WELL SAID BROTHER! Jazak Allah Khair! This video is spot on, and the ummah needs to see this video. I am a real woman, and have always been one, alhamdulillah. In my personal life, I have been thinking about marriage, and the divorce rate of Muslims. I am a revert from Christianity, and new to Islamic teachings. I was a practicing Christian, chaste and pious, yes, they do, and are out there in the West, believe it or not. I thank God that as a small child, I had taqwa, and believed in Gods word, and obeyed Gods word. I also learned from my own parents marriage, the do’s and the don’t s. What a woman should NOT do to her husband, and what a man should NOT do, to his wife. I give Allah (swt) all the glory, for making ME, who I am. I now look forward to learning Allah’s (swt) word from the Qur’an, and obeying it. Believing women, OBEY ALLAH’S WORD, AND DO WHAT IT SAYS, PLEASE. Will I marry, I don’t know? I say, Allah’s will be done. I will make du’a for the ummah concerning marriage, and all that good stuff. My brothers and sisters Allah (swt) bless you all. Alhamdulillah, SubhanAllah, and Allahu Akbar!!!
Beautifully explained, Allah has given you a great ability to break things down and explain things very eloquently, he has given you tawfeeq. May Allah bless you.
بارك الله فيك أخي... Personally, I think what's missing is taqwaa and compatibility...without these things in a marriage, (not only these things), but without them it's very easy to head down that road which leads to divorce...unfortunately. Men want good wives but aren't willing to be good husbands and vice versa. I think respect is a 2 way road...not only for the woman to respect her husband!! Sometimes respect is given, and all the due rights, but they don't respect their wives... which in turn makes it hard for the woman to be that "dutiful" wife... Rasoolullah صلى الله عليه وسلم said I am the best amongst you to his wives, I'm sure there's hikmah in this statement. I don't think it's about them wanting more women or running away when the heat turns up, it's about them not knowing how to treat their women and not fearing Allah, some men are too quick to talk about their haqq and their rights but forget the rights of their women, allahul musta'an. Give good treatment... get that treatment back! It's a simple equation!
That's great and all pointing out what men should be doing, but your comment feels so one sided, sorry to say sister., I think the brother laid out the basics pretty well. Yes, generally Taqwa is important, as for everything. And probably every Muslim knows that. The problem is, sisters masha Allah may probably all have good niyyah but don't realize what they're doing wrong and think they're respecting their husbands, but really they're not and the men don't know how to voice it out. On other occasions where a sister may be doing everything right, unffortunately meet the wrong men who don't have the right niyyah going in, and everything starts to creep out slowly. My advice is to be more balanced by also understanding every side.
I do agree with parts of what you said but I have to say that respect is mutual and prophet Mohammad صلى الله عليه و سلم said حدثنا الحكم بن نافع قال أخبرنا شعيب عن الزهري قال حدثني عامر بن سعد عن سعد بن أبي وقاص أنه أخبره أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إنك لن تنفق نفقة تبتغي بها وجه الله إلا أجرت عليها حتى ما تجعل في فم امرأتك. You are greatly rewarded for the smallest thing that you can do for your wife! That being said, I think a lot of married couples forget that the main point of marriage is as Allah subhanahu wa tala said in Sura Alrum aya 21 is to find “mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought”.
Most of the time, wives asked for a divorce, not due to infidelity by their husbands, but becoz the husbands are irresponsible, did not fulfill their duties as husband, as father, and as head of their families . Men, in the eastern culture especially, are raised pampered.
Thank you for sharing and explaining this epidemic we have in a simple yet strong way. May Allah enrich you only in goodness and accept your efforts Ameen
I agree with everything you said, divorce is a huge issue, how brothers dropping sisters like nothing and wondering why so many are depressed and resort to feminism and take hijab off and all sorts. Not enough people are encouraging people to work on marriages but telling brothers to divorce. Also there are guys who will try dictate every small thing like they’re your boss. Not with hikmah, not like you’re their spouse but like you’re nothing. I do agree 💯 some sisters just don’t like being told what to do (another western influence by the media/tv etc I know) and will not respect their husband, so that’s another side too. We all have a lot of work to do, with each other and ourselves and for the greater society. Please keep up the beneficial reminders and good work. Jazakhalllāhu’Khāir
Men dont respect docile and polite women...they walk all over them...get a side chick pregnant or have secret marriage behind her back. Then she becomes mean...they run back for forgiveness. Being mean sometimes makes them afraid to screw you over. Why? Because their scared they lose everything.
