Why I embraced being lonely and how it got me laid

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  • Опубликовано: 15 ноя 2024

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  • @ata_473
    @ata_473 12 дней назад +72

    Greatest things humanity has produced has indeed came from negative emotions, loneliness and sadness, including my perma ban on league. Blessing in disguise 💯

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +6

      Hahahaha I relate to this hard bro

    • @lamilanesa99
      @lamilanesa99 18 часов назад

      I need a war thunder perm ban

    • @SeriousStudent603
      @SeriousStudent603 7 часов назад

      yeppp during covid i was suppa depressed
      but that shit caused me to loose weight. so i became skinny. now ive been building muscle & have never felt better

  • @lin75575
    @lin75575 15 дней назад +34

    Feeling like an idiot is something i really understand.
    Now I am trying my best to not be attached to people and learn how to leave my life alone.

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  15 дней назад +9

      I'd say it's good to learn detachment, and at the same time, Being honest with myself, I craved intimacy and closeness, it's normal to feel that - even if finding it is difficult.

  • @alitava6844
    @alitava6844 День назад +4

    I believe that dismissing the second chance actually was a good decision. It is called self love and self respect. If she was really into you and had respect, she proved that to you the upcoming days.
    The thing is most of the time their excuses are not valid. So don't be so accessible to girls who cancelled the first date.

  • @crnicerak
    @crnicerak 12 дней назад +18

    don’t usually watch smaller creators, but you have the character to be something big keep it up man respect

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +7

      I really appreciate the love bro, thanks!!

  • @necianuni
    @necianuni 16 дней назад +33

    It’s a different level of comfort to know that you’re not alone and others feel the same way you do I hope you and everyone else in the world gets the love they deserve ❤

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  16 дней назад +7

      Totally agreed, I hope people relate to the vulnerability and realise that these types of experiences are normal!

    • @Liam-m3x6d
      @Liam-m3x6d 16 дней назад +2

      @@necianuni you're right. And it seems so common now for men to experience difficulty when it comes to dating. Women have too many options where as men have not enough.

  • @anamariadraghici6506
    @anamariadraghici6506 2 часа назад

    I felt the same way lately. It's better now. I'm cultivating my passions, rather than desperately looking for someone else. I felt like I was getting a big hug watching this video. u have it, keep going!💗

  • @gulakov9006
    @gulakov9006 2 дня назад +3

    " I said no and then played LoL until 5 a.m " bro you are so real for this one xD

  • @stephenY96
    @stephenY96 День назад +3

    The sad truth is that most guys are lonely because THEY CHOOSE to sit inside every evening watching netflix, playing computer games, youtube and doomscrolling.
    Friendships are made outside of your house and they are truly built by regular and consistent experience together in person

  • @aleenachaudhry4892
    @aleenachaudhry4892 3 дня назад +3

    remember us when you’re famous bro

  • @austinfeener8166
    @austinfeener8166 8 дней назад +5

    You really have a gift for storytelling, this channel is for sure growing

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +1

      Trying to improve something every video, really tried to paint a picture with this one, so I'm glad you enjoyed it bro

  • @retrowave8232
    @retrowave8232 7 дней назад +6

    Bro I am currently in a situation - where I have a crush on an ex-colleague and I regret every single day that I have not asked her out or attempted to get more close - i genuinely felt that i found someone that can be a suitable partner for me in the long-term. I tried even connecting on social media and took a step far to message request here to get a conversation going - she did not even respond nor acknowledge the message , I waited and waited and started to develop negative and lonely thoughts now currently I am taking a break from social media to try and move on from the person and try to see it as a lesson. Good video man.

  • @akshay-kumar-007
    @akshay-kumar-007 13 дней назад +8

    Thanks brother. I needed this.
    I'll no longer distract myself by daydreaming.
    Subbed!

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  12 дней назад +2

      You're welcome, please report back how you find things when you distract yourself less, I'd love to know :)

    • @yossefsaafan9595
      @yossefsaafan9595 18 минут назад

      Nmm how did it go :3?

