You forgot the weird bi-phobia. "You have twice the opportunity to cheat" "You need to just pick a side" "I guess you were tired of men and decided to give women a shot, eh?" And on and on and on. When I accepted being bi I went to the LGBT community for some acceptance and affection because I was still in the closet and got some nasty backhanded meaness instead. It's worse for bi men. Our community can be great and inclusive, or just so painful.
My friend came out as a lesbian because she was scared people would think she was a bad person if she came out as bi and I never realized that biphobia was a thing till she told me this
I am a lesbian and I’m reading down and there are loads of ones about bisexual (etc) people being hated on by us. I am so sorry if you are bi and get hate from lesbians you’re beautiful!
I'm a lesbian with a bisexual girlfriend and i love her and all my bi friends and family! I've seen so much hate from my sexuality to theirs and it really needs to stop. Everyone who may read this and identifies as bi(or pan, etc), no matter your gender identity, no matter your 'percentage preference', are all valid! And i will continue to be your ally
Phantastic Yeah, as a pan individual, I appreciate you reaching out. xD Lesbians Have... an interesting attitude toward me, most of the time. I’m transmale pansexual, but haven’t made alterations to my body and prefer to dress gender neutral, as I’m not a super macho guy, so. Some women into women have been like, “oh, you’re a pretty girl,” and... explaining “well, back at you, but I’m actually only one of those things” is awkward. Straight guys want me to stay the way I am, and lesbian women seem to feel the same, and gay men / straight women are disappointed because apparently even if I do change my body, not being cismale means I’ll never be masculine enough for them. I’m basically limited to dating other pansexual trans people, with maybe a rare genderqueer bisexual or asexual panromantic woman thrown in there. I will say that lesbians are always more respectful of my gender identity than ... any cismen, though.
Yes there are problems you’ve missed. Biphobia is real and I personally have been harassed by LGBTQ+ people for calling myself LGBTQ+ with a straight partner Bisexuals are members of the LGBTQ+ community and we aren’t just confused or greedy
syd ! Agree with that - I probably am subconsciously looking for a relationship, mostly with a girl, but most girls are straight or I don't know or can't ask about their sexuality - but otherwise I don't mind being single right now
It’s like dating for a non binary person. At some point your partner is probably going to tell you they prefer a more feminine or masculine side of you. She probably saw you as a women and was disappointed. Happened to a few ppl I know
LGBTQ Issue #9: Saying that asexuals aren't part of the community even though it literally includes anyone who isn't heterosexual. For the people in the back, ace does NOT equal straight.
@@funandcooljokes Maybe not, but you would still be LGBT+... That said, most people mean LGBT+ when they say LGBT, so there's no need to gatekeep cis straight asexuals out, is there?
@@funandcooljokes Why do you not want them as part of LGBT? Straight Asexual people might experience discrimination and problems similar to transgender people or other non-straight people. Why exactly do you not want them as part of the community?
The one about fetishizing trans people hit home. I think it’s because everyone expects getting medically transitioned should be the goal. No. The goal is to overcome your gender dysphoria, with or without medical transition (hormones, surgery, etc) Hormones are not a magical cure to the pain within. Surgery will not remove the suffering in your head. I can only share my experience, so here it is: My only goal in life used to be medical transition. I would stare at myself in the mirror and pick myself apart. What part of me was too masculine, to hairy, to this to that. I caked makeup on my face everyday, all I wanted was to “pass”. I was miserable, but I held on to hope because I was watching all these rich, famous transgender RUclipsrs and actors buy themselves new faces and bodies and they took estrogen and got so pretty and they looked so happy. Then I became a healthier person, and I realized I’d never be happy unless I changed my insides. I learned to love myself and my body. I learned to accept all my flaws and accept that my sex is, was, and always will be male. Just not my gender. For some reason I was just born with a feminine spirit in the vessel of a male. Now that I am healthy, I know that medically transition isn’t necessary to be happy. Of course, if I wanted to do I still could. Fellow trans people, learn to love yourself and accept yourself as you are now first. Then, if you still feel like medical transition is for you, go forward. There’s nothing wrong with it, after all. It’s a miracle of modern medicine! Spread the word !
Aww this is precious, I'm so happy for you!!! It's great that you're also voicing this story out too, you never know if someone's gonna come across this comment who desperately needed to hear this. Keep going and Love Yourself!!!
I don’t understand transgender, is it just gender stereotyping? It doesn’t matter what body part you were born with, your passions, behavior, and choice of clothing has nothing to do with gender. You can do any of those without changing your gender
@@kerronh2060 no, it is a very, VERY strong feeling of not being the right gender. Some may choose to transition with surgery, or with hormones. And some may just dress up (like you were saying) in clothes typically for another gender. It isn’t not wanting to conform to gender stereotypes (if I sound harsh I do not mean to, reading this makes me sound harsh idk)
Number 5 is especially hard for lesbians or women who prefer other women. Given how girls are generally raised to be a lot more affectionate with close friends and how things like sharing food, sharing clothes, going out on one-on-one outings, hell even some cases platonic kissing like on the cheeks is super common and it's near impossible to tell if anothet girl is directly hitting on you or seeing you as a super close friend Looking back, I cant count how many times I've cuddled platonicly or even borrowed a bra from multiple times with a close friend (who's still just a friend) and thought nothing of it other than "oh wow my best friend and I are so cool and fun".
Hugin Incorrect. There are cultures, and civilizations, such as the Ancient Greeks, that idolized and almost worshipped gay men. Male affection was pretty common- hence wrestling in the nude during training for/during the Olympics.Could you imagine two male friends wrestling naked together today, lathered in olive oil? Of course not. Is male affection not hardwired in men? Of course not. It’s just not taught or found to be “normal”. Could men later on show physical and emotional affection like women do today? Yes. I don’t know how much you know about society and the effects of nature and nurture, but A LARGE, LARGE number of our societal preferences and normalities are learned. This is a fact. You can research more on this if you like.
"Share food with ur best girlfriend" Bish please, I share my food with Jack. He isnt even my brother. Nor my boyfriend. Try me. Im 10, he's about to be 12.
You did miss one thing: biphobia while dating. A lot of bi people I know have faced discrimination in the LGBT community because of the toxic mindset "gay OR straight" and I personally have been harassed and ridiculed by lesbians because I've only been with a guy.
Yeah, I agree, it's a lil' bit difficult for one of us to find someone from the LGBT+ comunity who won't judge it or accept it, but luckily not all of them think like that. Still, there's a lot of work to do, not only about bi people but with all these prejudices we hear day after day. But we can do it ✊😉
I'm sorry, I've heard a lot about the bi discrimination issue and it's really horrible. I'm not bi myself, but I am poly romantic which a lot of people don't believe is real, so I understand what it feels like. I'm here for ya'
Dude same, im ridiculed because "You are pan, why don't you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend??" or "Dude he asked you out! Say yes, you are pan! You can date anyone!" I said no because I didn't like him.
Girl: *Kisses you on cheek and hold hands, sits on lap, calls wife, etc* Me, lesbian: *thinks she likes me, develop feelings* Also girl: Oh yeah btw im straight ;_;
Oh my god I feel you. Like I'm trans and bi and when I wasn't out yet I was, well, friends with a girl. And we did exactly this, playfully acting out a marriage and hold hands and stuff but.. she was straight and didn't know I was a guy and hell that was exhausting developing feelings for her
I don't see myself in the community despite being bi, because my person views as a whole combined differs greatly than most in the community. Plus I usually pick men first and I have crushes on men more than women.
nouredits Not to mention in relationships, the other person being wary that we'd supposedly leave them for the other gender. A ton of bi people get rejected because of this irrational fear :/
It's because a ton of people think that bi means that you don't know your sexuality and believe that once you are in a relationship that you have decided. But the truth is that a bi person is always bi. If a bi person leaves a heterosexual relationship, they could still enter a homosexual relationship.
I’m not bi, I consider myself to be panromantic, and I get constant flack from my bf and his parents about the fear I’ll leave him for a girl and I’m like ???
nothing the only Hook up culture I know is Netherlands and they are known for it. Doesn't mean I don't like it. I think it is pretty interesting how they deal with the topic sex so openly and free. Should be like this everywhere :)
In my country we also have huge problems with wheelchair friendly places! I'm going to a bi meeting and we are searching for a restaurant where we can do our meetings so that people with wheelchair can come. Only because restaurants saying they are wheelchair friendly, doesn't mean they really are. I think there should be a law that actual people who know stuff should control such stuff😅
Lesbian friend: hey you're looking cute today Me: thanks! Inner me: is she flirting with me? Even if you know someone's a lesbian you never really know. Another thing is that in school you end up dating everyone's ex'es because there's a limited amount of lesbians to date.
Or when you are a useless lesbian and when some girls try to flirt with you you'll think they're just nice to you XDD Yes. This happened to me. But now I'm the happiest person on this planet with my lovely little gf
My first platonic girl crush and first real crush were straight (idk if one of them is actully straight, cause she kissed a girl that is friend of mine). When I finally meet a girl that likes me, my parents find out and forbid me to talk to her.
The idea that most of the world is against them helps them cope. None of them can live with the fact that they need to mold around their surroundings, and not the other way around
@@fairymia4486 I understand. But I am not an anti-gay. No one has the right to be entitled to acceptance is my point. The world will never work that way, but I do wish it would because all should be treated fairly. I will try to pick my words more carefully in the future.
I marvel at how neutral this video is. Normally, when I see videos like this offering advice to LGBTQ+ people, it ostracizes and alienates straight people as being gay-haters and transphobic. It's relieving to see someone admit that some members of the LGBTQ+ community are transphobic or biased. However, not every person is this way.
I have yet to see ostracization of the straights on RUclips ( unless for sarcastic and ironic purposes , such as referring to straight people as " the straights " ) but glad to see you liked this one :3 another really good RUclips channel talking about lgbtq+ relationships and subjects would probably be Ash Hardell if you liked this video's vibe :3
It is sad there is still hatred towards people for any reason. my favorite place was "the gay bar" we had in our town. Its closed now from bad business practices (money managing)... but that place felt like the future honestly because everyone got along and was accepting of one another. Something I believe in 100 years people will be learning of the hatred and such.
I wish that straight people and gay people can just be lumped together. It doesn't have to be called a "gay" bar, it can just be called a bar. It doesn't have to be called "gay" marriage, it can just be called marriage. Equally treated with straight people, a gay person can be with another gay person, and it doesn't have to be such a big deal. Straight couples can go to a gay cafe, no problem. Gay couples can go to a straight cafe, no problem on that either. It's really sad that we still have to hide.
I recently came out as pansexual to my mother, and she didn’t know what to say. It got awkward, and then she said I’ve always been a curious person. “So I don’t really think you’re pansexual, I think you may just be curious.” She said she still accepted me, and I can love whoever I want. But it still hurt, this isn’t a phase of curiosity. I see love as falling for someone’s personality, mind, and intelligence not appearance or gender. I’ve had feelings for both genders, but not all women and not all men. Just some who have had amazing personalities. I wish she could understand
Emily House I had the same issue. Just stick to your guns and continue on your path. If she loves you she’ll accept it. When my mom _finally_ realized that it wasn’t a phase or curiosity I was so relieved and happy. Have faith in her if she really loves you.
People saying Ace/Aro people aren't LGBT is a problem. People hating on pan and bi people is a problem. People loving lesbians, but hating gay men is a problem.
You forgot the problem of coming out to friends because unfortunately straight people often ALWAYS jump to “OMG are you like into me?!” This is what I like to call “gay-sist” because it is considered to be rude, disrespectful, ignorant, hateful, etc.
Ruins Charizardsm They meant it's annoying that when coming out, straight people often assume you're into every guy if you're gay, every girl if you're lesbian, everyone if you're bi/pan, and especially into them. I've been through that, and I can tell you, it's pretty annoying when people assume you're into them when you're not - and worse, when your friendship is altered because they still think you secretly want to have sex with them when you explicitely told them otherwise.
9. Religion problems Chances are you've felt extrinsic or intrinsic pressure from your church to pray away the gay or lock yourself in the closet. You might have felt pressure to abandon your faith as well, which causes a lot of confusion and fear. Alternatively, religion (mainly Christianity) might be a trauma trigger or something you're staunchly against for other reasons.
@@grayblackhelm9761 This is the point generalised. Just think about it in more detail briefly. For starters, you could think about how one of the biggest problems would be family. Being raised in a religious family would not be easy when the religion in question condemns these type of people, which is them exemplified by a strong believing religious family who you wouldn't know whether or not they'd reject you. Another scenario is: What about personal beliefs? Say you've been raised in a particular religion and have come to wholeheartedly agree with it and follow it as you would. Then, all of a sudden, you get these feelings/urges growing up. This ends up causing conflict between the belief in your religion and who you are. Since most people 'find' themselves whilst growing up (around teenage years), it creates even more stress as theres the issue with changing personality, self discovery, hormones, etc. You'd feel like you're left with two decisions: 1) Restrain yourself but as a result live unhappy hiding who you are. 2) Embrace who you are but break the rules of your religion, for which you have so much faith in. Vika already said some detail about another scenario but yeah, just think about it in more detail. Saying a short point which *seems* not all that bad will make you think it's not a problem, when in reality it runs much deeper and is more difficult.
Joseph Mateo I was a Pagan raised in a Catholic home. I had an inherent belief in magic and the Fey, so- naturally- I was abused. Neglected. My father thought it more pertinent to “Kill the thing” than to actually raise me. People don’t change. Not in essence or personality. They evolve, yes- they grow more subtle or predatory- but they will never “change”.
Im a bi muslim.. and let me tell you if there's any chance you come out in a muslim country you might get disowned by your own family and made fun of and bullied by everyone on daily basis... sooo
"Are you into her?" "You totally have a crush on this guy!" "Oohh are you more than friends?" "You two would be cute together" Me: **inhales in aromantic**
💀✌ so sad I can relate to this "You'll find the right person" "I dont think your aromatic" "Your prob just confused" "Don't get married before 30" "Don't have kids before you get a stable job" "Its a phase" "I ship you with the person" "I doubt your asexual your too young to know what it is" "You don't act like the stereotypical ace" "Ofcourse you need to get married, thats what normal people do" "Aromatic ppl aren't attracted to the same sex so it isn't LGTBQ+" "Aromatic isn't real" ""I'm not gonna have a partner" that's what all of us said before haha." Lol I remember pretending to have a crush to fit it before I knew what Aromatic was..
I'm bisexual but this is still frustrating even for me because I have been asked if I was dating a guy that I was talking to a lot. Everyone would see us walking and talking to each other and when we walked past someone, they would ask if we were dating. It wasn't the first time it happened but with him, it was the most frequent.
the worst thing of being part of the lgbt community is that you mostly fell in love with the person who hates the community lmfao. or does this just happened to me?
