My Parents would've been Married for 68 years but my Dad passed 03/1997. My Siblings, Aunts and Uncles been Married for decades. I have had several examples of successful marriages. I'm 45 & we been Married for 24 years. We have 2 Sons ages 23 & 17. I will always go hard for Black Men. 🙏💙💙💙
Shes speaking facts im glad to see a woman who is telling the truth shes a breath of fresh air and shes understands whats going on in this modern world
This woman is DEEP in her clear thoughts, knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and advice. And she’s pretty too. Thank you for this great information and insight you gave us. Thank you!
It's really because I feel like a lot of women understand this and the history of it but noone talks about fixing it like today what do we do. I remember my childs father who isn't active in my childs life saying he's not around because the system set it up that way. That mindset is just crazy . Alot of women would want a man but their are a lot of men who behave like children because of a lack of love. But what do we do NOW to change that mindset
You are, unfortunately, describing my mother and the way she handled her children, including one brother that has no respect for women. She has passed, and she pretty much left me with this mess and I am cleaning it up now. Every able body has to do their own thing and these are conversations that are making my family turn against me. So be it...
@@I2AmUSbeautifully stated. We inherit so much trauma and mess that far outlasts the individuals that never faced their own healing and attempted to ensure their lineage didn’t suffer from their “sins” (trauma isn’t about blame or guilt, it’s about accountability. YOUR trauma wasn’t willingly given to you but it is yours to free yourself from and grow and evolve from it.) So many people cannot face their own truth and lack self awareness. Another reason why folks insist on interfering with OTHER folks traumas constantly to the point where we’ve been indoctrinated to believe “Love & Hip Hop” and all of its curated cultural genocide….is a complete normal way to approach life and interpersonal relationships and it sickens me. I don’t jusge people that do, but I haven’t watched TV in almost 2 decades and I’m only 33 because I feel spiritually I can see it for what it is. My late fiancé and I had these kinds of conversations ALL THE TIME, I was r@ped at 12. My parents were married for 3 decades but my pops was never present in any other way outside of physically but I don’t resent either of these men. My late fiancé was the most incredible man I’m convinced I’ll ever know. I am so honored and blessed to not only have had him as a lover and a friend, but a leader, a mentor and a confidant. Even before him, I refused to jump on the male hate bandwagon and I feel for y’all man I really do. So many of these women are broken and jaded and I totally get it but ultimately we have to look at the fact that it hasn’t ALWAYS been this way but no one pauses to consider that they’ve been indoctrinated and brainwashed into glorifying death both literally and FIGURATIVELY. Might as well be a bunch of spiritual zombies roaming around, the CDC already told and I’m rambling and half joking at this point 😅😂 but that’s only because the reality of it all is oh so painful. Lord have mercy. My heart is with y’all my brothers in love. 👑♥️✨
Dude really tried to speak in defense of white ppl. I'm glad she checked him on that bullshit. This is why we can't be having sit downs wit these none FBA folk. They are not one of us
Sis is tapped in!! She definitely is tuned into the new black media!! This is common sense what she’s talkin about! I’m finna find and follow her. *exhale* Fresh air!!
you try? it shouldn't be that hard to see men as humans & not just walking, talking ATM machines. imagine if women had the metoo movement & men said "we'll try to have compassion for women" lol smh
Queen? Please that's the problem right there ,she is just a regular woman,queen is structure of power having a court &military. Just stop saying that crap,use queen in its right form.
Man I really enjoyed this interview! These are the types of conversations we need to be having as a people. And you spoke sm truth, both of y’all. I’m in here nodding and agreeing talking at the screen. I too never grouped all our black men under one umbrella. Black men y’all are much appreciated!! 🤴🏾And I felt you when you said you don’t trust women as far as you can throw them. Ion play that either with my man (well when I have have one)! “Where’s the sisterhood” 😂 love my sistas, I just don’t need to have them all up in my mix when it comes to down to who I’m laying and building with! The Black Family & Black healthy love is still alive. ✊🏾 much appreciation for this interview and y’all’s contribution. 👏🏾💜
I used to think the same way about women until I realized that if I’m concerned about a woman being around my man - my real concern is my man. SMH. Harsh reality.
The constant finger pointing and lack of accountability is exhausting(on both sides). What does this achieve? Are we any closer to coming together & healing from this or other one sided conversations like this? God please continue to bestow on us your grace as we journey our back to you & can keep one of your highest commandments to love each.🙏🏽
I agree. No woman should have to bash woman to make a man feel stronger. And no man have to bash men to make a woman feel loved. This interview was basically about telling women what we are doing wrong that is not making black men thrive. That conversation should be one on one with women. Just like men need to have a conversation with men about how to be better men.
I enjoyed that video. She gave enough information to solve 90% of problems in the black community. We need God first, love, and communication. It’s a simple formula. Yet, it’s hard to execute. Why don’t we love and respect each other? In the movie Shaka Zulu, he told his mother “we are incapable to love, all we know is hate” 🤔
@@rasulsamad5860Facts, religions were forced onto our ancestors which made our ancestors mentally ill... before religions our ancestors were never seperated...the Women and Men were One... it's extremely unfortunate that Black women perpetuate and reinforce dysfunction/mental illness by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide.
I do not know who this woman is BUT I RESPECT THIS BLACK BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS RIGHT ON POINT!!! She is saying out a loud what we as black womenswear from a to z should be saying across the board, THE TRUTH IS THE LIGHT!!!!!
