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To sum it all up 💕 1. Become aware of your insecurities 2. Change your perspective. 3. Reprogram your mind with thoughts that support you. 4. Stop comparing yourself to other people. 5. Stay aware and catch yourself. *No hate please, I'm only doing this for those who watched the whole video and forgot it all or don't have time to watch it all.* *_Thanks for the likes and no problem guys! Woah, 4k likes?! 💕_*
1. Become aware of your insecurities --> Journal it, get aware of it, face it. 2. Change your perspective -> see it through the eyes of love, talk to you as if you would to your child version 3. Reprogram your mind with positive affirmations --> shift the negative thoughts to positive ones, repitation is key! 4. Stop comparing -> not a race/competition, it's about community! Progress not perfection! One person's light doesn't deminish your own light, in fact it just shows what is possible. 5. Stay aware and catch yourself! --> Police your mind. Stay concious to what you think and repeat your affirmations!
Being aware of what your insecurities are is a very important step. Confidence doesn’t just happen. Confidence derives from already having done something and gaining the confidence because it’s no longer something new. Great video Aileen!!! From a self love content creator to another- you never disappoint!! 💛
Omg same ! the world became uglier but you can be your own safe place when you start to make your heart More full of Forgiveness, I’m not ok but I’m chilling because of that
Love yourself as it is maybe you are changing because you are growing and you just don't like the reason that made you grow. Because growing most of the time comes from pain . Send love and hug yourself . It's ok no to be ok sometimes 🦋
@@ΆνναΠαντσίδου no. Stop. Why? You can't say: love yourself and BAAM!!! We love ouselves. Its hard to impossible. So it doesn't help for me. Sorry if it may sound rude.
@@ΆνναΠαντσίδου I'm sorry if that offended you, I'm kinda depressed rn... I shouldn't react like that, you just wanted people to feel good, and I ruined all... Again. You see? I ruin everything good with my negativity 😕
You know I was in that mind set this morning and I though to myself that I will not allow those negative thoughts that I'm so conditioned creep in. I want to allow myself to be free from negative self thoughts. I want to be addicted free from it. My insecurities has caused self damage, my family and my relationship. They payed a high price for my insecurities. I can't afford to loose them and myself ☹ let's raise up and fight this addiction! We can do it! Let's look for support groups and make a change! Is not easy and is out of our comfort zone but we have to in order to have a better quality of life!!!!!
My insecurity grew on me since I've had undereye literal blue veins under my eyes for as long as I could remember. But then, yesterday, I was at a small party with my family and relatives. And we were all sitting at a table. (Now, keep in mind, I hate makeup. No matter how much insecurities are on my face, I WON'T cover it with makeup. But, mascara or lipstick is fine for me lol). Anyway, I was at the party surrounded in a circle shape of a table so there were like 7 people. Then, my cousin (who is older than me and is in college) sounded worried and all of a sudden pointed out my under eye "blue lines" like she said, in front of everyone. After that, I felt everyone's eyes on me, and I felt like literal sh*t. I hated myself. I blinked back tears, and 2 minutes after, I would remember what had happened, and then I would almost start crying. This occured for more than 5 times. I really hate my face, and don't understand as to why I even have them in the first place. I told my doctor about it and she said it's not able to get rid of, and that the only way to get rid of it is to get shots when I'm rich and old. This is why I am an introvert and so akward around people because I KNOW that they're staring at my under eye and thinking of me as some weak and sick person. I honestly hate it. Other people are insecure about being heavy or not having the right body shape, but at least that in most cases, can be solved. It just hurts my heart so much. Okay bye. Idk why I even wrote this:)
Hey! You might have even forgot that you wrote it but all I wanna say is your insecurity can be your charm. I'm 100% sure that there are people out there who can just accept you for who you are. Don't be ashame of those blue veins under your eyes ☺️✨ Treat it like an art piece from God. You are unique and beautiful❤️✨ and about friends if you can't find anyone right now you can always have some online friends because the world is full of so many nice people who can accept you the way you are. You don't need to change. This all can might sound cheesy but I hope you feel better☺️✨ and I purple you ehehehe ( just assumed it with username "chimchim").
@@ishi6291 thank you so much! I honestly felt like no one would accept me, and just the whole "vein" thing made me seem so weird and ugly. Thanks for lifting my mood. Also, yes I am Army💜 i purple you too
I used to hate makeup too, but I also used to have really terrible hormonal acne, so I began using foundation to make myself feel better when I went out. It wasn't for other people -- it was to make myself feel more confident. That was the key. Eventually, my skin cleared up and I rarely wear it anymore unless I'm going out with the girls or my boyfriend. But for a time when I was feeling super insecure, it was a nice option to have, and I consider it an art now (vs. a societal mask). I'm not saying makeup is the answer here, but maybe it's drawing attention to another part of your body, like buying some great clothes that show off your figure, or getting a new hair style, whitening your teeth, or wearing blue eye makeup. Finding something to enhance another part of your body / face is a great stepping stone to building confidence. Then you can say to yourself, well maybe I don't like X, but Y is pretty fantastic.
I think we have to remember that repetition is also the way we were "programmed" to think some things about ourselves or our bodies were wrong. For example seeing everyday advertising and a certain body standard represented everywhere gave us insecurities about our bodies we didn't have when we were young. I love the idea of fighting these repetitions with positive repetitions!
Me my friend told me I am pretty even my teacher and lots of people .....but I am too skinny that a boy just made me hate myself,,,,,I don't deserve this situation
@@riditaanimation9262 wtf just bcz of that one boy you're hating yourself? Your inner voice is telling you that "This is not fair" there are many to love you too why're you ignoring the love you're getting and the beauty present in you just bcz of that one guy? not fair gurl.
