Gifts of wounds and personality disorders traits | Fiann Paul | TEDxBend
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2019
- We know a lot about the burden of the wounds that we carry and how we struggle with them. Personality disorders from a social point of view are perceived as something dysfunctional. But perhaps they were the driving force, which perhaps set many remarkable individuals on their mission to contribute to the development of our civilization." Fiann Paul is one of the world's most record breaking explorers, and one of the most record breaking athletes. His careers in sports, art, and psychology, embody the antique, Greek concept of Arete, multipotential development. He is also an accomplished photographer, and a postgraduate student of Depth Psychology, his main focus being the research of the psychological background of explorers, adventurers, and ultra-endurance athletes. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I found this tittle eye-catching because I have BPD, I wanted to know what good thing there is in BPD... But he didn't talked about it.
Bpd have a bad reputation, but what I can say to you is that we are the sweetest people, we are creative, passionate and very empathetic 💗
Agreed
wish there was a way to break that stigma. i’m not a bad person and i wish people could finally understand it. sending huge love to anyone battle bpd
I always recommend Dr Daniel Fox, also on RUclips and Borderliner Notes channel, also on RUclips whenever I read a comment about BPD just in case a BPD person is looking for BPD positive resources.
@@andrewmalcolm79 hi! Thank you... I actually have his work book on bpd 🙌🏼 he is amazing. I love watching his videos.
Avoid conflict. You'll regret it. I'm bitter now. Blocked everyone. I'm alone. If someone offends you, walk away plz.
I cried like a child when he talked about dependent personality.
so did i, and then i cried harder when i saw your comment
Amazingly clear and compassionate perspective on the personality as shaped by adversity.
I have Schizoid and it was refreshing to see some of the traits that make it hard for me to live normally be seen as valuable
yeah, except it's bs. Most people with SPD aren't highly intelligent or successful, they just suffer a lot more than they should in life
I was diagnosed with F61 mixed personality disorder about a week ago and have felt very bad about it. This made me feel a lot better, thank you.
Through hard work i am officially in remission and decided to revisit this ted talk that gave me comfort when i felt very alone. Thanks to those who read and liked my original comment
I was diagnosed with F62 with comorbidity with D5....its been a rough life
@@tone3560 yeah its tough, but we are tougher!💪 hope you get all the help and support you need🙂
@@BBK96 You as well!
i wish you the best :)
loved this! I've recently been diagnosed with BPD and now my negative traits make a lot of sense, but been feeling burdensome when trying to contribute to society. I will definitely be re-evaluating my scars and how to make them diamonds! really needed this 😁
What an incredible, strengths-based framing of each personality disorder. Thank you for this contribution to personality disorders and how we understand them today.
A very thoughtful and refined presentation. Deep on so many levels that you want to watch it several times. Inspirational, original and funny. You can clearly see Fiann's extraordinary personality, intelligence and a lot of work that he put into it. Such a refreshing and touching experience.
I found that extremely interesting! - Will need to watch it a few times as there is a lot of information to digest. As an endurance and extreme athlete myself, I was surprised to learn so much about what potentially laid the path I follow. Excellent presentation Fiann!
Best scientific talk on what stands behind the adventure! As an ocean rower, adventurer I forwarded this video to people, who can't understand my mindset. Thank You, Fiann!
Super talk! It shines a light on why it is important and how it benefits us to become aware, accept, work on and integrate one's shadow. It explains from a psychological point of view why our greatest weaknesses are also our greatest superpowers, and that we have agency in working with our childhood wounds to decide where we want to be on that spectrum.
Interesting perspective and deeply insightful! Instead of focusing on the pathology he focuses on the contributions given to humanity
Highly articulate, interesting and well thought out perspective on what drives us. The combination of psychology theory delivered by a proven, world record endurance athlete is a powerful combination. Very well done Fiann.
Such an eloquent talk!! At first I was a bit worried "what can an athlete say about this?" But his way of speaking sounds very professional to me - like he is a real therapist. I am adding this to my top ted talks. It is very helpful!!
A large dose of knowledge presented interestingly and competently. It promises to be good in the future. Congratulations.
Everything has two sides and your presentation/work is a proof of that.. good stuff Fiann. Keep rollin bro!!!
It has to be a conscientious decision for a person with a personality disorder contribute to the world with their wound. Because your own wound makes you have maladaptive habits that hurt yourself and maybe self destructive. A balance is always needed for every human to live happy. No progress is worth the pain of having some personality disorders
Simply awesome. I could watch this all day. wish there was more content of such kind, it's exactly what young people should be hearing about.