Thank you, Sista, for this conversation. As a mother of two young black men, it sickens me to see black women take all their insecurities and anger out on all black men. I lift my sons up and let them know they are worthy of great things and relationships with great people in this life. 🙏🏽❤️
@@richa4976They see and they don't care, because they don't love themselves. How can you get a person who doesn't love themselves to love you? It's impossible. And as a man, you don't have to put up with their hatred. You are free, my brother. You owe these women nothing.
Great, that you are breaking the programming... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home=Hellish Zoo.
I am glad that this woman is being totally real about how black women can be both constructive and destructive. I hope that his message that she is telling in this interview be a lesson for all black men whether they live in the USA, the Caribbean, Europe and every part of this Earth
Some people spend too much time waiting on God. God has laid the path before you, select and move wisely. That is what I would tell the folks waiting on God.
Some women today don’t know because of the women before us. See how she mentioned she learned more from her aunt than her own mother. Some men and women were shit before us and we’re a product of that.
It's extremely unfortunate but the Patriarchal Order was forced upon our ancestors... it's extremely unfortunate in order to survive they promoted and reinforced Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness... the programming is extremely difficult to break/reject at this point, but some are rejecting the programming.
Married 53 years…know who you are, what you want and the same applies with your spouse When or if those boundaries are breached Stop!… remind each other of the initial foundation, then move forward.
It doesn't work. Emotions aren't responding to behavior but what could happen in majority of cases. If you perceive men as dangerous you will be afraid even if behavior is perfectly normal. The fact that you feel negative emotions doesn't mean that someone did anything wrong.
She dropped a lot of factual jewels, I Can tell she is speaking from experience, a lot of woman should listen to this interview, I enjoyed it very much, and she is telling the truth.
I am glad this woman understands not to have women hang around her man in her home because a lot of women don’t understand this concept of protecting their man by keeping these single women away from their man.
Dear our sister, you have seen what others women can not. You are tradional ,one who keeps and you can pass it on. You have known what how to build strong man, strong bond family. Please keep teaching the young women. God bless you and your family.
The "sisterhood" it's the same as the "brotherhood". Don't think that men don't try to hit on other men's partners, wives. It dread out ya!. What she said about peace ✌🏾is truth.
@@samuelaout7993 that’s y they destroying there chance at families n loosing all around for years now there negative mentality is just being made known by the internet
I hate that these conversations are never balanced. People either misandrist or misogynist….EVERY time! Nobody can be unbiased and just speak on real solutions. They’re always fighting for one side and never both. When you’re on one side, no matter which side you’re on….you’re more of the problem and not the solution!
Exactly. As a black woman who had both parents and they still married. Black people need to accept its both bm and bw are the problem with the black relationship. It's always one side and pointing the finger. Both bm and bw are the problem
The part about the son-husband thing really hit close to home for me. My dad left when i was 11 and then all through my teenage years, my mom would constantly assert that i was the man of the house and that i should be catering to her by fixing/washing her car "just because", cook dinner, clean the apartment (including her filthy room), she once tried to get me to rub her feet, and would even include me in big financial decisions (like what state we should move to, what kind of house/car she should buy) but whenever things didnt work in her favor, suddenly i was just a child and i should know my place. Now at 29, im married with 3 kids and we dont talk because i keep "prioritizing that girl" (my wife) over her. Up until now i thought that shit only happened to me😢
Nope I’m 29 as well my brother. I’m from Jamaica but live in America and this happens in the Carribbean and America. Im soon getting to the point where you’re at. Just haven’t reached my breaking point yet
@@dee_305 well damn 😂 I used to think the same. I would to go to the Jamaican subreddit page just to read what other Jamaican kids my age went through and it was the exact same. But then I realized that a lot African American also have the same experience. I just think it’s a black thing. The black community has women that just choose the horrible men to be fathers. These fathers are often times just don’t really want the job so they eventually leave (just like both of our fathers) or the mother makes sure the child never sees the kid’s father. This creates all these dumbass issues we have to deal with. I would recommend you go to therapy if you haven’t already. I don’t know your parents but my parents never went to therapy even though they really need to badly. I’m going in 2 weeks. Hope you get yourself checked out
A Father is a Son's first hero & A Daughter's First Love. These girls don't love themselves, because their biological fathers never told them "I Love You!".
@@leonmartin7445 if your name is on the BC take her to court. These women count on men not wanting to deal with the hassle of court proceedings or are afraid because of a past record. But once those are legit your kids and you have rights,in fact she doesn’t even have the right to keep them from you.
Facts. I don't know how many times I've heard that certain women do crazy things because their father was not an essential part of their childhood. Could explain a large amount of the confusion that goes on in today's world.
This is keeping it real, please share, this needs, needed and is needing be heard by many black peoples young and old. This sister is loving us to life, not to death!❤😮😊
This is a breath of fresh air! I don’t have a lot of friends and I used to think something was wrong, but it’s so much unnecessary competition and jealousy I just love staying to myself. This was a good one. Shouts out to Neriah Shiloh
They never show successful black businessmen. They have, for centuries, kept our black investors from our knowledge. However I never expected any help from them.
What I don’t understand is how can the government remove a man from his own house? If it’s his house, he pays they can not just kick him out if he was providing.
I'm 100% Pro-Black Men; there are the strong, competent, mature ones, unfortunately, there's so few of you, I know you're out there. Much love for our Black Man/ you are loved and seen!!!!!
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeautyyea for you. You probably on welfare and stay in section 8 and a baby momma. Us black folks don’t claim you “niggas” we got black strong families out here
This woman is speaking so much facts I see why my marriage of 30 years has failed because of the selfish, childlike, untrustworthy woman I took for my wife.
30 years?? Divorce and or child support is definitely expensive if you've been locked in for that long. It must be cheaper to keep her. I would've divorced in three years if it got that hectic.
