When Being Biracial Becomes the Representation of Black Hair : Texturism & Erasure.

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  • Опубликовано: 21 янв 2023
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  • @diarramboup571
    @diarramboup571 Год назад +2764

    Being able to run your fingers through your hair (without a silk press or blow out) does NOT represent me lmaooo 😂🤣🤣

    • @-_Somebody_
      @-_Somebody_ Год назад +80

      This

    • @anikaevanson6578
      @anikaevanson6578 Год назад +61

      THANK YOU!!!

    • @ForbsieLaLa
      @ForbsieLaLa Год назад +114

      I love my fingers and even with a blow out it has to be done immediately because those hairs find every reason and no reason to intertwine

    • @ms-abominable
      @ms-abominable Год назад +96

      I'm sayin!! I gotta be under the water for 4 hours before I can feel it hit my scalp ok?????

    • @hartandsoul85
      @hartandsoul85 Год назад +96

      Right!!! I'd rip out half my hair if I tried copying her hair routine. Oops , shouldn't have said that! As soon as people with 4c (4z?) hair say something like that, we get jumped on with, "It's because you're not using the right products," or, "Your hair must be damaged..."

  • @magzjay2458
    @magzjay2458 Год назад +2722

    Viola Davis requiring her natural hair be shown on her show How to Get Away with murder was groundbreaking and allowed me to see my hair texture on tv. I am grateful to her.

    • @cinnamonstar808
      @cinnamonstar808 Год назад +144

      she deserved that emmy win

    • @cassthegrimm8522
      @cassthegrimm8522 Год назад +132

      She definitely made me feel pretty seeing her in her natural hair and her signature snotty nose

    • @chicagoliightsx
      @chicagoliightsx Год назад +15

      @@cassthegrimm8522 😆👏🏽 Beautiful! Haha🙌🏽✨

    • @mastercyclonia
      @mastercyclonia Год назад +15

      Yes! I will never forget that

    • @msbrad2013
      @msbrad2013 Год назад +16

      I cried no lie

  • @Shalayah2010
    @Shalayah2010 Год назад +945

    What you said was SO profound. You can see Tia's hair texture on many other races or ethnicities; white, Spanish, Latinas, hell even Arabics.. but you will NEVER see my texture (4c) on any other race BUT black ppl. THIS IS BLACK HAIR" I love it!!

    • @mynameiswoman
      @mynameiswoman Год назад +47

      I hv 14% black ancestry...(one of my grandmother's was biracial) and my hair is more kinky than Tia. However I would never call myself black because I'm not. I'm a mixed person and identify as such.

    • @Shalayah2010
      @Shalayah2010 Год назад +131

      @@mynameiswoman And that's perfectly ok =) I don't understand why biracial ppl feel like they have to choose. your not just black and your not just white. your biracial. be proud of it.

    • @angiesspace2644
      @angiesspace2644 Год назад +30

      @@mynameiswoman who is asking you to. Why are you even on here debating your race. If you are mixed you are mixed end of.

    • @PinkShawty149
      @PinkShawty149 Год назад +10

      I’m mixed and have 4c hair lol dad is black, mom is black/white

    • @mynameiswoman
      @mynameiswoman Год назад +13

      @@angiesspace2644who's debating?! my dear one must try to refrain from commenting when one's on their period. Irate much!

  • @elainamcclendon5593
    @elainamcclendon5593 Год назад +99

    No joke. When she referred to her hair as “black hair” I thought she want referring to the actual color of it. I didn’t think she would be wild to think it was actually black, kinky hair.

  • @EmpressSunshinesMother
    @EmpressSunshinesMother Год назад +1644

    Mainly in America have I seen that it is common for biracial people to identify as black. Where I’m from in the UK and many countries I have travelled to, biracial is biracial and black is black. This ridiculous notion of calling everyone with 1% black, black, needs to be addressed and shelved. You can’t refer to people like Obama, Halle Berry, Mariah Carey, and Tia etc as black one day and then the next be outraged by Tia’s video.

    • @howcanyoudothistome1
      @howcanyoudothistome1 Год назад +107

      Agreed

    • @Cinnamoncupquake
      @Cinnamoncupquake Год назад +141

      Who is calling Mariah Carey black? 😂

    • @Iletyoulive
      @Iletyoulive Год назад

      @@Cinnamoncupquake delusional BP with self hate issues

    • @c.c.2302
      @c.c.2302 Год назад +455

      @@Cinnamoncupquake A LOT of ppl. Let’s be real

    • @DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL
      @DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL Год назад +223

      America forces people to pick a side but Black women are changing that

  • @sadievirtue1636
    @sadievirtue1636 Год назад +2655

    If Tia Mowry thinks her hair is the "standard" of black hair, then she's dismissing all black women who do not have hair like hers! Her white privilege is certainly alive and well!

    • @adesuwa9112
      @adesuwa9112 Год назад +169

      Sadly so true- I’ve been a fan of hers for years and hated when I saw that she posted this esp just to peddle a random hair care product 🙃

    • @nicestdrummergrl
      @nicestdrummergrl Год назад +36

      EXACTLYYYYY!! 💯

    • @justinethomas5020
      @justinethomas5020 Год назад

      Stop with all this crap about white privilege Yall sound dumb as hell. If yall don't like mixed people due to self hate or whatever just say that

    • @octoberflower6943
      @octoberflower6943 Год назад +75

      Exactly why I don't like her

    • @fedhaamour
      @fedhaamour Год назад +16

      Exactly

  • @terrancemaloney29
    @terrancemaloney29 Год назад +388

    I've noticed that mixed people with loose coil textured hair has become the standard of "Natural Hair". Tracee Ellis Ross, Tia & Tamera Mowry, etc. Real Black hair is ALOT DIFFERENT from those hair types. I've definitely noticed the visual representation of Black hair really is what we call "good hair".

    • @lyanarose1382
      @lyanarose1382 Год назад +39

      I agree with your statement however I wouldn’t call it “real black hair” as we know black hair comes in all types, forms and textures. Fully black women have the same hair type as a lot of the women you’ve mentioned so it was still be “real black hair” the coarseness or texture of a hair should not change that. I do believe however we need to see more and different textures as much as we see those. Texturism is still very much a problem.

    • @terrancemaloney29
      @terrancemaloney29 Год назад +13

      @Lyaná Rose Loose coil hair texture comes from mixing White with Black. Your parents can both be Black people... and you can consider yourself as fully Black because of that. But that's not true. Its in the Blood. The mixing is still there. THAT is why there are so many textures as you mentioned.

    • @lyanarose1382
      @lyanarose1382 Год назад +31

      @@terrancemaloney29 there are people with coarse hair that are mixed and even more mixed then those you mentioned. Technically all of us have mixed blood in us at some point thanks to slavery. Also there are true Africans with looser hair texture throughout history. I see your point but it is solely an opinion and not fact.

    • @tias.6675
      @tias.6675 Год назад +9

      So called "black hair" can look the same as theirs. It's not uncommon. This is America. My niece isn't biracial at all and has a similar hair texture.

    • @mdte5421
      @mdte5421 Год назад +20

      No I disagree! I’m a black woman from east Africa Ethiopia ! I have a hair texture like tia or those women u listed! Black ppl hair and Color come in different texture etc .. and don’t come back and say we are mixed because we are not !!!

  • @loveandjoy810
    @loveandjoy810 Год назад +190

    As someone who is biracial, I agree 100% with what you are saying. My hair does NOT represent black hair at all. I have 2 daughters with my African husband. Both girls have 4c hair and both are struggling to accept themselves and the way they look. It breaks my heart because both of my girls are so beautiful. I struggled with how to style their hair because mine is literally wash and go, whereas I have to plan and spend hours styling and braiding their hair. I stepped up to the challenge to learn how to properly do their hair and I want them to feel proud of who they really are. It’s a challenge when the world is so Eurocentric and it doesn’t help that they see how little time I have to spend on my hair. One daughter said, I wish I would have gotten your hair mom. I nearly cried. I’m still trying to help them love themselves as is.

    • @girlonline9038
      @girlonline9038 Год назад +32

      I'm 21 with kinky hair, and you definitely remind me of my mom. She's coloured South African, which is a term for biracial. But she was and still is there for me. Thankyou for being a great mom

    • @ShellynW-nd6ff
      @ShellynW-nd6ff Год назад

      Wool, Cotton, Linen, Silk

    • @nathalieaveluo
      @nathalieaveluo Год назад

      I’m not one to tell adults what to do but at this point, do both your daughters a favor a loc their hair so that way it’s easier in all three of y’all 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @hmmm2564
      @hmmm2564 10 месяцев назад +11

      No offense but you should have prepared for this before having kids with your African husband. It shows that you weren't aware/played about colorism and mixed privilege.

    • @hmmm2564
      @hmmm2564 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@nathalieaveluono she should learn

  • @molebohengmaphepha80
    @molebohengmaphepha80 Год назад +1386

    As someone who is from South Africa, instantly understood the concept of Texturism when you said it without even googling it. During Apartheid they had the "Pencil Hair Test" where they'd use a pencil to run through your hair, if it passed through one's hair easily, you were other considered white or colored which I know is a slur in the USA, but it is socially acceptable in South Africa and is categorized as a race. Just by one's texture of their hair, their whole life was determined, access to schools, higher education, location, healthcare and etc. So yes conversations around black hair are political and do matter.

    • @Mimi-rk1vy
      @Mimi-rk1vy Год назад +110

      Wow, that’s interesting & sad.

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +28

      I think SA had way more serious issues beyond hair. you were displaced in your own country. hair was the least of it.

    • @Itsgoodtobehere95
      @Itsgoodtobehere95 Год назад +253

      @@marie-francoiset9402 no it wasn’t the least. It’s one of the many other problems. You can’t undermine a problem you never experienced

    • @msnakase5893
      @msnakase5893 Год назад +170

      @@marie-francoiset9402hair actually played a role in determining a person social status and segregation in South Africa during the apartheid times.

