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Mine too she's still alive though thank God and so is my dad but they still struggle. She was a bit to sloppy with me I didn't like her parenting method because it made them file for a divorce but he signed it after I moved out of her house when I was like 20 years old.
I’m a parent who thinks the real problem is too many parents try to live THEIR best lives through their kids! Like they try to correct mistakes they’ve made before they were parents via their kids lives instead of putting their kids first & focusing on guiding their kids to the correct decisions/ paths in life in any given situation. ❤
True. My daughter is a covert narcissist. I have noticed she gets irritated if others talk to me for to long. She wants the attention. Other things too. She’s petty jealous.
@@MissPrissy6688dont you think you failed you're child because you spared the rod and spoiled the child do you folow the commandments of the bible and minister the word of God to her Every single day if not you have nothing to complain about youre kids wont be at youre funeral. You failed them miserably if you did no follow the commandments of God.
@@MissPrissy6688youre daughters mental problems are youre fault there is no forgiveness you believe in tarot cards and blasphemy of God you can go to hell for that.
I feel sorry for the men who have been lured in by a narcissistic woman... It is a challenge to find the Strength to leave someone who treats you poorly as they have stripped you of your self-esteem.😕 Have faith in a better tomorrow.
you bet. X dragon friend did this:! they go after them at (his)their wife's funeral and keep on them till they're married and the cash is in the sharing. shot gun marriage under 8 months..later. signed, sealed; delivered in the bank..the female's talons.
5 for 5 traits in a "friend" whom my boyfriend became obsessed with and ended up screwing. They were so compatible because they were both narcissist. I was so devastated at the time but now I see it as a blessing because it was the only way I was able to leave my ex finally. Last time I hear she showed up with new guy on her arm and my ex boyfriend was getting a taste of his own medicine. Karma.
Insane competition. When a mother puts her own daughter down, compares her weight, her pregnancy weight to her daughter’s, ridicules her in front on everyone for her growing breasts, all of this just to shine and capture all of the attention in the room. And NOBODY SEES ANYTHING.
I feel awful because I notice some of the traits of narcissism in myself but that is just because I grew up with narcisstic parents. I guess it's good that I know it's problematic and am trying to do something about it.
I am glad when someone tries to struggle against their narcissistic traits to be a healthier individual. Their is no way to say this nicely, but you can almost never say that I have narcisstic traits ' JUST BECAUSE '... Narcissistic traits are using your mind too selfishly. Self is #1 ' ALWAYS ' in their mentality. They are 'game players ' with other peoples 'Everything' .
Narcissism originates from fear due to lack of genuine parental love, so it's not surprising that children of narcissists follow the trend. They also grow up surrounded by the tricks and tactics as models for social interaction. Support from a skilled therapist can help you unlearn the behaviour patterns and discover more healthy ways to get the self affirmation and satisfaction from life. Good luck :-)
@@dshe8637 true, but a little more digging and you will find the child of narc parents can fall into narc behavior, or grow to be an empath. CAN. i have narc relatives, but am myself an empath💓💖💕 and ive been the victim of some sick abuse. sad.
Something to consider. I’m Autistic and to the untrained and assuming eye, I could be misidentified as a narcissist. In my case and many others on the Autism Spectrum, we are empathetic and caring people. We’re simply processing atypically. I assure you, I was the perfect victim to narcissists until I learned how to defend myself.
All personality disorders are running on spectrum disorders including BPD or any cluster B, so lots of them can have autism too, that’s why they can be similar to the autistic people but without personality disorders, and Vice versa.
I understand what you mean I have it too and I know the guilt and shame we have if we make a mistake or hurt someone’s feelings I feel like it eats me alive
I still do not know how to defend myself, you you’re ahead of the game! So you have had people that just do not care that you may need a little help or time to process things, when you know they understand, and choose not to care? I am recently disabled after years of knowing it was coming, getting worse and worse. Having someone holding all of the power when at times I am powerless and I know that they understand and they actively ignore me and make me feel like I am so much trouble hurts badly!!
My mother. My best female friend from school too. All the males i attracted and females who where clearly not nice or just jealous about just stupid stuff, whitch took me decades to understand. I never even realized they where jealous of me. I had to read so much books, articles, videos, to understand women and men and their traits and what they mean... Now i avoid them too. Not only men i avoid like a plague, but women too. I never thought even, a man could be jealous about me. It was a hard pill to swallow. So, now it is better to avoid most people, because people are just not safe. I am also on the autism spectrum and other..., so it was not so easy to defend myself, to comprehend some stuff...I was and still am trying to learn to defend myself. My mother got even worse by age. I avoided her for the most part of my life. I miss a real mother. Really.
Yeah, and then they shame you for it. It relieves them of their own shame. They don't even see the hypocrisy. It's common that you start to behave like them to show them what it feels like, tit for tat so to speak. Usually this happens later on, after you have already tried asking them to stop, compromising etc and you are at your witsend. But, when you finally treat them the same way.. they act completely shocked and hurt... it's mind boggling trying to deal with someone with zero empathy.
mine 2. except. ..i guess I have this traits naturally competitive... actually I'm not like these things at all... but if I ever do them. I am encouraged by my mom and bro the golden child... only for them to throw it up. I am very humble and easily pleased. never want anything but peace and joy and satisfaction
@@charlottetheartist327 that just might explode one day. I was the same way for many, many years, and I just snapped a few months ago. I’ve been pushed around, and stepped on, since I was a baby, and people kept doing it, because they knew I’d do almost anything, just to keep the peace. Even my own children, didn’t respect me (i.e. “ahh we can show up late, mom will forgive us in a minute anyways”), and such. I also get very very scared, when people get angry, which is a trauma I never got past. A few months ago, I’d had ENOUGH. I finally put my foot down, and said NO MORE! I’m done being a pushover and being valued like the trash they step on, and only existing, when they need something from me. They though I’d gone mad. My psychologist however, said “GREAT JOB”!🙌🙌 The rage, from being disrespected and used, just built up and up, over the years. I felt constantly angry, and short tempered towards the end, which is not at all like me, usually. It was the constant “giving in”, that caused the rage, and explosion 💥 in the end. No more! I’d rather have them think I’ve gone mad, and keep my self respect, than go back to being angry all the time, and treated like 💩 I hope you manage to do the same🥰
AMEN Cordelia. They cannot truly see what/who they really are, & they ACT as of they are "all that & a bag of chips." But underneath, they have no solid personality structure & no real self-esteem. Extremely broken & dangerous people.