If you make your wife your safe space for you to vent, don’t be surprised when she’s done with you and you’re going through a divorce, all those things that you told her under the influence of emotion in “secret”, they get used against you. You better not.I will not vent to someone like that. That is a bad recipe for disaster.
Thank you good sister for your interview that was full of intellect and knowing who you are. It's really good to hear a black woman speak on what some black women need to hear and understand about the black man.
There is a disparity, but that’s rarely addressed honestly. There’s a whole lot of chaos in the “community” that’s rarely addressed honestly. A healthy marriage is beautiful, but the Bible says it’s better to stay single, so there is nothing wrong with anyone choosing to stay single.
I have been saying it for years about black women being accountable for our actions!!! Why do black women feel they can say and do whatever they want and when consequences come they want a pass. It does not work like that!!! We have to look at the woman in the mirror!!!
It's extremely unfortunate but female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... this programming/Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness have been passed on for at least the past 300-500 yrs... it's the programming and it's extremely difficult to break/reject... it's learned/taught behavior.
Thank you for this interview!!! This Queen speaking facts. Women can do both I do it too. I'm a wife, mother, I work I have hobbies. I make time for everything and everyone including myself. ❤️🖤💚
I have 3 Sons. I’m blessed beyond measure. I trained them up in the way they should go with the Word of God. Also setting an example. Women must unlearn and relearn everything they was taught by the women in their family. I would never give up on our Israelite men because I chose the wrong ones in my past. Our men is the highest level man on earth. They just need a good Helpmeet to pray over him encourage love uplift motivate and be his peace. But he has to be a righteous head. ❤❤❤❤
I’m married (mom) with two black sons. I’ve talked to my boys about respecting women, not to use women for their bodies etc. I have also told my sons to be respected by women, don’t let any woman use them for their bodies and what they can get from them. I’ve told my sons, when they get older, they will have to be careful of some of the women out here. I expect my sons to be honorable men one day, but I want them to know they are deserving of all the things that they are expected to give to women i.e love, respect, honesty, loyalty, compassion etc.
Great, you have taught them the opposite of the Patriarchal Order programming. which says male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators.
I love the perspective of this sister. I can relate to her upbringing and her current perspective. I was raised by a bunch single, baby mamas, but I never felt like BM were the ops because I could CLEARLY see the toxicity in the women I was raised up around. Mammy 🙋🏾♀️ Pick Me 🙋🏾♀️... just because I dont go along with the feminist ideology and I'm fine with those titles
@@Ol1v1as_world ABW who say they are "divesting" from the black community by having encounters with WM that never lead to marriage. All they really do is dump on BM.
The Patriarchal Order went around the world raping and killing females forcing them to submit to being sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... it's extremely unfortunate that she promotes and reinforces this Dysfunctional behavior by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide...All religions are Patriarchal.
Shidd, I been subscribed to Neriah here on RUclips. So when I saw the thumbnail to this interview I immediately clicked on it because I knew she was bout to spit fire💪🏿🔥.
Accountability is a big proponent of women's failures. Ask yourself, has your woman ever apologized to you for her wrongdoings? Probably rarely to never.
She’s a breath of fresh air from all this toxic pollution. Real sister right here. May God continue to bestow wisdom upon you. Her husband is a very very blessed man to have such an intelligent wife. Peace and Love 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
This interview is truly incredible. This sister is speaking real. I hope other women get to see this. Women need to reason with themselves. Feminism and hating black men is a scam being played on you. It's the destruction of the black family.
Correct, that was never her bag...She originally was in a Matriarchal Society/World...when Men and Women were together as One... but the Matriarch was overthrowed by the Patriarchal Order and she was forced to submit to being a sex slave, maid servant and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators.
.. many great points were made here. One thing we sometimes overlook is Hollywood's purposeful manipulation of our perception of each other - Black men and Black women... Hollywood Writer's have always been cunning in how they shape our perception of self but these last 10+ years they've ramped up their Anti-Black-Family campaign... this is why you see tv shows, movies, and commercials written in ways that urge us to date white... or urge us to go homosexual... rarely are we written happy heterolsexual Black-with-Black.. The movie 'If Beale Street Could Talk' was close. But inline with Hollywood's Anti-Black-Family guidelines they had to make it end in despair to give the perception that Black Love is hopeless... Most of our people don't know that white Jewish Hollywood producers get together about once a year to Decide what THEY want the trends to be. Then they charge their writers with inserting messages into shows, movies, and commercials that promote their desired trend... Obviously we are privy to those meetings... But we can conclude, by watching what they're puttibg on tv, that their desire for us is a destruction of Black Love and Family... A similar Blend-and-Destroy campaign was used on Native Americans... that's why they're so light skinned today...They were persuade to think blending with their enemies was advancement... But whites had no problem sexing Native Americans all while continuing programs that were exterminating them.
These is heavy subjects forreal forreal .. and ones that MUST be addressed in our community .. the damaging things are the things we were taught NOT to talk about smh .. pain passed down
Correct, we were taught this Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness...our predecessors were forced to submit to this Deviant behavior in order to survive they were forced to pass it on to their offspring...at this point they don't even know that the programming was forced, now they voluntarily promote and reinforce this Mental Illness.
When my sister talked about compromise, she made an important point. And moving from the me mindset to the we mindset is the main challenge for both men and women. We also make the mistake of believing that a person's success in one arena gives them wisdom in all areas of life. That is a fallacy.
This has already been said but I really enjoyed this convo. I know it’s easy for me to say because I am a black man, but I think people should see that the overall message. That black men are not the enemy of black women. We are on the same team and we both have work to do in order to rise together.
