My older brother died last year and while I was busy clearing out his apartment, paying funeral expenses and dealing with his estate, all my ex girlfriend could say was "get over it."
A year after my mom passed, I finished the estate and came home. I sat on my kitchen floor sobbing b/c I could finally let go and grieve now that the estate was finished. My ex wife got up and said "You shouldn't be crying this hard, it's been a year" and walked out of the room. Never again will I marry.
Abdul in Afghanistan does not give a shit about feminism and destroys it totally. Maybe the western men must learn some family law's from the Afghans. Because the Afgans are RIGHT about woman.
As much as I hate to be the bearer of bad news, you're wrong. The woman I had my last date with was 37/going on 38. Despite having sky high interest levels initially, she started giving me attitude a mere 4 days after our first date. Even at 37/going on 38, she knew she had enough abundance she could afford to treat me poorly.
Becauss they are always allowed to get away with doing bad things, its never their fault, family court is always on their side, companies always promote them and talk about how hard women have it. Society is a scam
I've had girlfriends cry and pour their hearts out to me, usually when I tell them i'm breaking up with them, saying stuff like "what am i gonna do without you?". But when I tell them something that's close to my heart they dont gaf and pretend to listen. Ive figured they only show "empathy" when it serves them. But for them to show genuine empathy because they truly care is rare.
At almost 50 years old, being married, and in lots of long-term relationships, the effed up thing that I’ve noticed is that as soon as you cry in front of them, they never look at you the same and they want another man. My last one was cool enough to explain this and said she can’t even help it.
This is actually a very real and true point that men should take notice of. Any tears are instantly perceived as total weakness and seem to produce an instant and permanent horror recoil and rejection. The only definite exceptions are uncontrolled sobbing after a lotto win or when the shovel finds the motherlode gold seam in the quartz and she is standing behind you.
I can testify that this is true. As soon as they smell weakness, even if it's for some totally legitimate reason, they will lose respect for you. Never cry in front of your woman. Ever.
Instead of "she is never yours, it's only your turn." Just reverse it to: "I'm never hers. It's only her turn." The first mindset makes her into a village bicycle. The latter makes you the prize. Take care and Happy New 2025 :D
My observation is that women are very nice empathetic and sympathetic, the only catch is its towards their family, mom dad etc and the kids whom they gave birth to, thats all.
Lol I’m the opposite; I’ll confront my family and defend the person who is actually helping me in life and has a kind heart! I could care less about wether someone is “family”! I did not ask for it! No hate towards them or anything, but I did not sign up for it! I don’t pick favorites for no reason like my sister for example! My cousin treats her so poorly and she will scream at me saying “she is family” we don’t say bad things about her! How stupid absolutely stupid
@@SlakOffs does this sound like a happy life for anyone? This doesn't sound like what a helpmate is supposed to do. We're supposed to make eachother's lives easier and assist an easier growth for each other. If her influence is merely seen as the cherry on top rather than an equal contribution in some way then she is not pulling her weight (if you're talking about a serious relationship). At the end of the day she gets half.
@@SlakOffsnah bro having that woman that admires and takes care of you will only make you stronger and happier and more fulfilled as a person. It’s a huge strength
My sister for my entire live has made it entirely near impossible to live with peace of mind she even took me to court last year cus she could see the I needed help since then I dnt look at her the same
They don't have a lack of empathy... they are just better able to turn it off if they don't want it, and are more willing to use it as a tool/weapon. Like crying to get what they want, or acting in general. Good acting requires empathy.
There's a popular RUclipsr that used to do high-end Home Remodeling and he said 80% of the clients that he ran into the woman was running the show and spending the money and they would tour through the house and the woman did most of the talking and the husband was just yes yes yes and yes he said his experience in life has been that only 25% of the men he's met in his life grab the bull by the horns and ran to show in his house to the betterment of the family
I saw a Dave Ramsey video yesterday about some dude who made 200k being self employed and made more than his wife's two endeavors combined. But she wanted him to quit and get a "real job" so she could relax or something? Literally made zero sense like they are set financially and she is working a store on the side while being a teacher and she is stressed out but thinks the husband having a "real job" paying way less is going to help? Actually insane logic I can't understand
Abdul in Afghanistan does not give a shit about feminism and destroys it totally. Maybe the western men must learn some family law's from the Afghans. Because the Afgans are RIGHT about woman.
I have a sister who makes it all about her. Wakes me up and plays victim about her past traumas, when my mu died it was all about her, I had to be there for her yet she never asked how I was nor did I complain. Women do make it all about them.
