My identity crisis has a first name: Stephanie Vicente at TEDxElginSt
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2024
- Stephanie Vicente began writing at the age of five when her mother gave her her first diary. She could only write a handful of words and would spell them phonetically. She wrote personal and honest entries until the age of thirteen, when she began her struggle with mental illness. At that point, Stephanie began to write dark poetry, existential essays, and creative short fiction. After graduating from university, she worked in the film and television industry, where she was met with long hours and no time to write, all the while suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. A few years into her career in film and tv, Stephanie realized she hadn't been writing as often and was truly struggling with her own identity. She left film and tv to maintain her sanity and reunite herself with the written word once again. A hobby that she considered therapeutic for years would become her career goal and passion. Now, as Editor-in-Chief and Co-Founder of Herd Magazine, Stephanie aims to use this passion to better the creative community in Ottawa and bring all corners of arts and culture together.
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As having BPD, we tend to be chamleons. it takes so much therapy to find out who we are. it's so alien to us. Recovery is worth it!
I've got a friend dealing with BPD, but she's making a very promising recovery. It's tough, not always straightforward, a long-term process and requires a lot of patience on her part. But she's achieved so much purely by her own willpower, her endearing stubbornness to not give up, all in a relatively short time, that I'm deeply impressed. She's a fighter, not a quitter. Coupled with her intelligence and kind heart, it's part of why I love her (platonically).
Both her and me can honestly say to anyone suffering from BPD, but doubting anything could change: Please seek help, seek adequate forms of therapy (it can be very individual), and if necessary, also some medication. As you say, Redqueen, recovery is worth it. And in the case of BPD, it's actually highly probable. The majority of sufferers improve by middle-age, and if one starts therapy early, he or she can free themselves of most BPD issues in 10, at most 20 years time. I've even heard of cases, when BPD sufferers recovered after just a few years, even under five. Like this whole emotional disorder and its healing methods, the recovery rate can be really individual. Recovery is indeed worth it, entirely so.
I have no/low sense of self either. But am not A BPD. Have consulted through psychiatrist she said I don't have BPD. Now, she's performing CBT on me. Will it help to regain it ? . Can I regain my sense of self ? One thing's for sure, I do not have BPD but low/no sense of self. All symptoms doesn't match. It's not necessary to have BPD if you have low/no sense of self . Will it help? Please reply man. I know how it feels. Please reply. Lots of love.Btw my age is 20 now. Will be 21 on 9DEC 2020.
@@sauravgupta4103 you need 5/9 traits to be diagnosed but you could have up to 4/5 without diagnosis
Cbt can potentially work though DBT aka dialectical behavioral therapy is the most commonly recommended for bpd
America's diagnostic laws are weird but psychiatrists tend to be better trained but they may lean more towards medicinally treatable conditions
Talk to the professional honestly about any concerns and questions you have and if you don't feel comfortable with that maybe that discomfort would actually be a good talking point to start with
@@sauravgupta4103 I hope that helps
Wow. I need to dig in because I don't feel at 53 that I know myself well
I'm happy to see BPD having more talk around it! we need people to talk about this desperately....I've met too many people with BPD who feel so so alone, because depression and anxiety are more socially acceptable to discuss :/
Exactly and it still seems to be like this unfortunately
I agree with her statement, "no help if you want to live and get better; only crisis management."
Thank you for sharing! I too suffer from the lived experience of BPD and I am just beginning to work things out through therapy. I drink these stories (of other people with the disorder) up like water. So soothing to know I am not alone. You inspire me. Thanks for being so brave.
Therapy had helped me a lot. It took time and it was not easy, but I'm finally starting to fight back against bpd. Don't give up!
Heather and José, good luck to both of you. As José correctly states, BPD is entirely treatable. It's a long-term process, but not forever. Therapy is key. Don't be afraid of it, "go for it", as they say. Best wishes. :-)
Thank you for sharing this! I've been recently diagnosed with BPD so it restores a lot of hope in me to see such a successful woman holding herself together after going through what I'm currently going through, and that my illness will not deter me from my goals if I keep going with my treatment ♥️
Is there a cure? I keep thinking that true love will heal it , but I can't experience true love when everyone avoids me for being so emotional or talkative or hurtful or negative. I have been successful in my life, it doesn't make me less empathetic or smart, but just now, by doing therapy and doing something outside my box, and working with people in health care, is helping overcome this trauma or negative or denying sense of self. I am rebuilding it. It's what I should have done long ago, but suffered. Even now my therapists are not treating me for bpd, but trauma. I never been diagnosed because I am up to pursuing education and not suicidal. But I constantly have to keep myself in check. The struggle is real when you try hard to act normal but inside is like fire.
