I had to learn and am still learning not take on people’s problems as my own. I’m a fixer, so i always wanna fix like Tam lol but i definitely had to learn that not everyone wants or needs that from me.
I think it's ok to gently let people know when their behavior is unethical or if their actions will hurt themselves or others. Too many people stand by and don't say anything and then people get hurt.
Laura Berg i 100% agree and still do to an extent. But taking on ppls problems is not where I am. I will always be there for my friends and will always speak my mind on the things that matter and need immediate attention, but it just depends on the severity of the situation more so for me now.
That happened to a friend of mine, but instead of help my friend was beaten by his own family members(20+ ppl at his grandmother's house waiting for him) for the accusations. The molester was a preacher and his uncle whom he went to live with after his mom passed away. To this day he refuses to speak to the friend he confided in because she told and he almost lost his life. So you have to be careful with certain situations.
Being on your own and not doing much, doesn't make you lazy. It might just mean you like being by yourself or you've had a long day and need to recharge
For some reason, All of my friends feel the need to confide in me about their sexual assault. Which, I am honored (?) that they feel that they can confide in me. BUT that is A LOT to take on. AND I could only imagine what they’re going through 😞
Yeah I remember when my friends drop that on me. The first one was hard because I was friends with her at the time and i talk to her almost daily and had no idea and then when we were drinking she brought it up causally and then told me how the after math and it made me so angry that she went through that alone and i had no idea. The second one was a shock but she didn't seem too scarred by it
I know exactly how you feel, only one friend has done it but I honestly can say it gave me ptsd. We were both in 6th grade & I didn’t know how to handle it, now when I go through stressful times I have dreams of things happening to me. Sometimes I wish that I could’ve heard her problems without letting it affect me but I guess since it’s such a big problem it hurts to hear.
I'm a dude with alot of female friends and I've heard about more than my fair share of sexual assault, honestly it makes me scared for my sisters, I think it has scared me too I always asking for permission to do anything sexual
I'm an introvert. sitting and doing nothing with myself or with my hubby and our sons watching tv is me recharging myself from all the negative energies I encountered throughout the day. I will literally burn out from exhaustion from not taking some "lazy" time. Life is about balance. Find time to do some meditation, praying, journaling, or just sitting in your room in silence. I work to make a living, all my other time is self care and spending time with my family.
This is whyyy they saying dont tell you secrets you dont ask to hear if you tell me I have a secret and I say I dont want to hear it and you insist I'm not keeping it to myself especially if its stressful af to me
@Camille Ollo I am a aquarius dude, but I'm pretty similar tbh. I just listen and observe mostly though. People come to me and like to vent cuz I just listen and don't judge. I been told I'm pretty damn wise so they appreciate a little advice thrown in.
I don’t like the term lazy... I feel like lazy can be referred to things that involves not wanting to because you hate or despise it , whereas being disconnected with something is simply not being interested in something because it doesn’t suit you or the things you’re into... I feel like the word “ lazy” is used loosely
She knows the jokes about white people wanting to name thier boys Timmy lol. My go to is Chros because here in FL I swear everyone is named Rob, John, Chris or Mike.
I’m the same as Adrianne I have a forgetful mind, you tell me now I forget next seconds, it’s why I never had problems with my friends. I forget their secrets lolll
Certain personalities absorb everything, so, just being in an environment can be exhausting and overstimulated, and they aren’t relaxing until they are just alone!
I'm like Tamera. People just the 1 look at me and tell me their business. I'm not always comfortable to hear people's business but I'm always happy when I'm able help.
I’m a social worker/counselor and I literally think about my clients and their issues and how to best reach as I fall asleep It’s a lot to be an empath
I love when she imitates her Mom and Loni a snitch 😂😂they all are Tamera can't hold water .neither can link and Adrienne I can see her not really saying nothing and Jeannie yea she will tell it to someone she trust
I went to a wedding of a friend who only allowed a plus one for pple she knew. If she did not know your significant other he or she was. ot allowed to come. I do not have a problem with it. She spent $200 a person on her wedding. So she had all rights to say who she wanted to attend.
