On the plus side, getting subtle signs is still something great. When I watch these kind of videos, I realize that no women has ever been interested in me.
It’s a trap! Subtle signs will only get you harassment and S.A. Charges. Because today’s “strong, independent women” are straight in your face about everything.
True, but most women will not be overt. I've had one woman in my life actually asking me out. The vast majority of women will be subtle and most of us miss these signs because they are too subtle I suppose. But last night at NYE, I think one woman was not too subtle. She literally dragged me to the dance floor after dinner before the music started. We were just standing there for the music to start and I felt a little uneasy. She made what I believe were other signs during the evening but I'm not interested in her, some things she said and did in the past. Another I asked to dance a slow one, after another refused. I'm used to be refused, even had to insist one dance with me some months ago, this a woman I know. She did but she hardly looked at me, neutral expression. This one last night, she looked at me and smiled the whole time. She even did multiple twirls. Her subtle signs? Maybe and maybe I should have pursued. I even got compliments on my attire last night, one a woman I did go there to pursue but she's dating someone else. If she wasn't, I would have been over the moon and taken it as reciprocal interest. Still, nice to hear.
The physical contact clues can be misleading sometimes. There are women (usually from close-knit families with lots of siblings) who happily touch people without any flirtatious or romantic intention. If you stopped them and asked them why they were doing it, they would likely answer, "I'm just being friendly" or "I didn't even realise I was touching them".
The important thing is to look at others if she likes you she’ll show multiple signs. Each sign individually doesn’t mean much it’s the totality. Usually there should be greater than 3 signs to indicate there may be interest. Anything less she’s most likely being friendly
True. An ex of mine does this to random men she encounters during her day to subconsciously manipulate them into liking her. To men that often hadn't had a touch by a woman for a long time it's often enormous electrifying.
They also might do that if they're pretty: attractive people sometimes adopt a persona that's more "flirty" than most, just to get along, and may do things like that and mean NOTHING by it.
The way women are so indirect is why men never know if a woman is interested and why we think any woman that is nice is flirting with us. These are helpful but makes my brain hurt to have to be on the lookout for all these subtle hints. Women shy so hard away from vulnerability but expect it from men. Smh that's crazy
They don’t expect it from you. They prefer for you to not make yourself that way. It’s manipulation on their part. Do not allow anything that they would not allow you to get away with yourself. You will have much more dating success and sanity if you live by this principle
Important things: 0:41 First Thing ÷ Create Opportunities To Be Together; 2:02 Second Thing ÷ She Teases Or Lightly Jokes; 2:51 Third Thing ÷ Look At Your Body Language; 3:48 Fourth Thing ÷ Subtly Mention Future Plans; 5:15 Fifth Thing ÷ Compliments You And Notices How You Respond; 6:47 Sixth Thing ÷ Subtle Physical Touches; and 8:32 To summarize all the told here. Addition to these things can be these: Seventh Thing ÷ Being Ready To Jump To Help; Eighth Thing ÷ Finding A Good Compromise In Needed Situations; Ninth Thing ÷ Showing Empathy; Tenth Thing ÷ Complementing Things Via Joking (but this can be also used partly in already told second thing). When I have mentioned seventh thing I meant on the following thing. For example when you are on a dating, and you go out, man can lend the jacket if the woman feels some chills (like we see in the movies). One other example what happened to me is that one of the girls didn't carry wet wipes (since I did mention that I carry with me hand sanitizer and wet wipes). And that was at one pizza restaurant. I gave her my wet, and my hand sanitizer, and she told me this: You are very well prepared. Thanks a lot. When you mentioned third thing Courtney, I remembered one thing that I saw a couple of years ago. It goes like this: "Look into the eyes, not the words, because words sometimes fumble." Happy New Year dear Courtney Ryan, and happy New Year to all of you dear people. I wish you a lot of health, joy, and happiness, and let this year be a better one.
Women can perform all of these actions, but STILL end up playing the man for a total fool. I've had this experience one time too many and it's put me off trying. I'm near 40 and lost interest completely because trying to be genuine these days only gets us good people used and tossed aside like garbage.
I used to think like that and its not a good mental frame to be in. Maybe women can sense your negativity and shut down. My "luck" started improving when I stopped expecting anything.
No games, no drama, I quit the dating insanity and now I have peace and lots more money. Did I mention freedom? That's right since I no longer share head space and emotional space with anyone I have a type of freedom I never knew before.
I guess I missed all these clues because I had a woman at a car wash I use strike up a conversation with me while we were both waiting for our cars to be cleaned and we got to talking about what we do for a living and when I told her I day trade stock options she made the comment, "well I need to get with you to get some tips on how to trade!" I just politely responded to her that it is not that hard and there are plenty of youtube videos on how to get started. I guess because I was not really focused on the woman and was more focused on what the workers were doing to my car I just completely missed what may or may not have been her showing interest. Nowadays with so many women accusing men of harassment I literally just be polite and leave it at that!
She was only being friendly cos' she thought you were a sap that would give her all the info she wanted, tell her to take a hike ! Just silly old me being cynical !
Also, I had a "friend" who I was interested in years ago. She showed no interest. That's fine. I got over it after a while. We reconnected recently, but as "Instagram friends," I wasn't looking for much from her. In fact, I barely spoke to her other than just casual conversations. Then, all of a sudden, she starts sending me stuff on Instagram of "things she wants to do". I take the bait (stupidly) and say "Okay cool, we definitely can do that" I invite her to a hockey game, which she enjoys, and we go. But since that (last month), she's been relatively cold toward me. Not mean or anything. She's still kind. She responds when I text her (but doesn't reply to the 2nd text back). I am at this point where I am better off just going back to barely talking to her because it's not good for my mental health to try and go with someone who A) has shown no interest romantically in the past and B) Doesn't respond properly when I respond to her suggestions that you (Courtney) are saying that some women do. I am better off looking for someone new.
Yeah, just move on. Look at it as, you had a friendly time and you learned you're still comfortable around women. She's looking for prince charming, who doesn't exist. Move on and carry on.
Look at it this way: after that hockey game, you might have realized that she's not really all that to you after all. But you'd never have known if you didn't go. Vetting goes both ways.
She did all this and I fell for it. Before I was happy and I enjoy being alone and then there she came doing all this things, she convinced me that she's different from the other girls and turned my eyes into a different perspective and I'm stupid enough that I fell for it. Months after we've been together doing great, all of a sudden out of nowhere she broke up with me without clear explanation saying she wasn't ready enough for a relationship. After I gave her everything she could asked for. It fcked me up real bad and is still haunting me to this day. But here I am picking myself back up and taking this as a lesson not to trust anyone anymore.
Same thing happened to me a year ago my guy. We have to be the bigger person and endure all of the pain. It's those kinds of people that we don't have control with.
I've heard the "I'm not ready for a relationship"/ "I'm too busy/ I don't have time"/ "I just want to be single for a while" excuses enough to know that it's *always* a lie. Every woman that played those cards on me ended up seeing another guy within a few weeks to a month. I just don't buy it anymore.
I don't understand situations like that. How TF is she going to do the most, get into a whole relationship, and then talk about how she isn't ready to date? Did that thought not cross her mind BEFORE she put in all the work and wasted everyone's time?
The problem with subtlety is it expects the target to be a mind reader. This also seems to be a theme with some women in relationships... instead of clearly communicating, they will expect the guy to just "know" by a look, a tone of voice. Men don't act on subtle moves anymore, because they know the price other men have paid for getting it wrong. Just communicate! :P
Unless you are looked upon as a "fling" to them. I had an owner of a seafood restaurant introduce herself to me by putting her hands on my shoulders while my back faced her. As she walked by, her hands went from my shoulders down to my hips. Later on, I noticed a wedding ring on her finger and her children (both girls) also helped out at the restaurant. Be careful gentlemen because some women might try to set you up for something criminal.
I hate to reiterate it, but if a woman likes you, she will not be subtle. If she is being subtle in her hints, she is simply being nice as a woman. Same thing with flirting. It will become very apparent early on in the conversation whether or not she's just being nice or she genuinely likes you. In all my ltrs and especially meeting my wife for the first time, it became very obvious they were interested within initial conversation.
Can confirm. Same with all my my long term relationships so far. When she genuinely likes you, she'll attach herself to you like a conjoined twin and laugh at literally anything you say. There's no guessing at all.
I think you’re confusing the video with a woman being forward. Yes I do think that if a woman likes you she’ll just be very forward about it and not as subtle, but there also needs to be a balance gauge just how much the other person is interested in you, I think by being too forward you take away what the other person might be thinking or feeling. But I do understand things from your perspective. I do think that if you are subtle that could also just mean that you’re being nice and it might not even turn into anything romantic, it all depends if the person likes you.
I’ve experienced all these signs with one person, but at the same time, she was a bit older than me and from a different country, so I thought she was just being friendly, and I didn’t want to ruin our friendship. Long story short, I moved to a different town for work and we no longer speak at all. If there’s anything I’m good at with dating, it’s ruining every single opportunity I have! 😂
Of course, this depends on what you're looking for. But to me, if she doesn't actively try to make me take the next step by asking her out or something, then she'd be no good in nurturing a longer term relationship, either.
If she really was interested she would have stepped up her game. She was just testing the waters. If you would have caught on to her “hints” she may have rejected you. It’s a game to some women.
I think you're right with the first thing you said. If a woman is into you then she will go way out of her way to be close to you. When she really wants you there is no doubt about it. However , if she doesn't already feel that way all the rest of this stuff will do very little.