My daughter’s brother-in-law’s wife is as evil s they come. I send her your videos to help her. For seven years she has dealt with this narcissistic female who wants ti steal my daughter’s joy and life. The flying monkeys that enable this narcissistic female include her mother-in-law, some aunts and brother-in-laws.
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If you're reading this, I wish all the best for you. There's a lot of love out there and you deserve to be a part of it. Let the healing begin! (Or continue or flourish or whatever for wherever you are!) 💜
Yes! I moved into a new apartment complex and was being stalked by my close covert narc neighbor. She started going after half my income for months. She insisted that I just hand it over. When I confronted her, she didn't like that, and cut me off the next day.
It's the biggest weapon they use to make u feel unsafe emotionally n if u tell them that their behaviour is hurting u then they will Gaslight u with the same " u r controlling, possesive, insecure" bs
Flag 1: have you met my mother 2: have you met my aunt 3: sister 3: ‘guidance’ councillor from the 90’s 4: ‘Karen’ who tried to steal my job (her ass was fired, thanks to my integrity) 5: have I mentioned my mother
Yeah; i didn't realise narcissism was hereditary; my exes would always tell me there mother or father was a narcissist and here I was thinking "oh that's a shame" Little did I know it was their way of saying "I take after my ______"
I think a lot of narcissists go into psychology. They acquire qualifications as a defence against criticism, then they get a big rush from putting others down. Classic example is Jordan Peterson.
The way to overcome this is become Self sovereign in financial self support....not wanting a man for anything material...for true connection not alternative motive...
I have dealt with a woman like that few years ago. She was a real pain in the bum. Had similar traits plus used her seductive charm to lure me, but when I will show her back the interest, because she send out signals first, she would repel and act like Where's all this going? I was naive to all this at that time but later on found that it's a mind control technique called as Entice-Repel to make someone obsessed with you. Also, she can never be wrong in the argument/debates. Even if you slightly dare to express a different opinion, you are dead. Did many other evil things to shatter my confidence, manipulate, gaslight me. Thank God I somehow gathered courage to get rid of her, even if she insisted me to stay in contact. She was sick af!
I grew up with a narcissistic mother that had men in and out a lot when I was a kid, and the only real tools she learned to use were guilt and weaponizing sexuality. For her, it seemed, a man's willingness to sleep with her was some tangible proof that he loved her. When she was married, getting sex was harder because the guy knew her too well, so she would cry *a lot* She was a mean, violent drunk.
These women behave really badly to other women in particular. They are competetive and try to bring other women down. They resent other women's success, especially if it's authentic and not through exploiting sex. They hate Feminism; classic 'pick me girl' mentality. Aging is a horror for them, as they lose some of the tools they relied on in youth. Often end up very bitter, but the damage they cause, taking others down is tragic.
As the daughter of an NPD Mom….OMG this!! She has shit on every genuine success I ever achieved. It’s not an effing competition!! I was your kid, I needed a Mother …not a battle of supremacy every day.
This describes the woman who was the reason my husband left me many years ago. She had every one of those traits and was also extremely manipulative,devious, covetous and aggressive. I consider a woman like this completely ruthless in the way she exploits people. She fools men and uses them to get whatever she wants. When my husband died, I thanked God that we were rid of her for good since she had already done so much to our family. Women like her are every bit as threatening as narcissistic men. They have no conscience.
Yes. Couples in which both people are narcissists are miserable, but if they stay in their "relationship," it works (using that term loosely) because they take turns using & manipulating each other; as they play the "you do this for me & I'll do that for you" game. Seeing the damaged kids that are the product of the narcissistic "parent's" unhealthy union & "family" is utterly tragic. The narcissists don't achieve insight (& don't WANT to see) that they have a serious disorder & seek help for it. Their narcissism is just a life-long runaway train. Their toxic behaviors & the damage they cause are horrific.
I know someone who displays some of these characteristics. She dated a married man for over 30 years without any remorse nor consideration for his wife and children.
Competitive was a big one for my mom, she always had to make herself the reason I achieved things even if she had nothing to do with it and actively belittled my efforts along the way. if I had any kind of personal achievement she would sideways congratulate me by saying stuff like 'You're great at drawing, it's too bad you can't put that kind of effort on math' She would always put down my hobbies because they 'smelled bad' or 'took up too much space in the house' but when I would win awards or graduate the top of my class for the very thing she would tell me 'didnt matter' and get a good job doing that thing, she had the gall to brag about me to her friends but simply scowl at me and care less to even speak to me in private.
I had a narcissistic female boss who sat there all day while we worked half to death and she would complain how tired she is 😳 and then she would say I have an attitude If I wasn’t super preppy because I was burnt out and she would constantly try to say how bad her husband was ( he never hit her called her names nothing severe ) and she would also have a permanent looking frown. She always walked like she’s better than everyone. Never got too close to anyone but tried really hard to. Really creepy girl could’ve been pretty and nice but a complete b******
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I only became this way when I realized that men aren't worth dealing with for free especially because of how they go about getting what they want from women.