@Kerosin Scott Seriously its kind of sad at this point, I have a really close friend and she hasn't ever been in a relationship, so she started considering herself bi. Like wtf, you've never liked anybody in your life and now you like both genders. Plus I have another friend who decided to be bi because he couldn't find a girlfriend -_-.
believing in these "sjws" and distancing yourself from the community just because of that can be so harmful, honestly- the whole concept itself feels like it's perpetuating this subtle self-hate that restrains you from being you or acting too "special" or "flamboyant" because you're scared of being one of those "attention-whoring sjws". do yourself a favor and stop giving a shit, it did me a lot of good personally, tbh
Sorry no, this is just giving people more of an excuse to shame someone that doesn’t date them because they don’t fit into the other persons preferences. Some people will be attracted to you and some won’t, some will want just sex, some want to date. Most of these are not just LGBT issues. Be honest in who you are and what you’re lookin’ for and you will encounter less hang ups.
Yeah, totally! I can personally relate to most of the problems listed in the video and I really appreciate the inclusivity of this channel. There's no hesitation or awkwardness to their LGBTQ+ vids and it's really nice. Love the positivity!
I am 12 years old, I have already come out to my mom as bisexual and she completely supports me and I am so greatful. She wants to get me into an after schoo, LGBT program too! She is going to start taking me to pride parades and she even got me a bisexual flag, how great is that! 😄😄😄
I think you missed internalized homophobia. Some gay people also don't like the idea of being gay at all and will choose not to even if they find a compatible partner they could love or see themselves loving. This type of gay person will typically shun themselves (not necessarily others but can as well) of anything to do with being gay. They may even get into straight relationships and marry as well basically forcing themselves to live the lifestyle they believe they should have.
@@thecatface8255 It is a dating problem, a big one at that. As an openly gay man, I've dated quite a few men who eventually decide to stay closeted and even lead double lives by marrying straight women and cheating on them with men.
@@mimimarcus Maybe its not homophobia? Honestly things like interlaized homophobia and more internalized shit is the biggest BS to ever exist. Maybe those people are BISEXUAL not homosexuals and they are unfaithful and cheat? Maybe its as simple as that? But internalized homophobia MOSTLY gets used against people who magically stop agreeing with LGBTQ+ Community
I used to be like that always told myself "I think women are cute but I will never marry or date a women" it took me years to realise that dating and marrying girls is okay.
It still hurts in a city of 15 million people. There is a lot of people that would defend me in a homophobic situation but they'd get attacked too. :/ Conservative people... P.S Conservative isn't just about politics, "Americans" ;)
Life hurts being a gay man in a small town and living with conservative, deeply religious, and homophobic parents that would absolutely hate when I find out I’m gay and dating a man. It’s gonna suck but I don’t care, I still love my boyfriend.
Bi-phobia is the worst People say stuff like, "oh, you'll get over it" or "pick a side." Yup, people be acting like this is a choice. Trust me, I'd be thrilled to choose, but you have to accept that I'm powerless to things like this, and it would be nice if you'd stop accusing me of cheating, because I can't choose one side. Another problem is "pansexuality and bisexuality are the same-" *NO*
Don't forget that Ace are discriminated against and has struggles yet some people THAT ARE LGBTQ+ think we are not part of the community. or were just forgotten. My entire school didn't know what Ace was until i told them... OH, and people making jokes about 'HUEH HUEH SO YOU CLONE YOURSELF?'
@Marcell The Shell Speedbuilds oh! Well happy birthday in 3 days! Anyway, I was also kinda confused at what I was first, too. That's totally normal for most people, don't worry too much.
Here's some other stuff I've seen: - biphobia, panphobia, demiphobia, aphobia, etc (I don't know if I spelt those right) - people saying they're attracted to one gender but won't date them if they're a different sexuality (like some lesbians refusing to date bi girls) - stereotypes, even within the LGBT+ community (like lesbians stereotyping gays)
Merp that's cause, as a trans bi dude, I can confirm those aren't real. Science proofs there's only 2 genders illimentating pan, and demi is just being choosy, and asexual is a hormone imbalance, it is not normal to not feel sexual attraction and those people need to see a doctor, or realize that they don't feel attraction yet because they are 12
axel m First of all, you can't confirm anything if you have not experienced it. Saying you're a trans bi dude literally confirms nothing. You are not asexual or demisexual and have probably never spoken to anyone that is about it. I'm a demi lesbian so allow me, someone that is demisexual, to explain. Aexuality, demisexuality, and so on are very real. You can tell because there are asexual and demisexual people. It is completely normal for someone to not feel sexual attraction, because a lot of people are asexual. Not all humans and animals feel the need to have sex. Being attracted to someone, being able to feel sexual pleasure, and wanting to have sex are three very different things. Sexual attraction is a scale. Asexuals just happen to be on the low end of it. You should understand that not everyone has the exact same way of balancing hormones. Maybe you should do more research besides biased aphobic science articles. Maybe talk to an actual asexual adult, there's quite a few of them. As a demisexual person, I can confirm that I am actually unable to feel attraction to people unless I feel close to them. Seriously. I've only felt attracted to my close friends and no one else. You're literally proving my point.
ArmpitSchmarmpit Well, they were just examples. Considering I am a lesbian, I don't have anything against them lol I mean not wanting to date them because "they won't pick a side" or "they don't want to date someone that's touched a guy" or whatever other stupid reason. And I meant in general people only wanting to date people of the same sexuality... And stereotyping them like "the gay best friend" or "you know fashion because you're gay", etc
Jack Willow I know, I don't have anything against that, I just mean for stupid reasons besides "I only want to date other gay guys". Like "I don't want to date bi guys because bi people are just bi for attention" or whatever... Jesus Christ why are people assuming I'm a bitch because of one thing that everyone's interpreting wrong
BlueLemon I wasn't ignoring it. I just used it as an example. I have nothing against people only wanting to date the same sexuality. But, I do if they refuse to date people of different sexualities, which I already said. God, maybe I should just delete my comment. People keep assuming things about me that are obviously wrong.
Sato el Gato This broke my heart reading it I've dated trans people before I hate the prejudice they face it's disgusting but I wish you all the best with your journey and hope you find someone who loves you for the amazing person you are ❤️
Sato el Gato You are more than welcome I feel your pain been single going on four years now I gave up hope long ago I wish I could have a cat where I live but sadly can't yet but if you ever want someone to talk to about anything my email is in my channel description
There's no need to insult people for not liking the video. People all have different problems, and if they didn't relate to this video that doesn't mean that they are being idiots.
You forgot how its very difficult for partners or to find anyone who is accepting of Asexuals (not Aromantic). Not many people are Ace and its hard to find someone accepting of it
Oooooofffff i dated a girl who was closeted for a few months, and as someone who was out as gay, it was rough. Her parents threatened to move if we continued dating, and they grounded her for a month after they found out. For any LGBTQ+ kids trying to date in high school in a more conservative space, my heart goes out to you. I’m still in that space, but all we can do is hope it gets better in the future. Thank you for this video!! It really hit home!
Madison H I understand completely, even though my ex gf and I are no longer together. I’m very sorry about all of that with her parents, I know just how hard it can be
Afonso Martins - actually - back when parents used to send children in to have lobotomies if they suspected the child was gay or effeminate - in which a doctor would shove a hot poker violently into the skull of a child through their eye , mess up their brain permanently , and let them loose into a house and world that would still fear them forever - they DID diagnose people with something called Gender Disphoria . Well done ! Unfortunately , that diagnosis has been referred to as " incredibly harmful " by " qualified psychologists and doctors " in the modern era , as the people diagnosed with it - aren't actually suffering from anything . When people try to " cure " it , it usually involves teaching a child to hate themselves and become afraid of existing as a person . Often , the victims will spiral into depression among other wonderful things I'm sure you'd love for me to describe in detail . so as a bit of an expert on the matter - leave us alone u w o
Kerosin - it is almost by definition transphobic to cut anyone out because you don't understand them , genderfluid people included . That's the whole reason we're alienated in the first place : by being someone who someone else doesn't understand . We're in this together - period . Genderfluidity is caused by shifts in brain activity which in other individuals are often set in stone . It is just as valid as whatever gender you , I , or anyone else you know is feeling right now . Also , although I'm not genderfluid , I am nonbinary - and I happen to actually be a big fan of the democratic process . And because you dragged it out - I now have to mention : how we were born doesn't change what either of us say . :P
This shows you how much they care about their chaotic politics insthead of ACTUALLY informing people and putting care into their work... cmon Aisian??? AISIAN !?
As a pansexual transgender man, it’s always so nerve wracking when I’m trying to hook up with someone or date someone. Like if my partner is a gay guy, would they like me for my personality and gender? Or turn me away due to my genitals? I’ve also gotten confused as just a lesbian and people saying I would be good with this one chick who is in fact a lesbian. It’s exhausting at times and I get anxious just thinking about it. I just wanna be lovvveeeddddd!
I'm gay, no ill intent, but I will only date a guy with all the male parts.. because we'll, that's what makes me gay, I am a homosexual, and sorry for being blunt here, but I like dick and a lot of other stuff that is exclusive to biological males. Either way I respect Trans people and they are valid imo
I'm gay, no ill intent, but I will only date a guy with all the male parts.. because we'll, that's what makes me gay, I am a homosexual, and sorry for being blunt here, but I like dick and a lot of other stuff that is exclusive to biological males. Either way I respect Trans people and they are valid imo
haha same, whenever they found out that I was bi (I hadn't come out to them yet) they flipped out and bought me a bible. they didn't disown me though, which shows that there's a bit of hope. :,D
Why would you want them to accept you? You have to accept you. That way, if they don't accept you, you don't have to force them to. Idk if this comes off the wrong way, but sometimes, you just gotta be the one to have your own back. Who cares if your parents don't accept you? You can't force them to, just accept what they contributed in shaping the person you became and just live on.
Angad Seeagra No prob dude. My situation is pretty easy to get off from tbh. I'm not the kind of guy that is too touchy or even attached to his family that much. Call it apathy, but I just don't mention it to my mom because she doesn't really need to know. And you parents probably don't need to know either, ya know?
When I was 12 I was very deep into the closet as a trans woman. I ended up sexting a likely pedophile who was just fetishizing me and had no care for my feelings. When I was 13 I had a crush on a boy but I was still closeted. I confessed my affection for him. He wasn’t gay so in order to make it better I said I was going to be woman. Yeah that went as well as you’d think
Panny (pansexual person,it's just a nickname...;-;) here! I'm a whole-hearted LGBTQP+ supporter, however...my sis always questions why I support LGBT+ people so much. I feel bad when people say "You're going to hell for being gay!!!" or "God hates gay!" or all the other ways people shame LGBT+, all the kids at my school used being gay as an insult or something to shame or pick on people for, it gets me really mad! Donuts and Doodles i'm out!
going to hell for being gay is, how i see it, just a made up thing by some homophobe/transphobe/whateverphobe in reality, Galatians 3:28 is saying how everyone is equal to jesus no matter who you are
Idk if anyone else has a problem similar to this, but there is a girl I've known for nine years. She's my best friend, and I've had a huge crush on her for a while now. Over the summer, we figured out we were mutually crushing on each other, and we became a thing. It was confusing, and we didn't quite know what this thing was - we're both extremely shy, and both of us are far too nervous to kickstart the "are we dating? are we girlfriends?" conversation. That was in July. It is September now. We still haven't talked it over. (though I *have* formulated a plan to officially ask her out.) The only other people who know about us are two of our best friends. I'm scared to tell my family, like my sisters and my parents, because I don't know how they'll react. They already know I'm queer, but as I said, this girl has been my best friend for nine years now. I know my mom looks at her like her own daughter, and assumes I see her in a similar light - like she's my sister. I don't, I look at her like the incredible beacon in my life that she is. It's just such a big change. I don't want them to look at her differently. Basically, what I'm saying is: it can be hard to tell your family you're dating someone of the same gender, even if you're technically "out". In my own experience, it's especially hard if your family has previously known them for a long time. I would be totally A-OK with telling them I was dating a girl if she was someone they hadn't watched grow up right beside me. It's kind of like dating while in the closet, except it's your relationship that's in the closet, not you. And it can be stressful. I don't know what anyone could do with this comment. I'm sure even if others have similar problems, it isn't all too common. But I wanted to say it anyway. Make of my story what you will.
It comes to how much faith you have in your family. Since I don't know them I can't really say, but I will assume they are nice. If they are, then I don't think it would be much of a problem. The only thing that could happen is it being awkward while they figure out how to act.After that I could come back to normal or something better may even happen. I haven't yet been in a relationship and can't understand what you are feeling right now or ever be able to, but I would just try and see. From my experience from other situations, things could go worse for a bit and then come back better than ever before. This may take time, however, but it always sometime does and you would be able to go trough it.
Yes! People just presume your sexuality based on seemingly nothing. I've even had a fellow LGBT member presuming I was straight(they literally said 'I presume you're straight') I get why hetronormativity(?) is a thing, but it's kinda frustrating.
Haha, I get that 99.9% of the time. People always assume I'm lesbian. I'm not even in the LGBTQ+ community unless I ever figure out if I'm heterosexual or asexual.
When you can love more than one gender, there are a lot of other problems, too. For example, you don't have to be out of the closet to date some openly, so you get hesitant to date someone who doesn't have the opposite gender. Or when people assume you never loved them, just because you started dating someone with a different gender from them. Or when people who don't fell attracted to your gender get kind of cautious around you because they don't know wether you'd fall for them (which isn't a problem exclusively for us, I guess). Or - which I think is the worst, actually - when you get homophobia from others of the LGBTQ+ community because they don't think your sexuality is valid/think that your sexuality is responsible for some stereotypes /is transphobic/have other misconceptions about it. Oh, and let's not forget those of us who have mental illnesses and get accused of giving other people form the LGBTQ+ community a 'bad image' because of it. I'm so happy that most of these don't actually happen to me personally/only over the internet instead of said to my face. I'm not sure I could handle the latter…
That was very interesting. Honestly, I'm not very well informed on this topic but it's very important to have some insights on how LGBTQ feel, without putting some social-rights struggle with it.
Quick Fix I think this video is not a good option to learning about the LGBT community. On top of that it's better if you actually speak to the actual people providing if you are able to tolerate their nonsense these days. And this is coming from someone who is gay
pride-flags.deviantart.com/ they blocked me when asked if they were a satire. you can also consult tumbr. but beware of satire accounts making fun of people for who are serious about their head scratcher of an orientation and identidy .and then you get Objectum Sexuals. who i guess are part of the GRSM. because lgbt don't want those people around. or should they?
@@MrSergayfgtxd That's not made up. Aromantic means you don't experience any romantic attraction to people and asexuality means you don't experience any sexual attraction to anyone. Aromantic and asexual people don't experience any attraction (By that i mean they don't experience any romantic and sexual attraction) to people.
I'm not LBGQT, but I respect the community. I don't know much on this, but I watch this video so I can have some knowledge, on what these individuals go through. And with this insight, I can approach any future situation appropriately. It's good to understand other cultures and communities despite your personal preference.
Yeah, being a bisexual trans guy, I can relate to a lot of these. Unfortunately, I'm not out as trans yet, so my girlfriend keeps calling me her girlfriend. I hate it so much, but I'm really not in a position where I can come out right now.
