I lost my wife and my daughter, its been a mess. sending love to anyone out here who is hurting. its not easy.Most days I dont even know who I am anymore without them
Hey bro. My name is tj. My mom who was 46 just passed away. I am 33 She had me at 14 yes old. She ws never ever there for me and any attempts that I made as an adult were shot down by her. I hated her so much. But I loved her just as much only a bit more. The only thing I ever wanted in my life was a relationship with her and to know she loved me. Now she's gone and I'm not sure if she ever did. And now she never can. I need peoe in my circle. Maybe you can offer me advice?
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain sis, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
I feel for your loss of your daughter! May God bless and keep you! I have lost my entire family due to my generosity to help a granddaughter and she took complete advantage of me and I had just lost my husband in March of 2020.
I’ll never get over losing my mom. She was my only friend and the only person that loved me. I’m walking around in a dark world that I want out of so badly.
When you're ready, maybe get a pet. Find something to love. I lost my mom 10 years ago, and my cat came to my rescue. My deepest condoleces I know it's not easy.
I'm so sorry, for your immeasurable loss. I lost my mum 2 months ago and she was my only true friend in life. It feels like a lifetime has already passed, and I am in dark and unfamiliar territory right now. I am a completely different person without her. Just know I understand what your going through, and I'm sending you love and hugs and empathy for your situation
I recently lost my mom the grief is unending..I am very blessed to have had wonderful mother like her in my life..I pray I will see her again someday..thank you sir for sharing this video.
you are lucky to have had a good Mom. My Mom died 6 months ago but she was not a good Mom, I guess I grieved while she was alive, she was so narcisstic and uncaring. Believe me you were blessed. I am sure it would be painful to have lost a good Mom.
I'm sorry sorry, I lost my mom 5 months ago ,I've tried all the steps and I'm still in pain. I pray God gives you the strength to get through this, I promise you will be ok.🙏
@@lydialombardo5606 linda my mom passed 4 yrs ago. The first year is iike being the fires of hell with grief. My advice is stay near to loved ones. Lean on people. Now its been 4yrs. I lean on less people but i still miss her like crazy. I try and celebrate her life than her death. Stay safe. Be kind to yrself xx
Mike how are you holding up since posting 2 yrs ago? I found out that it's not okay to not be okay. No one will ever know or understand what you are personally enduring. Have you received any kind of bereavement support or theapy? May you find comfort and encouragement for each new day. I lost my pops couple weeks ago and it's a never-ending nightmare for me. I'm glad for this video.
@@djmgoblue it’s not been easy. The anniversary of her passing is in two days. No I really haven’t but I’ve been very active in my healing via reading and studying. Thank you for checking in on me
I recently lost my dad. He was my idol, best friend, and biggest support in life... and now my life feels so empty without him. Your videos make me feel like I'm not going crazy and that my feelings are normal.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy last night lost my girlfriend of two years she has beast cancer she was the love of my life I was mess my mum and dad had to hold me when they take her body away she was gay and she was my frist real love she was my best friend of 20 years how I cope without my soulmate ???.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy today I open up to my mum and dad about my girlfriend "s death they hate I in much pain and happy i open up to them why they happy i open up to them ???.
I lost my husband six months ago it's like am in a dream, having him beside me this minutes and all of a sudden he does not exist anymore. The pain is so unbearable. He was my bestfriend and my companion. I am so loss, sad and empty. I remember him as being the sweetest person I ever known. Rest in peace my love.
Man when I read these stories from so many of you going through this I get choked up cause I feel exactly the same way. Just keeping busy and plugging along in survival mode. I’m a little over two months in and i have my good moments and bad moments. It really helps to have friends and family to talk to.
Lost my partner suddenly six months ago. I had just turned 30 and we were planning on getting married next year. I am devastated. I quit my job because I don’t function like I used to and I don’t know what matters to me anymore. Who am I without him? What could possibly bring me joy? Lots of people around me are suggesting it’s time I find a new job, or take a class or try a new hobby. But they don’t understand that grief has consumed my brain. I am exhausted from fighting the memories of watching him die and trying to figure out where I go from here. It’s hard to do anything. I wish someone could tell me how proud they are that I’m still walking through life with this unbearable pain. Instead I find they are uncomfortable with my sadness and feel the need to fix it. I know it comes from a place of love but it’s not helpful, it makes me feel like I’m grieving incorrectly. This video is full of so many good reminders to just do what we can to survive. I hope anyone reading this knows that I am so proud of you for clicking on this video and doing something to nurture your pain. You are surviving the terribleness like a warrior. Fighting for healing when it feels like there’s no point. I’m with you and I love you.
Soooo damned sorry for you😢. The only thing that helped me was wathing video's in wich they tell us that there is no death and that our loved ones help us from the other side.... for the rest nothing helps... (NDE ACCOUNTS) May be 'grief' is the greatest gift from God, it shows how unbelievable we are able to love, with devine love..... Sometimes, I think my mind has only 5 procent capacity to fight the grief mentaly, in thise moments I am lost and need to wait for the nex morning to see what the night has chanced internaly. You are nót allone in this.....
Thanks for the kind words I lost my husband 8 months ago and find it really hard without him 😭 people say 'nice things to me but they don't really help me I feel so lost without him
@@richardmcguinn732 i lost my boyfriend last mouth at age he died in our house he had motor diaseses he last word was i love you babe and thanks giving me best 7 years and he kissed my hand i stood by him till the end i loving girlfriend and waht kind girlfriend i am to him ?.
Im going through grief right now and your advice have been helpful. Thank you for this. Grief is a such a lonely journey, even though there are others that are grieving with you, it's such a subjective and solo path to walk on.
Thank you. You have given me some hope. I am on day 14 of my moms passing. No. I was one of the people who have feared my entire life on losing my sweet wonderful best friend of a mama. 💕 she was supposed to come home soon. I live in Alberta and she lived in Ontario with my identical twin sister. I am here with our dad and the rest of my family. I am devastated. I have never felt this kind of pain in my entire life. I wake up crying. Even if it was just a nap. Or in the middle of the night. 🥲 She was coming home soon and we were going to celebrate her 70th. My mom was vibrant. I just told her mom! We should go to Banff and the mountains when you come. She said to me ‘I loooooove the mountains’. I cannot escape this pain. I am so emotionally exhausted.
I don't know that it is a skill set. We all have coping strategies all ready to go. We just need space to discover what our own are, and they will be different for different people. There is no "one size fits all" approach. For example, if you're an introvert you are unlikely to respond to group therapy or even to a one on one therapy. Some people like myself will respond better to solitude and reflection without the threat and unease of sharing. Other people need to indulge in an activity their lost one loved to connect with their grief. It's different for everyone.
I lost my lovely brave, kind mother 3 months ago. She was my best friend. I'm on a major emotional rollercoaster. Listening to your sympathetic advice, helped. I'm going to have some group bereavement counselling sessions next month. Thank you for 'being there'.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I trying cope without the love my life she been gone over 2 weeks my mum and dad sent me to talk to my aunt who lost her husband to cancer after i try hang myself they much I in pain and grieve for Megan she was the love my life and my best friend why they worried about and want open up about her ???.
@@michellelohde8683 Hi, Michelle. Please talk to your doctor about your suicidal thoughts, urges, and behaviors. There is professional help available for you. Please get the help you need.
My best friend died yesterday. I woke up this morning feeling like I’ve been hit by a bus. My brain isn’t working and my body is aching from top to bottom. I can hardly focus to write this comment. I feel like I’ve been pushed under water and am fighting to stay afloat. This video helped. I will make decisions for the next several days on what I need to do right now. Thinking ahead is not possible. On foot in front of the other. I can do that. Thank you
Thanks. I needed this right now while experiencing a breakdown. I lost my mother a few months back. She meant the world to me. I get out of breaths when I have moments of sudden realisation of her absence. It is as if I am waking up from deep slumber. Waking up to an ugly reality. Harder to accept when the heart does not want to accept just yet.
Hello my friend.. I lost my mum 5 weeks ago today from covid.. my mum was my world.. I noticed reading your post that you were close to your mum aswel.. can I ask how your feeling 7months on? ❤
I lost my best friend two days ago. He died suddenly, so has been a complete shock to everyone who loves him. I'm totally heartbroken and consumed by grief, I loved him very much and can't see a way out of this darkness. But thank you Carl, I will try to follow these steps.
Hi, Jo Jo. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your best friend. These steps are not so much to follow. Rather they will help you understand what you are going through.
Since the death of my boyfriend I month ago, I found this to be helpful with acceptance. This was taken from a mega pastor on grief; It's the DEATH of what we remember, and the END of what we had in mind
I'm here because i lost my great aunt yesterday. She was 94 years old but she brought me and my sister up. She was the strong one in my family, the one i ran to in times of trouble, or to tell good news to. She was there every step of the way. I was there to hold her hand when she took her last breath...I will always miss her, i can't believe she will never be in my life again...Yesterday, my heart broke into a million pieces :-(
This helped me make the ‘loss’ easier… They are not lost…they have simply moved along their own path that had simply crossed your path for a time. You now have to keep moving forward on your own path. There are always bumps on that path, but you MUST continue on your own path. Namaste.
