My wife is traditional because that's what she believes to be the right way. I have had to adjust to this, coming from a reverted culture and a world full of chaos. Alhamdulillah she is the best wife i could ever ask for
I am a female and want to be a traditional wife InshaAllah. The reason is because I am Muslim and I feel that that is a woman’s role in the Islamic household.
I am a female and I am a traditional wife. I wanted to be a traditional wife because I knew I could not bear being at work while someone else takes care of my kids. I knew that I could not bear the pressure and stress of my income being relied on. I knew that my strengths were being a nurturer to my husband (when it was just us) and now to our 2 kids. Doing housework and keeping the home feeling like a home is my job and I love it! I knew that I couldn’t be a non traditional wife for a man so I’m blessed I found a man who is able to take these burdens and stresses from me so I am able to take care of him and my whole family at home.
Female here. I would love to be a traditional wife because that's the perfect family model to thrive and raise children in. But it will only work if the husband is a traditional husband, meaning a leader who is the provider and protecter of the family. If both are working their life can be summarized in one word: Stressful. And I don't want a stressful life
MashAllah! I see so many sisters in the comments who are traditional lol! I wish to be traditional too one day but my temper is really bad and I don't think I can do it but Allahu'Alam.
@@afra4712 Don't make your temper the reason why you can't be a traditional wife. On the contrary, I believe if you're of working you'll be stressed out more and more prone to let your temper out. May Allah make it easy for you
Traditional wife here, gave up the opportunity to work for Google with a six figure income bracket to be a stay at home wife and to homeschool the kids. What’s the point of all the money if the kids are not good Muslims? I would NOT exchange my children’s Islam even for the world and everything in it. Alhamdulillah that Allah SWT woke me up before it was too late. Having children is a responsibility from Allah SWT not an accessory for adulthood. Corporations use your best years for their own benefits and you invest your youth and talent into their company. You on the other hand, come out the other end as a single woman with no investments in your own future. How sad is that? Alone, childless, and single…
Absolutely! Well said. Mashaa Allah That last sentence is gold. may Allah replace any and all things that you’ve left for His sake with something much better 💐
@@231doughboy I did, but decided I want to give my family my all. Maybe sometime down the line I’ll have my own business inshaallah and use my talents for my own benefit instead of working for corporations at the expense of my family.
Male here. Already married to traditional wife and wouldn't replace it for the world. Instead of both of us juggling between home duties and work duties, I do double the 'outside' work and she does double the 'inside' work and we both became experienced in them. Also, we help each other whenever the inside work is too much and vice versa
What’s clear to me is that we are allowing our values to become eroded with time. First it was giving women the right to own property, then it was getting the right to vote, and now, gradually it’s gotten worse and worse. Especially in the last few decades. From talking to you I’ve gathered that you’re anti- feminist. Trust me, if we existed back then during the suffragette movement or even before, you would be totally against women getting the right to vote, like me. Even the notion would be absurd. But now it’s been normalised. You have to draw the line somewhere.
I’m a woman and I long for the lifestyle of the traditional wife. Entering into the workforce and having expectations set on me to live the way the traditional man has lived really feels unnatural to me. To go to work everyday, work along side men, especially as a hijabi in a western country, repulses me. It’s an unfulfilling environment. I’d love to have a way to make a side income and I have ideas for what I would do (primarily work from home, target market is only women), but being expected to be able to work 9-5 with the male boss and coworkers is repulsive and uncomfortable to me.
And I’d like to mention, I converted to Islam and I felt this way naturally before I was even aware of Islam and traditional gender roles. Even non-Muslim women I’ve talked to have a similar feeling naturally.
working from home with women as target audience is a great idea, and women are naturally more creative and can come up with many new ideas. May Allaah aid us and ease our affairs for us.
Find a work that is with women .. this would be the best . Or u could stay at home and learn about many things .. youtube has many courses of everything in life .. and ur husband is obligated to provide for u ,, the problem of muslim men are following the west and making thier wives work to help in income .. this is totally wrong . The woman wife money is for her .. Also if u stay at home you will have money opportunities to visit people and places you would love with ur husband ..
@@studio_anaelle If you're living in the West and want to be a trad wife, I don't think you can sign a secular marriage contract because they split the wealth after divorce and men wouldn't want to risk losing 50% of their wealth. So, you may have to do nikah only (islamic) marriage.
Yes, I want to be a traditional wife. This is obligatory upon Muslimaat. This is something Allah made a right of the husband out of His wisdom, and the benefits are clear.
I am a woman and agree that we should be traditional wives. I was made to work outside my home when my second baby was 6 months old and I hated working and being away from my babies and having weird men flirt with me. I love the rules and protection women have in Islam.
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
-Male -Would definitely want a traditional wife -Even if i had to work 12hrs a day 7days a week if i come home to a woman that was the 'coolness of my eyes' and be 100% there for me (not just to be a slave but a partner, companion, helper etc) with the little time i spend in the house and be serious with giving our children the best tarbiyah( education and manners) that would honestly be an extra driving factor to provide for my family (deen +dunya ofcourse). I say extra driving factor because Allah has already made providing for the family the mans obligation.
I wish I could be a traditional wife. I am a revert, and Allah gave us specific roles that we naturally would go to without outside influence. I wholeheartedly believe that the idea of being free of the role is to break up the family nucleus. When there is no close family ties it’s very easy to stray off and do things we aren’t supposed to do, but when you have a family that nurtures each other, it becomes harder. I am completely against “feminism”, it is hateful and if a feminist has a problem with my choice than she also has a problem with feminism.
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
What’s clear to me is that we are allowing our values to become eroded with time. First it was giving women the right to own property, then it was getting the right to vote, and now, gradually it’s gotten worse and worse. Especially in the last few decades. From talking to you I’ve gathered that you’re anti- feminist. Trust me, if we existed back then during the suffragette movement or even before, you would be totally against women getting the right to vote, like me. Even the notion would be absurd. But now it’s been normalised. You have to draw the line somewhere.
@@askeladd6115 Lmao wow you got some serious issues with women. I suggest you get a psychiatrist to help you work through that. You clearly have had some bad luck and probably don’t have a wife, I apologize on behalf of who ever hurt you. I wish you luck in finding a women who can agree with your ideals. God bless ✌🏻
The "money" side of the equation is a key element in the feminism narrative. For a woman, be able to spend money freely without having to ask for money every time is liberating. So my advice for the men is to give they wife's a certain amount of money on a monthly basis just to give them this freedom without having to work outside the house. Sorry for my bed English.