Bro, istg this used to be so me. You know what change yourself, i mean love yourself as u are but take baby steps like I won't compare myself to anymore for this night. I would instead listen to songs to sleep. Get a novel, read it. Write good things that u have, it fan be anything. And if you like i would recommend you 'thewizardliz' channel. Her content will help u. And don't listen to what ppl tell u, just take care of urself. There are many models and girls out there, we aren't made like them thag doesn't mean that we don't belong here. You are prettier believe me..
I’m insecure about my weight.. but this is what my best friend tells me every day “ you are beautiful just the way you are, and if anyone makes fun of you, go off on them because you are amazing. Besides, if you think your are fat, which you aren’t, look at it this way! There is more to love!” And it makes me laugh every time!
1:30 The moment when she said "cry if you have to" about talking my insecure out, i just- 😭😭 gosh i try so hard to be tough but mybe sometime we just need to cry it out
My young lady, I am 40 years old and I am on my way to a better life, also thanks to your videos and your work. You are progressing, as you have said. And you are doing it very well. 💚🌿
surround yourself with better people, no matter how many sacrifices it takes. if it means changing schools, shifting friend groups or as little as deleting social media, it helps. and it works.
I am insecure that if I try to make new friends or talk to a group of people I will be ignored and left out leaving me in the corner unwanted and I get really panicked,anxious and uncomfortable whenever I have to socialize with a group of people cause of that and I feel like crying on the inside.
I experience this firsthand every time I have an in-person conversation with anyone. Sometimes I get so insecure about myself (appearance, personality, intelligence, everything...) that I don't even feel like keeping the conversation going. Worst thing is that I don't have anyone to talk to about this stuff even in my family because they're always so occupied with themselves. 💔
Hey, you might see or not see this, but I'll continue anyway. Having friends is important, but choosing your friends is the most important part if you want to stop being insecure. You can start just by having one, that one friend that will not judge you and is always ready to listen to you. Maybe you already have it, or maybe he/she is just around the corner, fighting!
*my favorite thing that I got out of this video* : Don't compare yourself to other ppl. Compare yourself to your past self, as long as your improving that all that matters :') _thank you Lavendaire_ , this will rlly help me
Sometimes you find the best teachers out of your classrooms. They teach you the most important, helpful lessons, and that what makes them the best. Thank you for being one of those!💜
My insecurities got to the point where I wrote what my friends and best friends told me on my wall. They told me that I looked weird, that their life was better than mine, that people don’t like me because I’m short, they told me that I was too skinny, they told me that I wasn’t important and would occasionally lie about me.
I absolutely hate people who give so much of their time to insult, discriminate or say mean things to other people especially if they are your so called friends. All I can say is that they’re probably insecure themselves and the only way they thought to make themselves feel better is to ruin another persons self esteem. Its annoying. Nobody deserves that. Cut them off and surround yourself with positive, supportive, kind, and motivating people filled with good vibes and positive energy.
Reprogramming my mind helped me so much to go from self doubt to finally trusting myself and that I can do things. I just started posting affirmation video’s on RUclips to help women that are getting insecure and think that they need assurance from others.
It has been really difficult for me dealing with my insecurities especially when I'm hearing someone talk about their wealth and stuff, like buying things and more. We don't have the wealth but I'm striving hard to graduate and get out of this situation. But for now, I have to rely on these videos first to help me cope up with the insecurities that I have been feeling. Thank you for this one. :((
Accept yourself as you are. Love yourself like someone you love. Look at the truth that nobody's perfect, not even heavily filtered bodies on Instagram
Omg such great timing! I've been in a creative funk as of lately, but also have been dealing with a lot of self-esteem doubts and negativity. I love how honest you are with your steps! I have been trying to journal a lot more lately, and I never thought about writing about where I think my insecurities come from. Thank you for doing this video!
This channel has a way of always brightening my day! You inspire me so much to be my best self. The world needs more content and people like you Aileen! 💕
Great message, Aileen!💕 I have struggled with my insecurities growing up now I'm on my 30s I learned to work on them and improve it was never easy had depression and anxiety but now I am stronger and braver.
-I'm so sad that this video is over- I'm so happy that Lavendaire will be back here with another video later and I'm excited💜 this is called looking at the bright side guys ^^
i really feel insecure about myself these days i have this friend who is really gorgeous n everytime we're together evryone was complimenting n talking at her and i just stand there like i'm invisible like they forgot about me hello? im still here, i just feel like why can't i look like her u knoww like what it feels like to be that beautiful. compliment is really the best booster u can give to a person so if u know someone who have been struggling about how they look just complement them. :) P.s i'm not hating or somethin' and i also complement her a lot i lovee her
i feel so down today because yesterday i wore an outfit i wasn’t usually comfortable in and i felt confident, until i walked past a group of kids and heard them shout that i was fat, now i just want to cry and i wish i never heard it
maybe no one will read this but i cannot explain how much and how fast this video has helped me. i'm a person who struggles to identify "why" i feel things the way i do or the roots of my feelings. The whole video helped me see my childhood trauma or stuff that may trigger my insecurities. Of course i still have some of them but finally i could understand where they come from!! im definetly gonna tell this to my therapist💘 thank you
Hope they make videos like this that targets not just the female insecurities, but also for men and our lgbtq community. I find it really hard helping my boyfriend overcome his insecurities and constant negative talk.
I think you saved my life - without being dramatic ... I feel so insecure all the time and I'm sure everything is about to change because of the fact that I saw this video. I think what you're doing is probably helping thousands of people from all over the world and I would feel tremendous pride every day if I did what you did.
I feel insecure that I'm not as smart or talented as the rest of my friends and no one knows that talents I do have because I'm to shy which is also an insecurity cos it makes everyone think I'm rude or weird :(
Never stop trying!! Literally. The choices you make now will affect you so much in the long run. Better to work on yourself sooner than later. You got this. I hope your high school experience is going well.
