My husband passed on Oct 20, We have been together for 27 years . He was only 49 yrs. I’m lost and don’t know what to do without him. I’m sad that I can’t appreciate or enjoy anything anymore.
@@gmmprado7 I also lost a 49 yr old husband after 27 years together, and I like you, am lost and don't enjoy much, in fact, don't care much for life any more. I hope time will help heal us. I hold you in my heart.
To all who recently lost wife or husband you can't explain the hurt involved in losing the one you spent your life with cuz it was two entertained lives now we have to survive and thrive without them it's hard but we will get thru this one who knows love to all who grieve
So sorry for your loss, I lost my husband 7.5 years ago and it is heartbreaking, it took 7.5 years for my heart shattered into a million pieces. Nothing felt right. I wanted to be with him in heaven where he was 😊
I hear you, my wife of 20 years unexpectedly died from a mild flu just four months ago on 1/5/24. Still doesn't make sense, she just went to take a nap and didn't wake up. I've broken more than 20 bones if you count fingers and toes, had several surgeries, had over a hundred non-surgical stitches, spent close to two years on crutches if you add it up but I've never felt wounded before. This grief stuff sucks more than anything I've experienced before. Trying to explain to a special needs child that Mama is never coming home again is a type of pain that I didn't even know existed. I do hope that you are finding some peace. In an ocean of FUBAR I'm still looking for the shores of SNAFU.
I lost my husband of 64 years . Sitting on the sofa and watching a movie together ..he turns to me and was trying to speak . He looked into my eyes and said Connie i love u so much and u.have made me very happy for all those years. I kissed him and he slump ed over me and passed. I could n believe what had happened it came rather quickly .death waits for no one . iam so sad and everday.i try to go on and cry where i can hardly see through my tears .
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
Hi Connie, my husband of 22 yrs died on Sept 1, 2022 just 5 months ago. We were in bed laying down he was showing me pictures looking @ his phone & he kissed me twice then all of a. sudden said I have to throw up & just like that it was over. I can say to keep GOD CLOSE. I'm so sorry for your loss & I feel your pain 💔 to this day I still can't believe he is gone & in the beginning you get all this support then even that fades away but GOD never leaves 🙏 I hope & pray for strength for you, me & everyone out there has lost a spouse. No one knows how it feels till it happens to them . Just take it one dat at a time. GOD BLESS YOU.
I am so, so sorry. I just lost my husband of almost 40 years. Our anniversary is less than a month away. I am hurting so bad I don't know how anyone can live through this pain. I just want to say I understand and though I don't know how to help, I am truly sorry you are feeling this pain, too.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
I just lost my husband a month ago to cancer! In a 3 month time limit ..he was gone..We we,re married 32 years and known each other 47 years..he was my soul mate..I,m really struggling with it...Nobody knows what it,s like until it happens to you....
Hi Monique I too lost my husband to cancer in only 3 months. He also was my best friend and soulmate. You are now part of a group know one wants to be part of. One day at a time. Live the life he would of wanted for you. He's watching over you.❣
Hi Monique. I feel you. I also lost my husband to a a rare kind of blood cancer almost 3 months ago now. He was very healthy, don’t like eating junk foods/fast food, very optimistic, full of life, very kind and generous guy, he was only 38. 😔 I am still in disbelief. I feel so lost without him. Cancer is such a nasty, nasty disease.
@@meeshterious8644 HI! I,m so sorry for your lost! Yes, i,m also still in disbelief....Everyday I get this little reminder...that he,s not around anymore! But I have to remember he,s not in pain anymore...I hope you,re doing ok ..and hang in there..and remember he,s still around you but in a different way!
Hi Monique. There us only comfort in knowing you are not alone. I found solace in going to a medium. My husband came through loud and clear with every thing he ran out of time to say.
@@kathyporto3705 HI! I went to a medium! And everything she told me was spot on! Things the medium could,nt have known..he even wanted me to listen to a song that he thought was meant for us..the reading gave me comfort!
@Chris Johnson thank you for your kind words and wanting to reach out to me but I would rather not at this time. You are so kind and I’m so very sorry for your loss. You never know how one feels until you go through it yourself. So many people going through this. Heart broken for all.
@Chris Johnson no thank you. I have family and plan on going to a support group. I am not one to reach out to people I don't know online. It's just a crazy world out there and people should be more careful. Again thank you but I would rather not.
My Husband died 4 months ago and my Doctor thinks I should be ok. After 45 years I can’t understand this. I don’t know about the stages of grief I just know I’m getting worse. I’m not angry, never bargained, I’m just lost and lonely.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
The doctor thinks that because they might not have experienced it themselves. People who haven’t experienced it have no idea. Talking to people who’ve been through it is more helpful than listening to doctors. Or well meaning friends or even family who frankly don’t get it. Lots of areas have group therapy sessions where you can talk to others who have lost their partners.
@@dmmcmah1 I must agree with you so strongly. I lost my soul mate of 60 years to cancer a few months ago. Unless someone (including your doctor) has gone through the loss of a spouse, he/she has only education to advise from. I believe that they can be confidently ignored - such doctors can only imagine the pain of grieving.- your peers in grief will be far more understanding as I have discovered many times.
I lost my wife to cancer a year ago (Oct 31, 2022). In this past year, I have learned a lot about grief--most of it firsthand, and this guy, Paul Hill, is a perfect example of what so many of us have experienced: academics who really don't know what they're talking about when it comes to grief. His answer to the question of, how long does grief last (3:30) is completely wrong. When you lose your spouse, that grief will last the rest of your life! You don't "move on" or "get over it." You simply get to the point where you have more good days than bad. This is why there are so few good, qualified grief therapists out there. Most of them learned from guys like this.
My husband passed 2 years ago and I am still in deep grief. I don't think anyone can put a time limit on it. Grief and pain come from their loss but also from your struggles afterward financially, and just going forward.
I am so sorry for your heartbreak!! I lost my husband almost 2 years ago and I can’t believe this is my life now without my dear husband. I hurt so much and I miss him terribly!! Hang in there, doing one day at a time…
My husband died 4 years ago. Each day I wake with a pit in my stomach. I miss him so much , I cannot explain. It hasn't changed. I will miss him and grieve him until the day I die. I cannot find the words to express my pain.
Hi Denise I too was widowed unexpectedly. He was diagnosed with cancer and gone in 3 months. I kept him home with me and became his nurse.. We had just retired. Heartbroken with the loss of my best friend and soulmate.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
42 yrs old lost my wife 11 days ago to cancer in a span of 2 months Im in complete shock we hhave 3 kids 2 youngest are girls. Lost for words truly have no want to get up in morning. Cant believe she is gone bn together since we were in 17 in highschool. Have never lived as adult without her Lord guide my steps cuz i dont know what to do
I'm so sorry. I've been with my wife since we were in high school as well and this is my biggest fear. I am praying for you and I hope you find peace soon. I'm also praying for your children.
As a person who lost a spouse of 34 years I found flaws in this discussion. It seemed the answers and advice were very trite. Anyone who is grieving knows that grief doesn’t disappear after any specific time. It’s like a tide, it ebbs and flows. What is most difficult for older persons who are widowed is that you don’t have the same social interactions and ability to blend in with others as younger widows/widowers do. As a senior you are much more likely to be isolated. Even if you had a strong social life suddenly you’re the “odd one out”. It feels odd to be in social situations where everyone else has a partner. That wasn’t mentioned at all in this video.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
I lost my spouse of 41 years (36 of them married). she lost her battle with cancer 7 years ago. I still cannot get any inner comfort or happiness, even though I have more than enough of everything.....but the most important thing is missing....and no matter what everyone says, I live in a dazed mood! I cannot get to grips with this.
Very true. I was afraid that i may forget my loveable husband. After reading your msg i feel good that we cannot forget our life and lead a normal life
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
I’m so sorry for your tremendous loss. It never goes away, but it does become tolerable. It sounds like you could benefit from some counseling and maybe a group to meet with once or twice a week. Sometimes we get stuck and need some help and comfort to get us to the next plateau. It’s especially hard when we’re older as there doesn’t seem to be many programs for us. You might call your local hospice and ask them for resources. Tell them you have been suffering a long time. They can be very helpful. Please. Don’t give up. There is help and relief for your pain.
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
After 60yearsof marriage it’s being left alone that’s hard to be without your spouse I’m not getting over it even after 7years. Now I’m 85yrs old and my health is going down. Which makes it even worse we were always there for each other. Now I’m so alone my kids are there but it’s not the same they have their own problems. I can only pray And I do.
Yes. No one and nothing can take my precious husband's place. I feel like I died, but still forced to live. It feels like I'll never be happy again. I can only take it moment by moment, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day with God's help. If I died tonight I'd be happy.
I lost my dear husband 5 months ago and each day and night without him is heart-breaking.. we were still so much in love and he also was my carer. Not that we did not have our trials but as Christian’s we were able to pray together and know the lords will. Now I am still so much in grief but also know the Lord never makes a mistake so❤ knowing that I must have His strength in all my weakness, I cry for His help every day . I need to carry on however lonely I feel.
