My daughters are successful because I spoke to them about the mistakes that I did and voice for them to make better choices taught them to love their daddy respect and honor. There’s no jealousy here. Praise God I love my daughters and they are successful everyone of them.
Witnessed bad-minded, jealous, envious mothers against their daughters in my early childhood years in Jamaica and growing up as a teenager in CrownHeights/Flatbush, Brooklyn! Then a majority of the bad-minded mothers, all of a sudden develop selective memory; crying to people at their church, claiming that their daughter don't check for them!
I suffered for years and didn’t understand what was happening,yes I was very naive🤷🏾♀️ when I finally got it I was way into my 40s because of how I felt about my child it was super hard to accept jealousy from the individual that bought me into this world… When she died I didn’t even know she was sick because I had protected my sanity by cutting ties. I mourned the mother I never had I forgave but it was the not actually experiencing that real love from her that hurt. Up side I do not miss her as she was never there for me I learnt long ago how to raise myself took years to love and accept myself but thanks be I am here I am here..
Thanks for the courage to address the jealousy issue in the black community. I lost lot of friends trying to speak about it. They just refuse to self-reflect and change.
This speaks to old women to younger women in general. Not just mother & daughter. This needs to be talked about. The mind set of not wanting to share wisdom. Kinda like” I had to struggle so you do too”
Man, I went through this since I was a little girl with my mom. I remember being 11/12 and her saying I was jealous and asking why I was trying to be like her, saying that I was looking at her men. Smh Now I’m breaking those curses with my daughters, not only do I want them to be like me, but better than me. ❤
@@neriahshilohtv Thank you for your kind words❤ I’m still on my healing journey, but I finally realized after years that it wasn’t a “me” problem but it was pain that she never healed.
Let's also mention when the daughter is raising her children with more and better intentions. I.e. teaching them healthy eating habit, and better lifestyle habits. The mother will try to sabotage it by feeding the kids candy, snacks, juice or make snarky remarks about it.
That’s toxic to build someone up then get jealous and compete with them. I have four daughters and ain’t no way. That’s a spirit within some woman and those women are insecure and jealous of everyone.
I'm so hurt right now with this topic it hits home so much. My birthing mother caused separation between me and my 14yr old. Now my daughter so out of control eye had 2 kick her out last night ase 2 us real ones standing. I'm hurt I'm in this alone..anyone reading this trust this world has taken many forms of evil don't lose your soul 4 a world of temptation 😢😢😢. My story goes so deep so if u can relate stand 10 toes through it all😢😢😢
Girls & boys should both know how to cook, clean & do laundry because they will hopefully grow up to be adults that need to take care of themselves; first & foremost.
Competitiveness -vs- Mentorship 🤔🤔🤔 (If momma don't get a marital happy ending, then go get yo degrees and focus on you... cause you don't need a man... unless he can be Superman and save you from the workforce) some of us men have known what it is y'all face with y'all momma...but it doesn't help when you know better, after a time, but don't care to correct it through self AND teaching younger generations.
It's like Maggie The Substitute Teacher said, "men see themselves IN younger men...women see themselves AS younger women" That's why men are much better at helping younger men...we don't want them making the same mistakes we did. Women don't even see what they've done as a mistake to begin with, so there's nothing to fix (in their minds)...no accountability
Sad men try to mentor young men. We're not dumb enough to think we can compete with a young man half my age. Me today doesn't stand a chance in hell against my younger self.
My mom has decided single handily to walk away from Her life as a mother and a grandmother.. She has chosen to Not break any generational curse and to allow her daughters to feel the hurt she’s felt throughout her life.. I am 40 my mom is 60, I’m married my mom has never been married.. I am a two time college grad my mom dropped out in 9th grade.. I love you mama We will reunite in the next Life.. I needed you mom I still do today.. But I can’t convince you to need me to😢🥹
A single mother who has kids by multiple men will NEVER teach her daughter that having kids by multiple men is deplorable. This is one of the major problems. These girls think that having kids by multiple men is ok when as a woman its the most disgusting deplorable thing u can do. Once a woman tells me she has kids by multiple men, i automatically know not to show her any type of respect.
I have kids by multiple men and I teach my daughter and sons every day to NOT go the route I took. I also have explained in detail my childhood and how I was suspectible to this by not having an active father or mother in my life. Please stop with the broad generalizations. My daughter at 14 says she wants to get married and have 2 kids. 😂
I'm just out here trying to procreate with as many women as possible as many times as possible and just flood the system with a bunch of little people that look like me😁
Your kids are going to take care of you when you’re older so why wouldn’t you want your kids to do better. 🤦🏾♂️ Y’all old heads gotta get that hate out your system
AT LEAST SHE SAD MOST MOMS ARE JEALOUS OF THEIR DAUGHTERS! THAT'S A DAMNN SHAME THAT THIS TYPE OF MESS IS GOING ON! I TOTALLY DIS! AGREE WITH HER. BUT, SHE DID SAY " SOME" MOTHERS! I WANT THE BEST FOR MY DAUGHTER. I DON'T LIKE THAT SHE LIKES BUMMY MEN WHO DON'T WORK. THAT'S UNACCEPTABLE IN MY BOOK.
