the extra secret bank account filled with money got every African mum CLAPPING 😂😂. They always tell us a man may leave but your education or money won't!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Exactly. He doesn’t need to know what you worked for. A man can be temporary security but we always need our back up. Plus we worked for it we don’t owe anyone an explanation of our finances.
I don’t see anything wrong with having another bank account because the way men act nowadays , you never know ! And just for emergency purposes period .
Right and plus back a few years ago when Tamar was on the show they was talking about married women should have a secret bank account just in case and they all was like I agree and that’s a smart idea 💯🤷🏾♀️
I had a partner who would talk about his exes and the mothers of his kids all the time. I knew all the stories. BUT he didn’t wanna know anything about my past relationships. As if that wasn’t torture enough, every time we get into a fight he would compare me with his ex. That was the most unhealthy relationship I have ever been in and I am glad I made it out in one piece..🙌🏽
It's really just preference. Some women just want to know. You can say it's insecurity. But to me it is really a matter of preference. Some women just want to know.
That’s exactly what it is! Don’t let that other women know that you care about who she is cuz that feeds her ego and makes you look not confident in yourself. خلية النحل Honey
I feel like it’s really not them one upping me because one- like loni said I have the ring you not one upping me regardless I got my man and second- the only reason I feel like I’d have to know about someone is if they pose a threat so if you feel like you HAVE to tell me about someone they are one upping me anyway
Ladies don't let ur man feel as if he has a 100 percent hold on u. Thats when he's gonna start taking u for granted. Sometimes they dont need to know EVERYTHING, just whats important.
Freddie? 2:12 Ok The Real youtube team, I know we’re gonna get flashback episodes but this is a little ridiculous. Topic thoughts: I agree with telling my partner just about everything. It’s those little things that you keep in hiding that turn into big things and honesty, trust and transparency is IMPORTANT to me in a relationship. There are things that you can’t and shouldn’t share (best friend secrets, specific details about past experiences, etc) but gambling debt and addictions? Nah fam.
Well it’s still an interesting topic that many women might need advice on, or many women are going through having second thoughts on sharing a secret or moving in. If you’re talking about the fact that she’s now a divorced woman, that shouldn’t matter. No one knew she was gonna get divorced. If she knew it, she wouldn’t have even decided to join the conversation. Plus it’s RUclips. They’re gonna release what ppl want them to. It’s all about the content, and the content brings money.
My Mother told me longtime ago that it wasn’t necessary to tell my husband everything as well as when he was my boyfriend.I disagreed with her strongly I was younger and argued that you’re suppose to be honest with someone you love.lol I got older and experienced things in my relationships and marriage I came to see that my Mother was absolutely right!! I realized that men cannot handle certain things that you may tell them and what happens is that some of these things can cause problems in your relationship or marriage.And Im not even talking about big things,It could be something small.You can tell a man something in love and trust that you think will create a bond and he may process it and come to a completely different point of view about whatever it is you told him.And now he’s lookin at you sideways and you can’t believe that what you told him caused all of this.And men do not necessarily tell us everything.More times than not they don’t want to take a chance on telling us something that may cause us to get upset.So,They just choose to be quiet and not do all that damn talking like we do.lol
Kim Wright you are absolutely right. I believed in being completely honest and when I got my bf I would tell small unimportant things that would get him very upset and I couldn’t understand.
@@musiclovesoul33 exactly. Usually when she gives an example and she says "I had a friend who..." she's normally talking about herself. I would like her way more if she was her real self and not acting like a 8 year old nun
bruh i agree w loni n jeannie period. comparison is the thief of joy. when u compare urself to ur partner’s ex’s its ALWAYS messy. even if u find out u the “cutest” one, u still gonna be pressed wondering why he liked that girl n why she look different then u. don’t get held down by the past.
Why are you comparing though? Wanting to know something doesn't mean you're trying to compare. I like knowing because I don't like being a fool. I've been in rooms where GROWN women are petty. They will be like oh your boyfriend and iiiiii and try to say something. I'm not dealing with that bs. I always feel confident being aware of my reality. Your past is your past but it at some point will affect our future.
Depending on the situation. You have to keep SOME things to yourself, for yourself. But definitely having another bank account. You have to secure yourself IF something was to happen. Keep that to yourself!
I feel like people who move in before marriage or even engagement I would like to consider it a “test run” because it gives you the chance to see what would happen and get used to what they do in the morning , what time they do when they wake up , how do they do things around the house... and then once marriage kicks in , you feel like you have a sense of that person and took that time and figured that it worked for them and took the next step to be with that person as their life partner !