.y husband passed 2 1/2 yrsa ago and I'm still lost . He was my soulmate .my best friend , I get lonely for him each day , I still Love him with everything in me , I talk abt him often , I'm really just living and know that he wouldn't want me to stop trying ! That kind of Love only comes once in a lifetime . I'm waiting to meet him again 😭😭❤️
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I am 52 my wife died 6 months ago and she was my whole world and I am so devastated I can barely function I don’t know how to cope we were together 35 years
I lost my husband of 22 yrs on November 14 it happened so sudden I’ve known him for 33 yrs I’m so lost without him I feel like I’ll never be the same again I lost my soul mate my best friend 💔 I still can’t believe he’s gone and never coming back 😢
My wife passed in June 2022 after 26 years with MS. I was her carer for almost all that time. Being a full time carer for so long significantly affected my health. I had a heart attack, 90% blocked and I had pneumonia. But I keep very well now and I am very grateful for that. But I am gay and my wife knew that, and was completely accepting of me and my gay friends. I am not looking for a boyfriend/husband. Too old now. So my grieving is different. It is a great relief to no longer be in a mixed orientation marriage of 51 years. I was a Baptist Pastor and missionary years ago but I've been told I am not welcome to even attend church. I never was. I do get lonely at times. My kids are very accepting and even said if I found a boyfriend and wanted to marry him, they would be totally accepting. That meant a lot. They live fairly closeby but are very busy with their own lives. I hardly ever see them. I do exercise a lot and walk about 11,000 steps each day.
I just lost my husband of 15 years, 12 days ago from cancer, he is my entire life & my life purpose. Suddenly he is gone & I am not just at a lost but shell shocked. Eventhough I know that one day I will lose him, it's still very difficult to accept him not being with me anymore.
1:15 I am 56 years old and I lost my husband 34 days ago. This has been an exceptionally hard week because it's been one month and this week was our 24th anniversary. I hope that it gets better.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Lost my spouse yesterday 02/12/2022, we been together 30+ years. 16 days in ICU, he didn't make it. COVID related. I feel like Im dead inside. He was great 1 month ago. Now he's gone. He just gone. It hurts. It really hurts
My wife was in ICU after heart surgery, in which after never woke up after five weeks, they just couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t waking up, but she was getting worst, with infection and fungus infection, they said that even if she did wake she would not ,be the same person as she was, so they asked me what she want done and I know she would not want to go through this, cause in 1983 she Hodgkin and survived that with radiation for 5 weeks , but had a great life of 42 years with us being together, and she said that before her surgery, does make it any easier thinking about that. I hope you can make it through this ALL the BEST
Cam feel for you...we are together in this journey...lost my hubby to covid last year Feb...todate i just dont understand...its like the world has turned up side down...my friend my everything that i lost...i am paining everyday...
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
My husband of 47 years died in 2020. Unfortunately, Covid means that group activities even group counselling are curtailed which has compounded the grieving process. The new normal, is difficult to do. I had to have trauma counselling because of the nature of my husband’s death, but this could only be done online, no group sessions, no meeting up. It was a lonely, emotional and painful experience. Loss at this awful pandemic time makes the pain of loss even acuter. My thoughts are with those who are going through bereavement at this very difficult time. Keep strong, we’ll get through. Mary Scott
I'm so sorry Mary my husband died 10 months ago. Diagnosed with cancer and gone in 3 months. We had just retired. I kept him home with me through it all. I also had grief counseling. We are in a group know one wants to be part of.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
@@lindaagee5880 I have been grieving for only 4 months for my wife of 56 years - this thought that it will last forever scares me so much. I want my "forever" to be soon as I see no way out of the pain.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my wife to cancer after close to 27 years of marriage and 30 years of knowing her as a wonderful person. We were very much in love when cancer stroke our family. For me losing her has been an incredible loss. I watched this interview with great attention. Since my wife passed I have been blogging about my feelings, my relationship with my wife, and our story. Writing feels like opening a window and talking to the world without paying attention to who is listening. Writing is emotional and it makes me remember episodes of our lives, sad and happy. After I post a story, I read and it feels like watching a movie where with my wife as the main character. Sometimes I wonder if this is healthy for me but one thing I can tell you: I love writing these stories!
My husband of 10 years is dying of cancer, they are giving him 2 weeks tops left. I have been an artist my whole life and lately drawing non stop. I think I understand why I do that now after reading what you said.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
José, writing is very healthy. After almost three years of losing my sweet wife of 37 years I still write her and it turned into a podcast called "Love Letters to Pam". I also have some of the messages on our RUclips channel. It's called "Traveling with Jack and Pam". Or you may be able to click our picture here and go direct to site.
I was 30 when my husband of 12 years was killed and me and our daughter was attacked over and over again for years. The horrific crime brought intense fear into me and my family. Now after 19 years, I'm finally ready to start grieving. Prayers 🙏🏼❤
death is real ..wht people don't do is talk abt it..then when its upon u its too overwhelmin to explain. u are in your feelings which can't express since 1st time grievin. can't make sense of too much. u only know how u feel ...terrible...sad.. no comfort..new normal is not easy since its new and not normal since a shock emotionally sudden people that subtract from life is wantin a replacement...only God can supply.. the Peace is with him....another person is still not long enuf...God is permanent... death waits for no one it just happens...never get use to it when its your turn since no warnin...GOD got the advantage and even God no matter how close u are with Him... u feel lost for a reason . lettin u know how much u need Him. God can fill any void... who but God
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I lost my husband a week ago bcoz of cancer..we had hopes that he will recover but suddenly it was already complicated.until now i still cant accept losing my husband. We were together for 18 years.. its really hard though
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I was widowed in October 2023 and deal with my grief by talking out loud to my husband. I say goodmorning and if I see something on TV that we would have talked about I comment as though he was still with me and always use his name.
Sorry my gal,,10 year ago I lost mine too...talking to yourself alittle in the mirror is ok,especially to encourage yourself to keep going,,laughing alittle even while cry alittle that it will be ok by and by ,take one day at a time
My daughter who is only 43 lost her husband in a fishing boat accident and the body was never recovered. Is suffering so much with everything they have 3 teen girls. She has shut all of us in the immediate family out except a half sister who doesnt help her attitude. She is clinging to so much negative things and ideas. Im her mother we enjoyed so much together before this happened. And most of the time she is angry and has never been like that before. She has a doom and gloom and talks about taking her whole life. She is set financially and has so much to look forward to with her daughters. I try to just listen. She makes so many agreious outrageously un true comments. And blames so .many people me and other family members especially. Hard to hear and we all feel helpless.
MY HUSBAND PASSED ON JULY 7TH 4 YEARS AGO. WE WERE MARRIED 70 YEARS. I MISS HIM DEARLY. HE IS ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS, ALWAYS WITH ME IN MY HEART. THINKING POSITIVE IN MY ,LOSS. WONDERFUL YEARS TOGETHER BLESSED TO HAVE HAD THEM.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Bs about men take grief harder than women I grieve every day and it is still raw even after 2yrs feels like it just happened I went thru 2 sessions of griefshare helped but only God has helped me
Human beings are extremely I recently lost my wife and all I want is to be with her on the other side. All the things that I enjoyed the memories that I have while she was here none of that means anyting I only long to be with her on the other side. Human beings are so arrogant to think that they can explain how a person feels or what the solution is the loss of a loved one or a spouse.
Lost my husband in May 2019. The love of my life married 27 years found him in the morning on our kitchen floor of a massive heart attack. I'm so lost miss u my love everyday 🙏💙💔
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I know dear I lost my husband 4 months ago we were married 51 yrs. He also passed from cancer he was 73 the loneliness an I’m having a very hard time so don’t feel alone. The hurt never ends!
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I lost my husband of 64 years on Sept 25, 2021 and also my 58 year old son.I struggle day by day I know it will not end the grief and you do not get over it. My heart is broken, so much of my family gone for now and I do believe to be with them in the hereafter but how do Ilive
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
Yes, me too. She liked a particular type of swiss cheese that was kept in a separate cooling display at the grocery store. During the months of chemo that she could still eat I would buy some for her. Now when I walk past that display it stares at me, full of cheeses still, but empty somehow.
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
My husband of almost 68 years died 8 months ago after years of gradually increasing, multiple health problems. After the dr told us she could do no more for him, he/we elected to go the hospice route. I know he is finally at peace and he is in heaven with the son we lost 7 years ago, but I never realized how much it would hurt my heart. I miss him so much. It was a double whammy after the loss of our son. I am going to a grief group but it still hurts so much. It's worse in the evening, no one to share things with.
My husband passed away 4 months ago we were married 47 years. I'm so lost , my everyday routine is messed up. I make myself get up in the morning and I struggle to do things I use to love to do is clean or go anywhere. I'm so scared I won't be able to pay bills by myself. Night time is the worst ,I need the TV on or a light on ,just makes me feel safe and knowing that I'm not alone. I worry about the house and when something happens to the appliances or anything outside. I want my Husband to be Proud of me. He was my Rock . RIP my love 🕊️🌷💔❤️
@@theresahubert1580 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Youuuuu,,yours is not yet,keep living God at work even now..He did not allow you die together so your time not yet,,keep moving keep living one day at a time
I lost my wife of 53 years, after she battled cancer for 18 months... during that time I selfish asked God to take me, and let her heal... I don't see myself getting over this till the day I pass...
