My wife and I got married on our “dating” anniversary date because it meant something to us. If someone couldn’t make it then no hard feelings, it doesn’t make us less married.
We got close. July 24th is our dating anniversary but got married on the 22nd. Every year we take a trip for our "anniversary weekend". We couldn't have our dating anniversary date as there were no venues available.
My brother and his wife got married three weeks after my husband and I did. They asked if we were okay with that, and we told them we were PUMPED for back to back weddings, that we don't own a date, or month, or whatever timeframe. People getting pissed about this is so confusing and disappointing
It's still nice to ask, because it puts a (financial) strain on guests and can affect gifts and attendance from guests. But true: the entitled behavior of some makes no sense ...
Telling your child you would rather go to a yoga retreat than their wedding is WILD. Oh of course they get way worse in the update too. Those parents suck
I get the: "cancelling the booking would cost a lot of money" argument. Especially if no venue was chosen yet and the date wasn't special. But of course that wasn't what the story was about.
@@brag0001 I would get that if the daughter didn’t offer to pay to reschedule that. Bc of course losing money like that isn’t great. I think the fact she offered to pay & they denied showed where the story was headed lol. I knew the direction it was going after that 😩
Too bad they weren't upfront that they just didn't want to go. Instead they play games. OP should share the post and this video with the parents, as they are weird.
@@dudeorduuude5211 yeah like at least be honest instead of stringing the bride along. She was trying to come up with solutions when no solution was going to work for them
Story 1: Emotional abuse is still abuse. Skipping the wedding and getting 90% of the family to skip it is some hard core emotional abuse. And the mom did that in retaliation over someone else's wedding not being about her. That mom sounds a lot like someone with NPD. You can't turn someone like this into a good person by giving them a second chance and you sure af don't let them around your kids.
My fiancé proposed to me for my 30th birthday this past April. It was magical and the best gift I’ve ever gotten AND a wonderful way to start a new decade… with my soulmate ❤
Yo, I’m getting married in NC in September if y’all wanna come! 💖 It’s at a historic b&b and it’s a nerd fantasy wedding. Most of the guests are our LARP group lol
As someone who one day wants to walk down the aisle to a rendition of Concerning Hobbits... I love this for you!! Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! 😊💚
Sam's pov on terrible people shows he's proly grown around good people. Even if you understand why someone is being a terrible person, that does not excuse you taking on abuse. You can't burn yourself to keep everyone/anyone warm.... And if you consider the drama triangle, the person with the saviour complex is just as problematic.
And second chances can be a good thing, but only when the person who did wrong initiates change on their own, and consistently maintains progress towards bettering themselves. Its never your job to make another grown adult into a good person, especially since that change needs to come from them. Some shitty people are just lost causes, too. Some people dont want to change, are so self absorbed they make themselves the victim when theyre actually perpetrators, or are too lazy to put in any effort into actually bettering themselves. The promise of seeing a grandchild wouldn't be likely to inspire any real change within a person.
When I got married in 2015, I was the 3rd wedding for the family that year. My husband's family is large, and we all live in roughly the same area. No one had any issues. We just loved the excuse for the family to get together 3 times. The first wedding was June, the second wedding was August, and my wedding was in September that year.
The 1967 movie "The Graduate", starring a very young Dustin Hoffman, has an "I object!" moment that no doubt inspired the Shreck "I object" scene. I always think of The Graduate. Sam would like that movie. He's had his own "Mrs. Robinson" moment.😂
Holy bananas man, that first story hits close to home. My husband and I got married on our 5th year anniversary of dating. My family didn't attend (not too much drama, they just couldn't care less). I wouldn't have changed the wedding day even if it meant having them so there. Sucks that OP gave in... and for nothing anyway.
I have heard that yoga retreat vs wedding story and omg still shocked to hear the story. Like why change the date 😢 but at least she saw her family for who they where.
The only reason I would miss my daughter's wedding would be if I were in the hospital (and I couldn't break out of the hospital). This family is super toxic and narcissists. Go NC. You're better off.
I’m sorry Sophia you had to witness it. People telling you not to watch „Shrek is love, Shrek is life” were absolutely correct. I’m traumatized since I’ve seen it years ago.
Question for the mom - does the mom realize she married and had children a person of a different religion and then choosing different traditions/religious practices? Like did they never talk about that possibility before they got married?
After my wedding, I learned that several of my friends had self assigned themselves as bouncers in case my mom acted up. As it turned out, she was fine, but I really appreciated that they had my back.
