You have no idea how much society needs a channel like yours. The manosphere has bred so much hatred and insecurity into young men because they listen to toxic coaches. But your channel is so welcoming and positive, and it's useful too. Thank you, know that the world thanks you for everything you do
As a woman I got lots from this too. It's known as common sence . There must be more like you. Toxic manhood means exactly what it says . Making the man poisonous .
The manosphere.. I suspect many of its marketers are unwitting. They don't realise they are trying to sell something that hasn't been lost because it never existed in the first place. I asked the archetypal hunting caveman, Ogg (I didn't, really), whether he ever has doubts or fears or aspirations or if he ever wonders whether he's on the right path or if he ever looks at a woman and wonders what it would be like if he too could grow babies. Covered in gore and trying to catch his breath after just being chased by a Smilodon - he said yes to everything. So, then I offered him this miracle new protein shake and, of course, he wolfed it down (because he's always hungry). The manosphere, Ogg, is the apex predator that you are not and never will be. **** The Smilodon - the thing that wants to eat you is already in the cave. Most proponents are unwitting. There are, however, some that have built empires on convincing men that a crisis has manifested and needs to be battled. It'll be something endocrinol. Something that makes us primed to consider everything as an attack. It has written history. And it's not that women don't have some of this thing that makes us ready to believe it's 'all the fault of the Jews' or, even, that 'it's all the fault of women' but women are a little less vulnerable to it. I would say that given the option of Alex Jones or Adolf Hitler trying to sell me snake oil - I'd probably opt for Alex Jones as he's nowhere near as slick and insidious. However, what the manosphere has so far been cagey about revealing is that their newly identified enemy is women (one might propose that it has always been thus - as after everything else has been chased off or outright obliterated - who is left but your mother). I'm not going to just lounge with popcorn watching a pogrom against me being fomented. Not again. I wish the solution was as simple as a cool soft hand stroking Alex Jones' sweaty red face. I think a lot of the male victims, of the manosphere, might only need that cool soft hand but some are really making bank out of it. They need to be stopped.
i - as someone who has made an own character based around empathy even before media was crying about it missing in this world of today - agree with that also
1. Don’t try 2. Forget about happiness 3. You are not special 4. The value of suffering 5. You are responsible for everything that happens to you 6. You are wrong about everything 7. Failure is the way forward 8. Toxic vs. nontoxic relationships 9. The importance of saying no 10. When you say you’re going to do something, do it 11. And then . . . you die
This is the most depressing list I've ever agreed with. As important as it is, it just solidifies my belief that growing up isn't worth it, you dont have a choice, and there isn't anything to look forward to anymore.
Growing up Is truly satisfying, empowering, and fullfilling. It may be a depressing list but once you do the work, its a series of spiritual awakenings. I wish you luck @@steampunkemo9211
Too true the more you become aware of death when you get older, the more you realise you must make the most of the time you've got. That doesn't mean trying to cram everything thing in every day. But doing the things you truly appreciate and value, which includes listening to your calm, collected delivery, but purposeful punchlines Lewis. 👏🏻🤗👍🏻
"we have the grace to drop our arguments and accept what theyre saying. not as a defeat, but as a victory , because it's steering us closer to attaining wisdom" WOWWWWWWWWWWWW
I believe that an accommodater actually allows too much space for other people's *negativity* while hoping for their Positivity.... Remember, the people who you're trying to please have their own flaws they're trying to escape and a lot of people can't help but unload it onto anyone who's willing to listen. Pair one of those typical unloaders with a very empathetic accommodater and you'll find that the accommodater's load actually grows significantly - for an introvert, I can say that when all the outside noise quitens and you've had a lot of conversations with unloaders, you need something that demands your full attention to recentre yourself. Something physically and mentally invigorating is King. Thanks Lewis for this highly thought *provoking* video.
I’ve been on a quest of obtaining maturity. It’s tough. Ive been knocked down, discouraged, abandoned and overall down in the dumps, but I know that once I achieve it things will fall in place and all will be good. But for now I’ll support myself in my goals, being my own motivation.
Honestly the responsibility thing is such a good way to explain it. Because my parents got upset at me for things that was clealry out of my hands, and I never quite understood why. With an understanding like this however, I can finally sort of understand their perspective.
Thankyou I am ready to fail in my art 😊 Much better than failing to start again I'm afraid to fail . My fear stops my creativity from spontaneousness I love to create. My own judgement is hard on me
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Thank you for this bro. I'm 28 and I love that i still have my "inner child" - it keeps me happy and creative, and keeps spontaneity and joy in my life - but i do sometimes border on immaturity. I used to be in denial and say others were being "too serious" but over time I've learned to accept that i do have some immature traits. It's tought to try to grow while still maintining your inner child.
