I've tried the poly thing and hated it. I ended up breaking up with my ex, just in time too about a 2 years later I found out she contacted HIV and gave it to her poly husband. They ended up divorcing. I'm super happy to hear that some couples can make it work, but I'm a gigantic fan of monogamy.
While Conor tells us how he came to fall for Brittany, the smile on her face and they chemistry between them is so cool. It's infectious and makes me smile watching you guys.
The world needs more open minded people. Just because one person doesn't agree doesn't mean it's wrong. I've considered myself open minded and free spirited but had some issues when it came to sorting out personal feelings. The way you explain how if you feel jealous, for example, you look internally; it's just what I needed to get over that hill. I keep it in mind everyday and it has helped me so much. Keep spreading the word of love for yourself and others!
My boyfriend and I are non-monogamous after 2 years of monogamy. Our relationship is so much happier and we have never felt so much trust and love for someone since we decided to try it out. When people judge, i just laugh it off because we are happy like this and how we find our happiness is no one's business but our own.
Sara Fouts me and my boyfriend of 5 years are thinking about opening our relationship too.. can you tell me more? was it a difficul transition going from monogamy to an open relationship? i would really appreciate to get some advise :) thanks!
Call me crazy but I love my husband so much I would never share myself with another. For me, love is sacrifice. It's easy to follow my disires wherever they may lead. (and believe me I have desired other men). Because of my love for my husband, I am his and his alone. It's hard at times to not be selfish but, for me, that is love. I know I am his and he is mine and that is the most precious gift we can give one another. Like I said... call me crazy.
Poly relationships are noooooot easy. I think there’s a huge misconception that people who are poly are taking the easy route. It’s completely not. Lol
wow, this is so beautiful. I found your channel a few weeks ago, and I’m so grateful. You all viscerally exude unconditional love on a level that I am still trying to learn myself. I have struggled tremendously with trauma, and that has led to anger, dishonesty, and substance abuse. While I am doing well now, it has been heartbreaking to tackle these afflictions when my spirit is so inherently loving and peaceful. In the last few weeks when I have grappled with jealousy, impatience, and anger- I have thought of you guys and the example you have set with your inner peace and incredible acceptance of each other. You are helping me grow into the open, deeply spiritual being that I always have been, but has been long tainted by pain. The way you are raising Ilya not to be subjected to the societal pressures related to gender have opened up really important conversations with my partner and I about how we will raise our someday children. You both are nearing the physical summation of your soul journey on this plane, and we are lucky to learn from your generations of wisdom. Thank you for what you do. I love you guys, and I love your love.
I'm monogamous and married, but intrigued at how sweet you two are on camera. Every time he mentions meeting you, your face lights up. Your connection seems as deep and genuine as any of the monogamous couples I know. Happy for you two!
I am so glad to find you two! You are such a great example that non monogamy does not have to mean a lack of commitment. Ive had a recent sexual and relational paradigm shift/epiphany/awakening and am now exploring the world of ethical non monogamy and polyamory. I relate exactly to what you said about the freedom and the safety, in being able to explore myself and my own journey but be in a loving committed relationship with someone. "enjoy the hell out of life" YES!!! Thank you both
they are BOTH very lucky to have found another being your able to connect with on such a spiritual, mind-blowing, magical way! Watching them speak, move, look at each other, it's even a magical experience for me, the viewer! They emit so much love & confidence in their relationship & I am SO glad they are sharing it with the world! I personally as of now am monogamous, but seeing the confidence in their relationship really shows me that a polyamorous relationship can & will work if your truly open, honest, willing to try & be a little selfless, but I think for any type of relationship to work you need all those things!... Back to my point, it's so amazing that by just watching them look at each other & speak of & to each other, you can CLEARLY see the love they feel for each other & it's that BOOM boom BOOM heart beating, butterflies in my tummy kind of love, so real, so raw. We too are lucky to get to be a part of it! Thank you Connor & Brit! You two are such beautiful people & are doing an amazing job at spreading love & spreading awareness for people that might be a little closed minded, for people that don't believe they can truly live their lives the way the REALLY WANT! Your opening so many doors & showing so many possibilities! That is such a huge gift to the world!! I could go on for ages about you two, but for now I think this will do! I just want you two to keep doing what your doing, I know you will. I hope you can feel my love right now if your reading this. I would hope for you two to hug or touch each other & let my love live threw you for a couple seconds! LOVE & Light!! You two shine so bright, truly. xo- a girl named Haley
This was a response to a comment someone left under me saying they thought Brittany was a lucky girl to have a man like Connor. I started to respond with what I wrote above & while typing decided I would just post this as its own comment hoping whoever it might be that reads this feels the love I emit from talking about these two special people, Connor and Brittany!
I love your love, it's liberating even though I would probably never have a polyamorous relationship. I am a single mom right now but your communication is what connects me to you, it's a great example and just so fun to watch! ✨💞
I love this! My husband and i just recently started a non-monogamous relationship. We are hooked! We have been together for over 6 years, and married for a little over a year now. Being in a compersion relationship has brought us so much closer, i love hearing his stories as well as him hearing mine. We are both so happy we have tested the waters, and plan to stay in it. Ours is only on a Physical level and not an emotional level though, just a person he can hook up with for that ego boost and vise versa
hearing you all articulate your truth with the one you love right there, present, understanding that your life ,your exploration has a safe and welcoming place to land is beyond something to treasure. your love is that of an alchemist..and I find it refreshing as you share your moments...
Conor that is so adorable that every woman you met had to compete with Brittany in your mind. "She's no Brittany Taylor but you're never gonna get a Brittany Taylor" - but you DID man, AND now you got a Bridgette too. 😍
I love how you guys totally support each other, I just got out of an not so good relationship and I've really decided to first invest in how I want my life to be and I'll hope one day I'll find someone who will support me no matter what I want to do in life and vice versa of course
Wow I can just see the love you two have for each other by how you look at one another. This is only the second video I’ve watched of yours but am already inspired to try to implement it with my relationship with my person. We have been struggling the last few months and I’m starting to feel like monogamy is the issue at least rn. Thank you guys for being so open and honest, authenticity is very rare nowadays!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and relationship! I have always felt bad about physically connecting with another person unless there was some label attached to it. Even really recently I felt such a strong attraction and connection with someone but didn't fully connect in the way that I wanted because of social norms and the "values" I grew up with. I thought about it later and really was sad that I had felt so guilty about following my passion and doing something so natural and instinctive as connecting with another. Your videos are really helping me trust and understand myself more! Thank you so much! ❤
+Laura Rand Wow, this is such a beautiful comment. Thank you so much for taking the time to share about yourself and this recent experience here. I can so understand feeling that way. I love that you took the time to reflect about it and are learning more about yourself and ultimately trusting and understanding yourself more. This is so amazing to hear and to be a part of in this way! Thank you so much
I'm a conventional person in a conventional relationship. Randomly found this post... I felt really really comforted by this talk. like.. my face is just beaming with joy right now. I understand that there are unconventional qualities about your lifestyles and relationship, but I just felt so many emotional parallels between how you feel about each other and how the love of my life and I discovered each other. I think its how people should feel about each other and hearing it from you is really affirming to my personal life choices. Love creates love, so keep creating! & Thank you for opening up about this part of yourselves. xo
Barbara. This comment is so amazing! We are so glad you found this video and so grateful that you chose to write to us. Thank you! I love the parallels between our relationships. I can so understand that. I'm so glad watching us share about our story is affirming to your life choices. Rock on! You sound fantastic. Heaps of love to you and the love of your life too! xo
Omg I doubt you will see this comment but I have to leave it anyway. I’ve been watching you guys for SO LONG and only just now watched this particular video. It is so pure and lovely. Like many people echo the love you have for each other is so evident. I have no desire to be in a poly relationship (so honestly I have no idea how I stumbled on you...lol) but I still learn so much about relationships from you guys. Your thoughtfulness and deliberateness in how you approach your life together is so great. More people should be like that. It’s also so fun to see this spark between you in hindsight before Ilya came around. I know people have commented on the palpable change but your love and respect is still just so evident and pure. I have a 6yo and those early years are just so tenuous even under the best circumstances. Continue to be kind and gentle with yourselves. And jus THANK YOU for sharing yourselves with us. ❤️
Was really fun hearing that story of how you met and the different phases of it. Thanks! Really beautiful and respectful to each other's desires to grow and feel free and explore yet with a solid secure bond.
