7 Ways to Ensure Everyone Likes & Respects You
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2 videos ago we covered 7 ways to ensure no one likes or respects you. So now let's reverse the process to look on the lighter side; the 7 ways to ensure everyone likes & respects you!
After watching ton of your videos and experimenting for one month and so on (obviously failed too), now I can literally make anyone open up to me and they literally become my friend.
One of my classmate failed an exam so she were crying when professor asked her about it. I picked the opportunity and lectured her (infront of the whole class with loud resonating voice but in comforting manners) about de identification. She came running and cried while hugging me. I did not hug back because I was too puzzled myself now 😂😁
Still lots to learn.
Thank you so much for nurturing my personality.
Could u plz recommend some video which u think is worth watching if I wanna be respected and be a good communicator,also understanding situation and handling the way it should be handled.
It would be a great help then.
Dude! This is huge!!!! Great stuff, especially for actually practicing these things. It won’t be long until they become second nature, and what’s best is you can see how it benefits others to use these things. I’m sure the girl you comforted was grateful to have you around. Doing it 1 on 1 is one thing, doing it in front of a class is another 😂😂 Keep up the good work my fine sir!!!!
@@Diva-w8p Not a video and not the person you asked but... Most of what's covered in this video and how to communicate with people effectively is well captured in this book called 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. It's a great book that, like this video, helps you understand the essence of connecting with people. Exercising the topics with people as I read them helped me talk to people better. I think it's a book worth reading.
@@clayfur Noted,sir!!
I realized i shared my vulnerabilities with the wrong people.. any conflict or misunderstandings I have with them results in insults
Do not cast pearls before swine my friend. If the people you’re opening up to do not listen or care, stop talking and distance yourself from them (if possible). It’s time to find some people who genuinely care. I wish you all the best sir.
Did that too, mate. I made friends with the wrong people entering high school in Year 7, and now at age 16 I regret myself.
Sometimes I would often think I was just noisy, unlikeable, unfunny, and annoying. But it turns out that was because I just surrounded myself with the wrong company.
It is important to understand that these are downstream consequences of prior actions that you cannot change. You can take back power over the situation, but you have to accept that avoidance is not the answer. You must directly confront these conflicts and misunderstandings and make clear that the insults cross boundaries and will result in permanent change of the relationship.
I used to think it's a bad thing that I can't get a word in when talking to people. Turns out I was wrong. The more I listened and the less I said the more impactful my words were in the end.
It's also the case that some people talk too much and don't allow others to talk. One of my co-workers constantly interrupts me in the middle of my sentences but I think his ADHD gets in the way.
There ya go boys. This is how you become a master conversationalist. Bro nailed it.
🥲❤️
I read this as if Ricky from Trailer Park Boys said it.
Women converse differently than men generally speaking
0:08 - only speak when the other person has finished
0:52 - put all the spotlight on them & their good qualities
2:00 - posture towards people when listening
3:08 - label their plan
3:49 - be direct
5:01 - talk about yourself with light-hearted vulnerability
Welcome!
Are you somewhat challenged?
Thank you for the time invested.
Label their pain*
As an autistic person who struggles with feeling left out in conversations because I don't know how to be involved, this is really helpful for me. Thank you :D
Same here, and I want you to know that it's also okay to have your own differences in communication. We all have qualities about ourselves to be cherished and to be improved upon. Make sure you surround yourself with others who cherish you. I struggle very often with not knowing what to say, and most of it comes from others only focusing on themselves in the conversation. Part of it just gives me too much time to sit there and listen... and listen... and keep listening. Everything goes both ways.
Just felt like saying that, really. It's good to know that none of us are alone. Good luck, and take good care of yourself
Main thing: show interest in others.
this hero appeared out of nowhere and changed my life forever
🥲❤️ my fine sir appeared out of the heavens and brightened my day.
24!! The man will go far
Something I’ve noticed about the first one if you want to take it a step further: Most people dislike silence. So if you stay quiet for a little bit longer, depending on the other person, they will fill in the silence by telling you more than they need to. It’s usually something personal, and it’s usually not said outright but through context clues.
