Hey! have you joined the High Vibe Tribe yet? its my new free community! I go live and do free workshops and meditations in there, join here! aarondoughty.com/highvibetribe
Try to close your eyes and you are sure you are not seeing anything from your muscle eye. I know that means it comes from other than this body. It is just thought (Vgngnana, Manasikara) When it happens natural blindness when you grow old, it’s same feeling so everything we do to understand the death and rebirth. When we are young, we can do same practices to understand. Death and rebirth. eternal happiness or eternal suffering (Dhukka sathya) Everything we see we see Again. Everything we hear we hear again just enjoy it.
Try to close your eyes and you are sure you are not seeing anything from your muscle eye. I know that means it comes from other than this body. It is just thought (Vgngnana, Manasikara) When it happens natural blindness when you grow old, it’s same feeling so everything we do to understand the death and rebirth. When we are young, we can do same practices to understand. Death and rebirth. eternal happiness or eternal suffering (Dhukka sathya)
If you’re reading this, please know you are the embodiment of love & perfection EXACTLY AS YOU ARE ❤️❤️❤️ You don’t have to overcompensate or people-please anymore… those days are over for you ❤️❤️❤️
3 things that ACTUALLY helped me manifest $1000 dollars into my life when I needed it the most 1. Creating a physical vision board with the RIGHT images 2. Reading the book Unleashing Your Dream Reality by Caleb Clarkson twice through 3. Applying the technique from the book called synesthetic visualisation everyday
Another way to say this is be nice when moved by your heart to feel kindness, not when you want approval because you dont love yourself enough. It doesnt mean remove being nice from your character.
I’m following you since couple of months and you are the first channel that I sit with notebook and a pen in my hand! You’re the first ever channel, through which I make notes! Thank you! You’re helping!
Aaron, its amazing how you can look the way you want to, not the way someone else has approved. There is no time when you aren't beautiful. Much love now and always from your soul family.
I am so grateful every time you share your perspective on growing up the way you did and how to heal and change those dynamics. I feel so seen and heard and honestly empowered for the first time in a long time! Thank you ❤
When I've been authentic and vulnerable with people who were supposed to be family, they took that information and used it against me in a manipulative way. Crappy people like that is what makes people not want to be vulnerable. We get taken advantage of for being vulnerable cause they see it as a weakness.
You are instrumental in my crossing to a anew world and new me and heal, from the worst time of my life last month. I am member of that community and yes, it has helped me beyond words!!!
Omggg I am going through this now! I did breathe work this week.. and all my insecurities was coming up this week was very emotional! And this is one of it people pleasing!! Wow thank you Aaron for this video !!!
Thank Aaron!!! God bless❤❤❤❤. I really understans what you're saying and I agree. I was allways trying to please my parents cause they didn't get along. I allways felt that my parents are my soulmates and their values should, therefor, be meaningful for me. I see that a child doesn't want to get a degree like the Mother does but when a Mother highly values specifically education I would really respect that at the same time.
Think about it, when we act out of fear of rejection or judgment, we're not being honest. We're altering our actions to get a specific outcome, whether it’s approval, acceptance, or avoiding conflict. That's manipulation, just in a softer form. Cmiiw
How did you pack so much into 16:55? There's enough here to spend the remainder of a lifetime working out. I see our shared experiences have us speaking the same language perfectly, and while I may be a decade or so ahead of you on this mysterious trail, you are spiritually an equal distance ahead of me. My issue is trying to break out. Long story, enough trauma to melt wax. I think I'm trying too hard, I know better as it comes to me or it's of my own doing. I think I see it now, it's the triggers. I have discovered the only way to truly step into yourself to fulfill that purpose that drives you, is to honestly deal with any and all past trauma FIRST. If you are dysregulated by trauma into despair OR, even to great heights if you think you have arrived, you are neighter here nor there. You can't be anywhere but stuck if you are dysregulated by trauma in any form. You are technically in fight or flight, if you don't have access to the logical side of your brain, how could you be in touch with your spirit 'in reality'? There's the whacky thoughts that spill outta my dome. Thanks for an honest opinion on this subject. You can never bless others if you don't speak up in truth and honesty, but that's not the point either because you have no control once it leaves your mouth. Let it be what it will be. Some things take years to sprout and grow and reproduce.
It's really beautiful how you think about this topic. This will help a lot of people. So good ! As hard as it is, we should really take responsibility for ourselves. What you actually hope to find in others, you already have within yourself. Let it flow and let it go.😊 Lots of love 🩷
There must be a balance. You said you were not judging but you were with all your examples. Not everyone had your experiences and would resonate with your point of view, because that’s what it is, only your point of view.
