My Mother-In-Law Gossips About Me!
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- My Mother-In-Law Gossips About Me!
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Her Mother-in-Law and mine are the same. My MIL said to my husband, "It's me or her." I'm still here and she hasn't talked to us in over 10 years.
Sad but the way it should be in that case
Good job, that’s the way God intends it to be, leave and cleave
That's great! Her not being around you guys makes your life that much better.
What a good man 👨 u r with, I should have found me one of those
Good for you. You and your husband, kids anyone else is a “bonus”
My mother-in-law never gossiped about me. She insulted me to my face and I respect that.
Tourette syndrome?
😂
😂😂😂No she just didn’t give a 💩 and spoke her mind.
Ahahaha so true. She wouldn't give me the dignity of a second of peace of mind while waiting for the third person to tell me.
😂😂
Sell the Mother-In-Law.
Yes
😂😂😂😂😂
😂🤣😂🤣
She's not worth anything though 😂
Does she come with a warning? 🤣
Family drama is rough. You can only control your own actions.
Like avoiding marriage.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 💯
This woman has a good spouse that stands up for his wife! Not that common.
Wives come and go. You only have one mother. Maybe Mom sees thing in the caller she doesn't like.
@@djpuplex maybe that mother shouldn’t be in his life. You can always live without a toxic mother.
@@djpuplex husbands are to leave their mother and father and be United with his wife. That’s what my Bible says. Wives are to do the same. Spouse comes before parents. If your mother is talking trash about your spouse, you silence her. Defend your wife and kids.
@@javadose317 mother knows best. If she was toxic he would’ve left from the beginning. U can be in love blindly. And thats why you have parents to put wisdom in you.
Yes, he’s a steal, far & few between
Hearing Dave say "Biotch" totally made my day :)
I definitely giggled and smiled when he said that! 😃
Totally! Hahaha
What are you 12? 🤡’s
@@k-mart7475 Uh, it's because it's not a very Dave thing to say, and it was unexpected.
I never heard him curse before lol
Did anyone else hate this answer? Good for the husband for standing up for his wife, but is he supposed to just tell his mom to stop every time she does this and then they have a nice dinner where they say they want to make peace and respect them, but nothing changes? And all this talk about how she’s the grandmother of her kids… my kids would stop seeing a grandmother that’s going to disrespect their parents. Nope. Cut. Her. Off.
She needs consequences for her actions.
Exactly the course to take! @livefreak88
They are attempting to keep the peace. They are giving her language to use when she talks to her MIL with the expectation that the MIL may or may not change. At least she tried to have a grown up conversation. If MIL continues the disrespect after the conversation then level consequences. If she refuses to sit down at talk, level consequences. My kids wouldn't be at anyone's house who is disrespecting me. But everyone doesn't set clear hard boundaries like that.
Listen if you meet someone and you dislike the family or they dislike you just leave and go find someone else
Good advice!
Exactly what happened to me. Luckily I broke off the engagement. So hard to do but his parents did not like me for reasons unknown. It was uncomfortable at times. I was a sweet, naive 23 year old at the time. I don't know what I ever did. Anyway, my husband's family is awesome. You are spot on with your advice. You don't just marry your partner, you marry their family, too.
A lot of these callers need to call a therapist.
... that's why they called because Deloney is one lol
What you think Delany does? Lol
The calls should focus on money matters imho
What do you think they’re doing?
Loving, forgiving, respect doesn't mean you have to allow people to be abusive, manipulative or deceptive and nasty. You're allowed to have self respect and not engage with these people. Dust off and walk away.
Wow! This sounds just like my MIL. She has told my kids to their face that they will always be stupid because I’m their mom and have decided to homeschool them. She’s also told my husband she wishes he would’ve found someone more like my brother in law’s girlfriend, because she’s more like the daughter in law she thought she’d have. When my husband tells her off she starts crying and says she never said any of that and we are just making it up.
Omg.. this is happening way too often!! I know exactly what you’re describing.. it’s wild and exhausting.
My mother in-law knows better than to interfere in our family.She comes over is kind to us and the kids. Anything negative she keeps to herself. Thank God.
Can't be surprised when people talk about you, you just have to focus on you and what you got going on.
I can’t imagine being so miserable in my life that I can’t be happy for my children and let them live their own lives.