You know what is really sad? So many people are treated this way with this type of mindset program to think this way growing up as a child, and then you have these people passing down these types of behaviors from one generation to the next never evolving ,or letting go of old ways of thinking. Becoming the exact same things they were subjected to, finding relationships that are familiar to them instead of breaking away from this type of mindset. Looking for healthier relationships. These people will never be happy if they continue to think with this kind of mindset. This is a life choice. People choose to act this way. And when you choose this way of life, nothing will ever be good enough. The results will only be temporary, never long lasting. No person can change that. No amount of money can fix that. They'll just be chasing unrealistic fantasies for the rest of their lives.. Always going to keep wondering why people leave them, and always looking for new supply. It's emotionally exhausting to do that to yourself, and others. We have to break old cycles in order to make it through. Or else we would just be continuing the cycle & chaos. The rules apply the same to everyone. No matter what your mental illness is, the rules apply to everyone the same always. And it's no one's responsibility to put up with that. It's our responsibility to work on our own mental health, and to break those generational curses. If you don't break old habits ,you clearly didn't want it badly enough.. And when we give up on ourselves, we can't expect anything good to work in our favor. Choosing not to help yourself and staying the victim, is not a life. I don't pity people who give up. Pity, and compassion are two different things.. We all have choices.. just depends on which side we choose to water the most, those are the results we will always get.
In the majority of women it's not a question of "is she a narcissist" it's "how much of a narcissist is she" because the majority of women get spoiled into becoming narcissistic to different degrees.
My mom was a narcissist. She died 3 years after I went no contact. I felt relieved and not sad. I was actually terrified that I may have picked up narc tendencies since I suffered under her for 22 years, but narc people don't worry or stress out about being one so I think I'm ok.
I have tried dressing down and up. Dressing down you are invisible in public. Dress up and you get random men asking you for sex or stalking you. And picture on RUclips. Bad photo and people call you names, and nice beautiful pic, people leave you alone. All women are forced to pick how they are seen and have to deal with the consequences.
Most women should not be allowed to live I feel like that is so very true my mom tried her best to destroy me in every way she is now dead but I'm still standing
You learn someone when you live with with for years. Mine is getting worse, to the point of frustration and anger, for me. Just her being near me I can feel the negative energy. I have to move away from her otherwise it ruins my mood, and then I'm the bad guy for being irritated at their irritating behaviour. How irritating.
This is an exact description of the woman I married; a full blown Covert Narcissist. I use to tell people these very words when I described her. I just did not know I was describing a “narcissist” until I got educated after she left our marriage. They also constantly “Rage”, “Gaslight”, and weaponize “The Silent Treatment”. My wife also “triangulated” people constantly to ensure she had minions around to do her bidding.
The word narcissist has become so trendy like it’s double mint gum passed around in class it’s meaning has become so confusing the definition is hard to understand nowadays unfortunately but great reading auntie hopefully my generation can get it right ❤
In a highly sensitive person group in fb i got hurt or insulted by one paula who says my post in group reminded her of a narcissistic person who she lived with and now she has to live with my message! It was so insulting i felt deeply hurt and i asked her was she calling me a narc.ladies and gentlemen, you know what i was removed by the admin stating my stement indeed insulted other people in the group. Its been more than 13 hours of improper sleep and loss of energy. Highly sensitive people consisting of narcissistic persons acting like hsp omg. I am still in deep pain.
My brother was married to a narcissis for 35 yrs. He lives with me now because she was killing him. I've gotten him back to physical health but he needs psychological help from the emotional rape inflicted. Any suggestions?
Their DUTY SEX is an act of passive aggressiveness/purposeful rudeness (20/20 hindsight). Notice HOW MUCH BETTER sex is with other people after they threw their mask off!
They're stoopid. The one who thought they could verbally attack me every day in the community, be voyeuristic, obsessive and very cruel. She was removed and life is good.
If you start being devalued shes seeing someone else,or has an option. If you are seeing red flags,why wait and waste healing time? They are deeply wounded and never choose to do the work,dont say we have not warned you. They will fleece you,steal ,lie and break your things. They abuse children mentally and are cruel to animals.
Dude life has two lenses, a zoomed in one and a zoomed out one. You’re only looking at it through one lens trying to zooming out and making peace with what she really is. It’s not love you’re feeling but an emotional high created
I am going to have to read all the comments, because my best friend is like that sometimes, which makes me feel like that us her actual true personality, but she appears to be very nice and caring. I am 53, and I have known her since 2nd grade. Seems like I would know by now, but I never know which friend I am f going to have depending on what she thinks she should blame me for, accuse me of, want me to do it or if she loves me, wants to help me (I am disabled and we are now roommates at 53.) but I don’t know. It is really stressful not understanding why she flips on me.
That sounds like shes Gaslighting you! Search and learn the terminology... Scapegoat, Flying Monkeys, Golden Child, Smear Campaign, Ghosting, Love Bombing, and of course I've already mentioned Gaslighting. This gentleman seems pretty good from what I've seen, so watch more, educating yourself is your best defence. And don't feel bad for her and sacrifice yourself thinking it's you, because that what Gaslighting does, has you second guessing yourself, wondering if you're being mean, because she "appears very nice and caring" that is Love Bombing you, especially when you're standing up for yourself or she thinks you're pulling away and on to her. Good luck you're on the way to seeing who she really is, especially if she fits with the other traits which I've listed as terminology, they're the tools Narcissists use.
Do female narcissist love their own children? My wife always put her grown kids(both of them over the age30) and brother before me. She try and tell me that I come first. I’m a disabled veteran and sometimes I wake up feeling bad sometimes terrible nightmares, when I ask my wife can you take the day off I need you really bad and she tells me know but when her grown kids and her brother needs her she takes the day off automatically. It’s like she don’t take me into consideration at all. Somebody tell me is that an example of a covert narcissist? What gets me is she doesn’t have to go into the office if she doesn’t want to she can work remotely whenever she feels.
