The Sad Truth About My Weight Loss
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How amazing is Morgan? Vulnerable, inspiring, and honest. Such an upstanding guy. Keep putting one foot in front of the other Morgan. You got this.
Yes, yes, yes. Awesome video.
Him being vulnerable, honest, and inspiring is what we have always gotten💕💕💕
He absolutely is! I'm rooting for him no matter what
Well said Megan!!! Morgan you are amazing ❤ So brave ❤️
Love this.
As a fellow ED survivor, I wouldn' t have commented on your weight. I did notice your weight loss over the past few months. But I am happy that you made this video, and even happier to learn that your weight loss isn't because of chronic illness or worse.
Your courage to take on hard topics is what is commendable.
This was the kindest video I’ve ever watched on the topic. The way you present information is wonderful. Thank you, Morgan, for letting us know about your struggles and what has helped you address them. 🙏🏽💗
Thanks for sharing this! When we talk about our struggles, it can be the catalyst someone else needs to face their struggles. 😊
I like your channel and subbed a while back. I’ve been cruising through the videos and I could not find you! Now I understand - you are half the man you once were. All said in love here.
Disorders are a given with childhood abuse. Whether it’s food, drugs, or whatever codependency arises.
You sound as though you have a good handle on recovery to be the person you want to be.
Congratulations as you journey and a BIG thank you for sharing with us. You are probably saving lives.
Best to you and yours!
Good for you! You look great and improving on yourself all at the same time! Way to go!
Thank you for sharing. I too hate being judged on my looks. I’m glad that you are taking better care of yourself.
I so love how you wager a duck at us while encouraging us to seek help if we are struggling. 😅 Seriously, though, I struggle with ED too. I hope you keep going and find full recovery.
* I meant WAG not wager
Thanks for sharing your experience. I wish people didn't feel like they had to comment on anyone's appearance or body. When I was very sick from Crohn's and 7 surgeries, my Nana made a comment saying I looked so good. I was very weak, skinny, and malnourished. Her comment changed my life in a positive way. I also tell people their body is their body. Ignore the ignorant comments.
Thank you for being so vulnerable!
Great video , many men don't address this topic . It is a real thing !!! You keep going . I love that cat by the way.
Well said, I am not a farmer and I am pretty sure that this came up in my feed because of the topic. Vulnerability is an amazingly powerful thing that most of us 40-something guys do not get, or worse attack in one way or another. Kind of sad to say but I came across it in my attempts to be a better leader in business and have been really taken back by how it has improved me as a person in general. Lean into being you, nobody can do it better.
i've never watched your channel, but the title caught my eye. Maybe because i've reached that point, i've recently allowed myself to identify what i'm doing is 'binge eating' and not whatever terms and phrases and other habits i've tried to blame my weight on. I wasn't a fat kid, i was so skinny the school guidance office asked some leading questions that i later realised were in response to a teacher thinking i was starving myself. i pointed to my equally skinny brothers as one reason they didn't need to worry about me. They still are. I am not.
My weight was not because of pregnancy and breastfeeding, or hormone cycles, or menopause, or my career choice (i was once a chef, as was one of those skinny brothers) or the normal range of indulgent eating habits. It might have been 30 years ago when i was only 20 lbs over weight. But sometime between then and now, when i am more than twice the size of the girl they felt was worryingly thin, it's become a binge eating habit.
i could have turned to booze or drugs to feel better, instead i turned to seeking that happy, content, thanksgiving afternoon feeling. Completely full feels very good some days. Most days. more than once many days.
I may have to watch this a couple times more in between googling how to get a therapist. Thanks for being open.
Good on you for taking care of your whole self.
i love how the most replayed part of the video is the animal attack. Thank you for being open and visible and for sharing this part of your life!
Morgan, I/we feel your pain, millions of us, so thank you for sharing such a vulnerable story! God bless you, dear man!
Thank you, thank you for having the courage to make this video. I felt like I was listening to myself at times. I found myself crying with the utter understanding of what you described.
Just want to thank you for the message, it helps.🙂
Morgan is a good teacher.
Congratulations. Weight loss is easy for some but for most people it is a long slog of hard work and face the truth of why it’s an issue. It’s the only way for lasting results.
I’m so happy for you, Morgan! You look mauvelous, dauling!😄
This was so great thank you for sharing
An effective way for me to deal with people commenting on my body is point something out about their bodies and usually they stop right after that
Well said Morgan 😊!
I was always skinny growing up. People made comments my whole life, I eat all I want (not much) and never get bigger. Kind of the same, but different, can't control the body we are born into.
I have an eating disorder too. I love food.
Great video!
Beautiful video💘
You look great .
GOOD FOR YOU!
I just happened to come across this video and I’m glad I did. I am 60 years old and a survivor of childhood abuse and lifelong disordered eating. I have been addicted to drugs and alcohol and have been in recovery for decades but food addiction has persisted. I have uncontrolled diabetes and severe depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I am slowly killing myself with food. This video has inspired me to get back into therapy. I’ve been thinking about it for awhile and this was just the boost I needed to take action. Thank you.
You can do this.
Keep going Kathryn , you found his video for a reason . You will inspire others too.
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You deserve health and healing. You are more than worth it. You got this.
You got this Kathryn!!! Show yourself that ❤ you deserve!!!
Morgan, remember you owe us nothing. You began this channel to document and share your adventures in farming. Your health and well-being come first. If sharing helps, we're here for you. But please don't do anything that is not in YOUR best interest.