I used to have a decent relationship with my mil, but disagreements and putting blame on just me for something I had nothing to do with, kind of just distanced us. I dont have time for that. I wish them well.
Had to laugh out loud when when Dave said she choose to be a test pilot for a broom factory
So true, unfortunately you're always going to have a few toxic family members that are just annoying to deal with.
Yeup, we all have to deal with that, I just keep choosing to distance myself more and more from my MIL and thats just fine with me!
Where would we be if there were no more mother-in-law jokes? 😆
People who don’t want to take responsibility or don’t like what other say , blame others .
Unfortunately but fortunately never had these problems. My mother-in-law died before I got married to my husband. Funny thing is, he said we would be best friends 😂😂
@@mommymilestones so was yours so I guess we're on the same page then
My boyfriend said my now mil and i would be besties but nope haha far from it
@@anniedalton1686 I genuinely want you to tell me why you two don't get along lol
“Test driving a broomstick” lol I’m going to say that to my mother in laws face!
Ah, Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Yeah, MIL isn't ever going to change. She's not going to have a lightbulb moment, and DIL committed the cardinal and unforgiveable sin of "stealing" her sweet son away. The only thing that can change in this circumstance is the DIL and her husband and how they deal with the situations, or choose to avoid them altogether. It sucks. Dave's right though. There's one in every family, or more sadly.
I agree with everything you said! I’m going through this right now
I DO NOT know why some people feel compelled to make trouble...I enjoy peace...but some people I swear they use their aggession and negativity as entertainment
It's a distraction to avoid facing their own internal demons
Caller: My mother in law gossips about me!
Ramsey: what’s your household income?
In some cases household income is the reason why too lol though I understand the meme joke
Hahahahah brilliant
@@JustAName-it5qp Deliver pizzas.
And "sell the car".
🤣
Weak people need to gossip to make themselves feel superior to everyone else. But consuming gossip, like watching videos like these or watching shows like paternity court, is attractive to almost everyone. Maybe because people crave a connection, even a negative one. Maybe we're just naturally curious about other people's lives.
It the same types of people going on social media complain about their life.
Some of them spend hours going on social media. It like they didn't really have a life outside of that.
I have a MIL that's Obsessed with her son (my husband). She says crazy things all the time but I never disrespect her. I use humor where possible and ignore the rest. Hard to teach an old dog new tricks.
@@wordsalad01 Nope. My MIL is single. The only male figure in her life that still treats her right is my husband. From a women's perspective I get that so I try not to make a fuss. I'm living the life she wish she had. If there was a competition...I already won!
That's what partly ruined my brother's first marriage. I've already put my mom in her place once, and she knows not to cross that line with me. Hopefully your husband defends you before his mom.
@@orion3706 Sorry to hear about your brother. I have two older brothers who have gone through divorces so I know how diffult that can be on a family. Thankfully to your point my husband is supportive whenever when I bring up concerns and he makes an extra effort to make sure his mom knows (though he loves her dearly), I am priority in his life.
Yup thats how you treat the inlaws, if things start going south, you laugh and go home and act like it never happened
@@nev2943A Mother (I’m almost sure your MIL doesn’t) isn’t in competition w her DIL, at least most aren’t. There’s room for both in his life. It’s two totally beautiful, yet different kinds of love that you both share and he is more than happy to be loved by the two women he adores most in his life. The woman that raised him and taught him how precious it is to be loved and the woman that he chose to spend his life with and raise his children. It’s a precious and understanding wife that knows there’s more than enough room for the both of you. I know your husband is thankful and feels blessed that you aren’t threatened by such a natural relationship as that of a Mother and Son. What peace you have brought to your union. Every loving parent is obsessed w their children, no matter how old they are.
My own mother talks bad about me behind my back.
Both my single mother and single mother-in-law tried to destroy my marriage and talked behind our backs. They used the info from each other to persuade their children (me and my husband) that our significant other is not good or right for us...lol The saddest part is when we confront them, they went off as if we are horrible children and unappreciated of their motherly love and concerns.
@@jazzyavu single people LIVE for making other people as miserable as them. I'm glad you guys survived, just don't voluntarily give them ammo, make them work to find a nerve.