    • @brombromsmuva9215
      @brombromsmuva9215 Год назад +5

      Awful

  • @ElisiasEvolution
    @ElisiasEvolution Год назад +1139

    When have you ever seen a women with afro hair or locs promoting a hair product? I haven't, We need more representation!!

    • @HealthyBrownGirls
      @HealthyBrownGirls Год назад +78

      Tabitha Brown...however she advertises that her products are for ALL hair types...which is a topic for another conversation if you ask me...

    • @rejectionisprotection4448
      @rejectionisprotection4448 Год назад +50

      @@HealthyBrownGirls I HATE that advertising; it's just confusing and often means "jack of all trades, master of none".
      Thank God for Qhemet Biologics and 4C only hair products (and others).

    • @ElisiasEvolution
      @ElisiasEvolution Год назад +2

      @@HealthyBrownGirls OK that's natural hair, I love tab, what about locs then??

    • @ElisiasEvolution
      @ElisiasEvolution Год назад +6

      @@robyn8342 Is that on TV?? I haven't seen anyone with locs over here, maybe relaxed hair that's about it.. I'm in the U.K..

    • @ziora0
      @ziora0 Год назад +26

      Women with 4 type hair will have to be representation they want to see. Nobody can force us, we have to embrace our hair to the fullest. We’d made it so easy for 2 and 3 type people to take over the movement because we hide our hair

  • @theorderofthebees7308
    @theorderofthebees7308 Год назад +355

    I really appreciate Issa Rae , on Insecure she consistently found different unique ways to wear her natural hair it was stylish and fantastic . ❤️❤️ that was ground breaking to me .

    • @jp6846
      @jp6846 3 месяца назад +1

      wholeheartedly agree!

  • @MsMisscarson
    @MsMisscarson 10 месяцев назад +31

    Thank you for this. I used to get so mad when a mixed girl would say “ this is all my real “natural” hair “ because nappy hair grows differently and a lot of us can’t just put water on our hair. When I went to white school the white kids would use the “mixed” kids as their “black” friend, while still not accepting the fully black ppl.

  • @puppywifey
    @puppywifey Год назад +1681

    "Real black hair is hair that couldn't be any other texture." The audacity of me not realizing this until you said it. Only other black women have hair like me. Right, you're so right. 🥰

    • @Fudgeey
      @Fudgeey Год назад +77

      I love the quote and the intent of the message. I genuinely feel like this should be the foundation of quote unquote "Black Hair", while biracial and/or pale skinned Black people with type 4c get their products and representation from OUR image and maintenance routines, not the other way around.

    • @octoberflower6943
      @octoberflower6943 Год назад +49

      The covert racism is clear if our community stopped wanting to be light skinned or mixed.

    • @NickyM_0
      @NickyM_0 Год назад +66

      @@octoberflower6943 'colourism' not racism but yes, I agree and that is what Tia is playing into and commercially attempting to capitalise on and that annoys me so much. America and this crazy 1 drop rule mentality has everyone fked up about true Blackness.

    • @roperryinspirationalvoices1421
      @roperryinspirationalvoices1421 Год назад +6

      You’re absolutely right, period!

    • @bluecashmere1412
      @bluecashmere1412 Год назад +6

      You are so on point, first I love your hair how can you go wrong with what God gave you, if I had nerver put perm on my hair year after year it would be your length but that is what am working on now

  • @upsettispaghettispaghetti2114
    @upsettispaghettispaghetti2114 Год назад +1609

    I always refer to what Fab Socialism said “If Saweetie is black, I must be a super-negro” cuz the way blk women have been erased from media and real blk hair isn’t even regarded in our hair products is MAD. All these products are either aren’t for our hair, or selling an image for making it looser texture. Ms. Mowry really thought she ate lmao

    • @dajiyahmcae1880
      @dajiyahmcae1880 Год назад +44

      That part

    • @serenatsukino5252
      @serenatsukino5252 Год назад +121

      Lol I watched that video and ever since then, I've been saying that when it comes to mixed people. "If X is black, then I must be super negro".

    • @JulianSteve
      @JulianSteve Год назад +67

      @@serenatsukino5252 Same here. I watched that video over 20 times and I been calling myself a super negro ever since🙅🏾‍♂️😂‼️

    • @leigh4326
      @leigh4326 Год назад +48

      Girl even the products are being taken away cause we can’t have anything.

    • @justinethomas5020
      @justinethomas5020 Год назад

      See that why Black people are considered dumb.. You can't even write proper Grammar! What in the world does "she thinks she ate" mean. Grow up

  • @reneesaneptune
    @reneesaneptune Год назад +213

    This reminds me of seeing creators with literal 4A/B hair having tutorials titled "Styling my 4C hair". It's so infuriating because I rarely ever see true 4C hair.

    • @k.enn17
      @k.enn17 Год назад +7

      exactly because it also is a problem for people who have mixed hair textures like I do. I dislike how people lie on their hair textures, it's hard to style your hair CORRECTLY when you can't find the CORRECT representation for it. I'm fully black, but lightskin and I love to advocate for those who were also born with two black parents, but are also darker than me because I have all shades of black in my family. I have seen every hair texture and I will not ever discredit another black person's experience.

    • @chilotamokafor7844
      @chilotamokafor7844 Год назад +3

      Frrrrr I never know which products to use

    • @k.enn17
      @k.enn17 Год назад +8

      @@chilotamokafor7844 And i feel like it’s horrible for ppl to not know their true hair textures. Cause my hair is mixed textures 3c-4b and even i had a hard time finding ways to style my hair. for some reason 4c isn’t 4c anymore. and i hate that the representation for that hair type is incorrect.

  • @CiaoColeG
    @CiaoColeG Год назад +57

    As a biracial with 2c,3a hair Tia's ad made me cringe so bad. All my life, I've seen mixed women in media with hair like mine. I have NEVER once experienced negativity from anyone about my hair texture, even when I went to predominately white schools. Two weeks ago, I had an appointment with my white nurse practitioner, and she was lamenting that her hair used to be like mine before she had kids. Tia might've had some pressure to straighten her hair because that was the look in the late 90s/early 2000s, but society never hated hair like hers.

    • @TeKeyaKrystal
      @TeKeyaKrystal 5 месяцев назад +2

      !! HELLO . Lord have mercy , I hope somebody talked some sense into Tia Mowry's head b/c what ?! I'm only now seeing this a year later.. if that had showed up on my explore page , she may have blocked me

  • @avainspired
    @avainspired Год назад +872

    Growing up as a black girl, being ultimately erased from the media has taken a toll on me.

    • @AnimeBoysOnly
      @AnimeBoysOnly Год назад +167

      Same, it has made extremely depressed to the point where i dont even watch anything with black woman unless she's actually black

    • @smilesallround
      @smilesallround Год назад +36

      @@AnimeBoysOnly yes!! Same here, it's sad.

    • @basedki3780
      @basedki3780 Год назад +9

      You’re not erased now so please be more grateful for how far we came now…

    • @avainspired
      @avainspired Год назад +63

      @@basedki3780 i'm grateful but its still damaged my younger self :(

    • @avainspired
      @avainspired Год назад +2

      @@AnimeBoysOnly fr!!

  • @PrettyPrincess9609
    @PrettyPrincess9609 Год назад +929

    This is part of the reason why so many black people hate their type 4 hair because biracial people with type 3 hair have been the standard of beauty in the black community. That’s why we see comments from black women with type 4 hair under biracial women with loose curls videos like “ my 4c hair could never “, “ you got that good hair “, “ I wish I had curls like you “, or “ I can’t 4c myself doing that “. This is also why I’m against the one drop rule. Black people need to stop claiming everyone as black for having one black parent or I even seen in some cases black people claiming mixed people for having a distant black relative. It’s time to let the one drop rule go.

    • @cindycarr8708
      @cindycarr8708 Год назад

      I agree with what you are saying. You are not 100% black if you have an other parent. To hell with the one drop whyte made up rule. We are the only drop that claim biracial and triaxial people. I don't care if you mix yourself out of existence, but you don't get to be black with other nationalities running through your veins. Nothing against the mixed ones, but you do have two or more sides of yourself, so why only claim half or a third of yourself.
      I have 4C hair, but most of the women in my family do not, and they have two black parents. There was most likely some mixing in the gene pool at some point in time or maybe not, I don't know.

    • @wakandavibranium5053
      @wakandavibranium5053 Год назад +112

      Growing up in the 90s in Africa, used to wish I could have that 3c hair. Those shows parading biracials as black did a number on us. Claire from My wife and kids had black parents but looked biracial😅

    • @benjamin_6945
      @benjamin_6945 Год назад

      @Yup Yup You might be an exception to the rule…but it doesn’t change the overall struggle for REAL black Girls and Women…they face in western societies…they struggle more than mixed people in fake and racist white supremacist democracies like America and the European Union etc.

    • @lorrainemadison8569
      @lorrainemadison8569 Год назад +29

      @Wakanda , idk if u recall, the early season of My Wife & Kids the oldest daughter dark skin. Next u know, she was xhanged out to the lighter skin girl. Imo, both daughters (new oldest one & the youngest one looked biracial to me. Lol

    • @kindred42
      @kindred42 Год назад +62

      This part. The one drop rule needs to be DROPPED.

  • @ChristinaSDixon-cx7cs
    @ChristinaSDixon-cx7cs Год назад +78

    "Blackness is not only in relativity to how white people see us, Blackness is also how WE SEE EACH OTHER." Period, Dot, end of story, say it louder for the pews in the back!!!!!!!!!!!! .....So true and yet such a key point that WE often mis; Thank you for this!!! I just stumbled upon your channel and now officially subscribed.

  • @coreenamusic
    @coreenamusic Год назад +548

    I feel like BW let this happen (generally speaking) we are not protective of our image. Steady chasing after women that have proximity to whiteness to represent our image. It’s disturbing. And if I call it out (as an unambiguous BW) I’m, jealous, angry, divisive and mad. I feel like I live in the twilight zone sometimes.