You’re only the 2nd person to nail exactly what it is that ought to be universal answer for grief. My lovely wife Linda passed away Jan 4th of this year. It took months for one lady friend to tell me the truth - I will never get over it - which is of course the words I upmost despised - “get over it.” Enough said, thank you for your sincere words that did indeed comfort me💛
I have learned that self-care is one of the most important things. Sometimes, you have to realize the hopelessness in a situation in order to get to the acceptance stage. You cannot change others; only yourself and by learning to let go of the struggle to try to change anything or anybody, that will be the key to moving on and learning to live in the present and to fight for the future. The past cannot be changed. Sometimes not caring anymore is a way to emotionally detach yourself from a painful situation. Trying to find meaning or a silver lining in your suffering is also important. Taking life one day at a time is also a good coping strategy. Accepting that life is not easy is another coping strategy. Lowering your standards and expectations in life also helps too.
Any advise on how to grief for family that inmigrated for their safety. As soon as i"feel" better something small will remind me that i can no longer pop up the road and see my loved ones. I wont be part of my grandchildrens lifes. We have always been a very close family and i dread the thought of birthdays and Christmas.
I agree wholeheartedly with your remarks.. stepping out of the crazy merry--go-round, letting go of hurt, allowing to nurture myself..that's my goal, all with God's help🙏
Lost my brother two weeks ago I he was disabled for 27 yrs and was an active caregiver during those years there’s such a big empty space and realized how much my identity was wrapped up in caring for him
Thank you for this video. It just popped up first when I opened RUclips. I lost my dear mother quite suddenly recently. She had been very normal all day and then she had a massive haemorrhagic stroke in the evening. She was in the ICU for 10 days before she passed on. I am traumatized by the violence of her extreme pain and suffering. She was so sweet, innocent and gentle, saintly almost. She was my strength and my best friend. The images of her in pain, and later , in varying states of consciousness in those last few days keep haunting me when I close my eyes. I found your video compassionate. Will listen to it again .
Hi Prema. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your mother. I'm glad you find some support in my video. I have a Playlist of videos on grief: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
Thanks. I need to listen to this. I lost my husband of 47 years most unexpectedly. It happened right before my eyes. The pain is so excruciating that I felt part of me is dying. It feels like life is purposeless. I am hoping some of these videos will help. Thanks for your channel.
I miss so much my Gran parents. I admire them and loved them so much.. I don't think i ever told how much i admire them . Every day i feel sad for not spending as much i should have. I lost them, and i feel so regretfull. It's been years and years and i have never stopped missing them
Thank you. I lost my mum over a week ago and its such a sad surreal time. She was my best friend and I was always looking after her in her older years. I'm glad she's at peace but miss her company terribly. These steps are helping
I lost my son, steve he was 38 yo, I'm having a heck of a time, I'm lost, empty, crying all the time, I miss him so much..He passed 2/2/21.. Ty for this vedio..I pray every day...
Your suggestions make so much sense, I lost my baby girl,Two months ago and it is very PAINFUL,I will try all of your suggestions...Thank you ,I am very tired it FEELS like a rapid ROLLERCOASTER....
I think I've just been too preoccupied by life to grieve many, many losses. The most recent is my oldest sister and her son. Other struggles in life, not involving a human loss, also require grieving. And what about the loss of the world, as we knew it?
Thank you this video is helpful. I have experience the horrible feelings in the 12 steps. I lost my daughter a little over 6 months ago. There are times when I still can not believe she is gone. One day I feel a little better, the next day, not. I am praying for my faith to go stronger and for me to accept what I can not change. I spend too much of my time thinking about the past and what I could have and should have done.
Hi, Valerie. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your daughter. Here are two more videos that might help you understand the grieving process you are going through: ruclips.net/video/TXHDAtk8cAI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/i1O0LgKap2A/видео.html.
My heart goes out to all of you. I lost my grandmother 10 years ago. She was my best friend biggest cheerleader confidant my reason for living. The 1st year was hard. The second harder. My grief sent me spiraling into a deep depression I caught all kinds of illness ended up in a medicinal semi coma could only get up to go to the bathroom and back to bed I went. Finally 2 and a half years ago I got strong enough to go back to work at first 6 months part time. When COVID almost took my husband I forced myself into full time. It's been a challenge but I thank God everyday for my progress. There's still a long way to go. One hour and 1 day at a time is all the advice I have for you. Know that it has a purpose some day you will be able to help guide someone through their pain and suffering. Look for your loved ones encouragement to continue in your daily lives. For me 1 of the signs was the color purple in any shade especially lilac that would be a kiss from Heaven from my "GranJefa"
I love that "Gran Jefa"....My grandfather passed away a month ago and I can't deal with it. I miss him so much, I can't believe I'll never see him or hear his voice again. He was like my second father, sometimes the first one. Why is life like this 😭😭😭😭😭
Thank dear man, these videos saved me, when I was walking through some of the most painful times in my life. Working through tremendous grief. Thanks for being gentle, kind and real
Thank you! 🙏 My best friend is suffering greatly and these tips will help tremendously. I cried listening to this, because I realized God brought me into my friend's life for such a time as this. 😍
I lost my uncle yesterday. He meant so much to me. Without him, I probably wouldn't be here today. He was an ER doctor and he's the one who started treatments for my brain tumor when I was a baby. He saved my life
I lost my beautiful 25 year old son to suicide less than a month ago. Your videos about grief feel soothing and helpful to watch. I am only in the very beginning, but will come back to wath these again on my journey. Thank you.
I lost my dear wife and who was also my best and only friend 3 months ago Im in a very dark place, I try going for walks everyday in clumber park but when i pass a seat where we both use to sit only months ago i become a complete wreck and struggle to recover, I truly hope i dont live to long without my friend❤
Hi Tony. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife and best friend. I hope you have healthy supports for your grief because grieving such a traumatic loss alone is too much.
I pray you are finding God's Peace 🕊️ and resting in the palm of his hand. The pain of losing such a dear person can derail us for a long time. Love yourself enough to stay sober and fight 1 hour at a time. 1 day at a time. 😢💔🤟🫶😢
I recently loss my best friend back in April 2015 and I am currently seeing a grief counselor to help my deal with loss. Yes your suggestions that you listed are right on the dot. At times I still struggle and get emotional because I never would have thought that losing someone so early would hurt this much.
yes grief no one can experience it but u ...your own sadness lonliness ..distress.. acceptin of the loss can take your whole life time because there is no end to grief once u accept then u are startin to understand there is no end to this struggle ..in the beginnin u feel there is an end to grief.. how is that possible when even in death there is no end. somethin happens beyond the grave however lg it takes. most of us do not grieve over evry one that leaves...only certain ones we grieve .its a deep feelin that u cannot pray it away laugh it away..forget it away cry it away work it away..or grieve it away.. it is there..it is a condition situation...reprieve only by God's Grace n Mercy.. the acceptance is understandin the process...the journey....the end is never cause u want that person bac any day would be fine . no one can tell u this because they only know how to adapt adjust cope endure .to accept then it starts bac over.we continue to grieve because the loss is in this life time..professionals can only tell you how to grieve and how it may lessen but cannot tell u the duration of time it takes or when it leaves...can u get rid of the label widow ..it is who u are... marry again still was a widow. 🙏God Bless us
This has been a helpful source of calm for me. Thank you for sharing it Carl. I have wrestled with my loss, and have come to some level of acceptance. I thank you again :)
This is a great help for me Counselor Carl. My mother passed away this November 1, 2018, It was a shock for me since my mother was active in sports (tennis) in the age of 62, unexpectedly she had a heart attack and died. I cried a lot for the past 2 weeks until now whenever i think of her... I had regrets in my heart since I didn't watch over her and visit to her house often since I'm a married man and had a family of my own far away from her home. Only If i could turn back time, I would spend most my time to be with her in our old house.. I'm so sad and depressed right now..
Hi, Anthony. I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your mother. You know, dealing with guilt when someone we love dies is a common and natural issue we have to work though in the grieving process, and 99% of the time the guilt is unfounded because it was simply beyond our control. And if we'd only known what was going to happen, we would have done things differently. But we just didn't know.
I lost my son 16yrs ago and it still feel's like yesterday,, I miss him so much and wished that it was a night mare,, your video made a lot of sense to me,,"Thank You So Much For Your Video"
Sorry for your loss,lost my fiance when our first baby was 11 weeks old that was in 2002 till this day on this day I feel like it just happened, I cant find a way to move on.All my relationships end on this month and I'm the one that end things 😭😭
@@nokuthulalembede4256 Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have true peace. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
Wow..I pretty much right on par with all those things on the list except for giving myself time and taking time. I’m just not able to do that because I had so many pressing issues and I have adopted children involved, probate issues, issues, dealing with certain companies that are heartless and cold, but luckily, I have zero debt so I don’t have that hanging over my head.. I like the last one you said about honoring your loved one and the things that you do that you know would make them happy and I catch myself doing that now and it’s a really good feeling.. One thing that really helps with the grief os just getting phone Calls or text from friends or Family that just check up on you. It’s even better if they show up to talk in person much better. It’s kind of a sad feeling when there were so many people there at the funeral or the celebration service but they all seem to have disappeared into their own lives and never contact you anymore . That kind of hurts but it makes me a better person in case I ever run into somebody with the same issues. I will be the person that will call and come visit. Bring dinner. Have a beer go out for lunch go take a drive go on a hike, take the dogs for a walk be your friend
Lost my wife 18 months ago to covid i blame myself because i was supposed to protect her she was house bound and it was brought in from out side she suffered so much before she died in hospital. I can't forgive myself i miss her every day an d night. I loved her to bits and still do
Completely helpful. Bless you. Helpful quote.... When people say it'll get better or easier, it doesn't, it gets different. Diane Keaton quote " death is the one unexpectable thing in life we are forced to accept". If your lost or trapped thinking you feel different, it's because you are. Its a knew life a rebirth without the loved one.
