It's weird having a personality as a kid. then wearing a blank mask as a teenager. Then learning to give my mask an acceptable personality. Then realizing I have no idea who I am anymore.
Ye its weird some days i feel so damn confident socially and radiate good vibes, and i feel like im being myself but im not sure? Is there ever a way to know? Then theres me when i have bad mood and feel insecure and its a polar opposite. Who am I!!!
I literally don’t know what I’m actually interested in or how I really feel or where I like to visit or what I like to eat. I’m not super passionate about anything. It makes me want to ask my old childhood friends what they thought about me as a youngin. I can’t do that tho because that’d be weird.
Autism has been a challenging journey, but the therapeutic benefits of psilocybin mushrooms have been transformative, with other psychedelics like DMT and LSD also playing a key role in my healing and personal growth.
I'm not autistic but have an autistic friend. He requires more time, more patience, more understanding. But he pays with great loyalty. I know he would help me. I remember once I was very upset, almost in tears, shouting. He just didn't notice that. I told him I'm upset and he immediately started asking me how could he help.
@@TheMavigoz Sorry for my English, I translated it too directly. I meant "odpłacać się" - to do some favor because someone did a favor for you. Not necessarily material. My bad.
This describes me. I became aware of my Asperger syndrome when reading an article about computer hackers about seven years ago, at age 70! Since I spent much of my adult life working overseas, my social incompetence was often ascribed to cultural difference, and I could focus on my interests as a visiting expert. Being retired, though poor, and mostly isolated, these have been my happiest years, pursuing my interests without offending everyone. I thank God for my sweet wife who stayed with me through everything.
Galen that’s very interesting reminds me of Daniel Tammet who wrote the book “Born on a blue day” because he had a similar experience. He said he was always very awkward growing up until he went to a foreign country to teach and his students just assumed his odd behavior was just a cultural difference and he said that was the first time in his life he felt truly welcome and appreciated. Makes me think I should do the same because so far things are not working out
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic
@@alessandrocoppola4642 social impairment and the inability to understand what other humans experience beyond logical conclusions to the point it destroys your life is part of growing up?
It seems that living in foreign country makes an excuse for me to accept the truth- no friends, partner even I drove my family away from me. Have to do something!
@keecefly i genuinely want to warn those who are getting too interested in this. if you play the victim you will suffer dearly as you reach closer to the age of about 40. thats how it looks to me. dont use anything as a excuse to not move forthrightly in life. if you are introverted it will expand your character to learn how to be extraverted when need be. i have been diagnosed with autism, for whatever it is worth. it doesnt mean a great deal to me.
@@gubourn I'm not hung up on it at all, but it was a serious question. The signs listed in the video are just really vague and I feel like a lot of laymen and doctors could be misdiagnosing themselves/others. (For the record I don't think there's anything wrong with being autistic/autistic people)
I actually told a good friend he might be autistic. Two weeks later he thanked me. He is 53 and asked his brother if he thought he might be autistic and his brother said absolutely. My friend said it changed his life for the better and now understands why he is different.
I broke up with my guy for this behavior. This is what I've been saying but I don't think he knows. We've been reconnecting but I wish he would get diagnosed.
I think it depends on your relationship with the person, and the situation/how you bring it up. Cause yeah honestly if I was struggling with something, I'd be really grateful to find out exactly why, like I'm always having to research and figure it out my issues on my own and then I have to explain it all to my family/friends/doctors, so it'd be nice if someone else could figure it out for me (esp doctors, why do I have to push every step just to get tested/the help I need, it's exhausting)..
@@queenofmanifesting5 Would a diagnosis make any difference? For example, he will still be the same as he has always been. Having a label attached to it won't necessarily make him any different. Knowing doesn't provide the "cure"
@@Oh-Monkey I had a friend imply I should get diagnosed to get medication - because thats what she did it and it helped her. But I believe that this is me, I don't want medication to change that. And I know from now to when I was a teenager I've gotten a lot better at managing it. Like it's not even masking, I just have worked through the social stuff (which is the main issue tbh). And yeah, I still get things wrong, but I can go up to a cashier now without having a panic attack. It's the small wins.
Yet to this day I still encounter so many people who have no fucking clue what autism/aspergers is, but they still decide it's a good idea to make stupid jokes about it that are not only completely unfunny but also extremely ignorant. Usually I ignore them and forget about it but here lately my patience has finally begun to erode away.
@@loturzelrestaurant Dr. Asperger lived in Vienna, Austria in the 1920s, 30s and 40s. Some people now want to change the name because they associate him with the Nazi's. As an Aspie I don't want to be called autistic or even "On the spectrum".
‘Overly Logical’ I sometimes call myself a Vulcan and an Android, that’s how I managed to deal with a lot of socially awkward situations, I imagine myself as Spock or Data, and suddenly I feel in character and feel somewhat able to manage conversations
I'm your poster boy. I'm almost 55, single. Have had problems with intimate relationships so I gave up 15 years ago. I have close friends who understand me, but there's the overwhelming feeling of loss due to inability to connect when I was younger. Despite friends saying that I'm "a catch" as I've taken care of myself and look younger than I am; I can't endure the pain of the awkwardness any longer. Being alone is the lesser of the options. Luckily I'm not depressed or suicidal, it's just reality. I've been single for so long that it's my normal. But over the years I've had activities where I've had to be outgoing so I learned coping mechanisms to hide the reality. I appear "normal" when I'm REALLY not. Same goes for the work thing. I have a lot of varied skills and it was always a blessing. But when I hit 50, the job offers stopped. Thank goodness I have savings and have a few properties I partially own with my sister for income. If I could have only been diagnosed 40 years ago.
Never give up, sir. However, please be very careful not to over share about your predicament. I’ve made that mistake too and feel your pain. Please be safe.
lohphat All of what you wrote about difficulty with human relationships and access to work due to aging, are tragedies and I don't want to minimize them, but our only source of help should be God and our only care in this finite and brief life should be to strengthen our relationship with him. If he made us ''autistic'' let us accept this condition with gratitude and its suffering as well because they have the potential to sanctify us and bring us closer to God.
lohphat I can relate to almost everything you have shared. I was diagnosed last year at age 60 (a course I had to follow by my own education and conviction with no medical guidance) having spent my entire life trying to understand, correct or heal what ever it was that was different about my abilities. Like you I was fortunate to retire early, in my case with support from my parents. I present and appear as ‘normal’ and intelligent but cannot function as such. Growing older and experiencing lower expectations from others has been very helpful. All the best to you :-)
I was drawn to autism and worked in a school in the “special education department” in my late twenties early thirties. During that time I learned so much and the children were such a blessing! It is only in my life after that I realize they were teaching me about myself.
I recently lost my brother who went through a major anxiety melt down which got the better of him. He was 65 but was only diagnosed at the age of 60 when he had his first anxiety attack. This video was very helpful to help me reflect on his past behavior and better understand what he was going through. When we were kids in the 1960s someone like my brother was just viewed as extremely shy especially when it came to socializing , so on reflection he did really well. Just sharing.
@@lauragardner129 sorry to hear about your brother. I often think back on whether I could have helped my brother at an earlier age had we only known ! Best.
@@kevanalbrighton5887 thank you.I think we all wonder if we could have done something different,but we probably could not have done anything differently that would have significantly affected the outcome.sorry for your loss as well
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For me, realizing I was on the spectrum, and finally getting the diagnose, was a pure blessing. It gave answers to my many questions. If someone probably has autism, I think it would be better for them to actually get the diagnose, but maybe others are more ashamed by it. For me, it was a very welcome release of years of stress and angst about not fitting in.
@@JaySpoonn: It was a very long process for me and I had to fight a lot and demand second opinions. But the first step is usually the family doctor, then a simple test to see if it's relevant to do further checks at a psychiatrist. You can start by doing an online test to see how much of the diagnose criteria that fits with your life. Hope you understand what I mean, I'm usually good at English but when it gets technical like this it's more difficult to find the right words.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
i got my diagnosis at 31 when my 2 year old was getting diagnosed, and as we learned more about him and his autism me and my wife both had an "ooohhhhh" moment with me. Feels nice knowing who i am now and not having a poor opinion of myself
@@AbstruseDaPoet spoke to my doctor, then i ended up seeing a few specialists, taking tests and things. it was a very long process and very expensive where i live.
@@its_mew_ That’s ridiculous, learning disabilities and mental health prognostics should not be expensive. I long for a world in which simplistic diagnostic criteria doesn’t cost an arm and a leg to produce.
You basically just described my entire life in this video. I always eat the same foods every day and wear the same close.I constantly shake my leg and I don't talk to people.My eyes and ears are very sensitive. I have been playing the same video game for 4 years and I love to use medical and physics jargon, it drives my family crazy. My social awkwardness is off the charts. Thank you Paul, this is A great video!
I'm really struggling to see the difference between being autistic and being introverted. I always felt different, weird, socially awkward... and I see myself as introverted. But some of the autism traits are very relatable... in some aspects, more than introverted traits.
Do you do a lot of work to over-come some of the social difficulties? Personally, I've been told I present really well, and when I tell people I have social anxiety--or that I'm on the spectrum--they'll say "You can't be! You're too social!" But they are often just projecting themselves onto me, probably because I'm mirroring them... they don't see all the "calculating" I'm always doing in social situations: Are my arms crossed? What is my body language saying?What is my facial expression reflecting? Eye-contact: I either count out beats, or stay locked until they blink. Are they laughing or crying? (--wait to find out before continuing) What jokes can I make out of what is presented? When can I speak? Is what I want to say, applicable or appropriate? (I don't want to talk about home ownership, I want to talk about supermassive blackholes...) Am I dominating the conversation, steering back to what I want to talk about? Why aren't these people depressed? I try not to visibly react to things I find upsetting, work on my "poker face." I make sure I ask questions... and so many other "calculations" that don't spring immediately to mind. I try not to impress, I often want to do something impressive, but people don't want to be impressed all the time, they want to be understood... Unfortunately, I usually can't understand them--their feelings and stories are not connected the way I understand--but I can make it look like I do. I'm a good actor, after decades of painful trial and error; deliberate practicing and calculating social interactions. It's always been very important to me to be liked (who doesn't wan to be liked), but this motive drove my efforts to overcome the traits that had not worked socially. I turned to alcohol to cheat. Drunkenness made me actually interested in people, and actually care about their lives... it made me feel naturally social. I was chatting up people on the bus, with what felt like genuine interest. But like many, that lead me to alcoholism. The alcoholism lead me to homelessness, which lead me to have to survive on my own, which forced me to adapt and learn: to know the human animal, so as to stay out of its way.... Even now, I take medications and use cannabis to alleviate my anxiety and quiet my mind a bit; it has helped me empathize more accurately. My traits, struggles and abilities have changed, waxed and waned, over the years. A lot of people on the spectrum "mask" their deficits so well, that they, themselves, are not aware that they are compensating so heavily. I thought all the many stressful thoughts that flood my brain with every encounter, were what everyone felt... but I found out that it is not, and that very few people see (or feel, or hear) the world the way I do. I worry a lot about the inability to be understood, despite speaking english--I worry that I am the lion in Wittgenstein's axiom: "If a lion could speak, we could not understand him." The inner experience of the lion--the lion's frame of reference--would be so foreign to us humans that though the lion uses english words, no human would understand what the lion was going on about... I don't know if that helped any... There is such a broadness to the spectrum that one may relate strongly to some traits that others experience, and not so strongly to others. If you're really curious, try taking the Autism Quotient quiz, and/or talking with a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist. AQ: psychology-tools.com/test/autism-spectrum-quotient
@@sagittarius_a_starr I relate to a lot of this. I've thought before that I might be on the spectrum, but everyone doubts you initially, even professionals it seems like. It is strange feeling like such an alien that you can't even properly express your thoughts and feelings in a way that can be easily understood by other people. It makes you feel esoteric. I know that I am a person and have the same needs and feelings as others, but with how hard communication can be, my penchant to run on tangents or rant, and the social anxiety of constant calculation to make sure I'm in the moment and present makes it difficult to really connect with others. It leaves little room for real conversation with anyone I don't already know very well.
Most autistic people (not everyone) are seemed to be introverts, which it doesn't matter if you are introvert you can still be on the spectrum, If you really want to know and need help you should consider go to get diagnosed.
@@connerkinsman5217 In high school I wrote a first-person narrated novella about an alien consciousness, that is sent to earth as a scout/researcher from a distant civilization, that gets stuck/trapped in its human body, stranded on earth, and reluctantly but eventually “becomes” human, only to rescued at the end. I later discovered this isn’t a tremendously original idea. Years later Pandora came out…which seemed a variation on that motif. The one teacher that bothered to read it, said that I created an “interestingly analytical perspective” for the alien character-which stifled the narrative with too many details… I relate to that alien feeling-for me it is most apparent when tying to understand the motives and reactions of others, and when my jokes land WAY off their mark (still technically funny, but wildly inappropriate). I recall sitting in second grade and truly thinking, “I must have lost connection with the mothership… there’s no way I belong here…” I was 7 years old. Further regarding introversion: I searched long and hard for a defined group that I belonged to, as I felt a man without a tribe… I have since mostly given up… for a moment, I got invested in personality types, particularly the Myers-Briggs’ “16 Personality Types” I thought if I could pinpoint my personality type, then I could find others. I always registered as INTJ: Introvert Intuitive Thinking and Judging (the category names didn’t align literally, which can be confusing). 16personalities.com -at the very least, doing those quizzes helped me better understand the nature of introversion and how it contrasts with extroversion. That was a ramble…
@@sagittarius_a_starr Ok, I think I'm starting to see the difference. There's a lot more struggle for autistic people in social situations... and I believe that's me. I really do calculate a lot before, during and after a social situation. And it's extremely exhausting... Nothing ever feels natural to me. I really should start considering that I might be on the spectrum...
I remember having a very distinct realization when I was a child that "not everyone thinks like me". I often felt confused and flustered at things other kids would say to myself or others, things that would sound rude, mean, or out of place. Or when they would not care for something I found deeply interesting. It helped me when I realized everyone is different, or at least not like me, because it was an explanation. But at the same time I started to have social anxiety cause I felt I could never know what someone was actually thinking or feeling, and I was never good at reading social cues (even to this day). But I mean that to say that whenever I have an interaction with someone that is Autistic, I find the conversation refreshing and enjoyable. All of the stimming, shifty eye contact, rambling, etc. never bothers me. Coworkers I've had on the spectrum naturally became friends of mine. I appreciate the conversations because they are usually honest and direct, not so much BS like conversations I may have with others. Sure occasionally I'll have a long conversation about boats or computers or some video game, but it's better than small talk, whining, gossip, boasting, demeaning, or just general negativity.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
I was told many times as a child that not everyone thinks like me, but I took it as a reminder of a self-evident fact of life, a "different strokes" sort of truism. I wonder if they actually meant that most people have mostly congruent thinking that I diverged from.
@@majd8 I've been on the Google platform a LONG time. They allowed all their users to get verified when they first rolled it out. Not that I care or need it!
I'm seeing a specialist this year. So much resonates with me, getting held back in kindergarten. And then being put in special ed at third grade all through school. Being awkward, talking way too much about anything.and making others feel weird because I blurt out random stories. So much, I'm glad I found your video
When I was about seven, I was sent to a boy's institution. 3 boys in the dorm started a fire and shortly after that the headmaster came in and made everyone line up. Then he walked up and down looking at us, eventually picked me out for punishment. Later, I learned that it was because I failed to make proper eye contact. I remember thinking "how stupid to determine someone's guilt by the amount of eye contact" and made it a point to stare people directly in the eye. Didn't know to blink and had a parole officer claim I terrified him (at age ten). At some point, I realized that I was autistic, but hid it for decades. Back then, you never wanted to reveal a weakness to authority since they would just use it to victimize you further.
I was accused of stealing my teachers mobile phone when I was 4 years old for a similar reason… I had never even known what a phone was at the time (year 2000, we weren’t majorly in-money, etc) every child in the class was interviewed… and they thought I was guilty based on the fact that I said it “might be in the cupboard where the spiders are”, I said this whilst staring at the floor at my shoes, I was literally so confused by what was going on I just wanted to leave the situation completely… understandable really? What I meant by this.. was simply a stationary cupboard in the back of our classroom, and they seriously took what I said and believed the happy-go-lucky 4 year old self I was had stolen my teachers mobile phone… and put it in a cupboard at home, never did I get an apology or confirmation that they got this wrong and it still messes with me mentally to this day… just typing this comment alone upsets me, but at 25 I’m just trying to let it all go now. Side note: To bring a bit of context as to why this has deeply affected me so much… I had my headteacher push the back of my head into the corner of said-cupboard whilst screaming at me “FIND THE PHONE AND STOP WASTING OUR TIME”, whilst looking for something I didnt know and didn’t take… unreal.
Damn if you do, damned if you don't. A better approach is look at people if your feel like it and don't look if you don't feel like it. And if you feel good staring at the floor or the landscape or surrounding which I actually enjoy ( I don't find people's faces attractive) do it .No need to deceive people into thinking you are not ''autistic'' . Let them label you as a strange person and accept it.
@@BrianAHarkins If you're the one who's talking, the right duration is usually 2-3 seconds then look away. If you're not the one who's talking, when they look away then you look away. Anything longer becomes staring. (This is just a general guide to avoid staring. There are lots of unwritten rules, sadly) Not everyone makes the same amount of eye contact. For introverts it's usually less compared to extroverts. So too little is preferable to too much, you might just seem like an introvert or a little bit shy, but not rude.
Because we have to learn so much I think some of us would make great Behavioral Psychologists / Sociologists. I mean, who else pays this much attention to these things?
I wish someone had diagnosed me as a kid instead of just labelling me both as a problem and a "smart kid". I am glad I am who I am and I am happy that people are much more aware that there is a level of this in us all. Functioning Autistics just need to understand themselves and have people around us that do too and we can excel in life..... It is a lot easier as an adult but so very troublesome as a kid. Thanks for this video. Digi
A lot of these so-called mental disorders are BS. Psychologists are nothing but mercenaries for Big pharma because all they are trained to do is prescribe some medicine based on symptoms that could be caused by many things. For example, a high sugar diet can cause a lot of the symptoms related to "depression" and anxiety, and I remember being "diagnosed" with that garbage as a child just because I told one that I like to stay alone instead of talk to the guys in my group home and was told "it was'nt normal" for someone my age. Never mind if I was staying away from the MF's for my own good because they were the most violent trouble-making kids on earth because it was never even asked. She didn't ask s**t about my diet either!