Gifting another soul the truth of how you really feel I come to realise provides so much growth I much prefer and respect authenticity as I wouldn’t want someone to be nice to me, I would want them to be real and only be kind and loving if that’s what’s really felt in the heart. Best thing ever is to SPEAK YOUR TRUTH from your heart and say exactly how you really feel 100% always 💚💫
Just by the title good grief . People pleasing isn't manipulation . Is a trauma from childhood where caretakers were over critical and it's a response action . That is in psych 101. 💁🏼♀️
I dont even know I do it. I had to to survive. I hate what my mother did. I hate how people use me. I give, they never give back. I feel awful when I set a boundary and they fucking run!
It’s the guilt making you think that if you never had set the boundary, then maybe they would’ve stayed but at the same time that guilt also is a good sign that your overriding the program of people pleasing that made others’ needs more important than yours. Allow yourself to feel “awful” aka guilty and through time, you’ll start to feel honored and worthy to set boundaries, make space for your needs and let the wrong people leave! People who get upset when you set boundaries were benefiting from you not having none. Remember that!
He has 3 championships. He’ll have sponsorships until he dies. Everyone has a degree and the majority of them are broke. He can be a coach - sport commentator - sport podcast - selling something.
Republican and Democrat, mother- father dynamic? I've questioned now for 10 plus years why I need a proxy to represent my interests when we've had a fully functioning internet for 20+ years that provides unlimited information on any subject, so any intelligent citizen can really make their own decisions. The pulic is still asleep when it comes to this dynamic. They are asking to be controlled so they don't have to take responsibility for the situation they're in and look inside themselves. Perhaps this will be a part of the changes to humanity during the 4th turning.
Society values people who have degree and if you want to be heard in the world you must have a degree. It actually very important in society and it means you have a status. I do not agree but it sad that society see people with degree on a pedestal. Try to have someone on this pedestal who does wrong to someone who doesn’t. Society will go with the person who has a degree rather than the person who doesn’t. The person who doesn’t has no choice to prove themselves that they are a good person and has to show evidence. But the person with a degree is protected by others and until you have a certain amount of evidence against an individual than and only than will this person with a degree been seen wrongful. So crazy how we put people on pedestals who have a degree.😊
That is funny to think . I assume something bad happend to you so you gain or better say accept that program. People are not black and white. Things in our universe at all levels are not just black and white. We can not judge people because of degree, masters or not having it. We can not judge people by their skin colour , we can not judge people just because they have money. That mindset is what's keeping you poor. That is a fact. We are not our masters or cash on banks we have but what kind of person I , you, we are. I had to comment on this and I am sorry if something bad happend to you but that does not have any thing with you, or even that person. You are choosing to be it. It could be you or anyone else. It could be me. But matter of fact ask yourself and why not me?! There is a lot of toxic , abused people out there with money , with the statuse in upperclass I know causs I work with them but you can not judge book by one page when there is planty more. I don't know what have had happened to you personaly but if you see life as garbage the only thing that you will get is eventualy same garbage that you are throwing out. And this also does not have anything with any one deegree....peace and God bless ya.
Well great point but look at the world now a days. People are having trouble getting jobs if they don’t have a degree. Also this isn’t about race or now a days at all. It’s more about Classism that is so silent in this world but is very much a reality and people don’t want to discuss it. How people suppress other nations and races, genders and even where you come from now is hindering your progress sometimes. Maybe in Your world but have you ever volunteered in shelters because people are loosing there homes and jobs for no reasons. But if you take a bigger look at situations and the bigger pictures you will see very clearly that it has depths to it. There is people who worked very hard and cannot get work for no reason. Why is that? Well maybe being ignorant is a okay but in the real world people are being hinder and it sad that we must seek a degree. But we all have a purpose in this world whether it a housekeeper or a CEO. It shouldn’t matter about where you came from or your family history, race, culture or gender. We all should be judge on our skills and what we bring to the table. But it is unfortunate that yes in our society we are marked why I don’t know but we should stop it for sure and be aware of it. That’s why unity is so important now a days. It sad that there is a bigger picture to the problem and thank you for your opinion but i to have my opinion. As I respectful appreciate your response.
But the real me is nice, that’s the issue. When you say be the real you, what do you mean? I’m nice because I feel good when I help someone out, I feel good when I please people. Do I need help?
Okay but what if my "authentic inner voice" wants to be pretty critical and mean to people. My mum was a narcissist and pretty critical of me, and I think now as a result I have that inside me, whether I inherited it from her, or it's just a part of me, or it's a result of that abuse. I find it really hard to not just snap at people and be mean sometimes. Including my partner and son. I don't, I usually deal with those feelings alone. But I worry my "authentic inner voice" is critical and mean.