    • @satindoll7300
      @satindoll7300 Год назад +25

      Same

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +22

      well if you're all of a sudden mad that Tia identifies as black (as she always has) then yea that smacks of jealousy, insecurity etc etc. When ppl react out of emotion not from facts then it's.... emotional.

    • @chavaliernsharps159
      @chavaliernsharps159 Год назад +87

      Yes unambiguous Black! 2 unambiguous Black parents! And I do hate how we as a general collective are so drawn to having biracial and or multiracial women represent us, due to our own erasure and disregard by others first. I hated how we in general claimed Megan Markle, when she herself has mentioned she does not live or move as a Black woman, and only was referred to as such when she married a red headed Brit, and was othered by a dynasty that profited from oppression. Please.

    • @carolkhisa1564
      @carolkhisa1564 Год назад +93

      ​@@marie-francoiset9402 she doesn't suddenly feel mad, every unambiguous BW sees the same, we get gaslighted for calling it out like you are doing

    • @uwu-fm2kj
      @uwu-fm2kj Год назад +49

      For what it’s worth I as a biracial ambiguous woman do not think unamibigiously black women are acting sour for not enjoying this image replacement. Be vocal about it- the right people will support you.

  • @oyagyal2187
    @oyagyal2187 Год назад +948

    As a Darkskinned, 4C hair girl...I applaud you for being TRUTHFUL. Everyone's so freaking sensitive that they don't want to hear the Truth and are content in continuing to hurt and offend others who match the look of the discriminated... rather than utilize their platform to know and DO better. Thank you for being Honest, Shameless, and absolutely Stunning!!! Asé sis

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 Год назад +4

      What does dark skin got to do with this subject. I am brown skin and got super thick tight afro hair.

    • @oyagyal2187
      @oyagyal2187 Год назад +46

      @@ladybird491 I can't speak for you. I'm only speaking from my perspective.

    • @favs_Mary
      @favs_Mary Год назад +2

      you’re even nigerian!🙌❤️

    • @fayolalulusandy5546
      @fayolalulusandy5546 Год назад +21

      I’m mixed and I’ve been saying for forever. Bi- racial people are not black !! Ffs

    • @CarbonGod666
      @CarbonGod666 Год назад +3

      @@ladybird491 dark skin women bettah

  • @10Vernonplace
    @10Vernonplace Год назад +1388

    Tia's ad is ridiculous! Her hair looks like Italian or Jewish people's hair. It doesn't represent black hair. It is an outlier. Thank you for keeping us tethered to reality.

    • @MamacitaNatural
      @MamacitaNatural Год назад +165

      Tia has always been one of my favs but I have to admit that she fumbled this one… like seriously bffr 🫠

    • @dajiyahmcae1880
      @dajiyahmcae1880 Год назад +49

      @@MamacitaNatural have you ever seen Family reunion? She been towing this line.

    • @thehoneyeffect
      @thehoneyeffect Год назад

      It’s as if Tia has a white mother (she doesn’t) she sounds clueless when it comes to Blackness. Mixed Race identity is allowed, let the one drop rule die, tia can represent mixed race people but not Black women

    • @JulianSteve
      @JulianSteve Год назад +49

      @@MamacitaNatural For real… I did not expect this from her. Maybe her twin sister, but not her🫠…

    • @numerologicatarot3333
      @numerologicatarot3333 Год назад +35

      I sometimes say “you point me to an outlier and I will point you out a lie or a liar”.🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @autumnhomer9786
    @autumnhomer9786 Год назад +110

    🎀Real 4c hair doesn’t get enough representation. Not even mixed race people with 4c hair are featured that much in the media. 🎀
    🎀Being able to see yourself in others is so important for one’s self esteem and acknowledgment that you are a respected valued members of society.🎀🎈

    • @barbararichardson2747
      @barbararichardson2747 Год назад

      Funny that inspite of all other issues hair textures take priority!Guess that explains the state we're in😢!

    • @shakesqueeeeeeer
      @shakesqueeeeeeer 7 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@barbararichardson2747sad that in these times people are still being discriminated because of hair and it is such an important topic! 😢 We should talk about it so it gets to be not such a big issue! (P.S we can focus on more than one issue at a time 🙄)

  • @valenciaing.4316
    @valenciaing.4316 Год назад +28

    I agree. There is a distinction between being black and biracial which shouldn’t give the latter advantage to conflate the two. There’s beauty in both, but not in destroying the identity of the other to promote white features.

  • @louisianacookingwithkay
    @louisianacookingwithkay Год назад +395

    12:16-12:28
    That's why I love Lupita. She came out with her kinky hair, and she rocked it for years and years. ✊🏾💪🏾✊🏾💐

    • @youjustgotburned3980
      @youjustgotburned3980 Год назад

      Now if only they'd stop making real black girls look quirky and weird with those creepy outfits and hairstyles
      Dark skinned girls can be JUST as beautiful as Beyonce.
      They don't all have to look like aliens that just visited from an African planet (not country)

    • @Juicetv22
      @Juicetv22 Год назад

      But lupita is African... white people have no problem with Africans they hate black Americans

  • @nicolesherman8974
    @nicolesherman8974 Год назад +445

    I personally feel fetishizing hair can be just as dangerous as the facial features/phenotype of an individual.

    • @TheLovesnowangel
      @TheLovesnowangel Год назад +78

      It is. That’s where the “good hair” thing came from. People have been fetishizing straight to loose curly hair FOREVER

    • @damnkevindeaderthanamf6068
      @damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 Год назад +39

      @@TheLovesnowangel Not "people"
      BLACK people been fetishizing type 1-3

    • @mewmew6158
      @mewmew6158 Год назад

      @@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 not just black people tbh, all this bs comes from white supremacy being shoved down everyone's throat to this day post colonialism. Look at how non black people talk about mixed kids for example.

    • @jennalud4748
      @jennalud4748 Год назад +51

      It is, it's called texturism...these are big in the black community...colorism, featurism, and texturism!

    • @tenacioustrees.8737
      @tenacioustrees.8737 Год назад

      @@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 Come on😑 it’s not just black people, you’re acting as though white supremacy was never a thing

  • @theoneudontknow4606
    @theoneudontknow4606 Год назад +112

    I used to have mixed Co-worker and I have 4 C hair. The things that I’ve heard people say to me vs her is interesting. They literally praise her hair and then someone literally asked me “what the heck happened to your hair”??😬

    • @nancyfancy1956
      @nancyfancy1956 Год назад

      😩 Why? They are stupid as hell.

    • @tumzaria5696
      @tumzaria5696 Год назад +18

      I always get told my hair would look so beautiful and long if only I relaxed and it would mess me up

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 Год назад +20

      I cringed reading this 😵‍💫😬 That’s so disrespectful

    • @kdub2627
      @kdub2627 Год назад +2

      Omg lol

    • @SubliminalQueen368
      @SubliminalQueen368 10 месяцев назад +2

      “I love your hair”vs “when are you getting your hair done”

  • @ItsAshiqa
    @ItsAshiqa Год назад +83

    I’m South African and I grew up watching a lot of American tv and movies (Sister Sister included), as a kid I honestly thought that all African Americans had 4A/4B and even 3 type hair because of what I saw represented on the screen. It wasn’t until I moved to the US about 5 years ago where I learnt that what I had come to believe my entire life was actually far from the reality, so when we talk about representation and how important it is this is one of the examples that stands out for me.

    • @tias.6675
      @tias.6675 Год назад +1

      This is actually reality. Most so called AA people really are not. Just as you've came here, many (or their parents/grandparents) have too and are lumped into our ethnic group.

  • @charlirogers6235
    @charlirogers6235 Год назад +308

    It took me 5 years into my natural hair journey to realize I was "failing" because I couldn't successful achieve natural hair goals...because those goals, those standards, were to make my hair look like biracial hair. Twist outs, bantu know outs, braidouts, blow-outs followed by rod curling sets...were all to achieve the soft loose spiral curls of biracial hair. "Shrinkage" is just another word for reverting back to its actual texture. If I'm really truly trying to be natural...then why am I stretching, twisting, blow-drying, gel-ing my hair into the same dang loose fluffy curls of biracial women. When I do an actual wash and go, and my hair looks like its meant to look (tight thick non moving tiny spiral curls) nobody says a word. But let me spend half an afternoon giving myself a blowout, then bantu knots, then carefully taking the knots out and loosely separating the curls so they are loose and fluffy, let me go into work then...and have EVERYBODY tell me how beautiful my hair looks, how fabulous I look, you go queen. How is spending an entire freaking day (wash day) manipulating my hair any different then getting a perm? The goal is still not natural. Check it, if I blow out my hair into an afro, I feel amazing. But if I add some curls into that afro everybody is in my face complimenting me. Now, what's the diff between an afro and an afro with loose curls in it? One is a black woman's afro and one is a biracial woman's afro.

    • @TwiFiveGirls101
      @TwiFiveGirls101 Год назад +68

      100% You just made me think. I've NEVER gotten a compliment on my hair in its natural shrunken state even if its patted nice and "neat". I only get praise for making my hair not look like my natural state.

    • @DearJayla
      @DearJayla Год назад +47

      This comment. This entire concept in itself. Is so unrealized. Wow. I’m now looking at all natural hair influencers differently. Thank you for sharing this.

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +11

      I'm assuming you're speaking of men, (bm?) complimenting you? I know plenty of men who absolutely adore my friends large but tightly coiled afro. But it usually isn't bm.

    • @sherrygiles8157
      @sherrygiles8157 Год назад +27

      Sis, you said a word cuz every. Single. Time I get twist my end goal is for my hair to look like those biracial girls from tv. And I’ve been “natural” for years but wouldn’t step foot outside with it out unless it had some kinda “twistout” look. Wow…just wow.🫤

    • @bunnywavyxx9524
      @bunnywavyxx9524 Год назад +2

      exactly

  • @mewmew6158
    @mewmew6158 Год назад +919

    It makes more sense to say wavy, curly, and coily rather than black hair. Black people have various types of hair and coily hair is typically left out of the representation. Texturism and colorism go hand in hand because both are tools of white supremacy. It's so frustrating that people are still trying to brush shit under the rug. Biracial people shouldn't be the main representation of black people. I'm biracial and I wholeheartedly agree.