I did not know this! See, I learn something new everyday and I just love life! Rock on you guys, you know and trust your relationship more than most folks can claim. Thanks for sharing your fun love story! ;b
💞 love, love, love this 💓 you guys are so awesome 💗 this is definitely life goals thanks so much for sharing your stories they have brought a lot of light and love to my life and relationships 💞 looking forward to more of your videos together 😊
Thankyou Conor and Brittany for sharing your story. Pursuing an open relationship has been on my mind for the last few years as something I might be interested in. The more I think about it and the more I watch your channel and read about non-monogamy the more it seems like it would be the right path for me. Thanks again! :)
+Ms Arcane This is so cool to hear. I love that you are playing around with what feels right for you. It's so great to hear from you here. Thanks for watching!
Brittany this explains how you have such a gift with your coaching play. You have such a beautiful way of connecting with others and a solid relationship with Connor at the same time. Your story was a little bitter and mostly sweet to hear. Bitter because I am searching for something similar to what you have but sweet cause it's so beautiful to understand your story as two people who are in love with each other and all the aspects of life that others dare not explore in the light of resistance to fear. Mahalo for the laughter in this story
I KNOW I was super grateful for your newest video discussing this story and the Woodstock Fruit Festival, and I was thankful that I didn't have to scroll all the way back through your channel to find this video. Buuuuut I had to come back here and get the long version of the cuteness anyway. Turns out it's super easy to find. 😉
Thank you so much for this. I've really been reflecting on myself lately and have realized that I have so much love to give, and I always feel so guilty when I find myself having very strong feelings towards other people and not being able to explore them because I'm in a monogamous relationship. And having just ended that relationship I've been able to explore those feelings, and even though we're just friends/"casual lovers" he seems like he may be open to this kind of relationship someday. But thank you so much, this was very helpful and reaffirming. I loved your story. You both seem very happy.
Lol..I love how casual y'all are about the "horny" kick off to your relationship and that you don't mind sharing the details!!! I'm so making popcorn for the next juicy video. Best tv series ever!!!
You both sound very sincere, and your temperaments are very well suited to one another. Great communication and mutual respect. Keep up the great work!
the pure and genuine love shines right through the both of you! i think its absolutely awesome that you guys can love each other so deeply and share the love with others! you two are TRULY inspiring
This is beautiful to see how you guys are working with each other, and thank you for sharing. I have always felt deeply possessive in relationships, but I think I am beginning to understand that a lot of that is coming from not feeling loved enough, i.e. not being with the right person. I have learned a lot about myself, especially in the last few years, and while I am not sure that I could ever be truly comfortable in a non-monogamous relationship, watching your videos is really allowing me to challenge my own assumptions about myself, my life, and my thoughts and feelings. Thank you again for sharing your beautiful story
I tried it and I was having a great time but it turned out that it was one sided. This person that I was having such a good time with couldn't handle it when I was elsewhere connecting but I never once made him uncomfortable about his life. Needless to say, it didn't work out. I've never met anyone else that I wanted that kind of open lifestyle with. That's okay too. I'm happy with right now and that's what counts as far as I'm concerned. If everyone could remove those jealous inclinations that have been implanted since we were children, things would obviously just be easier, but I don't even know how else to explain it. Life is a like a big pit of those balls kids play in and when your head pops up you don't know who's there waiting for you? Happiness is the goal at the end of the day and I'm happy and getting happier each day and alot of it has to do with finding you both on my laptop and for that I am grateful! Huge love to both of you!
I started watching your video tour of Winnie, because I am preparing to change my lifestyle to that of a mobile lifestyle. In viewing that, I just thought you two were awesome, then I clicked on some more of your videos. So, I went down the rabbit hole and ended up here. I plan to watch more, but this one really got me thinking. The way you presented your connection was beautiful. I have never been able to cheat on someone for several reasons. Three main reasons are: 1) Being monogamous is what is expected and it would be a betrayal of the other person. 2) I am socially awkward as hell. 3) Those first two combined would make me a crazy person. My thought process went back to situations where I was in a relationship and I met someone whom I had a connection with. Those connections can be confusing when when you're expected to care about one person at a time on that level. I never allowed those connections to turn into anything romantic or sexual, but that didn't prevent me from feeling guilty. I understand that it's the way we're programmed and what's expected of us, but seeing how you two connect seriously changed my view on connections in general. I don't know how or if I will ever integrate this kind of thinking into my future connections, but the seed is planted. I suppose I will just have to make your videos required reading for potential dates! I thank you both for sharing and promoting positive energy and love.
I was so touched by this video, it met a need within me to see a positive and happy poly couple loving the heck out of life!! Having just split from my monogamous long term relationship it brings me a great example to look towards with a joyous light heart. Namaste and hope to meet you fellow fruit bats one day. 🙏🏻🍍
I am so inspired by the way you both relate with each other and, through this platform, with the world. Thank you many times over for your vunerability and your posting here. I have not had any other role models that live such love based realtionships. And being able to watch you and hear input from you both enriches my life and my partners to an extent of great transformation and great hope. Thank you Brittany. Thank you Conor. Much love to you both and Brigdet and Ilya.
I really like your energy together, the love you share is definitely visible :) Here's my question, from a monogamous standpoint... You both were married and had the experience of relatively "long-lasting" monogamous relationships before you became non-monogamous. Do you think that may be a reason why your relationship is so successful? With that I mean that you've both experienced marriage and now, being non-monogamous, don't feel like you're missing out on anything if you stay non-monogamous... I'm very curious to know whether somebody who has never been married or in a long monogamous relationship before would maybe initially wish for such social structures that intend some sort of "stability". What are your thoughts? :)
You guys are so beautiful and inspirational!! Thank you for your videos. As someone who just got out of a long-term relationship, seeing you two gives me so much peace and hope for learning to love myself and others. namaste xoxoxo
I have never "AWWWWWW!" so much in my whole life watching a youtube video...you guys have exceeded every single cute kitten video on the internet...well done ;D.