Just picture them as small children. How much empathy goes up hill to thier parents from young children? How often does a child in elementary school think I wonder if dad's doing OK at work today? But as a father care and concern roll down hill to that child. Hypergamy requires women to see thier man as above them for them to be attracted to him. Thus she's also not capable of caring up hill. When she sees an old man she views as below her in capability she'll be able to care (but not be attracted to). Thus women will never be empathetic or care up hill to the man they are with. Imagine a grown man pouring his heart out and all his worldly problems to a 5 year old, they are below him they can't care uphill they need him to care about them. I'm not saying women are children it's just the same dynamics in an easy to understand example. Picture them as a tiny child and then think about breaking down infront of them.
Women in US think they’re poorly treated. Try living in Iran, saudi arabia, egypt, anywhere in middle east and see how good things are here compared to over there. Cracks me up.
Im starting to see it... hoped it wasn't true, and maybe it isnt for everybody. Its really difficult to maintain having empathy for my partner when it doesnt feel like they have it for me. The bluntness, the lack of meaningful responses, the way they are with their cat vs the way they are when i need emotional support... i dont want to be with someone who isn't going to empathize back, i would rather be single. In fact, maybe its best to be alone and care primarily for yourself anyways at least until youre stable and confident enough to give love another try.
You are the protector, you are the provider, you are a strong rock of a man, and in return you get....crickets.🤔 Just don't say nurturing because the lack of empathy suggests that's nonsense.
Empathy is not putting yourself in someone else’s shoes… empathy is feeling what *they* are feeling, not what you are feeling in their circumstance… all you got it wrong, and that’s where the answer lies
true dat boy.. *6 Things* You Probably *NEED* to Hear 1. *NoBodY* is coming to save you, *nOboDy* cares for you, so start *NoW* 2.Guard your *EYES* 3.If you want to *CHANGE* your outputs, CHANGE your *inputs* 4.There is *NoTHiNG wRonG* with you 5.Embrace the *CHoSEN* suffering 6.Get *HYPED.*
I do think there are rare women out there that actually do care and help men out and are understanding but a lot of the time it is a shock how someone can be the way they are and that be the norm
Being more emotional doesnt make you empathetic or compassionate it simply makes you ... weak, because it shows you lack the neccessary self-control. Women are more "wet" with their emotions while men are more "dry" and "hot" with their emotions. Children and their emotional level is comparable to that of adult women.
Emotional expressiveness is not what makes you weak. What makes you weak is not having enough emotional regulation to express your emotions in the right time, way, and place. The words of Proverbs ring true. There is a time for everything, including laughter and crying. The key is to have the wisdom, discernment, and discipline to know where these things belong.
Instead of this, give us financial advice. Not because we need it, but simply because we want to improve. Focus on the money and the money will focus on you. Women won't.
One time I asked a fellow man "How come a woman has so much love to give children and pets, yet can be so cruel toward men?" His answer: "Because a woman loves children and pets unconditionally. A man, on the other hand, has to prove himself worthy of a woman's love"
Abdul in Afghanistan does not give a shit about feminism and destroys it totally. Maybe the western men must learn some family law's from the Afghans. Because the Afgans are RIGHT about woman.
They're not held accountable because the family court laws and the workplace laws gave them all the power. The first problem with this is not the US family court system or the workplace laws. The US family court system or the workplace laws cannot be fixed until campaign financing reform is done. Insurance companies, the bar association, feminism (Which is also supported by large female owned corporations), and large legal firms all have lobbyists and all pay untold millions of dollars each year to political campaigns to keep the current laws and systems in place. That has to be fixed first. For that we need laws to be passed by the politicians whose campaigns are receiving the millions of dollars. Good luck with that! The US family court system and the workplace laws are too broken for the US family court system and the workplace laws to be fixed. Anyone that tries to fix this or fight it absolutely has no idea what they're up against! The first rule of being a politician is "Don't kill the goose that lays the golden egg"
This title needs qualification: wmn UNDER 35. Usually post-wall (40+) wmn start developing some level of empathy and humanity (not all wmn but many). It's tragic but thats the reality...
I think it's more of them trying to use feigned sympathy and empathy as a bargaining chip to get what they want because they can't just bat their eyelashes and cute their way into some unearned benefits from gullible men...
I don't think they suddenly grow empathy. What happens if they start acting more empathetic because they lose options in the dating market the older they get. In other words, once their power starts to fade, they start to shape up and act like a good partner. But make no mistake, they are no different at their core than they were when they were 21.