SubhanAllah, thanks to our brother Saajid for his sincere advice. If you implement this advice in your life you would certainly be successful in sha Allah.
Agreed 💯. Sadly there is so much damage done that I fear it may be irreversible ( unless Allah swt wills of course). Personally in spite of desire and the order to complete half our deen... I'm steering clear of marriage now. As my trust in the brothers, from being mistreated, is gone. Sad but true. Allah guide and protect us all. Especially the future generations
My mama only knew 1 person in primary school and 1 person in high school (we call elementary school primary school in Australia, and we don't have a middle school) who's parents had divorced. When I was in primary school really everyone's parents had divorced, I can only think of 3 or 4 people in my grade who's parents were still together. Same with high school. Divorces going down left, right and center.
The problem that I am experiencing, which is leading to marriage degradation, is a wife who is now very judgemental and objects to no for an answer. Everything has to be on her terms. My wife has always been more religious than me but in the last few years she has become more critical, more judgemental, more degrading of her husband, and when she alleges that I speak the truth, in reality it means the truth as she want to hear it. Not surprisingly, this leads to arguments. When I (the husband) speaks or defends himself she uses the most foul language on me (and to wind me up, uses foul language on my mother) and even believes hitting and punching the husband (in front of the children) is permissable. And often does. She is now a violent person where I have to tread carefully in all that I do. This is impacting the kids, who not surprisingly take the mothers side as she would be otherwise aggressive with them too. So the kids tell me to be quiet but never the mother and I have to suffer verbal and physical abuse in front of the kids. Married for over 26 years, and now come to accept the beating and abuse as alternatives are not good and she knows this too well. If I leave, she will gain everything I have build, the children will have hatred of me and marriage proposals for them will be non-existent. But I am very close to leaving for my sanity Really do not know what to do...No one would believe me as she is so religious in front of other people
so so rry to hear that brother. please record evidence of the abuse. start to show local imam or sothething, to peol who will rally behind you. ptay thahujjud that allah will rule thing sin your favor if you get a divorce and inshallah the kids marriage proposal will not be affected
I ended a horrible marriage which cost of my last 5 years. My father do not accept me with niqab. I'll stay with another poor sisters and then don't know what to do after iddah. U can't find a work with niqab in Turkey. I don't think that i can trust a Muslim man as a husband ever again. I know being totally hopeless is forbidden but i'm only one step away being lost.
How are you sister? I also had difficulty with family accepting niqab, i dont wear it anymore but i know its so hard to keep it on. May Allah grant you sabr and ease.
صحيح احد اصدقائي لم ينتهي من اول ستة اشهر من الزواج الا وطلق زوجته تسّرع، عدم الصبر ، دلع ، الخ العجيب ان كلاهما في اواخر العشرين قرب الثلاثين يعني المفروض ان يكونا ناضجين الا انهما مثل الاطفال الكبار وهذا ما بدأت اشاهده في بعض الشباب حولي : عقولهم وشخصياتهم اصغر من اعمارهم يكون في الخامسة والعشرين من عمره ولكن طريقه تفكيره وتحكمه بنفسه وكأنه 18 سنة من عمره والشابات (الفتيات) نفس الشيء وفق الله الجميع
I'm from Jersey, and the marriage situation here is like a revolving door, particularly of the salafi followers. They'll divorce a woman, then marry her friend, then when that's over, he'll go to another woman in the same neighborhood and then you hear about the gossip. It's crazy. It's one thing to have a divorce, but when it becomes like a Mormon thing, it's pathetic.
Women got to be strict on marriage contract...no second wife, required marriage counseling and high exit fee. Some of brothers want benefit of wife without doing the work of the husband. Brothers marry and divorce like it's a joke...kids suffer and women suffer too. Maybe she needs to give the kids to the man - so he cant jump from women to women. Women that dont respect men comes from broken homes...usually a women that dont respect man had not gotten her rights (dont fall for the lies).
