What Do Female Dumpers Feel During No Contact
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Define The No Contact Rule
Done forever but a part of her just wanted him to chase her.
Stages of Feeling:
1. Oh Well He’s Just Mad
2. He’ll get over it in a week
3. Anger
4. Fear uh oh this is it he’s moving on
5. After 30th day I was ready to give up that’s just it I guess I need to move on 
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41 days of NC.. Focus on yourself & heal. What's meant for you will come back to you! If not, the universe is leading you to someone else who can love you for you.
Facts
How true❤
Any updates? 8 months later...
Word Up
Yeah, except fucking universe has been leading me to dead ends for over 40 years. The most dumb or sadistic universe ever.
They feel nothing.
They're worth nothing.
Men, if any woman you were with broke up with you and expects you to reach out and mend their “mistake”?… don’t look back
Don’t break no contact EVER... no 30 days. Don’t EVER. Wait till you hear something reasonable from them ..
Love not a game should not play games they want you or not look at it their not their with you so no relationship ..
Find someone who wants you
I agree you giving them the freedom to actually chose you.
It’s tough
Anyone who dumps someone and then wants them to chase them is incredibly toxic and insecure. That's a wildly egositical thing to do. You don't push someone away and secretly pine they chase you and want you back to get an ego kick.
When someone pushes you away, walk for good and never look back. People don't dump people they aren't in love with or committed to making it work with. If you showed up the best you could and did all you could to make the relationship work and they push you away, they aren't for you. You deserve someone steady who won't continue to put you in a push-pull pattern. People who are healthy don't put someone they are supposed to love and be with through that type of emotional rollercoaster.
In my case, I just broke up with someone and wanted them to chase me. The important part that’s missing is, why did I break up with them? Because I felt they were taking me for granted and didn’t show they cared. I didn’t want to end things at all and it caused me great anguish - but after trying to work through things while we were together, it was the only way. So I’ve desperately wanted to hear from him, to show that he cares at all. Two weeks in and nada
@@allaboutlife5250ell said bro only a narcissist does this kinda games by breaking up and want someone to come back chasing
Some men have to go through finding a new home stating all over rebuilding and there u go an ex sitting back dating other people and when they fail they thinking oh he will be back smh foolish !!!
@@instagamrryou are toxic
@@instagamrrliterally broke up with him and expect him to come back. It's showing he has a spine and is a real man, stop playing games and reach out to him. If you miss him reach out to him, you broke up with him, it's the least you can do
@@instagamrrI'm sorry that these hurt men don't share your perspective. I see you. Your feelings are valid.
After she dumped me in a very hurtful way, I used NC as a tool to move on and NOT to get her back. Hands down it's the best decision I've made. It also proved to me that walking away is indeed the HEALTHY thing to do.
Did she ever reach out?
@@ryanchaney94 She tried but I shut it down. Now she's mad😆
And now?
@@marguskiis7711 I've healed & moved on.
@vidfan1973 good for you bro
Here is some male experience after being dumped my ex dumped me after a 6 years of relationship and suddenly changed to this cold and distant girl... And unlike most guys I used to smoke and drink when I was in relationship.. But when she broke up with me , I decided to change myself.. So to me all supplies were cut off, no high. No love nothing...and trust me i nearly died fighting my self... But after 4 years of breakup and being clean... Exercising boxing and studying I feel a sweet tender joy, right at the place of wound in my ❤heart
You saved yourself 🎉
Did she ever reach out?
@@joev7014 nope, just focus on studies and work out 🏋🚴💪 it will help... Listen to poems, read quotes from the great people from history.. And just change
@@sumitdefif6879 nice, how long into no contact did you start to feel better? I just got out of a toxic relationship and it hurts because she just started seeing her ex but I know I have no choice but to move on. I can’t hope for anything
She lied to you, because she didn't want you to feel bad. I experienced an ex who cries actually.
If you want to fix the relationship. Dumping is not the amswer .communication is. If that doesnt work then dump them amd move on
I have broken off all my relationships and never wanted to hear from that person again. How immature to break up with someone like it’s some kind of game wanting or expecting them back. wtf
I’m the dumper because I was disrespected over and over again and despite me pleading for him to just love me the way I wanted yet I kept receiving breadcrumbs and sometimes, nothing and he told me I was starting a fight when I’m simply just reaching out my feelings 😢. I dont want to lose him but he have to lose me
Youre AP and hes DA/FA...