I lost my husband this past January. We were also married 53 years. He had severe fronto temporal dementia. I am totally lost without him. God gets me through each day.
Well actually you can I know both scenarios and there certainly is grief loss. The isolation the pain and trying to fit into a world where couples stay clear its heartbreaking to see. Instead of being invited into the circle you are a reminder of what can happen and people are uneasy that it could very well happen to them.
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
It’s been close to 40 years for us been together. My heart will be truly broken and will die from a broken heart cause our children never ever help us so if he passes I know our kids will put me into a home. But if I go first they will leave there father in the home. I’m wheelchair bound. I’m in my 58 th year and husband is 66 now and we are struggling a lot. We have asked for there help and we have been told NO because they have there own homes and if we can’t take care of our home then we need to move closer to town. As a young person I would have been there for my family.
Strength and love to all of you. I do know now how it feels and how tough it can get, as i no longer take care of myself. It has taught me a lot, seeking and finding no help. I have no answers though.
Just lost my husband my best friend 2 weeks ago. I’m soooo lonely. I have 2 boys to raise now. I’m scared. I’m mad he left me. But I know this is my new life now and for the sake of my boys I must take on this new role of a single mom and raise my kids the way he would want me to. I’m taking it one day at a time. I’m going to start a journal to express my feelings. Praying for everyone who is going through this struggle.
I’m so sorry for your loss my husband passed on 6-10-24 and I am lost and we bury him Tuesday I have so many emotions at once. I have to take care of me and my son now and I can’t get his social security until I am 60. I am 49 and angry with the world
The 5 stages mentioned are for a person who is dying, not a person who is grieving. I hate that people keep getting this wrong. It's a disservice to those who grieve.
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
@@Raminakai Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
I feel your pain, Ryan. My wife of 56 years marriage died of ovarian cancer on 25 May 2024. When I say I know how you feel - it because I am there with you in grief.
I lost my husband last August 21 we had just been married 51 I’m so lost without him I know he was very I’ll Parkinson’s and dementia but feel so lost without him I just can’t seem to move on I miss him so much I really don’t want to be here 😢😢😢
I lost my husband last j 01/26/2022 from Parkinson and dementia and watched his health decline for sometime and was so hard to watch. I have good days but also bad days. I take one day at a time ...
@@pamelabarsness9654 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I lost my husband of 59 a week ago. Suddenly, just in one moment, he was gone. We have been together since we were seventeen, married for 32 years. It hurts me so much and it gets harder every day.I don't know how to go on without him. He was my husband, my best friend, my support, the rock on which I stand. How to endure this much pain?
Lost my husband 4 years ago I moved house and to the south island but I don't see my small family as they are working two hours away. Covid made it hard when I had so much to sell and donate to shift. Lost a lot selling house in a falling market, I have hobbies but I no longer belong to anything. It's hard sorting out tech things dealing with lawyer and land agents. You don't get invited to anything being alone. Living alone I had to get lawn man in and expenses are worse lucky I saved for a rainy day. I don't sleep well lost two stone in weight. Hubby was bed ridden with cancer. It has taken its toll on my health. 46 years married and ran a business which I had to sell. It was hard leaving my handicapped son now in care.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. March 18 is my birthday and my wife's birthday was on March 3. I lost her March 27, 2022. I feel like I am in the twilight zone. I am lost without her. I miss her and miss everything I did with her and for her. I pray daily and I try to stay positive. It is difficult. No one can say anything to make it better.
@@enriqueamar1964 March 8th was our wedding anniversary....I'm very sorry for your loss. Some how some way we must keep going, hopefully time will heal us....but we will never forget the love lost.
@@dennyray3532 hi I know just how you feel I lost my husband February 7 2022 unexpectedly I woke up that morning but he did not im am so lost and lonely with him I have some good days but is birthday was April 1 and I've been so depressed since then all I do is cry
@@barbaraboudreau7870 I guess there are so many of us lost in heartache of a love lost. I've been to my wife grave so many times talking to her. I pray she hears me and knows how much I love her ❤
@@dennyray3532 hi Denny beleive she hears you my husband was cremated and I have his ashes home with me I talk to him every day I hope u beleive in signs I get signs alot from my husband so I know they hear us you just have to look for them I have a dove that comes by and sits on my windowsill every now and then since I lived here a bird has never set on my windowsill sill just ask your wife to send you a sign that she hears you and watch for something you never seen before please beleive she hears you this is the worst thing I've gone through I dont eat I can't sleep and I cry myself to sleep most nights
I lost my husband after two decades of his alzheimers-type dementia and Parkinsons. He could no longer move himself from recliner to wheelchair. So there was a mixture of grief and relief. At 84, I find that this relief is quite common among us older folks. Grief is not constant. It comes and goes, for years. Men don’t take it harder than women! They just handle it differently.
Me too marsha i had 50 years with my wonderful husband he was 70 no age in these times he had a horrible time i couldn't believe my strength but now 9 months in im struggling too my heart goes out to all us Ladies and gents especially this time of year ❤❤❤❤
I loss my finances on June 15,2023 it happened so fast. Of Heart attack with no pain. The only thing was he got light headed and little dizzy get up off the couch. He was only 59 years old. And we was together for 4 years. I have be crying every day now. Wish he was with me. Every day. And wish there was a sign. So I could of got him to the emergency room. I am so heart broken 💔 and wish we could turn back too the day before it happened so I could have him check out. I guess that mitt been the sign. I really don't know for sure. Never went through it. I just wish he would got him self help. I try get him too go to the doctor or hospital but he would not go. And now I been hurting now. And the bad thing is I won't get too see him because his brother took him all the way to phoenix arizona and I live in Missouri. I am so sad that it I new that would of happen we would of be married. Did have a said. And with he keep saying too me don't let me have heart attack before we get married that's been in my mind after it happened. That's why I wish he got help. But now I can't get that out my head. I keep thinking about that over and over.
A therapist said this, and it helped me. Grief is not necessarily something you can/should/will get over. When you feel the sadness, express it and give it its due, then continue on with your day/life, until the next time. I could be my truest self with my spouse, and I miss that very much. Also, they knew my history and my family who have passed, and I did not have to explain things/those people to them. With people new to me, I want that to be the start of the relationship, I don't want to pedal backward.
My wife has stage 3 breast cancer, I went through a 3 year battle with bladder cancer during COVID. It’s been very hard for both of us. we’ve been married 43 years.
Lost my true souls mate (husband) mar 2 due to cardiac arrest. It happened in our living room 1 hr after he had just had physical therapy at home, spent 10 days in cardiac icu to see if he could come back, but that just wasn’t the case. I had to let him go on mar 2. 😢 we were married for 25 yrs and were inseparable. There are days I’m just so sad I want to stay away from ppl. Then there are days I don’t know how I’m feeling. I’m just in a fog. Hurts so bad, I miss him so so much. 💔
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
@@richardmcguinn732 Thank you for taking the time to share that with me I’m sorry it took so long for me to get back to you because I don’t normally communicate with RUclips,I am so sorry to hear about the pain that you have been through as well❤️🩹Grief has no discrimination it’s been 18 months now it is not easier but it is different God bless you and thank you for sharing with me
@@lonibennett6124 You’re absolutely welcome Lori. And thank you very much for taking your time in replying again okay. I hope you’ve found peace and happiness once again after everything you’ve been through?
I lost my husband 4 months I took care of him till he died he had cancer we were married for 55 years 💔 I miss him very much and I will always love him till I die
My husband passed away 3 months ago from cancer. I can relate to many people here who feel lost and are experiencing extreme pain. I’m having difficulty just doing my day to day routines. He was my everything. I prefer to stay huddled in the corner of my bed. I do make an effort when friends come by and they usually say I’m doing ‘very well’. There are others who preach religion and there’s a reason blah blah blah. I prefer not to be around them. Unless that person has experienced a similar loss, it’s best I think, that they not offer platitudes or explanations. It’s just empty words to me.
Saying A memory triggers emotion for a short time is soo blunt and untrue. The raw unremitting pain that can be unleashed and last for well over three days... is not a short time and is not to dismissed lightly.
I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband passed 4 months ago and I still cry and ask why.. The only thing we can do is grieve, it’s a process and I don’t think we can rush it. Cry, scream ask questions…whatever you feel. You have to take time to grieve and take one day at a time.
@@donnagoines7319 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Instead of a percentage, you can get the number count, which end of 2017 was 11 MILLION widows and 3+ Million widowers. I think that puts it better in perspective.
