Lessons from the Mental Hospital | Glennon Doyle Melton | TEDxTraverseCity
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- Опубликовано: 22 апр 2024
- Glennon Doyle Melton is the author of the New York Times Bestseller, CARRY ON, WARRIOR, founder of www.momastery.com, and creator of www.monkeeseemonkeedo.org. Glennon believes that life is equal parts beautiful and brutal, and writes about the "brutiful" she finds in marriage, motherhood, faith, addiction and recovery. Glennon unleashes her wit, courage and irreverence to call us to accept ourselves exactly as we are today, but also incidentally inspires us to live bolder, more meaningful lives for others. Glennon is a speaker and regular contributor to Huffington Post and other publications. CARRY ON, WARRIOR and Glennon's philanthropic work have been featured on The TODAY Show, The Talk, Ladies' Home Journal, Parents Magazine, and American Baby, among other television and print outlets. She lives in Naples, Florida with her family.
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I wish when people ask "How are you?"... that they really wanted to hear the truth.
Move to my country (Finland) :D We really want to hear the truth to that question, and we tell the truth. But we ask it only from people we know, we don't do small talk..
Foreigners don't expect that when they first ask it, so soon they learn to not ask, or to actually listen what the other person has to say :D
sky blue oh my god i want to move to finland. i hate small talk and my parents would like the good education aspect ;)
cecilia will brb she's at her kitchen sink Perfect, welcome! :D
Lauren Hayes Same here, girl, same here. all we can do is be what we want to see around us.
Lauren Hayes I know right
I love when people ask me how I'm doing. I never say "fine." I tell the truth. And it horrifies people. And I love it. If you don't want to know the answer, don't ask the question. Makes people think about their societal norms a little, and about the words that are coming out of their mouths. Everyone could use a little more self-awareness in this society.
I do this but heard the phrase “trauma dumping”, made me fear I was doing that to people but I can’t do small talk or lie about myself 🤷♀️
Well said, however they are just politely asking. Not really asking. I watched a great interview with Les Brown in Impact Theory. He said, if you are struggling, 80 % of people don't care, and 20 % are glad it's not them 😂 Us real people are in the minority. Although the good news, it's changing. Stay blessed.
@@Thefunksoulbro I understand that they aren't really asking. Which means they shouldn't actually ask. I just help them realize that. LOL
@@SilverFlame819 Ohh how real of you 😂😂
I don't ask people how they are. Because the odds are they will tell me a lie.
I prefer to not shame people. So they will be themselves and show me how they feel.
I wish that schools taught classes about how to keep a friend, how to listen, how to love, how to tell the truth, etc. In school acting is a matter of survival. It’s very hard to be accepted if you are vulnerable and just yourself.
Emi Bethers totally agree even more so in this day/age
Interesting because sometimes you have to act like you are ok so that you do not get put on more medication. You have to be very careful and selective as to who you share your heart with because it is very easy to be misunderstood in an upside down broken world of pretenders or people who think they have all the answers and know exactly what you need. I am very thankful that I learned the Joy of leaning on God and believing that I could fully rely on Him. I know that God healed my heart and continues to heal my heart and that because He healed me and set me free that He can do the same for others going through the royal bumps.
With GOD I can be TENDERHEARTED and TOUGH, "Totally Operational Under Great Heartship". I praise GOD because with the help of the HOLY SPIRIT I am 29 years completely drug free and healthier and happier than I ever was on medication. I did alot of research on mental illness and that helped me to be drug free as well.
ROBERT WHITAKER a science journalist who did extensive research on mental illness wrote 2 books.
* Anatomy of an Epidemic
* Mad in America
He has some excellent lectures on utube.
Yes I to can say that I learned lessons in the psychiatric ward in the hospital that I value and have a bigger heart for those who suffer with mental illness who are often thought of as CRAZY.
I remember a Psychiatist saying,
WHEN I SAY CRAZY I SAY IT COMPASSIONATELY.
I AM GLAD I LISTENED TO THIS LECTURE BECAUSE IT HELPED ME REALIZE THAT THE MENTAL HOSPITAL CAN ALSO BE A PLACE TO FIND HEALING AND HOPE ESPECIALLY WHEN GOD IS A PART OF THE HEALING PROCESS.
GOD HEALED ME FROM THE INSIDE OUT AND I GIVE HIM ALL THE CREDIT.
Yes the more we all are able to realize that we are All Love the easier it will become. We don't need to be loved, we are love. We have been kept from knowing this ultimate truth, even from the church. God love you
In my school they do it but it's two weeks of very bad information and they chose teachers who are judgy and use there own opinion. They tell us lies and dont properly educate us on mental health and how to deal with problems. They just go past what it is being sad and that's about it. They dont get in detail and it pisses me off because I wanna tell the teacher to stop judging and lying
That’s what family is suppose to be for.
This should be required viewing in all 5th grade classes. and again every year till graduation from college.
