Vlogs By Sha you only be in love with one person at one time.. if you love two people at one time nine times out of 10 it’s vaccination.. because if you really love in love with somebody you’re not gonna mess with nobody else...
ONE WILL BE TREATED DIFFERENTLY THAN THE OTHER YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO SPEND TIME WITH BOTH, IT WILL BECOME BOTHERSOME..UNSLESS YOU HAVE AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP, OR POLYGAMY🤷🏾
CHOCOLATE SUNSHINE I know a guy who’s having sex with and is in love with his best friend from college (male) who he sees on the weekends but is married to a woman and claims to love them both.
Polyamory! It's not uncommon to love multiple people at the same time. Loving two people doesn't mean you love one more than the other, and can't love both equally as much for the different and unique fulfillments that they offer you. Like Loni said, it isn't traditional, but just because you might not ever be able to imagine yourself falling in love with two people, that doesn't mean you can't still be open-minded and accept that there are people out there who love differently than you do.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this. Everyone has different experiences! But this definitely isn't rare and it's not always the easiest situation to navigate.
ikhlasous THATS a different story. We’re talking about two at the same time. Hate to compare sensitive situations but you can compare love and lust and you know which one was true and which was an obvious temporary regardless of the death
Jacob Israel not true. Some soulmates are only for a season, and some are for a lifetime. It all depends on circumstances. And not all soulmates are romantic soulmates. Some are friends, family members, or lovers
I used to think what Adrienne thinks - that if you truly love someone, no one can compete. I was also very young and naive at the time - and in fact getting married to a man who would end up really hurting and disappointing me and I was doing mental gymnastics to stay 'loyal' in my heart. As you age, you do learn that you can love more than one person. As you gain experience, your idea of love changes and you meet more special people - that's just basic maths. It is a luxury to find two special people, not a shameful thing. We need to stop looking at love as a medieval survival contract and see it as something fluent and ever changing.
I agree with Loni. You can be in love with more than one person. In fact, maybe I'm a romantic but I think you can easily love more than one person, if they are decent human beings.
No such thing as "in love". In love is a description people use for, "infatuated". Real love is dedication, maturity and selflessness. You don't "FALL" into that. It's a conscious decision. Doing anything else is ultimately self-serving and will always cause division and disconnection. At the end of the day, it will not allow for true fulfillment. Lasting, connections and relationships do not happen as a result of disrespectful behavior that doesn't uphold your partner.
I agree 💯 percent! That's the truth. You chose everyday you're with your partner to be present with them in life. I don't believe there is any reason for cheating. If you are no longer in love with your partner. Leave them and find someone else.
*i remember watching this when it first came out... when you TRULY love someone, that is the only person you are in love with. you only get one “The One.” those who think otherwise haven’t (yet) experienced true love. i hope everyone reading this finds their person* 🕊
@@kennedyfoxx4786 it could be true because if you love someone you won't pick somebody else in the first place. let's say i really like spending time with someone but i also love spending time with my other best friend if i was in love with the first person i saw, i wouldn't be in love with my best friend .... ???? if i wanna have sex or have a baby with somebody, do i really appreciate the other person i leave
" If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second " - Johnny Depp
i believe there's no such thing as one person for life, whatever relationship comes into your life is there to teach you something some will last more or less
@@EllePlowPlow thats not the point though is it ? the poster basically said she doesnt believe in everlasting love ( and while she is entitled to her opinion) I am just suggesting maybe she holds that view because she has never really experienced TRUE love. This generation believes only in love of self and material things
Dique 😂😂 yesss Adrienne got it! One can only focus on one thing at a time. If it’s true love, you’d know. If you have to question it, it’s not love. It’s lust. ❤️
Loni Love Your color pallet wardrobe today is fabulous💕 In 2020 forward stay away from drab colors. Your underlying skin hues are emblazoned in the vibrant oranges-reds-yellows-kelly greens. Ignore the dark predictive bluish colors for 2020. Wearing the colors of the rainbow 🌈 brings warmth and positive energy to your on-camera personality⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
If you go on to fall in love with a 2nd person then that means you were never really in love with the first person. You may love the first person, but you're not IN LOVE with that person. For if you were in love, then that person would have all of your heart, all of your attention. Therefore, you're in love with the 2nd person and you just love the 1st.
@@Oll_704 that doesn't mean you no longer have ANY feelings toward the first person. You still love him/her, just not IN love. Hard to differentiate when in such a position who you really love. But yeah, that's just my two cents.
