuses for the way we are.
Well put! If only common sense was common. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words! Keep up the fantastic work!
Excellent and well stated message! To have to stop along a road trip to record this, that shows the sincere passion and feeling from the heart.
I absolutely love this. I am a younger father and I strive foe this every day. I think this applys for daughters as well as sons. Both my children hang on every word I say whether I mean for it or not. I learn valuable lessons daily from my kids as do they from me. Thanks for this video
My son is due in 3 weeks, so I love these types of videos! Great hearing from you John.
Mic drop video. Was blessed to have the best father one could ask for. For many years I wondered what skills he left me with. Now that he’s passed, I see how nearly everything I do comes as a result of his fathering me.
The Bible says that as men, we are spiritual leaders of our homes. That means you ARE leading your family somewhere. You get to choose where you are leading them; Towards something better, or to the same crappy experiences/influences you had to deal with.
Thanks John. Proud to stand next to you in the faith and in the fight. Keep on brother!
Great video to come back to. Need to stay reminded how important our jobs as fathers are.
Well said. "Wild at heart" is a great book. A must read for any man, and especially any father.
Man, you make me want to be so much better for my family, and my son. Thank you Sir....Train hard, train smart.....
i grew up fatherless and listening to you help me with being a father to me son. thank you.
Well Spoken. I know many-a-men who had a fatherless childhood who Used That as an example of How Not To Be w/ their own children. They REFUSED to be like their fathers.
Great message, John. The statistics are staggering when it comes to absent fathers. There is a series called 33, Authentic Manhood that delves deep into this topic. It's been quite eye opening. Talks aloft about the wounds we carry around and don't even realize it. Anyhow, again, great message.
Bill-
Very encouraging, keep up the great work. Great to see a man of faith can be strong and dangerous!!!
New father of a 2 year old and a 1 month year old. This is quality information and we appreciate you John
This may well be the most important video you've made, in relation to what's broken within our society & how to fix it. Thanks John.
My Dad passed away almost 10yrs ago. He has made a huge impact on my life and my family. Great message sir.
I have been watching your videos all night and they help me so much they make me take a step back and think, evaluate my choices in life to be honest I have so much to work on I have been in a bottomless pit for awhile now and I cannot wait until the day I feel alright again, thanks John your one of the few good men left in this world God bless.
I have been studying teddy lately as well. I also noticed how he described his relationship with his father and you could just hear the administration he had for his father in his words. Love hearing your insight John. Keep the content coming!
Thanks for the video really liked the knowledge. Just became a stepdad to a 6 year old boy and a 14 year old young lady. Some good words of wisdom.
Well done John! This topic is much needed in today's culture. I love the John Eldridge material.
Thanks John, you're a solid human being. Great post.
I remember when my oldest son was about 2 months old and him and I were sitting on the couch. I looked at this young life and it hit me like a freight train. The most powerful thing in this world was being a parent. It was up to me to raise, sculpt and teach this life to be a man. To mold this person to be a good, loving and honorable man. Enough isn't said on the subject and I'm glad you did. Take care and god bless.
An excellent video with excellent ideas for fathers. Being a good father is truly a difficult task with all of the pop culture and ad machines glamorizing bulging biceped, heartless men. You're an inspiration.
I am a better man just by listening to being open to this. Thanks john.
Sir, your passion on the subjects you speak about is very thought provoking and refreshing. Thank you.
Thank you...I struggle hard right now. I have three step kids..2 boys. I struggle to connect. I struggle to show my softer gentler side to them. I needed to hear this.
Most important video on all of the "gun guy" youtube channels right here... Good stuff, as always.
I have just recently found you. I thank you so much for what you say. I am a grandfather who has sent this link to his son and his grandkids.
great video!!! Need this more than ever in this day and age!
My father was never there for me in an emotional way, and we don't speak now at all, never said he loved me or was proud of me for anything but that disconnect made me have to figure out what being a man was from other father figures such as my uncles and grandfather and also dads of my close friends. So it left me to kind of have to figure out what being a man was all about. Learning respect and manners came from my own morals and my mom's influence. I respect you brother, for putting out this video. Many guys young or old need to see and understand this especially in the millennial generation (which I am part of). Thank you, looking forward to future videos!
Excellent video. I'm glad I found it. Thanks for the content.
Good stuff John, thank you. I wasn't blessed to have a father in my home growing up but thank God I had a praying mother who did an outstanding job playing both roles. I also gravitated to men I respected and learned from them by watching them speak and act but most importantly their character.
And you keep punctuating my point! Pulled over on an access road to do a video because it's bubbling up out of you! Love it! Great stuff as always John! Keep up the great work!
Loved to hear you endorse Wild at Heart by John Eldredge. I'm a recent subscriber and my respect for you just went up another notch. Wild at Heart really shaped my vision of what it means to be a man and a Christian. Keep preaching truth John!
