Cutting people out of my life that disrespected my time and attention. It’s crazy how when you set up those boundaries for yourself, people who treat you well will just show up in your life and want to be around you. Prepare to be gaslit by those people that you’re trying to cut out of your life though. Whatever you do, don’t give in to the gaslighting and trust that this person that you’re now trying to be is who you truly are.
@@AaronDoughty44 giving an honest opinion if you don’t like things used to feel like a bad thing. until you realize if people really care about you then they’ll want you to be able to be your truest self. I don’t like bbq for example and used to force myself to eat when family cooked that. I felt so free when I finally stopped pretending to like those dinners 🥰
People are just more attracted to your shadow self. This is so real. If you grow up afraid of confrontation from abusive childhood, it suppresses your ability to speak up and you become a people pleaser. I’ve shed that part of me and have become infinitely more magnetic. Once you get to the point of no longer fearing your authenticity, it changes your energy and shifts you into attractive and empowered.
Thank God for you Aaron. Thank you for being a vessel my brother..I must say, that I have to disagree about one thing..Dwayne Wade was not a cleaner.😂 Kobe and Michael "the real King" Jordan only🤷🏽♀️
I failed to shed it and now time and opportunity to try again is gone. Cherish every minute of your success. You overcame something that was a block of iron for me. I could fucking just never be strong. Always felt like a little pus sy and a boy who scared no one and got no respect in return. It's truly sickening to die like this, knowing that I have absolutely failed in every regard.
It's not necessarily narcissist people that don't like boundaries. A lot of people struggle with their own boundaries and therefore the ones of others, and are not at all narcissists
One of the most life changing lessons I've learned is that, taking care of myself isn't selfish, but healthy. It was such a shift in reality but it was well worth the effort. I also learned, that what people think about me, is none of my business!!!!
a smart asz would probably say that opposites attract depending upon the dynamics in relationships in general, tho the figuring out can happen i figured out that I have/had mommy n daddy issues 😐🤓
Being a people pleaser in life will keep you behind. Saving money and taking care of yourself first is the best thing you will not rely and be a slave to anyone
I’m an empath who’s been struggling with the heaviness of the world but for animals only. So what I did, I gave up on all people and surrounding myself with wildlife, pets and nature. I feel zen now.
You might be expressing the belief that being overly nice, selfless, or accommodating doesn't always command attention or respect. True magnetism often comes from authenticity, emotional strength, and confidence without crossing into harmful behavior. The balance between kindness and strength is key.
We all come to this earth with lessons to learn and we choose the people who are going to help us learn the lessons hence the reason many of us choose narcissiatic or controlling people. The whole idea for this lifetime is to overcome the challenge and be free.
I learned that very young. As a kid in elementary school, I had my fair share of bullies. Those bullies became "friends" when I didn't take their crap anymore. In turn, I became popular. The savage version of me was looked at as some higher being.
I suggest reading a book 'Bruce Thornwood: Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' if you want to know how to man up. Just follow everything writer suggests in there, it's one of the best reads I had in a while.
I love how you said they “attracted each other for a certain period of time”. Such a good understanding for our young people to learn as they move through beginnings and ending in relationship.
people can not get enough of me. i feel extremely magnetic everywhere i go and i think its because of this book i read named unleashing your dream reality by caleb clarkson. if you can find it, give it a read it's amazing!
I truly value what others think and learned that should never have an influence over my own thoughts or feelings :) I’ve never felt lighter than when I had that realization
Yes I ve been doing this more and more, and it actually become to feel good when I m a villan. When I set boundaries and dont let people treat me any other way
It's crazy because I just did something "bad" or not necessarily bad but people would say Selfish or Materialistic but it had this massive positive impact that I had no idea about!! But I was just called to do this thing and did it. Always listen to your higher self and not other people.