I kinda disagrees about the part where u said "u weren't in love with the first person" cuz I'm in love with 2 people but I feel though I'm in love with the second person more. But the thing is that I'm scared to leave and go with the second because I'm still in love with her😢
In society they make you believe a soul mate is a romantic partner but soulmates can be found in your friend, your dog, your grandma, your aunty, your uncle, your parents. The list goes on. A soulmate is someone that just gets in on another level and you are familiar with eachother almost like youve spent a previous life with them. They can come in any form they are not physical but as the term "soul"mate has , a soul.
I always find myself coming back to these old Girl Chats... something about this squad... the topics... the energy...🥰🥰 I still watch the new ones but it’s just not the same. Oh well, life itself is not the same so...
Love to see these ladies having open and honest conversation about taboo topics. I know most of them live pretty traditional lifestyles and talk a lot about their faith, but they seem open minded for the most part and I appreciate people who are willing to talk and learn about things that may be outside their lane of life.
I’ve always felt like, if someone was ever a choice that might come in second, that ain’t real love. I don’t feel like you could truly be IN love with two people.
Months prior to dating.. I created a list with about ten practical things on it stating exactly what I wanted in a man. So when I was down to 3 people but couldn't choose, I chose based off of who checked off most on my list, whose conversation was always gravitating/interesting, & who the zodiac showed I would be most capable with. I'm a Libra (air) & they say air and fire go best together & Earth and Water go best. The 3 guys were a Capricorn (Earth), Aries (Fire), Taurus ( Earth). I ended up choosing the Aries. He matched literally everything on my list, we spoke all day everyday before our first date & he was most compatible with with me as far as the elements goes. We are now married with a baby on the way. Long story but I hope it helps someone out there. Much Love 🤎
It’s more like one person brings what the other person doesn’t. And if you could create a super person with your fav characteristics and traits frm both. That’d be your true love
If you’re with some one and you fall in love with someone else .. pick the second one because if you loved the first one the second one wouldn’t be in the picture 💯!
In the most average situation of when a person is in love oxytocin levels in our body’s increase and change the way we behave/ think. It actually causes the feeling of devotion to a person, almost like an addiction to a person, causes those honeymoon periods in relationships, which does involve monogamy and heartache when it doesn’t work out.
'A soul mate' should not be limited to a marriage setting or a opposite sex relationships/dating. Your mum can be your 'soul mate', your sister, a friend, etc. can be your 'soul mates'. It is more like a twin, not of your physical body but of your soul. What then is your soul? This is the culmination of the interconnection of the brain in action(mind), the way you reason, your proclivities or natural inclinations. Thus, a person regarded as a 'soul mate' is one that the aforementioned aspects of his soul is in harmony with yours. For instance, in a typical conversation with him or her, it is as if you guys are reading each one's thought.
We are all polyamorous. We love multiple people at the same time, all the time - family, friends, children, colleagues and yes, even romantic partners. However, we are socially conditioned to choose and love just one romantic partner. If you're in love with one person, that's great, that's definitely less complicated, but conceptually it is possible to romantically love others simultaneously.
@@angelinemutsengi2148 I never disputed that. All I submitted was that if we go by the actual definition of polyamory = many loves, we all are polyamorous in some way, whether romantic and/or familial.
I truly believe my late sister is my soul mate!! we were inseparable for 23 years until she left this world..the pain is incredible but the love and connection is on a a whole new level 🙌🏾
Lol Loni is lying, she was putting on an act for so long. She was lonely as hell here and was just pretending like multi-dating (whether she really was idk) was satisfying her emotionally.
Notice the audience got quiet as hell when she approved 'cheating'. "Why do you have to choose one person?" She had a few drinks before this talkshow clearly. However I respect her reason for what she said. Im open minded lol I'm with you though. Thats hypocritical of her after what she said about Miley
One man one woman that's God's plan from the beginning all the other stuff eventually leads to heartbreak and confusion. People need to be patient and stop practicing pre-marital sex because it leads to guilt and confusion and does not allow you to objectively assess the person you are in a relationship with to see if there are red flags. By the way I am speaking from experience and have made those mistakes and learned from them.
