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You have so much to be grateful for. You woke up this morning, You can see, You can walk, you can smell the flowers, you can hear the birds. Pull yourself out of this negative place. None of us know how much time we have left on this planet so get out there and enjoy your life while you are still young enough and healthy enough to do whatever you want. Have a good day and much love ❤
I left my last job because I'm trying to love myself enough to not tolerate disrespect. Now that i have no income, society sees me as worthless. But I still tell myself every day that I have as much value as anyone else. I like her comparison to puppies and infants, I'll try that. ☺
Some say I'm just doing drama...they don't believe me...they don't believe I have panic attacks or a whole load of fears and insecurities...they don't know how I feel. It's easier for them to say that I should do yoga or drink tea....I mean I'm british and tea is my solution for almost everything but that's not the point. The point is...I feel like they don't want to believe me so it's easier for them.
I agree. It is so hard opening up about mental health because of this. It’s like you could say my leg hurts but it will sound weird if you say your mind hurts or your heart hurts. I love in England too,Srilankan but loved whole life here. Best wishes to you all , I myself going through depression really need to get self love and also practicing radical acceptance is so hard too
I needed this 💜 my number one struggle is my self worth. I was never “told” I wasn’t worthy but through neglect and lack of interest from those in my life this belief was created within myself
I understand that feeling, the feeling of not knowing how much I am actually loved. I, like you, was (until I met one particular person) never told that I was unworthy, but I believed I was anyway. For me it was because I felt like I could never do enough for others. And that feeling was amplified when I met and dated that person I mentioned earlier. The relationship didn't start with her telling me I was bad or unworthy or not good enough or that my life was never going to go anywhere or that I was fat, ugly and "letting myself go" or that I was terrible at conversation, etc, but after a couple of years that's where we ended up. Another year later I finally got away from her, and haven't talked to her in about 6 months, which has been... nice (to say the least). But now I am mostly on my own. I have a few friends, but it's hard to contact them sometimes. I'm trying to make some more, but that's pretty difficult for my extremely introverted self. Some days I just want to hug or cuddle someone I care a lot about, and who I know cares about me a lot too... I'm not sure if that last part is something you relate to or not, but if it is... then I'm sending a virtual hug your way. I hope you have a wonderful day, and that you know that there are people who love you, and who think you are worthy. 🤗
Going into my 30’s, I have realized that I have spent a huge chunk of my life believing other people’s negative opinions about me and have internalized them as my own opinions about myself. I have been on my self love journey since I was 25 and I’m not gonna lie that it’s been an uphill battle especially in the last 3-4 years.
This weekend I was feeling very low and demotivated as I am jobless. Today morning I followed your guided meditation. Then followed by your guided affirmation series. Still going on. Feeling very relaxed and positive. Thank you so much for being my blessing. I love you so much that words are not enough to be grateful to you. Keep going and growing. Keep motivating millions of souls. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I recently read this book called Decolonizing Wellness by Dalia Kinsey. While I read this I worked on some stuff and came up with some good affirmations. 1. My needs are valid regardless of if someone else understands them or not. 2. I give myself permission to be the decision maker of what’s best for me and my body and where that takes me. I don’t have a very supportive family in my healing journey and these were things I needed to hear because no one else was going to say it to me.
I'm a 15 year old girl from Italy and I really wanted to thank you Aileen, for everything you are doing. I've been through a lot lately, and you've helped me so much in my journey. You gave me hope, and you are teaching me so many things. I can't explain how much I'm grateful to you. So please know that you are ✨AMAZING✨ too, and thank you again for everything 💕💕💕
Wow you should be proud of yourself as a 15 year old girl, you’re willing to heal and thrive. Keep being amazing and I hope that you overcome from whatever you are going through! Wishing you the best🤍
@@333tee Thank you so so much! I'll make sure to never give up, because I'm sure I will get through this. If you are in a bad moment in your life, always remember that whatever it is, you can do it in one way or another, just be sure about it. But most importantly know that you are not alone, and you SHOULD NOT be afraid of asking for help. Anyway I wish you all the best 💕💕💕!!!
@@jules3169 yes girl! life is full of lessons to help you become the best version of yourself, things are happening for you not to you💓tough times are always temporary
“Be the person you want to be” oof. I needed to hear that. Knowing that I can change and grow and become the person I want to be always seemed so impossible but I love how you explained it and I’ll definitely start working on that. Thank you ❤
Everyone is worthy of peace, self worth with self respect. Yes, even you who reads this! It takes quite some time to build it, but it is one of the most worthwhile things to do to fully enjoy yourself and the life you make for yourself. 💜
I have been comparing myself to people online and thinking people are higher than me and having thoughts that I’m not as ‘pretty’ or ‘cool’ as them. I always remember your channel when I have this downs. You are a star Aileen, thank you for helping me loving myself and for helping me become confident in myself. ❤️
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oh I know I'm good enough and I don't need to perfect I embrace my imperfections and I won't be feeling guilty if there's a day when I need a good rest hey guys it's me I'm 17 yrs old and this year will be 18 so let's promise ourselves : no matter what we won't let ourselves down and love ourselves ☺ because we matter and yes becoming better version of ourselves is our goal love ya all ❤
The concept of building self-esteem through recognizing and celebrating unique strengths has motivated me to explore and appreciate my individual abilities. This approach has significantly contributed to building a positive self-image.