I'm strait but I would gladly date a post op trans male or a non binary individual. (What I mean is, it's true I'm only attracted to males, but if a guy I was dating revealed to me that he was once a female or doesn't identify as ether genders I'd be okay with it.)
why post op? Which op, chest or genitalia? You can have very male traits with just testosterone injections. Maybe you are especially into dicks and that's ok but if you are just attracted to men there are plenty of ways to have fun without dicks whatever your orientation. imagine in real life, do you ask people how they are in their pants? maybe you can be cis and have problems with the size of your penis and it put pressure on trans people to be cis-like. If you find someone attractive and the person is uncomfortable about saying he is trans with or without op.?
if you like men or women or some types of sexuality and not other it's just like that. Doesn't mean that you can't be flexible, do exceptions, etc. but as a whole for many people it's just an illusion "not to see gender". If you are lesbian you will not look all the dudes profils on tinder.
I only like women. Real biological women. I'd be pissed if some dude who got surgery thought he could trick me into being with him because he calls himself a girl. I'm not gay. If you're not a biological women then stay away.
Rose 'n' Pink They were born biological males so im going to call them male. You dont like it big deal. I'm not here to cater to mental delusions. I have more important things to do then to waste my time attempting to decipher what billions of genders you think you are.
Andrea The Loser this is litterlay me and my crush and what's even funnier is that we just hug each other like where friends but in the middle of the hug we just look at each other like I like u alot!!!!!!
Here's some statistical data from the CDC and UCLA Law along with LGBT groups promoting awareness of LBGT DV issues. This is not old outdated homophobic whatever the hell you're selling. This is from 2014. Why don't you care about this issue. Nobody should be committing DV acts against their partner regardless of their orientation. mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/lesbianrx/factsheet.shtml www.advocate.com/crime/2014/09/04/2-studies-prove-domestic-violence-lgbt-issue www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2013/p0125_NISVS.html williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/Intimate-Partner-Violence-and-Sexual-Abuse-among-LGBT-People.pdf The CDC’s 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, released again in 2013 with new analysis, reports in its first-ever study focusing on victimization by sexual orientation that the lifetime prevalence of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner was 43.8 percent for lesbians, 61.1 percent for bisexual women, and 35 percent for heterosexual women, while it was 26 percent for gay men, 37.3 percent for bisexual men, and 29 percent for heterosexual men (this study did not include gender identity or expression). Intimate Partner Violence and Sexual Abuse among LGBT People 3 Table I. Prevalence of Lifetime Intimate Partner Violence and Intimate Partner Sexual Lifetime intimate partner violence table on page 3 of the PDF states that lesbians experience 40% lifetime intimate partner violence It's right there on the 3rd page of that report. I'd be more polite but, with all due respect, pull your head out of your ass. It's annoying to me that people that are supposedly pro LBGTIA ignore any problematic data that doesnt fit their perspective. Meanwhile real people suffer at their peril. Stuff like this makes me believe you are willfully ignorant rather than just plain uninformed.
Abby Cosgrove I am only wondering, ofcoure this might be frlm person to person, if as an asexual person you would kiss or not. Sorry if I am being personal :(
While I agree that it does vary person to person on how far they want to take the sensual/physical part of the relationship, being sex-positive, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed is something that can be an occurrence in any sexuality (albeit its more prominently found within the Asexual Community since it is more accepted there than in the Allosexual Communities for numerous reasons). My biological mother is heterosexual and is massively sex-repulsed while I myself am asexual and sex-neutral.
Oh, and one more problem: Girls: *dating* Society: Ohhhh, that's cute!^^ Guys: *dating (or at least trying to)* Society: Oh shit, aRe ThEy GaY?¿ Kinda unfair, don't you think-
for the girls thing, society only thinks it's cute because most of them think that the girls are roommates or really really good friends lol. Also if I dated a girl most of the people in the state I live in would not thing it's cute at all... (I'm a girl btw) so not true for all girl couples. (Also lots of people I live around would actually thing that a guy and another guy dating is cuter that two girls dating). So I guess the point of this reply is to just say, I wish I lived around the people your around in society, (of course only if they realized that a guy couple is just as cute as a girl couple)
Or society be like: * *two guys dating* * society: ewww,wtf go kys * *two girl dating* * society: owo,so hot,3some lesbians often get fetishized and gay men get hated on:'(
I fucking hate straight dudes that fetishize lesbian relationships, but then they proceed to be grossed out by gay relationships. It's stupid. Makes me angry
Yeah a lot of these are also problems in heterosexual couples but some are exclusive to the LBGTQ+ community, and some are just more prevalent in that community.
Well yeah but heterosexuals are supposedly the majority so this video is putting the lgbt+ community at the centre which rarely happens (it is getting better but still rare)
Aphobia is a pretty nasty hurdle as well. It's not easy to be in a relationship with someone when you always have that nagging feeling that they're going to eventually ask you to do something you're uncomfortable with, especially if you haven't been with the person for very long and/or you know they could physically overpower you. Many people still don't believe asexuality, aromantacism, and agenderism even exist, which can lead to harassment, abuse, and much worse for the aspec person involved. If you're dating an aspec person, the best thing you can do for them is to ask them where their lines are drawn. Some aces may not feel aroused, but will still engage in sex to make their partner happy, others not so much. Every person is different, so it's important to establish boundaries so you and your partner can have the happiest relationship possible.
I will say that asexuals don’t specifically apply to lg relationships. Asexuals could be in a relationship with straight people. But I will also say that any moment where the threat of physical sexual assault plays an active role in your decisions is an unhealthy state for a relationship.
I was looking for a comment like this. I was glad until I found acephobic comments. 😒😒😒 There's a lot of discrimination coming from within the lgbtiqa+ community.
Daniela Tovar they certainly can. I still believe this video applies to them, because a majority of these problems aren’t exclusive to the lgbt community.
Oh my god. Please. I beg of you. Repeat after me: ACE-PHO-BI-A. Or arophobia, or anything of that sort. I’m sorry, it’s just aphobia literally translates to “without fear or hatred.” I mean, the word homophobe doesn’t make sense either but whatever I guess.
One of the things that I'd throw out there is biphobia, too. I'm saying this particularly as a bi/pansexual woman who has often found it hard to date cisgender lesbian women, since we get a lot of the "not quite queer enough" rhetoric. (Note: Not saying cisgender lesbian women are bad, since I usually get hit with that when talking about my own personal experiences; I'm just saying that, within the community, there is quite a lot of stigma thrown at bi/pansexual women that originates there. I also see a lot of the same toward bi/pansexual men by cisgender gay men. All of this is without even taking into consideration how we're affected by a lot of cisgender straight people, too.)
Yep im a gay man and i dont want to date even the hottest bi guy out there. Why? Bisexuals tend to be not sure about what they want, gay guys are already difficult to deal since they cant keep themselves out of company of other guys, imagine a bi guy? Having both man and woman as "choice" one time or another one will not be enough.
I'm Bisexual, I've been asked out by someone of the same gender, and told someone of the opposite gender that I liked them, they like me back. I believe all is in my favour.
Am I the ONLY one who thinks that refusing to date someone ties down to preference. Sorry but if someone doesn't want to date you for whatever reason, it doesn't necessarily make them phobic.
I don't think it applies to whether you'd date a specific individual, but the fact that you think that absolutely *no one* in that entire group could possibly be attractive enough to you for a relationship to work. I mean, if you think the most conventionally attractive, nice person who's, let's say, black is still not as attractive as an ugly person of your preferred skin color, that's a bit worrying. I guess it all boils down to what is causing a person to have that preference.
Vite Seul that's reasonable. But I don't date black people, it's not like I will NEVER date one. It's just that i'm not that attracted to them. Black people have different features than white people, even hair and bodies. Just because I don't find them attractive does not mean I am racist.
Vite Seul Also there can be things that cause preference other than racism and transphobia. Each have their own reasons, and not all of them are bad things. This whole debate is biased as hell, no one would complain if a black person refused to date a white person and it happens more than the opposite. No one would complain if a trans person refused to date a cis person.
Yasmine H Aesthetic preferences are fine! They're normal, and not really racist. Fetishization isn't just liking or not liking a race, though. It's saying that dating a race is better because members of that race are better at sex, have larger genitals, are submissive, are fiesty... Racial fetishization is like thinking that Asian women are more submissive than other races. (This is an actual real life example that some people believe in) This has led to several rape cases where the perpetrator said they chose Asian women specifically because he thought they were submissive and would take it, and not report it. Basically, preferences in dating based on how a race looks is fine. Preferences based on sexual stereotyping is not. (That's what fetishization is)
Yasmine H That's fine. The way i see It, it's fine if you don't find people with ginger hair attractive for example, or brown eyes. So why would it matter the colour of their slin
‘Some people prefer to keep their sexuality secret’ Then there’s me Whenever I meet a new person I’m like ‘hONEY IM LESBIAN AS *F U C K* ‘ Edit: oh look at those likessss plus this is a joke btw cus some people are taking it a bit seriously there heh
Hey no hate, but as a gay guy I only will date biological born males. But I think it's important to respect everyone's gender identity, because just like being gay, it's not a choice. Being trans is valid, no hate btw.
Took 5 years to find my dream girl in my small town, and surprisingly I’ve known her my whole life 😊 honestly when we first met I was terrified of her, and she hated me, thinking I was weird. No more tho! We’re very close to a year together!
9. asexual dating trying to find a partner who is romantic and is not interested in intercourse. or finding an ace or aro partner who just dislikes intercourse but not dating or relationships. GIVE ACES LOVE TOO!
Hey! How are you doing? I’m just here trying to find an ace that I can have a civilized talk with. Right out I’m going to say that I don’t think it’s wrong, I don’t think it’s bad, and you are definitely welcome in the LGBT+ community! But I do have to say, for most people in this world, intercourse is a very important factor in relationships, it has been proven but I’m not too certain on the reliability of that so don’t quote me on that. But yeah it’s just a very important and big aspect of relationship which can bring a greater bond and people just can’t have a stable relationship with an ace even if they tried, it’s just a preference, not hate. Now, I want to hear your side and opinion on the matter, why do you feel like you are being oppressed by being an ace in the dating scene? Thank you for taking your time to read this if you do. I would love to hear your response, I’m very interested in this!
Foki Hey There! So, just found this vid and, by proxy, this comment and, while I may not be the original commenter, as a total ace case I figured I might share my own side of things. I'm always happy to see when people open themselves to learning a bit more about it and, while I can't speak for everyone, I'm hoping I can help clear some things up. So, first thing's first, there is a bit of a common misconception about aces, but one that is perfectly understandable. Asexuals may not feel sexual attraction, but not all of them are unwilling to participate. It is also not directly tied to sex drive. Many aces do have sex drives, some of whom will turn to sex simply to satisfy that drive, while others are perfectly fine with self-pleasure. I have a friend who doesn't mind it, seeing it more like exercise than anything. It makes her girlfriend feel special and so she enjoys that bit of emotional connection afterwards. While I'm not a follower, a RUclipsr named Ash Hardell made a video called 'How (some) Asexuals ... Have Sex'. If you're curious, it's the most comprehensive and thorough video I've seen on the topic thus far. On the opposite side, I'm a sex-repulsed ace. I don't mind viewing sex, but for whatever reason when I think of someone touching me below the waist, it makes my skin crawl on a visceral level. To clarify, I have never been abused before, I've never had a bad experience, and I genuinely don't know what has caused this strong reaction. I do accept the idea that one day I might find someone I'm comfortable enough with to push that boundary, but as it is, I'd simply prefer not to. That said, I am panromantic. This simply means that I'm romantically interested in all genders. I've just never wanted to have sex with any of them. I find happiness through strong emotional connections. Just like you can have sex without love, you can have love without sex (lol I'm sure there are some longstanding marriages that might be able to begrudgingly attest). It's the little things. Cuddling, holding hands, making dinner, or watching movies on the couch, covered in popcorn dust like complete slobs, and not caring because you're comfortable and just happy that you have each other's company. From my perspective, I've never understood why sex is such a big deal. Just seemed like an urge people had that they need to appease, like eating when you're hungry. No matter whether you have sex or don't, though, there are always complications. I would never say that I feel 'oppressed' when it comes to the dating scene. Nobody has ever actively shamed me for my sexuality or told me that I shouldn't be dating (Although hearing the "So you reproduce through mitosis?" joke for the 50,000th time gets VERY old). But, finding a partner can be incredibly tough. I've sometimes joked with friends that my dating life would be legitimately easier if I was gay. People know what gay is, even for those that believe it's a sin. A gay person could potentially date other gay people, bisexuals, pansexuals, and, potentially, interested asexuals. I'm not saying being gay is easy, by any means. Allow me to explain : Even though I'm Panromantic, I often describe my life on the dating scene as a hostage negotiation with your heart. I often feel like I've got about three options : 1) Hold out until you find another ace person that you like enough that you would want to pursue a romantic relationship with. I live in a very rural area. I've only ever met two other aces in person and didn't even know what the term was until college. Up until that point, I thought I must be broken or super picky or something. So, long story short, the whirlwind ace romance in my neck of the woods is like trying to find a shiny pokemon. It's possible, but I have too much to do in my life to be that dedicated to finding one. Kudos to the people who have that kind of patience. 2) Stay single. Sometimes I'm okay with this option. I remind myself that my life is enriched by my family and friends. But, sometimes, it really does hurt when I meet someone I think is cute and then I have to just let that connection go or never let it develop into anything because I don't want to risk the rejection or sound like a total freak when I inevitably have to explain my situation. 3) Open yourself up to dating a non-ace person. This leads into the following scenarios : a) My partner remains abstinent. While this is ideal for me, and there are couples out there that make it work, it can also lead to feelings of guilt or insecurity. Guilt on behalf of myself for knowing I'm denying them something they may want and insecurity on behalf of some partners who date asexuals, but can't help the fact that they feel sad that their partner does not find them sexually desirable. Of course, in a healthy relationship, you would hopefully be able to talk to each other so you can work through those issues together. b) I indulge my partner in sex. This is very difficult for me. Like I said, some aces do it, but for this ace I honestly do not know what it would take for me to even attempt something that involves direct touching of my lower region. So, for me, this is off the table. Especially since I never want to lead someone on with the idea that maybe, just maybe, if they hold out long enough I'll cave. That just doesn't seem healthy for anyone involved. c) Allow my partner to get sexual gratification elsewhere. By this, I don't mean porn. I mean allowing them to have sex with other people. I have met a non-ace couple that made this work, but I am not naive about myself. I have my own insecurities and trust issues. I'm the type of person who lets people walk all over me, and anytime this option comes to mind I just see myself in tears as I wait for the day my partner finds someone who fulfills all their needs, cheats (in this situation 'cheating' would be seeing this person beyond just a single hookup and pursuing them intimately and romantically), and leaves me for that person. This has nothing to do with my partner, I recognize that. But, as someone who doesn't have any frame of reference for why sex is so important to people or why anyone would cheat to satisfy those impulses, it stirs up a lot of fear and confusion. Oh my word, and don't even get me started on the anxiety of when I'm interested in someone and it's like "How on earth do I tell them I'm ace without it sounding like I'm a total freak or I'm just rejecting them? When has it ever been a good move to go up to someone and be like 'Hey, I'm gay and I hope you're cool with that because I'd love to date you'. Do I wait until I see if they're interested in a date and then tell them? At what point? But what if they think I've lead them on?" and it just spirals until I'm like "You know what? They deserve better. They'll find someone much better than me to be happy with anyway." So yeah, even getting that initial date can be an absolute nightmare, especially if you're in a rural area like me and there is pretty much nothing in terms of LGBT+ meetups. So yeah, that's my lengthy, probably pretty pathetic sounding, but honest explanation. Sorry. There was just a lot to unpack. I'm not saying dating is hopeless when you're ace, but it can be a lot more complicated than some might initially think. Granted, this is all based off of my own personal experiences. Honestly, though there's a lot to be said about the toxic side of reddit, I'd honestly suggest taking a glance at the /r/Asexuality subreddit if you ever get curious about some questions aces and partners of aces tend to have. They can be very enlightening sometimes.
okay but asexuals aren't inherently lgbt, if you're a cishet asexual you're not lgbt, if you're trans or experience same sex attraction and asexual then you can call yourself lgbt
ZitaInk Oh thank you so much for responding! It’s okay you’re not the same person, I just needed someone to give me a perspective. Thank you for teaching me about all of this and taking time off your day! Also, don’t respond to the other person, I mean everyone has their opinion right? It’s okay to and I respect it, but it has nothing to do with the topic at hand so how about we just move on? Well thank you for all of this information and for having a good talk with me, they are rare to have in the internet. I now understand much more than I did before! Though I do have to say, just as you don’t get the appeal of sex (which is totally fine!), I can’t really see myself in a relationship without it. You could say I’m very into the BDSM side of things. But for me, the owner/pet thing is much more than just a kink, it’s a way of living for me, I live to serve. I guess it’s a way of being this girl that has someone that protects her, which I never really had. But people are always like, “that’s disgusting, why would you let someone control you like that?” or “they’re going to end up abusing and cheating on you” which has never been the case. I’ve gotten abused more times in a relationship that’s not based around this because dominants actually know what the word no means and they take it seriously. But well I’m in a loving relationship with my mistress right now! I love the romantic and cute side which makes me feel safe and protected but I also enjoy the naughty side! But even with our differences we can still get along and that’s the beauty of it! I may not get you, you may not get me. But it’s because we don’t know the other person's experience. But even then we can do our research and learn more which is what I love about technology! Hehe sorry if this was too long too, it just such an interesting topic that I want to know more about and have a conversation with someone! Thank you for reading and taking your time, I await your response!... if you want obviously hehe.