Courtney, I've had this happen to me many times. The only issue here is, they typically have a husband or boyfriend when I do find out. It's usually women who are in a relationship who show these signs the loudest. Probably because they're not happy, seeking attention, dont have values, lack of respect for theor partner? I can't count how many times it's happened. It's a double-edged sword to know from others you're a handsome/gorgeous person. I never looked myself to be one, I focus on being a good peraon with boundries and have my life balanced and sarcastically humorous with everyone. Some will assume im a player, others also say I seem like a stuck up. Sigh.....
What's funny is that Courtney mentions several times that women do these subtle things so as to NOT put themselves out there to avoid feeling VULNERABLE; yet they EXPECT men to do just that without any hesitation, or insecurity, or possible fear of rejection - which they already know if they're going to reject him - and some probably salivate in knowing that, and doing so - and we have to accept that. Not to mention that the odds of Most men rejecting a woman who shows any kind of clear interest are FAR LESS than the reverse situation. It's not even close. For most women a man needs to be... Good looking Well groomed Financially Healthy Good Shape Confident Never Insecure Witty Always responds/reacts perfectly An 8 to a 10 even though she may be no more than a 6 or 7 at best. For most men, a woman needs to be... BREATHING!
Everytime I tried to read the subtle clues it ended badly. When a girl was really into me (I think) - and I wasn't reading the clues or was ignoring them, it got to the point where she said "put it in me already!" out of frustration (but still with a grin). If she wants a guy she will tell him. She won't let that opportunity go because she's shy. Some women think they did this (regret not not talking to a guy) if they really liked them - but the truth is they probably didn't actually want him that bad in the first place. The things I've see women do to get a guy when they desperately want him ..... the things they will do to get him... and we're over here like "let's read some subtle clues" XD
So I am absolutely clueless when women like me. I mean totally clueless. As in women have asked me if I wanted to be intimate, and I didn't catch on. So, learning how women show interest is something I need work on. So, this video is a good way to start my year.
So after watching the video I have determined that I am doomed. 😂 I am already bad at picking up on hints but most of this is just so subtle it's not going to even register. Also women that I know weren't interested in me have done these things too. How do we know when it's something more? How can you differentiate friendly from flirty?
@@darrenskjoelsvold Trial and error through experience will help you. Obviously be respectful that's just a given but being vulnerable and saying things out loud and making yourself look "stupid" for the sake of understanding what she means will go a long way. I put that word in quotations because that word is subjective. You won't know what works until you put yourself out there and learn though so that's the necessary first step you and everyone else needs to do. In time you'll change this narrative that you're "bad" at something because now you're putting in reps trying to learn.
Haha. I'm 41 and I've lost all interest in women tbh. It's just the constant mind games right from the start. They want a man to take initiative and control of everything, but not too much, everything has to be just right for the women. If you act slightly aggressive or heaven forbid: too masculine. You'll probably end up on a feminist compilation of how men are so toxic these days. I think men are just sick and tired of doing all the work for little reward.
As a guy who doesn't immediately fall for every woman he interacts with this is a nightmare. I need straightforward and to the point. I don't want to accidentally lead someone on or be lead on by someone else.
Many women are often a bit shallow like that, they expect you to know if you like them immediately. For me it's been important to ponder the type of women I like, and then I'm more there when I do interact with one. Also understand that there are women who are not so shallow, and who might even react negatively if you seem all over them before you know them at all. Don't conform too much to behavior you're not comfortable with; in the end you won't enjoy those women anyway.
she’s not interested. saved you ten minutes of time. If a man approaches a woman he’s interested in he’s a creep. If a woman approaches a man she’s interested in it’s for tiktok.
In the past during my college years, across the college hall, my class instructor showed up unexpectedly out of the blue. She saw me walking by, she called me, she then said if I would like to join her to bring coffee from a nearby shop; I agreed, we then walked together to the shop Once there, we waited for about 20 min during which we had a mutual conversation. When our orders became ready to take out, we closed the conversation, exchanged goodbyes and went out for the rest of the day. I was not sure why she called me to join her, still wondering, there ought to be a subtle signal in there, I guess.
After listening to all your points, looks like not a single woman has ever tried these things with me ie. None was ever interested. Confirms my intuition so far lol
I usually only notice the women I'm not interested in. It happened the other night, and I just brushed it off. I wish it were more clear when it is a woman I'm interested in. My biggest issue is just overthinking everything.
Just read Hidden techniques for manifesting women zorlest, and I can’t believe it’s so underrated. The methods in this book are next level-it needs more attention!
This is very good and helpful advice. Uninterested women won't initiate touches or mention future plans. I used to feel shy, like I might not live up to expectations when complemented, no longer
All you need is courage..Like Courtney said, you gotta test the water especially those who filled with negative thoughts about approaching a woman. That kind of mindset will stop you from accomplishing your goals. You'll never going to find out if she's interested or not. Being rejected that doesn't mean a bad thing there's so many reasons behind it just don't take it personal and move on you still pass the test by facing your fears of being rejected. Confidence building up try again never give up try different approach next time and take positive advice from those who are in a good relationship. It's all about a learning process. My personal advice is don't let your emotions running wild. You need to have a clear minded with self control or else you won't be able to control your overloaded thoughts and that will drain you sometimes loose interest of dating. Let's make this 2025 be a better year a better version of yourself a new you. Let's go! Happy New Year
Women can give you several hints and signs just to still be planning to reject you to boost her ego. I remember this one girl at my gym who was always looking at me, kept working out near me, would smile passing by, take her headphones off when near me, get on the treadmill next to me despite all of them being open etc. She did this for weeks so I finally broke the ice and talked to her. We had a great conversation, then when I asked her out she said some BS like "oh I'm not dating right now but I'm flattered". Then she completely avoided me after that exchange. Most of the time they're on some BS
Your words: "We had a great conversation, then when I asked her out she said some BS like "oh I'm not dating right now but I'm flattered"." Apparently, the conversation wasn't at 'great' for her as it was for you. Different people are different, with different interests, priorities and expectations.
@@wadems She was laughing, smiling, and asking questions about me. I have enough social awareness to spot a good conversation from an awkward one. You were there apparently so yeah I did everything wrong
@@LeeEverett1 Where did I say you "did everything wrong?" In fact, where did I say you did a single thing wrong? What I said is that her experience was not the same as yours. Perhaps it's in her nature to be quite friendly? Perhaps she found you quite funny, but she was wanting something a little different? Who knows, it could be a myriad of things. But ultimately, we have to accept that not everybody is a great match for everybody (looks, personality, etc. etc.), and nobody bats a thousand. Sounds like you're good at this, and you had the cojones to approach her (many guys don't); keep plugging away. Unless you're Brad Pitt or Henry Cavil, that's what most guys have to do.
That happened to me at work. There was a woman I work with who dropped several hints and signs. I didn't do anything at first because I wasn't sure if it was real or not. Finally, I got the courage to talk to her and asked if she was seeing anyone. Turns out she was seeing someone. 😭😭
I think the most important takeaway from women who create opportunities to be around you is that the onus is always on the guy to escalate. She could find you irresistible, but she won't express her feelings directly. The guy has to be the one to risk rejection. Women who are highly extroverted will engage in playful banter with dudes that they are platonic with, but I think the key differentiator here is that she will go out of her way to make bawdy jokes. If she has no romantic feelings for you, it's unlikely she'd mention anything with sexual undertones because she knows it could be misinterpreted. Most women are generally turned off by cues that signal nervousness, but she will give a lot more leeway to men she finds physically attractive. It's like the meme about two different dudes who exhibit the same behavior, but one of them gets labelled a creep while the other is deemed cute. A chick asking about your future plans is also an indirect way for her to gauge whether a guy is already taken, assuming that she doesn't know you well enough for her to be aware of your relationship status. Although some dudes may choose to capitalize on the opportunity regardless, so it could also be used to test his loyalty. Yeah, a compliment is probably the most obvious sign because men rarely ever receive them. If a guy gets a compliment, he'll likely remember it, whereas women get so many in a given day that it loses its impact. Physical touch is tricky because there are women who feel so comfortable around guys that they've friendzoned or are otherwise not attracted to that an arm graze is something she'll do on autopilot. But there are also women who are so attracted to a guy that they'll try to orchestrate every minute movement out of nervousness. Ultimately, it's up to the guy to sus it out depending on the context.
Within the past couple of months, I had a lot of these hints thrown at me from a couple of women. However, one didn't work out in the end due to work. It's hard to spend time with people during the day if you work at night. She literally was at my doorstep one time needing help with something, and I ruined it because I was tired and needed to sleep before going to work. For the other woman, we hit it off pretty quickly because I found out that we were both big Game of Thrones fans. A little flirting, touchy feeling, etc. However, she was very bipolar. She had a very vulnerable moment a week after we met, and I said something she felt was really wrong and snapped at me for it. Afterward, she suggested us watching TV together, but I was having none of it. I had things to do, and I didn't want to risk being yelled at again. At the end of the day, you just have to communicate and pay attention to the cues that she is giving you to show that she's interested.