I've been watching your channel now this video is from 2 months ago so I have watched the habits video and everything. I am 14 years old and started thinking I can't make progress in my classes if I can't answer the questions my teacher asks (not because I don't finish the homeworks, just because I am afraid of what I might say will be wrong) so, I started searching and found your channel quite interesting, I have a new mentality now, I just started school again and the first week passed and oh god I am scared, but now thanks to you I think I will be able to comunicate better among my classmates and teachers. Keep up the good work! (Sorry for doing this comment so long)
I want to add though, that you don't have to completely lose your inner child. A lot of people think that being an adult means you have to lose your curiosity about the world and abandon your happiness, when in reality it should be the most freeing time of your life to be able to do stuff which makes you happy. Of course, you need to be responsible and it's a bit weird to be watching Peppa Pig or whatever past the age of 5, but you don't need to be completely boring, bored, and miserable. That's the completely wrong idea on what adulthood and maturity is. Basically, learning the difference between immaturity (bad) and "having an inner child" (good) is the best thing you can do for healthy maturity. Also, so much random stuff is called "childish" for literally no reason --- especially if it's feminine. Why is pink "for kids"? Why are butterflies and animals in general "for kids"? Why are teddies and plushies "for kids" (unless it's Valentines, Mother's or Father's day --- _then_ adults can suddenly have them too)? Why are cartoons which don't swear or have shock "humor" every 5 seconds "for kids", when they were clearly made for everyone and sometimes even have subtle adult jokes as though it's intended to have adults also watching? I understand you need to let go of things which are _actually_ for kids (like a lot of cartoons are clearly just for teaching kids skills, counting, the alphabet, whatever), but a lot of the things we're scared of "being childish" are, again, the most random stuff with no logical basis whatsoever, oftentimes only meant to shame femininity or any desire to get away from the vulgar.
@@inactive.5680 Those moments where something obviously happened, a character says it happened, _then_ even the narrator does annoyed me even as a kid. Like, I can't remember exact examples because I stopped watching it when I was a toddler... But say it's obviously raining in the frame, Peppa says it's raining, then the narrator says the exact same thing. Drove me nuts. But maybe that's just me.
5:29 purpose is like a sedative that helps us endure the pain of life. Having a purpose in life does not take away suffering it just makes it worthwhile
Your words hit home to me, feeling kinda lost right now and dont know where to beginn, because im lazy in so many parts of my life. But your video with the bicycle and this one really help me to get perspektives. Thank you so much! Now i have a better understanding on how to improve my life step by step
The concept of Amor Fati atleast touches most of these points and that to me is pretty crazy. Appreciate another amazing piece of teaching. Embracing one life philosophy like you said sounds impossible. I keep hopping from one belief system to the next. Settling down sounds like standing still..
I had a pendant with the words amor fati inscribed on it. This was before I became Christian and it was solid start to love fate before I started to love the fate giver. I wish you the best on building a solid worldview and belief system my friend.
Thanks mate! This type of content is really really useful when we talk about living and facing reality as it is. It raises you up when you're feeling down because of struggling with life situations. I appreciate the reminder. Keep up with the truly important content. Greetings from Colombia, cuídate también muchacho!
This is such an incredible video. It is the first I've seen that communicates my values in a way that can be understood. Im definitely writing each step down and putting it on my wall
Sure, "you're not special" can mean you're not uniquely good or cool --- but I'd like to remind people it _also_ means they're not uniquely bad or useless. People have delusions of both extremes. A lot of people treat "you're not special" as some sort of dark, worrying realisation --- some sort of cruel lesson you need to learn as you grow up --- when in reality it's more _comforting_ than anything. It takes a lot of pressure off you. You let yourself learn new things and be a silly beginner. You stop being angry at yourself for mistakes which you don't mind other people doing. It's really not as bad as some people like to frame it.
The problem with living by the Socratic perspective is that it entails that everyone else is also possibly wrong, which would necessitate a proper humility to go with that insight. However, that is not what you will encounter in the vast majority of your interactions with others - and more often than not you will be judged negatively, as less than, for not speaking and acting as if you are omniscient. Now, that eventually becomes very tiring - you continually encounter the external and internal conflict and friction of being a socratic actor among non-socratic actors. And you might even find yourself to be dysfunctional because of it. The solution then becomes to abandon the relativism and embrace pseudo objectivity, not because it is true, but because it saves your mental health, maintains respect and makes for more efficient choice making. This is the post-socratic level of maturity. Many will maintain the socratic position as a veil - but consistently not act in accordance with it, and it thus becomes a tool for power play - socratic standards for everyone but themselves, leveraged when it suits them. This leaves the socratic position's only viable use as a tool, useful at times, but only when brought forth for a specific task or topic.
I’m a people pleaser. Not because I want others to think positively about me. But because I want me to think positively about me. You think I need more assertiveness?
Oh, oh, oh... 'The distinction between fault and responsibility. Fault is past tense. Responsibility is present tense.' That threw me straight into a quandary. And I'll tell you the question that immediately occurred to me and I defy anybody to answer this (and be completely satisfied with their answer).. When does the past become the present? At what instant does it happen? So, what WAS fault is now responsibility. Only, because I've said it or thought it, it's now past again and therefore fault. I have a much easier time distinguishing between past and future than past and present. That being the case - are fault and responsibility not a lot more intertwined than we think? Or should we position ourselves consistently in the future and therefore everything is fault. Or, maybe it would be better if responsibility is always about the future (therefore - intent)? And if we live with only the intent to bring light and dispel suffering - can it ever be our fault if there is still darkness and suffering in the world? The present is downright impossible to pin down and delineate. I guess you're talking about past and present in a very vague sense and it's only if we think about it, which we shouldn't do?, that it becomes a problem :) .