Thank you so much for this video. Since I was younger I always dealt with confidence issues but now that I’m older it’s a lot worse. Especially since I’m a senior now, it’s hard focus on school and doing well when I’m constantly overthinking and second guessing myself. I feel like another thing that impacts me a lot is my family. They’re always dragging me down any chance they get, always make me feel like I’m doing something wrong even if i do it the exact same way as them :(
Just saw this video and I wrote all the things that are pulling me back , making me sad . And yes it helped me.. I also wish the one reading this to be blessed with whatever they wish for And don't forget to be grateful for everything you have right now
"Be the person you want to be." I love that! I've been trying to step into the upleveled version of myself and just be the person that I've been trying to manifest, and it's been SUCH a gamechanger for me!
Hi, tbh these videos help me through this darkness lack of self love in my life, I hope to change my mind and come to this coming and tell to myself that I can change my beliefs and more grateful ❤ thanks if you read this comments.
Yes, operating from a place of self-love is key. From childhood to my teenage years, I've struggled with the idea of feeling good enough. Even as an adult, it's still a challenge but what I'm learning is that the impact of kindness towards yourself is huge. We are sometimes quick to be kind to others but not to ourselves. So self-love to me is simply being kind to myself. Also, the point about being the main character in your story is also a big one. When you are the main character, you start taking action towards the life that you want. You start to make things happen for you.
First omg 🤩 exactly what I needed right now, I've caught myself a few days ago on talking poorly about me and my job and I immediately relised I am waaay more harsch on myself that on anyone else, I would never say that about anyone else
Don't worry about others between the best of your type. Thanks for the great reminder that they should always end up writing the longer gratitude list than you think you will
Idk why I feel like crying everything I watch your videos , its bcz I don't even know u personally but you feel sooo safe to me , I never felt this w anyone . ( just hope u see this comment )
Thank you, Lavandar, for creating such meaningful content. Your words resonate deeply with me as someone who has walked the path of healing and transformation. My journey through depression was a turning point that led me to reflect, study psychology, and explore Jungian archetypes, which provided profound insights into my life. Changing my lifestyle, focusing on self-growth, and eventually shifting my career toward a more holistic approach to health have been life-changing for me. It’s incredible how pain can guide us to uncover our purpose and help others. I admire your wisdom and authenticity, especially at such a young age. It’s why I shared your channel with my daughter-I believe she can connect with your message and find inspiration in it. Keep shining and spreading light!"
Hi Aileen. I 've had difficulty getting through this video and started watching it multiple times without seeing it through then, until today. You touched on a lot of things that I resonate with. I did a lot of shadow work decades ago and it was so beneficial. But recently a relative moved close by and the old cycle of verbal and emotional abuse started up and wrecked a lot of the work I did. So many emotions have welled up. Thank you for reminding me of the importance of self love, self care, it's ok to set boundaries, its ok to let go of toxic people. ❤
me I'm 21 yrs old. I don't know what to do.😢. But this video I watch it's helpful to me I'm crying now😭. Thank you ms. Aileen more videos and God Bless🥺🥰
Positive self talk Replace negative talk with positive self talk Be the person you want to be Shadow work...ask questions to yourself Meditation affirmation Make Self love as number one priority Self love journey like writing love Letter to yourself writing best things to yourself Make boundaries
OMG😯 The examples that you told us about babies and puppies were outstanding🤯 You're absolutely right. We deserve love and we worth just because we are alive. Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear something like this
Doing Heart-Brain Coherence practice daily combined with subconscious reprogramming techniques can change those negative false beliefs… activation of the heart frequency is key.. the mind can get programmed but the heart never will for the heart knows only love and knows that you are made from pure love.
I can’t thank you enough, Aileen! I’ve been the prisoner of my own beliefs for way too long and I thought I couldn’t change, that I was an absolute failure. Although, I kinda feel old and sometimes I get sad because I wish I would’ve taken action before… I’ll try my best to change my beliefs. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your light. I am a new mama and this new chapter in my life (actually, it feels like a whole new BOOK in my life) has been way more challenging than I thought it would be. I already had a lot to heal from in my life, but having a little mini me is like having a mirror to my inner child. It isn't all just joy and love, it's uncomfortable feelings and resurfaced trauma that is forcing me to heal... I just want to grow and be the best me I can be so that my daughter can grow up to be her best and happiest self. Your videos came up in my suggested videos and now your meditations, affirmations and other videos are a part of my daily routine. It is changing my life!! I feel lighter and it has only been one week of watching your videos. My depression doesn't feel so all-encompassing and overwhelming. You have no idea how much of an impact you are making in people's lives. Complete strangers to you are growing and evolving because of your light! Thank you for being authentically you!
When you feel good, baby feels good - they learn about the world subconsciously based on how YOU feel. So get all the help you can and all the sleep you can (lol, IKR). I felt like I had to do it all alone and prove my worth as a mom and I deeply regret not reaching out for more help when mine were babies. You don't have to be a martyr
Thank u for all of your kindful words whose words are literally vibrant and make us feel satisfied ever . Thank you You know I've been spending one more off days of whole my life and i don't wanna deny it anyway i just wanna change it what made me feel that I'm not good enough or I haven't got my confidence anymore what was required to continue . I just want not to have this feeling anymore, and I'll try to change it .
I came across your channel for the first time today, and want to thank you for this precious video, a journey to self-love feels more clearer now that I've listened to your tips.