Yeah... I'm sorry. My Mom was a trouble maker...(Narsisistic)
This woman is in lots of company. My daughter's mother in law is just like that. My daughter had a beautiful little girl after she got involved in a bad relationship. She walked away from that one & married her husband. His mom really never accepted my daughter & granddaughter. My granddaughter rarely goes with them to visit because of how they treat my family. My son in law does stand up for them sometimes but sometimes absence is best.
Well your daughter picked him. Her. I’ll,doesn’t have to accept her. Period.
I don’t completely agree with this advice to just chalk it up to her being the crazy one. That may be true, but she shouldn’t have to just sit back and take it. I know she could definitely be worse, but she’s being abusive and manipulative, so I’d be tempted to distance myself and my children until the MIL can behave. If she can’t, then we don’t bring the children around because we don’t subject ourselves to abuse.
@God IS Love good for you! It also teaches the children that the behavior is unacceptable. Having a relationship with someone is a privilege. The MIL having a relationship with her son, his wife, and their children is NOT mandatory if she is abusive. Nope.
Totally agree. She wouldn’t be seeing me or my kids until she learned to control herself.
@@jill9606 Yes absolutely, we love the way we are loved, and if they way we are loved is abusive, narcissistic, ill, and conditional, that's the way we will eventually love others or allow others to love us. Protect the children. Narcissistic mothers become narcissistic grandmothers.
@@veeshoo2880 you are soooo right!
@@veeshoo2880 you are soooo right!
Why would you tell someone you love them, when you don't?
My mother in law bad- mouths my adult children (her grand kids) to ME! My kids cut her grass, spread mulch, do household repairs for and never take any money she tries to pay them. She tells me how badly they do these jobs. I think they do a fine job. I just want to scream.
Tell your kids to stop helping her and then see how she reacts.
@@vesselfit2use They no longer help her. Now she bad mouths them to the rest of the family and took them out of her will. She’s dead to us.
@@hollyb6885 dang. Well atleast they aren't around her toxicity. The Bible verse is true about a root of bitterness springs up and defiles many.
Now they aren't able to be defiled by her bitterness any longer.
Some people are just always angry and bitter and there is nothing that can make them happy.
@@vesselfit2use That’s how we all feel. It’s like a weight is off our shoulders NOT to have to be around this toxic person.
And what do you do about it when she says that to you ?
I would give the MIL more to talk about by being so humble, attentive, & awesome she'd die of bitterness and hatred. Her snide remarks would make me laugh with joy. You kill em with kindess not react with sadness!
“They talked bad about Jesus, what makes you so special🤷🏾♀️”- My 102 yr old southern Great Granny Daisy
Cut the toxicity out of life permanently, including biological family. Hopefully he’s on board. Speaking from experience!
He said “Biotch”…lol. Anyone who grew up in the 90s knows that’s from the Chronic album… now it’s been in pop culture so long that Dave Ramsey uses it 🤣
Lolol right??! The funny thing is hearing Dave say it makes it hilarious.
When I first met mine, she would gossip about other family members. I thought it was weird and inappropriate. I pretty much ignored it. She would tell my husband and I deep personal things others confided in her. After causing massive marital problems, I finally went completely no contact. Now she gossips about me to everyone. My husband never stood up for me like the lady's on here and told his mother point blank not to ever speak to his wife like that again.
If they gossip To You, they will gossip About You... People need to speak up and say they won't hear it, walk out... ignoring never helps, they just Grandstand. And yes, I follow this too
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Manipulation, cut her out of your guys lives till she decides to wake up if and when she ever does wake up. Don’t jeopardize your marriage for some unhappy lady
I vetted my mother in law before I got married
That "better than I deserve" gets me all the time😂
Gossip is a natural part of life, marriage, etc. the most important thing is that you and your partner understand the way you both feel about it and create boundaries.
My mil is just like this. Never an apology, never wrong, entitled and rude. Husband doesn’t do. Ice about it. She’s a narcissist and I’ve since cut her off.
Hurting people hurt people. Hard truths cut deep
There is a book somewhere titled "What You Think of Me is None of my Business". Pretty powerful with respect to self boundaries and self care.
I’m confused why a money show has turned into therapy?
Caller: "My mother-in-law hurts my feelings."
Dave: "Beans and rice, rice and beans. I think you misdialed the number for Dr. Phil."