I love the honesty in this relationship. There is no hypocrisy whatsoever. Sometimes i feel really h**** as well and I do not know what to do. If you want to be with someone and are being safe, there is no reason to restrict yourself.
You both look sooo happy! Thank you both so much ! You´re empowered me to JUST ake the things that made me happy and don´t push myself into a relationship i feel unfree in. Sorry for my bad englisch. Love to all of you! :)
You're welcome, friends! Please tell me if you ever come to Buenos Aires (or to Costa Rica from the moment I move there - I'm planning to do that in a few years, haha - ) so we can meet personally and I can introduce you to a lot of beautiful people alike here. Carpe Diem!
Maybe you've answered this in a previous video... My question is: if you have so much love and adoration for your main partner (you hold others to their standard and compare them ) how do you find yourself interested in other people? If someone were the 'bees knees ' to me and I knew no one else could compare, I wouldn't bother being with other people. Thanks!
@Chickennugget of course you were talking to me. You posted this on a platform where anybody can view, and respond. So, again, that is your opinion and that's cool.
I’m at a turning point in my life as I watch you two, I’m currently dating a man whose very closed minded and I’ve always felt I’m more open minded, I’ve tried so hard to get him to be more understanding but to no avail, I’m thinking about leaving but I do love him. He struggles with trust and jealousy big time, he’s always giving me his two cents or I guess you could say a way to control me about people I work with. example: my co worker is a guy who’s openly gay and my guy is jealous but over the top jealous( just because he’s of opposite sex) I’ve explained to him several times, I don’t choose who my boss hires and this is ridiculous, but what do I do when I love this person?! It’s making me bitter because I can’t get him to open his mind and heart and trust. It’s not worth fighting over and it’s wasting precious energy. He may be understanding for a few days and bam it’s back! He’s even tried making me choose him or my job! I need some advice and please don’t just say leave him because it’s more complicated then see ya bye! I struggle with some co dependency. He’s lovable and I admire many things about him when he’s not so jealous or I don’t have to go to work. We’re just so different and I find it hard to separate myself once I’m in a relationship. Hopefully I can one day have the strength to be me and let go of toxic relationships without wasting so much of my life waiting for people to change. ❤️ I aspire to one day have a loving relationship as deep as yours is. 🤩
I just freaking love you both, the way you understand and relate to each other is exactly what I wish to find one day, monogamous or not, its this type of love
Isn't it really hard to find/bump into people with the same mindset? I mean most people have this picture in mind how a relationship should be and to most people fidelity is super important.
My husband and I love each other so absolutely. To even just imagine wanting someone else, in any capacity, is impossible. I am so incredibly blessed, and forever thankful to Jesus for giving us to each other!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are really challenging the way I view polyamory. I found myself surprised by the early connection. Without even knowing, I had the idea that you were more separate from each other than you are. Thank you for challenging my perceptions and opening my mind. This is beautiful you guys.
+Vita Plastica This is really cool to hear! Thank you so much for sharing this with us and for being open to different ideas. It's cool to hear about your changing views. Conor and I just read this comment together and enjoyed pondering it as well. Here's to continually growing together! Thanks again :) Heaps of love to you.
wow, just feeling your connection right here, thousands of miles away. so glad that i found your channel a few days ago!! you are a great inspiration for me and for the relationship with my boyfriend. we sharing almost the same views on much things but i think i can get some nice new aspects from you... anyway its awesome to hear you both talking about our great journey here on earth. lovely greetings from germany.
I feel a little bit confused by polyamory/non-monogamous relationships aha The cold hard facts of it.... I know you use the word 'connecting' a lot, I am just wondering if that simply means that if you feel like flirting, talking or getting intimate with another person, you just go ahead and do it and you also talk about it honestly. But for me, when I first fell in love with my boyfriend, whom I am still with today, I couldn't dream of looking at anyone else, let alone anything else. Maybe it's just something as inbuilt as our sexual orientation?
I can't speak for other people who may define their relationship as "poly" or "open" but for us, we basically have no rules. We have no expectations or assumptions and we wake up every morning with the option to choose what we will do and who we will do it with. That might mean spending all day together or it might mean connecting with someone else. The term "connection" for us doesn't at all mean explicitly sexual. Connection could be as simple as a glance or a smile or a short exchange. We really want to support each other as individuals and support what excites us, what is pulling us, what is attracting us. We can REALLY understand feeling confused about this approach, or maybe feeling some fear or that it is simply just not something your are interested in. More than anything else, this channel seeks to support YOU on YOUR journey which is completely unique. Our goal is to simply share what we are doing, what excites us, and what is working for us. Our hope that others can use bits and pieces to create the type of life and relationships they want. Thanks so much for taking the time to watch the video and comment on the channel. We hope some of our other vids will be of interest to you! Much love, Conor and Brittany
Conor and Brittany Thank you for replying with such a lovely reply :) I love the way you describe it and it is truly a wholly positive thing for you, I can well see that. Maybe for the more insecure of us, it's just too much to take on, if we aren't quite feeling inadequate enough as we are. Its a complex topic but a very interesting one! :)
Hey you two. I'm so glad I found you two. I'm married and we have talked about having another woman in our relationship. I really do believe it's my bestfriend Sarah. I've ask her if she would be interested in joining us in our relationship. So question is...how can I help her understand a poly relationship?
WOW...so many issues came up within me while listening. You guys are so beautiful. I've been in a 31 year relationship--very traditional because we didn't think there really was anything else. I know now from watching you guys that if I ever had another serious relationship it would be just like yours! You both just cut through ALL the bullshit and drama surrounding connecting with others. It's really opened and freed my mind. Love to both you--keep teaching and sharing--we're listening!
Do you ever feel like you guys are each other's "top of the tier"? Like, even if you find other people that you fall for, you'd come back to each other and be each other's "number one"?
There is a person I really love and care for. We are great together, we can talk about everything and share similar interests and passions. But he wants a monogamous relationship and I don't. He tries to give me the freedom I wish for, but I can see that he's struggling and he's hurt by my desire to also connect with other people. Do you have any advise?
+BellaChi24 This is something that we have coached others on. I believe it really comes down to being your authentic self. If you want to have a full experience and relationship, I believe you must be true to yourself. Trust that the rest will follow. Please keep us posted with your journey! Much love! -Conor
I find it hard to understand, I personally want one person to love me fully and not ever want anyone else to please them but I also understand that this seems more unrealistic in the needs we have as human beings I respect your relationship but I couldn’t share mine with another But love your love story
My husband and I have been talking extensively about starting to open up our marriage. The one issue that I'm having is that my husband is a very sexual person and I am not sexual whatsoever. How do you two navigate through those kind of hardships? I mean, I want my husband to be able to be with whoever you want to be with, but I tend to feel jealous at times thinking that he doesn't love me when he wants to have sex with other people. And I figured I would ask someone who has been in a polyamorous relationship for years as a source of advice.