@@glittermafia5759 I don't think the original comment is saying that sex is not normal, it definitely is normal. They're just saying it's safer in the context of marriage because outside of that, it can be difficult to see red flags in the relationship etc
I Completely Understand Jeannie & Agree 100% 👏🏽 Like Just Because It Didn’t Last Forever Doesn’t Mean You It Wasn’t Real Or Your Soulmate For THAT Moment or “season” as She Say💯
I don’t think it’s love I thinks it’s maybe falling for or two different people and I Totally agree with the pros and cons list but this also means you need to know what you want in the relationship and then fully commit and rid that second person from you life to fully make this other relationship works.
I think as a child of immigrants and someone who was only 4 when the housing crisis started, my older sister quickly became everything my parents were supposed to be. They couldn’t always be there and we really raised each other. She raised me to be what she thought was good in a man and I raised her to be like what I thought the perfect woman was. Sure we were young but we had older cousins who were and are like siblings to us and that’s how we based off the perfect man/woman was. She was the first family I came out to and I knew she wouldn’t love me any differently. We both know that we are each other’s soulmates are always super close. My parents love it but then it becomes hard because we have a brother that’s 8 years younger than me and he could NEVER have the relationship that we have with us even though we love him so much.
Ya because you guys went through the struggle together. You survived with each other. Our parents worked a lot too and it was always just my sister and I. Loneliness is a real thing but being with a sibling is special because you’re a kid and alone but at least you have that sibling
It’s rare that Loni answers a question from a ‘I would’ stand point. She always gives advice from a ‘I’m speaking to a big audience’ standpoint, which makes all the sense cause I mean she is on a dang TV show. However I think it would be nice to hear what SHE would & for her to comfortable enough to leave it at that. Also noticed how she’s ALWAYS the LAST one to be asked for her opinion. Think the other ladies should work on adding her in. Unless the point is for Loni to end it off.
I actually learned this a while ago no one can love two people in the same way because they’re not the same. You have to love one person more than the other person.
I am in love with two people right now and have been in this situation before. It is 100% possible. The thing is each person is so different and fulfills different aspects of me. Also one is a guy and one is a girl and they are friends with each other and me. I've told them I love both of them as well. Nothing wrong with it if you're honest.
Hi Liz, I couldn't help but see your comment. I work for a production company that is actually casting people who are in this situation. If you are still in love with two people and want to choose just one to continue a relationship with, let me know. If you're not looking to make a decision, I totally understand and wish you all the best.
I know. She said she A) knew it wasnt gonna work before they were even married and B) she stopped loving him a long time ago. I find it hard to believe her on anything considering how she has always treated her and Freddie's relationship.
Honestly... This is The REAL , so I’m gonna be real for a second... now , sometimes we THINK we are in love because we think these people both have something to offer... when in reality one probably has more red flags than the other and etc. because we feel infatuated with the fact that hey both of them of like me... what do I do? And you're stuck with a broken heart either way because you could be choosing " the love of your life " but you wasted time trying to see which guy or girl was the one! There shouldn't even be another person to CHOOSE with anyway...
Myronn Coleman I 💯 agree with you! I’m married, but I met someone unexpectedly and we vibe so much. He has made it clear he wants me but I don’t see an honest future with him because he’s married too and why is he talking to me, feel me? I’m human and I do find him attractive but I can’t see myself ruining what I have for him.
3:14 loni, It matters because unless you’re looking for a polyamorous relationship or you want to be in an open relationship you should choose and stop playing games with both participants.
Cant u love them all in different ways? When i have loved men i still love all of them. In a passed tense. I dont wish i was with them but i cherrish the good memories. Do i wanna get back with any of them? Noooo. But i loved them all.😘😍😻😻😻🙊😸
Where do ppl get their facts though? Who actually stated that it is a FACT that you can’t be in love with two people? We honestly don’t know what’s the real and fact thing. We don’t know, we can’t control feelings you know?
Soulmates for a season...YES. There are a billion people in this world and you think there’s only one person out there for you? Lies. Timing, placement, and whatever else, is involved in your relationship. If you moved across the world you might still find your soulmate lol.
Yes you can love two people.. You choose the person that diserves it. You can be with soneone.. Like if you have two baby fathers.. One did you wrong.. You love him but its over.. The other one isnt even in competition.. You just love 2 people.. But that doesnt mean you have to be confused .. You can love 2 people and be absolutely not confused at all.. Maybe you love 2 people and dont even have to choose and are not even choosing at all. .. Loving 2 people at the same time doesnt have to be confusing all the time.. And it doesnt even mean its a competition at all.