For example, “Maybe I don’t do interesting things all the time like him, but it makes me happy.” That shows that the person you’re talking to might be worried they aren’t interesting enough compared to someone else, and you can either back them up or just notice that information and keep the conversation going. Either way, the person feels like they can trust you.
AWESOME STUFF! Thanks for sharing!
Love those videos on social skills, they help me to improve my social skills which i've been neglecting for the last years.
That part about that we connect with people that are vulnerable than those who try to be perfect resonates with me. If you try to be perfect and look perfect to others you cant actually connect with others because youre hiding some truth about yourself. Creating a false self image rather than being authentic I think creates a lot of unnecessary anxiety. Thats why we like to watch movies where characters are flawed who learn about themsleves and how to change their bad habits. Characters that are perfect are boring because theres nothing there to empathize with, because no human is perfect. Growth and deeper self awareness is much better than trying to be perfect.
As someone who's recently started to come to terms with all the major flaws in the way I communicate with others and how my lonliness only furthered them, videos like this have really helped me started to improve
definitely working on the first one.
James 1:19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
also number 4 is a beautiful way to think about being attentive.
Excuse me sir you dropped this 👑
BRO, DON'T MAKE ME BLUSH.
a lot of this is connected to empathy , how ever i have found that the narcs are the ones that succeed in gaining all the respect and admiration, the people who dont do any of these 7 points , I do noticed the other comments showing some success with this and there is place for that but I am certain that these tips do not work in many places
As someone who is genuinely not great at conversation (when the conversation turns to me, I usually run out of words like five minutes in), this is really helpful. Thank you for putting this out there
You just make me smile. I want to hug you, man. You're amazing
🫶🏻 thank you sir :)
Your videos have helped to inspire me to quit smoking and fight my vices like a warrior fighting his enemies. I wish you the best man and hope to see your channel grow and grow until you get what you need from it, whatever that may be.
Dude, this is huge. And I can't express more how proud I am of you. Keep up the great work mate and thank you for sharing this. Keep. Up. The. Good. WORK!
The lighting you for videos, funnily enough, reminds me of a bright light bulb, or a bright shining sun, which fits perfectly for your style of channel. Keep up the great work and keep being you Lewis, your efforts will not go unnoticed ❤️🍀
As an autistic person I’m learning how to be social and learning the mechanisms that make a good relationship and one of these is the concept is video, learning to listen attentively and being fair in a conversation, I almost always shut up and let the other person talk, and I try to follow their thoughts up with a response to their feelings, and I always try to ask at the end if I was listening or if I looked distracted, I’m learning everyday tho
While I can see that your guidelines for listening and positively reflecting on what others have to say will help them feel more comfortable and at ease, I feel that sometimes this strategy is particularly exhausting. I can see why therapists should be well paid.
Pure wisdom, once again. Can't wait for the next one.
"Absolutely nothing goes without saying." It might not make people like you, but people will respect you for never leaving anything unsaid. If you appreciate them, let them know. If you don't resonate with something, let it be known. People will make assumptions if you don't, and it saves everyone a lot of trouble
I’ve been gazing deeply into the windows of people’s souls, but I don’t want to do any of them. I just like gazing deeply into people’s souls
Hi just hope you know that your videos have been really helping me and you have a very calming way of speaking
Thank you :)
2:35 loved it mate 😭👍❤❤
Thank god, one video that doesn't go on about "setting boundaries"... a breath of fresh air.. feels like a brigade of self-help gurus all repeating the same talking points. What I like about this is he doesn't take 18 minutes to get to the point, Bravo!
I really loved the fourth insight. Thank you so much for creating this video.
Had felt relatively nervous about moving to a foreign city for a month before I began watching your videos - Now I cannot wait.
Sometimes you've just got to get out there and go after it, Thanks Lewis.
You need to be the voice of audiobooks - you have a nice calming voice 😊
You are the greatest ❤ Thank you!
I didn't hire a life coach, but this information is solid gold. Thank you for making the world a better place! De veras, ha sido un placer.
Thank you sir! :)
I didn't realize this was a small channel.. u deserve more views because this is valuable information
I love your enthusiastic way of presenting!
What is time to be alive where you can just view something like this for free. Great, valuable, video.