So I noticed the last girl I was interested in did most of this towards me. Infact the last time we were in person we had a random "argument" where we sounded like 5 year olds arguing with exagerated improvisation, complete with a rapid back and forth "FINE!" and we started sticking our tongues at each other. And we played around a lot, and even though it was a job we were both hired on for she complimented me alot, and every time I complimented her I swear she acted like she'd never been complimented ever. Even looked like she was going to burst into tears. Well, that went out the window when she made me the back up plan while getting back with her "abusive" ex. I now don't trust her to tell me the truth about anything anymore. But whenever she does talk to me there's always a compliment or an attempt to be encouraging with my dreams. I'm keeping her in the friend zone for now, only other place for her aside that is nowhere on the board, especially if i catch her lying to me again.
The issues with this is that you may not know what the woman is interested in. She may like your company, but could be looking for a friend, or to become part of a group. The term "being interested" can mean many things. The only time a woman asked me to come up to her apartment after talking to her for 10 minutes on the street, resulted in me realizing that she was lesbian and simply enjoyed the conversation. Some women don't mind male friends, in the literal sense of the word, but have zero interest in you beyond that. Or in other words, if you think that she is interested based on these hints, first make sure that these are not consistent with simple comradery or friendship.
Women have to learn how to learn flirt better and men have to get over their fears and insecurities. We are both at fault and blaming the opposite sex isnt gonna solve this problem.
I was at the gym for about a year and the best looking female there did a lot of the things Courtney mentioned to me and it took awhile for me to put it all together
Your advice is incredible! Along with the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish, I’ve learned how to feel more relaxed when approaching girls and how to build real confidence. It’s amazing how small changes can lead to big results.
For the first tip this girl I liked was asking me multiple times to go out with me and my friends with her friends and I kept on saying "no" because it was basically a group date. It is also a way for woman to minimize vulnerability: I also just rejected a girl a week before this :) Edit: She did all of these :(
1. Create opportunities to be together 0:43 2. When she teases or lightly jokes 2:05 3. Looking at your body language 2:54 4. Subtly mention future plans 3:51 5. Compliments you and notice how you respond 5:18 6. Subtle physical touches 6:50
When you catch them staring at you more than once, then quickly look away (if they’re shy). When they blatantly stare at you like they’re hypnotized, even if they’re married or have a bf, and their bf/husband notices it too…and wants to throw down right there. It’s weird when this happens. It happens to me often.
My ex and mother of my child was like this with me after we broke up. We were together for a little over 10 years and we had just moved back to where she was originally from. While trying to get on our feet her dad passed away and a lot of things were taken out on me. I left to stay at my moms to try and give us some space but everytime I came back home to be with her and our son this is the way she would act towards me. She did this for about 2 or 3 months and I really thought we were doing good and working things out and that we would get back together. Even tho she acted this way towards me we never really had any serious conversations about the relationship and ever time I tried to sort that out she would always say she was confused and maybe we would be happier apart things like that but then like I said every time I came to see her she was exactly as Courtney discribes in this video. Until one day she texts me and says that she didn’t want me visiting anymore unless it was just to pick up my son. I said I thought we were doing good and she actually told me that “it was fun having you chase me these past few months” it was kind of fucked up. Then I found out she had started going on coffee dates with other guys during some of the weekends I was gone with my son and when I asked why she started doing that her reponse was “bcuz that’s what you do when your trying to get over someone” which only confused me even more. It’s almost like she kept me around shortly after the break up just so she wouldn’t miss me as much and make it easier on her while also never really committing to fixing things until she found someone else to pay attention to her and didn’t need me anymore. It was quite painful and I really felt like I was used. I didn’t really have any friends of my own where we had moved to as I grew up in a different province so my ex and my son were really the only 2 people I had to spend time with. So I was really hoping I wouldn’t lose my family and when she acted all light hearted and playful it made me think we were actually going to work. We slept together and did things as a family But I guess it was just a game to her I’m not really sure. All of this happened within a few months of us moving. Something we planned together for many months and unfortunately after we moved and her dad passed away she decided she wasn’t happy anymore and that the move was a mistake and my fault. That was a big part of the break up. That was 2 years ago, she’s still there with another man now doing pretty much the same thing we wanted to do together when we first moved. So the whole thing just made me feel like I was used and played and lied to and made out to be the bad guy so she could justify getting out of our relationship after her dad passed away and go off having fun fooling around with other men, of course not before she led me on for the first few months, and once she was done with me and done hooking up with other guys after about a year she met a guy at work and moved him into the house that we had originally moved into together, I couldn’t believe it, after telling me she wasn’t happy with the move and didn’t want to be there and taking all that out on our relationship she actually stayed there with my son and another man, meanwhile I was the guy that went through all the trouble and put in all the time and effort to move back to her home town with her in the first place. I thought her being closer to her friends and family would be important and I got no appreciation for that.
If I remember correctly my wife did all of those things the first time we met, and I missed them totally. fortunately my wife made her sister drive back to where I was working and did them all again and this time I got the hint. We had 40 wonderful years together . I am finally ready to start dating again and now the challenge is to expand my world enough to meet new women. My challenge for 2025 is too try new things so that I can find new things to and enjoy and meet new people (hopefully a few single women even.)
I went on a date after I was talking with a girl for a couple days. The dinner date went well and SHE wanted to extend the date by doing a small walk and then we also went to another restaurant to get dessert. A couple days later I asked her if she wants to go on another day with me, and she say “yes.” But then when I asked her when she is free, she stopped replying. Why are women so confusing???!!!😂😂
Back in the day they would ask young women this question all the time…”Would you be with an old ugly troll if he was rich?”…overwhelmingly the answer was NO. You’ll know if she’s a gold digger. But that’s not the same as her not wanting to hook up with a couch surfing bum… so, don’t be a couch surfing bum.
Compliment you? Touch you? Suggest activities for you to join? Never in my life I have had any of those happen to me directly. To friends of mine, sure. To me, not even once. Maybe that's why I am still single.
Those subtle signs are not a proof, that she is interested forever. Those small actions are signals to the guys, but also experiments for herself. She might decide against you at the end. There is no guarantee. This is a trial. These signs only show that you are currently seen as a candidate. And that is a good thing.
It almost seems as if women are Always testing men in one way or another. No matter how subtle or innocent their gestures may be, if a man doesn't ALWAYS respond "perfectly" to every one, he's S.O.L. Apparently he can NEVER show any sign of unsureadness or insecurity no matter what; regardless of what he may have experienced in the past. It's like men are never allowed to make mistakes; especially if they're not "Chads" who can do whatever because they're a "Chad". (Treat a woman like dirt, as if they're just another notch on their bed post but don't CARE ABOUT them one iota, etc)
Our society has been dramatically changed. We can no longer rely on this kind of advice. At one point not too long ago it would've been great advice but in a post me-II age where women brag about setting up men (foodie calls, gym creeps, etc) or men being publicly blasted as creeps & SA for misreading these "hints" it's just too far gone. It's long past time you ladies "man up" and put yourselves on the block. Stop with the hints & use your words, maybe after a few years of that y'all will finally understand what it's like for us & maybe then we can start meeting each other halfway. As things are it's just too risky.
In most cases it is true. Some women, however, are more than obvious in showing their interest. Regarding physical contact (touches, etc) it is a bit harder for me to figure out true intentions as I am deeply into social dancing, and there's plenty of physical interaction even between strangers.
The issue I see with these subtle hints tho is, that this mostly is how I interact with my male and female friends casually. That is exactly why in my opinion women need to be more up forward. I understand the fear of rejection, but by being this defensive, they will likely create the rejection they fear. But I appreciate your insight on that, interesting to know. It might just be my preference, but I'm not attracted to women who lack the confidence to make the first move anyways. Also the touches often require explanation by me, because whether I step back or not has nothing to do with attraction or the lack of it. I just don't like to be touched. As you said "... without putting herself in a vulnerable position" and that is what she does wrong. There is no real connection to be built without vulnerability. It is ok, that not every woman is bold about showing interest, but she might not be my type then. I require directness, because I know that a) I'm direct and b) I'm even worse than most at reading subtle signs. I remember a situation from a party a few years ago, where a classmate asked if I wanted to sleep with her and I totally missed the context and fell asleep. I require the directness and clarity I provide myself or we are not compatible on that level.
There's a lady i sometimes meet walking her dog, she shows all these signs, secretly I'm crazy about her, the only thing holding me back is a small circle of gold on my ring finger..
I met this girl when i went out with my sisters group to celebrate new years. I felt like we had chemistry and at the end of the night i dropped her off at her place, before she left i asked her if she was single which turned into some kissing. In the end i asked for her number she said that she wasnt on the market and that she would get it from some of our mutual. I really like this girl and would love some advice from you. Keep up the good work.
I'm curious, has anyone (male) ever actually experienced any of these supposed signs and acted upon them with success? I've worked in female-dominated workspaces (hospitals) for 15 years and never picked up anything. But maybe I'm just super oblivious. Well, or unattractive :)
Happy new year to you and your loved ones dear Courtney, the sound of your voice is so calming and relaxing; you’ve been a source of inspiration for me. You’re a true classy woman
I get these unmistakable ques from married women and will not respond to them. Some are from women I do not find attractive, and also do not respond. Guess I have to lower my standards....