44 days no contact and my X reached out to invite me to a halloween party. Be patient my friends focus on yourself ❤
seriously?
@@hppavilion1871 yes, since then she reached out every holiday and my birthday but I've moved on with my life. My reply was always just a simple thank you. She's a stubborn women and has an ego but I wont be with someone who does not see my value.
Wow! How is 1st week of NC feel? I'm in a week old NC right now. And this NC thing is hard for me. She dumped me.
@@dapfunk23 it's was tough but I kept myself busy with work and other activites. Last year she asked me to give it another try but I politely declined. Now I'm with someone new and amazing!
Lol Jesus. Just move on who cares what she thinks. If she walks out the door on you, be done with her period. Even if she wants to come back she’s still the same woman who cut & ran out on you and she won’t change. And she can’t be trusted she’ll do it again.
Facts 100%
Thanks bro whoever you are have a great wonderful day
this title content just misleading all broken hearted, if u comeback to exes its just an extension for wasting time
Ya but she might be breaking up with him because he kept doing her wrong. That's why I broke up with him, he was terrible with me, I wanted him to try and fight for me and change. But he didn't.
People change…..
I forgot how much time has gone by because I am doing the “keep busy” thing and “the working on me” stuff; so there’s that! I will move one eventually as well! ❤
I feel like the best bet is always to stay active and protect your health
What they feel? Happiness, relief and freedom. For 8 month already
8 months !? I hope you moved on
@@jimihendriixx11 month already. I didn't move on. I'm suicidal everyday.
20 days ..That's nothing, try over 112 days of pure NC. A photo of me on a date on social media, now over 3 wks of radio silence and still no contact from her. And Oh, I've been working on myself. Learned about attachment styles, and she's an avoidant. No, she needs to contact me. Don't worry, I did no chasing or pleading after the break up. A few txts back and forth for 2 days then went into NC. Why do ALL WOMEN EXPECT MEN TO CHASE THEM even they are the responsible one for the break up. She knows why men aren't contracting them cuz they are the ones who broke it off.
How did it go mate?
When they text me during the situation I always hit them with it's so funny how all you girls think I'm going to chase you after you say you don't want me lmao. I want the girls that want me now, not you!
It's a power ploy to force you into the submissive beta position
News flash, most time a woman breaks it off because she’s been neglected or mistreated in some ways… so if you’ve actually done something that lead to the break up, then yeah, you should be the one who chases. Dumpers don’t dump their partner out of nowhere and for no reason.
@@SweeetSpice Avoidants do all the time, that is their M.O.
@@SweeetSpiceThere are also most cases when a female dumps a guy who tried to do everything that he can to be a good partner to her, but these females don't really care about their partner, because they don't love these guys, and they never loved them, no matter how many years they've been together. For these type of females, it's so easy to play these guys like fools and then destroy their life, without even caring. And also this applies to couples who both did some mistakes but only one of them forgives and try to work things out and stay in the relationship, while the other one never forgives that person and even misinterprets that person's real intentions as bad things instead of good things, when the real intentions were actually good things, just because they want to dump that person, and be with someone else.
i like to watch videos from both sides to help me understand both sides of the perspective
Her ego was hurt because he didn't chase her.
BEST VIDEO!
Never break no contact. No 30 days no 45 days.
It was a first time when my girlfriend dumped me, I was one who always initiated breakups in relationships before. It was so painful, I was very sad, my self-confidence was almost zero after breakup, I was thinking of her all the time. It has been 38 days of nc. I become better person, my self-confidence almost restored. As an intelligent, handsome and successful guy, I dated two pretty girls recently. For me, the best way to boost your confidence is to meet another pretty girls as soon as possible. Damn I loved her, she was everything for me, but pain is almost gone because I got other options. Keep in mind that there are a plenty of fish in ocean. Dont worry guys, trust in yourself and focus on improving yourself.
"For me, the best way to boost your confidence is to meet another pretty girls as soon as possible." Bad idea. Don't RUSH! You'll need more time to heal yourself.
why she break up with you?