Preach on! I’m feeling the same way. I love how Morgan shares so much with his audience but he should guard his heart from trolls. He’s a great person. Too often great people get hurt.
Exactly. What he does show us is his entire personal life.
Well put! He does not owe us an explanation! I am about to make the move out if the city back to the country. I hope it will have the same affect on me!
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Thank you for being vulnerable with us Morgan. It's uncomfortable to talk about but you're such a big inspiration for your fans. Thank you for being brave and we are rooting for you
@Panos Raikos
She is encouraging him because he has chosen to share this way. He wants to share and if it helps him, it should be encouraged. We are only human and we each have our issues. We need to encourage and lift each other up if we can because suffering alone can be extremely painful. HE decided to share so why not show support and let him know he's not alone and that he has support?!
@@PanosTellerif being “woke” means human it’s probably you that’s the problem
... remember what happened to the last prefect man ... they nailed Him ... we all have our flaws ... just keep swimming ...
Thank you very much Morgan for sharing!
Came for the ducks, stayed for the heartwarming story. Good on you for getting help!
You've struggled for decades, it's understandable that this is still a hard topic after just about a year of talking to a therapist about it. I'm glad you're feeling better in both body and mind. You don't owe us an explanation about something like this, but it was still nice to hear about it, it was very brave of you to talk about this.
Poor Ginny doesn't understand your skin is not as tough as the jacket 😂 R.I.P your arm.
As someone who went from 407 lbs when I graduated high school to 195 lbs now, I understand how you feel and want to say thank you for talking about this and bringing it into a wond3rful light. Good work, my friend.
Incredible! Thats a huge transformation! I hope you are happier and healthier now 😊. Have a great day!
Yes I went from 260 to about 160 recently, it took about a year, and I’ve been dealing with not going back up for a year but losing size, and not weight. I feel weird about anyone acknowledging it all. I look good now? Oh you mean I was awful before… I can’t take a compliment.
@@sandradelvecchio6894 I hope you are getting therapy cause those are the kind of issues/thoughts that will cause you to continue to abuse yourself inthe future and it need not be that way. God bless.
I grew up being overweight and developed anorexia when my dad passed in 2020. Im 23 now and constantly get compliments on my weight loss but nobody knows what I go through daily. Thank you for making this video
I understand. Sorry for your loss. Anorexia is a monster to deal with, especially because of the constant affirmations you get. Keep up the fight. 💕
Please get help now dear one. The longer you wait the worse and harder it will get. I will be praying for you. ❤
I am sorry you’re going through this. I made a post about this but at 14, I started dieting and got extremely thin which eventually progressed into bulimia. I was bulimic until age 24 when I decided that I no longer wanted to live if I had an eating disorder. I cried out to God to send someone to heal me since nothing I was doing to stop was working. I was healed, never to binge, purge and diet again! The desire was completely gone! I’m 46 now so it has been 22 years since then. God revealed to me that He sent Jesus to heal me and I was floored. In the Bible, Jesus is nicknamed “the Great Physician.” Indeed, he cured me and he has the power to cure you too. He loves you so much and knows exactly what you’re going through.
I'm so sorry for your loss :( And I empathize, I've been severely underweight for years and I hate it when people tell me how "Good I look" or how "Skinny I am". I look unhealthy, I am unhealthy, I don't want to be praised for it. And it's really rough, hard to get through. Good luck to you!
I wish people didn't think that weight loss or gain had anything to do with being pleasing to look at. If we just focused on being healthy, we'd all be so much better off.
proud of you man
lit could have made a 10 sec video '' so yah, i was fat, now im on a diet cuz im old and being fat and old dont mix well'' bam. done.
@@kawrss31 lololol.
Yep. That would work. Blessings everyone everywhere and always
@@kawrss31yeah but it’s more complicated then that
This is probably your most profound and significant video you’ve ever made. Your words are powerful. I’m thankful for you saying them. They will reach the ears of someone who needs to hear your story.
You were awesome at your previous weight, you are awesome now, and you will remain awesome no matter where you land on the scale - up or down. Thanks for the video. ❤
Well said!
“Don’t talk about other peoples’ bodies, just leave them be”
Quote of the year - thank you for sharing your story, Morgan. Proud of you for addressing and working on the mental side. It’s not an easy feat to do that!
This is the only part of the video that i did not agree on.
while hearing something from someone that is ignorant to the specific persons situation and mental health should be wrong. there are scenarios where it should be normalized and okay to do so. hearing something from someone you respect and value in your life can be hard mentally to accept, but most of all it should be the opinion that you carefully value and use to reflect on your life. Guess what? Sometimes no one says anything and the problem perpetuates and this leads to an early death (being obese raises the incidence of about 100 different conditions). You definitely need to be careful of what you say and the context it is being said but definitely don't stay quiet if you think you can make a difference in someones life. Your friends life could depend on it.
Amen!
This completely
IMO if you see an unhealthy body, point it out.
Thank you so much for sharing this. There's a lack of men talking about eating disorders and the silence hurts everyone. I'm sure this has been a very difficult journey but sharing this is such a big way to be kind and care for other people as well as yourself.
incredibly graceful bold and authentic. The world needs to hear these things xo
Food issues are so difficult to deal with and overcome. Thank you for sharing your experience, it will help many people feel less alone.
Difficulty is relative.
