When it came to roasting pam it was so normalized to make fun of dark skinned phenotype that I didn’t think anything of it. It seemed normal to make fun of Afrocentric things. You don’t really realize how it affects you until you’re older
You're right! The anti-blck conditioning affects us on a subconscious level. When I met my husband, I was surprised that he never made any backhanded comment about my skin color, hair texture, features as a DSBW. He was the first guy that I ever dated that didn't insult me because of those things. When I told him that he told me "What? That's not normal for people to do that, that's NOT okay. There's nothing wrong with you, you're perfect this way." That's the first time I realized it was wrong to be treated that way; it was so normal in my world to be bullied for being blck by EVERYONE. I was 19 when we had that conversation. 💔
The only girls who were allowed to be natural and didn't have to get relaxers or curly perms aka the Jheri curl back in the day was mixed girls or black girls with wavy and loosely curled. If you were black with loosely curled hair. Other black people would often say you got that good hair. Even in the natural hair community a lot of girls with very kinky hair wish they had loose curl patterns and it's sad.
Girl!! There are gonna be multiple comments left by me today as I listen 😂 First & foremost: thank you for reiterating the self deprecating statements of parents around their young boys & girls when discussing hair. We need to be MINDFUL in our vocabulary. Glass half full, not empty. We put each other down more than outsiders do us. We should be attracted to OUR OWN phenotype before another’s. So, show some real self respect & love moving forward. This is for my black women AND men 💯
There is a natural hair you tube creator who said her mom put a relaxer in her hair at 6 months...I could NOT believe what i was hearing..That was just heartbreaking SMH😥😢
Sis fr! I know what you were saying was correct 💯 but I was zoning out!! We are so cute. So fine. Look at the screen. Look at us! ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏿✊🏾The trees that match the hair GIRL SIS. QUEEN. just 🪄 ✨ magical
Everyday I strive to love and accept my curly hair, but I've chosen not to wear my hair out and free only because its at a short length that I don't like right now, but mostly I keep it covered to keep my hair moisturized and keep the length and ends of my hair tucked away and protected. I'm on a journey to grow my natural hair as long as I want, and keep it as healthy as possible.
@@ebonywatson9939 I think hair care differs based on porosity AND texture. A straight hair person with high porosity and coily hair person with high porosity going to need different approaches. Straight hair (regardless of the porosity) not going to need as much slip in their products, they aren't going to need a specific detangling brush/ tools, they aren't going to need to stretch their hair, they probably aren't going to need products with much hold or defining properties etc. Same for coily vs curly. I think each texture needs its own approach and yes knowing your porosity helps as well.
Firstly I looooveee your channel. Wow, I am so happy I have stumbled upon it. In the last two years I have been on a journey of loving my coils in its most natural state. I have come from wearing weaves and dramatic baby hairs for years. This has altered my self image and at a time i didnt feel pretty without someone elses hair type on my head or "edges". In 2022 I had to cut all my hair off. Unfortunately this was a result of domestic violence, however it helped me reshape my self perception. God truly carried me through and I never stopped praying that he help me see myself the way he sees me
Thank you so much for watching and I’m so sorry you had to go through a domestic violence situation but I’m so happy you made it to the other side of it…and yes I was referring to our hair being the same as God based off the biblical description of Gods image🤎🤎🤎
YOU RIGHT AS A CHILD I DIDNT THINK ABOUT MARTIN BUT WHEN I SAW THE REUNION OF MARTIN TACHINA ARNOLD SAID ALOT OF PEOPLE WAS CALLING HER BEDDY BEE BECAUSE OF HER KITCHEN BEING COILY OR WHAT THEY WOULD CALL "NAPPY" I KNOW THAT HAD TO BE HARD ON HER 😢😢😢😢😢
I heard about that comment about Dani Leigh. I thought that was in reference to it being bleach blonde and the curls were really on their last strands 🤷🏾♀️ so I thought she was commenting about her hair’s health but what do I know 😂
@@CoffeeCuties777I kind of beg the differ when you said that black men like natural hair. From my experience a lot of them prefer looser curl types. I have 4b very thick and densed hair that looks more curly when ever I wash and condition it and apply leave in conditioner, cream moisturizer, and blue magic hair grease. I've been told that I have good hair. I remember standing in line waiting on some food that I ordered in a restaurant. I had done some two strand mini twist that day. And there was this black man standing next to me and he was looking at my hair and he told me my hair was beautiful and in my mind I was thinking this is a brother that loves a black woman with her natural hair. Before I can tell him thank you. He went on to say I like your natural hair because it don't look all nappy like other black women. Some black women shouldn't even be natural. I told him that all hair types are beautiful no matter the texture . And he said nah nah nah if it's too nappy I ain't feeling that. I'm so happy that you didn't experience any negative comments towards your hair. But unfortunately a lot of women and girls with 4C type hair do experienced that when it comes to black men and black people.