I would choose neither, Its all or nothing for me. There is no such thing as one true love. as Tamera once said "Love is infinite and we can make as much as we want."
Polyamory is something that exists and is valid but it has to be something that everyone is on board with I know someone who is in a Poly and they have children and are thriving. Idk life is strange sometimes and it’s different strokes for different folks.
People really fall in love with two people at the same time? Hmm...I feel you always love one more than the other.
True.
Vlogs By Sha you only be in love with one person at one time.. if you love two people at one time nine times out of 10 it’s vaccination.. because if you really love in love with somebody you’re not gonna mess with nobody else...
ONE WILL BE TREATED DIFFERENTLY THAN THE OTHER YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO SPEND TIME WITH BOTH, IT WILL BECOME BOTHERSOME..UNSLESS YOU HAVE AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP, OR POLYGAMY🤷🏾
CHOCOLATE SUNSHINE I know a guy who’s having sex with and is in love with his best friend from college (male) who he sees on the weekends but is married to a woman and claims to love them both.
@@natb4914 facts!!
Jeannie: “Go with the one that has more money!”
Crowd: “👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Wooooooooooo!!🙌🏽!!!”
Jeannie: 😳
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who else is scrolling while listening 😂
ALWAYS!
Alwayssssss
Me as always..lol
Diamond 💎 First of all, mind ya business 😂😂😂
Erris ....don’t start nun😌
I agree with Adrienne 100%, everything she’s said.
sameeee
I love how all of them have different opinions but they all make a lot of sense 💕
Jeannie is a wonderful speaker. I always enjoy listening to her explain ideas that are usually difficult to both explain and understand.
I love how Loni is always realistic with her approach to all topics.
Loni be acting pretentious sometimes. She had the "imma let y'all finish bickering before I drop some wisdom on y'all" face at the beginning.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
With literally no wisdom to follow 😅
She does it every show😂she lets them talk until one of them ask her opinion and then she says like one statement😂it’s annoyinggg
Polyamory! It's not uncommon to love multiple people at the same time. Loving two people doesn't mean you love one more than the other, and can't love both equally as much for the different and unique fulfillments that they offer you. Like Loni said, it isn't traditional, but just because you might not ever be able to imagine yourself falling in love with two people, that doesn't mean you can't still be open-minded and accept that there are people out there who love differently than you do.
This💯👏
doesnt sound like polyamory. sounds like regular old life.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this. Everyone has different experiences! But this definitely isn't rare and it's not always the easiest situation to navigate.
If it’s a soulmate it’s for life. If it didn’t last a lifetime then it wasn’t what you thought boo
What about widows? Because that would mean they can never find another love which is not true
ikhlasous THATS a different story. We’re talking about two at the same time. Hate to compare sensitive situations but you can compare love and lust and you know which one was true and which was an obvious temporary regardless of the death
ikhlasous if they die it doesn't mean they weren't soulmates because if they were alive they could have lasted
Jacob Israel not true. Some soulmates are only for a season, and some are for a lifetime. It all depends on circumstances. And not all soulmates are romantic soulmates. Some are friends, family members, or lovers
Bambi That might not be the case for you but if a “Soulmate” is subjective on the person then I am right. Thanks for your opinion tho
A needs to do her hair like this again. Curls for days 💁🏽♀️
Yo I’ve been alive twenty years, and I’ve NEVER found someone I’d come even CLOSE to falling in love with. How the hell are people finding TWO?
Me too
You're still extremely young...
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20 is nothing. 30 is when you should start looking.
20 years is not a long time a lot of 20 year olds haven’t fallen in love yet
I used to think what Adrienne thinks - that if you truly love someone, no one can compete. I was also very young and naive at the time - and in fact getting married to a man who would end up really hurting and disappointing me and I was doing mental gymnastics to stay 'loyal' in my heart. As you age, you do learn that you can love more than one person. As you gain experience, your idea of love changes and you meet more special people - that's just basic maths. It is a luxury to find two special people, not a shameful thing. We need to stop looking at love as a medieval survival contract and see it as something fluent and ever changing.
I agree with Loni. You can be in love with more than one person. In fact, maybe I'm a romantic but I think you can easily love more than one person, if they are decent human beings.
Loni looks like she doesn’t want to be there .