Oh god i am so lucky to have you in my life now and I'm so thankful even though i knew you in few months ago but you really changed my life thank you so much for helping us keep going .
I know right like everytime i see a girl with a beautiful face and skinny body with beautiful teeth, I'm always like: "oh my gosh she's so pretty I'm so jealous i wish i could be like her..."
I have huge insecurity about my asymmetrical face too. And I am a guy so I can imagine what magnitude of insecurity you'd be feeling being a girl. BTW, you look really pretty!
Thank you,you really helped me today!!!! this really helps so much the people who watched this. I'm really insecure about my body,my face... It's hard to change how I think,but I need to change I don't deserve to be treated like that for myself... It's a journey that I gonna have to do. nobody tells that it's gonna be easy,but I'm ready to start 💜✨🌟🌟⭐
Thank you so much! This is such a great video. 💕 I'm insecure about my vocabulary but I realize that it's something that I can work on and that I need to forgive myself for not being perfect because les be honest, no one is. Thank you so much for the tips! This helped a lot. 💕
It's really hard beacause people will still judge you! I am really insecure about myself.I will still try all this.Thank you for sending motivation love and self worth💕🥺
you are the first person since BTS whose words have actually inspired me a lot, i love listening to you talk! your words sound like poetry and make me realize the power of positive thinking. i wish to realign my thoughts and be kinder to myself. thank you for making this ;-;
Im insecure of myself right now and social media is BIG impact on this, i often compare myself and say i wish i was this pretty but the thing i learned is that there is no standart, you are so gorgeous on your own way, social media has a REALLY BAD SIDE, we just live in a JUDGEMENTAL SOCIETY, we are beautiful in our own way so believe in that!
Thank you so so much. I wrote my insecurities down, analysed them, and treated them with love. The moment I changed my perception, I was amazed and just filled with happiness with how far I've come and how I've grown into the beautiful, lovely, tough as nails woman that I am in spite of all the insecurities and doubt.
Great video! I've recently realized I'm very insecure about the things I say to others in public places, especially at school. When I say something that puts me in a negative light or draws attention to me, I feel very insecure about it. This video helped me to realize that it's just a minor little thing that I bet most of the people won't even remember the next day.
I’m so insecure about everything I tried to overdose a few hours ago I don’t feel comfortable in my body .. I hate myself when I see girls that’s prettier then me I compare myself all the time ..
This is absolutely what I needed, and in the 5 steps. I am stepping into something that is scary and often compare myself and self-destruct, but honestly, the part about seeing others succeed really resonated with me. You are such an expander for me in how you express yourself. Thank you SO MUCH!
I cannot thank you enough for this. I didn't even know that I suffer with insecurity until now. And I was looking for direction on how to now combat it. I am so grateful to have found this video. Thank you so very much!! I have suffered with heartbreak and shame for 2 decades!
I don't used to have any insecurities about me but the people around me forced my mind to feel insecure about myself . Even though I tried to avoid it but I can't. I really miss my old self . I wish she wasn't dead
TW. I'm not insecure, but my mom keeps judging me for my body I only wanna be myself and I haven't even told her that I am transgender and gay. When my brother told her he was gay she kinda freaked out and I'm really scared. I'm not looking to impress anyone, I'm not looking for happiness. I just want to live my life how ever I feel like it, my mom is slowly making me more insecure about my body. And I don't want to be insecure, I'm in 7th grade. My mom think people are going to judge me or something because of my NORMAL KID body. I feel sad so I'm just going to share my body when I was about six my dad left for half a year to go traveling and my mom cheated on him. When I was 7 years old I went through s*xual assault with one of my closest "Friends" when I was 8 I moved to this new whole place without knowing anyone or even speaking the lenguage, I didn't have contact with my dad for more then one year after I finally could visit him, when I was 9 I finally got to see my dad. When I came back from visiting himm my mom got pregnant and she gave birth with a beautiful boy. From that day something happened with me and now I can't control my mouth, what I mean is that I'm very compulsive. I don't self diagnose but I think I might have anxiety, I told my mom that I got assaulted but she didn't do anything but blame it on me. From this day I still struggle with every thing that has happened to me in the past and I can't seem to let it go, and to finish me I think I might wanna be a boy, and my mom has always told me that I will be a "Beautiful" girl because the side of some parts of my body, I'm sorry for sharing all this.. Have a great day.
My insecurities stems from my family. I love them, but they would constantly comment on the flaws of my body and would barely compliment me. I started healing when people at work would always compliment me, it was an awkward phase as I was not used to it but I started to change. Now, I decided to move out and life has been better. It’s still an on going process to love myself.
I seriously can't stop it. Imagine, my cousin is living her life the way I wanted. Traveling, friends, supportive parents, money, attention, looks, height, etc. I am lacking attention from my parents, no friends, have social anxiety, not that tall, have many acne, etc. How? JUST HOW?
I am here to build my positive self esteem.I might have social phobia. Whatever i do,i think what people will think about me , people will judge me, emotional outburst, feeling I'm nothing as compared to others.😔
That no. 4, I am really avoiding that. But the people around me are just so insensitive that they always compare me with others, specially my family. it is 4 in the morning right now, haven't yet sleep and fighting with my own insecurities. thank you for this video.
A lot of people in the comments or who I've talked to in real life say that they often develop insecurities because they compare themselves to others on social media. That only shows that something's fundamentally wrong with instagram and apps like that...
I honestly needed this so much, I feel so insecure with my art lately. I feel like I'm not having fun anymore, I feel more forced, it's like I'm just drawing for other people instead of myself. All my other friends are artist, but since I started to improve a bit later than them, it just makes me feel like I'm the clown of the group. While the young artists in my friend group seem to look up to me, and it just pressures me even more to draw, feels really draining.