I lost my dad a month ago, he was suffering from an illness and he fought to the last day. I saw him pass and it traumatized me. The pain of not only losin my dad but watchin him go is somethin that is so hard to live with. I am thinking about goin to grief counseling. Thank you so much for your help and advice in how to cope with this.
Hi, Britt. I am very sorry for the loss of your father. I'm glad you found my video helpful. Grief counseling can help you navigate the confusing and painful waters of grief. I wish you the best!
Britt the 5star chick I'm sorry for your loss about your father and about the trauma you experienced. I pray that jesus comforts you I. Your grief and to help you overcome this very tough situation .may god be with you always. I also just lost my husband to stage 4 colon cancer in February 9th 2021. And I also seen him pass away. They put him in a life support machine and respirator machine and blood pressure medicines to keep his blood pressure up and his heart beating. I also am very traughmaurized about this and feel very sad about this situation. Please pray for me also thank you and God bless you.
I lost my husband a year ago in May had prostate cancer stage four found out nothing helped he got skinny it was horrible very Trumatic for me and then before him was my parents within three years dad first then mom horrible the end of the oh yeah middle 2007 -2009
Britt, Jesus loves you! Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have true peace. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I just lost my granddad on Saturday it has been the hardest thing in my life I've had to deal with I just can't stop crying I miss him so much and I'd do anything to bring him back but I suppose he's better off out your video helped me so much thanks a billion Carl
Thank you so much for making this video. Im here because i recently lost my mother to leukemia. Everything still feel very unreal and i am very confuse about everything that is going on in my life. This video really helps me a lot.
Thank you so much for this comforting advice. I lost my 85 year old Mother three days ago and it was I who found her. I was so shocked and traumatised I had to be counselled by the paramedic when they told me what I already knew, that she had gone during the early hours of the morning. You see she had a serious and long suffering illness which she could never recover from, but even so when the inevitable happens, you are never prepared. I have felt cast at sea, I feel vulnerable and as if the grief will tear my chest open, I've cried for hours every day, when I wake up and towards nightfall. During waking, daylight hours I've functioned reasonably well, the funeral arrangements have not been arranged yet, though thanks to my lovely Mum I will not have the added stresses of planning what she wanted nor paying for it, as she, along with me two years ago sat down and filled all details in, for which I am so grateful. It has been a difficult day, I have had to pick up the death certificate sent from the Coroner's office to the doctor, the same doctor who only weeks ago she saw because of yet another exacerbation of her emphysema. I saw my Mother decline over the passed five years, she was an independent, active person up until her diagnosis, she was from a generation, who always got up and never gave up. Her body just failed and I was told she would not have registered it. She is suffering no more, for that I feel relieved for her. The pain I feel now, I was never ready for, it feels as if I have swallowed a brick and my heart feels to be constantly palpitating since the day I found her gone. I don't know if I will need a local bereavement counsellor, because I feel I have been traumatised, will I come to terms with having had such a terrible shock? I am so grateful for this advice and others I have listened to, as it is helping to ground my panicky thoughts and get me through each day. So thank you Xx
I'm glad you found comfort in my video. Grieving is a natural process that allows us to acceptable (sometimes unacceptable) losses so we can return to living in the present moment. It does get better if you allow yourself to grieve. Best wishes!
Thank you. Here I am on my 8th anniversary of my dad's death & like clock work I am sad & missing him so much.I know this will pass & I will get back to some kind of normal but these dates are always rough.Thank you for helping.
Dear Carl, I've been watching the grief videos over and over, they've been very helpful in dealing with the loss of my wife. Thank you for offering this service for us that are in need. Grieving is indeed a miserable place to be but I understand the need in experiencing it.
I just lost my love of my life for 33 years on February 13, 2022. And my daughter 14 years old lost her mom. We both are heartbroken and no things will never be the same. We are going to counseling in hopes of trying to make sense passing of my wife passing. Fortunately I have a profound faith in God and that has helped me tremendously. Although I do trust God with my heart and soul and I know that he has a plan for me and my daughter, it still doesn’t make it easy at this point in time. Rest in peace my love for we will be reunited one day.
Disorienting is right. Grief is such a beast of an emotion. I’m struggling to find direction or purpose, unsure of who I will be. 😢 The loss is so profound
#9@3:03 Have faith that grieving leads to healing #10@3:29 Have faith that grieving leads to personal growth #12@3:54 Self-care is never more important than when grieving a major loss Wow, this words were so encouraging. Thanks Counselor Carl.💙💫✨
It's consoling to know that the devastating tragedy of death is explained so clearly and simply in this discussion. I just lost my precious husband and I'm doing everything he says for the most part but it's so painfully hard to continue on. I miss my beloved husband do much Words cannot describe the deep agony I've been experiencing since he died.
It's so hard. I lost my husband of 45 years to an unexpected diagnosis of stage 4 liver cancer with no hope and then he died one month later. That was 4 months ago. I can't even imagine one more day without him, much less my life ahead of me alone and without him. I have a lot of friends who are here for me and I keep myself fairly busy, although not as much as before, but the evenings when I'm home alone is when it all falls apart again. I read so many books on grief, and I watch so many of these videos on grief, and I talked to my grief counselor, and I talked to my priest, and I go to a group grief counseling meeting once a month at church, and it's fine until an hour later or so. Then I'm right back at the bottom of the pit.
Hi, Sheba. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. You are doing all the right things. Grieving a traumatic loss takes patience, support, and self-care. It sounds like maybe you need more patience with yourself and your grief. It took me 3 years to find my way back to life (90%) after the tragic death of my 21-year-old daughter. I'm not saying it will take that long for you, but four months is not much time to grieve the loss of your beloved husband.
My son passed away three years ago. Heart attack. 27 years old. I’m angry. I feel overwhelmed with my loss. It doesn’t ever get better , it gets different
Hi, Lori. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son. You are right that in some respects we never "get over" the loss. However, we still can find our way back to living life fully in the here and now even as we continue to grieve. I wish you the best.
Thank you Carl. Colton’s bd is Aug 1st and the waves are crashing over me , getting stronger and stronger. Most days I’m drowning. My life as I knew it is over. I am no longer the person I once was.
@@spurrell1964 Usually the anticipation of the birthday is worse than the actual day. Still, it helps to plan for it by either doing something special to memorialize your son and doing something special for yourself to distract yourself from the anniversary. Yes, such a tragedy will change you, but from my experience grieving leads to growth, wisdom and a rethinking of our priorities.
Listening to your video today, as the loss of Grandad has over whelmed me, why after forty years do some days my sadness just completely consumes my very soul!
Hi, Catherine. I am sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandad. There is no closure in grief. There is just learning to live the "new normal" where you learn to return to living in the here and now. Still, there are times when the loss will come back, and that is OK. I called these grieving days. I try to just let them come and let them go.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I lost my youngest daughter Casy after 6 months of suffering from her injuryness after being trapped in the house fire at the very young age of 15 year old she was supposed turnings 16 year old Unfortunately Her beloved body was found near by a front door but she has already gone to heaven I miss her so much
Thanks for the wise words. I can't really see any end to my grieving yet - it was somewhat blighted by the wrong people being around me at first as well as a lot of financial and legal problems. It all feels so humiliating and disrespectful.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy i lost my uncle he was best uncle in world i miss him os much he died on tuseday i talked him i cant apcet him has gone i missing him os and i loved him os much .
@@michellelohde8729 Hi, Michelle. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved uncle. Revisit this video to help you cope with your grief. Self-care and using healthy supports are keys to navigating your grief.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy he wanted me sing at his fundeal and he chose there you be by fatih hill why he want me sing that and what say ? before i sing.
@@michellelohde8729 I'm very sorry for your loss may god comfort you . I also had an uncle that I loved alot my favorite uncle .joram in 1987 in October 12. I was 15 years old now I'm 49. It takes time to heal from emotional pain give it one day at a time. God bless you.
I'm trying to get a clear understanding of my emotions. I lost my dad suddenly 4 months ago. I took time off work and went back. Since, I've found it hard to function normally. Getting out of bed is a chore, work does not matter, (even though I'm my only source of income). I'm not dealing with this well. I want to live my life normally again. The 5 stages video seems to be what I feel, just not in order. I feel like I ask for help out loud and no one can hear me. I find your videos helpful.
Hi, Melissa. I am sorry for the loss of your father. Grieving a major loss takes time, mindfulness, patience, and acceptance, both of the process and the loss. We don't just snap out of it. However, if you are feeling stuck and it is significantly affecting your functioning, I would suggest seeing a grief counselor or joining a grief support group. Hospice generally offers grief support groups. Best wishes.
My wife died 6/1/21. Nothing helped for a year. Though I did some things, I only felt guilty for almost enjoying myself. Really, I just wanted to die... I did not care to continue. I barely ate, I still sleep poorly, I don't go any where I don't have to. I am almost alone in this house.