To him: how do you guard YOUR heart from NOT “falling in love” with the other ones, their bodies, sex,... or,... Guard from not having an “emotional connection” that causes you to naturally feel OR THINK LESS about her SEPARATELY, ok, once you’ve already fantasized about others while doing your “main squeeze” here, how do you make it so that you can STILLLLL sometimes (or often?) think about JUST HER ALONE? - I ask because the addiction or biological chemical change causes a strong habit of feeling that is VERY HARD TO BREAK
I was wondering, is your relationship so good because you are clear about you feelings for each other? It sounds like you are both deeply in love with each other and really are choosing one and other. So like this is your home base and sometimes you go out to play and explore. That sounds so much fun! But what if it feels like the other person is connecting more with someone else? What I wanted to ask is, does this kind of a relationship ask for this deep connecting 'home base'? Is that why you dont get insecure?
+Hiske van der Meer We have been asked this before. I think it works really well because it is the set up of our relationship. But we know people who get their home base needs met from multiple partners and are very happy with that set up. I think it really just depends on the people involved. Thanks for the question! -Conor
You guys are so awesome! I appreciate you sharing your relationship preferences. I can see how much you love each other. You get all teenage giggly! Haha! Much love to both of you.
The infectious smiles and chemistry between you two is like, Wow! Real Happiness....(sorry if my comment doubled, was having problems leaving comments)
OK I get it, I have asked you many times what your astrology signs are and you have not told me, I undestand now, sorry I did not mean to be intrusive, I just love and always have loved astrology and find it always curious to know what people's signs are I guess it just helps me understand people better and it helps me know how to treat them to make them happy when I'm around them
Beautiful video! Have either of you had a connection while you've been connecting with each other that has had a similar intensity? Have you had to manage balancing two intense connections at one time?
+Kathryn Rollins Great question. I feel like every connection has its own unique intensity about it that requires some balance. The amount of energy we share with others and one another tends to look like waves. There is a certain flow to it all that, once accepted, feels very fluid and absent of resistance.
What a wonderful story. I can see the sparks in Brittany's eyes when she looks at Connor. Real can't explain what I see here. Quick question..are there any kids involved in your relationship or prior marriages and/or relationships and if yes, how do you factor that into this union and your busy schedule(s)?
I could see it a lot too......even blushing almost when he was going on and on about her from talking about how he felt when he first was knowing her. I thought it was incredibly sweet to witness that.
I like this girl at work and she happens to like me too but she told me she has a bf and exploring a non monogamist relationship rn and wants me. I wish she could just be mine and that's it because we connect very well but I'm willing to try this non monogamist thing out and I know I have to put jealousy aside which I will.
hey you beauties! I've been looking through your videos to see if you have something on making relationship agreements in your close relationships. couldnt find that. I wonder if you two do that with one another, maybe yourself, and other people you are in deeper relationships with? To be very clear and mindful and intentional of the spaces you create with others and be open about what needs you bring into the relationship and might wanna get met and which not, etc. :) would love to hear you talk about it! also navagating all these greyzones of realtionships that in society is not really talked about, everything that's not just sex, not just friendship, not you're one i will love for ever ... ;)
I've come to similar terms at this point in my life, if I had to explain in my own words, "I want to always be open, to being open about myself!" I'm adventerously fun, and playful! full of pure loving qualities that humans crave for! luckily for me, I believe I have too found a partner that I can explore all possibilities with! I've been the most open and honest, more than with any other partner. post-monogamous, ex divorcee, with 3 children! life is full of so many amazing opportunities, and I want to experience it all! xoxo 😙
If you've ever had your heart just completely smashed so brutally that the pain lasted several years then I seriously doubt one could ever attempt an open relationship. From my perspective this is playing with fire. But I suppose if one runs off on the other then it simply wasn't meant to be open relationship or not. It's like why are we exploring Mars and other planets when there's still so much unknown about our own Earth. We've seen 5% of our oceans. Why pursue multiple partners when there's still so much to explore and learn about each other? Have you both reached the end and you know all there is to know about the other?
+Conor and Brittany My opinions are warped I'm sure. I basically got swindled out of over $100k by a woman that I thought was "THE ONE". Now my best days are behind me. So I'm damaged goods with neither the energy or time to attempt recovery. So im sure I'm resentful and even jealous to some degree. So to each their own. So I wish you good fortune in your endeavors.
I've tried the poly thing and hated it. I ended up breaking up with my ex, just in time too about a 2 years later I found out she contacted HIV and gave it to her poly husband. They ended up divorcing. I'm super happy to hear that some couples can make it work, but I'm a gigantic fan of monogamy.
And here I am feeling guilty that I want another man (besides my husband) to finish the renovation and maybe one more just to clean the house.
lol love this comment
that is not the same thing lol. I'm poly also its amazing. you can find everything you want in more than 1 person.
While Conor tells us how he came to fall for Brittany, the smile on her face and they chemistry between them is so cool. It's infectious and makes me smile watching you guys.
+LitGirlablaZe This feels so beautiful to hear. I love that this shines through. Thank you so much for watching and for sharing!
Awe. That feeling after "she was this big magnificent thing... ...and still is", ...so much happiness.
Blessed to have felt that.
Thank you.
The world needs more open minded people. Just because one person doesn't agree doesn't mean it's wrong. I've considered myself open minded and free spirited but had some issues when it came to sorting out personal feelings. The way you explain how if you feel jealous, for example, you look internally; it's just what I needed to get over that hill. I keep it in mind everyday and it has helped me so much. Keep spreading the word of love for yourself and others!
Brenda Leonard
You two look like you two were made for each other.
Thank you
+Conor and Brittany I hope you knew I meant in a GOOD way! :;
My boyfriend and I are non-monogamous after 2 years of monogamy. Our relationship is so much happier and we have never felt so much trust and love for someone since we decided to try it out. When people judge, i just laugh it off because we are happy like this and how we find our happiness is no one's business but our own.
Sara Fouts me and my boyfriend of 5 years are thinking about opening our relationship too.. can you tell me more? was it a difficul transition going from monogamy to an open relationship? i would really appreciate to get some advise :) thanks!
What about STDs?
Call me crazy but I love my husband so much I would never share myself with another. For me, love is sacrifice. It's easy to follow my disires wherever they may lead. (and believe me I have desired other men). Because of my love for my husband, I am his and his alone. It's hard at times to not be selfish but, for me, that is love. I know I am his and he is mine and that is the most precious gift we can give one another. Like I said... call me crazy.
So possesion lmao
RV Life beautiful.. exactly how I feel!!
Polyamoury is selfishness disguised as ''openness''.
@@bernadettedevereux4489 why is it much harder to commit and more rewarding?
Poly relationships are noooooot easy. I think there’s a huge misconception that people who are poly are taking the easy route. It’s completely not. Lol
wow, this is so beautiful. I found your channel a few weeks ago, and I’m so grateful. You all viscerally exude unconditional love on a level that I am still trying to learn myself. I have struggled tremendously with trauma, and that has led to anger, dishonesty, and substance abuse. While I am doing well now, it has been heartbreaking to tackle these afflictions when my spirit is so inherently loving and peaceful. In the last few weeks when I have grappled with jealousy, impatience, and anger- I have thought of you guys and the example you have set with your inner peace and incredible acceptance of each other. You are helping me grow into the open, deeply spiritual being that I always have been, but has been long tainted by pain. The way you are raising Ilya not to be subjected to the societal pressures related to gender have opened up really important conversations with my partner and I about how we will raise our someday children. You both are nearing the physical summation of your soul journey on this plane, and we are lucky to learn from your generations of wisdom. Thank you for what you do. I love you guys, and I love your love.
