So true...grow/fall into love first, get married, then give up the cookie. Ladies, sex should be the last thing you give to a man. He needs to earn it and your love first. Love yourself first, become healthy, healed, whole, confident, and be about your purpose. God will send that man to find you. There is nothing you have to do when God is is the mix, He is all knowing and doesn't need our help. Peace and blessings to you🙏
If he thinks I am easy on first meeting me that is his problem, he cannot put me in the category with other women. That is such a turn off when men pre-judge women. Immature boys think this way.
Dasani605 yeah the average man is. I have male co workers who are average and they talk about how easy it is to get sex and to get it on the 1st date. Even when they tell the women that they are looking for more than just sex they say the women insist on having sex. I knew these men well and they were looking for a special woman so they weren’t players. Plus I can tell from my own dating experiences that men get sex easily. The last guy I dated and have known for 8 years told me I was the only woman that made him wait because usually he gets a woman in bed after about 1 week. I also have female co-workers that give up sex on the 1st meetup or within the 1st week of meeting a man.
@@lcjones4682 Some women are not looking for a relationship and show love by pleasing a man. It don't make them a hoe, they don't know any better. Birds that flock together stay together. It's like 10 women to 1 man. If all 10 women say no, let's date and maybe 3 or 5 dates, you can come over. Some men would change and maybe settle down because not all men will date every woman he meet or wait for sex.
We are living in a "hook up" culture, so most people (men and women) have no standards. It's time (been time) to reintroduce standards to our community.
Amen! Thank you Tony! Men won't think you are a loose booty if you: 1. Keep your legs closed 2. Set Strick Boundaries 3. Come to the Table Like a BOSS! Be Blessed!🙏❤🦋
ebonie shenece GOD BLESS YOU SIS!!! Hang in there when the times get tough. Trust GOD, pray much. Read your Bible. Submit yourself TOTALLY to GOD. He is the way, the truth and the light!!!! He will always sustain you. Remember GOD Strength is made perfect in your weakness!!!! Corinthians 12:7-10.
ebonie shenece I have not been sexually active for over 5 yrs. now!!!! TO GOD BE THE GLORY, for the great things he has done. I am a BORN AGAIN virgin. Praise JESUS, through his blood. I have had sex before so at times it can be trying to STAND here! However, but GOD he keeps and sustains me through it all!!! I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 yrs. and me and that man never had sex, never laid together, never came close, never saw each other exposed!!!! GLORY to GOD!!!!
Dania Morris GOD BLESS YOU!!! Pray much, read your Bible much. Totally submit yourself you body to GOD as a living sacrifice holy and pure!!!! GOD will take care of you. He will sustain you!!! Do not believe the lies of the devil. Stand on the word of GOD continue to STAND!!!!!
I’m not ashamed to say that I have been this woman! I thank God that I have healed from past insecurities that have led me to be desperate. Thank you for this it was well needed 💪🏾🗣‼️
It’s a sad state of humanity when men think it’s strange that another man is faithful to his wife .. And this is why Hell is continuing to fill up with these men and with the women they sleep with outside of marriage
Yoooooo my man gets played at work for being faithful to me cause every other dude at his job be smashing chicks on the job and go home to they girls but my dude too thurl for that he laughs at them cause it’s like wtf is the point of a relationship if that’s how y’all gonna run shit but that’s just how our world is
Most men treats relationships as if its a burden, married men IMO are the most thirsty, they act as if they are in bondage and needs to be freed. LOL. I'm very attractive, but abstinent for over 17 yrs. At this point I do feel hopeless, scared and will most likely die with cobwebs. It should not be this hard. I'm over it!
Tell a man upfront if you choose to date, you want to honour God and lay off sex, sexting, nudes etc and see if he stays. Before you go on ANY date, ask how many women he has slept with. If he has a high body count, dont even bother seeing him. Some lie but you will see from the way he conducts himself, also, these days, a lot of them dont feel the need to lie. If you start by choosing quality men, you will eventually find a quality man. What's important is you choose to honour GOD and HE will bless you. He is a good father.
Yes bro you right alot men get enough of women after having sex 11 time. When I was playing in the field and operating from my brokenness got enough of a women after had sex one time and move to the next women. But that's why come your page get knowledge and approve so I can become and be a better man daily. And got couple of course to.Allot facts in what you say.
@@Ulzannghome Yes that was how who use to be. Yeah Jesus must be coming back sooner then we think lol. Alot people cant admit when was living or where they went wrong. But only get better is to admit where you were at so you can know where your heading to . So look back and see where you been
Close my legs Set boundaries (strong boundaries)💪💪💪💪💪 Pay for my own meal but if he insist I am not going to feel guilty of not giving up my virtue (No cookies) at allllllll🍷🥗🥘 And drive my own car🚘🚘🚘🚗 And sleep in my own bed 🛏🛏🛏 GOT IT!!!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗😘
@@myramilton1833 Tony isn't saying pay for a date you're invited to. Just offer to show your independence because typically the man will say no anyway.