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I lost my husband last month to cancer and I’m struggling. I can’t concentrate at work, I cry everyday. I hate the word “new normal”. I’m completely heart broken. I loved my husband so much. 💔
My wife of 20 years unexpectedly died just over four months ago from a mild flu. She was feeling a bit under the weather and went to take a nap, she didn't wake up, she was 52. The first month was brutal. February and March I thought I was doing well. I did the guy thing and made my checklist and attacked the problem. I read 3 books, joined a weekly spousal loss group, watched dozens of videos. We have a special needs child, so I was being strong and maintaining normalcy for him. Then in April I was organizing her clothes for her friends to pick through and donate the rest to the battered womens shelter when I came across a ratty old T-shirt that said 'Boy Mom' on it. It smelled like her, I wasn't ready for that. She was always told that she couldn't have children so she was so excited and proud when we had our son. The smell put me back into January. I didn't realize that my checklist and dealing with things 'like a man' was a form of denial. I really thought that I was doing well. But that smell triggered memories and emotions that really kicked me where it counts. So I'm picking up the pieces again and starting from the beginning. Grief really sucks. It's probably the only thing that I've experienced that I can honestly say that I hate. I've broken a couple of dozen bones if you include fingers and toes, I've burst an appendix, I've had multiple surgeries, spent two years on crutches, etc, but I've never felt wounded until this. Not a fan of this grief crap. Don't get me started on the widow brain stuff. Can't focus, can't remember stuff, can't think clearly, this grief stuff can byte me.
My husband died 7 months ago. He was diagnosed with cancer and gone in 3 months. We had just retired. I had also lost my in laws just before that. I feel so shredded. Lost in who I even am.
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I’m dreading these moments, I have been with my husband since I was 18 and he was 26. It tears me apart but I’m the one with bad health and hope and pray I go first. I don’t want to lose my rock, my soulmate, my lover and best friend. I don’t want to feel that pain in my heart. I live with CRPS and he has been my caregiver since 2009. I can never ever see myself living without him.
I lost my husband over 6 years ago and I still cry every single day and my heart breaks every single day the he is gone I miss him more than life itself I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without him
I am sorry for the loss of your father. Thank you for sharing this. Praying you find a way to share your feelings about your dad, and the ways his love impacted your life.
I find this discussion to be superficial, at best. Grief NEVER goes away. And to quantify its span is irresponsible. People are looking for an end to it. Speak to the fact that there may not be an ending.
I lost. My husband. 7yrs ago feels like yesterday . understand how people feel in same situation. having a supportive close family . helps a lot by me replying to the comments I've read your not alone my heart goes out to you
Thank you 4 ur video..losing someone its hard to moving forward..my husband lost almost 9 months..my strength is my daughter..most specially lord Jesus....🙏..
@@mm-vd3oc I know is normal, cry out your pain darling don't bottle it so that it can be lighter for you. I cried and it helped me endure the pain. It not easy darling but I know that God's words are true. He is faithful right and he is the husband of the husbandless . Yes he will strengthen you I am sure of that. This is the time for prayers and I will remember you in my prayers too God Jehovah be with you in Jesus mighty name Amen.
My husband passed away six months ago due to car accident and everything changed completely, I feel so lost because I don't know which direction to take😭
@@tashelherbert8468 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
what is difficult its not the picture of the memory, its the fact you are reminded they are gone, its super hard but get in the practice of going to the time in the photo,not the time you are looking at it
@@barbaraboudreau7870 Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
@@richardbradshaw7830 hi Richard thank you for your reply im so sorry u lost your daughter that way to a drunk driver also sorry about your wife my husband birthday was Friday very hard day for me my daughter and grandkids have been a great help for me they keep me going its only been 2 months since he passed away I have my good days and my bad days the nights and weekends are lonely I work part time and then go to my daughter's house for a while my cat keeps me company when I'm home ill be glad when I get to a point where I don't mind coming home to an empty house 😢
My 81-year-old mother continues to grieve her mother’s natural death. My mother’s life was very seriously abbreviated by her chronic grieving, and people are not very understanding when she seeks attention over her loss which occurred over 40 years ago when my mother was in her 40s. It’s very difficult to understand how you could toss your life away and focus only on what you no longer have instead of what you still have. My mother basically threw her life away by chronically, focusing on what she lost and never focusing on what she still had. Extremely difficult.
I lost my hubby of 59 years just 1 1/2 years ago and I’m still walking around like a sleepwalker…. Not getting any better…. A few days ago was his birthday and that was REALLY HARD……IT JUST DOESN’T GET ANY BETTER….😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I'm so sorry. I lost my husband of 15 years in September. I'm extremely lonely and broken. I wish I had words of encouragement for you but just know you are not alone. You can message me anytime on my page. I try to be there for people going through what I'm going through hoping it will help.
I lost my wife on Jan 6 , this year, and trying to figure out what and I’m suppose to do with out her. I’m lost,confused , lonely, hurting , just what is the purpose of all this. I cry every day, missing here presents, someone to talk to, enjoy life together after fourth two years of just sharing everything we did together, I don’t know if I can go on!
Lost my wife on 28 November 2021 just had Christmas it’s hard very hard she was only 57 the start of it all was a angiogram went wrong most of all is the shock it wasn’t expected.
Sorry for your loss. It's not easy losing someone so dear. Time is a great healer and just pour out your grief to God. My husband died 11 years ago and i thought i could never survive the pain but God has been so good. He helped me through it all. Am sure He will do it for you
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
My husband passed from cancer 11 weeks ago, we had been together for over 35 years. I am so lost without him. He was my whole world.
My wife passed on Oct 10th she is now with jesus
I will pray for you
My husband passed on Oct 20, We have been together for 27 years . He was only 49 yrs. I’m lost and don’t know what to do without him. I’m sad that I can’t appreciate or enjoy anything anymore.
@@gmmprado7 I also lost a 49 yr old husband after 27 years together, and I like you, am lost and don't enjoy much, in fact, don't care much for life any more. I hope time will help heal us. I hold you in my heart.
Sorry for the loss we'll definitely get over the loss of our loved ones
I lost my wife 26 days ago. It's the worst hurt I've EVER felt. I still can't believe she's not here anymore.
To all who recently lost wife or husband you can't explain the hurt involved in losing the one you spent your life with cuz it was two entertained lives now we have to survive and thrive without them it's hard but we will get thru this one who knows love to all who grieve
So sorry for your loss, I lost my husband 7.5 years ago and it is heartbreaking, it took 7.5 years for my heart shattered into a million pieces. Nothing felt right. I wanted to be with him in heaven where he was 😊
I hear you, my wife of 20 years unexpectedly died from a mild flu just four months ago on 1/5/24. Still doesn't make sense, she just went to take a nap and didn't wake up. I've broken more than 20 bones if you count fingers and toes, had several surgeries, had over a hundred non-surgical stitches, spent close to two years on crutches if you add it up but I've never felt wounded before. This grief stuff sucks more than anything I've experienced before. Trying to explain to a special needs child that Mama is never coming home again is a type of pain that I didn't even know existed. I do hope that you are finding some peace. In an ocean of FUBAR I'm still looking for the shores of SNAFU.
❤sending love
10 years ago ,I lost my spouse..it feels like yesterday somedays
I lost my husband of 64 years . Sitting on the sofa and watching a movie together ..he turns to me and was trying to speak . He looked into my eyes and said Connie i love u so much and u.have made me very happy for all those years. I kissed him and he slump ed over me and passed. I could n believe what had happened it came rather quickly .death waits for no one . iam so sad and everday.i try to go on and cry where i can hardly see through my tears .
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
Hi Connie, my husband of 22 yrs died on Sept 1, 2022 just 5 months ago. We were in bed laying down he was showing me pictures looking @ his phone & he kissed me twice then all of a. sudden said I have to throw up & just like that it was over. I can say to keep GOD CLOSE. I'm so sorry for your loss & I feel your pain 💔 to this day I still can't believe he is gone & in the beginning you get all this support then even that fades away but GOD never leaves 🙏 I hope & pray for strength for you, me & everyone out there has lost a spouse. No one knows how it feels till it happens to them . Just take it one dat at a time. GOD BLESS YOU.
I am so, so sorry. I just lost my husband of almost 40 years. Our anniversary is less than a month away. I am hurting so bad I don't know how anyone can live through this pain. I just want to say I understand and though I don't know how to help, I am truly sorry you are feeling this pain, too.
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@@lorrainevillareal8257
You never get over it, you live with it each day.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
It's getting harder to do that
I lost my husband a year ago. We were together 46 1/2 years. It has not gotten any easier for me. We're all different.
I just lost my husband a month ago to cancer! In a 3 month time limit ..he was gone..We we,re married 32 years and known each other 47 years..he was my soul mate..I,m really struggling with it...Nobody knows what it,s like until it happens to you....
Hi Monique I too lost my husband to cancer in only 3 months. He also was my best friend and soulmate. You are now part of a group know one wants to be part of. One day at a time. Live the life he would of wanted for you. He's watching over you.❣
Hi Monique. I feel you. I also lost my husband to a a rare kind of blood cancer almost 3 months ago now. He was very healthy, don’t like eating junk foods/fast food, very optimistic, full of life, very kind and generous guy, he was only 38. 😔 I am still in disbelief. I feel so lost without him. Cancer is such a nasty, nasty disease.
@@meeshterious8644 HI! I,m so sorry for your lost! Yes, i,m also still in disbelief....Everyday I get this little reminder...that he,s not around anymore! But I have to remember he,s not in pain anymore...I hope you,re doing ok ..and hang in there..and remember he,s still around you but in a different way!