Things are happening behind the scene, they say :)
I appreciate her speaking up for the alternative lifestyles such as polyamory
She probably had a hangover. She said she does most of the time and keeps it pushing at work
bsbgirl85 hmmm. so you want all the black ppl gone
Y’all hate her just shut up
No such thing as "in love". In love is a description people use for, "infatuated". Real love is dedication, maturity and selflessness. You don't "FALL" into that. It's a conscious decision. Doing anything else is ultimately self-serving and will always cause division and disconnection. At the end of the day, it will not allow for true fulfillment. Lasting, connections and relationships do not happen as a result of disrespectful behavior that doesn't uphold your partner.
PREACH PREACH AND PREACH SOME MORE!!!!!! AMEN
In other words... You choose who you Love
I agree 💯 percent! That's the truth. You chose everyday you're with your partner to be present with them in life. I don't believe there is any reason for cheating. If you are no longer in love with your partner. Leave them and find someone else.
I wish I could like this comment 1000 times!
Thank you , you took the words right out of my mouth .
If you in love with two people at once you're not in love with either one of em
@@kermitdahpooh3282 negatory
That's not true
it's true! it is all lust
Not true
Thank you.
*i remember watching this when it first came out... when you TRULY love someone, that is the only person you are in love with. you only get one “The One.” those who think otherwise haven’t (yet) experienced true love. i hope everyone reading this finds their person* 🕊
not necessarily true tho
That is absolutely not true and a despicable thing to imply for so many reasons.
Awww sweet thanks prayerfully you will find your soulmate ❣️
Not for poly people and especially one who TRYING to participate in monigamy
@@kennedyfoxx4786 it could be true because if you love someone you won't pick somebody else in the first place. let's say i really like spending time with someone but i also love spending time with my other best friend if i was in love with the first person i saw, i wouldn't be in love with my best friend .... ???? if i wanna have sex or have a baby with somebody, do i really appreciate the other person i leave
" If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second "
- Johnny Depp
🙂 Thanks
Why did I cry when Loni spoiled that Terms of Endearment ending 😭 beautiful ❤️
Loni yawning and looking asleep while they are talking lol
i believe there's no such thing as one person for life, whatever relationship comes into your life is there to teach you something some will last more or less
Thats because you dont know what REAL love is
the truth just because the relationship ends doesn’t mean you stop loving that person. Real love doesn’t always mean staying together.
@@EllePlowPlow thats not the point though is it ? the poster basically said she doesnt believe in everlasting love ( and while she is entitled to her opinion) I am just suggesting maybe she holds that view because she has never really experienced TRUE love. This generation believes only in love of self and material things
@Anna Stella lol ok dear
Dique 😂😂 yesss Adrienne got it! One can only focus on one thing at a time. If it’s true love, you’d know. If you have to question it, it’s not love. It’s lust. ❤️
Loni Love Your color pallet wardrobe today is fabulous💕 In 2020 forward stay away from drab colors. Your underlying skin hues are emblazoned in the vibrant oranges-reds-yellows-kelly greens. Ignore the dark predictive bluish colors for 2020. Wearing the colors of the rainbow 🌈 brings warmth and positive energy to your on-camera personality⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
An open marriage is nothing but an oxymoron. Contradiction at its best.
And yet it works for some people 🤷🏼♀️
many cultures and religions believe in polygamy so i guess whatever floats ur boat
I love girl chat one of my favourite parts of the show
@1:47 tameras face when she gets cut off her face fixes real quick for the camera 😂😂
Loni is so beautiful and gorgeous
I love Jeannie 💘💘 She’s so cute & I like when she shares her thoughts
If you go on to fall in love with a 2nd person then that means you were never really in love with the first person. You may love the first person, but you're not IN LOVE with that person. For if you were in love, then that person would have all of your heart, all of your attention. Therefore, you're in love with the 2nd person and you just love the 1st.
Atouriina if that were true then you wouldn’t be holding onto the first person 🤔
@@Oll_704 that doesn't mean you no longer have ANY feelings toward the first person. You still love him/her, just not IN love. Hard to differentiate when in such a position who you really love. But yeah, that's just my two cents.
And the cycle continues when the third person arrives 🤦🤣
I kinda disagrees about the part where u said "u weren't in love with the first person" cuz I'm in love with 2 people but I feel though I'm in love with the second person more. But the thing is that I'm scared to leave and go with the second because I'm still in love with her😢
In society they make you believe a soul mate is a romantic partner but soulmates can be found in your friend, your dog, your grandma, your aunty, your uncle, your parents. The list goes on. A soulmate is someone that just gets in on another level and you are familiar with eachother almost like youve spent a previous life with them. They can come in any form they are not physical but as the term "soul"mate has , a soul.