I still resent my past couple of mother-in-laws to this day... I remember praying something bad happened to them just so that they would stop abusing my partners THAT'S how sick they were
It's really annoying because, the dialogue around female narcissism always seems to come from a male perspective. Female narcissists also harm other females. It's not just female narcissists harming men. So I just think it's important to put yourself in the shoes of a female. When you're looking at or trying to identify, narcissistic behavior in females. Because if you put yourself in the shoes of a female, it kind of changes the landscape or something I guess? I don't know, I just think it's important not to make things male-centric. If 50% of the population is male, that means things should not be male-centric. They should be half male and half female. But despite saying all that, most of what you said I agree with. I just don't really agree with the first point about it being about money. I think that is a superficial aspect of it. I'm not calling anyone to superficial. I'm saying that's not actually what it's about. I think that's just a common Trope. If you look deeper you can see that that's just a surface-level kind of thing. Because what is money? That's not what life is about. So I guess they do use money sometimes. But that just feels like it's coming from a defensive male perspective rather than coming from a female perspective. And yes you are male but, what would be wrong with putting yourself in a female perspective? Right? Also, I only make this comment because I had to scroll through like 10 videos that were obviously coming from a male centric perspective and barely had any depth to them and were almost misogynistic. This was the first video that came up on the search that looked like it wasn't about misogyny.
My mom was a malignant narcissist, it sounds horrible, and I don't condone domestic violence on any level, but there was a reason my four time married mother was always a battered wife.
Holy shit you just described the last girl I went on a date with to a T. She was not a very pleasant person but I was desperate and was suckered into the promise of easy shagging but she was such an unpleasant person when we actually met up after chatting online and I just couldn't go through with it even though it had been years for me at that point I just felt completely wrong about the way she was treating me
I’d like to hear your input on mother-daughter sexual harassment or assault even. Ex: mother that publicly shames daughter in front of family, of father, brother, etc, about her body starting to develop into becoming a woman, like her breasts are starting to show. I don’t understand how a mother can do this to her daughter, can fuc* her up in this way. I shuts don’t. And I don’t understand how other adults didn’t see and today still refuse to see the insanity.
My mother is a malignant narcisist. She hated when I achieved something, she was competing with me, constantly too.
I went No Contact many years ago.
Mine too she's still alive though thank God and so is my dad but they still struggle. She was a bit to sloppy with me I didn't like her parenting method because it made them file for a divorce but he signed it after I moved out of her house when I was like 20 years old.
I went no contact with my mother too but here’s the catch……..we both some narc ass bisheszzzzz😂😂😂😂😓😬😬😬
I’m a parent who thinks the real problem is too many parents try to live THEIR best lives through their kids! Like they try to correct mistakes they’ve made before they were parents via their kids lives instead of putting their kids first & focusing on guiding their kids to the correct decisions/ paths in life in any given situation. ❤
I know what you're talking about! It's so Sad
I understand 🙏
You forgot jealousy, female narcissist are jealous of EVERYTHING IN OTHER WOMAN AMD I MEAN EVERYTHING!
ao jealous and underhanded.
True. My daughter is a covert narcissist. I have noticed she gets irritated if others talk to me for to long. She wants the attention. Other things too. She’s petty jealous.
@@MissPrissy6688dont you think you failed you're child because you spared the rod and spoiled the child do you folow the commandments of the bible and minister the word of God to her Every single day if not you have nothing to complain about youre kids wont be at youre funeral. You failed them miserably if you did no follow the commandments of God.
@@MissPrissy6688youre daughters mental problems are youre fault there is no forgiveness you believe in tarot cards and blasphemy of God you can go to hell for that.
@@chris9527oh shut up
My experience is that they’re very envious, vengeful, and viscous!
So fucking mean Sorry 😐
Men can be this way too...my ex was
My ex is this way...he's a covert narc
And conniving
I feel sorry for the men who have been lured in by a narcissistic woman...
It is a challenge to find the Strength to leave someone who treats you poorly as they have stripped you of your self-esteem.😕 Have faith in a better tomorrow.
you bet. X dragon friend did this:! they go after them at (his)their wife's funeral and keep on them till they're married and the cash is in the sharing. shot gun marriage under 8 months..later. signed, sealed; delivered in the bank..the female's talons.
This describes my son's ex wife to a tee. Thank goodness they're divorced.
5 for 5 traits in a "friend" whom my boyfriend became obsessed with and ended up screwing.
They were so compatible because they were both narcissist.
I was so devastated at the time but now I see it as a blessing because it was the only way I was able to leave my ex finally.
Last time I hear she showed up with new guy on her arm and my ex boyfriend was getting a taste of his own medicine.
Karma.
We get lured in because narcissistic women are usually sexually adventurous with us. And we tend to fall for the bait. Lol
Insane competition. When a mother puts her own daughter down, compares her weight, her pregnancy weight to her daughter’s, ridicules her in front on everyone for her growing breasts, all of this just to shine and capture all of the attention in the room. And NOBODY SEES ANYTHING.
Wow! You just described my mom to a tee. Hell, even breastfeeding was turned into a competition.
I'd hate be there when he tells that to his Missus.
If you were wise enough to humiliate her in public back every time it occurred EVERYONE would SEE everything.
you just described my mother too a T..
for growing breast???? huh???? like what would she say??? u r a whore cause your body is growing??? genuinely curious
I feel awful because I notice some of the traits of narcissism in myself but that is just because I grew up with narcisstic parents. I guess it's good that I know it's problematic and am trying to do something about it.
