People like this make me glad I'm not on social media. I love Hannah, but I, for the life of me, had to stop the video. I can't spare any time for those women to dumb me down with their foolishness. Keep fighting the good fight for those who engage willingly.
I hope you rose to the occasion and put on a full face of glam makeup, dressed up in your favourite ball gown and gloves and spent 2-6 hours to scratch make cough drops.
My toddler woke up sick and was all shivery so went to the stable, sheared a sheep, spun the wool and knitted my poor baby a jumper. When finished he was 7 years old
I had a sudden urge to end that the way Ricky Gervais would.... And by the time I finished the jumper he was dead. 😂 .............. There's a joke he says about he's decided to now become "woke". He's got so trolled for not being woke so he's given in. He says, take for example the word handicapped... that's no longer acceptable, you should say disabled. So one day he's at the beach, and he's still being woke. A woman runs up to him and says, help please, my handicapped toddler is drowning. He says, whoa whoa whoa, hang on a minute, don't you mean your _Disabled_ toddler? She says, well yeah, same thing. He says, no, they are not the same, you should say disabled. So he turns to look at the sea, toddler.....floating.....dead. And he says to the audience, that's what happens when you waste time being woke. 🤣 Your comment reminded me of that. 😅
Then I waited for the tree to grow and bare fruit and I walked threw my apple orchard barefoot in a white linen dress with eyelet handkerchief in my hair and my hand loomed basket, and picked the apples while the sun shined upon my thin, beautiful, natural makeup touched face. Then I skipped joyfully back to the house. 😒🙄🙄😴 Being a stay at home mom was a necessity for me at one point in my life. And I lasted about 9months before I was like....mmm I think it's time I go back to school so I can get a better job, and back to work. 😂😂 Stay at home moms are built different. 💪 I couldn't do it full-time. Being a working mom is not easy either because it's like having 2 jobs, especially if you're a single parent. But these tradwives are just promoting a lifestyle that is not real or attainable to most women. And it's dangerous when paired with toxic religious doctrine and misogynistic husbands.
“My toddler woke up craving oxygen, but I don’t usually keep that in the air in our house, so I filled a pot with water and removed two hydrogen atoms from each molecule”
I actually am a SAHM. I homeschool my kids while also handling a baby. Almost nothing I've seen on tiktok or RUclips is what actually goes on in my home. 💀 I don't think it's bad to aspire to be that put-together all the time, but it's never going to actually look like that.
Crazy there's no children bothering her, hanging on her, shoving themselves between her and the counter, saying I'm hungry 100 times. Because someone else is caring for them right now. Not her. It's not real.
I feel like Nara has made it known that lucky does his part in the relationship so more than likely he could be watching their kids. I don't view her content as trying to be a tradwife
I heard someone say once that social media is just poor people pretending to be rich and rich people pretending to be poor and it really stuck with me!!!
@@unprocessed_lifeI’ve never heard of her, I’m not on socials and don’t seek that kind of content out. Is it satire? It seems so over the top fake that it seems like satire .
Imagine asking your mom for a cough drop while you're sick & then waiting 3-5 business days for your mom to make you a cough drop while you hack your lungs out.
What’s so bizarre is that I’ve been a housewife for 26 years. Raising kids, baking bread, cleaning house, taking care of animals… we don’t have time to video ourselves, and dressing in those frilly outfits? What? 😂😂😂
I agree been a housewife for 17 years and I agree! With a very curious 16 month old , cleaning, and other things to do I don’t even have a min to write this 😂. I have disheveled hair( running around and this muggy weather 😂) and wearing “non traditional frilly “ little house on the prairie attire.
They are not doing it even right. The blonde one casually seduces the audience by firmly showing a little bit of chest.. aren't you supposed to be traditional lol? That's not very trad of you. But of course she is doing that-the real face of the traditional women won't sell.
@@Laure__Linebased on the comments on tradwife videos, it really doesn’t sound like it. You’re giving people who follow that type of content seriously way too much credit.
@@DivideThatBy9PleaseThis too. The amount of men who look at this content and yearn for this type of wife, knowing full well that this is extremely unrealistic.
As a father to a wonderful teen daughter, it can be scary to see the type of “women/girls/females “ that my daughter has as role models or influences. But upon coming across your videos, hope has returned and my faith in humanity is slowly being restored seeing that there are women like YOU that my daughter can take inspiration from to help mold her into a wonderful lady. Keep up the good work, I’m positive that you give a lot of hope other parents raising little girls. Thank you.
kind of disagree with some of these comments. nara smith has said she struggles with eczema and that she makes most of her food from scratch which is where her videos started taking off. then, i think she started to make “satire” commentary about how she makes them cornflakes or cheetos from scratch. do i think it is a damaging influence for other moms to see this and compare themselves to them? yes, especially in this economy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to live with two kids if both parents arent working (and dont even get me started on single parents). i do think naras content is damaging in the way that she portrays that she makes all of her food from scratch. i just think trad wife culture itself is horrendous so.
@@cakielovesyouuThen they shouldn’t watch her. If her content is damaging to some and if they can’t help but to compare themselves to her then they should learn to swipe away. No one is forcing you to watch anything. She is merely an entertainer/content creator, that’s her job. She is not trying to be realistic or telling women how to live their life or to make anything from scratch, she is just showing what she loves to do with HER life and you have the freedom to look away. She has said many times that cooking is her love language and she just wants to share that. These women also have the choice to follow creators that are more realistic to them and aren’t millionaire models.
@@wandooayabam1406 thats not what im saying? trad wife content is pushing the narrative that woman need to do 10000 things at once to be considered attractive or “wife-material”. and this is coming after we just made it out of the trenches. i think nara is a good person but trad wife content in particular is bad. and as a content creator, her job is to produce content that actually has a meaning/purpose. like i said, she started with normal content until she gained traction for making stuff from scratch. so, she continued to do that. i think her videos are just normal cooking videos with a satire commentary with it. AND, i didnt say anything about nara doing any of that. i said trad wife content makes people want to be able to do that
Today my toddler said he wants to be an astronaut but I don't usually keep spaceships around the house so I immediately got my aerospace engeneering degree and using all this parts I had in my garage laying around for no reason I built him this amazing spaceship. And I didn't even dirty my hands. What do you mean you BUY cereal from the store???
I know you're joking, but Stockton Rush of OceanGate told his parents he was interested in space and they literally paid for an astronaut to talk to him about his career aspirations and give him advice.
@@elizabethschreiter1127 That makes a lot more sense than making corn flakes by hand. Although a visit to a planetarium would probably have been sufficient for most of us.
My 21 year old daughter, who will have her own daughter in September, saw the focaccia video and said “I feel like I’m going to fail as a mom, because that won’t be happening”. I told her, and I’d like all young mothers to know that your job as mom is to love your baby, feed it, and keep it alive. Teach your child to be a good human. That is what you should be doing.
That is absolute non sense!! What makes you a « good mom »? Making focaccia or bonding with your newborn… at 10 days postpartum, your job is to take care of your newborn and yourself while you are recovering from labor… Not having people take care of your newborn while you « perform » in front of a camera. This type of content makes me mad because it is a very distorted view of what motherhood really is or should be…
@@karinecoulombe2560Seems realistic to me. I know many mom's that after giving birth go straight to work or drive hours even when bleeding from their stomachs. All I'm saying is that walking to your kitchen to cook something from scratch and post it online seems pretty reasonable and not that hard to do if your rich. If people feel bad watching her because they aren't rich or have people helping them they should stop. Some people are just a little more mentally sensitive than others.
@@Jane-re1ku mom's shouldn't have to drive to work bleeding hours after giving birth. that is absolutely ridiculous and should NOT be normalised. and any woman who's willing to do that is either not in her right mind or under a lot of unfair economic/work obligations. which is a product of sexism. pregnancy and birth should be accomodated by workplaces. and these women are promoting false advertisement. if we saw the nannies taking care of their children and their cooks making dinner while they prep their cameras, people's reactions would be much different. the implication isn't that they're having fun 'performing housewivery', the implication is that they're the real deal and that if other women were just as fit, friendly and feminine as them they could have the same lifestyle. it's a lie, and that's insidious. of course people need to be aware that most things online aren't real and learn to be cautious/not so easily affected, but that's ankther issue.
@@Jane-re1ku oh stfu u would know only if u had a mom or wife who was a homemakers or u r one otherwise not. It is not at all realistic even if she's rich It's so obvious she's not dojng all that herself and has a whole ass cre behind her
Except it insults cosplayers. We know reality and we are not trying to tell the internet we ARE the character we wear the costume of. These women are equally in costume but pretending otherwise. The dishonesty they display in this is not found in cosplay. I'd say it's more that they are "playing house" like little kids, but that probably would insult the kids....
Honestly I think that's the point of these social media agendas... not to go all conspiracy theory but it's giving "destruction of healthy relationships" by setting this up as somehow being how you "should" live your life and if you're not up to this standard then somehow your inadequate and your spouse begins to resent you for it. It's simply not realistic 😅
These influencers are hurting women in so many ways. I feel so sad for the poor women who believe them. And to think that these many young women will find themselves married to men who see these “trad wives” and think women are work horses, who should be doing all of those things without any help and resources .🤦🏽♀️
This! I was thinking the same thing the whole time, do NOT give a cough drop to a toddler! I would have zero problem with those videos if they didn't start with those ridiculous premises. Like my toddlers wanted corn flakes but I don't keep them in the house. Then why are your kids asking for them?? If they're never in the house why do the kids even think that's an option?? It's so clearly made up.
feeding them anything like that, gummies, cough drops, and even uncut grapes are choking hazards. She honestly sounded like the one who needed the cough drops, judging by her voice.
@@pettykittyfamWrong. She said the honey reached its crack stage. That’s how you test hard candies to make sure they’re ready to pour. In order to make gummy candy, she would have to have used gelatin - which she did not.
Your TODDLER asked you for a cereal you don’t keep in the house? Where would they have gotten the notion to ask you for something you’ve never given them? 🤣
My mother was a true "Trad wife" in the 50's and 60's. She did not make our own cornflakes or cough drops. She certainly did not look or dress like Nara or Estee or Hannah. Mom was a trad wife not by choice. Looking back, she was miserable. Money was a constant worry. My dad was a good dad and I believe a good husband, but he was very traditional. He did not know how to run the washing machine or where the vacuum was kept. She screamed and cried a bit of the day. Mom's idea of looking pretty for my dad was combing her hair and putting on lipstick. My sister and I both have careers, mine in nursing and hers in law. We had a choice. We also are wives and mothers. We were also told to learn how to earn our own living. That is what I believe is the true reality.
@@pavlinahrebackova3000 it doesn't have to be. There is traditional good and traditional bad. All traditional households weren't abusive or controlling. Neither are they today. I wish more people seen this.
@@pavlinahrebackova3000 it didn't sound like from the original comment that the dad was at all abusive or anything to me. Of course we don't know since we weren't there for sure and this person is giving information to the best of their knowledge. Perhaps a bit old school not knowing how to run appliances but that can still be found today. I have two male cousins that have no idea how to run a washer or dryer. Their mom done it for them and then they got married but then their wives have done it ever since. They are both hard-working young men. They both love their children endlessly and will protect them with their lives. And they adore their wives. They were just never taught to do these things and their wives just picked up the torch and kept going that way. They are in no way abusive. Just very old school traditional. 🤷♀️ So it could be like this too. But on that note if she wanted out of the house and wasn't allowed then I agree that this would be controlling behavior at minimum and not respectable on the husband's behalf. Hopefully he was just old school and slightly ignorant of how to handle his wife and nothing more we can hope. But I guess I was just referring to the general sense of the word "traditional" not being equal to abuse. Like for instance we have a traditional household (my husband and I) but I want to be the stay home wife and mother and he is the sole breadwinner. He doesn't do much domestics (he can though and will help if I ask) but he handles all of the vehicles, repairs, property maintenance, etc. while I handle most cooking, cleaning, childcare, gardening, canning, etc. but we are both happy in our traditional roles so that's where I was mentioning that traditional can be an amazing and wonderful thing if carried out by two consenting spouses. 😉
What these influencers don’t show you is the amount of support they have behind the scenes. They have assistants, house cleaners, groundskeepers, and even NIGHT NURSES. Kids or not, No one can do it all at once every single day.
I really appreciate how well thought your content is, and your consistent call to think critically! Also appreciated the disclaimer that these influencers aren't "bad", but that they should not be impacting how regular middle class moms and housewives should view themselves. Very honest, balanced, and timely content. Good job!
I'm pretty sure most people are very aware that they are actors. This is just entertainment. Then again, there are still people that think TV is real, but those are the exception. Feeling bad that your life isn't like that is no different then wishing you were Ironman. You outgrow it.
Same! For example I don't understand why people get worked up for the first woman making those cough drops when it's obviously a fabricated story around those drops. Isn't it obvious that no one would do what she did in real life or at least not in these circumstances? Also if I'm not wrong she's not calling herself a trad wife. She just loves cooking and tries her best to sell her videos by giving everything a background story. I think it's a lot of jealousy and no media competence. I think a lot of people only see something they kind of envy and lose the ability to think critically.
Social media has made people lose their minds. "I saw it online, it must be true!" Of course that handsome soldier is in love with me, let me send him some gift cards. "He must be real, I saw his picture!"
@@B.H.56 Have you personally seen this behavior? Or just believe it because you hear people complain about it on social media. I only ask because while I've heard this many times, I have never actually met anyone that behaves that way.
@msSweeTae you're joking right? People don't dislike it because they're jealous, they dislike it because it's disingenuous and preys on the ignorant. Her comment sections are proof that people absolutely believe it. 12:56
And without an apron. I'm shivering thinking about it. Imagine the cleaning up process. At least kimono mom, although dolled up still wearing an apron.
People, please please please learn this once and for all: the BEST way to protest against these phonies is to STOP watching their content. Don’t give them the views, PERIOD.
The old adage, “Don’t feed the trolls,” comes to mind. In a way these tradwives are trolling us all, pretending to be something nobody in the real world can be.