I've been experiencing insecure, it is allowing some difficulties to enter my mind, the first one is the fact that due to my insecurities I've been doing hand gestures even in mall in order to cope with the crowd, i always felt that they've been watching me as if I have a bad appearance, I am trying to practice meditation and mind routine, the advices stated in the video truly is helping me to cope with my insecurities, thank you. Message for those who've been experiencing insecurities is that, you all are beautiful! Do not compare yourself to other even if they are as great as Albert einstein or even if they are as beautiful as ever, you all are wonderful in your own way, there is none perfect in this world, do not doubt yourself as if your appearance is unbearable to be seen because it is not! You all stay strong, imagine everyone as ordinary people because we are always the same, we all came from the same ancestor no doubt, GOD BLESS YOU ALL
I experienced bullying when I was a kid and I think that is the reason why I grow up being insecure and not having confidence. All of the words I received when I was a kid affected me today as a teenager. Every time I look up to the other teenager, I wonder how they can do the things they want to without minding other people's opinions. While me, I'm always conscious and insecure and I always depend on other people's judgment. I am worrying, until when I will be like this? We can not change ourselves easily after we watch this video (but this is a big help), we'll get through a lot of realization, growth and I know the time will come that we can say to ourselves that we're not insecure anymore and we already gained the confidence we need. 💗💗
I'm insecure about my past mistakes and what people have called me. It's hard to move on. I try to live in the present but for some reason I still give this person power over me.
Being aware of your insecurities is a must before you can work towards improvement and change your perspective. Treat yourself with love! Great tips. Cheers.
This video isn’t showing up in my subscriptions inbox. Anyone else? I love that you tackled this topic because I feel like it’s a constant battle for me to shut off my inner critical self that seems to only focus on my insecurities.
Thank you, Aileen. I stumbled upon with lots of self help videos but they don't work to me. I felt all those words came from successful and confident people who have so many great things to be positive. You know it is easier said than done. But your video is totally different. I still kept doubting while I was watching yours but you are like mind reader. I am kinda envious of your life, having thoughts inside my head like ' hmm, she has a great life, she is living with her passion and now she is talking nonsense things just try to get more subscribers" .And then the step number four really awakens me (dont compare yourself to others). I watched more of your videos and I felt you still struggled with lots of things in the past to become better version like today, you are sincere and not trying to show you are perfect. That makes you real. Thanks so much.
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To sum it all up 💕
1. Become aware of your insecurities
2. Change your perspective.
3. Reprogram your mind with thoughts that support you.
4. Stop comparing yourself to other people.
5. Stay aware and catch yourself.
*No hate please, I'm only doing this for those who watched the whole video and forgot it all or don't have time to watch it all.*
*_Thanks for the likes and no problem guys! Woah, 4k likes?! 💕_*
Thanks for the heads up.
Thank you!
Yesss yesss. We love you ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks pal ...
thanks darling this is so handy!
Your content is so peaceful.
Lanaaaa
yours too
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''Admire someone else's beauty without questioning your own.'' 💛
1. Become aware of your insecurities
--> Journal it, get aware of it, face it.
2. Change your perspective
-> see it through the eyes of love, talk to you as if you would to your child version
3. Reprogram your mind with positive affirmations
--> shift the negative thoughts to positive ones, repitation is key!
4. Stop comparing
-> not a race/competition, it's about community! Progress not perfection! One person's light doesn't deminish your own light, in fact it just shows what is possible.
5. Stay aware and catch yourself!
--> Police your mind. Stay concious to what you think and repeat your affirmations!
Maria Yagami how can I face if it is my face
THANKSS 💜💜💜
I wish I could copy this
can i share this?💖
It's hard to stop being insecure when you're literally surrounded by beautiful girls.
Aniyah Marie this was the most relatable comment
And when everyone around you always told you look ugly :/
Ikr i feel like im just a trash in this world
and you’re one of them!
or handsome boys
Being aware of what your insecurities are is a very important step. Confidence doesn’t just happen. Confidence derives from already having done something and gaining the confidence because it’s no longer something new. Great video Aileen!!! From a self love content creator to another- you never disappoint!! 💛
I totally agree with you!! Being self-aware is everything !
Joelle Phua Indeed !! 💕
Very true!
Lavendaire Thank you for responding Aileen! I know you’re a busy woman!
Self awareness is the first step to change, perfectly said Deya 💪
I am so insecure in my family,I am actually crying right now......
Śhaan'ş Gachà -ştuff XD I felt
Rrr
Yeah, and I don’t feel comfy talking anybody about it, not even my mom. I love her but I don’t know if she’d understand or not.
I’m so insecure that I even care about why my parents and siblings think of me a little too much.
The bridge is down the street
My insecurity started this year 😔 i just want to be my old self
Omg same ! the world became uglier but you can be your own safe place when you start to make your heart More full of Forgiveness, I’m not ok but I’m chilling because of that
Love yourself as it is maybe you are changing because you are growing and you just don't like the reason that made you grow. Because growing most of the time comes from pain .
Send love and hug yourself . It's ok no to be ok sometimes 🦋
@@ΆνναΠαντσίδου no. Stop. Why? You can't say: love yourself and BAAM!!! We love ouselves. Its hard to impossible. So it doesn't help for me.
Sorry if it may sound rude.
@@myheadhurts433 Maybe you are right
@@ΆνναΠαντσίδου I'm sorry if that offended you, I'm kinda depressed rn... I shouldn't react like that, you just wanted people to feel good, and I ruined all... Again. You see? I ruin everything good with my negativity 😕
I still can’t help it.... I hate myself lol.
same
Ayy me too
You know I was in that mind set this morning and I though to myself that I will not allow those negative thoughts that I'm so conditioned creep in. I want to allow myself to be free from negative self thoughts. I want to be addicted free from it. My insecurities has caused self damage, my family and my relationship. They payed a high price for my insecurities. I can't afford to loose them and myself ☹ let's raise up and fight this addiction! We can do it! Let's look for support groups and make a change! Is not easy and is out of our comfort zone but we have to in order to have a better quality of life!!!!!
