Thank you I needed to hear this. My ex broke up with me four months ago and blamed the whole thing on me. He just reached out on Thanksgiving and still blaming me and still angry. He told me he was never jealous, but he was so immature. He handled the night he got mad at me very immaturely instead of talking to me about it. He just raged and ghosted me and then broke up with me. I have apologized & taken responsibility two or three times now for my part in the situation that happened, but he said he’ll never forgive me I have been blaming myself and going over and over in my head what I did wrong My friends and family all agree with me that I didn’t do anything wrong I love the picture that you have up on the video. That’s exactly us. I’m crying and he’s angry. Also, he’s an alcoholic and they never take responsibility for anything so there’s that !
I took responsibility for my BS towards the end of the relationship and was willing to do ANYTHING to fix it and i was extremely in love with her still. And she was in love and was extremely physically attracted to me. But in the end it was easier for her to jump to a rebound relationship the same week she dumped me rather than accept my role in things i did wrong. It was all fixable stuff too. No abuse or any kind. Just standard relationship stuff that happens after you are together for a while. I was her healthiest relationship which she actually admitted to me 3.5 months after our breakup but going to an unknown rebound is a better option than working on your 4 yr relationship??? Makes zero sense. Throw away 4 years of memories for the easy route of a rebound relationship and the newness. I hope she hurts at some point like i have the last 4 months. But seems like it has worked well for her while i suffer. Good for her i guess. Absolutely BS
Sorry to hear, but if she rebounded in the same week she didn’t love you, that is disrespectful to you and herself and she won’t heal or grow from that move. She was probably cheating on you already, emotionally at least. Address your issues, see a therapist, my ex wanted me to see a therapist for months while we slowly broke, I resisted but went right as we broke, it answered a lot of questions but our trust was gone. Good luck.
@@norswil8763 she did love me. But for her it was easier to rebound than work on it. She was hurting and jumped. She knew the guy as a family friend. No signs of cheating. Happened right after we broke up. Her father told me same. Their families are close. He found out and made a move but he is a snake. He took advantage of her vulnerability. Low value man. Unstable life. There was a reason he has never been married and lived at home with parents at 32
Similar situation where he rebounded immediately after our breakup rejecting to work on our issues and take me back. They got married ~2 years in. Now 3 years after our break up they are still together. I have come to face acceptance with this despite all the questions and inadequacies I was left with while he seemly lives his happily ever after. On the bright side I’ve evolved a lot since this break up, have dated numerous, explored many aspects of myself and I have certainly grown but none the less the pain remains. I wouldn’t want him back, I’ve realized so clearly how incompatible we were but it is largely the betrayal from someone I loved that I can’t get over.
@@Chunkypooch very sorry. I can't imagine that pain. I'm waiting on the engagement which I know is coming. I told her dad that this is where her mind is and she will settle on this guy. And this guy is below me on every level imaginable. Big time downgrade but she has in her mind she wants to be married and will settle on this guy. Her dad wants her with me but she refuses to work on it and found it easier to just move to a more questionable man. Make no sense. I have no doubt she will regret on EVERY level. I'm financially more sound and more mentally stable than this guy ever thought about being
My new hero. Thanks for the video. Unfortunately it takes a certain kind of maturity to take accountability and my ex was nowhere near that. He kept blaming our "incompatibility" for his toxic reactions and in his head he thought the grass is greener. Wouldn't be surprised if he's started meeting new more "suitable" girls
my ex did this crap after we broke up on good terms she was the one who left me first..she went behind my back blamed it all on me and even turned her friends against me. She is a grown adult and cant take any responsiblity at all it is complete bullshit
My da and I broke up 3 months ago and at first I really blamed myself and apologized for the stuff I did for about a week. however after that I pretty much went no contact and stayed that way ever since.. was really hard and caught myself really wanting to slip back because I have a strong fear of abandonment but kept on going and I am at a place now where I can say that it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am no where near over her and find myself longing from time to time but all this really made me realise I had problems myself and I'll be going to therapy in about 3 months for it. Through friends I've hear she is doing fine without me and even though that stings it's better for me this way. Sucks that's she claimed our mutual friend group tho but I hang with them one on one now.
That’s a specific way framing a breakup. My ex and myself both took accountability for our part in the break, no anger or resentment. It was 3/4 my fault(mental health left unchecked), but she came to the table with what she could have done better too. She dumped me saying she didn’t have the will to try, but that she’d never been happier, loved anyone or been loved as much as she did with me. I’ve known heaps of girls, but she’s the one I was excited to spend my life with. 1 month out we talk, emotional connection and accountability mostly. We met yesterday at a party, she was looking down, I touched her on the waist and she touched my elbow as she left early. I hopeful, but I can only control myself. I know I might be able to in time forget her, but I’m sure as fuck that I just want her or someone exactly the same, to quote Adle.