I think everyone likes some juicy gossip now and then but when someone tells me some gossip it stresses me out in that moment because I think about if I was in that situation and what I would do. But then I move on and I keep it to myself weather they tell me to or not. It's not my business to tell.
I use to be the friend people would talk to to sort out the mess they got themselves into. I eventually got tired of being that friend so I stopped answering when they called and would leave if they started leading into their drama. I lost several friends but I don’t feel drained either. I agree with Jeanine about kids being “lazy” because they only want to do stuff that interest them. Being adult, however, involves doing a lot of what they don’t want to do so they are being prepared for the real world. I think they have an activity but if they fail to choose something they like on their own, the parents are well within their rights to pick something for their kids since they will be the ones having to drive to and from practices, games, and recitals, and paying the signup fees.
Adrienne, there is a VERY simple solution to the wedding question. AVOID the whole (+1 you don't know) invitation. You send invitations out and everyone you know is single, gets an invitation for only themself. And everyone that's a couple, you send them an invitation in both their names. You then avoid the multiple extra fees for +1's you don't know. #Period #Solution
No one knows everyone's personal life. Also someone could become engaged or married by the time the wedding comes. Some get engaged or married in private as well. Weddings are a waste of money, how bout that.
@@shanias.3915 I definitely think a wedding is one of the most monumental milestones in a person's life. Definitely not a waste of money. Also, most people who know the people they want at their wedding, like myself, I know who's married, engaged or single. I'm not gonna be inviting people I haven't talked to in years. Mainly all my family, close friends and probably some work associates. As far as money. It's not the wedding that's the waste of money. It's the people themselves who are wasteful. Economically, one should only have a wedding they can afford. No one should be going into debt over a wedding.
@@nikkib5753 A wedding is a waste in my opinion. It's a personal sacred moment. People can go to the courthouse and have a cookout in the backyard. They choose to spend thousands for ONE day. That is a waste. They'll be thinking bout it when they go thru tough times, like "Wow, we were being so extra. Should've been more resourceful."
I had a very intimate, small family wedding. My husband and I wanted something just for us and close friends. We hiked up a little trail at the park and our best friend married us. A "friend" of mine (at the time she was a close friend) decided to bring her sister and the sister's deadbeat boyfriend to my wedding. We didn't know them. It was extremely rude.
true! i'm also a fixer and it makes me mad when people come up to me with their problems, i cant help but give them solutions that they obvs never follow 🤦🏻♀️ so now i just nod and say oh aha yeah
I used to do that, not anymore. People don't want to hear a solution they just want to whine about the problems they got themselves into. Trying to help only zapped my energy so I stopped. Now I just let them talk and say "Hm, uh huh, yeah" and go about my business.
This is why I keep my secrets to myself...and as for others....girllll the secrets I got....like I won't lose sleep and if theu try to through the blame of "she knew also"...well then ill respond with "I'm not the one that did it tho...i was just supposed to be an ear the hear you but if it doesn't affect me then it's not my problem...idc" ill deal with my problems, you deal with your.
I was pissed, I was a bridesmaid and I DID NOT get a +1, she was like a sister to me and didn't give me a +1 ..... I was pissed, still am!. I did not want to give her a gift, but I forced myself so I got her the cheapest thing I could find on the registry.
I miss my best friend mel, she moved and got a divorce. Such a hard thing to watch over the terrible time. But glad she could talk to me. Sure miss praying with her.
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I mean... I don't mind listening to the tea, I'm like mama mai ☕😂
People need to speak to a therapist. Someone with doctor patient confidentiality and trained to handle the secrets.
@@97indianuk Unless the secret impacts your mental health in a negative way..... But if it's just a petty secret you don't really NEED a therapist
Mama is an entire mood😂😂
😙 ☕️
Is that V in your pro pic?
Loni: I've been meaning to bring this up! 💀🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭
Adrienne: that's math 👋👋👋👋👋👋 that's a lot of money
😂😂
Adrienne knows math? Really?