You are so special and precious 🥺 I don't usually comment but I couldn't see myself leaving the video without doing so. Besides the fact that your advice is very sincere, unique in its kind and also the fact that it differs from other personal development videos that you can see everywhere, you give off a different energy, a benevolence that emanates from you. You give this advice with all your sincerity as much for us as for you. You seem to have been so successful in developing self-confidence while being modest and it's really beautiful to see. Know that you touched me and rare are the personal development videos that achieve this. You're beautiful 🤍
Thankyou I really needed this. I recently went through something that was hard but I know God helped me and has given so many signs that have lead me back to a place of healing
I appreciate you so very much💜💜 I don't watch a lot of self-help content anymore, but not feeling good enough is a recurring issue, I think, in most people's lives, no matter how far you've come and how much you have achieved. I love how much you've grown, Aileen, been with you for more than five years now.✨🌈
When I think a negative thought, I follow it up with a reminder that my brain is sometimes a liar 🤷🏻♀️ I try to challenge the negative things I sometimes tell myself.
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Hey love ❣️ can you make a video on planning five years from now but in a different way ,evolving like you In turns of mindset ,self love , priorities, love , perspective on life . Watching you really creates a spark with in to grow like you and motivates to do something better with life.❤️ All your knowledge you share with world Is really appreciated ❣️
So happy for this video, I missed this style of video, I know you have been super busy with your podcast and shop, just really appreciate this type of content, thank you so much!! xx
i cried while watching this vedio. İ used to be nice to myself until this year i started not like or hate myself. They put me in new class, class for students that get good grades last year. So i kept comparing myself to them . not comparing grades but i was comparing my personality my social skills and my personality and a lot of things. They are so good at social sitsituations and they can tallk confidently in class and their friend gruop seems funny . they talk to each others and laugh and have fun while im sit there alone and bored i felt bad that im look like a quiet boring girl that dont know how to communicate and i think i have social anxiety .so i kept comparing myself to ppl and its sucks. i lost all my self love and confident. But i promise im gonna change i dont wanna be the sama as im right now. i wanna be the best version of me İ wanna love myself. i hope i can ur vedio taught me alot of thing and i really loved when u said "Any living being is so worthy without trying, just by existing ur already worthy" means alot for me. Thank you soo much im gonna try my best to improve and love myself. Have a good dayy .𓆩♡𓆪
Hello , I just wanted to say I thank you for your channel an all the effort you put into it. I’m currently 3 years sober and just got released from prison after doing 11 months and you’ve been part of my recovery through out the entirety. I’ve read many spiritual growth books while locked up. Believe me it’s not easy to be positive in prison but I made everyday count. I always play your meditations that really the only guided meditations I do is yours. Please continue to add more of your meditation practice. “I am here an this moment right now is all that matters “ in the now there is no suffering. Attaining Enlightenment is success , attaining Enlightenment enlightenment opens up space for the universe to allow positive coincidences to occur on our journey. I’m Native American (Navajo) and it’s so true what you said in this video, “We are Nature” and we are all connected. Thank you Aileen for your energy and words.
I really needed this . Last night and it travelled into today I don’t feel enough. I feel like maybe there is something wrong me with like I’m missing something that everyone else has :( everyone has their person I have no one I feel so lonely
Thanks for your sharing. Actually, I'm feeling not good enough as my peers. But I'm 23 years old, so I think I'm so young and everything just begins. I have a long distance ahead. From Việt Nam with love!
thank you for the video, I almost lost myself in the moment, thank you for the courage to not let my anxiety take control of my present time. I'll try to keep remembering that I'm good enough. thankyou
i'm really thankful that i found your channel ♡ i think it's been a year already and i found a lot of tools to use during my everyday life when things are difficult. so thank you🌈
Thank u for saying all the things I needed to hear. One day when I am able to love and accept myself wholly and be at peace with myself , i'll make sure to be a source of wisdom , warmth and positive energy to people around me and make this world a better place. I just want u to know that I've always wanted to be someone like u , so thank u for existing ✨💜
You share valuable thoughts very calmly ❤️...I'm also following self love 💕 and also able to delete unnecessary things from my life ❣️. Keep smiling A beautiful thought for everyone Train your mind to see the good in every situation 👍
Just when I thought of her ❤ I can’t tell you Aileen , I literallly love you and bless you from the bottom of my heart. Also your voice is like peace to my chaos in life ! Keep posting videos
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I really appreciate it because you have brought lots of positive energy that makes me feel relaxed and healing. Yahh just be yourself, but be your best self!!
Hi Lavendaire, i liked your video am the type of person you talk about .I am loving myself and going to become the best and bestest version of myself. I love really who i am♡💖🩶👸
Hi! I've been struggling with the same big theme for years. For me it was very difficult to simply change my negative self talk to a positive one. I tried to understand why I have this thought. To feel the profound fear beneath it. This is hard but posible. Once you understand it you can manage your emotion very well and transform it.
im so glad that i found your youtube channel ive been binge watching your videos for weeks now . i learned so much from you and your videos saved me from my dark days and up until now im still working on myself to better. thank you so much!!
Thank you for the reminders. =) Even though I'm 42 now and have made a lot of progress in this area, that feeling of not being good enough was hammered into me from when I was born. Knowing that, I have a long way to go, even though things are a lot better now. Whether it was from my parents, other family, "friends", school, society in general, rejection in the form of unrequited love..