I used to think the same thing, but based on all the other things that I've been stigmatized and diagnosed with and labeled as, I'm kind of glad none of them or they never went in this direction because I would not have wanted to been taking pills as a kid from parents who don't have their own individuality or are embarrassed or their Community is part of the brainwashing that binds Our Lives. Whatever the case I feel empowered because I have a prospective and I have knowledge and I can function in a different area that people either condemn or don't know exist. I've had a lot of problems even to this day and the right thing to do is move until we find a better place and I consider myself pretty successful for all the quirks that people have come at me with and if there's anything that my life can show somebody else I need Unity as well. All the best is ours to have
@@artsomniacv-logcitybydanie1249 Yes I do agree too. The grass always seems greener on the other side though what you say is right though. Stigma is a huge issue , even now
@@Digithaiz I'm leaving Florida for good because I have long hair and I drive an old Winnebago and I keep getting profiled and then once they start to talk to me they Judge Me with condemnation through fear and ignorance. I like to work nonstop till I finish things so I get judged for being worn out and fatigued but successful but condemned anyway. Its a daily battle
Wow, this video hit home for me big time! When you said "At age 50 or 60 finding yourself without a job, family or any friends/relationships", that is me exactly (I am 59) Talking about eye contact, I am definitely one who overcompensates by making too much eye contact. I tend to stare directly into people's eyes, because I don't know how or when you are "supposed" to look at someone's eyes, and when to look away. It doesn't come naturally to me, and I have to think about it really hard, and it causes me a lot of stress. I think it makes other people uncomfortable around me, too. Also, when you mentioned being smart, but feeling stupid. I have an above-average IQ (143), so I know I'm NOT stupid, but sometimes I feel REALLY dumb. I often misunderstand what someone is saying, and I have been absolutely mortified at times by things I have said in response to that wrong understanding. I feel like I come across as a stupid person pretty often, but I am absolutely not! It affects how I am treated by others, because sadly when someone thinks you aren't intellectually capable, they tend to think less of you, and they treat you accordingly. And when you talked about different speech patterns, I related to this as well. I have always had a "different" way of speaking, very monotone, and just different. It's very hard to go through life feeling like no one understands what you're talking about! I'm very used to seeing that confused look on people's faces when I'm trying to talk to them. It's very upsetting, because I don't understand WHY they are confused, and I feel like I am speaking very clearly! My life feels very hard right now, and I am not doing very well. I spend most of my time alone, and I wish I could find some friends who are also ASD. I've always felt like a complete alien in this world, now more than ever!
I feel you. I'm 60 and pretty much in the same boat. I was performing in a show, which was very interactive. Someone afterwards told me he should have known I was an actor, because of little things that seemed off. I asked for an example. He told me "the lack of eye contact". My response was "no, that's just a normal thing for me". Just remember, there's nothing wrong with you.
I relate to all of this. I can't even begin to count all of the instances of rejection, shame, and embarrassment I've felt that I couldn't explain. Its so exhausting that I choose to isolate myself even when I'm miserable. Good luck everyone out there, I really wish the best for all of us.
Hit home for me too. I have "friends" but they're not close friends. The dating game is not something I'd even want to try. Had crushes on colleagues at work but never acted on them.
I'm seeing a lot of this. People with autism in their 50's, alone, no career, no friends, somewhat isolated. I'm 54 (dx at 33), we all grew up outside, now, we're just text? Things have changed. I was an autistic child with lots of nature, it was a sensory wonderland then. Now, age and 30 years of a computer desk has made it a sensory nightmare on my back, the only "nature" is the wallpaper on my desktop. :( So much focus on the young, they have no idea what awaits them when they crest "the hill" and their body starts losing ground to entropy. Adds a new dimension to autism, lol. Eye contact freaks me out. it's tough to describe, so yes, i avoid it, only with people I really know. Whatever it is, there is too much. And if we are mentioning numbers,and mine is close, I tested a 144, but really,I see intelligence as more of a wagon wheel, with spokes representing capacity in several areas. I'm excellent in some stuff, a geometric aptitude off the charts. But I can't take care of myself. health, diet, nutrition, exercise, nope.... I'm not in good shape, I can see my horizon. And social things, well, we all now that one, lol.... I have a great vocabulary, people THINK I'm a "verbal person', but really, words frustrate me, I do not process them the same as others and they all jumble on me. I hate reading actually. Especially fiction. And my handwriting is illegable (I'm left handed, well 60-40 left) I can "derp" as good as anyone else, so what's a number? I guess I have different speech patterns, I don't like to listen to recordings of myself, i avoid that it freaks me out. It is very tough to find ANY friends these days, let alone other middle aged adults with ASD. Seems so much of the autism world is skewed to focus on younger folks and their parents. But being a generation that DID grow up offline, we do not benefit so much form all this online stuff. I'm technically literate, but despite being "online" since dialup in the 80s. I have been unable to really form real relationships with text like this. No offense, I'm sure you are all very nice people. But I have a block to emotionally connecting with text. And recent new technologies are not helping that. i crave in person, 20th century socialization more than ever, but I can't find in person stuff anymore. the world has changed too much. i learned to get along with my autism offline, this is a lonely world to me. These text based social placebos are not doing it for me..... sigh :(
This sounds a lot like me. One difference is - while I'm akward in social situations, I'm also highly empathic. My jokes rarely land, and is hard to join a conversation, but I'm really good at listening and providing support for those in need.
@@SlabOfSteak There is an intersection of some traits. For example , high functioners can learn to recognize social cues to an extent. Or even well. It is a skill that can learned if one wishes. BUT that is the point. To normies it isn't a skill , it is innate.
As an adult male with ASD, I sincerely wish more people understood this. I would share it with friends and family, but I’ve grown wary of sharing things like this until they are requested.
@Ignace Alli I'm very happy for your son's wellbeing, but it is irresponsible and cruel to offer false hope and pseudoscience to people who might be especially vulnerable. A brief message to anyone tempted by the hucksters trying to sell you a cure: there is no cure for autism and herbs simply cannot rewire a brain. But certain strategies can help people with ASD live fulfilling lives.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
@@gracechristopher3133 you should really do a better job at pretending not be a bot/duplicate account. Your syntax is goofy and it shows that you’re the same person posting over and over again. What you’re selling here is false hope with the possibility of grave injury. Shame on you.
My wife and I adopted a boy this year. He has been handed around thru the US foster system for four years. We suspected after 8 months some level of autism. He was never diagnosed. I learned more in 14 mins with you than in eight months of therapy session. Thank you.
You might consider changing therapist. Good luck with the kid. Learn as much as possible about autism. We (wife and I) raised an Asperger without knowing. Well, we knew classic autism, but had never heard of Asperger's/high functioning. It was a difficult time. One tip I can give you: keep a steady timetable. We don't like sudden changes. Do try to stretch the things the kid doesn't want to do. Don't throw him in the deep, but stretch.
don't coddle. Don't go out of your way to teach a lesson. Be supportive, but don't give in. They will manipulate, showing acute awareness of situation, yet be inept at empathy. It's just the way they are. deal with it, learn from it, just keep hoping and doing what you think is best for them. There's no right answer but there are millions of wrong ones walking around. Show love, show empathy, but don't coddle.
My boyfriend came to me one day and asked if he could say something without me judging. Of course I agreed and was surprised he had something new to share since we know almost everything about each other. He told me that he thought he might be on the spectrum but didn’t want to say it in case he was wrong. All of the things mentioned in this video are things he does/struggles with. I immediately went to support him seeking professional help to see if he is autistic but I fear I may have come on to strong. I am neuro-divergent and being told what disabilities I have help me figure out a way to work in the neuro-typical world. He didn’t want to tell me because I’m neuro-divergent and he thought it would be insulting if he was wrong. All I want is to help him and make him happy. Through our relationship as first friend then more, I’ve slowly learned to accommodate for him in our relationship and he has learned it for me as well. I don’t know much other than surface level kind of stuff on autism so I looked it up here on RUclips. I’m not sure if it will be noticeable to other by the way I write but I am extremely dyslexic (and a bunch of other language based disabilities) and so finding informative videos like this is super helpful. I want to learn what I can to help my boyfriend but I also have to make sure I don’t overwhelm him. I won’t bring up the subject unless he begins it but I truly believe he should seek a professional’s opinion and I will be there to hold his hand if needed. Oh gosh I’ve probably been ranting to much.
Omg these responses are so interesting and I think my ex might be autistic and I think his friend's have some sort of autism to accept maybe for one guy. It's just weird because I've never felt close to any of my boyfriends friend's I thought most of them were delusional and crazy or overally emotional. I never understood autism and asbergers though. I just feel bad. I'm trying to learn about it also and when media and musicians like Sia treat them like stupid people that know nothing it's so confusing.
Normally expressed traits like empathy and eye contact are things I’ve had to study and learn, and commit to memory in order to “mask” or “pass” as neurotypical
@Luis I've heard, children not socialized properly, may miss the window when it is possible. Only at a young age, will proper socialization be learned. But, if one is very different cognitively, he may never be part of the group. This includes the exceptionally intelligent. Like learning to socialize with chimps. Why try? Nothing to be gained. And may get your face ripped off.
@Carl Trotter There is no such thing as high functioning aspergers, you just have weaknesses like everybody else. I am prone to social anxiety too but grow up 😁
@@Talisman09 everybody has weaknesses, what do you mean by 'but grow up'? If I have offended you, I do apologise, but would like some clarification. If not, have a nice day, -Carl
I am nearly 60 and I have realised that some of these traits I have, I have told my wife this and she didn't seem too surprised as if she had accepted this long ago, it certainly explains my life choices
Same thing happened to me at 45. Except it was my GF that brought it up. After hearing some childhood stories , she connected the dots to some things she had noticed in our relationship.
I love how someone on the spectrum like yourself can make being in the spectrum so normal, and you speak so confidently in your own words knowing your posting it on the internet and you will get haters, keep up the hard work!!
I see myself in this dude. I've kind of thought for a time that I am on the spectrum a little bit more than everyone else (everyone is), but this guy makes me think I'm autistic. He has rhetorical skills, so do I, he seem "normal", which I sometimes do. I work with more severe autistic people and mentally handicapped people and I've seen autistic people many a times in my day. I never pinpointed myself as *autistic* in that sense, ju that I had *some* traits. But I realize more and more that I am probably just very high functioning. I eat the same things everyday, I'd wear the same clothes if I had multiple sets of them (only black t-shirts though, and sometimes a hoodie), I feel wrong dressing up for social gatherings, can't really wear a buttoned-up, I am a very bad story-teller. All this while having quite good social skills (I can talk with literally everyone (or maybe I just think I can, lol)). Hmm. I've thought for a very long time that I have ADD. Like 2-3 years. Maybe it's just autism? Sometimes it can really have some of the same symptoms, like procrastinating, not really seeing consequences, being stubborn, all those kinds of things. I get angry at people that don't use their logic, I sometimes have a hard time seeing other people's POV, but not always. I don't have issues nuancing my arguments and understanding more complex situations like that, but I sometimes get ANGRY for real when people don't understand what I say online when I think I couldn't have been clearer. Many different misconceptions going around and around. I had to vent this. It's been bubbling for a while. Sweden is good in its way, but it takes forever to actually get evaluated in this country.
@@SomeNiceMovies I am waiting to get an formal analysis for autism, and what you have written partially correlated with my traits. I resonated somewhat to a few points but the social side. I am terrible at trying to keep a conversation flowing. I don’t know how I should act around people or look at them. In my head I’m going ‘help me’ when this occurs. When I know social situations have a brief moment of silence as well, my body automatically physically tries to move away from the environment that makes the current situation cumbersome for me. I will go to work and if I have had a good day, which can happen rarely, I come crashing straight back down when home, feeling exhausted over the social complexity of the day. It feels as though all day at work you’re holding your lungs in. When at home, you release the air, but by doing so you release those weird negative, anxious regrets after that good day. Such as ‘why did I say that’ or ‘I could have said this better’ and that thought being stuck in your head for hours. It’s horrible. You end up hating yourself for it that it becomes awkward the next day when you need to feel the same way as you did the previous day. It’s exhausting, and makes everything awkward and feel weird again. A horrible cycle.
It's pretty easy to do, as long as you know your stuff. Talking about things you really know. And he's talking to a camera. A machine. Would be a lot more difficult if someone was holding the camera.
There's a reason why doing improve and taking acting classes help people on the spectrum. Acting to blend in with neurotypicals is a huge part of the struggle.
Not speaking to someone for ages and then just picking up from where you left off shows what a deep friendship you have. It's actually a good thing if you can find people who are on that wavelength.
That's how my aspie best friend and i am. We like our space but never miss a beat. I'm also on spectrum but im a girl so havent been diagnosed yet. I am adhd with tics n panic attacks. I don't do well with change of anything. So i let myself get therapy at 29
@@cryora "Chill" derives from Gen X slang "Chill out" or "Take a chill pill" I like how zoomers have adopted to mean pretty much similar context. I can dig it dude.
Constant eye contact to me feels too aggressive or too intimate, so I have a lot of trouble with even looking at someone for long when conversing. I have to deliberately maintain it at times with a lot of stressful effort, in job interviews etc. I've only easily maintained it without any conscious effort in either highly aggresive or highly intimate scenarios. I also fit a lot more of these criteria too. Been suspecting I'm autistic for a good few years.
Logically speaking, anyone can be diagnosed, it's just that the people which society often deem as "outcasts", are the ones who gets diagnosed, because society wants a "reason". Society then tend to forget that a diagnose is a generalized behavior pattern, whether it be a bodily behavior pattern or psychological, often followed with the expectation that something is "wrong". So clearly, if you question your own health, something must be "wrong" right? Personally, I don't believe having a diagnose is always a negative, which society tries to make all diagnoses out to be, they simply represent a behavior pattern that has been acknowledged.
"Do not tell someone they are autistic" As another person who discovered he was autistic at 30, I disagree. After my diagnosis, I was shocked when friends said they knew but didn't tell me. I also feel that a common autistic attitude is "information is good" so based on my own experience I would tell a friend. I wish mine had told me years before, learning was like regaining a part of myself I felt but didn't understand was missing.
I think it’s okay to suggest to a friend that they might be on the spectrum if they have plenty of noticeable symptoms, and you explain to them how a diagnosis can be helpful. But in my opinion if your friend is happy with life and they’re not depressed, and they’re generally stable and functional, you should just let them be. You should only tell them if you can see it’s affecting their life negatively and them getting diagnosed and treating it can help them.
I dont know if i have it bad but i think a bit. And when i think about it to me it hurts a bit. But i guess its better to know but id rather be told by soneone who has it like this guy so it feels more better and relatable rather that pointed out and obscure.
A year ago, at age 60, I came to the realisation I was probably on the spectrum. My best friend told me he had been telling me for years that my brother and I were both on the spectrum. I only ever heard the bit about my brother.
In my 70th year and diagnosed only 4 years ago as an Aspie with the extra baggage of childhood trauma, anxiety and (later in life) post traumatic depression. It explained away so many things that I experienced through my entire life. Unfortunately I tend to remember the bad things far more than remembering the good times and I still have anger towards school bullies or work colleagues from over 50 years ago - it was if they only happened last week...still so fresh in my mind. Probably the most hardest experience of all was my gullibility, speaking before thinking and a total inability to read the "office politics". I simply could not get it at all - even if it was spelt out to me five times in a row. I am absolutely convinced this restricted me from achieving higher paid positions and promotions throughout my entire working life. In reflection, it has been a curse and how I wish, how I wish, I had been told this way back in my early 20s. But head doctors simply were not easily available or even considered 50 years ago.......and not knowing what was "wrong" with me for all of that time is the thing that pisses me off so much. Sighhhhhh.
I guess be glad you got some clarity. We have been on this planet not knowing much about anything for a long time. As for the bullies... Try to see their victim side. Theyre not in control of themselves properly. Some people wil never have a braincell kick in to action to make them feel bad about it, but pity is less destructive to your heart than rage. They had pathetic lives. Maybe always will. Imagine living your whole life and never being aware emotionally. Its kinda sad but probably not their fault that they are who they are.
@@luminousfractal420 i think the bullying dynamic is very interesting, in every autism story i've read so far bullying was a topic. so i find it hard to blame the bullies as it seems to me a natural thing, bc of the social differences between allistic and autistic people. as autistic people are born the the incapability to socialise, allistic people are born for exactly that reason, so when they meet someone that doesn't fit their neurology they freak out too, but as there are more allistic people it results in bullying it's a social dynamic and not a decision of the individual "i want to bully that person" at least that's how i think about it, after figuring out im probably autist.
@@luminousfractal420we can’t be putting our precious energy into feeding sorry for them. I’m sure many of us have already forgiven but we can’t forget or feel sorry. They have to do the work to wake themselves up. ❤️
Looking forward to this. I always feel that eye contact is masking and doesn’t allow me to be naturally autistic and authentic in this regard. Disrupts my chain of thought and it becomes a ‘just want this ordeal to be over with’ and I am perceived by others as rude / arrogant or blunt.
I had to learn thru my marine history professor to look someone in the eye when speaking and have sincerity. It totally moved me into popularity where everyone was calling my name when i got to school cuz i was well liked. Having no friends in high school this spooked me. I got paranoid n hid at school and dropped out 3 classes shy of my degree
That made me laugh and it was maybe just a terrible example because that is one of the most commonly asked questions following an announcement of that rule
I'm 31 and have ADHD. I kept pausing/rewinding this clip because I kept bursting out laughing at all the examples you were giving. I kept remembering all the different times I've been guilty of them, or getting the same reactions from people as you described. I haven't finished this video, but I have autism vs ADHD queued up next, cant wait!
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Thank you so much, Paul. At the age of 35, I can now understand much better so many events, behaviors and experiences I lived in my past, especially during my childhood and adolescence, and I can find a better way to live every day in according to who and how I am. Discovering your channel has been an immense source of awareness and relief. Nico from Italy.
the fact that youtube recommended this to me, just shows me that youtube probably knows me even more than I know myself. which is sad, but hilarious at the same time. Mostly devastatingly sad.
Doesn't have to be sad, being on the spectrum just means you have a mind that is unique to you. High functioning autism is the video game equivalent of being a boss.
Don't worry, I doubt youtubes AI/algorithms are that advanced yet. I "think" what happens is that, as soon as a video/channel reaches enough views/likes/subs, it basically gets added to "everyones" recommended list (billion+ viewers, or whatever it is). Explains why myself, my family and friends, people I meet, and, random people in comment sections, keep seeing the same recommended videos. There may be more to it, not sure. Otherwise, I think this is a very relatable video. I'm sure A LOT of people can identify with many of the symptoms/traits. I know I can, and probably at least one or two other people I know. The creator is also very engaging and likeable, and I imagine probably a huge help to people with autism, which is why his viewership is growing.
