How Mastering Detachment will change your life (my method)
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- The degree to which you are attached is the degree to which you are repelling people from coming into your life. No matter how much you try to force something to work, what is not meant for you will never be yours for long. Join the High Vibe Tribe: aarondoughty.com/highvibetribe
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My cat runs away from me. I guess I’m giving off retriever energy.
@@misscritique8863❤❤❤❤q❤❤❤❤qq
My cat has taught me EVERYTHING about detachment ! His freedom is so wonderful to watch and life together is so simple... 💕
Same here …I watch the cat & golden retriever …they love each other , they get each other . Cat walks off when the dog gets over zealous
Cats are punks!
The more you focus on yourself, and take care of yourself- the more life takes care of you ❤❤❤
This is sooo true! Im letting go of it all. Letting it be up to the universe😃
That’s not true whatsoever.
So if I go to a bar with this mindset and then try to approach the most gorgeous women then it would happen?
Now I’m left regretting not having approached as she left, and wondering about the girl I saw driving next to me down the road in Lodi earlier, and the girls that ran away from me, all the negative shit back to back, your God and universe doesn’t bless anyone, however long you can keep lying to yourself that you get things by not going for it by all means fool yourself some more, this Universe is SUPPOSED TO BE GOOD, but apparently fucking NOT.
@@GabrielXDrumsIf you’re focusing on and taking care of yourself in your everyday life, you won’t be seeking validation from women at bars or anywhere else. You’ll be content and at ease with yourself which will lead to women coming to you.
@@Nikopup yeah isn’t that funny how it works… bars are tiring, was actually gonna go to one tonight but instead I stayed home and made some comparison videos for my cymbals lol
It’s always when I’m not looking that things have happened for me anyways.. that’s not arguable…
Be open to everything and attached to nothing- Wayne Dyer
Cool I need it as my life-slogan
the first mentor i have in my life
Yes I liked that one I wrote down and I tell people that.
@@YanaWanderlust. go find a book hack your mind on borlest, enjoy life after bro...
@@theresabarnes4940 I encourage you to read Wayne Dyer’s material and his free to watch lectures on you tube. Life changing stuff. He was an amazing man. Good luck on your journey to self love and happiness
Take care of yourself and the rest will follow
I was doing drugs (an expensive one) every day, drinking every day, living with my girlfriend. I left our home, moved cities 2 months ago today.
I'm 60 days off drugs, drank once or twice a week mostly since then and have now committed (3 days) to cutting that out entirely, I haven't missed a day of work (where I'd missed about 20 in Jan/Feb from having cheap rent and an enabling partner) - and I just signed a lease for my own one bedroom apartment for July. It was a miracle to find and get the place, and I attribute it very much to having been putting the work in. Nothing comes free. We have to decide what costs we allow ourselves to pay, and when to remove unnecessary costs entirely.
I’m very proud of you 🙏🏻 I’ve been in a very similar journey and I know God loves us and has always had mercy for us. I’m also walking the sober path and it has been a blessing to me and others around me. Keep going and don’t give up
I’m just starting this journey and it has been hard….for about seven years. The best thing I find that if it’s not in the house I don’t miss it and don’t need it but when it’s there it haunts me.
I think this is the year to make big shifts and take care of our health because it’s the most important thing we have.
😇🙏🏼💖moving up in vibration and letting go and of attachments and negative connections has helped big time - and for the first time in a very long time, I feel happy again and can feel my heart. No more escaping / it’s time to feel and heal
You’re doing good keep going. Good luck
I've been reading a lot of Buddhist based books lately and this resonates with the Buddhist way of life very much. Non attachment is key. Compassion is another. I think it's hard for some to wrap their heads around. How can you be compassionate but at the same time, remain unattached? The answer relies on removing expectations. To act without expectations. You live a compassionate, non attached way of life by acting without any expectations of something in return. Always try your best, regardless of what the outcome might be. Whether it's at your job, a hobby, or a relationship with your significant other. Act with compassion. Expect nothing in return. Stay mindful. And you will be living peacefully.
This makes a lot of sense, how do you get to this point? How do you remain happy and at peace?
Please can you recommend me 2 or 3 books?
@@hortymyty6089 Read Michael Singer's books. He has it all put up nicely together.