I straight-up REFUSE to watch tradwife content. It is so unrealistic and it is detrimental to the younger generation of women to portray this tradwife lifestyle, because it makes you feel bad when you can't achieve what they are portraying as gracefully as they are portraying. Reminds me of old 50s & 60s commercial advertisements, especially home appliances. You know, where the tradwife is dressed up like that Estee Williams meeting her husband at the door with slippers and a cocktail, then having the dinner table set and dinner served within moments of the husband walking thru the door. They're fakers and I don't like it. I don't like the ideology behind it. It influences ppl like that football player to make speeches discouraging women from pursuing anything other than a homemaker lifestyle. Which is fine for some, but there are a lot of ppl out there that have absolutely no business having children. As a pioneer of the opposition of tradwife ideology, I have been thru it. I still go thru it. I'm still made to feel bad because I didn't breed. Recently, my very own father said to me, "so my line ends with you." Which was a direct comment to me stating that No, I was not going to pursue fertility treatments to have a child because I'm beyond the "breeding" years for a human woman, and my childless husband is fine with that. I could really go on about how I married pretty much out of HS, how I was almost forced into having children by my 1st husband thru sabotage, etc, but it would be a novel. Just know that I've been thru it, and I totally disagree with the archaic ideological traditions that are being forced upon us, women, today. Personally, I will fight with tooth & nail to prevent us from every reverting back to that dead-end lifestyle for women.
Getting dolled up and cooking that complex of a meal 10 days postpartum is absolutely psychotic and the fact ppl think it’s aesthetic or should be standard is concerning.
Idk... I know a few women who give birth and the next day or so took a walk or re-organized the house to "get the circulation going". They genuinely terrify me....
(For context, though, I LOVE cooking and have been doing it for decades, it's very second nature for me. Even so, the level of spaced-out exhaustion and pain you can get postpartum makes even "easy" things harder)
@@peachcookie6624ha keep telling yourself that. She didn't learn all that shit sarcastically 😂 she's making money, that's why she's doing it. She's clearly the breadwinner in that family yet pretending she's not
I know I’m a little late to the vid, but I appreciate that you still are kind about other influencers “life”. Acknowledging the fact that it is work, but it most definitely is NOT reality. Anyone who’s momming really hard as a real traditional wife is not wearing the perfect clean clothes. Most are not really that wealthy.
@@Dominique20 to be fair, making yogurt from scratch is a process that you start about 24 hours before you actually WANT the yogurt, it doesn't just get whipped up. (It's also pretty easy if you have an InstantPot. I go through phases when I do it, but currently I am in my 'cannot be bothered' phase.)
Yeah there was a mother and she got called the worst mother ever (and worse) when she made food for her kids. She lives off the food bank and people complained she didn't pick healthy food, i had a "aunt" who had to live off the food bank for a while, most food banks won't let you choose your food they just get a small portion from the supermarket to give to people, you are happy that you have food so that you can feed your children (and one of the children has sensory issues so they have difficulties with certain foods).
Omg I hate how much lower income mothers get hated on! Mama C used to get so much hate for filming her cooking videos while her (I believe ex) husband watched their kids yet her meals were both creative and realistic for the average person. There was a mom on tiktok who owned a trailer home and she showed the gifts she bought for her kids for Christmas (which totaled to $20 I believe) and you'd think she burned her children alive. People called her irresponsible for buying those gifts instead of saving it (because obviously lower income children don't deserve gifts 😤) and it got me so heated. Was 1000000% an overreaction on the internets part and it's disgusting because lower income mothers are the most creative people I've seen and as a childless person, I find their content more helpful. Like who cares about making homemade mozarella? I wanna see how people provide for their families with a budget of $35/week.
50s housewives usually gave their small children so morphine or something to knock them out all day so they could housework without having to stop to take care of them,
Not to mention, taking the elderberry syrup on its own would be way better for you if it is something you had on hand. Why bother making the cough drop for anyone in the family who is sick?
Girl just found you today. And soooo glad I did! This series is so absolutely needed in our current times with social media. And showing the reality of it. You’re beautiful 💕
What I hate about it are the men that see this and expect their wives to be exactly like this. Men like my ex-husband. When I became a stay at home mom he expected perfection. He would compare me to women like this, women with nannies, and maids and expected the same. That's not reality. I am so glad I got out of that marriage and now have a husband who truly gets it and is grateful and wonderful about all I do.
I got divorced before having children because my husband expected perfection despite me working over double the hours he did. He called me lazy, and then demanded we have children. I got out so fast after that. There was no way he was going to help me, and there's no way I'm going to subject myself or my future children to that kind of behavior. So glad you got out and found a real man who appreciates and values you
I totally understand you! When I was in maternity leave, my husband began to behave delusionally as he was the only provider of the house, and I was just "the stay at home mom". He even started to make important decisions without consulting me... Well, he's now an ex-husband...
Your ex is a loser and good for you getting out and getting your life. Not for nothing but if these men want perfection from their wives then SURELY they can provide the nannies, big bright state-of-the-art appliances & kitchens and luxury beauty budget, easy breezy, right? Oh wait.
I'm over 70. I used to see commercials when I was younger. Wife's in fancy house dresses and heels, running a sweeper or cooking a meal from scratch. As I stood there, with my toddler in a playpen, in Jean's and t shirt, waiting for nap time to go hang clothes outside. LOL.
The difference is that if a tradwife gets a divorce, she is still a millionaire. But if a real house wife get a divorce, she will find herself broke, jobless, with no recent working experience, with lots of debts and expenses and with children to take care of. So, with 50% of marriages ending in a divorce, the fantasy ends there...
My gosh that was dark. Also it’s not 50% of marriages… that stat is a few decades old and people just keep repeating it without actually knowing. It’s less and if religious it’s much less. Some reality thats positive for all the married people reading your comment 😬
If an already wealthy tradwife gets a divorce she is still a millionaire. There are older tradwives who are now divorced coming forward on social media to give the truth. Most tradwives are not independently wealthy and when the marriage ends, they end up with nothing.
it's still pretty close if I consider all of the weddings Ive gone to and who is still married....I would also venture to say that a decent percentage of people in a marriage arent happy either. Im 50 so Ive seen a lot of relationships at this point in my life
It's a dark thought, but honest and needs to be prepared for - 100% of relationships end in a break up or death. Ignoring thus is doing the family disservice.
Would depend on where you live. I currently live 10 minutes from even a gas station but used to live 30 minutes from one. (Live in rural Iowa out in the country) So my answer would be "sorry, I don't have any gum" as I check through my purse and ask my teens if they happen to have any left 😂 I could possibly offer them a mint candy or a spearmint leave to chew on if they prefer 😂
@@michaelbugner7011 I suppose that would depend on the country of origin and those specific beliefs. In America they are. How do you think women bring home groceries silly? 😂 And surprise!!! We can go most other places too! 😱😂😉 Like I'm not talking the strip club and such but ya know... Normal places 😉 not sure why you think traditional wives can't leave the house 🤔
Do these people understand that housewives in the 50s BOUGHT cereal and BOUGHT bread, jam, bubblegum, etc? People did make things from scratch too, of course, but this idea that everything right down to the everyday staples were consistently homemade is just delusional. 🙄
For sure! Look at the ads from the era, it's all 'simplify your life! Look at this product of the future!' These people forgot the 1950s lifestyle was also trying to stomp out the horrors of World War II
Not only that it would’ve been cheaper on their tight family budgets!! Like sure hand making some items is cheaper but for a lot you’re spending more on raw materials especially back when the pricing for food was more fair!
People have this weird idea of what life was like in the 50s and 60s. Tons of women worked, especially black women. Traditionally, black women have worked. The 50s and 60s also weren't ht best social time in the world .I wouldn't want to mimic anything from that time lmao
My toddler woke up sick this morning and, he puked on the sofa then the dog tried to eat it and while I was running to help my baby I kicked the table and broke my toe. The rest of the mornin I was cleaning up vomit and obsessively taking temperature and worrying and limping. That is the reality, I know I lived that life. Nobody is making homemade medicene while looking beautiful with sick kids
And two days later Mom is sick herself with killer-toddler germs and puking all over the place while still having 100% of her responsibilitys and a toddler who is well and active again... but I guess one could do that in a fancy gown, why not 😅😅😅
That's a whole different kind of content... real life! I can relate to all of it, I hope the toddler is feeling better and I'm so sorry about your toe.
Her toddler woke up coughing and the first thing to do is to put on a dress , put on some make up , do a nice hairstyle than make a cough sirup from scratch. That is total BS.
I was having a giggle at that too. First she spends 2 hours putting on an evening gown, full face make up and hair and then proceeds to spend make cough drops - not suitable for toddler - from the scratch. All the while the patient little one is sitting hands folded over knees on the white on white sofa. When my toddlers woke up with a cough first thing I did was mutter some curse words because I knew my next weeks sleep was ruined.
Just want to say you are so well spoken - it is a pleasure to listen to points on social media / marketing. I enjoy your attention to detail and social media effects on our mental health. You portray your opinion with class and facts. Great job at your role and being authentic!
Right? My mom used to just take like 5 minutes to make a cup of tea with a bunch of lemon and honey in it. But of course, you can't really link a bunch of obscure ingredients and supplies for that to make money off of. And if we had bad chest congestion, she'd put a bit of bourbon in it. It tasted awful but it would make you sleep and you always felt a lot better when you woke up. Helped loosen the phlegm in the chest.
@@mommy2libras I was going to say the same thing. Just make some tea with honey and lemon. And, they won't even choke on it, lol. As long as they are over a year of course. You aren't supposed to give children under a year honey.
I’m so glad somebody finally said it in a healthy way. There is no hate just a reminder to everyone that they should not compare themselves to a fantasy.
I dated a guy for 3 years, I had to be the perfect girlfriend (hair and make up flawless, no body hair, no weight gain, etc.) Had to treat him like a king while I got nothing in return. I was so exhausted from being with him that I broke it off. I met my husband and married him 6 months within meeting, dating and engaged. 7 years later, he has seen me at my worst (4 babies, post natal depression, weight gain after kids, etc) and still looks at me with love and adoration. These trad wife video trends are quite unrealistic, it's equivalent to photoshopped magazines that young teens look up to causing them body image issues, except trad wife videos cause perfectly normal mothers feeling inadequate.
I've now watched 3 episodes of this series and in each one I really appreciate your message of "Be critical (I am taking this in the most neutral way possible because a lot of times people equate this word to judgemental or even to harrass others in their effort to be critical) and consume responsibly," because sometimes when people go deep into making points about this or that way a person is problematic it can lead to them more or less insinuating that by liking such media you (viewers) are problematic yourself. It can put people in the defensive and by doing that everyone loses, such viewers are gonna be less receptive to new information and the creator is getting negative engagement. Which by your own word all engagement is good engagement, but just on emotional level they are worse than the good engagements. Anyway, thank you for making these videos, they're really nicely done! ❤
What’s also super meta is that the tradwife influencers while promoting a stay-at-home lifestyle (where the woman prioritizes her children and family) are actually being entrepreneurs and devoting all their time to their business lol
i also think the depiction of trad wives online severely downplays the labour of motherhood, stay at home parents, and home making. it makes it seem like there’s so little work involved that stay at home mothers have time to spend hours making cough drops and bread which isn’t the case.
As a mom of 5 under 5 I make bread every morning or night depending, but I haven't bought bread since covid...learned to make it and never looked back. Save money and I know what goes in but making gum....thats extra
As a 60 yo mom of 4 and Grammie of 3, this is a DANGEROUS model for moms to envy. She’s portraying a stay at home mother that is non existent and built by social media. This is the homemakers version of supermodels. I stayed at home with my babies for 11 years, and some days I was fortunate to get dressed for the day before bedtime, especially because all 4 of my children were six years apart. She’s an actress, and I LOVE you for spotlighting the non-reality of this nonsense. It’s TOXIC, and it needs to stop
It is toxic, but sadly it's nothing new. I remember when I first had my kids, before the days of influencers, I'd get all these parenting magazines that would show you all these perfect moms with their perfect kids and would show you how to make all these perfect snacks, perfect crafts, their homes would be perfect, the kids rooms would be perfect. They would give me so much anxiety and make me feel bad, like I was doing something wrong. It took a while to realize that none of that was realistic. I feel like it's the same sort of thing going on here.
For all three of these examples I threw up a little in my mouth seeing the ridiculous “I just did this because I thought of it”. You thought, researched, planned, scripted, shot, edited, and re-recorded it to make some person not in a reality check world watch it and get your content upvoted by the algorithm. Why are we doing them that favor. Sad that they feed on it and make them super rich for lying . Ugh… just staaaap!
My mom 6 of us within 8 years and she had time to dress herself, us and make our hair into braids & also she was a full time employee. I don’t understand women that can’t even dress up. I watch little ones and I get dressed, make bed- dress kids and brush their hair.
I'm 49. 24 years ago I started working for internet companies. These were the days when you needed a team and around £200,000 (at least) a month to run the site. In my first job interview I was asked what I thought of the internet. I said it needed to be regulated ASAP because retro-regulation would be too complex once the genie is out of the bottle (I got the job). This trad wife nonsense is one thing that typifies what I meant - the negative impact of deceptive content on audiences and their mental health. It's sad. And it's only gwtting wirse as society becomes increasingly superficial and preoccupied with (false) appearances. Only boycotting and avoiding certain accounts and channels will make a difference.
Lol the "science bad" trend is both stupid and extremely problematic. I use home remedies for many minor illnesses or discomfort, but I still take all my prescriptions when I need them. My home remedies usually involve honey, teas, soup, and Vicks -- all of this I learned from my (boomer) mom as a kid. These are all very common household remedies around the world -- they are nothing special and usually cost a few bucks at the grocery store. It isn't glamorous like this person pretends they are.
It's complicated cause I want you call a traditional life. I tell my husband died anyway and I did a lot of what they're doing, but I had a time obviously and in my j's. I didn't do it in A. Full face makeup
I’m a homemaker with 4 babies and love to cook from scratch, but yeah the number one thing that drives me nuts is when any influencer apparently has hours alone to cook, workout, etc, with lots of time where no one explains where the children are
Facts! I'm alsoa homemaker with 3 young children, here I am right now replying while seeing in the corner of my eye the pile of cleaned clothes that need to be fold. I'm not perfect, I love having more time for my children but we also have our challenges and sooo much work to do around.