Really interesting talk. I can relate to a lot of the points raised. I'll be watching as a second time as there's so much information in it.
moved me to tears. thank you
So insightful! Love this presentation
I found this talk fascinating and refreshing, it explains the origins in a number of disorders that makes perfect sense.
You are impressive, Fiann - both in stature and the ability to reach your audience. Excellent lesson
Such a great Ted talk! Really included lot of information and made it personal without even mentioning himself. Not sure which personality traits makes me value that, but truly impressed.
Instantly felt connected to many aspects of the points raised here. We all carry the scars of our lives have left us with, some scars are shown to others around us while some we keep private but all of them have an impact of the way world perceives us and values we bring to society in general. Very thought provoking.
Fascinating and mind provoking!
Great topic. Thank you for sharing!
favorite Ted talk so far wow!
I'm thankful to be able to watch this again and again before making a comment.
Amazing video! Thank you deeply for your wisdow ❤️🙌
Recently diagnosed with BPD and it is very easy to see all the negatives. But I am also an extremely empathetic and compassionate person. I would drop everything to help someone I care about. It makes me more sensitive to other's pain and lets me empathize with them.
Well done Fiann, really informative!!
I'm a pwbpd, we feel abandoned. Kidding. This is the most beautiful Ted talk I have listened to and also the amazing view pds
Great fusion of sports and psychology!
What a good speech ! Very deep and inspirational. Thx
Wonderful talk. Thankyou
This was amazing. Incredibly clear and concise! Very helpful information for anyone with personality disorders, their close circle, and anyone who misunderstands or vilifies personality disordered people. Thankful for this speaker and talk.
An interesting approach to personal insanity. The lecture encourages both discussion and raises interesting questions. Thank you Fiann.
I have a cycle of daily mood change. One day i am at my best and in very good mood and the next day im in a medium mood and the third day, im in a very low mood. But i think it is good for me because the days that im in a low mood i can push through the day and do my best and most importantly learn to control my emotions. By doing this i can be ready for the time that something bad may happens. then i have learnd and able to control my emotion. But if i never have the low mood day i will not be able to deal with a hard time that may come in future. If you are like me take those low days as a challenge and try to show to yourself that you can go through the day.
Google cyclithymia
I was diagnosed with Schizoid PD. I'm a nobody, but I love my life. I read a lot, sometimes I write and I spend a lot of time in daydreaming. A propos, I live in Transylvania!
Hi, it makes me think that it may be actually Schizotypal rather than Schizoid, but I would think it is not a full blown PD. Recently some psychologists treat it as one though.
@@fiannpaul I also have brief psychosis. My psychotic episodes appears in very stressful moments, especially at work.
@@orokusakynicolae9142 daca nu ai cu cine discuta despre asta, i'm here! :)
@@mikysweety1 Buna, Ada! Contul meu de facebook este Ardeiu Nicolae. Ma bucur sa te cunosc!
@@mikysweety1 Incantat de cunostinta. Ma gasesti pe facebook ca fiind Ardeiu Nicolae
I use my borderline traits to fuel my creativity
Pearls of wisdom.... 👍
Well said Fiann 👏
Anyone else here experienced what he described as the childhood of dependent personality disorder ??
I have.
Yup. Both the childhood, but unfortunately a lot of the adulthood response and performance, quite 1:1 with his descriptiob...and even after getting a grasp on the phenomena, and also a whole bunch of bad effects, beyond the amazing good ones (mostly all directed to external scopes, cause, humans)...I am, surprisingly, living another one, as we speak..and mmm, seems as its because of a deep with deep closure association with a narcisstic amazing one. VERY GOOD Ted talk and synthesis, indeed (thus)
I took a personality test and I was diagnosed with dependent personality disorder. I have been struggling with some of these issues all my life. But what he says is true, it also has some benefits.
Fantastic person
Thankyou.
I am in the very last group. I was compliant and a people pleaser.
When he talked about dependent personality , I cried.
Very good
I am detached and ptsd my therapist said
I find it funny hes fighting the stigma of personality disorders based pretty much solely on stereotypes as well as stereotyping other disorders like OCD. No it is not just washing your hands 30 times a day. Its a *lot* more complex than that.
I love seeing some positivity surrounding personality disorders but theres a huge difference between disorders and traits.
making them aware of their dependent personality disorder and letting them choose what path to continue on.
The line however is that these "gifts"
OFTEN can't offset the "curses" that
having these personality disorders cause
to oneself and those around them, most notably NPD.
The question then is whether how one, or larger, society, chooses to see (further, even enforce) this idea of offset.
Steve Jobs was a narcissist. His contributions to the world were tremendous. The pain he caused to those around him were also tremendous.
Where’s the line?