If there's one thing I learned, is that if you ever needed to talk to someone, it would be God. I don't think even my mother was ever able to understand how to deal with my emotions... But God got me through tough times and still does! The Lord is faithful, not just from paying for our sins. Matthew 11:28 in the Bible says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest". And 1 Peter 5:7 says, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you".
Every couple I know barring a few, the woman makes more than the man, so technically she's head of household. These are professional white collar women and my mates are the working class.
Well a relationship should be a shared effort. The man should be the rock women stand on when needed and the woman should be the rock where the man stands on when he needs it. It shouldn't be a one-sided stuff where women are fragile and need kid gloves and men have to be mighty and share it with their bros.
Yea I lack empathy for narcissistic stalkers who I’ve expressed repeatedly I have no interest in. Yes I have no empathy that doesn’t respect your privacy and boundaries.
it’s so true I feel like the only emotions they care about are their own the whole world revolves around their emotions but if we show our emotions even when they ask us to think it’s a sign of weakness and they freak out so then I end up being close to them and then I’ve become emotionally unavailablecan’t win
they just get to think that they can get what they want the way they want it it so why to work on something that they never worked before! also they were thought that. they deserve everything in live, like in the video says they dont know whats empathy means!!??
Men are problem solvers and humans have emotional problems as well ,so we are just better at fixing that stuff too. But a woman can just say thats so sad ,and then look at plants and shoes. Women are great ,but we are just different and anyone who has really studied the world and thier place in it ,know this.
I'm not a psychologist.but there's a book by Simon Baron Cohen on lack of empathy and who lacks it the most. It's called Zero Degrees of Empathy. Basically those who are autistic and in the Dark Triad personalities have very low to none empathy. There's nothing wrong with sympathy. Again, everybody like to mind their own business and not interfere to much and just assume stuff about others. Are we talking about empathy in a relationship or in general? Empathy without compassion meaning action that leads to resolving a person's suffering or plight is what's it all about. What good would empathy do If I found an arrow stuck in your ass and I told you: hey man I feel your pain it must hurt because I know that if I had an arrow stuck in my ass I would be in your position and feel the same. Compassion is the concluding step of pulling that arrow out of your ass and helping you out. The problem is, nobody save anybody these days. It's called "nobody is coming to save you!" It's your responsibility to pull that arrow out of your ass. You can put others through hell because of your refusal to grow and improve and take responsibility for your own shit but at the end of the day it comes down to you taking action yourself. Hope I'm not talking out of my ass here :D
The Dark Triad, yes. Autism, that is inaccurate. Everyone with autism is different just like any other person, but most do have empathy, more so than most. Autistics lacking empathy is a myth.
Nobody coming to save you doesn’t mean you become some lone wolf nonchalant dreadhead trying to fight the world by yourself. Yes you must help yourself but also ask for help and use every resource. You’re still putting in the work. If you have it, use it.
This is just another double standard that doesn't favor men. Women don't have to care about feeling but men have to walk on egg shells or lose your job.
Facts. Life is transactional. Hoping a woman is good with raising your kids and maintaining the day to day of the household. That's the transaction part.
That made sense in the past, when maintaining the household required lots of manual labor. Today, where for every shit you have an appliance, things are far different and unequal.
@@DareBizarre To be fair, 2+ young kids(teaching, bathing), cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, bathrooms, grocery shopping, is more than 8 hours, and never a day off 365 days a year.
@@imoretull Grocery shopping could be done twice a week. Only cleaning would take some time, but you would clean like once a month. All of the things you listed i also did, so yea. + when kids grow old a bit they would do chores, like my brother and me did when we were kids.
All these sexual references in marketing ads on here is VERY DISTURBING AND PATHETIC AND DISRESPECTFUL AND DISGUSTING. I know it’s only a marketing tactic but it’s evil and insane
Lost me at the end. Strongly disagree. Relationships are built off of trust and communication and sometimes talking about your emotions it’s important to grow. Look I hate it, I hate talking about emotions and it makes me very uncomfortable opening up towards women but that’s something im willing to do to strengthen our relationships. I’m thinking long term, like I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman so we both need to be familiar with the good, bad and ugly side of each other and only accept what you are willing to handle. If she dries up and loses respect, that’s fine, that’s up to her and she is allowed to have a preference. There are women who respect you for opening up and willing to help you in a heartbeat. Can you swallow your pride and ask for help?