Best sign I've had is once she made it so obvious she just pushed her bag into my hands to look after & gave me a look & bought drinks came back said that's for u & place it right next to hers we chatted then snogged & after a while her mates wanted to go they left after we swapped numbers & she got home called me to let me no she was home safe & we chatted a good 15mins maybe more & the next day chatted again made plans to meet that wkend never heard from her close too the time though & went out the following wk she was in same place we chatted again couldn't keep are hands off each other then her mates pulled her away & I seen they was the problem they didn't like her not being single I think as she did exactly the same once she left called again but after that never heard back for a few wks then she called & pretended it was a wrong number weird so left it after that even though seen her a few times while out just was polite & didn't let her snog me as seen she wouldn't tell her mates & I heard she was really keen also maybe 1 of her mates liked her & was jealous I don't no
Courtney you're freaking AWESOME! I'm a huge fan of your content! You've helped me understand how both women and men think in relationships and body language! You're a blessing for men and women all over the world! Keep up the great work! Happy New Year! Much love! 😃
Can 100% confirm all of these are true. There's a man I really like and want to get to know better, but I don't feel comfortable being direct about it because I'm not super attractive. Mentioning potential places we could go or things we could do together is the best way I can test the waters and see if he really wants to spend time with me.
In the first 3 mins youre assuming the guy and girl are already talking to each other and that the girl has taken the initiative. If this is the case you dont need "signs" she likes you. why wait for signs and not just go in...?
And this is why I just don't care anymore. There was a woman that even had a nickname for me. She had a ring on her left hand which means off limits right? Well, it turns out she was not married. I'm sorry but wearing a ring on that finger will only turn away people who would be good for them, and attract bad people who see it as a challenge.
in the early 1990s, I was a one-person accounting department for a small governmental agency. A new employee ("Beverly") was introduced to everyone on her first day. She looked at me as a starving six-year-old boy would look at a banana split. I will admit she had pretty blue eyes. But the rest? Yeah right, short (I'm 6'4"), at least 30 pounds overweight (uh uh) & curly red hair that didn't quite reach her shoulders (strike three), the antithesis of "my type." Said "welcome," shook her hand, & went back to work. The next day, she came to my office with a piece of green accounting paper with a column of ~25 numbers. Said she had added the numbers three times & got three different answers. She obviously was unable to work a 10-key calculator by touch, pretty much day one of Accountant school stuff. I started rapidly adding the numbers without looking at the keys. She said, "Ooh Baby!" I just laughed it off. Added down the column, then up the column. Got the same answer both times. Just to make sure, I then checked the list against the first tape I ran. Everything was copacetic. Handed her paper back to her & said, "You can keep the tape." Didn't even want to write on her paper. Two days later, I brought my (beautiful, tall, slender, long blonde hair) girlfriend (she worked close by) to the office & introduced them. Blue eyes...any similarity ended right there. Said to my GF "I'll walk you back to your office," put my arm around her shoulder, & kissed her on the side of her head. She gave me an odd look. I explained (after we left my building) that Beverly gave me the eye et al. She had also said a few flirtatious things (which I brushed/laughed off), which I didn't see any sense in mentioning. Even though she was the jealous type, she burst out laughing. As in, "She thinks you'd go for her. Yeah right!" Even if I were single, they do not manufacture enough Tullamore Dew Irish Whiskey LOL The "mic drop" was not a commonly used term back then. But that's basically what I gave Beverly ROFLMAO She got the message. She never said anything nearly that "friendly" again the rest of our time there. Fortunately, our work paths rarely crossed. I left ~a year later for a better job. That said, at least she was more direct than most women I've met. I admire her Courage, her willingness to "take that chance."
If a girl is interested, she can just tell me that she is interested. Why must they always play games. Then they are cross ig the men miss the clues. Just a reminder to all women. I am not a mind reader. I wish I was sometimes, as it would clarify a lot of things for me. Its so much easier just to say how you feel. If you can not, then just send a text message, or write a letter, telling him how you feel.
Happy New Year Courtney 🎊 You and this channel have grown so much since when you first started. So happy for you. One million on the way soon. Thank you for all the fun and informative videos 🙏🏾
@6:50 - be careful with physical touch! This could be a sign that she's an attention seeker, and does this with everyone or is trying to manipulate you. Be still and watch what she actually does ~ you might be surprised.. 😯
I have a friend who does many of these things with me yet I am married. So, I wasn't sure whether she was sending me signals or just being super friendly as we are close friends. I wondered whether these actions are involuntary or she knows what she's doing?
Ahhhh...I've missed so many subtle things in my adult life in regards women. I'm 46 now and still single because I don't trust my own instincts, and/or see the subtle query. I feel like I need sledgehammer. But I may be just on a path of my own now.
It's ironic a lot of the things you've said i do myself, although I've had women that i know like me, do the same thing spontaneously, like making jokes whilst making direct eye contact, to see my reaction.
Hey yall it’s 2025 time to get after it, ask her out if she’s spoken for find another women you are genuinely interested in go go go! Through god?? We’re suppose to be family men let’s get this going guys & im a 4 year plus follower of this family country and her podcasts are awesome let’s take this knowledge and move forward
This has been a particularly helpful video. Maybe its the timing but i think i am getting some of these cues at the moment so I'm going to lean into that.
I'm starting to think after 17 years of marriage, 2 kids, 2 different houses and 2 dogs that my wife might kind of be into me. But since I'm a man I'm still not sure.
If the woman you do want isn’t showing you any signs at all guys just pull out a big stack of money from your pocket right in front of her.. if her eyes light up you’re in business! She’ll be giving you signs you can’t miss😂.. of course your relationship might be short and will be based off you spending on her. But what else is new?🤣
Could "downplaying" a compliment also be seen as being more humble? Does it usually imply insecurity? I know it's hard to speak for all women, but how often do they assume insecurity?
I woman "liked" me. All signs: wanted to spend time with, etc..., but one thing that she likes to use is silent treatment and bachanded compliment. So i ghosted her.
All of this is good stuff BUT it can all be her checking out if the man is a Simp/Sukkah, clueless, easily manipulated and dumb with money. 🙄 I'm just saying. Don't expect all women to be so authentic, such assumptions makes an ass of you.
Women are going to be very disappointed with the Reactions to their subtitle hints. It’s too easy to misinterpret these hints and get accused or made fun of. Most men are noticing them but simply letting these hints pass unanswered. I certainly have on one or two rare occasions. Women banking on these type of hints are not wife material anyway.
A dancer at a gentleman's club asked if I wanted a dance. I think she likes me!
😅😅😂. Especially men like Benjamin's, not men named George so much.
She’s already cheating on you, because she asked me the same question.
She likes your $$$$$
Hang on to her! Once she finishes that law degree, you'll be set!!! 🤣
@@RealLimerickman Just ask the Shamwow guy!
Quitting the dating scene might be the best thing I've ever done. No more guessing if someone is interested in me or not!
If you're looking for these "subtle signs" it's already over for you. She's not subtle at all with the guy she REALLY likes
Exactly
On the plus side, getting subtle signs is still something great. When I watch these kind of videos, I realize that no women has ever been interested in me.
@@someother5512 cope
It’s a trap! Subtle signs will only get you harassment and S.A. Charges. Because today’s “strong, independent women” are straight in your face about everything.
True, but most women will not be overt. I've had one woman in my life actually asking me out. The vast majority of women will be subtle and most of us miss these signs because they are too subtle I suppose.
But last night at NYE, I think one woman was not too subtle. She literally dragged me to the dance floor after dinner before the music started. We were just standing there for the music to start and I felt a little uneasy. She made what I believe were other signs during the evening but I'm not interested in her, some things she said and did in the past.
Another I asked to dance a slow one, after another refused. I'm used to be refused, even had to insist one dance with me some months ago, this a woman I know. She did but she hardly looked at me, neutral expression. This one last night, she looked at me and smiled the whole time. She even did multiple twirls. Her subtle signs? Maybe and maybe I should have pursued.
I even got compliments on my attire last night, one a woman I did go there to pursue but she's dating someone else. If she wasn't, I would have been over the moon and taken it as reciprocal interest. Still, nice to hear.
The physical contact clues can be misleading sometimes. There are women (usually from close-knit families with lots of siblings) who happily touch people without any flirtatious or romantic intention. If you stopped them and asked them why they were doing it, they would likely answer, "I'm just being friendly" or "I didn't even realise I was touching them".
I agree very true
The important thing is to look at others if she likes you she’ll show multiple signs. Each sign individually doesn’t mean much it’s the totality. Usually there should be greater than 3 signs to indicate there may be interest. Anything less she’s most likely being friendly
Happy healthy New Year to you Courtney. Gray suits you well
True. An ex of mine does this to random men she encounters during her day to subconsciously manipulate them into liking her.
To men that often hadn't had a touch by a woman for a long time it's often enormous electrifying.
They also might do that if they're pretty: attractive people sometimes adopt a persona that's more "flirty" than most, just to get along, and may do things like that and mean NOTHING by it.
The way women are so indirect is why men never know if a woman is interested and why we think any woman that is nice is flirting with us.
These are helpful but makes my brain hurt to have to be on the lookout for all these subtle hints.
Women shy so hard away from vulnerability but expect it from men. Smh that's crazy
They don’t expect it from you. They prefer for you to not make yourself that way. It’s manipulation on their part. Do not allow anything that they would not allow you to get away with yourself. You will have much more dating success and sanity if you live by this principle
Important things: 0:41 First Thing ÷ Create Opportunities To Be Together; 2:02 Second Thing ÷ She Teases Or Lightly Jokes; 2:51 Third Thing ÷ Look At Your Body Language; 3:48 Fourth Thing ÷ Subtly Mention Future Plans; 5:15 Fifth Thing ÷ Compliments You And Notices How You Respond; 6:47 Sixth Thing ÷ Subtle Physical Touches; and 8:32 To summarize all the told here.