You don’t have to tell each other everything. Just the important things. People are allowed to have some privacy 🙄. Separate bank account is important. Look at these stay at home moms who get divorced and have nothing. No job. No name for themselves. At least have some money to get you an apartment and food until you get your life together and never depend on someone to take care of you again.
Adrienne is assuming that the ex cares about the new significant other. Not everybody is trying to one up or feel like they got something over you. I’m sorry we’re all different but to me that’s whack. Like what if the girl doesn’t know you don’t know and she or he just doesn’t care.🤷🏽♀️
Because listen... whoever has my ex. Take him.. TAKE HIM. If anything I have one up on the new girlfriend because me and him are not together anymore. #HeWasTrash
I don't tell my man everything and he doesn't have to tell me everything. I don't care who he's been with. He doesn't care who I've been with. We say what's important. Outside of that we don't think it matters.
@@yeetsmeluigi7718 if you're just dating, theres no reason that needs to be discussed on either part. I've tried explaining that to my guy that he doesnt need to tell me and I dont need to know
Anything regarding your mental/physical health like addictions or exes, I feel like as a partner I deserve to know. But having a separate bank account I feel is just about preparedness. You NEVER know what the future holds or what will happen between you and your partner. My mom said as a girl you should always have money set aside for yourself just in case.
Being nosy is fine, but do you want to know about his ex because you want to know how he was and how that relationship shaped him... or do you want to know what she was like to compare yourself to her?
i would say both. if my bf went through something with his ex that gave him, let's say, trust issues, then i (personally) would like to know what happened so i won't do anything similar and we won't break up. learning from your past relationships and learning from others.
@Bri Love I would not expect you to understand what I wrote with your passive aggressive condesending tone disguised as caring. Your life is so wonderful is it? Why are you replying weeks later anyway? Do you have nothing better to do? FOH with that dumb smile. Stupid entitled bitch.
No. Secrecy in a relationship on either side is not ok. Secrecy is dishonest and once you break that trust it's HARD to get back. Privacy however is perfectly fine. Privacy and secrecy are very different. Privacy is a reasonable boundary and should be respected, secrecy is intentionally keeping something from your partner in a deceitful manner. As far as the seperate bank account goes? For as long as I've known what a bank account was, my parents have had seperate ones. They still know at the end of the day that everything they have is each other's, but I think the illusion of having seperate financial assets helps to keep the peace and prevent a lot of fights about money.
I don’t keep anything from my husband, I learned as a kid that a lie has more consequences than the truth. There’s nothing wrong with having separate accounts, everyone’s different.
I think it’s a good idea to at least find out why they’re past relationships ended. It helps show how that shaped the person to who they are today and if the other person broke up with them- do they still have feelings? If they were cheated on or cheated themselves- that could impact your relationship. I know that people shouldn’t worry and people can change, however it’s being prepared for how the person thinks and makes choices. Like if an ex cheated, the person could have trust issues or if someone did the cheating, like I would want to know. By asking about their past relationships it helps set boundaries for yours with that person. I also think there is time and place for conversations, you don’t have to air out all your laundry soon. People earn that over time and that gives you more conversations throughout the relationship.
My husband asked me all sorts of questions from my past relationships and I asked him nothing. He still knows each and everyone of them and it's so annoying because it is used against me.
I think a lot of women are misinterpreting the idea of learning about their partner's exes and learning secrets that might sting a little. It's natural to be curious and to wonder where you fall alongside other women. This does not mean you are trying to use what you learn to shrink your own self-esteem or make yourself feel unworthy. Sometimes being curious is the reason itself for you wanting to know. I agree with Adrienne in that it makes you feel closer to your partner. Clearly, if your partner was with someone else at any point, there was a reason. It allows you to learn these reasons and thus learn about your partner. Also, Loni stresses me out in these episodes... and men absolutely care, especially the possessive ones! I really wonder what her life has been like.
The secret account is a basic for a women. You never know what will happen next, but you can swiftly get out of it, if it happens 🙏 (gambling problems, beating, cheating) And avoid being the :"I have nowhere else to go" kind of woman. Because it's a terrible place to be in your life. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Peace, Love, and Coconut
This is throwback. Wooh! But on the real, the majority of ppl have secrets and as adults you should know the difference between the ones that need sharing and the ones that you keep to yourself. It's good to have a little mystery. Also, having that second bank acct is not crazy, it's practical. I don't know if it's cultural or not, but my mom always told me to have a rainy day fund.