    • @-_Somebody_
      @-_Somebody_ Год назад +47

      You know how sanitary napkins are ranked from light - heavy on the labels? I would love it if all these hair products rebranded their labels to be on a 1a-4c on a scale too. That way no one is left out. All blacks don’t have 4c, some have 2a yet there are even some white people who have puffy 3a hair anyway and everybody in between.
      I agree that mixed folks should stop trying to be the face of black folks especially when it comes to hair. They don’t have to do anything to make it look “good” for society unlike homogenous blacks.

    • @MercyPeaceLove
      @MercyPeaceLove Год назад +1

      @shikabane🐉hime I agree

    • @AnimeBoysOnly
      @AnimeBoysOnly Год назад +68

      That's why i feel like the natural hair movement should have just been limited to 4 type hair. That way there would be no room for texturism. Girls with 4 type hair are the ones who need uplifting, other hair types already had it. So now they get to just reinforce their hair superiority once again

    • @EggyMurphy
      @EggyMurphy Год назад +26

      @@AnimeBoysOnly that reminds me of what happened with the body positivity movement. it started with fat people ans they brought in people from the other side of the spectrum, recognizing that there was still some messaging making them feel lesser than. and then magically, people with more widely accepted body types became the face of the movement, so it just began reinforcing all the old fatphobia

    • @AnimeBoysOnly
      @AnimeBoysOnly Год назад +21

      @EggyMurphy good point! The ironic part about that is that thin figures are still the universal standard. It only became a body positivity issue because some thin women were jealous of the attention women with curves now get. At the end of the day they dont face discrimination like plus sized women. Not dismissing it, but it's not the same.

  • @ayannadaniels9848
    @ayannadaniels9848 8 месяцев назад +8

    As a biracial women, I’ve come to know/understand/appreciate black culture more as an adult after being raised by white women and not having access to blackness. I’m glad I watched this video and THANK YOU for sharing your insight into why black and biracial are not the same. This is so elegantly said and I AGREE. I know now to be careful in my comparisons, particularly with black women

  • @beccas104
    @beccas104 Год назад +15

    your makeup is STUNNING as usual and i absolutely love the butterfly clips

  • @occasionallyemo
    @occasionallyemo Год назад +321

    I’m biracial with an African black mum, I lived in Africa when I was younger & have 3c hair. My hair was never an issue. It was always praised & celebrated. And it was never seen as black hair so when I see other biracial people do 💩 like this it seriously gets on my last nerve because who are you kidding, really? It’s okay to be biracial. It’s okay to admit we don’t have the same struggles as monoracial black people. We have different struggles & they are hard, but they’re not the same. I specifically see mainly biracial people that are either American or have grown up outside of Africa to have this mentality. Bffr sis.

    • @yasmina5556
      @yasmina5556 Год назад +46

      I agree with you 100% as a biracial woman (with an African black mother as well). My hair has always been praised by people, saying how pretty my curls are etc. I don’t understand this as well not willing to admit they are biracial and that the struggles are simply not the same.

    • @AutumnLeavesChristmasTrees
      @AutumnLeavesChristmasTrees Год назад +19

      Same here. My mom is African American. I feel like it’s a lil different bc we have Black mamas maybe? I always felt my mentality was different than those biracial kids that had shot mom’s

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +9

      the african situation is totally different from AA. it's not comparable.

    • @DStrawberry77
      @DStrawberry77 Год назад +8

      You are a literal pick me, as a biracial with a Xhosa African mom that grew up in Africa & in several other countries, I was the only person wearing my natural hair as it was. Im 3c/4A and where I grew up I was grocery made fun of, mocked & even bullied for my hair. Stop speaking for all of us. If that wasn’t your experience, cool but you are not the representative.

    • @IvyMercedes1687
      @IvyMercedes1687 Год назад

      @@DStrawberry77 it doesn't matter you still not black nor will you ever be a black women

  • @phdgirl2016
    @phdgirl2016 Год назад +221

    The "let me be your representation" in the caption got me. Girl, you've BEEN the representation - and that is the problem.

    • @moniqueloomis9772
      @moniqueloomis9772 Год назад +10

      🏆

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +2

      no she hasn't. she was forced to straighten her hair. you don't have to agree with her. fine. but you don't know her experience eihter.

    • @SleepMeditationandAffirmations
      @SleepMeditationandAffirmations Год назад

      Biracials can be really clueless most of the time.

    • @inactiveaccount6106
      @inactiveaccount6106 Год назад +24

      ​@@marie-francoiset9402 Um, as an avid Sister Sister watcher, I know that they have worn then hair curly for exactly half of the show (seasons 1-3 out of 6 total.) Many girls actually wanted to have curly hair like theirs back then. They didn't start straightening their hair until season 4, episode 1, when they had JUST turned 18. Stop the cap. They obviously made a choice for themselves when they were finally able to, or it would have been done when they were children, like it was done to many of us with relaxers. It may have been peer pressure on someone's part, but they were not "FORCED" to do anything. Easily convinced? Definitely. Their hair was the standard though. However, that was the height of Sister Sister popularity & other cultures & races of people started watching the show by then, so that was the most probable factor in the change. Regardless, they were at their height of popularity by then & could have easily moved on to newer auditions. There was no Sister Sister without them. Am I saying an 18 y/o can make sound decisions? Absolutely not!... But their "forced to" & our "forced to" as blackER people is completely different. I didn't have a choice at 9. They did at 18.

    • @MayMay-el4wg
      @MayMay-el4wg Год назад +2

      @@inactiveaccount6106 ….great to be able to sidestep the reality of THEIR contractual obligations! However, they were the first to wear their curly hair and as they gained in popularity they had to wear their hair straighter to appeal to the mass audience. It’s a numbers game, if you didn’t know that. Most film and print prefer straight hair. Even white and Latinas with heavy wavy and curly hair eventually straighten their hair. WS standards impacts everyone!

  • @monifagilbert3613
    @monifagilbert3613 Год назад +23

    Oh my, her art portrayed on her face and hair is fire. Thank you for existing and expressing yourself in all your beauty 🙏

  • @arijuju7303
    @arijuju7303 5 дней назад

    You’re right. I love energy at the end too so cuutteee! Keep up the good work.

  • @dianecalderon1700
    @dianecalderon1700 Год назад +466

    As a mixed person, I think it’s very strange to only claim one of your races.

    • @tsuyuasui7297
      @tsuyuasui7297 Год назад +97

      @LoveJones well that's what happens when you're mixed, you're literally a result of two races mixing, you're not supposed to "fit" in

    • @dianecalderon1700
      @dianecalderon1700 Год назад +47

      I completely understand that, but I also love my white grandma. I’m sure the girl in the video does too it’s weird not to claim her.

    • @Neo.Jordon
      @Neo.Jordon Год назад +81

      It's all about social power, the same people would be saying they're "white" back in Alabama 1822. They're "black" because it's cool now....in reality they're both, and desperately seek to have social power.

    • @azchanna
      @azchanna Год назад +1

      Biracial only claim black when it's cool or there is a financial incentive to do so point in case tia mowry

    • @mariejae
      @mariejae Год назад +46

      Maybe her white side bullied her? We don't know Tia's experience. My Black family has always been most comforting and kind to me, while my Mexican side is kind of toxic, the other kids made fun of my hair and called me a clown. That does happen to mixed people in blended families quite often. I identify more as Black than Hispanic. Most people don't know what I am though, but it honestly doesn't matter to me what anyone thinks. Just because we are not full black does not mean we have more privileges. I feel the creator is speaking a lot of ignorance and needs to speak with more mixed kids and women before speaking of our experience.

  • @Justincasewedont
    @Justincasewedont Год назад +537

    I am east african and strongly agree with the sentiment that typically tightly coiled hair is all too often left out of the chat when it comes to "black hair". However black hair comes in all different shapes and sizes. I am dark skinned with hair like typical mixed race girls. so where do we draw the line? My hair is looser curled however i am most defiantly black. I think we should refer to the TEXTURE rather than saying BLACK. We should be in control of the language we use so that when they reach the masses the message is not misunderstood.

    • @samiyaferguson9177
      @samiyaferguson9177 Год назад +44

      Same girl! I am North African. Dark skin with 2C hair. I never know where I fit into the natural hair and world. I stopped pressing my hair and doing chemical straightening so I am completely natural but I never had “bad hair” and my hair was always praised by other brown people. I love all brown people hair, especially kinky hair that is locked and I believe we were all born with the hair that suits our features best ❤️

    • @oihcam22
      @oihcam22 Год назад +143

      @@samiyaferguson9177if that’s you in the profile picture you are definitely not dark skinned

    • @blessgodess5146
      @blessgodess5146 Год назад +31

      Hello all my goddess from all over the world. As someone who is a black American black looking with a 4crown ok Tia Mowry being then representation for black hair is interesting. So my own mother is not 4c, however it's not the best pr . I would love to see dark skinned black woman show all our ranges of hair. Like our goddess said we are used to seeing this type of hair on this type of phenotype . In the 90's it was the exception now its the standard. Ma'am your rubbing your hands together and gliding your fingers through with some type of product. I'm a black woman and that ain't happen over here at 4crown Town!!

    • @suncoco6495
      @suncoco6495 Год назад +117

      @@samiyaferguson9177 ​ but the issue is that 4C hair is rarely praised or accepted. It’s often mocked and excluded even in the movements that were originally meant to uplift it ( i.e., the natural hair movement) and hijacked by looser curl patterns.
      I’m also East African. This sentiment of praising looser curl patterns is seen throughout the African continent and is often associated with how far away it is from some “Black features”.