Well I think you are adorable :)
Same..
My insecurity grew on me since I've had undereye literal blue veins under my eyes for as long as I could remember. But then, yesterday, I was at a small party with my family and relatives. And we were all sitting at a table. (Now, keep in mind, I hate makeup. No matter how much insecurities are on my face, I WON'T cover it with makeup. But, mascara or lipstick is fine for me lol). Anyway, I was at the party surrounded in a circle shape of a table so there were like 7 people. Then, my cousin (who is older than me and is in college) sounded worried and all of a sudden pointed out my under eye "blue lines" like she said, in front of everyone. After that, I felt everyone's eyes on me, and I felt like literal sh*t. I hated myself. I blinked back tears, and 2 minutes after, I would remember what had happened, and then I would almost start crying. This occured for more than 5 times. I really hate my face, and don't understand as to why I even have them in the first place. I told my doctor about it and she said it's not able to get rid of, and that the only way to get rid of it is to get shots when I'm rich and old. This is why I am an introvert and so akward around people because I KNOW that they're staring at my under eye and thinking of me as some weak and sick person. I honestly hate it. Other people are insecure about being heavy or not having the right body shape, but at least that in most cases, can be solved. It just hurts my heart so much. Okay bye. Idk why I even wrote this:)
Hey! You might have even forgot that you wrote it but all I wanna say is your insecurity can be your charm. I'm 100% sure that there are people out there who can just accept you for who you are. Don't be ashame of those blue veins under your eyes ☺️✨ Treat it like an art piece from God. You are unique and beautiful❤️✨ and about friends if you can't find anyone right now you can always have some online friends because the world is full of so many nice people who can accept you the way you are. You don't need to change. This all can might sound cheesy but I hope you feel better☺️✨ and I purple you ehehehe ( just assumed it with username "chimchim").
@@ishi6291 thank you so much! I honestly felt like no one would accept me, and just the whole "vein" thing made me seem so weird and ugly. Thanks for lifting my mood. Also, yes I am Army💜 i purple you too
@@nancy54379 Never EVER call yourself ugly okie? You ✨✨perfect✨✨
Always be HAPPYYY🥺🌺❤️
I used to hate makeup too, but I also used to have really terrible hormonal acne, so I began using foundation to make myself feel better when I went out. It wasn't for other people -- it was to make myself feel more confident. That was the key. Eventually, my skin cleared up and I rarely wear it anymore unless I'm going out with the girls or my boyfriend. But for a time when I was feeling super insecure, it was a nice option to have, and I consider it an art now (vs. a societal mask). I'm not saying makeup is the answer here, but maybe it's drawing attention to another part of your body, like buying some great clothes that show off your figure, or getting a new hair style, whitening your teeth, or wearing blue eye makeup. Finding something to enhance another part of your body / face is a great stepping stone to building confidence. Then you can say to yourself, well maybe I don't like X, but Y is pretty fantastic.
Blue veins are so cool
i avoid going out cause i am just to ugly and self conscious lol
I relate, I used to want to go to the mall all the time now I'm scared people will stare at me and judge me
You really shouldn’t be🥺💛
You're beautiful❣️
@@jazmin.a1vv SAME
Same here
I think we have to remember that repetition is also the way we were "programmed" to think some things about ourselves or our bodies were wrong. For example seeing everyday advertising and a certain body standard represented everywhere gave us insecurities about our bodies we didn't have when we were young. I love the idea of fighting these repetitions with positive repetitions!
Yup!!
I cry myself to sleep every night no matter how much times people tell me I’m pretty I can’t stop comparing myself to a girl every boy likes
Me my friend told me I am pretty even my teacher and lots of people .....but I am too skinny that a boy just made me hate myself,,,,,I don't deserve this situation
same girl same it sucks
@@riditaanimation9262 wtf just bcz of that one boy you're hating yourself? Your inner voice is telling you that "This is not fair" there are many to love you too why're you ignoring the love you're getting and the beauty present in you just bcz of that one guy? not fair gurl.
@@lachimolala54321 yeah girl but not anymore.
Bro, istg this used to be so me. You know what change yourself, i mean love yourself as u are but take baby steps like I won't compare myself to anymore for this night. I would instead listen to songs to sleep. Get a novel, read it. Write good things that u have, it fan be anything. And if you like i would recommend you 'thewizardliz' channel. Her content will help u. And don't listen to what ppl tell u, just take care of urself. There are many models and girls out there, we aren't made like them thag doesn't mean that we don't belong here. You are prettier believe me..
I’m insecure about my weight.. but this is what my best friend tells me every day “ you are beautiful just the way you are, and if anyone makes fun of you, go off on them because you are amazing. Besides, if you think your are fat, which you aren’t, look at it this way! There is more to love!” And it makes me laugh every time!
1:30 The moment when she said "cry if you have to" about talking my insecure out, i just- 😭😭 gosh i try so hard to be tough but mybe sometime we just need to cry it out
"Everyone's story is different." - This is the most important thought shared in this video. At least for me. Thank you 🙏❤
The images are beautiful. New camera? 😍
Justine Leconte officiel actually yes! Using the Canon EOS R now
YAY TO SELF-LOVE CUZ IM DONE WITH COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS
A very bright future to the person, who is reading the comment.... ♥♥♡
★tnks for the likes🙈🙏
A very bright future to you too buddy......
You too
Sm2u
awh, yay! thank you!
Same to you♥️
My young lady, I am 40 years old and I am on my way to a better life, also thanks to your videos and your work. You are progressing, as you have said. And you are doing it very well. 💚🌿
surround yourself with better people, no matter how many sacrifices it takes. if it means changing schools, shifting friend groups or as little as deleting social media, it helps. and it works.