He's expanding to other topics. I kinda like it.
@@georgeahacker Yeah, a lot of these questions that Dave gets would be the kind of questions that you would ask Dr.Phil.
Ironically - Dave can answer the therapy calls better than the so called therapist next to him.
John is a therapist! I think Ramsey solutions is expanding to the mental health side of life because it’s very interconnected with our other choices, financial, life, etc.
I love seeing Dave’s 40 grit sandpaper approach to family counseling next to John’s polished 25 years of alphabet soup behind his name. Too rich
Are you safe
I like Dave better. John babbles and is so eager to tell people what they should do.
Always take the high ground!!
My ex wife mom HATED my guts because I "stole" her kid away from her. Just shes so empty and bitter so glad its my ex
I like when people talk about me. That means they are not talking about people who care.
The correct response is never have her at your house again. Kids never go to her house again and grand dad comes to your house
😂😂😂 "Test pilot for a broom factory... look at her with the pointy hat in the corner". You have got to love Dave!😄❤
TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY DAVE SOME OF THESE WOMEN ARE REAL BITCHES AND PRETEND TO BE INNOCENT
It seems so rare that people have good relationships with their in laws. I know a couple of people who do but it seems to be more the exception than the rule.
True
Sad situation. Sounds like she has a good, strong husband.
I wouldn't know what to do if my in-laws didn't gossip about me. Really I just think it's amusing.
😂
🤣
That feel when we're glad we're men, and don't care.
@@mowerds33 indeed
@@mindoablues that's why I put random pictures on my Instagram.
And when I become a Mother in law I will be DA Best😇😇😇
Dave Ramsey has morphed into “Dear Abby”.
WHY MOST PARENTS ARE SO TOXIC???! Why they're the ones who bring heartbreak on their children especially their adult ones especially when they're married people already?? WHY??!!! 😩
Sell the mother in law
I had a mother like that. She understood very early that you don't mess with my wife. You can try it once but you won't get to do it again. Apparently the very characteristics that made her made me like her, though on this question on the other side. My brothers quite understand.
IMO - I left my former husband, because he refused to intervene concerning his mother's hatred of me. She literally did things that were illegal, and unethical in an attempt to break us up. So, I divorced, and took our kids to a location several hours away. Her scheme backfired.
A trick my parents did is have lots of family friends that you also spend holidays with. That way you're not reliant on 1-2 people to be ideal grandparents to your kids. You have a bunch of families playing that role to each other.
Great minds talk about ideas, average minds events, small minds people.
Ah, the old Ayn Rand quote. What's negated is that Rand meant her ideas.
Dave said “Bi-otch”! 🤣🤣🤣
"...she's like a second-degree Lieutenant test pilot for the broom factory." Rank, job title, career field, and place of employment. Full personality profile. I'm crying-laughing 😂😂😂😂😂
I had to sit on my late mother in law for years before she respected me. I also had to train my husband not to be a mummy's boy and not to sit on the fence to keep the peace. I have always been the main earner too. I am a mother-in-law of two and I make sure I never do that. By the way why you do say he leads your family? You are equals.
Good advice from Dave, but if all else fails give her an old fashioned beat down.
Her MIL doesn’t need to be “sitting in a corner” in the future unless it’s by herself somewhere. You treat me like this you change, grow up or you’re out. It’s too toxic to play around with. Hurt people hurt people, yes BUT it’s a choice NOT a mistake.
My MIL is like that. she gossips about all family including grandchildren. She’s the victim always. My husband has played both sides of the fence. I unfriended her 2 years ago. Everyone else can do what they want.
What does the Mother in Law gossip about? Completely missing what is upsetting her, it might be easy to resolve.
Right! Like she’s not innocent in this situation. What is the wife doing? She needs to spill more details about how it got this way. The mother in law obviously thinks she’s rude and disrespectful
@God IS Love I am sad that you have such a fatalistic view and judgmental view of this situation and life in general. I've not found people to behave destructively without provocation. Agreed there are some really abrasive people out there but even they need provocation. Perhaps this lady is playing the "Martyr"?
@God IS Love I was describing your response, not your person. You however did attack me by calling me a Wolf. You behave life a hypocrite.