I am glad when someone tries to struggle against their narcissistic traits to be a healthier individual. Their is no way to say this nicely, but you can almost never say that I have narcisstic traits ' JUST BECAUSE '... Narcissistic traits are using your mind too selfishly. Self is #1 ' ALWAYS ' in their mentality. They are 'game players ' with other peoples 'Everything' .
@@bernitacenteno1326 I meant more that I learned them from my parents. But I understand.
you’re being too critical on yourself
Narcissism originates from fear due to lack of genuine parental love, so it's not surprising that children of narcissists follow the trend.
They also grow up surrounded by the tricks and tactics as models for social interaction.
Support from a skilled therapist can help you unlearn the behaviour patterns and discover more healthy ways to get the self affirmation and satisfaction from life.
Good luck :-)
@@dshe8637 true, but a little more digging and you will find the child of narc parents can fall into narc behavior, or grow to be an empath. CAN. i have narc relatives, but am myself an empath💓💖💕 and ive been the victim of some sick abuse. sad.
Something to consider. I’m Autistic and to the untrained and assuming eye, I could be misidentified as a narcissist. In my case and many others on the Autism Spectrum, we are empathetic and caring people. We’re simply processing atypically.
I assure you, I was the perfect victim to narcissists until I learned how to defend myself.
True! I have Asperger's and it feels the same
All personality disorders are running on spectrum disorders including BPD or any cluster B, so lots of them can have autism too, that’s why they can be similar to the autistic people but without personality disorders, and Vice versa.
I understand what you mean I have it too and I know the guilt and shame we have if we make a mistake or hurt someone’s feelings I feel like it eats me alive
@@dove.9833 100%
I still do not know how to defend myself, you you’re ahead of the game! So you have had people that just do not care that you may need a little help or time to process things, when you know they understand, and choose not to care?
I am recently disabled after years of knowing it was coming, getting worse and worse.
Having someone holding all of the power when at times I am powerless and I know that they understand and they actively ignore me and make me feel like I am so much trouble hurts badly!!
My mother.
My best female friend from school too.
All the males i attracted and females who where clearly not nice or just jealous about just stupid stuff, whitch took me decades to understand. I never even realized they where jealous of me. I had to read so much books, articles, videos, to understand women and men and their traits and what they mean...
Now i avoid them too. Not only men i avoid like a plague, but women too.
I never thought even, a man could be jealous about me. It was a hard pill to swallow.
So, now it is better to avoid most people, because people are just not safe.
I am also on the autism spectrum and other..., so it was not so easy to defend myself, to comprehend some stuff...I was and still am trying to learn to defend myself.
My mother got even worse by age.
I avoided her for the most part of my life.
I miss a real mother. Really.
Once you know what to watch out for, you can keep these walking black holes at bay.
Yes. Use my spidey sense. I/you know when something is off and a small red flag pops up. Im done pushing them down and giving chances like that.
Anyone else notice how the narcissist tries to get you to become like them and do like they do?
They hate themselves, so even if we mirror them, they land up hating us. They hate everyone!
Yes, they do that.
Yeah, and then they shame you for it. It relieves them of their own shame. They don't even see the hypocrisy. It's common that you start to behave like them to show them what it feels like, tit for tat so to speak. Usually this happens later on, after you have already tried asking them to stop, compromising etc and you are at your witsend. But, when you finally treat them the same way.. they act completely shocked and hurt... it's mind boggling trying to deal with someone with zero empathy.
@@simjam1980thats why they say run in the end Everytime
💯 omg
You just described my "mom".
mine 2. except. ..i guess I have this traits naturally competitive... actually I'm not like these things at all... but if I ever do them. I am encouraged by my mom and bro the golden child... only for them to throw it up. I am very humble and easily pleased. never want anything but peace and joy and satisfaction
me too! my mom for sure
@@elizabethhatton7650
Why is it always the mom? Where’s dad? Were we born too early?
And mine too
@@charlottetheartist327 that just might explode one day.
I was the same way for many, many years, and I just snapped a few months ago.
I’ve been pushed around, and stepped on, since I was a baby, and people kept doing it, because they knew I’d do almost anything, just to keep the peace.
Even my own children, didn’t respect me (i.e. “ahh we can show up late, mom will forgive us in a minute anyways”), and such.
I also get very very scared, when people get angry, which is a trauma I never got past.
A few months ago, I’d had ENOUGH.
I finally put my foot down, and said NO MORE!
I’m done being a pushover and being valued like the trash they step on, and only existing, when they need something from me.
They though I’d gone mad.
My psychologist however, said “GREAT JOB”!🙌🙌
The rage, from being disrespected and used, just built up and up, over the years.
I felt constantly angry, and short tempered towards the end, which is not at all like me, usually.
It was the constant “giving in”, that caused the rage, and explosion 💥 in the end.
No more! I’d rather have them think I’ve gone mad, and keep my self respect, than go back to being angry all the time, and treated like 💩
I hope you manage to do the same🥰
delusion is one of the traits also
AMEN Cordelia. They cannot truly see what/who they really are, & they ACT as of they are "all that & a bag of chips." But underneath, they have no solid personality structure & no real self-esteem. Extremely broken & dangerous people.
They believe their own lies.
They are the worst. They switch to whatever gets them supply when they need to as well!
The worst part of who they throw away and hurt in the process
A deeply wounded person, wounding others. This takes time but can be healed with intention.
My daughter’s brother-in-law’s wife is as evil s they come. I send her your videos to help her. For seven years she has dealt with this narcissistic female who wants ti steal my daughter’s joy and life. The flying monkeys that enable this narcissistic female include her mother-in-law, some aunts and brother-in-laws.
lol. it took me a minute then I wa kike daughter's husband's brother's wife. IDk, why it prmocesses better that way.