This video resonates SOOOO much. I was brought up around a very domineering, bully stepdad. I also dated a couple guys like him too and lived like a doormat. Guys werent doing their share of responsibility and i felt i had no other option but to put up with it
I'm at a loss for words... Only want to say thank you for sharing such a profound perspective on what it means to be self assured! I gained a lot from this! Thank you 💖
Ohhhh wow only 2 minutes in and I’m having a tearful release and awareness! To this day and I just celebrated 61 years young I feel wrong and extremely awkward when setting a boundary or standing up for myself!! That was an extremely dangerous thing to do as a child and young teenager so I had to surprises it for safety! And it’s still inside me 😢
Great video, I would just like to say that the vibe is absolutely great, and the voice is calm and nice, I would like to suggest you to read ethereal keys to manifest, if you manage to find it because it was banned by the government
We have a word for this in the Netherlands and is called "eigenwijs". When translating this Dutch word to English it gives the wrong translation to "Stubborn", which is a totally incorrect translation. This makes me believe there is no same word in English/American. A correct translation would be "own wise". Eigen means own, wijs means wise". Better translation is "Own-wisdom". It actually means "Be (in) your self", Be yourself without taking in anything from others. Most people are raised in the opposite way: taking care of others first before you take care of yourself (second). But actually you can not take care of others when you do not take care of yourself first and sufficiantly 🙏 In the Netherlands being called Eigenwijs is often seen as negative 👉 selfish. There are two ways of selfish but people mixed up the positive selfish and made selfish all negative. In affect not taking care of your mental needs first (structurally) will created fysical illness. And we don't want our koved ones to becone Ill. Therefor Iappreciate people who are Eigenwijs/ self-ish : as I know that taking care of yourself makes true caring of others possible. Positive selfishness makes true boundaries and love possible. ❤
"The disowned part of the self is what the other one possesses". Yes! I was just thinking about this the other day, that my ex boyfriend was like my shadow incarnated, and what I represented to him was what he needed to integrate. I wish I could see it at the time. I was so busy being the "good person" and seeing him as the one who needed to be fixed, that I didn't see that I had just as much to learn from him. I couldn't have stayed in a relationship with him because he was abusive, but I can definitely see now that he possessed "bad" qualities that I had disowned in myself, and that's part of what made me vulnerable to abuse.
You don't need to become a bad person. You just need to stand up for yourself, and to understand some social clues. Check out an e-book called 'Mastering The First Impression: The Path To Seven Dates A Month'. Until I read it, every conversation with women were neutral and I acted like some kind of doormat. The best thing is that it's not a very long read, and author has released new books as well.
I've learnt two very expensive lessons in the last 5 months. Being kind, caring and loving does not make men fall in love with you. Even if you're the whole package. Seems that ultimately my darker side - my tomboy side - my don't f* with me side, attracts much better men. The others just saw me as easy prey.
This actually makes a whole lot of sense. I find myself more authentic around my mom where I’m not in this “pleasing” frame and we get along a lot more than when I’m around others where I am putting up a fecade.
Gist of it: Speak the language of the universe- it needs to know EXACTLY what you WILL and WILL NOT accept. Therefore you need your boundaries and you can never settle. It's simple when you really think about it.
We are bad when we are ourselves to the most of 100%, because we release everything that has been stuck in our system. When you release you heal as you become a flow with abundance.
Glad to have come across this video. It’s confirmation that I’m growing in the right direction. For the past two years I’ve been embracing my dark “moon” side out of necessity by choosing not to abandon myself.
You are so enlightened. I am Thankful to have social Media, I have been able to find other people like me who understand the depths of vibrations. Which I only felt the things you teach and have never had anyone explain all The things I’ve already known unconsciously the way that you do that make complete sense to me. I know seems silly but I’ve been having people give me things from public restaurants stores and what not and have been told that I have such a great energy it’s crazy. It’s almost like the world just wants to give me things. Crazy!!
We have such a similar story it’s insane. My stepmom was exactly like yours. Very controlling very aggressive very mentally abusive. And my dad was passive and just let it all happen cause he didn’t wanna deal with it. It’s made me a huge ppl pleaser and very afraid to express my emotions or ask for my needs to be met as an adult. Cause as a child I never felt safe to do so. It’s so hard getting past this
From a spiritual perspective what your saying is not selfish at all, it’s self(ego)lessness. People Pleasing is a “super”ego, compliance, survival strategy, that’s ironically unconsciously selfish, it’s an egoic pattern to feel comfortable and “in control” to try and avoid “rejection” by creating an internal expectation that the other person has have to behave a certain way, so that’s actually selfish, it’s all about our ego wanting to feel safe and comfortable! 🙄 its core to what drives dark “empathy” imbalanced behaviors. Getting people to unconsciously turn on themselves by “threatening” their “conscience” and desire to avoid feeling guilt / shame!