I can and will ask for help. But I know who to ask, and it isn’t a woman I’m in a relationship with. Not only will that woman lose all respect for you, but will weaponize your vulnerability against you as she sees fit. Seek help elsewhere-guy friends, mentors, even a male therapist (if you can find one), but not from her. She would rather see you dead in the middle of the road than for you to show any form of weakness
Not true. You cannot solve your emotional needs with common sense and logic if you feel that you want to tell a women about your feelings in a certain situation than do it, It takes a lot of guts sometimes but it’s the right thing to do because otherwise your emotional needs will bug you constantly we are human not robots
I dont agree and i think its a stupid thing to focus on emotions, its victim mindset why do you care if they know what you'r feeling, your mental fortitude should not be a mode to escape to sobbing in tough times but take it as a source to realize your potential and conquer it, love those challenges and conquer them. Amor fati- thats what the title of this video should be what do you think john?
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They’re not held accountable. The day they are, that’s the day their attitudes improve
Other way around, it's you men.
@ You need a father
Most correct answer possible.
They actually leave. 😊
Say it louder for the people in the back!!!!
My older brother died last year and while I was busy clearing out his apartment, paying funeral expenses and dealing with his estate, all my ex girlfriend could say was "get over it."
Wtf dude
😂😅
You have to be a man and don't show weakness to be able to get this kind of woman. This is John's mindset.
That’s insane dude
"like omg get over it and pay attention to me gosh so inconsiderate"
A year after my mom passed, I finished the estate and came home. I sat on my kitchen floor sobbing b/c I could finally let go and grieve now that the estate was finished. My ex wife got up and said "You shouldn't be crying this hard, it's been a year" and walked out of the room. Never again will I marry.
Abdul in Afghanistan does not give a shit about feminism and destroys it totally. Maybe the western men must learn some family law's from the Afghans. Because the Afgans are RIGHT about woman.
@@nederlander111 "Family law"'s? Sounds like a red flag.
I got you 🤜💥🤛
I got you my bro. We're brothers, from other mothers, but we are brothers nonetheless. I'm here if you wanna talk.
I'm so sorry. You deserved better.
I feel like society has lied for a long time to men about women. Empathy, don't judge on looks....these are two big lies we are constantly told.
Yes, read my comment above
Well...if u think about it....Men aren't known for 'manipulation'.
Movies and marketing man
Absolutely
After 35 for women table turns mercilessly. It is karma
As much as I hate to be the bearer of bad news, you're wrong.
The woman I had my last date with was 37/going on 38. Despite having sky high interest levels initially, she started giving me attitude a mere 4 days after our first date. Even at 37/going on 38, she knew she had enough abundance she could afford to treat me poorly.
Becauss they are always allowed to get away with doing bad things, its never their fault, family court is always on their side, companies always promote them and talk about how hard women have it. Society is a scam
Truer words never were spoken
I've had girlfriends cry and pour their hearts out to me, usually when I tell them i'm breaking up with them, saying stuff like "what am i gonna do without you?". But when I tell them something that's close to my heart they dont gaf and pretend to listen. Ive figured they only show "empathy" when it serves them. But for them to show genuine empathy because they truly care is rare.
Sounds like they only cared about themselves.
At almost 50 years old, being married, and in lots of long-term relationships, the effed up thing that I’ve noticed is that as soon as you cry in front of them, they never look at you the same and they want another man. My last one was cool enough to explain this and said she can’t even help it.
This is actually a very real and true point that men should take notice of. Any tears are instantly perceived as total weakness and seem to produce an instant and permanent horror recoil and rejection.
The only definite exceptions are uncontrolled sobbing after a lotto win or when the shovel finds the motherlode gold seam in the quartz and she is standing behind you.
I can testify that this is true. As soon as they smell weakness, even if it's for some totally legitimate reason, they will lose respect for you. Never cry in front of your woman. Ever.
She most certainly could help it if she didn't let her emotions run her life and tried to be logical
Wow! I never realised it was this bad..what if men dumped women every time they cried.
My mom is a retired nurse i have never seen compassion or empathy for nobody or bad events, cold hearted so I learned young a women's true emotions
I don't think people with empathy can be in the medical profession, it would be too difficult. It's ironic, but I do believe it's true.
I used to think I needed to find ‘the one’
just today I realized: I am the one they need to find.
Instead of "she is never yours, it's only your turn." Just reverse it to: "I'm never hers. It's only her turn." The first mindset makes her into a village bicycle. The latter makes you the prize. Take care and Happy New 2025 :D
Wow, this proves helpful. I should just be myself and better instead of wondering who suits me. Wow...