To me, a black man who doesn't like you with your natural hair is a black man you shouldn't even be trying to date. I will say once I started really loving my hair black men really started being drawn to me, I have mostly 4b coils.
Hey! No I don’t have a Pinterest that I have set up yet but I need to work on creating my mood board so I can share it but we do share coily styles in my discord🤎 discord.gg/RezJfF9u
Just to add, after researching Afro-American history, it seems a good amount of Creoles and Mulattoes have merged with Afro-Americans, to form a new emerged Afro- American identity. A good chunk of Afro-Americans have Creole and Mulattoe ancestry as well as Native American Indian ancestry. The Afro-American ethnicity is a beautiful melting pot with beautiful diversity. Let's embrace this. Peace and Blessings. 😊
Literally no. Where did you get this information????? I hate how y'all speak on Creoles and don't know anything. CREOLE IS NOT A RACE. It is a shared heritage. African American is also not a race it's an ethnic group. Biracial people are still apart of ethnic groups. And NOT ALL CREOLES ARE MIXED.
@@KNt820 Ok but the original Negroes and Negresses quite a few have intermixed with bi-heritage mixed people, Creoles of colour, and Native American Indians. Furthermore, their are arguably Indigenous Indian Americans.
Pin-straight hair is actually more of an East Asian trait ... than a European trait. Europeans tend to have a slight texture to their hair. It all has to do with the cross-sectional shape of the hair shaft. Asians have round shafts, Europeans have slightly oval shafts, while Africans have very defined pinched oval shafts. This determines the angle at which the hair grows from the scalp.
@@mediacron2258you’d be surprised how many of those people religiously flat iron their hair. Plenty have wavy or even curly hair (more Indians have curls than East Asian, but they can be curly too).
@@ravenrebel3183 i am Asian so I know that some south Asian can have slight curls. But in east, south east and partly south Asia it s almost 100% natural straight. Natural. We are the proud kings of straight. And in south Asia too a looooot of people have straight hair ( and for real, they dont have a house, and they defo dont have the means to straight iron Anything or Even eat). My life is a mix of east, south, south east asians. We allll have straight hair. Natural. The only difference is How stiff they are. My hair is straight like a stick. South asian’s is straight but sweet when you touch it.
Beautifully presented. Remember their are Afro-ethnic biracial or mixed heritage women like Doja Cat and Amera Le Negra who have coily hair similar to Afro-American women. Their are Afro-American-Creole women like Solange Knowles who also have coily hair similar to Afro-American women.As well as Afro-ethnic MGM/Admixtures women like YaYa Decosta who have coily hair similar to Afro-American women. Let's not be divided. Yes all should freely embrace their beautiful natural coily hair, and the beautiful versatility of this.😊 Enjoy your day!😊
Nothing is more hated than an unambiguous dark skin woman with clear afrocentric features. Those other women benefit in other ways from their proximity to whiteness, the hair they have comes from their unambiguous parent. How bout black people love their hair so when they create mixed children they won't be passing on the trauma from the black parent.
Yes I’m aware there are many different admixtures of black women that have coily hair however this channel is to highlight the coily hair of black women. Of course anybody that benefits from the content are welcomed but black women are the focal point of this channel 🤎🤎🤎
Exactly, the white women were jealous of the attention white men were giving mixed women and their luscious voluminous curls and waves, so had the laws changed to force us to cover up.