  • @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385
    @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 14 дней назад +13

    I have no choice but to be lonely. I'm Goth, I dress differently and although I'd say I'm a pretty cool and chill person it doesn't matter because people can't relate. I didn't know you had to relate aesthetic and music wise to be friends with someone... I thought other factors played a role.. like personality. I am watching this video because I'm 29, I've been lonely since I was 14. I look younger than my age. 20-25.. I hate the loneliness but when you choose to express yourself, you get ostracized.. I'm attractive, artistic, and funny but people don't know anything about me because they don't give me a chance. I already accepted my fate.. I have to sit on the sidelines and watch everyone have the life I want. Friends, love, dates, relationships and etc..

    • @akshay-kumar-007
      @akshay-kumar-007 13 дней назад +6

      You don't have to fix yourself in a box. I too once believed I'm a loner. Had only a bunch of friends in college(with whom i talked occassionally) and avoided opposite gender like a plague. This only reinforced my beliefs about myself.
      What helped me was just going out and meeting people in tech events and having something to talk about. You don't have to be like this.
      Peace.

    • @charmedprince
      @charmedprince 13 дней назад +4

      You are me and I am you.

    • @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385
      @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 13 дней назад +3

      @@akshay-kumar-007 I tried all of that.. but thanks, peace.

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  12 дней назад +4

      I'm glad to hear you say good things about yourself, I find that hard sometimes. I think there is definitely a game to be played when meeting partners, but there's a balance, you must also express yourself, or there'll be no authenticity and you won't connect.
      Why do you think people don't give you a chance?

    • @stephenY96
      @stephenY96 День назад

      Every town/city has at least some sort of goth community...usually through music gigs. Genuinly feel sorry if youv not even attempted to go to them regularly.

  • @scaratlas3347
    @scaratlas3347 2 часа назад

    Honestly speaking I felt you had self-respect saying no. I was not expecting that the first story

  • @WillFrost99
    @WillFrost99 2 дня назад +3

    I'm a very indecisive person by nature so this video was great. Last story made me smile haha. Much love man 🫶

  • @dizking743
    @dizking743 День назад +1

    honestly one of the best videos I've seen in a while, so real bro

  • @chillblue1650
    @chillblue1650 12 дней назад +9

    I like the RuneScape music. I noticed that!

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +3

      Yes bro!! ❤️

    • @egreeno
      @egreeno 7 дней назад +2

      Same, ahahaha.

    • @mr-pebble
      @mr-pebble День назад

      @@SolomonDarbey What title is used here? :D

  • @chimkinNuggz
    @chimkinNuggz 11 часов назад

    Your a good story teller man. I have a similar story except i never got a second chance with the girl. Its crazy when you run into the first girl in your life that likes you as much as much as you like her.

  • @A_moment_w_Jake
    @A_moment_w_Jake 10 дней назад +1

    this is on track to blow up, thank you for telling your story and sharing a lesson you've learnt

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +2

      Honestly getting 500 views feels like I've blown up already, can barely believe thousands have listened to it bro. Thanks!!

  • @kayindarbey9214
    @kayindarbey9214 18 дней назад +7

    really good advice and was impressed with the video quality ❣

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  16 дней назад +2

      Thanks for the love bro, definitely my fav vid so far

  • @sheiladarbey7380
    @sheiladarbey7380 17 дней назад +6

    Significantly improved production 👏 🎉
    Keep speaking from your heart 'bro'!!!!

  • @skengs9538
    @skengs9538 18 дней назад +7

    lovely watch from big bro after a long day at work.