7:37
tapping on Loni (like sayin "wats the answer)
lol
That's my favourite part in this video 😂😂😂
Guido Feliz And how you know she doesn't? This Adrianne hatred is so lame sometimes. 😎
@@minenoturs4271 loni is an engineer she know math hence the tapping
The more tamera talks the more I realize we are literally the same person with a kick of Adrienne 😂
Alexis Silva Vlogs You are Adriera
😂 Lol
Me too! Lol 😩😂
i relate to this more than anything else i've ever seen on youtube
Same😂😂😂and I have a few sprinkles of Loni & Jeannie in me too
5:00 Loni Love: "You got that biblical face. You're just angelic." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Iablleepowell 🐈
Tehb
Iabllepowell 🐈
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I'm the type that forgets people's secrets. So you may tell me today and by tomorrow, it's out of mind. Exactly like Adrienne
SAME! I just get on with my day and then I wake up not remembering
Same 🤣
Me too
@Obito Uchiha same here
Daina Ward I forget them and it’s not because I don’t care but I just forget
I had to learn and am still learning not take on people’s problems as my own. I’m a fixer, so i always wanna fix like Tam lol but i definitely had to learn that not everyone wants or needs that from me.
tell that to my friend ..she same way
*i* even TELL her to stop
The Thirty Journey exactly
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I think it's ok to gently let people know when their behavior is unethical or if their actions will hurt themselves or others. Too many people stand by and don't say anything and then people get hurt.
Laura Berg i 100% agree and still do to an extent. But taking on ppls problems is not where I am. I will always be there for my friends and will always speak my mind on the things that matter and need immediate attention, but it just depends on the severity of the situation more so for me now.
Who else loves it when Jeanni Mai impersonate her mother ? ❤❤❤
Yes
“You got that face though... you got that biblical face.”😂😂😂
Can I get the details on Adrienne's dress please...It's gorgeous...
you cn't afford it
If you have to ask, you can't afford it
Heavenli Pass shutup. You sound really dumb 😂
Amy Collen naw you sound dumb
David Lee she just wanted to know the dress she never asked the elige
“It was Oprah and 50 Cent!” 😂😂😂
@ChattyPablo excuse me
honestly just keep your business to yourself period
ayan The world somewhat revolves around secrets and gossips...
Sometimes keeping it to yourself can be deadly...
Like I was in an abusive relationship and I kept a secret until it ended up w him in jail and bruises over my body and permanent trauma
Talking is healthy
It's just who u talk too that's important
“Mind the business that pays you” -Tami Roman 2019 Basketball Wives
Lol. I’m a great secret keeper though.
am a great secret keeper as wel
That's actually - Sierra, 2018 Love & Hip Hop
I’m pretty sure that saying has been around for years, but yeah.
I remember when a friend revealed to me she was being molested.
I held the secret for about 3 days before I broke down
OMG did you tell the cops
A good protective friend
That's definitely something you HAVE to tell 😠
Thats not a secret to keep. Its a call for help. Tell someone if u havent already please
That happened to a friend of mine, but instead of help my friend was beaten by his own family members(20+ ppl at his grandmother's house waiting for him) for the accusations. The molester was a preacher and his uncle whom he went to live with after his mom passed away. To this day he refuses to speak to the friend he confided in because she told and he almost lost his life. So you have to be careful with certain situations.
I love jeannie "oh don't you try me" I had to replay. I died 😂😂😂😂
@ChattyPablo silly
Adrienne: "I'm a genius as well. See Loni, look at that."
Loni: 👀👀
I'm weak 😂😂
Loni almost took me out with that face 😂😂
Being on your own and not doing much, doesn't make you lazy. It might just mean you like being by yourself or you've had a long day and need to recharge
13:56
yea .im with Ade
Adrienne: That's math hitting Loni
No reaponse: That's alot of money you guys! Dead!
LOL when Adrienne says she’s not losing sleep over bochinche 😂 FACTS
For a minute there, Adrienne looked like Jlo.
