My Fiancé is 37 and His Mom Still Controls His Money!
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- Опубликовано: 31 авг 2020
- My Fiancé is 37 and His Mom Still Controls His Money!
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Run. That is the best advice. Save yourself headache and messy divorce.
And when she tries to divorce the Mom will claim the assets are hers!
missdee212 that’s easier said than done for many people. You do realize that a great majority of people who get married aren’t making smart decisions, correct? Or do I need to show you what the divorce rate is?
A very messy one indeed
@@speakingtruths4215 blah blah everyone says something is easier said than done, but it is not. She has a CHOICE one that I and everyone else can see will not end great for her and another choice that will eliminate the guaranteed future headache and she can get back out there and choose a better future spouse. What you don't seem to get is in life we will all make mistakes but the point is to learn from them. He didn't learn he just shirked the responsibilities to his mom, instead of him sitting down getting real with the bills and situation and get himself out of what he got himself into by doing the exact same thing he is now, not holding himself accountable or being the responsible adult he should be. Additionally, maybe you didn't know that the leading cause of divorce is money, and it may very well be the reason why his previous marriage ended. From your response you are likely in this same situation, and guess what I have the same advice I have for you as I have for her, RUN.
Been there, mama always wins. Don’t do it!!!!!! You’ll eventually tell him to go sleep with mama.
The dude shares an account with his mommy?! That's *maybe* acceptable for a 7 year old but a 37 year old?! What the actual fudge!!
You sure as heck look like one
@@nicholasscirollio913 So you DO think I'm pretty?!?
I was on my mom's account when she reached the age of 75. This was only so I could pay her bills when she was in the hospital and have easy access to her funds when she died. This other? NOPE outta there.
@@jjjackson5183you’re a Mamas boy
Well, we know why the first marriage failed: that intrusive mother. NEVER marry a Mama's boy. Lord have mercy! Smh
In the immortal words of Randy Jackson: "Yeah that's gonna be a no for me dawg."
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Saw the title, I clicked fast 😂
LOL same!
Seriously. Could just picture the smoke coming out of dave’s ears.
Same! Lol
Me too lol!
Lol "oh boy here we go" 😅
If mom is involved in the money, then she is also involved in other areas that are none of her business.... a recipe for disaster.
Been there done that. What I didn’t realize at the time was that marriage only magnifies pre-marriage problems and those issues with mom-in-law ... yikes ... mine went from a nice 67 year old lady to a Godzilla once I said “I do”. Turn and run dear girl and don’t look back!!
It's a no for me. Find someone else, because even if he separate from his mom there will be drama.
Dave always tries to save a relationship. So when he says run 🏃♀️, you run. That’s serious.
“Bye Felicia, Tiffany, walk away!”😂😂😂 @1:36
Do women now have no standards? I would have dumped him as soon as he told me that, no questions asked.
THANK YOU!!!!!
I dont understand some folks. If a relationship wasn't healthy from the start, why in the world would you agree to marry? A 37 year old boy that needs to grow a pair.
Says the girl with her husband in the background. Ur not connected to the hip
@@JasonConner0023 Well of course, we just renewed our wedding vows for our 10th anniversary! Maybe you should know what you're talking about before you post something.
Jason Conner yeah not at all a good comparison. It’s super duper normal to have your spouse in your profile picture if you’re in a loving relationship. You just sound miserable.
@@JasonConner0023 Bitter buddy? or Just a bully? or Both?
@@JasonConner0023 That is a bad statement a man and wife are supposed to be joined at the hip and share in life
This show’s borderline Dr.Phil
Lol it's close, but honestly, I could deal with Dave but Dr. Phil, he comes across way more condecsending!
Agree
yup always been this way with one baby step 2 caller after the next.
I almost married a guy whose parents still completely control him and tried to do the same to me...DO NOT DO IT. I’m grateful every day that I got myself out of that situation and dodged that bullet. He will never stick up for you, he will never question his mommy, you will never have a proper marriage. It will never change. RUN.
Ya'll are laughing your heads off, but my brother is 46 and in the very same boat! And no! I would not marry someone like this!
Dang this is embarrassing. Mom need to understand enabling is different from helping.
BINGO!!!
I wouldn't marry him if I were you! Run! Run! 💃If mom is in his money, she will be in your marriage!!!
This is a serious train wreck waiting to get much worst. The mother is not going to change.
Haha she should not feel comfortable marrying someone who is not financially independent FROM HIS MOTHER 😂 it's time she gave him an ultimatum.
she picked a real winner.
More importantly not emotionally independent either. Can I get an “eeeewwwwwwww”!?!