Ladies let keep God first spend time with God and yourselves forgive yourselves and continue to learn, heal, grow and make better good positive changes. Come to the table with your standards and boundaries like a boss and if he dont like it tell him good bye dont waste your time. Every men is not worth our time and body keep legs close wait until you ready for the right man God has for you. Dont allow no one to disrespect you and dont disrespect yourselves. Dont ignore the red flags its for a reason pay attention. Stay focus on your values, worth, goals and dreams. Tony you right thank you always keeping it real i needed this. We need to hear the real truth.God will always show us who people really are. God bless all.😁👏👍
Yes indeed. I notice the comments (right comments) that mention God first and God as the lead has the least thumbs up. It's no wonder so many women are having trouble, and they will keep, until they understand God comes first and then the blessings/real men.
A man becomes a MAN when he is submitted to Christ. And knowing Christ is what can keep him submitted to one woman. No man is worth having until he knows Christ.
Funny thing is, years ago I told "friends" I'm good all by myself and they saw I live up to it and they tried to ridicule me (could I be a lesbian....ahhh NO!) NOW, they're looking at me in a different light because I'm not ran thru, worn out and men know my history of not being a jump off, being easy and I get that respect from men that they really dont get.
You are definitely speaking truth! We have to understand that we have the power to control where the relationship goes! Thanks Tony! Always good knowledge!
This message is so powerful. Anyone who loves the truth will respect this message. I will be sure that me and my husband teach these things to our daughter. Please continue with these everyday messages, I appreciate them.
@@TonyGaskins yes! LMAO! @ 22:05 I fell out! 😂😂😂 Nah, keep giving it to us just like that, straight no chaser! You can't sugarcoat with grown folks. Lol
Lord have mercy! I’m over here shouting, Preach Rev!! Women tell me all the time they have to give it up to keep a man. Yet they fall in love and the man fell in lust! Best phrase thus far. Thanks for all you do for us Tony. 🤗🙏🏽💯
Thank you Tony 🌟 Be Blessed.. This is now on point ..I remember when I was younger and would go out my aunt would always tell me to make sure I have money in my wallet (purse) to get home ...I never let people drop me off (?) in front of my door ...and if I never had a problem if I had to pay for my dinner....there are people who don't even believe I live alone because I do not invite them to my home... I saw some comments on a YT video where the women were saying that they were not going g to "help" the man by paying for dinner etc .. and I felt that they were totally missing the point ..and here you are explaining WHY women should want to be ok paying for dinner etc ...especially if you are dating ... I am a woman in my 50's now ..and these things still apply. ..
At this point, it’s just better to remain single. Too many games being played and too many hoops to jump thru just to TRY to be in a relationship with someone. Ain’t nobody got the time or emotional energy to deal with this nonsense.
@Deatrice Brown I see what you're saying... Sometimes I think they are being so lazy. I have had a couple ask me on dates via text & they never called and spoke to me.
Because they can text multiple women at once but actually picking up the phone requires their full attention on a conversation. If all he do is text he may be overly occupied. I see my brothers and co workers do it all the time. They texting two at once 🤦🏾♀️
I disagree about the dates. I won’t feel guilty if he asked me out. My time is precious and I’m worth a meal. If not I can take myself out to eat. It’s not that serious. A thank you kindly is all he will get. I’m not paying on no date. That defeats the purpose. And trust I won’t feel any shame. I’m too old for the bs
Man, real talk! Y’all women better listen to his words & listen CLEAR!! A man will always do what you allow. THANK YOU, for your wisdom & just being 100 with us..
Been there done that. Now I know better. At some point I felt like I sold my soul to the devil. When you know better you do better! Lesson Learned. Great Video!
you can get it back by repent that's Happened to me God set me free with a prayer of repentance. I ask God to disconnect me spiritually,emotionally and mentally. He did it for me.after I did that I received God power.remenber the devil come to still to kill and destroy..open your eyes and stay bless...
Tony ... man you so country .. but I respect you and I have learned a lot from you . I can’t afford the courses just yet but the fact that I can take nuggets from your video is priceless. Since implementing some of your techniques (setting boundaries) in my online meeting profile I don’t get as many dusties as i use to . Also when meeting I have offered to pay my own and I feel proud about it and gives me a sense of control in this dating thing. Now I am seeing someone who says things like us and we (referring me and him) when he talks about the future and his plans, as well literally wanna do things to make me happy. Takes genuine interest in me and the things I’m interested in. I feel like it’s authentic and may go somewhere however my boundaries and standards are still in tact . There’s absolutely no sex talk ( as with previous men which was an absolute turn off) . He talks and expresses his desire to not only date me and only me but to also court me . He drives to see me with no problem (an hour) . He’s physically to my liking and don’t have a gang of kids . He’s expressed through our conversations how knowledgeable I am ( I be quoting some of your advice in our conversations) Also Me: in my head (God let this be real and give me strength to keep my legs CLOSED) I’ll admit, it’s been a while since I’ve encountered a man like this . His character and actions sounds so promising to me however it’s been a while since I’ve been courted . So I don’t even know what that means to be exactly. To be continued....