I'm not fine today. (thanks for helping me feel like I had permission to say that.)
For what it's worth, you've survived whether unscathed or hurt, 100% of the challenges in your life so far and made it through. You can tackle tomorrow. :)
+TheJust4lolz You too ;) even if you didn't need me saying that
How are you today? :)
how are you now?
yeah me neither i feel like a complete turd.
Omg this lady is just amazing. She was made to speak. I could see through alot of this she had to take big breaths and get through the anxiety but omg she spoke with humility, humour, truth and strength. So amazing. Well done.
+Sarah Delaney She spoke beautifully through it all.
Sarah, I noticed the same thing. She is a wonderful speaker. She makes you want to listen to her.
Agreed. 😊
Oh Gosh; I am loving this woman right now t00!
wow
hearing that the sun is waiting for me, made me burst into tears. one day I'll be out there to greet the sun
Hoping that day has come, or is coming soon ♥️ either way, it’s coming ☀️
Get up and go outside! Hoping and praying you find your strength. Let the past go. You are not there anymore. Life is hard. But you are more than able! You are enough!!
I’ve been there before for a long time and sometimes It gets really cloudy , let me tell you when you are out of it you are so very grateful to life we just feel too much and way stronger
"I'm not afraid of my feelings anymore. I know they can come and they won't kill me. And they can take over for a little while, if they need to, but at the end of the day what they are is really just guides. They are just guides to tell me what is the next right thing for me to do." A beautiful human soul if I have seen any. Most authentic. This woman is walking poetry. Inspired.
I am 72 and finally live like this. Thank you for being you.
I'm so happy to hear this..most people are just wasting time wearing masks of, 'toxic fine-ness'--our society teaches that it's impolite to be anything less than 'camera ready', at any given moment. UGH. Let's stop pretending to be happy or something we're not for others..it's pathological. Life is so much richer than that, and it's beautiful just the way it is. Exposing your true underbelly, like this woman, is the path to true happiness. True joy comes from sharing and authenticity! This is a beautiful TED Talk.
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"Camera ready" LOL! This reminds me of the movie Sunset Boulevard (1950), in which Gloria Swanson, who plays a former washed out silent era screen actress, declares "I am big! It's the pictures that got smaller". At the end, she declares "I'm ready for my close-up Mr. DeMille". This is the epitome of what Ms Melton was speaking against!
I know that film, hahaa! YESSS!
Thank you
It's strange how hard it is to admit to having feelings. I like the concept of feelings as they portray them in movies, but it's uncomfortable to feel them myself.
I once heard a kid say "You hurt my feelings" and I was amazed at that kind of honesty.
+Minty Yeah I like the way she said that our feelings are our guides. Although I don't really know what JEALOUSY guides us to do other than act crazy on our partners. ;-)
+Minty i've imagined this. touching.
Minty >>> I think it´s also strange that when we are emotional society in general stigmatize us. It´s like they want us to be BRAIN! BRAIN! BRAIN! All the time, and if we dare to be the slightest emotional it´s like Hell has broken lose. And when they say BRAIN they mean everything that has got to do with numbers, logic, rationality, statistics, thoughtprocessing and reasoning. Art, creativity, dance, music and everything of that kind is regarded as irrelevant, meaningless and out of touch with reality. We´re raised to be supposed to know and to think instead of to feel and to sense. I have a saying about this that goes: " - With math you put on the right hat! With art you´ll get yourself scared!" It´s strange that at the same time they tell us that the path that doesn´t begin in our Heart is ending blindly, or that delight is the feeling that should drive the work we do. Yet it isn´t what we experience in everyday life allthough it´s said.
Minty I agree with you 100%. It is unfortunate that our society equates emotion with women (except anger) and assertiveness and intellect with men. These traits are prominent in both sexes and it truly is called being human. Like it or not.
Minty The language always sounds awkward, became we're discovering it for ourselves. This is partly a legacy of oppressive authoritarianism.
So incredibly true. Every word. My little sister has spent years in and out suffering from bipolar disorder. She is a different, happier, less anxious, person when she is in-patient. The one thing that I wish people would know about the “mental hospital” wherever that may be, is that, it is soo incredibly difficult to retain enough staff, that are strong enough (mentality, physically and emotionally ) to stay in the ward. Funding/ pay, is basically the same as public teachers. The staff, just like teachers, are paid pennies when they are actually some of the most important people on this planet. When you are a patient, especially at a psychiatric hospital, an amazing caregiver can change your entire outlook on life! I’ve seen it with my sisters care!! The turn over rate is far to large. The staff are mentally and emotionally, pushed to the brink daily. They are exhausted. The pay should reflect the importance and expectation of the position. Most of These people, the ones that stay, are truly, hero’s in scrubs. 🙏
As a nurse I find this overworked underpaid environment is similar to teachers. They’re worthy of greater respect and pay commensurate with they’re experience and skill set. The managers don’t actually work when they’re short staffed instead they ask everyone say doing a 12 hour to pull another 4 overtime. Get the next shift off as 16 hour shift in the ICU can be draining, exhausting and my feet would hurt a lot. It’s not for everyone 🤷🏼♀️
How's your sister?