We are ignoring the benefit of marriage as it’s defined not the people here but the people looking in , after you get passed 15 years of marriage then that’s a marriage and you see money problems begin to come. I see that polygamy is another solution in this issue as Islam whenever there’s an issue the solution is there , also leaving one city for another city or one state for another state as well. We are a product of our environment as well. So move as much as u can when possible . So what’s not in one the other wife will have it. I’m married for 32 years mashallah and it’s a blessing but a test. The one advice I give is move and move
I'm a working woman but still I consider myself to be a traditional wife. I don't disobey or disrespect my husband. Part of the reason I'm doing job is because my husband encouraged me to do. Plus, we don't have children yet.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you both with righteous children. May Allah Al-Ghaniy Al-Mughniy make your husband super wealthy and take care of you all well so you don't have to work anymore.
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
@@askeladd6115 in other words, sit on the couch and watch TV and get fat, that's probably what would happen to Me if I had no kids to look after. At that point I'd personally get a job to keep busy so I don't turn into a greasy couch potato
Female I will hope that I can be a traditional wife. The reason: Because it is in line with what Allah commanded us. And the description you read is so beautiful who wouldn't want to be that way?
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
I think with her description of a traditional wife I would say yes I would like to be one because I know I would be happier and because I am designed by Allah to fulfill this role.
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
I am female, and Alhamdulilah I am a traditional wife. I stay home, homeschool my children, and strive to make our home a peaceful environment 😌. It is a 24-7 job, there is no time off, and you work much more than in a 9-5 job, but it is rewarding, and being there to watch your children grow is priceless. ❤❤
Indeed mashallah U are a powerful muslimah Allah bless your family It’s a sacrifice indeed which most of the west doesn’t appreciate at all But the Muslims do and should especially in America
There’s is so much in common between a trad wife and what Islam promotes for the Muslimaat. I felt like the author was describing the Sahabiyat .. Subhanallah
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
I am a female and would love to be a traditional wife, inshallah. Before my conversion to Islam and shortly after (notably, too, while I still held a lot of feminist views) I "wanted it all" I guess. I wanted the husband, house, kids, job, and no one to tell me what to do. Eventually I got the husband, job, and the "no on telling me what to do", but I quickly realized that this brought on way more responsibility, sadness, and frustration than what I'd signed up for. I found myself in a situation where I was taking on both gender roles and even reprimanded by my ex for wanting to change once I truly began to understand what Allah has ordained as the roles for men and women. (My ex, in retrospect, did not want to take on his responsibilities as a husband in the first place. He would often taunt me by saying "Well, isn't this what you wanted?!" May Allah protect us all from the deviance of western/secular societal norms.) In the end it was not at all what I wanted. These circumstance lasted for about 2 years and ended in divorce and me leaving that previous job, but I felt so much relief and thanked Allah because I finally felt I could move forward with a better, healthier, and more Islamic perspective.
Assalamualaikum brother Saajid! I'm an 18-year-old sister from the UK and I'm glad you made this video. When I was younger I was completely against the idea of being a traditional wife, because as you stated at the beginning some people view it as oppressive and as this woman puts well in the article that she is "under a man's foot." I didn't want that for myself, so I strived to have a career and make that my priority, and a family a second priority. Note at this point in my life I was like 13-16, and not very practicing at all. You could say, I was just Muslim in name and I believed but I didn't practice and implement Islam into my daily as much as I should have. At 17, I became more practicing and began to open my mind to more than just feminism, but see the traditional side of things too, gender roles, I began to look at feminist arguments and more traditional arguments- and I noticed that both had extremes. The feminist side in that we should ignore our biological differences completely and be literal equals, and traditional in the sense that a woman must not speak and she should obey her husband and submit to him regardless of her thoughts and feelings. I think when it comes to Islam, we should reject the extremes of both "sides", and understand that we have biological differences and therefore we need to have different roles in order to complement each other, and that a wife's voice does matter and if she feels a certain way about something she should have every right to voice her opinion and what she says should be respected and taken into consideration also. That being said, so do I want to be traditional wife? Yes and no. Yes in the sense that I want to prioritize my family, and I don't want to define myself by my bank account- and I would much rather show kindness to my husband and make him a coffee, than my employer. But no in the sense that I still want to work. And I will explain why. I come from a lower-class background where now I'm at a certain stage in life where I sort of have to worry about certain things such as going to Hajj in the future and my education- because my parents can't afford those things right now so I can't just have it given to me. And when I get married I know that my husband is obligated to be a provider and all the finances are his responsibility and it's my Islamic right to be provided for. That being said, we don't live in an ideal Islamic world where if my husband gets sick or dies, that the state will provide for me and my children. They won't, so I need to become educated and work as a means of securing my family, if my husband can't provide for us one day for whatever reason. Moreover, I feel like in this day and age everything is so expensive if you want to provide the best opportunities for your children- you need more than one source of income. Perhaps my husband can take care off all the utilities and stuff, and I can use my money to save up for my children's education, contribute towards Hajj etc. so that they won't have to worry about the same things that I am now. It's worth noting that Khadija used her wealth to help the Prophet Muhammad (saw) in his times of need, and I want to be able to do the same for my family. But don't get me wrong, I don't want to dedicate all my time to my career that I neglect my family and cart them off to childminders, and daycare centers, 24/7. My family will be my priority and my career will be come second. But in this day and age, some women won't get careers because they want to "take the role of men" but as a means of security for herself and her family. Moreover, I want a career that will allow me to do good in this world for the sake of Allah, so when Allah asks me on the Day of Judgement how I spent my life- I can say I tried to contribute to this world both by fulfilling my Islamic duties as a wife and mother, and I tried to good for others, through my career too. To conclude, this was a very eye-opening video Saajid I'm glad you shared the article- it did really open my mind! So Jazakallah khairan and may Allah bless and guide you and accept all of your duas. I hope my comment helped you in understanding why some women also want a career and it's not necessarily feminism that pushes them, but security. :)
Well, depends upon the type of career too. If you're choosing career just for the sake of career "high ambitions etc." and the type of work environment is potentially damaging (free-mixing along-with being obliged to support & participate in LGBT events), then you are better off. It is better to trust Allaah that He can take care of your financial affairs (with your husband's help ofc) than adopting this career path where it can very easily and potentially mess up your priorities. But nevertheless, yes we are commanded to fear Allaah as much as we are able to and what our capacity is, and Allaah will not burden us more than what we can bear, so your plan can work for you if you are committed to it.