This comment is gonna be slightly off topic but anyone else more so frustrated with their porosity more than their hair texture?? I love that fuzzy natural look but i have naturally high porosity 4b hair so i cant rock those styles without my hair breaking off 🥲 Lately ive just been pulling my hair back into a pony tail and wearing a head wrap because i cant do much manipulation without it breaking and getting severely tangled rip. Tips? It literally dries within seconds and it's been this way since I was a kid 😭
Mine is the same. I’ve been wearing mini twists more and also washing more frequently may help. Doing the loc method or lco method can help before it dries out in between washes too
I find that High Po hair needs more protein. So you may need to up your protein in your wash day routine. I generally use protein every time I wash my hair. I use various types of protein - henna, rice water, bonding treatments (Loreal/Redkin), Ayurveda powders, Aphogee 2 step. You have to find out what works for you but it definitely reduces the hair fall and gives your hair the strength it needs. Hope that helps 😊
When it came to roasting pam it was so normalized to make fun of dark skinned phenotype that I didn’t think anything of it. It seemed normal to make fun of Afrocentric things. You don’t really realize how it affects you until you’re older
You're right! The anti-blck conditioning affects us on a subconscious level. When I met my husband, I was surprised that he never made any backhanded comment about my skin color, hair texture, features as a DSBW. He was the first guy that I ever dated that didn't insult me because of those things. When I told him that he told me "What? That's not normal for people to do that, that's NOT okay. There's nothing wrong with you, you're perfect this way." That's the first time I realized it was wrong to be treated that way; it was so normal in my world to be bullied for being blck by EVERYONE. I was 19 when we had that conversation. 💔
Facts!! Only when I started to experience that bullying as a child did I recognize Pam’s treatment
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A family friend of mine always complained about my natural hair. I finally decided to let that friendship go. It’s been over 10 years.
That’s great…toxic people have no room in our lives🤎🤎🤎
The only girls who were allowed to be natural and didn't have to get relaxers or curly perms aka the Jheri curl back in the day was mixed girls or black girls with wavy and loosely curled. If you were black with loosely curled hair. Other black people would often say you got that good hair. Even in the natural hair community a lot of girls with very kinky hair wish they had loose curl patterns and it's sad.
Yes very true.
Girl!! There are gonna be multiple comments left by me today as I listen 😂
First & foremost: thank you for reiterating the self deprecating statements of parents around their young boys & girls when discussing hair. We need to be MINDFUL in our vocabulary. Glass half full, not empty. We put each other down more than outsiders do us.
We should be attracted to OUR OWN phenotype before another’s. So, show some real self respect & love moving forward. This is for my black women AND men 💯
🤎🤎🤎
💯
It’s a shame that we even need a law to where the hair that grows from our scalps. It’s just weird
I agree smh 🤦🏾♀️ thanks for watching 🤎
There is a natural hair you tube creator who said her mom put a relaxer in her hair at 6 months...I could NOT believe what i was hearing..That was just heartbreaking SMH😥😢
Sis fr! I know what you were saying was correct 💯 but I was zoning out!! We are so cute. So fine. Look at the screen. Look at us! ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏿✊🏾The trees that match the hair GIRL SIS. QUEEN. just 🪄 ✨ magical
🤎🤎🤎🤎
The nappy head, or to difficult, etc.. is what I heard as a child.
Everyday I strive to love and accept my curly hair, but I've chosen not to wear my hair out and free only because its at a short length that I don't like right now, but mostly I keep it covered to keep my hair moisturized and keep the length and ends of my hair tucked away and protected.
I'm on a journey to grow my natural hair as long as I want, and keep it as healthy as possible.
That’s so awesome 🤎🤎🤎you got this and if you have question about your journey along the way best join my discord🤎🤎🤎
Thank you for your work. ☺️🥰
Thank you so much for supporting 🤎🤎🤎
Maybe if we realize that there’s actually 3 types of hair not a chart of hair. We either have straight, wavy or curly hair, not 3a, 4c etc….
I know this is what is taught in cosmetology school but maybe it should be updated to add Coily. I think Coily behaves differently than curly.
Coily is also different to kinky hair too. I think we should include those because the hair care required differs
@@cutesyjam I think the hair care differed by porosity
@@ebonywatson9939 I think hair care differs based on porosity AND texture. A straight hair person with high porosity and coily hair person with high porosity going to need different approaches. Straight hair (regardless of the porosity) not going to need as much slip in their products, they aren't going to need a specific detangling brush/ tools, they aren't going to need to stretch their hair, they probably aren't going to need products with much hold or defining properties etc. Same for coily vs curly. I think each texture needs its own approach and yes knowing your porosity helps as well.