It's refreshing to see a black woman who has a good head on her shoulders. As an African, I have always held that the problem with blacks in America is their values, not the color, income or the oppressions. Sustained success in any endeavor rests ultimately in your values. Everything else is ephemeral.
I give thanks to the long line of successful marriages (no divorce no single parent) of on both sides of my family and my father and mother for raising 6 children who learned to stay married and raise a strong family from their examples. Strong black marriage (2 parent) families still exist.
I don’t think all black men are bad. I don’t think the entirety of any group of ppl are bad…. But I have been in a very toxic & abusive relationship with a black man. He is every single one of those negative stereotypes. But unfortunately I do know that I chose him. I chose him at 17 years old when I was very immature and I’m still stuck with him at 35. I really wish I was taught what to look for in a man, but here we are and I have no one to blame but myself.
I hope one day.. You realize you deserve better. And yet you did choose that man you can also choose to leave him. You can CHOOSE your own happiness and self care. No matter your age you still deserve to have peace and love in your life and in your relationships. I’m praying for you sister. May God Bless protect you and give you the strength to choose you.
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As a black American man, it’s so refreshing to hear a black woman understanding the struggles black men are enduring.
Word bro
Yes 👏🏽 it is!!!
I agree 💯
And you still aint gonna pick her😂😂😂😂
@@everyonedeservestogohome2949 I rather deal with a 5 with an awesome personality vs a 9 that’s disrespectful
My Parents would've been Married for 68 years but my Dad passed 03/1997. My Siblings, Aunts and Uncles been Married for decades. I have had several examples of successful marriages. I'm 45 & we been Married for 24 years. We have 2 Sons ages 23 & 17. I will always go hard for Black Men. 🙏💙💙💙
Sorry for your loss
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Too bad they fint gi hard for you. They go hard for ww, aw and lw.
Shes speaking facts im glad to see a woman who is telling the truth shes a breath of fresh air and shes understands whats going on in this modern world
Great content, Black women and Black men need to come together to make a strong Black race in America. We need each other .
Powerful! Thank you sister sometimes us black men feel we are losing our sisters more and more each day.
Because you dudes don't speak up for yourselves Lol
Exactly YALL are MEN STOP LETTING THESE BROADS RUN OVER YOU
Because y’all are disrespectful and treasonous
We are. That’s y in this time we can’t show them no pity.
Aint nobody got time to go back n forth with bitter ass women we let em talk
This woman is DEEP in her clear thoughts, knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and advice. And she’s pretty too. Thank you for this great information and insight you gave us. Thank you!
The lack of women commenting on this video is extremely alarming
It's really because I feel like a lot of women understand this and the history of it but noone talks about fixing it like today what do we do. I remember my childs father who isn't active in my childs life saying he's not around because the system set it up that way. That mindset is just crazy . Alot of women would want a man but their are a lot of men who behave like children because of a lack of love. But what do we do NOW to change that mindset
But not surprising.
Im never getting married all you is a atm machine.
Im never getting married all you is a atm machine.
I'm glad I heard this interview. She is speaking everything I've been saying a long time
You are, unfortunately, describing my mother and the way she handled her children, including one brother that has no respect for women. She has passed, and she pretty much left me with this mess and I am cleaning it up now. Every able body has to do their own thing and these are conversations that are making my family turn against me. So be it...
@@I2AmUS we have to face it. Only way to be better as a man.
@@I2AmUSbeautifully stated. We inherit so much trauma and mess that far outlasts the individuals that never faced their own healing and attempted to ensure their lineage didn’t suffer from their “sins” (trauma isn’t about blame or guilt, it’s about accountability. YOUR trauma wasn’t willingly given to you but it is yours to free yourself from and grow and evolve from it.)
So many people cannot face their own truth and lack self awareness. Another reason why folks insist on interfering with OTHER folks traumas constantly to the point where we’ve been indoctrinated to believe “Love & Hip Hop” and all of its curated cultural genocide….is a complete normal way to approach life and interpersonal relationships and it sickens me. I don’t jusge people that do, but I haven’t watched TV in almost 2 decades and I’m only 33 because I feel spiritually I can see it for what it is.
My late fiancé and I had these kinds of conversations ALL THE TIME, I was r@ped at 12. My parents were married for 3 decades but my pops was never present in any other way outside of physically but I don’t resent either of these men. My late fiancé was the most incredible man I’m convinced I’ll ever know. I am so honored and blessed to not only have had him as a lover and a friend, but a leader, a mentor and a confidant.
Even before him, I refused to jump on the male hate bandwagon and I feel for y’all man I really do. So many of these women are broken and jaded and I totally get it but ultimately we have to look at the fact that it hasn’t ALWAYS been this way but no one pauses to consider that they’ve been indoctrinated and brainwashed into glorifying death both literally and FIGURATIVELY. Might as well be a bunch of spiritual zombies roaming around, the CDC already told and I’m rambling and half joking at this point 😅😂 but that’s only because the reality of it all is oh so painful. Lord have mercy. My heart is with y’all my brothers in love. 👑♥️✨
Dude really tried to speak in defense of white ppl. I'm glad she checked him on that bullshit. This is why we can't be having sit downs wit these none FBA folk. They are not one of us
Go get a channel and voice out. 😂😂😂
She's a very positive woman regardless of what she said. I got mad respect for you sister. Shalom 🙏
Sis is tapped in!! She definitely is tuned into the new black media!! This is common sense what she’s talkin about! I’m finna find and follow her. *exhale* Fresh air!!
I feel her...As a brown mama of 5, with 2 boys & my husband. I try to understand and have compassion for the opposite sex.
Why You mention brown ?seems insecure
You shouldn’t even have to try. It’s in your nature to be compassionate..or at least it used to be.