I believe you have the ordering back to front. The past never becomes the present, but rather, the present becomes the past. It's just that the present is about taking responsibility both for your past and for the mistakes you are guaranteed to make in the present that will become faults as soon as they join your history. In this specific sense, you can then perpetually take responsibility for your faults in a very present sense; both those faults in your past and those to come in your future. The capacity to do this well essentially determines how mature you are in terms of responsibility.
Reminds me of being in a remedial math class during my freshman year when fellow classmates laughed and made fun of me for not giving them the answer, because I told them to look for it themselves.
Its was thanks to realising this, that im not too serious right now. Might as well enjoy the last few moments before you get the responsibilities of exams and, later on, adulthood thrown on you.
15:25 in my opinion , the more you love someone, the less boundaries there will be , so you that's why it feels hard to say no to smoe people .. , so you have to be wise about how much and who to love . Not all people dserve your love , you have to test him whether he is a good or a bad person before you consider him as a close one
romantic exclusive relations with 1 other partner in my opinion are overrated. Better to spend more time with good friends, have fulfilling hobbies and work you enjoy. A partner can only provide in part what you need. a lot of peoole forget that
Do you think you can transform toxic relationships -or behaviours- (at or with work, family, friends or partner) in healthy ones through acknowledgment, accountability and commitment? I recognize and take responsability for the behaviours that I need to improve in order to be more healthy but I think that a gift the people around you can offer if they value you is to be comprehensive and patient with this and also look inside for their own. Since I have not found anyone 100% healthy yet, I think the key to know if I should maintain a connnection is to really see people becoming aware of its own baggage, and seeing progress and growth in both parts.
OH SHIT STILLNESS IS THE KEY I SEE THAT IN THE BACKGROUND!!! That book is AMAZING. Just discovered your channel, I'm all about positive masculinity. Cool to see you make these. Much love from Miami.
My handbag is very orderly. I am a woman. Wait, I don’t have a handbag. My backback is very orderly. Love you, Lewis. Stereotypes even in jokes are tiresome. Thank you.
Damn I really needed this more than I thought. I feel like these arguments merely brushed the surface, but they were loud reminders🥹 Having adhd and other gentic-based mental illness still pushes me into a cognitive dissonance for some of these issues. I grasp the efficacy of keeping it clean and simple, but with inherent setbacks like mine, the formula ends up contradicting itself. Organising and punctuality is hard when you're set up for failure, when the problem is much more physiological. Same thing for innate mood disorders, anxiety and depression for me. Sometimes, whether induced environmentally or expressed epigenetically, you have to fundamentally structure these things around shortcomings - so much so that the lines between sensible adjustment & absence of responsibility/self-pity becomes blurry
Wow first time watching your vids and this was amazing. I can't even put into words how heavy this is, I want to watch this a few more times to really retain all the information but man, great fucking work.
Lol i clicked on this and thought to myself, "i kinda just wanna listen to the subtle art of not giving a fuck, but i remember liking this guys videos, so ill listen to this first", then you started talking about Mark Manson and i was mindblown at how that worked out
I don't know if he mentions this in the video but this is just "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" but summarized, it's a good book give it a read or a listen
Ive read the book before so i was like wait that sounds familiar and its even chronologically in order, and i was about to say something till i watched till the end thanks for giving him credits this video is a great shortend version of it especially for people who don't like to read cause it's a really good book it was the first book I've ever read and the only one I enjoyed reading and this is perfectly summarized. I'd still recommend reading the book or at least giving it a try cause it has a lot more to say and to learn from. This video is still great to get a peak of it cause it has almost all of the important parts covered or just to rewatch to remember the things again but how we could already learn from this video you can always improve and grow and learn more about life and yourself
Need to watch this again and have notes or summarize somehow but feels like everything in it is important to take note of hahaha 😅... might not use it today but someday or at some point in life need this as reminder until it's part of personality... hopefully
''Unconditional love means you love your partner no matter what they like'' A while back me and my gf were talking about sexual desires/fantasies/fetishes, and when I asked her about what hers were she had to think and said a threesome with 2 guys. Now i was kind of thrown off guard and tried to play it off. But it just stung me and i asked her about it later that night, and she told me that shes glad i got back to it because it was a way of her to test my respons to see if i cared. Now we have gone through quite some rough storms so i can understand the urge she feels to test me if i care or not (cause i have been unfaithful in a way, didnt cheat or chat though). But she knows I love her, what do you think of this way to 'test' a man? I cant help but feel slightly disrespected yet appreciate the honesty?
I definately dont try. I do my best . Happiness should come naturally . I have a disability that causes me pain. Eventually i got used . I dont envy the rich or the rest. I am satisfied with me . Thats it.