Trauma and darkness is definitely a drive factor.✨👍 I also think fear can be addictive. Like constantly putting ourselves in threatening situations. And problem solving etc. Sometimes I don't pay my rent immediately when getting the paycheck on purpose (buying other things instead), so that I have to travel around and make money for it... Problem solving is one of few things that makes me feel alive for real. Thank you for being vulnerable.🙏❤️
If raised by a loveless, emotionally immature, narcissistic parent, as a survival instinct you learn to fawn to avoid being hit or treated with loveless disregard and abandoned. This then leads to people-pleasing behaviors in adulthood. The antidote isnt to be bad, it is to be real. If being real is perceived as bad by somebody, or not well received or appreciated, then its a good indication that they are fake and up to no good. Be real, be diplomatically honest, theres no reason to go around hurting people with scathing self-righteous criticism. Just dont let anyone fuck with you, and if they do, either succinctly let them know, or exit their company, or both.
Your video is 🎯. It’s true, shadow integration is very important for alignment and being your authentic self. Childhood trauma involving unhealthy adults in your life can mess with you throughout your life if you do not do the work. The video should be a huge help to anyone that needs that awareness. Setting boundaries does not make you a bad person. Don’t let others define you. You know yourself well enough to know who you are.
May your mum's soul rest in peace, Aaron!! Big hugs. And I can so relate to the things you are saying, this video found me exactly when I was contemplating this: Am I becoming a 'baad person', lately sticking to my boundaries with a few people around, and letting go of others who repeated certain toxic patterns and broke my boundaries more than once.
Today this video very much so resonates because saying no more easily is something I need to work on, such as saying no if I'm getting asked too many personal questions on a first date. Enjoying each other's company while letting the sparks fly comes first in my opinion. I don't want to be in a heated debate and have to defend the way I feel especially about politics when I first meet someone (is it just me). Letting those conversations flow naturally, effortlessly, builds more of a life partner than a checklist. Another example I'm working on is not letting someone overstay in my life when my intuition told me I should have left already. It's such a subtle calming feeling when deep down I know my truth and I try to lean into the tension of trusting higher powers and letting my ego retire from trying to control situations. I've learned not trusting myself makes it a longer lesson. Thank you for bringing so much wisdom, speaking on things that need to be talked about, and connecting so many dots for me!
I’ve been going past your vids about being magnetic and detached for so long, and now I’m finally in a space where I can receive this message and you’re the perfect deliverer!!!! ❤❤❤❤
Dear Aaron, than you for this information, I'm completely identified with what you have been through. I have always been confused as to what I'm doing wrong in my life, your videos have woken me up. I feel this could really help me. Thank you so much! 💜
I resonate with your videos and your spirit so much bro. These downloads are very helpful to me on my current journey as I’m on a path to becoming a better man. I just wanna say thank you.
Absolutely brilliantly expressed. Resonates. Light globe moment at crucial time. Understand now why feeling dis regulated for standing up for my values with ppl in my life. Especially in the dating world 🤪 I struggled to understand why ppl keep pushing their own agenda and leaving me feeling frustrated because having to reassert myself. Now understand this is necessary to be authentic 💕
Thanks for the video……I recently experienced this with some family members ……I think they are shocked I stood up for myself ….l.and they look at me as the bad person …cracks me up because they are the people that did the wrong actions .
Hah love it. I’ve been thinking about going on a villain arc. In a lot of ways I think I haven’t been living as the main character in my own story. I’m changing that now but it does feel a little evil sometimes.
Such good timing for this video, I was really thinking about this a lot for the last month and it really is true.. so many people carry so much resentment in themselves just because of the people pleasing tendencies that never let them relax and it usually backfires and explodes down the line.. great video
Opportunities opened for me when I "stopped caring" what people think about my actions. I know my path is my path and I refused to let anyone keep me from accomplishing my goals. "Bad".
The timing is impeccable. This is something that has been the elephant in the room for me in recent moths. So this morning I woke up empowered and feeling like saying NO and that NOT the avoiding a conflict situation ARE options. I felt like I could do this. And I got a few chances to practice this empowered state. At times I failed, at others - I did not. But I've started. After your video, I will keep being well...relentless with it. Oh and I'm sorry to hear about to your mom...I've been watching you since 2019 but I haven't seen much videos in recent times so I had no idea. : (
Thanks for the video as I can completely relate it to. As I was also trying to be a bad person as it not my responsibility to fix others or other relationships even family.
Awesome video, Love that you mentioned Tim Glover! Love him, I read the book "Relentless" that you mentioned. Such a good one! Very Masculine approach but def vibed with what Tim was teaching on that book, Thanks Aaron! yeah, "Cleaners" thrive on pressure and competition!