Maybe for you, for me it was deffo 50/50. She withheld intimacy from me, so I withdrew emotionally and neither of us seemed to care enough to articulate this and work on it, until it did and I brought it up knowing it would probably break the relationship. She then decided it was easier to walk away, she had a potential back-up plan (which didn't work out for her)...
6 months ago my Gf of 10 years broke up with me. I think in the moment and the weeks following i took to much blame because i thought i could fix it. I learned that lesson. I havent heard from her in more than 5 months now and sometimes I wonder, if she frames herself as the victim to family and friends or if she also takes acountability for her part. I wonder what her view of the story looks like and how she fills in the gaps of stuff she cant know (in the same way i am doing it subconciously). I hope she can also take accountablilty, fix her stuff and grow from it (even if i know its harder for the dumper). But then in the end all of this thinking doesnt really matter.
That’s rough man, but please remember this. You’re on a forever journey with yourself until the day you die. So you better make all you do about you, because everyone else is doing everything they do, for them. That includes your ex!
Believe me mate they will just play the victim and their side of the story that you always be wrong believe me even if it’s only minor things they will not take responsibility for any of their bad especially if they go straight into a rebound and play the victim not saying that it was perfect. I messed upand feel like I’ve lost the world. I don’t like going outside got so anxiety loss weight. Don’t sleep everything.
My kids mother literally blamed me for everything. I said I wanted my family she wanted literally weeks ago now someone she met last month she found peace love and happiness 😂😂 GTFOH they all come back one way or another other
Thank you I needed to hear this. My ex broke up with me four months ago and blamed the whole thing on me. He just reached out on Thanksgiving and still blaming me and still angry.
He told me he was never jealous, but he was so immature. He handled the night he got mad at me very immaturely instead of talking to me about it. He just raged and ghosted me and then broke up with me.
I have apologized & taken responsibility two or three times now for my part in the situation that happened, but he said he’ll never forgive me
I have been blaming myself and going over and over in my head what I did wrong
My friends and family all agree with me that I didn’t do anything wrong
I love the picture that you have up on the video. That’s exactly us. I’m crying and he’s angry.
Also, he’s an alcoholic and they never take responsibility for anything so there’s that !
I took responsibility for my BS towards the end of the relationship and was willing to do ANYTHING to fix it and i was extremely in love with her still. And she was in love and was extremely physically attracted to me. But in the end it was easier for her to jump to a rebound relationship the same week she dumped me rather than accept my role in things i did wrong. It was all fixable stuff too. No abuse or any kind. Just standard relationship stuff that happens after you are together for a while. I was her healthiest relationship which she actually admitted to me 3.5 months after our breakup but going to an unknown rebound is a better option than working on your 4 yr relationship??? Makes zero sense. Throw away 4 years of memories for the easy route of a rebound relationship and the newness. I hope she hurts at some point like i have the last 4 months. But seems like it has worked well for her while i suffer. Good for her i guess. Absolutely BS
It’s not throwing away 4 years of memories. That chapter ended. Rejoice about the good, learn from the bad and write the next chapter.
Sorry to hear, but if she rebounded in the same week she didn’t love you, that is disrespectful to you and herself and she won’t heal or grow from that move. She was probably cheating on you already, emotionally at least.
Address your issues, see a therapist, my ex wanted me to see a therapist for months while we slowly broke, I resisted but went right as we broke, it answered a lot of questions but our trust was gone. Good luck.
@@norswil8763 she did love me. But for her it was easier to rebound than work on it. She was hurting and jumped. She knew the guy as a family friend. No signs of cheating. Happened right after we broke up. Her father told me same. Their families are close. He found out and made a move but he is a snake. He took advantage of her vulnerability. Low value man. Unstable life. There was a reason he has never been married and lived at home with parents at 32
Similar situation where he rebounded immediately after our breakup rejecting to work on our issues and take me back. They got married ~2 years in. Now 3 years after our break up they are still together. I have come to face acceptance with this despite all the questions and inadequacies I was left with while he seemly lives his happily ever after. On the bright side I’ve evolved a lot since this break up, have dated numerous, explored many aspects of myself and I have certainly grown but none the less the pain remains. I wouldn’t want him back, I’ve realized so clearly how incompatible we were but it is largely the betrayal from someone I loved that I can’t get over.