Dear Newel You made psychology of warrior Can you do magician, king, and lover? I searched on it but you gave the best explanation, and tips on how to access them
What goal are you willing to struggle for? Not that you will enjoy the struggle, but can you tolerate it because the reward motivates you that much? Hope this helps
Rude-organized as a woman's handbag as an insult. Not okay. Insult is a high tower to climb. I can't listen to someone who generically insults women. Very mature
maturity is most likely subjective, what is mature for one person isnt mature for another. I think this is where social media comes into picture, everyone tells each other what to do and this ruins the possibility of people learning or growing as individuals through natural experience, not through youtube videos. I dont think maturity has any laws, kinda feel bad for how most individuals here will take this seriously. I cant really talk for anyone here, but im glad i stumbled upon the more misleading side of youtube, helps me categorize pretentious videos so that i can stay away from them. thanks a lot lewis
i dont agree with you, i dont believe maturity is subjective, on the contrary. because human nature and behaviour, and social vehaviour is universal and works according to the laws of nature. Those are not subjective but very concrete. Why do you think maturity is subjective, i wonder?
@@hetedeleambacht6608 you literally just proved my point. I gave my perspective about maturity being subjective while you countered it by saying maturity is objective, thereby proving my statement that maturity is indeed subjective because the way each person looks at it is different. (this applies to ambiguous or philosophical conundrums and not to empirically proven facts or theories or anything that has been quantifiably proven)
That was beautiful Lob. God I love reasoning and critical thinking. I think to add to your point is that Maturity is a socially created concept. It is not a universal law as man kind doesn’t go by universal laws. Psychology (the study of the mind) struggles to be a science because humans are so inconsistent that many of its fields can never really be scientific in the sense of universal laws.
@Lobhawasgranted While I agree with the thrust of what you're trying to say, your logic in the response is fallacious. By your logic, the statement "x is subjective" is enough to make x subjective as soon as someone calls you out. Do you believe _everything_ is subjective? If so, then I can see where you're coming from.
@@PpTheGreatest from where did you infer that i am insinuating that everything is subjective? Anything with empirical evidence and quantifiable results is most likely objective, like earth being not flat. Isaac newtons laws of motion are objective because they are real, how tf are you going to prove that "Dont try", as a "law" Is objectively mature.
While yes, I do agree with these I’m not entirely sure they are right. I’m not sure how to explain it because these are important to maturity but they aren’t explained quite right. Sorry if I don’t make sense lol. Have a great day everybody :]
You have no idea how much society needs a channel like yours. The manosphere has bred so much hatred and insecurity into young men because they listen to toxic coaches. But your channel is so welcoming and positive, and it's useful too. Thank you, know that the world thanks you for everything you do
Thank you :) I appreciate you taking the time type this.
As a woman I got lots from this too. It's known as common sence . There must be more like you. Toxic manhood means exactly what it says . Making the man poisonous .
As organized as a woman's handbag? @@NewelOfKnowledge
The manosphere.. I suspect many of its marketers are unwitting. They don't realise they are trying to sell something that hasn't been lost because it never existed in the first place.
I asked the archetypal hunting caveman, Ogg (I didn't, really), whether he ever has doubts or fears or aspirations or if he ever wonders whether he's on the right path or if he ever looks at a woman and wonders what it would be like if he too could grow babies. Covered in gore and trying to catch his breath after just being chased by a Smilodon - he said yes to everything. So, then I offered him this miracle new protein shake and, of course, he wolfed it down (because he's always hungry).
The manosphere, Ogg, is the apex predator that you are not and never will be. **** The Smilodon - the thing that wants to eat you is already in the cave.
Most proponents are unwitting. There are, however, some that have built empires on convincing men that a crisis has manifested and needs to be battled.
It'll be something endocrinol. Something that makes us primed to consider everything as an attack. It has written history. And it's not that women don't have some of this thing that makes us ready to believe it's 'all the fault of the Jews' or, even, that 'it's all the fault of women' but women are a little less vulnerable to it.
I would say that given the option of Alex Jones or Adolf Hitler trying to sell me snake oil - I'd probably opt for Alex Jones as he's nowhere near as slick and insidious. However, what the manosphere has so far been cagey about revealing is that their newly identified enemy is women (one might propose that it has always been thus - as after everything else has been chased off or outright obliterated - who is left but your mother). I'm not going to just lounge with popcorn watching a pogrom against me being fomented. Not again.
I wish the solution was as simple as a cool soft hand stroking Alex Jones' sweaty red face. I think a lot of the male victims, of the manosphere, might only need that cool soft hand but some are really making bank out of it. They need to be stopped.
i - as someone who has made an own character based around empathy even before media was crying about it missing in this world of today - agree with that also
"Enact the courage to commit, or be tormented by the possibility of everything" hit me so hard
1. Don’t try
2. Forget about happiness
3. You are not special
4. The value of suffering
5. You are responsible for everything that happens to you
6. You are wrong about everything
7. Failure is the way forward
8. Toxic vs. nontoxic relationships
9. The importance of saying no
10. When you say you’re going to do something, do it
11. And then . . . you die
This is the most depressing list I've ever agreed with. As important as it is, it just solidifies my belief that growing up isn't worth it, you dont have a choice, and there isn't anything to look forward to anymore.
Failure is failure.
*kickflips and dies ✌️
Don't say "Don't try". Say "Have desires, but no expectations".