I agree with you 100%. Teachers, and hospital workers ( specially mental hospitals) are the true heroes. They are pushed to their limits day in and day out. It must incredibly difficult to stay grounded surrounded by so much vulnerability. I hope your sister is doing well.
Too many sadists and psychopaths in this field.
Nursing homes too you know who the gems are cause the patients love them.
“The sunrise is a daily invitation to come out into the sunlight. ” What a wonderful statement!
I know this lady, personally. She goes to my church and her family is amazing. You wouldn't think that she has gone through any of these struggles because of how positive and kind she is- this shows how strong of a person Glennon truly is. She is inspiring & can teach everyone something.
Is it Borderline Personality Disorder?
I find it very strange that she goes to any church, has a speech like that, and never mentioned Christ. Is it a Christian Church?
she was just kidding
R u seriously judging this woman? You r invalidating her because she does not fit into your stereotypical idea of how she should worship of even care to worship .She has self esteem she does not deserve as she does not fit your what you think should be wounded n defected behavior or penance .
Don't judge which exactly what she is asking u to do by revealing herself as honestly as she can.
You a cutie
"sensitive is just how I was made." Me too.
TopHatKitty same here
Me too.
Unfortunately our world is so super unbalanced in favor of all things masculine: loud! strong! hard! tough! Thinking, not feeling!! Doesn't mean for one second that being soft and sensitive is a fault, just like being strong isn't a fault. Everyone has value, the world just has a very screwy perception of value right now.
Newsflash: We are ALL sensitive. Some of us are just not as afraid to be vulnerable.
One time, my friend and I were jokingly talking about who could beat each other up physically. I was laughing along saying I could give him an uppercut and stuff. Everything was fine until he said that he could beat me up in two seconds. He said he could first beat me up emotionally, because I was so weak and sensitive when it comes to emotions. He said that once he got me on the ground crying then he could physically beat me up and that would be the end of it. That’s when I stoped joking. He really had hurt my feelings but I didn’t want to tell him because then I would be made fun of for being “too sensitive“. I hate my vulnerability. I hate how it’s perceived as a weakness and how I have to paint myself a mask every day to get through the day.
"Just do the next right thing, even when you're shaking." As simple as it sounds, that's really profound.
'help me' can be some of the bravest words we speak
This is the reason I enjoy being a therapist in an inpatient psychiatric unit, is because people are real - the masks are down.
You enjoy your therapy work with people having mental difficulties! More like you please! My brother has been in and out of hospital for 15 years, and hardly anyone seems to care enough about their job to do anything other than prescribe (toxic) meds. I don't know if anyone has worked with him over his (our) traumatic childhood. Our mum has been working so hard to get him out of there and improve the system. It's a hard road but she is getting more and more support from professionals, lawyers, a judge etc. Old, archaic treatments need to make way for better, healthier methods. Lets start by telling the truth!
hey my girlfriend is in inpatient care I would love to ask you some things get back to me if you can
Envious of you, thats where i hope to be one day.
Michelle Ferguson actually i would assune you like being a psy doctor becauss its an easy job where you are free from the public. a job where you can unaccountably collect wages of a doctor while overseeing the imprisonment and abuse of people at least half of whom are much smarter than your post makes you sound, michelle ferguson.
Actually, I am an occupational therapist. I work in Canada, in our public and free healthcare system.
"Blessed are those who suffer, for they know life"
Blessed are those who mourn,for they shall be comforted.
@@danielagreen1799 love you..God bless you..
Better people who can relate
I feel like Jesus definitely taught you that ❤
Bitter sweet
Sounds like the mental hospital is what public school should be like. Learning to listen, share, respect.
This is absolutely beautiful. So genuine and raw. I needed to hear this. Going through cancer for the 2nd time at 33 years old with a very young family. 4 kids between 4 and 13 years old and my youngest has cerebral palsy and is completely immobile. I needed to hear that everyday hope is waiting for me. I hope everyone can hear this. I will be showing my older kids.
Take care Dana x
Sending virtual hugs Diana
Oh MAN Dana… you are like Clark Kent 💓 .. God Bless you 🙏❣️
Book recommendations: When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Maté, and The Body Never Lies by Alice Miller. Best wishes to you.
I hope you're doing well
Life is beautiful, life is brutal.
If you are alive, you are still invited.
By far the best I ever heard.
Nirali Tanna i also loved it when she said she was brutaful.. me too!! ❤️❤️❤️
I was never invited
"If you're still alive, you're still invited"
“Own your feelings as your own personal prophets” 💯
"Getting sober feels like recovering from frostbite" is one of the best analogies I've ever heard!