Story 3: Okay so this started out as a "sisters" thing but now... mom pushing OP to have a Christian wedding... does this woman not remember that she married a Hindu man?! Sounds like she never respected his cultural traditions & is continuing that disrespect onto OP. What the hell? Also finding out the sister wanted the same date with the same venue & wanted both weddings to be Christian weddings THEN going to cry to mommy about it. Girl... GROW UP!
i once attended a wedding of a friend (we were both 25 at the time) whos step-sister/bridesmaid (16) walked around handing all the guests little envelopes and inside the envelope was a little note headed "bets on how long "sisters name"'s marriage will last (the note had 20 hours £1, 1 week £3, 2 weeks £5, and 3 weeks £8, the closest person/people get a free bottle of Château Minuty, votes must be handed to "step-sisters name" by the end of the reception dinner for the prize) well thinking it was part of our friends wedding and a joke as she did not ask for gifts 80% of people took part (having worked in wedding venues and not liking marriage length bets i did not partake, and also because i had bought her and her husband a matching engraved whisky glass set and bottle of thier favourite whisky), the step-sister took the votes up to the bride and grinning showed her, well to say she got upset would be a understatement she stood up looked at all the tables and said "well at least i now know how you all feel about me and any one who took part can go to hell, event is over LEAVE" everyone apart from stepsister and her step mum looked shocked and upset, her dad and mum asked moh what the hell was going on and she knew nothing, so i took my envelope over and showed him (as i did not partake i still had the note) they were beyong pissed, all her family were the others who did not get a envelope, step-sister forgot/did not know i and bride were relalated via my cousin marrying her brother, she thanked me for being one of 8 other "friends" who did not take part, everyone was asked to wait outside so me and moh told one of the other guests (her mums friend who likes to gossip) what happened and that this was a nasty trick played on them and the bride and the reson she did it, well she informed all the rest it was not "part" of the wedding celebration, and was a nasty plan to spoil thier wedding as step-sister had a crush on the groom and that there was no prize, everyone but us 8 were pissed and went looking for step-sister who had locked herself in her mums car out of fear as several guests wanted to kick the crap out of her, me and moh walked around the 45 guests asked several of them why they partook this idiocy and they informed us she had told them that the bride wanted this as her present so they could fund thier honeymoon but make a little joke/interation with the guests out of it, we informed brides mother who told her dad and the bride why everyone partook, she then understood and told her dad to inform everyone the reception was back on thier bets had been destroyed and to just appologise to her and husband as they go through the door, when he went out her found step-sisters mum standing between the car trying to defend her actions, her mum tried to say they were all over reacting to a joke and he said "oh a joke well here is a joke for you, i will be cutting off the money for step-sisters upcoming prom/birthday/car and collage, and we are getting a divorce and you can both be out of my house in 1 week no discussion leave", well after 10 minuits they both left with 10 others who would not applogise (step-sisters/step mums family) and the weding contined the bride said her wedding was great apart from 1 hiccup her bridemaid and moh sorted, ooh i forgot to mention i was one of her bridesmaids
I don't know about appropriating a white horse wedding, but I've seen pictures of a gay jewish wedding where the groom's rode in on a unicorn (a white horse wearing a costume horn), so I say go that route, Sam
The idea that you would tell grandparents that they have a grandchild when they've treated you poorly in an effort to offer them a chance to redeem themselves is a charitable thought... but my cousin had a terribly brutal, cruel father who tried to weasel his way back into her life just to get to show off her baby to his friends/connections. Grandkids are not a magic happily ever after patch on the behavior of people who have put in no work on improving themselves, and they do not deserve that and on the other side, neither do the grandkids
Story #2: Like what does her 30th birthday have to do with anything? My sister’s due date was my 16th birthday and I was thrilled . So when she had to choose between two dates to be induced , she chose that day. I was over the moon to have such a special thing like sharing my birthday with my niece. She will be 12 this year on my birthday and it still feels just as special to me . If you love and care about someone you can choose to make things like that special instead of getting mad at them??? Lmao
If I kept in contact I'd have gotten super petty. "Hey mom, hey dad, I was thinking of trying for a baby tonight with my wife. Is that okay? Has sister been sleeping with her husband or should I wait?" "Hey sis, yeah, I know it's 4 a.m. but I have a super busy day ahead of me and I need to get an early start. I wanted to eat breakfast now but if you haven't had yours yet I guess I'll have to put it off."
I will say....when my younger sister got engaged, it didn't bother me. I didn't have a meltdown. I was happy for her. BUT...as someone that really thought she would be married and have a family by now, and who doesn't have anything even remotely close to a relationship in the wings, and who has resigned herself that she is probably never going to find someone....I completely know what it's like to have emotional breakdowns about it. So....I have some empathy for the sister in that respect.
My mom tried to get married on my 5 year wedding anniversary. I told her that my husband and I would not attend and that she was super selfish for trying to get married on my date. She said I was being selfish for forcing her to change it but she moved it a month after (it was a small thing at her husband's family home either way) but I very much feel some type of way about the fact that she knew and still tried and failed to steal my day.