💯 I'm a natural smiler and like to vibe with positive energy but that has attracted disrespect and some ppl to walk all over me but guess what I'll continue to move like that but now with boundaries and examine people first before I Vibe with em. It's crazy out here there are energy 🧛🏽♂️s
Hey, I am deeply sorry for the passing of your Mom. I am sure it must have felt very heavy to hold all of these pieces together and people together. You made a strong choice but I think the right choice. I am the bad guy all of the time. Sometimes it's just hard for other people to see it's tough love. Plus, it is about teaching a lesson.
Can we ever be in a healthy relationship both sides? It seems like so overwhelming hearing this. I just want to have a peaceful and loving fair relationship and happy caring family.
yup...saying no does not make you bad, helps you put HEALTHY BOUNDARIES for your own damn good.. the people that really appreciates you and acknowledges you will respect your decisions, and step back. Being nice its not forgetting about yourself, your health your living...
I think it's book 3 of The Ra Material, Ra speaks heavily on the essence of service to others/ service to self. They explicitly describe the STO path as a path of outwards radiance, and the STS path as magnetic perception. I think it's healthy to dabble in both, and can say that having a radiating perception too long leavese feeling depleted. When I become more magnetic, more 'towards myself' oriented, things come to me easily and without effort.
What ways of being did you used to think was "BAD" but now realize is authentic?
Just saying ‘no I can’t/won’t have time to do that’
Cutting people out of my life that disrespected my time and attention. It’s crazy how when you set up those boundaries for yourself, people who treat you well will just show up in your life and want to be around you. Prepare to be gaslit by those people that you’re trying to cut out of your life though. Whatever you do, don’t give in to the gaslighting and trust that this person that you’re now trying to be is who you truly are.
It's funny that people who judge themselves the most are the sweetest people I have ever met 😆
Saying no to things that didn't make sense for me
@@AaronDoughty44 giving an honest opinion if you don’t like things used to feel like a bad thing. until you realize if people really care about you then they’ll want you to be able to be your truest self. I don’t like bbq for example and used to force myself to eat when family cooked that. I felt so free when I finally stopped pretending to like those dinners 🥰
"other people's tension is not my responsiblty" this belief changed my life
Other peoples opinion of me is none of my business. That's a gamechanger
You mean not being a people pleaser.
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👨👩👦@@superactive8220
YES MAN
@@toylermiyoto1963 Thank you for pleasing me with your comment.
People are just more attracted to your shadow self.
This is so real. If you grow up afraid of confrontation from abusive childhood, it suppresses your ability to speak up and you become a people pleaser. I’ve shed that part of me and have become infinitely more magnetic. Once you get to the point of no longer fearing your authenticity, it changes your energy and shifts you into attractive and empowered.
Yaaa
Thank God for you Aaron. Thank you for being a vessel my brother..I must say, that I have to disagree about one thing..Dwayne Wade was not a cleaner.😂 Kobe and Michael "the real King" Jordan only🤷🏽♀️
I experienced the same!
I failed to shed it and now time and opportunity to try again is gone.
Cherish every minute of your success. You overcame something that was a block of iron for me. I could fucking just never be strong. Always felt like a little pus sy and a boy who scared no one and got no respect in return. It's truly sickening to die like this, knowing that I have absolutely failed in every regard.
Empaths putting up healthy boundaries. We tend to be bad people for narcissistic personalities
Nailed it
That doesn’t stop them from trying. They see you as someone to add to their notch count. Not today Satan
It's not necessarily narcissist people that don't like boundaries. A lot of people struggle with their own boundaries and therefore the ones of others, and are not at all narcissists
“Empaths” are often narcissistic themselves
So much
One of the most life changing lessons I've learned is that, taking care of myself isn't selfish, but healthy. It was such a shift in reality but it was well worth the effort. I also learned, that what people think about me, is none of my business!!!!
"The disowned part of the self is what the other one possesses" This deserves to be it's own video.
What does this mean?
a smart asz would probably say that opposites attract depending upon the dynamics in relationships in general, tho the figuring out can happen
i figured out that I have/had mommy n daddy issues 😐🤓
Yes! It really does
Wow, like the skin of a 🐍 snake.. exactly, I’m true to me, every day.. shiny
I love that one I'm keeping it 😂
Being a people pleaser in life will keep you behind. Saving money and taking care of yourself first is the best thing you will not rely and be a slave to anyone
Facts
And it enables you to be more useful to others. You can’t pour from an empty cup!