Sharing is good.
Difficult is not refraining eating, Difficult is the actual living.
And all comes from within.
Self control.
I got fat because of other health issues. Stomach acidity and sedentary life due paralysis.
When I noticed that I cannot cross my legs anymore, I said, oops, I need to address this.
Looked for herbs to heal my hunger, (nothing really worked, but a decade later some pill including some grounded chicken stomach skin, helped a lot.)
Switched to lighter food, exercised.
Not easy, but not impossible. And because I really wanted that, actually was enjoyable.
I kilo gone per week, in a summer I was quite slim.
A decade later the weight was back. I engaged in a tougher regime, something called oshawa, or something like that. actually only 100 grams of grains per day, but munched till desperation.
Worked again. Also tough, but fun also. That hunger make me walk like floating :)
Another decade, weight is back. And is there to stay. tougher to get rid of it, and not really care anymore. 10-15 kilos are not so much though.
But at 20 over normal is enough. And more, 100 is a psychological barrier. So I stopped there, 2 over or under.
I stopped without any diet. I was just reasonable.
And after other decade I got really close to 90, maybe because I got rid of sugar because of some hyperglycemia scare.
And Morgan is wrong saying that you cannot stop eating.
Yes you can. You can stop eating too much. You get fat eating too much.
And for me was not difficult, because I can control myself.
When I noticed that wine is not doing me good I just stopped.
Sure, it wanted back, made pressure on me. But I am the one who decides.
Yep, other addictions I could not control, because were my last pleasure, and not actually destructive.
They say that even drug addiction are just because you have nothing better to do, and not because chemical dependence.
For sure is a mix. But will is a strong component in the mix
So, all is about what you want, not about what others says.
You do not like my belly? I do not care.
You do not like my beard? Tough luck for you. I want to grow a beard.
Yes is difficult to groom it. But so is your maintaining your curls, and nobody asks you to shave your head. :)
My feelings exactly… “don’t talk about other peoples bodies”! I hate it when people say…”oh …you look like you’ve lost weight”… like I won the lotto or something… they may as well say… “you looked like crap before”…
Good for you for dealing head on with your stress…that’s hard work. 👏🏼
I used to be guilty of those types of compliments. But then I realized, at some point, people may not want you to say anything or have some issues connected with it. So I avoid it now. This video certainly does a good job of explaining it. Thanks Morgan, just because you have a popular RUclips channel doesn't mean we need to be in all of your business.
Exactly i'm always worried about coming across that way so I don't say anything. But sometimes I think people want to hear a wow good job who knows.
I think it's nice to acknowledge people's hard work when it comes to weight loss if its something you know they've been working hard at.
@TrustHimFirst
I’m sorry but that’s a bit over the top. If you got a haircut, and someone compliments you on it, I highly doubt you’re going think “did they think I looked like crap before?” The same concept if someone gives a complement on an outfit that makes you look amazing. Most people do like and need positive feedback from others especially when they’ve put In hard work to get there. People who get offended by a compliment and positively are In the minority and obviously have bigger issues. I swear the tiniest little things people get offended over is ridiculous.
I think there’s a balance and you probably have to know the person & their situation. If it was something where they weren’t addressing it themselves I wouldn’t say anything (unless someone close seemed to be getting into dangerous territory) but another person might genuinely appreciate the compliment & the acknowledgment of something they’d been working really hard on 🤷♀️
As a fellow human who has struggled with a life-long eating disorder, thank you Morgan for sharing this and for this comment specifically: “When you comment on somebody else’s body, they’re not necessarily going to receive that complement in the same context that you’re giving it.”
For me, the compliments have kept me going and striving for better. To each their own...but dont assume everyone needs, or doesnt need the same motivation.
This one hit home for me too, I am rather skinny due to a chronic illness and a woman the other day was saying over and over again how "nice it must be to have 4 children and still have a figure like that, in fact I'm just disgusted by it, how does that even happen? thats just not fair, is it?" looking at others standing around. (I have 2 of my own an 2 are step kids, but she wouldn't even let me get to that point, lol) But finally when she took a breath I just curtsied and said, "Thanks! Its a disease!" and walked away. I just couldn't believe how she wasn't taking ANY ques from ANYONE in the group that I was getting more and more uncomfortable, Really, just like he said, DON'T COMMENT ABOUT A PERSONS BODY at all. Thanks for letting me rant here. lol!
@@bethylou8293 When I was only 16 or 17, while I was in the ER for severe malnutrition from an undiagnosed gallbladder issue an actual nurse putting my IV in said she was jealous of my figure (and it was said so earnestly). I wanted the bed to absorb me at that moment, it felt awful. I wasn't ABLE to eat anything because of severe pain, and as a nurse she should have known better but I found that medical professionals have always been the most devastating with their comments on my weight.
Yes. I was once told by an old woman that "You're so pretty -- if only you weren't overweight." 😟
Me too.
I am a 65 year old woman. I struggle with food addiction. I just want to say good for you. I am happy for anyone that makes progress in this journey.
hi Ellen, me too. I have found low carb helps, especially reduce fruit and grains, but, the actual key is getting the B vitamins. Find a good quality supplement, and also, beef liver has all the micronutrients that you are probably lacking that trigger your urges to eat.
B vitamins are funny things. They are depleted by sugars, grains, things like that, but also by stress. So when you stress eat, its more than just lack of control, or for comfort or what ever. Your body actually is looking for more of these vitamins. B vitamins are also critical for mental well being.