"As an intelligent, handsome succesful guy" 😂 no wonder he left you
Ive been studying so much about Nc effects and all these male female psychology things I know how strong mentality of my ex who just broke up with me a few days ago is. I have gone straight to stage 4 Fear but am reluctant to go to stage 5. the more I know these, the stronger i believe he will NOT come back. He's too assertive, strong, intelligent, experienced, determined he will try anything possible to prevent us from getting back together. I am completely broken.
Did he come back?
@@chelseaannemayte no, he moved on to another girl.
he moved on, so did I. Abundance dating helps. even meeting "bad guys" help getting over the "loved ones" quick. Then here I am, healed and ready for next one. My only concern is as I age, my appearance wears out, my potential men (target market) narrows down, this method doesnt last long. im just buying time to find the right guy b4 i rotten. im 36, im pretty enough to date any guys still, however, not gonna last till age 40, 50. Reality.
You can't have two captains on a ship, obviously you respect his masculine leadership, but you still have to be the captain right?
@@jennymak77what is your opinion on women who think they are never wrong and their ego and pride get in the way in arguments? I was seeing this girl and she ended us yesterday. She crossed a boundary that I set. The boundary was that she can only hang out with her guy friends in a group setting and never one on one. She had agreed to this before and yesterday she told me she was going to the store Zach and I asked her who else is going? She said just him and her. And so i asked her did you forget what you agreed to before? That you’d only hang with him in a group setting never one on one? And then she asked “so I can’t hang with my guy friends one on one?” And so then I sent a screenshot of the Text where in the past she agreed that she’d only hang with them one on one. And so then I asked her again why did you forget? And then she got all defensive and said “don’t speak for me I didn’t forget.” And so then I asked her if you didn’t forget then why did you ask me if you couldn’t hang with them one on one if in the past you agreed that you would only hang out with them in a group setting? I made it very clear to you that I’m not comfortable with you hanging out with them one on one. And instead of just owning up to the fact that she forgot what she agreed to she got all defensive and she couldn’t see why I felt so disrespected that she was gonna hang with him one on one and that she forgot what she agreed to and then she started saying I was being rude and to change my wording. And it’s like really? I’m the one being rude? I haven’t crossed your boundaries. Not once have I hung out with another women while you and me have been together but you can’t seem to understand why I’m upset about this and instead you wanna say that I’m being rude? Her pride has always been a big issue when we get into arguments. I’m not saying she has always been wrong about stuff, but when she genuinely is wrong about something it is so hard for her to put her ego and pride to the side and just admit she was wrong and apologize. She even said it herself 11 days ago that she has a big ego and it can be hard for her to admit she’s wrong and apologize. And yesterday she ended us cause she didn’t like the way I was talking to her. Like really? You crossed one of my most important boundaries, didn’t wanna own up to it. Obviously i was upset. Obviously I talked to her in a stern tone. But she acted like i was cussing her out or calling her names.
Girls are in someone else's bed after one week if the break up... this really helps to not break the nc first
100% right
Totally true, that’s what happened to me. After ONE WEEK jesus
they always have a backup. there was a study done and found that even most married women have a backup just in case
Most women are cheating during relationships according to statistics they just keep who they want to try and replace you with
I am pretty sure that she cheated on me. That is why she broke up with me so suddenly. She knows that I would have found it. It probably was that new guy who was a guest at her neighbor's house. She mentioned him several times and kept looking in that direction. Everything was "fine" on a Monday. By Tuesday, there was a huge change in her. And she broke it all on Wednesday. I doubt that she will try to reconcile since I would figure it all out and will never forgive her. I also think that she is a pscyopath and does these things because she has no heart. She is not a trust worthy person. I met her kids and they seem to despise her. I figure now that it's because she dumped their father after he had a stroke. She probably cheated on him. ...I expect her to contact me after swinging from a few branches and seeing that I was the best out there. Her ego has been bruised by my no contacting her and that is what motivates her. She also had breast cancer and may have leukemia. Once it becomes full blown no guy will want her. Maybe it is then when she will contact me. I wont answer. Ijust have to be ready.
My case is similar to your wife's case i feel the same .BTW thanks for content
I do think it would be nice to have an app for people with broken hearts where u can just match with anyone like a support group and make friends so u can just hang out in public hug each other and cry and vent about the problems and move from the pain together just to help each other . So many heart broken people from all parts of life I feel it would be helpful to just have hugs or connection as friends to communicate and be able to move forward and be better or learn to navigate the lost and rejection
Wait a minute, that dude in your example should NOT have reached out. They come back when they are ready...