🟢What's Brown?
you try? it shouldn't be that hard to see men as humans & not just walking, talking ATM machines. imagine if women had the metoo movement & men said "we'll try to have compassion for women" lol smh
@@asdfdc1946 💯💯💯💯 good one
I don't even know what to say, but may the good Lord grant our women such wisdom exhibited by this beautiful soul.
We need more black women like this queen.
Most are just like her and y’all know this
But you're not going to get any.
Queen? Please that's the problem right there ,she is just a regular woman,queen is structure of power having a court &military. Just stop saying that crap,use queen in its right form.
@@keepyourjobkeepyourjob7530Relax it's a title with very little weight like your RUclips name.
@@changestartsnow5116No, words have meaning... and men use them wisely.
Man I really enjoyed this interview! These are the types of conversations we need to be having as a people. And you spoke sm truth, both of y’all. I’m in here nodding and agreeing talking at the screen. I too never grouped all our black men under one umbrella. Black men y’all are much appreciated!! 🤴🏾And I felt you when you said you don’t trust women as far as you can throw them. Ion play that either with my man (well when I have have one)! “Where’s the sisterhood” 😂 love my sistas, I just don’t need to have them all up in my mix when it comes to down to who I’m laying and building with! The Black Family & Black healthy love is still alive. ✊🏾 much appreciation for this interview and y’all’s contribution. 👏🏾💜
FACTS!
I used to think the same way about women until I realized that if I’m concerned about a woman being around my man - my real concern is my man. SMH. Harsh reality.
I have been waiting for this full interview. This woman is a hero of mines !!!
I’m praying for you
@@MrGhanasbest no thanks I’m not accepting any prayers
@@MrGhanasbest😂😂😂😂
The constant finger pointing and lack of accountability is exhausting(on both sides). What does this achieve? Are we any closer to coming together & healing from this or other one sided conversations like this?
God please continue to bestow on us your grace as we journey our back to you & can keep one of your highest commandments to love each.🙏🏽
I agree. No woman should have to bash woman to make a man feel stronger. And no man have to bash men to make a woman feel loved. This interview was basically about telling women what we are doing wrong that is not making black men thrive. That conversation should be one on one with women. Just like men need to have a conversation with men about how to be better men.
Taught to hate ourselves....rebel and love ourselves to find truth, divinity and peace.❤
I enjoyed that video. She gave enough information to solve 90% of problems in the black community. We need God first, love, and communication. It’s a simple formula. Yet, it’s hard to execute. Why don’t we love and respect each other? In the movie Shaka Zulu, he told his mother “we are incapable to love, all we know is hate” 🤔
Nah religious got us messed up. The most ghetto places have the most churches
Yeah you had me until you started with that god stuff. Religion maybe for thee , but not for me... spiritually is another subject though.
@@rasulsamad5860Facts, religions were forced onto our ancestors which made our ancestors mentally ill... before religions our ancestors were never seperated...the Women and Men were One... it's extremely unfortunate that Black women perpetuate and reinforce dysfunction/mental illness by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide.
Excellent podcast!!
Protect this woman at ALL costs!!
Black women and black men, must become friends again.
That'll only happen when we trust each other. Black women can't be trusted.
I do not know who this woman is BUT I RESPECT THIS BLACK BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS RIGHT ON POINT!!! She is saying out a loud what we as black womenswear from a to z should be saying across the board, THE TRUTH IS THE LIGHT!!!!!
Yesssss yes yes yes AND YES!
Thank you, Sista, for this conversation. As a mother of two young black men, it sickens me to see black women take all their insecurities and anger out on all black men. I lift my sons up and let them know they are worthy of great things and relationships with great people in this life. 🙏🏽❤️
This right here brought me to tears because they don’t see how they are damaging their sons and husbands.
@@richa4976They see and they don't care, because they don't love themselves. How can you get a person who doesn't love themselves to love you? It's impossible. And as a man, you don't have to put up with their hatred. You are free, my brother. You owe these women nothing.
Just protect yourself anytime you see those sisters who trash black men. Save yourself first. Walk away. 😂😂😂
Great, that you are breaking the programming... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home=Hellish Zoo.
but you don't have a problem with black men taking out all their anger and frustration on black women
I am glad that this woman is being totally real about how black women can be both constructive and destructive. I hope that his message that she is telling in this interview be a lesson for all black men whether they live in the USA, the Caribbean, Europe and every part of this Earth
When she said “God is not in the things that are happening today, but I ain’t gonna go there,” I screamed GO THERE!
Sharing is caring. 🔥🔥🔥
Some people spend too much time waiting on God. God has laid the path before you, select and move wisely. That is what I would tell the folks waiting on God.
This lady is a national treasure ❤
Some women today don’t know because of the women before us. See how she mentioned she learned more from her aunt than her own mother. Some men and women were shit before us and we’re a product of that.
It's extremely unfortunate but the Patriarchal Order was forced upon our ancestors... it's extremely unfortunate in order to survive they promoted and reinforced Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness... the programming is extremely difficult to break/reject at this point, but some are rejecting the programming.
God bless this Sista !!!!!
I never thought I would hear a black woman tell the truth like she just did 💯💪🏾💯
Real black women have always been this, it's nothing new.
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Married 53 years…know who you are, what you want and the same applies with your spouse
When or if those boundaries are breached Stop!… remind each other of the initial foundation, then move forward.
It doesn't work.
Emotions aren't responding to behavior but what could happen in majority of cases.
If you perceive men as dangerous you will be afraid even if behavior is perfectly normal.
The fact that you feel negative emotions doesn't mean that someone did anything wrong.