When you're connected to yourself, it's easier to set boundaries, and sometimes words aren't even necessary .
@@marmuc7450 so true!!
I’m an empath who’s been struggling with the heaviness of the world but for animals only. So what I did, I gave up on all people and surrounding myself with wildlife, pets and nature. I feel zen now.
There is no such thing as an empath. You are just an empathetic person you are not some special breed of human
@@IllinInfamousempath just means more empathic then most.. chill u narcissist rofl
You might be expressing the belief that being overly nice, selfless, or accommodating doesn't always command attention or respect. True magnetism often comes from authenticity, emotional strength, and confidence without crossing into harmful behavior. The balance between kindness and strength is key.
Balance can be somewhat impossible depending on how someone else may perceive your behavior.
The life of a person pleaser is absolutely miserable. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. The journey out of that state and into myself has been so great.
We all come to this earth with lessons to learn and we choose the people who are going to help us learn the lessons hence the reason many of us choose narcissiatic or controlling people. The whole idea for this lifetime is to overcome the challenge and be free.
I learned that very young. As a kid in elementary school, I had my fair share of bullies. Those bullies became "friends" when I didn't take their crap anymore. In turn, I became popular. The savage version of me was looked at as some higher being.
6:00 - *choose authenticity over validation or approval*
Yup, very crucial.
My condolences regarding your mom 🙏🏽💐
I suggest reading a book 'Bruce Thornwood: Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' if you want to know how to man up. Just follow everything writer suggests in there, it's one of the best reads I had in a while.
Nothing helps more than the Holy Bible
@@uncledrey007 Oh really? Tell me which part helps with assertiveness please?
@@JacksonScullyturn the other cheek?? 😆
@@oldmanhendo7183 They can never answer simple questions about the book they proclaim is the best book for everything.
@@JacksonScully right lol. Also, when you ask for any proof that any of it is actually credible they quote from the book itself 🤦♂️
I love how you said they “attracted each other for a certain period of time”. Such a good understanding for our young people to learn as they move through beginnings and ending in relationship.
people can not get enough of me. i feel extremely magnetic everywhere i go and i think its because of this book i read named unleashing your dream reality by caleb clarkson. if you can find it, give it a read it's amazing!
Scam again...
I truly value what others think and learned that should never have an influence over my own thoughts or feelings :) I’ve never felt lighter than when I had that realization
Yes I ve been doing this more and more, and it actually become to feel good when I m a villan. When I set boundaries and dont let people treat me any other way
Perfect timing for this subject to be discussed on the day of a Libra eclipse !!! Thank you , this helps a lot
I clicked fast like my life depended on it
Hahah 😂❤❤ Love that
Same ❤
me too lol
Me too 😂
SAME 😂
It's crazy because I just did something "bad" or not necessarily bad but people would say Selfish or Materialistic but it had this massive positive impact that I had no idea about!! But I was just called to do this thing and did it. Always listen to your higher self and not other people.
This video resonates SOOOO much. I was brought up around a very domineering, bully stepdad. I also dated a couple guys like him too and lived like a doormat. Guys werent doing their share of responsibility and i felt i had no other option but to put up with it
I'm at a loss for words... Only want to say thank you for sharing such a profound perspective on what it means to be self assured! I gained a lot from this! Thank you 💖
whoever is reading this, just go read rapid manifestation secrets by marie runner. i just keep reading this book in phases
Scam
Ohhhh wow only 2 minutes in and I’m having a tearful release and awareness! To this day and I just celebrated 61 years young I feel wrong and extremely awkward when setting a boundary or standing up for myself!! That was an extremely dangerous thing to do as a child and young teenager so I had to surprises it for safety! And it’s still inside me 😢
Great video, I would just like to say that the vibe is absolutely great, and the voice is calm and nice, I would like to suggest you to read ethereal keys to manifest, if you manage to find it because it was banned by the government
We have a word for this in the Netherlands and is called "eigenwijs".
When translating this Dutch word to English it gives the wrong translation to "Stubborn", which is a totally incorrect translation. This makes me believe there is no same word in English/American.
A correct translation would be "own wise". Eigen means own, wijs means wise". Better translation is "Own-wisdom". It actually means "Be (in) your self", Be yourself without taking in anything from others.
Most people are raised in the opposite way: taking care of others first before you take care of yourself (second).