@@hortymyty6089 read The Four Agreements
@@hortymyty6089 Just look up Buddhist books and read the descriptions and the right one will pop out to you. 💖💖
When I am having the loneliest day and holding on to something that I can’t have, you bring me peace with these messages. Thank you
Slowly but surely you’ll unlock everything you need to feel & it’s all within your divine being that’s the beauty about it. You’re never really lonely if you choose to explore how fascinating you are. Don’t forget to smile today!😊
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@@nidalahmed28 thank you 🙏
It is soooooo true!! 💥Attaching to people will cause repelling them away from you! It has been my experience. And now, when I have got enough love inside myself, I don't need to prove my value by being accepted by others. ✨✨ Of course I still expect my loved ones to love me and treasure me. But if one day they don't treasure me, I will also know how to let go of the unease and the relationship. Because attaching to someone who is not meant to be in my life isn't attractive😂Thank you for making this video🙏🏻 Blessings to you all💖
I always feel bad when I hear about non attachment, because my heart literally picks people. Then I feel attached.
Exactly. You can’t help who you are drawn to. That’s what trips me up the most.
For me, what I’ve come to develop is this sense of reparenting my self. My healing came from detaching from who I am. Becoming the observer of my life and has shifted to becoming this relationship between two parts of my self. The inner child that wasn’t allow to be see and the parental figure that I need as a child. I shift between the two personalities where I picture my self as the parent and then as the child. This relationship allow me to be free. I’ve found that meditation allows me to appreciate and notice the different voices in my head and put them in to perspective. In addition to not allowing my self to be totally absorbed by the thoughts since now im able to observe and detach from them. Finally taking back leadership of my life. Thank you Aaron for your perspective and send so much love and support to all those here!
Deep insights such as these are amazing in a man so young. I'm hitting 70 soon, and am just now catching on to these things. Who knew? After this long life, the Internet is aiding me in becoming self aware. Huge!
I'm 68 years old now and have been going through a lot in the last 10 years. I've ALWAYS loved Aaron's videos, but this is another that is on the top of the list to help me better understand my entire life - especially at this point of my life. Thank you Aaron! You're an incredible man and a good man to the core. Just wish we were neighbors.... Not for the endless lectures, but just to share the presence and energy. Calms me now just to think of it.
calms me too 😀
the less attached you are the more magnetic you are 💥
Not to stroke your ego but you keep getting more funny. I love this humility and confidence, and your ability to laugh about your humanness. Gives a permission slip to the rest of us to be human and own it. Thx for what you do. It’s helped me a lot ❤
Thank you for the video. The experiment with the baby and the still face mother triggered something in me, from the unconscious and made me cry for half an hour. I am sure I must have gone through some rejection of this kind as a baby. But it is so heartbreaking, for any parent to do that to their own child. So severely traumatizing!
Never allow others to project onto you. Their problems and baggage are not your problems or baggage.
but the thing is,
avoidants may have once been clingy
like those with anxious attachment,
maybe even MORE needy,
and had to learn to shut off emotional needs
to survive hyper-independently
because we learned the hard way
we were both too much and not enough...
that in the real world no one actually cares,
so we'd better learn to fight alone
and put the pedal to the metal...
I have so much empathy for avoidants ... Not that they want it 😂
Great summation. Brings
This was beautiful. I think mastering the art of detachment also invites healthy relationships into ones life. OC I realized this after a series of toxic partners. Now being a lone wolf (and im an extrovert), staying off social media, and becoming twain with the Divine within, truly is the middle path towards freedom.
“attachment to shame” wow!! that changed my perspective. I have always adopted the idea that there was something wrong with me, I didn’t realize that is an attachment I can break! Thank you so much, I love your videos 🫶🏼
Dude, I’m going to have listen to this subconsciously again.
You nailed it!
I was watching a video earlier and it was of a really rich person showing off their house, you could tell just by looking at him he was not happy with himself, sad, lonely, negative. Then I was watching vids of people living very simple lives and they were the most fillfulled, positivity flowing out of them. Theres nothing wrong with setting goals and trying to make money but when you dont share your blessings they become a curse. Great video Aaron 100% agree with this.
Love to drink my morning coffee and listening to Aaron. Greetings from Sweden 🇸🇪
Love is who I am. Now, at 40s I feel, I understand, I love this... ❤️ ❤ ❤ thank you for all this content.
I love this guy. His ability to articulate is so validating and healing!!!!
Exactly! I love this. We must be aware of our egos never ending search and find that unchanging value that’s always here inside of us. Why is it like this though? That things come when you don’t care if they do or not?