People who live together before they're married are more likely to get a divorce than people who waited till they were married or engaged are because they're likely more liberal, and thus more likely to see divorce as an option. People who insist on waiting till marriage or engagement to move in together are probably more religious/conservative, and thus not as likely to divorce.
I feel like hiding something because you don’t want them to find out and doing something for your own personal doings or future references just in case things don’t work out... gambling & following or stalking exes... that’s weird but a personal bank account is not a big deal! If y’all have a joint account that’s cool... but having a personal account too shouldn’t be made a big deal! But as far as things that can fr fr affect the relationship outside of finances then be 100% honest especially if you love that person and you trust them and you want them to trust you
I think honesty is better rather than keeping secret especially when it come to relationship with other people. In my opinion, couple should get married before moving in together.
I am for having a separate bank account. I don’t want to get my mans approval to do stuff with my money. That is so insecure I don’t care about what you did before me. My guy now tells me about his ex’s and sometimes i want to hit him in the mouth because I don’t want to know and I don’t care. When you tell us that it makes me go okay now I gotta check that so I don’t do it you can’t be who you really are.
Gisela Im here scrolling thru the comments to see if anyone realized how stupid loni is!!!!! And no one has mentioned it. The stats were 30% don't make it passed 3 years and 14% don't even make it passed the 1st year....... She went and said she's a numbers person and stated that 70% make it 😂 obvi only 56% make it by those stats....
Study after study show that living together before getting married actually gives you a HIGHER chance for divorce. Also, some couples will "slide" into marriage, meaning they probably wouldn't have married if they weren't living together but did so out of convenience or just settling.
JESUS CHRIST IS LORD FOREVER PLEASE LET US ALL REPENT AND SURRENDER OUR LIFES TO JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. GOD ALMIGHTY BLESS US ALL IN JESUS PRECIOUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN.
I don’t believe in having a joint checking account, but a joint savings account. Like saving for a trip together or whatever you two want to get together. But don’t have a checking account together. My bf doesn’t need to know what I’m buying 🤣
Till we get married in next 5 years I will tell my secrets and the best way to tell someone a secret it’s to say hey I wasn’t ready to tell you some of the things just be polite
Loni: I'm a numbers person Also Loni: Forgets the 14% of couples that don't even last a year (meaning only 56% of the couples actually make it longer than 3 years)
I think you should tell someone if you have a gambling problem because that will lead to debt. But the separate bank account is fine. If you make that money yourself it’s your business.
I'm an open book with my man, but I believe there are things you have the right to keep to yourself and your higher power (like Loni mentioned) AS LONG as it does not affect the other person. If he or she should know, tell them. It all depends on the situation but in terms of money, I think it's fine to have a separate bank account but let that person know maybe?
I agree with Jeannie 100%. In my opinion, its kind of immature to not live with someone before you get married. You do not truly know a person until you live with you. You don't really know if you are compatible until you take that step. Moving in only after you get married seems misguided and archaic to me... a recipe for disaster
Jeannie is such a smooth talker.. She was talkin still like she was good in relationship. Makin her like an expert on this topic. But she knew deep down her relationship was toxic.
It's ok not to tell each other everything. Whatif the guy is abusive and u have run for ur life but u can't hide anywhere or go to anyone u know coz he knows everything about u. He or she maybe a nice guy or a girl but u never know. Just don't tell everything to ur significant others. Have a separate bank account. Many housewives r left with nothing when they get divorced coz they r not prepared. It's ok.
Married for 10 years together for 13 my husband and I have told each other prior sex partners and we answer questions if we ask.. however we don't need to tell each other everything, as Loni said "there are things that only me and the Lord know".
I completely agree with Loni! My sex/dating life is no ones business but my own. I’d rather not know about my mans ex people..no thanks. It would completely drive me crazy and create insecurity that is unnecessary. I’m the here and now and so is he. I’d rather spend time enjoying each other and focusing on that.
What happens if you marry someone and within your marriage their ex's keep coming up in our marriage. Then she wants me to move with her back to her small island, and I have to live with her and past. I need to know what I'm walking into before I make that huge decision.