As a 54 y/o binge eater, totally agree with you. I am in awe of people who are able to make progress on this eating addiction journey.
I don't care what weight you are. I want to compliment you on addressing the issue and putting in the work. May you continue positively on your journey ❤
This is a brave one, Morgan. At 88 I'm still dealing with growing up.
Childhood is the setup for all the nonsense we do and think about for all our adult lives. That's been the deal so far for me and most everyone I know, anyway. 😢😆😮❤
That’s the secret parents don’t tell their children-you will always be growing up.
I've struggled my entire life with an eating disorder, I am currently overweight and diabetic. This helped. Thanks.
Same here. Remember that obesity is a CHRONIC DISEASE. Like arthritis, like lupus. Get professional help, like I did. No shame in that. For me, Naltrexone (one half of the drug called "Contrave') worked for me. Good luck!
Same here. It helps to know there are others.
Me too
As someone who is overweight and dealing with atypical anorexia nervosa.... your willingness to be so vulnerable and raw about your eating disorder is so appreciated. Shame loses power in the light. Sending all the positive energy to you!
Well said!!
"willingness to be vulnerable", this sounds more like that video youtube put out for new year.
I’m 17, about to turn 18. Since I was 7 years old, I’ve struggled with picky eating and my weight. I currently weight about 250 pounds, and I still am a picky eater. I’m super embarrassed by it, and I want to change. This video helped me start Morgan. Thank you.
Variety of food is so important to have a healthy gut & metabolism. I was a picky eater as a kid, and still am in some ways. I brew my own tea at home w/ no sugar. Have a big pan of oil for deep frying because restaurants give me soggy fries too often. A lot of cookware, like griddle, nice pans, Instant Pot to be able to cook proper meals at home. I always challenged myself to eat more types of food and find ways to make healthy food taste better. Food is a lot of tradeoffs. Lots of lettuce on my sandwiches, balanced out w/ some extra mayo. The lettuce is so good for your guts that you just need to eat it. Fresh apple has gel water, and fiber. Feed your gut microbiome w fiber (fruit & veg) and it can digest meat, cheese, and carbs.
David , my son is 17 and he also struggled with his weight….he just went for his yearly physical and realized that in the past year he had lost 40 lbs ! He weighed 220 last year and last week he was 180. He started going to the Y, working out…he found a new group of friends that help motivate him…he changed his eating habits, he keeps busy and active…. He now goes out for walks before he will play his video games…. I just want to encourage you because you are young and I have watched my son struggle for so long and thankfully he feels so much better about himself and the future.
The thing that has helped me try different foods is privacy. I don't make a fuss. Don't tell anyone I'm trying it, but i try a little bit when I'm putting dinner out, whether it's just a lick the sauce or a peice of the food on a fork..
DavidDrums thank you for your comment. I hope that you can find supportive people to encourage you and help you. You are surrounded by people of all ages who share the experience you are having. I am one of them.
Thank you all so much for the supportive words of encouragement. I’m definitely taking all of these suggestions into great consideration. Mentally, I haven’t been so ashamed of my body image, mostly because I am broad shouldered and about 5’10” so things look like they balance out, but its mostly my health. Heart disease/failure, diabetes, and chronic lung illness all run on both sides of my family. It’s something I have to take control of now, or I will be miserable for the rest of my life.
In February of this year I reached out to a dietician for my binge eating disorder. I was able to receive feedback on my eating habits and my dietician recommended I prioritize breakfast to avoid my body having higher cravings at night. I was able to slowly improve my relationship with food since then and it’s been progressively life changing for me as well. Thanks for sharing your story Morgan it goes far and I’m with you.
I'm just glad it's not cancer. Respect Morgan. I hope you find peace with it.
I was thinking the same thing
Me too.
I’m glad you addressed this, I always feel uncomfortable when people comment about weight no matter if it is positive or negative. Even though it feels like compliments come from a good place it can really be hard. In school (fifth grade teacher) we have discussions about not discussing other people’s weight unless they bring it up first. Thanks for sharing your story. ❤
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Thank you for talking about binge eating as an eating disorder.
Anorexia gets the most attention (sufferers are comparatively rare but have a poor prognosis) but overeating is way more prevalent than undereating and the negative outcomes are much more prevalent too.
Anorexia is also much more visible than most other ED's
I tried contacting an eating disorder clinic once... it caused me more anguish than help. It was very obvious from talking to their intake nurse that the place was not designed for binge eating disorders. Firstly, they refused to even take me as an inpatient because they would've had to bring in a bed for someone my weight - not a good start. But then they proceed to tell me that when I start their outpatient treatment in 4 months time, I need to be eating on a perfect schedule of 8am, 12 noon, and 5pm, and that we'd be eating over a skype call in front of everyone else to hold each other accountable. They offered NO form of counseling or anything to get my eating into schedule before going there either. They clearly gave the same treatment to people who didn't eat, as those like me who binge ate, which is completely the wrong way to go about it. It was hurtful and shameful. The nurse also had the audacity to tell me to ignore my psychologists diagnosis of bipolar! I actually put in a complaint with their oversight board because dealing with them caused me to spiral into a depressive state where I binged for like 2 weeks straight.