Thank you for being realistic! This! We do have time to take care and make ourselves look great but not extra 8 hours for filming editing and setting up cameras around the house 😅 The reality is you don't have to make "everything" sometimes buying produce from good sources is time saving and equally better
I'm definitely not jealous of these women. Who wants to spend all day making absolutely every morsel of food consumed in your home by scratch?? Not only do I not want to do that, I also don't want to spend hours a day pretending that I live that way.
Some of these women are probelmatic but how is it fake from Nara? You guys clearly dont watch Nara's content. She never touts herself as a normak SAHM or a tradwife. She loves to cook and she has verbalized multiple times that she loves it, it is not expected of her, and her husband helps with cleaning and other things. Clearly they have money and help, her videos are literally about her passion of cooking.
THANK YOU for this video! I'm a SAHM, and all of the clips I've seen of these "tradwives" are obviously a crock of 💩. I promise you, literally NOBODY is getting dolled up in an expensive pristine dress and full face of makeup everyday doing this nonsense, not even them. It's obviously a total grift and so super fake. It's hard to watch without laughing. I didn't even know who this Nara lady was, so I guess that means I'm fortunate enough to be removed from this type of garbage. I used to be on Instagram, but I deleted it after a year and a half because I couldn't stand all the scammers, fake people, people trying to sell me crap, and creepy men.
I’m a traditional wife, like the old school tradition where mom does the kid stuff and the home keeping while dad is the provider and helps around the house doing the repairs and what not. This tiktok tradwife trend is NOT traditional wife or motherhood lol we are working our asses off from daylight to dark with messy hair and stained clothes. It’s hard, it’s thankless and it’s not this picturesque life these women portray. But I will say, while it’s hard, I am “rewarded” with excellent kids. They are kind funny and my favorite little people. The memories we make every day are both happy and stressful but I wouldn’t change it.
I congratulate you for finding what works for you and your family. It seems you chose this for yourself and didn't feel pressured to be someone you weren't.
@@toomanymarys7355 But unless their home is in complete disrepair and he comes home every night and continues working (like she does because work at home doesn't stop at 5pm), then he's not helping out very much. My parents split the evening work up. One did the dishes while the other gave us our baths. They both then sat down after everything was taken care of.
Agreed. I'm listening to this while I'm making cough syrup (yes, I have the ingredients on hand), food prepping, and juggling homeschool lessons with my 3 kids. It doesn't happen overnight, you learn and grow on the job, and you'll have days that bring immense joy and days that kick your trash. I think that is something we can experience in many jobs/roles. We should be so careful when looking to influencers/social media for how to live life because it is super curated, money-making content, and not how it is in real life. It is almost always performative.
To the woman making homemade bread 10 days postpartum: you can't fool the moms. We know. Under that full glam makeup and beautiful dress... is an adult diaper
Tbh I only wore a diaper for a few hours post birth. And most of the time I stopped bleeding within 5-7 days. I’m sure it’s not that way for most moms but all our bodies are different so different experiences are ok!!
As a full time nanny, THANK YOU for doing this series. I always want to ask who’s watching the kids when I see these vids. I am CERTAIN there’s a nanny (or a fleet of them) that’s keeping the crazies out of the kitchen while mom is filming. Not only is it misleading, but those nannies deserve recognition too!
Im a housewife with no kids and sometimes dog sit… just watching dogs I feel like I can’t do anything or cook from scratch which I actually do, but I highly doubt I’ll find the time to do so when I do have kids. Definitely a nanny or their parents watching their kids behind the scenes 😆 my husband is definitely too busy too watch them too. Shout out to nannies
I'm always impressed by how well you explain your opinion, setting the limits of where you agree and disagree with each clip you show, and how carefully you pick your words, instead of falling on absolutes and easy clichés or "catchphrases" that would add shock value but take away from the message you wish to convey. You are such a good communicator, I can't imagine how many hours it takes to write your scripts.
I agree, I love Hannah's explanations. She is definitely a natural-born teacher. I love that she doesn't have to put anyone down to communicate the point.
As a full time house wife I feel absolutely insulted by these fake house wives trying to convince the masses that being a house wife is a breeze when it’s blood and sweat everyday to make sure that everything is clean and in order.
Oh it is. I am not even a housewife. I don't even have kids. I don't even work I am on SSI! But it's unbelievable how difficult it is to keep everything in order all the time. Someone at church years ago said " If you see a spotless home with kids in it..suspect child abuse". And this was a statement by a SAHM. I do see spotless homes that are not a lot of work but in those cases the homes are only used to sleep and watch TV in and the person is working all the time. In cases where the home is LIVED in...projects, cooking, art and crafts...etc. Nah..it's going to be a wreak.
I don't have children but I have a mother and believe me, most people know, and most real life people would laugh about this kind of content/believing this could be real for anyone.
It would be totally different if she presented the content like, “Have you ever wondered how to make cough drops at home? I have some time this morning so let’s give it a try.” It’s the “I don’t keep traditional medicine/corn flakes/bubble gum in the house, but I sure wear a ball gown to make breakfast. This is totally normal.” False reality. It’s a performance presented as a candid reality.
I totally agree she could do the same type of content from a much more humble stance and it would be interesting. But all her content is pompous 😂 if she is really in the kitchen as much as she makes out her kids are not having their needs met by that mother. I make things from scratch sometimes and it takes hours.
As a mom of two toddlers, my kids were pissed because I went pee before handing them their (pre-made) breakfasts. I can't even imagine the riot that would ensue if I made them wait this long 😂
Any normal mom who has sick kids will understand that it's fake. When you have a sick kid, you don't think of doing your mom or taking a video of yourself. She is a scam yet people believe she is a real trad-wife
What personally annoys me the most with the tradwife influencer are : - the lies (like pretending they are spontaneously making cough drops from scratch after they toddler woke up sick) - the "holier tha thou" attitude. The "I don't keep cereals in my house" clearly implies "because I think it's bad for kids", and so that they are better than you for cooking breakfast from scratch - the fact that they pretend to be a stay at home mom while they actually are a work at home mom And then what annoys me about the "trad wife movement" in general is that it says that this model is better than any others and that women should be this nurturing, submissive caricature. Like I am all for choice and if a woman truly wants to be a sahm without any external influence (spouse, society...etc) good for them ! I want to support them ! That is a lot of work too often underappreciated! But this shouldn't be a thing that they have to do or feel pressured to do ! Or feel less than if they don't go this route. Also as a childfree woman by choice it irks me when any movement restrains a woman's role as a mother. Motherhood can be a beautiful thing for those who want it ! And finally... It's sad that so much cooking content have all this layer of religion / lifestyle agenda etc. Just make a cooking from scratch channel/ page. But the cooking is not their main content actually. It's like a commercial for a lifestyle filled with lies and false promises.
That's right. They complain about feminists, but they kind of belittle other women for being providers and having their own careers, and that's ridiculous. Each woman lives the life she sees fit, but these tradwives feel better than other women who don't live like them
@@Lexouchan this is very annoying. I'm a Christian, but there are many who use the name of God to justify this lifestyle, even though the Bible doesn't speak just one standard of women, all the women mentioned in the Bible lived differently from the others.
As a toddler mom, I am a firm believer that all parenting content on social media (with the exception of memes and humor) is useless and in many cases dangerous.
@@prachikalkar2493or better yet, content involving children should not be allowed. I think it's wrong to use kids for content and to make money off of that content when the children cannot consent. The kids will forever have their young lives on the internet for all to see. Children aren't capable of consenting to something that they don't understand the ramifications of. I've watched videos of some adorable kids and loved them but then think 'those videos shouldn't be on the internet!'
Same! There is so much bad advice out there! The sad thing is desperate parents will cling to it (this has been me at times) while the influencer is just post whatever pops into their head.
after seeing videos of these trad wives, i heard my uncle say to my aunt, "if these young women can do it effortlessly without even as much as a sigh of complaint, why are you nagging and asking for help all the time?" it seems videos like those of these trad-wife women help in invalidating the very real struggles of the average homemakers, perhaps making their deadbeat husbands more irritable and less understanding, and more quick to use their fists.
We shouldn't ignore the fact a lot those accounts are actually businesses, trying to guilt men and women into buying nasty products to try and get that magical perfect household. Want effortless beauty, cooking, cleaning, and relationships? Just buy this $60 mascara that burns your eyes! These people are all just grifters and they are preying on the most vulnerable. I hope your aunt is safe.
This is a concern I have too! It also feeds into the red pill men who idolize women like this. So if the rest of us can’t do it (or don’t want to), there just must be something wrong with us 😵💫
Have her send him videos of strapping young men building things by hand, then sweetly ask him to build her a gazebo and a Japanese garden with a koi pond.
If my toddler woke up sick, I would be cuddling with a sick toddler, not making cough drops from scratch while my toddler suffers in another room for hours.
This was my thought too. Like he’s suffering so you what, just left him to himself and told him to stay out of the camera shot? More likely, his nanny was taking good care of him while mom made the content.
I think we have to remind ourselves that this is a fabricated story to sell her video better. It wouldn't get that much engagement if she would just upload a video about mking those drops. And that's why I think it's wasted energy to get worked up over something that's just a nice story like things you see in the TV.
First, I would like to say thank you... for combing through social media, conducting thoughtful research, and reporting on your findings in a comprehensive way, so that I may be aware of more and not have to spend any time on the platforms I find completely toxic. Second, having personal experience in trying to find balance as a stay-at-home mom and homemaker over the last decade (a temporary arrangement because child care is too expensive) this topic triggers a whole menagerie of thoughts and feelings for me, and I "only" have two kids... I can't handle any more than that. IRL- Without support from family, friends, or paid help... on a single income (without any side income or stashed away funds)... dealing with perpetual illnesses, sleep deprivation, depression, and the demand to somehow make things all fit / "work out" is effing hard, messy, and exhausting. Tempered expectations, *forgiveness of self and circumstances, and the ability to creatively adapt when things are not ideal have been necessary... and I still need to figure my shh-tuff out. *corrected misspelling
Kids are messy, cooking & baking is messy, gardening is messy...and yet these trad wives are always perfectly clean not a single stain on their clothes
I’m an actual “trad wife” dude…. I never look like a 10 around my own home. I’m a solid 5 on a good day. I’m covered in baby puke, my hair is a mess, we are having leftovers for dinner. I try to do homemade food but sometimes babies don’t permit a whole homemade thing. Easiest meals to make from scratch are soups and roasts. Sometimes I don’t always get to the dishes or the laundry. My husband doesn’t always come home to a neat home and a put together wife. What he does come home to is a loving wife and babies who are fed and adore him! He is the love of my life. I’m not his slave. We are partners who both have extremely important jobs ❤️❤️ I’m here with the babies and he makes money so I can be home with the babies ❤️ Not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s the lifestyle we both wanted and talked about when we were dating!
I think you make an important point in talking about what the ideal marriage looks like to you both before the marriage, kids, etc. Don't rush and do what's right for you and yours. Also, baby puke is a phenomenal hair gel. It's renewable, sustainable, washable, and comes in 25 fun shades. 😂❤
Beautifully said, i’m in the same boat I don’t wear makeup i walk around with a baby on my hip oversized t-shirt on and just taking care of baby the house my hubby and last but not least myself i enjoy it hubby also enjoys the dynamic and you know what people who make assumptions/ give negative opinions are usually the ones who are jealous or just not within our close circle
I am a fulltime housewife. If my kids cough or get sick and I have lemon and ginger, I just make drinks and ask my kids to drink. I have no time to make lemon candy.
Right. I'm like lemon, ginger, elderberry,. I have right now in the kitchen. even arrowroot powder is not that crazy to have either. Those are things real housewives get for their families. It's the cough drop molds that's silly and how perfect she looks. I don't think it's all a sham. Some is realistic and some is staged of course to perfection. I think we need to have a balanced view of it
I just want to take a moment to say that I really appreciate how you explain things. You always seem to capture exactly what I’m thinking and feeling and how I would want to say it. It means a lot to have someone who can put my thoughts into words so clearly about these things we see on the internet. Continue what you are doing.
This morning my husband said that his feet were cold, so I went outside into the field, sheered a baby lamb and spun the wool in my loom. I then picked some beetroot in my garden so that I could dye the lambs wool pink; dried the wool in the morning sun and then knitted him some slippers. I just happened to have some soft leather lying around so I cut that into sole shapes and quickly sewed them onto the bottoms of the slippers. I then toasted them on the fire so that he could have them extra warm to wear when he eats his homemade pancakes with elderberry jam. He was thrilled and couldn't believe that I had done all of that before my power yoga session at 8.30am.
Dressed in frilly outfits, full face of makeup, tripod and camera ready, all rare ingredients ready, with 3 kids (1 toddler and 1 newborn). Sounds BS to me!
100% BS. What gets me mad tho is the pretentiousness. These are clearly girls who wanted to be instagram models and instead they do this, cause it's easier to stand out.
Where do the children go while she's swanning around her kitchen in a couture cocktail dress (in WHITE) for a couple of hours? The reality is she did the cooking separate from her cocktail dress shots. It probably took her a week of nap times to get all the footage, unless she has a nanny and filmed off-site in a kitchen made for filming purposes.
It’s an ideal scenario when you’re married to money and only possible when it’s not just you running the show! I’d like to actually see some realistic trad wife videos and there are actually plenty out there, they’re far from glamorous. One lady works in the kitchen preparing meals with her kid strapped to her while she cooks. They have 5 kids and they’re lower middle class. She’s actually making realistic meals, she doesn’t look like a model but a mom and the food isn’t something that can’t be made by anyone due to time and cost! Fake, fake, and lots of fakes! Anyone that’s been a SAHM knows it really doesn’t look like that!
I came from a Mormon background, and I witnessed so many girls’ dreams get crushed by the reality of young marriage and traditional roles. Over half of them are now divorced with mental health issues.