If the granny decides to be a “biotch”, I’m not going to accept it. The next conversation with my husband would be “are you going to explain to the kids why we are okay with granny speaking about mom like that. Or are we going to stop the kids being alone with granny?”
My ex mother in law came to me on messenger on day and said my exes new girlfriend did more then me. He just met her in the summer. He is in prison. She rarely spoke or saw him. Didn’t even bother to write a letter of support for his parole hearing. What a peach
If you put 300 miles between you and your in laws, there won’t be a problem :)
It doesn't matter how far away they are.
Truth! Mileage and rare meetings do wonders for relationships. Also staying off of social media.
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg uuhhhh yeah it does
@@reneperez6690 uuhhh no it doesn't-- I'm living it.
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg you must be pretty stupid if your having problems with someone 300 miles away from you. Get off social media and put down your phone for once
😂😂I love how they are low key savage😂
I know so many mother in laws like that.
When I met my partner I didn’t join her family and she didn’t join mine . We were starting our own and that’s the bottom line .
Just let this stuff roll off your back.
...and keep in mind, everyone knows you & they know her AND her mouth.
As much as possible - don't sweat it my dear
I’m notice mom has no husband. Sound like another son husband mom. Mom has no husband to check her. Good thing her husband is standing up to her.
This is the thing is the son did speak to the mother in law, and as long as mother in law doesnt bad mouth in front of the kids, life goes on, but if she does bad mouth in front of the kids let her know thats not tolerable because it hurts the kids, and then be prepared to not bring the kids into a situation where someone is going to emotionally hurtful to them
“What’s your mother in law’s yearly income?”
BIOTCH!!!! Gooo Dave! Lolololol
I told my MIL that while she was talking about me then someone else is getting a break😂
I'd say a mother in law joke but I'm avoiding that too.
This is the first time that I don’t agree wholly with Dave’s solution. Certainly going to a restaurant is not the time or place for a heart to heart conversation about personal issues.. And I do not agree with the syrupy “We love and respect you.” This does not quite ring true.
Dave’s a good listener.
My husband cut off both of his sisters for gossiping about me and being rude to me. They refused to have a conversation about it so he wiped his hands of them until they are ready to sit down and confront me on what they think is so bad about me. Everyone was taking about me but not to me! I am so blessed to have a husband that has my back like that.
That lack of spiritual guidance of American individuals is why there is so much hate today.
I didn't know Americans were responsible for most of the hate in the WORLD. Wow.
The best thing I ever did was getting off social media and cutting off my family. My husband and I have our finances strate and getting out of debt. Much of it because of my family.
Thank you God for my mostly functional family!
My mother’s mother was a vindictive, manipulative, and controlling woman. I remember conversations when I was little, and she was not above wielding us (her grandchildren) as weapons against my mother. When I was around 10 years old, my grandparents were visiting and my grandmother did her thing... only this time my mom had had enough - she swiped all the sandwiches they were making off the counter and started screaming for my grandmother to “GET OUT OF MY HOUSE”. That was the last time we ever saw that woman. Unfortunately, my mother had waited 10 years too long to do that, and the damage was done. It all effected the way my mother connected with us (she was very distant) and as we grew into adults she became a bit like her mother. I hope this caller has cut that woman out of her life.
I would have taken it up with my MIL directly but then again I'm divorced. I don't need someone else to put other people in line when they disrespect me.
We have the issue where the in-laws convince everybody that they are the worlds greatest grandparents. We have to grin through all the “you are so lucky” comments. Truth is, they didn’t have time for their grandkids and it’s heartbreaking. 😢
My mil gossiped about all the in-law kids, I’m sure that included me.
my name is Keisha too too! But that wasn’t me that called 😅
I never heard Dave curse before lol
Hard to make peace with those types of.toxic people. Be careful grandma doesn't trash talk you to your own kids. Keep an eye on her.
What does this have to do with financial advice/support?
IKR
Dave cares about people about all parts of their lives not just the financial aspect
@@jillroberts609
Dave cares about money.
He don’t do this for free.
"Taking your calls about life and money"
I think they say that
I'm so glad I got married later in life so my in-laws are super old and just cool people.
My ex’s mom always talked bad about me
💩😂 she must be rubbing off🤖 that’s awesome your spouse spoke up for you👍🏻