The first question is something that came up in my relationship with my boyfriend. I wanted to know about his past but he didn't really care as much to know mine. He only asked me about mine after I asked him about his. His answer was kinda short sweet and to the point while mine was more detailed (mind you he had been in relationships before whereas he is my first boyfriend but I've had crushes). But he seemed to feel some type of way when I told him my past. The farthest I've gone with a guy before him is holding hands and being kissed on the cheek. (I know he wasn't/isn't a virgin.) Meanwhile, I wanted to know even more than what he told me, but I didn't want to pry. So guys are weird about stuff like that. They don't care and girls are nosy 🤷🏽♀️😂
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the extra secret bank account filled with money got every African mum CLAPPING 😂😂. They always tell us a man may leave but your education or money won't!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Unless it’s the Man in the relationship confessing to having a separate bank account 😩
Bianca Lord that's grounds for divorce in my books lmao (unless he is gonna surprise me or saving up for something huge for us)
Exactly. He doesn’t need to know what you worked for. A man can be temporary security but we always need our back up. Plus we worked for it we don’t owe anyone an explanation of our finances.
Cause period.
@@beigelover95 So you're allowed to have one but your man isn't??
I don’t see anything wrong with having another bank account because the way men act nowadays , you never know ! And just for emergency purposes period .
Suzan UE completely agree. You gotta look out for yourself at the end of the day 🤞🏼
being smart is what is called but when you have a gambling problem and that was your reason to then it's a different story lmao
Right and plus back a few years ago when Tamar was on the show they was talking about married women should have a secret bank account just in case and they all was like I agree and that’s a smart idea 💯🤷🏾♀️
Not if you don't know about it. That's sketchy.
It does not need to be a secret... Just tell him...
I agree with loni and Jeannie..comparing yourself to your partners ex’s is unhealthy
And you don’t know everything.You only know what he or she tells you.
True
I had a partner who would talk about his exes and the mothers of his kids all the time. I knew all the stories. BUT he didn’t wanna know anything about my past relationships. As if that wasn’t torture enough, every time we get into a fight he would compare me with his ex. That was the most unhealthy relationship I have ever been in and I am glad I made it out in one piece..🙌🏽
@@yamariebojang6700 that sounds like hell! I'm glad you made it out too sis👏🏽💙
Sashay Chantae Thanks sis. It’s was a nightmare
Adrienne was coming through strong. She don't want no other chick thinking she has one up on her because shes been with her man. I feel her.
🙄
It's really just preference. Some women just want to know. You can say it's insecurity. But to me it is really a matter of preference. Some women just want to know.
That’s exactly what it is! Don’t let that other women know that you care about who she is cuz that feeds her ego and makes you look not confident in yourself. خلية النحل Honey
I feel like it’s really not them one upping me because one- like loni said I have the ring you not one upping me regardless I got my man and second- the only reason I feel like I’d have to know about someone is if they pose a threat so if you feel like you HAVE to tell me about someone they are one upping me anyway
olivia doyle He may have proposed to her but she didn’t want the ring. Ur man is clearly no prize to her if she LEFT him
The old lady in titanic said it best, “A woman’s heart is an ocean of secrets”. 🤫
That's a scandalous type of woman
She was a skank 😂🤣😂
@@sionel2604 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@sionel2604 I’m gonna need to confiscate your mobile devices
@@asisiphoclay1568imiiimi imimimiimimiimimim
Clearly Freddy believed in keeping secrets from his spouse...
Dead💀😂☠💀
Future called wait what happened?
They got a divorce because she belittled him on the show in more ways then one and they grew apart. He wanted kids; she didn’t. They just divorced.
Okay! 💁♀️
K B NO DUMBASS HE CHEATED ON HER
Ladies don't let ur man feel as if he has a 100 percent hold on u. Thats when he's gonna start taking u for granted. Sometimes they dont need to know EVERYTHING, just whats important.
Thank you!!!!
Amen
exactly
I'm moving in with my boyfriend but he's already seen me with no wig so the secrets are all out :)
😅😅😅 oooh lawd !!
Lol love it 😍
Lmao. You just gotta live your best life sometimes 😆😆😆
Okay suh .
michael perez I got the best of both worlds. Wig or no wig 😊👌🏿
This is old because Jeanie and Freddy got a divorce right
Yep
Yesss, these videos are all out of whack
You this is a full video
That’s what I’m trying to figure out because I’m Googling the hell outta this 😂
Yes and also Loni said “as a single girl...” so this is before she was public with James
Freddie? 2:12 Ok The Real youtube team, I know we’re gonna get flashback episodes but this is a little ridiculous.