Yeah I understand as a 39 year old female who experience childhood trauma from parents, family etc. I'm currently feeling awful because of my narcissistic childs father who constantly put me down then decided to have an affair with my enemy who was my ex best friend from school. I told me about how evil she was so he decided find her on Facebook and from there they hooked up😢
Everything is sound good! You gave me many value lesson to change and improve mysefl. I always feel lack of motivation, confidence and brave to do what I want. It's lucky as I saw on social media. I really like your voice, smile and your experiences that shared here as well. I believe that we are good enough to develop ourselves. It's important we need to have belief we can do what we want❤❤ Have a great time🎉🎉
Thank you. I’ve been told, and I agree, that my negative self talk is where I’m stuck. I’ve been told several times to stop but this is the first time anyone has laid out how to stop. I took notes! Although I’m in tears about starting, (convinced that I’ll actually find out the negative talk is true) I will start doing. There’s hope for me (I hope 😬). So thanks for laying this all out. It’s so kind of you to share this instead of teasing people with the idea and almost forcing people to buy your workbook to get results. Thanks for your efforts and kindness!
For someone who is just starting to re-create their life, would you suggest starting out with one of your earlier workbooks? I have a lot of trouble with starting and remaining consistent; I’m resistant to change now. I’d like to change that first so I can love myself again. Any suggestions based on your experience? Thanks 😊. Duh, you already answered this. I’m sorry.
I love your videos, vibe, and overall content! Especially, due the wrong and achievement-focused upbringing, it is so hard to learn how to love oneself. I see older generations just shaming others and criticising everyone. In the past, I thought that I was not good enough because I was seeking validation from toxic people. Now, I just know that people who love themselves will be able to love others. People who are not able to love aren’t even able to love themselves and are filled with so much negativity. If I love myself, I will be able to give love to others and the world. This will attract people who love themselves and the world too! 🫶🏻
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I realise I hate myself so much for this past few years, I feel like i am useless, I never make my parents happy, I always make mistake, I never do good things in my life. Right now I do having a hard time in studies while I realise I always critise myself that make my studies goes bad. Watching this videos is a miracle aileen❤️I learn a lot from you, i also admire how you talk, how soft and comforting your voice is, your kind heart to help and reach people out there when you don't even know them. I want to say thank you❤️deep in my heart I'm thankful to you. I want to be like you too helping people especially my friends around me or my family, but I'm not brave enough and quite shy also not really a good at talking(?) but I have that dream. What I learn here is that, how beautiful it is to be deep with yourself. At first I just took it lightly like stop self hate to yourself, but when you provide those question about "where this come from, when I start I believe I'm not good enough", at first I was like that's too deep, I'm not doing that, but to think again, how powerful and peace I will become to be deep with myself is beautiful❤️ Hard things always come to you how matter prepare and heal you are from something, but when you be deep with yourself, and hard things come again, you can took it lightly cz you already have that strong positive mindset of yourself❤️ Thank you! If people ask me what the most important thing I don't want to lose in my life, I would say youtube🤣sound funny but youtube helps me a lot to grow up, cz i don't have anyone else somehow..
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You have so much to be grateful for. You woke up this morning, You can see, You can walk, you can smell the flowers, you can hear the birds. Pull yourself out of this negative place. None of us know how much time we have left on this planet so get out there and enjoy your life while you are still young enough and healthy enough to do whatever you want. Have a good day and much love ❤
Exactly 💛
Definitely true ❤
Saying you can see and you can walk is a bit insensitive..as not everyone has those abilities. I agree with everything else though!
100! 🙏
Thank you I needed to hear that 🆒👍
That last part hits soo hard.
"Just simply by existing, you are already worthy. So, why do you feel like you're not worthy?"
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It is "funny" because this is exactly the conclusion I had... right before listening to this video.
It's sad society forgets this.
I left my last job because I'm trying to love myself enough to not tolerate disrespect. Now that i have no income, society sees me as worthless. But I still tell myself every day that I have as much value as anyone else. I like her comparison to puppies and infants, I'll try that. ☺
Balled so hard after I heard this…
I wish people around us could take mental health seriously🙁.
Happy to see that you are developing a good community
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Some say I'm just doing drama...they don't believe me...they don't believe I have panic attacks or a whole load of fears and insecurities...they don't know how I feel. It's easier for them to say that I should do yoga or drink tea....I mean I'm british and tea is my solution for almost everything but that's not the point. The point is...I feel like they don't want to believe me so it's easier for them.
I agree. It is so hard opening up about mental health because of this. It’s like you could say my leg hurts but it will sound weird if you say your mind hurts or your heart hurts. I love in England too,Srilankan but loved whole life here. Best wishes to you all , I myself going through depression really need to get self love and also practicing radical acceptance is so hard too
@@hughdncy I believe you whoever you are. If you need someone to talk to I am here. That’s any of you who read this
I needed this 💜 my number one struggle is my self worth. I was never “told” I wasn’t worthy but through neglect and lack of interest from those in my life this belief was created within myself
I understand that feeling, the feeling of not knowing how much I am actually loved. I, like you, was (until I met one particular person) never told that I was unworthy, but I believed I was anyway.
For me it was because I felt like I could never do enough for others. And that feeling was amplified when I met and dated that person I mentioned earlier. The relationship didn't start with her telling me I was bad or unworthy or not good enough or that my life was never going to go anywhere or that I was fat, ugly and "letting myself go" or that I was terrible at conversation, etc, but after a couple of years that's where we ended up. Another year later I finally got away from her, and haven't talked to her in about 6 months, which has been... nice (to say the least).