Thank you, Paul! I'm am an autistic individual, like you. I love guiding other people through Autism, and I learn how to cope with Autism. Most people don't imagine me being autistic but I mostly tell them if I trust they will accept me for it. Lots of people underestimate me because of my interests, but it doesn't affect me and I'm still happy in life!
@@bradylumsden3057 also when i am in a conversation with someone, i become very aware i'm in a conversation and end up not even listening to the person and just nodding and saying yeah a bunch. very awkward haha.
@@mynameismark25 I know exactly what you mean lol. Disinterests me from the conversation immediately so I can only reply with repetitive yeahs 🤣. Its bad though, its because we're getting into our own heads by overthinking the minute situation. Gotta stay in the present and keep it moving, only need to deep think deep concepts, not everything lol.
The part where you said "Laugh at inappropriate times" really hit home hard for me, I remember I did jury duty and started laughing at a comment that one of the lawyers said, the whole courtroom looked at me, was mega awkward.
I started laughing at a candidate during a panel interview. I noticed he looked funny on the screen after noticing my boss was smirking.... so I created the idea it was because of the funny attributes I noticed. It was just funny and I couldn't stop wanting to laugh but I concealed it pretty well I think...
I'm high-functioning Autistic, diagnosed with PDD-NOS when I was 3. Fortunately, I had a lot of early intervention so I made so much progress and can [mostly] fit in with society. You hit all this on the dot! We're not all the same, but we usually fall into these common signs and I couldn't relate more, especially on "Rules and Routines".
@@josephinetracy1485if he has strategies then no. My ex gf was highly autistic. She memorized comedians jokes until she understood comedy and she just jokes with everyone. No one knows how screwed up she is. They're all just laughing. Now that I think about it robin Williams was probably autistic.
I'm very ADHD and I've known that forever. I've spent most of my life trying to *compensate* for it. Recently, at 34 years old, my new therapist simply asked if I had considered high functioning ASD. I told her that I had seen some similarities between folks who have it and myself. She then told me she wasn't interested in labeling me, but instead sent me alot of links on resources so I could look at them and examine them myself if I was interested. First of all, I really appreciated the delicacy she handled the situation, which was probably obviosu to her, but I was reluctant to look at and being able to adjust on my own time. I've struggled with a variety of stigmas my whole life and her acknowledging my success in handling them and approaching a topic in the manner of giving me tools to approach my struggles really helped. In particular, your mention of being hyper-social at times and then burning out and shutting down in other situations really spoke to me. In fact, in middle school, I identified that social interactions were necessary and actually intentionally developed a "social self", or masking, that I even eventually grew to enjoy myself, in order to interact with others. It can still be exhausting, and I still struggle with what the appropriate levels of social engagement are, but understanding your strengths and weaknesses are ther first step in addressing them.
This video gave me chills as you went down the list. I'm gonna live the rest of my life alone. Trapped in my own head with rules and routines that only change when necessary... I have pretty much isolated myself because I hate change and suprises. I just wanna add that I do live a ''normal'' adult life. I go to work, go to the groccery store, take care of my cat, workout. But my social life has been on stop for close to 12 years now. I just don't get those same ''rushes'' from social interaction, and I find small talk extremely weird, so I have no releationships..
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic .
Thank you for these videos. Began to suspect my autism a couple of years ago. Pretty much confirmed now. So much of what I didn’t understand about myself finally makes sense. At age 57, starting a new chapter in life of feeling like a whole and complete person for the first time. Wishing a good journey for all others with ASD.
I am 52 and have always known that I was wired differently to other people, but never even considered I might have autism, or “be on the spectrum” until two years ago. An old friend had her first child, and they discovered he was autistic, and that my friend was also on the spectrum. I asked her what prompted them to get checked in the first place, and they listed a string of things, most of which I could relate to. I took some tests and, lo and behold, it turns out I am neurodiverse. After much consideration, I decided to “come out” to my friends and family on social media. Once I did this, my older sister told me that she had thought this for decades, but never told me, because she considered it to be a very personal thing. My own sister never told me she thought I had autism, even though she knew how much I struggled with social interactions, and self-confidence, my entire life! So, there is something to be said about people not suggesting to other people that they think they might be autistic. If I had known this, I could have been spared decades of anxiety and depression, because I did not fit in, and didn’t have a clue about basic social interaction. Of course, I learned to mask early on, and learned how to be accepted, by not being myself. It has only been in the past six or seven years that I have managed to begin to understand how social interactions actually work, but I still have a long way to go, and often still react “inappropriately” in different situations. I know this is an older video, but thank you for posting so much about autism. It has been a valuable resource for me over the last few years.
To most people being in life comes naturally. To the rest, it must be studied, as if they were an alien visiting earth, but otherwise looking like any other human being
The thing that really got my interviewer and doctor to consider me on the spectrum was when I talked about having "systems" for daily living and being able to accomplish working and just generally living daily life.
I think this is why I liked "Third Rock from The Sun" more than most people. Growing up I did always feel a bit like a foreign species living among humans, trying not to be called out for being weird. I guess I still kind of feel that way to be honest, just mostly worked it out into routines that I'm used to and I live alone so it's easier to keep the routines that I live by from wrecking relationships with people that I care about who, despite their best efforts, haven't got a fucking clue why I constantly get frustrated over things I can't rationally explain.
@@adgato75 I use the word "routine" but I think "system" is actually more accurate. I've never been diagnosed but a multitude of signs point to autism. It's not that I'm ashamed of the way I am or anything but I've really never wanted the label and I hate trying to explain it because I've come to the conclusion that if you're not living with it, no amount of explaining will be enough to make you understand it. When I have tried to explain my routine to people it always seems to end with people trying to explain to me why my routine doesn't makes sense as if they can convince me to drop it and I'm like "I started my explanation by telling you I understand this doesn't make sense - I just can't help it" This is why I live alone, even the best intentioned people in my life who I deeply care about will try to teach me not to be this way.
11:20 can also describe the common nerd. Autism has always been stigmatized by people who don't understand it, but I can also recognize that people are desperate to normalize it even at the expense of diagnosing each other under the suspicion that they may be autistic simply because of introverted qualities... often times manifested, not born with. My daughter was born autistic , she was born with most of these differences listed as apposed to myself and others who I have witnessed change as a result of environmental factors and public schooling. There are many socially awkward adults who were social butterflies as children but life has a way of beating the individual down.
Right, especially after the pandemic with all the lockdowns, isolation, and mask wearing, I think it made everyone a little bit austistic for awhile 😩😂😭
"The common nerd"...... It sounds like a species of bird or something 😂 Good info on the post, but I just wanted to say that I found the first line very amusing.
It’s super awkward when you tell someone you’re ASD and they are like “oh yeah, I’ve known that for a while” or worse “yeah, it’s a little obvious.” Great, now I’m going to be thinking about this conversation at least once a week for the next 20 years.
My partner wasn't diagnosed until he was in his 40's but I always knew there was something going on with him. It was brill to hear you talk about this since it feels like no-one really wants to say much about this condition apart from my mother who said we were both as mad as each other and that's why we got on so well, so now we've been together for 16 yrs and our time together has just flown past. Some of what you said explained a lot about his taste in foods and his dislike of certain places and probably his amazing knowledge of MTG playing cards of which he has thousands and can tell you every detail of every card. So thank you very much for this information and I will subscribe to find out more.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic .
I feel very fortunate that I was diagnosed with Asperger's early and received a lot of instruction to improve in some areas. I do wish I had been given this information earlier, however, to be able to notice my persistent abnormalities and continue to improve upon them. Thanks for providing DSM criteria and real world examples. I hope I can use this knowledge to better connect with the people around me.
Today I was informed I'm likely autistic, I then found this video... So relatable and has made me feel some weight is now being lifted, and I can start my journey towards understanding exactly who I am going to be, living in an autistic world. Thank you
I became a relationship counsellor! Not to help but to figure it out from the inside myself, to figure out how to be in a relationship! So amazing to hear you say similar thing. Got a diagnosis aged 49 few weeks ago
My son was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome @ the age of 4. Now he's just in the spectrum & Graduating art school in May with a illustration degree. So proud. We've been going to group pychotheapy for almost a decade. It helps.
Thank you for this. I've dug for years thinking that my [then unknown] autism could be fixed through force and practice, but it led me down a really dark path. I'm now comfortable with recognizing that I'm autistic and no longer feel burdened by pretending that I'm normal.
Same. It's amazing how relieving it is just to accept that I'll never understand neurotypical humans. I have spent a shit load of energy to track every movement every human I see makes just to infer what mood they might be in and if I am bothering them by my inadequacy. Thank God, I can now accept myself and just let me be.
@@olgae_6545 did you guys get officially diagnosed? Because I've had my suspicions for a while now I'm 17 and I can remember having my suspicions maybe around 15 and this time I decided to look into it and I tick all these boxes. I asked my bf to watch the video and tell me what he thinks she he said it described me to the tea. I also went online and took a few AQ tests and every single one of them said I was on the spectrum I kept scoring fairly high. And I've always known thru out my life that I was different but didn't understand, I have struggled with depression and disorderly eating before too so all these things + more is why I really think I'm autistic if that's the case it answers all my questions and provides clarity but I'm unsure if should unofficially diagnose myself or wait till I'm 18 [cuz parents just deny this kind of stuff] to get assessed which I will do but what do I do with myself And who and what I am until then??
@@x.astar.x i have no idea , but at least you know which is half the battle i guess , can you not talk to your parents as autism is on the rise , they may not have had to deal with this before as it wasnt always there , like dementia its a part of life now , an aunt had to fight to my uncle diagnosed with alzhiemers in early 1970s when docs really didnt know much , but it is recognised now as is autism , good luck
I was just diagnosed with ASD last month, at the age of 36. This happened largely due to watching your videos. Unfortunately, in my case, it was caught very late and I have suffered serious PTSD from forcing myself to live like a neurotypical. I worked in law enforcement for about a decade and the emotional intensity of some of those situations has left me with quite a bit of trauma and severe panic attacks. Please, keep educating people the way you do and help people find their own way to a diagnosis. Even with my PTSD, I'm better off now that I have my diagnosis, as my entire past has been reframed in my mind. Areas in which I felt like a failure now feel like great successes. I'm incredibly proud of myself for achieving some of the things I have, despite being dealt a very different hand in life than many of my peers. You're doing great work and I deeply appreciate the peace your videos and my subsequent diagnosis have brought me.
Im 35 and am 100% sure I'm on the spectrum, my son who is 13 was diagnosed with autism when he was 7, the more I learned from his doctors the more similarities I was seeing, and my son is basically mirroring all the issues I continue to suffer to this day. When I was growing up I was always labeled a problem child, or that I was going through phases (which never ended btw), now my issues actually make sense.
@@Stiffeno Yeah man, when we were growing up, doctors just didn’t have the understanding of the spectrum that they do now. I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder very young, but that only accounted for a fraction of my symptoms. I did the research myself this time around, asked my PCP for a referral to a specialist and took all my research to them. They ran me through some tests to rule out several other disorders and, in the end, they agreed that ASD was the only logical diagnosis. It took me researching and putting my foot down though, because for some reason or another they are shy to diagnose adults with ASD. I literally had to type out a small essay and present it to my Psychiatrist for him to take it seriously.
@@veronicalala300 After my insurance copays, less than one might think. My PCP literally laughed at me when I suggested I may be on the spectrum. He wasn’t being mean. He’s just been my doctor for almost 30 years and my symptoms didn’t meet his understanding of the condition. I stood my ground though and got my referral. I was able to get my diagnosis on my first visit to this psychiatrist and the copay was $25. To my understanding, it usually takes a little longer to be diagnosed, as they like to rule out every other possibility first. However, because I had done my research and compiled all of my mental health history into one document for him, it made the process much easier for him. So yeah, that’s a long-winded way of saying $25. You have to go in knowing what information will help get them to a diagnosis though. These videos were a tremendous help in that regard.
Quick question here: when you said PTSD, which one were you referring to? There are technically two types of PTSD. The most common one that people refer to is the one that pops up after a traumatic experience eg car accident, witnessing a murder etc. The other one is where you are exposed to long periods of "traumatic" experiences eg a nurse in a hospital watching patients dying of Covid while there's nothing that he/she can do.
I think I had to pause this video and reflect about 20 times while watching, it is uncanny how well what you are saying lines up with my life, especially issues with not being able to move on from a task, not saying hello/goodbye, and most of all when you talked about that shoulder roll you do. I went to a concert last night and during every song I didn't know the words to I was doing that shoulder roll constantly. Thank you for your candid presentation on this, it raises many more questions to go along with the one that lead me here.
@@timm5970 Yeah, so much of this is pseudo "science". Scratching your skin, too much eye contact, not enough eye contact, tapping, etc? Give me a fuckin break. Most people are naturally shy. Tapping your foot is just a way to burn off energy, if you're bored, etc. Repetitive patterns, most people have those. Going off this, 90% of people have autism. Oh you don't like flashing loud ad billboards? Yeah, no one does.... What else, people who don't like to pay taxes have autism now too? If you like drugs, sex, and money too much, you have autism and if you don't like those things enough then you have autism. Only our preordained amount of "like" is acceptable. Whatever.
Man - seeing you, the way you speak and the way you interpret some of the common autistic behavior in good light (and you are absolutely right on those) gives me so much hope for my son who was diagnosed to have mild ASD last year. Thank you.
@@Jasmin23332 Hbomberguy covered Autism in his Vaccine-Video, Layla Paige is an Autism-RUclipsr and last but not least: Professor Dave covered 'Quantum Mysticism', which may help those that fall for the very-obvious-scam that 'Herbs heal Autism'.
Wanted to give you hope, too. Know many adult AU people - and most of them are fine - and usually tops of whatever interest they have chosen. Nowadays, people need this to be self-aware. Years ago, people were just thought of as "quirky." I just call everyone "individual."
I don't know how old your son is or how "severe" (for lack of a better word) your son is on the autism spectrum but just a little advice from someone who is on the spectrum, your son most likely just wants to be treated like a "normal" person/kid, especially when he becomes a teenager (if he's not already) He may just need a little more support in certain areas. Also there is a good chance either you or the other parent may be autistic as well, if that's something you would like to look into you can get a consultation/diagnoses for adults.
@@iamjames8200 - Thanks for chiming in. Appreciate it. I have every symptoms of ADHD. But nothing very obvious of type ASD. My son was originally misdiagnosed as ADHD and it remained that way for 5+ years. Then I suspected there was more from his behaviors and we got a diagnosis last year on mild ASD. It is very difficult to manage him. I want to remind him often that he has it and that he should acknowledge and accept it and realize some of his behaviors are causing pain to others and try to control some of that. I am always in favor of truth and acceptance over false and denial. He is 15 and he is in 10th grade, he is struggling heavily with his academics. He hasn't found a passion for anything say music or art or something that can be a lifelong hobby/passion. He does not have a single friend. There is one or two he manage to keep for a while that he can chat a little with. Then they go away. What is your story? What advice do you have so he can have a couple good friends, he can find a passion and grow a skill so he can make a decent living?
9:20 "how could someone so smart be so stupid?" I've had people say this about me so many times, basically verbatim. It sucks because then I'm left thinking "well, am I actually an idiot who's just a fraud posing as smart, or am I actually smart and I'm just a failure at these simple tasks?" It gets so frustrating sometimes.
Sounds to me like you have bad people in your life. They are treating you this way because of their own insecurities. Try to think of it as: it isn't them causing you to feel bad but yourself who is telling you to feel that way as a response to their actions. You are not a fraud or a failure and nothing they say can change that.
Thank you for getting straight to the point, describing the core details well. I really appreciate this as many videos about topics focus a lot on commercial presentation, ego, trying to be funny and I find the idea of clicking on one painful.
Crazy how relatable this is, I think because you share the experiences I do. Thank you for explaining this so well, I’m never any good at explaining to people in my life how autism effects me and in extension them, but this is such a good explanation!
For me, the most glaring symptom was when my therapist said "you're on the autism spectrum." I kid! But seriously, was diagnosed with asd and adhd in the the same 3-month period of my 50th year of life. What I didn't quite understand then was that autism, all things considered, is pretty simple to understand and to deal with (not at all 'easy', but definitely 'simple'). Adhd, on the other hand, is a friggin' nightmare of a hydra that slithers into the very fabric of your experience of consciousness and subverts your intentions in ways you will spend a lifetime learning to spot and manage. And even then... it's gonna bite you in the ass repeatedly, endlessly, you can't outsmart it. It's a cosmic trickster, and it is *not* benevolent. 😕
Damn....what's your advice then? I was diagnosed with ADHD at 24 but only realised what it truly was a few months ago and how much it has impacted my life. Now I'm starting to think I also have autism, because it explains certain things that ADHD doesn't. My Dr. disagrees, blames my cannabis use, and thinks I don't have autism. He barely knows me or enough about the current literature but can still form these opinions.
House of Kush I bought one of your compressor plug-ins! Crazy that we both find ourselves on this video too! I am 23 and I think I’m somewhere on the spectrum but not sure. Big fan! Thank u for your after hours videos!
My son has suffered autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect. I'm so glad and happy now
Something really clicked for me when you referred to the "desire to live in a safe and predictable world." My Aspie boyfriend's inflexible routines are suddenly easier to understand. Thank you!
I've recently begun to suspect I'm on the spectrum. It was kind of a world shattering realization because I've always been a 'normal' kid and not like the stereotypes that I had been shown as what was 'on the spectrum.' I've had a lot of social problems and odd emotional reactions to things I enjoy, and I've always suppressed the thoughts that they were a sign of anything unusual and just assumed I was 'unique.' That left me on a path for a while, having problems with various things and a severely low self-esteem because I could never make friends. Watching videos like these has actually become really helpful. A lot of my issues are things that are actually rooted in being on the spectrum, and I feel like I can accept myself for who I am, much easier than I could before. I found every point of this video relatable and reading the comments, find a lot of them relatable too.
My wife told me i should look into this. My entire life just made entierly more sense in minutes that i have been trying to figure out my entire life. Thank you so much
On the other hand, I told my wife I’ve had this since I was clinically and professionally diagnosed 15 years ago. Will be 28 years old on Sunday. She says it’s all in my head. Consider yourself lucky my friend. I could off myself just by the fact that I possibly passed this to my own children..