Topic thoughts: I agree with telling my partner just about everything. It’s those little things that you keep in hiding that turn into big things and honesty, trust and transparency is IMPORTANT to me in a relationship. There are things that you can’t and shouldn’t share (best friend secrets, specific details about past experiences, etc) but gambling debt and addictions? Nah fam.
The real b getting lazy!!!
Well it’s still an interesting topic that many women might need advice on, or many women are going through having second thoughts on sharing a secret or moving in. If you’re talking about the fact that she’s now a divorced woman, that shouldn’t matter. No one knew she was gonna get divorced. If she knew it, she wouldn’t have even decided to join the conversation. Plus it’s RUclips. They’re gonna release what ppl want them to. It’s all about the content, and the content brings money.
My Mother told me longtime ago that it wasn’t necessary to tell my husband everything as well as when he was my boyfriend.I disagreed with her strongly I was younger and argued that you’re suppose to be honest with someone you love.lol I got older and experienced things in my relationships and marriage I came to see that my Mother was absolutely right!! I realized that men cannot handle certain things that you may tell them and what happens is that some of these things can cause problems in your relationship or marriage.And Im not even talking about big things,It could be something small.You can tell a man something in love and trust that you think will create a bond and he may process it and come to a completely different point of view about whatever it is you told him.And now he’s lookin at you sideways and you can’t believe that what you told him caused all of this.And men do not necessarily tell us everything.More times than not they don’t want to take a chance on telling us something that may cause us to get upset.So,They just choose to be quiet and not do all that damn talking like we do.lol
Kim Wright you are absolutely right. I believed in being completely honest and when I got my bf I would tell small unimportant things that would get him very upset and I couldn’t understand.
Adrienne ever since she’s been married has been acting so brand new and like she suddenly don’t understand anything.
Forreal!!!
Christopher Evans It’s gotten to the point where it’s cluelessness on almost everything. Smh
@@musiclovesoul33 exactly. Usually when she gives an example and she says "I had a friend who..." she's normally talking about herself. I would like her way more if she was her real self and not acting like a 8 year old nun
She is working my nerves!
@musiclove.lol.thats how she is.
bruh i agree w loni n jeannie period. comparison is the thief of joy. when u compare urself to ur partner’s ex’s its ALWAYS messy. even if u find out u the “cutest” one, u still gonna be pressed wondering why he liked that girl n why she look different then u. don’t get held down by the past.
Why are you comparing though? Wanting to know something doesn't mean you're trying to compare. I like knowing because I don't like being a fool. I've been in rooms where GROWN women are petty. They will be like oh your boyfriend and iiiiii and try to say something. I'm not dealing with that bs. I always feel confident being aware of my reality. Your past is your past but it at some point will affect our future.
@LYRICXL not true my ex husband was with me and still cheated lmao
I just love Tam. I'm praying for you and the family to have a long successful and blessed marriage.
Depending on the situation. You have to keep SOME things to yourself, for yourself. But definitely having another bank account. You have to secure yourself IF something was to happen. Keep that to yourself!
Loni’s facial expressions kill me.
Over here LMAO 😂🤣🤣🤣
Me 2 🙄😌🤪😏😊🤣😁
I feel like people who move in before marriage or even engagement I would like to consider it a “test run” because it gives you the chance to see what would happen and get used to what they do in the morning , what time they do when they wake up , how do they do things around the house... and then once marriage kicks in , you feel like you have a sense of that person and took that time and figured that it worked for them and took the next step to be with that person as their life partner !
You don’t have to tell each other everything. Just the important things. People are allowed to have some privacy 🙄. Separate bank account is important. Look at these stay at home moms who get divorced and have nothing. No job. No name for themselves. At least have some money to get you an apartment and food until you get your life together and never depend on someone to take care of you again.
Who else at to recheck the upload date when Jeannie said “Freddie” ??
Adrienne is assuming that the ex cares about the new significant other. Not everybody is trying to one up or feel like they got something over you. I’m sorry we’re all different but to me that’s whack. Like what if the girl doesn’t know you don’t know and she or he just doesn’t care.🤷🏽♀️
Because listen... whoever has my ex. Take him.. TAKE HIM. If anything I have one up on the new girlfriend because me and him are not together anymore. #HeWasTrash
Exactly!!!!
I wouldn't give a damn
Unless, she's your friend and now you're with her husb**d
I never understood Adrienne more than I do in this video. She’s always looking in deep with everything she speaks!!!!!
when you feel secure enough in your relationship, it doesn't bother you to know his ex
I definitely want to wait until I’m married to move in with someone💯
Adrienne is young. It's not a secret stash account. It's just my money for my purpose.