I mean, you're technically correct, if you limit it to just LGBT. Though, as sexuality continues to become more understood and explored, people tend to use LGBT+ as the general term for someone who doesn't quite fit the norm in terms of sexuality or gender. / shrug / Just a heads up, we're the A of LGBTQA, not 'allies' as it is sometimes mistaken. And, in all fairness, LGBT just genuinely rolls off the tongue better and is much less of a mouthful. On the street, it definitely makes it sound less pretentious than using the full acronym, since most people generally get the gist. And it really sounds a LOT better than saying we're part of the 'Non-straights', which just sounds hostile to the ear lol. Edit : Also forgot to mention, I'm queer, if that means anything lol. At least I think that's the right term? Basically I really don't mind being referred to as either gender and I'm pretty androgynous to begin with. Just sort of a clarification that I'm not entirely cis.
Number 8 hit home. I'm glad this video was made. I was a little hesitant since LGBTQ videos can vary on their quality of education, but this hit it out of the park! Incredible!
Olivia Smith And also the ace-spectrum like demisexuality (experiencing sexual attraction to someone whom you have a strong emotional connection with; you don't wanna fuck with strangers), etc.!
Olivia Smith I’m sorry these people are being uneducated assholes, I totally agree with your comment! Asexuality should definitely be a video, I think!!
Psych2Go a video on asexuality, and the ace spectrum would be cool too! A nice place to start since there is so much stigma, and/or more trans/non binary videos. Just noticing a lot of misinformed people in the comments, and a lot of hate mongering :(
Sorry no, this is just giving people more of an excuse to shame someone that doesn’t date them because they don’t fit into the other persons preferences. Some people will be attracted to you and some won’t, some will want just sex, some want to date. Most of these are not just LGBT issues. Be honest in who you are and what you’re lookin’ for and you will encounter less hang ups.
I’m transgender And my bae is str8 ..6 years in a relationship and yes we’re dating while in the closet.. I’m mean it’s hard for me but we make it work.. what important is that we both know that we love each other and our families knew... though his friends doesn’t and some of our neighbors don’t know...it’s really a challenge
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Happy Saturday everyone! Our first video on LGBTQ! Let us know if you would like to see more!
yES PLEASE
Psych2Go Yes! Please do more! I’m bisexual and found this video so interesting, thanks so much for making it😁
Psych2Go Yesss this was great. Sometimes I watch your videos on straight relationship stuff and I wonder if it even applies to 2 guys/girls
Alrighty guys! We will have more videos made!
thank you so much as a lesbian i feel like i'm not alone my thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You forgot the weird bi-phobia. "You have twice the opportunity to cheat" "You need to just pick a side" "I guess you were tired of men and decided to give women a shot, eh?" And on and on and on.
When I accepted being bi I went to the LGBT community for some acceptance and affection because I was still in the closet and got some nasty backhanded meaness instead. It's worse for bi men.
Our community can be great and inclusive, or just so painful.
dont forget the lesbian women who think its gross that bi women had a dick in them before
Dont worry, i feel you. Well all be bi and happy together
I get you, im also bi.
Ugh this is so true.
My friend came out as a lesbian because she was scared people would think she was a bad person if she came out as bi and I never realized that biphobia was a thing till she told me this
I am a lesbian and I’m reading down and there are loads of ones about bisexual (etc) people being hated on by us. I am so sorry if you are bi and get hate from lesbians you’re beautiful!
Hello random person of the internet!
Just wanted to let you know that this made my day!
Thank you, and have a good day. ^^
I love how you didn’t say this like, “THIS IS ENTIRELY UNTRUE!! GET SOME FACTS!!”
I am a bisexual and I think you are a good person
I'm a lesbian with a bisexual girlfriend and i love her and all my bi friends and family! I've seen so much hate from my sexuality to theirs and it really needs to stop.
Everyone who may read this and identifies as bi(or pan, etc), no matter your gender identity, no matter your 'percentage preference', are all valid! And i will continue to be your ally
Phantastic Yeah, as a pan individual, I appreciate you reaching out. xD Lesbians Have... an interesting attitude toward me, most of the time. I’m transmale pansexual, but haven’t made alterations to my body and prefer to dress gender neutral, as I’m not a super macho guy, so. Some women into women have been like, “oh, you’re a pretty girl,” and... explaining “well, back at you, but I’m actually only one of those things” is awkward. Straight guys want me to stay the way I am, and lesbian women seem to feel the same, and gay men / straight women are disappointed because apparently even if I do change my body, not being cismale means I’ll never be masculine enough for them. I’m basically limited to dating other pansexual trans people, with maybe a rare genderqueer bisexual or asexual panromantic woman thrown in there. I will say that lesbians are always more respectful of my gender identity than ... any cismen, though.
I love the entire lgbt+ community
Yes there are problems you’ve missed. Biphobia is real and I personally have been harassed by LGBTQ+ people for calling myself LGBTQ+ with a straight partner
Bisexuals are members of the LGBTQ+ community and we aren’t just confused or greedy
I'm like, "Do they not know what the B stands for in LGBTQ+????? ಠ_ಠ "
Same for pan
Yeah there's people literally telling them they're not a real thing, like what???
Darth Vader we're in the freaking acronym.
Pieguy 91
-pat pat- it’s okay. I’m pan and we’re almost the same. My friend is bi. And she’s one of the best friends I’ve ever had
Les problems: Do I want to be her, date her, or be friends with her?
I think that’s something you missed
Oh I know this one! It sucks!
yesss 😂
I just went right in that direction you presented lol mostly cause she's straight
This is what my problems is
@@yellownotsus7538 same
So many straight people say "all the hot ones are gay or taken" but that's so far off bc almost all of the girls I have a crush on are straight.
syd ! Agree with that - I probably am subconsciously looking for a relationship, mostly with a girl, but most girls are straight or I don't know or can't ask about their sexuality - but otherwise I don't mind being single right now
syd ! but goddamn have I seen some fine gay men before
TOO TRUE THO
When it comes girls, a lot of the hot ones will pretend to like girls to get the attention of some guy. I’ve been burned by girls like that before.
+syd !
That sounds creepy...
Dating as a transgender guy is so difficult. Recently a girl broke up wit me because I helped her realize she likes women...ouch.
Every boy I sorround myself with becomes gay and I don't even know why
What do you expect ? You have a vagina lol
Chrysobubulle but he has a male brain
@@gae6495 yeah but attraction has a lot to do with genitals
It’s like dating for a non binary person. At some point your partner is probably going to tell you they prefer a more feminine or masculine side of you.
She probably saw you as a women and was disappointed. Happened to a few ppl I know
LGBTQ Issue #9:
Saying that asexuals aren't part of the community even though it literally includes anyone who isn't heterosexual.
For the people in the back, ace does NOT equal straight.
or the moment you are dating someone amd they say "i thought you are asexual" 😑 like there's a difference Tiffany
No its not. Its people that are trans or are romantically/sexually attracted to the same sex. If your a cis heteroromantic asexual you arent LGBT
@@funandcooljokes Maybe not, but you would still be LGBT+... That said, most people mean LGBT+ when they say LGBT, so there's no need to gatekeep cis straight asexuals out, is there?
@@ITR there is a need to gatekeep cause they arent LGBT. Also there is no need for a plus
@@funandcooljokes Why do you not want them as part of LGBT? Straight Asexual people might experience discrimination and problems similar to transgender people or other non-straight people.
Why exactly do you not want them as part of the community?
The one about fetishizing trans people hit home.
I think it’s because everyone expects getting medically transitioned should be the goal.
No.
The goal is to overcome your gender dysphoria, with or without medical transition (hormones, surgery, etc)
Hormones are not a magical cure to the pain within. Surgery will not remove the suffering in your head.
I can only share my experience, so here it is:
My only goal in life used to be medical transition. I would stare at myself in the mirror and pick myself apart. What part of me was too masculine, to hairy, to this to that. I caked makeup on my face everyday, all I wanted was to “pass”. I was miserable, but I held on to hope because I was watching all these rich, famous transgender RUclipsrs and actors buy themselves new faces and bodies and they took estrogen and got so pretty and they looked so happy.
Then I became a healthier person, and I realized I’d never be happy unless I changed my insides. I learned to love myself and my body. I learned to accept all my flaws and accept that my sex is, was, and always will be male. Just not my gender. For some reason I was just born with a feminine spirit in the vessel of a male. Now that I am healthy, I know that medically transition isn’t necessary to be happy. Of course, if I wanted to do I still could.
Fellow trans people, learn to love yourself and accept yourself as you are now first. Then, if you still feel like medical transition is for you, go forward. There’s nothing wrong with it, after all. It’s a miracle of modern medicine!
Spread the word !
👏
Aww this is precious, I'm so happy for you!!! It's great that you're also voicing this story out too, you never know if someone's gonna come across this comment who desperately needed to hear this. Keep going and Love Yourself!!!
I don’t understand transgender, is it just gender stereotyping? It doesn’t matter what body part you were born with, your passions, behavior, and choice of clothing has nothing to do with gender. You can do any of those without changing your gender
@@kerronh2060 no, it is a very, VERY strong feeling of not being the right gender. Some may choose to transition with surgery, or with hormones. And some may just dress up (like you were saying) in clothes typically for another gender. It isn’t not wanting to conform to gender stereotypes (if I sound harsh I do not mean to, reading this makes me sound harsh idk)
Aww that's cute
Number 5 is especially hard for lesbians or women who prefer other women.
Given how girls are generally raised to be a lot more affectionate with close friends and how things like sharing food, sharing clothes, going out on one-on-one outings, hell even some cases platonic kissing like on the cheeks is super common and it's near impossible to tell if anothet girl is directly hitting on you or seeing you as a super close friend
Looking back, I cant count how many times I've cuddled platonicly or even borrowed a bra from multiple times with a close friend (who's still just a friend) and thought nothing of it other than "oh wow my best friend and I are so cool and fun".
That is such a beautiful privilege wish us men can say the same. At least you can be close to her.
My friend and I (we're both girls) are closer than my other friend and her boyfriend. I'm bi and people ship me with her, but she's straight.
@@bakes887 I feel you ._. It's quite hard to get out of that "super close friends" zone...
Hugin
Incorrect. There are cultures, and civilizations, such as the Ancient Greeks, that idolized and almost worshipped gay men. Male affection was pretty common- hence wrestling in the nude during training for/during the Olympics.Could you imagine two male friends wrestling naked together today, lathered in olive oil? Of course not. Is male affection not hardwired in men? Of course not. It’s just not taught or found to be “normal”. Could men later on show physical and emotional affection like women do today? Yes.
I don’t know how much you know about society and the effects of nature and nurture, but A LARGE, LARGE number of our societal preferences and normalities are learned. This is a fact.
You can research more on this if you like.
"Share food with ur best girlfriend" Bish please, I share my food with Jack. He isnt even my brother. Nor my boyfriend. Try me. Im 10, he's about to be 12.
I'm gay, but,
the first 3 things on the list aren't exclusively gay problems...
But they are
@@danielfuxcx no they aren't. Casual racism can happen to anyone, fat shaming can happen to anyone, and hook up culture is everywhere.
@@fableslable But they ARE TOO. Wtf.
@@danielfuxcx please explain how casual racism, fat shaming, and hook up culture are exclusively lgbt problems. PLEASE explain.
@@fableslable They ain't exclusive of the lgbt but they are here too. I don't get why you get so pressed about if they are or not.
You did miss one thing: biphobia while dating.
A lot of bi people I know have faced discrimination in the LGBT community because of the toxic mindset "gay OR straight" and I personally have been harassed and ridiculed by lesbians because I've only been with a guy.
and Panphobia
You know what? You’re right actually, that’s true
Yeah, I agree, it's a lil' bit difficult for one of us to find someone from the LGBT+ comunity who won't judge it or accept it, but luckily not all of them think like that.
Still, there's a lot of work to do, not only about bi people but with all these prejudices we hear day after day.
But we can do it ✊😉
I'm sorry, I've heard a lot about the bi discrimination issue and it's really horrible. I'm not bi myself, but I am poly romantic which a lot of people don't believe is real, so I understand what it feels like. I'm here for ya'
Dude same, im ridiculed because "You are pan, why don't you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend??" or "Dude he asked you out! Say yes, you are pan! You can date anyone!" I said no because I didn't like him.
Girl: *Kisses you on cheek and hold hands, sits on lap, calls wife, etc*
Me, lesbian: *thinks she likes me, develop feelings*
Also girl: Oh yeah btw im straight
;_;
WickedEmmi HONESTLY! sometimes it feels like you are being played with
HAHAHAGA
Oh no, that hurts sooo much i feel you
Oh my god I feel you. Like I'm trans and bi and when I wasn't out yet I was, well, friends with a girl. And we did exactly this, playfully acting out a marriage and hold hands and stuff but.. she was straight and didn't know I was a guy and hell that was exhausting developing feelings for her
@@Jasmine-vn1no Sometimes we are just being played with. Sometimes the other person is confused but it isn't fair to hurt someone else in the process.
honestly, in some places, when a bi person gets into a straight relationship everyone says that they are not from lgbtq+ sigh
I don't see myself in the community despite being bi, because my person views as a whole combined differs greatly than most in the community. Plus I usually pick men first and I have crushes on men more than women.
nouredits Not to mention in relationships, the other person being wary that we'd supposedly leave them for the other gender. A ton of bi people get rejected because of this irrational fear :/
It's because a ton of people think that bi means that you don't know your sexuality and believe that once you are in a relationship that you have decided. But the truth is that a bi person is always bi. If a bi person leaves a heterosexual relationship, they could still enter a homosexual relationship.