I don't know you but I'm happy for and it gives me hope. You sound like a good woman that deserves to be treated well. I hope all continues to go well for you.
Tameeka Harris thank you it’s been a long time coming . I was really getting weary because of the culture of “having a man” just to have a man and the continued questions of oh, you don’t have a man yet ? It was hurtful because I wanted one but I did not want a man just to have a man if that makes sense . I want something of substance . I’m not seeking validation by having a man on my shoulder. Thanks again for reading
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 Yw and I totally get it I feel the exact same way, because once you're a women of a certain age ,people act as if something is wrong with because you don't have a man. Substance is a must and it's almost impossible to find but I haven't given up I'll just keep working on me .
With this last guy I was dating, I had boundaries/ standards in place.... however, he told me my standards were to high... 2 months later, he left and started dating someone else 😖🥺
I have never felt like I owed a man anything just because he took me out on a date. I am fully open to receiving from a man without a guilty conscience. I like him and he likes me, there’s nothing wrong with it.
A lot of generalizations about women. That’s the problem with men. Not all of us fit in ONE box. Blame it on the woman instead of men taking responsibility for their erroneous mindset and disrespectful actions.
Charlene Beasley I would agree to some degree . I feel as a general consensus, there isn’t enough education out there for men to teach them how to be men and fathers but there’s plenty of information for women from women and men on how to be a woman . I hate that it seems as though we need all this education when it’s men that should be willing to receive and give this information to each other to hold each other accountable and to lift their fellow brother up . But I’ll say men don’t like to be told what to do . 🤔😉
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 This is the realest comment on here. The biggest problem I noticed is these "pick-me-up" women who keep enabling these men. The sad part is they get disrespected too.
This is my favourite tony Gaskins video. The message of coming to the table like a boss and not being desperate is absolutely necessary. Learnt so much in this video.
Be blessed...take a breath family. Just breathe beloved sisters. Ones perception of the truth at times can take on the experience of a jagged pill YET we are The Blessed Tribe - Spiritually aligned - We got this...Thank you Mr Gaskins for providing truth and clarity. God bless
17:20 is on point I seen a post where this guy asked this lady out to eat and after eating he told her she need to pay her half which was $20 I instantly said she went on a date with the devil and that was Gods way of teaching her a lesson to choose wisely who you bless to be in your feminine presence
Yes Tony....this so true number game. So ladies do not depend on a man even if he throwing you a couple of dollars. If you’re able to provide for yourself, take care of home 🏡, not looking desperate, then you will definitely stay off your back. Some men don’t care about your feelings, some men are not in all that passionate love ❤️. Some men are about that pimping mind game. Stay focus, and pay attention to your surrounding. Be Blessed, Be Safe.
I'm totally for this message cause way too many women are obsessed with the hypergamous lifestyle I get it I do but do for yourself stand on your own That's the greatest lesson that was taught to me
I been stopped whining over situations that I have control over. When a man act like he too busy to call at a decent hr only at night I wont never answer than, watch how early the phone calls get lol
You did your service to women.. 79 is a good exhausting number. You're now in settle down mode. We appreciate you Tony. God continue to lead and Guide you... Keep teaching and leading
Its hard to think we can be marrying men who are actually forcing themselves to not cheat when theyd like to. Can make a gal feel like shes not really fully being loved by her own husband. That even tho the husband is all in he might still wish he could be with other women. Its scary. Its something Ive thought about cuz I was cheated on in marriage. So as much as Id like to remarry I sometimes ask myself 'Whats the point?'
Bless you so much. You helped me today. Healthy. Boundaries. Is just A great deal for everyone. I need no hand'z out from anyone. Every woman is not easy...
In our society today sexual intimacy is seen as an acceptable route to getting to know someone outside of marriage . People of all ages speak on having sex and being intimate as the norm not the exception. And women speak on it A LOT, “I need mines”, “I cannot go without it”. And I’m talking women my age(50+). Women are perceived as easy because we do not set good boundaries and advocate for ourselves early in relationships. This male dominate society is hard on women in sooo many ways, especially women of color. If you read statistics, we have better chances at being struck by lightning than a successful marriage. Tony reiterates daily the same message, no disrespect, LOVE YOURSELF AND FOLLOW GOD AND THE REST FALLS IN PLACE!!!!! Loving yourself is a BEAUTIFUL THANG!!!! And loving God is BEST!!!! Listen to this man, he tells truth, but we make excuses. Own and take responsibility for your actions or lack of actions, because often we keep dating/ marrying same person but name changes. Look inward!!!! Be blessed
I do love the keeping your legs closed though. Since my divorce I feel that’s easy. I also agree with meeting them for the date. It’s some crazy men out here for real
Ok . I need a little guidance with boundaries..like the basics. I'm nurturing & giving by nature. I work as a nurse so this side of me serves me well most times not so much when courting. I'm a little too soft/sweet so you're toughening me up ...thank you for that!!! The phone example was perfect, can give your Lil sis another 5. Ty TG. God bless you & yours.
