Gay & Muslim - What I Learnt To Come Out!
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- Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
- My first video! It's a heavy one! I sit down and share my personal experience growing up closeted in an Indian and Muslim family. I share what I learnt over time that helped me come out the closet. Coming out stories really inspired me and gave me the confidence to do it myself so here I am repaying the favour to everyone else in the same predicament!
It's my FIRST video so I'm sure I've done about every RUclipsr cliche in the book so forgive me as I navigate this space and find my ways. Sorry for the shoddy lighting change and any rookie editing mistakes, I filmed bits on different days and the weather changes so quickly in the UK. Also, take a shot for every time I say 'essentially'.
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This comment section is intended to and will always be a safe space for everyone in the same boat as me. Thank you to everyone who’s commented so far, I love that we are able to know we’re not alone. For anyone who wants to leave a comment that ultimately won’t support equality, please know that we wish you the best in your personal development and you’re comment will be deleted 😁✌🏾
Your* ffs 😂
As a Bi and Indian dude, this was relatable. I love that you're so comfortable in your skin. I know it must have been tough for you, but you should be proud of how far you have come.
"visibility is key." period! I relate so much to your story, coming from a religious family and culture 💛
Visibility IS key 👌🏾 glad you agree! I hope your story outcome is similar to mine too ☺️
I relate to your story so much. I come from a Pakistani Muslim family. I’m binge watching coming out story’s right now lol even though I don’t think I’ll ever be ready to come out to my family as they are super religious and stuff but this video really resonates with me and my experience especially with school and coming from a south Asian background and my religion.
I’m glad your family were so accepting ❤️
You will be ready one day when it is right for you!
I too come from a south Asian Muslim family.I'm an ex Muslim now and gay and nobody around me know anything about these.And yeah my mother is also super religious like you said about your family.
No Prophet of Allah can approve any sinful activities.
Quran is True Guidance for whole family 🎉
Hey, I'm gay and Muslim, I live in a very religious and homophobic country, queer people are killed illegal, hush hush, so many relatable points from you story, the marriage one, I breaks my heart every day that I can't be able to fully express my self, I dont care what my family thinks about me not choosing to get married, I just feel to stressed that I was literally born onto this world with a fate of being loveless literally
Thanks for making this video. I'm in my mid-40s and I wish I had had a resource like RUclips and videos like this when I was a teen to help me deal with many of the pressures and issues you describe in this video. You've done something very important for young lgbt youth who are similarly situated. Well done.
Thank you so much for saying so! It’s exactly why I wanted to make this channel. Some visible support for everyone in the same situation. Hope you’re doing good yourself!
My bosses are muslim and I'm an lesbian American Christian and they have showed more love and kindness to me than the Christians have and they have also respected my faith and love for God no judgement. Goes to show that we never judge no one no matter sexual attraction, religion, beliefs. Much love from me to everyone tryna find acceptance and love
Probably because of the society that they live in.If the community around you is accepting,it influences others as well.But much love to them,only if everyone was like that the world would be such a better place
It's because u r not muslim, they r OK with it. If u were muslim and lesbian they would hate u, just ask them how they would treat their daughter or son if they turned out as homosexual. You know right in a few muslim countries, what the punishment for homosexuality is, according to shariah?
@@rt20089 You didn't actually read what she wrote, or your reading comprehension is abysmal.
This was so heartfelt your still so handsome. Your experience being Muslim, Indian, Gay is so real and happens. Your not just going to hell because your gay in any religion it’s definitely the way you treat people, the life you live, and being a kind and caring person. If you do this God wouldn’t want to see you in hell. This is determined by living a pure life ❤️.
Great testimony! Hope it helps lots of gay Muslims.
All the best! And take care!
Really proud of you. One of my quotes is, "If you're doing something you're ashamed of you shouldn't be doing it." I am so proud of the fact that I was never ashamed of who and what I am. I too realized that I was who I am when I was a boy.
OH MY GOD. THANK YOU BRO!!!!! im la lesbian and muslim.
Impossible.
bravo for your honesty, clarity, and bravery. thank you for your example. awe and appreciation from here.
Thank you so much! This made my day 🙌🏽
I am also Gay 🌈🇳🇵💕 love your coming out story!!!!!
Y did u go in
Much respect to you!♥
Who else really like that plant behind?