Yeah. That’s a really huge problem that should be addressed
I’m not bi, I consider myself to be panromantic, and I get constant flack from my bf and his parents about the fear I’ll leave him for a girl and I’m like ???
I’m a bi girl and my crush is a straight girl :’)
*cries inside*
Been a year...how’s it going?
@@Equa11ysurl yo
Ah yes the straight crush. The saddest story ever told
I learned that I wasn’t straight when I had a crush on my friends...sorry... my *straight* friend
Relatable affff
Hook up culture, and not enough fish on the sea hits too close to home. Great video
nothing oof
nothing the only Hook up culture I know is Netherlands and they are known for it. Doesn't mean I don't like it. I think it is pretty interesting how they deal with the topic sex so openly and free. Should be like this everywhere :)
nothing same
Raven Hill as long as it includes safe sex
Not LGBTQ UNIQUE tho
I’m in a wheelchair and my local gay bar isn’t very accessible.
Nuuuuuuu
In my country we also have huge problems with wheelchair friendly places! I'm going to a bi meeting and we are searching for a restaurant where we can do our meetings so that people with wheelchair can come. Only because restaurants saying they are wheelchair friendly, doesn't mean they really are. I think there should be a law that actual people who know stuff should control such stuff😅
My ex's mom is trying to get a restraining order on me cause she's convinced I made her kid bi. Awesome.
Wth is she alright
@@safiyahauttree9533 🤷🏻♀️
@Thefangirl 0110 😂😂
If they say this once again say: -"Then why don't you go and buy a rainbow frappuchino, you will turn into a rainbow."
Damn that sucks that hurt really bad I hope the best for you 😁
me: hey your really pretty
girl crush: oh thanks i like how girl's can say stuff like and not be lgbt
me: iM gAy
drawing nerd oml XD
R/thathappened
drawing nerd
Well hey girls can still say that without being gay 😁 even if
You are gay
TRUTH
To be fair, this can also be a nice way to assess whether or not they're into you without being blatantly rejected.
Lesbian friend: hey you're looking cute today
Me: thanks!
Inner me: is she flirting with me?
Even if you know someone's a lesbian you never really know.
Another thing is that in school you end up dating everyone's ex'es because there's a limited amount of lesbians to date.
Or when you are a useless lesbian and when some girls try to flirt with you you'll think they're just nice to you XDD
Yes. This happened to me.
But now I'm the happiest person on this planet with my lovely little gf
Almost every lgbtq girl in my school has dated each other at some point. We have a limited selection
I'm dating Tara my friends xgirlfriend. I think my friend still likes her tho she's really clingy towards her and not her own girlfriend.
as a useless bisexual crushing on my lesbian friend I can confirm
nails_onaboard 0215 ooo my straight best friend is named Tarah 😳
As a female, it's hard for me when I develop feelings for a straight girl. It hurts knowing they'll never like you in the same way.
@Rhiannon White oh no that hurts :(
@Rhiannon White are you guys still friends?
Which is why I dont have a crush (havent had a crush in 5 years lol, only sometimes liked someone for a few days and moved on)
My first platonic girl crush and first real crush were straight (idk if one of them is actully straight, cause she kissed a girl that is friend of mine). When I finally meet a girl that likes me, my parents find out and forbid me to talk to her.
@@juliavargas13 that's so sad
Casual racism and body shaming are not lgbtq exclusive
The idea that most of the world is against them helps them cope. None of them can live with the fact that they need to mold around their surroundings, and not the other way around
@@Devin_Smile oh good lord a anti-gay
@@fairymia4486 More of an "anti-entitled" :) but think what you want. it's your right.
@@Devin_Smile not accusing it just comes off like that
@@fairymia4486 I understand. But I am not an anti-gay. No one has the right to be entitled to acceptance is my point. The world will never work that way, but I do wish it would because all should be treated fairly. I will try to pick my words more carefully in the future.
I marvel at how neutral this video is. Normally, when I see videos like this offering advice to LGBTQ+ people, it ostracizes and alienates straight people as being gay-haters and transphobic.
It's relieving to see someone admit that some members of the LGBTQ+ community are transphobic or biased. However, not every person is this way.
More lgbt+ videos should be like this.
agreed
I'm not a gay hater I actually had sex with a gay guy
Do you always need the "not every straight" tho?
I have yet to see ostracization of the straights on RUclips ( unless for sarcastic and ironic purposes , such as referring to straight people as " the straights " ) but glad to see you liked this one :3 another really good RUclips channel talking about lgbtq+ relationships and subjects would probably be Ash Hardell if you liked this video's vibe :3
It is sad there is still hatred towards people for any reason. my favorite place was "the gay bar" we had in our town. Its closed now from bad business practices (money managing)... but that place felt like the future honestly because everyone got along and was accepting of one another. Something I believe in 100 years people will be learning of the hatred and such.
NidgeDFX a gay café is an awesome concept tbh, it's for all ages, it's calm, seem good.
Rose 'n' Pink why do gays need a special cafe
NidgeDFX
It closing had nothing to due with predjudice, you said that it was an overall shady buisness.
You really think it’s possible to end hate? Good luck with that lol
I wish that straight people and gay people can just be lumped together. It doesn't have to be called a "gay" bar, it can just be called a bar. It doesn't have to be called "gay" marriage, it can just be called marriage. Equally treated with straight people, a gay person can be with another gay person, and it doesn't have to be such a big deal. Straight couples can go to a gay cafe, no problem. Gay couples can go to a straight cafe, no problem on that either. It's really sad that we still have to hide.
Reasons I don't date :
1. I'm fat
2. I'm short
3. No one's into me
Same
Same
I'm female and nobody dates me because
1. I'm average in beauty
2. I'm flat chested
3. I'm masculine
4. My trust issues
Reasons no one likes me:
1: I'm ugly
2: Im ugly
3: oh, and most importantly, im ugly
I like all of you though! I think you’re all amazing!
I recently came out as pansexual to my mother, and she didn’t know what to say. It got awkward, and then she said I’ve always been a curious person. “So I don’t really think you’re pansexual, I think you may just be curious.” She said she still accepted me, and I can love whoever I want. But it still hurt, this isn’t a phase of curiosity. I see love as falling for someone’s personality, mind, and intelligence not appearance or gender. I’ve had feelings for both genders, but not all women and not all men. Just some who have had amazing personalities. I wish she could understand
M.T.D. You shouldn’t have to give up, maybe just not listen to your mom?
Emily House I had the same issue. Just stick to your guns and continue on your path. If she loves you she’ll accept it. When my mom _finally_ realized that it wasn’t a phase or curiosity I was so relieved and happy. Have faith in her if she really loves you.
Its Muffin Time Thank you for this, I appreciate it😊 I plan to do so, and be myself 100%.
I can relate. I came out to my mom recently as bi and she just thought I was exploring and gave a bunch of dumb arguments as to why.
Mr_ me I’m sorry to hear that:( I hope she can one day acknowledge you and understand you💕
People saying Ace/Aro people aren't LGBT is a problem.
People hating on pan and bi people is a problem.
People loving lesbians, but hating gay men is a problem.
Thank you for remembering the Pan people
Our world is doomed by these problems. Not our side, just the close minded people.
Kim Kardashian Un im gay 😘
+gracie he was talking about Trans Ace Aro Pan Non binary but not gay or lesbians or bi.
TheCatFace Kingdom sis all i said was that im gay
You forgot the problem of coming out to friends because unfortunately straight people often ALWAYS jump to “OMG are you like into me?!” This is what I like to call “gay-sist” because it is considered to be rude, disrespectful, ignorant, hateful, etc.
Or you could just tell them that you're not attracted to them and just move on
-Well, I'm bisexual
-you serious? so have you ever thought of me... you know...in that way?
-hahaha don't worry, dude. I have great taste =)
I mean they ask that because you’re telling them that it’s not that big of a deal god damn
Ruins Charizardsm They meant it's annoying that when coming out, straight people often assume you're into every guy if you're gay, every girl if you're lesbian, everyone if you're bi/pan, and especially into them. I've been through that, and I can tell you, it's pretty annoying when people assume you're into them when you're not - and worse, when your friendship is altered because they still think you secretly want to have sex with them when you explicitely told them otherwise.
Liberty_Belle i would just say "noooo you're more like a brother/sister to me"
Boys: *I CAN MAKE YOU STRAIGHT*
Me: *BRUH*
Bts made me straight everytime I lay my eyes on them lol
Zerø : like NO THE FREAK YOU CANT THIS IS MY SEXUALITY AND ITS VAILD
Not gonna be immature not gonna be immature notgonnabeimmature-69 ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Imagine a gay dude going up to a straight dude and saying that he can turn him gay, they'll be disgusted for sure.
men who say that make me straight, they might not have made a lesbian straight but hey, they got one gay to go straight
Me: hey you are cute and one of the prettiest girls I know
Girl: aww you too! Your such a nice friend
Me: am I a joke to you -_-
ha me
That's an honest mood
People aren't obligated to be attracted to you and you aren't entitled for them to be. You sound like a female incel.
@@RB-dc2mp lol chill it could come from perspectives on how they say it 😂
ouch.
9. Religion problems
Chances are you've felt extrinsic or intrinsic pressure from your church to pray away the gay or lock yourself in the closet. You might have felt pressure to abandon your faith as well, which causes a lot of confusion and fear. Alternatively, religion (mainly Christianity) might be a trauma trigger or something you're staunchly against for other reasons.
Vika Blaire Really though? If Christians yelling at you is your greatest problem, you’re living pretty high.
Just wait till you see Muslims.
@@grayblackhelm9761
This is the point generalised. Just think about it in more detail briefly.
For starters, you could think about how one of the biggest problems would be family. Being raised in a religious family would not be easy when the religion in question condemns these type of people, which is them exemplified by a strong believing religious family who you wouldn't know whether or not they'd reject you.
Another scenario is: What about personal beliefs? Say you've been raised in a particular religion and have come to wholeheartedly agree with it and follow it as you would. Then, all of a sudden, you get these feelings/urges growing up. This ends up causing conflict between the belief in your religion and who you are. Since most people 'find' themselves whilst growing up (around teenage years), it creates even more stress as theres the issue with changing personality, self discovery, hormones, etc. You'd feel like you're left with two decisions: 1) Restrain yourself but as a result live unhappy hiding who you are. 2) Embrace who you are but break the rules of your religion, for which you have so much faith in.
Vika already said some detail about another scenario but yeah, just think about it in more detail. Saying a short point which *seems* not all that bad will make you think it's not a problem, when in reality it runs much deeper and is more difficult.
Joseph Mateo
I was a Pagan raised in a Catholic home. I had an inherent belief in magic and the Fey, so- naturally- I was abused. Neglected. My father thought it more pertinent to “Kill the thing” than to actually raise me.
People don’t change. Not in essence or personality. They evolve, yes- they grow more subtle or predatory- but they will never “change”.
Im a bi muslim.. and let me tell you if there's any chance you come out in a muslim country you might get disowned by your own family and made fun of and bullied by everyone on daily basis... sooo
"Are you into her?"
"You totally have a crush on this guy!"
"Oohh are you more than friends?"
"You two would be cute together"
Me: **inhales in aromantic**
💀✌ so sad I can relate to this
"You'll find the right person"
"I dont think your aromatic"
"Your prob just confused"
"Don't get married before 30"
"Don't have kids before you get a stable job"
"Its a phase"
"I ship you with the person"
"I doubt your asexual your too young to know what it is"
"You don't act like the stereotypical ace"
"Ofcourse you need to get married, thats what normal people do"
"Aromatic ppl aren't attracted to the same sex so it isn't LGTBQ+"
"Aromatic isn't real"
""I'm not gonna have a partner" that's what all of us said before haha."
Lol I remember pretending to have a crush to fit it before I knew what Aromatic was..
@@lalatitania6954 I'm pretty sure Aromatic are the molecules)
I think you meant Aromantic)
Yeah i can relate to that
I'm bisexual but this is still frustrating even for me because I have been asked if I was dating a guy that I was talking to a lot. Everyone would see us walking and talking to each other and when we walked past someone, they would ask if we were dating. It wasn't the first time it happened but with him, it was the most frequent.
@@lalatitania6954 yeah, it's so anoying
the worst thing of being part of the lgbt community is that you mostly fell in love with the person who hates the community lmfao.
or does this just happened to me?
Huh
Having a crush on a homophobe is tragic. I personally haven't experienced that, but I know the feeling
@Kerosin Scott
YES. I'm not even part of the community, nor do I necessarily hate it but we do see it in that way.
@Kerosin Scott
Seriously its kind of sad at this point, I have a really close friend and she hasn't ever been in a relationship, so she started considering herself bi. Like wtf, you've never liked anybody in your life and now you like both genders. Plus I have another friend who decided to be bi because he couldn't find a girlfriend -_-.
believing in these "sjws" and distancing yourself from the community just because of that can be so harmful, honestly- the whole concept itself feels like it's perpetuating this subtle self-hate that restrains you from being you or acting too "special" or "flamboyant" because you're scared of being one of those "attention-whoring sjws". do yourself a favor and stop giving a shit, it did me a lot of good personally, tbh
You are very inclusive and kind keep doing. Sending lots of love and positive vibes
Sorry no, this is just giving people more of an excuse to shame someone that doesn’t date them because they don’t fit into the other persons preferences. Some people will be attracted to you and some won’t, some will want just sex, some want to date. Most of these are not just LGBT issues. Be honest in who you are and what you’re lookin’ for and you will encounter less hang ups.
TrueMenAreIslands 🤔😏
Yeah, totally! I can personally relate to most of the problems listed in the video and I really appreciate the inclusivity of this channel. There's no hesitation or awkwardness to their LGBTQ+ vids and it's really nice. Love the positivity!
@@Raynnie I think you've found a conservative 9 w 9
Lol thats a pretty gay comment
A problem that is really pressing in the LGBTQ community is the biases and fears that come from a heavily religious group.
Am I the only one who would LOVE to date a feminine man more than a masculine one?
Hell no, this "gay men like masc men more than fem men" is fucking news to me. Every other man-liking-man I know loves that feminine style
Honestly I love both😍
I hate dudes that dress up and act like girls... it shows that not beating your Kids is fatal and ruins their lives.
salamisandwich lets play are you being sarcastic or no
That's called Gynosexuality.
I think the most difficult problem is loving someone who's straight.
That's extremely painful.
Yeah, it tends to bother me alot, then would ALOT of questions to someone that love most. :(
I don’t really love anyone straight... but I’ve had massive cruses on them
Or falling for someone that’s gay
ka thy Yes ;-;
Yep...that hurts BAD.