I am a traditional wife and really happy with my role in my family. I've done two post grad degrees and have worked too. However, despite loving my job, I realised I wasn't able to give my children, husband or my home the time I wanted to give them. After much deliberation, I decided to leave work and become a full time house wife. Alhamdolillah, it's been one of the best decisions of my life. I mended my connection with Allah, first and foremost. I also gave my children quality time and my husband is happier too. I have time for my own hobbies and sister groups too. I'm definitely not a doormat and by no means feel oppressed. In fact, I feel like a queen in my home. I don't earn a penny but I rule the roost. What more could I ask for?
As a woman in her 30's who's been forced to be a careerist (in order to support parents/family), being a housewife has always been the dream. At the same time, I confess I do have rampant anxieties around marriage because I know my personality type is one that's easily abused, and that's not something I will tolerate. Unfortunately, a lot of the brothers who comment about wanting traditional wives fantasize about their level of submission in the face of mild injustice, never about how they would never commit such in the first place. (As an example. I remember someone posted once that he dreams of a wife who, even if he's angry or unjust with her, and he demands a cup of tea, she doesn't say anything and goes and makes it for him. This is so off-putting and bizarre.) My family's from the subcontinent but raised Stateside. A big problem with men from the region is their fixation on food and the wife cooking. The art of zuhd in mealtimes is lost on them and they expect their wives to do what their mothers did, even though they saw that their mothers were being abused in the process. Ultimately, for the right brother, I'd be happy to marry and be a stay at home wife/mom (inshallah) in a heartbeat. The hard part is finding the right man.
I appreciate what you're saying and where you're coming from. I do believe such man are hard to find now. As a man myself, we should also emphasise on raising boys who truly honour and respect woman (this starts at home where father treats wife justly and respectfully because kids learn best by observation). So there'll be more respectable man out there to marry, not just expecting woman to become submissive unconditionally.
I've worked outside the house from the age of 16 till I was married at 24. That experience made me long to be a traditional wife and mother. Alhamdulillah I've been enjoying my traditional role now for almost the same amount of time I spent working and there is no comparison. Ladies liberate yourselves from the male workforce if you can, may Allah bless you all with righteous spouses.
Alhamdulillah My beloved Wife is a well educated traditional wife , She firmly believes that this is the way a muslim wife should be... May ALLAH bless her and grant all muslim men a true muslim traditional wife ...
I am a female, and I am a traditional wife. I strive daily to fulfill that role to the very best of my ability. Alhamdoulilah for the honour of being a traditional wife.
Male, I would want a traditional wife, reason being it’s closer to sharia and what a Muslim family is. That being said I’m very open minded and and able to work with other things that’s not considered traditional, as long as it’s within Allah’s boundaries.
Lol its not about just be a traditional wife it's about communication a woman is a woman. I can communicate fine with my cat 🐈 how hard can it be use your brain 🤔 🧠 😊
I want a traditional wife(ves) because it’s a better option if you want to have an Islamic family. Other minor reasons could be - a traditional wife is more feminine, less stressed, children get more care and valuable time from their mother, possibility of having more children, maintaining hijab is easier last but not the least she sacrifices for family. Who won't want such a wife?
I confirm. But the fact that you marqued "ves" after wi, i presumed that it's not impossible that you will have 2, 3 or 4 wives. And i says you, the choice is yours, but be careful, because having more than one wife required a certain strength physical and mental, may Allah help you akhy and keep you on the sirat al mustaqeem.
@@jundullah9869 Thanks for the advice. Everyone should be careful before marriage wheather its 1st or 4th. I personally don't like how polygamy is treated as a taboo even within Muslims while it’s a halal and beautiful practice. I might never have multiple wifes but there are brothers and sisters in the ummah for whom polygamy is great solution. But they can't because of this taboo mentality which should never be in the first place.
As-salamu alaikum brother. As a very ignorant muslim I'd like to ask why are some muslims really excited about having more kids? When you have more isn't it more of a burden for the couple? E.g if a wife has 16 hours to dedicate in the day to 2 children she can dedicate 8 each. But when it's 4 children the time spent per child is halved to 4 which definitely impacts the quality of their upbringing by a 50% drop. Same for the husband. If he earns say $100 per month he can spend 50 per child for 2 kids and give them better quality food, education, a better house to live etc. But if it's 4 kids then it's $25 per child and the living stds are reduced by 50% again.
I want a traditional housewife. I am a male. The reason is that I can focus on my role as provider and protector. There can not be two captains in a ship. The house is her natural habitat for a woman.
When I was 19 the idea of being a traditional wife was very distressing. Now I’m 29 and I would love to be a traditional wife. I really liked the quote from the article where the author says the future is family.
I just have one question about being a traditional wife. What would happen to her if she ever gets divorced with no job nor saved up money nor a living place of her own. It is not easy to get a job in your forties or fifties. I’m asking this because a lot of women choose to work- despite the heavy burden of both being a housewife and a career woman- to feel financially secure. This idea haunts many women. Could you kindly make a video addressing this issue please.
Funny, hahahaha men hate women who are divorced and have children, women are forced to be remarried again because a divorced woman cannot live alone. And most of them don't get a job. Who the hell hires one who wears the hijap, nobody does it. Nobody. She doesn't get any help either from Muslim people, women who are divorced have bad reputations, nobody cares about you or your children, not the city or Muslim people. .... has no degree, no experience in non-Muslims, most of them also have no family, who simply suffer, become homeless, depressed, do jobs that no one would do. Do you not see enough women who are abused in Muslim countries who cannot divorce because they have no job. There is no way to get one at all, the parents did not support their daughters either. And in a non-Muslim country where you have the opportunity, you are soo lazy, invent your excuses ... Put the women down. Money is important, so that you enlighten your life or the life of your children, why are you here at all ... I don't understand, you can stay perfectly in your Muslim countries ..