Growing up Is truly satisfying, empowering, and fullfilling. It may be a depressing list but once you do the work, its a series of spiritual awakenings. I wish you luck @@steampunkemo9211
Too true the more you become aware of death when you get older, the more you realise you must make the most of the time you've got. That doesn't mean trying to cram everything thing in every day. But doing the things you truly appreciate and value, which includes listening to your calm, collected delivery, but purposeful punchlines Lewis. 👏🏻🤗👍🏻
Thank you sir! I appreciate you :)
My handbag is immaculately organized.
Gett itt
Never seen one before (an organized one, that is). Wonder how it looks like.
I would add the ability to tolerate truth and the attitude of embracing silliness.
"we have the grace to drop our arguments and accept what theyre saying. not as a defeat, but as a victory , because it's steering us closer to attaining wisdom" WOWWWWWWWWWWWW
I believe that an accommodater actually allows too much space for other people's *negativity* while hoping for their Positivity.... Remember, the people who you're trying to please have their own flaws they're trying to escape and a lot of people can't help but unload it onto anyone who's willing to listen. Pair one of those typical unloaders with a very empathetic accommodater and you'll find that the accommodater's load actually grows significantly - for an introvert, I can say that when all the outside noise quitens and you've had a lot of conversations with unloaders, you need something that demands your full attention to recentre yourself. Something physically and mentally invigorating is King. Thanks Lewis for this highly thought *provoking* video.
Thanks for sharing :) and for your words!
I’ve been on a quest of obtaining maturity. It’s tough. Ive been knocked down, discouraged, abandoned and overall down in the dumps, but I know that once I achieve it things will fall in place and all will be good.
But for now I’ll support myself in my goals, being my own motivation.
love the process, not the end result.
Learned that from "Atomic Habits-James Clear" a wise man
You are helping me sculpt the best version of myself Lewis, thank you very much.
My brother, we're doing this together. I appreciate you being here.
no one likes to see a grown up child but damn that is a cool pirate outfit
Honestly the responsibility thing is such a good way to explain it. Because my parents got upset at me for things that was clealry out of my hands, and I never quite understood why. With an understanding like this however, I can finally sort of understand their perspective.
Thankyou
I am ready to fail in my art 😊
Much better than failing to start again
I'm afraid to fail .
My fear stops my creativity from spontaneousness
I love to create.
My own judgement is hard on me
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Thank you for this bro. I'm 28 and I love that i still have my "inner child" - it keeps me happy and creative, and keeps spontaneity and joy in my life - but i do sometimes border on immaturity. I used to be in denial and say others were being "too serious" but over time I've learned to accept that i do have some immature traits. It's tought to try to grow while still maintining your inner child.
listening to mark manson's ideas in a gentleman-no-swearword styleis just the best
I also appreciate the lack of excessive self promotion and humble bragging.
so much insight in less than 20 minutes, this is why i love your channel
I've been watching your channel now this video is from 2 months ago so I have watched the habits video and everything. I am 14 years old and started thinking I can't make progress in my classes if I can't answer the questions my teacher asks (not because I don't finish the homeworks, just because I am afraid of what I might say will be wrong) so, I started searching and found your channel quite interesting, I have a new mentality now, I just started school again and the first week passed and oh god I am scared, but now thanks to you I think I will be able to comunicate better among my classmates and teachers. Keep up the good work! (Sorry for doing this comment so long)
I want to add though, that you don't have to completely lose your inner child.
A lot of people think that being an adult means you have to lose your curiosity about the world and abandon your happiness, when in reality it should be the most freeing time of your life to be able to do stuff which makes you happy.
Of course, you need to be responsible and it's a bit weird to be watching Peppa Pig or whatever past the age of 5, but you don't need to be completely boring, bored, and miserable. That's the completely wrong idea on what adulthood and maturity is.
Basically, learning the difference between immaturity (bad) and "having an inner child" (good) is the best thing you can do for healthy maturity.
Also, so much random stuff is called "childish" for literally no reason --- especially if it's feminine. Why is pink "for kids"? Why are butterflies and animals in general "for kids"? Why are teddies and plushies "for kids" (unless it's Valentines, Mother's or Father's day --- _then_ adults can suddenly have them too)? Why are cartoons which don't swear or have shock "humor" every 5 seconds "for kids", when they were clearly made for everyone and sometimes even have subtle adult jokes as though it's intended to have adults also watching?
I understand you need to let go of things which are _actually_ for kids (like a lot of cartoons are clearly just for teaching kids skills, counting, the alphabet, whatever), but a lot of the things we're scared of "being childish" are, again, the most random stuff with no logical basis whatsoever, oftentimes only meant to shame femininity or any desire to get away from the vulgar.
personally I feel there's nothing wrong with watching peppa pig as an adult either. it harms no one
@@3threeshold True that it harms no one... But there must be something wrong if the narrating doesn't annoy you to hell.
@@Oceanwaves-d8l why? I actually find it funny because Im older so I know better than to cry over a stolen toy and such lol
@@inactive.5680 Those moments where something obviously happened, a character says it happened, _then_ even the narrator does annoyed me even as a kid.
Like, I can't remember exact examples because I stopped watching it when I was a toddler... But say it's obviously raining in the frame, Peppa says it's raining, then the narrator says the exact same thing. Drove me nuts. But maybe that's just me.