Enabling has run outta the building, controlling has signed a long term lease.
she gave him an ultimatum. he chose his mom. she doesnt want to let go of the relationship because she has much invested.
He needs to move away with his wife to be. It's OK to give his mom money to put away for him for savings account but to control all his finances, No!
I agree with you guys. My husband, now ex, chose to remain a child in his mothers house and not a man in his own. I insisted we have a joint account, he only agreed if I compromised and had it at his bank, He brought me the documents to sign. I later learned I was never owner on the account with my husband even though my name was on the checks. HIS mother was his joint account holder. Once I figured that out, I opened my own account elsewhere. BTW, they gave us an allowance as if we were children, from our own money! We never owned anything together as a couple when it came to property. SHE NEEDS TO WALK AWAY! AND NOT LOOK BACK!
He already married his mommy! You will just be the live in nanny!!
Yeah! A nanny with BENEFITS!
Tiffany might not have much going for her in Kentucky lol 😆
There are 49 other states to go search for a responsible man👍
KENTUCKY! MITCH MCCONNELL STATE. The state of STUPIDITY.
and there's a whole beautiful country up north as well lol
That's NORTHERN Kentucky. They supposed to be smarter than Southern KY? Cuz they don't seem to be!
@David curtis Republican or Democrat, I don't think either side likes him bc he's corrupt. I'm a conservative and I remember when he and other Republicans didn't do anything despite having control of the house and senate. He's just like every other career politician, worthless!!!
@@pic376 70% of KY hates Mitch McConnell. Let's be clear on that. It's unfortunate we can't get the rest of the people on board so he can stop winning elections. The whole state is not stupid. I'm from KY and the whole state is not like this...it's more like 50% of these state is stupid. The 50% that are crazy are what the country sees and then they think all Kentuckians are like that.
This is the most hilarious I have seen Dave and John.... Cracked my bones 😂😂😂
She’ll marry him, she knows the answers she’s know all along. This isn’t the first issue with him and his mom she’s seen.
I hope for her sake she listens
Janira K. She won’t listen lol it’s hard to walk away this close to the “marriage dream”
Bye Felicia!🤣🤣🤣 🏃♂️🏃♂️
Yikes . . . My mom hasn't managed my money since, ever. I got my first job at 15!
"mom is a testpilot for a broom factory" LOL :D
Aye tell this man to get himself an accountant for a wife 🤣.
One of my favorite clips in a long time! 😂😂😂 I will remember this advice and not be a test pilot for a broom factory myself when my two boys are grown 🤣🤣
Even if you convince him to stand up to his mom, you're switching from financial problems to inlaw problems.
I had to watch this twice! Those 2 were so funny.
John has grown on me
Its great to have the older and younger generations perspective🧘🏾♀️🌺💞Balance🙏🏽
John became my favorite the first time I saw him!
Sarah Meyers ikr 😍
she's marrying him and his mom
@JogBird This is an unhealthy situation. Mom needs to let go. If she decides to proceed with marriage, they need to go to therapy, DEFINITELY BRING MOM ALONG! Get Mama off the account, find your own place, preferably quite some distance away from her.... otherwise, how will he grow into a husband and man💪
My grandmother use to say what you can see clearly in the daylight, don’t wait until night to light a candle to see. You have been warned!!!
He could be marrying his second mom.
Sounds like you are engaged to a boy, not a man. Run. That's a lifetime of being controlled and manipulated by his mother.
There's a lot more issues here than just money!! 😬
Yes, one would have to be blind to not see that!
@@thesilverenchantment9227 haha definitely!!
It’s one of the times where a parent got to let their children sink or swim if they fail they fail they got to learn sooner or later
That was great. My mom was on my account from HS. As soon as I got my own apartment I closed me account and opened a new one. My mom was not monitoring the account she was just on there as I needed an adult to open it.
His mom may have been the reason for the first divorce, I’d be definitely afraid of that!
This just made me 😂😂😂 their laughs so contagious but agreed run felicia 😂
Title: Dave's video titles
Me: Oooooo that's not good
Yeah!
On the contrary! That's real gems here! The drama!
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They roasted him so hard🔥🤣🤣🤣
My two sons have been running their own financial lives since they were 16 years old! Now at 28 and 29 they are leaders in the companies they work for. I know they will never come back to live with me, as much as I miss them. 😊
I love how Dave laughs hysterically whenever John says BYE FELICIA!!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Is this Colt from 90 day fiancé?
Roma Patterson 🤣🤣🤣
The situation sounds familiar with Colt and Debbie hahaha
Divorce his mother 😂😂. Absolutely do not marry a Mother’s boy. Trust me been there done that and it never works.