@@CadaverBuffet I mean, of course it's in your head. Where else is it supposed to be? (Yes, I know that this is just a figure of speech for pointing out, how that person just imagines it/makes it up without it being real. It's a stupid saying though. Pain is also all in your head. That's just how nerve receptors work! Doesn't mean you tell someone who's in pain how it's all just in their head, right?!)
It’s not necessarily a terrible thing to pass on to your kids, especially since you’re aware of it. If you were like my dad and thought hitting your kid would make him normal then they would probably be in for a bad time. You’re lucky to know about it because it means you can figure out how to handle it. There are many very successful autistic people
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic .
@@TitoTimTravels American culture teaches its “the right thing to do”, maintain eye contact? Lol 😂. The Korean culture (I believe) doesn’t do this? I agree. “constant eye contact” is only suppose to be made with your intimate partner, no more, no less, IMHO. If I’m talking to all else (beside an intimate partner).......I’ll look at you at you only for a sec or two, that’s it. .......but in USA they say: “This is rude”. Lol 😂. It’s funny how American culture likes to program you to bend to their ideas of “idealism culture”. If you don’t maintain excessive eye contact, you’re now “Autistic”? Lol
@@truthreignsforever9286 so I just need out merica got it lol. I agree I feel like I'm perceived as penetrating or too serious if I try to make what a consider a normal amount of eye contact. I save it for my kids and partner lol I dont want to put undo pressure on people to act like they have their shit together because I could care less what eye contact means to the authenticity of a conversation. I offend people with this every so often so I speak up and just ask if I appear uninterested and go from there. I look forward to friendly conversations but I was raised where eye contact was a make or break of if my explanation of even small things would be perceived as true or not lol it has some effect on my personal thinking processes but I try to make myself evident as an open listener with honest feelings of all things lol I always support people's ideas and aim to not belittle ones values and ideas. I just believe eye contact is a poor affirmation to look for in connecting with any person. Everyone has their reasons and I won't presume negative thoughts on anyone unless someone is blatant in some form of disrespect. Cultural ideologies should be thing of the past. We as a whole are still so primitive in our acceptance of what is myself included
He just described my entire childhood up until the 12th by those examples. Now I have spent almost 2 years staying almost completely at home and barely staying in contact with a handful of people outside. I have tried to recognize everything awkward about me in the past and try to get better at a lot of them. I might start to go out after the pandemic and hope that I do it better this time while meeting new and different people. But I have this feeling that I will still mess it up because I have messed up 100s of times. Hate myself sometimes. :/
Yo Milan. We just had 18 months inside. I just had the same thought you did. The skillset one, the weird social stuff, the small detail part, the emotional strangeness in some situations. We've all been isolated a long time. If you aren't in school you've been lacking stimulus besides your hobby for a year and a half. You aren't autistic, you're bored and you're in need of real world stimulus even if it doesn't involve people. If you find that you think about the people you aren't talking to and don't miss them because you know the time isn't going to make any divide, it isn't weird not talking to them. You're doing great, man! Keep your chin high and know you're great and as unique and fantastic as any other human. You must know you've skills that most people don't that you believe seperate you from a pack. See!? You da best!
this is basically an extreme version of me. ironically ive actually been more social than ive ever been during the pandemic. it might be because theres less pressure to go out to parties and social gatherings so i can just chill with my friends and the new people they occasionally bring over
Don’t worry about trying to be completely normal (it may never happen), just learn good manners (which is mostly showing people concern or consideration, they really like that). That’s what I do, but I’m still considered a little different. Being completely normal is too much work.
I will just stay at home. Life before and during covid did not change much for me at all. Only masks and these annoying propaganda news have affected me.
While I totally agree with this video and especially the end where he says you shouldn’t try to force an autistic identity onto someone, even if they have those traits, I really wish someone had told me I was autistic earlier 😭 I got diagnosed last year at 17 and my parents and friends revealed that they always thought I was, so it was only a surprise to me. If one of them had just flat out told me that’s what they thought, I would have looked into it sooner and cleared up a lot of confusion for myself. You definitely shouldn’t try to diagnose people if you’re not qualified, but depending on the person and your relationship I think you can politely suggest it to them
I think t's much different coming from a loved family member who wants to respectfully guide a person to the path of realization than it is coming from someone who is just trying to label you for their own gratification
This was very well done, starting with each part of the clinical description, then saying what that looks like to neurotypicals in everyday life, then giving personal examples...and covering the whole clinical description, with a summary at the end. Great job.
Hi there everyone I'm Autistic. I really like your videos, they are incredible. Normally I try not to show my Autistic side but throughout watching your videos, I have a big weight lifted off my shoulders!!
i think the point was they never have clicked or watched anything remotely similar to the topic autism... and yt is doing a public service announcement with this video... kinda like how they censored that one dudes channel where he interviews people with rare diseases/medical conditions.. RUclips doesn't really care, they are a joke. it is what it is. looking forward to a free speech video platform again like bitchute which is alright but its rough around the edges
I've found several of your videos helpful. Both yours and the other Australian guy. I've had the signs all my life, but as many say you learn to mask or compensate... but as you said.. I've come to the spot in my 50's where the relationship deficit has come home to roost.
I have always been that person who couldn't look people in the eyes. Feel awkward when people want to hug me (I'm getting better). I sometimes don't know how to get off the phone, or end a conversation because I feel bad, or sometimes I explain things in extreme detail. My loved ones get mad at me because they think I'm nonchalant , but my mind doesn't let me focus on all my worries. I put earphones on in the supermarket so I don't have to talk to random people, and use the self checkout any chance I get. I grew up loving Chef Boyardee Beefaroni, and would eat it every day if you let me. When nobody is around I break down and cry sometimes for no reason as if the weight of the world is on me. When I was a child I was placed in a grade called Pre 1st because educators didn't know why I didn't care to be around the other kids, and felt comfortable underneath my desk. As you can probably tell I am not one short for words, and I could definitely keep going, but I digress. Fast Forward my life I now have a 4 year old Non Verbal Autistic son who only eats Chef Boyardee Beefaroni, and Cereal with milk. I know it has something to do with me because he's exactly like I was when I was a child. I still don't know what end of the spectrum he is, or even myself, but I will say that its very frustrating to be this way, and nobody knows because they think you are just like them.
I can relate to this so if people have ever struggled with this, you’re not the only one, my friends, I’m right there with you . I’ve struggled making friends for as long as I can remember through schools but even if they don’t want me to be their friend, I still consider them my friend ❤️
Basically every thing in this video is me! Not only the 7 signs that you listed but also your examples are what I do or go through. Some I wouldn't have thought would be an autistic thing. Thank you for this video.
I have been diagnosed with ADHD and Social Anxiety, PTSD and Bipolar. I literally have all 7 symptoms you listed. I have brought it up to my doc at MHMR and a few others such as friends and family. They don't think I am on the spectrum, but the more and more I research I think it is not ONLY ADHD or Social Anxiety I have, but I do think I am on the spectrum. I am 39, can do some things exceedingly well, but never owned a license or car. Still living at home with mother and aunt. Things in life are very difficult for me and I can not tell you how any times people said "For somebody so smart, you can be so stupid". feel like that describes it pretty much. I can hyperfocus on subjects and projects I love and have a deep interest in, but can not do certain tedious things other normal, neuro brained-people can do. I get people telling me I am like a man child and have very poor emotional control in certain situations like at home but that is only because I am around the same people under same house day in and out. So I guess I am comfortable enough to express my emotions at home. Problem is in public I try and put on a poker face but I have RBF naturally in my neutral facial position, so people often take that as a sign I am mad when really am not even upset, it i just the natural look on my face.
I cured most of mine with a gaps diet. Can also be done by fasting up to 12 days. As you increase your fast you'll notice some amount of mental changes. Probiotics, and fermented foods help, and cut out all refined carbs and sugar. Cut out processed foods. Stop eating with processed vegetable oils. Most of this is caused by diet. If you have PTSD, treating the PTSD will relieve some of your symptoms. Some people do drugs like ketamine or LSD or shrooms with guidance. It's legal in places. I had a gf commit suicide, and all the sudden I was autistic with BPD. BPD makes you lash out at anyone that gets too close. I don't have BPD anymore, I'm still slightly autistic, more Asperger's but people think I'm normal unless I'm in a huge group setting.
I'm a functioning high individual myself. Fuck all the labels and categories. They just divide people. 26 in years on the planet and that's the only thing I've figured out.
I’ve been diagnosed with autism ever since I was at the age of 5, 15 years later I have spent my life with my mother trying to get me a head start in life and trying to improve on my social ability. Even then it’s still hard sometimes, or rather I come apon issues regularly. Sometimes I still forget to say the usual pleasantries, when I don’t even mean to be rude. I am having difficulty upholding relationships, even with family. Just I am not as engaged with them as I should be. Then after it all I spent so much energy trying to maintain a socially good personality that I get tired and just fall off a cliff somewhere for a while. Then afterwards reflect and don’t even recall who I am anymore. Since you have spent so much of your life trying to fit into the norm of society and all you are left with is fragments of yourself that come back to you and make you seem like a completely different person. With autism I’ve come to notice that you will have an unique angle towards everything and think logically. Then you come to figure out why people do certain things even though you have no particular interest in getting involved in them, and sometimes that can even leave you frustrated with the decisions of others. Though, you will eventually get passed the emotional reaction to seemingly incomprehensible decisions and find that in their point of view it at least seemed logical to them. This has allowed me to understand some people better, but take it with a grain of salt, cause sometimes it’s not what you think.
I took a couple of tests, and am pretty sure I am on the spectrum (i also have ADHD). I am 68 years old, and have already done a lot of living without knowing why I was weirdly different.
Just about everyone ive ever met has said “you’re weird but in a nice way ” i learned late in my life i am adhd and to be honest it answered a lot of personal questions and made me more comfortable with myself ,
@@DjbreedKronikaudio :) , sorry, "easy time of it" was somewhat a turn of phrase lessening the amount of words i could put in a comment, i should have not been lazzy & written out that many people do not have it in them to own up to who they are & will go through great lengths of time or even all of it being unable to properly cope with it, you may not be having a easy time of it, BUT you have been able to so again gratz. well... best of luck changing that(no friends), if you so desire. if you do not want to change that then all the best to you on your solo playthrough of life. :P
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 8 year old and my mom tells me that I'm not autistic, but I'm pretty sure that I am. Most of what you said are relatable to me.
adhd is at the bottom of the spectrum. i have it and silently struggle with eye contact as one example. i understand people really well, but they don’t make logical sense, and i also don’t know what physical contact is expected based on the situation. conversation is easy, but i think i talk too much and can’t stop myself much like this comment. cheers
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 5 and now I have been wondering if I am actually Autistic and I highly believe I am. I literally have also just realized in the past few weeks that I am Autistic. So I have an appointment with my psychologist on the 16th of this month and I plan to ask him how I can go about seeing someone who can diagnose and possibly will diagnose me with Autism. I actually hope I get diagnosed with it because it will finally explain everything I have gone through mentally. I think I will have Aspergers because I am very high functioning. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 1997 or 98 and at that time there was no Autism spectrum, either you were Autistic or you were not and I believe I have been missed diagnosed with ADHD and I was heavily suffering from ADHD, I always had troubles at school because I could never sit down and listen at school and many other things
@@nxght6694 literally just recently a new friend told me I sometimes say too much and give out too much info, this is also one reason out of a few that I believe that I am on the spectrum
@@ThePeacePlant almost everything made sense for me too. When I have like 8-10 I was diagnosed at SHARP w depression and they wanted to peg ADD on me but I squirmed out of their diagnosis. I think because I figured out they were figuring me out, I started not telling them as much and held back so they wouldn't think I was nuts for what I guess now is some sort of autism.
Thank you, You helped me to understand my dear friend of 45 years. I understood he was raised in an orphanage from age 2 to 18. So thought much of the emotions or lack of showing them had steamed for that. What you have described fits him to a tee. At age 5 the nuns would strap him down and beat the souls of his feet to make him try to make him talk since he had so far refused to talk, it was the 1950s'. So much has changed since then. Thank you for saying not to tell.
OK... Just discovered your channel while doing research into my own Self-Diagnosis Process and... Here's More Validating Evidence that Yes I am Autistic and am definitely "On the Spectrum"... at age 44. Wish I could've found out much sooner. Oh well... THANKS SO MUCH for making this Excellent Video and for the Great Work you're doing with your channel. Cheers! -- Mike (Autistic Visual Artist from the US)
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Is RUclips trying to tell me something
Yes...RUclips makes us Autistic
good question.
good question......
How accurate are RUclips's *other* video suggestions?
I wouldn’t think this way lol but if you feel you could be you might want to see someone
i feel that too
It's weird having a personality as a kid. then wearing a blank mask as a teenager. Then learning to give my mask an acceptable personality. Then realizing I have no idea who I am anymore.
That sounds exhausting and lonely.
Oh my god this is how I feel
Ye its weird some days i feel so damn confident socially and radiate good vibes, and i feel like im being myself but im not sure? Is there ever a way to know? Then theres me when i have bad mood and feel insecure and its a polar opposite. Who am I!!!
@Luke Downing too bad masks still required even if vaccinated. What a world we live in 🥴
I literally don’t know what I’m actually interested in or how I really feel or where I like to visit or what I like to eat. I’m not super passionate about anything. It makes me want to ask my old childhood friends what they thought about me as a youngin. I can’t do that tho because that’d be weird.
#6: Uneven Skill Set
Intelligence: 5
Dexterity: 3
Lockpicking:11
stealth 100
YES!!
How would one pick a lock with so little dexterity? Serious question. Is that maybe not the best example or am i missing something?
Woah there buckaroo. What u need lockpicking for
@@reneekollerova1750 Getting into stores etc, when the Government lock them down
Autism has been a challenging journey, but the therapeutic benefits of psilocybin mushrooms have been transformative, with other psychedelics like DMT and LSD also playing a key role in my healing and personal growth.
Hey mate, where can i get it?
doctor.cyruss is your guy, got all kinds of psychedelics and the most knowledgeable that i know.
Is he on telgram?
Yes and tiktok, highly recommended.
It's amazing how they work better than antidepressants and serve as recreational purpose as well
I'm not autistic but have an autistic friend. He requires more time, more patience, more understanding. But he pays with great loyalty. I know he would help me.
I remember once I was very upset, almost in tears, shouting. He just didn't notice that. I told him I'm upset and he immediately started asking me how could he help.
Top much bad trip
' he pays with great loyalty?..' excuse me?? So you think your friend is a dog or something. So he has to pay for you to be his friend. Nice....
@@TheMavigoz Sorry for my English, I translated it too directly. I meant "odpłacać się" - to do some favor because someone did a favor for you. Not necessarily material. My bad.
@@TheMavigoz Can't you see I'm f-ing crying???? Have some sympathy you creep...lol
@@TheMavigoz oh, come on
This describes me. I became aware of my Asperger syndrome when reading an article about computer hackers about seven years ago, at age 70! Since I spent much of my adult life working overseas, my social incompetence was often ascribed to cultural difference, and I could focus on my interests as a visiting expert. Being retired, though poor, and mostly isolated, these have been my happiest years, pursuing my interests without offending everyone. I thank God for my sweet wife who stayed with me through everything.
what article was it?
Galen that’s very interesting reminds me of Daniel Tammet who wrote the book “Born on a blue day” because he had a similar experience. He said he was always very awkward growing up until he went to a foreign country to teach and his students just assumed his odd behavior was just a cultural difference and he said that was the first time in his life he felt truly welcome and appreciated. Makes me think I should do the same because so far things are not working out
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic
@@alessandrocoppola4642 social impairment and the inability to understand what other humans experience beyond logical conclusions to the point it destroys your life is part of growing up?
It seems that living in foreign country makes an excuse for me to accept the truth- no friends, partner even I drove my family away from me. Have to do something!
How do I know I'm not just an extremely logical and introverted misanthrope with an intense passion for odd hobbies?
You are, it's just the other people are shallow morons.
Dont get too hung up on it
@keecefly i genuinely want to warn those who are getting too interested in this. if you play the victim you will suffer dearly as you reach closer to the age of about 40. thats how it looks to me. dont use anything as a excuse to not move forthrightly in life. if you are introverted it will expand your character to learn how to be extraverted when need be. i have been diagnosed with autism, for whatever it is worth. it doesnt mean a great deal to me.
This whole comment just screams "I'm autistic" so you're kinda screwed buddy
@@gubourn I'm not hung up on it at all, but it was a serious question. The signs listed in the video are just really vague and I feel like a lot of laymen and doctors could be misdiagnosing themselves/others. (For the record I don't think there's anything wrong with being autistic/autistic people)
I actually told a good friend he might be autistic. Two weeks later he thanked me. He is 53 and asked his brother if he thought he might be autistic and his brother said absolutely. My friend said it changed his life for the better and now understands why he is different.
I broke up with my guy for this behavior. This is what I've been saying but I don't think he knows. We've been reconnecting but I wish he would get diagnosed.
I think it depends on your relationship with the person, and the situation/how you bring it up. Cause yeah honestly if I was struggling with something, I'd be really grateful to find out exactly why, like I'm always having to research and figure it out my issues on my own and then I have to explain it all to my family/friends/doctors, so it'd be nice if someone else could figure it out for me (esp doctors, why do I have to push every step just to get tested/the help I need, it's exhausting)..
@@queenofmanifesting5 Would a diagnosis make any difference? For example, he will still be the same as he has always been. Having a label attached to it won't necessarily make him any different. Knowing doesn't provide the "cure"
@@Oh-Monkey I had a friend imply I should get diagnosed to get medication - because thats what she did it and it helped her.
But I believe that this is me, I don't want medication to change that. And I know from now to when I was a teenager I've gotten a lot better at managing it. Like it's not even masking, I just have worked through the social stuff (which is the main issue tbh). And yeah, I still get things wrong, but I can go up to a cashier now without having a panic attack. It's the small wins.
@@Oh-Monkey there is healing in your awareness.
I hope this guy realises how much he’s helping thousands of people.
He's not helping anyone. Psychiatry is a scam. If it wasn't they would include Neurotypical Spectrum Disorder
Yet to this day I still encounter so many people who have no fucking clue what autism/aspergers is, but they still decide it's a good idea to make stupid jokes about it that are not only completely unfunny but also extremely ignorant. Usually I ignore them and forget about it but here lately my patience has finally begun to erode away.
@@UltraK420 Do you have a clue what aspergers is though, mate?
I mean, do you know what the WORD Asperger means? Who was the Man named Asperger?
The bloke that authored the video is the one that helped, the one that repeated on video then posted the lines just gets all the credit.