For some reason, All of my friends feel the need to confide in me about their sexual assault. Which, I am honored (?) that they feel that they can confide in me. BUT that is A LOT to take on. AND I could only imagine what they’re going through 😞
Yeah I remember when my friends drop that on me. The first one was hard because I was friends with her at the time and i talk to her almost daily and had no idea and then when we were drinking she brought it up causally and then told me how the after math and it made me so angry that she went through that alone and i had no idea. The second one was a shock but she didn't seem too scarred by it
I know exactly how you feel, only one friend has done it but I honestly can say it gave me ptsd. We were both in 6th grade & I didn’t know how to handle it, now when I go through stressful times I have dreams of things happening to me. Sometimes I wish that I could’ve heard her problems without letting it affect me but I guess since it’s such a big problem it hurts to hear.
I'm a dude with alot of female friends and I've heard about more than my fair share of sexual assault, honestly it makes me scared for my sisters, I think it has scared me too I always asking for permission to do anything sexual
Those things are truly hard. It's one thing hear about someone's cheating, totally different about violence.
I had to go to the Psychologist cause the secrets were so deep and scary I started being suicidal. I don't want nobody's secrets anymore 🙅
Babalwa Yabo take care of yourself and ask Jesus for peace. He will surely help you
I aspire to Adrienne’s level of unbothered 🙏🏽
Scorpio vibes!
IM LITERALLY LIKE TAM. THINKING IS EXHAUSTING.
I'm legit Adrienne 😂😂. I forget and i'm an open book idc
She said “that’s math” and started tapping Loni’s arm. 😂😂😂😂
I'm an introvert. sitting and doing nothing with myself or with my hubby and our sons watching tv is me recharging myself from all the negative energies I encountered throughout the day. I will literally burn out from exhaustion from not taking some "lazy" time. Life is about balance. Find time to do some meditation, praying, journaling, or just sitting in your room in silence. I work to make a living, all my other time is self care and spending time with my family.
Don't be calling it lazy.. It's called conservation mode..😌
I never tell secrets. Your secrets is coming to the grave with me 😂
dark angel i like you lol cause I’m the complete opposite 😭
I need to tell u mine
Wow once ur told a secret u keep it to yourself
This is why People need to speak to a therapist. Someone with doctor patient confidentiality and who’s actually trained to handle secrets.
@@97indianuk you're the same guy who responded under my comment about a therapist 😂
And if u can’t do that tell your mum (if she can be trusted)
It depends on the situation. What if your best friend’s husband/wife was cheating and you saw it and they asked you to keep it a secret?
This is whyyy they saying dont tell you secrets you dont ask to hear if you tell me I have a secret and I say I dont want to hear it and you insist I'm not keeping it to myself especially if its stressful af to me
Adrienne: I ain’t losing sleep over some bochinche!
Me: LET THAT BORICUA OUT!! ❤️
When loni said "you got that biblical face" I cried lmfaoo
“It hurts me not to care.” ❤️💔
i can relate to Adrienne, such an open book and ppl keep telling me their stuffs even adults
I love having breakfast and watching girl chat✨
Yes same I just finished drinking my coffee😂
I can’t wait to do that
I like the term “relaxing” instead of lazy. 😁
Adrienne was speaking the truth about some of us just wanting a listening ear. Not everybody wants your help/advice 👏🏽👏🏽
I keep my secrets to myself.
Loni kills me ‘I’ve been meaning to bring this up’🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Rwanda bee sooooo funny 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Rwanda bee Tamera's face....lol
Adrienne's makeup is gorgeous!!!
tashaf678 her whole look is on point!
Always...
I just block it out. Pretend I never heard it drown it out. It’s not my place to say anything. So I have my own business to worry about.
Tam, I exhaust myself from thinking, too
Tam I'm da same way. Maybe it's a Cancer thing . We're empathic. We feel everything.
She was a friend I could tell her my secrets and her to me. Because we knew we would pray instead of telling others. 🙏😏
Tamera literally embodies the Cancer zodiac.
Any fellow cancerians here???
@Camille Ollo
I am a aquarius dude, but I'm pretty similar tbh. I just listen and observe mostly though. People come to me and like to vent cuz I just listen and don't judge. I been told I'm pretty damn wise so they appreciate a little advice thrown in.
June 23rd right here and you are so right!
July 1 🙋🏾♀️
July 17th!