With all due respect I don't agree on women obeying husband, If we follow the example of prophet Muhammed then I see it as partnership where someone has to make a decision but after consulting with his life partner. I like a lot of things you are saying but unfortunately we live in a reality where domestic abuse (emotional and physical) is the norm in certain cultures.
I've met some beautiful women and I strangely find them physically unattractive once I see their negative attitudes. For me once I see disrespect from a male friend or a woman, to me, that relationship is over. Not here to take sides, men and women need to work on themselves. Just know your role.
For my opinion to share......The best marriage is have a open forum we each other... and learn to accept each other weakness and men need to study the needs of a women and women also needs to study the needs of a men... I love you video bro... May Allah azza wa jal bless you amin...
If a man or a woman sleeps around (even as few as more than 2 partners), he/she will lose a psychological aspect called "pair-bonding". It affects women more than men. If someone loses it, there is no way to bring it back. The family must break at some point.
I totally agree! If you show gratitude and respect towards a man than a relationship can grow or at least stay in existence. Otherwise it will crash down sooner or later. So women have to play an active role in this. Giving respect and gratitude are positive motivations instead of criticism. We men can handle criticism as long a minimum amount of respect and gratitude is given. So don't cross this line. If we feel we don't get the minimum amount of respect or gratitude we think we deserve we can become angry. So this is from a man's perspective.
Salamu alaikum please share with me how it's easy to get married in Islam. Im looking for a good muslimah sister. I want to get married. I want my forever wife.
All advantage men is given is based on the fact that he provides and protect dear Saajid how many times did you see a man physically or verbally protect his wife???? how many Muslim household stand on a wife's job? what happened when men don't protect and don't provide??? they still keep that advantage they were given for responsibilities they are not honoring hasbona llah wa ni3ma lwakil
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Saajid , Please Tell Us Why Saudi Arabia Dont have Female Scholars ? Or why there isnt any Female scholars in The High Court Of Scholars in islam like: Majlis alolama in Saudi arabia
I think you're wrong akhi, because there is no one-size-fits-all reason the marriages fail. There are many reasons. I'm from Philly, everyone has heard of the fitnah in Philly. There are a lot of layers to this discussion.
Assalamulikum Sheikh Saajid, Firstly I would just like to say that I truly love you FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH! You, my friend, are always in my prayer and I pray for you that you be with the Rasul and his Sahaba in Jannah (Ameen). The only thing I want to ask is I want to start making RUclips videos similar to yours but I am not as knowledgeable as you. So what is your advice, ya Sheikh? I ask you to pray to Allah SWT that my in itentions be pure, and to become like you one day Inshallah. Ameen,
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh, May Allah love you akhi, Ameen and Wa iyyaak to your beautiful dua. My advice is start recording with your smart phone because it’s easy and you can do it right away inshaAllah and see how you truly feel about making videos. Later on you can upgrade your equipment inshaAllah if it’s something you want to continue. I discuss the tools I use in the video on my gofundme.com/ilmstitute page, BaarakaAllahufeek
Brother I have a question I was thinking of going to Medina Islamic university after I finish grade 12 to learn Arabic. Do I need to know Arabic prior to coming ?
Keep in mind that only jannah is perfect and pain free, not saying that a spouse should be ok with the abuse of his/her spouse, my point is that a husband and wife should get over a lot of the misunderstandings for the a bigger goal which is to keep a strong intact stable home. Jazak Allah khair for the words Aky
Russell Anderson Boy friend and girl friend relationship is the slavery issue, in Islam men and women (mainly women) have there right in marriage, but in the West when a man gets a woman pregnant he disappears.
when I was single I came across these sort of men, I saw red flags marrying divorced multiple times , always on the marriage looking for marriage scene, I was single for a decade for this reason, I came across alot of these playboys, nothing to offer no financial security nor emotional security, how do you have children with a man like that?? that's why women get careers its the only thing that gives you security in general, the situation is more complicated than just feminism. Alhamdullah I've married a good man with a lot of dua and patience and no my marriage is not a fairy tale!