I am a people pleaser. My brother and his second wife came to announce their engagement and they asked me to be in their wedding at that time. Months later, my brother’s fiancé called me and told me that she had a close friend who she wanted in her wedding and I was out. My mother almost refused to go to the wedding.
😮 the story with the 2 religion home the problem is the mom and sister is opposed to op hindu wedding solely because of the hindu religion involved 😅which is very audacious of them and not very Christian of them😂😂😂my lord I'm getting second hand embarrassment from their audacity 😂😂😂 😡
@@stirrednotshaken4837 you see that is the double standard that happens in some families the mom might love the dad and just tolerates his religion,which is very f-up of her.because the sis and mom always comes back to a Christian wedding, they don't care about her likes or beliefs just their's
When I had my daughter(she’s my youngest) I was so hoping she would be 4 days earlier than the day she was born on. She would of been the best birthday present ever lol but this year her birthday party is going to be on my birthday because the following weekend it will be my twin nieces birthday because their birthday is 4 days after my daughters. So since my nieces have been born my sister and I always communicate when birthday parties are going to be. I’m August 11th, my daughter is the 15th, nieces 19th then on August 31st is my second child’s birthday lol thankfully my eldest son gave our family a break and be born in march lol
The twins thing only works if both sets are identical. Their children would be genetically siblings. I have identical twin aunts and since they married guys who are not related, their children are genetically half siblings.
I definitely don’t think they should see the grandchildren unless they make major changes. Children can sense when their parents aren’t treated well. It’s just not a good situation. If they made changes and put the time and effort to prove that, I think that would be different
@@dlewis9760 it’s not bribing them. It’s just putting up boundaries of what behaviors you don’t want your children to be around, which is healthy. Children are impacted by people with behaviors like that, so it’s unfair to the kids to let them around people who act that way. It’s standing up for yourself and your children and making sure you’re around people who treat you well. That’s normal and healthy.
My family was super close, and for the most part all the cousins were raised together more like siblings. (we all lived on the same street, rode horses, competed together. always.) But I was married may 7th, my younger cousin on may 20th, and my other cousin who really was more like a sister than anything married may 27th. and guess what. it was awesome. Us girls were all excited for each other. and then we got married and moved on lol
My husband and I picked a Saturday in August to get married on, but my MIL asked us to change it bc it happened to be the same date she married her ex (my husband's dad). I didn't want to rock the boat so we pushed it back a week. As a result, a pair of good friends of ours weren't able to make it. It was a very small wedding so I definitely missed them. Looking back, I wish we would have stayed on the original date and had everyone there. My MIL could've gotten over it. (Or not, her choice.)
I was in elementary school when that video came out and I was having this sleepover with a new kid like the first month she joined our school I went to her house. It's night and we are in her basement bedroom thing and she puts it on and she's like getting weird when a child shouldn't be and she's like we should make out and I noped out of there and called my mom first thing in the morning and I've never been able to watch shrek ever since. I'm 21 now so it's been more then a decade since I've watched shrek because that Witch with a B traumatized me
It's upsetting that families can't respect even their dead relative wishes. I've seen it first hand and even my husband. Family will act crazy when someone has passed and fight over things. My aunt who isn't a blood relative to my Grandma took all the nice jewelry she had. I think my grandfather intended all the granddaughters to get something but that didn't happen. I did end up with my grandmothers anniversary grandfather clock. Apparently my grandpa said the first born gets the clock. No one has debated on that and it's a beautiful clock. I also hope my dad lets me pick out one of my grandma's paintings when I move into my new place.
Everyone/chat talks about what the parents do or don't deserve. And what the OP/spouse do or don't deserve. But ultimately, where I fall, and what I never see anyone mention....is what the children do or don't deserve. And, I think the kid(s) deserve to have a relationship with their grandparents. It doesn't make them good people. It doesn't mean OP has to have a close relationship with them. But some kids have no grandparents growing up. Or maybe just one grandparent still alive. I absolutely could never deprive my child of the opportunity to have more people in their life and in their corner.
Disagree. The grandkids are used as bait to get the grandparents to acknowledge someone's existence. I would say "I'm alive. I don't need their validation to prove it".
16:55 we’re not doing ours for a few years but it would be fire to have yall there!! We’re already married but never had a wedding and will do one in 2027 for our 15th anniversary. Keep the PO Box and I’ll send you an invite!
Organizing a wedding is just such a hassle my child would be welcome not to include me too much if they feel like it 😂 And if you go NC, don’t tell your family whenever a child is born because OP said their family is toxic so your role is to protect the child And weddings is a great place to meet a bf/gf so no problem for the second story
I could understand a LITTLE upset if the sister was the older one and the mindset of the parents but in WHAT WORLD should a YOUNGER sibling be upset that their older sibling hits a milestone first?! They should be used to it?? So weird. And even if she was older they're just being extreme and insane in my opinion. Be happy for your siblings and their accomplishment people!