But actually you can not take care of others when you do not take care of yourself first and sufficiantly 🙏
In the Netherlands being called Eigenwijs is often seen as negative 👉 selfish.
There are two ways of selfish but people mixed up the positive selfish and made selfish all negative. In affect not taking care of your mental needs first (structurally) will created fysical illness.
And we don't want our koved ones to becone Ill. Therefor Iappreciate people who are Eigenwijs/ self-ish : as I know that taking care of yourself makes true caring of others possible.
Positive selfishness makes true boundaries and love possible.
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I ❤ this! Thank you 😊
Excellent 👌 you see this a lot in health services
"The disowned part of the self is what the other one possesses". Yes! I was just thinking about this the other day, that my ex boyfriend was like my shadow incarnated, and what I represented to him was what he needed to integrate. I wish I could see it at the time. I was so busy being the "good person" and seeing him as the one who needed to be fixed, that I didn't see that I had just as much to learn from him. I couldn't have stayed in a relationship with him because he was abusive, but I can definitely see now that he possessed "bad" qualities that I had disowned in myself, and that's part of what made me vulnerable to abuse.
You don't need to become a bad person. You just need to stand up for yourself, and to understand some social clues. Check out an e-book called 'Mastering The First Impression: The Path To Seven Dates A Month'. Until I read it, every conversation with women were neutral and I acted like some kind of doormat. The best thing is that it's not a very long read, and author has released new books as well.
Another scam
Bro it's horrible. I see it on +10 channels and can't say which comments are real and which not@@Snapsta123
Get a job😂
@@usrr444 what do you mean haha?
how much the author paid you to say that
I've been following your work for a while! Good stuff, keep spreading wisdom and understanding ❤
As a heavy empath, with terrible anxious attachment, you help me heaps brother, thank you 🙏
I've learnt two very expensive lessons in the last 5 months. Being kind, caring and loving does not make men fall in love with you. Even if you're the whole package. Seems that ultimately my darker side - my tomboy side - my don't f* with me side, attracts much better men. The others just saw me as easy prey.
That's interesting. My kind side I'm invisible, but the aggressive side attracts low self-esteem men
This actually makes a whole lot of sense. I find myself more authentic around my mom where I’m not in this “pleasing” frame and we get along a lot more than when I’m around others where I am putting up a fecade.
Gist of it:
Speak the language of the universe- it needs to know EXACTLY what you WILL and WILL NOT accept.
Therefore you need your boundaries and you can never settle.
It's simple when you really think about it.
This is crazy, cause the past few months I've been feeling like I'm turning into a villian, & I don't care 😂🖤❤️🔥🖤
literally what I said to my best friend today.
My villain arc starts now. Thank you Aaron!
A few min. in this is how I’ve been feeling when I Stand up for myself.
But, I Know I’ve been doing the Right Thing, concerning that, Glory to God.
We are bad when we are ourselves to the most of 100%, because we release everything that has been stuck in our system. When you release you heal as you become a flow with abundance.
I almost didn’t watch this, and I’m glad I did! Thanks Aaron you’re always so real and on point! ❤
Glad to have come across this video. It’s confirmation that I’m growing in the right direction. For the past two years I’ve been embracing my dark “moon” side out of necessity by choosing not to abandon myself.
You are so enlightened. I am Thankful to have social Media, I have been able to find other people like me who understand the depths of vibrations. Which I only felt the things you teach and have never had anyone explain all
The things I’ve already known unconsciously the way that you do that make complete sense to me.
I know seems silly but I’ve been having people give me things from public restaurants stores and what not and have been told that I have such a great energy it’s crazy. It’s almost like the world just wants to give me things. Crazy!!
Wonderful.
We have such a similar story it’s insane. My stepmom was exactly like yours. Very controlling very aggressive very mentally abusive. And my dad was passive and just let it all happen cause he didn’t wanna deal with it. It’s made me a huge ppl pleaser and very afraid to express my emotions or ask for my needs to be met as an adult. Cause as a child I never felt safe to do so. It’s so hard getting past this
He also divorced her when I was 17
Im also the oldest and my mom passed away too. Holy shit the more I listen the more similarities we have
From a spiritual perspective what your saying is not selfish at all, it’s self(ego)lessness.
People Pleasing is a “super”ego, compliance, survival strategy, that’s ironically unconsciously selfish, it’s an egoic pattern to feel comfortable and “in control” to try and avoid “rejection” by creating an internal expectation that the other person has have to behave a certain way, so that’s actually selfish, it’s all about our ego wanting to feel safe and comfortable! 🙄 its core to what drives dark “empathy” imbalanced behaviors.