My Dad always told me if I’m not interested in a man and I know the man is interested in me, don’t accept anything from him, not even a dinner.
Jill Berry I respectfully disagree with many of your points. But to each its own...
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So true...grow/fall into love first, get married, then give up the cookie. Ladies, sex should be the last thing you give to a man. He needs to earn it and your love first. Love yourself first, become healthy, healed, whole, confident, and be about your purpose. God will send that man to find you. There is nothing you have to do when God is is the mix, He is all knowing and doesn't need our help. Peace and blessings to you🙏
Yes yes and YES ! ☺
@@NikNik0123 Thanks!
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To the real women... when we close our legs and set strict boundaries...the male boy realizes..This ain't no loose bootie! So TRUE...Be Blessed!
Teresa Freeman -this ain't no loose bootie 😂😂😂!!! SOOO true indeed!!i let them initiate and observe them at the same time
“He fell in lust with you and you fell in desperation with him “
I bursted in tears 😂😂😂, Tony and his unintended jokes
It’s so true though 😞
So true. I did that. My biggest downfall ever.
So true.
There's a lot of damaged people walking around these days. Be careful in the dating game.
That's why I purchased a plant. It ain't broke my heart yet.
@@brianrenarddavis723 😭😭😭😭😭😭You right
@@mirandasmith8501 um serious these folk online talm bout they hurt. I know they is hurt.
Truth!
@@brianrenarddavis723 😂😂😂😂
2020 is the year I won’t be used anymore because I won’t be in a relationship. Instead I will be focusing on my goals.
that's the spirit girrl . you got to shut them ron possibles when they approach you . take care
Set firm boundaries ladies. Be Blessed !
If he thinks I am easy on first meeting me that is his problem, he cannot put me in the category with other women. That is such a turn off when men pre-judge women. Immature boys think this way.
Exactly!!!
Only players think women are easy the average man ain't getting ass like that.
Dasani605 yeah the average man is. I have male co workers who are average and they talk about how easy it is to get sex and to get it on the 1st date. Even when they tell the women that they are looking for more than just sex they say the women insist on having sex. I knew these men well and they were looking for a special woman so they weren’t players. Plus I can tell from my own dating experiences that men get sex easily. The last guy I dated and have known for 8 years told me I was the only woman that made him wait because usually he gets a woman in bed after about 1 week. I also have female co-workers that give up sex on the 1st meetup or within the 1st week of meeting a man.
@@dasani6055 Most of them are lying. You will go on a date with them and they will say you had sex with them.
@@lcjones4682 Some women are not looking for a relationship and show love by pleasing a man. It don't make them a hoe, they don't know any better. Birds that flock together stay together. It's like 10 women to 1 man. If all 10 women say no, let's date and maybe 3 or 5 dates, you can come over. Some men would change and maybe settle down because not all men will date every woman he meet or wait for sex.
We are living in a "hook up" culture, so most people (men and women) have no standards. It's time (been time) to reintroduce standards to our community.
Men are easier. All you got to do is be alive, say hello, and not smell too bad.
First Name Last Name right don’t even have to be a woman anymore these days . As long as you can get them off .
First Name Last Name 😩😩😂😂
chile, even if the smell is bad... they'll complain about the smell but AFTER the fact...lol
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Just have a hole..any kind 🙄
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 lol 🤣
"He's Flipped & Tossed You!" WOW!! Straight truth !!
Its that statement really true?
SET BOUNDARIES....
Amen! Thank you Tony!
Men won't think you are a loose booty if you:
1. Keep your legs closed
2. Set Strick Boundaries
3. Come to the Table Like a BOSS!
Be Blessed!🙏❤🦋
tony u the realest out here....i feel like i grow into a better woman each time u give me these advises
Same
Ditto
He throwing diamonds ‼️🌟🌟
Be blessed.🙏🏾
I started my purity walk 1 year and 5 months ago. The best thing I could’ve ever did.
ebonie shenece GOD BLESS YOU SIS!!! Hang in there when the times get tough. Trust GOD, pray much. Read your Bible. Submit yourself TOTALLY to GOD. He is the way, the truth and the light!!!! He will always sustain you. Remember GOD Strength is made perfect in your weakness!!!! Corinthians 12:7-10.
ebonie shenece I have not been sexually active for over 5 yrs. now!!!! TO GOD BE THE GLORY, for the great things he has done. I am a BORN AGAIN virgin. Praise JESUS, through his blood. I have had sex before so at times it can be trying to STAND here! However, but GOD he keeps and sustains me through it all!!! I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 yrs. and me and that man never had sex, never laid together, never came close, never saw each other exposed!!!! GLORY to GOD!!!!
I'm starting mine today!