I'm monogamous and married, but intrigued at how sweet you two are on camera. Every time he mentions meeting you, your face lights up. Your connection seems as deep and genuine as any of the monogamous couples I know. Happy for you two!
the way you both look at one another is unreal! So much love flowing between you.
I am so glad to find you two! You are such a great example that non monogamy does not have to mean a lack of commitment. Ive had a recent sexual and relational paradigm shift/epiphany/awakening and am now exploring the world of ethical non monogamy and polyamory. I relate exactly to what you said about the freedom and the safety, in being able to explore myself and my own journey but be in a loving committed relationship with someone. "enjoy the hell out of life" YES!!! Thank you both
they are BOTH very lucky to have found another being your able to connect with on such a spiritual, mind-blowing, magical way! Watching them speak, move, look at each other, it's even a magical experience for me, the viewer! They emit so much love & confidence in their relationship & I am SO glad they are sharing it with the world! I personally as of now am monogamous, but seeing the confidence in their relationship really shows me that a polyamorous relationship can & will work if your truly open, honest, willing to try & be a little selfless, but I think for any type of relationship to work you need all those things!... Back to my point, it's so amazing that by just watching them look at each other & speak of & to each other, you can CLEARLY see the love they feel for each other & it's that BOOM boom BOOM heart beating, butterflies in my tummy kind of love, so real, so raw. We too are lucky to get to be a part of it! Thank you Connor & Brit! You two are such beautiful people & are doing an amazing job at spreading love & spreading awareness for people that might be a little closed minded, for people that don't believe they can truly live their lives the way the REALLY WANT! Your opening so many doors & showing so many possibilities! That is such a huge gift to the world!! I could go on for ages about you two, but for now I think this will do! I just want you two to keep doing what your doing, I know you will. I hope you can feel my love right now if your reading this. I would hope for you two to hug or touch each other & let my love live threw you for a couple seconds! LOVE & Light!! You two shine so bright, truly. xo- a girl named Haley
This was a response to a comment someone left under me saying they thought Brittany was a lucky girl to have a man like Connor. I started to respond with what I wrote above & while typing decided I would just post this as its own comment hoping whoever it might be that reads this feels the love I emit from talking about these two special people, Connor and Brittany!
I love your love, it's liberating even though I would probably never have a polyamorous relationship. I am a single mom right now but your communication is what connects me to you, it's a great example and just so fun to watch! ✨💞
I love this! My husband and i just recently started a non-monogamous relationship. We are hooked! We have been together for over 6 years, and married for a little over a year now. Being in a compersion relationship has brought us so much closer, i love hearing his stories as well as him hearing mine. We are both so happy we have tested the waters, and plan to stay in it. Ours is only on a Physical level and not an emotional level though, just a person he can hook up with for that ego boost and vise versa
Wow! Awesome and congratulations. That a huge change to make. So much love to you on your journey
Sarah if you don't mind me asking how are thing's now? And how did you and him get to that decision
hearing you all articulate your truth with the one you love right there, present, understanding that your life ,your exploration has a safe and welcoming place to land is beyond something to treasure. your love is that of an alchemist..and I find it refreshing as you share your moments...
I just love this so much....even years later!!! Thank you
You both seem so in love with one another. Like real love. Thank you for sharing your story!
It feels like the real deal to us :) Thank you for sharing this reflection
Conor that is so adorable that every woman you met had to compete with Brittany in your mind. "She's no Brittany Taylor but you're never gonna get a Brittany Taylor" - but you DID man, AND now you got a Bridgette too. 😍
I love how you guys totally support each other, I just got out of an not so good relationship and I've really decided to first invest in how I want my life to be and I'll hope one day I'll find someone who will support me no matter what I want to do in life and vice versa of course
Wow I can just see the love you two have for each other by how you look at one another. This is only the second video I’ve watched of yours but am already inspired to try to implement it with my relationship with my person. We have been struggling the last few months and I’m starting to feel like monogamy is the issue at least rn. Thank you guys for being so open and honest, authenticity is very rare nowadays!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and relationship! I have always felt bad about physically connecting with another person unless there was some label attached to it. Even really recently I felt such a strong attraction and connection with someone but didn't fully connect in the way that I wanted because of social norms and the "values" I grew up with. I thought about it later and really was sad that I had felt so guilty about following my passion and doing something so natural and instinctive as connecting with another. Your videos are really helping me trust and understand myself more! Thank you so much! ❤
+Laura Rand Wow, this is such a beautiful comment. Thank you so much for taking the time to share about yourself and this recent experience here. I can so understand feeling that way. I love that you took the time to reflect about it and are learning more about yourself and ultimately trusting and understanding yourself more. This is so amazing to hear and to be a part of in this way! Thank you so much
Omg love watching this now that you two also have Ilya now :-)
I'm a conventional person in a conventional relationship.
Randomly found this post... I felt really really comforted by this talk.
like.. my face is just beaming with joy right now.
I understand that there are unconventional qualities about your lifestyles and relationship, but I just felt so many emotional parallels between how you feel about each other and how the love of my life and I discovered each other.
I think its how people should feel about each other and hearing it from you is really affirming to my personal life choices.
Love creates love, so keep creating!
& Thank you for opening up about this part of yourselves. xo
Barbara. This comment is so amazing! We are so glad you found this video and so grateful that you chose to write to us. Thank you! I love the parallels between our relationships. I can so understand that. I'm so glad watching us share about our story is affirming to your life choices. Rock on! You sound fantastic. Heaps of love to you and the love of your life too! xo
Have you guys done a video on how not to catch STD's ? That would be a great topic.
Omg I doubt you will see this comment but I have to leave it anyway. I’ve been watching you guys for SO LONG and only just now watched this particular video. It is so pure and lovely. Like many people echo the love you have for each other is so evident. I have no desire to be in a poly relationship (so honestly I have no idea how I stumbled on you...lol) but I still learn so much about relationships from you guys. Your thoughtfulness and deliberateness in how you approach your life together is so great. More people should be like that. It’s also so fun to see this spark between you in hindsight before Ilya came around. I know people have commented on the palpable change but your love and respect is still just so evident and pure. I have a 6yo and those early years are just so tenuous even under the best circumstances. Continue to be kind and gentle with yourselves. And jus THANK YOU for sharing yourselves with us. ❤️
Was really fun hearing that story of how you met and the different phases of it. Thanks! Really beautiful and respectful to each other's desires to grow and feel free and explore yet with a solid secure bond.
I did not know this! See, I learn something new everyday and I just love life! Rock on you guys, you know and trust your relationship more than most folks can claim. Thanks for sharing your fun love story! ;b
Thank you for watching it! It's so cool to read your comments on this channel! xo
you two are incredibly inspiring and bang on where I am at on my journey! So glad I found you. So much love xxx
💞 love, love, love this 💓 you guys are so awesome 💗 this is definitely life goals thanks so much for sharing your stories they have brought a lot of light and love to my life and relationships 💞 looking forward to more of your videos together 😊
Thankyou Conor and Brittany for sharing your story. Pursuing an open relationship has been on my mind for the last few years as something I might be interested in. The more I think about it and the more I watch your channel and read about non-monogamy the more it seems like it would be the right path for me. Thanks again! :)
+Ms Arcane This is so cool to hear. I love that you are playing around with what feels right for you. It's so great to hear from you here. Thanks for watching!