Firstly I looooveee your channel. Wow, I am so happy I have stumbled upon it. In the last two years I have been on a journey of loving my coils in its most natural state. I have come from wearing weaves and dramatic baby hairs for years. This has altered my self image and at a time i didnt feel pretty without someone elses hair type on my head or "edges".
In 2022 I had to cut all my hair off. Unfortunately this was a result of domestic violence, however it helped me reshape my self perception. God truly carried me through and I never stopped praying that he help me see myself the way he sees me
Thank you so much for watching and I’m so sorry you had to go through a domestic violence situation but I’m so happy you made it to the other side of it…and yes I was referring to our hair being the same as God based off the biblical description of Gods image🤎🤎🤎
Hope they get well soon loll beautifully put together video, coffee 💛💛💛
Thank you 🤎🤎🤎
YOU RIGHT AS A CHILD I DIDNT THINK ABOUT MARTIN BUT WHEN I SAW THE REUNION OF MARTIN TACHINA ARNOLD SAID ALOT OF PEOPLE WAS CALLING HER BEDDY BEE BECAUSE OF HER KITCHEN BEING COILY OR WHAT THEY WOULD CALL "NAPPY" I KNOW THAT HAD TO BE HARD ON HER 😢😢😢😢😢
Oh wow smh 🤦🏾♀️ I didn’t catch the reunion but that is sad…she was and is so beautiful to me 🤎🤎🤎
I heard about that comment about Dani Leigh. I thought that was in reference to it being bleach blonde and the curls were really on their last strands 🤷🏾♀️ so I thought she was commenting about her hair’s health but what do I know 😂
I thought so too when I heard it but the narrative going around is that she was referring to hair type but idk for sure either 🤎
I agree with everything you’ve stated 💯
Thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
@@CoffeeCuties777I kind of beg the differ when you said that black men like natural hair. From my experience a lot of them prefer looser curl types. I have 4b very thick and densed hair that looks more curly when ever I wash and condition it and apply leave in conditioner, cream moisturizer, and blue magic hair grease. I've been told that I have good hair. I remember standing in line waiting on some food that I ordered in a restaurant. I had done some two strand mini twist that day. And there was this black man standing next to me and he was looking at my hair and he told me my hair was beautiful and in my mind I was thinking this is a brother that loves a black woman with her natural hair. Before I can tell him thank you. He went on to say I like your natural hair because it don't look all nappy like other black women. Some black women shouldn't even be natural. I told him that all hair types are beautiful no matter the texture .
And he said nah nah nah if it's too nappy I ain't feeling that. I'm so happy that you didn't experience any negative comments towards your hair. But unfortunately a lot of women and girls with 4C type hair do experienced that when it comes to black men and black people.
To me, a black man who doesn't like you with your natural hair is a black man you shouldn't even be trying to date.
I will say once I started really loving my hair black men really started being drawn to me, I have mostly 4b coils.
I agree 100 percent…thanks for watching 🤎🤎🤎
Love the images and the messages! Good job. Keep it up. New subscriber. ❤
Yay 😀 thank you 🤎🤎🤎
Thank you for another banger indeed. Do you have a Pinterest where I can get all those beautiful inspiration for hairstyles?
Hey! No I don’t have a Pinterest that I have set up yet but I need to work on creating my mood board so I can share it but we do share coily styles in my discord🤎
discord.gg/RezJfF9u
I had to pray to the Holy Spirit to deliver me from hair dismorphia 😮💨 After 8 months, I am loving every bit of it #afrocentric 🩵🌸
That’s so wonderful 🤎🤎🤎thanks for watching 🤎
What if ur using the weaves/wigs to grow ur hair 😭😭 yall i love my hair i just want it to be longer
I would recommend wearing wigs and weaves that match your own hair type and texture if you’re using it for growth, aesthetics etc 🤎🤎🤎
Great video ❤
Thank you 🤎🤎🤎
Just to add, after researching Afro-American history, it seems a good amount of Creoles and Mulattoes have merged with Afro-Americans, to form a new emerged Afro- American identity. A good chunk of Afro-Americans have Creole and Mulattoe ancestry as well as Native American Indian ancestry.
The Afro-American ethnicity is a beautiful melting pot with beautiful diversity. Let's embrace this.