But now I am mostly on my own. I have a few friends, but it's hard to contact them sometimes. I'm trying to make some more, but that's pretty difficult for my extremely introverted self. Some days I just want to hug or cuddle someone I care a lot about, and who I know cares about me a lot too...
I'm not sure if that last part is something you relate to or not, but if it is... then I'm sending a virtual hug your way. I hope you have a wonderful day, and that you know that there are people who love you, and who think you are worthy. 🤗
Going into my 30’s, I have realized that I have spent a huge chunk of my life believing other people’s negative opinions about me and have internalized them as my own opinions about myself. I have been on my self love journey since I was 25 and I’m not gonna lie that it’s been an uphill battle especially in the last 3-4 years.
1:25 change your beliefs
4:30 be who you want to be (change identity)
7:31 | 8:00 do some shadow work
10:51 n.1 priority self love
This weekend I was feeling very low and demotivated as I am jobless.
Today morning I followed your guided meditation. Then followed by your guided affirmation series. Still going on.
Feeling very relaxed and positive.
Thank you so much for being my blessing. I love you so much that words are not enough to be grateful to you.
Keep going and growing.
Keep motivating millions of souls.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I recently read this book called Decolonizing Wellness by Dalia Kinsey. While I read this I worked on some stuff and came up with some good affirmations. 1. My needs are valid regardless of if someone else understands them or not. 2. I give myself permission to be the decision maker of what’s best for me and my body and where that takes me. I don’t have a very supportive family in my healing journey and these were things I needed to hear because no one else was going to say it to me.
Thank you for sharing that :)
I really love this, thanks for sharing.
I'm a 15 year old girl from Italy and I really wanted to thank you Aileen, for everything you are doing. I've been through a lot lately, and you've helped me so much in my journey. You gave me hope, and you are teaching me so many things. I can't explain how much I'm grateful to you.
So please know that you are ✨AMAZING✨ too, and thank you again for everything 💕💕💕
Ciao! Anche io vivo in Italia, ho 16 anni e mi ritrovo in quello che dici :)!
@@boooh8790 adoro troppo
Wow you should be proud of yourself as a 15 year old girl, you’re willing to heal and thrive. Keep being amazing and I hope that you overcome from whatever you are going through! Wishing you the best🤍
@@333tee Thank you so so much! I'll make sure to never give up, because I'm sure I will get through this. If you are in a bad moment in your life, always remember that whatever it is, you can do it in one way or another, just be sure about it. But most importantly know that you are not alone, and you SHOULD NOT be afraid of asking for help. Anyway I wish you all the best 💕💕💕!!!
@@jules3169 yes girl! life is full of lessons to help you become the best version of yourself, things are happening for you not to you💓tough times are always temporary
“Be the person you want to be” oof. I needed to hear that. Knowing that I can change and grow and become the person I want to be always seemed so impossible but I love how you explained it and I’ll definitely start working on that. Thank you ❤
yes!! happy you got this out of the video
Right?? It came at the perfect timing for me too!! 🙏 Here's to your alignment with that person you want to be Khalilah!
Everyone is worthy of peace, self worth with self respect. Yes, even you who reads this! It takes quite some time to build it, but it is one of the most worthwhile things to do to fully enjoy yourself and the life you make for yourself. 💜
I have been comparing myself to people online and thinking people are higher than me and having thoughts that I’m not as ‘pretty’ or ‘cool’ as them. I always remember your channel when I have this downs. You are a star Aileen, thank you for helping me loving myself and for helping me become confident in myself. ❤️
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
oh I know I'm good enough and I don't need to perfect I embrace my imperfections and I won't be feeling guilty if there's a day when I need a good rest hey guys it's me I'm 17 yrs old and this year will be 18 so let's promise ourselves
: no matter what we won't let ourselves down and love ourselves ☺ because we matter and yes becoming better version of ourselves is our goal
love ya all ❤
The concept of building self-esteem through recognizing and celebrating unique strengths has motivated me to explore and appreciate my individual abilities. This approach has significantly contributed to building a positive self-image.
You are definitely right because only when we have self love ,we can give love to others
Learn to Love you're self first :)
this video feels both like a productive therapy session and a balm for the soul. thank you aileen💛
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Thank you so much for this video. Since I was younger I always dealt with confidence issues but now that I’m older it’s a lot worse. Especially since I’m a senior now, it’s hard focus on school and doing well when I’m constantly overthinking and second guessing myself. I feel like another thing that impacts me a lot is my family. They’re always dragging me down any chance they get, always make me feel like I’m doing something wrong even if i do it the exact same way as them :(
Just saw this video and I wrote all the things that are pulling me back , making me sad . And yes it helped me..
I also wish the one reading this to be blessed with whatever they wish for
And don't forget to be grateful for everything you have right now
"Be the person you want to be." I love that! I've been trying to step into the upleveled version of myself and just be the person that I've been trying to manifest, and it's been SUCH a gamechanger for me!
We shouldn’t change our identity to be someone else, we should accept and love ourselves as we are.
Hi, tbh these videos help me through this darkness lack of self love in my life, I hope to change my mind and come to this coming and tell to myself that I can change my beliefs and more grateful ❤ thanks if you read this comments.