Young women, when you rely strictly on your natural beauty, there is absolutely no competition. The older aunties, mommas, and lifelong Bachelorette need to wear/ adorn weaves, makeup, costume like, and artifacts so they have a chance to compete with young women. Young Women, there is no comparison when you use your natural beauty. (And the older women know this).
Why this dude don't have people from his failed homeland to his platform and talk about their failed homeland. He only have FBA's on here. We wanna know about yall failed states.
It’s not a gender war. There’s clearly a war on our minds regardless of what chromosome we are, each issue should be addressed. Men have bad ways and so do women
My daughters are successful because I spoke to them about the mistakes that I did and voice for them to make better choices taught them to love their daddy respect and honor. There’s no jealousy here. Praise God I love my daughters and they are successful everyone of them.
You are a God blessed treasure of a mother!
❤
Witnessed bad-minded, jealous, envious mothers against their daughters in my early childhood years in Jamaica and growing up as a teenager in CrownHeights/Flatbush, Brooklyn!
Then a majority of the bad-minded mothers, all of a sudden develop
selective memory; crying to people at their church, claiming that their daughter don't check for them!
Real 1,000% talk!
Ayooooo worst mothers was n Brooklyn
I suffered for years and didn’t understand what was happening,yes I was very naive🤷🏾♀️ when I finally got it I was way into my 40s because of how I felt about my child it was super hard to accept jealousy from the individual that bought me into this world… When she died I didn’t even know she was sick because I had protected my sanity by cutting ties. I mourned the mother I never had I forgave but it was the not actually experiencing that real love from her that hurt. Up side I do not miss her as she was never there for me I learnt long ago how to raise myself took years to love and accept myself but thanks be I am here I am here..
I've been healing to destroy generational trauma and unmet unhealed issues. We passed down baggage that didn't belong to ANY OF US!!!
Preach 🙌🏿
Good for you! 🥰
Thanks for the courage to address the jealousy issue in the black community. I lost lot of friends trying to speak about it. They just refuse to self-reflect and change.
Like black men are about self change BOY HUSH
@abdouramanediallo5068
Excellent, intelligent, thought provoking commentary!
This speaks to old women to younger women in general. Not just mother & daughter. This needs to be talked about. The mind set of not wanting to share wisdom. Kinda like” I had to struggle so you do too”
Best female guest you ever had on your podcast. This lady is very knowledgeable and so intelligent
I like her. She’s genuinely trying to help. I hope people hear her and start the process of improving themselves. Peace!
Man, I went through this since I was a little girl with my mom. I remember being 11/12 and her saying I was jealous and asking why I was trying to be like her, saying that I was looking at her men. Smh Now I’m breaking those curses with my daughters, not only do I want them to be like me, but better than me. ❤
Im sorry you went through that. Just know it wasn’t you…let her bear that cross🥰
@@neriahshilohtv Thank you for your kind words❤ I’m still on my healing journey, but I finally realized after years that it wasn’t a “me” problem but it was pain that she never healed.
Let's also mention when the daughter is raising her children with more and better intentions. I.e. teaching them healthy eating habit, and better lifestyle habits. The mother will try to sabotage it by feeding the kids candy, snacks, juice or make snarky remarks about it.
Or the old " trying to make my grandkids eat like white people " bs
Yes! That part!
This my mom, with everything I try to do for my child
@@jo5755 Whew 😩 this is so true!
Praying for the healing of our women. And for them to truly seek the God they say they serve.
That’s toxic to build someone up then get jealous and compete with them. I have four daughters and ain’t no way. That’s a spirit within some woman and those women are insecure and jealous of everyone.
I know many mother - daughter situations like this!
Love when she said "We are damaged people" spot on.
Very clear delivery and agree💯💯
I'm so hurt right now with this topic it hits home so much. My birthing mother caused separation between me and my 14yr old. Now my daughter so out of control eye had 2 kick her out last night ase 2 us real ones standing. I'm hurt I'm in this alone..anyone reading this trust this world has taken many forms of evil don't lose your soul 4 a world of temptation 😢😢😢. My story goes so deep so if u can relate stand 10 toes through it all😢😢😢
Jealousy & Love = Oil & Water
As a White mother of a daughter, though our culture is different, much rings true for every ethnicity. Thank you ever so much for sharing ❤
Girls & boys should both know how to cook, clean & do laundry because they will hopefully grow up to be adults that need to take care of themselves; first & foremost.
