This is powerful and important to know. Setting boundaries with toxic or narcissistic people often brings conflict not because of the boundaries themselves, but because they challenge the other person's control.
Also obviously not personal, but just hearing someone says directly into the camera (especially a guy) 'I love you, I care about you, you are lovable' it is actually felt and some small part of what's broken inside gets healed. Thanks Jimmy
Thank you Jimmy: I could have used u years ago. I am so lost right now, but now I know what I am dealing with. Listening to you, I understand a lot more. Thank you.
I love how the control and dominance is explained. He actually used the words boundaries and limits when he wanted to control. For things that weren’t boundaries but explained my flaws. Kept telling me how I communicated so badly and didn’t take his feelings into account. Meanwhile family and friends were telling me uhhhh you didn’t say anything bad … they’re just hypersensitive even to imaginary things ! It’s never their fault …
This is spot on! My husband of 22 years uses all of these techniques. I’m just now learning about covert narcissism and so many things are making sense now. This is more helpful than the marriage counseling and personal counseling which never made anything better. TY
Thank you for reminding us all of these points and empowering us to take ownership of our side of the street. Your delivery is always supportive and compassionate. Thank you!!
I think everyone wishes they had seen this video sooner. I know i do…. I also know my future self will be grateful i saw it when i did. Thank you Jimmy
Worst thing is going through all this as a child from a parent. You spend your formative years learning how to be the best for them. By that I mean being turned into a boundaryless doormat that gets abused and blamed for everything. Waking up in your 30s, finally realizing you were a victim and not the aggressor. That is a gut punch that shatters your world. Then spending the next decade trying to understand why they did it and trying to dodge the abuse. To starting your 40s and calling it a lost cause and feeling like a worthless failure who couldn't even be loved by a parent and thinking, "no wonder all my relationships went south". I wish people talked about this with me decades ago. Would have save me years of pain.
My ex of 8 years left me on valentines day for a mutual friend who was supposed to be the priest for our wedding. Wish I'd seen your videos sooner, probably would've avoided a lot of suffering. It's crazy how I didn't understand the behavior until seeing stuff like this.
Try to set boundaries and this comes out its mouth I gave you everything. Really working and providing for your family. That's all I hear I then say I can live in a house of solid gold it wouldn't matter what's happening is wrong regardless of the material things. I've said it all. 😕😕
I just wept through this video because it rings so true for my experience. I am about seven months out and went no contact a few months ago. And I am just now starting to be able to read and understand without the fog that I was in. Slowly, I’m navigating my way out and I am so thankful to be out but the painful truth is I still miss them.
LOVE your videos!!! You pack SO much info into each one and you always nail it when it comes to describing a narcissist and their language/attitudes/behaviors. Thank you!!
just got diagnosed autistic 7 weeks ago. i find that almost all your advice translates pretty directly to 'how to communicate with neurotypical people'. ty. i might be 'borrowing' some of your content going forward.
I wish I had Jimmy's videos a long time ago. Thanks for these insights to remind me. My circle is small since kicking the abusers out of it, but it's a hell of a lot more peaceful. 🙏☮️❤️
Mine would always say “you’re preventing us from having a working relationship” 😅 now I realize he is saying “you’re not letting me create the controlling relationship I want”
It sounds bad but after being abused so many times, one does wonder how a narcissist wields so much power. There is something in my brain that just doesn't connect. If I ever attempted to do what the narcissist does, it would always backfire. How do they do it?
Yes I'm in the thick of it right now. And boy is he the fake victim. I'm one up on him most of family members know. They are with me the battle goes on. Oh Jimmy I was told the other day I have mental issues. I'm beyond done oh the baiting. 😮😮
Try to set boundaries and this comes out of its mouth I gave you everything. Really working and providing for your family. That's all I hear I then say I can live in a house of solid gold it wouldn't matter what's happening is wrong regardless of the material things. I've said it all. 😕😕
Tysm for this. Ive considered unblocking the narc this morning and this video popped up to remind me why I went no contact in the first place. ❤
This is powerful and important to know. Setting boundaries with toxic or narcissistic people often brings conflict not because of the boundaries themselves, but because they challenge the other person's control.
Also obviously not personal, but just hearing someone says directly into the camera (especially a guy) 'I love you, I care about you, you are lovable' it is actually felt and some small part of what's broken inside gets healed. Thanks Jimmy
Thank you Jimmy: I could have used u years ago. I am so lost right now, but now I know what I am dealing with. Listening to you, I understand a lot more. Thank you.
"Please stop standing there; they're not going to stop."
To all of you who are going through this, or went through this. You have nothing to be ashamed of. This isn't on you.
I love how the control and dominance is explained.
He actually used the words boundaries and limits when he wanted to control. For things that weren’t boundaries but explained my flaws.