14:27 Speaking of your birthday... HAPPPYYY BIRTHDAY SOPHIAAA!!! 🥳The discord party has been fun! 🎊 But there is never enough celebrating so here's some more wellwishes!🎉🎉
I feel like the only time you can ask someone to change the wedding schedule would be before any deposits are payed and only for a reason such as you want to be there but most likely will be very pregnant/with a newborn, if you already have serious plans (as in hospital stay, surgery, etc, not as in a yoga retreat), stuff like that. And even then, if the person says no then the answer is no
14:36 just cause they propose on someone’s birthday doesn’t mean they don’t get a birthday present lol My husband proposed to me at my birthday party 2 days before my birthday back in 2016. My birthday is December 20th and my party and the day he proposed was December 18th. All of our family that lives near by was there and everyone who lived too far to drive or out of state were on FaceTime. Everything was Christmas lights and it was fucking LOVELY IN EVERY WAY. His original plan was to propose to me at the Oregon zoo every year they do a Zoo lights Christmas lights show but unfortunately we couldn’t make to almost 2 hour drive to the Portland Zoo because of of the terrible icy weather that happened that week/month.
My fiancé proposed to me on my birthday AND got me a present lol I am proposing back on his bday this year 👀 We are also getting married on our "anniversary" 💍 depends on the couple ig 🤷🏼♀️ dates are important to us lol
The yoga retreat story I first heard at least 2 years ago. Write them off. They don't exist anymore, because not attending is one thing. Playing games and not attending is even worse. Both are bad, but one is spiteful.
With the last story, I honestly think the worst part isn't even demanding that they change the date but the religion in which they get married under. That is suuuper fucked up. My mom and my brother are Christian, and I'm not. If my brother got engaged and was having his wedding close to mine, and my mother picked his side and both threatened to boycott my wedding over it not being in *their* religion, then bye. Don't come.
28:10 y’all want to talk about close wedding dates listen to mine and 2 of. In 2017 our Dad was dying from a serious cancer diagnosis. My husband had already proposed months before we knew. My little brother had his wedding date set a year in advance. Our little sister for married February 28th, our brother got married March 4th and my husband and I got married March 26th. We all technically got marrried the same month. Unfortunately since our brother had already planned his wedding a year in advance and mine and our sister weddings were fast planned in a couple weeks and because they were so close to our brothers wedding our out of state and far away family members weren’t able to come to ours as well because they were far far enough apart that they couldn’t extend their stay and close enough that they couldn’t plan 3 trips to Oregon in the same month. We missed having those family members there but ultimately having our Dad and last remaining parent be at our wedding and walking us down the aisle is what mattered more.
35:58 my birthday is February 25th and I have cousin who’s birthday is the 26th but he was born a year before me and we absolutely had joint birthday parties as kids
17:10 it’s weird that she’s so upset her OLDER brother is getting married first. LITERALLY HES OLDER. I can kind of understand bummed a little that your younger sibling is getting married first but like what’s the big fucking deal either way. 😅😂😂🤦♀️🤦♀️
Is it just me or has the quality of ok storytime really gone down? I feel like they're trying SO HARD to sound like saints that they're often really out of touch with reality? Some of their takes are so delulu it's insane.
My wife and I got married on our “dating” anniversary date because it meant something to us. If someone couldn’t make it then no hard feelings, it doesn’t make us less married.
We got close. July 24th is our dating anniversary but got married on the 22nd. Every year we take a trip for our "anniversary weekend". We couldn't have our dating anniversary date as there were no venues available.
Awww that is so sweet@@chachiem
My brother and his wife got married three weeks after my husband and I did. They asked if we were okay with that, and we told them we were PUMPED for back to back weddings, that we don't own a date, or month, or whatever timeframe. People getting pissed about this is so confusing and disappointing
It's still nice to ask, because it puts a (financial) strain on guests and can affect gifts and attendance from guests. But true: the entitled behavior of some makes no sense ...
@brag0001 that is a good point! Thankfully for us we didn't have any overlap except for my sister
Telling your child you would rather go to a yoga retreat than their wedding is WILD.
Oh of course they get way worse in the update too. Those parents suck
I get the: "cancelling the booking would cost a lot of money" argument. Especially if no venue was chosen yet and the date wasn't special. But of course that wasn't what the story was about.
@@brag0001 I would get that if the daughter didn’t offer to pay to reschedule that. Bc of course losing money like that isn’t great. I think the fact she offered to pay & they denied showed where the story was headed lol. I knew the direction it was going after that 😩
@@aliciarowland3322 that's exactly why I said that of course the story wasn't about that ... the daughter called that bluff early ...