"People think of us addicts as insensitive liars. But we don't start out that way. We start out as extremely sensitive truth tellers. We feel so much pain and so much love and we sense that the world doesn't want us to feel that much and doesn't want to need as much comfort as we need. So we start pretending. We try to pretend like we're the people that we think we're supposed to be. We numb and we hide and we pretend, and that pretending does eventually turn into a life of lies. But to be fair, we thought we were supposed to be lying. They tell us since we're little that when someone asks us how we're doing, the only appropriate answer is "Fine, and you?" But the thing is, that people are truth tellers. We are born to make our unknown, known. We will find somewhere to do it. So in private, with the booze or the over shopping or the alcohol or the food, we tell the truth. We say, "Actually, I'm not fine." Because we don't feel safe telling that truth in the real world, we make our own little world, and that's addiction. That's whatever cape you put on." Strong words.
some junkies are like that, others are so nihilistic, what is the point of anything but dope?
Katie Dunlap perfectly said/wrote thank u! ❤️
True about taught to lie. We are trying to keep others happy
Your own truth is so powerful!! Beautiful!
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when i was in the mental hospital last year they showed all of us this video and it left a mark on me. today i came back to look for it because ive been at a complete loss on how to pick myself up and carry on again. i got chills just like the first time i watched it. thank you so much
Hope this finds you well 💕. You already have everything you need for your journey.
Hope you are taking one day at a time, living a meaningful life.
Hey girl your worthy i dont know you but can i say you are a big deal and super important to me just because of your expression thank you..
You’re not alone 💗
What was the movie? I could definitely use an uplift plus I feel stuck. Ty
The feeling when you hear someone else speak the words you’ve been searching for . . .
Lizzie Boss - Right 🙂 I wish I had the brain retention to sometimes remember the words that I need to express my feelings in times of stress 🤩
"Courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart." YES, love that.
"I did not want to deal with the discomfort and messiness of being a human being." - How I have felt everyday for 11 years.
Me Too!
Sending you love!
There is only one person in my school that treats me like a real person and not some broken fragment of a human. We can sit and talk and he doesn't judge me unlike everyone else. I have anxiety, depression, OCD, some paranoia, and slight psychosis. He is the only person that will sit and talk to me and listen to my strange thoughts and not think any less of me.
Rusty Clark you are a complete and perfect and unique masterpiece of a human being, don't let anyone convince you otherwise
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Hi Rusty, I know yours is an old post, but I just wanted to say I heard you. I don’t know exactly what to say, but your post touched me. Peace to you 😘
..Good! We all need that! I hope more people often their minds! 💜
You are loved more than you know
I love it! "Sensitive is just how I was made. I dont have to hide it and I don't have to fix it. I'm not broken." I can relate in many things she says.
I'm still friends with my mental hospital buddies. The bonds you make in there are unreal because no one is afraid of vulnerability- If only the real world was just a little more like that. The connections we'd make and the compassion and understanding we'd have would be so amazing.
This
I picked up a user who transferred herself from her put up on daughter to me. I wasn't stable, I ran from her . She tried to break in my home and car and get a job near me. I was just roomed with her at hospital. I got away finally.
Five weeks in a mental hospital, I learned I had never been allowed to have my own feelings. I was in my early 40s. Don't feel that way. Feel this way, Laughing at me when I"m crying while watching my dog being buried
We need more honesty. We need more caregivers to nurture our feelings. And us, others.
One of the things I'm most proud of is siiting beside my granddaughter after her best friend left to move 2000 miles away. I watched tears roll down her cheek, wondering if there was anything I could say to ease her pain.Tears started rolling down my cheeks. Sitting with her in silence.
I am a mom and I'm really happy that you just sat with your brokenhearted granddaughter. Our youngest people need to know that it's okay to express negative feelings.
Thank you for sharing your experience I'm sorry hard times you had.
Reading your comment it made not feel alone about mental health issues.
I appreciate you you.
When my best childhood friend lost her father to complications of heart disease, all I could do was go to her, wordless, and give her a long hard hug. She thanked me, said that was better than clumsy condolences.
That was a really nice testimony. Thank you
I'm happy you found your voice. You are important, please don't ever let anyone make you feel that way again. I live this, daily. I admire your truthfulness. Stay healthy and happy.
I have to go back to work tomorrow after a while in a psychiatric hospital and I'm really scared to go back. Thank you for this talk...it helps.
Brian, how did your return to work go? I hope well.
💙🙏
Very very great video thanku for sharing tbis we can learn from u god bless u always
“Sensitive people don’t need superhero capes”. That’s it. My message. Thank you.
I have been committed to a mental hospital 4 times. Perhaps because I am male is why I did not have the same experience. I'm not saying that being committed can't be a good experience but for me I never want to go back again. If you are watching this video either you or someone you love suffers from mental illness. My heart goes out to you today more than any other, today is Valentine's Day and for many with mental illness it is the loneliest day of the year. You are loved, even if you feel you're the only one. Happy Valentine's Day ❤️
A wholesome comment.