I'm grateful to God for all the people like you , who helped us in a lot of difficult times even with a word 🙏🏻 🌸 wish u a happy life
Yes, operating from a place of self-love is key. From childhood to my teenage years, I've struggled with the idea of feeling good enough. Even as an adult, it's still a challenge but what I'm learning is that the impact of kindness towards yourself is huge. We are sometimes quick to be kind to others but not to ourselves. So self-love to me is simply being kind to myself.
Also, the point about being the main character in your story is also a big one. When you are the main character, you start taking action towards the life that you want. You start to make things happen for you.
First omg 🤩 exactly what I needed right now, I've caught myself a few days ago on talking poorly about me and my job and I immediately relised I am waaay more harsch on myself that on anyone else, I would never say that about anyone else
Don't worry about others between the best of your type. Thanks for the great reminder that they should always end up writing the longer gratitude list than you think you will
Literally I have been feeling this way these past few days and then this video popped up on my notifications
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Sometimes when I feeling down and unmotivated I searched your videos and this really helps me. Thank you ❤️✨
These videos are amazing, just found her yesterday.
Omg me2 😘
Thank you for sharing I choose to be a happy person
Idk why I feel like crying everything I watch your videos , its bcz I don't even know u personally but you feel sooo safe to me , I never felt this w anyone .
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Thank you, Lavandar, for creating such meaningful content. Your words resonate deeply with me as someone who has walked the path of healing and transformation. My journey through depression was a turning point that led me to reflect, study psychology, and explore Jungian archetypes, which provided profound insights into my life.
Changing my lifestyle, focusing on self-growth, and eventually shifting my career toward a more holistic approach to health have been life-changing for me. It’s incredible how pain can guide us to uncover our purpose and help others.
I admire your wisdom and authenticity, especially at such a young age. It’s why I shared your channel with my daughter-I believe she can connect with your message and find inspiration in it. Keep shining and spreading light!"
You are brilliant. This is great work that you are doing! Thank. YOU! Thanks Aileen 💌
Hi Aileen. I 've had difficulty getting through this video and started watching it multiple times without seeing it through then, until today. You touched on a lot of things that I resonate with. I did a lot of shadow work decades ago and it was so beneficial. But recently a relative moved close by and the old cycle of verbal and emotional abuse started up and wrecked a lot of the work I did. So many emotions have welled up. Thank you for reminding me of the importance of self love, self care, it's ok to set boundaries, its ok to let go of toxic people. ❤
me I'm 21 yrs old. I don't know what to do.😢. But this video I watch it's helpful to me I'm crying now😭. Thank you ms. Aileen more videos and God Bless🥺🥰
give yourself some time to figure it out 💖 i trust you!
18:40 - 19:20 this part made me so emotional. I really needed to hear that.
Thanks to you, I can start a new life again. It's been a long time since I've felt the power of love like this. I love you. Start now.
Positive self talk
Replace negative talk with positive self talk
Be the person you want to be
Shadow work...ask questions to yourself
Meditation affirmation
Make Self love as number one priority
Self love journey like writing love Letter to yourself writing best things to yourself
Make boundaries
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The examples that you told us about babies and puppies were outstanding🤯
You're absolutely right. We deserve love and we worth just because we are alive.
Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear something like this
Doing Heart-Brain Coherence practice daily combined with subconscious reprogramming techniques can change those negative false beliefs… activation of the heart frequency is key.. the mind can get programmed but the heart never will for the heart knows only love and knows that you are made from pure love.
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been feeling this lately cuz i think i always do my best but still not enough for people around me :’) thank you so much Aileen! ❤
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I can’t thank you enough, Aileen! I’ve been the prisoner of my own beliefs for way too long and I thought I couldn’t change, that I was an absolute failure. Although, I kinda feel old and sometimes I get sad because I wish I would’ve taken action before… I’ll try my best to change my beliefs. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your light. I am a new mama and this new chapter in my life (actually, it feels like a whole new BOOK in my life) has been way more challenging than I thought it would be. I already had a lot to heal from in my life, but having a little mini me is like having a mirror to my inner child. It isn't all just joy and love, it's uncomfortable feelings and resurfaced trauma that is forcing me to heal... I just want to grow and be the best me I can be so that my daughter can grow up to be her best and happiest self.
Your videos came up in my suggested videos and now your meditations, affirmations and other videos are a part of my daily routine. It is changing my life!! I feel lighter and it has only been one week of watching your videos. My depression doesn't feel so all-encompassing and overwhelming. You have no idea how much of an impact you are making in people's lives. Complete strangers to you are growing and evolving because of your light!
Thank you for being authentically you!
thanks for sharing that! 💜 i appreciate this
Sending you much love and strength Elizabeth 💗
I can relate to you so much! I’m going through the same
When you feel good, baby feels good - they learn about the world subconsciously based on how YOU feel. So get all the help you can and all the sleep you can (lol, IKR). I felt like I had to do it all alone and prove my worth as a mom and I deeply regret not reaching out for more help when mine were babies. You don't have to be a martyr
this came at the perfect time❤
Same
I feel the same
Seriously 😢
Agreed. I really needed this today.
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you're so beautiful, keep your shiny smile😇
Thank u for all of your kindful words whose words are literally vibrant and make us feel satisfied ever . Thank you
You know I've been spending one more off days of whole my life and i don't wanna deny it anyway i just wanna change it what made me feel that I'm not good enough or I haven't got my confidence anymore what was required to continue . I just want not to have this feeling anymore, and I'll try to change it .