She dropped a lot of factual jewels, I Can tell she is speaking from experience, a lot of woman should listen to this interview, I enjoyed it very much, and she is telling the truth.
Wow this woman has moral values, insight, wisdom and experience to cross fertilise into black culture. This is a great platform, keep up the voice.
Black woman to black woman, thank you for these gems. Hope more of us begin to understand this
I am glad this woman understands not to have women hang around her man in her home because a lot of women don’t understand this concept of protecting their man by keeping these single women away from their man.
May God bless her and family and keep her safe and strengthened in speading this truth and knowledge 🙏 thank you sister.
I loved this video...we need more Black women out here telling the TRUTH! 👏🏽
Yes!.. informative and she didn't have to bash women at the same time, just gave facts..
@@mr6foot687Black women still take facts as bashing... as a man, you can't be concerned with that.
They are many women. Many of them are in Africa.
You are lost. she said men should not buy women flowers and women should be doormats.
@@rosejames5172 BW don't even like flowers, though... they want diamonds, cars, clothes, shoes, etc.
Dear our sister, you have seen what others women can not. You are tradional ,one who keeps and you can pass it on. You have known what how to build strong man, strong bond family. Please keep teaching the young women. God bless you and your family.
The "sisterhood" it's the same as the "brotherhood". Don't think that men don't try to hit on other men's partners, wives. It dread out ya!. What she said about peace ✌🏾is truth.
I’ve never herd a BW talk this sensible about marriage n relationship before Never!!!
BW? Damn
@@samuelaout7993 BW/Black Woman
@@samuelaout7993 that’s y they destroying there chance at families n loosing all around for years now there negative mentality is just being made known by the internet
I hate that these conversations are never balanced. People either misandrist or misogynist….EVERY time! Nobody can be unbiased and just speak on real solutions. They’re always fighting for one side and never both. When you’re on one side, no matter which side you’re on….you’re more of the problem and not the solution!
Exactly. As a black woman who had both parents and they still married. Black people need to accept its both bm and bw are the problem with the black relationship. It's always one side and pointing the finger. Both bm and bw are the problem
I’ve noticed that too, I guess they have an agenda to push.🤷🏽♀️
The part about the son-husband thing really hit close to home for me. My dad left when i was 11 and then all through my teenage years, my mom would constantly assert that i was the man of the house and that i should be catering to her by fixing/washing her car "just because", cook dinner, clean the apartment (including her filthy room), she once tried to get me to rub her feet, and would even include me in big financial decisions (like what state we should move to, what kind of house/car she should buy) but whenever things didnt work in her favor, suddenly i was just a child and i should know my place. Now at 29, im married with 3 kids and we dont talk because i keep "prioritizing that girl" (my wife) over her. Up until now i thought that shit only happened to me😢
I'm glad you escaped that mental prison.
Nope I’m 29 as well my brother. I’m from Jamaica but live in America and this happens in the Carribbean and America. Im soon getting to the point where you’re at. Just haven’t reached my breaking point yet
@@nocando17 it might be an island thing because both of my parents are Jamaican also
@@dee_305 well damn 😂 I used to think the same. I would to go to the Jamaican subreddit page just to read what other Jamaican kids my age went through and it was the exact same. But then I realized that a lot African American also have the same experience. I just think it’s a black thing. The black community has women that just choose the horrible men to be fathers. These fathers are often times just don’t really want the job so they eventually leave (just like both of our fathers) or the mother makes sure the child never sees the kid’s father. This creates all these dumbass issues we have to deal with. I would recommend you go to therapy if you haven’t already. I don’t know your parents but my parents never went to therapy even though they really need to badly. I’m going in 2 weeks. Hope you get yourself checked out
@@nocando17
Why does the blame solely go on the woman if the father leaves?
Fire interview absolutely love her perspective. I truly agree with her on so many levels. I pray more women get chance to hear her speak.
A Father is a Son's first hero & A Daughter's First Love.
These girls don't love themselves, because their biological fathers never told them "I Love You!".
Most likely the mother kept them away
@@musiqworlmedia88yup I haven’t seen my son in 1.5 years so far. And I’ve been blocked no way to know where he is
@@leonmartin7445 if your name is on the BC take her to court. These women count on men not wanting to deal with the hassle of court proceedings or are afraid because of a past record. But once those are legit your kids and you have rights,in fact she doesn’t even have the right to keep them from you.
Facts. I don't know how many times I've heard that certain women do crazy things because their father was not an essential part of their childhood. Could explain a large amount of the confusion that goes on in today's world.
@@musiqworlmedia88that is not the case for the most part.
This is keeping it real, please share, this needs, needed and is needing be heard by many black peoples young and old. This sister is loving us to life, not to death!❤😮😊
This is a breath of fresh air! I don’t have a lot of friends and I used to think something was wrong, but it’s so much unnecessary competition and jealousy I just love staying to myself. This was a good one. Shouts out to Neriah Shiloh
She's a gem! Very insightful conversation.
They never show successful black businessmen. They have, for centuries, kept our black investors from our knowledge. However I never expected any help from them.
I witnessed on my own the judicial system criminalizing innocent black men.
What I don’t understand is how can the government remove a man from his own house? If it’s his house, he pays they can not just kick him out if he was providing.
Thank you beautiful sister
I'm 100% Pro-Black Men; there are the strong, competent, mature ones, unfortunately, there's so few of you, I know you're out there. Much love for our Black Man/ you are loved and seen!!!!!
Very few so why bother?
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeautyyea for you. You probably on welfare and stay in section 8 and a baby momma. Us black folks don’t claim you “niggas” we got black strong families out here
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeautySay it again don't dare waste your time on them, RUN as fast as you can.