Islam came to bring rights to the woman Alhamdolilah, if all the muslim man and woman follow the Quran and the teachings of prophet Mohammad peace be upon him , all the marrieges will be forever in this life and the next life insha Allah.
In the Christian faith it is not so easy to get divorced. I'm surprised how easy it is in the Islam. Mathews 19: 3-8 3Then some Pharisees came and tested Him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason?” 4Jesus answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’a 5and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’b? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” 7“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses order a man to give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?c” 8Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of your hardness of heart; but it was not this way from the beginning. 9Now I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman, commits adultery.d”
I think some people just able to figure it out, without having to experience it first They just look at a case from nearby and after sometime they have that A-ha moment
Mashallah my brother you are right may Allah bless you my brother man are just married for show off because someone has a second wife me too I want a second wife that what they are doing and if the do marry a woman as second wife they don't even care about it the man doesn't even help with the bill only the wife pay all the bills in the house and is to difficult to give him a repeat like how you just let the woman do all the bills then call me my wife like is Crazy I don't understand why man doesn't want to help
Nowadays thing in marriage are gone backwards..wife nowadays doesn't listen or obey or respect their husbands ..man or husbands are the one who obey ,bow their head to his wife ,became his wife slaves while wife acting or taking over husband duty's plus disrespect their husbands even disrespect their husbands family..that how woman in this era act..n yes it true what u said
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Ma Sha ALLAH, I've never had a real good muslim man in my life. But I raised one, my 16 years old son. Much love from Jakarta, Indonesia💕
Sister please change your profile picture, i do not think you got the message, we have to lower our gaze from sisters
Al humdu Allah i also have a 16 year old son. I haven't found a good muslimah sister.
There are many in Indonesia...Dakwah Salaf is growing...
Humble Mushroom stop looking than period !
Salaam sister Agreed
WELL SAID BROTHER! Jazak Allah Khair! This video is spot on, and the ummah needs to see this video. I am a real woman, and have always been one, alhamdulillah. In my personal life, I have been thinking about marriage, and the divorce rate of Muslims. I am a revert from Christianity, and new to Islamic teachings. I was a practicing Christian, chaste and pious, yes, they do, and are out there in the West, believe it or not. I thank God that as a small child, I had taqwa, and believed in Gods word, and obeyed Gods word. I also learned from my own parents marriage, the do’s and the don’t s. What a woman should NOT do to her husband, and what a man should NOT do, to his wife. I give Allah (swt) all the glory, for making ME, who I am. I now look forward to learning Allah’s (swt) word from the Qur’an, and obeying it. Believing women, OBEY ALLAH’S WORD, AND DO WHAT IT SAYS, PLEASE. Will I marry, I don’t know? I say, Allah’s will be done. I will make du’a for the ummah concerning marriage, and all that good stuff. My brothers and sisters Allah (swt) bless you all. Alhamdulillah, SubhanAllah, and Allahu Akbar!!!
what do you mean ..I am a real woman?? what else would you be?
wish u all the best sister may Allah fulfill your wishes and u got a good and pious husband
@@sk-ec4co she means she's real, not who's pretending to be like one but not acting like one. She's making sense
Beautifully explained, Allah has given you a great ability to break things down and explain things very eloquently, he has given you tawfeeq. May Allah bless you.
As a young woman, this made so much sense to me. I never thought of the men's perspective that way
you muslim?
Me too
Haqq! You did it in the correct approach. 📚
As a Muslim women this video is really nice good work I have been married for 17 years marriage is a big thing pray to Allah for your marriage 🙏🌛🌞☪💯
You are lucky brother. You acquired knowledge and strong ethics. Maasha Allah.
بارك الله فيك أخي...