Dania Morris GOD BLESS YOU!!! Pray much, read your Bible much. Totally submit yourself you body to GOD as a living sacrifice holy and pure!!!! GOD will take care of you. He will sustain you!!! Do not believe the lies of the devil. Stand on the word of GOD continue to STAND!!!!!
I've been celibate over 2 years, best thing ever. Too many STDs/ venereal diseases out here.
The "loose booty" comment took me over the edge!!! Tony you are hilarious!!! Thanks Big Bro!!!
I died 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m not ashamed to say that I have been this woman! I thank God that I have healed from past insecurities that have led me to be desperate. Thank you for this it was well needed 💪🏾🗣‼️
Funny how women are "easy" but men are "experienced" 🤔
The world we live in. Men are easier than women, but both can be easy and experienced.
Because women are supposed to be worked for and men are doing the work...
Exactly!
@Bridgee Bridge I've never met a woman that got mad at that lol
@Bridgee Bridge we like being pursued
It’s a sad state of humanity when men think it’s strange that another man is faithful to his wife .. And this is why Hell is continuing to fill up with these men and with the women they sleep with outside of marriage
Yep, a lot of men think just like this.
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Yoooooo my man gets played at work for being faithful to me cause every other dude at his job be smashing chicks on the job and go home to they girls but my dude too thurl for that he laughs at them cause it’s like wtf is the point of a relationship if that’s how y’all gonna run shit but that’s just how our world is
Most men treats relationships as if its a burden, married men IMO are the most thirsty, they act as if they are in bondage and needs to be freed. LOL. I'm very attractive, but abstinent for over 17 yrs. At this point I do feel hopeless, scared and will most likely die with cobwebs. It should not be this hard. I'm over it!
Tell a man upfront if you choose to date, you want to honour God and lay off sex, sexting, nudes etc and see if he stays.
Before you go on ANY date, ask how many women he has slept with. If he has a high body count, dont even bother seeing him.
Some lie but you will see from the way he conducts himself, also, these days, a lot of them dont feel the need to lie.
If you start by choosing quality men, you will eventually find a quality man.
What's important is you choose to honour GOD and HE will bless you.
He is a good father.
But will be 40 years old and worn out expecting to find a good, beautiful woman to marry once they have slowed down? They aim shit
@@ak-47intelligence75 Thank you!
Jill Berry THANK GOD... Somebody Knows! Bless You Miss🙏🏽
same
Yes bro you right alot men get enough of women after having sex 11 time. When I was playing in the field and operating from my brokenness got enough of a women after had sex one time and move to the next women. But that's why come your page get knowledge and approve so I can become and be a better man daily. And got couple of course to.Allot facts in what you say.
Wow a men finally admits he has brokenness. Jesus must be on his way back
@@Ulzannghome Yes that was how who use to be. Yeah Jesus must be coming back sooner then we think lol. Alot people cant admit when was living or where they went wrong. But only get better is to admit where you were at so you can know where your heading to . So look back and see where you been
Thank you for being honest
Close my legs
Set boundaries (strong boundaries)💪💪💪💪💪
Pay for my own meal but if he insist I am not going to feel guilty of not giving up my virtue (No cookies) at allllllll🍷🥗🥘
And drive my own car🚘🚘🚘🚗
And sleep in my own bed 🛏🛏🛏
GOT IT!!!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗😘
YESSSSSSSSS
Thank you!
Bad advice about a woman paying for a date. Women dont pay for a dates sir. I dont feel guilty at all.
Close legs, set boundaries, but dont pay for a date.
@@myramilton1833 Tony isn't saying pay for a date you're invited to. Just offer to show your independence because typically the man will say no anyway.
He done flipped ya and tossed ya...👋🏾✋🏾🤚🏾👋🏾 You flipped and tossed 😂😂😂
TiffanyB TV lol
Good word as always ! Young ladies please listen to this man 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
#BlessedFam
Whew. Needed all of this. Boundaries are so important.
Ladies let keep God first spend time with God and yourselves forgive yourselves and continue to learn, heal, grow and make better good positive changes. Come to the table with your standards and boundaries like a boss and if he dont like it tell him good bye dont waste your time. Every men is not worth our time and body keep legs close wait until you ready for the right man God has for you. Dont allow no one to disrespect you and dont disrespect yourselves. Dont ignore the red flags its for a reason pay attention. Stay focus on your values, worth, goals and dreams. Tony you right thank you always keeping it real i needed this. We need to hear the real truth.God will always show us who people really are. God bless all.😁👏👍
Yes and Amen!! I get it now my mind is being prepared and I am equipped. I'm so done with being mishandled.
Yes indeed. I notice the comments (right comments) that mention God first and God as the lead has the least thumbs up. It's no wonder so many women are having trouble, and they will keep, until they understand God comes first and then the blessings/real men.
😘😘😘😘😘😘😘true true.
Who else is cracking up at this "lil book of names" 😩😂😂😂 Wow, men are pettier than I thought smh..