This hits close to home. Thank you for sharing this John.
You Had a Smart , Caring Father. You were very Lucky !!! Thank you for Sharing !!!! God Bless you and Yours !!!
My opinion is that this is your video to date. Thank you.
Another superb video. This has officially become my favorite RUclips channel.
You have got to be the greatest RUclipsr ever. I love every one of your videos. Very motivational and eye opening to some. Keep up the good work!
Total respect ! Loved the video
I am that 1/3 and I recognize how that has affected my life and development as a man. It is definitely a complex issue that needs more attention.
In having recently discovered your content, I am pleased to know the Warrior Poet exists. You are a true philosopher and American. Thank you.
Thank you for this lesson I will pass it on I didn't grow up with Dad but I now have a son of my own and I vow he will never have to learn how to be a man on his own I will pass my knowledge on to him all my failures and triumphs.
"Be safe & Have fun" was burned into my mind at a young age.
Man I love your channel! Glad I found it the other day! I appreciate the experienced tactical advice plus the sound spiritual and practical insight as well. Keep up the good work and God bless! We need more men like you! Merry Christmas!
As a father of 3 little ones, two of which are boys, i needed to here this. Bless ya John. Thanks for the reminder!
Great video, thanks for making it!
Mr. Lovell, you are an amazing inspiration and influence on us all. I love what your take on life and the advice you give out. I would like to thank you for everything that you've done, and everything you will do.
Just outstanding!!
Thanks again
Excellent. Thanks. Keep up the great work
I always enjoy your videos thank you for spreading the knowledge of a warrior poet so we can have more in the world
Thank you John, 3 kids under 5 years old. Needed some encouragement.
Dads, be there for your daughters too. Not just there, but there for her. Something I wish I had. Thanks for another great video, John!
This makes me look forward to fatherhood. Thanks for an awesome message.
Thanks for this video and charing your story!🙏👍
Great video John would love to hear more like this
As always, very wise words. Keep it up, my friend! And P.S. I love being a dad as well as a grandfather.
We are so like-minded, I gain more respect for you the more I watch. Wonderful stuff, thanks for sharing :-)
Great message John you are an inspiration
Obviously coming upon this late, but this is absolutely true and great stuff, John! And not only for sons! My papa was a fighter pilot, a bronze star award recipient and someone that I adored. And I can honestly say that he had as much to do with who I am as a female as my mum did. I balance strength and nurturing with an ease that puzzles folks (so they say) and I'm a fierce mama hen. He's been gone for 24 years now (God rest his soul), and his approval STILL matters to me, so when you're talking about the lasting impact of a wonderful papa, you're speaking my language. Also, as an LMFT working in an urban area for 32 years, I've yet to meet a gang member who had a father in his life. Makes sense: gangs are about connection, loyalty and protection. What are families supposed to be about? Those young men create in their worlds what they didn't get at home --- to the huge detriment and cost to society at large. There is NO substitution for good parents; they are an absolute blessing. And I, like you, pass along what they both taught me in every single therapy session for those 32 years .. parents being parents, kids being kids, respect, honor, honesty, responsibility, taking pride in a job well done, not taking more than you need, protecting the weak and standing up to bullies. I enjoy honoring them, and it's nice to see that you, too, honor what you've been taught. I'm sure that your dad is proud of you. Ranger on ...
Thank you Sir. Great 👍 video and powerful message.
There is nothing finer than another strong man speaking from the heart. Our greatest fear and the question we ask ourselves at 3am should always be "do I try every day to be a good Dad" not succeed but try, every day. God bless you brother
Fitting that I watched this today. Appreciate your vids and always impressed with your content. Have a happy Father's day John!
Excellent message Sir.
Just found your channel yesterday. Absolutely great video content. You say the stuff that needs to be said. As a father of 3 boys I think of this often.
Thank you for having the courage to speak on matters that are difficult. You consistently demonstrate a higher level of insight on many topics , most important how to be a better human. Many of your viewers probably just say "yeah, I know..." But it's really good to just hear good advice from time to time. Keep up the outstanding work! Fire mission, over....Fire mission, out!
John I can't thank you enough for the videos you put out, they never disappoint.
Outstanding video. As a woman I learned respect, hard work, mental toughness and tenderness. We need MEN! Thanks for a great thought provoking vid.
Awesome! Love this. Definitely taking this mental rep thing from this for my kids.
Amazing and incredibly important message!
LOVE IT! I've said many times that the greatest legacy that i'll leave on this world are my children. They are how i'll be remembered.
This was a really good video! Thanks John
Just came across this. Very well said sir. God bless from Kalgoorlie, Australia.
Very good sneeze John, thank you!
Your videos are great. Love the philosophical view and not just running and gunning. Really surprised you don't have more subscribers. Keep up the good work and your head on the swivel.
Would like to hear you dive more into this subject man.