Getting people to unconsciously turn on themselves by “threatening” their “conscience” and desire to avoid feeling guilt / shame!
This came at the right time. Spot on.
Trauma and darkness is definitely a drive factor.✨👍
I also think fear can be addictive. Like constantly putting ourselves in threatening situations. And problem solving etc. Sometimes I don't pay my rent immediately when getting the paycheck on purpose (buying other things instead), so that I have to travel around and make money for it... Problem solving is one of few things that makes me feel alive for real.
Thank you for being vulnerable.🙏❤️
I am learning to lean into the tension now, and it's exciting! Thanks Aaron❤
You speaking on some things I’m very familiar with, that I’ve went through and am now grateful to be on the other side of it!
NEEDED 2 HEAR THIS‼ THANK YOU AARON THANK YOU‼🛐
If raised by a loveless, emotionally immature, narcissistic parent, as a survival instinct you learn to fawn to avoid being hit or treated with loveless disregard and abandoned.
This then leads to people-pleasing behaviors in adulthood.
The antidote isnt to be bad, it is to be real. If being real is perceived as bad by somebody, or not well received or appreciated, then its a good indication that they are fake and up to no good.
Be real, be diplomatically honest, theres no reason to go around hurting people with scathing self-righteous criticism. Just dont let anyone fuck with you, and if they do, either succinctly let them know, or exit their company, or both.
As a pisces moon I am very empathetic drawing in the dark and just realizing this and along you come with this video.
Thank you Aaron 🙏
big same 🫶🏼
I needed this message... thank you! This is so true when we are people who are afraid of unpleasant interactions and judgement
Your video is 🎯. It’s true, shadow integration is very important for alignment and being your authentic self. Childhood trauma involving unhealthy adults in your life can mess with you throughout your life if you do not do the work. The video should be a huge help to anyone that needs that awareness. Setting boundaries does not make you a bad person. Don’t let others define you. You know yourself well enough to know who you are.
May your mum's soul rest in peace, Aaron!! Big hugs. And I can so relate to the things you are saying, this video found me exactly when I was contemplating this: Am I becoming a 'baad person', lately sticking to my boundaries with a few people around, and letting go of others who repeated certain toxic patterns and broke my boundaries more than once.
Today this video very much so resonates because saying no more easily is something I need to work on, such as saying no if I'm getting asked too many personal questions on a first date. Enjoying each other's company while letting the sparks fly comes first in my opinion. I don't want to be in a heated debate and have to defend the way I feel especially about politics when I first meet someone (is it just me). Letting those conversations flow naturally, effortlessly, builds more of a life partner than a checklist. Another example I'm working on is not letting someone overstay in my life when my intuition told me I should have left already. It's such a subtle calming feeling when deep down I know my truth and I try to lean into the tension of trusting higher powers and letting my ego retire from trying to control situations. I've learned not trusting myself makes it a longer lesson. Thank you for bringing so much wisdom, speaking on things that need to be talked about, and connecting so many dots for me!
I related to this so much wow! As I am also a huge empath and feel guilty if not saying yes all the time but I’ve changed alot in this way 🙏🙌
I’ve been going past your vids about being magnetic and detached for so long, and now I’m finally in a space where I can receive this message and you’re the perfect deliverer!!!! ❤❤❤❤
this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in ebook magnetic aura from Borlest
Just stop lying the people dude!!
Dear Aaron, than you for this information, I'm completely identified with what you have been through. I have always been confused as to what I'm doing wrong in my life, your videos have woken me up. I feel this could really help me. Thank you so much! 💜
You're so articulated thank you for sharing this intimate yet relatable experience and wisdom
I felt I was a bad person all day. Thus brought relief
woah!!! As a former people pleaser, questioning my own decisions to finally live for ME, this hit hard!!
I resonate with your videos and your spirit so much bro. These downloads are very helpful to me on my current journey as I’m on a path to becoming a better man. I just wanna say thank you.
YES! Have come to this realization on my own during this past month through personal experience and I totally agree.
Absolutely brilliantly expressed. Resonates. Light globe moment at crucial time. Understand now why feeling dis regulated for standing up for my values with ppl in my life. Especially in the dating world 🤪 I struggled to understand why ppl keep pushing their own agenda and leaving me feeling frustrated because having to reassert myself. Now understand this is necessary to be authentic 💕
Thanks for the video……I recently experienced this with some family members ……I think they are shocked I stood up for myself ….l.and they look at me as the bad person …cracks me up because they are the people that did the wrong actions .