I always find myself coming back to these old Girl Chats... something about this squad... the topics... the energy...🥰🥰 I still watch the new ones but it’s just not the same. Oh well, life itself is not the same so...
“Don’t take face to face time for granted” now we are going through Covid and everything is online with no face to face. Wow, definitely miss it💗
Am I the only one who loves it when it’s just them 4 at the table ♥️
Love to see these ladies having open and honest conversation about taboo topics. I know most of them live pretty traditional lifestyles and talk a lot about their faith, but they seem open minded for the most part and I appreciate people who are willing to talk and learn about things that may be outside their lane of life.
Lol this is the best. Love everyone’s view points. They explain it well
I’ve always felt like, if someone was ever a choice that might come in second, that ain’t real love. I don’t feel like you could truly be IN love with two people.
I fell in love with 3 different men at once y’all. 😩😩 It was not an easy situation to be in.
I hear ya....💔💔
@@taramarie2358 I’m polyamorous. I’m currently in a relationship with 2 of them.
@@EllePlowPlow please message me about this!!!
@@ausername4me did she reply? Im in a similar situation if u want to.talk and i would want to talk to with someone with experience too otherwise
Months prior to dating.. I created a list with about ten practical things on it stating exactly what I wanted in a man. So when I was down to 3 people but couldn't choose, I chose based off of who checked off most on my list, whose conversation was always gravitating/interesting, & who the zodiac showed I would be most capable with. I'm a Libra (air) & they say air and fire go best together & Earth and Water go best. The 3 guys were a Capricorn (Earth), Aries (Fire), Taurus ( Earth). I ended up choosing the Aries. He matched literally everything on my list, we spoke all day everyday before our first date & he was most compatible with with me as far as the elements goes. We are now married with a baby on the way. Long story but I hope it helps someone out there. Much Love 🤎
Well damn Jeannie, that shirt ! 👀🤩
I feel like pulling that zip down
It’s more like one person brings what the other person doesn’t. And if you could create a super person with your fav characteristics and traits frm both. That’d be your true love
If you’re with some one and you fall in love with someone else .. pick the second one because if you loved the first one the second one wouldn’t be in the picture 💯!
Thanks
They all look nice! Hair matching outfit too..Flamingo's (Adrienne) hair matches her crazy looking (cute, ie) top. Love it!
Go with the one with the most money !hahahahaha Jeanie
At the start when everyone is talking and Loni’s face and just sitting quietly and steeping her tea lmaooo love her 💕
In the most average situation of when a person is in love oxytocin levels in our body’s increase and change the way we behave/ think. It actually causes the feeling of devotion to a person, almost like an addiction to a person, causes those honeymoon periods in relationships, which does involve monogamy and heartache when it doesn’t work out.
Polyamorous relationships exist
Nobody is gonna notice that Tam said "Jesus" about her earring falling out?
🤣🤣🤣
'A soul mate' should not be limited to a marriage setting or a opposite sex relationships/dating. Your mum can be your 'soul mate', your sister, a friend, etc. can be your 'soul mates'. It is more like a twin, not of your physical body but of your soul. What then is your soul? This is the culmination of the interconnection of the brain in action(mind), the way you reason, your proclivities or natural inclinations. Thus, a person regarded as a 'soul mate' is one that the aforementioned aspects of his soul is in harmony with yours. For instance, in a typical conversation with him or her, it is as if you guys are reading each one's thought.
We are all polyamorous. We love multiple people at the same time, all the time - family, friends, children, colleagues and yes, even romantic partners. However, we are socially conditioned to choose and love just one romantic partner. If you're in love with one person, that's great, that's definitely less complicated, but conceptually it is possible to romantically love others simultaneously.
Speak for yourself bitch.
Lol No mate. Loving family and friends is COMPLETELY different from being IN love with someone.
@@angelinemutsengi2148 I never disputed that. All I submitted was that if we go by the actual definition of polyamory = many loves, we all are polyamorous in some way, whether romantic and/or familial.