It's soo damn hard finding treatment rather than judgement. Everyone is quick to go WeLl JuSt StOp OvEr EaTiNg when they don't even understand that it's a legitimate addiction, just like smoking crack or shooting heroin. My brain chemistry has been altered and I can't just suddenly be better.
@@chilanya not necessarily. There are the people who get so skinny they're skin and bones, but there are still a lot of people who don't get super skinny. I'm doing okay now, but for years I struggled with the fact that I was starving myself as much as I could but it wasn't working. My body held on tightly to every bit of food it got, because it was in starvation mode. Like it's shitty to say but it feels pretty terrible to know you've "failed" at being anorexic. I've done a lot of therapy, and I'm doing okay now. My point is, anorexia isn't always visible. There's a lot of people who are dealing with it but you'd never know. Honestly I feel like EDs are a lot like addiction. People who struggled with addiction will usually say they're in recovery or they've been sober for x amount of time, but they never really imply they've been cured of it permanently. I feel that way about ED, even when I'm doing better its still a voice in the back of my mind I've just gotten a lot better at ignoring.
@@paigeh4231 sorry, i meant to say that severe underweight makes the ED more visible. and if your weight is """"healthy"""" or overweight it's even harder to get help for an ED.
I've struggled with binge eating my whole life and noticed a huge correlation between how often it happened and how bad my mental health was. It's an incredibly difficult thing to deal with and it's really shitty that people have been putting you down or pressing you on the matter. Your openness is appreciated and very inspiring though. It's really cool to see someone with the same struggles working through them. 🙏
Well said. I'm a 57 year old male, and I have a 45-minute session with my therapist every week. I was embarrassed at first, and now I feel empowered. Great content, and keep up the good work. 😊
That’s freaking awesome, good on you mate ☺️
My favorite takeaway from this video is that realizing your dreams or dream life doesn't automatically fix all of your issues. As someone with BED I often fantasize that if I could quit my job and get my dream farm that all my issues would be fixed. But while improving your life and being happier may help with eating disorders and mental health issues, it doesn't automatically make them go away. You still have to put in the effort and work on yourself. The disordered behavior follows you regardless of your environment, weight, or health. Congrats on improvement, remember that recovery is a rollercoaster not a staircase.
I've never heard, "Recovery is a rollercoaster, not a staircase" but I love it because it is so true.
So true. A few years ago I lost over 200lbs. , just to find out being fat wasn't what was wrong with me. I was terrified with everyone looking at me and commenting on my appearance. It was the most uncomfortable I have ever been. Also the biggest disappointment I have ever had. Seems everything isn't Ok, no matter your size. In fact, in many ways it's worse. I quickly gained the weight back, lost it, gained it back etc...Now I'm just tired. Therapy....Hmmm
Thanks Morgan, I lost 35kg in the last 2 years after my Doctor told me I was pre diabetic. I am no longer pre diabetic and go to the gym 5 days a week, but I've recently decided I need to speak to my therapist about binge eating. Thank you for reminding me that we're not alone.
You got this.
Pre-diabetes was my wake up call too.
This is nuts for me. For one reason or another I haven't watched Morgan for over 5 months. then he got recommended to me and the transformation has bIown me away! very powerful story and I'm glad you're on the road of recovery bud
Weird how this is even a topic, but it is, and well dealt with by Morgan. I don't give a crap about his weight other than his own wellbeing, I come here for entirely different reasons.
@@Mrbfgray Same for me. His weight never crossed my mind before this video. The only thing I saw was a person working hard on his farm and doing what he loves.
@@Will057 I agree. Actually I found his weight pleasant to watch. He just seemed comfortable in his own body and I respect that. Not afraid to be on camera even at his weight.
A thumbs up for all those who struggle with whatever you're struggling with. Bless you all!
You're definitely not alone!! 👍
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proud of you man, for both your own progress on the mental health and the bravery to speak up
Seriously, man, thank you! I've been dealing with my binge eating disorder for 50 years now, and it's definitely tough for guys to admit this is a part of our struggle. I'm scheduled to start a recovery program in July, and I'm also in the early stages of getting some land to start a permaculture farmstead in central Colorado. I look forward to learning from your journey on both topics!
I've never seen you so uncomfortable before! This must be so difficult to talk about, but imagine all the people you're helping maybe adress something they've been ignoring. Thanks for being brave. Also that new barn is GORGEOUS!
You can be proud, Morgan... Sharing this couldn't have been easy at all. You deserve all the best and I'm sure Allison is giving you the support you require.
Thank you for letting us know. I'm pretty sure this ommunity is behind you. :)
See this is what positive masculinity looks like. Empathy and respectful communication minus the aggression and hostility. I think you are setting a good example and bravely putting your struggles out there in an effort to encourage others in the process. Good on you! Not that you’re perfect or will somehow let us strangers down if, for whatever reason, things change in the future. The effort and the intention is what is most important!
good point, though I'd go even farther and say that role separation that may have been useful before is not too helpful anymore. it's much more important to learn aligning unique personal talents with one's own personal needs, and other people's personal needs. which may result in lots of cliches getting disproved, when they are no longer needed. cliches are only useful when one has no idea how the world works, and they help us learn the basics. but they shouldn't limit our creativity.
so my goal in life would be being a really good human being, with whatever traits that are simply methods.
"positive masculinity" You're very condescending. Work on your positive femininity.
How is that condescending?