Too bad they weren't upfront that they just didn't want to go. Instead they play games. OP should share the post and this video with the parents, as they are weird.
@@dudeorduuude5211 yeah like at least be honest instead of stringing the bride along. She was trying to come up with solutions when no solution was going to work for them
With the narcissistic mother, I wouldn't tell her of the birth of any child, they may try to pull a "grandparents' rights", try to take custody, etc.
Story 1: Emotional abuse is still abuse. Skipping the wedding and getting 90% of the family to skip it is some hard core emotional abuse. And the mom did that in retaliation over someone else's wedding not being about her. That mom sounds a lot like someone with NPD. You can't turn someone like this into a good person by giving them a second chance and you sure af don't let them around your kids.
My fiancé proposed to me for my 30th birthday this past April. It was magical and the best gift I’ve ever gotten AND a wonderful way to start a new decade… with my soulmate ❤
Yo, I’m getting married in NC in September if y’all wanna come! 💖 It’s at a historic b&b and it’s a nerd fantasy wedding. Most of the guests are our LARP group lol
As someone who one day wants to walk down the aisle to a rendition of Concerning Hobbits... I love this for you!!
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! 😊💚
That sounds amazing!!!
Sam's pov on terrible people shows he's proly grown around good people.
Even if you understand why someone is being a terrible person, that does not excuse you taking on abuse. You can't burn yourself to keep everyone/anyone warm....
And if you consider the drama triangle, the person with the saviour complex is just as problematic.
And second chances can be a good thing, but only when the person who did wrong initiates change on their own, and consistently maintains progress towards bettering themselves. Its never your job to make another grown adult into a good person, especially since that change needs to come from them. Some shitty people are just lost causes, too. Some people dont want to change, are so self absorbed they make themselves the victim when theyre actually perpetrators, or are too lazy to put in any effort into actually bettering themselves.
The promise of seeing a grandchild wouldn't be likely to inspire any real change within a person.
Yes, but he's wrong. People don't change. They suck now and will continue to suck
When I got married in 2015, I was the 3rd wedding for the family that year. My husband's family is large, and we all live in roughly the same area. No one had any issues. We just loved the excuse for the family to get together 3 times. The first wedding was June, the second wedding was August, and my wedding was in September that year.
The 1967 movie "The Graduate", starring a very young Dustin Hoffman, has an "I object!" moment that no doubt inspired the Shreck "I object" scene. I always think of The Graduate.
Sam would like that movie. He's had his own "Mrs. Robinson" moment.😂
Holy bananas man, that first story hits close to home. My husband and I got married on our 5th year anniversary of dating. My family didn't attend (not too much drama, they just couldn't care less). I wouldn't have changed the wedding day even if it meant having them so there.
Sucks that OP gave in... and for nothing anyway.
I have heard that yoga retreat vs wedding story and omg still shocked to hear the story.
Like why change the date 😢 but at least she saw her family for who they where.
I'd say it was worth it. You now know exactly what the deal is. There's no guessing. It was painful, but it's only painful once.
The only reason I would miss my daughter's wedding would be if I were in the hospital (and I couldn't break out of the hospital). This family is super toxic and narcissists. Go NC. You're better off.
I’m sorry Sophia you had to witness it. People telling you not to watch „Shrek is love, Shrek is life” were absolutely correct. I’m traumatized since I’ve seen it years ago.
My husband asked me on my birthday. It was the best birthday gift ever.
My husband did too!! He even waited until I took my makeup off at the end of the night so I didn't ruin it when I cried
Question for the mom - does the mom realize she married and had children a person of a different religion and then choosing different traditions/religious practices? Like did they never talk about that possibility before they got married?
"Be the sun and CAST the shadows" HELLO?!?!?! That goes so insanely hard 🤯🤯🤯
After my wedding, I learned that several of my friends had self assigned themselves as bouncers in case my mom acted up. As it turned out, she was fine, but I really appreciated that they had my back.
Story 3: Okay so this started out as a "sisters" thing but now... mom pushing OP to have a Christian wedding... does this woman not remember that she married a Hindu man?! Sounds like she never respected his cultural traditions & is continuing that disrespect onto OP. What the hell?