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Awwww this was so sweet!
Having been there myself several times, it feels good to find someone who understands and can relate. That was the only part of the experience that really "helped" - finding and getting to know people who have been through something similar. I hope things are going well for you now.
I Love You Too Scott. Be Well💜
"I am not broken."
What a brave and beautiful woman.
My cape is perfectionism, and being the happy, funny girl all the time. What I am is the exact opposite, I'm not perfect; but sometimes I want to be perfect so much it reflects on the actions that I do. My cape is suffocating me.
I am wondering if you have let go of your Cape in the mean time?
..no one is perfect, be yourself !
Hugs. I hope u find happiness soon. True freedom comes from letting go. Let that cap go.
Between superiority and inferiority lies perfection. Be on the mark 50 between them and simplicity is yours. Goodluck sis
Same here, but when the truth sets you free, you're free to be you
Absolutely love her vulnerability. Thanks for sharing a bit of yourself with us.
“Addicts start as real sensitive truth tellers.”
Amazing.
"Life is beautiful, and life is brutal. Life is brutiful."
Truer words were never spoken.
because it's miserable and poor english language
It is a sick god who designed this loveless cruel life
@@eagyinjection you havent met God, have you?
September 24th, My 22 year old son ended his life...
Your comment is like HIM speaking to me..✨
Thank you
OMG This woman really knows what she's talking about. Brilliant video.
Every day is a new day. The sunrise is waiting to warm you.
Well, today is my birthday.... I've been sober for eight years as of today!I lived so many of the same experiences as you did. You forget that emotions and feelings are really messy.
Happy late birthday! And well done on your sobriety, it takes a lot of strength
simply one of the best ted talks
not even close
im more drawn to the ted talks that are based on statistics and data myself. But to each their own!
@@mudza92 she got 250 agreements and you got none
@@Candlewick14 What is important to me is that I can voice my opinion freely and no one can stop me, whether or not someone likes my comment is not important to me, I already know this is nowhere near the top shelf of best ted talks. That's all I have to say about that!
@@mudza92 Wich one did you enjoy the most? Or learn a lot from? I actualy like almost ever ted talk, including this one. Im binge watching the ted talks.
Spoke right to my own heart.
Keri Naidoo Who nominated you as the "thought police?" Just because someone dissagrees with you, they are labeled "Closed Minded." Great. I bet you went to college too. Get off people's back.
Keri Naidoo I apologize. Another case of "open mouth, insert foot.." I live with "stuff inside me" that never goes away. Medicine is not the answer because after 20 yrs they just don't work. Again, I apologize for saying comments without thinking. Another case where "anger" is the driver's seat and I am along for the ride......have no idea where we're going....
zoe tncampbells I apologize.
Mark Forquer Nicely done, Mark Wish Keri didn't turn off her notifications, so she could see that she behaved well in communicating her intentions and irritations to you, but mostly so that she could realize that people can have a second opinion, a second chance to be Real. She is ignorant to your revelation, but perhaps it was for others to see instead. Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity to express regret, forgiveness and eventually Love. Aho! Check out Mankind Project if you are looking for a safe harbor for me. We need the strength of men to hold their attention upon our frailties out of Love. Peace.
Bryan, I just re-read your posts. Choked me up. Thank you brother for being "real."
read her book, it's called untamed. she's married now to a woman and seeing this just makes me so proud of her, and so ready for her to come so far and experience what she's advocating.
I’m about to read this
I just finished listening to it for a third time this year--- so freaking good.
does it matter who she is married to?
@@photoartnet no so why are you making it an issue?
@@photoartnet If nothing else, being married to someone "unconventional" means she's gone through more self-reflection that might be worth listening to, and is notable for that reason.
She just told my story. I cried. I got full body goosebumps. I cried again. I'm in the middle of this chaos. I tape my windows closed. I hide. I wear the cape. I pretend when HAVE to leave my house. I needed to hear this. Today. Right now.
I hope you’re doing better now but even if you’re not, I’m rooting for you and thinking of you!
@@Liv-or5ci Thanks love..
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Well, today is my birthday.... I've been sober for eight years as of today!I lived so many of the same experiences as you did. You forget that emotions and feelings are really messy. The first year with so difficult, I felt like I was going mad. After 8 years, I've learned to appreciate the feelings, no matter how messy. I just sit back and feel them. Thanks for posting this. You're reaching so many people!
This is extremely late, but congratulations on eight years of sobriety!! That’s a huge accomplishment, and I wish you the best in your continued journey. :)
8 years is an amazing milestone. Congratulations.
@@denny7403 thank you much!
@@denny7403 Thank you... One day at a time!
@@madisonschmidt7304 oh, Thank you so much for your kind words!