Kept telling me how I communicated so badly and didn’t take his feelings into account. Meanwhile family and friends were telling me uhhhh you didn’t say anything bad …
they’re just
hypersensitive even to imaginary things ! It’s never their fault …
I had a very short relationship where I walked away.
This is spot on! My husband of 22 years uses all of these techniques. I’m just now learning about covert narcissism and so many things are making sense now. This is more helpful than the marriage counseling and personal counseling which never made anything better. TY
Thank you for reminding us all of these points and empowering us to take ownership of our side of the street. Your delivery is always supportive and compassionate. Thank you!!
I think everyone wishes they had seen this video sooner. I know i do…. I also know my future self will be grateful i saw it when i did.
Thank you Jimmy
Worst thing is going through all this as a child from a parent. You spend your formative years learning how to be the best for them. By that I mean being turned into a boundaryless doormat that gets abused and blamed for everything. Waking up in your 30s, finally realizing you were a victim and not the aggressor. That is a gut punch that shatters your world. Then spending the next decade trying to understand why they did it and trying to dodge the abuse. To starting your 40s and calling it a lost cause and feeling like a worthless failure who couldn't even be loved by a parent and thinking, "no wonder all my relationships went south". I wish people talked about this with me decades ago. Would have save me years of pain.
My ex of 8 years left me on valentines day for a mutual friend who was supposed to be the priest for our wedding. Wish I'd seen your videos sooner, probably would've avoided a lot of suffering.
It's crazy how I didn't understand the behavior until seeing stuff like this.
I’m going to listen to this every day. Thank you Jimmy!
Try to set boundaries and this comes out its mouth I gave you everything. Really working and providing for your family. That's all I hear I then say I can live in a house of solid gold it wouldn't matter what's happening is wrong regardless of the material things. I've said it all. 😕😕
I just wept through this video because it rings so true for my experience. I am about seven months out and went no contact a few months ago. And I am just now starting to be able to read and understand without the fog that I was in. Slowly, I’m navigating my way out and I am so thankful to be out but the painful truth is I still miss them.
LOVE your videos!!! You pack SO much info into each one and you always nail it when it comes to describing a narcissist and their language/attitudes/behaviors. Thank you!!
just got diagnosed autistic 7 weeks ago. i find that almost all your advice translates pretty directly to 'how to communicate with neurotypical people'. ty. i might be 'borrowing' some of your content going forward.
I wish I had Jimmy's videos a long time ago. Thanks for these insights to remind me. My circle is small since kicking the abusers out of it, but it's a hell of a lot more peaceful. 🙏☮️❤️
Mine would always say “you’re preventing us from having a working relationship” 😅 now I realize he is saying “you’re not letting me create the controlling relationship I want”
It sounds bad but after being abused so many times, one does wonder how a narcissist wields so much power. There is something in my brain that just doesn't connect. If I ever attempted to do what the narcissist does, it would always backfire. How do they do it?
“He’s just a friend, you’re so insecure”
Great video, very clear and easy to follow and what a very important message you comunicate.
Thank you for sharing!
Thanks for sharing, peace and blessings to everyone 🙏
Thank you Jimmy another excellent video.tuning In from Ireland
Yay first to respond 😊 very good video, I appreciate the clear explanation
The problem with a nacricisst is, that the person you love and is most close to you is behaving more awful than anyone else.
I get told it's always no no no. And I shake my head if you only knew.🤨🤨😵💫😵💫
Oh indifference is where I am and he wants intimacy and I'm a strong NO. No empathy like a wolf in sheep's clothing.
I appreciate this so much
You need to constantly screenshot messages as proof when they deny what was said and accuse you of lying..just exhausting 😮💨😮💨
Yes I'm in the thick of it right now. And boy is he the fake victim. I'm one up on him most of family members know. They are with me the battle goes on. Oh Jimmy I was told the other day I have mental issues. I'm beyond done oh the baiting. 😮😮
Peace with a narcissist is a roman peace.
Which is no peace at all.
Jimmy it sounds more and more like obsession. 😮
True
Ive said that about kids my partner stays silent or starts with verbal poison. Delusions ?
Question: is it common for narcissists to repeatedly cheat on a timeline, say every 3 years or so? Chronic cheating is that something else?
Why would you stay with someone like that?
Narcissistic people cheat for supply. I don't know if there's a schedule. Maybe check out Dr. Ramani too. She has a lot of good information.
Thank you soooo much for all of your work and videos. 🙏🫶🏻😊
Try to set boundaries and this comes out of its mouth I gave you everything. Really working and providing for your family. That's all I hear I then say I can live in a house of solid gold it wouldn't matter what's happening is wrong regardless of the material things. I've said it all. 😕😕
I get told it's always no no no. And I shake my head if you only knew.🤨🤨😵💫😵💫