"oh and my earing fell out , oh Jezos" xDDDDD
I truly believe my late sister is my soul mate!! we were inseparable for 23 years until she left this world..the pain is incredible but the love and connection is on a a whole new level 🙌🏾
Adrienne was on point 🤷🏻♀️👏
Wait wasn't loni just slamming miley for dating people back to back but loni herself has dated multiple people at the same time???
@Melissa Farfalle wow...
Lol Loni is lying, she was putting on an act for so long. She was lonely as hell here and was just pretending like multi-dating (whether she really was idk) was satisfying her emotionally.
Notice the audience got quiet as hell when she approved 'cheating'. "Why do you have to choose one person?" She had a few drinks before this talkshow clearly. However I respect her reason for what she said. Im open minded lol I'm with you though. Thats hypocritical of her after what she said about Miley
This video is old and people change their minds as time passes
She disagreed with openly dating while still legally married
Thank God for Lani the voice of reason and open-ness
I'm from SOUTH Africa and love the reall so much...Thank you ladies for this show I appreciate it
I haven't seen the movie, 'Terms of Endearment'. Thanks for telling me the ending, because I probably wouldn't have found the time to watch it anyway.
That blouse looks really good on Loni!
"AW HELL!" 😂
One man one woman that's God's plan from the beginning all the other stuff eventually leads to heartbreak and confusion. People need to be patient and stop practicing pre-marital sex because it leads to guilt and confusion and does not allow you to objectively assess the person you are in a relationship with to see if there are red flags. By the way I am speaking from experience and have made those mistakes and learned from them.
Exactly! GOD plan is always better 🙏
Agreed 🙏🏾 God's plan is always the best
Well said!
@@glittermafia5759 I don't think the original comment is saying that sex is not normal, it definitely is normal. They're just saying it's safer in the context of marriage because outside of that, it can be difficult to see red flags in the relationship etc
Wait are you homophobic if not I have no problem but the first thing u said, just wondering
I Completely Understand Jeannie & Agree 100% 👏🏽 Like Just Because It Didn’t Last Forever Doesn’t Mean You It Wasn’t Real Or Your Soulmate For THAT Moment or “season” as She Say💯
I don’t think it’s love I thinks it’s maybe falling for or two different people and I Totally agree with the pros and cons list but this also means you need to know what you want in the relationship and then fully commit and rid that second person from you life to fully make this other relationship works.
Social media is not relationship! Those who know you don’t need to go to social media to find out what is going on in your life!
love triangles are pretty common, nobody should settle!
Damn, Loni was on fire this episode😤🔥🔥
YALL BETTER NOT FIRE LONI, AND NOW THAT WILL HE THE END OF THIS SHOW
F*CK LONI...
JungleYT stop hating and get a bag
@@dolceg1770 Not hating, just F*ck Loni...
@@dolceg1770 Now, that was disgusting... I think you should apologize
Ive never clicked so fast!! LOL
Pick the one you fell in love with second because If you truly loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second one
U can fall in love with two people at the same time
I can’t even snag one.
I think as a child of immigrants and someone who was only 4 when the housing crisis started, my older sister quickly became everything my parents were supposed to be. They couldn’t always be there and we really raised each other. She raised me to be what she thought was good in a man and I raised her to be like what I thought the perfect woman was. Sure we were young but we had older cousins who were and are like siblings to us and that’s how we based off the perfect man/woman was. She was the first family I came out to and I knew she wouldn’t love me any differently. We both know that we are each other’s soulmates are always super close. My parents love it but then it becomes hard because we have a brother that’s 8 years younger than me and he could NEVER have the relationship that we have with us even though we love him so much.
Ya because you guys went through the struggle together. You survived with each other. Our parents worked a lot too and it was always just my sister and I. Loneliness is a real thing but being with a sibling is special because you’re a kid and alone but at least you have that sibling
You should be in love with two ppl at once. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all
See Jeannie coined the term "conundrum" first in the show and not Amanda. But Amanda brought the big words to the Real. 👍
I just feel like loni lies all the time. 😭
Great job Jeannie!!! Awesome point!
It’s rare that Loni answers a question from a ‘I would’ stand point. She always gives advice from a ‘I’m speaking to a big audience’ standpoint, which makes all the sense cause I mean she is on a dang TV show. However I think it would be nice to hear what SHE would & for her to comfortable enough to leave it at that. Also noticed how she’s ALWAYS the LAST one to be asked for her opinion. Think the other ladies should work on adding her in. Unless the point is for Loni to end it off.