Yes & as a cancer ppl will reveal all they business to me all the time. Even strangers
Lmaoooo Loni is too honest🤣
I’m a very empathetic person so there are some secrets I can’t handle. If it’s something bad, don’t tell me.
Amen
Same!!!
I don’t like the term lazy... I feel like lazy can be referred to things that involves not wanting to because you hate or despise it , whereas being disconnected with something is simply not being interested in something because it doesn’t suit you or the things you’re into... I feel like the word “ lazy” is used loosely
Why is Jeannies go to imaginary name “Timmy” 😂
Scott D dead 💀 😂😂
She knows the jokes about white people wanting to name thier boys Timmy lol. My go to is Chros because here in FL I swear everyone is named Rob, John, Chris or Mike.
Tamera butters herself up a lot. Sometimes I like the self-confidence, sometimes it just sounds arrogant.
OMG. I was hoping to see something like this.
@@kaylee7639 exactly
Adrienne looks absolutely stunning in that blue dress. 😍😍😍 And the make up. One of the best things she has ever worn.
That makeup is in point 👏👏👏 for all 4 ladies👌🔥
I’m the same as Adrianne I have a forgetful mind, you tell me now I forget next seconds, it’s why I never had problems with my friends. I forget their secrets lolll
A stranger showed up to my parents weeding and when the cops came cuz of a noise complain. Let’s just say he jumed the gate and ran😂👐🏾👏🏾👐🏾👏🏾👐🏾
The Real needs to come back. This show's chit chat is definitely very informative and insightful. It also can make you feel good
Adrienne is a real Scorpio... it takes so so so much to get scorps to struggle with sleep
Certain personalities absorb everything, so, just being in an environment can be exhausting and overstimulated, and they aren’t relaxing until they are just alone!
I don’t spill my tea at all but I’ll happily listen to yours😭
Don't tell me nothing. My mouth is like running water, can't keep none
C D I try to deny it but it’s true for me
😭😭😭😭
"and is he single???" lmaoooo
Scary to think but I see myself in Mama Mai... Goodluck to my future kids🤣
Loool. I am Adrienne in this situation. If it's not my family, I genuinely don't care 😅
" I'm exhausted because I think too much " I'm with you Tam ! Not laziness, but smart and cool !
Of course, because it starts to get to you and it eats at you too then.
Adrienne : “Should you be doing that everyday, all day?”
Ladies in Agreement: “Noooooooo.”
Me: personally attacked but trying to be better
I keep secrets but I forget them 💀💀
Tamara is just an amazing human being
I'm like Tamera. People just the 1 look at me and tell me their business. I'm not always comfortable to hear people's business but I'm always happy when I'm able help.
I’m a social worker/counselor and I literally think about my clients and their issues and how to best reach as I fall asleep
It’s a lot to be an empath
“I’ve been meaning to bring this up” lol😅 now that’s real. I woulda said that.
What Adrienne was describing at the end is called rest. A hard working person can take the time to enjoy the fruits of their labor.
I love when she imitates her Mom and Loni a snitch 😂😂they all are Tamera can't hold water .neither can link and Adrienne I can see her not really saying nothing and Jeannie yea she will tell it to someone she trust
Keeping it WILL NEVER HELP! It’ll always come out soon.
Low key, I think Adrienne is a genius for sure. She's so smart!
Loni is glowing 😍
I love the way Jeannie imitates Mama Mai! "I don't want wrinkle!"
Jeannie : “ÖH DŒŃT ŸÔU TRŸ MĒ”
Loni looks gorgeous in red. Especially with the red lipstick
7:36 🤣🤣 she didn’t know the math and wanted Loni to do it but she was taking long so she left it and just said “ that was a lot money you guys”🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yess I am like Tamera. Everyone will tell me all of their business. I'm like okay haha. I must have a "confess to me" sign on my head.
Akia W same. It’s a blessing and a curse at the same time.
Hahhahahaha Adrienne I feel you! I forget secrets people tell me ALL the time
I went to a wedding of a friend who only allowed a plus one for pple she knew. If she did not know your significant other he or she was. ot allowed to come. I do not have a problem with it. She spent $200 a person on her wedding. So she had all rights to say who she wanted to attend.