Hi Mark, I am so sorry for the death of your beloved wife. It's important not to grieve alone. Losing a spouse can be a traumatic loss. I recommend trying to find a grief support group online or in person.
Thank you for your help and taking the time to others. Moving on is so hard my husband was the best man in my life , we was happy everything was beautiful his last words was thank you for loving me baby with joy he went and laid down 😢I needed to cry ty🕊️
My grandmother was diagnosed with Colon cancer a couple of days ago and according to the doctor, there is no alternative treatment. It's especially fearful for me, since the last time someone I was close to died, I was extremely depressed and suicidal for around five years. I'm over 20 years old now and I'm trying to prepare myself and avoid an emotional collapse. I'm also worrying over my mother, since she's begun to not eat or sleep as much as she should. I'm thinking of us both learning how to crochet when we have the time to meet up (Grandma knew how and tried to teach us, but we didn't really pay attention) and I'm ordering an RPG game to play when I'm alone and taking a break from the process.
Hello. I am so sorry for your grandmother's serious illness. Distraction from overthinking the situation is helpful, but you also must allow yourself to grieve without obsessing on the loss for any longer than necessary. I would suggest that you find someone or some place where you can talk regularly about your grief, possibly a grief support group or a grief counselor. Hospice usually offers grief groups for free or inexpensively. They also sometimes offer individual therapy. And if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and/or suicidal again, you should talk with your doctor about getting help. I wish you the best!
This was really helpful. I'm grieving the loss of someone who stole from me and lied to me every single day. He even pawned my belongings for beer money when I was in a coma. He's finally out of my life, but I'm tremendously sad because he was the only person I had in my life.
I lost my brother he was 17 I lost my mom my dad many years ago and now my husband and also my dog I surrender all to Jesus. We are grieving and I am praying to God everyday. Thank you Jesus. Thank you for sharing Amen 🙏 God bless you all. Self care Amen 🙏
Everyone needs to see this video, grieving or not. We would all be better prepared when the time comes. I'm saving this to my favorites! Thank You for your videos!
Thank you, Evelyn, for your kind words. The ability to grieve is a core skill for emotional intelligence. So, you are right. Everyone would benefit from learning how to grieve.
This was a surprising life raft in my sea of grief. I am sharing this with a friend and will probably start and end my day with this. Thank you so much for this brief and reassuring respite.
I lost my husband in August after 36 years. . . its devastating and beyond suffering for me. He was the light of my life and my whole world. thank you for your offering to help us heal. . . if that is ever possible. Right now I don't think I will ever heal from losing him. ..
😒☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
@@richardmcguinn732 i'm extremely sorry for your losses richard. i recently broke my wrist so hard to type - having surg to repair it soon. i know we all go but would have rathered i went before my husband. this has altered my life forever - - he meant the world to me. he was the finest man i ever met in my entire life. we had no children. i've lost other family, friends and pets. my husband remains the most significant person ever in my entire life. my best wishes to you, your son clark and other furry kids
I think that I´m a little too late for the video, It´s july 2021. A couple of days ago I lost my gir, my partner in life for almost three years. She was disabled. She was only 26. She died in my arms. I feel like I´m living another person´s life right now. The pain is unbearable. But this video and this man have shown me some light. May you all achieve internal healing. Have peace and a great life everybody.
Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache and pain to the very core of my soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Feel pretty honoured you replied. Was FT carer for 7 years and it's going to take time , I'm sure there's trauma bonding and all sorts of things to work out. Thanks for your thoughts Carl. Your vids are really good. Cheers.
@@bonitadeortiz1460 How really nice to take the time to write . Thanks for the thoughts. Even after several months now it's still tough as was very close. Hope things are going well your way . Thanks again.
I lost my beloved Grandma on Boxing Day who I loved so dearly! Life definitely isn't easy as she was a much loved member of the family. Words cannot describe how much I miss her. :(
I am sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandma. Yes, grieving a major loss hurts and can be confusing. Use your supports and educate yourself about grieving. Best wishes!
My partner of 20 years has passed from lymphoma, it happened so fast, within a month of seeing a Doctor it had taken him. It's just surreal, reality is just a fog I float in and out of. I pray for understanding as I'm just left baffled by the whole experience, can't make sense of it at all. I can't control or reason with my emotions, they come and go at any set time. Death seems to bring on the beginning of huge changes in your inner being, being gentle and allowing the process seems to be the only way.🙏x
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054
I lost my wife and my daughter, its been a mess. sending love to anyone out here who is hurting. its not easy.Most days I dont even know who I am anymore without them
God bless you brother..
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Try and get your loving friends around you. I have great supportive friends over here in Scotland. Blessings pal.
Hey bro. My name is tj. My mom who was 46 just passed away. I am 33
She had me at 14 yes old. She ws never ever there for me and any attempts that I made as an adult were shot down by her. I hated her so much. But I loved her just as much only a bit more. The only thing I ever wanted in my life was a relationship with her and to know she loved me. Now she's gone and I'm not sure if she ever did. And now she never can. I need peoe in my circle. Maybe you can offer me advice?
Prayers
I just lost my mom 3 weeks ago, she was the only person in my life we did everything together and she was there for me I miss you so much mom
Hi Cori. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
I understand completely.
The gift of grief is that we know we have loved and been loved
That’s so true. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
Thank you
Wow that is very true.
Great way of looking at it, very positive.
@@richardmcguinn732 ❤️
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain sis, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I lost my daughter six months ago. Your video is the first thing I've found that actually makes sense to me. Thank you.
Dee Dimeo Pruitt I know you posted this a while back but how are you doing?
I am so sorry about your daughter. How old was she?
I’m so sorry honey.. hugggsss
Shiianne D I’m so sorry honey!!! Huggggssss
I feel for your loss of your daughter! May God bless and keep you! I have lost my entire family due to my generosity to help a granddaughter and she took complete advantage of me and I had just lost my husband in March of 2020.
I’ll never get over losing my mom. She was my only friend and the only person that loved me. I’m walking around in a dark world that I want out of so badly.
I’m so sorry, I understand, I just lost my Mom 4 days ago, and I am completely devastated 😭🙏🏼
When you're ready, maybe get a pet. Find something to love. I lost my mom 10 years ago, and my cat came to my rescue. My deepest condoleces I know it's not easy.
I'm so sorry, for your immeasurable loss. I lost my mum 2 months ago and she was my only true friend in life. It feels like a lifetime has already passed, and I am in dark and unfamiliar territory right now. I am a completely different person without her. Just know I understand what your going through, and I'm sending you love and hugs and empathy for your situation
I recently lost my mom the grief is unending..I am very blessed to have had wonderful mother like her in my life..I pray I will see her again someday..thank you sir for sharing this video.
you are lucky to have had a good Mom. My Mom died 6 months ago but she was not a good Mom, I guess I grieved while she was alive, she was so narcisstic and uncaring. Believe me you were blessed. I am sure it would be painful to have lost a good Mom.
Me too.
I can relate, it’s just never ending awful.
I understand you, we are blessed to have had wonderful mother in our life, I miss her unconditional pure love, my happiness depended on her love.
So sorry for your loss. ❤
Rest in peace Sarah, I love and miss you. im trying honey so hard. I just cant seem to be ok
I'm sorry sorry, I lost my mom 5 months ago ,I've tried all the steps and I'm still in pain. I pray God gives you the strength to get through this, I promise you will be ok.🙏
@@lydialombardo5606 linda my mom passed 4 yrs ago. The first year is iike being the fires of hell with grief. My advice is stay near to loved ones. Lean on people. Now its been 4yrs. I lean on less people but i still miss her like crazy. I try and celebrate her life than her death. Stay safe. Be kind to yrself xx
I'm so sorry. May God bless you and your family always🙏😢
Mike how are you holding up since posting 2 yrs ago? I found out that it's not okay to not be okay. No one will ever know or understand what you are personally enduring. Have you received any kind of bereavement support or theapy? May you find comfort and encouragement for each new day. I lost my pops couple weeks ago and it's a never-ending nightmare for me. I'm glad for this video.
@@djmgoblue it’s not been easy. The anniversary of her passing is in two days. No I really haven’t but I’ve been very active in my healing via reading and studying. Thank you for checking in on me
I recently lost my dad. He was my idol, best friend, and biggest support in life... and now my life feels so empty without him. Your videos make me feel like I'm not going crazy and that my feelings are normal.
Hi, LD. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved father. I am glad you found some support from my video. I wish you the best!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy thanks
@@Serenityonlinetherapy last night lost my girlfriend of two years she has beast cancer she was the love of my life I was mess my mum and dad had to hold me when they take her body away she was gay and she was my frist real love she was my best friend of 20 years how I cope without my soulmate ???.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy today I open up to my mum and dad about my girlfriend "s death they hate I in much pain and happy i open up to them why they happy i open up to them ???.
I lost my sister and don't know how to live anymore. She is my guide and light in my life, now I am just lost
Hi Sibel. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved sister.
I lost my husband six months ago it's like am in a dream, having him beside me this minutes and all of a sudden he does not exist anymore. The pain is so unbearable. He was my bestfriend and my companion. I am so loss, sad and empty. I remember him as being the sweetest person I ever known. Rest in peace my love.