Best video ever !
Use all that as fuel guys! You dont always get what you want in life and remember she Doesn’t care so why should you as much as it sucks and hurts use this time as fuel to focus on you, wait for her to reach out and then be veryVERY VERY cautious of how you respond to her, make her talk and you just listen, observe and let her initiate everything you’ll have the upper hand and then make “chess” type moves, what’s the best for you and if you even want this type of person in your life. In some cases yes and in some no. Everyone’s situation is situational and you have to make the ultimate decision of what you want to do, what you can live with and what you can live without
I broke up with my ex once and I’m the female. I went thru the stages more of the male dumper. And around the 30 day mark I reached out to him with a text, not the other way around.
And you get back together? After you broke up with him did you find another guy or have try to entertain someone?
@@jimbotfoodie1811 don't get hung up on that. Assume your ex has hooked up with SEVERAL people. If you can't digest and handle that, then you're likely not prepared to reconcile and are overly jealous and controlling or too insecure.
Thanks for sharing this, did you get back with him?
Thanks for sharing this I'm the blame for not opening up... I took her for granted and I'm 💔 I begged texted called but to no avail I'm praying for another chance
And what happened!?
My 1st wife dumped me for another guy "monkey-branching" then 5 years later when her 2nd marriage was breaking up she was 100% jealous of my new life. SO in my case it was 5 years before she missed me.
She did not miss you, she missed the value you could bring obviously.
She didn't miss you.
As Scarkett O'Hara said of Rhett Butler, "Tomorrow is another day."
This makes me think of my third girlfriend. She was the dumper in that relationship after meeting someone on an old phone chat line. She actually lied about it for quite some time before calling it off and then she wanted us to just go back to being friends after dating for pretty close to a year-and-a-half. We had known each other for a few years before that. I was only 24 at the time (I'm coming up on 44 now), so I probably wouldn't have had the knowledge or maturity to try no-contact let alone stick to it.
Men have it the absolute worst. They get dumped for reasons they have no control over (not being tall enough, wealthy enough, and constantly triggering her emotions enough) and they are usually left with almost no replacement or closure. They also have very little support for the ensuing loneliness. Women on the the other hand never have to be lonely, are good enough for most guys just the way they're born, and if they wanted could have a new date every single night of the week for 5 years.
Yeah until they hit 30.
@@53strat55I’m 30 and get asked on dates all the time. I just have to snap my fingers for a man to invite me out and kiss the ground I walk on. Sorry, we still have it even after 30. But you can stay bitter if you want
@@SweeetSpice That might be possible for you but certainly not for average women. Considering we can rate beauty on a scale, data shows men date down while women date up. This should tell you enough about my statement.
So if you have a women 30y with a beauty of 8 vs a younger women with same beauty 20y. Overall men will flock to the 20y. This not an opinion, just a fact. Obviously you are responding out of feelings. I'm happy for you sis, glad men want to date/sleep with you^^
@@53strat55 Stats about age groups chasing which age groups doesn't mean anything though. Bottom line is. Any woman, even up to their 40s can still pull a man way easier than any man can pull a woman.
@@Yallah292 Depends on what you mean by pull? For a sexual encounter yes, to commit? Thats a whole different story. There is only 1 woman I would commit to and she has been a friend to my sister for years, all the other women really were only good for sex in my experience and I was honest with them.
Let's talk about it . Talking about it doesn't solve my problem , but let's talk about it.
I do believe everyone has a life plan and everything is meant to be
That's a great mindset!
Were both in anger phase.. How dangerous is this? 1000%
Good video. would be interesting to know what kind of attachment style at the time she dumped that person.
It’s about 2 weeks, I do feel like I’m about to tap out
Update??
Its true.I'm a lady and i dumped my ex . As time went by, i felt so lonely, i really wanted him back. But i knew he wouldnt accept me.
Did you ever reach out to him during no contact?
@@Ozzyozzysheesh I did. It's like he didn't wanna talk to me. I knew I messed up. Our rship was okay. Well I had to accept.