I’m a current LDS wife/mom and although many of my Mormon friends had the same rude awakening, I think many of my non-Mormon friend had the same realization because they made being a Sahm their only goal/identity and got married too young (plus their own mothers didn’t help guide them). Although, to be fair some of my friends who got married young are still in strong marriages. But even though I wanted to be a sahm, I got my BS and doctorate and waited until I found the right guy in my late 30s.
@@caseymcdonald2239 I have many Mormon friends and have known many families over the years. Never met one I didn't like. My granddaughter's first caregiver was a neighbor down the street who was absolutely wonderful with her! My Mormon friends all seem to be happily married (not that I have the total picture but our view is based on our experience) and have interests and many have jobs outside of the home. None of them are from Utah so I wonder if that makes a difference? One of my friends was suddenly dumped by her fiance' so she moved to Utah, met a new guy, and now is happily married. She was certainly no young bride. As a non-Mormon Christian, I also wanted nothing more than to get married, have kids, and be a mom and homemaker. That was my dream job and I got it. We are celebrating our 57th anniversary in 2 weeks. I know, I am one of the lucky ones. That did not happen for everyone.
@@caseymcdonald2239 this is what I'm sorta worried about. I'm getting an education for my own independence but I also found my life partner and we both have the conservative family oriented lifestyle and we know exactly what we want. But what if I'm too young? It's difficult. But it's what I want
Great video, thank you so much for exposing this! The internet needs to hear this side of the story! I'm 48 and have lived close to a "Trad Wife" lifestyle since the early 2000s. Thankfully, I didn't have the unrealistic expectations of social media to influence me, but even then, after my first baby was born it was a HUGE shock. Taking good care of just one little human (on your own) is an insane amount of work and incredibly exhausting. Add multiple little ones and you're in big trouble 🤣 So I agree with you, these videos are LAUGHABLE and COMPLETELY UNREALISTIC! There is LITERALLY NO WAY an ordinary housewife & mother can do these things. If you've got no kids, it's definitely possible. Otherwise it's a complete joke. I feel sorry for those who fall for this BS. Real life mothering is HARD. That's why we honour mothers so much. Realistically, when your kid wakes up sick, even if you DO have all the ingredients and moulds to make lozenges, I can tell you, you're NOT going to be making lozenges today, or maybe not even this week or this year (or this decade in my case 😅). Unless you have a nanny. And even then, do you want your poor child to suffer for hours while you make them? No you don't. Having said those things, one point you've missed is that if you're really into making things from scratch, which has been one of my passions for the last 30 years, you probably DO have all the ingredients and lozenge moulds in the house 👏 The bubble gum is even possible, but it's a bit of a coincidence that her sister was mysteriously "craving" gum when she lives in a modern society and there's gum at a shop on every street corner 🤔 PS, I can't stand the voice of that first influencer you showed! I don't think her voice is calming, I think it's boring and bland. She sounds like an extremely uninteresting person. I'm glad I've never wasted any of my life watching her videos, and now I know who she is, you've saved me from that ugly fate in the future.. Thanks! 👏🙏✨ With love from Aotearoa, New Zealand 💚🇳🇿
This just feels like you fall for rage bait frequently or are just missing the obvious joke of “I didn’t have this item so I casually spent hours making it” that Nara Smith has in every single video. It’s a clear running joke.
@@user-du7if7xq3k I'm reply to THIS video and Hannah's commentary, not to those idiotic tiktokers. So thanks for your judgement, but I'm definitely not falling for rage bait 😂 I couldn't care less if those fools were being serious or comedic, mostly because I've never watched any of their BS content in my life, and don't intend to. I'm too old to waste my life on pointless shit, which is why i don't have tiktok 😅 I'm commenting for all the people who do watch those clips and are influenced, and therefore feel insecure or worthless, because of the idiotic content they produce. Thanks for listening 😂
I am a dad to small children and I have ginger, lemon, and honey in the house for when the kids get a cough at night. What I do not have is cough drop molds, a camera, a tripod, and ready outfit for when I create a concoction for them
Urgg thank you for this distinction! These women undermine the one thing that housewives have been trying to prove for generations: that being a housewife is hard work, its unglamourous, often thankless, its tiring, its a sacrifice. But they portray it like some leisure activity. People have it the wrong way around. They don't undermine feminism because they choose to be traditional housewives, feminism should embrace that choice. Rather, they undermine women's value by delegitimizing the work of actual housewives, and profiting off their feelings of inadequecy.
One, it’s not crazy for a woman to want to look good while they do work at home. And two if someone makes you feel bad about yourself because maybe they’re doing something differently or better than you, that’s a you problem. And them putting all of these things online are fantastic, millions of women are learning skills that they never would have learned without these types of videos. Mostly because the feminist movement lost so many arts, that our grandmothers and great grandmothers knew how to do. Of course, we know that it’s not realistic to have no children running around in the background. But I also wouldn’t watch a Video if I wanted to learn how to make cereal if she had her three children, screaming, bloody murder, and throwing toys around in the background.
why the fuck would they seek psychiatric help when they're just speaking their opinion about it? It's not like their telling you that either, right? Of course you can enjoy this type of content, absolutely. But someone has to warn everyone because sometimes, People can be DUMB.
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The voice that's used by most tradwife content creators sounds so fake and freaks me out. It doesn't sound like a genuine loving mother.
No
People like this make me glad I'm not on social media. I love Hannah, but I, for the life of me, had to stop the video. I can't spare any time for those women to dumb me down with their foolishness. Keep fighting the good fight for those who engage willingly.
@@lilessab85RUclips is social media.
That's right it's a job
My toddler woke up suddenly sick this morning, and I had a tripod and camera set up ready for no reason.
Have you seen the videos of people filming themselves "napping"
As you do
I hope you rose to the occasion and put on a full face of glam makeup, dressed up in your favourite ball gown and gloves and spent 2-6 hours to scratch make cough drops.
@@missfigs5255 Best comment!
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My toddler woke up sick and was all shivery so went to the stable, sheared a sheep, spun the wool and knitted my poor baby a jumper. When finished he was 7 years old
Omg 😂😂😂
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LMAO 😂
I had a sudden urge to end that the way Ricky Gervais would....
And by the time I finished the jumper he was dead. 😂
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There's a joke he says about he's decided to now become "woke". He's got so trolled for not being woke so he's given in.
He says, take for example the word handicapped... that's no longer acceptable, you should say disabled.
So one day he's at the beach, and he's still being woke. A woman runs up to him and says, help please, my handicapped toddler is drowning. He says, whoa whoa whoa, hang on a minute, don't you mean your _Disabled_ toddler? She says, well yeah, same thing. He says, no, they are not the same, you should say disabled. So he turns to look at the sea, toddler.....floating.....dead.
And he says to the audience, that's what happens when you waste time being woke. 🤣
Your comment reminded me of that. 😅
My son asked me to make him an apple pie, but we didn’t have apples at home and I decided to plant an apple tree in our yard
😂
Then I waited for the tree to grow and bare fruit and I walked threw my apple orchard barefoot in a white linen dress with eyelet handkerchief in my hair and my hand loomed basket, and picked the apples while the sun shined upon my thin, beautiful, natural makeup touched face. Then I skipped joyfully back to the house.
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Being a stay at home mom was a necessity for me at one point in my life. And I lasted about 9months before I was like....mmm I think it's time I go back to school so I can get a better job, and back to work. 😂😂
Stay at home moms are built different. 💪 I couldn't do it full-time. Being a working mom is not easy either because it's like having 2 jobs, especially if you're a single parent. But these tradwives are just promoting a lifestyle that is not real or attainable to most women. And it's dangerous when paired with toxic religious doctrine and misogynistic husbands.
"Honey, your apple pie will be ready in three years, just be patient please."
You should also plant an apricot and plum tree. You could make jam.
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“My toddler woke up craving oxygen, but I don’t usually keep that in the air in our house, so I filled a pot with water and removed two hydrogen atoms from each molecule”
Dont forget to keep an eye on your toddler while he turning blue
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@@ivyhays3478😂😂😂😂😂
love it 🤣
That's so good!
"It's their job to pretend that they don't have a job," is the best summary of the trad-wife trend.
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That and that they are wealthy somehow
And they are privileged to pretend like that… majority of them are rich 😂
I actually am a SAHM. I homeschool my kids while also handling a baby.
Almost nothing I've seen on tiktok or RUclips is what actually goes on in my home. 💀
I don't think it's bad to aspire to be that put-together all the time, but it's never going to actually look like that.
Excellent comment.
Crazy there's no children bothering her, hanging on her, shoving themselves between her and the counter, saying I'm hungry 100 times. Because someone else is caring for them right now. Not her. It's not real.
They already had breakfast lol
@@toomanymarys7355 They have nanny lol and house servants to do all the work in the house. Lol
@@toomanymarys7355 even when mine already ate I still have at least one of my 4 under foot lol
I feel like Nara has made it known that lucky does his part in the relationship so more than likely he could be watching their kids. I don't view her content as trying to be a tradwife
Every time I cook my daughter wants to help then she needs her but wiped because she had to poop😂😂
The danger is when MEN think their wives are supposed to be this way, not the wives.
Good point.
Yep.
They think we have so much time on our hands because we are home😅
That's the saddest part... This pretend played by women will only harm women
Recently found out that the first woman shown her husband has a child with another woman before her. Not very traditional huh? 😂😂😂
I heard someone say once that social media is just poor people pretending to be rich and rich people pretending to be poor and it really stuck with me!!!
My husband always say this to me. He doesn’t consume social media but when I mention some of these women he always say it’s all made up.
Nara is amazing though. She's not really a spoof account but she just full fun really. It's not serious.
Genuine question - which rich people are pretending to be poor. I generally only see it the other way around.
@@clairefletcher573Ballerina Farms creators are very rich and tired to portray themselves as poor farmers.
@@unprocessed_lifeI’ve never heard of her, I’m not on socials and don’t seek that kind of content out. Is it satire? It seems so over the top fake that it seems like satire .
Imagine asking your mom for a cough drop while you're sick & then waiting 3-5 business days for your mom to make you a cough drop while you hack your lungs out.
🤣 😂 🤣
Not business days 😂😂😂
While being a toddler that you probably shouldn't even give a cough drop to because of choking hazard...
That was too my exact thought, and I don’t even have kids!
All you want is relief and she’s waiting on Amazon to complete her supplies order to get to your request
What’s so bizarre is that I’ve been a housewife for 26 years. Raising kids, baking bread, cleaning house, taking care of animals… we don’t have time to video ourselves, and dressing in those frilly outfits? What? 😂😂😂
Finally someone saying it like it is
I agree been a housewife for 17 years and I agree! With a very curious 16 month old , cleaning, and other things to do I don’t even have a min to write this 😂. I have disheveled hair( running around and this muggy weather 😂) and wearing “non traditional frilly “ little house on the prairie attire.
😂GUUURL leave those sick-crying babies right where they lay stat! You must set the lighting and sit for glam before muddling the lavender!!😫🤯
They give the real ones a bad name. Everyday home-makers just go about doing their thing.
The outfits and make up make it so fake
"Cosplaying" is the most accurate word for tradwives I have heard so far 😂
They are not doing it even right. The blonde one casually seduces the audience by firmly showing a little bit of chest.. aren't you supposed to be traditional lol? That's not very trad of you. But of course she is doing that-the real face of the traditional women won't sell.
I think everyone is aware that a tradwife doesn't put on a party dress to cook without an apron.
I agree. I would also add 'fetishizing' as an additional descriptor for tradwives.
@@Laure__Linebased on the comments on tradwife videos, it really doesn’t sound like it. You’re giving people who follow that type of content seriously way too much credit.
@@DivideThatBy9PleaseThis too. The amount of men who look at this content and yearn for this type of wife, knowing full well that this is extremely unrealistic.
As a father to a wonderful teen daughter, it can be scary to see the type of “women/girls/females “ that my daughter has as role models or influences. But upon coming across your videos, hope has returned and my faith in humanity is slowly being restored seeing that there are women like YOU that my daughter can take inspiration from to help mold her into a wonderful lady. Keep up the good work, I’m positive that you give a lot of hope other parents raising little girls. Thank you.
YES 💯
How can a toddler request Corn Flakes if she doesn't buy Corn Flakes and therefore, presumably, the toddler doesn't know what Corn Flakes is?
Maybe she made it for them previously and they wanted it again?
Because they don’t live under a rock and the toddler had somehow a chance to eat some or maybe she made some before?
kind of disagree with some of these comments. nara smith has said she struggles with eczema and that she makes most of her food from scratch which is where her videos started taking off. then, i think she started to make “satire” commentary about how she makes them cornflakes or cheetos from scratch. do i think it is a damaging influence for other moms to see this and compare themselves to them? yes, especially in this economy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to live with two kids if both parents arent working (and dont even get me started on single parents).
i do think naras content is damaging in the way that she portrays that she makes all of her food from scratch. i just think trad wife culture itself is horrendous so.
@@cakielovesyouuThen they shouldn’t watch her. If her content is damaging to some and if they can’t help but to compare themselves to her then they should learn to swipe away. No one is forcing you to watch anything. She is merely an entertainer/content creator, that’s her job. She is not trying to be realistic or telling women how to live their life or to make anything from scratch, she is just showing what she loves to do with HER life and you have the freedom to look away. She has said many times that cooking is her love language and she just wants to share that. These women also have the choice to follow creators that are more realistic to them and aren’t millionaire models.
@@wandooayabam1406 thats not what im saying? trad wife content is pushing the narrative that woman need to do 10000 things at once to be considered attractive or “wife-material”. and this is coming after we just made it out of the trenches.
i think nara is a good person but trad wife content in particular is bad. and as a content creator, her job is to produce content that actually has a meaning/purpose. like i said, she started with normal content until she gained traction for making stuff from scratch. so, she continued to do that. i think her videos are just normal cooking videos with a satire commentary with it.
AND, i didnt say anything about nara doing any of that. i said trad wife content makes people want to be able to do that
Today my toddler said he wants to be an astronaut but I don't usually keep spaceships around the house so I immediately got my aerospace engeneering degree and using all this parts I had in my garage laying around for no reason I built him this amazing spaceship. And I didn't even dirty my hands. What do you mean you BUY cereal from the store???