Addition to these things can be these: Seventh Thing ÷ Being Ready To Jump To Help; Eighth Thing ÷ Finding A Good Compromise In Needed Situations; Ninth Thing ÷ Showing Empathy; Tenth Thing ÷ Complementing Things Via Joking (but this can be also used partly in already told second thing).
When I have mentioned seventh thing I meant on the following thing. For example when you are on a dating, and you go out, man can lend the jacket if the woman feels some chills (like we see in the movies). One other example what happened to me is that one of the girls didn't carry wet wipes (since I did mention that I carry with me hand sanitizer and wet wipes). And that was at one pizza restaurant. I gave her my wet, and my hand sanitizer, and she told me this: You are very well prepared. Thanks a lot.
When you mentioned third thing Courtney, I remembered one thing that I saw a couple of years ago. It goes like this: "Look into the eyes, not the words, because words sometimes fumble."
Happy New Year dear Courtney Ryan, and happy New Year to all of you dear people.
I wish you a lot of health, joy, and happiness, and let this year be a better one.
Thanks for the summary.
@Aristipp-ng5fu You're welcome.
All of that is a myth.
@@CGMedia2023 Really?
@@Harikejn Girls will talk you up like that in the casinos in Vegas, but we all know why...
Women can perform all of these actions, but STILL end up playing the man for a total fool. I've had this experience one time too many and it's put me off trying. I'm near 40 and lost interest completely because trying to be genuine these days only gets us good people used and tossed aside like garbage.
If that's how you feel, then you're completely wasting your time watching these types of videos. It's a new year. Try to be a little more optimistic.
Yepppp 🤝🏾📠 if a woman wants my time loyalty an effort she gotta chase me an earn it other than that it’s God Gym Goals only 🤷🏾♂️
@@gk_zone4274men are the prize protectors an providers bro it’s zero reason why a man needs to do 100% of the work anymore
I've had this experience as well -- I now do not respond the these "subtle" hints. If she's interested, she can say something.
I used to think like that and its not a good mental frame to be in. Maybe women can sense your negativity and shut down. My "luck" started improving when I stopped expecting anything.
No games, no drama, I quit the dating insanity and now I have peace and lots more money. Did I mention freedom?
That's right since I no longer share head space and emotional space with anyone I have a type of freedom I never knew before.
Do you get any action?
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm No, to be honest it's the only thing that I miss about it but it's not important enough to invite crazy back into my life.
@@jaxxonbalboa3243peace is often under valued, glad it’s working for you.
Yeah, and you'll die alone with no legacy.
There's always rosie palm and her 5 sisters
I guess I missed all these clues because I had a woman at a car wash I use strike up a conversation with me while we were both waiting for our cars to be cleaned and we got to talking about what we do for a living and when I told her I day trade stock options she made the comment, "well I need to get with you to get some tips on how to trade!" I just politely responded to her that it is not that hard and there are plenty of youtube videos on how to get started. I guess because I was not really focused on the woman and was more focused on what the workers were doing to my car I just completely missed what may or may not have been her showing interest. Nowadays with so many women accusing men of harassment I literally just be polite and leave it at that!
Strong men who show their interest dont get accused of anything
She was only being friendly cos' she thought you were a sap that would give her all the info she wanted, tell her to take a hike ! Just silly old me being cynical !
@@Ainttrippin It has nothing to do with your strength, but whether or not the woman finds you attractive!
@@pnketia women find strong men attractive. If you are weak, feminine or slimy they won't find you attractive.
*" Nowadays with so many women accusing men of harassment"*
Yeah, sub5 men like myself.
If she plays games, you will always lose.
1st person, or 3rd person games?🧐
Yes. If I want to play games, I'll turn on the PS4!
If you never play the "game", you'll NEVER win..
Also, I had a "friend" who I was interested in years ago. She showed no interest. That's fine. I got over it after a while. We reconnected recently, but as "Instagram friends," I wasn't looking for much from her. In fact, I barely spoke to her other than just casual conversations.
Then, all of a sudden, she starts sending me stuff on Instagram of "things she wants to do". I take the bait (stupidly) and say "Okay cool, we definitely can do that"
I invite her to a hockey game, which she enjoys, and we go.
But since that (last month), she's been relatively cold toward me. Not mean or anything. She's still kind. She responds when I text her (but doesn't reply to the 2nd text back). I am at this point where I am better off just going back to barely talking to her because it's not good for my mental health to try and go with someone who
A) has shown no interest romantically in the past
and
B) Doesn't respond properly when I respond to her suggestions that you (Courtney) are saying that some women do.
I am better off looking for someone new.
You are doing the right thing mate. Forget about her and talk to other women.
You might not be her option A. Hurts, but that is life.
Never ever waste your time with a woman who friendzone you. Those women are evil...
Yeah, just move on. Look at it as, you had a friendly time and you learned you're still comfortable around women.
She's looking for prince charming, who doesn't exist.
Move on and carry on.
Look at it this way: after that hockey game, you might have realized that she's not really all that to you after all. But you'd never have known if you didn't go. Vetting goes both ways.
She did all this and I fell for it. Before I was happy and I enjoy being alone and then there she came doing all this things, she convinced me that she's different from the other girls and turned my eyes into a different perspective and I'm stupid enough that I fell for it.
Months after we've been together doing great, all of a sudden out of nowhere she broke up with me without clear explanation saying she wasn't ready enough for a relationship. After I gave her everything she could asked for.
It fcked me up real bad and is still haunting me to this day. But here I am picking myself back up and taking this as a lesson not to trust anyone anymore.
Same thing happened to me a year ago my guy.
We have to be the bigger person and endure all of the pain.
It's those kinds of people that we don't have control with.
Get over it and move on. She saved you a life of misery by breaking it off. Bullet dodged dude.
one foot in front of the other until time and space has distanced you from it. Then learn from it so it doesn't happen again.
I've heard the "I'm not ready for a relationship"/ "I'm too busy/ I don't have time"/ "I just want to be single for a while" excuses enough to know that it's *always* a lie. Every woman that played those cards on me ended up seeing another guy within a few weeks to a month. I just don't buy it anymore.
I don't understand situations like that. How TF is she going to do the most, get into a whole relationship, and then talk about how she isn't ready to date? Did that thought not cross her mind BEFORE she put in all the work and wasted everyone's time?
The problem with subtlety is it expects the target to be a mind reader. This also seems to be a theme with some women in relationships... instead of clearly communicating, they will expect the guy to just "know" by a look, a tone of voice.
Men don't act on subtle moves anymore, because they know the price other men have paid for getting it wrong.
Just communicate! :P
Hints do not exist. We have the power of speech to express ourselves.
Also, I had girls do all the things you mentioned and they were NOT interested.
Courtney seems like she doesn't want to put women down but she's 100% not helping.
U are right I agree
Unless you are looked upon as a "fling" to them. I had an owner of a seafood restaurant introduce herself to me by putting her hands on my shoulders while my back faced her. As she walked by, her hands went from my shoulders down to my hips. Later on, I noticed a wedding ring on her finger and her children (both girls) also helped out at the restaurant. Be careful gentlemen because some women might try to set you up for something criminal.
maybe they were interested, but you messed up. So you tell yourself they were never interested to cope and avoid working on yourself.
@@BobFosterMedia I do not mind that I "messed up" because she was (and I think still is) a married woman with children.
And then 5 mins later she will be like "nah"
That's why it is a trial. Do stuff, gather information, decide, act.
It goes both ways. You can never know her before you know her, either.
I hate to reiterate it, but if a woman likes you, she will not be subtle. If she is being subtle in her hints, she is simply being nice as a woman. Same thing with flirting. It will become very apparent early on in the conversation whether or not she's just being nice or she genuinely likes you. In all my ltrs and especially meeting my wife for the first time, it became very obvious they were interested within initial conversation.
If you are not a 7 or above on looks, women will do all those "hints" and then when you react, she will put you in the Friendzone.
Can confirm. Same with all my my long term relationships so far. When she genuinely likes you, she'll attach herself to you like a conjoined twin and laugh at literally anything you say. There's no guessing at all.
Exactly. Don't waste your time with girls that don't know if they like you.
I think you’re confusing the video with a woman being forward. Yes I do think that if a woman likes you she’ll just be very forward about it and not as subtle, but there also needs to be a balance gauge just how much the other person is interested in you, I think by being too forward you take away what the other person might be thinking or feeling.
But I do understand things from your perspective. I do think that if you are subtle that could also just mean that you’re being nice and it might not even turn into anything romantic, it all depends if the person likes you.
I’ve experienced all these signs with one person, but at the same time, she was a bit older than me and from a different country, so I thought she was just being friendly, and I didn’t want to ruin our friendship. Long story short, I moved to a different town for work and we no longer speak at all. If there’s anything I’m good at with dating, it’s ruining every single opportunity I have! 😂
Same here
Of course, this depends on what you're looking for. But to me, if she doesn't actively try to make me take the next step by asking her out or something, then she'd be no good in nurturing a longer term relationship, either.
If she really was interested she would have stepped up her game. She was just testing the waters. If you would have caught on to her “hints” she may have rejected you. It’s a game to some women.
I think you're right with the first thing you said. If a woman is into you then she will go way out of her way to be close to you. When she really wants you there is no doubt about it. However , if she doesn't already feel that way all the rest of this stuff will do very little.