I don't tell my man everything and he doesn't have to tell me everything. I don't care who he's been with. He doesn't care who I've been with. We say what's important. Outside of that we don't think it matters.
I feel u on that.
Omg I'm with loni there are somethings only me and the lord know and I'm taking it to the grave.
Me too
I love them!! Even though they have different opinions they don’t pop off on each other and still try to hear the other person point!!
If someone contantly talking about his exes and comparing you to them its a major red flag
I never tell my man how much money I have in my bank account
Preach ! 🙏 A woman need to keep her money in HER own account, and no one needs to know about it: it's private.
Lol I hope you arent asking for his bank card then
I'm doing the same too.
So, r you always ready for a devorce?.....
@@yeetsmeluigi7718 if you're just dating, theres no reason that needs to be discussed on either part. I've tried explaining that to my guy that he doesnt need to tell me and I dont need to know
Anything regarding your mental/physical health like addictions or exes, I feel like as a partner I deserve to know. But having a separate bank account I feel is just about preparedness. You NEVER know what the future holds or what will happen between you and your partner. My mom said as a girl you should always have money set aside for yourself just in case.
Being nosy is fine, but do you want to know about his ex because you want to know how he was and how that relationship shaped him... or do you want to know what she was like to compare yourself to her?
true story
This is deep
i would say both. if my bf went through something with his ex that gave him, let's say, trust issues, then i (personally) would like to know what happened so i won't do anything similar and we won't break up. learning from your past relationships and learning from others.
I swear these women live in Lala land when it comes to their understanding of men and the pedestal they put their relationships upon.
What do you mean?
@Bri Love There you go with a stupid reply. Re-read my comment and come up with a better and appropriate reply. Simpleton.
I agree with u. They're. A bit too much. Makes them look like intelligent fools.
@Bri Love I would not expect you to understand what I wrote with your passive aggressive condesending tone disguised as caring. Your life is so wonderful is it? Why are you replying weeks later anyway? Do you have nothing better to do? FOH with that dumb smile. Stupid entitled bitch.
When Adrienne asked "what was he doing that was so..." i was done
No. Secrecy in a relationship on either side is not ok. Secrecy is dishonest and once you break that trust it's HARD to get back. Privacy however is perfectly fine. Privacy and secrecy are very different. Privacy is a reasonable boundary and should be respected, secrecy is intentionally keeping something from your partner in a deceitful manner. As far as the seperate bank account goes? For as long as I've known what a bank account was, my parents have had seperate ones. They still know at the end of the day that everything they have is each other's, but I think the illusion of having seperate financial assets helps to keep the peace and prevent a lot of fights about money.
Lonni and Jeannie speaking straight facts💯💅🏾
I miss these light hearted chats where they talk about their personal lives
I don’t keep anything from my husband, I learned as a kid that a lie has more consequences than the truth.
There’s nothing wrong with having separate accounts, everyone’s different.
I think it’s a good idea to at least find out why they’re past relationships ended. It helps show how that shaped the person to who they are today and if the other person broke up with them- do they still have feelings? If they were cheated on or cheated themselves- that could impact your relationship. I know that people shouldn’t worry and people can change, however it’s being prepared for how the person thinks and makes choices. Like if an ex cheated, the person could have trust issues or if someone did the cheating, like I would want to know. By asking about their past relationships it helps set boundaries for yours with that person. I also think there is time and place for conversations, you don’t have to air out all your laundry soon. People earn that over time and that gives you more conversations throughout the relationship.
Why does everyone care so much that’s it’s old, if you haven’t seen it then it new to you. Old or new it’s still good topics
"if that person doesn't matter, why would you feel weird about sharing it?"
THANK F***ING YOU! PREACH
My husband asked me all sorts of questions from my past relationships and I asked him nothing. He still knows each and everyone of them and it's so annoying because it is used against me.
When men ask excessive questions about your past relationships, that could be a possible red flag
The look Loni gave Tam when she interrupted her and Tam shot it back🤣😭. I'm deceased😂
I feel like Adrienne and Tam usually agree on relationship stuff
Truthfully, I agree with Tamera and Adrienne when it comes to telling your man everything.