You can learn languages by watching Pepa Pig. You can also be reminded of the things that really matter by watching children's programming.
Thank you so much. Im right now suffering mentally
5:29 purpose is like a sedative that helps us endure the pain of life. Having a purpose in life does not take away suffering it just makes it worthwhile
Your words hit home to me, feeling kinda lost right now and dont know where to beginn, because im lazy in so many parts of my life. But your video with the bicycle and this one really help me to get perspektives. Thank you so much!
Now i have a better understanding on how to improve my life step by step
Dude you are so underrated. This is a really deep and valuable video. Thank you so much for that!
My handbag is quite organized thank you very much. Was that metaphor a demonstration of immaturity? 😂
Absolutely. I was hoping someone would challenge me on that ;)
That took me aback as well, until I remembered to translate it. Moustache -> English 🙄
this is such an informative, helpful video. i’m surprised this doesn’t have more views. keep doing what you’re doing man❤️
The concept of Amor Fati atleast touches most of these points and that to me is pretty crazy.
Appreciate another amazing piece of teaching. Embracing one life philosophy like you said sounds impossible. I keep hopping from one belief system to the next. Settling down sounds like standing still..
I had a pendant with the words amor fati inscribed on it. This was before I became Christian and it was solid start to love fate before I started to love the fate giver. I wish you the best on building a solid worldview and belief system my friend.
Thanks mate! This type of content is really really useful when we talk about living and facing reality as it is. It raises you up when you're feeling down because of struggling with life situations. I appreciate the reminder. Keep up with the truly important content. Greetings from Colombia, cuídate también muchacho!
I'm turning 30 by the end of November and this really helped me to (re)evaluate myself.
very underrated channel, becoming one of my favourites
Number 11 is what I look forward to most.
This is such an incredible video. It is the first I've seen that communicates my values in a way that can be understood. Im definitely writing each step down and putting it on my wall
Great to hear :) get that piece of paper up! Keep up the good work comrade.
Sure, "you're not special" can mean you're not uniquely good or cool --- but I'd like to remind people it _also_ means they're not uniquely bad or useless. People have delusions of both extremes.
A lot of people treat "you're not special" as some sort of dark, worrying realisation --- some sort of cruel lesson you need to learn as you grow up --- when in reality it's more _comforting_ than anything. It takes a lot of pressure off you. You let yourself learn new things and be a silly beginner. You stop being angry at yourself for mistakes which you don't mind other people doing. It's really not as bad as some people like to frame it.
fantastic. thank you!
Very insightful video. The third one is hard to stomach but as time passed, all was processed.
this man is going to have a million subs soon, the content is just too good
When the scarf gets to Lewis head, he gets very philosophical😂
Absolutely loved this oneee, so many inspirational things to start working on:) thank you so much
First here wow gotta step off youtube
Its a pleasure to have you here my sir, just make sure you take a break after ;)
Wow to you, as well... for recognizing that the _"first"_ crowd... _might need to go off-line._ 😂
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I was always told, "Maturity is knowing when and where to be immature."
It’s nice to watch one of your videos in a while.
Every time I sit down and watch one of your videos I feel better, thank you.
I will continue to fail forward with faith 🙏
Thats a great mantra "continue failing forwards"
man.. this is too much for me to handle
That's simply a fantastic channel and great content. Thank you!
The problem with living by the Socratic perspective is that it entails that everyone else is also possibly wrong, which would necessitate a proper humility to go with that insight. However, that is not what you will encounter in the vast majority of your interactions with others - and more often than not you will be judged negatively, as less than, for not speaking and acting as if you are omniscient.
Now, that eventually becomes very tiring - you continually encounter the external and internal conflict and friction of being a socratic actor among non-socratic actors.
And you might even find yourself to be dysfunctional because of it.
The solution then becomes to abandon the relativism and embrace pseudo objectivity, not because it is true, but because it saves your mental health, maintains respect and makes for more efficient choice making.
This is the post-socratic level of maturity.
Many will maintain the socratic position as a veil - but consistently not act in accordance with it, and it thus becomes a tool for power play - socratic standards for everyone but themselves, leveraged when it suits them.
This leaves the socratic position's only viable use as a tool, useful at times, but only when brought forth for a specific task or topic.
I’m a people pleaser. Not because I want others to think positively about me. But because I want me to think positively about me. You think I need more assertiveness?
Yes
are you afraid of opening up about yourself?
Oh, oh, oh... 'The distinction between fault and responsibility. Fault is past tense. Responsibility is present tense.' That threw me straight into a quandary. And I'll tell you the question that immediately occurred to me and I defy anybody to answer this (and be completely satisfied with their answer).. When does the past become the present? At what instant does it happen? So, what WAS fault is now responsibility. Only, because I've said it or thought it, it's now past again and therefore fault.
I have a much easier time distinguishing between past and future than past and present. That being the case - are fault and responsibility not a lot more intertwined than we think? Or should we position ourselves consistently in the future and therefore everything is fault. Or, maybe it would be better if responsibility is always about the future (therefore - intent)? And if we live with only the intent to bring light and dispel suffering - can it ever be our fault if there is still darkness and suffering in the world?