    • @suncoco6495
      @suncoco6495 Год назад +4

      @gt345My thoughts exactly

  • @Jadeeee2323
    @Jadeeee2323 Год назад +2

    Love the butterfly era🦋 the white butterflies really pop and look so cute. ur style and vibes are *chefs kiss*

  • @Gabriel-nw6lb
    @Gabriel-nw6lb Год назад +5

    Love this butterfly era the makeup looks so good this whole look is insane 🦋

  • @traillmark361
    @traillmark361 Год назад +215

    I agree with you totally! It's an insult to our hair! If you see her head from the back, you wouldn't know she has black in her. Her hair is literally represented EVERYWHERE.

    • @blessgodess5146
      @blessgodess5146 Год назад +6

      " from the back" that was mos Def no cap!!-

    • @cakebops
      @cakebops Год назад +6

      Reminds me of how every Netflix shows “black girl representation” Is usually a mixed woman with a much looser texture and more than likely on the lighter end of the spectrum. Fear street really pissed me of with that one bc w/ the brother being dark skinned & kinkier hair they had EVERY REASON to also cast a lead female with the same traits.

    • @cakebops
      @cakebops Год назад +1

      @@blessgodess5146 i had to start laughing when she did that like she cannot bc serious

    • @stoneyhighhigh3677
      @stoneyhighhigh3677 Год назад +5

      My aunt is a dark skin fully black woman with tia exact hair type ........but I guess she isn't black since according to y'all in the comments black folks don't have hair like this

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +2

      @@stoneyhighhigh3677 the tunnel vision in this thread is astounding. if Tia denied her blackness they would *still* be up in arms. ridic

  • @Michele-yp4uy
    @Michele-yp4uy Год назад +73

    Getting on social media and complaining about this isn't enough. BW collectively are going to have to stop supporting people like her. Let biracials and other non black people support her. I understand the anger and frustration but until black people do a better job of gatekeeping blackness and black culture, biracial women like her will continue to take up space in the black community that they are not entitled to. If you don't like it then don't support it!!

  • @CiciWilson-kj5mu
    @CiciWilson-kj5mu 10 месяцев назад +3

    I LOVE your eye make up. Done well ,it's clearly a butterfly.

  • @GayHimbo
    @GayHimbo Год назад +5

    Your makeup is ethereal, that vibrancy is mind shattering!! Combined w the white butterflies that look like they were plucked off a marble statue and the necklace, fragments of the moon strung around your neck? The lunar nymph vibes are off the charts

  • @genevaxo
    @genevaxo Год назад +141

    Whoever in their right mind thinks that if someone has 2 races/ethnicities especially when it's people of African & European ancestries, is just "black" needs intervention. You see people claiming biracials in the media that are as little as 25% like their life depends on it.

    • @FitBabe
      @FitBabe Год назад +27

      Tamera Mowry even said on an episode of The Real that her kids are black because she is black. I just rolled my eyes. This was during a conversation where they were defending Paris Jackson’s blackness against Joselyn Hernandez who was calling Paris a white girl. Chile….

    • @-_Somebody_
      @-_Somebody_ Год назад +33

      @@FitBabe and Meaghan Markle. I love her, but the British press makes it seem like she is homogeneously Black, clearly she is mixed but blends in with white people.

    • @tsuyuasui7297
      @tsuyuasui7297 Год назад +3

      @@-_Somebody_ the way Normally mixed people in the UK are seen as as just that MIXED, but they are trying to make it seem like Meghan is black

    • @-_Somebody_
      @-_Somebody_ Год назад +2

      @@tsuyuasui7297 yes, agreed. we are saying the same thing.

    • @soullooker
      @soullooker Год назад

      We’re black to every ethnicity except black.

  • @nikkis.9747
    @nikkis.9747 Год назад +346

    Even though I am a black woman with looser curls similar to hers, I was a bit thrown by her post when I first saw it because her hair does not represent black hair.....not at all. She cannot be the representation for black women's hair. Even as a black woman with both black parents, but loose curls, I would never claim to represent black hair because I know that my hair is the result of mixing further back in my ancestral line and doesn't accurately represent the majority of black women who have always been made to feel ashamed of their hair. 4c hair is real black hair period.

    • @blessgodess5146
      @blessgodess5146 Год назад +33

      Black hair Being a mixed type of texture is not always from the white master lineage. There are alot of Africans from East to West that imhavs seen have thus texture. It very well can be mixing in the blood line, how ever in my experience I find it interesting that even though I look black I have three three grandparents that are mixed race and I think I'm the only which is generalizing with 4c hair. I have a dark skinned grandfather who had this mixed hair. In conclusion mixed hair is black hair , however it's the representation that it's always on a light or mixed person!

    • @nikkis.9747
      @nikkis.9747 Год назад +24

      @BlessGodess I agree with most of this, but when I think of someone who represents black hair here in America, I think of afro-textured, type 4b/4c curls because that represents the majority of black women in America and represents those who have dealt with the most harsh discrimination and criticism of their hair.

    • @angie101972
      @angie101972 Год назад +20

      Hair texture has nothing to do with having white ancestors. In Africa there are black ppl with straight curly hair. Some Ethiopians, Somalians and some East African tribes have straight or curly hair. Black doesn’t have one hair texture. Not even in my family. We all full black with hair textures from straight to kinky. Y’all not gonna talk bad about Tia 😂. She’s my favorite twin

    • @justinethomas5020
      @justinethomas5020 Год назад +5

      @@blessgodess5146 people are So uneducated and have probably never been outside the US. Your comment is priceless

    • @AnimeBoysOnly
      @AnimeBoysOnly Год назад +17

      @Robyn you are being dishonest. The amount of blacks born with natural blonde and red hair is a very small percentage so why would the minority represent the majority? Reality is is that most of us have kinky hair textures and that is ok because it's beautiful. Instead of us having self love and accepting our type 4 hair we are fighting to "all hair textures matter" the natural hair movement and that's problematic because it reinforces texturism

  • @GeryNH
    @GeryNH Год назад

    Thank you for sharing, learning random new things thanks to youtube. And your hair is beautiful!

  • @nilipty
    @nilipty Год назад

    Thank you for making this video. Much needed.
    I will definitely be sharing.

  • @Marz859
    @Marz859 Год назад +202

    I’m so glad this video was made I’m light skin with 4c hair. My dark skin mother instead of instilling confidence in me about my hair had always chosen to let me know she thinks it looks a hot mess. She permed my hair and never let me wear it natural as a kid. It HAD to be straightened. Even this morning I had my hair in a fro and she asked if I was going to work like that. I told her I was and her jaw dropped 😮 as if it’s some atrocity to walk around with type 4 hair without styling and straightening it.

    • @cassiecorcoran3851
      @cassiecorcoran3851 Год назад +27

      I can relate. I'm light skinned with 4 type hair too and the way I was programmed as a kid to have it straightened was ridiculous. I've been natural since 2007 and now I wish somebody would say something disrespectful about my kinks! I wear my hair proudly now and I don't feel pressure to twist it so it can have definition because the world needs to make space for our hair type the way it has for everyone else's. We exist too

    • @jaidadeclouette1989
      @jaidadeclouette1989 Год назад +10

      I’m so glad you are standing up to your mom! Go you! I’ve had insecurities about my type 4 hair by being bullied in grade school, but I’ve been natural for years too. Be proud of your hair!!!

    • @freedomofspeech2420
      @freedomofspeech2420 Год назад

      My husband asked me if I comb my hair then proceeded to pull it. I’ve had issues since then. This was after I took my locs out, my hair was long but it’s like he thought it would be a looser texture. My hair is not loose. I’ve never spoken to him about how much it affected my confidence to wear my hair. It did.

    • @Anonymous33326
      @Anonymous33326 Год назад

      I can relate to that my nan done the same thing I didn't care because everyone else liked my hair out

    • @tayo0404
      @tayo0404 Год назад

      My father is Nigerian and my mother is German, I inherited my father's hair texture my mother kept relaxing my hair to the point I was just losing hair.

  • @TheLovesnowangel
    @TheLovesnowangel Год назад +713

    Love Tia but she is NOT a black woman. Her whole daddy is a white man and they actually look just like him. She has the “acceptable” hair texture and it is not “black hair” because one you have to be black and two she has type 2 to 3 hair. I hate how people keep calling her the “black twin” and I hate how biracial people are being used to represent black people but we know damn well black people could never represent mixed people. Everybody wanna be black until it’s time to be black.

    • @damnkevindeaderthanamf6068
      @damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 Год назад +1

      Black people are also at faults for this

    • @salorchi84
      @salorchi84 Год назад +71

      Per Tia's ancestry test she is actually 60% white.

    • @Maki-00
      @Maki-00 Год назад +158

      My mixed (black and white) cousin married a white man and her daughter has blue eyes and blond hair. My younger cousin is a white girl with a black grandfather! We need to stop pretending that anyone who has black ancestry is black. Edit - I surely can’t claim to be white because I had a white great-grandfather!

    • @biancasowesscoast6465
      @biancasowesscoast6465 Год назад +16

      @@salorchi84 wow! Not surprised tho… she is her daddy

    • @jennalud4748
      @jennalud4748 Год назад +27

      When her hair is dry, it is 3b-3c..so her hair is clearly mixed hair but she shouldn't be representing black hair! Only 4a-b-c!

  • @lolacole5653
    @lolacole5653 Год назад

    Beautifully said! I love your hair and today's look.

  • @EpicRealistTV
    @EpicRealistTV Год назад +1

    Such a great video! Love all the points made. The hair, the look, everything about you is gorgeous! 😇🤩

  • @Maki-00
    @Maki-00 Год назад +234

    Funny, I had insomnia last night and I was thinking of random crap as I tried to fall asleep. I was thinking about how in movies and TV shows, black male characters are almost always played by black men and boys, but “black” female characters are usually played by biracial/mixed women and girls. We’re just supposed to pretend like Cliff and Clair Huxtable could produce children who looked like Denise and Sandra! Imagine a show with a white family and one of the kids was played by someone half black and everyone was just supposed to pretend like they didn’t notice!
    On a side note, I remember looking at teen magazines in the 90s and one of my favorite magazines had a “black beauty” section one month, but all the girls in it were mixed race. 🙄

    • @citizencoy4393
      @citizencoy4393 Год назад +66

      Just talking to my husband about this tonight. I’ve never seen 5 commercials in a row and each had black ppl in it! Last night was the first time BUT!!!!….. 4 of the commercials were blk men with non blk women and the last was an African woman with a yt man! The promotion is strong out here! Why is it a crime to see a dark husband who has a wife that is the same or darker complexion?