I came across your channel for the first time today, and want to thank you for this precious video, a journey to self-love feels more clearer now that I've listened to your tips.
You are so special and precious 🥺 I don't usually comment but I couldn't see myself leaving the video without doing so. Besides the fact that your advice is very sincere, unique in its kind and also the fact that it differs from other personal development videos that you can see everywhere, you give off a different energy, a benevolence that emanates from you. You give this advice with all your sincerity as much for us as for you. You seem to have been so successful in developing self-confidence while being modest and it's really beautiful to see. Know that you touched me and rare are the personal development videos that achieve this. You're beautiful 🤍
Being alive is so much to be thankful for
Thankyou I really needed this. I recently went through something that was hard but I know God helped me and has given so many signs that have lead me back to a place of healing
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Your channel is so healing, you made your listener feels they are loved , understood...you are enough, is such a powerful statement!
I appreciate you so very much💜💜
I don't watch a lot of self-help content anymore, but not feeling good enough is a recurring issue, I think, in most people's lives, no matter how far you've come and how much you have achieved. I love how much you've grown, Aileen, been with you for more than five years now.✨🌈
Thanks for sticking around for so long 😊🫶
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When I think a negative thought, I follow it up with a reminder that my brain is sometimes a liar 🤷🏻♀️ I try to challenge the negative things I sometimes tell myself.
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Who watched until the unexpected rainbow? 🌈 that was such a beautiful, synchronous moment!! ✨
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Hey love ❣️ can you make a video on planning five years from now but in a different way ,evolving like you In turns of mindset ,self love , priorities, love , perspective on life .
Watching you really creates a spark with in to grow like you and motivates to do something better with life.❤️
All your knowledge you share with world
Is really appreciated ❣️
Just want to say that you are so beautiful and thank you so much for this video
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So happy for this video, I missed this style of video, I know you have been super busy with your podcast and shop, just really appreciate this type of content, thank you so much!! xx
i cried while watching this vedio. İ used to be nice to myself until this year i started not like or hate myself. They put me in new class, class for students that get good grades last year. So i kept comparing myself to them . not comparing grades but i was comparing my personality my social skills and my personality and a lot of things. They are so good at social sitsituations and they can tallk confidently in class and their friend gruop seems funny . they talk to each others and laugh and have fun while im sit there alone and bored i felt bad that im look like a quiet boring girl that dont know how to communicate and i think i have social anxiety .so i kept comparing myself to ppl and its sucks. i lost all my self love and confident. But i promise im gonna change i dont wanna be the sama as im right now. i wanna be the best version of me İ wanna love myself. i hope i can ur vedio taught me alot of thing and i really loved when u said "Any living being is so worthy without trying, just by existing ur already worthy" means alot for me. Thank you soo much im gonna try my best to improve and love myself. Have a good dayy .𓆩♡𓆪
OMG! Your voice✨
This video deserves so much more views and likes! Much love, and healing to everyone here!
Hello , I just wanted to say I thank you for your channel an all the effort you put into it. I’m currently 3 years sober and just got released from prison after doing 11 months and you’ve been part of my recovery through out the entirety. I’ve read many spiritual growth books while locked up. Believe me it’s not easy to be positive in prison but I made everyday count. I always play your meditations that really the only guided meditations I do is yours. Please continue to add more of your meditation practice. “I am here an this moment right now is all that matters “ in the now there is no suffering. Attaining Enlightenment is success , attaining Enlightenment enlightenment opens up space for the universe to allow positive coincidences to occur on our journey. I’m Native American (Navajo) and it’s so true what you said in this video, “We are Nature” and we are all connected. Thank you Aileen for your energy and words.
So right on time 🥹❣️🫠
You add so much value to my self improvement.. i really love on how you share every words. You really want to help us...
Love you Aileen
currently crying. thank you so much for this video. ur such a positive light and i love you
Thanks for this I love you're channel and tips getting tired of feeling unwanted and not good enough often
I really needed this . Last night and it travelled into today I don’t feel enough. I feel like maybe there is something wrong me with like I’m missing something that everyone else has :( everyone has their person I have no one I feel so lonely
I’ve been struggling lately so really needed this. thank you❤
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Always appreciate your videos they really come when I need to hear these words ☺️
Thanks for your sharing. Actually, I'm feeling not good enough as my peers. But I'm 23 years old, so I think I'm so young and everything just begins. I have a long distance ahead.
From Việt Nam with love!
So good and helpful! For me especially the part about taking a break from social media if you need to. Thank you so much. 🙏❤
Such a perfect timing exactly when I needed.......I was feeling so low n not worth n less productive this really helped me..
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You are fantastic! Thank you Lavendaire!! 🌸
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thank you for the video, I almost lost myself in the moment, thank you for the courage to not let my anxiety take control of my present time. I'll try to keep remembering that I'm good enough. thankyou
i'm really thankful that i found your channel ♡ i think it's been a year already and i found a lot of tools to use during my everyday life when things are difficult. so thank you🌈
your energy in this video is contagious, thank you for sharing your love ♥
your videos help me to heal, thankyou and please keep making your video about healing. i want to love myself more and more
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Sister you are good enough everyone is. Keep striving for a better tomorrow.
Thank u for saying all the things I needed to hear. One day when I am able to love and accept myself wholly and be at peace with myself , i'll make sure to be a source of wisdom , warmth and positive energy to people around me and make this world a better place.