@@theoneandonly3499 Third one is, pay for play. Because second is making you a toy(boy).
Deep!
@@303machine Haha you are absolutely right. You are "spoiled for choice". Good one.
Most care if they like you. When they dont they dont.
Exactly
With a large family of mostly women, I realized this at a very young age. Thanks for the video.
My observation is that women are very nice empathetic and sympathetic, the only catch is its towards their family, mom dad etc and the kids whom they gave birth to, thats all.
I have a co-worker like that. Gorgeous but as u said towards her OWN family. Not really even her man i don't think....
Lol I’m the opposite; I’ll confront my family and defend the person who is actually helping me in life and has a kind heart! I could care less about wether someone is “family”! I did not ask for it! No hate towards them or anything, but I did not sign up for it! I don’t pick favorites for no reason like my sister for example! My cousin treats her so poorly and she will scream at me saying “she is family” we don’t say bad things about her! How stupid absolutely stupid
Most don't care about the kids
Very true.
Not being able to empathize with people who aren't immediately related to you is literally having low empathy
I honestly think some women are a liability to have, and hinder men's progress.
Obviously. The idea is to get strong enough to be able to shoulder the burden so you can enjoy the benefits
@@SlakOffs does this sound like a happy life for anyone? This doesn't sound like what a helpmate is supposed to do. We're supposed to make eachother's lives easier and assist an easier growth for each other. If her influence is merely seen as the cherry on top rather than an equal contribution in some way then she is not pulling her weight (if you're talking about a serious relationship). At the end of the day she gets half.
@@SlakOffsnah bro having that woman that admires and takes care of you will only make you stronger and happier and more fulfilled as a person. It’s a huge strength
@@the-ironclad ironically you're probably not going to find a woman like that until you are strong enough to attract all of them
My sister for my entire live has made it entirely near impossible to live with peace of mind she even took me to court last year cus she could see the I needed help since then I dnt look at her the same
They don't have a lack of empathy... they are just better able to turn it off if they don't want it, and are more willing to use it as a tool/weapon.
Like crying to get what they want, or acting in general. Good acting requires empathy.
When they cry to get what they want it shows they are weak. And I lose all respect for them. Treat them as they treat you.
Empathy is a learned behavior in women
There's a popular RUclipsr that used to do high-end Home Remodeling and he said 80% of the clients that he ran into the woman was running the show and spending the money and they would tour through the house and the woman did most of the talking and the husband was just yes yes yes and yes he said his experience in life has been that only 25% of the men he's met in his life grab the bull by the horns and ran to show in his house to the betterment of the family
If you not rich or extremely attractive it’s gonna be tough. Hell even if you are those things it could still be tough. 😂🙏🏼
Brad Pitt is an example of being both...but still getting divorce-graped & losing custody of his kids to Angelina Jolie
Exactly, even if u.are
I'm a physician my wife divorced me...married another physician......In west Palm Beach
Lets see if Jordan and Tom Brady got divorced. What chance does the average man have keeping a marriage.
I saw a Dave Ramsey video yesterday about some dude who made 200k being self employed and made more than his wife's two endeavors combined. But she wanted him to quit and get a "real job" so she could relax or something? Literally made zero sense like they are set financially and she is working a store on the side while being a teacher and she is stressed out but thinks the husband having a "real job" paying way less is going to help? Actually insane logic I can't understand
Of course they're interested in being empathetic for..... themselves!😅
when somebody like me used that empathy and sympathy when younger, unfortunatey it got abused, it gets tainted and turns stone cold. Never again.
My favorite part is when they say that men are not capable of being empaths...
Women care about themselves and children. Men need to talk with other men. God bless
They want a puppet and a wallet.
Bro went from blue pill happy man to complete black pill in 5 years and won’t admit it. It’s over dudes.
Abdul in Afghanistan does not give a shit about feminism and destroys it totally. Maybe the western men must learn some family law's from the Afghans. Because the Afgans are RIGHT about woman.
💯🔥🔥
If there's one thing I respect about Muslims, it's that they understand women and they have done what they needed to do to keep them in line.
You're the CEO and she's an investor who will pull out when she feels her faith in you has been shaken. You get no critical mistakes to makes.
I have a sister who makes it all about her. Wakes me up and plays victim about her past traumas, when my mu died it was all about her, I had to be there for her yet she never asked how I was nor did I complain. Women do make it all about them.
Just picture them as small children.