@@loturzelrestaurant Dr. Asperger lived in Vienna, Austria in the 1920s, 30s and 40s. Some people now want to change the name because they associate him with the Nazi's. As an Aspie I don't want to be called autistic or even "On the spectrum".
2:00 Socially awkward
3:19 Strange way of interacting
5:03 Overly logical
6:31 Stimming
8:09 Loves rules and routines
9:03 Uneven skill set - intense interests
10:16 Sensory sensitivities
Thanks!
Thanks
‘Overly Logical’ I sometimes call myself a Vulcan and an Android, that’s how I managed to deal with a lot of socially awkward situations, I imagine myself as Spock or Data, and suddenly I feel in character and feel somewhat able to manage conversations
thanks
Best comment ever!
I'm your poster boy.
I'm almost 55, single. Have had problems with intimate relationships so I gave up 15 years ago. I have close friends who understand me, but there's the overwhelming feeling of loss due to inability to connect when I was younger. Despite friends saying that I'm "a catch" as I've taken care of myself and look younger than I am; I can't endure the pain of the awkwardness any longer. Being alone is the lesser of the options. Luckily I'm not depressed or suicidal, it's just reality.
I've been single for so long that it's my normal. But over the years I've had activities where I've had to be outgoing so I learned coping mechanisms to hide the reality. I appear "normal" when I'm REALLY not.
Same goes for the work thing. I have a lot of varied skills and it was always a blessing. But when I hit 50, the job offers stopped.
Thank goodness I have savings and have a few properties I partially own with my sister for income.
If I could have only been diagnosed 40 years ago.
Never give up, sir. However, please be very careful not to over share about your predicament. I’ve made that mistake too and feel your pain. Please be safe.
Btw, yes, I can relate to quite a bit of what you said.
nice to see theres is a happy ending or light at thr end of the tunnel.
lohphat All of what you wrote about difficulty with human relationships and access to work due to aging, are tragedies and I don't want to minimize them, but our only source of help should be God and our only care in this finite and brief life should be to strengthen our relationship with him. If he made us ''autistic'' let us accept this condition with gratitude and its suffering as well because they have the potential to sanctify us and bring us closer to God.
lohphat I can relate to almost everything you have shared. I was diagnosed last year at age 60 (a course I had to follow by my own education and conviction with no medical guidance) having spent my entire life trying to understand, correct or heal what ever it was that was different about my abilities. Like you I was fortunate to retire early, in my case with support from my parents. I present and appear as ‘normal’ and intelligent but cannot function as such. Growing older and experiencing lower expectations from others has been very helpful. All the best to you :-)
I was drawn to autism and worked in a school in the “special education department” in my late twenties early thirties. During that time I learned so much and the children were such a blessing! It is only in my life after that I realize they were teaching me about myself.
I teach too and I had the same realization. The kids were teaching me about me and I often say hey I remember doing that similar thing as a kid too.
let me guess. dr oyalo? :P @Mp-wc2ch
I recently lost my brother who went through a major anxiety melt down which got the better of him. He was 65 but was only diagnosed at the age of 60 when he had his first anxiety attack. This video was very helpful to help me reflect on his past behavior and better understand what he was going through. When we were kids in the 1960s someone like my brother was just viewed as extremely shy especially when it came to socializing , so on reflection he did really well. Just sharing.
That is the same as my brother.He was diagnosed at 60 years of age and died at 65 in his sleep,and no one knows why
@@lauragardner129 sorry to hear about your brother. I often think back on whether I could have helped my brother at an earlier age had we only known ! Best.
@@kevanalbrighton5887 thank you.I think we all wonder if we could have done something different,but we probably could not have done anything differently that would have significantly affected the outcome.sorry for your loss as well
That breaks my heart he went so long not knowing that must have been very hard on him
I am so sorry for your loss😔
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The RUclips algorithm has brought all together once again.
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Are you calling me autistic 😭
It's hip to be on the spectrum
@@larvalangel yay!
For me, realizing I was on the spectrum, and finally getting the diagnose, was a pure blessing. It gave answers to my many questions. If someone probably has autism, I think it would be better for them to actually get the diagnose, but maybe others are more ashamed by it. For me, it was a very welcome release of years of stress and angst about not fitting in.
I definitely have a mix of shame and relief thank you for sharing your experience 😊
Where did you go for help?
@@JaySpoonn: It was a very long process for me and I had to fight a lot and demand second opinions. But the first step is usually the family doctor, then a simple test to see if it's relevant to do further checks at a psychiatrist. You can start by doing an online test to see how much of the diagnose criteria that fits with your life. Hope you understand what I mean, I'm usually good at English but when it gets technical like this it's more difficult to find the right words.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
@@gracechristopher3133: That is just spam and bullshit and you know it, so stop spreading lies! Autism can't be "cured".
i got my diagnosis at 31 when my 2 year old was getting diagnosed, and as we learned more about him and his autism me and my wife both had an "ooohhhhh" moment with me. Feels nice knowing who i am now and not having a poor opinion of myself
What steps did you have to take to get the official diagnosis
@@AbstruseDaPoet spoke to my doctor, then i ended up seeing a few specialists, taking tests and things. it was a very long process and very expensive where i live.
@@its_mew_ That’s ridiculous, learning disabilities and mental health prognostics should not be expensive. I long for a world in which simplistic diagnostic criteria doesn’t cost an arm and a leg to produce.
@@NobodyNowhere888 autism is a learning disability not a mental health condition
@@TommyWashow isnt it a social disability not a learning one? (for high functioning)
You basically just described my entire life in this video. I always eat the same foods every day and wear the same close.I constantly shake my leg and I don't talk to people.My eyes and ears are very sensitive. I have been playing the same video game for 4 years and I love to use medical and physics jargon, it drives my family crazy. My social awkwardness is off the charts. Thank you Paul, this is A great video!
Thanks Michael! Glad you can relate!
I been playing Ms. Pac Man for about 35yrs. I'm pretty good at this point.
Same here. Peace!
@@Thundarr995 Same with me, but my game is Super Mario Bros 3 lol (and 30 years)
You sound damn cool to me... :)
I'm really struggling to see the difference between being autistic and being introverted. I always felt different, weird, socially awkward... and I see myself as introverted. But some of the autism traits are very relatable... in some aspects, more than introverted traits.
Do you do a lot of work to over-come some of the social difficulties?
Personally, I've been told I present really well, and when I tell people I have social anxiety--or that I'm on the spectrum--they'll say "You can't be! You're too social!" But they are often just projecting themselves onto me, probably because I'm mirroring them...
they don't see all the "calculating" I'm always doing in social situations: Are my arms crossed? What is my body language saying?What is my facial expression reflecting? Eye-contact: I either count out beats, or stay locked until they blink. Are they laughing or crying? (--wait to find out before continuing) What jokes can I make out of what is presented? When can I speak? Is what I want to say, applicable or appropriate? (I don't want to talk about home ownership, I want to talk about supermassive blackholes...) Am I dominating the conversation, steering back to what I want to talk about? Why aren't these people depressed? I try not to visibly react to things I find upsetting, work on my "poker face." I make sure I ask questions... and so many other "calculations" that don't spring immediately to mind.
I try not to impress, I often want to do something impressive, but people don't want to be impressed all the time, they want to be understood... Unfortunately, I usually can't understand them--their feelings and stories are not connected the way I understand--but I can make it look like I do. I'm a good actor, after decades of painful trial and error; deliberate practicing and calculating social interactions. It's always been very important to me to be liked (who doesn't wan to be liked), but this motive drove my efforts to overcome the traits that had not worked socially.
I turned to alcohol to cheat. Drunkenness made me actually interested in people, and actually care about their lives... it made me feel naturally social. I was chatting up people on the bus, with what felt like genuine interest. But like many, that lead me to alcoholism. The alcoholism lead me to homelessness, which lead me to have to survive on my own, which forced me to adapt and learn: to know the human animal, so as to stay out of its way.... Even now, I take medications and use cannabis to alleviate my anxiety and quiet my mind a bit; it has helped me empathize more accurately. My traits, struggles and abilities have changed, waxed and waned, over the years.
A lot of people on the spectrum "mask" their deficits so well, that they, themselves, are not aware that they are compensating so heavily. I thought all the many stressful thoughts that flood my brain with every encounter, were what everyone felt... but I found out that it is not, and that very few people see (or feel, or hear) the world the way I do. I worry a lot about the inability to be understood, despite speaking english--I worry that I am the lion in Wittgenstein's axiom: "If a lion could speak, we could not understand him." The inner experience of the lion--the lion's frame of reference--would be so foreign to us humans that though the lion uses english words, no human would understand what the lion was going on about...
I don't know if that helped any... There is such a broadness to the spectrum that one may relate strongly to some traits that others experience, and not so strongly to others. If you're really curious, try taking the Autism Quotient quiz, and/or talking with a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist. AQ: psychology-tools.com/test/autism-spectrum-quotient
@@sagittarius_a_starr I relate to a lot of this. I've thought before that I might be on the spectrum, but everyone doubts you initially, even professionals it seems like.
It is strange feeling like such an alien that you can't even properly express your thoughts and feelings in a way that can be easily understood by other people. It makes you feel esoteric. I know that I am a person and have the same needs and feelings as others, but with how hard communication can be, my penchant to run on tangents or rant, and the social anxiety of constant calculation to make sure I'm in the moment and present makes it difficult to really connect with others. It leaves little room for real conversation with anyone I don't already know very well.
Most autistic people (not everyone) are seemed to be introverts, which it doesn't matter if you are introvert you can still be on the spectrum, If you really want to know and need help you should consider go to get diagnosed.
@@connerkinsman5217 In high school I wrote a first-person narrated novella about an alien consciousness, that is sent to earth as a scout/researcher from a distant civilization, that gets stuck/trapped in its human body, stranded on earth, and reluctantly but eventually “becomes” human, only to rescued at the end. I later discovered this isn’t a tremendously original idea. Years later Pandora came out…which seemed a variation on that motif. The one teacher that bothered to read it, said that I created an “interestingly analytical perspective” for the alien character-which stifled the narrative with too many details…
I relate to that alien feeling-for me it is most apparent when tying to understand the motives and reactions of others, and when my jokes land WAY off their mark (still technically funny, but wildly inappropriate). I recall sitting in second grade and truly thinking, “I must have lost connection with the mothership… there’s no way I belong here…” I was 7 years old.
Further regarding introversion:
I searched long and hard for a defined group that I belonged to, as I felt a man without a tribe… I have since mostly given up… for a moment, I got invested in personality types, particularly the Myers-Briggs’ “16 Personality Types”
I thought if I could pinpoint my personality type, then I could find others. I always registered as INTJ:
Introvert Intuitive Thinking and Judging (the category names didn’t align literally, which can be confusing). 16personalities.com -at the very least, doing those quizzes helped me better understand the nature of introversion and how it contrasts with extroversion.
That was a ramble…
@@sagittarius_a_starr Ok, I think I'm starting to see the difference. There's a lot more struggle for autistic people in social situations... and I believe that's me. I really do calculate a lot before, during and after a social situation. And it's extremely exhausting... Nothing ever feels natural to me. I really should start considering that I might be on the spectrum...
I remember having a very distinct realization when I was a child that "not everyone thinks like me". I often felt confused and flustered at things other kids would say to myself or others, things that would sound rude, mean, or out of place. Or when they would not care for something I found deeply interesting. It helped me when I realized everyone is different, or at least not like me, because it was an explanation. But at the same time I started to have social anxiety cause I felt I could never know what someone was actually thinking or feeling, and I was never good at reading social cues (even to this day).
But I mean that to say that whenever I have an interaction with someone that is Autistic, I find the conversation refreshing and enjoyable. All of the stimming, shifty eye contact, rambling, etc. never bothers me. Coworkers I've had on the spectrum naturally became friends of mine. I appreciate the conversations because they are usually honest and direct, not so much BS like conversations I may have with others. Sure occasionally I'll have a long conversation about boats or computers or some video game, but it's better than small talk, whining, gossip, boasting, demeaning, or just general negativity.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
I was told many times as a child that not everyone thinks like me, but I took it as a reminder of a self-evident fact of life, a "different strokes" sort of truism. I wonder if they actually meant that most people have mostly congruent thinking that I diverged from.
@@majd8 I've been on the Google platform a LONG time. They allowed all their users to get verified when they first rolled it out. Not that I care or need it!
I'm seeing a specialist this year. So much resonates with me, getting held back in kindergarten. And then being put in special ed at third grade all through school. Being awkward, talking way too much about anything.and making others feel weird because I blurt out random stories. So much, I'm glad I found your video
When I was about seven, I was sent to a boy's institution. 3 boys in the dorm started a fire and shortly after that the headmaster came in and made everyone line up. Then he walked up and down looking at us, eventually picked me out for punishment. Later, I learned that it was because I failed to make proper eye contact. I remember thinking "how stupid to determine someone's guilt by the amount of eye contact" and made it a point to stare people directly in the eye. Didn't know to blink and had a parole officer claim I terrified him (at age ten). At some point, I realized that I was autistic, but hid it for decades. Back then, you never wanted to reveal a weakness to authority since they would just use it to victimize you further.
Yes, unfortunately for many people it comes across as smug, guilty or arogant when in reality it's just a different way of responding to people.
Sad. My life is alsk basically destroyed by this terrible disorder and fcked.up ppl. I dont wish asperger to my worst enemy
sorry that happened to you.
Did you use matches, or a cigarette lighter?
I was accused of stealing my teachers mobile phone when I was 4 years old for a similar reason… I had never even known what a phone was at the time (year 2000, we weren’t majorly in-money, etc) every child in the class was interviewed… and they thought I was guilty based on the fact that I said it “might be in the cupboard where the spiders are”, I said this whilst staring at the floor at my shoes, I was literally so confused by what was going on I just wanted to leave the situation completely… understandable really?
What I meant by this.. was simply a stationary cupboard in the back of our classroom, and they seriously took what I said and believed the happy-go-lucky 4 year old self I was had stolen my teachers mobile phone… and put it in a cupboard at home, never did I get an apology or confirmation that they got this wrong and it still messes with me mentally to this day… just typing this comment alone upsets me, but at 25 I’m just trying to let it all go now.
Side note: To bring a bit of context as to why this has deeply affected me so much… I had my headteacher push the back of my head into the corner of said-cupboard whilst screaming at me “FIND THE PHONE AND STOP WASTING OUR TIME”, whilst looking for something I didnt know and didn’t take… unreal.
I practiced eye contact til I thought I had some competence.
It was years before I realized I was instead staring people down.
I’m told that I stare at people, but it doesn’t seem that way to me. I just don’t get the eye contact thing.
Damn if you do, damned if you don't. A better approach is look at people if your feel like it and don't look if you don't feel like it. And if you feel good staring at the floor or the landscape or surrounding which I actually enjoy ( I don't find people's faces attractive) do it .No need to deceive people into thinking you are not ''autistic'' . Let them label you as a strange person and accept it.
@@BrianAHarkins If you're the one who's talking, the right duration is usually 2-3 seconds then look away. If you're not the one who's talking, when they look away then you look away. Anything longer becomes staring. (This is just a general guide to avoid staring. There are lots of unwritten rules, sadly)
Not everyone makes the same amount of eye contact. For introverts it's usually less compared to extroverts. So too little is preferable to too much, you might just seem like an introvert or a little bit shy, but not rude.
I like Daniels comment ..
Because we have to learn so much I think some of us would make great Behavioral Psychologists / Sociologists.
I mean, who else pays this much attention to these things?
I wish someone had diagnosed me as a kid instead of just labelling me both as a problem and a "smart kid". I am glad I am who I am and I am happy that people are much more aware that there is a level of this in us all. Functioning Autistics just need to understand themselves and have people around us that do too and we can excel in life..... It is a lot easier as an adult but so very troublesome as a kid. Thanks for this video. Digi
A lot of these so-called mental disorders are BS. Psychologists are nothing but mercenaries for Big pharma because all they are trained to do is prescribe some medicine based on symptoms that could be caused by many things.
For example, a high sugar diet can cause a lot of the symptoms related to "depression" and anxiety, and I remember being "diagnosed" with that garbage as a child just because I told one that I like to stay alone instead of talk to the guys in my group home and was told "it was'nt normal" for someone my age. Never mind if I was staying away from the MF's for my own good because they were the most violent trouble-making kids on earth because it was never even asked. She didn't ask s**t about my diet either!
@@2pacisAkiltheMC I agree I don't eat sugar anymore and I grew up in a public house so had access to a lot of the stuff.
I used to think the same thing, but based on all the other things that I've been stigmatized and diagnosed with and labeled as, I'm kind of glad none of them or they never went in this direction because I would not have wanted to been taking pills as a kid from parents who don't have their own individuality or are embarrassed or their Community is part of the brainwashing that binds Our Lives.
Whatever the case I feel empowered because I have a prospective and I have knowledge and I can function in a different area that people either condemn or don't know exist.
I've had a lot of problems even to this day and the right thing to do is move until we find a better place and I consider myself pretty successful for all the quirks that people have come at me with and if there's anything that my life can show somebody else I need Unity as well.
All the best is ours to have
@@artsomniacv-logcitybydanie1249 Yes I do agree too. The grass always seems greener on the other side though what you say is right though. Stigma is a huge issue , even now
@@Digithaiz I'm leaving Florida for good because I have long hair and I drive an old Winnebago and I keep getting profiled and then once they start to talk to me they Judge Me with condemnation through fear and ignorance. I like to work nonstop till I finish things so I get judged for being worn out and fatigued but successful but condemned anyway.
Its a daily battle
Wow, this video hit home for me big time! When you said "At age 50 or 60 finding yourself without a job, family or any friends/relationships", that is me exactly (I am 59)
Talking about eye contact, I am definitely one who overcompensates by making too much eye contact. I tend to stare directly into people's eyes, because I don't know how or when you are "supposed" to look at someone's eyes, and when to look away. It doesn't come naturally to me, and I have to think about it really hard, and it causes me a lot of stress. I think it makes other people uncomfortable around me, too.
Also, when you mentioned being smart, but feeling stupid. I have an above-average IQ (143), so I know I'm NOT stupid, but sometimes I feel REALLY dumb. I often misunderstand what someone is saying, and I have been absolutely mortified at times by things I have said in response to that wrong understanding. I feel like I come across as a stupid person pretty often, but I am absolutely not! It affects how I am treated by others, because sadly when someone thinks you aren't intellectually capable, they tend to think less of you, and they treat you accordingly.
And when you talked about different speech patterns, I related to this as well. I have always had a "different" way of speaking, very monotone, and just different. It's very hard to go through life feeling like no one understands what you're talking about! I'm very used to seeing that confused look on people's faces when I'm trying to talk to them. It's very upsetting, because I don't understand WHY they are confused, and I feel like I am speaking very clearly!