Female. 55 years. Married. 2 adult sons. I have been working since I left University. As I am the elder child in my family, I want to relieve my parents from working as soon as possible and provide something for them even after I have my own family. I also want to help my husband financially and give the family the economy stability. My parents help take care of my children till around 12 years as they go to school near their home. There are a few times in my life I agonise not being at home, monitoring my children well being and getting to know them. There were occasions I think I did not make the right decisions to work. I would encourage young couple if the wife decides to be stay at home mom. Both need to act as one, letting go of their ego and worldliness, truly a happy family is where every member is an obedient slave to Allah and Allah alone.
@@purplelove3666 the children spend more time with their mothers than with their fathers, because the father will be at the workplace. So, the mum has more influence on the children than the dad.
I am a female and i want to be a traditional muslim wife, because i hate how the non-muslim society wants be to be. I am naturally quite feminine and hate working outside my home
I was raised by a super feminist type mom who hated housewives openly. Now I am a traditional wife, if u want to call it that. However when the kids go to school full time, I think I might do something bc when my brain is bored I get very depressed. I don’t know what I will do when they are at school during daytime. Funny enough, my brother also wants a housewife when he gets married one day. Being raised by babysitters was a HORRIBLE and sad and stressful childhood for us. However if you need a topic to discuss, you should discuss how difficult it is for Muslim wives in America where communities are spread apart etc and there is no social support at all (my mother literally thinks I’m less than dirt bc I’m a sahm and may write me out of the will)
One aspect I think people don't talk about - and that is, how feasible is it to be a "traditional wife" in today's society? Many cities are very expensive, and a man (in some places) would have to make over six figures in order to provide for his wife and kids and live comfortably. I would prefer a "traditional wife" but I also want to be financially stable and comfortable, and I feel like this is easier with two incomes.
@T A Everyone’s situation is different. If you can still be financially comfortable with only your husband working, I think that’s a big blessing Alhamdulilah. I just think the decision is harder if the husbands income isn’t enough. But you are right about the point about living above your means. With regards to your second shift of being a wife, mom, chef etc then I think that’s where some are choosing culture over deen. Why can’t the husband and wife split some of the chores at home if the wife is also working? I get women typically have more practice cooking, but things like cleaning and other chores can equally be done by both
@T A a simple 3 vedroom house is expensive in my city. When you have kids, they need their own rooms eventually. Y'all can't just cram into a 1 bedroom apartment, I mean, you could, but you and your kids will suffer. Most women want a decent 3 or 4 bedroom home if they have lots of kids so there's enough room for all the kids. You need to think realistically if you want lots of children
I'm a female and I'm fine being a traditional wife to the best of my ability. Though I'm also fine with being otherwise. Whatever my husband desires as he is the head of the household. I don't agree with feminism. I do have more traditional values now that I've been exposed to the Truth. I do really like the idea of being a traditional wife. I think it would suit me quite well as I am kind of one now. I do head my household. I don't earn money. I handle the savings. I take care of the neighbours when I can. In sha Allah I protect my family from harm and try to steer them from haram. As a revert, (ma sha Allah), I'm trying to set an example to my family, in the hopes that Allah wills their guidance. I cook and clean. I dote upon my only child. I handle all the financial matters and make sure that the fridge stays full. I embrace my femininity, always wear dresses, staying fully covered (except I remove my actual hijab). And if my 2 family members also reverted, for now id have to lead the daily prayers. But, I'm hoping to find a husband to do that for me. (In sha Allah) SubhanAllah I am tolerant of all people but, I do stand up for what's right and reject openly what is wrong. In an effort to instill in my family the Islamic values as I learn them. In sha Allah .
@@hasansaleem4983 Only when I'm home with my female roommate and son. I still stay covered all the time, long sleeves, long pants, loose dress over top. I don't show anything at home. That way no matter what I'm doing I'm being as modest as I can. I also feel like it's a way for Allah to see that I'm always worshipping. Any time I mention Him, or make a reference to Him, like saying "SubhanAllah," or "Alhamdulillah," etc.. I'm always in a modest dress. But, why wear my hijab in my house?
Iam a female, yes of course, I want to be a traditional wife, because I want to be the stewardship of the family home, which covers several different responsibilities.
I would describe myself as a traditional wife even though I work part-time in my professional field. My mum is a traditional stay-at-home mum and I grew up admiring everything she did both as a mother and as a wife. Even though I contribute to finances, I still love to take on the traditional house wife role. My husband is very respectful, hard working and strives to give me the best life so serving him is my absolute pleasure. Besides, doing so also pleases Allah swt
I'm a tradition wife, im loving and caring. I love my home and everyone in it. Nothing pleases me more than to prepare meals for my husband. I love to have a clean house because being clean is part of the deen. Being a traditional muslim wife makes me feel alive and real. I'm not here to argue to be something I'm not. I leave my worries if I have any to Allah to look after me in them.
Female, I want to be a traditional wife because I am attracted to a traditional man and I would want to raise my children and keep a peaceful loving home. I come from a traditional family where my father is the breadwinner and the guardian of the family and my mother is the supporter of my father and nurturer of me and my siblings. It is normal to see this dynamic working because my parents are in their natural state and InshaAllah my father will look for a suitable prospect for me that is similar to him.
I pray to be a traditional husband to a traditional wife. Maybe do Info-Tech, work from home so I can pray in masjid and even help from home. I love a womwn who loves her familyt as an act of worship and acts as a eam, she could also work from home and I can go outside as well.
Male here. I believe both men and women should be traditional but at the same time educated. If the husband passes away the wife will need to learn how to deal with other aspects of life. Reciprocation is very important in a relationship just the way it is with your parents, siblings friends and etc. AS LONG AS YOU DO YOUR OBLIGATIONS OUT OF LOVE THEN YOU WILL SEE YOUR LIFE BEING MORE FRUITFUL!