Hi, Veronica. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
Hope you’ve found peace , comfort and happiness again Veronica?
Man when I read these stories from so many of you going through this I get choked up cause I feel exactly the same way.
Just keeping busy and plugging along in survival mode.
I’m a little over two months in and i have my good moments and bad moments.
It really helps to have friends and family to talk to.
That's what am going through right now 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Lost my partner suddenly six months ago. I had just turned 30 and we were planning on getting married next year. I am devastated. I quit my job because I don’t function like I used to and I don’t know what matters to me anymore. Who am I without him? What could possibly bring me joy? Lots of people around me are suggesting it’s time I find a new job, or take a class or try a new hobby. But they don’t understand that grief has consumed my brain. I am exhausted from fighting the memories of watching him die and trying to figure out where I go from here. It’s hard to do anything. I wish someone could tell me how proud they are that I’m still walking through life with this unbearable pain. Instead I find they are uncomfortable with my sadness and feel the need to fix it. I know it comes from a place of love but it’s not helpful, it makes me feel like I’m grieving incorrectly. This video is full of so many good reminders to just do what we can to survive. I hope anyone reading this knows that I am so proud of you for clicking on this video and doing something to nurture your pain. You are surviving the terribleness like a warrior. Fighting for healing when it feels like there’s no point. I’m with you and I love you.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved partner, Kaleigh. Thank you for sharing.
List my wire just this Ssptember. I understand deeply what youvare going through. So sorry fir your loss. Maycwe both go gorward with our life...
Soooo damned sorry for you😢. The only thing that helped me was wathing video's in wich they tell us that there is no death and that our loved ones help us from the other side.... for the rest nothing helps... (NDE ACCOUNTS)
May be 'grief' is the greatest gift from God, it shows how unbelievable we are able to love, with devine love.....
Sometimes, I think my mind has only 5 procent capacity to fight the grief mentaly, in thise moments I am lost and need to wait for the nex morning to see what the night has chanced internaly. You are nót allone in this.....
Thanks for the kind words I lost my husband 8 months ago and find it really hard without him 😭 people say 'nice things to me but they don't really help me I feel so lost without him
Hi, Tansley. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again Tansley?
@@richardmcguinn732 i lost my boyfriend last mouth at age he died in our house he had motor diaseses he last word was i love you babe and thanks giving me best 7 years and he kissed my hand i stood by him till the end i loving girlfriend and waht kind girlfriend i am to him ?.
Im going through grief right now and your advice have been helpful. Thank you for this. Grief is a such a lonely journey, even though there are others that are grieving with you, it's such a subjective and solo path to walk on.
Thank you. You have given me some hope. I am on day 14 of my moms passing. No. I was one of the people who have feared my entire life on losing my sweet wonderful best friend of a mama. 💕 she was supposed to come home soon. I live in Alberta and she lived in Ontario with my identical twin sister. I am here with our dad and the rest of my family. I am devastated. I have never felt this kind of pain in my entire life. I wake up crying. Even if it was just a nap. Or in the middle of the night. 🥲
She was coming home soon and we were going to celebrate her 70th. My mom was vibrant. I just told her mom! We should go to Banff and the mountains when you come. She said to me ‘I loooooove the mountains’.
I cannot escape this pain. I am so emotionally exhausted.
Hi, Cecile. I am so sorry for the death of your beloved mother. I'm glad you found some support in my video.
How are you doing now?
It seems that dealing with grief is something we all need learn. And this one skill I would not like to have to learn.
Exactly, it is an essential skill that totally sucks to learn.
I don't know that it is a skill set. We all have coping strategies all ready to go. We just need space to discover what our own are, and they will be different for different people. There is no "one size fits all" approach. For example, if you're an introvert you are unlikely to respond to group therapy or even to a one on one therapy. Some people like myself will respond better to solitude and reflection without the threat and unease of sharing. Other people need to indulge in an activity their lost one loved to connect with their grief. It's different for everyone.
I lost my lovely brave, kind mother 3 months ago. She was my best friend. I'm on a major emotional rollercoaster. Listening to your sympathetic advice, helped. I'm going to have some group bereavement counselling sessions next month. Thank you for 'being there'.
You're welcome! I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I trying cope without the love my life she been gone over 2 weeks my mum and dad sent me to talk to my aunt who lost her husband to cancer after i try hang myself they much I in pain and grieve for Megan she was the love my life and my best friend why they worried about and want open up about her ???.
@@michellelohde8683 Hi, Michelle. Please talk to your doctor about your suicidal thoughts, urges, and behaviors. There is professional help available for you. Please get the help you need.
My best friend died yesterday. I woke up this morning feeling like I’ve been hit by a bus. My brain isn’t working and my body is aching from top to bottom. I can hardly focus to write this comment. I feel like I’ve been pushed under water and am fighting to stay afloat. This video helped. I will make decisions for the next several days on what I need to do right now. Thinking ahead is not possible. On foot in front of the other. I can do that. Thank you
You're welcome, Jennifer. I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend.
I know the feeling of loosing a dear friend. After the loss, now you have to travel life by yourself. 😢. It's okay. We live and learn.
Thanks. I needed this right now while experiencing a breakdown. I lost my mother a few months back. She meant the world to me. I get out of breaths when I have moments of sudden realisation of her absence. It is as if I am waking up from deep slumber. Waking up to an ugly reality. Harder to accept when the heart does not want to accept just yet.
Hi, Nidhi. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I'm glad you found support in my video. I wish you the best.
Me too ,I get panic attacks when I realize she is gone
Hello my friend.. I lost my mum 5 weeks ago today from covid.. my mum was my world.. I noticed reading your post that you were close to your mum aswel.. can I ask how your feeling 7months on? ❤
@@danielbiggs6085 Hi. I'm so sorry for your loss. It is insurmountable. Maybe we can connect over email? Mine is nidhibobal@gmail.com
@@danielbiggs6085 for me it's 5 weeks today ,since my mom is gone ,it seems surreal
I lost my grandma almost 6 years ago, and it’s really starting to hit me again, this is exactly what I needed
Lost my grandmother, she’s was everything to me. Sending you love.
I lost my best friend two days ago. He died suddenly, so has been a complete shock to everyone who loves him. I'm totally heartbroken and consumed by grief, I loved him very much and can't see a way out of this darkness. But thank you Carl, I will try to follow these steps.
Hi, Jo Jo. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your best friend. These steps are not so much to follow. Rather they will help you understand what you are going through.
Since the death of my boyfriend I month ago, I found this to be helpful with acceptance. This was taken from a mega pastor on grief; It's the DEATH of what we remember, and the END of what we had in mind
I'm here because i lost my great aunt yesterday. She was 94 years old but she brought me and my sister up. She was the strong one in my family, the one i ran to in times of trouble, or to tell good news to. She was there every step of the way. I was there to hold her hand when she took her last breath...I will always miss her, i can't believe she will never be in my life again...Yesterday, my heart broke into a million pieces :-(
I am so sorry for your loss.
Bugszy buns in very sorry for your loss may god comfort you in your loss.
This helped me make the ‘loss’ easier…
They are not lost…they have simply moved along their own path that had simply crossed your path for a time. You now have to keep moving forward on your own path. There are always bumps on that path, but you MUST continue on your own path.
Namaste.
You’re only the 2nd person to nail exactly what it is that ought to be universal answer for grief. My lovely wife Linda passed away Jan 4th of this year. It took months for one lady friend to tell me the truth - I will never get over it - which is of course the words I upmost despised - “get over it.” Enough said, thank you for your sincere words that did indeed comfort me💛
You're welcome, Daniel. I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife.
I have learned that self-care is one of the most important things. Sometimes, you have to realize the hopelessness in a situation in order to get to the acceptance stage. You cannot change others; only yourself and by learning to let go of the struggle to try to change anything or anybody, that will be the key to moving on and learning to live in the present and to fight for the future. The past cannot be changed. Sometimes not caring anymore is a way to emotionally detach yourself from a painful situation. Trying to find meaning or a silver lining in your suffering is also important. Taking life one day at a time is also a good coping strategy. Accepting that life is not easy is another coping strategy. Lowering your standards and expectations in life also helps too.
Very wise words. Thanks for sharing them!
Any advise on how to grief for family that inmigrated for their safety. As soon as i"feel" better something small will remind me that i can no longer pop up the road and see my loved ones. I wont be part of my grandchildrens lifes. We have always been a very close family and i dread the thought of birthdays and Christmas.
I agree wholeheartedly with your remarks.. stepping out of the crazy merry--go-round, letting go of hurt, allowing to nurture myself..that's my goal, all with God's help🙏
I just lost the love of my life: my wife and my son. I don't know how life will go on but I got 2 boys, 11 & 8, and I'll be keep going for them.
Hi, Shariq. I am so sorry for your tragic losses.
Lost my brother two weeks ago I he was disabled for 27 yrs and was an active caregiver during those years there’s such a big empty space and realized how much my identity was wrapped up in caring for him
Hi, Elise. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved brother. A traumatic loss often causes us to find new meaning and purpose. I wish you the best.
I recently lost my little sister to cancer. This video really helped.
I am so sorry for your loss. My sister also had cancer and passed away a week ago.