I am insecure that if I try to make new friends or talk to a group of people I will be ignored and left out leaving me in the corner unwanted and I get really panicked,anxious and uncomfortable whenever I have to socialize with a group of people cause of that and I feel like crying on the inside.
I experience this firsthand every time I have an in-person conversation with anyone. Sometimes I get so insecure about myself (appearance, personality, intelligence, everything...) that I don't even feel like keeping the conversation going. Worst thing is that I don't have anyone to talk to about this stuff even in my family because they're always so occupied with themselves. 💔
Hey, you might see or not see this, but I'll continue anyway. Having friends is important, but choosing your friends is the most important part if you want to stop being insecure. You can start just by having one, that one friend that will not judge you and is always ready to listen to you. Maybe you already have it, or maybe he/she is just around the corner, fighting!
Happens to me too because I have abandonment issues
*my favorite thing that I got out of this video* :
Don't compare yourself to other ppl.
Compare yourself to your past self, as long as your improving that all that matters :')
_thank you Lavendaire_ , this will rlly help me
Sometimes you find the best teachers out of your classrooms. They teach you the most important, helpful lessons, and that what makes them the best.
Thank you for being one of those!💜
My insecurities got to the point where I wrote what my friends and best friends told me on my wall.
They told me that I looked weird, that their life was better than mine, that people don’t like me because I’m short, they told me that I was too skinny, they told me that I wasn’t important and would occasionally lie about me.
It's been a year, but leave those "friends" asap. They are not worth your time.
I absolutely hate people who give so much of their time to insult, discriminate or say mean things to other people especially if they are your so called friends. All I can say is that they’re probably insecure themselves and the only way they thought to make themselves feel better is to ruin another persons self esteem. Its annoying. Nobody deserves that. Cut them off and surround yourself with positive, supportive, kind, and motivating people filled with good vibes and positive energy.
Reprogramming my mind helped me so much to go from self doubt to finally trusting myself and that I can do things. I just started posting affirmation video’s on RUclips to help women that are getting insecure and think that they need assurance from others.
It has been really difficult for me dealing with my insecurities especially when I'm hearing someone talk about their wealth and stuff, like buying things and more. We don't have the wealth but I'm striving hard to graduate and get out of this situation. But for now, I have to rely on these videos first to help me cope up with the insecurities that I have been feeling. Thank you for this one. :((
Accept yourself as you are.
Love yourself like someone you love.
Look at the truth that nobody's perfect, not even heavily filtered bodies on Instagram
*Who else always gets so inspired by everything she does?* 💓💓 *i love her so much*
All the love from another youtuber🌹
yeah she is so inspiring
I totally agree with you ,She has got a good content 😁
yes yes yes! She's a sweetheart!
@@InnerResearcherhey
And she's very beautiful 💕😍
Omg such great timing! I've been in a creative funk as of lately, but also have been dealing with a lot of self-esteem doubts and negativity. I love how honest you are with your steps! I have been trying to journal a lot more lately, and I never thought about writing about where I think my insecurities come from. Thank you for doing this video!
elloitsangela hope it helps!!
Wow! I'm currently battling with my insecurities (as of the moment) and this video came up in my notifaction bar. Thank you so much for this, Lav!
This channel has a way of always brightening my day! You inspire me so much to be my best self. The world needs more content and people like you Aileen! 💕
Christina Marie indeed! A true inspiration. She definitely helps me!
Thanks love ❤️
Great message, Aileen!💕 I have struggled with my insecurities growing up now I'm on my 30s I learned to work on them and improve it was never easy had depression and anxiety but now I am stronger and braver.
-I'm so sad that this video is over-
I'm so happy that Lavendaire will be back here with another video later and I'm excited💜
this is called looking at the bright side guys ^^
i really feel insecure about myself these days i have this friend who is really gorgeous n everytime we're together evryone was complimenting n talking at her and i just stand there like i'm invisible like they forgot about me hello? im still here, i just feel like why can't i look like her u knoww like what it feels like to be that beautiful. compliment is really the best booster u can give to a person so if u know someone who have been struggling about how they look just complement them. :)
P.s i'm not hating or somethin' and i also complement her a lot i lovee her
"stop being insecure" That's so easy to say:)
Your positive encouragement is slowly helping me. Thank you, girl!
i feel so down today because yesterday i wore an outfit i wasn’t usually comfortable in and i felt confident, until i walked past a group of kids and heard them shout that i was fat, now i just want to cry and i wish i never heard it
*This video really came at the right time for me. Thank you Aileen* 🌹
VANSOMz ❤️❤️
maybe no one will read this but i cannot explain how much and how fast this video has helped me. i'm a person who struggles to identify "why" i feel things the way i do or the roots of my feelings. The whole video helped me see my childhood trauma or stuff that may trigger my insecurities. Of course i still have some of them but finally i could understand where they come from!! im definetly gonna tell this to my therapist💘 thank you
Me just trying to watch this so my girlfriend stops bc she is so beautiful but can't see it and I hate it bc I just wish she could see what I see
awww🥺💕
Hope they make videos like this that targets not just the female insecurities, but also for men and our lgbtq community. I find it really hard helping my boyfriend overcome his insecurities and constant negative talk.
I think you saved my life - without being dramatic ... I feel so insecure all the time and I'm sure everything is about to change because of the fact that I saw this video.
I think what you're doing is probably helping thousands of people from all over the world and I would feel tremendous pride every day if I did what you did.
I feel insecure that I'm not as smart or talented as the rest of my friends and no one knows that talents I do have because I'm to shy which is also an insecurity cos it makes everyone think I'm rude or weird :(
Insecurity is a real thing! It's hard when those lies tell us that we're not capable. But we are! We can overcome!