I think everyone likes some juicy gossip now and then but when someone tells me some gossip it stresses me out in that moment because I think about if I was in that situation and what I would do. But then I move on and I keep it to myself weather they tell me to or not. It's not my business to tell.
I'm so good at keeping secrets that I forget them😂
I use to be the friend people would talk to to sort out the mess they got themselves into. I eventually got tired of being that friend so I stopped answering when they called and would leave if they started leading into their drama. I lost several friends but I don’t feel drained either.
I agree with Jeanine about kids being “lazy” because they only want to do stuff that interest them. Being adult, however, involves doing a lot of what they don’t want to do so they are being prepared for the real world. I think they have an activity but if they fail to choose something they like on their own, the parents are well within their rights to pick something for their kids since they will be the ones having to drive to and from practices, games, and recitals, and paying the signup fees.
Adrienne, there is a VERY simple solution to the wedding question. AVOID the whole (+1 you don't know) invitation. You send invitations out and everyone you know is single, gets an invitation for only themself. And everyone that's a couple, you send them an invitation in both their names. You then avoid the multiple extra fees for +1's you don't know. #Period #Solution
No one knows everyone's personal life. Also someone could become engaged or married by the time the wedding comes. Some get engaged or married in private as well. Weddings are a waste of money, how bout that.
@@shanias.3915 I definitely think a wedding is one of the most monumental milestones in a person's life. Definitely not a waste of money. Also, most people who know the people they want at their wedding, like myself, I know who's married, engaged or single. I'm not gonna be inviting people I haven't talked to in years. Mainly all my family, close friends and probably some work associates. As far as money. It's not the wedding that's the waste of money. It's the people themselves who are wasteful. Economically, one should only have a wedding they can afford. No one should be going into debt over a wedding.
@@nikkib5753 A wedding is a waste in my opinion. It's a personal sacred moment. People can go to the courthouse and have a cookout in the backyard. They choose to spend thousands for ONE day. That is a waste. They'll be thinking bout it when they go thru tough times, like "Wow, we were being so extra. Should've been more resourceful."
'Oh dont you try me!' Jeannine I'm dead! LMFO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I never tell anyone anything, and that's why people tell me everything.😂
Tamara’s right Jeannie! I am constantly exhausted from my anxiety and worries!
If I'm allowed to bring a plus 1 then you can't dictate who that is too.
I had a very intimate, small family wedding. My husband and I wanted something just for us and close friends. We hiked up a little trail at the park and our best friend married us. A "friend" of mine (at the time she was a close friend) decided to bring her sister and the sister's deadbeat boyfriend to my wedding. We didn't know them. It was extremely rude.
I agree with Loni sometimes you just want to take someone lol
true! i'm also a fixer and it makes me mad when people come up to me with their problems, i cant help but give them solutions that they obvs never follow 🤦🏻♀️ so now i just nod and say oh aha yeah
I used to do that, not anymore. People don't want to hear a solution they just want to whine about the problems they got themselves into. Trying to help only zapped my energy so I stopped. Now I just let them talk and say "Hm, uh huh, yeah" and go about my business.
This is why I keep my secrets to myself...and as for others....girllll the secrets I got....like I won't lose sleep and if theu try to through the blame of "she knew also"...well then ill respond with "I'm not the one that did it tho...i was just supposed to be an ear the hear you but if it doesn't affect me then it's not my problem...idc" ill deal with my problems, you deal with your.
Love love love loooooove Loni! So funny when she reacts to Tam bringing that friend
They all look gorgeous, loved the topics and the honesty
I was pissed, I was a bridesmaid and I DID NOT get a +1, she was like a sister to me and didn't give me a +1 ..... I was pissed, still am!. I did not want to give her a gift, but I forced myself so I got her the cheapest thing I could find on the registry.
Here's the thing about being "lazy", is that you may be lazy at one point but you're not lazy all the time. EVERYONE gets bored of doing nothing.
I miss my best friend mel, she moved and got a divorce. Such a hard thing to watch over the terrible time. But glad she could talk to me. Sure miss praying with her.
I have no problem being lazy