Personally, I think what's missing is taqwaa and compatibility...without these things in a marriage, (not only these things), but without them it's very easy to head down that road which leads to divorce...unfortunately. Men want good wives but aren't willing to be good husbands and vice versa. I think respect is a 2 way road...not only for the woman to respect her husband!! Sometimes respect is given, and all the due rights, but they don't respect their wives... which in turn makes it hard for the woman to be that "dutiful" wife... Rasoolullah صلى الله عليه وسلم said I am the best amongst you to his wives, I'm sure there's hikmah in this statement. I don't think it's about them wanting more women or running away when the heat turns up, it's about them not knowing how to treat their women and not fearing Allah, some men are too quick to talk about their haqq and their rights but forget the rights of their women, allahul musta'an. Give good treatment... get that treatment back! It's a simple equation!
ummu waladun 🙂
that is the correct answer I think.I am totally agree with you #ummuwaladun
Well said Masyaa Allah...Jazakillahu khayron for your expalanation umm may Allah give us a spouse who understand about deen..
That's great and all pointing out what men should be doing, but your comment feels so one sided, sorry to say sister., I think the brother laid out the basics pretty well. Yes, generally Taqwa is important, as for everything. And probably every Muslim knows that. The problem is, sisters masha Allah may probably all have good niyyah but don't realize what they're doing wrong and think they're respecting their husbands, but really they're not and the men don't know how to voice it out. On other occasions where a sister may be doing everything right, unffortunately meet the wrong men who don't have the right niyyah going in, and everything starts to creep out slowly. My advice is to be more balanced by also understanding every side.
I do agree with parts of what you said but I have to say that respect is mutual and prophet Mohammad صلى الله عليه و سلم said حدثنا الحكم بن نافع قال أخبرنا شعيب عن الزهري قال حدثني عامر بن سعد عن سعد بن أبي وقاص أنه أخبره أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إنك لن تنفق نفقة تبتغي بها وجه الله إلا أجرت عليها حتى ما تجعل في فم امرأتك. You are greatly rewarded for the smallest thing that you can do for your wife! That being said, I think a lot of married couples forget that the main point of marriage is as Allah subhanahu wa tala said in Sura Alrum aya 21 is to find “mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought”.
I appreciate your wisdom brother !
May Allah bless you akhi, please keep up on posting more videos
Most of the time, wives asked for a divorce, not due to infidelity by their husbands, but becoz the husbands are irresponsible, did not fulfill their duties as husband, as father, and as head of their families . Men, in the eastern culture especially, are raised pampered.
💯 percent Truth
Thank you for sharing and explaining this epidemic we have in a simple yet strong way.
May Allah enrich you only in goodness and accept your efforts Ameen
Jazak Allah khair Sajid. Please upload more of marriage advice.
Machaalah. May Allah swt create many man like your mind in our community. Love from one of your sister from france
MashaAllah, brother Saajid. May Allah bless you and reward you for your hard working. I always enjoy your videos.
mashaAllah, tebarekAllah! Excellent advice and very true, mashaAllah!
I agree with everything you said, divorce is a huge issue, how brothers dropping sisters like nothing and wondering why so many are depressed and resort to feminism and take hijab off and all sorts. Not enough people are encouraging people to work on marriages but telling brothers to divorce. Also there are guys who will try dictate every small thing like they’re your boss. Not with hikmah, not like you’re their spouse but like you’re nothing. I do agree 💯 some sisters just don’t like being told what to do (another western influence by the media/tv etc I know) and will not respect their husband, so that’s another side too. We all have a lot of work to do, with each other and ourselves and for the greater society. Please keep up the beneficial reminders and good work. Jazakhalllāhu’Khāir
Men dont respect docile and polite women...they walk all over them...get a side chick pregnant or have secret marriage behind her back. Then she becomes mean...they run back for forgiveness. Being mean sometimes makes them afraid to screw you over. Why? Because their scared they lose everything.
I agree my ex was always mean to me for 12 years till I flipped and wanted to end it.He was nice some days but mostly cruel
SubhanAllah, thanks to our brother Saajid for his sincere advice. If you implement this advice in your life you would certainly be successful in sha Allah.