Growing up I was let down and abandoned by my parents in various ways, wasn’t until I started watching your videos that I learned to detach and really see the bigger picture as to why I act and feel how I do. Thank you for your videos, this one definitely hit home, consciousness and acceptance heals
I am very sensitive to energy shifts, much like you say with regards to the baby knowing within seconds of the emotional withdrawal of the mother. This is something I became hyper-vigilant towards as a child growing up. I realised in my last major relationship (which was very toxic) that I was essentially "stuck" in an infantile stage within my nervous system. I had a child with my ex, and she was always pulling away emotionally (and denying it was happening). There was one day she got really angry and left the house in a huff, but it was in this moment that I realised the child and I were exhibiting similar distressed behaviours. It was then that I understood my nervous system was stuck in this position of fear, and instead of repeating the same behaviours, I took up the mantle (because the child could not) to help co-regulate and soothe him. It was a revelation to me (among many other things that I experienced in that relationship timeframe). You're on the money with what you are saying.
The truth is that we all need to be attached as babies and internalise that constant inflow so our hearts are full. It has to happen at that early stage for healthy emotional security. Then there's healthy individuation where we detach. Sadly when we are deprived of attachment stage it's v difficult to detach as it presumes we were attached in the first place. So to ask someone to detach from whatever crumb of "love" they were holding onto can evoke huge abandonment and destabilizing. It is v v painful. Lots of love, compassion, support and God's wisdom and timing to each precious soul on this path. We were created to be loved and to love in that order. ❣
As an only-child that's always been introverted (technically ambivert) and with a strong sense of freedom, detachment is definitely the key. You can care deeply but choose who you give that too and sometimes do it at a distance only.
I just get a burst of excitement and see the beauty in exploring the world or creating. Ppl meet me with the happiness flowing through. It never has anything to do with others.
Absolutely! you makes a profound point about the power of being unattached. Letting go of expectations and finding wholeness within ourselves not only attracts love but also fosters genuine connections. 💫
Everything we need to complete us, is within us. It can't be found anywhere else. Thank you for all that you do. You have come a mighty long way and have taught a lot❤
i needed this so badly, this opened my eyes to how i really do blame everything that’s happened to me as to why i do what i do. i gave my power away and blamed everyone and everything for my own actions. THANK YOU I LOVE YOU this is such a special insightful video im so thankful i came across this and your channel
love this ❤ I realized that to detach you actually just have to follow your heart because you’re just doing what makes you happy bc you’re doing it not because u get anything from it
This is real talk here. I was feeling for a while like people in general didn't like me. No one would make eye contact with me, despite me looking to, or even smile back if I smiled passing them by.
One day I just said 'F*ck it, I'm done trying to make contact with people. The. Next. Day. People started smiling at me, saying hello. Strangers, or people I see often but don't know. Blew my mind.
The way you so seriously say “They electrically shock the baby with tasers!!” Jesus. Was not expecting that💀😂
My chow returned to me as a shih tzu puppy and lived nearly 18 years sharing her blessings.
People can be attached to things for the wrong reasons. People can be attached to things for good reasons. People can be detached from things for good reasons. People can be detached from things for bad reasons. Our future prospects rely on our reason for what we are responsible to. I would say these are attachments, and those things can be good or bad. What we are attached to will be magnetic to the people who correspond to those attachments. Which can be good or bad depending on the situation. It is reason; not whether we are attached that dictates the nature of our relationships to ideas, people and things.
Detaching now from all false help and people that are masked. Reminded today of myself aka my intuition! My intuition is a guide to my unique path ✨🙌🏼🥰
So helpful🙏🏼❤️🙌🏼 i"ve always been shy, pleapleasing and VERY attachted to people, things and places. Now the latest 2 years i've started to love myself, getting unattachted and exploring what I like/love to do. So liberating🙌🏼❤️ doing it for me and my kids❤
This was right on time. I'm a recovering perfectionist and its a constant growing edge. Its interesting bc when I put things out and they aren't perfect but they're deeply authentic - that's the real shit right there.