How much empathy goes up hill to thier parents from young children?
How often does a child in elementary school think I wonder if dad's doing OK at work today?
But as a father care and concern roll down hill to that child.
Hypergamy requires women to see thier man as above them for them to be attracted to him.
Thus she's also not capable of caring up hill.
When she sees an old man she views as below her in capability she'll be able to care (but not be attracted to).
Thus women will never be empathetic or care up hill to the man they are with.
Imagine a grown man pouring his heart out and all his worldly problems to a 5 year old, they are below him they can't care uphill they need him to care about them.
I'm not saying women are children it's just the same dynamics in an easy to understand example.
Picture them as a tiny child and then think about breaking down infront of them.
I think the worst thing my ex said to me when i was going through a really hard time was "your just a kid" with zero sympathy.
Women in US think they’re poorly treated. Try living in Iran, saudi arabia, egypt, anywhere in middle east and see how good things are here compared to over there. Cracks me up.
they only care about 2 things. themselves, and money.
Im starting to see it... hoped it wasn't true, and maybe it isnt for everybody. Its really difficult to maintain having empathy for my partner when it doesnt feel like they have it for me. The bluntness, the lack of meaningful responses, the way they are with their cat vs the way they are when i need emotional support... i dont want to be with someone who isn't going to empathize back, i would rather be single. In fact, maybe its best to be alone and care primarily for yourself anyways at least until youre stable and confident enough to give love another try.
They only care about Animals bc obviously they dont talk! 😂
So true. I'm an animal lover too. Medium rare on my dinner plate.
@Fran😆😆kBonessa
They can control every aspect of the animals life. Control is what women seek
You are the protector, you are the provider, you are a strong rock of a man, and in return you get....crickets.🤔 Just don't say nurturing because the lack of empathy suggests that's nonsense.
Nurturing what? Most don't even want kids these days.
Empathy is not putting yourself in someone else’s shoes… empathy is feeling what *they* are feeling, not what you are feeling in their circumstance… all you got it wrong, and that’s where the answer lies
true dat boy..
*6 Things* You Probably *NEED* to Hear
1. *NoBodY* is coming to save you, *nOboDy* cares for you, so start *NoW*
2.Guard your *EYES*
3.If you want to *CHANGE* your outputs, CHANGE your *inputs*
4.There is *NoTHiNG wRonG* with you
5.Embrace the *CHoSEN* suffering
6.Get *HYPED.*
I do think there are rare women out there that actually do care and help men out and are understanding but a lot of the time it is a shock how someone can be the way they are and that be the norm
Being more emotional doesnt make you empathetic or compassionate it simply makes you ... weak, because it shows you lack the neccessary self-control.
Women are more "wet" with their emotions while men are more "dry" and "hot" with their emotions.
Children and their emotional level is comparable to that of adult women.
Emotional expressiveness is not what makes you weak. What makes you weak is not having enough emotional regulation to express your emotions in the right time, way, and place. The words of Proverbs ring true. There is a time for everything, including laughter and crying. The key is to have the wisdom, discernment, and discipline to know where these things belong.
Instead of this, give us financial advice. Not because we need it, but simply because we want to improve. Focus on the money and the money will focus on you. Women won't.
As a man, I’ve essentially accepted that no one is going to empathize with me so I have to learn to study or self-research my own emotions.
This is spot on!
One time I asked a fellow man "How come a woman has so much love to give children and pets, yet can be so cruel toward men?"
His answer: "Because a woman loves children and pets unconditionally. A man, on the other hand, has to prove himself worthy of a woman's love"
This truth should be on mainstream media every day lol
Abdul in Afghanistan does not give a shit about feminism and destroys it totally. Maybe the western men must learn some family law's from the Afghans. Because the Afgans are RIGHT about woman.
The purpose of "mainstream" media is certainly NOT to tell the truth......about anything. Just consider their record.
As a man of the future, ai is your emotional dumpster 👌
Mastering your emotions isn't necessary. Just suppress them into oblivion. No emotions, no problem.
The Mindset that NEVER leads to being truly happy.
@@soldyrkare5790wise
Newsflash. Neither do we. 😊
They're not held accountable because the family court laws and the workplace laws gave them all the power. The first problem with this is not the US family court system or the workplace laws. The US family court system or the workplace laws cannot be fixed until campaign financing reform is done. Insurance companies, the bar association, feminism (Which is also supported by large female owned corporations), and large legal firms all have lobbyists and all pay untold millions of dollars each year to political campaigns to keep the current laws and systems in place. That has to be fixed first. For that we need laws to be passed by the politicians whose campaigns are receiving the millions of dollars. Good luck with that!