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  16 дней назад +2

      That software ain't gonna sell itself, Ty bro ❤️

  • @Mrignayani108
    @Mrignayani108 17 часов назад +1

    honestly i dont need anything i am fine but i just want to focus on my career i am single from since i was born never had any relationship i was always alone too but i dont expect anything from anyone so im happy now in my little space with good friends but i remember i was desperate for so many things but i stoped chasing and now i just want to focus on my career and goals and people around me without expecting anything in return 😇

  • @Malena78-f3p
    @Malena78-f3p 7 дней назад +2

    I feel you ,this is so touching ❤

  • @fintanmcgee4903
    @fintanmcgee4903 3 часа назад

    Outstanding video and awareness

  • @sheiladarbey7380
    @sheiladarbey7380 17 дней назад +3

    You're wisdom is transforming my life 🎉❤

  • @gynxthe1st
    @gynxthe1st 17 дней назад +3

    Layed the game down haha, I like it, great video with immaculate production.

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  16 дней назад +2

      Thanks, definitely levelled up the editing on this one!! ❤️

  • @brogotbonkers
    @brogotbonkers 11 дней назад +2

    hey man thanks for sharing it. Didn't finished the video yet but I'm here just laughing cause I'm literally playing lol and is almost 4am

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +1

      Hahaha we are one and the same Mr Brogotbonkers

  • @dmtdreamz7706
    @dmtdreamz7706 4 дня назад +5

    The reality is that not only are psychedelics not bad, as they are stigmatized to be, but they are actually 180 degrees opposite. They're not just neutral; they're amazing, and they are very important for the development of the human race.

  • @samjohnson8403
    @samjohnson8403 День назад +3

    6:10 I cried at this point. Inspirational yet so sad. Appreciate your video

  • @pawkyyy
    @pawkyyy 4 дня назад +1

    thank you.

  • @Liam-m3x6d
    @Liam-m3x6d 16 дней назад +7

    It's really tough out there now for guys. Trying to date is just disappointing the games women play. They just let you down.
    I met my first girlfriend when I was at uni aged 18. We were in the same hall. She started bringing this guy round whenever she came to see me. She said he was "just a friend" I found out on my birthday down the pub in front of all my mates that she was cheating on me with him. It took me years to realise the impact this has had on me. I've chosen not to date from now on. I'm comfortable with being alone. I'm not lonely. I'm happier and safer this way.

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  16 дней назад +5

      It's tough for sure mate, sorry to hear about your experiences - pretty brutal to find that out with mates at a pub.
      The more you explore the impact it had on you, the less influence it'll have. I hope you were able to relate to my story bro

    • @Liam-m3x6d
      @Liam-m3x6d 16 дней назад +2

      @SolomonDarbey I was able to relate to it as I'm sure a lot of guys will especially the bit about the girl bringing her friends along. Always a bad idea in my experience in case some other guy (or girl) starts trying to interfere. Had too many of those instances when I was dating. Nightmare. I think the direction we are moving in society is bad. Too many guys are being left behind and feeling powerless. That needs addressing not empowering women nonsense

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  16 дней назад +4

      ​@@Liam-m3x6d As much as I agree it's hard to navigate, especially as a shy guy, I really hoped to show that it was MY reaction to the situation, that was holding me back. As soon as I was able to accept how lonely I felt, my motivation to go out and 'make things happen' literally doubled.

    • @Liam-m3x6d
      @Liam-m3x6d 15 дней назад +2

      @SolomonDarbey I know what you mean. In your case, maybe it was that you needed to accept loneliness. In my case, it was that I let her bring this guy in when I should have said no but I was only 18 at the time I didn't understand what she was doing and how bad it was

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  15 дней назад +3

      @@Liam-m3x6d That's fair bro, I think we both know as soon as she even asked to bring him, it was probably over - glad you came to realise that even if it was through an unfortunate way :/

  • @daam432
    @daam432 5 дней назад +1

    Hi, i really liked the song in the video, can you tell me the name?

  • @Jamesliu-cc5ht
    @Jamesliu-cc5ht День назад +2

    Ha runesscapes was the days

  • @marcinwasielewski8608
    @marcinwasielewski8608 12 дней назад +4

    Subbed, good content bro. I just wanted to comment on the girl that stood you up. I think you did the right thing for saying no the 2nd time. She scheduled a date with you and went with her friends at the same time anyways? Sounds like she planned to be late or to ditch you. Meh man, kinda disrespectful.