Displays of emotional vulnerability is more of a feminine behavior. Positive masculinity would go along more of the lines of direct approach to weight loss (you see this in men who "wake up" to the diagnosis of diabetes and decide to do something about their weight). That's because men aren't vocal by nature: men are more seen as problem solvers. You can see this by how they communicate and form bonds with each other.
Showing emotions is not feminine or masculine! That is my point! These are stereotypes that are TAUGHT!!! All humans have all the emotions. Boys and girls have been TAUGHT to express them differently and it needs to stop! Just like teaching boys to play with trucks and toy guns while teaching only girls to play with dolls and kitchen sets. It’s a bullsh$& method of GROOMING girls that they are the ones who will grow up to do all the housework and child rearing AS WELL AS have a job outside the home AS WE HAVE HAD FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS!!! And somehow make us believe that this is equitable load sharing because men are the “leaders”! Again, TOTAL BULLSH@&!!!
We need more people who think along the same lines of: "Don't talk about other people's bodies." Who knows what's going on in other people's lives? We shouldn't be so quick to judge.
Thank you for sharing with us, even when you did not need to.
Thank you for standing up to the discomfort to share this. I am sorry that people have been so gross and awful to make you feel and carry this heaviness. Thank you just for being awesome you and making such rad content. ♥
It takes a lot of GUTS. To tackle this dragon! I’m a life long food addict with now 10 years of recovery. I applaud you and your efforts! There is successful recovery from this dragon. Food addiction is the meanest dragon out there. Many of us would be dead if not for the gift of recovery. 1 step and one day at a time 😎. Way to go!!! I started at 430 lbs. I took off 180 lbs and have kept off. Way to go!!
Way to go!
As someone who gained and lost a noticeable amount of weight in the past four years, I really appreciate the way you addressed the topics of weight and mental health. Very thoughtful as usual. I hope you have a great summer on the farm!
Yes I need help! Depressed and overeating !
@@donnareis6862 it's hard to get out of that cycle.
I hope you have access to support
This video is going to have a profound impact on a lot of people. Thankyou for sharing. And thanks for advocating for therapy, there is no shame in getting help and I certainly wouldn't have conquered my binge eating disorder without her constant compassion and prodding.
Thank you for being so open about this, it's so rare to see a man talking about mental health or EDs, you're not only making a huge step for yourself by sharing this, but many other people who are also struggling
Hey guess what? Remember when you said “just don’t comment on others bodies”? That was literally my first thought when I saw this video. For me, I could see the difference, but would never call it out even with good intentions because if you were unwell, I’m sure you would have addressed that to us, so all I know is that you are doing well and that’s all I need to know. Still I’m glad you found the strength to address and talk openly about this to us and along with that I thank you for inspiring others to seek help or to talk to someone. Wishing you well Morgan, will see you in the next video (hoping to see some more gosling action soon😁).
Louder for those who failed to receive that message. Just stop talking about other people's bodies, good, bad or indifferent.
I lost a lot of weight due to health problems and all the "positive" comments really messed with my head during recovery. commenting on other's bodies is just so personal and complex, its usually best just not to, even if its meant in kindness or support. Wishing all the best of health and life for Morgan!
I have a the same story as Rebecca’s - so thanks for your comments!
Nothing has been more harmful to me in my recovery than "compliments" from other people. Thank you for sharing, we love you ❤❤
And for me, it has been fuel to keep striving for better, it depends on the person.
Just take it as kindness, because that's what it really is.
@@DC-qy1qy very true
@@Andrew-3445 I know it's not the intent! I dont blame anyone but myself for latching onto negative thoughts and spiraling 🤣🤣
Love how succinctly that ending was planned .You help a struggling duckling out of it's shell and use it as a metaphor for the topic, great from a storytelling point of view.
Yes. It was beautiful…. Moving. Poignant. He should be in Hollywood.
Poor thing didn’t make it 😢
I suffer from overeating (binge eating where my brain turns off and I can't fully control it) and I've been overweight for the most part of my life, even when I was a girl. After my parents died in 2021, I gained so much weight. I'm at my heaviest now that I've ever been before. It's a struggle every day, battling with my weight and my mentality. No judgement here. Gonna watch it now. Thank you, Morgan.
Do not hesitate to reach for help. On my side, I was offered the equivalent of "Contrave", and half of it (the drug called Naltrexone) became a miracle drug. For the first time of my life, I am not hungry, pretty much all the time. I was in shock for the first 2-3 weeks. Obesity is a CHRONIC DISEASE, like arthritis, like alcoholism. A chronic treatment is required... Good luck and get help!
I've had a different obsession (lust), and I want to suggest you to try a certain thing. don't battle the urge, don't confront yourself as you do it, don't judge it as something bad (or good). but instead just try to figure out all the feelings and thoughts that you go through when it happens, study them calmly. learn what is actually happening in your soul and mind, while letting it happen.
that way you'll learn to be humane to yourself, and who knows maybe this is the very thing that you're unconsciously trying to compensate for through other means.
Buy Huel. Start counting calories. Easy peasy, your body will start talking to you again, just listen to it.
@@ericpetitclerc5519 Please don't recommend drugs for weight loss, especially not that junk
@@VmurmurI know you mean well, but telling someone with an eating disorder to start counting calories is beyond dangerous. This is something a mental health professional should help with. You can't diet out of a eating disorder.
I’m so glad you’re feeling mentally and physically healthier than you were feeling. You are incredibly brave speaking on this topic… and consistently making videos through your struggles. Super inspiring in so many ways💗
Thank you for sharing . It isn’t easy. Most people think it is only a female problem and you have just proven it isn’t and could help someone else.