Haha, it’s from Ikea 🪴
You r a role model man!Well done!👏
This is the best and most courageous coming out story I have seen on YT. Trust me - I have seen many. After having seen your 2ND video I will be back with a more comprehensive comment.
That means a lot. Thank you so much! ❤️
Im 25 years old Somali I’m going through this now and since I was 12 years old
Hey.. I know its really difficult to come out of closet. I know there's a hell lot of videos about coming out but it requires a lot of courage to do that practically. It took me alot of time to come out and still i have just came out to my friends and i still don't have any courage to say anything to my parents. Being an indian it is actually very tough to come out because there are your so called relatives and society who are ready to judge you.. Kudos to you it really feels amazing when someone shares there coming out story because it makes me feel that i m not the only one going through this. Loads of love to you #comingout #lgbtq
Hi Yogesh! First of fall f**k society. You are a member of society. Change it to be the society you want by being your authentic self. Glad you aren't feeling alone in this. The more of us that use our voices, the more we can make it further acceptable in Indian society.
I remember my sister coming out and she told me she was l
attracted to girls her age. She was 18. I was 25. Our parents r.i.p. My reply was, i want you to be happy in your life decissions and i am happy for what ever you choose to do. Our wider family adapted to lesbian, gay relationship over time. No problems.
You are number one first. Be honest to yourself. You need to be happy just like my sister and i want you too. You will have friends that will love you and that is important. I have gay friends and i enjoy there company. My wife and i have no problems. So friend just be the person you want to be. Be happy.
Thank you for sharing your story, i have been thorough same as you been through i am so proud of you you are a prime example brave, bold and handsome guy
Thanks for sharing. Coming from a South Asian background too, I wonder whether your coming out affected how the community treated your parents. That's one of my main concerns - how my parents will be treated by the wider community.
Hi! Great question! Naturally there was some difference initially but there is no animosity at all now. I’ll explain further in my part 2 video 😁
@@samsoutlook Glad to know there's no animosity now. I have many relatives and I think that many will make comments/suggest treatments to my parents. I know my dad doesn't care at all what will others say, but I doubt my mom can handle the pressure. That's my main concern at the moment. Looking forward for part 2 =)
Hey man.
Appreciate the video.
So many points are relatable. Almost all.
Would love to know more about you in your upcoming videos.
Keep it up.
Cheers.
Thank you! There's definitely more content coming soon. Stay tuned :)
God will never make anyone hate them. So it's ok to be you. Love has no boundaries....the hate is created by humans....God is, was and always will be happy for his children. So #loveislove...#loveyourself.....#Godlovesyou....
I could not agree anymore! 🙌🏽
I am gay and Muslim and Allah created me that way. If I was meant to be straight he would have made me that way. That's my opinion anyway
YES to all of this! 🙌🏽
Absolutely helpful. I totally relate with him.
Great msg mate. I can exactly relate myself to your coming out. Coming from a Traditional South Indian family, to let family know, and to wait for their reaction was Difficult, I did it. I’m spiritually connected till Today, I haven’t lost any of my old idols from childhood after coming out.. there are aspects of me that resembles my identity of who I’m and I stand by it.
Thank you and I’m glad you can relate too. Happy to hear that you are confident in who you are. We need more of that in the world!
Love is love 👬
I am a south Asian lesbian . When I came out to my parents, they totally rejected me .
I'm suddenly feeling better because of this video. I've been doing research for as long as i remember about exactly the same situation, Which is being gay and muslim. and i didn't get any legitimate answers about this subject. This is exactly my life, and i mean it by saying exactly. I've been fed so many lies and fake beliefs that when i realized that this is all bullshit, i was thinking about leaving Islam for good, it's so difficult to comprehend how hard it is to fight this dilemma between your religion and your passion for living as a gay man.
Thank you for clearing that out , and giving hope for us again, that everything is going to be great. Keep going. ✌🏽
Thank you for you sharing Rabea. It’s so difficult for us to navigate these identities but with more conversation and solidarity we can work through it and make real change. Your sexuality will always be valid. Your religious identity will always be valid. I’m glad to have been a source of hope for you ☺️👌🏾
@@samsoutlook you're awesome ❤️
Dont act upon it. God gave it to you because he loves you and he wants to test you. Not acting upon it will give u a very big reward in the hereafter. This dunya doesnt matter, ur love in this dunya doesnt matter !! When we die and enter the grave this dunya would feel as if it lasted 2 seconds. Dont do something you're gonna regret. The afterlife is the important life. May allah guide us all ameen.