I just want u to know that I've always wanted to be someone like u , so thank u for existing ✨💜
You share valuable thoughts very calmly ❤️...I'm also following self love 💕 and also able to delete unnecessary things from my life ❣️.
Keep smiling
A beautiful thought for everyone
Train your mind to see the good in every situation 👍
Just when I thought of her ❤ I can’t tell you Aileen , I literallly love you and bless you from the bottom of my heart. Also your voice is like peace to my chaos in life ! Keep posting videos
love you & appreciate you!!
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I really appreciate it because you have brought lots of positive energy that makes me feel relaxed and healing. Yahh just be yourself, but be your best self!!
Hi Lavendaire, i liked your video am the type of person you talk about .I am loving myself and going to become the best and bestest version of myself. I love really who i am♡💖🩶👸
Yeah i understand sometimes it hard but just got till work on healing 🥺❤️🙏
English is not my mother tongue language, but you are talking ao well and slow and i can understand more ❤thank you.
Hi! I've been struggling with the same big theme for years. For me it was very difficult to simply change my negative self talk to a positive one. I tried to understand why I have this thought. To feel the profound fear beneath it. This is hard but posible. Once you understand it you can manage your emotion very well and transform it.
Thank you so much, i needed to recognise my self love. I feel much better after watching this video.
im so glad that i found your youtube channel ive been binge watching your videos for weeks now . i learned so much from you and your videos saved me from my dark days and up until now im still working on myself to better. thank you so much!!
Thank you for the reminders. =)
Even though I'm 42 now and have made a lot of progress in this area, that feeling of not being good enough was hammered into me from when I was born. Knowing that, I have a long way to go, even though things are a lot better now. Whether it was from my parents, other family, "friends", school, society in general, rejection in the form of unrequited love..
Yeah I understand as a 39 year old female who experience childhood trauma from parents, family etc. I'm currently feeling awful because of my narcissistic childs father who constantly put me down then decided to have an affair with my enemy who was my ex best friend from school. I told me about how evil she was so he decided find her on Facebook and from there they hooked up😢
Everything is sound good! You gave me many value lesson to change and improve mysefl. I always feel lack of motivation, confidence and brave to do what I want. It's lucky as I saw on social media. I really like your voice, smile and your experiences that shared here as well. I believe that we are good enough to develop ourselves. It's important we need to have belief we can do what we want❤❤
Have a great time🎉🎉
I was attreacted by your voice so much. I'm studying English and i really love this video. thank you so much.
Rainbow is a symbol of love 🌈
This is very beneficial to me , thank you , don't ever think that you are and your channel is no less then amazing 🤩!!!
As Shakespeare said :" life is a stage and we are its actors."
Let's become the best actor/ actress we can be on that stage!
Thank you. I’ve been told, and I agree, that my negative self talk is where I’m stuck. I’ve been told several times to stop but this is the first time anyone has laid out how to stop. I took notes! Although I’m in tears about starting, (convinced that I’ll actually find out the negative talk is true) I will start doing. There’s hope for me (I hope 😬).
So thanks for laying this all out. It’s so kind of you to share this instead of teasing people with the idea and almost forcing people to buy your workbook to get results. Thanks for your efforts and kindness!
For someone who is just starting to re-create their life, would you suggest starting out with one of your earlier workbooks?
I have a lot of trouble with starting and remaining consistent; I’m resistant to change now. I’d like to change that first so I can love myself again. Any suggestions based on your experience? Thanks 😊. Duh, you already answered this. I’m sorry.
I love your videos, vibe, and overall content! Especially, due the wrong and achievement-focused upbringing, it is so hard to learn how to love oneself. I see older generations just shaming others and criticising everyone. In the past, I thought that I was not good enough because I was seeking validation from toxic people. Now, I just know that people who love themselves will be able to love others. People who are not able to love aren’t even able to love themselves and are filled with so much negativity. If I love myself, I will be able to give love to others and the world. This will attract people who love themselves and the world too! 🫶🏻
How sweet she is... Danm!!!😭😩
Litreally this is my favt.. Chennal...💕
Lots of love... 💗🖇
Your so amazing i really wish to see you in the best place it’s ever exist! 🥺❤️
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Good morning, another great way to start the day.
I realise I hate myself so much for this past few years, I feel like i am useless, I never make my parents happy, I always make mistake, I never do good things in my life. Right now I do having a hard time in studies while I realise I always critise myself that make my studies goes bad. Watching this videos is a miracle aileen❤️I learn a lot from you, i also admire how you talk, how soft and comforting your voice is, your kind heart to help and reach people out there when you don't even know them. I want to say thank you❤️deep in my heart I'm thankful to you. I want to be like you too helping people especially my friends around me or my family, but I'm not brave enough and quite shy also not really a good at talking(?) but I have that dream.
What I learn here is that, how beautiful it is to be deep with yourself. At first I just took it lightly like stop self hate to yourself, but when you provide those question about "where this come from, when I start I believe I'm not good enough", at first I was like that's too deep, I'm not doing that, but to think again, how powerful and peace I will become to be deep with myself is beautiful❤️
Hard things always come to you how matter prepare and heal you are from something, but when you be deep with yourself, and hard things come again, you can took it lightly cz you already have that strong positive mindset of yourself❤️
Thank you! If people ask me what the most important thing I don't want to lose in my life, I would say youtube🤣sound funny but youtube helps me a lot to grow up, cz i don't have anyone else somehow..