"It was just hope's daily invitation to me to come back to life." So beautiful.
Your beautiful ! 😇😷🤠🤗🤓😎🥰 Comment by Erick Guzman Garcia
This is beautiful
☀️Mornin in Jeddah
Hi 👋🏾 Nicki, yes that was also my experience! . Very helpful! But not all places, are good !? They can change, with the Stuff! For the better , or for the worst!
Wish you all the best and stay healthy and safe ❣️🌹🙏🏾🤣😎
I enjoyed your talk immensely and I am so happy for your experience and outcome!
It’s so true about the mental hospital thing. I met for the first time in my life a whole bunch of normal people. We would often talk about all those crazy people out there in the real world
And the most healing part was we were together,talking about ourselves without being mean spirited.
Wow, I feel this so completely. I've always been told I'm "too sensitive" or I need to "toughen up" so I hide my deep feelings from the world. I care so deeply and feel so deeply about injustice and war and love and dreams and life, but no one knows any of it.
I believe you’re an empath! I’m the same way. People like us feel things very deeply which is why people think we’re “too sensitive”.
Too sensitive compared to whom? You can only compare yoursef with yoursef, because there is only one of you. You are you and that is fine.
Writing a diary helps, because you release all those feelings :)
Oh I feel it, to be full of ideas yet able to say nothing at all
I see a lot of truth in her. See it in my clients, too. I work in the mental health/addictions field. They are telling the truth, the truth about how much pain they are in.
Me too, Warren. Amen.
As a therapist too. I found the hospitals too focused on census.
I sobbed at this... This is by far my favourite Ted talk.
My fav too!
King Ying Lau this, lacey Sturm's and Emily smart
eyeliner tears mine too! 💟
“I’m not broken” this is so powerful
This was by far one of the best TED Talks I've ever listened to. Thank you so much for your inspiration
Agree❤
A lovely delivery of her talk. She's real. Really grabbed my attention from the moment she started.
A year ago at this time I was in psych ward(voluntarily). Spent 2 weeks there. One has those key periods in their life. I've made realizations since then and prior about myself. I'm indeed a sensitive and expressive person. Most aren't. So at times people will criticize me/you for the ways we simply ARE that aren't actually toxic/negative because deep down they're envious to a degree they can't be like you/me at times..
+Bodyknowledge 77 Hear hear. It's the dictate of 'normalcy'. Don't waste any time over it.
agreed.
+Bodyknowledge 77 I'm the same way. I told people to fuck off because they were idiots and some guy told me to kill myself. Honestly though? They were being idiots and half of them told me I had no clue what I was talking about so I told them to F off. I was recently in a Psych ward to and I would have listened to this guy and killed myself but I've tried to kill myself before and it never works so I guess I'm here for a reason. So yeah, I too am also sensitive and am an expressive person, am told that I am wrong half the time to.
Mariah Conklin Please don't ever talk to or listen to idiots again. Just brush it off and carry on regardless. Life is difficult enough. They will find that out for themselves one day, I promise. Cheers!
They were just made because I called them out on their shit that's all. I'm over it but it only made me more depressed and not trust people.
As a struggling addict I throughly enjoyed this, it blows my mind that in 2020 the disease of addiction is still so misunderstood, it's sad and its keeping alot of people sick
Sad but true. People around me think: "if you don't talk about it, it's not happening/didn't happen." SO maddening!
Super sensitive people are special, it is a gift and a curse. Its hard but turn your pain into your passion. Beauty is everywhere and light overcomes darkness every time. Your spirits and guides are with you, you are not alone, they want you to shine and be you, you are allowed and you are supported. Believe.
me too. hope this comment finds you well. we are strong…and we will keep fighting 💪🏻🖤
Yes I work in a treatment facility and yes it is misunderstood
It’s been my experience with addiction, you take away the addiction and all you’re left with is pain. Still trying to get better though.
She found the right hospital. There were some terrible incompetent people in Sacramento. The best people moved on. I could use some help, but I'm afraid to go. The problem is mostly people I'm dealing with who would live to blame everything on me and my mental issues which are a result of their actions or lack of.
Try Napa valley
Sac forced drugs on me, BS worthless doctor and couldn't give a rat's backside staff. Plenty of worthless mental hospitals with nothing but usually overprescribed and unnecessary drugs.
If any of haters you had an ounce of the courage this women has shown in revealing herself to us your friends and relatives would suddenly balk in confusion of who you are. To the haters ... you should be ashamed of yourselves. How dare you. How dare you.
Insensitive people who don't have an intimate relationship with pain have no place speaking here. Yes. We hurt. We hurt so bad, and we learn to survive. If you haven't hurt, and you think you have an opinion here, kindly leave. This is another manifestation of the high school she was talking about, and its a nasty, dirty, hurtful place for us. This girl right here is brave. Her bravery should be applauded.
If you don't agree, and you want to be witty, or critique sensitivity, or feel good about yourself, direct your nastiness towards me. Not those who are crippled by it.