@@bilalbou9173 that’s exactly what I’m fighting for my whole life but the fear is for me to get exhausted of fighting my desires and give up. You know what I mean!!!. It’s really harder than it looks, it’s like watching yourself from your point of view growing up alone and miserable. This test is really hard man, only the ones doing it can feel the struggle.
Thanks for the reminder anyway.
@@rabeafadily9505 i understand, i really do nothing is easy in this dunya. But just remember that after every hardship comes ease. Everything happens for a reason and god wouldn't be testing you if he knew you couldn't handle it. You can do this .
Hello from Scotland good on you mate
My God...u are so adorable 😍. All 💘 love
Thank you!
This video literally speaks to me
So happy that it does! 🙌🏽
RUclips recommend me this vedio. I was like oh god! this guy is soooo cute and handsome at a same time. And believe me no exaggerating.
Thank you so much im bisexual and muslim and I find it relatable even though I have a Christian mother I wouldn't totally understand, I recently converted to Islam
I’m happy you find it relatable. How’s your coming out journey been?
@@samsoutlook good but also difficult trying to find myself sometimes
Bright, beautiful, brave...and maybe even a Brummie 😁?
What's not to love ❤️
Live long and prosper young man 👍
Yes I am brummie! I’m glad that I haven’t shaken the accent. Was worried it was fading from being in the south too long
All the best👍💯👍💯 may your channel get alot of love from India🇮🇳
Thank you so much! I hope it does get a lot of love from India too! 😄
How i wish that i can found my Long Distance Realtionship, and be the important life of me and my family,
Congratulations
Appreciate 👍👍
I'm single gay man 48.
Cant come out..i know my family.
I know it's not possible to find a soulmate too😪😪
Wish more Muslims were like you❤️
22 & 7 to shirt means what? Non straights do exist in Indian culture of America. Even as when Indians where mostly living to the land. They existed.
Not long ago christians were in the same situation. Was a criminal offence until 1967 but the stigma still goes on and on.
It does go on and on and to an extent it will always be there. But as long as there’s some effort to fight the stigma, small steps can go a long way.
God say you shall not lie with a man with a woman / it is not your call god did not make you as u are you are the as of you Satan
What an articulate, good looking lad. Hope he likes older white guys lol...😜
Thank you! And yes I do haha
I'm going through exactly this rn, but the only difference is that I'm from a Pakistani background and I go to a mixed boys and girl school
Hope you’re managing to cope better than I did! Sending you lots of support if need be. If you’re not out already, you’ll definitely get there! We’re here for you 💪🏾
@@samsoutlook I kinda came out to my friends but they didnt accept me so I cut myself off from all of them
I've drawn 2 rainbow pictures but my family hasn't gotten the memo. Also, I think my sister already knows but I dont know why she hasn't asked me if I'm like this
I have cried myself to sleep 3 times in the past month
I don't think I'm ok
@@1vyKh4n cutting your friends off who don’t support you is worth it! You’ll be able to remove yourself from situations in which you aren’t valued. There will be people out there who want you to be your authentic self. Don’t give up! It’s a lot mentally to deal with but your identity is valid and if you accept yourself, the right people around you will accept you too.
@@samsoutlook thank you a lot, that's confounding to hear
I never realted so much to a video ever in my life.All of the experiences you shared,i went through it and still am.I haven't come out yet, prolly won't anytime soon mainly because the country and environment I live in doing that could potentially be dangerous for me.But I am true to myself now,and accept myself for who I am.That I would say is an improvement as years prior I hated myself for something I had no control over..
Now .. what happens..Alla and your family also both have accepted you or not..
You are gay..you should be proud for it.. that's all.. don't be care about anybody.. it's your life ,so it's your right to live your life with your way without compromising ..nobody have any right to judge you..ok..
We forget that religions do not thrive unless they reflect the values and biases of the culture in which they hope to grow. they require a 'marketable' set of ideas in order to compete with preexisting religions and secular philosophies among the demographic they want to convert. It becomes a cycle where the pervading culture helps form the boundaries of the faith as expressed by religious literature and oral traditions, and the religion builds its 'fence' of values and beliefs that re-enforces those same boundaries it helped to codify. My point is that no organized religion that is centuries old is solely responsible for what stays in the fence, and what stays outside. Historical, economic, ethnic and political forces did their own number on a culture that is mirrored in those texts, and their interpretation, whether they get formal credit or not. Religion may have been used to defend and justify homophobia. But it was exploited to that end, to serve convenient secular, social and political purposes over the centuries as it developed. We can't centuries later compartmentalize how much blame each element that makes up cultural and institutionalized homophobia deserves.