I think unconditional love is the cure. Before i got a dog, my bpd was really bad. Now, even though I still suffer a lot, my dogs help me feel loved and my suicidal thoughts arent as frequent. When i do think about suicide, I always think of my dogs and how they need me. Sometimes I do think theyd be better off without me, but I love them so much I could never do to them what I fear the most, which is to abandon them.
i’ve experienced unconditional love as someone with bpd and as i can’t simply escape my symptoms, i was overwhelmed with paranoia, fear of abandonment, and feelings of being unworthy the entire time. as nice of an idea as love cures all is, the best way to treat bpd is through cognitive behavioral therapy. having support from others plays a key role in recovery but it isn’t the Cure.
There is not.
I'd say yes, true love, but self-love.
There is..
Manage less than 5 of the 9 symptoms,
You will then not be bpd.
The less symptoms the better.
You're such an inspiration. You give me me bit of hope in what seems to be a life sentence with this issue. I need people like you around me, who can understand.
J. P., nowadays, it's not a life sentence. Recovery rates, while individual, are very good. It's not an issue you need to be saddled with for your whole life. But the sooner you seek good, experienced therapists for it, the better.
I believe I’ve always had BPD, or at least developed it at an young age.
Now, my emotions are all over the place..I react inwards so many see me as very cold.
Facial expressions isn’t my strongest side, which means, I’m not really “talk appeal”. Alone. I’ve gotten used to it, so it doesn’t hurt me like it used to do. I don’t feel like I exist, honestly haven’t for a very very long time. Everything feels like a dream, and I’m just floating, through the crowd of people, browsing the stores and smoking cigarettes. Transparent to the world, I do what I love. I’m happy.
I’m going through this now. Time means nothing to me which is really weird I’ll look at the clock and think well another day has gone by or where did the time go? It’s awful. People see me as happy or angry.
Can I ask why this does not have as many views as the other Ted videos?
It deserves all the credit it can get it is very hard to come out like this.
Because she doesn't actually have BPD but just wants clicks
I’m so glad I found this
Thank you for talking about this. It inspired me, as I meet the criteria of BPD. Just knowing you aren’t alone, feeling that shared humanity, is so profoundly important.
You're not alone ! Thank you for talking about this :) and showing you're success ! Xx
Thanks for sharing, Stephanie ❤
This is my narrative...from diary at 5 to the film. Industry and meds.. Thankyou 💙 I'm 41 now and my daughter is struggling at 16 ❤️
Honestly I can't express the healing you create 💙
BPD a mazel tov cocktail inside your brain. Have it, hate it.
so powerful. thank you.
Having BPD, BP 2 and RAD, I suffered for so many years because I was taking Anti-depressants and they wrecked my life and stole everything while I was a narcissistic zombie...It's harder now that I have to live in reality, but I really have a handle on myself and who I am. God and my self awareness are key to survival. Maybe they help others, but I tell everyone I know to stay away from medications for these disorders. I was high functioning, family, masters degree, way up there in management and then I threw it all away - including my marriage. It takes work every day to rebuild my life and not be tempted by old demons - I will never go back on medications. 2 years free after having poison pumped in me by docs for 23 years.
I have BPD and I’m so happy to see it talked about on TED talks!
Super strong young lady she has become good for her !
Good for her.
Thanks for your talk
I just want to get better ...😔
She's inspiring !
Im thinking that this explains alot of what i have went through since i was a child. I wish as a child this was more recognized. At 37 i feel like a scolded child always alone and afraid.
I wish I knew other BPDS in Ottawa. It would be nice to have a support group.
I don't know where one at either but I find support groups online such as facebook some of them are nice to be apart of
Wow! Love this so much!
Wish i could overcome this :(
Ottawa is still a dead zone for helpful resources. If you do find some the waitlist is like months or years.
good points
I am moving through the same symptoms 4 years till now :(
Strangely I started having severe anxiety right around 19 as well. I have bpd.
same shit, but my anxiety attacks dont let me breathe , make me feel nauseous... last between 30 min to hours and they still here.
started my anxiety attacks when i was like 18, have bpd too
same bdp was diagnosed before but my anxiety started getting worse around 18...