Is "connecting" just the euphenism you use for sex ?
Brittany this explains how you have such a gift with your coaching play. You have such a beautiful way of connecting with others and a solid relationship with Connor at the same time. Your story was a little bitter and mostly sweet to hear. Bitter because I am searching for something similar to what you have but sweet cause it's so beautiful to understand your story as two people who are in love with each other and all the aspects of life that others dare not explore in the light of resistance to fear. Mahalo for the laughter in this story
I KNOW I was super grateful for your newest video discussing this story and the Woodstock Fruit Festival, and I was thankful that I didn't have to scroll all the way back through your channel to find this video.
Buuuuut I had to come back here and get the long version of the cuteness anyway. Turns out it's super easy to find. 😉
Watching your videos has really my boyfriend and I open up our relationship, seeing you speak so openly has really helped us have that conversation
That is wonderful. So happy to be a part of it. So much love to you both
Conor and Brittany thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this. I've really been reflecting on myself lately and have realized that I have so much love to give, and I always feel so guilty when I find myself having very strong feelings towards other people and not being able to explore them because I'm in a monogamous relationship. And having just ended that relationship I've been able to explore those feelings, and even though we're just friends/"casual lovers" he seems like he may be open to this kind of relationship someday. But thank you so much, this was very helpful and reaffirming. I loved your story. You both seem very happy.
Lol..I love how casual y'all are about the "horny" kick off to your relationship and that you don't mind sharing the details!!! I'm so making popcorn for the next juicy video. Best tv series ever!!!
+Candice Marquette Hahah ;) Well we have some pretty sexy vids coming up so get a big bowl. Thanks for the support Candice
You both sound very sincere, and your temperaments are very well suited to one another. Great communication and mutual respect. Keep up the great work!
Thank you so much for another beautiful comment! Sending heaps of love to you!
the pure and genuine love shines right through the both of you! i think its absolutely awesome that you guys can love each other so deeply and share the love with others! you two are TRULY inspiring
Thank you so much This feels really good to read
This is beautiful to see how you guys are working with each other, and thank you for sharing. I have always felt deeply possessive in relationships, but I think I am beginning to understand that a lot of that is coming from not feeling loved enough, i.e. not being with the right person. I have learned a lot about myself, especially in the last few years, and while I am not sure that I could ever be truly comfortable in a non-monogamous relationship, watching your videos is really allowing me to challenge my own assumptions about myself, my life, and my thoughts and feelings. Thank you again for sharing your beautiful story
+kzzinsky Loving all your comments. Thank you so much. Wonderful to read about your reflections.
I tried it and I was having a great time but it turned out that it was one sided. This person that I was having such a good time with couldn't handle it when I was elsewhere connecting but I never once made him uncomfortable about his life. Needless to say, it didn't work out. I've never met anyone else that I wanted that kind of open lifestyle with. That's okay too. I'm happy with right now and that's what counts as far as I'm concerned. If everyone could remove those jealous inclinations that have been implanted since we were children, things would obviously just be easier, but I don't even know how else to explain it. Life is a like a big pit of those balls kids play in and when your head pops up you don't know who's there waiting for you? Happiness is the goal at the end of the day and I'm happy and getting happier each day and alot of it has to do with finding you both on my laptop and for that I am grateful! Huge love to both of you!
I'm glad you guys got together. There seems to be a true 'connection' between you two. Your youth is really contagious!
Thank you so much James
I started watching your video tour of Winnie, because I am preparing to change my lifestyle to that of a mobile lifestyle. In viewing that, I just thought you two were awesome, then I clicked on some more of your videos. So, I went down the rabbit hole and ended up here. I plan to watch more, but this one really got me thinking. The way you presented your connection was beautiful. I have never been able to cheat on someone for several reasons. Three main reasons are: 1) Being monogamous is what is expected and it would be a betrayal of the other person. 2) I am socially awkward as hell. 3) Those first two combined would make me a crazy person. My thought process went back to situations where I was in a relationship and I met someone whom I had a connection with. Those connections can be confusing when when you're expected to care about one person at a time on that level. I never allowed those connections to turn into anything romantic or sexual, but that didn't prevent me from feeling guilty. I understand that it's the way we're programmed and what's expected of us, but seeing how you two connect seriously changed my view on connections in general. I don't know how or if I will ever integrate this kind of thinking into my future connections, but the seed is planted. I suppose I will just have to make your videos required reading for potential dates!
I thank you both for sharing and promoting positive energy and love.
I was so touched by this video, it met a need within me to see a positive and happy poly couple loving the heck out of life!! Having just split from my monogamous long term relationship it brings me a great example to look towards with a joyous light heart. Namaste and hope to meet you fellow fruit bats one day. 🙏🏻🍍
I am so inspired by the way you both relate with each other and, through this platform, with the world. Thank you many times over for your vunerability and your posting here. I have not had any other role models that live such love based realtionships. And being able to watch you and hear input from you both enriches my life and my partners to an extent of great transformation and great hope. Thank you Brittany. Thank you Conor. Much love to you both and Brigdet and Ilya.
This feels so incredible to hear. Sending you so much love Abigail
The cutest love story. You two always make me smile. Thank you.
I really like your energy together, the love you share is definitely visible :) Here's my question, from a monogamous standpoint... You both were married and had the experience of relatively "long-lasting" monogamous relationships before you became non-monogamous. Do you think that may be a reason why your relationship is so successful? With that I mean that you've both experienced marriage and now, being non-monogamous, don't feel like you're missing out on anything if you stay non-monogamous... I'm very curious to know whether somebody who has never been married or in a long monogamous relationship before would maybe initially wish for such social structures that intend some sort of "stability". What are your thoughts? :)
You guys are so beautiful and inspirational!! Thank you for your videos. As someone who just got out of a long-term relationship, seeing you two gives me so much peace and hope for learning to love myself and others. namaste xoxoxo
I have never "AWWWWWW!" so much in my whole life watching a youtube video...you guys have exceeded every single cute kitten video on the internet...well done ;D.
THANK YOU!!! Love this comment
I love the honesty in this relationship. There is no hypocrisy whatsoever. Sometimes i feel really h**** as well and I do not know what to do. If you want to be with someone and are being safe, there is no reason to restrict yourself.
You both look sooo happy! Thank you both so much ! You´re empowered me to JUST ake the things that made me happy and don´t push myself into a relationship i feel unfree in. Sorry for my bad englisch. Love to all of you! :)
I love the joy the two of you share for life, with each other and the peple viewing.
Thank you so much!
I love watching your videos together :) what a beautiful story
+Dasha Quatscht Thank you so much for that lovely comment. We will
You both are lovely, smart, compassionate and beautiful. Thanks for everything you do.
+Ética y Bienestar | Mauro Miceli Consigli (MauM) Thank you so much!