Thank you for this video. It just popped up first when I opened RUclips. I lost my dear mother quite suddenly recently. She had been very normal all day and then she had a massive haemorrhagic stroke in the evening. She was in the ICU for 10 days before she passed on. I am traumatized by the violence of her extreme pain and suffering. She was so sweet, innocent and gentle, saintly almost. She was my strength and my best friend. The images of her in pain, and later , in varying states of consciousness in those last few days keep haunting me when I close my eyes. I found your video compassionate. Will listen to it again .
Hi Prema. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your mother. I'm glad you find some support in my video. I have a Playlist of videos on grief: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
I lost my cat. I can't stop crying. Nothing from playing with my bro to talking to my friends, I can't stop. Not even family can cheer me up.
I hope ur okay now..
Thanks. I need to listen to this. I lost my husband of 47 years most unexpectedly. It happened right before my eyes. The pain is so excruciating that I felt part of me is dying. It feels like life is purposeless. I am hoping some of these videos will help.
Thanks for your channel.
this helped for the loss of my cat that I really loved
JamesTubeHD I'm glad the video helped in coping with the loss of your precious cat. They are family members, too.
Same. Love you Jazzy, I miss you
I don’t know how I’ll be when I lose my dogs.
My heart is with you. From one pet Guardian to another.
I miss so much my Gran parents. I admire them and loved them so much.. I don't think i ever told how much i admire them . Every day i feel sad for not spending as much i should have. I lost them, and i feel so regretfull. It's been years and years and i have never stopped missing them
I lost my mum 8 months ago. Today I went to my clinic to seek help for my grief. I feel ill be fine. Thanks for this video.
Rest in peace my only child Cody Mehlos. You were a wonderful human being!
Thank you. I lost my mum over a week ago and its such a sad surreal time. She was my best friend and I was always looking after her in her older years. I'm glad she's at peace but miss her company terribly. These steps are helping
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you🙏
I lost my son, steve he was 38 yo, I'm having a heck of a time, I'm lost, empty, crying all the time, I miss him so much..He passed 2/2/21..
Ty for this vedio..I pray every day...
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son. I am glad you found some support in my video.
Your suggestions make so much sense, I lost my baby girl,Two months ago and it is very PAINFUL,I will try all of your suggestions...Thank you ,I am very tired it FEELS like a rapid ROLLERCOASTER....
Hi, Curtistine. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your daughter.
It's not major loss; it's multiple losses, involving major trauma. Your video helps me much. Thank you.
I think I've just been too preoccupied by life to grieve many, many losses. The most recent is my oldest sister and her son. Other struggles in life, not involving a human loss, also require grieving. And what about the loss of the world, as we knew it?
You're welcome, Kirstin! I'm sorry for your losses.
Thank you this video is helpful. I have experience the horrible feelings in the 12 steps. I lost my daughter a little over 6 months ago. There are times when I still can not believe she is gone. One day I feel a little better, the next day, not. I am praying for my faith to go stronger and for me to accept what I can not change. I spend too much of my time thinking about the past and what I could have and should have done.
Hi, Valerie. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your daughter. Here are two more videos that might help you understand the grieving process you are going through: ruclips.net/video/TXHDAtk8cAI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/i1O0LgKap2A/видео.html.
My heart goes out to all of you. I lost my grandmother 10 years ago. She was my best friend biggest cheerleader confidant my reason for living. The 1st year was hard. The second harder. My grief sent me spiraling into a deep depression I caught all kinds of illness ended up in a medicinal semi coma could only get up to go to the bathroom and back to bed I went. Finally 2 and a half years ago I got strong enough to go back to work at first 6 months part time. When COVID almost took my husband I forced myself into full time. It's been a challenge but I thank God everyday for my progress. There's still a long way to go. One hour and 1 day at a time is all the advice I have for you. Know that it has a purpose some day you will be able to help guide someone through their pain and suffering. Look for your loved ones encouragement to continue in your daily lives. For me 1 of the signs was the color purple in any shade especially lilac that would be a kiss from Heaven from my "GranJefa"
I love that "Gran Jefa"....My grandfather passed away a month ago and I can't deal with it. I miss him so much, I can't believe I'll never see him or hear his voice again. He was like my second father, sometimes the first one. Why is life like this 😭😭😭😭😭
Thank dear man, these videos saved me, when I was walking through some of the most painful times in my life. Working through tremendous grief. Thanks for being gentle, kind and real
You're very welcome! I am glad you found my videos helpful. And thank you for your kind words!
Thank you! 🙏 My best friend is suffering greatly and these tips will help tremendously. I cried listening to this, because I realized God brought me into my friend's life for such a time as this. 😍
You're welcome! I'm glad you found my video helpful. Best wishes!
I'm sorry but if there was a god he wouldnt have took my dear wife 3 months ago who i loved and still love today.
Than You Counselor Carl, I have repeatedly watching your program, thanks for being here for me and everyone.
You're welcome!
My grandmother died yesterday due to a heart attack and I've been going to her house ever since birth :( This video really helped. Thank you :)
Cher Morris I'm sorry for the loss of your grandmother! I'm glad my video was helpful.
I lost my uncle yesterday. He meant so much to me. Without him, I probably wouldn't be here today. He was an ER doctor and he's the one who started treatments for my brain tumor when I was a baby. He saved my life
I am sorry for the loss of your beloved uncle. He sounds like a remarkable man.
He really was. He had a heart of gold.
I lost my beautiful 25 year old son to suicide less than a month ago. Your videos about grief feel soothing and helpful to watch. I am only in the very beginning, but will come back to wath these again on my journey. Thank you.
Camilla Holm. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
I lost my dear wife and who was also my best and only friend 3 months ago Im in a very dark place, I try going for walks everyday in clumber park but when i pass a seat where we both use to sit only months ago i become a complete wreck and struggle to recover, I truly hope i dont live to long without my friend❤
Hi Tony. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife and best friend. I hope you have healthy supports for your grief because grieving such a traumatic loss alone is too much.
I pray you are finding God's Peace 🕊️ and resting in the palm of his hand. The pain of losing such a dear person can derail us for a long time. Love yourself enough to stay sober and fight 1 hour at a time. 1 day at a time. 😢💔🤟🫶😢
huge help .. i was feeling bad for just taking time for myself after my brother past..thank you
Rest In Peace dear friend
Erin. Thank you for your friendship and amazing children. I miss you!
I'm still grieving the loss of my mom and my good friend 😔 I can't wish the pain away 💔 😪 .
I am so sorry for the loss of your mother and good friend.
I recently loss my best friend back in April 2015 and I am currently seeing a grief counselor to help my deal with loss. Yes your suggestions that you listed are right on the dot. At times I still struggle and get emotional because I never would have thought that losing someone so early would hurt this much.
Edmond Yan I am sorry for your loss!
Edmond Yan I'm sorry for your loss, I know the feeling it hurts so badly.
I understand how you feel. There was a lady at my job that died back in January and I'm hurting too. I think about it every day.
yes grief no one can
experience it but u
...your own sadness
lonliness ..distress..
acceptin of the loss
can take your whole life time because there is no end to
grief once u accept then u are startin to understand there is no end to this struggle ..in the beginnin u feel there is an end to grief.. how is that possible when even in death there is no end. somethin happens beyond the grave however lg it takes. most of us do not grieve over evry one that
leaves...only certain
ones we grieve .its a deep feelin that u cannot pray it away
laugh it away..forget it away
cry it away work it away..or grieve it away.. it is there..it is a condition situation...reprieve
only by God's Grace
n Mercy.. the acceptance is understandin the process...the journey....the end is never cause u want
that person bac any day would be fine .
no one can tell u this because they only know how to
adapt adjust cope
endure .to accept
then it starts bac over.we continue to
grieve because the loss is in this life time..professionals
can only tell you how to grieve and
how it may lessen
but cannot tell u the duration of time it takes or when it leaves...can u get rid of the label widow ..it is who
u are... marry again
still was a widow.
🙏God Bless us
This has been a helpful source of calm for me. Thank you for sharing it Carl. I have wrestled with my loss, and have come to some level of acceptance. I thank you again :)
This is a great help for me Counselor Carl. My mother passed away this November 1, 2018, It was a shock for me since my mother was active in sports (tennis) in the age of 62, unexpectedly she had a heart attack and died. I cried a lot for the past 2 weeks until now whenever i think of her... I had regrets in my heart since I didn't watch over her and visit to her house often since I'm a married man and had a family of my own far away from her home. Only If i could turn back time, I would spend most my time to be with her in our old house.. I'm so sad and depressed right now..
Hi, Anthony. I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your mother. You know, dealing with guilt when someone we love dies is a common and natural issue we have to work though in the grieving process, and 99% of the time the guilt is unfounded because it was simply beyond our control. And if we'd only known what was going to happen, we would have done things differently. But we just didn't know.
I lost my son 16yrs ago and it still feel's like yesterday,, I miss him so much and wished that it was a night mare,, your video made a lot of sense to me,,"Thank You So Much For Your Video"
You're welcome. I am so sorry for your tragic loss.