Salman Khan from Pakistan working in Riyadh for many many years. May Allah bless you brother. I wish i could meet you
Agreed 💯. Sadly there is so much damage done that I fear it may be irreversible ( unless Allah swt wills of course). Personally in spite of desire and the order to complete half our deen... I'm steering clear of marriage now. As my trust in the brothers, from being mistreated, is gone. Sad but true. Allah guide and protect us all. Especially the future generations
Manshallah spoke so beautifully that’s how someone should speak Islam Subhannallah
My mama only knew 1 person in primary school and 1 person in high school (we call elementary school primary school in Australia, and we don't have a middle school) who's parents had divorced. When I was in primary school really everyone's parents had divorced, I can only think of 3 or 4 people in my grade who's parents were still together. Same with high school. Divorces going down left, right and center.
Masha Allah baaraka Allah brother jazaka Allah khayr
The problem that I am experiencing, which is leading to marriage degradation, is a wife who is now very judgemental and objects to no for an answer. Everything has to be on her terms.
My wife has always been more religious than me but in the last few years she has become more critical, more judgemental, more degrading of her husband, and when she alleges that I speak the truth, in reality it means the truth as she want to hear it. Not surprisingly, this leads to arguments. When I (the husband) speaks or defends himself she uses the most foul language on me (and to wind me up, uses foul language on my mother) and even believes hitting and punching the husband (in front of the children) is permissable. And often does. She is now a violent person where I have to tread carefully in all that I do. This is impacting the kids, who not surprisingly take the mothers side as she would be otherwise aggressive with them too. So the kids tell me to be quiet but never the mother and I have to suffer verbal and physical abuse in front of the kids.
Married for over 26 years, and now come to accept the beating and abuse as alternatives are not good and she knows this too well. If I leave, she will gain everything I have build, the children will have hatred of me and marriage proposals for them will be non-existent. But I am very close to leaving for my sanity
Really do not know what to do...No one would believe me as she is so religious in front of other people
so so rry to hear that brother. please record evidence of the abuse. start to show local imam or sothething, to peol who will rally behind you. ptay thahujjud that allah will rule thing sin your favor if you get a divorce and inshallah the kids marriage proposal will not be affected
I ended a horrible marriage which cost of my last 5 years. My father do not accept me with niqab. I'll stay with another poor sisters and then don't know what to do after iddah. U can't find a work with niqab in Turkey. I don't think that i can trust a Muslim man as a husband ever again. I know being totally hopeless is forbidden but i'm only one step away being lost.
Asalam alay Kum. May Allah make it easier for you, ameen. How are things now? ❤️
How are you sister? I also had difficulty with family accepting niqab, i dont wear it anymore but i know its so hard to keep it on. May Allah grant you sabr and ease.
Jazak Allah Khaira.
صحيح في مجتمعنا انعدم الصبر والتحمل من جهة الزوج او الزوجة ويرجع السبب للمقارنة .
صحيح
احد اصدقائي لم ينتهي من اول ستة اشهر من الزواج الا وطلق زوجته
تسّرع، عدم الصبر ، دلع ، الخ
العجيب ان كلاهما في اواخر العشرين قرب الثلاثين يعني المفروض ان يكونا ناضجين الا انهما مثل الاطفال الكبار
وهذا ما بدأت اشاهده في بعض الشباب حولي : عقولهم وشخصياتهم اصغر من اعمارهم
يكون في الخامسة والعشرين من عمره ولكن طريقه تفكيره وتحكمه بنفسه وكأنه 18 سنة من عمره
والشابات (الفتيات) نفس الشيء
وفق الله الجميع
بارك الله فيكي
بارك الله بك أخي على هذه النصائح الرائعة
Jazakum Allah Khairan.
I'm from Jersey, and the marriage situation here is like a revolving door, particularly of the salafi followers. They'll divorce a woman, then marry her friend, then when that's over, he'll go to another woman in the same neighborhood and then you hear about the gossip. It's crazy. It's one thing to have a divorce, but when it becomes like a Mormon thing, it's pathetic.
Ooh. I heard about Jersey. Philadelphia too. I would never marry my women folk to any Jersey brothers or Philly brothers.
My father would never accept brothers from the entire east coast.
Well said, you're on point
Subhana Allah , it happened to me and broke me as a muslimah.may Allah reward for talking to this issue.
So on point MashaaAllah.