I lived with bpd for many years without knowing it. It wasn't until I begin having therapy that I got aware of this pathology. It is so stressing and scary. Not knowing how to fit in society. Thinking that your ideas won't help anyone in any way. The ambiguity of a most likely sad future. Fortunately, I am now able to do something against my bpd. It's not easy. Anxiety still attacks me. But at least I can fight back now.
Cheekysheiky same!
I live in Ottawa, and I've never found a psychiatrist who sees people more than once a month. Where did she find this person???
Heya!
So what happened was I asked my family doctor to refer me to someone if she had any other patients that might have a psychiatrist. Honestly, it was probably just luck and timing. :(
But my psychiatrist is really great and he not only sees me as often as I need him to, but he does talk therapy as well (which is rare for a psychiatrist).
Was this the outpatient day program at the civic hospital? I'm in this program right now and I have BPD too.
Good work, Stephanie ! :-) (Sorry for the direct adress, just leaving this here as a general note.)
I agree 100 % that too much mutual exclusivity is becoming the bane of modern civic society. We keep retreating into our own pockets and clicques and then people just distance themselves from each other, and the coldness in society grows. It's even worse for people with mental issues, because they then feel they need to stay in their communities and no one will pay attention to them. And it's not just a Canadian problem, at all. In my own country, I'm planning a project to get people communicating again, rather than just retreat into a particular community and shut themselves off, because that's the easier thing to do. I know it won't be easy, but then, I've had a good friend with BPD, not unlike your case, and that friend has used her experiences for good and is now working in both art and mental health activism. She still has it tough, but she's recovering well, all things considered, and her successes in activism are a joy to behold. Very inspirational, just like you and many others.
Best of luck to you in continuing to improve your situation with BPD, as well as with the cultural efforts in the capital. Every little good development counts and is meaningful.
Wasn't it nice when Ted Talks actually meant something and were by reputable sources who actually educate and "enlighten"? This is NOT borderline personality disorder.
Relatable.
Nice surprise. Hearing the success of a younger person and positivity. Thanks "adopted" niece. I like "nut case" as use full banter.
I have bpd. I struggle a lot with not being attached to life. I constantly ask myself "who am i?", "why am I here?"
I think, she Should've received more stronger applause.... Wonderful Insights👍
this is literally my exact experience with anxiety disorder, i dont know who i am
i probably do have bpd
@@care736 get help. DBT is my next stop.
i used to have ativan1mg for 1 month worste medicine i ever had 2 weeks of half a mg i feel you i also take salipax i used to take zoloft 100mg
Being a tennager I can't even go to counsellor
Is it normal for guys to have Bpd? I was diagnosed with this two years back. Man it sucks.
Yes. Completely normal although it's reported in girls more than guys which could be down to the fact guys don't always reach out.
Yes. Men underreport because anger is socially accepted in men and strong emotional expressiveness is not. Symptoms can be more commonly dismissed by the self or others. It's a huge problem. Take care 🌙
Who else thinks they’re borderline but all they are missing is a diagnosis??
Morgan Cunningham keep trying. Don’t stop searching for one
Proud of you. BPD symptoms are hard for patients to accept because of the stigma surrounding the disorder. You're already doing so much good for yourself.
Is she saying "Involvement with Community or something GREATER than yourself" ???
Mine is so complicated and therapy is a luxury i cant afford
Oh I’m on ativan
the 2nd pic is better than the first
Look at her Edie Sedgwick earrings
WTF why do people prescribe adavan?
Ativan?
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Funny, but come on, that wasn’t necessary man
As a man who was physically and mentally abused by a female bpd sufferer all I can say to u is get help if u have bpd and if u are dating someone who has it run away as far as u can now.
Amen
Yo it's totally fine that you got away from someone abusing you like, congrats, but it's not good or healthy to group all people with bpd together. Everyone deserves love.
Ok, crybaby
this girl need a man who love her unconditionaly
Amar Zakwan
You dont understand borderlines they damage anything or anybody good.
Unstable relationships is a criteria for bpd.
Yep I've been there with my first love who I met up with again after over 30 years! I tried so hard but eventually it would have burned me out. I hope that she can find peace. I feel I have also damaged her as I was her favourite person and I discarded her in the end as I previously had all those years ago!
Amar Zakwan no don't romantacize this please
Mic Lemos I'm not trying to romanticise it's as it was bit yes I agree. These people will destroy you as well as themselves eventually that's why I walked away. She was a quiet borderline bit I'm waiting for the hoover and stalking.
Umm I was replying to the first comment. N these ppl really? I suffer from BPD. N ya it's absolutely your choice. So welp