Hi Monique. There us only comfort in knowing you are not alone. I found solace in going to a medium. My husband came through loud and clear with every thing he ran out of time to say.
@@kathyporto3705 HI! I went to a medium! And everything she told me was spot on! Things the medium could,nt have known..he even wanted me to listen to a song that he thought was meant for us..the reading gave me comfort!
My husband of 34 years died five months ago. I still can't accept that he's gone. I feel so lost without him and missing him so much.
It’s so horrible I relate x
I understand, I lost my husband 4 months ago and we were married 50 years. He was buried on our anniversary..
It is a hard thing to deal with . Your life changes for ever . Can only take one day at a time. I don't believe you ever will understand this.
@Chris Johnson thank you for your kind words and wanting to reach out to me but I would rather not at this time. You are so kind and I’m so very sorry for your loss. You never know how one feels until you go through it yourself. So many people going through this. Heart broken for all.
@Chris Johnson no thank you. I have family and plan on going to a support group. I am not one to reach out to people I don't know online. It's just a crazy world out there and people should be more careful. Again thank you but I would rather not.
My Husband died 4 months ago and my Doctor thinks I should be ok. After 45 years I can’t understand this. I don’t know about the stages of grief I just know I’m getting worse. I’m not angry, never bargained, I’m just lost and lonely.
Sorry to hear about your bad doctor. I have one too. We each do our journey, in our own way and time.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
The doctor thinks that because they might not have experienced it themselves. People who haven’t experienced it have no idea. Talking to people who’ve been through it is more helpful than listening to doctors. Or well meaning friends or even family who frankly don’t get it. Lots of areas have group therapy sessions where you can talk to others who have lost their partners.
@@dmmcmah1 I must agree with you so strongly. I lost my soul mate of 60 years to cancer a few months ago. Unless someone (including your doctor) has gone through the loss of a spouse, he/she has only education to advise from. I believe that they can be confidently ignored - such doctors can only imagine the pain of grieving.- your peers in grief will be far more understanding as I have discovered many times.
I lost my wife to cancer a year ago (Oct 31, 2022). In this past year, I have learned a lot about grief--most of it firsthand, and this guy, Paul Hill, is a perfect example of what so many of us have experienced: academics who really don't know what they're talking about when it comes to grief. His answer to the question of, how long does grief last (3:30) is completely wrong. When you lose your spouse, that grief will last the rest of your life! You don't "move on" or "get over it." You simply get to the point where you have more good days than bad. This is why there are so few good, qualified grief therapists out there. Most of them learned from guys like this.
My husband passed 2 years ago and I am still in deep grief. I don't think anyone can put a time limit on it. Grief and pain come from their loss but also from your struggles afterward financially, and just going forward.
Hello Melody
How are you doing today?
You get no support from your family if they are like mine there are one or two good friends boy you certainly find out who they are
I am so sorry for your heartbreak!! I lost my husband almost 2 years ago and I can’t believe this is my life now without my dear husband. I hurt so much and I miss him terribly!! Hang in there, doing one day at a time…
My husband died 4 years ago. Each day I wake with a pit in my stomach. I miss him so much , I cannot explain. It hasn't changed. I will miss him and grieve him until the day I die. I cannot find the words to express my pain.
@@songbird5030did u have children?
16 weeks ago I was unexpectedly widowed after a short illness at age 62. We were together 37 years. Grief softens but never goes away.
Hello Denise, how are you doing
Hi Denise I too was widowed unexpectedly. He was diagnosed with cancer and gone in 3 months. I kept him home with me and became his nurse.. We had just retired. Heartbroken with the loss of my best friend and soulmate.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
Grief is like a Death sentence. Everyday dealing with out the love of your life. I wish I had die when he die.
42 yrs old lost my wife 11 days ago to cancer in a span of 2 months
Im in complete shock we hhave 3 kids
2 youngest are girls.
Lost for words truly have no want to get up in morning.
Cant believe she is gone bn together since we were in 17 in highschool. Have never lived as adult without her
Lord guide my steps cuz i dont know what to do
I'm so sorry. I've been with my wife since we were in high school as well and this is my biggest fear. I am praying for you and I hope you find peace soon. I'm also praying for your children.
God bless you as you continue naturing your kids may you find ease
As a person who lost a spouse of 34 years I found flaws in this discussion. It seemed the answers and advice were very trite. Anyone who is grieving knows that grief doesn’t disappear after any specific time. It’s like a tide, it ebbs and flows. What is most difficult for older persons who are widowed is that you don’t have the same social interactions and ability to blend in with others as younger widows/widowers do. As a senior you are much more likely to be isolated. Even if you had a strong social life suddenly you’re the “odd one out”. It feels odd to be in social situations where everyone else has a partner. That wasn’t mentioned at all in this video.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
Absolutely! So true!
Agreed
Totally Agree so Sad
Yes!
Iam lost without my husband too my heart breaks for all of the widowers
I know but how old are you
I lost my spouse of 41 years (36 of them married). she lost her battle with cancer 7 years ago. I still cannot get any inner comfort or happiness, even though I have more than enough of everything.....but the most important thing is missing....and no matter what everyone says, I live in a dazed mood! I cannot get to grips with this.
Very true. I was afraid that i may forget my loveable husband. After reading your msg i feel good that we cannot forget our life and lead a normal life
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
I’m so sorry for your tremendous loss. It never goes away, but it does become tolerable. It sounds like you could benefit from some counseling and maybe a group to meet with once or twice a week. Sometimes we get stuck and need some help and comfort to get us to the next plateau. It’s especially hard when we’re older as there doesn’t seem to be many programs for us. You might call your local hospice and ask them for resources. Tell them you have been suffering a long time. They can be very helpful. Please. Don’t give up. There is help and relief for your pain.
I lost my husband of 41 years nine months ago. It’s so lonely. The Lord is my strength.
Lost my dear husband in 2020 to cancer at 58 yrs old. We had 34 yrs together. I miss him every hour of every day.
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I was with my spouse for 42 years...he's been gone 10 years ...for me grief lasts a lifetime....
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
My hubby passed from cancer 5 years ago...was married for 32 years....I am still heart broken....he was an amazing hubby 🙏❤
Hello Barbara, how are you doing
@@fredrickstone6459 Fine thank you
Have a blessed day!
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
After 60yearsof marriage it’s being left alone that’s hard to be without your spouse I’m not getting over it even after 7years. Now I’m 85yrs old and my health is going down. Which makes it even worse we were always there for each other. Now I’m so alone my kids are there but it’s not the same they have their own problems. I can only pray And I do.
Your never alone
God is there with you
Yes. No one and nothing can take my precious husband's place. I feel like I died, but still forced to live. It feels like I'll never be happy again.
I can only take it moment by moment, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day with God's help.
If I died tonight I'd be happy.
I lost my dear husband 5 months ago and each day and night without him is heart-breaking.. we were still so much in love and he also was my carer. Not that we did not have our trials but as Christian’s we were able to pray together and know the lords will. Now I am still so much in grief but also know the Lord never makes a mistake so❤ knowing that I must have His strength in all my weakness, I cry for His help every day . I need to carry on however lonely I feel.
.y husband passed 2 1/2 yrsa ago and I'm still lost . He was my soulmate .my best friend , I get lonely for him each day , I still Love him with everything in me , I talk abt him often , I'm really just living and know that he wouldn't want me to stop trying ! That kind of Love only comes once in a lifetime . I'm waiting to meet him again 😭😭❤️
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I am 52 my wife died 6 months ago and she was my whole world and I am so devastated I can barely function I don’t know how to cope we were together 35 years
I lost my husband of 22 yrs on November 14 it happened so sudden I’ve known him for 33 yrs I’m so lost without him I feel like I’ll never be the same again I lost my soul mate my best friend 💔 I still can’t believe he’s gone and never coming back 😢
I totally understand😭 The reality that they aren’t coming back is devastating😭💔
We are here for you
My wife passed in June 2022 after 26 years with MS. I was her carer for almost all that time. Being a full time carer for so long significantly affected my health. I had a heart attack, 90% blocked and I had pneumonia. But I keep very well now and I am very grateful for that. But I am gay and my wife knew that, and was completely accepting of me and my gay friends. I am not looking for a boyfriend/husband. Too old now. So my grieving is different. It is a great relief to no longer be in a mixed orientation marriage of 51 years.
I was a Baptist Pastor and missionary years ago but I've been told I am not welcome to even attend church. I never was. I do get lonely at times. My kids are very accepting and even said if I found a boyfriend and wanted to marry him, they would be totally accepting. That meant a lot. They live fairly closeby but are very busy with their own lives. I hardly ever see them. I do exercise a lot and walk about 11,000 steps each day.
I just lost my husband of 15 years, 12 days ago from cancer, he is my entire life & my life purpose. Suddenly he is gone & I am not just at a lost but shell shocked. Eventhough I know that one day I will lose him, it's still very difficult to accept him not being with me anymore.