I am 12 years old, I have already come out to my mom as bisexual and she completely supports me and I am so greatful. She wants to get me into an after schoo, LGBT program too! She is going to start taking me to pride parades and she even got me a bisexual flag, how great is that! 😄😄😄
don't go to pride parades please, spare yourself. the pride parades are a joke and not a good representation of our community (i am bi too btw)
Ramen Sense FELLOW BISEXUAL! I’m glad you got to realize your sexuality at such a young age. That’s gotta be an interesting experience.
that's amazing that your mom is so open and supports you! I'm so happy for you!
THAT IS SO CUTE!
Lo Gang
lmao who hurt you?
I think you missed internalized homophobia. Some gay people also don't like the idea of being gay at all and will choose not to even if they find a compatible partner they could love or see themselves loving. This type of gay person will typically shun themselves (not necessarily others but can as well) of anything to do with being gay. They may even get into straight relationships and marry as well basically forcing themselves to live the lifestyle they believe they should have.
Not a dating problem
TheCatFace Kingdom but he's right. That pathetic
@@thecatface8255 It is a dating problem, a big one at that. As an openly gay man, I've dated quite a few men who eventually decide to stay closeted and even lead double lives by marrying straight women and cheating on them with men.
@@mimimarcus Maybe its not homophobia? Honestly things like interlaized homophobia and more internalized shit is the biggest BS to ever exist. Maybe those people are BISEXUAL not homosexuals and they are unfaithful and cheat? Maybe its as simple as that? But internalized homophobia MOSTLY gets used against people who magically stop agreeing with LGBTQ+ Community
I used to be like that always told myself "I think women are cute but I will never marry or date a women" it took me years to realise that dating and marrying girls is okay.
Straight girls flirt with their female friends 😭😭 so many times I thought a girl liked me 😭😭😭😭😭
Luma Eclipse i feel bad cause I’m actually this girl who flirts with my friends and then have to hurt them :(
Luma Eclipse straight guys too, and a lot. Cry
LMAO I FELT THIS
@@CedroEscarlate No, just no, we all know that's women stuff, if you try to do this you "will be gay"
@@AndreDemon0701 well i am not familiar with *your* cultural context
"Is it possible to make a guy fall in love with you if he keeps calling you his bro?"
I.....felt that ☹
When a bi or pan get out of the closet
People: *You mean polygamy?*
Ikr, my bf is Pan and it is only the two of us, Pan/Bi poly people exist, but that doesn't mean every bi/pan person is poly
Life hurts being Lesbian in a small town
It still hurts in a city of 15 million people. There is a lot of people that would defend me in a homophobic situation but they'd get attacked too. :/ Conservative people...
P.S Conservative isn't just about politics, "Americans" ;)
Life hurts being a gay man in a small town and living with conservative, deeply religious, and homophobic parents that would absolutely hate when I find out I’m gay and dating a man. It’s gonna suck but I don’t care, I still love my boyfriend.
When you literally live in a village.....................am I a part of this?!...idk anymore............
👁️💧👄💧👁️
Life hurts bring a gay man in an Islamic community. I have to live a double life just to fucking survive
Bi-phobia is the worst People say stuff like, "oh, you'll get over it" or "pick a side."
Yup, people be acting like this is a choice. Trust me, I'd be thrilled to choose, but you have to accept that I'm powerless to things like this, and it would be nice if you'd stop accusing me of cheating, because I can't choose one side.
Another problem is "pansexuality and bisexuality are the same-"
*NO*
Don't forget that Ace are discriminated against and has struggles yet some people THAT ARE LGBTQ+ think we are not part of the community. or were just forgotten. My entire school didn't know what Ace was until i told them... OH, and people making jokes about 'HUEH HUEH SO YOU CLONE YOURSELF?'
@Marcell The Shell Speedbuilds that's sad, sorry. Have you told your dad yet?
@Marcell The Shell Speedbuilds oh! Well happy birthday in 3 days! Anyway, I was also kinda confused at what I was first, too. That's totally normal for most people, don't worry too much.
@Marcell The Shell Speedbuilds no problem :3
Thanks for including the pan thing. I'm constantly told I'm just bi, or that I don't deserve to be valid.
The new animation style is really nice =D
Glad you like it! Yeah, we do a lot of white board speed drawings! But we're working on it!
Liked to see the old mixed this the new flowing animation
mgmn wait what are you doing here? owo
Living Flower I'm everywhere >:)
mgmn just curious, why you're here? U gay? KappaPride
Here's some other stuff I've seen:
- biphobia, panphobia, demiphobia, aphobia, etc (I don't know if I spelt those right)
- people saying they're attracted to one gender but won't date them if they're a different sexuality (like some lesbians refusing to date bi girls)
- stereotypes, even within the LGBT+ community (like lesbians stereotyping gays)
Merp that's cause, as a trans bi dude, I can confirm those aren't real. Science proofs there's only 2 genders illimentating pan, and demi is just being choosy, and asexual is a hormone imbalance, it is not normal to not feel sexual attraction and those people need to see a doctor, or realize that they don't feel attraction yet because they are 12
axel m
First of all, you can't confirm anything if you have not experienced it. Saying you're a trans bi dude literally confirms nothing. You are not asexual or demisexual and have probably never spoken to anyone that is about it. I'm a demi lesbian so allow me, someone that is demisexual, to explain.
Aexuality, demisexuality, and so on are very real. You can tell because there are asexual and demisexual people. It is completely normal for someone to not feel sexual attraction, because a lot of people are asexual. Not all humans and animals feel the need to have sex. Being attracted to someone, being able to feel sexual pleasure, and wanting to have sex are three very different things. Sexual attraction is a scale. Asexuals just happen to be on the low end of it. You should understand that not everyone has the exact same way of balancing hormones. Maybe you should do more research besides biased aphobic science articles. Maybe talk to an actual asexual adult, there's quite a few of them.
As a demisexual person, I can confirm that I am actually unable to feel attraction to people unless I feel close to them. Seriously. I've only felt attracted to my close friends and no one else.
You're literally proving my point.
ArmpitSchmarmpit
Well, they were just examples. Considering I am a lesbian, I don't have anything against them lol
I mean not wanting to date them because "they won't pick a side" or "they don't want to date someone that's touched a guy" or whatever other stupid reason. And I meant in general people only wanting to date people of the same sexuality...
And stereotyping them like "the gay best friend" or "you know fashion because you're gay", etc
Jack Willow I know, I don't have anything against that, I just mean for stupid reasons besides "I only want to date other gay guys". Like "I don't want to date bi guys because bi people are just bi for attention" or whatever...
Jesus Christ why are people assuming I'm a bitch because of one thing that everyone's interpreting wrong
BlueLemon I wasn't ignoring it. I just used it as an example. I have nothing against people only wanting to date the same sexuality. But, I do if they refuse to date people of different sexualities, which I already said. God, maybe I should just delete my comment. People keep assuming things about me that are obviously wrong.
I'm gay and nobody wants me but this video really opened my mind a lot and educated me so thanks :)
You're welcome!
Princess Pentagram not me I knew dis
Sato el Gato This broke my heart reading it I've dated trans people before I hate the prejudice they face it's disgusting but I wish you all the best with your journey and hope you find someone who loves you for the amazing person you are ❤️
Kyrlics Forgive my ignorance then but I only very recently came out and I'm new to this and the dating scene as a whole
Sato el Gato You are more than welcome I feel your pain been single going on four years now I gave up hope long ago I wish I could have a cat where I live but sadly can't yet but if you ever want someone to talk to about anything my email is in my channel description
My struggle of being a bisexual:
Dating girls = homosexual
Dating boys = heterosexual
Wtf society, do you expect me to date both at the same time.
and the more likely to cheat because we're attracted to everyone and everyone is attracted to us.
There are polyamorous and open relationships. But when you're not searching for in-exclusivity, that can be a problem.
lmao literally
It seems you can only be bi if in a polyamourus relationship with a boy and a girl... then they say that's wrong? People are so weird....
Why are there so many dislikess? There's nothing wrong with making a video for LGBTQ people.
Either because trolling, the way it was presented, ignorance, or thinking that this was cashing in
• Roots • Finally someone said it!
• Roots • Trueeee!!!
How are these not deemed problems? Hook up culture, dating in the closet, racism ? Seems like legit issues
There's no need to insult people for not liking the video. People all have different problems, and if they didn't relate to this video that doesn't mean that they are being idiots.
You forgot how its very difficult for partners or to find anyone who is accepting of Asexuals (not Aromantic). Not many people are Ace and its hard to find someone accepting of it
THIS!
I've yet to find another asexual person where I live.
It's almost impossible.
Allen Sickle omg yes, where i live its hardly possible too
Then have sex like everyone on planet
Corvo's Ignorant Videos That's not how asexuality works.
But anyway, I feel you! Everyone wants sex and I'm just like?? ? I like dragons???
Feline Leijon you are just being a snowflake
Oooooofffff i dated a girl who was closeted for a few months, and as someone who was out as gay, it was rough. Her parents threatened to move if we continued dating, and they grounded her for a month after they found out. For any LGBTQ+ kids trying to date in high school in a more conservative space, my heart goes out to you. I’m still in that space, but all we can do is hope it gets better in the future. Thank you for this video!! It really hit home!
Madison H I understand completely, even though my ex gf and I are no longer together. I’m very sorry about all of that with her parents, I know just how hard it can be
Edit to video- HIV is no longer a death sentence to the rich/upper middle class.
Or anyone who lives in europe or canada. Free healthcare ftw!
Or Australia
Transphobia definitely deserves it's own video, also the list could include biphobia
But overall this was a very informative and considerate video!
+Afonso Martins
Yeah... that is not a real disorder. I mean, Autism IS a real disorder... Gender Disphoria is not.
Under the umbrella of transphobia, genderfluid people are told to pick a gender or that their gender isn’t real.
Afonso Martins -
actually - back when parents used to send children in to have lobotomies if they suspected the child was gay or effeminate - in which a doctor would shove a hot poker violently into the skull of a child through their eye , mess up their brain permanently , and let them loose into a house and world that would still fear them forever -
they DID diagnose people with something called Gender Disphoria . Well done !
Unfortunately , that diagnosis has been referred to as " incredibly harmful " by " qualified psychologists and doctors " in the modern era , as the people diagnosed with it - aren't actually suffering from anything .
When people try to " cure " it , it usually involves teaching a child to hate themselves and become afraid of existing as a person . Often , the victims will spiral into depression among other wonderful things I'm sure you'd love for me to describe in detail .
so as a bit of an expert on the matter - leave us alone u w o
Kerosin -
it is almost by definition transphobic to cut anyone out because you don't understand them , genderfluid people included . That's the whole reason we're alienated in the first place : by being someone who someone else doesn't understand . We're in this together - period .
Genderfluidity is caused by shifts in brain activity which in other individuals are often set in stone . It is just as valid as whatever gender you , I , or anyone else you know is feeling right now .
Also , although I'm not genderfluid , I am nonbinary - and I happen to actually be a big fan of the democratic process .
And because you dragged it out - I now have to mention : how we were born doesn't change what either of us say . :P
0:51 "Aisian men"
a p a t h e t i c Made even better because she changed it from the correct spelling to the wrong one
Iniria Kampf LMAO
a p a t h e t i c my favorite part is where she corrected the Aisian Men part but then she wrote South Asian Men
This shows you how much they care about their chaotic politics
insthead of ACTUALLY informing people and putting care into their work... cmon Aisian??? AISIAN !?
When they fixed it but kept it there lol
Who else here is Bi 🙋
UPDATE:
It's been 4 years , I'm pan ! ๑>◡
Me
I’m bi-curious does that count?
@@avycdefg why not 😉
Btw Hi stay! I made an Instrumental of stray kid's sunshine if you wanna check that out 😉
Melancholy Garden OMG SURE I’LL CHECK IT OUT
As a pansexual transgender man, it’s always so nerve wracking when I’m trying to hook up with someone or date someone. Like if my partner is a gay guy, would they like me for my personality and gender? Or turn me away due to my genitals? I’ve also gotten confused as just a lesbian and people saying I would be good with this one chick who is in fact a lesbian. It’s exhausting at times and I get anxious just thinking about it. I just wanna be lovvveeeddddd!
Aw my dude, don't worry. You will find love. :)
I am gay and i think it isn't about genitals it is about brain and personality.
I'm gay, no ill intent, but I will only date a guy with all the male parts.. because we'll, that's what makes me gay, I am a homosexual, and sorry for being blunt here, but I like dick and a lot of other stuff that is exclusive to biological males. Either way I respect Trans people and they are valid imo
I'm gay, no ill intent, but I will only date a guy with all the male parts.. because we'll, that's what makes me gay, I am a homosexual, and sorry for being blunt here, but I like dick and a lot of other stuff that is exclusive to biological males. Either way I respect Trans people and they are valid imo
Maaan....i wish my parents accepted me.
haha same, whenever they found out that I was bi (I hadn't come out to them yet) they flipped out and bought me a bible.
they didn't disown me though, which shows that there's a bit of hope. :,D
Why would you want them to accept you? You have to accept you. That way, if they don't accept you, you don't have to force them to. Idk if this comes off the wrong way, but sometimes, you just gotta be the one to have your own back. Who cares if your parents don't accept you? You can't force them to, just accept what they contributed in shaping the person you became and just live on.
Dylan Wolfie thanks..that gave me a little hope
Angad Seeagra No prob dude. My situation is pretty easy to get off from tbh. I'm not the kind of guy that is too touchy or even attached to his family that much. Call it apathy, but I just don't mention it to my mom because she doesn't really need to know. And you parents probably don't need to know either, ya know?
Dylan Wolfie but i live in India,so u know.....
someone having a crush on you when your aromantic and not wanting to hurt them
This is too true-
isnt this for anyone who isnt aromantic too? im gay and a gay boy had a crush on me and i didnt want to hurt him either bc i wasnt attracted to him
And asexual.
Asexuals need to be more accepted.
Pan-romantic Asexual
♠️
When I was 12 I was very deep into the closet as a trans woman. I ended up sexting a likely pedophile who was just fetishizing me and had no care for my feelings.
When I was 13 I had a crush on a boy but I was still closeted. I confessed my affection for him. He wasn’t gay so in order to make it better I said I was going to be woman. Yeah that went as well as you’d think
Okay 1st one
Stay away from that guy
And 2nd one
That was a dumb play my dude
Panny (pansexual person,it's just a nickname...;-;) here! I'm a whole-hearted LGBTQP+ supporter, however...my sis always questions why I support LGBT+ people so much. I feel bad when people say "You're going to hell for being gay!!!" or "God hates gay!" or all the other ways people shame LGBT+, all the kids at my school used being gay as an insult or something to shame or pick on people for, it gets me really mad!
Donuts and Doodles i'm out!
Same people use gay as an insult and i want to crush their eyes
going to hell for being gay is, how i see it, just a made up thing by some homophobe/transphobe/whateverphobe
in reality, Galatians 3:28 is saying how everyone is equal to jesus no matter who you are
In my school they literally banned the word gay (when used as an insult).
There is no P+
Idk if anyone else has a problem similar to this, but there is a girl I've known for nine years. She's my best friend, and I've had a huge crush on her for a while now. Over the summer, we figured out we were mutually crushing on each other, and we became a thing. It was confusing, and we didn't quite know what this thing was - we're both extremely shy, and both of us are far too nervous to kickstart the "are we dating? are we girlfriends?" conversation.