Sorry for your loss,lost my fiance when our first baby was 11 weeks old that was in 2002 till this day on this day I feel like it just happened, I cant find a way to move on.All my relationships end on this month and I'm the one that end things 😭😭
Same here, still raw! 😰
@@Serenityonlinetherapy
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@@nokuthulalembede4256 Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have true peace.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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Tribute to Ethan Lakey
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Wow..I pretty much right on par with all those things on the list except for giving myself time and taking time. I’m just not able to do that because I had so many pressing issues and I have adopted children involved, probate issues, issues, dealing with certain companies that are heartless and cold, but luckily, I have zero debt so I don’t have that hanging over my head.. I like the last one you said about honoring your loved one and the things that you do that you know would make them happy and I catch myself doing that now and it’s a really good feeling..
One thing that really helps with the grief os just getting phone
Calls or text from friends or Family that just check up on you. It’s even better if they show up to talk in person much better. It’s kind of a sad feeling when there were so many people there at the funeral or the celebration service but they all seem to have disappeared into their own lives and never contact you anymore . That kind of hurts but it makes me a better person in case I ever run into somebody with the same issues. I will be the person that will call and come visit. Bring dinner. Have a beer go out for lunch go take a drive go on a hike, take the dogs for a walk be your friend
Hi Jwint. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm happy you found my video helpful.
OMG you say it so right! I feel like a stranger in a strange land. ~Annette
Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
Lost my wife 18 months ago to covid i blame myself because i was supposed to protect her she was house bound and it was brought in from out side she suffered so much before she died in hospital. I can't forgive myself i miss her every day an d night. I loved her to bits and still do
Completely helpful. Bless you. Helpful quote.... When people say it'll get better or easier, it doesn't, it gets different. Diane Keaton quote " death is the one unexpectable thing in life we are forced to accept". If your lost or trapped thinking you feel different, it's because you are. Its a knew life a rebirth without the loved one.
Thank you for sharing, Sharon! I like the Diane Keaton quote. I wish you the best!
“People pleasing will not work” ......thankyou 🙏🙏🙏💗💗
Yes, it won't work and it could fire back to the pleaser ..
I lost my dad a month ago, he was suffering from an illness and he fought to the last day. I saw him pass and it traumatized me. The pain of not only losin my dad but watchin him go is somethin that is so hard to live with. I am thinking about goin to grief counseling. Thank you so much for your help and advice in how to cope with this.
Hi, Britt. I am very sorry for the loss of your father. I'm glad you found my video helpful. Grief counseling can help you navigate the confusing and painful waters of grief. I wish you the best!
Britt the 5star chick I'm sorry for your loss about your father and about the trauma you experienced. I pray that jesus comforts you I. Your grief and to help you overcome this very tough situation .may god be with you always. I also just lost my husband to stage 4 colon cancer in February 9th 2021. And I also seen him pass away. They put him in a life support machine and respirator machine and blood pressure medicines to keep his blood pressure up and his heart beating. I also am very traughmaurized about this and feel very sad about this situation. Please pray for me also thank you and God bless you.
I lost my husband a year ago in May had prostate cancer stage four found out nothing helped he got skinny it was horrible very Trumatic for me and then before him was my parents within three years dad first then mom horrible the end of the oh yeah middle 2007 -2009
Not a good time
Britt, Jesus loves you! Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have true peace.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
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What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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Tribute to Ethan Lakey
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I just lost my granddad on Saturday it has been the hardest thing in my life I've had to deal with I just can't stop crying I miss him so much and I'd do anything to bring him back but I suppose he's better off out your video helped me so much thanks a billion Carl
I just lost my Dad and we were so close. Hearing these tips is so reassuring. I’m amazed at the amount of pressure people put one through to move on.
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad!
Thank you so much for making this video. Im here because i recently lost my mother to leukemia. Everything still feel very unreal and i am very confuse about everything that is going on in my life. This video really helps me a lot.
+Hana Ayako You're welcome. I am sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much for this comforting advice. I lost my 85 year old Mother three days ago and it was I who found her. I was so shocked and traumatised I had to be counselled by the paramedic when they told me what I already knew, that she had gone during the early hours of the morning. You see she had a serious and long suffering illness which she could never recover from, but even so when the inevitable happens, you are never prepared. I have felt cast at sea, I feel vulnerable and as if the grief will tear my chest open, I've cried for hours every day, when I wake up and towards nightfall. During waking, daylight hours I've functioned reasonably well, the funeral arrangements have not been arranged yet, though thanks to my lovely Mum I will not have the added stresses of planning what she wanted nor paying for it, as she, along with me two years ago sat down and filled all details in, for which I am so grateful. It has been a difficult day, I have had to pick up the death certificate sent from the Coroner's office to the doctor, the same doctor who only weeks ago she saw because of yet another exacerbation of her emphysema. I saw my Mother decline over the passed five years, she was an independent, active person up until her diagnosis, she was from a generation, who always got up and never gave up. Her body just failed and I was told she would not have registered it. She is suffering no more, for that I feel relieved for her. The pain I feel now, I was never ready for, it feels as if I have swallowed a brick and my heart feels to be constantly palpitating since the day I found her gone. I don't know if I will need a local bereavement counsellor, because I feel I have been traumatised, will I come to terms with having had such a terrible shock? I am so grateful for this advice and others I have listened to, as it is helping to ground my panicky thoughts and get me through each day. So thank you Xx
I'm glad you found comfort in my video. Grieving is a natural process that allows us to acceptable (sometimes unacceptable) losses so we can return to living in the present moment. It does get better if you allow yourself to grieve. Best wishes!
I just lost my grandma 2 days ago, she was like my mother. This helped, thank you.
Elyssa. You're welcome. I am sorry for your loss.
Thank you. Here I am on my 8th anniversary of my dad's death & like clock work I am sad & missing him so much.I know this will pass & I will get back to some kind of normal but these dates are always rough.Thank you for helping.
You're welcome.
Thankyou, I found this very helpful after the loss of my daughter.
Jani Liebenberg. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.
You know how you can tell this is a real honest channel.There's no thanks button attached to it
Dear Carl, I've been watching the grief videos over and over, they've been very helpful in dealing with the loss of my wife. Thank you for offering this service for us that are in need. Grieving is indeed a miserable place to be but I understand the need in experiencing it.
I just lost my love of my life for 33 years on February 13, 2022. And my daughter 14 years old lost her mom. We both are heartbroken and no things will never be the same. We are going to counseling in hopes of trying to make sense passing of my wife passing. Fortunately I have a profound faith in God and that has helped me tremendously. Although I do trust God with my heart and soul and I know that he has a plan for me and my daughter, it still doesn’t make it easy at this point in time. Rest in peace my love for we will be reunited one day.
I am so sorry for the loss of the love of your life.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you 🙏🏼
My father died two weeks ago. I am so lost. Thank you for this video.
JoRanFu USA. I am sorry for your loss. I'm glad you found my video helpful.
Disorienting is right. Grief is such a beast of an emotion. I’m struggling to find direction or purpose, unsure of who I will be. 😢 The loss is so profound
I am so sorry for your loss, Rachel.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you 🙏🏻 My Mother passed 3 weeks ago, peacefully yet I’m still gutted + overwhelmed w/grief. Appreciate your kind words
@@rachelmisc You're welcome, Rachel!
#9@3:03 Have faith that grieving leads to healing
#10@3:29 Have faith that grieving leads to personal growth
#12@3:54 Self-care is never more important than when grieving a major loss
Wow, this words were so encouraging.
Thanks Counselor Carl.💙💫✨
It's consoling to know that the devastating tragedy of death is explained so clearly and simply in this discussion.
I just lost my precious husband and I'm doing everything he says for the most part but it's so painfully hard to continue on.
I miss my beloved husband do much
Words cannot describe the deep agony I've been experiencing since he died.
It's so hard. I lost my husband of 45 years to an unexpected diagnosis of stage 4 liver cancer with no hope and then he died one month later. That was 4 months ago. I can't even imagine one more day without him, much less my life ahead of me alone and without him. I have a lot of friends who are here for me and I keep myself fairly busy, although not as much as before, but the evenings when I'm home alone is when it all falls apart again. I read so many books on grief, and I watch so many of these videos on grief, and I talked to my grief counselor, and I talked to my priest, and I go to a group grief counseling meeting once a month at church, and it's fine until an hour later or so. Then I'm right back at the bottom of the pit.
Hi, Sheba. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. You are doing all the right things. Grieving a traumatic loss takes patience, support, and self-care. It sounds like maybe you need more patience with yourself and your grief. It took me 3 years to find my way back to life (90%) after the tragic death of my 21-year-old daughter. I'm not saying it will take that long for you, but four months is not much time to grieve the loss of your beloved husband.
My son passed away three years ago. Heart attack. 27 years old. I’m angry. I feel overwhelmed with my loss. It doesn’t ever get better , it gets different
Hi, Lori. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son. You are right that in some respects we never "get over" the loss. However, we still can find our way back to living life fully in the here and now even as we continue to grieve. I wish you the best.
Thank you Carl. Colton’s bd is Aug 1st and the waves are crashing over me , getting stronger and stronger. Most days I’m drowning. My life as I knew it is over. I am no longer the person I once was.
@@spurrell1964 Usually the anticipation of the birthday is worse than the actual day. Still, it helps to plan for it by either doing something special to memorialize your son and doing something special for yourself to distract yourself from the anniversary. Yes, such a tragedy will change you, but from my experience grieving leads to growth, wisdom and a rethinking of our priorities.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy ... Thank you for those words if wisdom.
@@stephaniejernigan2069 You're welcome!