Use your “mean” side more. Thats what I did and I realized people respect me more! I thought I was being “mean” and might hurt others feelings but in reality I was being mean to myself and hurting my own feelings by not standing up for myself and saying how I really felt. Once I let go of not needing others approval and validation of seeing me as “nice, good, etc” I stopped caring about what people thought about me and made my perception of myself matter more. People will respect you more because they see you care more about yourself than their perspective about you. At the end of the day there’s a difference between being mean and a a**hole for no reason and setting boundaries and sticking up for yourself because someone it’s disrespecting you. BE “MEAN” and grow past your people pleasing!
Generally like your content but you sound a bit to angry for my style. I get you had bad parents but everyone is doing the best they can, have some respect, parent sacrifice a lot to raise their children. Wait till you have children, parent need to raise good humans and that requires doing things that children don’t always like.
Hey! have you joined the High Vibe Tribe yet? its my new free community! I go live and do free workshops and meditations in there, join here! aarondoughty.com/highvibetribe
Try to close your eyes and you are sure you are not seeing anything from your muscle eye. I know that means it comes from other than this body. It is just thought (Vgngnana, Manasikara) When it happens natural blindness when you grow old, it’s same feeling so everything we do to understand the death and rebirth. When we are young, we can do same practices to understand. Death and rebirth. eternal happiness or eternal suffering (Dhukka sathya)
Everything we see we see Again. Everything we hear we hear again just enjoy it.
Try to close your eyes and you are sure you are not seeing anything from your muscle eye. I know that means it comes from other than this body. It is just thought (Vgngnana, Manasikara) When it happens natural blindness when you grow old, it’s same feeling so everything we do to understand the death and rebirth. When we are young, we can do same practices to understand. Death and rebirth. eternal happiness or eternal suffering (Dhukka sathya)
this video really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in 'Magnetic Aura' from Borlest
If you’re reading this, please know you are the embodiment of love & perfection EXACTLY AS YOU ARE ❤️❤️❤️ You don’t have to overcompensate or people-please anymore… those days are over for you ❤️❤️❤️
🤍👑✨
I claim this over my life asé thank you so much ❤🎉❤
Thanks for the reminder 😃👍🙏🏼
3 things that ACTUALLY helped me manifest $1000 dollars into my life when I needed it the most
1. Creating a physical vision board with the RIGHT images
2. Reading the book Unleashing Your Dream Reality by Caleb Clarkson twice through
3. Applying the technique from the book called synesthetic visualisation everyday
Another way to say this is be nice when moved by your heart to feel kindness, not when you want approval because you dont love yourself enough. It doesnt mean remove being nice from your character.
@@FuchsiaFire444 yes… so well said 👏
I’m following you since couple of months and you are the first channel that I sit with notebook and a pen in my hand! You’re the first ever channel, through which I make notes! Thank you! You’re helping!
Aaron, its amazing how you can look the way you want to, not the way someone else has approved. There is no time when you aren't beautiful. Much love now and always from your soul family.
Kick-ass classic from you. Yes Aaron, there's nobody, I mean nobody but myself who can be my shield.
I am so grateful every time you share your perspective on growing up the way you did and how to heal and change those dynamics.
I feel so seen and heard and honestly empowered for the first time in a long time!
Thank you ❤
Aaron I need your podcasts on a repeat in my ears. ✨ You’ve been a huge part in my people pleasing battle. Thank you for all you do! ❤
Definitely, it’s like you should wake up with him automatically speaking to you 😀 his videos really lift you up to another level!
I did a research paper about internal and external LOCUS OF CONTROL related to high blood pressure in 2021
When I've been authentic and vulnerable with people who were supposed to be family, they took that information and used it against me in a manipulative way. Crappy people like that is what makes people not want to be vulnerable. We get taken advantage of for being vulnerable cause they see it as a weakness.
Yes, It’s not worth it to show your real opinions, feelings, or intentions to just anybody.
You are instrumental in my crossing to a anew world and new me and heal, from the worst time of my life last month. I am member of that community and yes, it has helped me beyond words!!!
Omggg I am going through this now! I did breathe work this week.. and all my insecurities was coming up this week was very emotional! And this is one of it people pleasing!! Wow thank you Aaron for this video !!!
Thank you Aaron for sharing your experiences and knowledge 🙏🙏🙏
Thank Aaron!!! God bless❤❤❤❤. I really understans what you're saying and I agree. I was allways trying to please my parents cause they didn't get along. I allways felt that my parents are my soulmates and their values should, therefor, be meaningful for me. I see that a child doesn't want to get a degree like the Mother does but when a Mother highly values specifically education I would really respect that at the same time.