I wish I could stand next to her right now and look at you in the face. I wish I could give you shame for the pain you cause.
To those that hurt ...
That healing language of acceptance in the mental hospital she was speaking about. That is the real cure. Find it. Find a way to love yourself. That is the light at the end of the tunnel. It takes a lot of courage to get there. It takes so much more pain to get there, it really does. But we need you. The world needs your sensitivity. you are worth it.
This life is brutal. But it is also beautiful. She said so much so well. Thank you Glennon.
Thank you.
Joseph Sanchez I saw love in the comments tbh
THIS lady is one of the BEST speakers on the internet ! I could listen to her all day.
Tears started falling when she described how beautiful her life is now. It just gave me so much hope even for a brief moment.
Dont lose hope, the sun is waiting for you ☀️
@@eveangelyne2478 thank you so much, Eve..❤️
Glad she's still alive to share her story. Really a well done talk.
"Pretending was an act of surivival."
I think many of us pretend in some way every day as adults.
My favorite line, "All I ever needed to know I learned in the mental hospital."
I am a guy . . . its even more of a challenge for men to deal w/ feelings . . . because we are supposed to "man up" and get over it. Watching the TED talk was encouraging because some of the same concepts apply to men as well, even while we are "manning up". We have out fears that we need to face and overcome. One of my heroes, Jim Rhone also admonished us to let all of the emotions in and not block them out. . . They will guide us to change the world!
We fail our young at home, school and life.
Talks such as this need to be part of education earlier rather than after the fact.
This is SO true!! Thank you so much for putting it into words!❤️
This is probably the best TED talk I’ve ever watched
You are amazing! I can so identify with the terror. Just wrote a piece about Borderline Personality Disorder for the Cosmo magazine website and wanted to hide in bed for a week after it was published. But so glad I did it - so many shares! Here's to oily, awkward people speaking out in this messy ol' world ;)
Charlotte Dingle I would love to read it :)
Charlotte Dingle Post a link to the article! :)
www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/body/health/a30327/living-with-borderline-personality-disorder/
I'm a borderline too. 💓 Thanks for being true.
Great article! Makes me realize how the psychologists and psychiatrists I've met throughout my life always questioned my having been diagnosed with BPD and ended up focusing on other possibilities.. I have yet another appointment tomorrow and I'll bluntly ask the psychiatrist to talk about my BPD and DBT rather than dwelling on other issues. Eye-opener!
I was a student nurse assigned in a mental hospital for 3 months.
patient assigned to me was a drug addict before.
he was telling everything in a very honest way.
shared his family, his story, his dreams in life, his goals.
it was really unforgettable.
I think that the setting sets you up to really listen to the patients there.
Our main goal was to bring them to reality because most of them in a way lives in a bubble with thoughts in their head.
I learned there how LISTENING can really heal.
Just pure undivided attention.
Cool, isn't it?
that LISTENING heals.
A great book… the art of being a listening presence. :)
my hiding traits were different and went along with depression and much anxiety. (i do think it started in H.S., but really burst out in my second term in college.) my self-destruction was different and not as devastating as yours, but still to this day at 77, i have developed agoraphobia and don’t understand how women (like i am) can go out into the world so easily. i went on meds in my mid ‘50’s. (they were much, much better than earlier.)
your talk has made feel less alone in my being cut off from the world. thank you so much :). i do hope you are on the track of feeling more connected yourself. fondly, from NYC, NY. 🐶🌹🌱🌞✨
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Yes,life is beautiful! Beautiful,and sometimes brutal,but always a gift that can also bring joy,and friendship,abundant life,and love that heals pain...💞
From the absolute bottom of my heart, thank you so much for sharing these words. You have no idea how much they've blessed me today.
All my life I have had so much respect for those who are recovering from drugs, alcohol, eating disorders and other forms of addiction. It shows how far you have come to crawl out of that dark hole into the light of self awareness.
Bravo to Glennon and all of you who has battled addiction. You are warriors. 💪🏻👏🏼
@Dee Ragland Navigating a huge struggle brought on by the professionals who are supposed to protect you must be the ultimate challenge. I hope the last 2 years (I'm writing this February 2022) haven't been too difficult for you. Sending admiration and respect :)
What about when these same people are at the point of active addiction in their lives, do you care about and cheer for them? Not being snarky, genuinely asking is all
Thank u so much ❤️
@Dee Ragland keep fighting 💪🏻 i am a work in progress re: addiction too 🖤
Thank you 🙏🏾
“Loneliness leads us to connect to other people”
That’s something worth taking away
This actually made me cry... not only because I'm sensitive too, but how she described the sunrise hit home. I too only saw darkness, it was like a comfort blanket, but then one day when you're ready, the sun will rise again, signifying hope. An amazing talk that captivated me and very well delivered. Thank you
Love this lady! Honesty is hard to come by these days. So tired of the superficial b.s. Thank goodness people are waking up! Can't wait to get her new book! Love Warrior!