Also finding out the sister wanted the same date with the same venue & wanted both weddings to be Christian weddings THEN going to cry to mommy about it. Girl... GROW UP!
i once attended a wedding of a friend (we were both 25 at the time) whos step-sister/bridesmaid (16) walked around handing all the guests little envelopes and inside the envelope was a little note headed "bets on how long "sisters name"'s marriage will last (the note had 20 hours £1, 1 week £3, 2 weeks £5, and 3 weeks £8, the closest person/people get a free bottle of Château Minuty, votes must be handed to "step-sisters name" by the end of the reception dinner for the prize) well thinking it was part of our friends wedding and a joke as she did not ask for gifts 80% of people took part (having worked in wedding venues and not liking marriage length bets i did not partake, and also because i had bought her and her husband a matching engraved whisky glass set and bottle of thier favourite whisky), the step-sister took the votes up to the bride and grinning showed her, well to say she got upset would be a understatement she stood up looked at all the tables and said "well at least i now know how you all feel about me and any one who took part can go to hell, event is over LEAVE" everyone apart from stepsister and her step mum looked shocked and upset, her dad and mum asked moh what the hell was going on and she knew nothing, so i took my envelope over and showed him (as i did not partake i still had the note) they were beyong pissed, all her family were the others who did not get a envelope, step-sister forgot/did not know i and bride were relalated via my cousin marrying her brother, she thanked me for being one of 8 other "friends" who did not take part, everyone was asked to wait outside so me and moh told one of the other guests (her mums friend who likes to gossip) what happened and that this was a nasty trick played on them and the bride and the reson she did it, well she informed all the rest it was not "part" of the wedding celebration, and was a nasty plan to spoil thier wedding as step-sister had a crush on the groom and that there was no prize, everyone but us 8 were pissed and went looking for step-sister who had locked herself in her mums car out of fear as several guests wanted to kick the crap out of her, me and moh walked around the 45 guests asked several of them why they partook this idiocy and they informed us she had told them that the bride wanted this as her present so they could fund thier honeymoon but make a little joke/interation with the guests out of it, we informed brides mother who told her dad and the bride why everyone partook, she then understood and told her dad to inform everyone the reception was back on thier bets had been destroyed and to just appologise to her and husband as they go through the door, when he went out her found step-sisters mum standing between the car trying to defend her actions, her mum tried to say they were all over reacting to a joke and he said "oh a joke well here is a joke for you, i will be cutting off the money for step-sisters upcoming prom/birthday/car and collage, and we are getting a divorce and you can both be out of my house in 1 week no discussion leave", well after 10 minuits they both left with 10 others who would not applogise (step-sisters/step mums family) and the weding contined the bride said her wedding was great apart from 1 hiccup her bridemaid and moh sorted, ooh i forgot to mention i was one of her bridesmaids
I don't know about appropriating a white horse wedding, but I've seen pictures of a gay jewish wedding where the groom's rode in on a unicorn (a white horse wearing a costume horn), so I say go that route, Sam
The idea that you would tell grandparents that they have a grandchild when they've treated you poorly in an effort to offer them a chance to redeem themselves is a charitable thought... but my cousin had a terribly brutal, cruel father who tried to weasel his way back into her life just to get to show off her baby to his friends/connections. Grandkids are not a magic happily ever after patch on the behavior of people who have put in no work on improving themselves, and they do not deserve that and on the other side, neither do the grandkids
Story #2: Like what does her 30th birthday have to do with anything?
My sister’s due date was my 16th birthday and I was thrilled . So when she had to choose between two dates to be induced , she chose that day. I was over the moon to have such a special thing like sharing my birthday with my niece. She will be 12 this year on my birthday and it still feels just as special to me .
If you love and care about someone you can choose to make things like that special instead of getting mad at them??? Lmao
I had my 3rd baby on my little brother's birthday lol
If I kept in contact I'd have gotten super petty.
"Hey mom, hey dad, I was thinking of trying for a baby tonight with my wife. Is that okay? Has sister been sleeping with her husband or should I wait?"
"Hey sis, yeah, I know it's 4 a.m. but I have a super busy day ahead of me and I need to get an early start. I wanted to eat breakfast now but if you haven't had yours yet I guess I'll have to put it off."
@@maraudentium2607 that’s great 😭🤣
@@Ravenlovesbingy lol I might be biased but I love that 🤣
I will say....when my younger sister got engaged, it didn't bother me. I didn't have a meltdown. I was happy for her.
BUT...as someone that really thought she would be married and have a family by now, and who doesn't have anything even remotely close to a relationship in the wings, and who has resigned herself that she is probably never going to find someone....I completely know what it's like to have emotional breakdowns about it. So....I have some empathy for the sister in that respect.
My mom tried to get married on my 5 year wedding anniversary. I told her that my husband and I would not attend and that she was super selfish for trying to get married on my date. She said I was being selfish for forcing her to change it but she moved it a month after (it was a small thing at her husband's family home either way) but I very much feel some type of way about the fact that she knew and still tried and failed to steal my day.
How is there a 1,000 views but I'm the 125 person to like it? What are you doing?
I am a people pleaser. My brother and his second wife came to announce their engagement and they asked me to be in their wedding at that time. Months later, my brother’s fiancé called me and told me that she had a close friend who she wanted in her wedding and I was out. My mother almost refused to go to the wedding.