Peace and Blessings. 😊
Yall be clinging to the 39% aftican dna like the other percentages don't matter
Literally no. Where did you get this information????? I hate how y'all speak on Creoles and don't know anything. CREOLE IS NOT A RACE. It is a shared heritage. African American is also not a race it's an ethnic group. Biracial people are still apart of ethnic groups. And NOT ALL CREOLES ARE MIXED.
@@KNt820 Ok but the original Negroes and Negresses quite a few have intermixed with bi-heritage mixed people, Creoles of colour, and Native American Indians. Furthermore, their are arguably Indigenous Indian Americans.
@@KNt820 All human beings are part of the Adamic human race. As we are all part of the Almighty Father's beautiful creation.
Most of Asian have bone straight hair naturally (when you say that it is rare, it s not in Asia :) )
Pin-straight hair is actually more of an East Asian trait ... than a European trait. Europeans tend to have a slight texture to their hair. It all has to do with the cross-sectional shape of the hair shaft. Asians have round shafts, Europeans have slightly oval shafts, while Africans have very defined pinched oval shafts. This determines the angle at which the hair grows from the scalp.
It’s rare in majority of communities 🤎
@@rosam674 sure but most of ppl in east Asia and a lot in south Asia have straight hair. So it is not rare in ALL communities, just in some!
@@mediacron2258you’d be surprised how many of those people religiously flat iron their hair. Plenty have wavy or even curly hair (more Indians have curls than East Asian, but they can be curly too).
@@ravenrebel3183 i am Asian so I know that some south Asian can have slight curls. But in east, south east and partly south Asia it s almost 100% natural straight. Natural. We are the proud kings of straight. And in south Asia too a looooot of people have straight hair ( and for real, they dont have a house, and they defo dont have the means to straight iron Anything or Even eat). My life is a mix of east, south, south east asians. We allll have straight hair. Natural. The only difference is How stiff they are. My hair is straight like a stick. South asian’s is straight but sweet when you touch it.
Beautifully presented. Remember their are Afro-ethnic biracial or mixed heritage women like Doja Cat and Amera Le Negra who have coily hair similar to Afro-American women. Their are Afro-American-Creole women like Solange Knowles who also have coily hair similar to Afro-American women.As well as Afro-ethnic MGM/Admixtures women like YaYa Decosta who have coily hair similar to Afro-American women.
Let's not be divided. Yes all should freely embrace their beautiful natural coily hair, and the beautiful versatility of this.😊
Enjoy your day!😊
Nothing is more hated than an unambiguous dark skin woman with clear afrocentric features. Those other women benefit in other ways from their proximity to whiteness, the hair they have comes from their unambiguous parent. How bout black people love their hair so when they create mixed children they won't be passing on the trauma from the black parent.
Yes I’m aware there are many different admixtures of black women that have coily hair however this channel is to highlight the coily hair of black women. Of course anybody that benefits from the content are welcomed but black women are the focal point of this channel 🤎🤎🤎
@@CoffeeCuties777 Ok cool. Peace and Blessings. 😊
Solange is literally African American because her father is.
Tignon=tee on, a rule made to separate mixed women from white women. Only in Louisiana
Exactly, the white women were jealous of the attention white men were giving mixed women and their luscious voluminous curls and waves, so had the laws changed to force us to cover up.
This comment is gonna be slightly off topic but anyone else more so frustrated with their porosity more than their hair texture??
I love that fuzzy natural look but i have naturally high porosity 4b hair so i cant rock those styles without my hair breaking off 🥲
Lately ive just been pulling my hair back into a pony tail and wearing a head wrap because i cant do much manipulation without it breaking and getting severely tangled rip.
Tips? It literally dries within seconds and it's been this way since I was a kid 😭
Mine is the same. I’ve been wearing mini twists more and also washing more frequently may help. Doing the loc method or lco method can help before it dries out in between washes too
Are you in my discord…it’s a few ladies in there with high porosity hair that are willing to share their tips 🤎🤎🤎
I find that High Po hair needs more protein. So you may need to up your protein in your wash day routine. I generally use protein every time I wash my hair. I use various types of protein - henna, rice water, bonding treatments (Loreal/Redkin), Ayurveda powders, Aphogee 2 step. You have to find out what works for you but it definitely reduces the hair fall and gives your hair the strength it needs. Hope that helps 😊