Courtney, I've had this happen to me many times. The only issue here is, they typically have a husband or boyfriend when I do find out. It's usually women who are in a relationship who show these signs the loudest. Probably because they're not happy, seeking attention, dont have values, lack of respect for theor partner? I can't count how many times it's happened. It's a double-edged sword to know from others you're a handsome/gorgeous person. I never looked myself to be one, I focus on being a good peraon with boundries and have my life balanced and sarcastically humorous with everyone. Some will assume im a player, others also say I seem like a stuck up. Sigh.....
There are all sorts of crazy people out there, be content that you didn't end up in a relationship with them. On to the next.
What's funny is that Courtney mentions several times that women do these subtle things so as to NOT put themselves out there to avoid feeling VULNERABLE; yet they EXPECT men to do just that without any hesitation, or insecurity, or possible fear of rejection - which they already know if they're going to reject him - and some probably salivate in knowing that, and doing so - and we have to accept that.
Not to mention that the odds of Most men rejecting a woman who shows any kind of clear interest are FAR LESS than the reverse situation. It's not even close.
For most women a man needs to be...
Good looking
Well groomed
Financially Healthy
Good Shape
Confident
Never Insecure
Witty
Always responds/reacts perfectly
An 8 to a 10 even though she may be no more than a 6 or 7 at best.
For most men, a woman needs to be...
BREATHING!
I'm still learning to walk again😮😂😂
Just be good looking. All those other standards will go out the window
Everytime I tried to read the subtle clues it ended badly.
When a girl was really into me (I think) - and I wasn't reading the clues or was ignoring them,
it got to the point where she said "put it in me already!" out of frustration (but still with a grin).
If she wants a guy she will tell him. She won't let that opportunity go because she's shy.
Some women think they did this (regret not not talking to a guy) if they really liked them - but the truth is they probably didn't actually want him that bad in the first place.
The things I've see women do to get a guy when they desperately want him ..... the things they will do to get him... and we're over here like "let's read some subtle clues" XD
So I am absolutely clueless when women like me. I mean totally clueless. As in women have asked me if I wanted to be intimate, and I didn't catch on. So, learning how women show interest is something I need work on. So, this video is a good way to start my year.
So after watching the video I have determined that I am doomed. 😂 I am already bad at picking up on hints but most of this is just so subtle it's not going to even register. Also women that I know weren't interested in me have done these things too. How do we know when it's something more? How can you differentiate friendly from flirty?
Do not think about it at all. If you like her, just ask her out. If she refuses, go to nex one. Period. Good luck.
@@darrenskjoelsvold Trial and error through experience will help you. Obviously be respectful that's just a given but being vulnerable and saying things out loud and making yourself look "stupid" for the sake of understanding what she means will go a long way. I put that word in quotations because that word is subjective. You won't know what works until you put yourself out there and learn though so that's the necessary first step you and everyone else needs to do. In time you'll change this narrative that you're "bad" at something because now you're putting in reps trying to learn.
Much of it comes from experience with other women as well. Just keep at it , and it will start to make more sense.
It's like reading between the lines if the lines were printed in invisible ink on a single page of a blank 1,000 page notebook
😂😂😂😂😂
Haha. I'm 41 and I've lost all interest in women tbh. It's just the constant mind games right from the start. They want a man to take initiative and control of everything, but not too much, everything has to be just right for the women. If you act slightly aggressive or heaven forbid: too masculine. You'll probably end up on a feminist compilation of how men are so toxic these days.
I think men are just sick and tired of doing all the work for little reward.
As a guy who doesn't immediately fall for every woman he interacts with this is a nightmare. I need straightforward and to the point. I don't want to accidentally lead someone on or be lead on by someone else.
Many women are often a bit shallow like that, they expect you to know if you like them immediately. For me it's been important to ponder the type of women I like, and then I'm more there when I do interact with one. Also understand that there are women who are not so shallow, and who might even react negatively if you seem all over them before you know them at all. Don't conform too much to behavior you're not comfortable with; in the end you won't enjoy those women anyway.
Here's a huge clue for you ladies out there, men don't do subtle, men don't interpret subtle, be direct, be concise, or be gone.
Semper Fi!
This year is going to be great for Courtney. She's going to be at 1 million subscribers. Happy New Year.
You’re so kind, thank you! Happy new year! 🎊
@@CourtneyRyan great videos and very helpful information to know, can we also chat with each other more about what you said on your videos as well?
@@CourtneyRyan HELL NAH U GOTTA STEP UP YOUR CONTENT FIRST B4 A MIL
she’s not interested. saved you ten minutes of time.
If a man approaches a woman he’s interested in he’s a creep.
If a woman approaches a man she’s interested in it’s for tiktok.
If a woman is not begging to be with you, ignore her. Money helps a lot!
In the past during my college years, across the college hall, my class instructor showed up unexpectedly out of the blue. She saw me walking by, she called me, she then said if I would like to join her to bring coffee from a nearby shop; I agreed, we then walked together to the shop
Once there, we waited for about 20 min during which we had a mutual conversation. When our orders became ready to take out, we closed the conversation, exchanged goodbyes and went out for the rest of the day.
I was not sure why she called me to join her, still wondering, there ought to be a subtle signal in there, I guess.
After listening to all your points, looks like not a single woman has ever tried these things with me ie. None was ever interested. Confirms my intuition so far lol
I usually only notice the women I'm not interested in. It happened the other night, and I just brushed it off. I wish it were more clear when it is a woman I'm interested in. My biggest issue is just overthinking everything.
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This book is in the top 3 that I own.
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Luckily, I grabbed it; there are only 12 copies left
Interesting. I haven't seen bot threads shilling a book before.
This is very good and helpful advice. Uninterested women won't initiate touches or mention future plans. I used to feel shy, like I might not live up to expectations when complemented, no longer
All you need is courage..Like Courtney said, you gotta test the water especially those who filled with negative thoughts about approaching a woman. That kind of mindset will stop you from accomplishing your goals. You'll never going to find out if she's interested or not. Being rejected that doesn't mean a bad thing there's so many reasons behind it just don't take it personal and move on you still pass the test by facing your fears of being rejected. Confidence building up try again never give up try different approach next time and take positive advice from those who are in a good relationship. It's all about a learning process. My personal advice is don't let your emotions running wild. You need to have a clear minded with self control or else you won't be able to control your overloaded thoughts and that will drain you sometimes loose interest of dating. Let's make this 2025 be a better year a better version of yourself a new you. Let's go! Happy New Year
Women can give you several hints and signs just to still be planning to reject you to boost her ego. I remember this one girl at my gym who was always looking at me, kept working out near me, would smile passing by, take her headphones off when near me, get on the treadmill next to me despite all of them being open etc. She did this for weeks so I finally broke the ice and talked to her. We had a great conversation, then when I asked her out she said some BS like "oh I'm not dating right now but I'm flattered".
Then she completely avoided me after that exchange. Most of the time they're on some BS
Your words: "We had a great conversation, then when I asked her out she said some BS like "oh I'm not dating right now but I'm flattered"."
Apparently, the conversation wasn't at 'great' for her as it was for you. Different people are different, with different interests, priorities and expectations.
@@wadems She was laughing, smiling, and asking questions about me. I have enough social awareness to spot a good conversation from an awkward one. You were there apparently so yeah I did everything wrong
It happens. But now you know she's like that, you don't care for her either, right? More room in your head for someone else instead ;)
@@LeeEverett1 Where did I say you "did everything wrong?" In fact, where did I say you did a single thing wrong? What I said is that her experience was not the same as yours. Perhaps it's in her nature to be quite friendly? Perhaps she found you quite funny, but she was wanting something a little different? Who knows, it could be a myriad of things. But ultimately, we have to accept that not everybody is a great match for everybody (looks, personality, etc. etc.), and nobody bats a thousand.
Sounds like you're good at this, and you had the cojones to approach her (many guys don't); keep plugging away. Unless you're Brad Pitt or Henry Cavil, that's what most guys have to do.
That happened to me at work. There was a woman I work with who dropped several hints and signs. I didn't do anything at first because I wasn't sure if it was real or not. Finally, I got the courage to talk to her and asked if she was seeing anyone. Turns out she was seeing someone. 😭😭
I think the most important takeaway from women who create opportunities to be around you is that the onus is always on the guy to escalate. She could find you irresistible, but she won't express her feelings directly. The guy has to be the one to risk rejection.
Women who are highly extroverted will engage in playful banter with dudes that they are platonic with, but I think the key differentiator here is that she will go out of her way to make bawdy jokes. If she has no romantic feelings for you, it's unlikely she'd mention anything with sexual undertones because she knows it could be misinterpreted.
Most women are generally turned off by cues that signal nervousness, but she will give a lot more leeway to men she finds physically attractive. It's like the meme about two different dudes who exhibit the same behavior, but one of them gets labelled a creep while the other is deemed cute.
A chick asking about your future plans is also an indirect way for her to gauge whether a guy is already taken, assuming that she doesn't know you well enough for her to be aware of your relationship status. Although some dudes may choose to capitalize on the opportunity regardless, so it could also be used to test his loyalty.
Yeah, a compliment is probably the most obvious sign because men rarely ever receive them. If a guy gets a compliment, he'll likely remember it, whereas women get so many in a given day that it loses its impact.
Physical touch is tricky because there are women who feel so comfortable around guys that they've friendzoned or are otherwise not attracted to that an arm graze is something she'll do on autopilot. But there are also women who are so attracted to a guy that they'll try to orchestrate every minute movement out of nervousness. Ultimately, it's up to the guy to sus it out depending on the context.