Women got to be strict on marriage contract...no second wife, required marriage counseling and high exit fee. Some of brothers want benefit of wife without doing the work of the husband. Brothers marry and divorce like it's a joke...kids suffer and women suffer too. Maybe she needs to give the kids to the man - so he cant jump from women to women. Women that dont respect men comes from broken homes...usually a women that dont respect man had not gotten her rights (dont fall for the lies).
Jazakallahu Khairan
Brother can you continue going through the Madinah Arabic Book?
They don't know how we feel when they disrespect us
Thanks br saajid for this video, this is golden advice
You're right on the point.
Good points my brother
Very welly addressed
I recognize these walls) I enrolled at the islamic university and live in 17 uihdah. The same walls) بارك الله فيكم
With all due respect I don't agree on women obeying husband, If we follow the example of prophet Muhammed then I see it as partnership where someone has to make a decision but after consulting with his life partner. I like a lot of things you are saying but unfortunately we live in a reality where domestic abuse (emotional and physical) is the norm in certain cultures.
Zaki Hydar may be the word respect instead
Obeying means to respect your husband...
I've met some beautiful women and I strangely find them physically unattractive once I see their negative attitudes. For me once I see disrespect from a male friend or a woman, to me, that relationship is over. Not here to take sides, men and women need to work on themselves. Just know your role.
For my opinion to share......The best marriage is have a open forum we each other... and learn to accept each other weakness and men need to study the needs of a women and women also needs to study the needs of a men...
I love you video bro... May Allah azza wa jal bless you amin...
JazakAllah
Would you like to put the reference and statistics in the video
Love the fact that you actually tell people to make an effort thats really cool man
If a man or a woman sleeps around (even as few as more than 2 partners), he/she will lose a psychological aspect called "pair-bonding". It affects women more than men. If someone loses it, there is no way to bring it back. The family must break at some point.
I totally agree! If you show gratitude and respect towards a man than a relationship can grow or at least stay in existence. Otherwise it will crash down sooner or later. So women have to play an active role in this. Giving respect and gratitude are positive motivations instead of criticism. We men can handle criticism as long a minimum amount of respect and gratitude is given. So don't cross this line. If we feel we don't get the minimum amount of respect or gratitude we think we deserve we can become angry. So this is from a man's perspective.
Salamu alaikum please share with me how it's easy to get married in Islam. Im looking for a good muslimah sister. I want to get married. I want my forever wife.
Well said!
All advantage men is given is based on the fact that he provides and protect
dear Saajid how many times did you see a man physically or verbally protect his wife????
how many Muslim household stand on a wife's job?
what happened when men don't protect and don't provide???
they still keep that advantage they were given for responsibilities they are not honoring
hasbona llah wa ni3ma lwakil
Saajid , Please Tell Us Why Saudi Arabia Dont have Female Scholars ?
Or why there isnt any Female scholars in The High Court Of Scholars in islam like: Majlis alolama in Saudi arabia
Pat Garrett We do have female scholars such as Dr. Nawal Al-Eid , Dr. Rukaiah Muharb, and others!
Saudi do have women scholars.. just not shown on media
Same as me...but Allah Subhannallah Wa Ta'ala know the best for me...
I think you're wrong akhi, because there is no one-size-fits-all reason the marriages fail. There are many reasons. I'm from Philly, everyone has heard of the fitnah in Philly. There are a lot of layers to this discussion.
Let’s frequently seek forgiveness from Allah because nobody knows what will happen in the next minute Astagfirullah wa atuubu ilaihi🤲🏼
Assalamulikum Sheikh Saajid,
Firstly I would just like to say that I truly love you FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH! You, my friend, are always in my prayer and I pray for you that you be with the Rasul and his Sahaba in Jannah (Ameen). The only thing I want to ask is I want to start making RUclips videos similar to yours but I am not as knowledgeable as you. So what is your advice, ya Sheikh?