I think a lot of women are misinterpreting the idea of learning about their partner's exes and learning secrets that might sting a little. It's natural to be curious and to wonder where you fall alongside other women. This does not mean you are trying to use what you learn to shrink your own self-esteem or make yourself feel unworthy. Sometimes being curious is the reason itself for you wanting to know. I agree with Adrienne in that it makes you feel closer to your partner. Clearly, if your partner was with someone else at any point, there was a reason. It allows you to learn these reasons and thus learn about your partner. Also, Loni stresses me out in these episodes... and men absolutely care, especially the possessive ones! I really wonder what her life has been like.
The secret account is a basic for a women. You never know what will happen next, but you can swiftly get out of it, if it happens 🙏 (gambling problems, beating, cheating) And avoid being the :"I have nowhere else to go" kind of woman. Because it's a terrible place to be in your life.
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I agree with loni. Not even just my man. Some things i won’t tell anybody. It’s my business. Your man doesn’t have to know everythingggg.
This is throwback. Wooh! But on the real, the majority of ppl have secrets and as adults you should know the difference between the ones that need sharing and the ones that you keep to yourself. It's good to have a little mystery. Also, having that second bank acct is not crazy, it's practical. I don't know if it's cultural or not, but my mom always told me to have a rainy day fund.
Why does the account have to be a secret though? I think that's where it becomes deceptive
People who live together before they're married are more likely to get a divorce than people who waited till they were married or engaged are because they're likely more liberal, and thus more likely to see divorce as an option. People who insist on waiting till marriage or engagement to move in together are probably more religious/conservative, and thus not as likely to divorce.
I feel like hiding something because you don’t want them to find out and doing something for your own personal doings or future references just in case things don’t work out... gambling & following or stalking exes... that’s weird but a personal bank account is not a big deal! If y’all have a joint account that’s cool... but having a personal account too shouldn’t be made a big deal! But as far as things that can fr fr affect the relationship outside of finances then be 100% honest especially if you love that person and you trust them and you want them to trust you
Adrienne has said this many times “NO WOMAN CAN THINK SHE HAS UP ON ME WHEN I WALK INTO A ROOM”
Yep. I think she’s insecure asf. I don’t think her marriage is gonna last.
I feel like ppl who use the “what happened before us doesn’t matter” approach have a high body count
I think honesty is better rather than keeping secret especially when it come to relationship with other people. In my opinion, couple should get married before moving in together.
Agreed.
I am for having a separate bank account. I don’t want to get my mans approval to do stuff with my money. That is so insecure I don’t care about what you did before me. My guy now tells me about his ex’s and sometimes i want to hit him in the mouth because I don’t want to know and I don’t care. When you tell us that it makes me go okay now I gotta check that so I don’t do it you can’t be who you really are.
when it comes to couple statistics id take them with a grain of salt, many keep living together just bc they wouldnt afford living alone
Gisela Im here scrolling thru the comments to see if anyone realized how stupid loni is!!!!! And no one has mentioned it. The stats were 30% don't make it passed 3 years and 14% don't even make it passed the 1st year....... She went and said she's a numbers person and stated that 70% make it 😂 obvi only 56% make it by those stats....
Loni to Adrienne: “You got the ring RIGHT NOW!” 😂😂😂
Adrienne makeup and tameras hair and makeup 😲😍😍😍
I tell my husband everything. I am too honest just like Tamera and Adrienne
Jeanie’s bangs!!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂 iconic
I 10000000 percent agree with Adrienne!!! I want to know everything. Pure honesty
Girl he is married to You why does it matter?
Study after study show that living together before getting married actually gives you a HIGHER chance for divorce.
Also, some couples will "slide" into marriage, meaning they probably wouldn't have married if they weren't living together but did so out of convenience or just settling.
Jeanie I totally agree with u when it’s totally different when it comes to LIVING TOGETHER!!!
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Love Adrienne’s body when she is this size it fits so well with her height.
I don’t believe in having a joint checking account, but a joint savings account. Like saving for a trip together or whatever you two want to get together. But don’t have a checking account together. My bf doesn’t need to know what I’m buying 🤣
I agree
I believe in joint accounts in marriage for bills and large purchases and separate accounts for personal miscellaneous purchases.
Dating and marriage isn’t the same girlie
That moment when u get all excited because u saw it's a 14 minute video andthen realise it's old😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
Leah Mayb You must not have been looking at the other 14 minute girl chats because they’ve all been older episodes being posted for like months now.
I agree it's annoying but they can't post new ones, they'd lose views on TV if they did
@@musiclovesoul33 yeah i know i Have been here sice tamar was here😀😀😀😀
Tameras whole look ! I love it .
keeping secrets from your spouse is an unhealthy relationship
I want to think that if he is truly in love with you, there should be no other Competition!