Geez Aaron! I’ve not seen you in years. I watched you from the very beginning. 1.69M?!!!? I’m really happy for you!!! I’ll follow closer now. You look like you’ve grown up and have found your own voice! ❤❤❤❤ Congradulations🎉🎉🎉
Only 7 minutes in but laughing so hard as it is so relatable. I literally coach people in seeking internal validation over external validation, but still feel like I myself need that external validation to feel worthy as my parents did not validate me
Aaron, you had a big impact on me back in 2021 & 2022. I’m noticing your videos seem a bit darker recently? It’s hard to explain it but it feels like the light is a little dimmed. I’m speaking metaphorically. Just noticing 🙏🏼 I am still forever grateful for your work
Marvelous to see the transformation you have made in the last 5-6 years
The vibes are tremendous
The frequencies are lucid
Peace brotha
Damn, I found this video on my home page. I felt very drawn to it, it couldn't have come at a better timing. I am grateful that I got to see this video, thank you❤
As usual you post right when I need it.
You’re absolutely right. It’s best to let go and not be attached to the wrong person or people. The popular guy analogy is very funny. Thank god I’ve always been attracted to brains over looks. 😅
I’ve gotten to a point in my journey where I have been able to break away and not seek anyone while I’m still not 💯.
Being an introvert is beneficial.
When I had a baby the first time I had to be away from them was harder on me then them. It took me over a year to leave them on an overnight trip and even then I couldn’t wait to get back to them. Kids are different though.
Namaste 🙏
so true aaron. you've done many videos on this but this is very clear. one thing, as ive let go of my career desires, they start to come.... but because i care less, the success doesnt feel as good (but still feels right)...
nonchalant as you say..
Thank you for sharing! You've done a lot of work around attachment Aaron. You said we cannot have attachment and be happy. But isn't attachment a natural part of the human psychie. We just need not overdo it. Balance between self and other.
Amazing place! Listening to you and taking a walk would be perfect now. Our energy is a gift, we must take care of it... so giving more of ourselves to other people drain us too. I am the Fontain of my own joy, and if I share with the world would be from my passions, multiplying this energy not giving, giving, giving... (for control of ego)
Detachment will provide a protected, less stressful life for you... BUT don't for a second believe your magnetism will last forever. No one wants a relationship with a person that doesn't reciprocate feelings. You will hurt people if you seek out relationships with this detached style. And children don't deserve to be hurt simply because you want to be magnetic to everyone else.
Thanks Aaron for these videos, as they remind us of the foundational truths that set us free from unhealthy ways of living & doing relationships.
Thanks for sharing this is my favorite so far. We did what we did to survive without a nurturing mother. It sucks we are even on this level of love for all and want to soread what we did not have. Real man this is legit 💯 spot on.tysm for truth teaching 👏
I'm so grateful RUclips's algorithm is working. Your channel is what I've been missing. New subscriber 🤎
I just wanted to thank you. Your podcasts and RUclips videos have gotten me through a really tough time right now. I have a better understanding of myself, why I attract the same type of men because of my childhood wound. I feel stronger, that I can lean into tension.
Aaron the joke about using tasers on the babies was just so unexpected and it made my day 😂😂
The cool boy with a toothpick is an avoidant!
Aaron thanks SO much for your perspective on this topic. Your perspective has been BEYOND helpful. It started last year with your frame technique meditation. Dancing with my devil & I have nearly danced off the cliff…
Thank you Light Dementus !!! 🙌🏾
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now, because I am contracting 😊 We are soo much alike 💚
Thank you so much for sharing this Aaron and the experience you had with the human holding you, as your mum. It was beautiful.
You speach is powerful, your montage is excellent and the subtitles of the highlighted quotes make it easier to soak the info❤
Aaron , your delivery is just soooo good . Thank you 😊
"What would that be like cat dog?"😂😂 I was thinking it and you said it! Love you Aaron, thanks for this!❤
THANK YOU AARON!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Once I lose my center and focus I just come here to listen to your videos and get back on a track ❤️ Thank you so much for putting so much work and effort into making these videos! ❤️They do keep reminding me about self-care and non-attachment ❤️
Thank you, Aaron, for being real, honest and thank you for so helpful videos! 🙏♥️
Aaron this video is amazing, I can't get enough of this topic and your perspective. 🎉
I really needed to hear this message! thank you !❤
@17:34 Your willingness to be vulnerable is admirable. Thank you for your honesty.
Much Love, Y'all 🙏🏻💕
Thank you Aaron, great reminder. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU ❤❤❤❤
Hi Aaron, I have to say I felt called to watch one of your videos this week. I have now watched 4 of the videos you have posted in the last 2 weeks and they have been so syncornositic and on topic with my life and what I needed to hear. Thank you for all that you do sharing these insights and this wisdom.