I agree with her 😌👌🏽100%
I glad she admits it
4:28 mark 🎯🎯🎯🎯
This
❤❤❤ Cultural healing
It's sad to see also
I FEEL YU GODDESS QUEEN 👑👑💪🏿
Fall Back On Ur Children and Daughters.....Same Whole in Da
2020's ❤️💙🧡🖤
Competitiveness -vs- Mentorship 🤔🤔🤔
(If momma don't get a marital happy ending, then go get yo degrees and focus on you... cause you don't need a man... unless he can be Superman and save you from the workforce) some of us men have known what it is y'all face with y'all momma...but it doesn't help when you know better, after a time, but don't care to correct it through self AND teaching younger generations.
More vibe to the tribe ❤
It's like Maggie The Substitute Teacher said, "men see themselves IN younger men...women see themselves AS younger women"
That's why men are much better at helping younger men...we don't want them making the same mistakes we did. Women don't even see what they've done as a mistake to begin with, so there's nothing to fix (in their minds)...no accountability
if your mother does not give u a heads up about the game.......she's still in it
Sad men try to mentor young men. We're not dumb enough to think we can compete with a young man half my age. Me today doesn't stand a chance in hell against my younger self.
My mom has decided single handily to walk away from Her life as a mother and a grandmother.. She has chosen to Not break any generational curse and to allow her daughters to feel the hurt she’s felt throughout her life.. I am 40 my mom is 60, I’m married my mom has never been married.. I am a two time college grad my mom dropped out in 9th grade.. I love you mama We will reunite in the next Life.. I needed you mom I still do today.. But I can’t convince you to need me to😢🥹
She cooked 👩🏾🍳 🎙️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
In the bible it said that God regretted creating humans
A single mother who has kids by multiple men will NEVER teach her daughter that having kids by multiple men is deplorable. This is one of the major problems. These girls think that having kids by multiple men is ok when as a woman its the most disgusting deplorable thing u can do. Once a woman tells me she has kids by multiple men, i automatically know not to show her any type of respect.
Can the same be said for men with multiple children?
I have kids by multiple men and I teach my daughter and sons every day to NOT go the route I took. I also have explained in detail my childhood and how I was suspectible to this by not having an active father or mother in my life. Please stop with the broad generalizations. My daughter at 14 says she wants to get married and have 2 kids. 😂
@@veronadugeon5701women control access to sex
💥 YOU CAN'T BE YOUR DAUGHTERS HOMEGIRL (That's The Problem)
Exactly!
exactly!!!!!!!!!!!
It's a lot of older women way finer than their daughter's. And that's all I got to say about that.
One word 3 syllables: Umbuntu.
Few months ago my told me she went on a date with a 21 year old dude and she has a son 21 shit crazy bro
🗣️🎯‼️
***…and daughter in law
There are too man insecure and devious mothers out there. 😈
🌑🌎🌄🌹Alot Of US Had It Good in Da 90's 💻📱👑👑🖤🖤👑👑🖤🖤
I'm just out here trying to procreate with as many women as possible as many times as possible and just flood the system with a bunch of little people that look like me😁
At least you are honest!
@ASoulFulT my honesty is only appreciated in the comment section
@@Omar-n6p2u may I ask what more can you offer besides your looks when procreating little human beings ?
Need to heal the bitterness. Get fixed.
@angelaroberts6570 if it ain't broken why would I get it fixed
Always in competition sharing baby daddies and drama these women never learn 😂😂
Y’all women’s never learn sleeping with the same men Does not end in good results start taking accountability
Your kids are going to take care of you when you’re older so why wouldn’t you want your kids to do better. 🤦🏾♂️ Y’all old heads gotta get that hate out your system
💚💚💚💚💚🧐
How could anyone treat their own family like that?
😮
An old woman cannot compete with a young woman! Not physically anyway. 😂
AT LEAST SHE SAD MOST MOMS ARE JEALOUS OF THEIR DAUGHTERS! THAT'S A DAMNN SHAME THAT THIS TYPE OF MESS IS GOING ON! I TOTALLY DIS! AGREE WITH HER. BUT, SHE DID SAY
" SOME" MOTHERS! I WANT THE BEST FOR MY DAUGHTER. I DON'T LIKE THAT SHE LIKES BUMMY MEN WHO DON'T WORK. THAT'S UNACCEPTABLE IN MY BOOK.
Bc gen xers are still single so they have to compete 😢
Young women, when you rely strictly on your natural beauty, there is absolutely no competition. The older aunties, mommas, and lifelong Bachelorette need to wear/ adorn weaves, makeup, costume like, and artifacts so they have a chance to compete with young women.
Young Women, there is no comparison when you use your natural beauty. (And the older women know this).
They can't they are too old. I am 58 and know I am too old to compete with a young me.
Why this dude don't have people from his failed homeland to his platform and talk about their failed homeland.
He only have FBA's on here. We wanna know about yall failed states.
This women is filled with toxic insights
Black men talk about the relationship with sons. All this talk about women is lame
It’s not a gender war. There’s clearly a war on our minds regardless of what chromosome we are, each issue should be addressed. Men have bad ways and so do women