@@Chunkypooch very sorry. I can't imagine that pain. I'm waiting on the engagement which I know is coming. I told her dad that this is where her mind is and she will settle on this guy. And this guy is below me on every level imaginable. Big time downgrade but she has in her mind she wants to be married and will settle on this guy. Her dad wants her with me but she refuses to work on it and found it easier to just move to a more questionable man. Make no sense. I have no doubt she will regret on EVERY level. I'm financially more sound and more mentally stable than this guy ever thought about being
It’s really help me to get my questions .
Thank you ❤
My pleasure. I hope you’re feeling better. 😊
My new hero. Thanks for the video. Unfortunately it takes a certain kind of maturity to take accountability and my ex was nowhere near that. He kept blaming our "incompatibility" for his toxic reactions and in his head he thought the grass is greener. Wouldn't be surprised if he's started meeting new more "suitable" girls
I hear you.
Exactly that guy you DON’T to be with!
Thank him for teaching you everything you needed to know about him.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks for the support 💕
This video defines my ex. Everything was always my fault. Never hers.
I’m sorry to hear that. 🫂
my ex did this crap after we broke up on good terms she was the one who left me first..she went behind my back blamed it all on me and even turned her friends against me. She is a grown adult and cant take any responsiblity at all it is complete bullshit
My da and I broke up 3 months ago and at first I really blamed myself and apologized for the stuff I did for about a week. however after that I pretty much went no contact and stayed that way ever since.. was really hard and caught myself really wanting to slip back because I have a strong fear of abandonment but kept on going and I am at a place now where I can say that it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am no where near over her and find myself longing from time to time but all this really made me realise I had problems myself and I'll be going to therapy in about 3 months for it. Through friends I've hear she is doing fine without me and even though that stings it's better for me this way. Sucks that's she claimed our mutual friend group tho but I hang with them one on one now.
I’m sorry to hear that. It will get easier. Stay the course and hold your boundaries.
That’s a specific way framing a breakup. My ex and myself both took accountability for our part in the break, no anger or resentment. It was 3/4 my fault(mental health left unchecked), but she came to the table with what she could have done better too. She dumped me saying she didn’t have the will to try, but that she’d never been happier, loved anyone or been loved as much as she did with me. I’ve known heaps of girls, but she’s the one I was excited to spend my life with.
1 month out we talk, emotional connection and accountability mostly. We met yesterday at a party, she was looking down, I touched her on the waist and she touched my elbow as she left early. I hopeful, but I can only control myself.
I know I might be able to in time forget her, but I’m sure as fuck that I just want her or someone exactly the same, to quote Adle.
I hear you buddy, but I wouldn’t follow that Adele quote. It’s Disney BS.
I hope you feel better.
Frankly, with the benefit of time and considerable hind sight, I think the dumper is responsible for 75% at the very least.
That’s fine, but they probably think about the same about you.
Maybe for you, for me it was deffo 50/50. She withheld intimacy from me, so I withdrew emotionally and neither of us seemed to care enough to articulate this and work on it, until it did and I brought it up knowing it would probably break the relationship. She then decided it was easier to walk away, she had a potential back-up plan (which didn't work out for her)...
6 months ago my Gf of 10 years broke up with me. I think in the moment and the weeks following i took to much blame because i thought i could fix it. I learned that lesson.
I havent heard from her in more than 5 months now and sometimes I wonder, if she frames herself as the victim to family and friends or if she also takes acountability for her part.
I wonder what her view of the story looks like and how she fills in the gaps of stuff she cant know (in the same way i am doing it subconciously).
I hope she can also take accountablilty, fix her stuff and grow from it (even if i know its harder for the dumper).
But then in the end all of this thinking doesnt really matter.
That’s rough man, but please remember this.
You’re on a forever journey with yourself until the day you die. So you better make all you do about you, because everyone else is doing everything they do, for them. That includes your ex!
Believe me mate they will just play the victim and their side of the story that you always be wrong believe me even if it’s only minor things they will not take responsibility for any of their bad especially if they go straight into a rebound and play the victim not saying that it was perfect. I messed upand feel like I’ve lost the world. I don’t like going outside got so anxiety loss weight. Don’t sleep everything.
My kids mother literally blamed me for everything. I said I wanted my family she wanted literally weeks ago now someone she met last month she found peace love and happiness 😂😂 GTFOH they all come back one way or another other
I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you get that resolution you want. 🫂🫂
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