Yep!!! As long as the man puts his mommy above the wife it will NEVER work out
Absolutely. Stay away from a mommas boy. Speaking from experience.
Do not marry with mothers boy. Your are second all the time. Make u feel worthless and regret over time.
@@stayathomemarine Or his FAMILY above his wife.
"Mom's a test pilot in a broom factory" :)
I guess he took Mother knows best to heart😅
They're having to much fun with this situation..lol...😂 bless your heart young lady I hope it works out for you....🙏
Yikes..RUN!! This is so much deeper than just his finances. He’s a true Mama’s Boy. I agree with John, mom May have been the reason for the first divorce.
First spouse controls his money. Then Mom controls his money. Now new fiancé wants to control his money. I'm seeing an unhealthy pattern here....
Co-dependency is the new form of relationship these days and this need to change as it has completely damaged our society. Everyone needs to be single independent on their own for awhile before entering a healthy relationship. There needs to be an equal amount of give and take in all relationships including work, love and family or it will always be imbalanced. Takers attracts givers and givers attract takers. I really wish the school system would teach this stuff to kids early on but the system itself is broken internally.
The problem is that the school do not teach essential life skill anymore. There focused is on test score or preparing students to go to college.
Morden college students can do the daily essential no more such as
Cooking
Writing a check
Money management skill
Do laundry
Learn how to be independent
Not necessarily a school's responsibility! Home life examples from parents are more appropriate teachers. Sadly many come from broken or dysfunctional homes that did not convey what a healthy relationship should be. Fortunately, Tiffany has good instincts to recognize a problem that clearly exists BEFORE the marriage. The risk is a soon to be "wedding dream" she has already invested in would overshadow her common sense of the longer-term marriage struggles that are ahead with MIL.
@@carlaritchie331 I agree it's totally not all the schools responsibility, it should taught first at home. Yet the schools need to warn the kids of co-dependency and toxic relationships to recognize the patterns and the RED FLAGS. The dysfunctional parent won't bring it up since they think it is normal, since they have the emotional intelligence of a broken child raising broken children. Humanities most toxic humans are in their own home, and not just roaming the streets and sitting in a cargo van after school looking for their lost dog Spot. Knowledge is Power..
This is one of those situations where you can see the future with absolute clarity. And it's not good..
teng029 so true!
Dave and John really have some great chemistry together
"Bye Felicia" lol
I was stupid with money but still own everything at age 18. Paying off all my debts. Not allowing to control my accounts or cash.
Bye Felicia 👋
I can only imagine what Dr. Laura would have said about this... 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Good Lord girl... Did you really need to call and ask what to do about this!? Run child, run🏃🏽♀️ . Marriage is hard enough just with dealing with your spouse 🤦🏽♀️
Dave cutting right to the point. Love that man.
Umm, this man has some serious “mommy” issues. Run trust me! This sounds like she still breastfeeds him! 🤦♀️
He needs to get his backbone back from his mother before this chick marries him.
He will not. She will marry him and it will be a nightmare for her. The mother probably caused problems in his first marriage
@@bee12355 while that's one way to look at it the first wife could have seen how careless he was with his finances & took advantage of that when she saw he wasnt putting forth effort in other areas of the marriage as well. Either way mom should have definitely taught him how to have a backbone & not interfered.
It won't happen.
Hahahaha he won’t.
Wishful thinking. Lol
I feel so bad for Tiffany and I say this with love, and also as a women who has dated the wrong man, knew it but was too scared/nervous/whatever to leave. RUN. I highly doubt the financial thing is the only way his mother's presence in his life has manifested and it's not going to get better if you get married. She will be calling the shots in your home, with your kids, etc. RUN.
Absolutely
Cancel the wedding. Done. This guy needs to grow up and take responsibility for himself.
You guys were on point
Momma's boy/loser syndrome is a serious epidemic. Many women are unhealthy and seem to find security with a loser. Healthy men scare them for some unknown reason. Baffling.
LOL is all I can do. This was a fun segment. We all had some good laughs with this one. “Bye Felicia!” 🤣😂
Funniest one EVER!!
His mother may live to 100 years.
I wish there were follow up episodes that showed the outcome to crazy calls like this a couple years down the track.
These two are having so much fun. 😊
True Dave, that is exactly why I hang out here. I get a real kick out of these stories.
It's sad that she even needs to ask this question or is struggling with finding the answer. Should have dumped him the moment she found out.
OMGOSH! Dr. D had me ROFL!!