The present is downright impossible to pin down and delineate.
I guess you're talking about past and present in a very vague sense and it's only if we think about it, which we shouldn't do?, that it becomes a problem :) .
I believe you have the ordering back to front. The past never becomes the present, but rather, the present becomes the past. It's just that the present is about taking responsibility both for your past and for the mistakes you are guaranteed to make in the present that will become faults as soon as they join your history. In this specific sense, you can then perpetually take responsibility for your faults in a very present sense; both those faults in your past and those to come in your future.
The capacity to do this well essentially determines how mature you are in terms of responsibility.
Hey! My handbag IS organized !
Thanks always a pleasure being here
Thank you for this message, You have made my day.❤️😇
Sometimes being mature makes us alone. For example in a classroom not everyone is mature, the mature student will get made fun of off. Experienced*
Reminds me of being in a remedial math class during my freshman year when fellow classmates laughed and made fun of me for not giving them the answer, because I told them to look for it themselves.
Your comment is extremely relatable to my situation
but everyone gets older, they learn to appreciate that maturity
@@nolife8209 Not everyone
Its was thanks to realising this, that im not too serious right now. Might as well enjoy the last few moments before you get the responsibilities of exams and, later on, adulthood thrown on you.
15:25 in my opinion , the more you love someone, the less boundaries there will be , so you that's why it feels hard to say no to smoe people .. , so you have to be wise about how much and who to love .
Not all people dserve your love , you have to test him whether he is a good or a bad person before you consider him as a close one
romantic exclusive relations with 1 other partner in my opinion are overrated. Better to spend more time with good friends, have fulfilling hobbies and work you enjoy. A partner can only provide in part what you need. a lot of peoole forget that
I’m 13 I’m sure this will help me also what you said about “it’s how much pain you can sustain” has helped my mentality to become stronger so yeah
Knowing Bukowsky, his "Don't Try" is probably meant in a nihilistic way: "Don't try, you'll be drunk and fail anyway".
I needed to hear this. I listened to it 2 times and I'm gonna do it again.
Do you think you can transform toxic relationships -or behaviours- (at or with work, family, friends or partner) in healthy ones through acknowledgment, accountability and commitment?
I recognize and take responsability for the behaviours that I need to improve in order to be more healthy but I think that a gift the people around you can offer if they value you is to be comprehensive and patient with this and also look inside for their own. Since I have not found anyone 100% healthy yet,
I think the key to know if I should maintain a connnection is to really see people becoming aware of its own baggage, and seeing progress and growth in both parts.
Thank you for the reality check sir
OH SHIT STILLNESS IS THE KEY I SEE THAT IN THE BACKGROUND!!! That book is AMAZING. Just discovered your channel, I'm all about positive masculinity. Cool to see you make these. Much love from Miami.
Much love comrade!
"As organized as a woman's handbag " sounds like positive masculinity?
The most real talk I've heard on RUclips for a while 💯
My handbag is very orderly. I am a woman. Wait, I don’t have a handbag. My backback is very orderly.
Love you, Lewis. Stereotypes even in jokes are tiresome. Thank you.
extra funny as he is talking about maturity :) and he can't see it himself
its such a blatant stereotype that everyone knows its a srereotype. i wasnt offended at all and i have a cluttered handbag as well.
Haha same! No handbag but I have a small backpack that I keep quite organized!
"Don't try" aka Wu Wei in Taoism
Damn I really needed this more than I thought. I feel like these arguments merely brushed the surface, but they were loud reminders🥹
Having adhd and other gentic-based mental illness still pushes me into a cognitive dissonance for some of these issues. I grasp the efficacy of keeping it clean and simple, but with inherent setbacks like mine, the formula ends up contradicting itself. Organising and punctuality is hard when you're set up for failure, when the problem is much more physiological.
Same thing for innate mood disorders, anxiety and depression for me. Sometimes, whether induced environmentally or expressed epigenetically, you have to fundamentally structure these things around shortcomings - so much so that the lines between sensible adjustment & absence of responsibility/self-pity becomes blurry
Love your perspective, an actual healthy approach👏🏼 (from a 22 year old woman from Australia)
Wow first time watching your vids and this was amazing. I can't even put into words how heavy this is, I want to watch this a few more times to really retain all the information but man, great fucking work.
I really enjoy watching your videos. Helpful and engaging. keep it up!
i needed to hear this. thank you sir.
You videos are so damn good. Thank you!!
So great. So so great. Fantastic content
This time I wasn't expecting to cry.
however, thank you for the good content
Oh so creative. Well done Mr creative
SIR! My handbag is VERY organized, I'll have you know! 😂
Lol i clicked on this and thought to myself, "i kinda just wanna listen to the subtle art of not giving a fuck, but i remember liking this guys videos, so ill listen to this first", then you started talking about Mark Manson and i was mindblown at how that worked out
I don't know if he mentions this in the video but this is just "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" but summarized, it's a good book give it a read or a listen
"D'ailleurs, c'est toujours les autres qui meurent..." Marcel Duchamp
A summary of Peterson's teachings basicaly
Thank you so much for making this video. People really need to grow up.