I feel for you
Narcissistic projection is an ego defense mechanism used by the narcissistic. to avoid suffering further narcissistic injury equip yourself and understand why they do the things they do and it most reason why I recommend the truth worthy and reliable service man @cyber_tech_service_tools
If you're reading this, I wish all the best for you. There's a lot of love out there and you deserve to be a part of it. Let the healing begin! (Or continue or flourish or whatever for wherever you are!) 💜
Yes! I moved into a new apartment complex and was being stalked by my close covert narc neighbor. She started going after half my income for months. She insisted that I just hand it over. When I confronted her, she didn't like that, and cut me off the next day.
Anybody that deliberately engages in behaviours designed to make a partner jealousy must be left asap.
It's the biggest weapon they use to make u feel unsafe emotionally n if u tell them that their behaviour is hurting u then they will Gaslight u with the same " u r controlling, possesive, insecure" bs
Flag 1: have you met my mother
2: have you met my aunt
3: sister
3: ‘guidance’ councillor from the 90’s
4: ‘Karen’ who tried to steal my job (her ass was fired, thanks to my integrity)
5: have I mentioned my mother
Yeah; i didn't realise narcissism was hereditary; my exes would always tell me there mother or father was a narcissist and here I was thinking "oh that's a shame"
Little did I know it was their way of saying "I take after my ______"
I think you just described my sister.....who is a practicing psychologist... LOLs!
I think a lot of narcissists go into psychology. They acquire qualifications as a defence against criticism, then they get a big rush from putting others down.
Classic example is Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson is far from a narc empathy literally flows like water. He definitely does have major depressive though
It's easy supply of vulnerable people for them
Same as paedophile who gravitate towards careers bringing them a supply of children.
@@dshe8637 Jordan Peterson is NOT a narcissist but his wife may be.
I am so sick of narcissistic ppl.
The way to overcome this is become Self sovereign in financial self support....not wanting a man for anything material...for true connection not alternative motive...
I have dealt with a woman like that few years ago. She was a real pain in the bum. Had similar traits plus used her seductive charm to lure me, but when I will show her back the interest, because she send out signals first, she would repel and act like Where's all this going? I was naive to all this at that time but later on found that it's a mind control technique called as Entice-Repel to make someone obsessed with you. Also, she can never be wrong in the argument/debates. Even if you slightly dare to express a different opinion, you are dead. Did many other evil things to shatter my confidence, manipulate, gaslight me. Thank God I somehow gathered courage to get rid of her, even if she insisted me to stay in contact. She was sick af!
Every friendship/relationship falls apart and it’s never her fault. Always the victim.
I grew up with a narcissistic mother that had men in and out a lot when I was a kid, and the only real tools she learned to use were guilt and weaponizing sexuality. For her, it seemed, a man's willingness to sleep with her was some tangible proof that he loved her. When she was married, getting sex was harder because the guy knew her too well, so she would cry *a lot* She was a mean, violent drunk.
These women behave really badly to other women in particular.
They are competetive and try to bring other women down. They resent other women's success, especially if it's authentic and not through exploiting sex. They hate Feminism; classic 'pick me girl' mentality.
Aging is a horror for them, as they lose some of the tools they relied on in youth. Often end up very bitter, but the damage they cause, taking others down is tragic.
As the daughter of an NPD Mom….OMG this!! She has shit on every genuine success I ever achieved. It’s not an effing competition!! I was your kid, I needed a Mother …not a battle of supremacy every day.
They hate the authentic feminine woman
Truth
Npd women are more likely to be a feminist
Not sure what you are smocking. What politic have anything to do with that?
This describes the woman who was the reason my husband left me many years ago. She had every one of those traits and was also extremely manipulative,devious, covetous and aggressive. I consider a woman like this completely ruthless in the way she exploits people. She fools men and uses them to get whatever she wants. When my husband died, I thanked God that we were rid of her for good since she had already done so much to our family.
Women like her are every bit as threatening as narcissistic men. They have no conscience.
Strangely many men find female narcissist very attractive.
That is strange. What is THAT about? Those type of men must have masochistic tendencies. It turns them on.
I think it’s the high perceived self confidence.
They’ve got to be into Sadomasochism or something like that😂
Why would anyone want to be…. Oh never mind, I just saw a sex add pop up😂
Physically yeah they are usually very attractive. They know men tend to fall in love with their eyes
No they don't it's just the good looking 1s r more likely to be narcissist. Meanwhile the ugly 1s r nice
Try both narcissists in a couple, an absolute horrific nightmare.
Yes. Couples in which both people are narcissists are miserable, but if they stay in their "relationship," it works (using that term loosely) because they take turns using & manipulating each other; as they play the "you do this for me & I'll do that for you" game. Seeing the damaged kids that are the product of the narcissistic "parent's" unhealthy union & "family" is utterly tragic. The narcissists don't achieve insight (& don't WANT to see) that they have a serious disorder & seek help for it. Their narcissism is just a life-long runaway train. Their toxic behaviors & the damage they cause are horrific.
I know someone who displays some of these characteristics. She dated a married man for over 30 years without any remorse nor consideration for his wife and children.
Competitive was a big one for my mom, she always had to make herself the reason I achieved things even if she had nothing to do with it and actively belittled my efforts along the way. if I had any kind of personal achievement she would sideways congratulate me by saying stuff like 'You're great at drawing, it's too bad you can't put that kind of effort on math' She would always put down my hobbies because they 'smelled bad' or 'took up too much space in the house' but when I would win awards or graduate the top of my class for the very thing she would tell me 'didnt matter' and get a good job doing that thing, she had the gall to brag about me to her friends but simply scowl at me and care less to even speak to me in private.