    • @Fudgeey
      @Fudgeey Год назад +36

      You're absolutely right, and not to take away from your point, but my parents are full Black, but my sister is about Sondra's complexion, while the rest of us are Aunt Viv #1's complexion. It happens sometimes, but still, your point is accurate.

    • @blessedone6516
      @blessedone6516 Год назад +12

      @@citizencoy4393 it's a deliberate tool by WS.

    • @tsuyuasui7297
      @tsuyuasui7297 Год назад +40

      And not only are bm characters only played by BM they ALWAYS happen to be darkskinned or at least darker than the female "black character" I've seen so many sitcoms where the spouse is this lightskinned mixed woman and the husband is black and darkskinned. The only show I've seen where they used a darkskinned black woman as the wife and a lightskinned husband was thats so raven.
      Writing this also makes me think of this Disney channel show named "Kc undercover" wherein zendaya is the main character and the character who plays her mom in the show is a lightskinned mixed woman while the man who plays her dad is à darkskinned black man, oh and *suprise* the only boy in the family happens to be black and darkskinned too🥴
      AND THEN ( oh wow as I'm writing I'm just remembering more and more BS ) the only darkskinned black girl on the show is a ROBOT and has no emotions and is extremely sassy/mean......

    • @NA-pr3mp
      @NA-pr3mp Год назад

      Its not unrealistic that Cliff and Clair can produce a sondra or denise. We carry the dna of our ancestors and those genes can show up whenever so even if its recessive in you it may show up in your offspring.

  • @caseya7044
    @caseya7044 Год назад +171

    The thing is that "black hair" has a context to it. "Let black hair be black hair" holds a meaning to it-and that meaning is attached to afro/kinky coiled hair.
    Tia's hair *wouldn't be considered "black hair" not because she's not black, but because it's really loose. It's the least discriminated against for the curly/kinky hair types. She faces advantages for having her hair be a loose texture like that while being black. She's considered "better" than the next person who had a tighter pattern.
    Meanwhile people with a texture/style like Mayowa or Lupita N'yongo get told off ten thousand ways just because of the texture. Afros are ugly, "too much," dirty, unmanageable, unprofessional, need to constantly be done, dry, etc etc etc. Everybody and their great grandmas come out the woodwork to say something about black hair.
    Tia knew what she was doing by using that specific loaded phrase of "let black hair be black hair" as a lightskin biracial woman with loose curls and referring to herself. Like that wasn't an accident. This isn't about not being able to claim your blackness. It's about using terms and phrases incorrectly that ends up blurring what it's supposed to actually be, especially as the person that benefits from the other side of the oppression being talked about.

    • @j.rising7286
      @j.rising7286 Год назад +30

      Tia is not Black, Tia’s hair texture is not Black hair. It’s not even kinky-curly. It’s curly-straight, aka NOT BLACK. Stop trying to still include but exclude Biracials.

    • @caseya7044
      @caseya7044 Год назад +8

      @@j.rising7286My mistake: that would was supposed to be *wouldn't
      I'll clarify that I mean that she's still considered to be black even as a biracial. I'm using that as an example of what a lot of people keep focusing on. The definition of blackness instead of the fact that she doesn't fit it

    • @tsuyuasui7297
      @tsuyuasui7297 Год назад +8

      @@j.rising7286 the way there are black people with her hair texture, however she still ain't black.

    • @LethalLemonLime
      @LethalLemonLime Год назад +3

      This! And the curly haired "black" folks in the comments are trying to argue like this isn't the case and hasn't been the case for centuries

    • @LethalLemonLime
      @LethalLemonLime Год назад +3

      I think Tia and Tamera fit the sociological sense of the word black pretty closely except for her hair. Growing up as a little kid in America whose fully Nigerian father was lighter than Tia and Tamara, I always saw them as black when watching sister sister. I probably just assumed they had a texturizer lol I don't think I realized that was their natural hair. My grandfather on my dad's side was Nigerian and was pretty much white passing and his kids (uncles/aunts)were very light skinned but with black features (my grandma was a dark skinned Nigerian woman and so is my mom). So I personally see my father as a black Nigerian man with light skin so maybe that skews my view. But I personally think my dad fits black phenotypes except for his skin color. He also has type 4 hair. Like 4a. I'm saying this because I personally do consider Tia and Tamera too be black although their hair does not represent black hair because it is not the sociological phenotype of black hair (which would be type 4 hair).

  • @Ostraconofobi
    @Ostraconofobi 28 дней назад

    The makeup is amazin. Looks so vivid and beautiful!!! And thanks for the video. My attention is grabbed and this feel like important information to think about!

  • @UdochiOkeke
    @UdochiOkeke Год назад +48

    She shoulda put her mom, grandmother and great grandmother's pictures in that add if she wanted to be taken seriously. That Tia Mowry ad was offensive.

    • @justinethomas5020
      @justinethomas5020 Год назад +3

      Alot of people take her serious.. I have 3B hair and I consider my hair as black hair since there are variations not just one type. And none of yall can change anything about that

    • @marilynmonheaux6356
      @marilynmonheaux6356 Год назад +1

      @@justinethomas5020 and you should sister. If you are pro black you should stand with it in all shades and textures.

  • @i-Am-What-i-NAM
    @i-Am-What-i-NAM Год назад +24

    Mayowa keeping her foot firmly planted on they necks. lolls

  • @ShinyDZ
    @ShinyDZ 20 дней назад

    Your eye makeup is stunning!!!! Love your videos

  • @khai4202
    @khai4202 Год назад

    so true, I love how direct you are, not over explaining and just telling the truth

  • @HealthyBrownGirls
    @HealthyBrownGirls Год назад +297

    What kills me is the ones with two black parents with similar texture as Tia's who gaslight and say " I'm black and my hair is just like hers". All the while you probably heard the "good hair" comment your whole life...which should make you more aware that you're hair is NOT the standard for black people. Genetics are unpredictable...you can be black and have traits that are altered by your 4th great grandfather 👴.

    • @loveheals6184
      @loveheals6184 Год назад

      Which was in all likelihood r*p*d into the bloodline. By NO means should we shame one another our ourselves if we have phenotypes as a result of such brutality, but neither should we praise it. Ditto, if it's from consensual, loving relationships. To your point, I'm also not a fan of denigrating the most naturally occurring characteristics of our race, particularly in exchange for extolling what's natural to others in theirs.

    • @LethalLemonLime
      @LethalLemonLime Год назад +45

      Yes, so many people in the comments are saying this bs rn. it's sickening. and not in the good way lol

    • @aprilchow-chee5281
      @aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад +23

      There are black people who have no mixed or white lineage with "good hair" but you out here criticizing people when you aren't even educated or aware because you choose to be

    • @DorothyZbornak4
      @DorothyZbornak4 Год назад +80

      @@aprilchow-chee5281 you just proved the point the original poster stated. An exception is not the rule.

    • @mellimel1174
      @mellimel1174 Год назад +24

      Yes. We can have many different textures or patterns. But those with looser patterns know the deal and shouldn’t front.
      For those like me who are mixed but with tightly coiled hair, we often get told “ you aren’t supposed to have that hair”. Like anyone is not supposed to look how they were made.

  • @Theeglowgetter34
    @Theeglowgetter34 Год назад +78

    I love that you brought this is up ! People are so intellectually dishonest when having this conversation especially with regards to biracial people it’s like they want them to be considered fully black sooo bad 🤦🏾‍♀️ when it’s very simple they are half of one and thing and half of another so they are different and that’s okay !!!
    The other race or add mixture never seems to have an issue doing this distinguishing. Black people swear they want break down all these systems but yet seem to feel like we still have to follow the 1 drop rule….

    • @quickpstuts412
      @quickpstuts412 Год назад +7

      Right! Just from listening to many biracial speak, they often talk about not fitting in so they feel a need to choose. Tia clearly chose the "black side." But like you said, you can embrace both.

  • @juliekooiker3408
    @juliekooiker3408 Год назад

    You are beautiful!!! This was very eye opening! Thanks

  • @alishameadows8490
    @alishameadows8490 Год назад +1

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 everything yes! So refreshing to to hear what I’ve been thinking. And she also leaned into the texturism with the wet hair look. I also believe this is why mielle was so popular bc she the ideal hair texture. I’m so happy you came across my feed ❤❤❤❤

  • @virtualinlife1996
    @virtualinlife1996 Год назад +339

    You are 100% correct. Biracial and Black people are not the same. Black is having two black parents. Biracial is having two parents of separate races (examples: black/white American mom and dad, Chinese/Arabic mom and dad, Native Indigenous Lakota /Peruvian mom and dad). I placed examples for those who are truly ignorant of the differences..

    • @zurifrommissouri
      @zurifrommissouri Год назад +19

      I don't think this applies universally because experiences vary in everyone's environments. Tía makes the effort to hold on to her black roots and black identity; I accept it. Her ad, no. When we're talking about black hair in general, her hair doesn't resemble mine and her ad failed to capture my attention. But she can definitely be that representation for her children who are unmistakingly black, and I'm sure she encourages them to feel pride in that.

    • @blackwomenpowerbyalainaray4047
      @blackwomenpowerbyalainaray4047 Год назад +73

      @@zurifrommissouri No, she can't because at the end of the day. She's biracial the only way you can be black and that's it. Is when you have two black parents. It is what it is also, why can't biracial people use this same logic on their non black side?.

    • @bunchielove6893
      @bunchielove6893 Год назад +40

      @@blackwomenpowerbyalainaray4047 because Whyte people won't let them but for some reason people have a problem when we do the same.