I’m trying to change for high school I was insecure antisocial and sad all middle school and it needs to stop
Hmu on snap @oscar209xd we can be friends😁
I know this was made 6 months ago but I wanted to say you've got this!!!!
that was me in middle school and now im in college,nothing changed :(
Same but nothing changes with me
Never stop trying!! Literally. The choices you make now will affect you so much in the long run. Better to work on yourself sooner than later. You got this. I hope your high school experience is going well.
Oh god i am so lucky to have you in my life now and I'm so thankful even though i knew you in few months ago but you really changed my life thank you so much for helping us keep going .
I'm insecure about how asymmetrical my face is :( and I tend to compAre to my looks to influencers
I know right like everytime i see a girl with a beautiful face and skinny body with beautiful teeth, I'm always like: "oh my gosh she's so pretty I'm so jealous i wish i could be like her..."
Same
same im ugly af
You are so cute
💕
I have huge insecurity about my asymmetrical face too. And I am a guy so I can imagine what magnitude of insecurity you'd be feeling being a girl. BTW, you look really pretty!
Thank you,you really helped me today!!!! this really helps so much the people who watched this. I'm really insecure about my body,my face... It's hard to change how I think,but I need to change I don't deserve to be treated like that for myself... It's a journey that I gonna have to do. nobody tells that it's gonna be easy,but I'm ready to start 💜✨🌟🌟⭐
Sorry any mistakes I'm not american 🙂🙂🙂
Thank you so much! This is such a great video. 💕 I'm insecure about my vocabulary but I realize that it's something that I can work on and that I need to forgive myself for not being perfect because les be honest, no one is. Thank you so much for the tips! This helped a lot. 💕
It's really hard beacause people will still judge you! I am really insecure about myself.I will still try all this.Thank you for sending motivation love and self worth💕🥺
I need to watch this over and over. Such a great reminder especially since I’m insecure. Thanks Aileen 🌻
Her videos are life changing ,thank you so much 🥺✨
Thank you for always sharing so many beautiful and motivational tips! I always look forward to your uploads
Ronja // 런야 They sure are super helpful!
I appreciate that!! Thanks so much ❤️
me too! she's an angel...
you are the first person since BTS whose words have actually inspired me a lot, i love listening to you talk! your words sound like poetry and make me realize the power of positive thinking. i wish to realign my thoughts and be kinder to myself. thank you for making this ;-;
Aileen you don't know how special and important your vedios are for me..... I can't thank you enough for that😢😘😘😘😘
Im insecure of myself right now and social media is BIG impact on this, i often compare myself and say i wish i was this pretty but the thing i learned is that there is no standart, you are so gorgeous on your own way, social media has a REALLY BAD SIDE, we just live in a JUDGEMENTAL SOCIETY, we are beautiful in our own way so believe in that!
Aileen, can you please make a video on relationships based on emotional maturity and independence? Please?
And thankyou for all the beautiful content💓
@@tadmjgptwmjg shut up
Absolutely right! When you are surrounded by great people
Thank you so much! Good vibes your way!
Thank you so so much. I wrote my insecurities down, analysed them, and treated them with love. The moment I changed my perception, I was amazed and just filled with happiness with how far I've come and how I've grown into the beautiful, lovely, tough as nails woman that I am in spite of all the insecurities and doubt.
when you're just so excited bc you're early so you scroll just to comment and you just hit other vid .
love you sm !
Great video! I've recently realized I'm very insecure about the things I say to others in public places, especially at school. When I say something that puts me in a negative light or draws attention to me, I feel very insecure about it. This video helped me to realize that it's just a minor little thing that I bet most of the people won't even remember the next day.
I’m so insecure about everything I tried to overdose a few hours ago I don’t feel comfortable in my body .. I hate myself when I see girls that’s prettier then me I compare myself all the time ..
Theyenvy NAS please never try that again you’re beautiful and mean a lot to so many people on this world!!
@@lukepotkay1732 omggg im just now seeing this thank youuu
it’s been a month but if u need anyone to talk to, i’m here hun💜
Your beautiful and special love. 😍👊
i feel u ):
This is absolutely what I needed, and in the 5 steps. I am stepping into something that is scary and often compare myself and self-destruct, but honestly, the part about seeing others succeed really resonated with me. You are such an expander for me in how you express yourself. Thank you SO MUCH!
i was crying throughout the video. it hit me hard. thankyou so much miss ❤
I cannot thank you enough for this. I didn't even know that I suffer with insecurity until now. And I was looking for direction on how to now combat it. I am so grateful to have found this video. Thank you so very much!!
I have suffered with heartbreak and shame for 2 decades!
Thanks for reminding me that I must love myself ❤
I don't used to have any insecurities about me but the people around me forced my mind to feel insecure about myself . Even though I tried to avoid it but I can't. I really miss my old self . I wish she wasn't dead
TW.
I'm not insecure, but my mom keeps judging me for my body I only wanna be myself and I haven't even told her that I am transgender and gay. When my brother told her he was gay she kinda freaked out and I'm really scared. I'm not looking to impress anyone, I'm not looking for happiness. I just want to live my life how ever I feel like it, my mom is slowly making me more insecure about my body. And I don't want to be insecure, I'm in 7th grade. My mom think people are going to judge me or something because of my NORMAL KID body. I feel sad so I'm just going to share my body when I was about six my dad left for half a year to go traveling and my mom cheated on him. When I was 7 years old I went through s*xual assault with one of my closest "Friends" when I was 8 I moved to this new whole place without knowing anyone or even speaking the lenguage, I didn't have contact with my dad for more then one year after I finally could visit him, when I was 9 I finally got to see my dad. When I came back from visiting himm my mom got pregnant and she gave birth with a beautiful boy. From that day something happened with me and now I can't control my mouth, what I mean is that I'm very compulsive. I don't self diagnose but I think I might have anxiety, I told my mom that I got assaulted but she didn't do anything but blame it on me. From this day I still struggle with every thing that has happened to me in the past and I can't seem to let it go, and to finish me I think I might wanna be a boy, and my mom has always told me that I will be a "Beautiful" girl because the side of some parts of my body, I'm sorry for sharing all this.. Have a great day.