All of this was completely anecdotal and as a man who is going through a terrible break up over the last three months, I could really use information from a broader set of females
Depends on why she broke up with you
Check out Apollonia Ponti. She has great advice from a woman’s perspective. @Anthony Savoy
I was the dumper by default because my ex cheated on me, now her shiny new toy is dim after 4 months of no contact and threw mutual friends she been asking about me
Ex cheated on me with mutual friend while we were engaged. (At least she confessed 🙄) Immediately went NC, she called in two weeks claiming she had adream about me. I told her to stay out of my life and let me move on. Her response was "ok". I thought I was free , but NOOOOO. A year later I'm in a store with a new girlfriend, and she tries to talk to me, and I just ignored her and kept walking. A year and a half after that she's working in a convenience store I walk into, and starts to talk to me like old times, like nothing ever happened. I just purchased my stuff and gray rocked her while I was there. After that, I think she finally got the hint. Everytime I bumped into her, she ran away like a scared rabbit. Oh, well. Life goes on.
Well done. A+.
2nd comment but this is a very great video, thanks Chris and Wife!!!!
@Adunni Sunday hello
Its only the second day of no contact and I'm struggling. We've been broken up for 18 months but had never lost contact. She told me that there was a point in the last several months she thought her romantic feelings would come back for me and we'd date again, but the spark never came back but I wasan amazing guy. She didn't know why and really wished she had those feelings for me because no one had ever been so good to her as I was. Then a couple days ago she told me she was dating someone new. We've been friends for 19 years and dated for two of those. We sat down together for a conversation about it and I told her we couldn't be in contact anymore because I couldn't be around while she's dating someone else. She said she'd respect my boundaries and space. We both cried. We're both in our late 40s and have been so close to each other at different times in our lives. I miss my lover and best friend so so much. But she's with someone else now and they're in the honeymoon stage of their relationship... new and exciting. No one has ever cut off contact with her before. I told her if things don't work out with the other guy and her feelings for me change then I hope she reaches out to me. I gave her a lot to think about in the coming months and hopefully she's going to miss me a lot. My dating coach said trust that she will definitely miss you (especially once the honeymoon phase is over with this new guy) and good relationships are hard to find... all of her previous relationships have not worked out and this one is not likely to work out either, and she'll contact you eventually. So, in the meantime be strong in no contact and get busy with other stuff and find yourself and your happiness again. This is so hard! I miss her so much!
So your entire life's worth is to be a satellite orbiting planet Egoistes? She's living her life right and left and you're the slave waiting for some attention in her spare time IF she remembers you?
How about you move away and find someone who sees you as a human being worth of love and attention and most importantly RESPECT!
Bro respect yourself and know your worth because she clearly does NOT respect you and takes you for granted like a box of kleenex wiping her eyes with every time she fails with other guys, but you! You are just a close friend and confident, nothing more!
WAKE-UP and quit being a feminine thinking blue pill for god sake, you deserve better!
Take your red 💊 asap ... Salam to you!
Look up "fearful avoidant." Does this describe her?
Dude, you got some hangin’ balls! Interviewing your wife about some horseshit past boyfriend-I wouldn’t want to know about it.
12 days NC and it's tough. We slept together when she dropped off my remaining things and had an amicable split. However, days later were in communication a little but i felt awkward from her vibe so i haven't texted or called her since. And when we saw each other, she said her daughters and best friend said she should take me back. We broke up over trivial matters and having difficulty getting along lately.
I think the one who was dumped should never text first
Definitely should NOT be counting the days. It defeats the purpose
My girlfriend dump me saying its my fault thats why she cheat on me. Almost gaslighting me about what i said wrong. We almost 4yrs. I beg and plead but i know its not worth it anymore cause when someone cheats on you and you still want them back? Trust me its never be the same again. Thats why i let go its hurts i know but i know god has always better plan for me. Same to you guys 😁 sorry bad English.
Girl cheating = The End!
Wanting her even after that means you're a no value man with 0 respect to yourself!
Sorry for my direct words but you need to wake up and work on your self worth and manhood!
Salam!
What about when they don't want the relationship but they keep contacting you just so they can feel better and interrupting your healing process
Bro use ur hand by yourself hold your phone on your own, block her,/him I mean block her I said block her if possible block her destiny spirit and soul then move on better days ahead.