My life feels very hard right now, and I am not doing very well. I spend most of my time alone, and I wish I could find some friends who are also ASD. I've always felt like a complete alien in this world, now more than ever!
I feel you. I'm 60 and pretty much in the same boat. I was performing in a show, which was very interactive. Someone afterwards told me he should have known I was an actor, because of little things that seemed off. I asked for an example. He told me "the lack of eye contact". My response was "no, that's just a normal thing for me".
Just remember, there's nothing wrong with you.
I relate to all of this. I can't even begin to count all of the instances of rejection, shame, and embarrassment I've felt that I couldn't explain. Its so exhausting that I choose to isolate myself even when I'm miserable. Good luck everyone out there, I really wish the best for all of us.
I am sorry you are having a hard time and I wish you well ❤
Hit home for me too. I have "friends" but they're not close friends. The dating game is not something I'd even want to try. Had crushes on colleagues at work but never acted on them.
I'm seeing a lot of this. People with autism in their 50's, alone, no career, no friends, somewhat isolated.
I'm 54 (dx at 33), we all grew up outside, now, we're just text? Things have changed.
I was an autistic child with lots of nature, it was a sensory wonderland then. Now, age and 30 years of a computer desk has made it a sensory nightmare on my back, the only "nature" is the wallpaper on my desktop. :(
So much focus on the young, they have no idea what awaits them when they crest "the hill" and their body starts losing ground to entropy. Adds a new dimension to autism, lol.
Eye contact freaks me out. it's tough to describe, so yes, i avoid it, only with people I really know. Whatever it is, there is too much.
And if we are mentioning numbers,and mine is close, I tested a 144, but really,I see intelligence as more of a wagon wheel, with spokes representing capacity in several areas. I'm excellent in some stuff, a geometric aptitude off the charts. But I can't take care of myself. health, diet, nutrition, exercise, nope.... I'm not in good shape, I can see my horizon.
And social things, well, we all now that one, lol....
I have a great vocabulary, people THINK I'm a "verbal person', but really, words frustrate me, I do not process them the same as others and they all jumble on me. I hate reading actually. Especially fiction. And my handwriting is illegable (I'm left handed, well 60-40 left)
I can "derp" as good as anyone else, so what's a number?
I guess I have different speech patterns, I don't like to listen to recordings of myself, i avoid that it freaks me out.
It is very tough to find ANY friends these days, let alone other middle aged adults with ASD. Seems so much of the autism world is skewed to focus on younger folks and their parents.
But being a generation that DID grow up offline, we do not benefit so much form all this online stuff. I'm technically literate, but despite being "online" since dialup in the 80s. I have been unable to really form real relationships with text like this. No offense, I'm sure you are all very nice people. But I have a block to emotionally connecting with text.
And recent new technologies are not helping that. i crave in person, 20th century socialization more than ever, but I can't find in person stuff anymore. the world has changed too much. i learned to get along with my autism offline, this is a lonely world to me.
These text based social placebos are not doing it for me..... sigh :(
This sounds a lot like me. One difference is - while I'm akward in social situations, I'm also highly empathic. My jokes rarely land, and is hard to join a conversation, but I'm really good at listening and providing support for those in need.
So you’re Fozzie Bear. That’s good company.
what used to be the rarest personality type, INJF is now autism
that’s how it feels for me too. i seem to fit the bill until it gets to the part about not recognizing social cues. i recognize those too well i’d say
@@SlabOfSteak There is an intersection of some traits. For example , high functioners can learn to recognize social cues to an extent. Or even well. It is a skill that can learned if one wishes. BUT that is the point. To normies it isn't a skill , it is innate.
As an adult male with ASD, I sincerely wish more people understood this. I would share it with friends and family, but I’ve grown wary of sharing things like this until they are requested.
@Ignace Alli I'm very happy for your son's wellbeing, but it is irresponsible and cruel to offer false hope and pseudoscience to people who might be especially vulnerable. A brief message to anyone tempted by the hucksters trying to sell you a cure: there is no cure for autism and herbs simply cannot rewire a brain. But certain strategies can help people with ASD live fulfilling lives.
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
@@gracechristopher3133 you should really do a better job at pretending not be a bot/duplicate account. Your syntax is goofy and it shows that you’re the same person posting over and over again. What you’re selling here is false hope with the possibility of grave injury. Shame on you.
My wife and I adopted a boy this year. He has been handed around thru the US foster system for four years. We suspected after 8 months some level of autism. He was never diagnosed. I learned more in 14 mins with you than in eight months of therapy session. Thank you.
You might consider changing therapist. Good luck with the kid. Learn as much as possible about autism. We (wife and I) raised an Asperger without knowing. Well, we knew classic autism, but had never heard of Asperger's/high functioning. It was a difficult time. One tip I can give you: keep a steady timetable. We don't like sudden changes. Do try to stretch the things the kid doesn't want to do. Don't throw him in the deep, but stretch.
Good luck Brett 👍👍
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don't coddle. Don't go out of your way to teach a lesson. Be supportive, but don't give in. They will manipulate, showing acute awareness of situation, yet be inept at empathy. It's just the way they are. deal with it, learn from it, just keep hoping and doing what you think is best for them. There's no right answer but there are millions of wrong ones walking around. Show love, show empathy, but don't coddle.
@@jollyren you know you can reverse many forms of autism, right?
My boyfriend came to me one day and asked if he could say something without me judging. Of course I agreed and was surprised he had something new to share since we know almost everything about each other. He told me that he thought he might be on the spectrum but didn’t want to say it in case he was wrong. All of the things mentioned in this video are things he does/struggles with. I immediately went to support him seeking professional help to see if he is autistic but I fear I may have come on to strong. I am neuro-divergent and being told what disabilities I have help me figure out a way to work in the neuro-typical world. He didn’t want to tell me because I’m neuro-divergent and he thought it would be insulting if he was wrong. All I want is to help him and make him happy. Through our relationship as first friend then more, I’ve slowly learned to accommodate for him in our relationship and he has learned it for me as well. I don’t know much other than surface level kind of stuff on autism so I looked it up here on RUclips. I’m not sure if it will be noticeable to other by the way I write but I am extremely dyslexic (and a bunch of other language based disabilities) and so finding informative videos like this is super helpful. I want to learn what I can to help my boyfriend but I also have to make sure I don’t overwhelm him. I won’t bring up the subject unless he begins it but I truly believe he should seek a professional’s opinion and I will be there to hold his hand if needed. Oh gosh I’ve probably been ranting to much.
Omg these responses are so interesting and I think my ex might be autistic and I think his friend's have some sort of autism to accept maybe for one guy. It's just weird because I've never felt close to any of my boyfriends friend's I thought most of them were delusional and crazy or overally emotional. I never understood autism and asbergers though. I just feel bad. I'm trying to learn about it also and when media and musicians like Sia treat them like stupid people that know nothing it's so confusing.
I was diagnosed a year ago and never told my girlfriend as I fear that she won't be able to look at me the same again and she will leave me
Normally expressed traits like empathy and eye contact are things I’ve had to study and learn, and commit to memory in order to “mask” or “pass” as neurotypical
@Luis I've heard, children not socialized properly, may miss the window when it is possible. Only at a young age, will proper socialization be learned. But, if one is very different cognitively, he may never be part of the group. This includes the exceptionally intelligent. Like learning to socialize with chimps. Why try? Nothing to be gained. And may get your face ripped off.
I have ‘high functioning’ Aspergers, I’ve had to do exactly the same.
@@joeshmoe7899 Are you talking about children who have autism or children in general?
@Carl Trotter There is no such thing as high functioning aspergers, you just have weaknesses like everybody else. I am prone to social anxiety too but grow up 😁
@@Talisman09 everybody has weaknesses, what do you mean by 'but grow up'? If I have offended you, I do apologise, but would like some clarification.
If not, have a nice day,
-Carl
I am nearly 60 and I have realised that some of these traits I have, I have told my wife this and she didn't seem too surprised as if she had accepted this long ago, it certainly explains my life choices
Same thing happened to me at 45. Except it was my GF that brought it up. After hearing some childhood stories , she connected the dots to some things she had noticed in our relationship.
@@adgato75 Hbomberguy's last video made the autism-community proud. Seen it?
I love how someone on the spectrum like yourself can make being in the spectrum so normal, and you speak so confidently in your own words knowing your posting it on the internet and you will get haters, keep up the hard work!!
I see myself in this dude. I've kind of thought for a time that I am on the spectrum a little bit more than everyone else (everyone is), but this guy makes me think I'm autistic. He has rhetorical skills, so do I, he seem "normal", which I sometimes do. I work with more severe autistic people and mentally handicapped people and I've seen autistic people many a times in my day. I never pinpointed myself as *autistic* in that sense, ju that I had *some* traits. But I realize more and more that I am probably just very high functioning. I eat the same things everyday, I'd wear the same clothes if I had multiple sets of them (only black t-shirts though, and sometimes a hoodie), I feel wrong dressing up for social gatherings, can't really wear a buttoned-up, I am a very bad story-teller. All this while having quite good social skills (I can talk with literally everyone (or maybe I just think I can, lol)).
Hmm. I've thought for a very long time that I have ADD. Like 2-3 years. Maybe it's just autism? Sometimes it can really have some of the same symptoms, like procrastinating, not really seeing consequences, being stubborn, all those kinds of things. I get angry at people that don't use their logic, I sometimes have a hard time seeing other people's POV, but not always. I don't have issues nuancing my arguments and understanding more complex situations like that, but I sometimes get ANGRY for real when people don't understand what I say online when I think I couldn't have been clearer. Many different misconceptions going around and around.
I had to vent this. It's been bubbling for a while. Sweden is good in its way, but it takes forever to actually get evaluated in this country.
@@SomeNiceMovies I am waiting to get an formal analysis for autism, and what you have written partially correlated with my traits.
I resonated somewhat to a few points but the social side. I am terrible at trying to keep a conversation flowing. I don’t know how I should act around people or look at them. In my head I’m going ‘help me’ when this occurs.
When I know social situations have a brief moment of silence as well, my body automatically physically tries to move away from the environment that makes the current situation cumbersome for me. I will go to work and if I have had a good day, which can happen rarely, I come crashing straight back down when home, feeling exhausted over the social complexity of the day. It feels as though all day at work you’re holding your lungs in. When at home, you release the air, but by doing so you release those weird negative, anxious regrets after that good day. Such as ‘why did I say that’ or ‘I could have said this better’ and that thought being stuck in your head for hours. It’s horrible. You end up hating yourself for it that it becomes awkward the next day when you need to feel the same way as you did the previous day. It’s exhausting, and makes everything awkward and feel weird again. A horrible cycle.
Hbomberguy's last video made the autism-community proud. Seen it?
It's pretty easy to do, as long as you know your stuff. Talking about things you really know. And he's talking to a camera. A machine. Would be a lot more difficult if someone was holding the camera.
There's a reason why doing improve and taking acting classes help people on the spectrum. Acting to blend in with neurotypicals is a huge part of the struggle.
Not speaking to someone for ages and then just picking up from where you left off shows what a deep friendship you have. It's actually a good thing if you can find people who are on that wavelength.
That's how my aspie best friend and i am. We like our space but never miss a beat. I'm also on spectrum but im a girl so havent been diagnosed yet. I am adhd with tics n panic attacks. I don't do well with change of anything. So i let myself get therapy at 29
Some friends are chill like that.
@@cryora "Chill" derives from Gen X slang "Chill out" or "Take a chill pill" I like how zoomers have adopted to mean pretty much similar context. I can dig it dude.
@@edstar83 Chill is what was used by people in my college triathlon club back in 2014-2016, so I don't think that counts as the zoomer generation.
Constant eye contact to me feels too aggressive or too intimate, so I have a lot of trouble with even looking at someone for long when conversing. I have to deliberately maintain it at times with a lot of stressful effort, in job interviews etc. I've only easily maintained it without any conscious effort in either highly aggresive or highly intimate scenarios. I also fit a lot more of these criteria too. Been suspecting I'm autistic for a good few years.
Then i guess everyone is autistic lol
I only give eye contact to people who I really trust.
I agree. I don’t want people to think I wanna fight or fxck them
Logically speaking, anyone can be diagnosed, it's just that the people which society often deem as "outcasts", are the ones who gets diagnosed, because society wants a "reason". Society then tend to forget that a diagnose is a generalized behavior pattern, whether it be a bodily behavior pattern or psychological, often followed with the expectation that something is "wrong". So clearly, if you question your own health, something must be "wrong" right? Personally, I don't believe having a diagnose is always a negative, which society tries to make all diagnoses out to be, they simply represent a behavior pattern that has been acknowledged.
I never look anyone in the eye I focus on their nose so it looks like I'm looking them in the eye, or at least I hope they think I am 😂.
"Do not tell someone they are autistic" As another person who discovered he was autistic at 30, I disagree. After my diagnosis, I was shocked when friends said they knew but didn't tell me. I also feel that a common autistic attitude is "information is good" so based on my own experience I would tell a friend. I wish mine had told me years before, learning was like regaining a part of myself I felt but didn't understand was missing.
There's probably "telling a friend" and "telling a friend" if you know what I mean.
I think it’s okay to suggest to a friend that they might be on the spectrum if they have plenty of noticeable symptoms, and you explain to them how a diagnosis can be helpful. But in my opinion if your friend is happy with life and they’re not depressed, and they’re generally stable and functional, you should just let them be. You should only tell them if you can see it’s affecting their life negatively and them getting diagnosed and treating it can help them.
Agreed
I dont know if i have it bad but i think a bit. And when i think about it to me it hurts a bit. But i guess its better to know but id rather be told by soneone who has it like this guy so it feels more better and relatable rather that pointed out and obscure.
A year ago, at age 60, I came to the realisation I was probably on the spectrum. My best friend told me he had been telling me for years that my brother and I were both on the spectrum. I only ever heard the bit about my brother.
In my 70th year and diagnosed only 4 years ago as an Aspie with the extra baggage of childhood trauma, anxiety and (later in life) post traumatic depression. It explained away so many things that I experienced through my entire life. Unfortunately I tend to remember the bad things far more than remembering the good times and I still have anger towards school bullies or work colleagues from over 50 years ago - it was if they only happened last week...still so fresh in my mind. Probably the most hardest experience of all was my gullibility, speaking before thinking and a total inability to read the "office politics". I simply could not get it at all - even if it was spelt out to me five times in a row. I am absolutely convinced this restricted me from achieving higher paid positions and promotions throughout my entire working life. In reflection, it has been a curse and how I wish, how I wish, I had been told this way back in my early 20s. But head doctors simply were not easily available or even considered 50 years ago.......and not knowing what was "wrong" with me for all of that time is the thing that pisses me off so much. Sighhhhhh.
I guess be glad you got some clarity. We have been on this planet not knowing much about anything for a long time.
As for the bullies... Try to see their victim side. Theyre not in control of themselves properly. Some people wil never have a braincell kick in to action to make them feel bad about it, but pity is less destructive to your heart than rage. They had pathetic lives. Maybe always will.
Imagine living your whole life and never being aware emotionally. Its kinda sad but probably not their fault that they are who they are.
I coulda wrote that, damn life is hard
@@luminousfractal420 i think the bullying dynamic is very interesting, in every autism story i've read so far bullying was a topic.
so i find it hard to blame the bullies as it seems to me a natural thing, bc of the social differences between allistic and autistic people.
as autistic people are born the the incapability to socialise, allistic people are born for exactly that reason, so when they meet someone that doesn't fit their neurology they freak out too, but as there are more allistic people it results in bullying
it's a social dynamic and not a decision of the individual "i want to bully that person"
at least that's how i think about it, after figuring out im probably autist.
Same
@@luminousfractal420we can’t be putting our precious energy into feeding sorry for them. I’m sure many of us have already forgiven but we can’t forget or feel sorry.
They have to do the work to wake themselves up.
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Looking forward to this. I always feel that eye contact is masking and doesn’t allow me to be naturally autistic and authentic in this regard. Disrupts my chain of thought and it becomes a ‘just want this ordeal to be over with’ and I am perceived by others as rude / arrogant or blunt.
It's true ... and what is embarrassing when after a conversation, I realize that I forgot to look the person in the eye.
I had to learn thru my marine history professor to look someone in the eye when speaking and have sincerity. It totally moved me into popularity where everyone was calling my name when i got to school cuz i was well liked. Having no friends in high school this spooked me. I got paranoid n hid at school and dropped out 3 classes shy of my degree
It's ok brother, I have a hard time w eye contact too
“It says dress code formal, does that mean I need to wear a tie?”
To be fair, I’m just in denial about having to dress up
Oh really I could never guess a stripper struggled to keep clothes on.
It’s a Black Sabbath song @RB Haydenffc
With me, my autistic area of expertise is suits and classic menswear, I’m the opposite! Autism manifests its self in many ways...
That made me laugh and it was maybe just a terrible example because that is one of the most commonly asked questions following an announcement of that rule
Jack strips floors and re finishes them he wouldn’t know.
I'm 31 and have ADHD. I kept pausing/rewinding this clip because I kept bursting out laughing at all the examples you were giving. I kept remembering all the different times I've been guilty of them, or getting the same reactions from people as you described. I haven't finished this video, but I have autism vs ADHD queued up next, cant wait!
@Ignace Alli what herbs?
@Ignace Alli HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Bullshit! that’s not how it works.
Same, well, aside from laughing but yeah lol
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
So do I. Haha.
Thank you so much, Paul. At the age of 35, I can now understand much better so many events, behaviors and experiences I lived in my past, especially during my childhood and adolescence, and I can find a better way to live every day in according to who and how I am. Discovering your channel has been an immense source of awareness and relief. Nico from Italy.
the fact that youtube recommended this to me, just shows me that youtube probably knows me even more than I know myself. which is sad, but hilarious at the same time. Mostly devastatingly sad.
Actually maths knows you, that's fine.
Doesn't have to be sad, being on the spectrum just means you have a mind that is unique to you. High functioning autism is the video game equivalent of being a boss.
Same for me. I knew this day was coming...
The algorithm is probably helping you to understand yourself better than you wouldve on your own. Isnt that actually a good thing?
Don't worry, I doubt youtubes AI/algorithms are that advanced yet. I "think" what happens is that, as soon as a video/channel reaches enough views/likes/subs, it basically gets added to "everyones" recommended list (billion+ viewers, or whatever it is). Explains why myself, my family and friends, people I meet, and, random people in comment sections, keep seeing the same recommended videos. There may be more to it, not sure. Otherwise, I think this is a very relatable video. I'm sure A LOT of people can identify with many of the symptoms/traits. I know I can, and probably at least one or two other people I know. The creator is also very engaging and likeable, and I imagine probably a huge help to people with autism, which is why his viewership is growing.