My insecurities stems from my family. I love them, but they would constantly comment on the flaws of my body and would barely compliment me. I started healing when people at work would always compliment me, it was an awkward phase as I was not used to it but I started to change. Now, I decided to move out and life has been better. It’s still an on going process to love myself.
you're doing great dear, and always remember you deserve all the love and happiness in the world 💖
wow. this is what i exactly need rn :(
it was so beautiful and valuable
your voice is so soothing 😌
I really needed this... thank u sooo much
Love from Malaysia!
I seriously can't stop it. Imagine, my cousin is living her life the way I wanted. Traveling, friends, supportive parents, money, attention, looks, height, etc. I am lacking attention from my parents, no friends, have social anxiety, not that tall, have many acne, etc. How? JUST HOW?
Honestly you can say anything and I’d still listen because your voice is so soothing 💫
Loved the points you raised in this video! X
I am here to build my positive self esteem.I might have social phobia. Whatever i do,i think what people will think about me , people will judge me, emotional outburst, feeling I'm nothing as compared to others.😔
this is so important and also so hard... I haven't been able to implement it really but well it's a journey like everything
That no. 4, I am really avoiding that.
But the people around me are just so insensitive that they always compare me with others, specially my family. it is 4 in the morning right now, haven't yet sleep and fighting with my own insecurities. thank you for this video.
I love your video of how you explain this like a best friend give precious advises 💕 thank you ☺
A lot of people in the comments or who I've talked to in real life say that they often develop insecurities because they compare themselves to others on social media. That only shows that something's fundamentally wrong with instagram and apps like that...
This is is so beautiful, every word you say is so positive and powerful 😍
these pointers were helpful, I can't explain how intense my insecurities got and upset me. I determine to follow these pointers. thanks lady
This could not have come at a more perfect time. Really needed this. Thanks 💕
Sage Rob sameeee
I honestly needed this so much, I feel so insecure with my art lately. I feel like I'm not having fun anymore, I feel more forced, it's like I'm just drawing for other people instead of myself. All my other friends are artist, but since I started to improve a bit later than them, it just makes me feel like I'm the clown of the group. While the young artists in my friend group seem to look up to me, and it just pressures me even more to draw, feels really draining.
wow I feel the same way too..
Anyone else crying and watching this cuz they where told to kill them selfs and they are ugly....
Yeah your not alone 🖤
Woah I'm sorry
Abigail Shanae its okay, we are all here for a reason. Still tryna find mine x
Wow please whatever is happening don‘t listen to them I know it’s hard.
I bet you‘re beautiful❤️
Drawing 4 life nah x
Omg don’t listen to them please. They are just jealous❤️
I've been experiencing insecure, it is allowing some difficulties to enter my mind, the first one is the fact that due to my insecurities I've been doing hand gestures even in mall in order to cope with the crowd, i always felt that they've been watching me as if I have a bad appearance, I am trying to practice meditation and mind routine, the advices stated in the video truly is helping me to cope with my insecurities, thank you.
Message for those who've been experiencing insecurities is that, you all are beautiful! Do not compare yourself to other even if they are as great as Albert einstein or even if they are as beautiful as ever, you all are wonderful in your own way, there is none perfect in this world, do not doubt yourself as if your appearance is unbearable to be seen because it is not! You all stay strong, imagine everyone as ordinary people because we are always the same, we all came from the same ancestor no doubt, GOD BLESS YOU ALL
I see lavendaire, i click.
Bruno Harari hehe thanks
Lavendaire i love your videos! Have a nice day!
it’s just so hard to not compare yourself with other people..feeling not enough and pretty or good can sometimes be so painful..
I really really needed this, thank you so much Aileen ❤️
I experienced bullying when I was a kid and I think that is the reason why I grow up being insecure and not having confidence. All of the words I received when I was a kid affected me today as a teenager. Every time I look up to the other teenager, I wonder how they can do the things they want to without minding other people's opinions. While me, I'm always conscious and insecure and I always depend on other people's judgment. I am worrying, until when I will be like this?
We can not change ourselves easily after we watch this video (but this is a big help), we'll get through a lot of realization, growth and I know the time will come that we can say to ourselves that we're not insecure anymore and we already gained the confidence we need. 💗💗
You inspire me! Keep doing what you do and I want to thank you ❤❤
Angies Almost Adventurs she inspires me too!! :)
I'm insecure about my past mistakes and what people have called me. It's hard to move on. I try to live in the present but for some reason I still give this person power over me.
i love you! you are like a big sister inspiring me as i don't have any sisters :)
Being aware of your insecurities is a must before you can work towards improvement and change your perspective. Treat yourself with love! Great tips. Cheers.
Thank you Aileen , this video is really mean to me
This video isn’t showing up in my subscriptions inbox. Anyone else? I love that you tackled this topic because I feel like it’s a constant battle for me to shut off my inner critical self that seems to only focus on my insecurities.
Exactly what I needed today ❤️❤️ love you dear
Thank you, Aileen. I stumbled upon with lots of self help videos but they don't work to me. I felt all those words came from successful and confident people who have so many great things to be positive. You know it is easier said than done. But your video is totally different. I still kept doubting while I was watching yours but you are like mind reader. I am kinda envious of your life, having thoughts inside my head like ' hmm, she has a great life, she is living with her passion and now she is talking nonsense things just try to get more subscribers" .And then the step number four really awakens me (dont compare yourself to others). I watched more of your videos and I felt you still struggled with lots of things in the past to become better version like today, you are sincere and not trying to show you are perfect. That makes you real. Thanks so much.
This is exactly what I need