That was in July. It is September now. We still haven't talked it over. (though I *have* formulated a plan to officially ask her out.) The only other people who know about us are two of our best friends. I'm scared to tell my family, like my sisters and my parents, because I don't know how they'll react. They already know I'm queer, but as I said, this girl has been my best friend for nine years now. I know my mom looks at her like her own daughter, and assumes I see her in a similar light - like she's my sister. I don't, I look at her like the incredible beacon in my life that she is. It's just such a big change. I don't want them to look at her differently.
Basically, what I'm saying is: it can be hard to tell your family you're dating someone of the same gender, even if you're technically "out". In my own experience, it's especially hard if your family has previously known them for a long time. I would be totally A-OK with telling them I was dating a girl if she was someone they hadn't watched grow up right beside me. It's kind of like dating while in the closet, except it's your relationship that's in the closet, not you. And it can be stressful. I don't know what anyone could do with this comment. I'm sure even if others have similar problems, it isn't all too common. But I wanted to say it anyway. Make of my story what you will.
It comes to how much faith you have in your family. Since I don't know them I can't really say, but I will assume they are nice.
If they are, then I don't think it would be much of a problem. The only thing that could happen is it being awkward while they figure out how to act.After that I could come back to normal or something better may even happen.
I haven't yet been in a relationship and can't understand what you are feeling right now or ever be able to, but I would just try and see. From my experience from other situations, things could go worse for a bit and then come back better than ever before.
This may take time, however, but it always sometime does and you would be able to go trough it.
Space Dragon , what's the big deal if your family already knows him and likes her anyway
Jesorei , hint to them and ask how they feel if you dated somebody that they already knew
How did it go? Did you end up dating? Are you still together?
Being labeled with the wrong sexuality
Yes! People just presume your sexuality based on seemingly nothing. I've even had a fellow LGBT member presuming I was straight(they literally said 'I presume you're straight')
I get why hetronormativity(?) is a thing, but it's kinda frustrating.
Mint Mochi I’m pansexual since I haven’t dated a boy in a while. My friend thought I was polysexual. So I had to explain
Haha, I get that 99.9% of the time. People always assume I'm lesbian. I'm not even in the LGBTQ+ community unless I ever figure out if I'm heterosexual or asexual.
Speaking Jacksonese OOF
@@ashtonhopkins7362 Oof indeed. xD
When you can love more than one gender, there are a lot of other problems, too. For example, you don't have to be out of the closet to date some openly, so you get hesitant to date someone who doesn't have the opposite gender.
Or when people assume you never loved them, just because you started dating someone with a different gender from them.
Or when people who don't fell attracted to your gender get kind of cautious around you because they don't know wether you'd fall for them (which isn't a problem exclusively for us, I guess).
Or - which I think is the worst, actually - when you get homophobia from others of the LGBTQ+ community because they don't think your sexuality is valid/think that your sexuality is responsible for some stereotypes /is transphobic/have other misconceptions about it.
Oh, and let's not forget those of us who have mental illnesses and get accused of giving other people form the LGBTQ+ community a 'bad image' because of it.
I'm so happy that most of these don't actually happen to me personally/only over the internet instead of said to my face. I'm not sure I could handle the latter…
Very interesting topic! Seems to much more complicate than heterosexual dating. Great video! Keep it up!
Thanks! Indeed. It's much more complicated and that's why more people need to know and come together.
Psych2Go You're right. Excellent work you're doing by informing and making aware.
Infomaníaco 420 likes
Hetersexual dating is much harder trust me
SimQueen okay.
Tell Thomas that he’s a bitch
That was very interesting. Honestly, I'm not very well informed on this topic but it's very important to have some insights on how LGBTQ feel, without putting some social-rights struggle with it.
Quick Fix I think this video is not a good option to learning about the LGBT community. On top of that it's better if you actually speak to the actual people providing if you are able to tolerate their nonsense these days. And this is coming from someone who is gay
Natalyn Daugherty
If LGBT stands for Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender, wouldn’t the Q for Queer be redundant?
kaiyodei
What else are they if they aren’t gay, bisexual, or trans?
pride-flags.deviantart.com/ they blocked me when asked if they were a satire. you can also consult tumbr. but beware of satire accounts making fun of people for who are serious about their head scratcher of an orientation and identidy
.and then you get Objectum Sexuals. who i guess are part of the GRSM. because lgbt don't want those people around. or should they?
kaiyodei
This isn’t satire? This shit makes no sense
Me: cough* cough* asexual and aromantic people cough*
*cough* made up shit *cough*
@@MrSergayfgtxd That's not made up. Aromantic means you don't experience any romantic attraction to people and asexuality means you don't experience any sexual attraction to anyone. Aromantic and asexual people don't experience any attraction (By that i mean they don't experience any romantic and sexual attraction) to people.
OMG FINALLY!....but I am a asexual cupioromantic. close enough 😂
biromantic asexual here!! fully understand u!!
Cool but you guys arent LGBT
I live in nyc. I’m pansexual. I have a crush on my friend who might also be pan. Omg I’m so fricking excited for my life AhHhHhH
so happy for you!!!!!
Did you tell them?
I’m not dating but my future girlfriend will be bi because we just decided to wait a little bit before we date
Updates?
@Vebunkd pan means someone who is attracted to everyone reguardless of gender
I'm not LBGQT, but I respect the community. I don't know much on this, but I watch this video so I can have some knowledge, on what these individuals go through. And with this insight, I can approach any future situation appropriately. It's good to understand other cultures and communities despite your personal preference.
I think so, too.
Thank you for being open minded,we need more people like you.
you're a good person
I watched this video for the same reason, is good to see more people open to others culture and choices ( sometimes not ).
@@nothinx4765 Thank you. I am also a bisexual.
Yeah, being a bisexual trans guy, I can relate to a lot of these. Unfortunately, I'm not out as trans yet, so my girlfriend keeps calling me her girlfriend. I hate it so much, but I'm really not in a position where I can come out right now.
Check out Jammidodger's channel. He's a trans guy who's bi! You'll ADORE him I SWEAR! You'll LOVE his channel!
I'm bi and pans and I think that's beautiful 😍
Same but i don't have a GF/BF
Aww… I do hope you'll get this sorted out. I wish you best of luck and hope that you'll be in a position to make it comfortable for both of you soon.
Same, i am also a trans guy. Unfortunatly i am pretty feminine so i think people will judge me bcz of that :’
I'm strait but I would gladly date a post op trans male or a non binary individual. (What I mean is, it's true I'm only attracted to males, but if a guy I was dating revealed to me that he was once a female or doesn't identify as ether genders I'd be okay with it.)
why post op? Which op, chest or genitalia? You can have very male traits with just testosterone injections. Maybe you are especially into dicks and that's ok but if you are just attracted to men there are plenty of ways to have fun without dicks whatever your orientation. imagine in real life, do you ask people how they are in their pants? maybe you can be cis and have problems with the size of your penis and it put pressure on trans people to be cis-like. If you find someone attractive and the person is uncomfortable about saying he is trans with or without op.?
if you like men or women or some types of sexuality and not other it's just like that. Doesn't mean that you can't be flexible, do exceptions, etc. but as a whole for many people it's just an illusion "not to see gender". If you are lesbian you will not look all the dudes profils on tinder.
I only like women. Real biological women. I'd be pissed if some dude who got surgery thought he could trick me into being with him because he calls himself a girl. I'm not gay. If you're not a biological women then stay away.
The Darkness transwomen are women. Don't call transwomen "dudes" or men.
Rose 'n' Pink They were born biological males so im going to call them male. You dont like it big deal. I'm not here to cater to mental delusions. I have more important things to do then to waste my time attempting to decipher what billions of genders you think you are.
Me, Asexual: HELLO??? PLEASE
Oop
Me, pansexual: Hello, Hello? I'm not where I'm supposed to be.
Same!!!! :D
@hayhay055 Ah the character I am, my user and pfp, happens to be aromantic and asexual too. The anime is called "The Disastrous Life of Saiki K"
Here for you, pal.
DID ANYONE NOTICE THAT THE TOP LEFT HAND HAS NO FINGERNAIL!!!? 4:20
Holy shit..... I can't think of something completely stupid to say about that. Help.
Stop pointing out people, they might eat your fingernails
@@fefelio8389 oh nooo
SparkyStarLPS You mean 4:22
It doesn’t matter
Lesbian Datig Culture is knowing you both like each other and doing nothing about it.
TIMOTHY YOUNG
You know that stereotype of ‘guys ask first’, I’m pretty sure it’s something like that
Andrea The Loser this is litterlay me and my crush and what's even funnier is that we just hug each other like where friends but in the middle of the hug we just look at each other like I like u alot!!!!!!
BlueLemon THANK YOU lesbians always get portrayed terribly in the media as abusive or predatory, finally some facts
Here's some statistical data from the CDC and UCLA Law along with LGBT groups promoting awareness of LBGT DV issues. This is not old outdated homophobic whatever the hell you're selling. This is from 2014. Why don't you care about this issue. Nobody should be committing DV acts against their partner regardless of their orientation.
mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/lesbianrx/factsheet.shtml
www.advocate.com/crime/2014/09/04/2-studies-prove-domestic-violence-lgbt-issue
www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2013/p0125_NISVS.html
williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/Intimate-Partner-Violence-and-Sexual-Abuse-among-LGBT-People.pdf
The CDC’s 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, released again in 2013 with new analysis, reports in its first-ever study focusing on victimization by sexual orientation that the lifetime prevalence of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner was 43.8 percent for lesbians, 61.1 percent for bisexual women, and 35 percent for heterosexual women, while it was 26 percent for gay men, 37.3 percent for bisexual men, and 29 percent for heterosexual men (this study did not include gender identity or expression).
Intimate Partner Violence and Sexual Abuse among LGBT People
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Table I. Prevalence of Lifetime Intimate Partner Violence and Intimate Partner Sexual
Lifetime intimate partner violence table on page 3 of the PDF states that lesbians experience 40% lifetime intimate partner violence
It's right there on the 3rd page of that report. I'd be more polite but, with all due respect, pull your head out of your ass. It's annoying to me that people that are supposedly pro LBGTIA ignore any problematic data that doesnt fit their perspective. Meanwhile real people suffer at their peril. Stuff like this makes me believe you are willfully ignorant rather than just plain uninformed.
Andrea The Loser I'm a USELESS LESBIAN and I love it.
One problem I find difficult is being asexual, as being with a person who is sexually active may not want you when they find you aren’t
Abby Cosgrove I am only wondering, ofcoure this might be frlm person to person, if as an asexual person you would kiss or not. Sorry if I am being personal :(
While I agree that it does vary person to person on how far they want to take the sensual/physical part of the relationship, being sex-positive, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed is something that can be an occurrence in any sexuality (albeit its more prominently found within the Asexual Community since it is more accepted there than in the Allosexual Communities for numerous reasons). My biological mother is heterosexual and is massively sex-repulsed while I myself am asexual and sex-neutral.
Oh, and one more problem:
Girls: *dating*
Society: Ohhhh, that's cute!^^
Guys: *dating (or at least trying to)*
Society: Oh shit, aRe ThEy GaY?¿
Kinda unfair, don't you think-
Correct af
Guys tend to be more fetishized than shamed tho
for the girls thing, society only thinks it's cute because most of them think that the girls are roommates or really really good friends lol. Also if I dated a girl most of the people in the state I live in would not thing it's cute at all... (I'm a girl btw) so not true for all girl couples. (Also lots of people I live around would actually thing that a guy and another guy dating is cuter that two girls dating). So I guess the point of this reply is to just say, I wish I lived around the people your around in society, (of course only if they realized that a guy couple is just as cute as a girl couple)
Or society be like:
* *two guys dating* *
society: ewww,wtf go kys
* *two girl dating* *
society: owo,so hot,3some
lesbians often get fetishized and gay men get hated on:'(
I fucking hate straight dudes that fetishize lesbian relationships, but then they proceed to be grossed out by gay relationships. It's stupid. Makes me angry
Don't some of these also count for heterosexual couples?
Of course. It's a sexuality after all. They suffer some similar problems.
Yeah a lot of these are also problems in heterosexual couples but some are exclusive to the LBGTQ+ community, and some are just more prevalent in that community.
Well yeah but heterosexuals are supposedly the majority so this video is putting the lgbt+ community at the centre which rarely happens (it is getting better but still rare)
yes but they aren't as bad as in lgbt couples
Yes, of course. Many of the problems can be universally true for all relationships. But we wanted this to be the context of LGBTQ
Aphobia is a pretty nasty hurdle as well. It's not easy to be in a relationship with someone when you always have that nagging feeling that they're going to eventually ask you to do something you're uncomfortable with, especially if you haven't been with the person for very long and/or you know they could physically overpower you. Many people still don't believe asexuality, aromantacism, and agenderism even exist, which can lead to harassment, abuse, and much worse for the aspec person involved. If you're dating an aspec person, the best thing you can do for them is to ask them where their lines are drawn. Some aces may not feel aroused, but will still engage in sex to make their partner happy, others not so much. Every person is different, so it's important to establish boundaries so you and your partner can have the happiest relationship possible.
I will say that asexuals don’t specifically apply to lg relationships. Asexuals could be in a relationship with straight people. But I will also say that any moment where the threat of physical sexual assault plays an active role in your decisions is an unhealthy state for a relationship.
I was looking for a comment like this. I was glad until I found acephobic comments. 😒😒😒 There's a lot of discrimination coming from within the lgbtiqa+ community.
Daniela Tovar they certainly can. I still believe this video applies to them, because a majority of these problems aren’t exclusive to the lgbt community.
Oh my god. Please. I beg of you.
Repeat after me:
ACE-PHO-BI-A.
Or arophobia, or anything of that sort.
I’m sorry, it’s just aphobia literally translates to “without fear or hatred.”
I mean, the word homophobe doesn’t make sense either but whatever I guess.
One of the things that I'd throw out there is biphobia, too. I'm saying this particularly as a bi/pansexual woman who has often found it hard to date cisgender lesbian women, since we get a lot of the "not quite queer enough" rhetoric. (Note: Not saying cisgender lesbian women are bad, since I usually get hit with that when talking about my own personal experiences; I'm just saying that, within the community, there is quite a lot of stigma thrown at bi/pansexual women that originates there. I also see a lot of the same toward bi/pansexual men by cisgender gay men. All of this is without even taking into consideration how we're affected by a lot of cisgender straight people, too.)
Yep im a gay man and i dont want to date even the hottest bi guy out there. Why? Bisexuals tend to be not sure about what they want, gay guys are already difficult to deal since they cant keep themselves out of company of other guys, imagine a bi guy? Having both man and woman as "choice" one time or another one will not be enough.
@@FWU100 that sounds like bullshit to me :/
I'm Bisexual, I've been asked out by someone of the same gender, and told someone of the opposite gender that I liked them, they like me back. I believe all is in my favour.
happy for you :)
Bro tf, just because you're bisexual doesn't mean you can date 2 ppl wtf
Am I the ONLY one who thinks that refusing to date someone ties down to preference. Sorry but if someone doesn't want to date you for whatever reason, it doesn't necessarily make them phobic.