Omg! "Electrically shock the baby using tazers"! You are hilarious. 😂 And awesome! Great video. ❤
Thank you for this video Aaron. I needed to hear this right now🤎
It's been so great to see you grow . . . detachment being the key ❤
Dude!! Thank you!! ❤❤❤ Needed this and didn't even know.
So in time! Thank you so much!
I’m not gonna lie this is your best video. Wow thank you so much for doing all this work and sharing it ❤ sending you tons of love
God bless you Aaron 🙏🏽❤️🔥
I once had a neighbor who was cutting down a healthy 11 year old tree,
because the leaves fell on to his new truck. I was horrified,
and went over to the tree with my wooden walking stick
and asked the tree spirits to jump into it (kodama)
and I took the tree spirits over to my tree, where it now lives.
I now have a tree I visit at the pond,
and he said his name is Daryl. I go and touch him, talk to him,
hug him, and sometimes kiss him.
The tree in front of my home said her name is Cassandra.
I had an acquaintance who on plant medicine, could have hours of conversation
with the trees. She said that they know the entire history of the earth.
I believe it, because all trees can communicate with all trees,
because of the mycelium underneath them in the dirt,
which are the transmission highways. There is a book on this.
Lmaoo so cute - “where is my line of ppl at the gym” this is so funny love your energy ☺️☺️☺️
I love the way your psyche works Aaron.
Nah my man Aaron always on point with the timingggg !!!!😂
What a beautiful message Aaron, another message that was sent by God 🙏🏻
I fckn love your openness and vulnerability, Aaron. Love the line at the gym analogy. I remember getting my forbes 30 u 30 after wanting it for so long and yeah.. nothing changed 😂 “a relationship with RUclips” you’re hilarious honestly. Thank you for all you do ❤ no more ugly step cousins 😅😅😅 I can’t hahahah
What you teach is very humbling. I absolutely can see that Ive been the golden retriever in the past. And then I got cats and learning how to be a cat.
Excellent video Aaron, great presentation really hit the spot. Thank you for explaining it so articulately.
Thank you! This video and every video you make is 💯 procent on point!!! Many Blessings 😊
This video came to me at the right divine time. Thank you 😇 ✨️
I’m a toddler mom and I just recently discovered I’ve been struggling with undiagnosed adhd/bpd. I remember seeing the still face experiment a while back and seeing how impactful it is for littles. It’s extremely challenging navigating my own mental health struggles from my own abandonment trauma and trying to be emotionally available for my 3 year old. It’s like trying to operate programming I don’t have while emotionally hemorrhaging. It’s very hard to not shame spiral because I constantly feel like a bad mom. These are the years she’s supposed to be learning her own nervous system regulation so I’ve been going back to square one with my own nervous system regulation. It’s hard because sometimes I have to choose separation in the moment if that means we both get to regulate on our own and return in harmony. It is the most intense emotional training I’ve ever been through.
Very helpful subject. I'm going through a twin flame journey. Just learned I'm not my mind or ego. I have to learn to observe my mind and detach. This video reminds me of my current progress. It feels peaceful to be in this frame and present in life. I love your content it has changed my life. Thank you for sharing this message and yourself. I love the new style of your video's looks modern and different camera angles is interesting feels like we're live with you.
Thanks for the reminder on detachment!
This is exactly what i needed!
❤The first lesson we learned after our birth is about detachment n healthy attachments bring wisdom into our inner world🐬
Real inner Knowing knowledge !you killing it bro 💯💯
I love u so much for your honesty ❤
Aaron is like some modern day Jesus, mostly by the way he looks but also wise beyond his years! Thank you Aaron for being a Wayshower!♥️🙏
been practicing detachment number of years now life is much simpler that way all true what you said .... is there video on healing inner child been doing inner child meditation now for 4 days and still crying most of the meditation i am in the high vibe tribe did not see any video thank you so much Aaron all you for humanity
The feeling of not being good enough has actually normalized. --- I like how Aaron speaks in an easy tone; there is hope. The Freudian term "death drive" sounds definite, and that's how I used to describe my emotional condition when I was a baby. Now I am able to remove my experience label. Aaron, thank you.
Great inspiration and to see that you are focusing on to being on a better path which is always not easy but keep up the great work.