I didn’t realize my approach to dating was completely off 🤦🏽♀️
This channel is the right place for me to be. Boss moves all 2020 🙌🏽
Thank you for your support, and for being a member of the Blessed Tribe! #BlessedFam
A man becomes a MAN when he is submitted to Christ. And knowing Christ is what can keep him submitted to one woman. No man is worth having until he knows Christ.
Funny thing is, years ago I told "friends" I'm good all by myself and they saw I live up to it and they tried to ridicule me (could I be a lesbian....ahhh NO!)
NOW, they're looking at me in a different light because I'm not ran thru, worn out and men know my history of not being a jump off, being easy and I get that respect from men that they really dont get.
Everytime you say “desperate” I see a woman falling down to the floor in my mind😂😂😂🙄
Lol! #BlessedFam
Lollll
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For real!!
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I see no lies here. All the way on point. I'm listen one mo gen.
Me too
Tammara Mencias ABSOLUTELY no lies. The man is helping us women grow up!
You are definitely speaking truth! We have to understand that we have the power to control where the relationship goes! Thanks Tony! Always good knowledge!
Flipped and tossed ya! 😂😂😂😂
This man have me dying over here 😂😂😂😂. All this wisdom mixed in with humor.
You are helping me Tony.
He had me dyin wit them hand motions tho 😂
Just before that he was talking when they come together and he was doing the eyebrows...lol luv it.
Me too... too funny!
MAN Tony Gaskins! Hands down the realest man I know! Super funny!
"that 11th TIME"
LOL HAHAHAHA
Funny but hes telln the truth..he knows..been there done that he said..
I hollered when he said that. It's TRUE! But some dont make #11 they already gone. Lol
This message is so powerful. Anyone who loves the truth will respect this message. I will be sure that me and my husband teach these things to our daughter. Please continue with these everyday messages, I appreciate them.
That accent thick! "You was in them sheets, you was on yo byke" 😂😂😂 Be blessed 💫
Yup, Tony, me and Plies 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@lerhondajones-bates3324 😂
Lol! That’s how I said it? Lol. I gotta do better.
@@TonyGaskins yes! LMAO! @ 22:05 I fell out! 😂😂😂 Nah, keep giving it to us just like that, straight no chaser! You can't sugarcoat with grown folks. Lol
Wisdom and comedy 🤣🤣🤣
GIRL! Lmbo!!!
BrookeElise81 😆
For real girl!!!!😂
Wow! Tony you are sent from the Most High to correct this Generation of Men and Women. Blessings.
Be blessed! This was so for me today, not the easy part but the okayness of putting him off while I take care of my business. Got me in tears.
Lord have mercy! I’m over here shouting, Preach Rev!! Women tell me all the time they have to give it up to keep a man. Yet they fall in love and the man fell in lust! Best phrase thus far. Thanks for all you do for us Tony. 🤗🙏🏽💯
Thank you Tony 🌟
Be Blessed.. This is now on point ..I remember when I was younger and would go out my aunt would always tell me to make sure I have money in my wallet (purse) to get home ...I never let people drop me off (?) in front of my door ...and if I never had a problem if I had to pay for my dinner....there are people who don't even believe I live alone because I do not invite them to my home...
I saw some comments on a YT video where the women were saying that they were not going g to "help" the man by paying for dinner etc .. and I felt that they were totally missing the point ..and here you are explaining WHY women should want to be ok paying for dinner etc ...especially if you are dating ... I am a woman in my 50's now ..and these things still apply. ..
My lunch time lesson is on!! Be blessed
I come to the table like a Boss! I love that!
At this point, it’s just better to remain single. Too many games being played and too many hoops to jump thru just to TRY to be in a relationship with someone. Ain’t nobody got the time or emotional energy to deal with this nonsense.
Speak on that !!Needy women aren't boss ready and are being use
How to get men to call you? Literally every man wants to text these days. Every one of them.
Say you can’t read. 😂💀
@@mesidye 😂😂
@Deatrice Brown I see what you're saying... Sometimes I think they are being so lazy. I have had a couple ask me on dates via text & they never called and spoke to me.
I agree what is up w just texting… its out of control.. i want to hear your voice sometimes Smh
Because they can text multiple women at once but actually picking up the phone requires their full attention on a conversation. If all he do is text he may be overly occupied. I see my brothers and co workers do it all the time. They texting two at once 🤦🏾♀️
Tony, you are the big brother I never had! Thanks so much for all you share with us! I appreciate it!!
I approve this message! 🏆 Set boundaries. 🙌🏽
THIS TEACHING RIGHT HERE!!!! JESUSSSSS!!! Thank God for DELIVERANCE!!! This really blessed me because your definitely telling the truth!
I disagree about the dates. I won’t feel guilty if he asked me out. My time is precious and I’m worth a meal. If not I can take myself out to eat. It’s not that serious. A thank you kindly is all he will get. I’m not paying on no date. That defeats the purpose. And trust I won’t feel any shame. I’m too old for the bs
Word.
Do you!