I’m probably late for this but I recently discovered your channel may Allah bless you, I’m a female and a student at medical university, I have 3 more years to graduate if God wills, but I really struggle with this matter cuz I don’t even like being a doctor, I wanna be home I wanna learn things from home, i wanna work on my deen and get as much knowledge as possible on Islam, currently I’m taking a year off cuz I couldn’t continue it really affected my mental health and I got diagnosed with GAD and depression, I don’t even wanna go back to that place, but everyone around me is forcing me and telling me that I am crazy for wanting to quit such high level university, but I just can’t with it, everyday at my 3rd stage felt like dying i got panic attacks during lectures so many times that i had to leave the lecture and rush to the toilet and crying alone, I had no such friends who could understand me, my grades started falling, I would skip classes so often that people always asked about me, I don’t know what to do brother, my parents have such a high hope for me I told them that I didn’t wanna go and continue they let me take a year off only and go back after that, 3 months left to start again and I’m terrified it costs me my mental health, I don’t even know anymore
Allah ist der Größte. Liebe Schwester bette mit offenem Herz zu Allah das er dir hilft in deiner schweren Lage, Allah bürdet dir nix auf was du nicht überwältigen kannst. Ich wurde mehrfach nicht in eine Arbeitsstelle angenommen, nur weil ich Muslim bin. Aber das waren nur Test von Allah. Jedes Mal wenn ich Seines Willen meinen Chef wieder setzt habe bekam ich eine Bessere Stelle. Ich bin jetzt richtig glücklich das ich mich dazu entschieden habe. Meine liebe Schwester bette Allah dir eine Tür zu öffnen
Male here. I just want a woman who follows the deen from A to Z upon the manhaj of assalaf assalih, and the rest will follow with the help of Allah. "الـمـرأة الـصـالـحـة إذا سَكَنتِ البيتَ سَكَنَ البَيتُ" 📚الشيخ سليمان الرحيلي أسباب نجاح الأسرة
My heart is saying to me that I should become a „traditional wife“ but on the other side it says that my family would be disappointed. My female cousins are all in their „business-mode“ and when I come and say that I don’t want to work they would all freak out. I‘m still thinking of that please give me advices and make Du‘a for me. Barakallahu feekum and salam from Germany.
Female. I'm a little bit of both, but being a traditional wife is most important to me. The other side of me is pursuing medicine solely for the sake of my Muslim sisters who want female physicians taking care of them. But I don't want medicine to take away from my life at home. Inshallah when I snatch that degree I'll be a part-time practitioner and an asset to my community
Male, traditional wife. Who else will raise the next generation of Muslims if not for the mother and father? If they're both working, the kids will be delegated to either the government school, or some stranger babysitter.
May Allah grant all of us traditional spouses and children who will be the coolness of our eyes and who will be best for our aakhirah and dunyaa. (Don't like my comment, but rather reply aameen please)
I want to be a traditional wife cause of many reasons 1. I don't want to worry about work and potentially being hate crimed on my way to my car. 2. I want to be able to be in my children's lives a ton more than my mother has been. 3. I don't like working I don't want to go through unnecessary extra schooling I'd rather stay home take care of the kids, teach them the stuff that school doesn't (if I don't already have them home schooled) and 4. I don't wanna go out when I'm on my cycle ☹️
I’m a man and I would like a traditional wife as I believe Allah has given us the best way to live our lives and that was a great quote in the video that a woman should be under the wing of her husband by his side and not under his feet
A traditional wife isn't slavery Its family values. even without the Bible or Quran its just common logical sense, Husband and woman have diff roles in life, lets just use common sense,
I want a traditional wife. Because I want peace, I want to be treated with respect, I want a spouse willing to put the family first. Yet I have come to the stark realization that she is a rare breed today, especially in modern society. I have been "red pilled", it's better to stay unmarried than to be manipulated and used as a tool and nothing more. Allah is sufficient for us.
Female here, i would want to be a traditional wife because I would rather be soul bound to my husband and spend my life raising my children in the best way I can so one day I can be proud of them. I take pride in my femininity and I wouldn’t trade it for the world, I choose to behave and be a strong woman than turn myself into a man in order to gain power. No woman is more dearer to Allah than the best of mothers
@@lisamaryam6176 you are allowed to do that too ☺️ just so you know, Muslim women are allowed to work (prophet Muhammad’s wife, Khadija, was a business woman and she was also very wealthy) the only time where work for a woman may not be recommended is if she starts neglecting her family in the process
@@luthientinuviel7058 Khadija inherited the wealth. She did not start from the bottom, and also she didn't work. What if I work the whole day and then I'm physically and mentally tired so I'm only able to give a little bit of energy to serve my husband and my kids? It's ok, right?
@@lisamaryam6176 that’s usually where the problem starts, to be honest I’m not sure about that one so I cannot give you a definite answer. In Islam, the money that a woman makes is for her only, so she doesn’t have to spend it one anyone but herself because women often make less money than men. So even if she got a part time job, her penny she makes is hers and the man has no right over her money. But whatever money a man makes, he is obligated to distribute it among his family and spend it on them. This is usually the reason why it’s compulsory for the men to work but it’s optional for the females. Hence your question, once again I’m not sure, you might want to ask a scholar if you know one
@@luthientinuviel7058 If I'm allowed to work and I'm excused from serving my husband because I'm tired from work, omg that's great! I can work on getting money for myself and I don't have to worry about giving time to my husband since I'm excused for being physically exhausted from work. You can't force a woman to serve her husband if she's tired, right?