You're welcome, friends! Please tell me if you ever come to Buenos Aires (or to Costa Rica from the moment I move there - I'm planning to do that in a few years, haha - ) so we can meet personally and I can introduce you to a lot of beautiful people alike here. Carpe Diem!
+Ética y Bienestar | Mauro Miceli Consigli (MauM) Oh heck yes, we would love to! Pura Vida, mae ;)
Maybe you've answered this in a previous video...
My question is: if you have so much love and adoration for your main partner (you hold others to their standard and compare them ) how do you find yourself interested in other people? If someone were the 'bees knees ' to me and I knew no one else could compare, I wouldn't bother being with other people.
Thanks!
Cuz people can feel the same about others.
@Chickennugget how do you know they are losers? A person can have meaningful relationships with more than one person.
@Chickennugget of course you were talking to me. You posted this on a platform where anybody can view, and respond. So, again, that is your opinion and that's cool.
@Chickennugget lol maybe you don't know how RUclips works. See, anybody can respond.
@Chickennugget That's fine that you don't care about my opinion. I also don't have to care about your opinion if I so choose.
I’m at a turning point in my life as I watch you two, I’m currently dating a man whose very closed minded and I’ve always felt I’m more open minded, I’ve tried so hard to get him to be more understanding but to no avail, I’m thinking about leaving but I do love him. He struggles with trust and jealousy big time, he’s always giving me his two cents or I guess you could say a way to control me about people I work with. example: my co worker is a guy who’s openly gay and my guy is jealous but over the top jealous( just because he’s of opposite sex) I’ve explained to him several times, I don’t choose who my boss hires and this is ridiculous, but what do I do when I love this person?! It’s making me bitter because I can’t get him to open his mind and heart and trust. It’s not worth fighting over and it’s wasting precious energy. He may be understanding for a few days and bam it’s back! He’s even tried making me choose him or my job! I need some advice and please don’t just say leave him because it’s more complicated then see ya bye! I struggle with some co dependency. He’s lovable and I admire many things about him when he’s not so jealous or I don’t have to go to work. We’re just so different and I find it hard to separate myself once I’m in a relationship. Hopefully I can one day have the strength to be me and let go of toxic relationships without wasting so much of my life waiting for people to change. ❤️ I aspire to one day have a loving relationship as deep as yours is. 🤩
I just freaking love you both, the way you understand and relate to each other is exactly what I wish to find one day, monogamous or not, its this type of love
7:14 when conor stares after jokingly mocking his own comment 😍 this is it. This is love !
Aww thanks for this reflection back it was really fun to re-watch
Super stoked you guys are sharing your journey with us too! 😍
+AK Char Thank you. It is our pleasure!
Your videos are really giving me more understanding on this topic! Thank you
So great to read Tim. We will keep them coming. Much love
Isn't it really hard to find/bump into people with the same mindset? I mean most people have this picture in mind how a relationship should be and to most people fidelity is super important.
This is also fidelity
My husband and I love each other so absolutely. To even just imagine wanting someone else, in any capacity, is impossible. I am so incredibly blessed, and forever thankful to Jesus for giving us to each other!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are really challenging the way I view polyamory. I found myself surprised by the early connection. Without even knowing, I had the idea that you were more separate from each other than you are. Thank you for challenging my perceptions and opening my mind. This is beautiful you guys.
+Vita Plastica This is really cool to hear! Thank you so much for sharing this with us and for being open to different ideas. It's cool to hear about your changing views. Conor and I just read this comment together and enjoyed pondering it as well. Here's to continually growing together! Thanks again :) Heaps of love to you.
watching y'all made my soul take a deep breath ♡
wow, just feeling your connection right here, thousands of miles away. so glad that i found your channel a few days ago!!
you are a great inspiration for me and for the relationship with my boyfriend. we sharing almost the same views on much things but i think i can get some nice new aspects from you... anyway its awesome to hear you both talking about our great journey here on earth. lovely greetings from germany.
Thank you so much for sharing it with us
thank you for sharing your story - this was beautiful to watch! :)
+The Minimalist Ninja You are very welcome. Thank you so much for the feedback!
I feel a little bit confused by polyamory/non-monogamous relationships aha The cold hard facts of it.... I know you use the word 'connecting' a lot, I am just wondering if that simply means that if you feel like flirting, talking or getting intimate with another person, you just go ahead and do it and you also talk about it honestly. But for me, when I first fell in love with my boyfriend, whom I am still with today, I couldn't dream of looking at anyone else, let alone anything else. Maybe it's just something as inbuilt as our sexual orientation?
I understand what you are saying, I feel the same way, I don't understand how you can "share" someone when you love him/her so much... It just hurts
I can't speak for other people who may define their relationship as "poly" or "open" but for us, we basically have no rules. We have no expectations or assumptions and we wake up every morning with the option to choose what we will do and who we will do it with. That might mean spending all day together or it might mean connecting with someone else. The term "connection" for us doesn't at all mean explicitly sexual. Connection could be as simple as a glance or a smile or a short exchange. We really want to support each other as individuals and support what excites us, what is pulling us, what is attracting us.
We can REALLY understand feeling confused about this approach, or maybe feeling some fear or that it is simply just not something your are interested in. More than anything else, this channel seeks to support YOU on YOUR journey which is completely unique. Our goal is to simply share what we are doing, what excites us, and what is working for us. Our hope that others can use bits and pieces to create the type of life and relationships they want.
Thanks so much for taking the time to watch the video and comment on the channel. We hope some of our other vids will be of interest to you!
Much love,
Conor and Brittany
We can really understand that feeling. We just commented back to Hannah and hope you get a chance to read it. Much love!
Conor and Brittany Thank you for replying with such a lovely reply :) I love the way you describe it and it is truly a wholly positive thing for you, I can well see that. Maybe for the more insecure of us, it's just too much to take on, if we aren't quite feeling inadequate enough as we are. Its a complex topic but a very interesting one! :)
You are very welcome Hannah. Thanks for reading it all and commenting back. Much love to you
Best video ever!!!! So happy you two made this :) loved hearing your story
+FruitarianAlley Thank you so much! So lovely to read your comment. We both miss and love you.
You guys are so cool and your relationship feels so natural and normal the way it is... please do keep on sharing and enlighten us :-) Ciao from Italy
This is the cutest shit I've ever watched. There's love just oozing through the screen. Thank you for sharing your story!
Weee! yay, thank you so much! xoxo
It makes me smile ear to ear
That was so joyful and full of love. Thanks for sharing x
+Nadine C You are very welcome. Thank you!
Thoroughly, thoroughly enjoyed this!! You two rock.
+Matt Horowitz Thanks Matt! Love you
it's so cute how you two are looking at each other😍😍
best video so far!
thank you guys for sharing it was so cute and so fun to watch but still very interesting :)
+jfjaklö kflasd Oh thank you so much!
Thank u so much. This made me smile so much
I love you guys!!!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing your amazing relationship with us! I am so grateful for both of you!
Hey you two. I'm so glad I found you two. I'm married and we have talked about having another woman in our relationship. I really do believe it's my bestfriend Sarah. I've ask her if she would be interested in joining us in our relationship. So question is...how can I help her understand a poly relationship?