1:15 I am 56 years old and I lost my husband 34 days ago. This has been an exceptionally hard week because it's been one month and this week was our 24th anniversary. I hope that it gets better.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Lost my spouse yesterday 02/12/2022, we been together 30+ years. 16 days in ICU, he didn't make it. COVID related. I feel like Im dead inside. He was great 1 month ago. Now he's gone. He just gone. It hurts. It really hurts
My wife was in ICU after heart surgery, in which after never woke up after five weeks, they just couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t waking up, but she was getting worst, with infection and fungus infection, they said that even if she did wake she would not ,be the same person as she was, so they asked me what she want done and I know she would not want to go through this, cause in 1983 she Hodgkin and survived that with radiation for 5 weeks , but had a great life of 42 years with us being together, and she said that before her surgery, does make it any easier thinking about that. I hope you can make it through this ALL the BEST
@@garyjardine2966 thank you. It's hard. I'm taking it one moment at a time right now. My thoughts and heart are battling each other
Cam feel for you...we are together in this journey...lost my hubby to covid last year Feb...todate i just dont understand...its like the world has turned up side down...my friend my everything that i lost...i am paining everyday...
I am experiencing the same situation. I am so lost without him 💔
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
My husband of 47 years died in 2020. Unfortunately, Covid means that group activities even group counselling are curtailed which has compounded the grieving process. The new normal, is difficult to do. I had to have trauma counselling because of the nature of my husband’s death, but this could only be done online, no group sessions, no meeting up. It was a lonely, emotional and painful experience.
Loss at this awful pandemic time makes the pain of loss even acuter.
My thoughts are with those who are going through bereavement at this very difficult time. Keep strong, we’ll get through.
Mary Scott
Hello Mary, how are you doing
Hello Mary, how are you doing
I'm so sorry Mary my husband died 10 months ago. Diagnosed with cancer and gone in 3 months. We had just retired.
I kept him home with me through it all.
I also had grief counseling. We are in a group know one wants to be part of.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
Grief 😔 lasts a lifetime.
I totally agree.
@@lindaagee5880 I have been grieving for only 4 months for my wife of 56 years - this thought that it will last forever scares me so much. I want my "forever" to be soon as I see no way out of the pain.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my wife to cancer after close to 27 years of marriage and 30 years of knowing her as a wonderful person. We were very much in love when cancer stroke our family. For me losing her has been an incredible loss. I watched this interview with great attention. Since my wife passed I have been blogging about my feelings, my relationship with my wife, and our story. Writing feels like opening a window and talking to the world without paying attention to who is listening. Writing is emotional and it makes me remember episodes of our lives, sad and happy. After I post a story, I read and it feels like watching a movie where with my wife as the main character. Sometimes I wonder if this is healthy for me but one thing I can tell you: I love writing these stories!
My husband of 10 years is dying of cancer, they are giving him 2 weeks tops left. I have been an artist my whole life and lately drawing non stop. I think I understand why I do that now after reading what you said.
Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
José, writing is very healthy. After almost three years of losing my sweet wife of 37 years I still write her and it turned into a podcast called "Love Letters to Pam". I also have some of the messages on our RUclips channel. It's called "Traveling with Jack and Pam". Or you may be able to click our picture here and go direct to site.
I was 30 when my husband of 12 years was killed and me and our daughter was attacked over and over again for years. The horrific crime brought intense fear into me and my family. Now after 19 years, I'm finally ready to start grieving. Prayers 🙏🏼❤
death is real ..wht
people don't do is talk abt it..then when its upon u
its too overwhelmin
to explain. u are in
your feelings which can't express since
1st time grievin. can't make sense of too much. u only
know how u feel
...terrible...sad..
no comfort..new normal is not easy
since its new and not normal since a shock emotionally
sudden people that subtract from life
is wantin a replacement...only
God can supply..
the Peace is with him....another person is still not long enuf...God is permanent... death
waits for no one it just happens...never get use to it when its your turn since no warnin...GOD got
the advantage and even God no matter how close u are with Him... u feel lost for a reason .
lettin u know how much u need Him.
God can fill any void... who but God
Lost my husband of 56 years on 10/1/20. I feel like I’m living.without feeling anything.
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
Kathleen, I lost my husband the day before 9/30/20 - married 58 years - I understand everything you are saying! Ginny
So very hopeful for you to fin your self
Am so sorry about that Kathleen, how are you doing
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I lost my husband a week ago bcoz of cancer..we had hopes that he will recover but suddenly it was already complicated.until now i still cant accept losing my husband. We were together for 18 years.. its really hard though
I don,t know whats worse being on your own for most of your life or loosing someone you,ve been with most of your life😢😢
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
My husband passed away yesterday from cardiac Arrest. He was only 58
Years old. What hurts me the most is that today our Anniversary
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
My husband also 57.heart attack. I'm broken.
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
How do you feel now? Sad for you
@@lindaosborne1617 your not being nice lady you are rude
I was widowed in October 2023 and deal with my grief by talking out loud to my husband. I say goodmorning and if I see something on TV that we would have talked about I comment as though he was still with me and always use his name.
Sorry my gal,,10 year ago I lost mine too...talking to yourself alittle in the mirror is ok,especially to encourage yourself to keep going,,laughing alittle even while cry alittle that it will be ok by and by ,take one day at a time
Be strong and travel to friends too
My daughter who is only 43 lost her husband in a fishing boat accident and the body was never recovered. Is suffering so much with everything they have 3 teen girls. She has shut all of us in the immediate family out except a half sister who doesnt help her attitude. She is clinging to so much negative things and ideas. Im her mother we enjoyed so much together before this happened. And most of the time she is angry and has never been like that before. She has a doom and gloom and talks about taking her whole life. She is set financially and has so much to look forward to with her daughters. I try to just listen. She makes so many agreious outrageously un true comments. And blames so .many people me and other family members especially. Hard to hear and we all feel helpless.
MY HUSBAND PASSED ON JULY 7TH 4 YEARS AGO. WE WERE MARRIED 70 YEARS. I MISS HIM DEARLY. HE IS ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS, ALWAYS WITH ME IN MY HEART. THINKING POSITIVE IN MY ,LOSS. WONDERFUL YEARS TOGETHER BLESSED TO HAVE HAD THEM.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
There is no getting back to normal (what is normal) . I'm changed forever. Although grieving groups have helped me move forward in life.
Bs about men take grief harder than women I grieve every day and it is still raw even after 2yrs feels like it just happened I went thru 2 sessions of griefshare helped but only God has helped me
I lost my husband 4 months ago to cancer, there’s a big hole in my heart
Human beings are extremely I recently lost my wife and all I want is to be with her on the other side. All the things that I enjoyed the memories that I have while she was here none of that means anyting I only long to be with her on the other side. Human beings are so arrogant to think that they can explain how a person feels or what the solution is the loss of a loved one or a spouse.
Lost my husband in May 2019. The love of my life married 27 years found him in the morning on our kitchen floor of a massive heart attack. I'm so lost miss u my love everyday 🙏💙💔
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
My wife died 8 months ago and I'm still, grieving badly every day....
I know dear I lost my husband 4 months ago we were married 51 yrs. He also passed from cancer he was 73 the loneliness an I’m having a very hard time so don’t feel alone. The hurt never ends!
Nothing lasts forever, except love.
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I lost my husband of 64 years on Sept 25, 2021 and also my 58 year old son.I struggle day by day I know it will not end the grief and you do not get over it. My heart is broken, so much of my family gone for now and I do believe to be with them in the hereafter but how do Ilive
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
As many here likely experience a trigger is simply walking through the grocery store.
Yes, me too. She liked a particular type of swiss cheese that was kept in a separate cooling display at the grocery store. During the months of chemo that she could still eat I would buy some for her. Now when I walk past that display it stares at me, full of cheeses still, but empty somehow.
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
My husband of almost 68 years died 8 months ago after years of gradually increasing, multiple health problems. After the dr told us she could do no more for him, he/we elected to go the hospice route. I know he is finally at peace and he is in heaven with the son we lost 7 years ago, but I never realized how much it would hurt my heart. I miss him so much. It was a double whammy after the loss of our son. I am going to a grief group but it still hurts so much.
It's worse in the evening, no one to share things with.
My husband passed away 4 months ago we were married 47 years. I'm so lost , my everyday routine is messed up.
I make myself get up in the morning and I struggle to do things I use to love to do is clean or go anywhere.
I'm so scared I won't be able to pay bills by myself. Night time is the worst ,I need the TV on or a light on ,just makes me feel safe and knowing that I'm not alone.
I worry about the house and when something happens to the appliances or anything outside.
I want my Husband to be Proud of me.
He was my Rock .
RIP my love 🕊️🌷💔❤️
@lumity I have the same feelings as you. God bless you. We have no choice but to keep going until we see our love ones again.
@@theresahubert1580 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
My condolence, please be strong
I don’t feel anything anymore. I’m already dead
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Be strong and turn it all to God .
Youuuuu,,yours is not yet,keep living God at work even now..He did not allow you die together so your time not yet,,keep moving keep living one day at a time
Mine died 10 years now am still hoping in God..will pray for you hoping you started living now after two years peace
I lost my wife of 53 years, after she battled cancer for 18 months... during that time I selfish asked God to take me, and let her heal... I don't see myself getting over this till the day I pass...