To be honest I really don’t even know much about this whole “traditional” wife thing. I just want a wife who is pious, cares for me, is always there for me in times of need and an amazing parent to my kids. Call that traditional or whatever term u wanna use idc, to me that’s a perfect wife
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
Please note: I’m speaking purely off of my opinion and experiences and nothing more and do not have any intent to blame men or Saajid (I’m a subscriber lol) nor victimize myself within what I wrote, nor have the intent to quarrel with anyone, this is again just my opinion. I am a female and I feel like the role of a wife is defined by and between the husband and wife within sharia law. I would want to be a traditional wife for a good Muslim man that I can trust but after my first marriage failed because I married someone that I thought I could trust and expected me to be “traditional” while he went in and out as he pleased and always cared more about his rights rather than his responsibilities and could not be trusted after sometime. I will not pretend that there is also a big problem amongst men who don’t fulfill their responsibilities as husbands the play an important part to women wanting/not wanting to be traditional wives. So while you ask about that topic please follow up with a video about the traditional husband because I don’t like that there is no acknowledgement of the narrative that male ego and toxicity contributes to the issue of feminism. Which is why I’m glad Allah did not make marriage compulsory, because I don’t feel that there are enough trustworthy good Muslim men that will do what they need to do to be respected the way they deserve which is something that should be taught. This is just hypothetical, but to me you get what you put out. If you acted oppressive towards your wife (which does happen more often than not) why do you think you will get respect in return (because some woman will fight back). I am not speaking about how things should be nor am I defending feminism because I believe it is definitely poisoning the women in this ummah today, but this topic seems to solely focus on a specific circumstance that implies that the husband is doing everything right and the wife’s behavior is always picked apart and criticized as if she is always in the wrong (and should be but to an extent, but please correct me if I am wrong). While I agree it should be addressed, I question this topic a little bit because this cannot be applied to everyone’s circumstances or experiences. For example, I was expected to work and develop my career in my last marriage, but also to have qualities of a traditional wife and then deal with my ex husband’s dishonesty and pain that he caused me in silence (which I will not go into detail about but let’s just say I didn’t have the skills to handle it well and therefore it did not end well because I have no tolerance for dishonesty) which was impossible to deal with all at once. If I was treated differently, with love and respect from my husband at the time I would probably still be married and would have been one of the first to thumbs up’d this video. I don’t feel enough conversation around men being taught how to be good husbands to bring hope to women like me who wants a trusting, loving and faithful Muslim man is being had because the men of this ummah would take one good look at my situation and say Oh! You should be a co-wife, (and that is nothing against polygamy as it is the sunnah, I just know it wouldn’t work out if I’m going to be myself), so I’d rather be alone. Slightly off topic: But if I get a good spouse in Jannah I will continue to keep to myself and aim for Jannah because I know at least a good relationship with a spouse is guaranteed there with no pain and suffering (which will happen in a marriage but it shouldn’t last throughout the whole marriage if both people have the intent to make it a good relationship and remember Allah SWT). I don’t want to discourage anyone from marriage or think I’m defending feminism or that I am anti men because I am not I pray for the very best for our Muslim men in this Ummah but I just believe that there’s more to it than that because not every woman being themselves will achieve that level of “traditional wife” as described in the video, not when you have so many different personalities, expectations and circumstances involved. And I don’t feel men get that same label “traditional husband” (correct me if I am wrong, please) I feel like it is always implied that men are doing the right thing. and I don’t feel that is entirely true, and sometimes I feel like problems amongst Muslim male behavior gets brushed under the rug. I feel we should all strive to be good individuals and trustworthy first before striving to be a good spouse. Because you can’t be a horrible man or woman outside of your marriage but then be a good wife/husband inside of it, those bad characteristic traits will carried over, and can be displayed by men and women. I am a bit discouraged from getting married and will continue to work hard for my deen and those I love around me to keep my peace which is very important to me. While I know the intent behind this very important topic is good, I feel like it is multi layered and that one aspect (as explained in this video) cannot be discussed without the other. If I said anything to offend anyone I apologize in advance, again it is not my intent. Thank you Saajid for opening up this discussion, May Allah bless you. Allah knows best. Jhazakallahu Khairyn
May Allah give you paradise but I hope you find a good spouse in this Dunya sister. “Our Lord, grant us delight in our spouses and our children, and make us a good example for the righteous.”
Salam meine liebe Schwester. Ich bedanke mich für deinen Lehrreichen Kommentar und wünsche dir Inschallah die 8 Tore des Paradies. Ich persönlich bin auch auf der Suche nach einer Frau, habe aber Angst das ich eine hinterhältige Frau heirate und bin deswegen sehr vorsichtig. Deswegen glaube ich das ich einiger maßen verstehe weshalb du deinen Kommentar geschrieben hast. Inschallah du findest dein Glück im diesseits und im Jenseits.
Assalamualaikum, I'm a female. Although I really respect the roles of a traditional wife, I don't think it'd work for me because I have a great passion for medicine and would like to be a surgeon when I'm older. However, I also want to take good care of my children, be obedient to my husband, and overall just be as good as a wife as I can be when I'm at home. I also think having the skills for a job for times of necessity would be helpful.
It's impossible to be a surgeon and take good care of children well, especially if you have multiple ones. A surgeon has to do sometimes 12hrs+ operations and is extremely hard to balance work-life because lives literally depend on you and you could be called at any time for an emergency. There will have to be a part-time mother substitute for the kids when you inevitably aren't there. Often parents will neglect being present in their children's childhood years (physically and emotionally), always focused on careers etc, and then when they become teenagers they surprisingly say "where did I go wrong" once they see their children not turn out how they expected. It's because you don't notice the issues your child face and they will learn from someone else if you're not there, especially in this generation when there are so, so many fitnahs around and being promoted to children. But at the end of the day it's your choice to make and you have to prioritise what you feel is most important to you and may Allah aid you to what is best for you.
Walykum Salam. I hope you are well. Its really good that you would like to become a surgeon and I ask that Allah will make it easy for you to attain that goal. We need more female surgeons to operate on muslim women so that their awrah is not exposed in front of non mahram men. Go ahead and become a surgeon. You will benefit with the persimmon of Allah many muslim women. Asalamu Alykum
Feminism is brainwashing you to believe that you can have everything. Trust me, no one likes having a career. No one. I don't understand why you would want to purposely sign up for a miserable life.
@@moombapoomba6036 Ok. If a female surgeon is something wrong then let's have male doctors operate on the women of your family. Don't be stupid. Female doctors and teachers are a need of the ummah
I’m a female, and I believe being a traditional wife is something that benefits a woman a lot, especially when she has some help , such as daycare or school or relatives (for help with little kids). I tried both, a career and a life of a traditional wife, both have pros and cons , I personally think it is better for a woman and society when moms take care of their kids and when women don’t have to stress out about schedules, deadlines and relations at work place. Right now I’m actually a working mom of 3, and it’s not easy, but when kids are older, I think it’s fine for a woman to be involved in some activities (career) that she like, and if she can make good money, it’s even better.
May Allah bless all of the traditional wives. May Allah continue to bless your family. May He grant you righteous children. I’m a blessed and proud traditional wife because I believe that its my job to make my husband happy at home. Give him a peaceful environment especially what he does for our family.