    • @bunchielove6893
      @bunchielove6893 Год назад +17

      @@zurifrommissouri So can a Whyte women birth a black child?

    • @DorothyDandridge
      @DorothyDandridge Год назад +23

      But genetics is complicated and not all biracial people (eg Black/white) look the same. They can vary in skin tone, facial features and hair texture

  • @FreeBLKWoman
    @FreeBLKWoman Год назад +71

    I'm so tired of people pretending to NOT understand when people with 4c hair go through, it's akin to colorism and all the other -ISM, I'm so tired.

  • @willettenorton2136
    @willettenorton2136 Год назад +2

    Mayowa please keep doing what you are doing. You are amazing and I love you and I pray you go far. Beautiful. Just Beautiful

  • @loverainthunder
    @loverainthunder Год назад

    Really loving your thumbnail pic and look. 🦋 Beautiful blue well done.

  • @user-hn6xg2hd5o
    @user-hn6xg2hd5o Год назад +499

    I identify as a biracial black woman. I had to face my privilege of being light skinned and biracial. It’s something I’m still facing and innerstanding everyday. Thank you for sharing this. Everything you stated was absolutely valid! “Mulato” or mixed babies born into slavery were still slaves. Even then, there was a privilege of being a “house slave” or being palatable for yt folk. I hate being the token or “acceptable” version of black for people. I never realized the extent in media, however. Thank you for highlighting that!

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +38

      that's made up. We don't know enough about slavery to know if being in the house meant you were favored. More likely what skills a slave had made your position higher or lower. Not the complexion. We really do need to have more realistic slave movies (yes the ones everyone keeps saying that they don't want to see). Because the young generation refuses to READ. *ALL* AAs are mixed. it's something that AAs have a hard time accepting due to it being from rape from slavery. Don't just accept what someone in a comment section says. Including me. Go read and investigate for yourself. .

    • @tangiechapman6219
      @tangiechapman6219 Год назад +2

      Good for you

    • @Options23
      @Options23 Год назад +34

      @@marie-francoiset9402 , ALL AA are not mixed. We come in many shades, said, The Lord. IN fact, the HOLYSPIRIT said all people have some AFRICAN Blood because we were FIRST, the ORIGINAL GENE and all people come from us.

    • @biegebythesea6775
      @biegebythesea6775 Год назад +19

      yeh same. I wonder your age. I identify as black mixed but I know it's considered a strange term. I'm over 40 in the UK and my generation of mixed black people has always identified as black. Through this kind of education I now add 'mixed' but I can't let the black label go.

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад

      @@Options23 very very few AAs aren't mixed. There are zero 100% black African AAs. Even the darkest of AAs are mixed. Slavery was 400+ years. It is what it is. if you're AA check your dna test. go to a reputable one. no need to take my word for it. enjoy!

  • @MakaykayLAMB
    @MakaykayLAMB Год назад +152

    So my father is hairstylist and has been for 30+ years. (He also teaches) and he was trained in white hair. Anywho, when people with curly hair talk about their struggles, their discussing how their curly hair took away their proximity to whiteness and how they had to assimilate to the beauty standard. Which is what we as black people have to go through but it’s COUPLED with featurism, texturism, etc.
    And for some reason it’s really hard for people who are lighter or have proximity to whiteness to understand what WE go thru as unambiguously black women.

    • @mewmew6158
      @mewmew6158 Год назад +36

      People with privilege have a hard time seeing that they aren't the most harmed. It's genuinely so odd as all these people have to do is work through their trauma from childhood and then look around at people with more intersecting identities.

    • @DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL
      @DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL Год назад

      Light skin black women are unambiguous Balck women… I think society has gaslighted us into associating anything that isn’t dark with whiteness. We need to just throw whiteness in the trash can as a reference point and recognize the truth of our diversity as fully Black people

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +1

      @@mewmew6158 you say that so casually. so shouldn't everyone work through their trauma? including the bw with 4C hair? They suffered trauma from the families. But instead of working through it they want to say only their hair texture is *real* black hair. No. That's not true at all.

    • @mewmew6158
      @mewmew6158 Год назад +3

      @@marie-francoiset9402 Everyone should work through their trauma, yes. However, saying that black women with coily hair only have trauma from their family is wrong. It's also wrong to insinuate that it's totally fine for biracial women with curly hair to make their hair out to be thee example of black hair, because there's a range. Coils are most common for people that are unambiguously black, so if one texture deserves the black hair title it's coils, not curls.

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +1

      @@mewmew6158 well that's your opinion of course. You are are free to not buy her products. However, black hair comes in all textures. And not always the result of someone being biracial or mixed. It's true. textured hair (i prefer that term over the coily vs curly debate) trauma doesn't only come from family. it can come from a job. apparently Tia was made to feel ashamed of her hair by studio execs and forced to straighten it. It was only *this* year that the union passed the rule that hairstylists trained in textured natural hair *have* to be hired by the studios if there is a black principle. Prior to this black actresses were left to fend for themselves while everyone else got a hairstylist on set. And yea, thats been traumatic for many black actresses (and not all famous ones).
      However, the comments in this thread are not considering Tia's perspective at all. And are also attempting to gatekeep blackness by saying only dark skinned bw with 4C hair with two 100% black parents are black. That's ridiculous. Especially if you are AA. Also comments complaining about family members telling them they didn't have "good hair*. That's a family and an internal issue. If Tia is creating a hair product based on her brand, its foolish to think she's not going to use herself. There are dsbw everywhere in the media today. dsbw don't seem to see or support them. But they see one video by a black woman who is biracial and they get triggered. the whole hair type classification thing was made up by Oprah's hairdresser anyway. It's not real. all it has done is cause further dissension.

  • @melphoenix3135
    @melphoenix3135 Год назад +3

    You are goddess 💛✨I love your look! And further more love your message about discussing and tackling colorism \texturism! I am a biracial woman that enjoys hearing your honest perspective ,and can hope I can learn more about utilizing my privilege and furthering these type of discussions ❤️💕💕💕💕

  • @erwane.106
    @erwane.106 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for those videos!

  • @zaubia3677
    @zaubia3677 Год назад +144

    I just spent two months in Perú. I met a girl that works in marketing. Her firm helped launch a hair care line aimed for Peruvian hair. Well, fast forward to now and in the attempts to be more “inclusive,” the marketing firm decided to represent other ethnicities and you can guess who they thought would be a great representation…a biracial with big voluminous curly hair. No matter where I go, this seems to be the standard all around. Also, I am surprised at Tia’s advertisement. She really tried it.

    • @tsuyuasui7297
      @tsuyuasui7297 Год назад +3

      Are they racist in peru¿

    • @zaubia3677
      @zaubia3677 Год назад +22

      @@tsuyuasui7297
      I did not experience any blatant racism nor did I peep if I was being treated differently. Side note: I had my natural hair out, mostly blown out and big. So with that I stood out a lot aside from being one of the few black tourist there. The staff at the apartment where I stayed were kind and respectful. While I was there I hung out around one Afro-Peruvian and one Afro-Venezuelan. One dark skin and the other fair, but not light skin, light skin, ya know. Both have experienced blatant racism-the same as I have here. They have seen anti-black graffiti as I have seen here in the U.S. Each have their stories. I also witnessed each be shown much love and admiration from white Peruvians. You get where I’m going with this. I never felt like I wasn’t welcomed. I did feel out of place but only because there were not many black people walking around with an Afro 🤷🏾‍♀️, sooo the looks were to be expected. Now the energy behind those looks I can’t say if they were negative or positive and nor did I care. My experience there was amazing af and I still have so much to see, so I’ll be returning in the future 😊.

    • @misstiana77
      @misstiana77 Год назад +4

      Yes there is already the line called mixed chicks, pattern beauty, deva curl represents loser curls, likeeeeee lol so many

    • @Cahluvca
      @Cahluvca Год назад +1

      It's a time machine in alot of South American countries...not much afro/black representation in media

    • @godsgirl7201
      @godsgirl7201 Год назад

      I seen a video were a white lady said she only dates black so she can keep her generation going because the ozone layer will eventually kill white skin🥴🥴

  • @saxviars9749
    @saxviars9749 Год назад +193

    i'm crying, not her saying there wasn't enough representation when she is young when she literally WAS the representation... if she can recognize the current problems, how does she not realize that her representing "real" black hair is not going to change anything?

    • @Fridaholic
      @Fridaholic Год назад +25

      right! like, girl you WERE the media.

    • @melanatedmulatta7319
      @melanatedmulatta7319 Год назад +10

      The producers of the show made them relax their hair when they got older and stopped looking cute. There is a lot of trauma from that experience that she probably feels like there was no representation for her and she had to straighten her hair in order to keep the network happy. On the other hand Jennifer freeman was allowed to keep her hair in its natural texture so I can understand where Tia is coming from. She just shouldn’t classify her hair or her race as black

    • @stoneyhighhigh3677
      @stoneyhighhigh3677 Год назад +9

      Exactly she had to be her own representation!!!! So explain who did she have that was mainstream in their time to have hair like that ....let's not forget they started getting treatments point is black hair comes in all textures

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +9

      regular bw don't understand the industry. it has been a fight for bw actress' to have proper hairstylists to do their hair. many either had to straighten their hair whether they wanted to or not. So, no Tia's natural hair *was not* the representation when she was coming up because she was forced to relax it. She's not comparing herself to bw with 4C hair. People just want to be angry at her instead of understanding where she's coming from. It's only now that the union has made it a requirement for a hairstylist who can do black be on set (if there is a black lead). It's been a long fight.

    • @marie-francoiset9402
      @marie-francoiset9402 Год назад +8

      @@melanatedmulatta7319 you're correct! bw don't understand Tia's perspective so they are projecting their anger onto her. But she can classify herself as black. She is black and white. And identifies with her black side. She has the option to do either or.

  • @FineNaturalHairROCKS
    @FineNaturalHairROCKS Год назад

    I love that you're drawing attention to this. Great video, Mayowa!