Within the past couple of months, I had a lot of these hints thrown at me from a couple of women. However, one didn't work out in the end due to work. It's hard to spend time with people during the day if you work at night. She literally was at my doorstep one time needing help with something, and I ruined it because I was tired and needed to sleep before going to work.
For the other woman, we hit it off pretty quickly because I found out that we were both big Game of Thrones fans. A little flirting, touchy feeling, etc. However, she was very bipolar. She had a very vulnerable moment a week after we met, and I said something she felt was really wrong and snapped at me for it. Afterward, she suggested us watching TV together, but I was having none of it. I had things to do, and I didn't want to risk being yelled at again.
At the end of the day, you just have to communicate and pay attention to the cues that she is giving you to show that she's interested.
So I noticed the last girl I was interested in did most of this towards me. Infact the last time we were in person we had a random "argument" where we sounded like 5 year olds arguing with exagerated improvisation, complete with a rapid back and forth "FINE!" and we started sticking our tongues at each other. And we played around a lot, and even though it was a job we were both hired on for she complimented me alot, and every time I complimented her I swear she acted like she'd never been complimented ever. Even looked like she was going to burst into tears.
Well, that went out the window when she made me the back up plan while getting back with her "abusive" ex. I now don't trust her to tell me the truth about anything anymore. But whenever she does talk to me there's always a compliment or an attempt to be encouraging with my dreams. I'm keeping her in the friend zone for now, only other place for her aside that is nowhere on the board, especially if i catch her lying to me again.
Close mouths don’t get fed, if a woman can’t explain their intentions directly then they can’t complain about being single.
The issues with this is that you may not know what the woman is interested in. She may like your company, but could be looking for a friend, or to become part of a group. The term "being interested" can mean many things. The only time a woman asked me to come up to her apartment after talking to her for 10 minutes on the street, resulted in me realizing that she was lesbian and simply enjoyed the conversation. Some women don't mind male friends, in the literal sense of the word, but have zero interest in you beyond that. Or in other words, if you think that she is interested based on these hints, first make sure that these are not consistent with simple comradery or friendship.
Women have to learn how to learn flirt better and men have to get over their fears and insecurities. We are both at fault and blaming the opposite sex isnt gonna solve this problem.
I was at the gym for about a year and the best looking female there did a lot of the things Courtney mentioned to me and it took awhile for me to put it all together
Your advice is incredible! Along with the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish, I’ve learned how to feel more relaxed when approaching girls and how to build real confidence. It’s amazing how small changes can lead to big results.
i read that book too. it really gives advice that actually works in real life, not just theory.
For the first tip this girl I liked was asking me multiple times to go out with me and my friends with her friends and I kept on saying "no" because it was basically a group date.
It is also a way for woman to minimize vulnerability: I also just rejected a girl a week before this :)
Edit: She did all of these :(
1. Create opportunities to be together 0:43
2. When she teases or lightly jokes 2:05
3. Looking at your body language 2:54
4. Subtly mention future plans 3:51
5. Compliments you and notice how you respond 5:18
6. Subtle physical touches 6:50
Well done. I wish all videos would do this for us.
@@jcarter8765kept up with most of them so far :)
Honestly, the more of these kind of videos I watch, the more I wonder how other guys keep track of all these cues and what they mean?
When you catch them staring at you more than once, then quickly look away (if they’re shy). When they blatantly stare at you like they’re hypnotized, even if they’re married or have a bf, and their bf/husband notices it too…and wants to throw down right there. It’s weird when this happens. It happens to me often.
My ex and mother of my child was like this with me after we broke up. We were together for a little over 10 years and we had just moved back to where she was originally from. While trying to get on our feet her dad passed away and a lot of things were taken out on me. I left to stay at my moms to try and give us some space but everytime I came back home to be with her and our son this is the way she would act towards me. She did this for about 2 or 3 months and I really thought we were doing good and working things out and that we would get back together. Even tho she acted this way towards me we never really had any serious conversations about the relationship and ever time I tried to sort that out she would always say she was confused and maybe we would be happier apart things like that but then like I said every time I came to see her she was exactly as Courtney discribes in this video. Until one day she texts me and says that she didn’t want me visiting anymore unless it was just to pick up my son. I said I thought we were doing good and she actually told me that “it was fun having you chase me these past few months” it was kind of fucked up. Then I found out she had started going on coffee dates with other guys during some of the weekends I was gone with my son and when I asked why she started doing that her reponse was “bcuz that’s what you do when your trying to get over someone” which only confused me even more. It’s almost like she kept me around shortly after the break up just so she wouldn’t miss me as much and make it easier on her while also never really committing to fixing things until she found someone else to pay attention to her and didn’t need me anymore. It was quite painful and I really felt like I was used. I didn’t really have any friends of my own where we had moved to as I grew up in a different province so my ex and my son were really the only 2 people I had to spend time with. So I was really hoping I wouldn’t lose my family and when she acted all light hearted and playful it made me think we were actually going to work. We slept together and did things as a family But I guess it was just a game to her I’m not really sure. All of this happened within a few months of us moving. Something we planned together for many months and unfortunately after we moved and her dad passed away she decided she wasn’t happy anymore and that the move was a mistake and my fault. That was a big part of the break up. That was 2 years ago, she’s still there with another man now doing pretty much the same thing we wanted to do together when we first moved. So the whole thing just made me feel like I was used and played and lied to and made out to be the bad guy so she could justify getting out of our relationship after her dad passed away and go off having fun fooling around with other men, of course not before she led me on for the first few months, and once she was done with me and done hooking up with other guys after about a year she met a guy at work and moved him into the house that we had originally moved into together, I couldn’t believe it, after telling me she wasn’t happy with the move and didn’t want to be there and taking all that out on our relationship she actually stayed there with my son and another man, meanwhile I was the guy that went through all the trouble and put in all the time and effort to move back to her home town with her in the first place. I thought her being closer to her friends and family would be important and I got no appreciation for that.
If I remember correctly my wife did all of those things the first time we met, and I missed them totally. fortunately my wife made her sister drive back to where I was working and did them all again and this time I got the hint. We had 40 wonderful years together . I am finally ready to start dating again and now the challenge is to expand my world enough to meet new women. My challenge for 2025 is too try new things so that I can find new things to and enjoy and meet new people (hopefully a few single women even.)
I don’t think I’ve ever had a woman give me any of these signals.
I went on a date after I was talking with a girl for a couple days. The dinner date went well and SHE wanted to extend the date by doing a small walk and then we also went to another restaurant to get dessert. A couple days later I asked her if she wants to go on another day with me, and she say “yes.” But then when I asked her when she is free, she stopped replying. Why are women so confusing???!!!😂😂
Or maybe she is just naturally friendly and flirty but has absolutely no romantic interest in you.
Never help a woman, specially if she is good looking. She will put you in the Friendzone in a heartbeat, specially if you are not good looking.
But how do you really know if they like you or your money?
I’ve done a video about that!
Vet properly
Just do your part and A PRENUP 😅
If you got money, they like your money, if you don't have money they like you for real, simple.
Back in the day they would ask young women this question all the time…”Would you be with an old ugly troll if he was rich?”…overwhelmingly the answer was NO.
You’ll know if she’s a gold digger. But that’s not the same as her not wanting to hook up with a couch surfing bum… so, don’t be a couch surfing bum.
Compliment you? Touch you? Suggest activities for you to join? Never in my life I have had any of those happen to me directly. To friends of mine, sure. To me, not even once. Maybe that's why I am still single.
Happy New Year Courtney & Teddy 🎉🤗
Happy New Year to you too! 🎉
Those subtle signs are not a proof, that she is interested forever. Those small actions are signals to the guys, but also experiments for herself. She might decide against you at the end. There is no guarantee. This is a trial. These signs only show that you are currently seen as a candidate. And that is a good thing.
It hurts to see things this dumb.
It almost seems as if women are Always testing men in one way or another. No matter how subtle or innocent their gestures may be, if a man doesn't ALWAYS respond "perfectly" to every one, he's S.O.L. Apparently he can NEVER show any sign of unsureadness or insecurity no matter what; regardless of what he may have experienced in the past. It's like men are never allowed to make mistakes; especially if they're not "Chads" who can do whatever because they're a "Chad". (Treat a woman like dirt, as if they're just another notch on their bed post but don't CARE ABOUT them one iota, etc)
Hey Courtney, happy new year! Can you make a video on keeping a date conversation romantic, especially when the vibe is turning a bit platonic ?
I could definitely do something like that!
Our society has been dramatically changed. We can no longer rely on this kind of advice. At one point not too long ago it would've been great advice but in a post me-II age where women brag about setting up men (foodie calls, gym creeps, etc) or men being publicly blasted as creeps & SA for misreading these "hints" it's just too far gone.
It's long past time you ladies "man up" and put yourselves on the block. Stop with the hints & use your words, maybe after a few years of that y'all will finally understand what it's like for us & maybe then we can start meeting each other halfway. As things are it's just too risky.
In most cases it is true. Some women, however, are more than obvious in showing their interest. Regarding physical contact (touches, etc) it is a bit harder for me to figure out true intentions as I am deeply into social dancing, and there's plenty of physical interaction even between strangers.