I don't think it applies to whether you'd date a specific individual, but the fact that you think that absolutely *no one* in that entire group could possibly be attractive enough to you for a relationship to work. I mean, if you think the most conventionally attractive, nice person who's, let's say, black is still not as attractive as an ugly person of your preferred skin color, that's a bit worrying. I guess it all boils down to what is causing a person to have that preference.
Vite Seul that's reasonable. But I don't date black people, it's not like I will NEVER date one. It's just that i'm not that attracted to them. Black people have different features than white people, even hair and bodies. Just because I don't find them attractive does not mean I am racist.
Vite Seul Also there can be things that cause preference other than racism and transphobia. Each have their own reasons, and not all of them are bad things. This whole debate is biased as hell, no one would complain if a black person refused to date a white person and it happens more than the opposite. No one would complain if a trans person refused to date a cis person.
Yasmine H Aesthetic preferences are fine! They're normal, and not really racist.
Fetishization isn't just liking or not liking a race, though. It's saying that dating a race is better because members of that race are better at sex, have larger genitals, are submissive, are fiesty...
Racial fetishization is like thinking that Asian women are more submissive than other races. (This is an actual real life example that some people believe in) This has led to several rape cases where the perpetrator said they chose Asian women specifically because he thought they were submissive and would take it, and not report it.
Basically, preferences in dating based on how a race looks is fine. Preferences based on sexual stereotyping is not. (That's what fetishization is)
Yasmine H That's fine. The way i see It, it's fine if you don't find people with ginger hair attractive for example, or brown eyes. So why would it matter the colour of their slin
I have never clicked quicker
you mean you've never clicked queerer (supposed to be funny)
‘Some people prefer to keep their sexuality secret’
Then there’s me
Whenever I meet a new person I’m like
‘hONEY IM LESBIAN AS *F U C K* ‘
Edit: oh look at those likessss
plus this is a joke btw cus some people are taking it a bit seriously there heh
Nirim Does Stuff literally same except around my family
Nirim Does Stuff DiSgUsTaNg
Nirim Does Stuff
The first thing everyone knows about you is your sexual orientation?
Carlos S. *y e s*
omg yes 😂❤️
When you’re trans and people only like you for you’re body, or only like you because you’re trans
Ikr QwQ
If you are a trans woman, yes they fetishize you. I am gay and even I don't understand males sometimes.
@@greategg7159 trans men face fetishization too
@@OatmealTheCrazy yep. i've had a few people say i'm "cute" or even "girly" when i told them i'm trans. it sucks.
Hey no hate, but as a gay guy I only will date biological born males. But I think it's important to respect everyone's gender identity, because just like being gay, it's not a choice. Being trans is valid, no hate btw.
I know a lot of these all too well.....
I feel so recognized 🌈
#8 is why I'm still single. Trans and dating is scary
Took 5 years to find my dream girl in my small town, and surprisingly I’ve known her my whole life 😊 honestly when we first met I was terrified of her, and she hated me, thinking I was weird.
No more tho! We’re very close to a year together!
Aww that's so cute. Hopefully that would happen to me too.😂😂😂
Woaaahhhhhh! The animating is AWESOME, more so than normal if possible :D
• Roots • oh...
9.
asexual dating
trying to find a partner who is romantic and is not interested in intercourse.
or finding an ace or aro partner who just dislikes intercourse but not dating or relationships.
GIVE ACES LOVE TOO!
Hey! How are you doing? I’m just here trying to find an ace that I can have a civilized talk with.
Right out I’m going to say that I don’t think it’s wrong, I don’t think it’s bad, and you are definitely welcome in the LGBT+ community!
But I do have to say, for most people in this world, intercourse is a very important factor in relationships, it has been proven but I’m not too certain on the reliability of that so don’t quote me on that. But yeah it’s just a very important and big aspect of relationship which can bring a greater bond and people just can’t have a stable relationship with an ace even if they tried, it’s just a preference, not hate.
Now, I want to hear your side and opinion on the matter, why do you feel like you are being oppressed by being an ace in the dating scene? Thank you for taking your time to read this if you do. I would love to hear your response, I’m very interested in this!
Foki Hey There!
So, just found this vid and, by proxy, this comment and, while I may not be the original commenter, as a total ace case I figured I might share my own side of things. I'm always happy to see when people open themselves to learning a bit more about it and, while I can't speak for everyone, I'm hoping I can help clear some things up.
So, first thing's first, there is a bit of a common misconception about aces, but one that is perfectly understandable. Asexuals may not feel sexual attraction, but not all of them are unwilling to participate. It is also not directly tied to sex drive. Many aces do have sex drives, some of whom will turn to sex simply to satisfy that drive, while others are perfectly fine with self-pleasure. I have a friend who doesn't mind it, seeing it more like exercise than anything. It makes her girlfriend feel special and so she enjoys that bit of emotional connection afterwards. While I'm not a follower, a RUclipsr named Ash Hardell made a video called 'How (some) Asexuals ... Have Sex'. If you're curious, it's the most comprehensive and thorough video I've seen on the topic thus far.
On the opposite side, I'm a sex-repulsed ace. I don't mind viewing sex, but for whatever reason when I think of someone touching me below the waist, it makes my skin crawl on a visceral level. To clarify, I have never been abused before, I've never had a bad experience, and I genuinely don't know what has caused this strong reaction. I do accept the idea that one day I might find someone I'm comfortable enough with to push that boundary, but as it is, I'd simply prefer not to.
That said, I am panromantic. This simply means that I'm romantically interested in all genders. I've just never wanted to have sex with any of them. I find happiness through strong emotional connections. Just like you can have sex without love, you can have love without sex (lol I'm sure there are some longstanding marriages that might be able to begrudgingly attest). It's the little things. Cuddling, holding hands, making dinner, or watching movies on the couch, covered in popcorn dust like complete slobs, and not caring because you're comfortable and just happy that you have each other's company. From my perspective, I've never understood why sex is such a big deal. Just seemed like an urge people had that they need to appease, like eating when you're hungry.
No matter whether you have sex or don't, though, there are always complications. I would never say that I feel 'oppressed' when it comes to the dating scene. Nobody has ever actively shamed me for my sexuality or told me that I shouldn't be dating (Although hearing the "So you reproduce through mitosis?" joke for the 50,000th time gets VERY old). But, finding a partner can be incredibly tough. I've sometimes joked with friends that my dating life would be legitimately easier if I was gay. People know what gay is, even for those that believe it's a sin. A gay person could potentially date other gay people, bisexuals, pansexuals, and, potentially, interested asexuals. I'm not saying being gay is easy, by any means. Allow me to explain :
Even though I'm Panromantic, I often describe my life on the dating scene as a hostage negotiation with your heart. I often feel like I've got about three options :
1) Hold out until you find another ace person that you like enough that you would want to pursue a romantic relationship with. I live in a very rural area. I've only ever met two other aces in person and didn't even know what the term was until college. Up until that point, I thought I must be broken or super picky or something. So, long story short, the whirlwind ace romance in my neck of the woods is like trying to find a shiny pokemon. It's possible, but I have too much to do in my life to be that dedicated to finding one. Kudos to the people who have that kind of patience.
2) Stay single. Sometimes I'm okay with this option. I remind myself that my life is enriched by my family and friends. But, sometimes, it really does hurt when I meet someone I think is cute and then I have to just let that connection go or never let it develop into anything because I don't want to risk the rejection or sound like a total freak when I inevitably have to explain my situation.
3) Open yourself up to dating a non-ace person. This leads into the following scenarios :
a) My partner remains abstinent. While this is ideal for me, and there are couples out there that make it work, it can also lead to feelings of guilt or insecurity. Guilt on behalf of myself for knowing I'm denying them something they may want and insecurity on behalf of some partners who date asexuals, but can't help the fact that they feel sad that their partner does not find them sexually desirable. Of course, in a healthy relationship, you would hopefully be able to talk to each other so you can work through those issues together.
b) I indulge my partner in sex. This is very difficult for me. Like I said, some aces do it, but for this ace I honestly do not know what it would take for me to even attempt something that involves direct touching of my lower region. So, for me, this is off the table. Especially since I never want to lead someone on with the idea that maybe, just maybe, if they hold out long enough I'll cave. That just doesn't seem healthy for anyone involved.
c) Allow my partner to get sexual gratification elsewhere. By this, I don't mean porn. I mean allowing them to have sex with other people. I have met a non-ace couple that made this work, but I am not naive about myself. I have my own insecurities and trust issues. I'm the type of person who lets people walk all over me, and anytime this option comes to mind I just see myself in tears as I wait for the day my partner finds someone who fulfills all their needs, cheats (in this situation 'cheating' would be seeing this person beyond just a single hookup and pursuing them intimately and romantically), and leaves me for that person. This has nothing to do with my partner, I recognize that. But, as someone who doesn't have any frame of reference for why sex is so important to people or why anyone would cheat to satisfy those impulses, it stirs up a lot of fear and confusion.
Oh my word, and don't even get me started on the anxiety of when I'm interested in someone and it's like "How on earth do I tell them I'm ace without it sounding like I'm a total freak or I'm just rejecting them? When has it ever been a good move to go up to someone and be like 'Hey, I'm gay and I hope you're cool with that because I'd love to date you'. Do I wait until I see if they're interested in a date and then tell them? At what point? But what if they think I've lead them on?" and it just spirals until I'm like "You know what? They deserve better. They'll find someone much better than me to be happy with anyway." So yeah, even getting that initial date can be an absolute nightmare, especially if you're in a rural area like me and there is pretty much nothing in terms of LGBT+ meetups.
So yeah, that's my lengthy, probably pretty pathetic sounding, but honest explanation. Sorry. There was just a lot to unpack. I'm not saying dating is hopeless when you're ace, but it can be a lot more complicated than some might initially think. Granted, this is all based off of my own personal experiences. Honestly, though there's a lot to be said about the toxic side of reddit, I'd honestly suggest taking a glance at the /r/Asexuality subreddit if you ever get curious about some questions aces and partners of aces tend to have. They can be very enlightening sometimes.
okay but asexuals aren't inherently lgbt, if you're a cishet asexual you're not lgbt, if you're trans or experience same sex attraction and asexual then you can call yourself lgbt
ZitaInk Oh thank you so much for responding! It’s okay you’re not the same person, I just needed someone to give me a perspective. Thank you for teaching me about all of this and taking time off your day! Also, don’t respond to the other person, I mean everyone has their opinion right? It’s okay to and I respect it, but it has nothing to do with the topic at hand so how about we just move on?
Well thank you for all of this information and for having a good talk with me, they are rare to have in the internet. I now understand much more than I did before!
Though I do have to say, just as you don’t get the appeal of sex (which is totally fine!), I can’t really see myself in a relationship without it.
You could say I’m very into the BDSM side of things. But for me, the owner/pet thing is much more than just a kink, it’s a way of living for me, I live to serve. I guess it’s a way of being this girl that has someone that protects her, which I never really had.
But people are always like, “that’s disgusting, why would you let someone control you like that?” or “they’re going to end up abusing and cheating on you” which has never been the case.
I’ve gotten abused more times in a relationship that’s not based around this because dominants actually know what the word no means and they take it seriously.
But well I’m in a loving relationship with my mistress right now! I love the romantic and cute side which makes me feel safe and protected but I also enjoy the naughty side!
But even with our differences we can still get along and that’s the beauty of it! I may not get you, you may not get me. But it’s because we don’t know the other person's experience. But even then we can do our research and learn more which is what I love about technology!
Hehe sorry if this was too long too, it just such an interesting topic that I want to know more about and have a conversation with someone! Thank you for reading and taking your time, I await your response!... if you want obviously hehe.
I mean, you're technically correct, if you limit it to just LGBT. Though, as sexuality continues to become more understood and explored, people tend to use LGBT+ as the general term for someone who doesn't quite fit the norm in terms of sexuality or gender. / shrug /
Just a heads up, we're the A of LGBTQA, not 'allies' as it is sometimes mistaken. And, in all fairness, LGBT just genuinely rolls off the tongue better and is much less of a mouthful. On the street, it definitely makes it sound less pretentious than using the full acronym, since most people generally get the gist. And it really sounds a LOT better than saying we're part of the 'Non-straights', which just sounds hostile to the ear lol.
Edit : Also forgot to mention, I'm queer, if that means anything lol. At least I think that's the right term? Basically I really don't mind being referred to as either gender and I'm pretty androgynous to begin with. Just sort of a clarification that I'm not entirely cis.
Number 8 hit home. I'm glad this video was made. I was a little hesitant since LGBTQ videos can vary on their quality of education, but this hit it out of the park! Incredible!
At 0:48, it says “Asian Men,” the correct spelling.
At 0:49, it becomes “Aisian Men.”
Aeiasieyuyion men
Could you please do a video about asexuality. To spread some awareness!
Olivia Smith asexuality is like a hormonal imbalance and not a sexuality. You are not part of the community unless you are gay, lesbian, bi, or trans
Olivia Smith
And also the ace-spectrum like demisexuality (experiencing sexual attraction to someone whom you have a strong emotional connection with; you don't wanna fuck with strangers), etc.!
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Alex N.
"demisexuality" isn't a real thing. Quit making up words.
Olivia Smith I’m sorry these people are being uneducated assholes, I totally agree with your comment! Asexuality should definitely be a video, I think!!
I dont see why demi should be included. it's not lgbt unless you have something else, like gay, trans, bi, etc etc etc
Yes more lgbtq+!
Sure thing Chloe! :)
Psych2Go a video on asexuality, and the ace spectrum would be cool too! A nice place to start since there is so much stigma, and/or more trans/non binary videos. Just noticing a lot of misinformed people in the comments, and a lot of hate mongering :(
Sorry no, this is just giving people more of an excuse to shame someone that doesn’t date them because they don’t fit into the other persons preferences. Some people will be attracted to you and some won’t, some will want just sex, some want to date. Most of these are not just LGBT issues. Be honest in who you are and what you’re lookin’ for and you will encounter less hang ups.
Well said
This is literally what I wanted to say thank you
I’m transgender And my bae is str8 ..6 years in a relationship and yes we’re dating while in the closet.. I’m mean it’s hard for me but we make it work.. what important is that we both know that we love each other and our families knew... though his friends doesn’t and some of our neighbors don’t know...it’s really a challenge
HEY!! how is nobody pointing out that alot of these aren't LGBT excessive? ;((
A lot of people are. Look at some of the latest comments.
A lot of these issues aren’t lgbt exclusive sskskksk
hi komaeda
UGH I want a girlfriend😞I probably won't be in another relationship until next school year. 😔I'm so lonely and still in the closet.
you can do it , don't worry :3 you'll find people who love and accept you for who you are no matter where you go :3
Im hiding in the closet but i have a gf (idk about strangers the only thing are my school and family.. )ITS SO HARD TO LIVE A DOUBLE LIFE!
Samee
So don't.
Smh...
It’s been 8 months. I hope you came out and live a happy life with your girl
@@atomicactivity2379 Its not that easy.
*I’m transgendered (Ftm) aNd a lot of the girls I try to get with tell me “Oh I’m not a lesbian sorry” even if they know I’m a boy*