You are brave and selfless for telling us about your addiction.
A lot of this resonates with me. I went on my first diet when I was 16. I’m 57 now, and for most of the past 41 years, I’ve been on a diet. I’ve always had body image issues. I remember about 10 years ago I lost 70 lbs on a miserable diet. I was overwhelmed by the many well-meaning people at church and work - many whom I barely knew - who came up to tell me how great I looked. I know they were trying to be encouraging, but what I heard was, “Gee, you don’t look like a pig anymore.” Instead of feeling great, I felt rage. It was so weird. And when the inevitable happened - and I gave up on the unsustainable diet - and the weight came back and then some - I was overcome with shame. I felt I needed to hide from everyone who had come to me without knowing me and praised my thinner self. This fear of people led to depression and even more binging. Being a man, I felt the need to hide my shame with humor. But the shame was real and painful. I completely agree with you that comments on people’s bodies should be limited to extremely close friends.
Or not make such comments at all to be honest. It's the "extremely close friends" whose well meaning comments can cause the deepest shame, in my case anyway. I think you can notice that someone is shining brighter and/or feeling happier and more peaceful in their life rather than making comments about the side effects of that achievement in terms of their weight, looks, wealth, etc.
Honestly, I've never been a woman who has been interested in clothes or makeup or beautiful, expensive hair cuts, or being "feminine," etc. So all my life I've been asked whether I was a boy or a girl (when young) or a lesbian as an adult (or hit on by women in the most inappropriate ways). Men have alternately been threatened by the fact that I've often been a better, faster, stronger athlete than they are, and disrespecting of my accomplishments or leadership abilities, dropping comments like, "not bad for a girl" when I beat every guy out on the track, or "you sure are bossy!" when a guy doing the same thing would be praised as a strong and effective leader.
It's honestly nobody's business that I happen to fall squarely in the middle of the bell curve as a white heterosexual female with she, her pronouns, etc. or that I'm happily married for over 30 years to my (male, heterosexual) husband. We/people think it's their prerogative to spew their thoughts and opinions (both positive and negative) about others all over them any and all the time. This is incredibly short sighted, inappropriate and honestly, lazy and mean.
We can all do better. Better by taking the time to see and interact with people's essence and character without all the comparing, judging and dumping those judgements and opinions onto them. As I've worked on this personally (I'm guilty too of course), I find that by keeping my thoughts and opinions like that to myself, I'm actually judging less than I used to. And I'm judging myself far less as well, which is such a relief! I hadn't realized just how much, "how you do anything is how you do everything" applied to self-judgement...and very harsh self-judgement at that.
Please. Just be kind, and keep your assessments of others to yourself unless you're specifically asked by another to comment. Even if your intentions are to "compliment" them, you're actually foisting your judgement on them.
As a close friend of somebody who is slowly but surely eating himself to death ...
Sometimes you need that wake-up call from complete strangers.
Most people will NOT say anything about you leading an unhealthy lifestyle, but do worry, because they care.
It is not about your weight, it is about your health!
Losing weight can also be a sign something is wrong, and asking about is a way of expressing that concern.
My mother was losing weight and not being/feeling overweight for a very very long time... until we found she could not stop losing it (because of the tumor, obviously). So the compliments/comments about her slimmer figure were short lived (she is still here btw, the tumor isn't).
I do not care about your weight, I care about you.
Please look into Dr. Chris Palmer (Brain Energy) and the film fat fiction. I have PTSD and have gotten so much better - even ending decades of zoloft use. *Dr. Ken Berry can help too. *Also reversed type 2 diabetes and lost weight easily.
I got really really sick and lost about 30 lbs due to it. People have commented on my weight change which is fine, most of my friends asked "have you lost weight?" I don't mind that question. They're looking for context.
But older folks who comment "You lost weight! You look great!"
I'll straight up respond, "I did! I got real sick!"
Thank you for honestly sharing your mental and health issues. It took a lot of courage to share what you do. Thanks.
difficult topic, but you handled it head on as you normally do in your videos. Really appreciate you sharing this. Binge eating disorder is something that I'd bet is a lot more common than anyone appreciates.
Hey, if you're in a happier place and more at peace that is fantastic. It's kind and brave of you to put this out. Hugs from afar.
Thank you for sharing this with us.❤ I am guilty of making a positive comment and appreciate hearing how that makes you feel. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. ❤
I, too, never thought that giving what was supposed to be a compliment could be taken in any other way. This was the first time I've ever heard that. Morgan's video has educated me.
I never comment on RUclips videos. I’m soooooooo proud of you for addressing this sensitive issue. Don’t let others steal your joy. You are so strong and brave for talking about this topic. I’m rooting for you.
As someone who has struggled with weight loss and depression, I admire your courage in talking about your situation with us. I remember how hard to was to tell my family that I'd had to start taking anti-depressants. Hang in there, fella. You're doing good work.
This
I also have binge eating. Problems.
At my heaviest I was 285lb. At 15
Now I'm 17 and 210.
I'm glad you found the strength to talk about this deep and intimate part of your life.
And I'm happy for you
Good for you to be aware and sharing your stats too. The struggle is real
recognizing a problem early, thats hard for a lot of ppl including me so keep it up
So I would never have commented on your weight, but I am very glad that you have addressed it because I would have worried about cancer if you hadn't. So thank you very much for this. It took courage and strength, and I just want to say how much I admire you.