@@godwinjohn5712 thats the one mate I have been a while now changed phone number the lot good riddance ha best thing I ever done 👍
@@michaelcollins2399 bro my fiance and 1 are supposed be getting married this December next month,she broke up with me September 14 no fight no argument no quarrel,even her mum and siblings are confused up till now about her decision,I begged, cried,did all sorts of things but she said nothing,she only praises me that I am a very nice guy,her favorite man, that she still has feelings for me but ...... (Her replied) my dear is not is easy am sick now because of heart break,but I will over come so I block her even her destiny, spirit and soul,
@@godwinjohn5712 its the way of the narcissist unfortunately mate no closure. We have to make our own closure good luck.
Just curious about y'all.
Did your exes came back?
How long NC did it took?
What is the attachement style of you and your ex?
How did you initiate the convo about coming back?
After 1 year bro
When it meant nothing to me 🤣
Going on 14 years no contact. She indirectly reached out about every 5 years and I ignored her.
It's actually, probably women that dump more as the move on to bigger, better and more exciting things. Men would seem to settle more and be content with the status quo
I hate generalisations like that. Most male dumpees grow and improve, maybe even learn about their behaviours and how to manage them through therapy. This can be why their exes come back, because they level up and improve their lives - if they don’t make any changes the ex won’t have a reason to return🤷♂️
My no contact means no contact ever, did it twice and I have been with many women compared to average guy.
I just seen screenshots of a a guy posting my ex being really needy and excuse my language but a “whore” for him and it really hurt me thinking she was doing the opposite of me which is, healing by myself, and that I’m basically hurting over a girl who’s gets used. Now I’m watching this video to have a lil enlightenment on why girls go thru a hie phase Broke up 7 months ago) together for 4 years since 15.
if my math is mathing rn, that’s means you’re 19. my brother, take it from a stranger on the internet, the best part of your life is right in front of you. your most special years will be right around the corner. i promise.
My ex cheated on me and dumped me. The problem is that i have to keep contact with my ex due the fact we have children together. So how can apply this no contact rule? Our contact is minimum though, only about our kids thats it.
That’s all you can do. Low contact about the kids only.
Does no contact still work, even if she said at the time of the break to not contact her? She broke up with me via text because she said it would of been to hard for her to hear me upset and then she blocked me. Sooo, how does this work in my situation? Please help lol
Did she come back?
After I dumped my fiance, I felt relieved. He felt like a dead weight. I didn't feel anything during no contract.
What happened exactly?
She just broke up with me and I was her rebound. She told me not to contact her even blocked me from everywhere. She even told me if I contact her she will call police. While I did everything
If she's being that direct, then you're starting to scare her and are probably acting very stalkerish. You should leave her alone and stop ASAP to respect her wishes.
If she told you you're a rebound AND mentioned the police, then she's serious about leaving her tf alone. She doesn't want it.
Or she has a mental disorder like narcissism or borderline
@@floaterhill1848 or he does, which sounds more likely.
Each situation is diff. I got tired of being breadcrumbed. There was always a reason why he didn't call or text...he would go 2 weeks or more at a time. I would text fist a lot. He would respond but tyoically he wouldn't reachbout first unless I nudge. He never made plans for dates. "Dates" were always about once every 2 weeks on a Tuesday or Wednesday. He was in contact with his ex...always some excuse as to why they needed to talk or meet.
State I was so alone for the holidays...well you could've spent time with me...then the excuse was...well I was working everyday and I was sick for a couple weeks...
Me: how were younlonely then? Because if you were at work, you were with coworkers and not alone. Also, if you were working nonstop while being sick, you would have been too tired when you got home to feel alone....like throwing spaghetti at the wall to see what would stick..(see what I would believe).
Similar thing I asked a woman out after we flirted for months and she said yes then she changed her mind and said no. So I pulled away. I couldn't go NC because we work in the same business. She said no so why would I chase her so she can say no again? No one ever talks about the impact of her telling people and they all take her side. How dare he get mad at you!! I didn't get mad I just stopped being so friendly. I don't owe anyone my friendship. We have this interesting connection so I'm hoping she comes back and asks if the date invitation is still open. But that might be wishful thinking.
They should fix what they broke
I asked a girl out almost last year and she said no and I’m foolishly talking and saying good morning to her. I’m gonna do this no contact and not even talk to her nor say GM. Hopefully all goes well
mines accusing me of harrassement even of no contact if 4 months lol try change that scenario
I'm in day 26 of NC. My ex is A Fa. What would suggest I do? Reach out to her at day 30?