Comment of the year
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I know you're joking, but Stockton Rush of OceanGate told his parents he was interested in space and they literally paid for an astronaut to talk to him about his career aspirations and give him advice.
@@elizabethschreiter1127 That makes a lot more sense than making corn flakes by hand. Although a visit to a planetarium would probably have been sufficient for most of us.
My 21 year old daughter, who will have her own daughter in September, saw the focaccia video and said “I feel like I’m going to fail as a mom, because that won’t be happening”. I told her, and I’d like all young mothers to know that your job as mom is to love your baby, feed it, and keep it alive. Teach your child to be a good human. That is what you should be doing.
@@kristinaarends7104 that is all.
That is absolute non sense!! What makes you a « good mom »? Making focaccia or bonding with your newborn… at 10 days postpartum, your job is to take care of your newborn and yourself while you are recovering from labor… Not having people take care of your newborn while you « perform » in front of a camera. This type of content makes me mad because it is a very distorted view of what motherhood really is or should be…
@@karinecoulombe2560Seems realistic to me. I know many mom's that after giving birth go straight to work or drive hours even when bleeding from their stomachs. All I'm saying is that walking to your kitchen to cook something from scratch and post it online seems pretty reasonable and not that hard to do if your rich. If people feel bad watching her because they aren't rich or have people helping them they should stop. Some people are just a little more mentally sensitive than others.
@@Jane-re1ku mom's shouldn't have to drive to work bleeding hours after giving birth. that is absolutely ridiculous and should NOT be normalised. and any woman who's willing to do that is either not in her right mind or under a lot of unfair economic/work obligations. which is a product of sexism. pregnancy and birth should be accomodated by workplaces.
and these women are promoting false advertisement. if we saw the nannies taking care of their children and their cooks making dinner while they prep their cameras, people's reactions would be much different. the implication isn't that they're having fun 'performing housewivery', the implication is that they're the real deal and that if other women were just as fit, friendly and feminine as them they could have the same lifestyle. it's a lie, and that's insidious. of course people need to be aware that most things online aren't real and learn to be cautious/not so easily affected, but that's ankther issue.
@@Jane-re1ku oh stfu u would know only if u had a mom or wife who was a homemakers or u r one otherwise not.
It is not at all realistic even if she's rich
It's so obvious she's not dojng all that herself and has a whole ass cre behind her
Your content should be required for anyone who watches TikTok. The education you give on social media is so valuable and eye opening.
My son woke up this morning & was demanding pizza so I warmed up a hot pocket in the microwave & told him to stop whining.
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😂😂 now this is real life
Now that is content I can relate to
Now thats.. a mom😂
That was me when I was a kid lol
"Cosplaying homemakers" is the best description I've heard of what they're doing.
I would call it Homemaker Porn.
Except it insults cosplayers. We know reality and we are not trying to tell the internet we ARE the character we wear the costume of. These women are equally in costume but pretending otherwise. The dishonesty they display in this is not found in cosplay.
I'd say it's more that they are "playing house" like little kids, but that probably would insult the kids....
The problem is when men believe this content to be true and achievable for women.. and feel their partners are not doing enough
so true, you see it in every comment section
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@@2mYgR that's irrelevant to this video and has no value in relation to it.
Honestly I think that's the point of these social media agendas... not to go all conspiracy theory but it's giving "destruction of healthy relationships" by setting this up as somehow being how you "should" live your life and if you're not up to this standard then somehow your inadequate and your spouse begins to resent you for it. It's simply not realistic 😅
sadly true
These influencers are hurting women in so many ways. I feel so sad for the poor women who believe them. And to think that these many young women will find themselves married to men who see these “trad wives” and think women are work horses, who should be doing all of those things without any help and resources .🤦🏽♀️
My toddler woke up with a cough and I had the good sense not to give him a cough drop because I knew it was a choking hazard.
Hahahahaha 😂 Yes!!!!
Mom observation here.
This! I was thinking the same thing the whole time, do NOT give a cough drop to a toddler! I would have zero problem with those videos if they didn't start with those ridiculous premises. Like my toddlers wanted corn flakes but I don't keep them in the house. Then why are your kids asking for them?? If they're never in the house why do the kids even think that's an option?? It's so clearly made up.
😊 my thought exactly
THIS!!!! thank you
Ok but who is giving a toddler a cough drop? Isn't that a choking hazard?
Yes, it is
They were gummies
And you would never give them an actual couch drop... But they do make gummies for kiddos ❤
@@pettykittyfamGummies are a known choking hazard until close to age 5, much like popcorn, whole nuts, etc.
feeding them anything like that, gummies, cough drops, and even uncut grapes are choking hazards. She honestly sounded like the one who needed the cough drops, judging by her voice.
@@pettykittyfamWrong. She said the honey reached its crack stage. That’s how you test hard candies to make sure they’re ready to pour.
In order to make gummy candy, she would have to have used gelatin - which she did not.
Your TODDLER asked you for a cereal you don’t keep in the house? Where would they have gotten the notion to ask you for something you’ve never given them? 🤣
That part lololol
Good point 😅
The iPad you don't see on screen 😂
Yes with the common sense 😁
I dont care if you're hungry right now, please kindly wait 2 hrs so i can make these. haha
My mother was a true "Trad wife" in the 50's and 60's. She did not make our own cornflakes or cough drops. She certainly did not look or dress like Nara or Estee or Hannah. Mom was a trad wife not by choice. Looking back, she was miserable. Money was a constant worry. My dad was a good dad and I believe a good husband, but he was very traditional. He did not know how to run the washing machine or where the vacuum was kept. She screamed and cried a bit of the day. Mom's idea of looking pretty for my dad was combing her hair and putting on lipstick.
My sister and I both have careers, mine in nursing and hers in law. We had a choice. We also are wives and mothers. We were also told to learn how to earn our own living.
That is what I believe is the true reality.
I am sorry but “traditional” is very polite word for abuse and keeping your mom like prisoner.
@@pavlinahrebackova3000You sound ignorant. Let me guess you still live with your parents?
@@pavlinahrebackova3000 it doesn't have to be. There is traditional good and traditional bad. All traditional households weren't abusive or controlling. Neither are they today. I wish more people seen this.
@@punkstermom1984 I am reacting to the specifics situation a d comment, not hypothetical.
@@pavlinahrebackova3000 it didn't sound like from the original comment that the dad was at all abusive or anything to me. Of course we don't know since we weren't there for sure and this person is giving information to the best of their knowledge. Perhaps a bit old school not knowing how to run appliances but that can still be found today. I have two male cousins that have no idea how to run a washer or dryer. Their mom done it for them and then they got married but then their wives have done it ever since. They are both hard-working young men. They both love their children endlessly and will protect them with their lives. And they adore their wives. They were just never taught to do these things and their wives just picked up the torch and kept going that way. They are in no way abusive. Just very old school traditional. 🤷♀️ So it could be like this too. But on that note if she wanted out of the house and wasn't allowed then I agree that this would be controlling behavior at minimum and not respectable on the husband's behalf. Hopefully he was just old school and slightly ignorant of how to handle his wife and nothing more we can hope. But I guess I was just referring to the general sense of the word "traditional" not being equal to abuse. Like for instance we have a traditional household (my husband and I) but I want to be the stay home wife and mother and he is the sole breadwinner. He doesn't do much domestics (he can though and will help if I ask) but he handles all of the vehicles, repairs, property maintenance, etc. while I handle most cooking, cleaning, childcare, gardening, canning, etc. but we are both happy in our traditional roles so that's where I was mentioning that traditional can be an amazing and wonderful thing if carried out by two consenting spouses. 😉
The soft “influencer voice” is worse than nails on a chalkboard.
Nara’s voice is so boring 🥱
That along with modern aesthetics being all white, black, and grey makes for a very boring experience branded as "soothing."
Oh god yes! It's boring to death and somehow making me aggressive at the same time. 🫠🤮
Yes! It’s soooo fake you can tell that they’re forcing it. Nobody talks like that in real life.
Thank you! I was thinking the same thing 😅
What these influencers don’t show you is the amount of support they have behind the scenes.
They have assistants, house cleaners, groundskeepers, and even NIGHT NURSES.
Kids or not, No one can do it all at once every single day.
They're influencers not celebrities. Lol. Im sure the only support they get is from family.
@@s.r6331 if you’re making at least $100k a year you can def hire all the support you need.
Also a nanny. The rich ones aren’t even the ones taking care of their kids cause the rich don’t do that
@@s.r6331 You would be surprised. Some influencers do surpass most celebrity's net worth. So, they can definitely afford to pay such services.
@@s.r6331 if you’re making at least $100k a month you can def pay for $40k/yearly assistant, $50k/yearly nanny, etc.
"they aren't traditional wives, they are performers" LOVE THAT SENTANCE, SO SO SO ON POINT
I really appreciate how well thought your content is, and your consistent call to think critically! Also appreciated the disclaimer that these influencers aren't "bad", but that they should not be impacting how regular middle class moms and housewives should view themselves. Very honest, balanced, and timely content. Good job!
The fact that we need to remind ppl that this is not real is what actually gets me.
I'm pretty sure most people are very aware that they are actors. This is just entertainment. Then again, there are still people that think TV is real, but those are the exception. Feeling bad that your life isn't like that is no different then wishing you were Ironman. You outgrow it.
Same!
For example I don't understand why people get worked up for the first woman making those cough drops when it's obviously a fabricated story around those drops. Isn't it obvious that no one would do what she did in real life or at least not in these circumstances?
Also if I'm not wrong she's not calling herself a trad wife. She just loves cooking and tries her best to sell her videos by giving everything a background story.
I think it's a lot of jealousy and no media competence. I think a lot of people only see something they kind of envy and lose the ability to think critically.
Social media has made people lose their minds. "I saw it online, it must be true!" Of course that handsome soldier is in love with me, let me send him some gift cards. "He must be real, I saw his picture!"
@@B.H.56 Have you personally seen this behavior? Or just believe it because you hear people complain about it on social media. I only ask because while I've heard this many times, I have never actually met anyone that behaves that way.
@msSweeTae you're joking right? People don't dislike it because they're jealous, they dislike it because it's disingenuous and preys on the ignorant. Her comment sections are proof that people absolutely believe it. 12:56
The dress of the lady in the first video costs $3000...Imagine cooking in a dress worth more than the average person's rent
And without an apron. I'm shivering thinking about it. Imagine the cleaning up process. At least kimono mom, although dolled up still wearing an apron.
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Right? I wear an apron over PJs when doing the dishes. I can't imagine wearing a dress worth more than my entire wardrobe without even an apron
That's double my fucking *mortgage*
That's twice my monthly income
People, please please please learn this once and for all: the BEST way to protest against these phonies is to STOP watching their content. Don’t give them the views, PERIOD.
I've never watched any of them!
True! Ban those internet trash!
The old adage, “Don’t feed the trolls,” comes to mind. In a way these tradwives are trolling us all, pretending to be something nobody in the real world can be.
The problem is that you can't tell teens and preteens that. They WILL form their worldview based on all of it
I straight-up REFUSE to watch tradwife content. It is so unrealistic and it is detrimental to the younger generation of women to portray this tradwife lifestyle, because it makes you feel bad when you can't achieve what they are portraying as gracefully as they are portraying. Reminds me of old 50s & 60s commercial advertisements, especially home appliances. You know, where the tradwife is dressed up like that Estee Williams meeting her husband at the door with slippers and a cocktail, then having the dinner table set and dinner served within moments of the husband walking thru the door. They're fakers and I don't like it. I don't like the ideology behind it. It influences ppl like that football player to make speeches discouraging women from pursuing anything other than a homemaker lifestyle. Which is fine for some, but there are a lot of ppl out there that have absolutely no business having children. As a pioneer of the opposition of tradwife ideology, I have been thru it. I still go thru it. I'm still made to feel bad because I didn't breed. Recently, my very own father said to me, "so my line ends with you." Which was a direct comment to me stating that No, I was not going to pursue fertility treatments to have a child because I'm beyond the "breeding" years for a human woman, and my childless husband is fine with that. I could really go on about how I married pretty much out of HS, how I was almost forced into having children by my 1st husband thru sabotage, etc, but it would be a novel. Just know that I've been thru it, and I totally disagree with the archaic ideological traditions that are being forced upon us, women, today. Personally, I will fight with tooth & nail to prevent us from every reverting back to that dead-end lifestyle for women.
Hannah your take was like my mom therapy for today. Thank you for your realism in this fake world that I find myself weirdly navigating. ❤
I'm an authentic, modern housewife, and I just ate ravioli out of a can using a plastic fork. Regrets? Zero. 😂
Dishes, zero either! Win win! ❤
I like the term “modern” 😂
That's good stuff. Been there, eaten that.
children love Mac and cheese and I know for a fact real busy moms aren’t about to make Mac and cheese from scratch😂
That’s disgusting and you do look like someone to do that
Getting dolled up and cooking that complex of a meal 10 days postpartum is absolutely psychotic and the fact ppl think it’s aesthetic or should be standard is concerning.
Idk... I know a few women who give birth and the next day or so took a walk or re-organized the house to "get the circulation going". They genuinely terrify me....
It's pretty insane to be sure. I was proud I made some rice pudding like a week or two postpartum bc I had a craving.
When you just give birth you do t want to do anything of the sort they are crazy
I’m a years post partum and currently pregnant again and still don’t fill up for any reason.
(For context, though, I LOVE cooking and have been doing it for decades, it's very second nature for me. Even so, the level of spaced-out exhaustion and pain you can get postpartum makes even "easy" things harder)
My toddler is sick…. Let me slip in a cocktail dress and do my hair and makeup like I’m about to walk at the Met gala
My toddler is sick... let me completely ignore him for several hours so I can make a social media video.
@@peachcookie6624ha keep telling yourself that. She didn't learn all that shit sarcastically 😂 she's making money, that's why she's doing it. She's clearly the breadwinner in that family yet pretending she's not
It would have taken less time to just go to the store and get medicine or have child see PCP. I don't get how this is a flex.
It would have taken less time to just go to the store and get medicine or have child see PCP. I don't get how this is a flex.