❤ Thank you sir
Think about it, when we act out of fear of rejection or judgment, we're not being honest. We're altering our actions to get a specific outcome, whether it’s approval, acceptance, or avoiding conflict. That's manipulation, just in a softer form. Cmiiw
$75k biweekly changed my mindset and behavior, my goals, my family and l've to say this video has inspired me a lot!!!!
I'm feeling really motivated.
Could you share some details about the biweekly topic you brought up?
Thank you Aaron for this powerful sharing 🙏#1
Harmonising is a beautiful skill, different from people pleasing.
How did you pack so much into 16:55? There's enough here to spend the remainder of a lifetime working out. I see our shared experiences have us speaking the same language perfectly, and while I may be a decade or so ahead of you on this mysterious trail, you are spiritually an equal distance ahead of me.
My issue is trying to break out. Long story, enough trauma to melt wax. I think I'm trying too hard, I know better as it comes to me or it's of my own doing. I think I see it now, it's the triggers. I have discovered the only way to truly step into yourself to fulfill that purpose that drives you, is to honestly deal with any and all past trauma FIRST. If you are dysregulated by trauma into despair OR, even to great heights if you think you have arrived, you are neighter here nor there. You can't be anywhere but stuck if you are dysregulated by trauma in any form. You are technically in fight or flight, if you don't have access to the logical side of your brain, how could you be in touch with your spirit 'in reality'?
There's the whacky thoughts that spill outta my dome. Thanks for an honest opinion on this subject. You can never bless others if you don't speak up in truth and honesty, but that's not the point either because you have no control once it leaves your mouth. Let it be what it will be. Some things take years to sprout and grow and reproduce.
Super helpful, thank-you❤
@@ValerieK right? his messages literally ALWAYS arrive at the perfect time ❤️
Thank you for everything Aaron!
Much love!
As a empath I need this message
This was a good one keep up the excellence.😊
Thank you❤
It's really beautiful how you think about this topic. This will help a lot of people. So good ! As hard as it is, we should really take responsibility for ourselves. What you actually hope to find in others, you already have within yourself. Let it flow and let it go.😊
Lots of love 🩷
Truth be told 🎉
I wouldn’t want anyone else’s blood or stem cells exactly for this reason. You blocked me, it’s ok, I understand ❤
There must be a balance. You said you were not judging but you were with all your examples. Not everyone had your experiences and would resonate with your point of view, because that’s what it is, only your point of view.
Gifting another soul the truth of how you really feel I come to realise provides so much growth
I much prefer and respect authenticity as I wouldn’t want someone to be nice to me, I would want them to be real and only be kind and loving if that’s what’s really felt in the heart.
Best thing ever is to
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
from your heart
and say exactly how you really feel 100% always 💚💫
Just by the title good grief . People pleasing isn't manipulation . Is a trauma from childhood where caretakers were over critical and it's a response action . That is in psych 101. 💁🏼♀️
Heyyy,so good topic,Super Surfing, 🌊🌊 ohh,so well thank youuuu❤😅
Being nice and people pleasing aren’t the same things.
This is for me
Thankyou
❤ I love you. ❤ Hope you have a blessed day. XoXo
This look is better sir
Ive actually never been nice , helpful and kind, respectful yes .. push over 👎🏼🤷🏻♀️😂 NOT a problem
OK fine I'll subscribe
I was a rebel 🤣🤣🤣 the Wilde children 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly 🩵 what I’m working on the past few days. Such a cool timing 🎁
Thank you Aaron
How about mother and father stop pleasing the children ( adults ) ? We the parents are the victoms
I dont even know I do it. I had to to survive. I hate what my mother did. I hate how people use me. I give, they never give back. I feel awful when I set a boundary and they fucking run!
It’s the guilt making you think that if you never had set the boundary, then maybe they would’ve stayed but at the same time that guilt also is a good sign that your overriding the program of people pleasing that made others’ needs more important than yours. Allow yourself to feel “awful” aka guilty and through time, you’ll start to feel honored and worthy to set boundaries, make space for your needs and let the wrong people leave! People who get upset when you set boundaries were benefiting from you not having none. Remember that!
Idk bro 7:37 I think athletes need to have a plan B backing them.
True! Many athletes go broke when they don’t have a plan B
He has 3 championships. He’ll have sponsorships until he dies. Everyone has a degree and the majority of them are broke. He can be a coach - sport commentator - sport podcast - selling something.