"I put earphones in and all of a sudden it's socially acceptable" haha I loved the way you said that!
I'm a 22 year old male diagnosed with Autism, this video is incredibly accurate
Thank you, Paul! I'm am an autistic individual, like you. I love guiding other people through Autism, and I learn how to cope with Autism. Most people don't imagine me being autistic but I mostly tell them if I trust they will accept me for it. Lots of people underestimate me because of my interests, but it doesn't affect me and I'm still happy in life!
@ZahhidMicheal 🧐⁉️
there can only be one autistic jaxon hill. Now we must battle.
That RUclips recommendation algorithm is getting stronger and stronger…
Get out of here :). i got an interview with a bipolar and one with a schizophrenic guy recommended. Next time youtube is sending an ambulance.
i can't hold conversations with anyone my own age. just older or younger people. it's so strange.
Same.
Our peers are kind of boring
@@lucysyd2159 that's something Syd Barrett would have said.
@@bradylumsden3057 also when i am in a conversation with someone, i become very aware i'm in a conversation and end up not even listening to the person and just nodding and saying yeah a bunch. very awkward haha.
@@mynameismark25 I know exactly what you mean lol. Disinterests me from the conversation immediately so I can only reply with repetitive yeahs 🤣. Its bad though, its because we're getting into our own heads by overthinking the minute situation. Gotta stay in the present and keep it moving, only need to deep think deep concepts, not everything lol.
The part where you said "Laugh at inappropriate times" really hit home hard for me, I remember I did jury duty and started laughing at a comment that one of the lawyers said, the whole courtroom looked at me, was mega awkward.
@@supernovahm1178 I was about 19 at the time I believe.
u might just have a better sense of humor than them
I started laughing at a candidate during a panel interview. I noticed he looked funny on the screen after noticing my boss was smirking.... so I created the idea it was because of the funny attributes I noticed. It was just funny and I couldn't stop wanting to laugh but I concealed it pretty well I think...
fuck em’ man.. people gotta learn to lighten up. You did nothing wrong :)
What did the lawyer say that was so funny?
I'm high-functioning Autistic, diagnosed with PDD-NOS when I was 3. Fortunately, I had a lot of early intervention so I made so much progress and can [mostly] fit in with society.
You hit all this on the dot! We're not all the same, but we usually fall into these common signs and I couldn't relate more, especially on "Rules and Routines".
I still don't really understand. Does this impact you everyday?
@@josephinetracy1485if he has strategies then no.
My ex gf was highly autistic. She memorized comedians jokes until she understood comedy and she just jokes with everyone.
No one knows how screwed up she is. They're all just laughing.
Now that I think about it robin Williams was probably autistic.
@@greuju Could be. Most people are great little actors anyway.
I'm very ADHD and I've known that forever. I've spent most of my life trying to *compensate* for it. Recently, at 34 years old, my new therapist simply asked if I had considered high functioning ASD. I told her that I had seen some similarities between folks who have it and myself. She then told me she wasn't interested in labeling me, but instead sent me alot of links on resources so I could look at them and examine them myself if I was interested.
First of all, I really appreciated the delicacy she handled the situation, which was probably obviosu to her, but I was reluctant to look at and being able to adjust on my own time. I've struggled with a variety of stigmas my whole life and her acknowledging my success in handling them and approaching a topic in the manner of giving me tools to approach my struggles really helped.
In particular, your mention of being hyper-social at times and then burning out and shutting down in other situations really spoke to me. In fact, in middle school, I identified that social interactions were necessary and actually intentionally developed a "social self", or masking, that I even eventually grew to enjoy myself, in order to interact with others. It can still be exhausting, and I still struggle with what the appropriate levels of social engagement are, but understanding your strengths and weaknesses are ther first step in addressing them.
This video gave me chills as you went down the list.
I'm gonna live the rest of my life alone. Trapped in my own head with rules and routines that only change when necessary...
I have pretty much isolated myself because I hate change and suprises.
I just wanna add that I do live a ''normal'' adult life. I go to work, go to the groccery store, take care of my cat, workout. But my social life has been on stop for close to 12 years now. I just don't get those same ''rushes'' from social interaction, and I find small talk extremely weird, so I have no releationships..
I can relate to what you are saying. Try realizing all of that when you are too old to do anything about it.
I can also relate, Sky.
@@justgivemethetruth , I can relate to. I'm probably too old to do anything about it.
You're not alone. Well, you are yet you're not. Metaphysically, I'm right there with you contemplating on similar conundrums. /🖖👽
everyone deserves a friend it's unfortunate how our on minds can prevent that hope you can have relationship success
I have a adult son with Asperger's. I have so many problems helping him in his life .. I'll be watching more video.. thanks for this knowledge.
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic
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Thank you for these videos. Began to suspect my autism a couple of years ago. Pretty much confirmed now. So much of what I didn’t understand about myself finally makes sense. At age 57, starting a new chapter in life of feeling like a whole and complete person for the first time. Wishing a good journey for all others with ASD.
@ZahhidMichealNigerian scammer
I am 52 and have always known that I was wired differently to other people, but never even considered I might have autism, or “be on the spectrum” until two years ago. An old friend had her first child, and they discovered he was autistic, and that my friend was also on the spectrum. I asked her what prompted them to get checked in the first place, and they listed a string of things, most of which I could relate to. I took some tests and, lo and behold, it turns out I am neurodiverse.
After much consideration, I decided to “come out” to my friends and family on social media. Once I did this, my older sister told me that she had thought this for decades, but never told me, because she considered it to be a very personal thing.
My own sister never told me she thought I had autism, even though she knew how much I struggled with social interactions, and self-confidence, my entire life!
So, there is something to be said about people not suggesting to other people that they think they might be autistic. If I had known this, I could have been spared decades of anxiety and depression, because I did not fit in, and didn’t have a clue about basic social interaction. Of course, I learned to mask early on, and learned how to be accepted, by not being myself. It has only been in the past six or seven years that I have managed to begin to understand how social interactions actually work, but I still have a long way to go, and often still react “inappropriately” in different situations.
I know this is an older video, but thank you for posting so much about autism. It has been a valuable resource for me over the last few years.
To most people being in life comes naturally. To the rest, it must be studied, as if they were an alien visiting earth, but otherwise looking like any other human being
The thing that really got my interviewer and doctor to consider me on the spectrum was when I talked about having "systems" for daily living and being able to accomplish working and just generally living daily life.
I think this is why I liked "Third Rock from The Sun" more than most people. Growing up I did always feel a bit like a foreign species living among humans, trying not to be called out for being weird. I guess I still kind of feel that way to be honest, just mostly worked it out into routines that I'm used to and I live alone so it's easier to keep the routines that I live by from wrecking relationships with people that I care about who, despite their best efforts, haven't got a fucking clue why I constantly get frustrated over things I can't rationally explain.
@@adgato75 I use the word "routine" but I think "system" is actually more accurate. I've never been diagnosed but a multitude of signs point to autism. It's not that I'm ashamed of the way I am or anything but I've really never wanted the label and I hate trying to explain it because I've come to the conclusion that if you're not living with it, no amount of explaining will be enough to make you understand it. When I have tried to explain my routine to people it always seems to end with people trying to explain to me why my routine doesn't makes sense as if they can convince me to drop it and I'm like "I started my explanation by telling you I understand this doesn't make sense - I just can't help it" This is why I live alone, even the best intentioned people in my life who I deeply care about will try to teach me not to be this way.
What if autism is the best branch of the evolution of human species
you really think everyone else around you is normal, and you're the only one who's different?
11:20 can also describe the common nerd.
Autism has always been stigmatized by people who don't understand it, but I can also recognize that people are desperate to normalize it even at the expense of diagnosing each other under the suspicion that they may be autistic simply because of introverted qualities... often times manifested, not born with.
My daughter was born autistic , she was born with most of these differences listed as apposed to myself and others who I have witnessed change as a result of environmental factors and public schooling. There are many socially awkward adults who were social butterflies as children but life has a way of beating the individual down.
Right, especially after the pandemic with all the lockdowns, isolation, and mask wearing, I think it made everyone a little bit austistic for awhile 😩😂😭
"The common nerd"......
It sounds like a species of bird or something 😂
Good info on the post, but I just wanted to say that I found the first line very amusing.
Serotonin -Ray Peat Forum
@Ignace Alli which herbs?
@@drummerboy737 Weed
It’s super awkward when you tell someone you’re ASD and they are like “oh yeah, I’ve known that for a while” or worse “yeah, it’s a little obvious.” Great, now I’m going to be thinking about this conversation at least once a week for the next 20 years.
Lol
My partner wasn't diagnosed until he was in his 40's but I always knew there was something going on with him.
It was brill to hear you talk about this since it feels like no-one really wants to say much about this condition apart from my mother who said we were both as mad as each other and that's why we got on so well, so now we've been together for 16 yrs and our time together has just flown past.
Some of what you said explained a lot about his taste in foods and his dislike of certain places and probably his amazing knowledge of MTG playing cards of which he has thousands and can tell you every detail of every card.
So thank you very much for this information and I will subscribe to find out more.
I didn’t know adults love mass effect
Partner? Are you in the same business venture?
I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it
That's just great... now I'm a self diagnosed medium functioning autistic middle aged male.
Self diagnosed, eh? You mean to say you're unaffected then
Congratulations
welcome to the club !
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic
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Sounds rare, usually there is often high functioning and low functioning being thrown around a lot.
I feel very fortunate that I was diagnosed with Asperger's early and received a lot of instruction to improve in some areas. I do wish I had been given this information earlier, however, to be able to notice my persistent abnormalities and continue to improve upon them. Thanks for providing DSM criteria and real world examples. I hope I can use this knowledge to better connect with the people around me.
I'm a female, and I tick every one of these boxes. Wow! This channel is fascinating. Thank you.
I've got all 7 .
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Congrats. Here's your diploma 🎊📜
(not trolling. At least you know what's "wrong" with you. I myself am probably on the spectrum too)
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Guys, there's nothing wrong with it don't worry so much . ♡
Got most this if not all
Dear comment section: Don’t self diagnose.
precisely, only self-medicate
@@eh8164 lol!
you cant tell me what to do!! im a self-diagnosed doctor, so i can diagnose myself however i please!
As a wise madwoman once said, "Just like the gypsy woman said!"
No do it
Today I was informed I'm likely autistic, I then found this video... So relatable and has made me feel some weight is now being lifted, and I can start my journey towards understanding exactly who I am going to be, living in an autistic world.
Thank you
I became a relationship counsellor! Not to help but to figure it out from the inside myself, to figure out how to be in a relationship! So amazing to hear you say similar thing. Got a diagnosis aged 49 few weeks ago
My son was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome @ the age of 4. Now he's just in the spectrum & Graduating art school in May with a illustration degree. So proud. We've been going to group pychotheapy for almost a decade. It helps.
@Ignace Alli the Ganja maaan 🤘
Thank you for this. I've dug for years thinking that my [then unknown] autism could be fixed through force and practice, but it led me down a really dark path. I'm now comfortable with recognizing that I'm autistic and no longer feel burdened by pretending that I'm normal.
Same. It's amazing how relieving it is just to accept that I'll never understand neurotypical humans. I have spent a shit load of energy to track every movement every human I see makes just to infer what mood they might be in and if I am bothering them by my inadequacy. Thank God, I can now accept myself and just let me be.
@@rightnow4450 At least you have a wife to hate you. It's rare for people on the spectrum to get married.
@@olgae_6545 did you guys get officially diagnosed? Because I've had my suspicions for a while now I'm 17 and I can remember having my suspicions maybe around 15 and this time I decided to look into it and I tick all these boxes. I asked my bf to watch the video and tell me what he thinks she he said it described me to the tea. I also went online and took a few AQ tests and every single one of them said I was on the spectrum I kept scoring fairly high. And I've always known thru out my life that I was different but didn't understand, I have struggled with depression and disorderly eating before too so all these things + more is why I really think I'm autistic if that's the case it answers all my questions and provides clarity but I'm unsure if should unofficially diagnose myself or wait till I'm 18 [cuz parents just deny this kind of stuff] to get assessed which I will do but what do I do with myself And who and what I am until then??
@@x.astar.x i have no idea , but at least you know which is half the battle i guess , can you not talk to your parents as autism is on the rise , they may not have had to deal with this before as it wasnt always there , like dementia its a part of life now , an aunt had to fight to my uncle diagnosed with alzhiemers in early 1970s when docs really didnt know much , but it is recognised now as is autism , good luck
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I was just diagnosed with ASD last month, at the age of 36. This happened largely due to watching your videos. Unfortunately, in my case, it was caught very late and I have suffered serious PTSD from forcing myself to live like a neurotypical. I worked in law enforcement for about a decade and the emotional intensity of some of those situations has left me with quite a bit of trauma and severe panic attacks. Please, keep educating people the way you do and help people find their own way to a diagnosis. Even with my PTSD, I'm better off now that I have my diagnosis, as my entire past has been reframed in my mind. Areas in which I felt like a failure now feel like great successes. I'm incredibly proud of myself for achieving some of the things I have, despite being dealt a very different hand in life than many of my peers. You're doing great work and I deeply appreciate the peace your videos and my subsequent diagnosis have brought me.
Im 35 and am 100% sure I'm on the spectrum, my son who is 13 was diagnosed with autism when he was 7, the more I learned from his doctors the more similarities I was seeing, and my son is basically mirroring all the issues I continue to suffer to this day.
When I was growing up I was always labeled a problem child, or that I was going through phases (which never ended btw), now my issues actually make sense.
@@Stiffeno Yeah man, when we were growing up, doctors just didn’t have the understanding of the spectrum that they do now. I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder very young, but that only accounted for a fraction of my symptoms. I did the research myself this time around, asked my PCP for a referral to a specialist and took all my research to them. They ran me through some tests to rule out several other disorders and, in the end, they agreed that ASD was the only logical diagnosis. It took me researching and putting my foot down though, because for some reason or another they are shy to diagnose adults with ASD. I literally had to type out a small essay and present it to my Psychiatrist for him to take it seriously.
How expensive was being diagnosed?
@@veronicalala300 After my insurance copays, less than one might think. My PCP literally laughed at me when I suggested I may be on the spectrum. He wasn’t being mean. He’s just been my doctor for almost 30 years and my symptoms didn’t meet his understanding of the condition. I stood my ground though and got my referral. I was able to get my diagnosis on my first visit to this psychiatrist and the copay was $25. To my understanding, it usually takes a little longer to be diagnosed, as they like to rule out every other possibility first. However, because I had done my research and compiled all of my mental health history into one document for him, it made the process much easier for him.
So yeah, that’s a long-winded way of saying $25. You have to go in knowing what information will help get them to a diagnosis though. These videos were a tremendous help in that regard.
Quick question here: when you said PTSD, which one were you referring to? There are technically two types of PTSD. The most common one that people refer to is the one that pops up after a traumatic experience eg car accident, witnessing a murder etc. The other one is where you are exposed to long periods of "traumatic" experiences eg a nurse in a hospital watching patients dying of Covid while there's nothing that he/she can do.
I think I had to pause this video and reflect about 20 times while watching, it is uncanny how well what you are saying lines up with my life, especially issues with not being able to move on from a task, not saying hello/goodbye, and most of all when you talked about that shoulder roll you do. I went to a concert last night and during every song I didn't know the words to I was doing that shoulder roll constantly. Thank you for your candid presentation on this, it raises many more questions to go along with the one that lead me here.
There's an awful lot of crap on RUclips, but then there are also high value videos like this that ultimately shift it into the positive, overall.
Ikr
this is pure garbage wtf are you talking about
@@timm5970 Yeah, so much of this is pseudo "science". Scratching your skin, too much eye contact, not enough eye contact, tapping, etc? Give me a fuckin break. Most people are naturally shy. Tapping your foot is just a way to burn off energy, if you're bored, etc. Repetitive patterns, most people have those. Going off this, 90% of people have autism. Oh you don't like flashing loud ad billboards? Yeah, no one does.... What else, people who don't like to pay taxes have autism now too? If you like drugs, sex, and money too much, you have autism and if you don't like those things enough then you have autism. Only our preordained amount of "like" is acceptable. Whatever.
@@user-nh3gu1ge3d Everyone has nervous habits. It's all a matter of degree, I think.
Man - seeing you, the way you speak and the way you interpret some of the common autistic behavior in good light (and you are absolutely right on those) gives me so much hope for my son who was diagnosed to have mild ASD last year. Thank you.
I hope you and your son are doing well and learning to manage this :-)
@@Jasmin23332 Hbomberguy covered Autism in his Vaccine-Video,
Layla Paige is an Autism-RUclipsr and last but not least: Professor Dave covered 'Quantum Mysticism',
which may help those that fall for the very-obvious-scam that 'Herbs heal Autism'.
Wanted to give you hope, too. Know many adult AU people - and most of them are fine - and usually tops of whatever interest they have chosen. Nowadays, people need this to be self-aware. Years ago, people were just thought of as "quirky." I just call everyone "individual."
I don't know how old your son is or how "severe" (for lack of a better word) your son is on the autism spectrum but just a little advice from someone who is on the spectrum, your son most likely just wants to be treated like a "normal" person/kid, especially when he becomes a teenager (if he's not already) He may just need a little more support in certain areas. Also there is a good chance either you or the other parent may be autistic as well, if that's something you would like to look into you can get a consultation/diagnoses for adults.
@@iamjames8200 - Thanks for chiming in. Appreciate it. I have every symptoms of ADHD. But nothing very obvious of type ASD. My son was originally misdiagnosed as ADHD and it remained that way for 5+ years. Then I suspected there was more from his behaviors and we got a diagnosis last year on mild ASD.
It is very difficult to manage him. I want to remind him often that he has it and that he should acknowledge and accept it and realize some of his behaviors are causing pain to others and try to control some of that. I am always in favor of truth and acceptance over false and denial.
He is 15 and he is in 10th grade, he is struggling heavily with his academics. He hasn't found a passion for anything say music or art or something that can be a lifelong hobby/passion. He does not have a single friend. There is one or two he manage to keep for a while that he can chat a little with. Then they go away.
What is your story? What advice do you have so he can have a couple good friends, he can find a passion and grow a skill so he can make a decent living?
9:20 "how could someone so smart be so stupid?"