Exactly… and instead of comforting him like any child would need. I’m gonna take an 1-4 hours out of my day do hair and makeup and film a video.
I know I’m a little late to the vid, but I appreciate that you still are kind about other influencers “life”. Acknowledging the fact that it is work, but it most definitely is NOT reality. Anyone who’s momming really hard as a real traditional wife is not wearing the perfect clean clothes. Most are not really that wealthy.
You spend 2 hours making cereal from scratch for your toddler. Only to have him say, “No, I don’t want that. I want eggs!” after it’s done.
All these mom who make yogurt from scratch kids are always yelling in the back “YOGURT AGAIN!!” lol 😂
This, I’m like, and her kids eat everything she makes?
@@Dominique20 to be fair, making yogurt from scratch is a process that you start about 24 hours before you actually WANT the yogurt, it doesn't just get whipped up. (It's also pretty easy if you have an InstantPot. I go through phases when I do it, but currently I am in my 'cannot be bothered' phase.)
Better get to it and get that baby chick now! 😂
Trad wife = trad spoon
Meanwhile, the lower income mothers doing videos of their meal prep get nothing but hate for not making everything from scratch.
Yeah there was a mother and she got called the worst mother ever (and worse) when she made food for her kids. She lives off the food bank and people complained she didn't pick healthy food, i had a "aunt" who had to live off the food bank for a while, most food banks won't let you choose your food they just get a small portion from the supermarket to give to people, you are happy that you have food so that you can feed your children (and one of the children has sensory issues so they have difficulties with certain foods).
It’s because she has pretty privilege
Exactly because a lot people are costumed to seeing those videos and are too ignorant to realize those videos are an act
Omg I hate how much lower income mothers get hated on! Mama C used to get so much hate for filming her cooking videos while her (I believe ex) husband watched their kids yet her meals were both creative and realistic for the average person.
There was a mom on tiktok who owned a trailer home and she showed the gifts she bought for her kids for Christmas (which totaled to $20 I believe) and you'd think she burned her children alive. People called her irresponsible for buying those gifts instead of saving it (because obviously lower income children don't deserve gifts 😤) and it got me so heated. Was 1000000% an overreaction on the internets part and it's disgusting because lower income mothers are the most creative people I've seen and as a childless person, I find their content more helpful. Like who cares about making homemade mozarella? I wanna see how people provide for their families with a budget of $35/week.
THIS!
"My toddler woke up sick, so I left him alone for 9 hours to make him a homemade cough drops."
This 😂😂😂
But makup, hair and dress first!
And then he choked on them because toddlers are not supposed to be given hard candy as they are a choking hazard 😮
@@MCGCummings My child is dying so I'm going to make a dinner so my husband have something to eat after the funeral.
@@MCGCummingsI couldn't stop thinking about that.
This is my favourite video because you didnt hesitate to say what needed to be said. I love you for that.
My 8 year old wanted to go swimming so I ordered 30 bags of concrete. While waiting for those to arrive I grabbed my shovel and started digging.
Lol
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 you made my tea come out my nose
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Twist: is the son still alive? Was the concrete for his dead body?
They call themselves “trad wives” while working and people seem so fooled by it.
This
They work a lot 😂
50s housewives usually gave their small children so morphine or something to knock them out all day so they could housework without having to stop to take care of them,
With a whole camera crew director, deal handlers, accountants, lawyers,
@@middleagebrotips3454Assistants, Editors, social media managers as well
No one gives toddlers cough drops. It’s a choking hazard.
very true!
Not to mention, taking the elderberry syrup on its own would be way better for you if it is something you had on hand. Why bother making the cough drop for anyone in the family who is sick?
Omg, thank you!
SHE wouldn't know, I bet she has AT LEAST one nanny, maybe a few
@@telise8730 I made cough drops because my kids don’t take any syrup . They are too young to eat them so I melt them in warm milk
Girl just found you today. And soooo glad I did! This series is so absolutely needed in our current times with social media. And showing the reality of it. You’re beautiful 💕
What I hate about it are the men that see this and expect their wives to be exactly like this. Men like my ex-husband. When I became a stay at home mom he expected perfection. He would compare me to women like this, women with nannies, and maids and expected the same. That's not reality. I am so glad I got out of that marriage and now have a husband who truly gets it and is grateful and wonderful about all I do.
I got divorced before having children because my husband expected perfection despite me working over double the hours he did. He called me lazy, and then demanded we have children. I got out so fast after that. There was no way he was going to help me, and there's no way I'm going to subject myself or my future children to that kind of behavior. So glad you got out and found a real man who appreciates and values you
I totally understand you! When I was in maternity leave, my husband began to behave delusionally as he was the only provider of the house, and I was just "the stay at home mom". He even started to make important decisions without consulting me... Well, he's now an ex-husband...
I actually thought that most of her viewers are red pill men
Your ex is a loser and good for you getting out and getting your life. Not for nothing but if these men want perfection from their wives then SURELY they can provide the nannies, big bright state-of-the-art appliances & kitchens and luxury beauty budget, easy breezy, right? Oh wait.
@@aichabt8869ohhhhh good point! You’re probably right
I'm over 70. I used to see commercials when I was younger. Wife's in fancy house dresses and heels, running a sweeper or cooking a meal from scratch. As I stood there, with my toddler in a playpen, in Jean's and t shirt, waiting for nap time to go hang clothes outside. LOL.
God bless Betty Crocker!😁
You mean, this isn’t new?!?
Hey you were dressed, in my eyes that’s domestic goddess tier I’m usually in PJs
The difference is that if a tradwife gets a divorce, she is still a millionaire. But if a real house wife get a divorce, she will find herself broke, jobless, with no recent working experience, with lots of debts and expenses and with children to take care of. So, with 50% of marriages ending in a divorce, the fantasy ends there...
Spot on
My gosh that was dark. Also it’s not 50% of marriages… that stat is a few decades old and people just keep repeating it without actually knowing. It’s less and if religious it’s much less. Some reality thats positive for all the married people reading your comment 😬
If an already wealthy tradwife gets a divorce she is still a millionaire. There are older tradwives who are now divorced coming forward on social media to give the truth. Most tradwives are not independently wealthy and when the marriage ends, they end up with nothing.
it's still pretty close if I consider all of the weddings Ive gone to and who is still married....I would also venture to say that a decent percentage of people in a marriage arent happy either. Im 50 so Ive seen a lot of relationships at this point in my life
It's a dark thought, but honest and needs to be prepared for - 100% of relationships end in a break up or death. Ignoring thus is doing the family disservice.
My sister had a “craving” for gum, as if gum isn’t 5 minutes away available in every store. 😂😂😂
Would depend on where you live. I currently live 10 minutes from even a gas station but used to live 30 minutes from one. (Live in rural Iowa out in the country) So my answer would be "sorry, I don't have any gum" as I check through my purse and ask my teens if they happen to have any left 😂 I could possibly offer them a mint candy or a spearmint leave to chew on if they prefer 😂
Traditional wives aren't allowed to leave the house though.
@@michaelbugner7011 I suppose that would depend on the country of origin and those specific beliefs. In America they are. How do you think women bring home groceries silly? 😂 And surprise!!! We can go most other places too! 😱😂😉 Like I'm not talking the strip club and such but ya know... Normal places 😉 not sure why you think traditional wives can't leave the house 🤔
Or that she can't afford to have it delivered to her house!! Lol
Do these people understand that housewives in the 50s BOUGHT cereal and BOUGHT bread, jam, bubblegum, etc?
People did make things from scratch too, of course, but this idea that everything right down to the everyday staples were consistently homemade is just delusional. 🙄
To be fair all the women were on lithium back then. Maybe they were baking a ton lmao
For sure! Look at the ads from the era, it's all 'simplify your life! Look at this product of the future!' These people forgot the 1950s lifestyle was also trying to stomp out the horrors of World War II
Not only that it would’ve been cheaper on their tight family budgets!! Like sure hand making some items is cheaper but for a lot you’re spending more on raw materials especially back when the pricing for food was more fair!
Thank you! Even the poorest of the poor had to buy items and supplies! It amazes me people watch them and actually believe it!
People have this weird idea of what life was like in the 50s and 60s. Tons of women worked, especially black women. Traditionally, black women have worked.
The 50s and 60s also weren't ht best social time in the world .I wouldn't want to mimic anything from that time lmao
My toddler woke up sick this morning and, he puked on the sofa then the dog tried to eat it and while I was running to help my baby I kicked the table and broke my toe. The rest of the mornin I was cleaning up vomit and obsessively taking temperature and worrying and limping. That is the reality, I know I lived that life. Nobody is making homemade medicene while looking beautiful with sick kids
And two days later Mom is sick herself with killer-toddler germs and puking all over the place while still having 100% of her responsibilitys and a toddler who is well and active again... but I guess one could do that in a fancy gown, why not 😅😅😅
You just put my morning into perspective 😅 Good luck with the sick kiddo and broken toe
Also hard candy for a toddler = choking hazard!!
Ouch! I hope the little guy is OK with helping you feel better. Wishing you calm cuddles, and lots of ginger ale.
That's a whole different kind of content... real life! I can relate to all of it, I hope the toddler is feeling better and I'm so sorry about your toe.
Her toddler woke up coughing and the first thing to do is to put on a dress , put on some make up , do a nice hairstyle than make a cough sirup from scratch. That is total BS.
Don't forget setting up the tripod, camera, and lighting before even starting
Yeaaah !! That one is making it even worse @@imzabatch
Also who gives their toddlers a cough drop? Choking Hazard !
I was having a giggle at that too. First she spends 2 hours putting on an evening gown, full face make up and hair and then proceeds to spend make cough drops - not suitable for toddler - from the scratch. All the while the patient little one is sitting hands folded over knees on the white on white sofa.
When my toddlers woke up with a cough first thing I did was mutter some curse words because I knew my next weeks sleep was ruined.
No! She has ALL of that done wayyyy before her toddler woke up.
Just want to say you are so well spoken - it is a pleasure to listen to points on social media / marketing. I enjoy your attention to detail and social media effects on our mental health. You portray your opinion with class and facts. Great job at your role and being authentic!
My toddler woke up sick this morning so I decided to spend an hour making them an organic choking hazard.
Right? My mom used to just take like 5 minutes to make a cup of tea with a bunch of lemon and honey in it. But of course, you can't really link a bunch of obscure ingredients and supplies for that to make money off of. And if we had bad chest congestion, she'd put a bit of bourbon in it. It tasted awful but it would make you sleep and you always felt a lot better when you woke up. Helped loosen the phlegm in the chest.
But it's organic!
@@mommy2libras I was going to say the same thing. Just make some tea with honey and lemon. And, they won't even choke on it, lol. As long as they are over a year of course. You aren't supposed to give children under a year honey.
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I’m so glad somebody finally said it in a healthy way. There is no hate just a reminder to everyone that they should not compare themselves to a fantasy.
A fantasy indeed. Where are her kids when she is doing all this cooking?
@@MatMisha-MwI'm guessing they're asleep, because it's 1 a.m.
Oh! Or, she hired help.
I dated a guy for 3 years, I had to be the perfect girlfriend (hair and make up flawless, no body hair, no weight gain, etc.) Had to treat him like a king while I got nothing in return. I was so exhausted from being with him that I broke it off. I met my husband and married him 6 months within meeting, dating and engaged. 7 years later, he has seen me at my worst (4 babies, post natal depression, weight gain after kids, etc) and still looks at me with love and adoration. These trad wife video trends are quite unrealistic, it's equivalent to photoshopped magazines that young teens look up to causing them body image issues, except trad wife videos cause perfectly normal mothers feeling inadequate.
Precisely feeding off creating insecurity. Vampires.
Im glad u did
I’d also like to be w someone who sees me as a human
Yes girl. Exactly 💯
Good point
Truth
I've now watched 3 episodes of this series and in each one I really appreciate your message of "Be critical (I am taking this in the most neutral way possible because a lot of times people equate this word to judgemental or even to harrass others in their effort to be critical) and consume responsibly," because sometimes when people go deep into making points about this or that way a person is problematic it can lead to them more or less insinuating that by liking such media you (viewers) are problematic yourself. It can put people in the defensive and by doing that everyone loses, such viewers are gonna be less receptive to new information and the creator is getting negative engagement. Which by your own word all engagement is good engagement, but just on emotional level they are worse than the good engagements.
Anyway, thank you for making these videos, they're really nicely done! ❤
What’s also super meta is that the tradwife influencers while promoting a stay-at-home lifestyle (where the woman prioritizes her children and family) are actually being entrepreneurs and devoting all their time to their business lol
Nara has a talent agent, so she's definitely making money. If she didn't, said agency would have terminated her contract by now.
EXACTLY 😂 Playing in ERRBODY face!
Exactly!
👏 nailed it
Pyramid schemes!
i also think the depiction of trad wives online severely downplays the labour of motherhood, stay at home parents, and home making. it makes it seem like there’s so little work involved that stay at home mothers have time to spend hours making cough drops and bread which isn’t the case.
As a mom of 5 under 5 I make bread every morning or night depending, but I haven't bought bread since covid...learned to make it and never looked back. Save money and I know what goes in but making gum....thats extra
That was the final point in the video, at around 30:00
As a 60 yo mom of 4 and Grammie of 3, this is a DANGEROUS model for moms to envy. She’s portraying a stay at home mother that is non existent and built by social media. This is the homemakers version of supermodels. I stayed at home with my babies for 11 years, and some days I was fortunate to get dressed for the day before bedtime, especially because all 4 of my children were six years apart. She’s an actress, and I LOVE you for spotlighting the non-reality of this nonsense. It’s TOXIC, and it needs to stop
It is toxic, but sadly it's nothing new. I remember when I first had my kids, before the days of influencers, I'd get all these parenting magazines that would show you all these perfect moms with their perfect kids and would show you how to make all these perfect snacks, perfect crafts, their homes would be perfect, the kids rooms would be perfect. They would give me so much anxiety and make me feel bad, like I was doing something wrong. It took a while to realize that none of that was realistic. I feel like it's the same sort of thing going on here.