The issue I see with these subtle hints tho is, that this mostly is how I interact with my male and female friends casually. That is exactly why in my opinion women need to be more up forward. I understand the fear of rejection, but by being this defensive, they will likely create the rejection they fear. But I appreciate your insight on that, interesting to know. It might just be my preference, but I'm not attracted to women who lack the confidence to make the first move anyways. Also the touches often require explanation by me, because whether I step back or not has nothing to do with attraction or the lack of it. I just don't like to be touched. As you said "... without putting herself in a vulnerable position" and that is what she does wrong. There is no real connection to be built without vulnerability. It is ok, that not every woman is bold about showing interest, but she might not be my type then. I require directness, because I know that a) I'm direct and b) I'm even worse than most at reading subtle signs. I remember a situation from a party a few years ago, where a classmate asked if I wanted to sleep with her and I totally missed the context and fell asleep. I require the directness and clarity I provide myself or we are not compatible on that level.
Women aren't subtle. If she likes you, you're going to know. Anything less than her caressing you shows complete lack of interest and her being polite
There's a lady i sometimes meet walking her dog, she shows all these signs, secretly I'm crazy about her, the only thing holding me back is a small circle of gold on my ring finger..
I met this girl when i went out with my sisters group to celebrate new years. I felt like we had chemistry and at the end of the night i dropped her off at her place, before she left i asked her if she was single which turned into some kissing. In the end i asked for her number she said that she wasnt on the market and that she would get it from some of our mutual.
I really like this girl and would love some advice from you. Keep up the good work.
Most times to truly get any female's attention, you need to run, don't walk.
Best advice.😄❤️🔥🌟
I'm curious, has anyone (male) ever actually experienced any of these supposed signs and acted upon them with success?
I've worked in female-dominated workspaces (hospitals) for 15 years and never picked up anything. But maybe I'm just super oblivious. Well, or unattractive :)
Happy new year to you and your loved ones dear Courtney, the sound of your voice is so calming and relaxing; you’ve been a source of inspiration for me. You’re a true classy woman
I get these unmistakable ques from married women and will not respond to them. Some are from women I do not find attractive, and also do not respond. Guess I have to lower my standards....
Appreciate all you do Courtney, went through a breakup 4 months ago and some of your old videos were a great help
Sorry to hear about your breakup but I’m glad my videos helped. Hope your 2025 is great! ❤️
Best sign I've had is once she made it so obvious she just pushed her bag into my hands to look after & gave me a look & bought drinks came back said that's for u & place it right next to hers we chatted then snogged & after a while her mates wanted to go they left after we swapped numbers & she got home called me to let me no she was home safe & we chatted a good 15mins maybe more & the next day chatted again made plans to meet that wkend never heard from her close too the time though & went out the following wk she was in same place we chatted again couldn't keep are hands off each other then her mates pulled her away & I seen they was the problem they didn't like her not being single I think as she did exactly the same once she left called again but after that never heard back for a few wks then she called & pretended it was a wrong number weird so left it after that even though seen her a few times while out just was polite & didn't let her snog me as seen she wouldn't tell her mates & I heard she was really keen also maybe 1 of her mates liked her & was jealous I don't no
Thank you for letting me know that in general no women actually has been interested in me
Courtney you're freaking AWESOME! I'm a huge fan of your content! You've helped me understand how both women and men think in relationships and body language! You're a blessing for men and women all over the world! Keep up the great work! Happy New Year! Much love! 😃
Can 100% confirm all of these are true. There's a man I really like and want to get to know better, but I don't feel comfortable being direct about it because I'm not super attractive. Mentioning potential places we could go or things we could do together is the best way I can test the waters and see if he really wants to spend time with me.
thats pretty much asking for a low-key date lol
In the first 3 mins youre assuming the guy and girl are already talking to each other and that the girl has taken the initiative. If this is the case you dont need "signs" she likes you. why wait for signs and not just go in...?
We need to know these things. Thanks.
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And this is why I just don't care anymore. There was a woman that even had a nickname for me. She had a ring on her left hand which means off limits right? Well, it turns out she was not married. I'm sorry but wearing a ring on that finger will only turn away people who would be good for them, and attract bad people who see it as a challenge.
I have had more experience with "subtle things women do to show a man they are not interested LOL.
Oh life is hard.
I got very good at seeing those signs, but unfortunately, I have accidentally tuned out the very rare signs of interest.
in the early 1990s, I was a one-person accounting department for a small governmental agency. A new employee ("Beverly") was introduced to everyone on her first day. She looked at me as a starving six-year-old boy would look at a banana split. I will admit she had pretty blue eyes. But the rest? Yeah right, short (I'm 6'4"), at least 30 pounds overweight (uh uh) & curly red hair that didn't quite reach her shoulders (strike three), the antithesis of "my type." Said "welcome," shook her hand, & went back to work.
The next day, she came to my office with a piece of green accounting paper with a column of ~25 numbers. Said she had added the numbers three times & got three different answers. She obviously was unable to work a 10-key calculator by touch, pretty much day one of Accountant school stuff. I started rapidly adding the numbers without looking at the keys. She said, "Ooh Baby!" I just laughed it off. Added down the column, then up the column. Got the same answer both times. Just to make sure, I then checked the list against the first tape I ran. Everything was copacetic. Handed her paper back to her & said, "You can keep the tape." Didn't even want to write on her paper.
Two days later, I brought my (beautiful, tall, slender, long blonde hair) girlfriend (she worked close by) to the office & introduced them. Blue eyes...any similarity ended right there. Said to my GF "I'll walk you back to your office," put my arm around her shoulder, & kissed her on the side of her head. She gave me an odd look. I explained (after we left my building) that Beverly gave me the eye et al. She had also said a few flirtatious things (which I brushed/laughed off), which I didn't see any sense in mentioning. Even though she was the jealous type, she burst out laughing. As in, "She thinks you'd go for her. Yeah right!" Even if I were single, they do not manufacture enough Tullamore Dew Irish Whiskey LOL
The "mic drop" was not a commonly used term back then. But that's basically what I gave Beverly ROFLMAO
She got the message. She never said anything nearly that "friendly" again the rest of our time there. Fortunately, our work paths rarely crossed. I left ~a year later for a better job.
That said, at least she was more direct than most women I've met. I admire her Courage, her willingness to "take that chance."
If a girl is interested, she can just tell me that she is interested. Why must they always play games. Then they are cross ig the men miss the clues. Just a reminder to all women. I am not a mind reader. I wish I was sometimes, as it would clarify a lot of things for me.
Its so much easier just to say how you feel. If you can not, then just send a text message, or write a letter, telling him how you feel.
Happy New Year Courtney 🎊 You and this channel have grown so much since when you first started. So happy for you. One million on the way soon. Thank you for all the fun and informative videos 🙏🏾
@6:50 - be careful with physical touch! This could be a sign that she's an attention seeker, and does this with everyone or is trying to manipulate you. Be still and watch what she actually does ~ you might be surprised.. 😯
Another great video, Courtney. I noticed that I downplay compliments sometimes. Good tip and Happy New Year 🎉
Happy new year! This channel has truly been a help to many. Looking forward to more videos and 1 million subs!
Happy new year Courtney!🎉🎉.
Same to you!
Hi Courtney!
Happy New Year!! Hope that you and your husband have a happy and prosperous 2025!
Thank you so much, same wishes to you! ❤️
It is interesting when women do any of these queues to you on the job.
2 and 6 are the numbers the stylist at one of the salons did to me last July.
I have a friend who does many of these things with me yet I am married. So, I wasn't sure whether she was sending me signals or just being super friendly as we are close friends. I wondered whether these actions are involuntary or she knows what she's doing?
All these signs are almost useless as they can do this without having interest so if she cannot say it then forget it
Ahhhh...I've missed so many subtle things in my adult life in regards women. I'm 46 now and still single because I don't trust my own instincts, and/or see the subtle query. I feel like I need sledgehammer. But I may be just on a path of my own now.
It's ironic a lot of the things you've said i do myself, although I've had women that i know like me, do the same thing spontaneously, like making jokes whilst making direct eye contact, to see my reaction.
Hey yall it’s 2025 time to get after it, ask her out if she’s spoken for find another women you are genuinely interested in go go go! Through god?? We’re suppose to be family men let’s get this going guys & im a 4 year plus follower of this family country and her podcasts are awesome let’s take this knowledge and move forward
This has been a particularly helpful video. Maybe its the timing but i think i am getting some of these cues at the moment so I'm going to lean into that.
We dont care anymore! Not playing your games anymore! Accept it cuz its not going back!
I'm starting to think after 17 years of marriage, 2 kids, 2 different houses and 2 dogs that my wife might kind of be into me. But since I'm a man I'm still not sure.
If the woman you do want isn’t showing you any signs at all guys just pull out a big stack of money from your pocket right in front of her.. if her eyes light up you’re in business! She’ll be giving you signs you can’t miss😂.. of course your relationship might be short and will be based off you spending on her. But what else is new?🤣
Could "downplaying" a compliment also be seen as being more humble? Does it usually imply insecurity? I know it's hard to speak for all women, but how often do they assume insecurity?
I woman "liked" me. All signs: wanted to spend time with, etc..., but one thing that she likes to use is silent treatment and bachanded compliment. So i ghosted her.
All of this is good stuff BUT it can all be her checking out if the man is a Simp/Sukkah, clueless, easily manipulated and dumb with money. 🙄 I'm just saying. Don't expect all women to be so authentic, such assumptions makes an ass of you.
Maybe you're an a** and she doesn't know it yet.
Women are going to be very disappointed with the Reactions to their subtitle hints. It’s too easy to misinterpret these hints and get accused or made fun of. Most men are noticing them but simply letting these hints pass unanswered. I certainly have on one or two rare occasions. Women banking on these type of hints are not wife material anyway.