I ask you to pray to Allah SWT that my in itentions be pure, and to become like you one day Inshallah. Ameen,
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh, May Allah love you akhi, Ameen and Wa iyyaak to your beautiful dua. My advice is start recording with your smart phone because it’s easy and you can do it right away inshaAllah and see how you truly feel about making videos. Later on you can upgrade your equipment inshaAllah if it’s something you want to continue. I discuss the tools I use in the video on my gofundme.com/ilmstitute page, BaarakaAllahufeek
Well said bro
Brother I have a question I was thinking of going to Medina Islamic university after I finish grade 12 to learn Arabic. Do I need to know Arabic prior to coming ?
Keep in mind that only jannah is perfect and pain free, not saying that a spouse should be ok with the abuse of his/her spouse, my point is that a husband and wife should get over a lot of the misunderstandings for the a bigger goal which is to keep a strong intact stable home. Jazak Allah khair for the words Aky
I have a question for the viewers from Saudi:
Do you think it is wrong that females are driving? If so, why?
@@victoryunatea6716 well, they weren't allowed to drive 2 years ago
Gray Kin wow Saudi women are fat. I thought only American women were fat lol
Blub the civilians have nothing to do with the no driving law.
Gray kin men should do a lot for their wives, what right you have to say anything bad about Arab women!?
Russell Anderson Boy friend and girl friend relationship is the slavery issue, in Islam men and women (mainly women) have there right in marriage, but in the West when a man gets a woman pregnant he disappears.
So Hard people are easily getting jealous
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when I was single I came across these sort of men, I saw red flags marrying divorced multiple times , always on the marriage looking for marriage scene, I was single for a decade for this reason, I came across alot of these playboys, nothing to offer no financial security nor emotional security, how do you have children with a man like that?? that's why women get careers its the only thing that gives you security in general, the situation is more complicated than just feminism. Alhamdullah I've married a good man with a lot of dua and patience and no my marriage is not a fairy tale!
Islam came to bring rights to the woman Alhamdolilah, if all the muslim man and woman follow the Quran and the teachings of prophet Mohammad peace be upon him , all the marrieges will be forever in this life and the next life insha Allah.
In the Christian faith it is not so easy to get divorced. I'm surprised how easy it is in the Islam. Mathews 19: 3-8 3Then some Pharisees came and tested Him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason?”
4Jesus answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’a 5and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’b? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
7“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses order a man to give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?c”
8Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of your hardness of heart; but it was not this way from the beginning. 9Now I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman, commits adultery.d”
أسال الله العزيز الوهاب ان يرزقك بالزوجة الصالحة ويفتح لك ابواب رزقه ويسخر لك الارض ومن عليها.
Nothing you said was bad 🌺💕 thank you
Maybe that's why marry maturity
Man sha allah what is true words
As salaam alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuhu ahkee. How do you know all this stuff? You been here before or something???😁
I think some people just able to figure it out, without having to experience it first
They just look at a case from nearby and after sometime they have that A-ha moment
The good example of marriage is Aliza Kim, look at his found the partner. See her video for Korean Muslim.
Ameen.
Maşallah brother, welcome to İslam
Soo true
Divorce is not a sin in Islam?
no. It is a disliked permissible action
MASHAALLAH
Their are many American sisters aho look at marriage as dating. It's not just brothers.
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Disrespectful language. Using Methy instead of Methodism
But I don’t want my future husband to have wives other than me! That’s abusive!! ;’(
You also have this right.. u can make this claim on ur marriage contract.
You can't say that sister It's like you're saying that Allah is abusive
May Allah guide me and you to the right path
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Mashallah my brother you are right may Allah bless you my brother man are just married for show off because someone has a second wife me too I want a second wife that what they are doing and if the do marry a woman as second wife they don't even care about it the man doesn't even help with the bill only the wife pay all the bills in the house and is to difficult to give him a repeat like how you just let the woman do all the bills then call me my wife like is Crazy I don't understand why man doesn't want to help
Nowadays thing in marriage are gone backwards..wife nowadays doesn't listen or obey or respect their husbands ..man or husbands are the one who obey ,bow their head to his wife ,became his wife slaves while wife acting or taking over husband duty's plus disrespect their husbands even disrespect their husbands family..that how woman in this era act..n yes it true what u said
You really remind me of Matt Damon :)
Well said, JazakAllahu khairan
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