😮 the story with the 2 religion home the problem is the mom and sister is opposed to op hindu wedding solely because of the hindu religion involved 😅which is very audacious of them and not very Christian of them😂😂😂my lord I'm getting second hand embarrassment from their audacity 😂😂😂 😡
My thought is if mom has an issue with the Hindu religion, why did she marry her husband to begin with? 🤦🏼♀️
@@stirrednotshaken4837 you see that is the double standard that happens in some families the mom might love the dad and just tolerates his religion,which is very f-up of her.because the sis and mom always comes back to a Christian wedding, they don't care about her likes or beliefs just their's
When I had my daughter(she’s my youngest) I was so hoping she would be 4 days earlier than the day she was born on. She would of been the best birthday present ever lol but this year her birthday party is going to be on my birthday because the following weekend it will be my twin nieces birthday because their birthday is 4 days after my daughters. So since my nieces have been born my sister and I always communicate when birthday parties are going to be.
I’m August 11th, my daughter is the 15th, nieces 19th then on August 31st is my second child’s birthday lol thankfully my eldest son gave our family a break and be born in march lol
The twins thing only works if both sets are identical. Their children would be genetically siblings. I have identical twin aunts and since they married guys who are not related, their children are genetically half siblings.
I definitely don’t think they should see the grandchildren unless they make major changes. Children can sense when their parents aren’t treated well. It’s just not a good situation.
If they made changes and put the time and effort to prove that, I think that would be different
Access to grandkids is trying to bribe them. It's reeks of desperation. No need to be desperate.
@@dlewis9760 it’s not bribing them. It’s just putting up boundaries of what behaviors you don’t want your children to be around, which is healthy. Children are impacted by people with behaviors like that, so it’s unfair to the kids to let them around people who act that way.
It’s standing up for yourself and your children and making sure you’re around people who treat you well. That’s normal and healthy.
I don’t think that any of the commentators have actually had parents like the first OP. Really easy to give advice when you have supportive parents.
My family was super close, and for the most part all the cousins were raised together more like siblings. (we all lived on the same street, rode horses, competed together. always.) But I was married may 7th, my younger cousin on may 20th, and my other cousin who really was more like a sister than anything married may 27th. and guess what. it was awesome. Us girls were all excited for each other. and then we got married and moved on lol
I got purposed to on my birthday at breakfast before I went to work with my family and I loved it!
My husband and I picked a Saturday in August to get married on, but my MIL asked us to change it bc it happened to be the same date she married her ex (my husband's dad). I didn't want to rock the boat so we pushed it back a week. As a result, a pair of good friends of ours weren't able to make it. It was a very small wedding so I definitely missed them. Looking back, I wish we would have stayed on the original date and had everyone there. My MIL could've gotten over it. (Or not, her choice.)
For me "i object" connects to Phoenix Wright, but now that I am reminded of the Shrek connection I will be expectant of both in the future now
I was in elementary school when that video came out and I was having this sleepover with a new kid like the first month she joined our school I went to her house. It's night and we are in her basement bedroom thing and she puts it on and she's like getting weird when a child shouldn't be and she's like we should make out and I noped out of there and called my mom first thing in the morning and I've never been able to watch shrek ever since. I'm 21 now so it's been more then a decade since I've watched shrek because that Witch with a B traumatized me
It's upsetting that families can't respect even their dead relative wishes. I've seen it first hand and even my husband. Family will act crazy when someone has passed and fight over things. My aunt who isn't a blood relative to my Grandma took all the nice jewelry she had. I think my grandfather intended all the granddaughters to get something but that didn't happen. I did end up with my grandmothers anniversary grandfather clock. Apparently my grandpa said the first born gets the clock. No one has debated on that and it's a beautiful clock. I also hope my dad lets me pick out one of my grandma's paintings when I move into my new place.
Everyone/chat talks about what the parents do or don't deserve. And what the OP/spouse do or don't deserve.
But ultimately, where I fall, and what I never see anyone mention....is what the children do or don't deserve. And, I think the kid(s) deserve to have a relationship with their grandparents. It doesn't make them good people. It doesn't mean OP has to have a close relationship with them.
But some kids have no grandparents growing up. Or maybe just one grandparent still alive. I absolutely could never deprive my child of the opportunity to have more people in their life and in their corner.
Disagree. The grandkids are used as bait to get the grandparents to acknowledge someone's existence. I would say "I'm alive. I don't need their validation to prove it".
16:55 we’re not doing ours for a few years but it would be fire to have yall there!! We’re already married but never had a wedding and will do one in 2027 for our 15th anniversary. Keep the PO Box and I’ll send you an invite!
Organizing a wedding is just such a hassle my child would be welcome not to include me too much if they feel like it 😂
And if you go NC, don’t tell your family whenever a child is born because OP said their family is toxic so your role is to protect the child
And weddings is a great place to meet a bf/gf so no problem for the second story
Yea sue for a ring and court costs.