Knowledge is powerful when a man has a relationship with the most high God, and learn, the right way to survive and live
when u dealing with california that's when it gets weird black people like to hate other black people shamelessly here for yhyte people
Man its so hard dating here
This is one of the most powerful videos ive ever listened to.
This woman is speaking so much facts I see why my marriage of 30 years has failed because of the selfish, childlike, untrustworthy woman I took for my wife.
30 years?? Divorce and or child support is definitely expensive if you've been locked in for that long. It must be cheaper to keep her. I would've divorced in three years if it got that hectic.
Damn my boy you need a bro hug
That is a different kind of pain. You cannot get the time back. But I hope you make the most of the time you have left.
Yet you stayed 30 years. Should have chose better 😂
I think 30 years is a success even if it ended. But, what now?
She won my heart! Thank you blk women. I love you ❤️
This is such a beautiful and refreshing discussion we need to have more often at home and on major platforms.
Thank you 🙏🏾
She’s a blessing to God, her family, her community and the world
I admire the intelligence of this queen. Great interview.
I enjoyed listening to this woman speak. She is speaking from a real place. 💪🏾💯
If you make your wife your safe space for you to vent, don’t be surprised when she’s done with you and you’re going through a divorce, all those things that you told her under the influence of emotion in “secret”, they get used against you. You better not.I will not vent to someone like that. That is a bad recipe for disaster.
Divorced?? She definitely wasn’t the one. Test all the spirits of a person. You will know them by their fruit. Stop picking low hanging fruit.
That's is absolutely not true.
Chose a suitable woman
Clearly they missed what you said!! And yes it IS true!! SMH 🤦🏾♂️
@@richa4976 It is true only if isn’t the right person.
Thank you good sister for your interview that was full of intellect and knowing who you are. It's really good to hear a black woman speak on what some black women need to hear and understand about the black man.
There is a disparity, but that’s rarely addressed honestly. There’s a whole lot of chaos in the “community” that’s rarely addressed honestly. A healthy marriage is beautiful, but the Bible says it’s better to stay single, so there is nothing wrong with anyone choosing to stay single.
Nothing wrong with being single at all. But There is a passage in the Bible that states "He that findeth a Wife findeth a good thing!".
Thank God there's still hope, protect this woman at all costs
I have been saying it for years about black women being accountable for our actions!!! Why do black women feel they can say and do whatever they want and when consequences come they want a pass. It does not work like that!!! We have to look at the woman in the mirror!!!
It's extremely unfortunate but female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... this programming/Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness have been passed on for at least the past 300-500 yrs... it's the programming and it's extremely difficult to break/reject... it's learned/taught behavior.
Thank you for this interview!!! This Queen speaking facts. Women can do both I do it too. I'm a wife, mother, I work I have hobbies. I make time for everything and everyone including myself. ❤️🖤💚
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Everybody ain't you dear.
Please remove that nose piercing ma'am.
Loved her! Bring her back whenever!
A beautiful intelligent sister. Every brother serious about life needs a woman like her.🙏🏾✨✨✨
🎉she is a great balanced lady we need more of this balanced energy.
I am very happy to have seen this. The world needs to hear this lady and this show. I pray the modern woman today find videos like this
What’s the modern woman like?
I have 3 Sons. I’m blessed beyond measure. I trained them up in the way they should go with the Word of God. Also setting an example. Women must unlearn and relearn everything they was taught by the women in their family. I would never give up on our Israelite men because I chose the wrong ones in my past. Our men is the highest level man on earth. They just need a good Helpmeet to pray over him encourage love uplift motivate and be his peace. But he has to be a righteous head. ❤❤❤❤
Gud job but your not enough...Where's they Dad(s) at?
@@mateencleaves2738 Gud job?? What is that. My Sons father is in their lives. I was simply stating that I have 3 Sons. 2 are grown.
@@yemedemure414 o My bad sis 💪🏿💯
@@mateencleaves2738 It’s okay! ❤️❤️💯
Thank you sister and others like you who have choosing to see the truth and say it as it is
I’m married (mom) with two black sons. I’ve talked to my boys about respecting women, not to use women for their bodies etc. I have also told my sons to be respected by women, don’t let any woman use them for their bodies and what they can get from them. I’ve told my sons, when they get older, they will have to be careful of some of the women out here. I expect my sons to be honorable men one day, but I want them to know they are deserving of all the things that they are expected to give to women i.e love, respect, honesty, loyalty, compassion etc.
Make sure you teach yours on what to look for in a woman. They need to know how to avoid a succubus.
Great, you have taught them the opposite of the Patriarchal Order programming. which says male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses/sexual predators.
Play play play aka nonproductive and non-constructive behavior aka destructive behavior aka male bonding activities aka sports aka
Sports aka male bonding aka borderline homosexuality.
@@joejackson7601 That is stupid.
Wow, I told my friend this the other day word for word. Thank you for your candidness
I love the perspective of this sister. I can relate to her upbringing and her current perspective. I was raised by a bunch single, baby mamas, but I never felt like BM were the ops because I could CLEARLY see the toxicity in the women I was raised up around. Mammy 🙋🏾♀️ Pick Me 🙋🏾♀️... just because I dont go along with the feminist ideology and I'm fine with those titles
Thank you to her words of truth and faith and to you as well..💪🏾❤️
'Mammy' is a title for divesters. It's projection from them.
@@KtotheGwhat are divesters...never heard of that term
@@Ol1v1as_world ABW who say they are "divesting" from the black community by having encounters with WM that never lead to marriage. All they really do is dump on BM.
The Patriarchal Order went around the world raping and killing females forcing them to submit to being sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka stud horses... it's extremely unfortunate that she promotes and reinforces this Dysfunctional behavior by filling up these churches, mosques and synagogues world wide...All religions are Patriarchal.