YAy! Awesome.
Really inspiring. The people she speaks of, the shy, sensitive, and awkward, are often the great observers of life. Poets, songwriters, and artists come to mind--they feel so deeply but they can pay the price sometimes--the capes can start to pile on. I laughed when she said we're trained to answer, "I'm fine thanks, and you?", when asked how we're doing. I was choosing chocolates from a big assortment at a candy store and was asked, "Is everything okay?", and I thought, okay I'll be honest. "Oh well I'm a bit tired and work has been really hectic...", and he gave me a funny look and said, "I mean the chocolates, are they all okay, no allergies?". We both laughed.
The problem of society is they want puppets instead of reality. It is refreshing to have people break the mold and admit they are not ok. It is ok not to be ok. Being sensitive is not a vice. It is your ability to feel things on a deeper level. Navigating your emotions is a life long journey. This video is beautiful and refreshing!
This is AMAZING! I love how she said the world is a bright brutiful messy place. Gold Glennon. Gold.
What an awesome lady. I think she just saved my life. Much Love and gratitude for her and her journey.
This is entirely beautiful. Thank you for being vulnerable and sensitive.
My admiration for Glennon grows with every new thing I hear her say and do. What a great example she is to us all
"Someone out there had deemed me worthy of an invitation to a very very important event" 💛 Such a beautiful description of how it feels when you find out you have the responsibility to a little person.
Glennon Doyle Melton, if you ever see this comment, you are very wise and I admire that. Keep going!
This is the best ted talk I've ever watched.
You've been had.
jonesgerard
Hi jones, now that you've posted where you are coming from... wayyy below. I understand your point. Mine, however is different. I was perceiving, listening from the pov of a woman, of the problems we face in this society. Don't know much about addictions/recovery/alcoholism as that is not my experience. However, for women, it is what women, females, including the young ones, need to know and set about, for we are conditioned from a young age to deny our feelings and do what we are told by outside authorities that wish to run our lives, own us, if you will. It is, I guess, from what you are saying, a very different experience than addiction issues. This is about societal conditioning of females. It's changing of course (I say to cover bases as there are so many critics here), but there is Still a dominant belief that females are here to serve others, not their own lives. Blessings to ya for the new year!
Thank You God, thanks for tailoring this for me.
🙏🏿❤️
The sunshine Glennon spoke of so beautifully is the love God has for each of us, His children. His love is constant, always there and His compassion for us is eternal. God, the creator of all, has the power to lift us and carry us into His light. His peace. He wants us to find Him and trust Him. He can provide us all that is missing in our lives.
Haven't said this to anyone in about 7 years but- you go girl.
I love what she said about how we're taught to lie about the fact that we're "fine" all the time. It's crazy how we think that's what people want to hear because we don't want to bother them with their problems, but it's the complete opposite that's true.
“Sensitive is just how I’m made”. “I’m not broken”. Thank you for being like me.
she speaks in such a manner, she has done years of understanding of self. she is excellent.
Anxiety actually lessens so much when you're in a psych ward..even without meds...just being there and surrounded with others like you makes u at ease
you know, I just had that lightbulb go on. you're SO right. I IMMEDIATELY felt safe there.
So true! They are the most genuine people you will ever see.
Years ago I spent several weeks on a psych unit--over the Christmas holiday. Several family members and a friend that knew felt bad for me. I told them not to. It was the best Christmas I'd had in years. No one pretended to have it all together, no pressure to buy gifts for those that don't seem to appreciate it anyway, no pasting on a smile when you just want to cry and no one telling you how you should feel because "it's Christmas!"
I was content to be around people that welcomed both tears and laughter, that asked about your day and wanted to know, a day where we were each given modest gifts from the hospital, a day where I could celebrate my faith and count my blessings but also hold space for the painful memories of past abuse.
Maybe y'all were in "nice" psych wards, as this was not my personal experience. It gave me a LOT more anxiety to be there surrounded by the severely mentally ill.
Wow I'm stund. I've been watching motivational speekers and TED talks all day today in the preparation of my next speeking gig in front of teenagers. I just want to tell you Miss Doyle that you have touch my heart so deep that I needed to let you know !! So thank you TED and Miss Doyle !
I use my writing as my therapy. I talk of my messy world to others who will listen through my words.
And I feel brave enough to do that because if I don't, then a new day will become scary!
What a brave, beautiful soul with such a gentle but powerful truth.
There are tears in my eyes listening to this talk. I work in a behavior health facility. Just to hear about one person's positive experience takes away all my misgivings with my chosen profession. Hope and grace to all those who struggle. We care.
"If you're still alive, you're still in light." I adore that.
“I had no day, I only had night.” Wow. Thank you for this. ❤️
There's something beautiful about your struggles, you struggling with your flaws.