The US family court system and the workplace laws are too broken for the US family court system and the workplace laws to be fixed. Anyone that tries to fix this or fight it absolutely has no idea what they're up against! The first rule of being a politician is "Don't kill the goose that lays the golden egg"
This title needs qualification: wmn UNDER 35. Usually post-wall (40+) wmn start developing some level of empathy and humanity (not all wmn but many). It's tragic but thats the reality...
I think it's more of them trying to use feigned sympathy and empathy as a bargaining chip to get what they want because they can't just bat their eyelashes and cute their way into some unearned benefits from gullible men...
This is true in my experience, and one reason I ended up with an older Woman.
I don't think they suddenly grow empathy. What happens if they start acting more empathetic because they lose options in the dating market the older they get. In other words, once their power starts to fade, they start to shape up and act like a good partner. But make no mistake, they are no different at their core than they were when they were 21.
I strongly disagree. I would rather say, they don't give a ... shit.
If there's one thing I learned, is that if you ever needed to talk to someone, it would be God. I don't think even my mother was ever able to understand how to deal with my emotions... But God got me through tough times and still does! The Lord is faithful, not just from paying for our sins.
Matthew 11:28 in the Bible says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest".
And 1 Peter 5:7 says, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you".
Ghost Recon here: One of the most honest videos i have heard in a while.
I don't think all women are that way but most are, and I blame Western society and the feminist movement.
Every couple I know barring a few, the woman makes more than the man, so technically she's head of household. These are professional white collar women and my mates are the working class.
Is that one of the signs of a narcissist?
It would be extreme lack or no empathy. Not just lack empathy.
They’re practically all narcissists at this point lol
@@nunka34ify pretty much 🙈
And now men such as myself don’t either, who’s gonna be more stubborn? Let’s see,
Not a healthy way to think bro
Don't do it. Best thing is just to distance from those people as much as possible.
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Well a relationship should be a shared effort. The man should be the rock women stand on when needed and the woman should be the rock where the man stands on when he needs it. It shouldn't be a one-sided stuff where women are fragile and need kid gloves and men have to be mighty and share it with their bros.
Thanks for the video - struggling with this all the time
Yea I lack empathy for narcissistic stalkers who I’ve expressed repeatedly I have no interest in. Yes I have no empathy that doesn’t respect your privacy and boundaries.
Selective empathy i call it
Women UNDERSTAND and see more of what you're feeling then men but that perception DOESN'T mean they are more kind or caring.
it’s so true I feel like the only emotions they care about are their own the whole world revolves around their emotions but if we show our emotions even when they ask us to think it’s a sign of weakness and they freak out so then I end up being close to them and then I’ve become emotionally unavailablecan’t win
This was a lesson I learned the hard way but im lucky I learned it early in life.
This is totally 100% true.
Most of the time this lock of empathy is to the husband
Which is exactly why this years politics, more so its influence, turned out the way it did
I think it's all groups of people, and you know it because there's all these wars.
Only 2 minutes video but I have learned a lot from you.
Best title in a while ❤
True. Ex wife always told me "man up".
they just get to think that they can get what they want the way they want it it so why to work on something that they never worked before! also they were thought that. they deserve everything in live, like in the video says they dont know whats empathy means!!??
It's sympathy not empathy correct
Now you aren’t so angry at the redpill🤣 you got a wake up call welcome back REDPILL forever
Men are problem solvers and humans have emotional problems as well ,so we are just better at fixing that stuff too. But a woman can just say thats so sad ,and then look at plants and shoes. Women are great ,but we are just different and anyone who has really studied the world and thier place in it ,know this.
This is “Bulldog” mindset 💯
I'm not a psychologist.but there's a book by Simon Baron Cohen on lack of empathy and who lacks it the most. It's called Zero Degrees of Empathy. Basically those who are autistic and in the Dark Triad personalities have very low to none empathy. There's nothing wrong with sympathy. Again, everybody like to mind their own business and not interfere to much and just assume stuff about others. Are we talking about empathy in a relationship or in general? Empathy without compassion meaning action that leads to resolving a person's suffering or plight is what's it all about. What good would empathy do If I found an arrow stuck in your ass and I told you: hey man I feel your pain it must hurt because I know that if I had an arrow stuck in my ass I would be in your position and feel the same. Compassion is the concluding step of pulling that arrow out of your ass and helping you out. The problem is, nobody save anybody these days. It's called "nobody is coming to save you!" It's your responsibility to pull that arrow out of your ass. You can put others through hell because of your refusal to grow and improve and take responsibility for your own shit but at the end of the day it comes down to you taking action yourself. Hope I'm not talking out of my ass here :D
The Dark Triad, yes. Autism, that is inaccurate. Everyone with autism is different just like any other person, but most do have empathy, more so than most. Autistics lacking empathy is a myth.