Female. I do want to be a traditional wife. In Shaa Allah. But I feel like there is a lot of stigma I'll have to overcome for that, at least in my family. If I dare say this in my circle of friends I'll be ostracized. Even if I say this to my sister. She said if I marry a guy and become a 'traditional kind of wife' she'll stop talking to me. I don't identify as a feminist and am already labelled an 'extremist', 'conservative' and 'maulvi' by my friends (only because I don't do freemixing).
I am a female and I want to be a traditional wife as well in sha Allah as it is a form of charity and helping out the family will earn the pleasure of Allah
Being submissive to your husband is a beautiful thing. She has honour respect and comfort and thats important to a womans "wellbeing ". A womans well being is important for herself and her family and friends. When she is comfortable she is able to look after others. A woman who puts her career above everything else will not have the time nor energy to nurture others and this goes against her nature leaving her and the people who depend on her unfulfilled in some shape or form.
I mean... I'd love a traditional wife. But in my generation (z) it just seems impossible to find a feminine woman. It's a vast sea a theys and thems, diet women, and complete trainwrecks
Male, want a traditional woman. She knows her priorities as a woman, a wife an a future mother for the generation to come. A non traditional woman in most cases think they are clever an modern when their behaviour an mindset is very unstable. Its like the wind 🍃 whatever the modern women say, they go. Left or right. Specially when they say, career minded. How about being akhira minded.
Mashallah excellent talk and good comments. Let’s not forget that women doctors, nurses and teachers are needed in society. If a husband permits his wife to pursue these career options (assuming no children) then no one else has the right to condemn her as these professions do benefit society.
We must not neglect the need for legal reform in the west, laws which protect the traditional husband and wife, and which deter and penalize immorality that undermines the traditional family. Those who work in the dark to destroy the morality of society need to be caught out and prevented from working their mischief.
I’m a female. I love the traditional wife definition given by Islam. The problem I see often is that people redefine and twist what being a traditional wife means. I see it from many women and men alike. I think a woman who wants to be a traditional wife needs to be very careful, now more than ever, when picking a husband. There are men who believe a “traditional” wife means a slave, those men are adding fuel to the fire for those who are anti-family.
Totally agree. Those men are usually so embedded into their toxic culture of making women second-class citizens. This culture usually exists in Asian countries. That's why women have to vet men in order to determine if they are culture-oriented or Islam-oriented men.
Woman speaking. It’s not about which lifestyle is better, it’s about choice. As this said, here is my answer to your question : I do not see myself as a « trad wife » nor as a « modern wife ». I’m a political journalist/writer student and I think that as much as family and children education is important it is also important for the women to be socially involved because just as a man she has a brain and she thrives to learn, to debate, to fight for Muslims rights, especially women who are forced to take off their hijab. Mothers and Fathers have a huge responsibility toward their children, and their is no way they should be neglected. For myself I know I will be a house wife (and my husband and I will be helping each other for every task there is to be done, mariage is partnering up and team building not one spouse being the other’s servant) for the 6 first years of my child because those are the years of character and personality building then they’ll go to private school and I’ll be working for a better world for them. I don’t like the idea of someone else raising my kid. But I also don’t like the idea of restraining myself from making and leaving the world a tinier better than how I found it.
Both are respectable and should be respected.My wife is traditional wife and i am proud of her in every aspect of life.Equally would been my stance if my wife be a career opting one.In my opinion a wife deserves to be cared and husband should create such a ground that she could happily with all morale and chastity within their resources lead a happy life and prepares herself for the life hereafter too.
I am a woman and I would love nothing more in this life to be a traditional wife. To be protected and provided for by my husband and to love and nuture my husband and children and to be obedient to my Qawaam. These are my strongest qualities and the essence of life other than worship that makes me the happiest.
With God as my witness, it truly baffles me that I often bump into gems like you online but they're nowhere to be found in real life. May I know where the creatures of your species congregate at in real life?
Im a female, really enjoyed the video. I want to be a traditional wife, bit that Is often looked down upon by people my age, family etc. By the same people who preach freedom and liberty lol. But I would love to nurture and raise my children on the deen, homeschool them an protect them from the harms of this world. I want to fulfill my rights to my husband and children to ensure I am fulfilling the rights of Allah. And I can also do what I wnat on the side, read and educate myself. And since Allah and his rasool ﷺ told woman to do this, It is best for women, and so I encourage everyone to hear and obey.
Female and a traditional wife alhamdulillah, simply because it goes with my fitra, it is much more easier to play this role, and the most important is that it satisfies or pleases my lord,Allah
I’m a woman I would love to be a traditional wife because I love to take care of the home husband and my children and i believe that women are much happier doing that btw I’m from q feminist country and I believe the agenda is ruining families
@@lisamaryam6176 because material things will not bring you happiness you get happy for the first day or few than your bored and want more and most business women realise they are not happy and want children way too late
@@lisamaryam6176 Really, not everyone can marry a man who earns normally, unfortunately some men cannot fulfill their duties, have seen enough in my home country, a Muslim country, women should just be grateful because they get food. If you are abused, say you cannot divorce, have no job, if his parents hate you, you will seldom see your marriage happy, if he is not religious, does not pray, but you do not live with him, you cannot divorce. If you marry a man who fears Allah, then you are not afraid of your future, but if you marry the opposite, you can never divorce because you have no one, no job, no money.
A traditional wife yes but I wouldn't mind her working a job that is suitable for her Islamically (by which I mean she can prioritize the family and quit whenever necessary) and that is if she likes to work not that I will ask her to do so. + the job has to be free from being alone with the opposite gender ofc.
@@ln3165 In Islam marriage, the husband DON’T HAVE the right to take their own’s wife money that she worked because all of that belong only to her and it’s up to her to spend it, that’s what i have heard from what Islam gave women’s in terms of marriage, correct me if I’m wrong!
I'm female. And I'm not a "traditional" wife nor a "modern" wife . I am a mixture of bit. I'm willing to marry a man who is who is respectful of me. But I don't think I need to leave my job and dreams to compensate with this ideology. I believe women can work, have children a husband and pursue their dreams with this.