My Mom had four of us in 4 years- yes FOUR years! We also had a farm. There was NO glamour about it.
Yup and then men are going to be using these examples and be asking us why can’t we be like Nara Smith “If she can do it, why can’t you?”-Men
For all three of these examples I threw up a little in my mouth seeing the ridiculous “I just did this because I thought of it”. You thought, researched, planned, scripted, shot, edited, and re-recorded it to make some person not in a reality check world watch it and get your content upvoted by the algorithm. Why are we doing them that favor. Sad that they feed on it and make them super rich for lying . Ugh… just staaaap!
My mom 6 of us within 8 years and she had time to dress herself, us and make our hair into braids & also she was a full time employee. I don’t understand women that can’t even dress up. I watch little ones and I get dressed, make bed- dress kids and brush their hair.
I'm 49. 24 years ago I started working for internet companies. These were the days when you needed a team and around £200,000 (at least) a month to run the site. In my first job interview I was asked what I thought of the internet. I said it needed to be regulated ASAP because retro-regulation would be too complex once the genie is out of the bottle (I got the job). This trad wife nonsense is one thing that typifies what I meant - the negative impact of deceptive content on audiences and their mental health.
It's sad.
And it's only gwtting wirse as society becomes increasingly superficial and preoccupied with (false) appearances.
Only boycotting and avoiding certain accounts and channels will make a difference.
Trad wives: “I don’t believe in traditional medicine it’s poison”
Also trad wives: *have tons of lip fillers* 👁️ 👄 👁️
THIS LOL
Maybe her toddler asked for the lip filler
Lol the "science bad" trend is both stupid and extremely problematic. I use home remedies for many minor illnesses or discomfort, but I still take all my prescriptions when I need them.
My home remedies usually involve honey, teas, soup, and Vicks -- all of this I learned from my (boomer) mom as a kid. These are all very common household remedies around the world -- they are nothing special and usually cost a few bucks at the grocery store. It isn't glamorous like this person pretends they are.
It's complicated cause I want you call a traditional life. I tell my husband died anyway and I did a lot of what they're doing, but I had a time obviously and in my j's. I didn't do it in A. Full face makeup
bratz doll mouth lol
I’m a homemaker with 4 babies and love to cook from scratch, but yeah the number one thing that drives me nuts is when any influencer apparently has hours alone to cook, workout, etc, with lots of time where no one explains where the children are
I can’t even pee for 30 seconds without my kids yelling for me! (Funnily enough I am an adult woman but my son changed my name on here as well hahaha)
All while dressed to the 9s in full makeup and silk dresses lol
Facts! I'm alsoa homemaker with 3 young children, here I am right now replying while seeing in the corner of my eye the pile of cleaned clothes that need to be fold. I'm not perfect, I love having more time for my children but we also have our challenges and sooo much work to do around.
Thank you for being realistic! This! We do have time to take care and make ourselves look great but not extra 8 hours for filming editing and setting up cameras around the house 😅
The reality is you don't have to make "everything" sometimes buying produce from good sources is time saving and equally better
@@Timmybabim😂😂 sounds like mine
I'm SO tired of people saying, "you're just jealous," every time someone has a problem with something!
I'm definitely not jealous of these women. Who wants to spend all day making absolutely every morsel of food consumed in your home by scratch?? Not only do I not want to do that, I also don't want to spend hours a day pretending that I live that way.
IKR. Also "you're sexist" and "you're not as successful as her so you don't matter." As if privilege means we can't critique the wealthy.
I get wanting to be positive but these days you can't express any kind of dislike or distaste without being accused of “hating” or being jealous.
Or “you’re a hater!” What I hate is the fact that it’s all fake.
Some of these women are probelmatic but how is it fake from Nara? You guys clearly dont watch Nara's content. She never touts herself as a normak SAHM or a tradwife. She loves to cook and she has verbalized multiple times that she loves it, it is not expected of her, and her husband helps with cleaning and other things. Clearly they have money and help, her videos are literally about her passion of cooking.
THANK YOU for this video! I'm a SAHM, and all of the clips I've seen of these "tradwives" are obviously a crock of 💩. I promise you, literally NOBODY is getting dolled up in an expensive pristine dress and full face of makeup everyday doing this nonsense, not even them. It's obviously a total grift and so super fake. It's hard to watch without laughing. I didn't even know who this Nara lady was, so I guess that means I'm fortunate enough to be removed from this type of garbage. I used to be on Instagram, but I deleted it after a year and a half because I couldn't stand all the scammers, fake people, people trying to sell me crap, and creepy men.
I’m a traditional wife, like the old school tradition where mom does the kid stuff and the home keeping while dad is the provider and helps around the house doing the repairs and what not. This tiktok tradwife trend is NOT traditional wife or motherhood lol we are working our asses off from daylight to dark with messy hair and stained clothes. It’s hard, it’s thankless and it’s not this picturesque life these women portray. But I will say, while it’s hard, I am “rewarded” with excellent kids. They are kind funny and my favorite little people. The memories we make every day are both happy and stressful but I wouldn’t change it.
Does your man do anything else besides working and doing repairs lol? Like helping you out around the house and with the kids?
I congratulate you for finding what works for you and your family. It seems you chose this for yourself and didn't feel pressured to be someone you weren't.
@@Renee84repairs is helping around the house. I do the repairs; my husband does some of the kitchen cleaning.
@@toomanymarys7355 But unless their home is in complete disrepair and he comes home every night and continues working (like she does because work at home doesn't stop at 5pm), then he's not helping out very much. My parents split the evening work up. One did the dishes while the other gave us our baths. They both then sat down after everything was taken care of.
Agreed. I'm listening to this while I'm making cough syrup (yes, I have the ingredients on hand), food prepping, and juggling homeschool lessons with my 3 kids. It doesn't happen overnight, you learn and grow on the job, and you'll have days that bring immense joy and days that kick your trash. I think that is something we can experience in many jobs/roles. We should be so careful when looking to influencers/social media for how to live life because it is super curated, money-making content, and not how it is in real life. It is almost always performative.
The soft, calm voice that sounds unbothered and bored… really grinds my gears!
ME TOOOOO ! 😡I can’t stand listening to her
sounds like she either just woke up or didnt get any sleep for 5 days straight
@@annipsy2185 yes!!! 😅
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I thought I was the only one who hated her voice I can’t stand it honestly
To the woman making homemade bread 10 days postpartum: you can't fool the moms. We know. Under that full glam makeup and beautiful dress... is an adult diaper
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PREACH GIRL!!
And a nanny
Tbh I only wore a diaper for a few hours post birth. And most of the time I stopped bleeding within 5-7 days. I’m sure it’s not that way for most moms but all our bodies are different so different experiences are ok!!
As a full time nanny, THANK YOU for doing this series. I always want to ask who’s watching the kids when I see these vids. I am CERTAIN there’s a nanny (or a fleet of them) that’s keeping the crazies out of the kitchen while mom is filming. Not only is it misleading, but those nannies deserve recognition too!
I agree❤❤
Yep and one to pop off tot he shops to ensure the ingredients are ready to go heheh
Im a housewife with no kids and sometimes dog sit… just watching dogs I feel like I can’t do anything or cook from scratch which I actually do, but I highly doubt I’ll find the time to do so when I do have kids. Definitely a nanny or their parents watching their kids behind the scenes 😆 my husband is definitely too busy too watch them too. Shout out to nannies
yes!!!
Agreed abd thank you!❤🎉❤
I died at “my sister in law was craving bubble gum so bad.” I’ve never once in my life craved bubble gum so bad 😂
If my SIL said she was craving gum, I’d ask her to grab me a Diet Coke while she drives herself to the store to get some lol
I mean.. you’re not everyone. People having cravings for everything lol
I have..
The scenes at the end though… it all screamed fetish content to me!
@isabelle6632 yeah, no.
I'm always impressed by how well you explain your opinion, setting the limits of where you agree and disagree with each clip you show, and how carefully you pick your words, instead of falling on absolutes and easy clichés or "catchphrases" that would add shock value but take away from the message you wish to convey.
You are such a good communicator, I can't imagine how many hours it takes to write your scripts.
She is the best ❤
Almost academic.
The way she talks, too, is so clear and well-articulated. That educator background really shows!
I agree, I love Hannah's explanations. She is definitely a natural-born teacher. I love that she doesn't have to put anyone down to communicate the point.
She really is a good teacher fr ❤😂
Very true!
Thank you so much for showing us that we didn't fail as moms/housewives
As a full time house wife I feel absolutely insulted by these fake house wives trying to convince the masses that being a house wife is a breeze when it’s blood and sweat everyday to make sure that everything is clean and in order.
Oh it is. I am not even a housewife. I don't even have kids. I don't even work I am on SSI! But it's unbelievable how difficult it is to keep everything in order all the time. Someone at church years ago said " If you see a spotless home with kids in it..suspect child abuse". And this was a statement by a SAHM. I do see spotless homes that are not a lot of work but in those cases the homes are only used to sleep and watch TV in and the person is working all the time. In cases where the home is LIVED in...projects, cooking, art and crafts...etc. Nah..it's going to be a wreak.
I don't have children but I have a mother and believe me, most people know, and most real life people would laugh about this kind of content/believing this could be real for anyone.
No offense dude but how does it take a full day to make beds, do laundry, wash the dishes, and cook? That takes like 3 hours MAX
@@GooseCee Well yeah. Well what do you mean by "cook?" If you mean a full on meal prep for the month it takes days sometimes.
@@GooseCeeyeah, if you are doing those without kids.
It would be totally different if she presented the content like, “Have you ever wondered how to make cough drops at home? I have some time this morning so let’s give it a try.”
It’s the “I don’t keep traditional medicine/corn flakes/bubble gum in the house, but I sure wear a ball gown to make breakfast. This is totally normal.” False reality. It’s a performance presented as a candid reality.
It’s really just the lies I’m not cool with!
The ballgown 😂yes
I totally agree she could do the same type of content from a much more humble stance and it would be interesting. But all her content is pompous 😂 if she is really in the kitchen as much as she makes out her kids are not having their needs met by that mother. I make things from scratch sometimes and it takes hours.
RIGHT??? 😄
How does her toddler even know about corn flakes if she doesn’t keep it in the house?
As a mom of two toddlers, my kids were pissed because I went pee before handing them their (pre-made) breakfasts. I can't even imagine the riot that would ensue if I made them wait this long 😂
Seriously 😂 my kids are crawling up my leg if I’m in the kitchen trying to make them something
My toddler got upset because I didn’t get the memo that she only wanted melties and bananas for breakfast 😂
Waaaaaaaaait... You got to go to the toilet *without* supervision? 😲
This. ALL of this🤣
Maybe those babies are just props? Who says they have to be real?
Wearing a full on Prom Dress to make medicine for your sick kid is psychotic 😂
Any normal mom who has sick kids will understand that it's fake. When you have a sick kid, you don't think of doing your mom or taking a video of yourself. She is a scam yet people believe she is a real trad-wife
You probably shouldn't ever think about doing your mom..but whatever...@@merihseriz821
Now this is funny
Yesss 😂
What personally annoys me the most with the tradwife influencer are :
- the lies (like pretending they are spontaneously making cough drops from scratch after they toddler woke up sick)
- the "holier tha thou" attitude. The "I don't keep cereals in my house" clearly implies "because I think it's bad for kids", and so that they are better than you for cooking breakfast from scratch
- the fact that they pretend to be a stay at home mom while they actually are a work at home mom
And then what annoys me about the "trad wife movement" in general is that it says that this model is better than any others and that women should be this nurturing, submissive caricature. Like I am all for choice and if a woman truly wants to be a sahm without any external influence (spouse, society...etc) good for them ! I want to support them ! That is a lot of work too often underappreciated! But this shouldn't be a thing that they have to do or feel pressured to do ! Or feel less than if they don't go this route.
Also as a childfree woman by choice it irks me when any movement restrains a woman's role as a mother.
Motherhood can be a beautiful thing for those who want it !
And finally... It's sad that so much cooking content have all this layer of religion / lifestyle agenda etc.
Just make a cooking from scratch channel/ page. But the cooking is not their main content actually. It's like a commercial for a lifestyle filled with lies and false promises.
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That's right. They complain about feminists, but they kind of belittle other women for being providers and having their own careers, and that's ridiculous. Each woman lives the life she sees fit, but these tradwives feel better than other women who don't live like them
@@liviasantos3509 exactly! It's not "I like to live that way ", it's "that the way everyone should live their lives or else they are falling"
@@Lexouchan this is very annoying. I'm a Christian, but there are many who use the name of God to justify this lifestyle, even though the Bible doesn't speak just one standard of women, all the women mentioned in the Bible lived differently from the others.
But cereal is usually bad for you 😅
As a toddler mom, I am a firm believer that all parenting content on social media (with the exception of memes and humor) is useless and in many cases dangerous.
100% well stated
I believe all channel based of children in youtube should not be monetized
@@prachikalkar2493or better yet, content involving children should not be allowed. I think it's wrong to use kids for content and to make money off of that content when the children cannot consent. The kids will forever have their young lives on the internet for all to see. Children aren't capable of consenting to something that they don't understand the ramifications of. I've watched videos of some adorable kids and loved them but then think 'those videos shouldn't be on the internet!'
Samantha Ravndahl is my exception to this rule. Her content about having a child is 100% reality
Same! There is so much bad advice out there! The sad thing is desperate parents will cling to it (this has been me at times) while the influencer is just post whatever pops into their head.
first time I heard about you and first time I heard of someone posting videos about what I think in my head🎉❤thank you
“My toddler was sick and I still had time to do my full makeup and dress up before making his meds”😂😂😂
Dont judge others. Its a sin
@@Dontplaywiththat😂😂😂it’s an observation not a judgment
Exactly what I thought- When my toddler was sick I didnt even brush my hair in three days 😀
@@Dontplaywiththatobservation and critical thinking isn’t judgment. Also, sin isn’t real.
Also he is a toddler. I hope nobody would give hard cough lollies/sweets to a toddler. He could choke.
after seeing videos of these trad wives, i heard my uncle say to my aunt, "if these young women can do it effortlessly without even as much as a sigh of complaint, why are you nagging and asking for help all the time?" it seems videos like those of these trad-wife women help in invalidating the very real struggles of the average homemakers, perhaps making their deadbeat husbands more irritable and less understanding, and more quick to use their fists.