I actually learned this a while ago no one can love two people in the same way because they’re not the same. You have to love one person more than the other person.
Shawnette Thompson love this.
💯♥️
"different" is not the same as "more and less". You can love two people equally much in different ways.
I am in love with two people right now and have been in this situation before. It is 100% possible. The thing is each person is so different and fulfills different aspects of me. Also one is a guy and one is a girl and they are friends with each other and me. I've told them I love both of them as well. Nothing wrong with it if you're honest.
Hi Liz, I couldn't help but see your comment. I work for a production company that is actually casting people who are in this situation. If you are still in love with two people and want to choose just one to continue a relationship with, let me know. If you're not looking to make a decision, I totally understand and wish you all the best.
@@christianegomez7949 thanks for reaching out. It’s all worked out in the end and I don’t have to choose between one or the other thankfully.
My opinion is gonna be unpopular, but I'd probably just walk away from both. I can't be pulled left and right.
Im getting so much Cheetah Girls vibes from Ade right now🐆🐆♥️
Loni will forever be my spirt animal
I get it and def believe in soulmates for a season...
I love my tam tam always on the money 💴👑
Jeannie, knew that her marriage wasn't going to work, on her own admission. So I don't know why she is lying right now
Sometimes you know it won't work but you love that person so much you just keep praying that it really do work. Some time you just grow apart.
Just because it didn't work, or knew that it wasn't going to work doesn't mean that you didn't feel and belive that it was...for that time being.
I know. She said she A) knew it wasnt gonna work before they were even married and B) she stopped loving him a long time ago. I find it hard to believe her on anything considering how she has always treated her and Freddie's relationship.
Honestly... This is The REAL , so I’m gonna be real for a second... now , sometimes we THINK we are in love because we think these people both have something to offer... when in reality one probably has more red flags than the other and etc. because we feel infatuated with the fact that hey both of them of like me... what do I do? And you're stuck with a broken heart either way because you could be choosing " the love of your life " but you wasted time trying to see which guy or girl was the one! There shouldn't even be another person to CHOOSE with anyway...
Myronn Coleman I 💯 agree with you! I’m married, but I met someone unexpectedly and we vibe so much. He has made it clear he wants me but I don’t see an honest future with him because he’s married too and why is he talking to me, feel me? I’m human and I do find him attractive but I can’t see myself ruining what I have for him.
3:14 loni,
It matters because unless you’re looking for a polyamorous relationship or you want to be in an open relationship you should choose and stop playing games with both participants.
Oh Loni. The movie Terms of Endearment: Debra Winger's character died, not Shirley Maclaine. :)
Loni looking snatched! 😍
Cant u love them all in different ways? When i have loved men i still love all of them. In a passed tense. I dont wish i was with them but i cherrish the good memories. Do i wanna get back with any of them? Noooo. But i loved them all.😘😍😻😻😻🙊😸
QUEENS!! 😩😍❤️
Where do ppl get their facts though? Who actually stated that it is a FACT that you can’t be in love with two people? We honestly don’t know what’s the real and fact thing. We don’t know, we can’t control feelings you know?
She really meant that, go with the more money. We all know that
Adrienne, did you not watch FRIENDS? That's what Ross did with Rachel & Julie. Rachel found the pros/cons list & was pissed!! 😂
There’s a difference between love and falling in love
Soulmates for a season...YES. There are a billion people in this world and you think there’s only one person out there for you? Lies. Timing, placement, and whatever else, is involved in your relationship. If you moved across the world you might still find your soulmate lol.
Yes you can love two people.. You choose the person that diserves it. You can be with soneone.. Like if you have two baby fathers.. One did you wrong.. You love him but its over.. The other one isnt even in competition.. You just love 2 people.. But that doesnt mean you have to be confused .. You can love 2 people and be absolutely not confused at all.. Maybe you love 2 people and dont even have to choose and are not even choosing at all. ..
Loving 2 people at the same time doesnt have to be confusing all the time.. And it doesnt even mean its a competition at all.
I would choose neither, Its all or nothing for me. There is no such thing as one true love. as Tamera once said "Love is infinite and we can make as much as we want."
Loni’s makeup is nice ❤️
I miss these girl chats
I think Lonnie summed it up well
Polyamory is something that exists and is valid but it has to be something that everyone is on board with I know someone who is in a Poly and they have children and are thriving. Idk life is strange sometimes and it’s different strokes for different folks.