I've had people say this about me so many times, basically verbatim. It sucks because then I'm left thinking "well, am I actually an idiot who's just a fraud posing as smart, or am I actually smart and I'm just a failure at these simple tasks?" It gets so frustrating sometimes.
I’ve felt that way many times. It sucks and without knowing what you are, it’s so hard to explain yourself.
Oh my f***ing God, my grandmother said that years ago. I've also heard some variant of it.
@mike gallimore I hope you take time to take care of yourself occasionally. This attitude will be the downfall of you. Introspective ≠ self-obsessed.
Sounds to me like you have bad people in your life. They are treating you this way because of their own insecurities. Try to think of it as: it isn't them causing you to feel bad but yourself who is telling you to feel that way as a response to their actions. You are not a fraud or a failure and nothing they say can change that.
@mike gallimore you are*
Thank you for getting straight to the point, describing the core details well. I really appreciate this as many videos about topics focus a lot on commercial presentation, ego, trying to be funny and I find the idea of clicking on one painful.
Crazy how relatable this is, I think because you share the experiences I do. Thank you for explaining this so well, I’m never any good at explaining to people in my life how autism effects me and in extension them, but this is such a good explanation!
For me, the most glaring symptom was when my therapist said "you're on the autism spectrum." I kid! But seriously, was diagnosed with asd and adhd in the the same 3-month period of my 50th year of life. What I didn't quite understand then was that autism, all things considered, is pretty simple to understand and to deal with (not at all 'easy', but definitely 'simple'). Adhd, on the other hand, is a friggin' nightmare of a hydra that slithers into the very fabric of your experience of consciousness and subverts your intentions in ways you will spend a lifetime learning to spot and manage. And even then... it's gonna bite you in the ass repeatedly, endlessly, you can't outsmart it. It's a cosmic trickster, and it is *not* benevolent. 😕
Well put
Damn....what's your advice then? I was diagnosed with ADHD at 24 but only realised what it truly was a few months ago and how much it has impacted my life. Now I'm starting to think I also have autism, because it explains certain things that ADHD doesn't. My Dr. disagrees, blames my cannabis use, and thinks I don't have autism. He barely knows me or enough about the current literature but can still form these opinions.
House of Kush I bought one of your compressor plug-ins! Crazy that we both find ourselves on this video too! I am 23 and I think I’m somewhere on the spectrum but not sure. Big fan! Thank u for your after hours videos!
My son has suffered autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely, his speech is vital and his social skill is perfect. I'm so glad and happy now
@@piposanchezhow you doing bud?
Something really clicked for me when you referred to the "desire to live in a safe and predictable world." My Aspie boyfriend's inflexible routines are suddenly easier to understand. Thank you!
I've recently begun to suspect I'm on the spectrum. It was kind of a world shattering realization because I've always been a 'normal' kid and not like the stereotypes that I had been shown as what was 'on the spectrum.' I've had a lot of social problems and odd emotional reactions to things I enjoy, and I've always suppressed the thoughts that they were a sign of anything unusual and just assumed I was 'unique.' That left me on a path for a while, having problems with various things and a severely low self-esteem because I could never make friends. Watching videos like these has actually become really helpful. A lot of my issues are things that are actually rooted in being on the spectrum, and I feel like I can accept myself for who I am, much easier than I could before. I found every point of this video relatable and reading the comments, find a lot of them relatable too.
My wife told me i should look into this. My entire life just made entierly more sense in minutes that i have been trying to figure out my entire life.
Thank you so much
On the other hand, I told my wife I’ve had this since I was clinically and professionally diagnosed 15 years ago. Will be 28 years old on Sunday. She says it’s all in my head.
Consider yourself lucky my friend. I could off myself just by the fact that I possibly passed this to my own children..
@@CadaverBuffet I mean, of course it's in your head. Where else is it supposed to be?
(Yes, I know that this is just a figure of speech for pointing out, how that person just imagines it/makes it up without it being real. It's a stupid saying though. Pain is also all in your head. That's just how nerve receptors work! Doesn't mean you tell someone who's in pain how it's all just in their head, right?!)
It’s not necessarily a terrible thing to pass on to your kids, especially since you’re aware of it. If you were like my dad and thought hitting your kid would make him normal then they would probably be in for a bad time. You’re lucky to know about it because it means you can figure out how to handle it. There are many very successful autistic people
I am so scared og telling my bf I think he might have it. It all just makes sense
these "studies" try to make you feel depressed and ill while in reality what is called autism is simply a fase of deep reflection and a sign of mental improvement and maturity. so it's ok to be autistic
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The thumbnail: “Is this enough eye contact?” Lol 😂
Ikr 🤣 the reason I clicked.
That moment your eye contact freezes and becomes an awkward staring contest. 😬
I cannot stand eye contact. I find it the most intrusive and rude behavior.
@@TitoTimTravels American culture teaches its “the right thing to do”, maintain eye contact? Lol 😂. The Korean culture (I believe) doesn’t do this? I agree. “constant eye contact” is only suppose to be made with your intimate partner, no more, no less, IMHO. If I’m talking to all else (beside an intimate partner).......I’ll look at you at you only for a sec or two, that’s it. .......but in USA they say: “This is rude”. Lol 😂. It’s funny how American culture likes to program you to bend to their ideas of “idealism culture”. If you don’t maintain excessive eye contact, you’re now “Autistic”? Lol
@@truthreignsforever9286 so I just need out merica got it lol. I agree I feel like I'm perceived as penetrating or too serious if I try to make what a consider a normal amount of eye contact. I save it for my kids and partner lol I dont want to put undo pressure on people to act like they have their shit together because I could care less what eye contact means to the authenticity of a conversation. I offend people with this every so often so I speak up and just ask if I appear uninterested and go from there. I look forward to friendly conversations but I was raised where eye contact was a make or break of if my explanation of even small things would be perceived as true or not lol it has some effect on my personal thinking processes but I try to make myself evident as an open listener with honest feelings of all things lol I always support people's ideas and aim to not belittle ones values and ideas. I just believe eye contact is a poor affirmation to look for in connecting with any person. Everyone has their reasons and I won't presume negative thoughts on anyone unless someone is blatant in some form of disrespect. Cultural ideologies should be thing of the past. We as a whole are still so primitive in our acceptance of what is myself included
He just described my entire childhood up until the 12th by those examples. Now I have spent almost 2 years staying almost completely at home and barely staying in contact with a handful of people outside. I have tried to recognize everything awkward about me in the past and try to get better at a lot of them. I might start to go out after the pandemic and hope that I do it better this time while meeting new and different people. But I have this feeling that I will still mess it up because I have messed up 100s of times. Hate myself sometimes. :/
Yo Milan. We just had 18 months inside. I just had the same thought you did. The skillset one, the weird social stuff, the small detail part, the emotional strangeness in some situations. We've all been isolated a long time. If you aren't in school you've been lacking stimulus besides your hobby for a year and a half. You aren't autistic, you're bored and you're in need of real world stimulus even if it doesn't involve people. If you find that you think about the people you aren't talking to and don't miss them because you know the time isn't going to make any divide, it isn't weird not talking to them. You're doing great, man! Keep your chin high and know you're great and as unique and fantastic as any other human. You must know you've skills that most people don't that you believe seperate you from a pack. See!? You da best!
this is basically an extreme version of me. ironically ive actually been more social than ive ever been during the pandemic. it might be because theres less pressure to go out to parties and social gatherings so i can just chill with my friends and the new people they occasionally bring over
Don’t worry about trying to be completely normal (it may never happen), just learn good manners (which is mostly showing people concern or consideration, they really like that).
That’s what I do, but I’m still considered a little different. Being completely normal is too much work.
I will just stay at home. Life before and during covid did not change much for me at all. Only masks and these annoying propaganda news have affected me.
If you go out and engage, you will develop better skills.
While I totally agree with this video and especially the end where he says you shouldn’t try to force an autistic identity onto someone, even if they have those traits, I really wish someone had told me I was autistic earlier 😭 I got diagnosed last year at 17 and my parents and friends revealed that they always thought I was, so it was only a surprise to me. If one of them had just flat out told me that’s what they thought, I would have looked into it sooner and cleared up a lot of confusion for myself. You definitely shouldn’t try to diagnose people if you’re not qualified, but depending on the person and your relationship I think you can politely suggest it to them
@gracehavin5557 Don't listen to this, everyone, it's an advertising bot....not a real person
I think t's much different coming from a loved family member who wants to respectfully guide a person to the path of realization than it is coming from someone who is just trying to label you for their own gratification
This was very well done, starting with each part of the clinical description, then saying what that looks like to neurotypicals in everyday life, then giving personal examples...and covering the whole clinical description, with a summary at the end. Great job.
Yet another example of how much some people on the spectrum work on being perfect on a project...
Hi there everyone I'm Autistic.
I really like your videos, they are incredible. Normally I try not to show my Autistic side but throughout watching your videos, I have a big weight lifted off my shoulders!!
Ok RUclips i have watched this video now leave me the hell alone.
It doesn't work like that lol
me.
i think the point was they never have clicked or watched anything remotely similar to the topic autism... and yt is doing a public service announcement with this video... kinda like how they censored that one dudes channel where he interviews people with rare diseases/medical conditions.. RUclips doesn't really care, they are a joke. it is what it is. looking forward to a free speech video platform again like bitchute which is alright but its rough around the edges
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I kept getting recommended this video too. This guy must have made a deal with RUclips or something.
First 30 seconds, and it already resonates. I didn't know I was autistic until I was an adult, because of a skill I call 'Emulation'.
I've found several of your videos helpful. Both yours and the other Australian guy. I've had the signs all my life, but as many say you learn to mask or compensate... but as you said.. I've come to the spot in my 50's where the relationship deficit has come home to roost.
I have always been that person who couldn't look people in the eyes. Feel awkward when people want to hug me (I'm getting better). I sometimes don't know how to get off the phone, or end a conversation because I feel bad, or sometimes I explain things in extreme detail. My loved ones get mad at me because they think I'm nonchalant , but my mind doesn't let me focus on all my worries. I put earphones on in the supermarket so I don't have to talk to random people, and use the self checkout any chance I get. I grew up loving Chef Boyardee Beefaroni, and would eat it every day if you let me. When nobody is around I break down and cry sometimes for no reason as if the weight of the world is on me. When I was a child I was placed in a grade called Pre 1st because educators didn't know why I didn't care to be around the other kids, and felt comfortable underneath my desk. As you can probably tell I am not one short for words, and I could definitely keep going, but I digress.
Fast Forward my life I now have a 4 year old Non Verbal Autistic son who only eats Chef Boyardee Beefaroni, and Cereal with milk. I know it has something to do with me because he's exactly like I was when I was a child. I still don't know what end of the spectrum he is, or even myself, but I will say that its very frustrating to be this way, and nobody knows because they think you are just like them.
I can relate to this so if people have ever struggled with this, you’re not the only one, my friends, I’m right there with you . I’ve struggled making friends for as long as I can remember through schools but even if they don’t want me to be their friend, I still consider them my friend ❤️
TheAutisticGamer good way looking at it👍🏻
Basically every thing in this video is me! Not only the 7 signs that you listed but also your examples are what I do or go through. Some I wouldn't have thought would be an autistic thing.
Thank you for this video.
Lol…Me too🤦🏾♂️
I have been diagnosed with ADHD and Social Anxiety, PTSD and Bipolar. I literally have all 7 symptoms you listed. I have brought it up to my doc at MHMR and a few others such as friends and family. They don't think I am on the spectrum, but the more and more I research I think it is not ONLY ADHD or Social Anxiety I have, but I do think I am on the spectrum. I am 39, can do some things exceedingly well, but never owned a license or car. Still living at home with mother and aunt. Things in life are very difficult for me and I can not tell you how any times people said "For somebody so smart, you can be so stupid". feel like that describes it pretty much. I can hyperfocus on subjects and projects I love and have a deep interest in, but can not do certain tedious things other normal, neuro brained-people can do. I get people telling me I am like a man child and have very poor emotional control in certain situations like at home but that is only because I am around the same people under same house day in and out. So I guess I am comfortable enough to express my emotions at home. Problem is in public I try and put on a poker face but I have RBF naturally in my neutral facial position, so people often take that as a sign I am mad when really am not even upset, it i just the natural look on my face.
I cured most of mine with a gaps diet. Can also be done by fasting up to 12 days. As you increase your fast you'll notice some amount of mental changes.
Probiotics, and fermented foods help, and cut out all refined carbs and sugar. Cut out processed foods. Stop eating with processed vegetable oils.
Most of this is caused by diet.
If you have PTSD, treating the PTSD will relieve some of your symptoms. Some people do drugs like ketamine or LSD or shrooms with guidance. It's legal in places.
I had a gf commit suicide, and all the sudden I was autistic with BPD. BPD makes you lash out at anyone that gets too close.
I don't have BPD anymore, I'm still slightly autistic, more Asperger's but people think I'm normal unless I'm in a huge group setting.
Me: “I meet all the criteria” also me: “I don’t think I have this” 😂
Hbomberguy's last video made the autism-community proud. Seen it?
@NEW HOPE INSURANCE LTD Herbs do literally nothing against Autism, honey.
Thats fact, not theory/opinion.
@NEW HOPE INSURANCE LTD i bet you don't believe in vaxinations too
ditto
Seems just natural person
Wow. I'm a high functioning autist and this was so SPOT on it's scary.
Nicholas O'hara, you could look at it as a relief to know that all your problems are not due to weakness of character.
Hello
I'm a functioning high individual myself. Fuck all the labels and categories. They just divide people. 26 in years on the planet and that's the only thing I've figured out.
@@limitisillusion7 🙌🏼
I’ve been diagnosed with autism ever since I was at the age of 5, 15 years later I have spent my life with my mother trying to get me a head start in life and trying to improve on my social ability. Even then it’s still hard sometimes, or rather I come apon issues regularly. Sometimes I still forget to say the usual pleasantries, when I don’t even mean to be rude. I am having difficulty upholding relationships, even with family. Just I am not as engaged with them as I should be. Then after it all I spent so much energy trying to maintain a socially good personality that I get tired and just fall off a cliff somewhere for a while. Then afterwards reflect and don’t even recall who I am anymore. Since you have spent so much of your life trying to fit into the norm of society and all you are left with is fragments of yourself that come back to you and make you seem like a completely different person. With autism I’ve come to notice that you will have an unique angle towards everything and think logically. Then you come to figure out why people do certain things even though you have no particular interest in getting involved in them, and sometimes that can even leave you frustrated with the decisions of others. Though, you will eventually get passed the emotional reaction to seemingly incomprehensible decisions and find that in their point of view it at least seemed logical to them. This has allowed me to understand some people better, but take it with a grain of salt, cause sometimes it’s not what you think.
I took a couple of tests, and am pretty sure I am on the spectrum (i also have ADHD). I am 68 years old, and have already done a lot of living without knowing why I was weirdly different.
Be proud of who u are, stand up for yourself and keep being a good person. This is far from a handicap❤
Thank you so much for this. I'm a woman who is "on the spectrum", but so much of what you said fits me perfectly.
Just about everyone ive ever met has said “you’re weird but in a nice way ” i learned late in my life i am adhd and to be honest it answered a lot of personal questions and made me more comfortable with myself ,
grats on owning who you are, not everyone has a easy time of it.
@@blackdeath4eternity oh its not easy at all but did help me understand why i am like i am , i dont have any friends etc not seen a human for weeks
@@DjbreedKronikaudio :) , sorry, "easy time of it" was somewhat a turn of phrase lessening the amount of words i could put in a comment, i should have not been lazzy & written out that many people do not have it in them to own up to who they are & will go through great lengths of time or even all of it being unable to properly cope with it, you may not be having a easy time of it, BUT you have been able to so again gratz.
well... best of luck changing that(no friends), if you so desire. if you do not want to change that then all the best to you on your solo playthrough of life. :P
@@blackdeath4eternity no offence was taken :)
@@DjbreedKronikaudio glad to hear it.
Im 36, nothing made sense until I started researching this. Thank you for putting this out there.
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 8 year old and my mom tells me that I'm not autistic, but I'm pretty sure that I am. Most of what you said are relatable to me.
adhd is at the bottom of the spectrum. i have it and silently struggle with eye contact as one example. i understand people really well, but they don’t make logical sense, and i also don’t know what physical contact is expected based on the situation. conversation is easy, but i think i talk too much and can’t stop myself much like this comment. cheers
I agree with both of you for myself
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 5 and now I have been wondering if I am actually Autistic and I highly believe I am. I literally have also just realized in the past few weeks that I am Autistic. So I have an appointment with my psychologist on the 16th of this month and I plan to ask him how I can go about seeing someone who can diagnose and possibly will diagnose me with Autism. I actually hope I get diagnosed with it because it will finally explain everything I have gone through mentally. I think I will have Aspergers because I am very high functioning. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 1997 or 98 and at that time there was no Autism spectrum, either you were Autistic or you were not and I believe I have been missed diagnosed with ADHD and I was heavily suffering from ADHD, I always had troubles at school because I could never sit down and listen at school and many other things
@@nxght6694 literally just recently a new friend told me I sometimes say too much and give out too much info, this is also one reason out of a few that I believe that I am on the spectrum
@@ThePeacePlant almost everything made sense for me too.
When I have like 8-10 I was diagnosed at SHARP w depression and they wanted to peg ADD on me but I squirmed out of their diagnosis. I think because I figured out they were figuring me out, I started not telling them as much and held back so they wouldn't think I was nuts for what I guess now is some sort of autism.
Thank you, You helped me to understand my dear friend of 45 years. I understood he was raised in an orphanage from age 2 to 18. So thought much of the emotions or lack of showing them had steamed for that. What you have described fits him to a tee. At age 5 the nuns would strap him down and beat the souls of his feet to make him try to make him talk since he had so far refused to talk, it was the 1950s'. So much has changed since then. Thank you for saying not to tell.
"Did you really get the exact same subway for 3 years when you were a student?
-Yes what's wrong with that?"
I take the exact same way to work everyday. Am I on the spectrum?
What is wrong with that?
@@chrisg4rr377 I'm assuming they mean subway as in this sandwich shop (ie eat the same thing for three years)
@@cream_soda which sort of bread, hot or cold and which length?
I mean why pay for something I may not like if I can get the thing I really like
OK... Just discovered your channel while doing research into my own Self-Diagnosis Process and... Here's More Validating Evidence that Yes I am Autistic and am definitely "On the Spectrum"... at age 44. Wish I could've found out much sooner. Oh well... THANKS SO MUCH for making this Excellent Video and for the Great Work you're doing with your channel. Cheers! -- Mike (Autistic Visual Artist from the US)