Yep. Any man I date would be super offended if I even offered. He got my time. We’re good. 🥰
Man, real talk! Y’all women better listen to his words & listen CLEAR!! A man will always do what you allow. THANK YOU, for your wisdom & just being 100 with us..
Been there done that. Now I know better. At some point I felt like I sold my soul to the devil. When you know better you do better! Lesson Learned. Great Video!
you can get it back by repent that's Happened to me God set me free with a prayer of repentance. I ask God to disconnect me spiritually,emotionally and mentally. He did it for me.after I did that I received God power.remenber the devil come to still to kill and destroy..open your eyes and stay bless...
I feel like that to but god is going to forgive me i 🙏 that i dont get discouraged no more .
The flipping and tossing hand movements are hilarious
Good Job👑King. You give hope to the righteous Men out here, it’s not many of us left.
J Dilla Facts it’s slime pickings out here
Thanks bro! Keep pressing! Thanks for being a member of the blessed tribe!!
This is a conversation I wish my father had with me 😩💯 be blessed
Tony ... man you so country .. but I respect you and I have learned a lot from you . I can’t afford the courses just yet but the fact that I can take nuggets from your video is priceless.
Since implementing some of your techniques (setting boundaries) in my online meeting profile I don’t get as many dusties as i use to . Also when meeting I have offered to pay my own and I feel proud about it and gives me a sense of control in this dating thing.
Now I am seeing someone who says things like us and we (referring me and him) when he talks about the future and his plans, as well literally wanna do things to make me happy. Takes genuine interest in me and the things I’m interested in. I feel like it’s authentic and may go somewhere however my boundaries and standards are still in tact . There’s absolutely no sex talk ( as with previous men which was an absolute turn off) . He talks and expresses his desire to not only date me and only me but to also court me . He drives to see me with no problem (an hour) . He’s physically to my liking and don’t have a gang of kids .
He’s expressed through our conversations how knowledgeable I am ( I be quoting some of your advice in our conversations)
Also Me: in my head (God let this be real and give me strength to keep my legs CLOSED)
I’ll admit, it’s been a while since I’ve encountered a man like this . His character and actions sounds so promising to me however it’s been a while since I’ve been courted .
So I don’t even know what that means to be exactly.
To be continued....
I don't know you but I'm happy for and it gives me hope. You sound like a good woman that deserves to be treated well. I hope all continues to go well for you.
Tameeka Harris thank you it’s been a long time coming .
I was really getting weary because of the culture of “having a man” just to have a man and the continued questions of oh, you don’t have a man yet ? It was hurtful because I wanted one but I did not want a man just to have a man if that makes sense . I want something of substance . I’m not seeking validation by having a man on my shoulder.
Thanks again for reading
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 Yw and I totally get it I feel the exact same way, because once you're a women of a certain age ,people act as if something is wrong with because you don't have a man. Substance is a must and it's almost impossible to find but I haven't given up I'll just keep working on me .
I'm here and I HEAR& I AM LISTENING TONY 100% REAL!!!
No disrepect to your Wife,
You have the most sparkling eye's.
Its that holy spirit!
2020 the year of keeping your legs closed
With this last guy I was dating, I had boundaries/ standards in place.... however, he told me my standards were to high... 2 months later, he left and started dating someone else 😖🥺
Love 23Amazed right 😂
Which is a compliment that you have high standards. He needed a woman with loose booty 😂. He’ll be back wanting a woman with standards.
Love 23Amazed
Or he will move to the next women.
*sleeping with someone else. They weren’t looking for anything serious!
Been there ! Be blessed! I truly needed to hear this. Thank you for the revelation. God bless
Same, never again though.
You gone court me until marriage and I don’t owe you a got damm thang period!!!
Thanks Tony...you are my very smart nephew in my head!!! Keep up the good work may you and Mrs. Gaskins have an amazing New Year 2020.
This man is telling the truth.Listen to him.Don't sleep with people.
I have never felt like I owed a man anything just because he took me out on a date. I am fully open to receiving from a man without a guilty conscience. I like him and he likes me, there’s nothing wrong with it.
My thoughts exactly. I never feel guilty and I'm ALWAYS open to receive things.
I need this mindset, I tend to want to give back. Not with intimacy however.
A lot of generalizations about women. That’s the problem with men. Not all of us fit in ONE box. Blame it on the woman instead of men taking responsibility for their erroneous mindset and disrespectful actions.
Charlene Beasley I would agree to some degree . I feel as a general consensus, there isn’t enough education out there for men to teach them how to be men and fathers but there’s plenty of information for women from women and men on how to be a woman .
I hate that it seems as though we need all this education when it’s men that should be willing to receive and give this information to each other to hold each other accountable and to lift their fellow brother up . But I’ll say men don’t like to be told what to do . 🤔😉
@@beauphomasterpiece3795 This is the realest comment on here. The biggest problem I noticed is these "pick-me-up" women who keep enabling these men. The sad part is they get disrespected too.