I knew these concepts sounded familiar 😂. That book is gold
"stand in front of the mirror and chant positive affirmations about yourself" 🤣 love it!
Ive read the book before so i was like wait that sounds familiar and its even chronologically in order, and i was about to say something till i watched till the end thanks for giving him credits this video is a great shortend version of it especially for people who don't like to read cause it's a really good book it was the first book I've ever read and the only one I enjoyed reading and this is perfectly summarized. I'd still recommend reading the book or at least giving it a try cause it has a lot more to say and to learn from. This video is still great to get a peak of it cause it has almost all of the important parts covered or just to rewatch to remember the things again but how we could already learn from this video you can always improve and grow and learn more about life and yourself
I like some of these. 6 I'd say... we're all just trying. I also nudges some other aspects/points. However, still props for a decent list!
Highly recommend ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck’ on audible 😂
These points are from the book of the subtle art of not giving a fuck
Thank you, this is a great video!
Not sure what else to say :D
Need to watch this again and have notes or summarize somehow but feels like everything in it is important to take note of hahaha 😅... might not use it today but someday or at some point in life need this as reminder until it's part of personality... hopefully
Thank you!
*_Stuck in between feeling joyful and peachy_*
-Maude from GTA V
''Unconditional love means you love your partner no matter what they like''
A while back me and my gf were talking about sexual desires/fantasies/fetishes, and when I asked her about what hers were she had to think and said a threesome with 2 guys. Now i was kind of thrown off guard and tried to play it off.
But it just stung me and i asked her about it later that night, and she told me that shes glad i got back to it because it was a way of her to test my respons to see if i cared. Now we have gone through quite some rough storms so i can understand the urge she feels to test me if i care or not (cause i have been unfaithful in a way, didnt cheat or chat though). But she knows I love her, what do you think of this way to 'test' a man? I cant help but feel slightly disrespected yet appreciate the honesty?
I loveeeeeee your content man! thank you so much❤
Some of those laws yes i reasonably achieve, some definitely need work
I definately dont try. I do my best . Happiness should come naturally . I have a disability that causes me pain. Eventually i got used . I dont envy the rich or the rest. I am satisfied with me . Thats it.
Dear Newel
You made psychology of warrior
Can you do magician, king, and lover?
I searched on it but you gave the best explanation, and tips on how to access them
You are an excellent speaker my man. Great content
this used to be a parents job
Death is the beginning of the next journey
Yep- on to the next adventure!
Can't fucking wait.
Another banger ❤
I'm confused by #4... "What pain am i willing to sustain." What does that mean?
What goal are you willing to struggle for? Not that you will enjoy the struggle, but can you tolerate it because the reward motivates you that much? Hope this helps
Choose something to suffer for basically. Since you are gonna suffer no matter what in life, what mountain is worth climbing.
I don't have anything to add, bravo
Lmfao… this is literally my coworker you described in the first 30 seconds
Rude-organized as a woman's handbag as an insult. Not okay. Insult is a high tower to climb. I can't listen to someone who generically insults women. Very mature
Why do you find it insulting may I ask?
It's a lighthearted joke, not a serious insult to women. Relax.
Brilliant! Thank you 😊
maturity is most likely subjective, what is mature for one person isnt mature for another. I think this is where social media comes into picture, everyone tells each other what to do and this ruins the possibility of people learning or growing as individuals through natural experience, not through youtube videos. I dont think maturity has any laws, kinda feel bad for how most individuals here will take this seriously.
I cant really talk for anyone here, but im glad i stumbled upon the more misleading side of youtube, helps me categorize pretentious videos so that i can stay away from them. thanks a lot lewis
i dont agree with you, i dont believe maturity is subjective, on the contrary. because human nature and behaviour, and social vehaviour is universal and works according to the laws of nature. Those are not subjective but very concrete. Why do you think maturity is subjective, i wonder?
@@hetedeleambacht6608 you literally just proved my point. I gave my perspective about maturity being subjective while you countered it by saying maturity is objective, thereby proving my statement that maturity is indeed subjective because the way each person looks at it is different. (this applies to ambiguous or philosophical conundrums and not to empirically proven facts or theories or anything that has been quantifiably proven)
That was beautiful Lob. God I love reasoning and critical thinking. I think to add to your point is that Maturity is a socially created concept. It is not a universal law as man kind doesn’t go by universal laws. Psychology (the study of the mind) struggles to be a science because humans are so inconsistent that many of its fields can never really be scientific in the sense of universal laws.
@Lobhawasgranted While I agree with the thrust of what you're trying to say, your logic in the response is fallacious. By your logic, the statement "x is subjective" is enough to make x subjective as soon as someone calls you out. Do you believe _everything_ is subjective? If so, then I can see where you're coming from.
@@PpTheGreatest from where did you infer that i am insinuating that everything is subjective?
Anything with empirical evidence and quantifiable results is most likely objective, like earth being not flat.
Isaac newtons laws of motion are objective because they are real, how tf are you going to prove that "Dont try", as a "law" Is objectively mature.
While yes, I do agree with these I’m not entirely sure they are right. I’m not sure how to explain it because these are important to maturity but they aren’t explained quite right. Sorry if I don’t make sense lol. Have a great day everybody :]