Shidd, I been subscribed to Neriah here on RUclips. So when I saw the thumbnail to this interview I immediately clicked on it because I knew she was bout to spit fire💪🏿🔥.
Relationships are WORK, they are not supposed to be HARD.
Valid point
So very true.
Please listen people!!! This woman needs to be celebrated. I appreciate a real Queen giving great info from lived experiences.
Accountability is a big proponent of women's failures. Ask yourself, has your woman ever apologized to you for her wrongdoings? Probably rarely to never.
She’s a breath of fresh air from all this toxic pollution. Real sister right here. May God continue to bestow wisdom upon you. Her husband is a very very blessed man to have such an intelligent wife. Peace and Love 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
I want a black women like her…. Dark skinned and intelligent ❤
This interview is truly incredible. This sister is speaking real. I hope other women get to see this. Women need to reason with themselves. Feminism and hating black men is a scam being played on you. It's the destruction of the black family.
Correct, that was never her bag...She originally was in a Matriarchal Society/World...when Men and Women were together as One... but the Matriarch was overthrowed by the Patriarchal Order and she was forced to submit to being a sex slave, maid servant and baby bearers aka the kitchen and the bedroom aka compete and fight over and for stud horses/sexual predators.
I don’t trust women either. You CANNOT even trust MARRIED women either. “I don’t play that game.” This woman is intelligent.
The son husband situation is a serious situation
Shahrazad Ali gamed us up long ago. We need more ladies speaking the truth like this
And fathers raise their sons and love their daughters. This is why two parent households are very important.
This is the remedy!
Ms. Neriah Shiloh, thanks for your wisdom, I personally appreciate when a strong wise black woman explains life to the willing! 🙏🫡
.. many great points were made here. One thing we sometimes overlook is Hollywood's purposeful manipulation of our perception of each other - Black men and Black women... Hollywood Writer's have always been cunning in how they shape our perception of self but these last 10+ years they've ramped up their Anti-Black-Family campaign... this is why you see tv shows, movies, and commercials written in ways that urge us to date white... or urge us to go homosexual... rarely are we written happy heterolsexual Black-with-Black.. The movie 'If Beale Street Could Talk' was close. But inline with Hollywood's Anti-Black-Family guidelines they had to make it end in despair to give the perception that Black Love is hopeless... Most of our people don't know that white Jewish Hollywood producers get together about once a year to Decide what THEY want the trends to be. Then they charge their writers with inserting messages into shows, movies, and commercials that promote their desired trend... Obviously we are privy to those meetings... But we can conclude, by watching what they're puttibg on tv, that their desire for us is a destruction of Black Love and Family... A similar Blend-and-Destroy campaign was used on Native Americans... that's why they're so light skinned today...They were persuade to think blending with their enemies was advancement... But whites had no problem sexing Native Americans all while continuing programs that were exterminating them.
This is so refreshing to hear
I will always support women like her and like minded women like her. That's how we fix things.
These is heavy subjects forreal forreal .. and ones that MUST be addressed in our community .. the damaging things are the things we were taught NOT to talk about smh .. pain passed down
Correct, we were taught this Dysfunctional behavior/Mental Illness...our predecessors were forced to submit to this Deviant behavior in order to survive they were forced to pass it on to their offspring...at this point they don't even know that the programming was forced, now they voluntarily promote and reinforce this Mental Illness.
Whoever her husband is.....brother i salute !! You have a real black woman my brother. I haven't given up, but its rough. Imma find her
Good luck
When my sister talked about compromise, she made an important point. And moving from the me mindset to the we mindset is the main challenge for both men and women. We also make the mistake of believing that a person's success in one arena gives them wisdom in all areas of life. That is a fallacy.
The dad on the 2nd version was of Wonder Years is a positive example of a Black man…but of course it’s been cancelled.
Watched to the end. Great one.
This has already been said but I really enjoyed this convo. I know it’s easy for me to say because I am a black man, but I think people should see that the overall message. That black men are not the enemy of black women. We are on the same team and we both have work to do in order to rise together.
Sharazad Ali broke this down in the 80's
Intelligent lady. This video needs to go viral. Hit them likes.
Wow! Thank you sister Neriah Shiloh, someone understands.
It's refreshing to see a black woman who has a good head on her shoulders.
As an African, I have always held that the problem with blacks in America is their values, not the color, income or the oppressions.
Sustained success in any endeavor rests ultimately in your values. Everything else is ephemeral.
I give thanks to the long line of successful marriages (no divorce no single parent) of on both sides of my family and my father and mother for raising 6 children who learned to stay married and raise a strong family from their examples. Strong black marriage (2 parent) families still exist.
I don’t think all black men are bad. I don’t think the entirety of any group of ppl are bad…. But I have been in a very toxic & abusive relationship with a black man. He is every single one of those negative stereotypes. But unfortunately I do know that I chose him. I chose him at 17 years old when I was very immature and I’m still stuck with him at 35. I really wish I was taught what to look for in a man, but here we are and I have no one to blame but myself.
You have a man and have stayed together for this long. Congratulations 🎊🎉🎈🍾 Please don’t think shyt is sweet out here.
I hope one day.. You realize you deserve better. And yet you did choose that man you can also choose to leave him. You can CHOOSE your own happiness and self care. No matter your age you still deserve to have peace and love in your life and in your relationships. I’m praying for you sister. May God Bless protect you and give you the strength to choose you.
This just broke my heart. I’m praying for you, because you DO NOT have to accept that type of relationship. My heart goes out to you.
Black men kill and abuse those own😢
Try to make it work, it's a cold world out here.