I lost my husband this past January. We were also married 53 years. He had severe fronto temporal dementia. I am totally lost without him. God gets me through each day.
My husband passed away after a 5 year battle with prostate cancer. He’s been gone from me for 5 months. I miss him very much.
This is the same feeling that a woman or man of divorce goes through. You live with the pain forever.
You can't compare divorce with grief
Well actually you can I know both scenarios and there certainly is grief loss. The isolation the pain and trying to fit into a world where couples stay clear its heartbreaking to see.
Instead of being invited into the circle you are a reminder of what can happen and people are uneasy that it could very well happen to them.
I've been divorced and it's not the same kind of pain
Loss my husband to cancer after being married 47 yrs. I still miss him alot.
I’ll pray for you thank you
Hello Jackie, it's really hurts but you just have to take heart,how are you doing
Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
It’s been close to 40 years for us been together. My heart will be truly broken and will die from a broken heart cause our children never ever help us so if he passes I know our kids will put me into a home. But if I go first they will leave there father in the home. I’m wheelchair bound. I’m in my 58 th year and husband is 66 now and we are struggling a lot. We have asked for there help and we have been told NO because they have there own homes and if we can’t take care of our home then we need to move closer to town. As a young person I would have been there for my family.
Your situation is tragic beyond words. Shame on your children.
Strength and love to all of you. I do know now how it feels and how tough it can get, as i no longer take care of myself. It has taught me a lot, seeking and finding no help. I have no answers though.
Just lost my husband my best friend 2 weeks ago. I’m soooo lonely. I have 2 boys to raise now. I’m scared. I’m mad he left me. But I know this is my new life now and for the sake of my boys I must take on this new role of a single mom and raise my kids the way he would want me to. I’m taking it one day at a time. I’m going to start a journal to express my feelings. Praying for everyone who is going through this struggle.
I’m so sorry for your loss my husband passed on 6-10-24 and I am lost and we bury him Tuesday I have so many emotions at once. I have to take care of me and my son now and I can’t get his social security until I am 60. I am 49 and angry with the world
The 5 stages mentioned are for a person who is dying, not a person who is grieving. I hate that people keep getting this wrong. It's a disservice to those who grieve.
That’s incorrect Janice. Please look up works by David Kessler. There are actually 6 stages of grief after a person has died and they are not linear.
Agree with your point, thank you
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
My condolence
I just lost my wife from c19 it's hard to get over her
I am so sorry for your great loss, Sharon. She was loved and remembered. Thank- you for sharing this.
@@Raminakai Hi there, often times the people that do these interviews have not experienced loss first hand. Like you, I've experienced the loss of a spouse (my wife) and now have a RUclips channel where I post videos on grief as well as travel. I'm providing a link to our channel if you are interested. I also have a podcast with over 200 episodes dealing with the loss of a spouse. Look for "Love Letters to Pam" from any of the major podcast providers. Here is a link to our RUclips channel. ruclips.net/channel/UC7OnslOSCbVS_YcdfvgrDzA
What about when you can't accept it and you just feel like you're drowning!
I lost my wife last Sunday March 3rd 2024, she was 28 and I was 24.
I feel your pain, Ryan. My wife of 56 years marriage died of ovarian cancer on 25 May 2024.
When I say I know how you feel - it because I am there with you in grief.
I lost my husband last August 21 we had just been married 51 I’m so lost without him I know he was very I’ll Parkinson’s and dementia but feel so lost without him I just can’t seem to move on I miss him so much I really don’t want to be here 😢😢😢
I lost my husband last j
01/26/2022 from Parkinson and dementia and watched his health decline for sometime and was so hard to watch. I have good days but also bad days. I take one day at a time ...
@@pamelabarsness9654 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I lost my husband of 59 a week ago. Suddenly, just in one moment, he was gone. We have been together since we were seventeen, married for 32 years. It hurts me so much and it gets harder every day.I don't know how to go on without him. He was my husband, my best friend, my support, the rock on which I stand. How to endure this much pain?
Lost my husband 4 years ago I moved house and to the south island but I don't see my small family as they are working two hours away. Covid made it hard when I had so much to sell and donate to shift. Lost a lot selling house in a falling market, I have hobbies but I no longer belong to anything. It's hard sorting out tech things dealing with lawyer and land agents. You don't get invited to anything being alone. Living alone I had to get lawn man in and expenses are worse lucky I saved for a rainy day. I don't sleep well lost two stone in weight. Hubby was bed ridden with cancer. It has taken its toll on my health. 46 years married and ran a business which I had to sell. It was hard leaving my handicapped son now in care.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Lost my wife of 36 years of marriage to cancer on March 18th 2022. I'm devastated and lost.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. March 18 is my birthday and my wife's birthday was on March 3. I lost her March 27, 2022. I feel like I am in the twilight zone. I am lost without her. I miss her and miss everything I did with her and for her. I pray daily and I try to stay positive. It is difficult. No one can say anything to make it better.
@@enriqueamar1964
March 8th was our wedding anniversary....I'm very sorry for your loss. Some how some way we must keep going, hopefully time will heal us....but we will never forget the love lost.
@@dennyray3532 hi I know just how you feel I lost my husband February 7 2022 unexpectedly I woke up that morning but he did not im am so lost and lonely with him I have some good days but is birthday was April 1 and I've been so depressed since then all I do is cry
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I guess there are so many of us lost in heartache of a love lost. I've been to my wife grave so many times talking to her. I pray she hears me and knows how much I love her ❤
@@dennyray3532 hi Denny beleive she hears you my husband was cremated and I have his ashes home with me I talk to him every day I hope u beleive in signs I get signs alot from my husband so I know they hear us you just have to look for them I have a dove that comes by and sits on my windowsill every now and then since I lived here a bird has never set on my windowsill sill just ask your wife to send you a sign that she hears you and watch for something you never seen before please beleive she hears you this is the worst thing I've gone through I dont eat I can't sleep and I cry myself to sleep most nights
I lost my husband after two decades of his alzheimers-type dementia and Parkinsons. He could no longer move himself from recliner to wheelchair. So there was a mixture of grief and relief. At 84, I find that this relief is quite common among us older folks. Grief is not constant. It comes and goes, for years. Men don’t take it harder than women! They just handle it differently.
I lost my partner 8 weeks ago today … I’m so lost , so scared …
Me too marsha i had 50 years with my wonderful husband he was 70 no age in these times he had a horrible time i couldn't believe my strength but now 9 months in im struggling too my heart goes out to all us Ladies and gents especially this time of year ❤❤❤❤
I loss my finances on June 15,2023 it happened so fast. Of Heart attack with no pain. The only thing was he got light headed and little dizzy get up off the couch. He was only 59 years old. And we was together for 4 years. I have be crying every day now. Wish he was with me. Every day. And wish there was a sign. So I could of got him to the emergency room. I am so heart broken 💔 and wish we could turn back too the day before it happened so I could have him check out. I guess that mitt been the sign. I really don't know for sure. Never went through it. I just wish he would got him self help. I try get him too go to the doctor or hospital but he would not go. And now I been hurting now. And the bad thing is I won't get too see him because his brother took him all the way to phoenix arizona and I live in Missouri. I am so sad that it I new that would of happen we would of be married. Did have a said. And with he keep saying too me don't let me have heart attack before we get married that's been in my mind after it happened. That's why I wish he got help. But now I can't get that out my head. I keep thinking about that over and over.
A therapist said this, and it helped me. Grief is not necessarily something you can/should/will get over. When you feel the sadness, express it and give it its due, then continue on with your day/life, until the next time. I could be my truest self with my spouse, and I miss that very much. Also, they knew my history and my family who have passed, and I did not have to explain things/those people to them. With people new to me, I want that to be the start of the relationship, I don't want to pedal backward.
My wife has stage 3 breast cancer, I went through a 3 year battle with bladder cancer during COVID. It’s been very hard for both of us. we’ve been married 43 years.
Lost my true souls mate (husband) mar 2 due to cardiac arrest. It happened in our living room 1 hr after he had just had physical therapy at home, spent 10 days in cardiac icu to see if he could come back, but that just wasn’t the case. I had to let him go on mar 2. 😢 we were married for 25 yrs and were inseparable. There are days I’m just so sad I want to stay away from ppl. Then there are days I don’t know how I’m feeling. I’m just in a fog. Hurts so bad, I miss him so so much. 💔
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, animals or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experience before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! Its sure we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I pray and hope you finds peace, comfort and happiness soon.
16 months and my heart is so shattered 🤦🏼♀️❤️🩹😭
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
@@richardmcguinn732 Thank you for taking the time to share that with me I’m sorry it took so long for me to get back to you because I don’t normally communicate with RUclips,I am so sorry to hear about the pain that you have been through as well❤️🩹Grief has no discrimination it’s been 18 months now it is not easier but it is different God bless you and thank you for sharing with me
@@lonibennett6124 You’re absolutely welcome Lori. And thank you very much for taking your time in replying again okay. I hope you’ve found peace and happiness once again after everything you’ve been through?
@@lonibennett6124 And I totally understand you don’t communicate on RUclips often that’s why you took sometime to get back.