This is my favourite tony Gaskins video. The message of coming to the table like a boss and not being desperate is absolutely necessary. Learnt so much in this video.
Be blessed...take a breath family. Just breathe beloved sisters. Ones perception of the truth at times can take on the experience of a jagged pill YET we are The Blessed Tribe - Spiritually aligned - We got this...Thank you Mr Gaskins for providing truth and clarity. God bless
Bless you!! #BlessedTribe
17:20 is on point I seen a post where this guy asked this lady out to eat and after eating he told her she need to pay her half which was $20 I instantly said she went on a date with the devil and that was Gods way of teaching her a lesson to choose wisely who you bless to be in your feminine presence
Tony you saved me from so much nonsense. Red flags all over the place. 🙏🏼
Yes Tony....this so true number game. So ladies do not depend on a man even if he throwing you a couple of dollars. If you’re able to provide for yourself, take care of home 🏡, not looking desperate, then you will definitely stay off your back. Some men don’t care about your feelings, some men are not in all that passionate love ❤️. Some men are about that pimping mind game. Stay focus, and pay attention to your surrounding. Be Blessed, Be Safe.
I’m grateful for your effort in posting all these videos
Tony Gaskins, your messages is nothing but the truth, I love listening in on u tube, I like you Tony Gaskins . God bless you truly I appreciate it.
I'm totally for this message cause way too many women are obsessed with the hypergamous lifestyle I get it I do but do for yourself stand on your own That's the greatest lesson that was taught to me
I been stopped whining over situations that I have control over. When a man act like he too busy to call at a decent hr only at night I wont never answer than, watch how early the phone calls get lol
You did your service to women.. 79 is a good exhausting number. You're now in settle down mode. We appreciate you Tony. God continue to lead and Guide you... Keep teaching and leading
I like that come to the table whole as a woman, don't come with a weak position that's good Tony Gaskins, we as women need to be whole and complete.
Thank you Tony... again a great message! PS I am a supporter of your ministry keep on keeping on brother!
Its hard to think we can be marrying men who are actually forcing themselves to not cheat when theyd like to. Can make a gal feel like shes not really fully being loved by her own husband. That even tho the husband is all in he might still wish he could be with other women. Its scary. Its something Ive thought about cuz I was cheated on in marriage. So as much as Id like to remarry I sometimes ask myself 'Whats the point?'
@gorgeous nene Lord help us cuz its cold out there lol
Ladies We have to pass this information on to our daughters too!! Thanks & God bless you Tony Gaskins!!
Be Blessed !🥰 Boundaries are a must !! This video is 💯in everything your saying . Your 😂 so funny though the way you say things !
Be blessed! Thank you this is the truth. Tony you are a true gem.
#BlessedTribe
So good, preach Bro. Tony!!
Thank you for this powerful information!
Knowledge is power, I am so very grateful for your videos and to say I am learning a lot is an understatement. Thank you so much
Bless you so much.
You helped me today.
Healthy. Boundaries. Is just
A great deal for everyone. I need no hand'z out from anyone.
Every woman is not easy...
thankyou so much tony, you’ve helped me grow so much and i feel ready to apply your teachings into 2020🙏🏽
The Aunty story brought the message home for me!
Come on Tony... keep your legs closed... respect... power. 👏👏👑
Any woman who gives her body up for a 20.00 lunch. She is the problem period
My. God. This. Is. One. Of. Your. Best. Teaching. Video's Ever. Thank. You. For. Your. Wisdom.
In our society today sexual intimacy is seen as an acceptable route to getting to know someone outside of marriage . People of all ages speak on having sex and being intimate as the norm not the exception. And women speak on it A LOT, “I need mines”, “I cannot go without it”. And I’m talking women my age(50+). Women are perceived as easy because we do not set good boundaries and advocate for ourselves early in relationships. This male dominate society is hard on women in sooo many ways, especially women of color. If you read statistics, we have better chances at being struck by lightning than a successful marriage. Tony reiterates daily the same message, no disrespect, LOVE YOURSELF AND FOLLOW GOD AND THE REST FALLS IN PLACE!!!!! Loving yourself is a BEAUTIFUL THANG!!!! And loving God is BEST!!!! Listen to this man, he tells truth, but we make excuses. Own and take responsibility for your actions or lack of actions, because often we keep dating/ marrying same person but name changes. Look inward!!!! Be blessed
I do love the keeping your legs closed though. Since my divorce I feel that’s easy. I also agree with meeting them for the date. It’s some crazy men out here for real
Preach!!!! Wow. This is so true.
Real talk good job Tony .
Ok . I need a little guidance with boundaries..like the basics. I'm nurturing & giving by nature. I work as a nurse so this side of me serves me well most times not so much when courting. I'm a little too soft/sweet so you're toughening me up ...thank you for that!!! The phone example was perfect, can give your Lil sis another 5. Ty TG. God bless you & yours.
Pastor Gaskins you done preach. Oml. Things gone change in 2020. F that!
Mista! fixing to come for them draws 🤔😂😂😂♥️