Republican and Democrat, mother- father dynamic? I've questioned now for 10 plus years why I need a proxy to represent my interests when we've had a fully functioning internet for 20+ years that provides unlimited information on any subject, so any intelligent citizen can really make their own decisions. The pulic is still asleep when it comes to this dynamic. They are asking to be controlled so they don't have to take responsibility for the situation they're in and look inside themselves. Perhaps this will be a part of the changes to humanity during the 4th turning.
Society values people who have degree and if you want to be heard in the world you must have a degree. It actually very important in society and it means you have a status. I do not agree but it sad that society see people with degree on a pedestal. Try to have someone on this pedestal who does wrong to someone who doesn’t. Society will go with the person who has a degree rather than the person who doesn’t. The person who doesn’t has no choice to prove themselves that they are a good person and has to show evidence. But the person with a degree is protected by others and until you have a certain amount of evidence against an individual than and only than will this person with a degree been seen wrongful. So crazy how we put people on pedestals who have a degree.😊
That is funny to think . I assume something bad happend to you so you gain or better say accept that program. People are not black and white. Things in our universe at all levels are not just black and white. We can not judge people because of degree, masters or not having it. We can not judge people by their skin colour , we can not judge people just because they have money. That mindset is what's keeping you poor. That is a fact. We are not our masters or cash on banks we have but what kind of person I , you, we are. I had to comment on this and I am sorry if something bad happend to you but that does not have any thing with you, or even that person. You are choosing to be it. It could be you or anyone else. It could be me. But matter of fact ask yourself and why not me?! There is a lot of toxic , abused people out there with money , with the statuse in upperclass I know causs I work with them but you can not judge book by one page when there is planty more. I don't know what have had happened to you personaly but if you see life as garbage the only thing that you will get is eventualy same garbage that you are throwing out. And this also does not have anything with any one deegree....peace and God bless ya.
Well great point but look at the world now a days. People are having trouble getting jobs if they don’t have a degree. Also this isn’t about race or now a days at all. It’s more about Classism that is so silent in this world but is very much a reality and people don’t want to discuss it. How people suppress other nations and races, genders and even where you come from now is hindering your progress sometimes. Maybe in Your world but have you ever volunteered in shelters because people are loosing there homes and jobs for no reasons. But if you take a bigger look at situations and the bigger pictures you will see very clearly that it has depths to it. There is people who worked very hard and cannot get work for no reason. Why is that? Well maybe being ignorant is a okay but in the real world people are being hinder and it sad that we must seek a degree. But we all have a purpose in this world whether it a housekeeper or a CEO. It shouldn’t matter about where you came from or your family history, race, culture or gender. We all should be judge on our skills and what we bring to the table. But it is unfortunate that yes in our society we are marked why I don’t know but we should stop it for sure and be aware of it. That’s why unity is so important now a days. It sad that there is a bigger picture to the problem and thank you for your opinion but i to have my opinion. As I respectful appreciate your response.
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But the real me is nice, that’s the issue. When you say be the real you, what do you mean? I’m nice because I feel good when I help someone out, I feel good when I please people. Do I need help?
Okay but what if my "authentic inner voice" wants to be pretty critical and mean to people. My mum was a narcissist and pretty critical of me, and I think now as a result I have that inside me, whether I inherited it from her, or it's just a part of me, or it's a result of that abuse. I find it really hard to not just snap at people and be mean sometimes. Including my partner and son. I don't, I usually deal with those feelings alone. But I worry my "authentic inner voice" is critical and mean.
Use your “mean” side more. Thats what I did and I realized people respect me more! I thought I was being “mean” and might hurt others feelings but in reality I was being mean to myself and hurting my own feelings by not standing up for myself and saying how I really felt. Once I let go of not needing others approval and validation of seeing me as “nice, good, etc” I stopped caring about what people thought about me and made my perception of myself matter more. People will respect you more because they see you care more about yourself than their perspective about you. At the end of the day there’s a difference between being mean and a a**hole for no reason and setting boundaries and sticking up for yourself because someone it’s disrespecting you. BE “MEAN” and grow past your people pleasing!
Intrusive thoughts yay
Steph Curry has 4 championships
Take it as a hint
you're way much more attractive with short hair ( as you used to be )
🌬️🌬️🌬️🌬️
im a little bit confused if you say helping people and people pleaser are the same and then how can i set myself to service to other?
I’m not, any other no people pleaser videos?
🎉❤🎉
Generally like your content but you sound a bit to angry for my style. I get you had bad parents but everyone is doing the best they can, have some respect, parent sacrifice a lot to raise their children. Wait till you have children, parent need to raise good humans and that requires doing things that children don’t always like.