WOW...so many issues came up within me while listening. You guys are so beautiful. I've been in a 31 year relationship--very traditional because we didn't think there really was anything else. I know now from watching you guys that if I ever had another serious relationship it would be just like yours! You both just cut through ALL the bullshit and drama surrounding connecting with others. It's really opened and freed my mind. Love to both you--keep teaching and sharing--we're listening!
+dharmababy59 Very humbled to receive this message. Thank you so very much! We will keep going
Do you ever feel like you guys are each other's "top of the tier"? Like, even if you find other people that you fall for, you'd come back to each other and be each other's "number one"?
This is such a beautiful love story! Thanks for sharing!
+ms Jones Thank you so much for the feedback!
This is great for people to see! Life is all about the natural progression :)
+Growth Music Travel Thank you so much for the support
Don't you mean REGRESSION?......back to the sixties
There is a person I really love and care for. We are great together, we can talk about everything and share similar interests and passions. But he wants a monogamous relationship and I don't. He tries to give me the freedom I wish for, but I can see that he's struggling and he's hurt by my desire to also connect with other people. Do you have any advise?
+BellaChi24 This is something that we have coached others on. I believe it really comes down to being your authentic self. If you want to have a full experience and relationship, I believe you must be true to yourself. Trust that the rest will follow. Please keep us posted with your journey! Much love! -Conor
You two are so adorable. I think I'm in love!
This was beautiful to watch, you're both so in love. Thanks for sharing
haha that's true ;) Thank you for watching and commenting
I find it hard to understand, I personally want one person to love me fully and not ever want anyone else to please them but I also understand that this seems more unrealistic in the needs we have as human beings
I respect your relationship but I couldn’t share mine with another
But love your love story
My husband and I have been talking extensively about starting to open up our marriage. The one issue that I'm having is that my husband is a very sexual person and I am not sexual whatsoever. How do you two navigate through those kind of hardships? I mean, I want my husband to be able to be with whoever you want to be with, but I tend to feel jealous at times thinking that he doesn't love me when he wants to have sex with other people. And I figured I would ask someone who has been in a polyamorous relationship for years as a source of advice.
To him:
how do you guard YOUR heart from NOT “falling in love” with the other ones, their bodies, sex,... or,...
Guard from not having an “emotional connection” that causes you to naturally feel OR THINK LESS about her
SEPARATELY, ok, once you’ve already fantasized about others while doing your “main squeeze” here, how do you make it so that you can STILLLLL sometimes (or often?) think about JUST HER ALONE?
- I ask because the addiction or biological chemical change causes a strong habit of feeling that is VERY HARD TO BREAK
I was wondering, is your relationship so good because you are clear about you feelings for each other? It sounds like you are both deeply in love with each other and really are choosing one and other. So like this is your home base and sometimes you go out to play and explore. That sounds so much fun! But what if it feels like the other person is connecting more with someone else?
What I wanted to ask is, does this kind of a relationship ask for this deep connecting 'home base'? Is that why you dont get insecure?
+Hiske van der Meer We have been asked this before. I think it works really well because it is the set up of our relationship. But we know people who get their home base needs met from multiple partners and are very happy with that set up. I think it really just depends on the people involved. Thanks for the question!
-Conor
You guys are so awesome! I appreciate you sharing your relationship preferences. I can see how much you love each other. You get all teenage giggly! Haha! Much love to both of you.
+Rosalba Trujillo Hahah that is a great comment. Thank you!
The infectious smiles and chemistry between you two is like, Wow! Real Happiness....(sorry if my comment doubled, was having problems leaving comments)
+LitGirlablaZe It's so beautiful to receive. I like hearing it in two different ways. Thank you!
what are y'alls thoughts on zodiac signs influencing compatibility and relationships?
It's fun to hear about but we don't spend much time on this subject :D
OK I get it, I have asked you many times what your astrology signs are and you have not told me, I undestand now, sorry I did not mean to be intrusive, I just love and always have loved astrology and find it always curious to know what people's signs are I guess it just helps me understand people better and it helps me know how to treat them to make them happy when I'm around them
Beautiful video! Have either of you had a connection while you've been connecting with each other that has had a similar intensity? Have you had to manage balancing two intense connections at one time?
+Kathryn Rollins Great question. I feel like every connection has its own unique intensity about it that requires some balance. The amount of energy we share with others and one another tends to look like waves. There is a certain flow to it all that, once accepted, feels very fluid and absent of resistance.
What a wonderful story. I can see the sparks in Brittany's eyes when she looks at Connor. Real can't explain what I see here.
Quick question..are there any kids involved in your relationship or prior marriages and/or relationships and if yes, how do you factor that into this union and your busy schedule(s)?
I could see it a lot too......even blushing almost when he was going on and on about her from talking about how he felt when he first was knowing her. I thought it was incredibly sweet to witness that.
I like this girl at work and she happens to like me too but she told me she has a bf and exploring a non monogamist relationship rn and wants me. I wish she could just be mine and that's it because we connect very well but I'm willing to try this non monogamist thing out and I know I have to put jealousy aside which I will.
“I feel like we must be some what similar. Of course we are, that’s why we’re here.” 😂😂😂😂
Im crying this is so beautiful
hey you beauties! I've been looking through your videos to see if you have something on making relationship agreements in your close relationships. couldnt find that. I wonder if you two do that with one another, maybe yourself, and other people you are in deeper relationships with? To be very clear and mindful and intentional of the spaces you create with others and be open about what needs you bring into the relationship and might wanna get met and which not, etc. :) would love to hear you talk about it! also navagating all these greyzones of realtionships that in society is not really talked about, everything that's not just sex, not just friendship, not you're one i will love for ever ... ;)
I've come to similar terms at this point in my life, if I had to explain in my own words, "I want to always be open, to being open about myself!" I'm adventerously fun, and playful! full of pure loving qualities that humans crave for! luckily for me, I believe I have too found a partner that I can explore all possibilities with! I've been the most open and honest, more than with any other partner. post-monogamous, ex divorcee, with 3 children! life is full of so many amazing opportunities, and I want to experience it all!
xoxo 😙
If you've ever had your heart just completely smashed so brutally that the pain lasted several years then I seriously doubt one could ever attempt an open relationship. From my perspective this is playing with fire. But I suppose if one runs off on the other then it simply wasn't meant to be open relationship or not.
It's like why are we exploring Mars and other planets when there's still so much unknown about our own Earth. We've seen 5% of our oceans.
Why pursue multiple partners when there's still so much to explore and learn about each other? Have you both reached the end and you know all there is to know about the other?
Thanks for the questions. We hope you watch some of our other videos to get a fuller perspective :)
+Conor and Brittany
My opinions are warped I'm sure. I basically got swindled out of over $100k by a woman that I thought was "THE ONE". Now my best days are behind me. So I'm damaged goods with neither the energy or time to attempt recovery. So im sure I'm resentful and even jealous to some degree. So to each their own. So I wish you good fortune in your endeavors.
This video is giving me so much secondhand joy 😂❤️
Y’all are so incredibly lucky to have found each other! Man, I hope that I will be able to find something so joyful and free
That feels really good