If she has a lot of empathy and respect and admit she can be to wrong is the most attractive important for me in a relationship
I had a narcissistic female boss who sat there all day while we worked half to death and she would complain how tired she is 😳 and then she would say I have an attitude If I wasn’t super preppy because I was burnt out and she would constantly try to say how bad her husband was ( he never hit her called her names nothing severe ) and she would also have a permanent looking frown. She always walked like she’s better than everyone. Never got too close to anyone but tried really hard to. Really creepy girl could’ve been pretty and nice but a complete b******
Yup they are definitely in the work place.and their bosses love them.
Narcissistic projection is an ego defense mechanism used by the narcissistic. to avoid suffering further narcissistic injury equip yourself and understand why they do the things they do and it most reason why I recommend the truth worthy and reliable service man @cyber_tech_service_tools
I can’t tell u how right this man is he has described my narcissist ex girlfriend down to a T
You just described my mother!!!
I only became this way when I realized that men aren't worth dealing with for free especially because of how they go about getting what they want from women.
Describes most celebrities on social media
You know what is really sad? So many people are treated this way with this type of mindset program to think this way growing up as a child, and then you have these people passing down these types of behaviors from one generation to the next never evolving ,or letting go of old ways of thinking. Becoming the exact same things they were subjected to, finding relationships that are familiar to them instead of breaking away from this type of mindset. Looking for healthier relationships.
These people will never be happy if they continue to think with this kind of mindset.
This is a life choice. People choose to act this way. And when you choose this way of life, nothing will ever be good enough. The results will only be temporary, never long lasting.
No person can change that. No amount of money can fix that. They'll just be chasing unrealistic fantasies for the rest of their lives.. Always going to keep wondering why people leave them, and always looking for new supply. It's emotionally exhausting to do that to yourself, and others.
We have to break old cycles in order to make it through. Or else we would just be continuing the cycle & chaos.
The rules apply the same to everyone. No matter what your mental illness is, the rules apply to everyone the same always.
And it's no one's responsibility to put up with that.
It's our responsibility to work on our own mental health, and to break those generational curses.
If you don't break old habits ,you clearly didn't want it badly enough.. And when we give up on ourselves, we can't expect anything good to work in our favor.
Choosing not to help yourself and staying the victim, is not a life.
I don't pity people who give up. Pity, and compassion are two different things..
We all have choices.. just depends on which side we choose to water the most, those are the results we will always get.
In the majority of women it's not a question of "is she a narcissist" it's "how much of a narcissist is she" because the majority of women get spoiled into becoming narcissistic to different degrees.
My mom was a narcissist. She died 3 years after I went no contact. I felt relieved and not sad. I was actually terrified that I may have picked up narc tendencies since I suffered under her for 22 years, but narc people don't worry or stress out about being one so I think I'm ok.
Thank you for this bc usually we can’t see ourselves💯I’m the opposite of all 5 things mentioned ❤thank goodness!🙏🏾💕😊
You described my sister perfectly!
I thought the same about my sister, lol.
You just described ALL women.
My EX is a perfect example of Narcissistic personality. She'll definitely rot in hell.
Yes. They also "charm" the boss and make him feel good to get away with stuff later. Also crying...Acting the victim....
I have tried dressing down and up.
Dressing down you are invisible in public. Dress up and you get random men asking you for sex or stalking you.
And picture on RUclips. Bad photo and people call you names, and nice beautiful pic, people leave you alone.
All women are forced to pick how they are seen and have to deal with the consequences.
Most women should not be allowed to live I feel like that is so very true my mom tried her best to destroy me in every way she is now dead but I'm still standing
Nailed it with using their body to lure you back in. I've dealt with this over and over again.
I was paying close attention, but my "no not at all" were comforting.
She exploited herself, me and my siblings, and my grandmother. Yes im talking about my Mom
Wow. He just described most of my Xs.
You learn someone when you live with with for years. Mine is getting worse, to the point of frustration and anger, for me. Just her being near me I can feel the negative energy. I have to move away from her otherwise it ruins my mood, and then I'm the bad guy for being irritated at their irritating behaviour. How irritating.
Wow thank you young man
This is an exact description of the woman I married; a full
blown Covert Narcissist.
I use to tell people these very words when I described her.
I just did not know I was describing a “narcissist” until I got educated after she left our marriage.
They also constantly “Rage”, “Gaslight”, and weaponize “The Silent Treatment”.
My wife also “triangulated” people constantly to ensure she had minions around to do her bidding.
Nothings resident more with me this video. It is right on the spot.
laziness, disordered living environment, lack of memory
The word narcissist has become so trendy like it’s double mint gum passed around in class it’s meaning has become so confusing the definition is hard to understand nowadays unfortunately but great reading auntie hopefully my generation can get it right ❤
A very good description of the character of narcissist Priscilla Wagner Beaulieu, the ex-wife of Elvis Presley.
That's horrible I could never be like that I love yard sales, I'm happy with a peanut butter sandwich, I don't like anything fancy.
In a highly sensitive person group in fb i got hurt or insulted by one paula who says my post in group reminded her of a narcissistic person who she lived with and now she has to live with my message! It was so insulting i felt deeply hurt and i asked her was she calling me a narc.ladies and gentlemen, you know what i was removed by the admin stating my stement indeed insulted other people in the group. Its been more than 13 hours of improper sleep and loss of energy. Highly sensitive people consisting of narcissistic persons acting like hsp omg. I am still in deep pain.
I am a narcissist and I don’t care 🤷♀️
I will live alone and love myself ❤🎉😂🎉🎉🎉😊
My mother 😂😂😂 damn shame. No contact for 8 years
She did and she did
My brother was married to a narcissis for 35 yrs. He lives with me now because she was killing him. I've gotten him back to physical health but he needs psychological help from the emotional rape inflicted. Any suggestions?
Their DUTY SEX is an act of passive aggressiveness/purposeful rudeness (20/20 hindsight). Notice HOW MUCH BETTER sex is with other people after they threw their mask off!