Bro my advice dealing with an FA,DON’T. It’s absolute torture,don’t go down that road and ride that hellish emotional roller coaster.
@@danielbarron3018 what was your experience???
Does NC work if you did some begging in the beginning???
Yes
Hard to do when they have blocked you everywhere
Interesting
How about being in a lesbian relationship ?
I love her but she's unblocked me I messaged once and nothing and we've had some hard times recently just don't know why she'd unblock me
If the dumper ( man or woman ) has someone else lined up, no feelings whatsoever.
They don’t feel anything. They just go on to the next dude and forget about the guy they dumped. Guys are a dime a dozen. She can get dudes anytime she likes and she knows that a guy can’t do the same. The guy can do nothing but the L and cope.
Can you do a female dismissive avoidant.
How long does it take women to get to stage 3?
Does it make a difference between who initiated the NC? Like dumper initiated or dumpee initiated?
The dumper dumps lmao. What is this question?
If you took the person for granted you should apologize let them know you love them and will work on your issues.. don't pressure them but let them know you truly care .. the dumper feels let down in some way, I'm the dumpee and it definitely hurts 💔 work on yourself for now to gain emotional stability
I did your quiz 72 , every other coach says theirs a good chance of us getting back together ... is it all about the money with you ?
Does no contact works on dismissive avoidant girl?
Edit: she actually reached out to me after 5 weeks of no contact. She is reaching out to me everyday for the last two weeks. However she didn't come up with anything significant. We talk like buddys basically about everything and nothing. We don't talk about us and what happenned and why. I think she doesnt want to talk about it. Couple of times she was trying initiate meeting i think asking do i work tomorrow. So i asked her to hang aroud and do shopping like we used to do. She agreed but she cancelled meeting on the day we suppouse to meet. She apollogised and told me that she was very affraid to meet me. When i asked her why she said she was affraid of herself that she would kiss me. Couple of days earlier two times we were flirting with eachother and conversation went very sexual. She even said she would come down to my place for a "cup of tea" if she would be living closer and it wouldn't be so late at night. She is still attracted to me big time but for some reason she is still distanced. It is very confusing for me and i don't really know how to play this game. Any advice guys?
Give it 3 months. Dismissives take longer.
@@vorbis4860 she actually reached out to me after 5 weeks of no contact. She is reaching out to me everyday for the last two weeks. However she didn't come up with anything significant. We talk like buddys basically about bullshit. We don't talk about us and what happenned and why. I think she doesnt want to talk about it. Once we were going to meet up to hang aroud and do shopping like we used to do but she cancelled meeting on that day. She apollogised and told me that she was very affraid to meet me. She affraid of herself that she would kiss me. Couple lf days earlier two times we were flirting with eachother and conversation wet very sexual. She is still attracted to me big time but for some reason she is still distanced. It is very confusing for me and i don't really know how to play this game
Hey man, any update? Would love to hear what happened after a little more time. @@1224polo
Dismissive avoidant girl's perspective here: she most likely wants you back but is worried about how it'll turn out. Try initiating some of the meet ups (if you want) and she'll open up soon about how she feels. If you're not interested, please tell her ASAP.
@@chocolatfoncee7528 thanks for input
No contact for about 30days. Should I take her off my phone plan. She’s not working right now. Dumper Ladies any thoughts.
Yes take her off
@@gemmacomb5372 spoken like a true dumper lol. Thanks. I am going to do so on next month.
Moral of the story is even if they havent moved on they will at some point?
So in the end....you have to reach out? LMAO no ty.
What if the dumper reaches out to me during no contact? How should I respond…or do I respond at all??
No contact
Yes, you can reply to her and tell her F*** YOU! GET LOST!
Don't respond. It's YOUR time
I did a year of no contact it doesn’t work also did it 3 to 6 months
Now im confused...is no contact effective or she'll just move on..😂 what's the point of this video.
She left me a week ago. Haven’t heard anything from her.