  • @DrRaeLoveCoach
    @DrRaeLoveCoach Год назад

    On point Sis! 💯❤️

  • @blackbutterfly3364
    @blackbutterfly3364 Год назад +35

    Wow🤦🏾‍♀️Really,Tia?? She wants to be the one to represent black women's hair🤔 but, we've seen women like Tia in tv and film for years in what white America and Hollywood considers to be the preference for white audiences. It's always been: This is what they meant when they used the term "POC" and inclusivity in their hiring practices, particularly in the entertainment industry. It, for years, excluded the black woman phenotype. This has been going on for decades upon decades. So can we please stop gaslighting those who don't fit the preferred mould into thinking otherwise. Then there's the issue with black magazines that went the same route. Black movies of the 80-90's showcased, quote unquote "light skin biracial beauty" with hair that black men fawned over and wanted to run their fingers through, all while castigating black women whose hair texture didn't meet their standards. Music videos of black male entertainers slowly sprinkled in white women, and as time went on we started seeing more and more light to bright to what is now just the racially ambiguous; or to be frank; Kim Kardashian type. Black men have been at the forefront of helping to push all of this. White people started this, but black men have not only led the charge, but have influenced young black boys who now grow up with the attitude that light skin/racially ambiguous women are the definition of beauty. And as much as black men run their mouths in admonishing black women for wearing weaves, and wigs and not their natural hair(their so-called reason for not dating black women) At the end of the day, they don't want the all natural black woman. We are persecuted for not being their true desire; which is whiteness💯

  • @dajiyahmcae1880
    @dajiyahmcae1880 Год назад +93

    I knew I couldn’t trust her after I seen that “Family Reunion” episode where she and the show runners spent the entire episode shoving the mixed character down our throats as a “beautiful black women”. Y’all need to STOP. That crap hurt my heart.

    • @ieshaweaver4013
      @ieshaweaver4013 Год назад +4

      Yeah I noticed and I have followed her ALOT recently and associated with all white ppl

    • @TeaWitcher
      @TeaWitcher Год назад

      What!!!!!!! Omg

    • @_cup_of_tea
      @_cup_of_tea Год назад +3

      What season and episode number was that?

    • @dajiyahmcae1880
      @dajiyahmcae1880 Год назад +1

      @@TeaWitcher they put the girl in black face and a 4c wig and everything, it was soooooo offensive

  • @calpag
    @calpag 10 месяцев назад +3

    I have been watching your show and enjoy what you say immensely. Keep up the good work. You make me proud to be black. You are a very beautiful black woman.

  • @Ellequisha
    @Ellequisha Год назад

    Mayowaaaaa I LOVE YEW GIRLLL!!! IKDR my hair is bouncing around and living it’s best 4C life RN!!!! BRAVO 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @musicaflowerchild5540
    @musicaflowerchild5540 Год назад +70

    Thank you so much for saying this. I'm a 64 year old Blackity-Black female who is now in menopause. My beautifully nappy hair is thinning. So I went online to get a nappy wig that looks like my natural kinky nappy hair. And all you can find under that classification is hair that resembles Tia Mowry's hair. I feel erased. And I thank you SO MUCH for bringing this out.

  • @BoHeaux
    @BoHeaux Год назад +110

    It’s interesting. When I see biracial women talking about hair representation, I think they are comparing themselves to not being able to fit in with white people….because like you said, they definitely been on tv for years. I agree with you 100%.
    I saw a tiktok where a biracial woman mentioned how she used to seek her belonging with her white mom and family and couldn’t find it by comparing her skin color.

    • @salambo6512
      @salambo6512 Год назад

      You American? Cause in my country there is NO representation. Don't talk bs please you can't talk for every mixed people on the planet.

    • @queenkenya2634
      @queenkenya2634 Год назад

      U are dead wrong bc a white women couldn't understand my hair struggles nor could they understand how to do my hair we don't fit in with white ppl bc we aren't white we are black and ppl like u are the definition of why we can't identify with our blackness either bc u generalize us and act like all of out hair is the same when I probably have thicker less cute and curley hair then u

    • @BoHeaux
      @BoHeaux Год назад +4

      @@queenkenya2634 hey babes. Lol. It wasn’t me who said it, it was a fellow biracial. Ijs. 🤷🏾‍♀️ SHE said she was looking to identify with her WHITE family and would hold up her palm and try to match their skin color.
      In this case there is no generalization and we are speaking Tia and biracial women with hair like HER. If it doesn’t apply….😁 then let if fly right?

    • @airie14
      @airie14 Год назад +22

      As someone that’s biracial my experience isn’t trying to fit in with white people. It’s being raised by white people who talked down on my hair. I have an aunt who constantly says look at your hair or you look crazy still to this day when my hair is frizzy or out of control I have 3b hair, she constantly told my sister she was lucky because she has wavy hair. Growing up I did suffer with a lot of insecurities due to my hair because I grew up around so many people who made me feel I looked better with my hair straight. But then when you’re comparing it to women with more coarse hair you see it’s even worst discrimination the more I was around black people I realized they seen my hair differently then white people. Some mixed people are only a product of their environment and really have no clue. Our white family constantly reminds us how black we are so that’s how we view ourselves, but then fully black people look at us crazy like no you’re biracial not black which I understand because fully black women should be represented in positive ways. This is just some insight because I see it from both sides now , It’s just like skin tone as someone who is light skin I still receive racism but I see darker skin people treated worst more often.

    • @melaninkind8783
      @melaninkind8783 Год назад

      @@BoHeauxDo you remember her Tiktok name?

  • @jacquelineadams3770
    @jacquelineadams3770 Год назад +1

    Nice, informative video.👍🏾 This subject should be discussed more often. Btw, Love, love, love the look you had. The butterflies in your hair were too cute.🤗❤️

  • @mastercyclonia
    @mastercyclonia Год назад +13

    I wore my hair not defined and my mother told me it “would have been cute” but it was frizzy 😂, I’m laughing because I was so disappointed for like 5 minutes but then I realized my mother is a victim of not being around ppl who praise our hair. After that, I developed the confidence to just wear my hair non manipulated. Thanks for this video! This discourse is needed.

  • @raeahthewriter8082
    @raeahthewriter8082 Год назад +23

    “Sell your products and go” 😂😂😂 I died!!!! Yesssss sis!

  • @Luuve
    @Luuve Год назад +31

    I absolutely love when you're done talking about your subject and describe your vibe and how pretty you look! 'I'm in my butterfly area!"

    • @saxviars9749
      @saxviars9749 Год назад +5

      i'm so here for her buttlerfly era , these looks are so coooool

  • @yvonnedelories4780
    @yvonnedelories4780 Год назад

    I happened upon this video and immediately subscribed! I love hearing you speak and I love your creativity!!

  • @mstieshac
    @mstieshac Год назад

    Talk your shit sis. I love this video, I love your hair. That eye makeup is everything. Thank you for this

  • @so-cas4454
    @so-cas4454 Год назад +25

    Preach! I am a middle aged darker skinned black woman with “good (4b)hair” as I’ve been told since childhood. I have always been aware that my kinkier and coarser haired sisters have vastly different experiences than I and are perceived differently . Texturism is very real.

  • @reinventlove1866
    @reinventlove1866 Год назад +16

    The colors and the butterflies are so cute

    • @Maki-00
      @Maki-00 Год назад +4

      I love the iridescent lipstick! I gotta learn how to do that!

  • @lovelyme8132
    @lovelyme8132 Год назад

    Thank you sister for your work. I'm sending so much of my love and support 🤍

  • @lucymadelengregg4482
    @lucymadelengregg4482 Год назад

    I agree with what you said. And you look so beautiful. I love the eyeshadow and the butterflys.

  • @anacaona9654
    @anacaona9654 Год назад +14

    Thank you. I thought I was losin it when I saw Tia’s TikTok about Black hair.

  • @3shibuyallc486
    @3shibuyallc486 8 месяцев назад

    I love your content!! super honest, educational and inspiring.

  • @cjwilliamsvi
    @cjwilliamsvi Год назад +1

    Ooooh girl, you’re spitting facts!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @yujuy.1329
    @yujuy.1329 Год назад +9

    biracial is biracial is biracial is biracial. I can't do this with them. black is blk. I need pl to get this already.

  • @tk3831
    @tk3831 Год назад +26

    Keep speaking out because if you don't your silence will make it easier to be forgotten. 4C hair should be more mainstream and honestly these corporations nowadays just dilute and make products toxic. I wouldn't trust them and would try to make my own concoction at home.

  • @Songstress1989
    @Songstress1989 Год назад

    Just pure facts! PURE! Love you! So happy I found you

  • @jordans2177
    @jordans2177 Год назад +1

    Your eyeshadow is STUNNING

  • @sashabell2390
    @sashabell2390 Год назад +37

    Tell me why I was literally just talking to my friend about this. And how there was a time when they only casted light skin some such as Amanda Sternberg and Yara Shahidi in movies literally meant for dark skin women

    • @tsuyuasui7297
      @tsuyuasui7297 Год назад +11

      Yess rue ( played by amandla steinberg) from the hungergames was supposed to be a darkskinned black girl ( going off the description of her character in the book) but in the movie she wasn't, for granted most of the cast wasn't accurate.

    • @aye927
      @aye927 Год назад +1

      This is so true

    • @aye927
      @aye927 Год назад +1

      True

  • @darkfemme4914
    @darkfemme4914 Год назад +31

    Tia knew what she was doing and targeting Black women for our attention.
    After she had her divorce I think she feels down about herself and rather than work on her self esteem she has to take cheap shots for validation through putting down black women so she can feel better.

    • @justinethomas5020
      @justinethomas5020 Год назад +5

      Well....She got your attention

    • @basedki3780
      @basedki3780 Год назад +6

      This is delusional thinking lmao

    • @youjustgotburned3980
      @youjustgotburned3980 Год назад

      If this is so then this says ALOT about her as a person
      Which is honestly disappointing