They're stoopid. The one who thought they could verbally attack me every day in the community, be voyeuristic, obsessive and very cruel. She was removed and life is good.
I’m trapped… so fucking trapped…. And I know it. I deeply love her though.
If you start being devalued shes seeing someone else,or has an option. If you are seeing red flags,why wait and waste healing time? They are deeply wounded and never choose to do the work,dont say we have not warned you. They will fleece you,steal ,lie and break your things. They abuse children mentally and are cruel to animals.
Run brother.
It hurts.
So bad.
But you deserve better.
Dude life has two lenses, a zoomed in one and a zoomed out one. You’re only looking at it through one lens trying to zooming out and making peace with what she really is. It’s not love you’re feeling but an emotional high created
Very enlightening.. because I can really feel this is how my mother was.
My mother is a covert narcissist. I've been no contact for about 8 months and it has been incredible.
I am going to have to read all the comments, because my best friend is like that sometimes, which makes me feel like that us her actual true personality, but she appears to be very nice and caring.
I am 53, and I have known her since 2nd grade. Seems like I would know by now, but I never know which friend I am f going to have depending on what she thinks she should blame me for, accuse me of, want me to do it or if she loves me, wants to help me (I am disabled and we are now roommates at 53.) but I don’t know. It is really stressful not understanding why she flips on me.
That sounds like shes Gaslighting you! Search and learn the terminology... Scapegoat, Flying Monkeys, Golden Child, Smear Campaign, Ghosting, Love Bombing, and of course I've already mentioned Gaslighting. This gentleman seems pretty good from what I've seen, so watch more, educating yourself is your best defence. And don't feel bad for her and sacrifice yourself thinking it's you, because that what Gaslighting does, has you second guessing yourself, wondering if you're being mean, because she "appears very nice and caring" that is Love Bombing you, especially when you're standing up for yourself or she thinks you're pulling away and on to her.
Good luck you're on the way to seeing who she really is, especially if she fits with the other traits which I've listed as terminology, they're the tools Narcissists use.
This 100% describes my ex wife
Well that explains my brother
My ex wife. Hope Dante’s Inferno is true, and it’s circles of hell. Betrayal being the lowest
Lol, the way he is saying these things makes him sound like a narcissist. 🤣🤣
My ex-wife I only found out who she truly was by educating myself after I file for divorce that's when the true nightmare began
You just described my politician sister!👄
Do female narcissist love their own children? My wife always put her grown kids(both of them over the age30) and brother before me. She try and tell me that I come first. I’m a disabled veteran and sometimes I wake up feeling bad sometimes terrible nightmares, when I ask my wife can you take the day off I need you really bad and she tells me know but when her grown kids and her brother needs her she takes the day off automatically. It’s like she don’t take me into consideration at all. Somebody tell me is that an example of a covert narcissist? What gets me is she doesn’t have to go into the office if she doesn’t want to she can work remotely whenever she feels.
My sister
You just described my former flat mate except she would be lovely to your face but vilify you behind your back.
Described my co worker 😩 ugh catty Lil witch
You 100% just summed up my 17yr old daughter.
I still resent my past couple of mother-in-laws to this day... I remember praying something bad happened to them just so that they would stop abusing my partners THAT'S how sick they were
Proven in the court of justice
WOW! You just described my boyfriend...
It's really annoying because, the dialogue around female narcissism always seems to come from a male perspective. Female narcissists also harm other females. It's not just female narcissists harming men.
So I just think it's important to put yourself in the shoes of a female. When you're looking at or trying to identify, narcissistic behavior in females. Because if you put yourself in the shoes of a female, it kind of changes the landscape or something I guess? I don't know, I just think it's important not to make things male-centric. If 50% of the population is male, that means things should not be male-centric. They should be half male and half female.
But despite saying all that, most of what you said I agree with. I just don't really agree with the first point about it being about money. I think that is a superficial aspect of it. I'm not calling anyone to superficial. I'm saying that's not actually what it's about. I think that's just a common Trope. If you look deeper you can see that that's just a surface-level kind of thing. Because what is money? That's not what life is about. So I guess they do use money sometimes. But that just feels like it's coming from a defensive male perspective rather than coming from a female perspective. And yes you are male but, what would be wrong with putting yourself in a female perspective? Right?
Also, I only make this comment because I had to scroll through like 10 videos that were obviously coming from a male centric perspective and barely had any depth to them and were almost misogynistic. This was the first video that came up on the search that looked like it wasn't about misogyny.
He literally described every single women nowadays
Every woman that has an OF is probably a narcissist
He just listed 80% of american women
A covert Narcissist has feigned empathy for others, friends, workplace, but always no empathy for spouse. Would you agree with this statement?
My mom was a malignant narcissist, it sounds horrible, and I don't condone domestic violence on any level, but there was a reason my four time married mother was always a battered wife.
the camera movement and the angle for some reason makes it feel like he's being held hostage lmao
Holy shit you just described the last girl I went on a date with to a T.
She was not a very pleasant person but I was desperate and was suckered into the promise of easy shagging but she was such an unpleasant person when we actually met up after chatting online and I just couldn't go through with it even though it had been years for me at that point I just felt completely wrong about the way she was treating me
You just described feminism!!!
Take notes young ones. I wish I was told these things when I went out into the world as an 18 year old.
My mother in law …exactly spot on
You hit the nail on head.
Way too narc women out there than you can imagine
I’d like to hear your input on mother-daughter sexual harassment or assault even.
Ex: mother that publicly shames daughter in front of family, of father, brother, etc, about her body starting to develop into becoming a woman, like her breasts are starting to show.
I don’t understand how a mother can do this to her daughter, can fuc* her up in this way. I shuts don’t. And I don’t understand how other adults didn’t see and today still refuse to see the insanity.
My mother. And it looks like so many mothers here in the comments section.
You described 99% of women lol