I could understand a LITTLE upset if the sister was the older one and the mindset of the parents but in WHAT WORLD should a YOUNGER sibling be upset that their older sibling hits a milestone first?! They should be used to it?? So weird. And even if she was older they're just being extreme and insane in my opinion. Be happy for your siblings and their accomplishment people!
14:27 Speaking of your birthday... HAPPPYYY BIRTHDAY SOPHIAAA!!! 🥳The discord party has been fun! 🎊 But there is never enough celebrating so here's some more wellwishes!🎉🎉
In our country, if the family member is married at the same time the marriage will be cursed. It's a sort of cultural belief, we call it (SUKOB)...
Is comfortability a new word for comfort?
I feel like the only time you can ask someone to change the wedding schedule would be before any deposits are payed and only for a reason such as you want to be there but most likely will be very pregnant/with a newborn, if you already have serious plans (as in hospital stay, surgery, etc, not as in a yoga retreat), stuff like that. And even then, if the person says no then the answer is no
14:36 just cause they propose on someone’s birthday doesn’t mean they don’t get a birthday present lol
My husband proposed to me at my birthday party 2 days before my birthday back in 2016.
My birthday is December 20th and my party and the day he proposed was December 18th. All of our family that lives near by was there and everyone who lived too far to drive or out of state were on FaceTime. Everything was Christmas lights and it was fucking LOVELY IN EVERY WAY. His original plan was to propose to me at the Oregon zoo every year they do a Zoo lights Christmas lights show but unfortunately we couldn’t make to almost 2 hour drive to the Portland Zoo because of of the terrible icy weather that happened that week/month.
My fiancé proposed to me on my birthday AND got me a present lol I am proposing back on his bday this year 👀
We are also getting married on our "anniversary" 💍 depends on the couple ig 🤷🏼♀️ dates are important to us lol
The yoga retreat story I first heard at least 2 years ago. Write them off. They don't exist anymore, because not attending is one thing. Playing games and not attending is even worse. Both are bad, but one is spiteful.
With the last story, I honestly think the worst part isn't even demanding that they change the date but the religion in which they get married under. That is suuuper fucked up.
My mom and my brother are Christian, and I'm not. If my brother got engaged and was having his wedding close to mine, and my mother picked his side and both threatened to boycott my wedding over it not being in *their* religion, then bye. Don't come.
28:10 y’all want to talk about close wedding dates listen to mine and 2 of.
In 2017 our Dad was dying from a serious cancer diagnosis. My husband had already proposed months before we knew. My little brother had his wedding date set a year in advance. Our little sister for married February 28th, our brother got married March 4th and my husband and I got married March 26th. We all technically got marrried the same month. Unfortunately since our brother had already planned his wedding a year in advance and mine and our sister weddings were fast planned in a couple weeks and because they were so close to our brothers wedding our out of state and far away family members weren’t able to come to ours as well because they were far far enough apart that they couldn’t extend their stay and close enough that they couldn’t plan 3 trips to Oregon in the same month. We missed having those family members there but ultimately having our Dad and last remaining parent be at our wedding and walking us down the aisle is what mattered more.
Why wouldn’t the sister move her wedding if it was that important to her
I don’t understand why it matters who gets married first. I just think it’s petty to insist on being first.
35:58 my birthday is February 25th and I have cousin who’s birthday is the 26th but he was born a year before me and we absolutely had joint birthday parties as kids
I'd do it on purpose but I wouldn't be a proposal
Are you willing to travel to Portugal 🤣🤣
17:10 it’s weird that she’s so upset her OLDER brother is getting married first.
LITERALLY HES OLDER. I can kind of understand bummed a little that your younger sibling is getting married first but like what’s the big fucking deal either way. 😅😂😂🤦♀️🤦♀️
25:31 TONING DOWN AN AFRICAN AND ASIAN WEDDINF IS CRAZY
3:26 THEY STILL SIS R SHOW UP? WHAT THEY STILL DIDNT?
15:12 my wedding/dating anniversary is April 30th!
YAY MOTE OK STORYTIME
Sam sam … get your self that horse 🐎 and groom procession 😍… weddings are supposed to be fun
3:19 WWWW HUSBAND
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Is it just me or has the quality of ok storytime really gone down? I feel like they're trying SO HARD to sound like saints that they're often really out of touch with reality? Some of their takes are so delulu it's insane.
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Reading comprehension is not on point. You have one job follow the freakin story!!!
Don’t like it? Then you are free to leave!
@@stirrednotshaken4837 I do like the show but they need to pay more attention. Why do you need to be a nit picky shitfur?
Keep the grandchildren away just to be spiteful