So true, thanks, I so agree. But people interrupt all the time, never let finish a sentence and respond immediately (about them or totally miss the point)... How to react to finish the initial sentence or idea, so the other person understands it was rude to interrupt.... and learns the lesson for the next time?!
You have a very soothing voice, very calming
The VaatiVidya of social dynamics.
Thank you Joey from King Gizzard
Thank you so very much for making videos, you have changed my life
Great comunication skills. Good ideas and entertaining to listen to them.
really nice summary of The Like Switch book
i appreciate you bro thank you
First one, me as someone on the asperger spectrum.. literally I'm always expected to listen to every word of others, yet I'm always interrupted.. apparently what I've to say is unimportant...
Neurotypicals have social hierarchies, and what you say is weighted according to where you are in the social hierarchy. Since autistic people tend to be low on the totem pole, our opinions are often undervalued. I think these conversational hacks are helpful, and I'm not surprised to find other autistic people here.
Really enjoying your posts. I’m in process of shadow work and these are giving me the encouragement I need.
Thank you.
Thanks! These are quite helpful!
Fair enough, but not everyone is gonna like you and respect you, you need to accept that
Exactly. There'll always be a few salty boiz.
@@NewelOfKnowledge not necessarily salty, there's a lot of people that aren't gonna like you, doesn't mean they're salty, they just don't like you
@@Eng-yw3qq Human beings are immensely complex, complicated, unreasoning, and sometimes just not very nice, creatures. We cannot possibly all get along. Some of us simply aren't compatible in any meaningful way, i.e. chalk and cheese etc.
@@Solitary_Scribe55 yeah mate
It's funny how the more comfortable I am with people, the more distracted I am while talking to them. I can hold long conversations with my family and best friend without ever looking at them, and they won't see it as a sign that I'm not interested. I wonder how it looks from the outside though.
As an spanish i dare say that your "muchachos ha sido un placer" was super good. Ir has a graet accent, and i coyldn't notice the tipical emglosh pronunciation
Gracias amigo!!!!!!
Great tips, sir ! By the way, your hair looks fabulous today ! 1:41
Have a wonderful and beautiful day :)
My fine sir, always returning to comment the utmost joy. Thank you and have a blessed week :)
Hi, thank you for making this video :)
I wonder if this exact way to interact with people is the same when it comes to texting and online communications? Most of my interactions are with online friends, and Im not very good with socializing and struggle with texting. It feels like it is more difficult to communicate just over text, it is harder to express feelings since you dont see each others face. Would be lovely if you liked to bring up the topic of communication online / texting, and creating close intimate connections online. ^^ Thank you again for sharing your knowledge! ❤
Great and helpful video! And the author seems to be a really nice guy
Good video. Well done.
I find that the listening somatically can be an odd thing given the social situation. Different people and cultures have different customs for what is friendly, aggressive, too itense, etc. I tend to mirror the other person, even subconciously. They lean forward a bit, I tend to do the same. Crossed arms can mean many things, especially done playfully, or combined with a look of contemplation.
Thank you. And agreed! Many cultural differences to take into account - which sometimes makes social skills vids hard!
The more I watch, the more sure I am that everyone is right that I'm on the spectrum
Honestly keep it up
There’s not a day that goes by now I don’t have your voice guiding me
You sure know how to make me smile sir.
❤
Good video. Thank you.
Next please
1:07 _Labels_ ... It seems like you've been listening to Chris Voss.
What's the name of the 7th way? I can't figure it out
can we get a video on how to read people this is very important and it is very hard to grasp
Follow these steps first and shadow your extroverted friends. Over time, you will slowly understand the non-verbal cues.
@@robotsix6268 ive been doing that almost 13 years and i still have problems
Yo when is this guy going on Chris Williamson or Diary of a CEO ?
If I wait for peiple to finish their talk in conversation with more than 1 person I struggle to say anything because before I realise that 1 person has finished, second is already speaking.
Do you have some advice for this?
Be patient.
what exactly does one do if someone isn't perceptive to labeling their pain? I tend to do that by default as my way of empathizing at a happy medium that isn't passive but also not overstepping. but i know people who dislike this and say that they don't need their feelings validated. even just saying "that sucks" can illicit annoyance since they already know what i'm telling them.
what did you say at the end? Muchachos i see you um brather
Is this the same guy that acted in “all quiet on western front”?