I was a bulimic for 30+ years and read a Dr. Atkins book and began eating low carb and honestly thought this is so doable for me. So in April I celebrated 19 years of not purging, binging, and not allowing food to control me. I feel so much more healthy at 64 years old. Congratulations on your success Morgan. I no longer count carbs nor do I weigh myself everyday. I know what I can and shouldn't eat and just enjoy my life.
Congratulations ❤🎉 thats a huge accomplishment
@@mommabecky83 Thank you. If you knew me personally you would know I do not cheat. I haven't had anything with real sugar in years. I have learned how to make something I want low carb and never feel deprived. After 19 years it really is a lifestyle.
I went to rehab for anorexia and have dealt with it and the urges to do it my whole life. Thank you for your deep honesty. 😊❤
Is it okay to compliment you on your SHIRT? I hope so, because a STARRY NIGHT with GODZILLA is *just pop culture jam perfection* !!!!
Thank you for the discussion, as painful as it is. You are loved and admired by many for yourself, fat or thin. Please love and admire yourself as much as we do. ❤️
You know, I'm glad that your 'sudden' weightloss is not because of some physical disease (like cancer) and I'm glad for you that you managed to get the help you needed. I also am very greatful that you talked about it. Keep up the good work, and know that you are loved.
I thought bariatric surgery, the weight loss at the first few months for some patients I've encountered was scary. Surgeons now at my hospital have a psych eval pre and post surgical to handle mental and emotional changes related to bariatric procedures.
I deliberately shyed away from the topic as I felt it was your business alone. The previous silence spoke volumes.
I applaud your bravery in opening up to your viewers.
I need to lose weight due to diabetes so the doctor put me on Ozempic. I still can't lose weight quickly enough as other health issues prevent me doing exercise.
I'm down to 180lbs and it still isn't enough. 😢
I have experienced the same thing, diabetes, and put on Ozempic, which is a shot, not a pill. I have lost weight and my diabetes is more in control as a result. It is my understanding that Ozempic is now being used just for weight loss and people like us that need it for our diabetes are being unable to get the drug due to shortages caused by that. Thank you for sharing your experience which matches mine exactly.
I recommend you look into water fasting. It really saved me from horrible binges as it made me confront my relationship with food and for me personally - if I can delay my binge, it might pass and I have more time to think if I really want to do it. I really hope you feel better soon!
It is not enough for what? You and your doctors should get very very specific with the goals, and you should monitor your goals and your experience of the drug very closely. It is brand new, seems to help some people a lot and some people a moderate amount which is just right, and still other people just can't tolerate it. Good luck, and I hope it helps.
@Fornsul Four years ago, before all my ailments crippled me, I did a lot of hillwalking. I got down to 168 lbs. It still wasn't low enough for the doctor. Or the diabetes.
@Joyce T You're welcome. I took my latest injection a few hours ago.
Do you get any side effects? I get terrible eggy burps.
I have battled bulimia for my whole life since I was 17. You have my admiration for talking about this. Good for you! I am praying for you.
Judith, I was bulimic from the age of 15 to 38 and then the Lord Jesus saved me, healed me and delivered me from bulimia, depression and suicidal thoughts. Praise God! This was about 8 years ago and everyday I'm amazed by His grace, mercy and love. There is freedom in blood of Jesus Christ. God bless you.
I too deal with eating disorder. I'm so glad you are open about it. My emotional eating is hauntingly like yours. It helps immensely when ones, like you, who have the courage to speak out. Thank you so much! It is so encouraging for ones like me!
I don't know why youtube recomended this to me, but I adore the way you apprached this. I appreciate you speaking about your journey but also setting your boundries with your viewers.
So much respect for making this video, Morgan. Totally get where you are coming from with not being too eager to respond to 'positive' reactions on your weight, but please know most of us really care about you. You are a part of our lives, just like the camera you talking to is part of yours, we're just on the other side of it. I want to thank you for these wonderful videos you have made over the past few years and wish you all the best mentally and physically.
i suffer from binge eating. i completely understand this cycle. loosing a family member has made it even worse and i'm starting to address it. thank you for sharing this and yes, i think this is the sort of thing that can help others. Also, thanks for sharing about the stigma of weight as a value judgement! Thank you for all you do, you have certainly helped me through the hardest time of my life! keep sharing you stories! :)
Thank you so much for speaking out about this! I have BED as well and what you said about "if you're an alcoholic, you're told to stop completely" but you can't stop food at all which is such an issue for us because obviously you need food to survive. I also cut out sugar and fast food and try to stay as far as possible from trigger foods.
Unfortunately a lot of people don't really see BED as a serious issue and keep offering me cookies, chips, candy etc and every time I decline, they look at me like I'm a hardcore diet prude that can't just eat one cookie. That one cookie generally makes me spiral into my BED, I'm sorry I have to be such a party pooper, Karen.
It's also difficult making friends because food is such a part of social interaction ("let's go eat at the cafe!", "I'm hungry, I'm going to get lunch, wanna come?") which this would be fine but people also have the tendency to comment on your food choices which kinda makes me uncomfortable because I don't want to explain such a personal issue just so I can not hear coworkers or acquaintances judge my lifestyle or weight. The world is already a stressful place for people that don't have EDs, how about not adding more stress to it.