Beautiful 😇😇😇
Thank you! ☺️
❤❤❤
You are handsome!
الله يهديك ويصلح حالك وأحوالك🤦🤦🤦🤦
HOWDY from the lone star state of Texas sending you love, hugs and kisses
HOWDY back at you! 🙋🏽♂️
Hope everything is going well with you
You should do a ted talk. You have a unique situation and you are so well spoken... also sooo handsome lol, but that has nothing to do with anything.
Thank you! I’d love a ted talk. Editing helps me sound articulate but I appreciate the compliments nonetheless.
Hope you’re doing well Michael ☺️
And Lot, who said to his nation 'Do you commit such indecency (sodemy) in a way that no one has preceded you in the worlds? You approach men lustfully instead of women. Truly you are a nation who exceed (in sin) ; The only answer of his nation was : Expel them from your village, They are people who keep themselves purified; We saved him and all his family except his wife, who was made to remain, and we rained down upon them a rain. So look how was the end of the evildoers.
QUR'AN 7:80_84
Hi Sam, I can relate, as a 53 years old Irish gay man and an only child from a traditional Irish Catholic background in Rural Republic of Ireland where being gay in Rural Catholic Ireland was definitely a taboo and where one was told very forcefully by the Catholic Priests and the Nuns to “cop yourself on” accompanied by a good hard “clip across the ear” in the Irish village where I grew up in the 1970’s & 1980’s, as there was a belief that being gay could be beaten out of someone, where the Irish Police at that time would drag some people into the police station and give them a good hard kicking to “cure” them of being gay as in “gay bashing” - in the early days, it was not easy, even though I’d lived in Dublin for 3 years, but I eventually moved to Manchester 21 years ago and the relationship with my family in Rural Ireland was much improved in that time - although born into Vatican II, I became a Traditional Catholic 18 years ago after I returned to my Catholic faith (after encouragement from a Pakistani Muslim friend to do so), as I am also an Irish patriot and I’ve not had any real problems in these circles, as I’m fully out as gay to everyone - you might know that being Catholic is intertwined with Irish identity, as Oscar Wilde was an Irish gay man, as well as Sir Roger Casement (who took part in the fight for Irish freedom in the Easter Rising of 1916) - I’ve worked alongside both Indian and Pakistani Muslim people after I moved to Manchester in 2002 (as I’ve been in supermarket retailing for 30 years) - but you are also a very handsome looking young man (I’m probably way too old for you though 😂) - I note that you recorded this video during Covid which was a very difficult period for all of us, as even though I’ve always held an Irish passport, I was unable to visit family in Ireland from Dec 2019 - August 2022 due to Irish Covid restrictions which lasted far longer than the U.K. restrictions 🇮🇪☘️🇮🇪❤️
''as there was a belief that being gay could be beaten out of someone''
Wait, it's not true?
Oscar Wilde was not gay.
Quran is True Guidance for whole family members 🎉
All prophets of Almighty Allah taught to stay away from all types of sinful activities in the whole family.
❤
In other countries it wouldnt b so easy.
Thanks for sharing. More power to you.
You look so handsome and smart that it's hard to believe you are a gay, as against the common notion that gay mostly have feminine nature.
Hi! Thank you for the compliments, I appreciate it. Gay people are a multitude of valid traits and natures just like straight people too 😁
☺️
Have you come across Amit and Aditya on youtube. They are out, married and embraced by their families.
I have. They’re great!
Where are u from originally ?
I’m Indian, but born and raised in England
U r looking 😘
Thank you!
astaghfirullah
Chickens and KFCs 🥰
And Lot, who said to his nation 'Do you commit such indecency (sodemy) in a way that no one has preceded you in the worlds? You approach men lustfully instead of women. Truly you are a nation who exceed (in sin) ; The only answer of his nation was : Expel them from your village, They are people who keep themselves purified; We saved him and all his family except his wife, who was made to remain, and we rained down upon them a rain. So look how was the end of the evildoers.
QUR'AN 7:80_84
So basically, the Quran is saying you should rape women? According to you, that is okay?
Alright bro.