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +1

      I think you might be right, it's just at the time I wanted to go, even for the chance but I was just to embarrassed to face the situation.
      Thanks for the love bro

  • @سعيدمحمدسعيدمحمد-ز4ي
    @سعيدمحمدسعيدمحمد-ز4ي 10 дней назад +1

    Proud of u man 👏

  • @ZeroMotivationSoul
    @ZeroMotivationSoul 9 дней назад +1

    Hey its your 100th Sub . Amazing content brother❤

  • @Cheese_909
    @Cheese_909 11 дней назад +3

    Hey man, love the content just dropped a sub and was wondering if you would tell a story of my own experiences that I have had and need to get off of my chest and get a lot of hate for. Please reply if this would interest you. Many thanks

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  8 дней назад +1

      Hey bro, reach out to me - I'll see how I can help you. Instagram: solomondarbey

  • @Anon-i2z
    @Anon-i2z 13 дней назад +3

    I like being Alone and Ignore Girls

    • @akshay-kumar-007
      @akshay-kumar-007 13 дней назад +2

      so cool bro. Must be fun

    • @hm_hm-dy5be
      @hm_hm-dy5be 12 дней назад +4

      so sigma🤑🤑

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  12 дней назад +5

      I liked being alone, but being honest with myself it was too much, I was desperate for romance. I just didn't know (at the time) how to make it happen

  • @DayleonOtb
    @DayleonOtb 12 дней назад +8

    Bro dodged a bullet, it's never good to go by a woman's whims. Even though you might've got some temporary pleasure from her, it would've ended up leaving you worse, because let's be honest, she wasn't much more than entertainment and maybe something "to do" in the mean time. Jesus Christ is the Way bro, even if you feel lonely or bored, Jesus will fulfill you in life and in the afterlife.

    • @CordayDatzTuff
      @CordayDatzTuff День назад

      Bro your unwise what helps you in your own mentally ill childish brain doesnt mean it will help the next person

  • @uchihahkitty
    @uchihahkitty 15 дней назад +5

    Love you

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  15 дней назад +4

      Hope you liked the vid :)

    • @uchihahkitty
      @uchihahkitty 15 дней назад +4

      @SolomonDarbey i diddd im going through the same rn I needed this

  • @tlb1man
    @tlb1man День назад

    Do you have socials we can follow you on! Great video :)

  • @rajasranade1744
    @rajasranade1744 4 часа назад

    Weirdly connected with your story even though the incidents and context was different from mine

  • @norasiaf4064
    @norasiaf4064 15 часов назад

    Bro I clicked on this video as soon as I read the caption it's fkn hilarious. Anyways same man same, I cured me loneliness by smoking ciggs that's how I cope and working 24/7 lol

  • @nicotine1844
    @nicotine1844 2 дня назад

    and how exactly did you get laid?

  • @isamekailmahmud9302
    @isamekailmahmud9302 5 дней назад

    so did you two get together?

  • @greenkidd529
    @greenkidd529 3 дня назад +1

    Damn your not a bad looking guy if you struggle getting girls then alot of us are doomed lol

  • @hm_hm-dy5be
    @hm_hm-dy5be 12 дней назад +7

    nah bro this aint it, like youre not embracing being lonely, youre embracing the simplest most braindead way of living this life youve been given. Shutting yourself off from anything remotely negative is incredibly childish, like putting your hand in front of your face and pretending the world doesnt exist. YOU have to grow up. And it is on YOU to do that, even if its not the easiest path
    Seen a bit of your channel and it seems like you have dug yourself a pit, and you need other people in your life to help you out of there
    Hope you get the help you need❤‍🩹 and dont give up on yourself

    • @SolomonDarbey
      @SolomonDarbey  12 дней назад +4

      I explained just after story #2 how things went differently after I sat with the emotion without distractions! It was painful but life-changing.
      Thanks for the love brother ❤️