Nobody coming to save you doesn’t mean you become some lone wolf nonchalant dreadhead trying to fight the world by yourself. Yes you must help yourself but also ask for help and use every resource. You’re still putting in the work. If you have it, use it.
@@the-ironclad Yes.
This guy makes sense.
Great book. Must read.
Hopefully this changes in the next 4 years.
i remember 1 dollar membership days as discount on christmas, john think about your struggling audience, get us some offers man i kindly request
I’m a woman and I don’t lack empathy, I’m sorry you feel that way ❤
Yes, ma’am. Thank you.
Said you.
@ said most people i know including my wonderful husband and son.
@@lastingbeauty7416 you lack of knowing people.
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This is just another double standard that doesn't favor men. Women don't have to care about feeling but men have to walk on egg shells or lose your job.
I'm considering to stay single forever
My wife is not like this at ALL.
Yet...
Unicorn
Facts. Life is transactional. Hoping a woman is good with raising your kids and maintaining the day to day of the household. That's the transaction part.
That made sense in the past, when maintaining the household required lots of manual labor. Today, where for every shit you have an appliance, things are far different and unequal.
@@DareBizarre To be fair, 2+ young kids(teaching, bathing), cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, bathrooms, grocery shopping, is more than 8 hours, and never a day off 365 days a year.
@@imoretull Grocery shopping could be done twice a week. Only cleaning would take some time, but you would clean like once a month. All of the things you listed i also did, so yea. + when kids grow old a bit they would do chores, like my brother and me did when we were kids.
Everything is an investment dont waste time energy attention and money make it count
Its perspective i have no issues living a non transactional lifestyle with women
I was just thinking this earlier.
Sad for them when the wolvesl come.
Speak on it...💯
Truth be told!
Pandering and patronizing isn’t empathy.
All these sexual references in marketing ads on here is VERY DISTURBING AND PATHETIC AND DISRESPECTFUL AND DISGUSTING. I know it’s only a marketing tactic but it’s evil and insane
They pretend....cry rivers like they care.
Self empathy
That's called self absorption and narcissism
Especially in modern society
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F I R S T 3 O Seconds . Women Care
About Events In The Middle East ? ? ? ?
Can They Find Lebanon On A Map ? ? ? ?
Such despair..
Get a dog or cat and buy yourself a tantaly brandi. Youll have more peace.
Lost me at the end. Strongly disagree. Relationships are built off of trust and communication and sometimes talking about your emotions it’s important to grow. Look I hate it, I hate talking about emotions and it makes me very uncomfortable opening up towards women but that’s something im willing to do to strengthen our relationships. I’m thinking long term, like I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman so we both need to be familiar with the good, bad and ugly side of each other and only accept what you are willing to handle. If she dries up and loses respect, that’s fine, that’s up to her and she is allowed to have a preference. There are women who respect you for opening up and willing to help you in a heartbeat. Can you swallow your pride and ask for help?
What does it mean she says that she trusts you?
I can and will ask for help. But I know who to ask, and it isn’t a woman I’m in a relationship with. Not only will that woman lose all respect for you, but will weaponize your vulnerability against you as she sees fit. Seek help elsewhere-guy friends, mentors, even a male therapist (if you can find one), but not from her. She would rather see you dead in the middle of the road than for you to show any form of weakness
Not true. You cannot solve your emotional needs with common sense and logic if you feel that you want to tell a women about your feelings in a certain situation than do it, It takes a lot of guts sometimes but it’s the right thing to do because otherwise your emotional needs will bug you constantly we are human not robots
People dont heal and live from ego consciousness not heart consciousness. We are in hell on this planet right now.
And I agree !!
No armor unless they are Joan of Arc.
I mean we already know this by now so this ain't nothing new tbh
I dont agree and i think its a stupid thing to focus on emotions, its victim mindset why do you care if they know what you'r feeling, your mental fortitude should not be a mode to escape to sobbing in tough times but take it as a source to realize your potential and conquer it, love those challenges and conquer them. Amor fati- thats what the title of this video should be what do you think john?