Dave Ramsey and Dr. Delony had fun on this one 🤣 🤣 🤣
This is sooooo powerful!!!!
Dave's first response was hilarious!
I have a feeling mommie dearest is taking a little off the top for her retirement and bills. When you don’t have agency over your finances, there’s an increased risk for abuse. I would not be surprised, if there were discrepencies in the accounting.
This far into it, get pre-marriage counseling. That probably won’t work though unless he makes serious changes. It’s healthier to cut your losses. Do not marry this man.
I'm rolling with these two... 🤣🤣🤣
This is was a fun listen
I agree with Dave on this.
Saw the title and ✈ to the comments! Y'all don't disappoint!
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GIRL, RUN!!!
I think I was 16 maybe 17 when I started taking care of my finances and my laundry and grocery shopping.
Run
I am kind of going through a similar situation with my boyfriend. Him and his mom share a checking account and my boyfriend deposits his checks into that joint account. His mom knows everything he purchases, reads his mail, etc. He helps support her because she can no longer work. I care about my boyfriend and try to stay out of it as much as possible because it is sort of not my business, but at the same time, if he were to ever ask me to marry him, a lot of things would have to change first as it relates to finances. Sometimes I don't know what to do because I feel conflicted about it. He's a great guy but his mom feels too involved in his finances. :/
If she can no longer work she is probably getting government assitance of some sort. He can assist from a far. He doesn’t need to share an account and girl, just don’t do it. She will forever be mooching off not just her son but YOU once you marry him. Since it will be both of your money. Cut your loses and keep it moving.
I say to move on because you shouldn’t wait for him to hopefully change one day. If he is set in his ways it won’t work and if he sees you as trying to wedge your way into him and his moms “business”, then he will choose her over you.
BananaTummy YOU need to read all the responses!
If you and he have a good relationship where trust has been established, you both should be able to discuss this topic and get to know each others views and long-term vision on future financial management before making a marriage commitment.
This is the funniest response of Dave's show so far!
I think this is evidence of a much deeper issue. Mockery is probably not the best approach. The fact that she has already agreed to marry him knowing this is very telling about her. I would get them both to a good counselor to work through obvious character flaws both together and separately. To say that it's because his mom loves him has nothing to do with it. There is something much deeper here. I wish everyone in this situation the best.
@Marka L I think there is a time and a place to laugh at the failure to launch 37y/o, but this show isn't solely for entertainment. John prides himself on his counseling background. It's important to realize these are the lives or real people who need guidance.
She thinks she can handle the mother, that's her problem.
Not married yet, she can always walk away
@@YPEFFLE agreed, but there's the obvious question as to why she wanted to marry him in the first place. She needs to work thru this in order to avoid terrible choices in the future.
No mocking here, just seeing her future clearly. RUN!!!
Agree completely. Run away fast and do not marry this guy. If mommy controls his money, her level of control extends to every aspect of his life.
Steve Rowe like I say 🚩
This was a good laugh 😂
I honestly think this might be something that can be fixed. I had a friend recently marry a guy whose mother was too involved and she simply had a sit down with her and the mom started to back off. They are happily married now.
Dave: Is Mother is a Trip
John: And he invites her into his suitcase
Me: 😂😂😂
i disagree with most people here saying just automatically leave him, at least give the dude an ultimatum and let him see it from your perspective, be understanding and let him know that, you know what he went through but he needs to outgrow the past.
If he still doesnt want to divorce his mother, then you RUN lol.
No run now. Seriously!
Yes, run. If not money being control, it will be other things! RUN!!!
She can explain, but shouldn't have a hope that he will understand. People don't learn wisdom from explanations at age 37. They might learn grammar or algebra from explanations but not the wisdom and courage this dude lacks.
Shes already confronted him and failed. That's why we're here. RUN! 😬
"As the World Turns" with Dave Ramsey 🤣At least dis wahine had enough sense to ask Uncle Dave fo his advice 👊🏽
The fact that she is considering marrying him = she's crazy as fawk! Either Tiffany must be very unattractive or has some learning disability. 37 yrs old? I would have dropped him like a bad habit as soon as he mentioned his attachment to his mother. I'd leave him to the Tiffany's of the world.
Love this comment.
Never heard "Bye Felicia" before - had to Google it to figure out what they were talking about...
LORD, this is TOOOOO funny & so true! Great advice & entertainment, here - I completely agree....sorry, sweetheart, but you need a man.
I hope she considers extending her engagement because this needs to be resolved before they get married. They may lose money by postponing the wedding but a divorce will be far more costly. He needs to show he is capable of managing his own money and setting boundaries with mommy.
“Bye Felicia”! - Dr John