Listening to your video today, as the loss of Grandad has over whelmed me, why after forty years do some days my sadness just completely consumes my very soul!
Hi, Catherine. I am sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandad. There is no closure in grief. There is just learning to live the "new normal" where you learn to return to living in the here and now. Still, there are times when the loss will come back, and that is OK. I called these grieving days. I try to just let them come and let them go.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy
I lost my youngest daughter Casy after 6 months of suffering from her injuryness after being trapped in the house fire at the very young age of 15 year old she was supposed turnings 16 year old Unfortunately Her beloved body was found near by a front door but she has already gone to heaven I miss her so much
Thanks for the wise words. I can't really see any end to my grieving yet - it was somewhat blighted by the wrong people being around me at first as well as a lot of financial and legal problems. It all feels so humiliating and disrespectful.
You must take care of yourself when grieving
@@Serenityonlinetherapy i lost my uncle he was best uncle in world i miss him os much he died on tuseday i talked him i cant apcet him has gone i missing him os and i loved him os much .
@@michellelohde8729 Hi, Michelle. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved uncle. Revisit this video to help you cope with your grief. Self-care and using healthy supports are keys to navigating your grief.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy he wanted me sing at his fundeal and he chose there you be by fatih hill why he want me sing that and what say ? before i sing.
@@michellelohde8729 I'm very sorry for your loss may god comfort you . I also had an uncle that I loved alot my favorite uncle .joram in 1987 in October 12. I was 15 years old now I'm 49. It takes time to heal from emotional pain give it one day at a time. God bless you.
Darryl, I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found my video helpful.
I'm trying to get a clear understanding of my emotions. I lost my dad suddenly 4 months ago. I took time off work and went back. Since, I've found it hard to function normally. Getting out of bed is a chore, work does not matter, (even though I'm my only source of income). I'm not dealing with this well. I want to live my life normally again. The 5 stages video seems to be what I feel, just not in order. I feel like I ask for help out loud and no one can hear me. I find your videos helpful.
Hi, Melissa. I am sorry for the loss of your father. Grieving a major loss takes time, mindfulness, patience, and acceptance, both of the process and the loss. We don't just snap out of it. However, if you are feeling stuck and it is significantly affecting your functioning, I would suggest seeing a grief counselor or joining a grief support group. Hospice generally offers grief support groups. Best wishes.
grief does not end
learnin it is a condition of copin adaptin is key..Talk to God...no one but God gets it...some can identify with u
but few can help
How are you doing now?
I lost my dad last year 5 weeks after he was diagnosed with cancer and this is the most helpful video I’ve found. Thank you for sharing these tips
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. I'm glad you found my video helpful. Best wishes!
My wife died 6/1/21. Nothing helped for a year. Though I did some things, I only felt guilty for almost enjoying myself. Really, I just wanted to die... I did not care to continue. I barely ate, I still sleep poorly, I don't go any where I don't have to. I am almost alone in this house.
Hi Mark, I am so sorry for the death of your beloved wife. It's important not to grieve alone. Losing a spouse can be a traumatic loss. I recommend trying to find a grief support group online or in person.
Thank you for your help and taking the time to others. Moving on is so hard my husband was the best man in my life , we was happy everything was beautiful his last words was thank you for loving me baby with joy he went and laid down 😢I needed to cry ty🕊️
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
Iam so sorry things are si difficult for you.I know how you feel ; beign there myself.
My grandmother was diagnosed with Colon cancer a couple of days ago and according to the doctor, there is no alternative treatment.
It's especially fearful for me, since the last time someone I was close to died, I was extremely depressed and suicidal for around five years.
I'm over 20 years old now and I'm trying to prepare myself and avoid an emotional collapse. I'm also worrying over my mother, since she's begun to not eat or sleep as much as she should.
I'm thinking of us both learning how to crochet when we have the time to meet up (Grandma knew how and tried to teach us, but we didn't really pay attention) and I'm ordering an RPG game to play when I'm alone and taking a break from the process.
Hello. I am so sorry for your grandmother's serious illness. Distraction from overthinking the situation is helpful, but you also must allow yourself to grieve without obsessing on the loss for any longer than necessary. I would suggest that you find someone or some place where you can talk regularly about your grief, possibly a grief support group or a grief counselor. Hospice usually offers grief groups for free or inexpensively. They also sometimes offer individual therapy. And if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and/or suicidal again, you should talk with your doctor about getting help. I wish you the best!
This was really helpful. I'm grieving the loss of someone who stole from me and lied to me every single day. He even pawned my belongings for beer money when I was in a coma. He's finally out of my life, but I'm tremendously sad because he was the only person I had in my life.
There are many kinds of losses, and they all need to be grieved. I am sorry for your loss. Best wishes!
Thank you so much! I'm your newest subscriber :)
I appreciate that!
I lost my brother he was 17 I lost my mom my dad many years ago and now my husband and also my dog I surrender all to Jesus. We are grieving and I am praying to God everyday. Thank you Jesus. Thank you for sharing Amen 🙏 God bless you all. Self care Amen 🙏
Amen. Jesus is the only way to find true peace in this world of sorrow and conflict. God bless you I am so thankful that you found Him!
Everyone needs to see this video, grieving or not. We would all be better prepared when the time comes. I'm saving this to my favorites! Thank You for your videos!
Thank you, Evelyn, for your kind words. The ability to grieve is a core skill for emotional intelligence. So, you are right. Everyone would benefit from learning how to grieve.
Hi Evelyn, how’s your day going with you?
This was a surprising life raft in my sea of grief. I am sharing this with a friend and will probably start and end my day with this. Thank you so much for this brief and reassuring respite.
Thank you for your kind words. I am glad you found some comfort in this video.
Hi Lori, how’s your day going with you?
So sincere and trustworthy, - rare gift..
Thank you, Mr. Wint!
thank you. my mother just passed away.
David Nagley I'm sorry for your loss.
Hy sory about ur loss....my mom passed away three weeks ago how do u mange that
dineo mabotja By accepting that you have to go through a grieving process and practicing good self care. Using your supports. Learning about grief.
David Nagley Sorry for your loss. I know it has been a year since your loss, but I am sending positive vibes over the web for you!
My Granddad Passed Away
13TH OCT 2016
My Granny Anne Passed Away
18TH DEC 2013
I lost my husband in August after 36 years. . . its devastating and beyond suffering for me. He was the light of my life and my whole world. thank you for your offering to help us heal. . . if that is ever possible. Right now I don't think I will ever heal from losing him. ..
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
😒☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you....
@@songsparrow4324 You're welcome!
@@richardmcguinn732 i'm extremely sorry for your losses richard. i recently broke my wrist so hard to type - having surg to repair it soon.
i know we all go but would have rathered i went before my husband. this has altered my life forever - - he meant the world to me. he was the finest man i ever met in my entire life. we had no children. i've lost other family, friends and pets. my husband remains the most significant person ever in my entire life.
my best wishes to you, your son clark and other furry kids
Il never have fun again just exist stay strong ev who's had loss
Hi Jane, how’s your day going with you?
I think that I´m a little too late for the video, It´s july 2021. A couple of days ago I lost my gir, my partner in life for almost three years. She was disabled. She was only 26. She died in my arms. I feel like I´m living another person´s life right now. The pain is unbearable. But this video and this man have shown me some light. May you all achieve internal healing. Have peace and a great life everybody.
Dear beautiful souls.
I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache and pain to the very core of my soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
Hi, Bonnie. I am so sorry for the loss of your little baby boy.
sending love to you. i hope you are taking it one day at a time
I am so very very sorry wishing you so much love and comfort take care of yourself love and hugs
I’m sending you peace and love. Just came upon this video and started reading replies. God Bless your baby boy.
Lost my mum earlier today and this is really good as it is quick and straight to the point , no padding. Brilliant.
I'm sorry for the loss of your mum.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Feel pretty honoured you replied. Was FT carer for 7 years and it's going to take time , I'm sure there's trauma bonding and all sorts of things to work out. Thanks for your thoughts Carl. Your vids are really good. Cheers.
I wish you the best.
I pray your doing well. Wishing you God's Peace 🕊️
@@bonitadeortiz1460 How really nice to take the time to write . Thanks for the thoughts. Even after several months now it's still tough as was very close. Hope things are going well your way . Thanks again.
Talk to someone, shower and sleep. That's what I've been doing
Thanks for these useful tips on coping with Grief will help me support other relatives and friends that have lost loved ones.
I lost my beloved Grandma on Boxing Day who I loved so dearly! Life definitely isn't easy as she was a much loved member of the family. Words cannot describe how much I miss her.
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I am sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandma. Yes, grieving a major loss hurts and can be confusing. Use your supports and educate yourself about grieving. Best wishes!
I lost my grandma 2 weeks ago. She meant the world to me! I loved and love her so much. I still cannot believe it!
My partner of 20 years has passed from lymphoma, it happened so fast, within a month of seeing a Doctor it had taken him. It's just surreal, reality is just a fog I float in and out of. I pray for understanding as I'm just left baffled by the whole experience, can't make sense of it at all. I can't control or reason with my emotions, they come and go at any set time.
Death seems to bring on the beginning of huge changes in your inner being, being gentle and allowing the process seems to be the only way.🙏x
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your partner. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your calm, kind, good advice after losing my husband
You're welcome! I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband.
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054