One thing that becomes clear from this if we care about the preservation of humanity and lessening of overall suffering (which is another question if that is even the goal) is that people high on narcissism should not be in positions of power (politicians) that is about serving others. We need to make these jobs less attractive for those people, but instead they have high income, power, fame... so it draws exactly the wrong people in. Also narcissistic entrepreneurs cause a lot of harm. There I wish people became more educated overall and vote more with their dollars who they want to support. But it's often very twisted.
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BPD has superpowers!
Yes they have 😂!
Smart kid!
No diamonds for Avoidant Personalities? 😟
I really do not agree with the part where he says that individuals with a schizoid personality where wounded the deepest in the most critical stage of childhood. You can not measure how deep a wound is in the psyche...I mean how would you? It was very hard for me to take him seriously after I heard this unsupported hypothesis.
If you read Lise Bourbeau, the 5 wounds, you will find that the rejection wound ( correspondent to this schyzoid) is the most painful of the 5.
What are the gifts of borderline personality disorder?
I saw the Borderline type was discussed but not sure what that type contributed?
I don't think I mentioned borderline there. This is a good question however. The contributions of borderline personality is a very controversial topic.
@@fiannpaul Thanks for the quick response. I'm BPD myself, so I was just looking for that and maybe misunderstood where the type belonged :)
Bpd essentially is an instable flipping between different personality types, e.g. dependent in one moment and narcissistic in another.
@@j.c.5159 You are so completely wrong, you have no idea what you're saying. stop talking.
@@Tofuthang You lonely?
Behind every great dom, there is a great sub.
I feel as enlightened as entertained :) good one!
@@fiannpaul lol huzzah that's totally the goal 😂💯🙏
Excellent! really appreciate the updated perspective and nomenclature. Elon Musk came to mind during the presentation.
I actually exactly thought of Elon Musk in the intro.
not if you're avpd
that is correct, unfortunately. Confrontation is often a major developmental experience and avoidance aims to exclude it.
what about borderline personality disorder? is it not beneficial to society? :/
Of course they are. They can be the most caring and sweet people you will find. And they usually are incredibly smart 🤓
One of the most scientific and accurate talks about personality disorders. I have or had at least one person in my life from each category and I can agree that the motivations and ways of influencing others are different depending on childhood experience. I was waiting fro him to mention EUPD but I guess it doesn´t really have many benefits sadly...I can´t think of one suffering from it myself.
I agree it is intriguing and almost automatically comes to mind as a question. One person asked already here in the comments, and I can only mention that there are certain benefits, but it is a bit controversial topic. I sometimes elaborate on it a bit during the lectures that don't go online. Sorry, I know it is not a satisfactory response.
@T P I think folks with EUPD/BPD have an intensity and passion and creativity that may not be the stuff of explorers which is why it’s not mentioned here, but Vincent Van Gogh comes to mind as someone who likely had EUPD/BPD traits and whose work is equally valuable to those of explorers.
great talk. but people who have contamination OCD make up a relatively small portion of people with OCD. as someone who has OCD, this is a micro aggressions
I don't see anything positive about having BPD. It's emotional agony and impairs every aspect of my life. I don't see it as a "gift".
May I ask how old are you? Because at certain age all the world appears to be against you and that is often regardless of BPD. In this video I didn't mention any gifts of BPD, and there are not that many in fact. Among successful professionals I know fueled by BPD traits were investigative journalists and activists for example.
How patronising. You really don't have a clue about how debilitating personality disorders can be.
I have a diagnosis of PTSD and BPD. They are very debilitating when active or triggered. But after A LOT of therapies, I feel like our super power is our empathy and love. I still struggle with emotional dysregulation, but I am more self-aware now and recognise it quicker than I used to and validate my own emotions.
@@fiannpaul your comment of professionals with BPD traits: investigative journalists and activists makes sense tbh. I find that I hyperfocus on things that get an emotional response from me, I can spend hours rabbitholing for information until I'm intellectually satisfied by it.
@@emz3156 I appreciate your comment. As a therapist I agree that people with BPD can develop their empathy and love as strengths.
If there is a sign language interpreter present at the talk, they should be included in this recording. That pissed me off to see the interpreter not 2 minutes into the video but they aren’t included here.
The captions are available
Modern archetyp of a super man..
he needs a drink of water
I am not saying personality disorder not real but everyone dont have one we have emotions that changes with situations
This guy has no idea what he is talking about...
If he were SPD he'd say something like: It is the boundary conditions that give rise to emergent traits and behaviours. To the neuro-normies it is: Why can a blind man see?
Well he is focusing only on the positives - which is a very dangerous thing to do. Some extreme PDs can be really dangerous.
Very good