It’s called boundaries
Hah love it. I’ve been thinking about going on a villain arc. In a lot of ways I think I haven’t been living as the main character in my own story. I’m changing that now but it does feel a little evil sometimes.
This was the video I didn’t know I needed! 😁bless you Aaron!
Such good timing for this video, I was really thinking about this a lot for the last month and it really is true.. so many people carry so much resentment in themselves just because of the people pleasing tendencies that never let them relax and it usually backfires and explodes down the line.. great video
Opportunities opened for me when I "stopped caring" what people think about my actions. I know my path is my path and I refused to let anyone keep me from accomplishing my goals. "Bad".
You are one of the greats...I have never needed to go farther than free material . Thank you for being you❤🖤🏝 👽💀😎
The timing is impeccable. This is something that has been the elephant in the room for me in recent moths. So this morning I woke up empowered and feeling like saying NO and that NOT the avoiding a conflict situation ARE options. I felt like I could do this. And I got a few chances to practice this empowered state. At times I failed, at others - I did not. But I've started. After your video, I will keep being well...relentless with it. Oh and I'm sorry to hear about to your mom...I've been watching you since 2019 but I haven't seen much videos in recent times so I had no idea. : (
This is just what I needed to hear 🙌🏼I appreciate you ✨🦋
Your ex-mom (narcissist) was magnetically attracted to your dad (empath) as empaths are givers and narcissists are takers
This is the truth ,Aaron your doing wonders for my everyday life, thank you so much 🙏
I love your content so much, thanks for doing what you do
Thanks for the video as I can completely relate it to. As I was also trying to be a bad person as it not my responsibility to fix others or other relationships even family.
Yea you feel bad for not considering others. But it frees your mind eventually. It's like mental illness to always think of others first
Awesome video, Love that you mentioned Tim Glover! Love him, I read the book "Relentless" that you mentioned. Such a good one! Very Masculine approach but def vibed with what Tim was teaching on that book, Thanks Aaron! yeah, "Cleaners" thrive on pressure and competition!
Automatic like I’m in a season where I’m currently the villain in everyone story while simultaneously breaking free of the matrix. Godspeed Brother ❤
💯 I'm a natural smiler and like to vibe with positive energy but that has attracted disrespect and some ppl to walk all over me but guess what I'll continue to move like that but now with boundaries and examine people first before I Vibe with em. It's crazy out here there are energy 🧛🏽♂️s
Think this is my new fave, love your energy especially in this video 👌🏼⚡️😃
Thank you for this 🫡
Wow, this really resonates with me
Honestly! I just love this topic! Thank you so much ! ❤
Thank You Aaron❤️❤️ I didn’t finished your Video but you brought me the last Piece of Information that i Needed to Complete ‘the Puzzle’ 😁🥰 Much Love!
this is explained so well! Thanks a lot
Thank you beautiful soul! You are appreciated!
Hey, I am deeply sorry for the passing of your Mom. I am sure it must have felt very heavy to hold all of these pieces together and people together. You made a strong choice but I think the right choice. I am the bad guy all of the time. Sometimes it's just hard for other people to see it's tough love. Plus, it is about teaching a lesson.
Can we ever be in a healthy relationship both sides?
It seems like so overwhelming hearing this.
I just want to have a peaceful and loving fair relationship and happy caring family.
Find a nice kind caring home loving girl that loves her dad and you won’t go far wrong
yup...saying no does not make you bad, helps you put HEALTHY BOUNDARIES for your own damn good.. the people that really appreciates you and acknowledges you will respect your decisions, and step back. Being nice its not forgetting about yourself, your health your living...
It is true being the bad guy is magnetic but so easy to abuse or go overboard. Balance is everything too
I think it's book 3 of The Ra Material, Ra speaks heavily on the essence of service to others/ service to self. They explicitly describe the STO path as a path of outwards radiance, and the STS path as magnetic perception.
I think it's healthy to dabble in both, and can say that having a radiating perception too long leavese feeling depleted. When I become more magnetic, more 'towards myself' oriented, things come to me easily and without effort.
This was great, thank you 🌱
I see you saw Nero Knowledge class its good his teachings are influencing to spread the message.
This resonates so much. Very good video. ❤
Love it! Thank you ⭐️💚💚🙌🏻