Work on yourself as a man. Figure out what the one thing is that you do well that drives a woman crazy and build on that. Whatever quality it is that you have use that quality to imprint yourself on the woman that you want to keep as cruel as that sounds from a psychological perspective. It's a truth. You will leave an imprint in her subconscious mind that never leaves. That is only one way to keep a woman for a manner of time. Being only one way that means it's something to build on and around creating many other ways that will drive her crazy. Her knowing your capabilities is enough to drive her mad not wanting another woman to have that type of experience with you. Because in her mind only you can do that one thing.
Well said👍🏼 What you call "leaving an imprint", I call "planting seeds" 😄 That's one tactic to remain on the person's mind for quite some time, so long as you didn't mistreat them
Ive been in no contact 8days , but im still liking her posts, did i mess up the NC rule?
Thats to bad, i think i messed up my chance
Just stop it and you'll be good.
Yes you did. No contact at all, no liking posts, no viewing stories.
Gotta step back bro you will drive yourself crazy 😧 ... All this stuff sucks
But what if she says she lost feelings for me ? Will she still feel all this?
What's the situation now ? My guess she has moved on ! The dumper is happy to move on !
Same here after 10 years of fucking loyalty
Mine surely dont miss me. Its been 5 months.😂 Time to let go.
Lol….. the whole 30 day no contact is funny, would if it takes 6 months or a year
When they tell you there not wanting the relationship anymore.and feel better not talking to you..what else should you be doing?
going through something similar right now. all though it hurts so much more in the moment… no contact is the way to go. if they realize what they are missing out on they will come back. if they want you in their life, they would be there.
Your wife pretty you’re a lucky fella.
felt liberated. Told my ex the stuff that I wasn't happy with and he didn't change, took me for granted. Took me a year to finally pull the trigger and dump him. By the time women decide to dump a guy, we have already done the grieving while in the relationship and just over it by the time we do break up.
So you're saying no hope?
Let’s not forget that they think grass is greener on the other side such bs. 8 years gone cause of her stupidity
The grass is always greener where you water it. Giving up without working through things is cowardly and constantly looking for the next “potentially” better thing is a ridiculous way to navigate life - unless of course there is no love and your partner is abusive and toxic in an unrepairable way.
Guys don't expect a reach out most of the time when a woman is done its over.
Not true. The majority of my ex's have reached out one way or another. Just don't mistreat them and stay centered.
Yes. We might reach out, but you're right - a girl, when she's broken it off - isn't going to reach out with hopes of getting back together or improving herself. The part where he said she broke up with him bc he didn't try hard enough is saying she gave him warning signs and tried to fix the issues before Ultima deciding to walk away.
@@lmart16 you say we like your speaking for all women lol
Look at this, OPs comment is proof their egos are so inflated that they think men are exchangeable popsicles from a candy store.
Nothing. They don't have souls.
They feel the other guy pounding away....
Wait 80% here are female? Damn didn’t expect that tbh
I broke up with him; I cried everyday for about a month some days were worse than others, it hit me like a ton or bricks. I loved him a lot but it had to happen. It’s been 4 months now and I still feel heavy and sad but it’s getting better.
Do you ever feel like you want him to reach out. I'd like to know the females perspective when they initiate the breakup. My gf of 2 years and 3 months initiated the breakup. It's been almost 3 months of No contact now. Total complete silence so far. It tears me up inside. I'm about to reach out to her. There's so much I want to tell her
@@-1nterruption-960 yes, sometimes I do wish that he would; on the day that we broke up he claimed that he loved me but he never really showed it throughout the course of the relationship, he never fought for the relationship to last as I did- as morbid as that sounds- sometimes I wonder if he even loved me at all or if he misses me even a little bit… you dedicate time and effort, you give it your all; but if it isn’t reciprocated(well in my case at least), sometimes it’s better to leave than to keep staying because if the other person isn’t as willing as you are to make it work then- how can it work? you know? it can’t. A relationship takes two people not one. Yes I feel bad for initiating the break up, yes I still miss him and love him dearly; and quite frankly I’m not sure when I’ll be able to stop because we were together for quite a long time and he was very dear to me- but sometimes things just don’t work out and that’s okay. As of how he’s behaved recently it’s clear that he has no intention of reaching out; he acts as if he never even knew me and it kind of hurt if I’m being honest but it’s okay. Everything gets better with time :’)
My case, I’m broke up with him because of disrespect, take me for granted but i still loved him. Now its been 3 months after break up and still NC since then but i swear to myself i’l never contact him first .
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