It is destroying relationships.
Yep 👏 they expect service with a smile, and god forbid you ask them to lift a finger
We shouldn't ignore the fact a lot those accounts are actually businesses, trying to guilt men and women into buying nasty products to try and get that magical perfect household. Want effortless beauty, cooking, cleaning, and relationships? Just buy this $60 mascara that burns your eyes!
These people are all just grifters and they are preying on the most vulnerable. I hope your aunt is safe.
This is a concern I have too! It also feeds into the red pill men who idolize women like this. So if the rest of us can’t do it (or don’t want to), there just must be something wrong with us 😵💫
Have her send him videos of strapping young men building things by hand, then sweetly ask him to build her a gazebo and a Japanese garden with a koi pond.
If my toddler woke up sick, I would be cuddling with a sick toddler, not making cough drops from scratch while my toddler suffers in another room for hours.
Hundred times this!
This was my thought too. Like he’s suffering so you what, just left him to himself and told him to stay out of the camera shot? More likely, his nanny was taking good care of him while mom made the content.
Ugh, but cuddling with the offspring means she actually has to touch them.
& you're not going to give your toddler hard candy/cough drops 🙄
I think we have to remind ourselves that this is a fabricated story to sell her video better. It wouldn't get that much engagement if she would just upload a video about mking those drops.
And that's why I think it's wasted energy to get worked up over something that's just a nice story like things you see in the TV.
First, I would like to say thank you... for combing through social media, conducting thoughtful research, and reporting on your findings in a comprehensive way, so that I may be aware of more and not have to spend any time on the platforms I find completely toxic.
Second, having personal experience in trying to find balance as a stay-at-home mom and homemaker over the last decade (a temporary arrangement because child care is too expensive) this topic triggers a whole menagerie of thoughts and feelings for me, and I "only" have two kids... I can't handle any more than that.
IRL- Without support from family, friends, or paid help... on a single income (without any side income or stashed away funds)... dealing with perpetual illnesses, sleep deprivation, depression, and the demand to somehow make things all fit / "work out" is effing hard, messy, and exhausting.
Tempered expectations, *forgiveness of self and circumstances, and the ability to creatively adapt when things are not ideal have been necessary... and I still need to figure my shh-tuff out.
*corrected misspelling
Kids are messy, cooking & baking is messy, gardening is messy...and yet these trad wives are always perfectly clean not a single stain on their clothes
OCD person here. My kids were not messy. Home training. Cooking and baking is not messy either because one is careful and clean as you go.
@@levanahyll5884So what? Get your trophy for that.
sponsored social media videos are curated just like TV adverts even this video is curated...hope this helps!
With perfect makeup, hair, and dressed in clean “fancy” clothes.
@@levanahyll5884 my sister is ocd and things can still get messy at times. Not sure how any of that correlates.
I’m an actual “trad wife” dude…. I never look like a 10 around my own home. I’m a solid 5 on a good day. I’m covered in baby puke, my hair is a mess, we are having leftovers for dinner. I try to do homemade food but sometimes babies don’t permit a whole homemade thing. Easiest meals to make from scratch are soups and roasts. Sometimes I don’t always get to the dishes or the laundry. My husband doesn’t always come home to a neat home and a put together wife. What he does come home to is a loving wife and babies who are fed and adore him! He is the love of my life. I’m not his slave. We are partners who both have extremely important jobs ❤️❤️ I’m here with the babies and he makes money so I can be home with the babies ❤️ Not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s the lifestyle we both wanted and talked about when we were dating!
And this is how a good marriage is. Thank you for sharing ❤
Im a traditional wife and i look nice every day. To each their own. If you like baby puke in your hair and looking bad thats a personal choice
@@lalittl you also make vedioes while wearing promdress😂😂
I think you make an important point in talking about what the ideal marriage looks like to you both before the marriage, kids, etc. Don't rush and do what's right for you and yours.
Also, baby puke is a phenomenal hair gel. It's renewable, sustainable, washable, and comes in 25 fun shades. 😂❤
Beautifully said, i’m in the same boat I don’t wear makeup i walk around with a baby on my hip oversized t-shirt on and just taking care of baby the house my hubby and last but not least myself i enjoy it hubby also enjoys the dynamic and you know what people who make assumptions/ give negative opinions are usually the ones who are jealous or just not within our close circle
I am a fulltime housewife. If my kids cough or get sick and I have lemon and ginger, I just make drinks and ask my kids to drink. I have no time to make lemon candy.
Same. Now that sounds relatable and real to me 😅
Right. I'm like lemon, ginger, elderberry,. I have right now in the kitchen. even arrowroot powder is not that crazy to have either. Those are things real housewives get for their families. It's the cough drop molds that's silly and how perfect she looks. I don't think it's all a sham. Some is realistic and some is staged of course to perfection. I think we need to have a balanced view of it
Period 😂😂😂
Girl your a real stay at mom hero!
Oh come on. You know you use home grown ingredients!
I just want to take a moment to say that I really appreciate how you explain things. You always seem to capture exactly what I’m thinking and feeling and how I would want to say it.
It means a lot to have someone who can put my thoughts into words so clearly about these things we see on the internet. Continue what you are doing.
Okay but I’m literally crying, thank you for validating our normal stay at home mom experience
You non-influencer stay at home moms are doing the REAL work.
Did you feel inferior to influencer moms?
This morning my husband said that his feet were cold, so I went outside into the field, sheered a baby lamb and spun the wool in my loom. I then picked some beetroot in my garden so that I could dye the lambs wool pink; dried the wool in the morning sun and then knitted him some slippers. I just happened to have some soft leather lying around so I cut that into sole shapes and quickly sewed them onto the bottoms of the slippers. I then toasted them on the fire so that he could have them extra warm to wear when he eats his homemade pancakes with elderberry jam. He was thrilled and couldn't believe that I had done all of that before my power yoga session at 8.30am.
😂 facts jeeeeez what a fraud
Too funny 😂
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Lol..oh no not the elderberry jam!!!
I disagree with the finale. He wasn't thrilled because he died in the process 😅
People’s gullibility when it comes to content creators is astounding
thank you. Nobody asked she believes that this woman woke up and made those for her sick kid.
I’m a single male with no kids never been married and I really appreciate your honesty and the way that you articulate yourself❤❤
Dressed in frilly outfits, full face of makeup, tripod and camera ready, all rare ingredients ready, with 3 kids (1 toddler and 1 newborn). Sounds BS to me!
100% BS. What gets me mad tho is the pretentiousness. These are clearly girls who wanted to be instagram models and instead they do this, cause it's easier to stand out.
Where do the children go while she's swanning around her kitchen in a couture cocktail dress (in WHITE) for a couple of hours?
The reality is she did the cooking separate from her cocktail dress shots. It probably took her a week of nap times to get all the footage, unless she has a nanny and filmed off-site in a kitchen made for filming purposes.
She hit the nail on the head when she said they are playing into a fantasy. And people are lapping it up 😅
Thank you! Exactly!
And a ring light
"We're watching a curated and privileged fantasy."
Bingo! 👌🏾
It’s an ideal scenario when you’re married to money and only possible when it’s not just you running the show! I’d like to actually see some realistic trad wife videos and there are actually plenty out there, they’re far from glamorous. One lady works in the kitchen preparing meals with her kid strapped to her while she cooks. They have 5 kids and they’re lower middle class. She’s actually making realistic meals, she doesn’t look like a model but a mom and the food isn’t something that can’t be made by anyone due to time and cost! Fake, fake, and lots of fakes! Anyone that’s been a SAHM knows it really doesn’t look like that!
I came from a Mormon background, and I witnessed so many girls’ dreams get crushed by the reality of young marriage and traditional roles. Over half of them are now divorced with mental health issues.
Is it true that most Mormon woman are Karen's?
I’m a current LDS wife/mom and although many of my Mormon friends had the same rude awakening, I think many of my non-Mormon friend had the same realization because they made being a Sahm their only goal/identity and got married too young (plus their own mothers didn’t help guide them).
Although, to be fair some of my friends who got married young are still in strong marriages. But even though I wanted to be a sahm, I got my BS and doctorate and waited until I found the right guy in my late 30s.
@@caseymcdonald2239 I have many Mormon friends and have known many families over the years. Never met one I didn't like. My granddaughter's first caregiver was a neighbor down the street who was absolutely wonderful with her! My Mormon friends all seem to be happily married (not that I have the total picture but our view is based on our experience) and have interests and many have jobs outside of the home. None of them are from Utah so I wonder if that makes a difference? One of my friends was suddenly dumped by her fiance' so she moved to Utah, met a new guy, and now is happily married. She was certainly no young bride. As a non-Mormon Christian, I also wanted nothing more than to get married, have kids, and be a mom and homemaker. That was my dream job and I got it. We are celebrating our 57th anniversary in 2 weeks. I know, I am one of the lucky ones. That did not happen for everyone.
More-men dudes are gay.
@@caseymcdonald2239 this is what I'm sorta worried about. I'm getting an education for my own independence but I also found my life partner and we both have the conservative family oriented lifestyle and we know exactly what we want. But what if I'm too young? It's difficult. But it's what I want
Great video, thank you so much for exposing this! The internet needs to hear this side of the story!
I'm 48 and have lived close to a "Trad Wife" lifestyle since the early 2000s. Thankfully, I didn't have the unrealistic expectations of social media to influence me, but even then, after my first baby was born it was a HUGE shock. Taking good care of just one little human (on your own) is an insane amount of work and incredibly exhausting. Add multiple little ones and you're in big trouble 🤣
So I agree with you, these videos are LAUGHABLE and COMPLETELY UNREALISTIC! There is LITERALLY NO WAY an ordinary housewife & mother can do these things. If you've got no kids, it's definitely possible. Otherwise it's a complete joke. I feel sorry for those who fall for this BS. Real life mothering is HARD. That's why we honour mothers so much.
Realistically, when your kid wakes up sick, even if you DO have all the ingredients and moulds to make lozenges, I can tell you, you're NOT going to be making lozenges today, or maybe not even this week or this year (or this decade in my case 😅). Unless you have a nanny. And even then, do you want your poor child to suffer for hours while you make them? No you don't.
Having said those things, one point you've missed is that if you're really into making things from scratch, which has been one of my passions for the last 30 years, you probably DO have all the ingredients and lozenge moulds in the house 👏 The bubble gum is even possible, but it's a bit of a coincidence that her sister was mysteriously "craving" gum when she lives in a modern society and there's gum at a shop on every street corner 🤔
PS, I can't stand the voice of that first influencer you showed! I don't think her voice is calming, I think it's boring and bland. She sounds like an extremely uninteresting person. I'm glad I've never wasted any of my life watching her videos, and now I know who she is, you've saved me from that ugly fate in the future.. Thanks! 👏🙏✨ With love from Aotearoa, New Zealand 💚🇳🇿
This just feels like you fall for rage bait frequently or are just missing the obvious joke of “I didn’t have this item so I casually spent hours making it” that Nara Smith has in every single video. It’s a clear running joke.
@@user-du7if7xq3k I'm reply to THIS video and Hannah's commentary, not to those idiotic tiktokers. So thanks for your judgement, but I'm definitely not falling for rage bait 😂
I couldn't care less if those fools were being serious or comedic, mostly because I've never watched any of their BS content in my life, and don't intend to. I'm too old to waste my life on pointless shit, which is why i don't have tiktok 😅
I'm commenting for all the people who do watch those clips and are influenced, and therefore feel insecure or worthless, because of the idiotic content they produce.
Thanks for listening 😂
The fact that she dresses like she’s going on the red carpet just to cook. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly 😅
I've seen bits of this creator and I thought she was a PARODY account.
I actually used to do this back in like 2018 and my bf said it was creepy. Too much influence from the church. 😅
Everyone wants to look good, if she wants to look good while cooking then that's great
She’s a model they are probably sponsored outfits.
I am a dad to small children and I have ginger, lemon, and honey in the house for when the kids get a cough at night. What I do not have is cough drop molds, a camera, a tripod, and ready outfit for when I create a concoction for them
This is an industry of making women feeling guilty and unfit
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Doesn't make me feel guilty nor unfit. I thunk some of.yall are too sensitive for content like this to knock you off your equilibrium! Woman up!
Tbh this is so true
If you allow this content to make you feel guilty or unfit, that’s on you. Put down the phone.
Ageerd they shpuld just ignore ppl like her @@heysistuhs9886
I love your personality !! I’ve never watched an influencer before. I’m 57 a mother and a grandmother.
Life is def not like this !!
Urgg thank you for this distinction! These women undermine the one thing that housewives have been trying to prove for generations: that being a housewife is hard work, its unglamourous, often thankless, its tiring, its a sacrifice. But they portray it like some leisure activity. People have it the wrong way around. They don't undermine feminism because they choose to be traditional housewives, feminism should embrace that choice. Rather, they undermine women's value by delegitimizing the work of actual housewives, and profiting off their feelings of inadequecy.
If you truly believe that, seek psychiatric help
One, it’s not crazy for a woman to want to look good while they do work at home. And two if someone makes you feel bad about yourself because maybe they’re doing something differently or better than you, that’s a you problem.
And them putting all of these things online are fantastic, millions of women are learning skills that they never would have learned without these types of videos. Mostly because the feminist movement lost so many arts, that our grandmothers and great grandmothers knew how to do.
Of course, we know that it’s not realistic to have no children running around in the background. But I also wouldn’t watch a Video if I wanted to learn how to make cereal if she had her three children, screaming, bloody murder, and throwing toys around in the background.
why the fuck would they seek psychiatric help when they're just speaking their opinion about it? It's not like their telling you that either, right?
Of course you can enjoy this type of content, absolutely. But someone has to warn everyone because sometimes, People can be DUMB.
@@Sammiejammie521 You didn't answer OP. You answered a comment you made up in your head. You sound shrill and senile.
@@Sammiejammie521except there are many other people showing those life skills online without all the unrealistic backstories