I watched your videos… however I find all the advice difficult to practice… is it because I’m a narcissist? All of these tips seems like a mask I put on to make people like me… but I can’t realistically put on a facade every day without feeling like I’m not truly speaking my mind
@02:00 = Body Posture is going to give away more CLUES, that a person is really listening.
@03:00 = Topic #5, is helpful.
Tbh i just wanna be left alone. I couldn't careless if people hate me or not
“Listen to people like you’re listening to your favorite song”
Do you mean head bang and try to sing along?
Where’s the guy that gives a summary
It’s an absurd notion to believe “everyone” would like you. One needs to be however as comfortable as they unselfishly feel like and be themselves. To pretend to be something you’re not or don’t feel comfortable being just to make others like you is dishonest.
Greetings from Venezuela, South America. 👍
Alternative title: how to scare me out of social interaction (this is a joke)
Smh my head video was too short for me to enjoy doing my housechores so i had to rewatch an old one to fill my 20minutes =(
Jk as always an interesting video.
I think the first point is one of the biggest struggles many people have.
Ahaha, man, I'll work on the vid length just for you ;) but don't complain when the next vid is "3 hours of philosophical ramblings for mrloutham to clean his house" ;)
Chat, where are all the "neurodivergents"? 😂😂😂
Everyone?
;)
I would say labeling someones pain the way u described it, is almost awful, i literally dont have mental energy rn to explain myself but, my god saying to someone, it sounds like i have offended you, anyone would get even more offended they would be like no im.not offeended, and along with all examples u gave, it feels like it will very obviously back fire
Instructions unclear, I don't respect or like myself now...
But I don't WANT "everyone" to like and respect you.
There will always be people you don't like, and vice versa, so IDGAF if these people don't like me. As long as they stay out of my face we won't have a problem :)
This will probably work, but as a form of exercise it sounds more like the homework of a psychopath (or person with antisocial personality disorder), but could also be a "love bombing" strategy of a pathological narcissist?! I think when you are authentic to yourself you get to know yourself best (even if this takes time and sincerity), and when you really get to know yourself, I think you also develop the channel to get to know others, at least that's how I find it. Best regards from Berlin !
Awesome point. Taken too far and trying too hard with any of these would probably raise suspicion in the other person. A light touch is always best - and an understanding we won’t always get these 100% right.
@@NewelOfKnowledge I agree with you ! There is no human exchange without manipulation, that is the quinessence of every encounter, and even if you can bring about the worst with the best intentions, it is still not insignificant WHY we do what we do, authenticity at least means that our actions are flesh on the bone, the ultimate consequences of our actions cannot be conclusively extrapolated , we can only do our best at every moment, we can't do more than our best, I assume cautiously. Please forgive me if I sound incomprehensible, English is not my native language and therefore I suspect I make a lot of communicative mistakes that I don't notice myself?! Best regards from Berlin ! 🙏
It seems your a fine chap, would you not say?
It goes without saying that 7 requires a lot of deep work. I still am on that path... but fuck it is hard. Especially when you're kinda dumb. Lol Oh well, I guess it means I kust have to work harder.
ALL THE BEST WITH IT SIR!
this should not be free
Why would you want everyone to like you?
Likes, yes. Respects? meh.
why dont you grow your hair
He is in monk mode
He csn save money on shampo 😂
Because its easier, cleaner, and maby his girlfriend likes it.
Exactly. He may have a juvenile hairline.
@@broederbond60 Actually its probably got more to do with His beliefs as a munk.
oh you do have suggestions on how to not be an asshole. I really came away from your other video thinking you just had a habit of telling people what's wrong with them without offering any assistance in rectifying the situation. You probably should have combined this video with the other one.
Nobody is like this
true, but it's helpful and wise advice if not socially applied like Super-Glue.
I'm sorry you feel that way, man.
Who the fuck cares what anybody else thinks? It’s none of your fucking business what other people think. It’s their fucking business.
It seems you had a bad day
Grumpy- bet you get invited to all the best parties
I don't know man, when people ask me about my stuff that makes me uncomfortable. I would rather talk about other stuff