I lost my husband 4 months I took care of him till he died he had cancer we were married for 55 years 💔 I miss him very much and I will always love him till I die
My husband passed away 3 months ago from cancer. I can relate to many people here who feel lost and are experiencing extreme pain. I’m having difficulty just doing my day to day routines. He was my everything. I prefer to stay huddled in the corner of my bed. I do make an effort when friends come by and they usually say I’m doing ‘very well’. There are others who preach religion and there’s a reason blah blah blah. I prefer not to be around them. Unless that person has experienced a similar loss, it’s best I think, that they not offer platitudes or explanations. It’s just empty words to me.
Saying A memory triggers emotion for a short time is soo blunt and untrue. The raw unremitting pain that can be unleashed and last for well over three days... is not a short time and is not to dismissed lightly.
My wife of 48 years passed 4 weeks ago. I am looking for answers to what I need to do to get over this and have some sense of normalcy.
I’ll pray for you thank you
I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband passed 4 months ago and I still cry and ask why.. The only thing we can do is grieve, it’s a process and I don’t think we can rush it. Cry, scream ask questions…whatever you feel. You have to take time to grieve and take one day at a time.
@@donnagoines7319 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Instead of a percentage, you can get the number count, which end of 2017 was 11 MILLION widows and 3+ Million widowers. I think that puts it better in perspective.
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I lost my husband last month to cancer and I’m struggling. I can’t concentrate at work, I cry everyday. I hate the word “new normal”. I’m completely heart broken. I loved my husband so much. 💔
My wife of 20 years unexpectedly died just over four months ago from a mild flu. She was feeling a bit under the weather and went to take a nap, she didn't wake up, she was 52. The first month was brutal. February and March I thought I was doing well. I did the guy thing and made my checklist and attacked the problem. I read 3 books, joined a weekly spousal loss group, watched dozens of videos. We have a special needs child, so I was being strong and maintaining normalcy for him. Then in April I was organizing her clothes for her friends to pick through and donate the rest to the battered womens shelter when I came across a ratty old T-shirt that said 'Boy Mom' on it. It smelled like her, I wasn't ready for that.
She was always told that she couldn't have children so she was so excited and proud when we had our son. The smell put me back into January. I didn't realize that my checklist and dealing with things 'like a man' was a form of denial. I really thought that I was doing well. But that smell triggered memories and emotions that really kicked me where it counts. So I'm picking up the pieces again and starting from the beginning. Grief really sucks. It's probably the only thing that I've experienced that I can honestly say that I hate.
I've broken a couple of dozen bones if you include fingers and toes, I've burst an appendix, I've had multiple surgeries, spent two years on crutches, etc, but I've never felt wounded until this. Not a fan of this grief crap. Don't get me started on the widow brain stuff. Can't focus, can't remember stuff, can't think clearly, this grief stuff can byte me.
My husband died 7 months ago. He was diagnosed with cancer and gone in 3 months. We had just retired. I had also lost my in laws just before that.
I feel so shredded. Lost in who I even am.
I’ll pray for you thank you
Hello Kathy, how are you doing
Hanging in trying to move forward without my best friend and soul mate.
@@richardbradshaw7830
Hi how are things going?
@@richardbradshaw7830
Ok.
I know I have to accept my wife’s passing before I can start moving forward. She passed 3-31-2022
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I found my 56 yr old husband dead in bed
03-05-22
Married 29 years
I’m dreading these moments, I have been with my husband since I was 18 and he was 26. It tears me apart but I’m the one with bad health and hope and pray I go first. I don’t want to lose my rock, my soulmate, my lover and best friend. I don’t want to feel that pain in my heart. I live with CRPS and he has been my caregiver since 2009. I can never ever see myself living without him.
I lost my husband over 6 years ago and I still cry every single day and my heart breaks every single day the he is gone I miss him more than life itself I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without him
I lost my dad in January of this year. I still feel numb and I just don't have any motivation to do anything
I am sorry for the loss of your father. Thank you for sharing this. Praying you find a way to share your feelings about your dad, and the ways his love impacted your life.
@@Raminakai thank you
I find this discussion to be superficial, at best. Grief NEVER goes away. And to quantify its span is irresponsible. People are looking for an end to it. Speak to the fact that there may not be an ending.
I lost. My husband. 7yrs ago feels like yesterday . understand how people feel in same situation. having a supportive close family . helps a lot by me replying to the comments I've read your not alone my heart goes out to you
Thank you 4 ur video..losing someone its hard to moving forward..my husband lost almost 9 months..my strength is my daughter..most specially lord Jesus....🙏..
Thanks for letting widowers listen too.
Im coming up on 10mths its not getting easier it still feels like yesterday Ive been married for 30 yrs.The hardest thing is the abandonment.
Thanks so much I am a widow now and I understand
Ditto lost my husband last Sunday still in shock
@@mm-vd3oc please accept my condolences okay, I am with you please feel free to contact me okay.
@@agiigisttv thank you 🙏 still in shock hubby 50
@@mm-vd3oc I know is normal, cry out your pain darling don't bottle it so that it can be lighter for you. I cried and it helped me endure the pain. It not easy darling but I know that God's words are true. He is faithful right and he is the husband of the husbandless . Yes he will strengthen you I am sure of that. This is the time for prayers and I will remember you in my prayers too God Jehovah be with you in Jesus mighty name Amen.
@@agiigisttv amen 🙏 yes lots lots of tears . I had 21 year s my husband. He’s it for me !!
My husband passed away six months ago due to car accident and everything changed completely, I feel so lost because I don't know which direction to take😭
I’ll pray for you thank you
Me too hun. It hurt so bad. Its 5months for me, i was 7mnths pregnant.
@@tashelherbert8468 Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
what is difficult its not the picture of the memory, its the fact you are reminded they are gone, its super hard but get in the practice of going to the time in the photo,not the time you are looking at it
My husband died a week ago. I’m heartbroken. He was my world.
I’ll pray for you thank you
Hello Katie, I'm really sorry for your lose don't worry everything will be fine, how are you doing today
Hi my husband passed away feb 7 2022 I know how u feel I'm so lost and numb just going through the motion
@@barbaraboudreau7870 Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lock down on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but that's the past now, God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! I'd have put my cell # phone number on here so we could connect but it's too public so I won't! So it would nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹
@@richardbradshaw7830 hi Richard thank you for your reply im so sorry u lost your daughter that way to a drunk driver also sorry about your wife my husband birthday was Friday very hard day for me my daughter and grandkids have been a great help for me they keep me going its only been 2 months since he passed away I have my good days and my bad days the nights and weekends are lonely I work part time and then go to my daughter's house for a while my cat keeps me company when I'm home ill be glad when I get to a point where I don't mind coming home to an empty house 😢
My 81-year-old mother continues to grieve her mother’s natural death. My mother’s life was very seriously abbreviated by her chronic grieving, and people are not very understanding when she seeks attention over her loss which occurred over 40 years ago when my mother was in her 40s. It’s very difficult to understand how you could toss your life away and focus only on what you no longer have instead of what you still have. My mother basically threw her life away by chronically, focusing on what she lost and never focusing on what she still had. Extremely difficult.
I lost my hubby of 59 years just 1 1/2 years ago and I’m still walking around like a sleepwalker…. Not getting any better…. A few days ago was his birthday and that was REALLY HARD……IT JUST DOESN’T GET ANY BETTER….😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I just lost my wife oct 10th ,I am very lonely and lost
I'm so sorry. I lost my husband of 15 years in September. I'm extremely lonely and broken. I wish I had words of encouragement for you but just know you are not alone. You can message me anytime on my page. I try to be there for people going through what I'm going through hoping it will help.
I lost my wife on Jan 6 , this year, and trying to figure out what and I’m suppose to do with out her. I’m lost,confused , lonely, hurting , just what is the purpose of all this. I cry every day, missing here presents, someone to talk to, enjoy life together after fourth two years of just sharing everything we did together, I don’t know if I can go on!
Lost my wife on 28 November 2021 just had Christmas it’s hard very hard she was only 57 the start of it all was a angiogram went wrong most of all is the shock it wasn’t expected.
I’ll pray for you thank you
Sorry for your loss. It's not easy losing someone so dear. Time is a great healer and just pour out your grief to God. My husband died 11 years ago and i thought i could never survive the pain but God has been so good. He helped me through it all. Am sure He will do it for you
@@lillibethbata7470 thank you 🙏
@@kevinraven4417 you're most welcome. I will be praying for you.
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
I lost my husband 25 Nov after 36 yrs marriage. I can’t think how to go forward, what i want to do with myself
I’ll pray for you thank you
Hello Karen, it's really hurts, but don't worry everything will be fine, how are you doing today
Well I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown on a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife also passed away 3 years ago from a shocking disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Often those that do these type of interviews have not had first hand experience with the loss of a spouse. If you are interested I have a RUclips channel with some videos I did from my personal experience. I also have a podcast called Love Letters to Pam you can download from any of the major podcast providers. Here's a link to my RUclips channel. ruclips.net/video/W9qP92DuA2I/видео.html
My condolence. Please be strong
I lost my wife 5 months back to cancer. We were married for 48 years. I am in deep grief and also feeling very lonely.