Im like Tamara and Adrienne. I OBSESS OVER EXES. OBSESS. It's torture! I've stopped now but god it was awful
Till we get married in next 5 years I will tell my secrets and the best way to tell someone a secret it’s to say hey I wasn’t ready to tell you some of the things just be polite
Loni: I'm a numbers person
Also Loni: Forgets the 14% of couples that don't even last a year (meaning only 56% of the couples actually make it longer than 3 years)
The bank account is not whack tho lol
I honestly love Jeannie so much 😭😭
HONESTLY Tamera and Adrienne have it all right and makes sense that they’re the only ones in healthy marriages that have lasted and I can see lasting
I doubt Adriennes is gonna last
@@jelissasmith6971 I doubt you’ll last
I think you should tell someone if you have a gambling problem because that will lead to debt. But the separate bank account is fine. If you make that money yourself it’s your business.
It will always going to come back to the surface. Might as well tell it all
I have no need to keep secrets... I can talk about anything. Im not ashamed. If he wants to ask me something.
I'm an open book with my man, but I believe there are things you have the right to keep to yourself and your higher power (like Loni mentioned) AS LONG as it does not affect the other person. If he or she should know, tell them. It all depends on the situation but in terms of money, I think it's fine to have a separate bank account but let that person know maybe?
I enjoy hearing Tamera input on the Real. She funny and down to earth.. It too bad she is no longer on the show.
I agree with Jeannie 100%. In my opinion, its kind of immature to not live with someone before you get married. You do not truly know a person until you live with you. You don't really know if you are compatible until you take that step. Moving in only after you get married seems misguided and archaic to me... a recipe for disaster
Jeannie is such a smooth talker..
She was talkin still like she was good in relationship. Makin her like an expert on this topic. But she knew deep down her relationship was toxic.
Loni yeeet off Adrienne’s arms away had me dead!!!!!!😂
Omg I freaking love Tamara & Adrienne I totally agree because I'm just like them!!!😂🤣🥰😘
Loni hit the nail on the head...Freddie don't ask because Freddie "dont care"
Adrienne and Tamera had good messages.
It's ok not to tell each other everything. Whatif the guy is abusive and u have run for ur life but u can't hide anywhere or go to anyone u know coz he knows everything about u. He or she maybe a nice guy or a girl but u never know. Just don't tell everything to ur significant others. Have a separate bank account. Many housewives r left with nothing when they get divorced coz they r not prepared. It's ok.
Nah girl!! When you marry a man with no self control you HAVE TO have that extra account!
Married for 10 years together for 13 my husband and I have told each other prior sex partners and we answer questions if we ask.. however we don't need to tell each other everything, as Loni said "there are things that only me and the Lord know".
My husband said, “ It better only be if it’s a gift”. 😂
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It’s just seems like an insecurity to wanna know about the guys exes, don’t need details. Don’t compare yourself, just sounds like torturous
Adrienne’s makeup is flawless here 😍😍😍
I completely agree with Loni! My sex/dating life is no ones business but my own. I’d rather not know about my mans ex people..no thanks. It would completely drive me crazy and create insecurity that is unnecessary. I’m the here and now and so is he. I’d rather spend time enjoying each other and focusing on that.
What happens if you marry someone and within your marriage their ex's keep coming up in our marriage. Then she wants me to move with her back to her small island, and I have to live with her and past. I need to know what I'm walking into before I make that huge decision.
Am learning alot from you gals,blessings
Jeannie doing the most talking & assurance when her husband the one with a whole girlfriend & baby on the way while with her.... Wow that was deep
The first question is something that came up in my relationship with my boyfriend. I wanted to know about his past but he didn't really care as much to know mine. He only asked me about mine after I asked him about his. His answer was kinda short sweet and to the point while mine was more detailed (mind you he had been in relationships before whereas he is my first boyfriend but I've had crushes). But he seemed to feel some type of way when I told him my past. The farthest I've gone with a guy before him is holding hands and being kissed on the cheek. (I know he wasn't/isn't a virgin.) Meanwhile, I wanted to know even more than what he told me, but I didn't want to pry.
So guys are weird about stuff like that. They don't care and girls are nosy 🤷🏽♀️😂
Tam’s eye shadow is 😍😍😍👏🏾
I think so. You don't want them to know everything. I said too much and am reminded about it all the time. 🙄
As long as it ain’t hurting someone, you or me if I want to keep some secrets I can!