@TheReal Deal I agree ! But I also believe women CAN work. Women also NEED to work in this day and age. Ain't nobody so considerate and thoughtful of you these days anymore. The traditional wife and man role works ONLY if the man also is willing to do his utter best for the wife : go out , take her out , fullfil her needs, work , take the children and her out , earn enough to furnish them well etc. And many men these days don't live up to these standards tbh. And nowhere it says that women can't work. Contray Allah says women CAN work. But their money earned from them is theirs. And whatever they bring forth is also theirs. Khadijah RA was a business woman , she worked and supported her husband and family. There's nothing wrong with work to work as long as they can follow the islamic guidelines. Women aren't dolls, we have dreams and ambitions too. It's not like my only wish is to get married and have kids and sir at home. There's nothing worng with that, but I want to do more for my dunya and my akhira and find a way to serve my deen
Female, not married. I have been working since my mother died to take care of my siblings. I love my job, I am a midwife and my job is to help mothers and babies during birth. To be a traditional wife would be the most natural and easiest thing to do in my opinion. But right now I really don´t know what I would do. I have plans of going back to my poor country, and being a midwife who understands anatomy and birth giving, especially in rural areas is a necessity. But then would that take all my time? Would my family life become more difficult? Will my children be alone all the time? . I really don´t know..... I don´t agree with feminism, if they were really about women´s right and what is beneficial to women, they would start by taking down the ads for yoghurt, ice cream, cars, houses, supermarket, etc. which has women without clothes. As if those buying the aforementioned things would also be buying the woman in the picture. Yack.
I am male. I agree with tradition wife. Why? So from observing close relatives and friends. I saw that the males that were working and they had a traditional wife had happier lives, healthier children and the women never felt the need to express her worth in the job she does or the amount she earns. The mothers main concern was their children. On the other hand the families that the women worked, they made way more money than the traditional wife families but I always see that they have some or the other conflict or unnecessary drama in their homes, their children are less healthy (mainly mentally) and those women always express their value in terms of their work or income and how they are better than the traditional wives. Don’t wana explain more but it is what it is.
Im a man and i want and alhamdulillah has a traditional women. The reason is families are extremely important in a community. Houses create village, villages create town, towns create state and states create a country. If the houses crumble the whole country will crumble. Although man are born leader yet women in their house are those who create great man. "Houses who do not took refuge in Allah are like the house of spider" Fact - 1. female spider is dominant in spider house 2. Female spider eat male spider after having intimate relationship 3. Spider house is not meant to protect the spider but to trap other insects
Male Traditional Wives in every community/area should establish businesses which are Islamic and have a free hand so there won't be the domination of Male leading to same divorces like in other parts of world or oppression Hope some sisters follow my idea 💡
im a female and like being a traditional wife. because im muslim alhamdulillaah.. and thats what islam teaches us. and i love Allaah and islam and prophet muhammad sallallaahu alaihi wasallam.
BUT DOESN'T THE SHARIA LAW ENCOURAGE WOMEN TO DO CERTAIN JOBS LIKE BECOMING A GYNAECOLOGIST OR ANY KIND OF DOCTOR TO HELP PROTECT OTHER WOMEN'S CHASTITY?
My wife is traditional because that's what she believes to be the right way. I have had to adjust to this, coming from a reverted culture and a world full of chaos. Alhamdulillah she is the best wife i could ever ask for
Aww may Allah protect you two for each other!
MashaAllah
MashaAllah
may Allah keep you all sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous children.
MashaAllah!
I am a female and want to be a traditional wife InshaAllah. The reason is because I am Muslim and I feel that that is a woman’s role in the Islamic household.
Masha allah.... May Allah give barakah in your household
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband and children.
I can definitely agree to that.
Asalamu Alaikum
Sister I want to marry you. Give me the number of your father pleas. I really need a wife ASAP.
@@ilyassmoehandis3172 Well that escalated quickly...
I am a female and I am a traditional wife. I wanted to be a traditional wife because I knew I could not bear being at work while someone else takes care of my kids. I knew that I could not bear the pressure and stress of my income being relied on. I knew that my strengths were being a nurturer to my husband (when it was just us) and now to our 2 kids. Doing housework and keeping the home feeling like a home is my job and I love it! I knew that I couldn’t be a non traditional wife for a man so I’m blessed I found a man who is able to take these burdens and stresses from me so I am able to take care of him and my whole family at home.
mashaAllah. I hope I will find a sister that is happy with that aswell.
Ma'Sha'Allah. Sister may Allah bless you and reward you for making such a great choice.
Masha’Allah, I ❤️ my traditional wife so much that I’m thinking about getting another one !!
@@Rhymezny 😂😂
@@marcelolb1221 you will find her inshallah, there are many sisters who think like that, but you need to be patient
Female here. I would love to be a traditional wife because that's the perfect family model to thrive and raise children in. But it will only work if the husband is a traditional husband, meaning a leader who is the provider and protecter of the family. If both are working their life can be summarized in one word: Stressful. And I don't want a stressful life
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband and children.
MashAllah! I see so many sisters in the comments who are traditional lol!
I wish to be traditional too one day but my temper is really bad and I don't think I can do it but Allahu'Alam.
@@ibnamanot Ameen, May Allah give you what you're asking for
@@afra4712 Don't make your temper the reason why you can't be a traditional wife. On the contrary, I believe if you're of working you'll be stressed out more and more prone to let your temper out. May Allah make it easy for you
@@mxxz3900 May Allah make it easy for you too Ameen and JazakAllah Khairun for the advice.
Traditional wife here, gave up the opportunity to work for Google with a six figure income bracket to be a stay at home wife and to homeschool the kids. What’s the point of all the money if the kids are not good Muslims? I would NOT exchange my children’s Islam even for the world and everything in it. Alhamdulillah that Allah SWT woke me up before it was too late. Having children is a responsibility from Allah SWT not an accessory for adulthood.
Corporations use your best years for their own benefits and you invest your youth and talent into their company. You on the other hand, come out the other end as a single woman with no investments in your own future. How sad is that? Alone, childless, and single…
Absolutely! Well said. Mashaa Allah That last sentence is gold.
may Allah replace any and all things that you’ve left for His sake with something much better 💐
@@ياسمينبنتعبدالله-ك7ص Ameen 🥰
So were you working before you had kids? And did you consider something like part time?
@@231doughboy I did, but decided I want to give my family my all. Maybe sometime down the line I’ll have my own business inshaallah and use my talents for my own benefit instead of working for corporations at the expense of my family.
May Allah bless you sister and keep us all steadfast and sincere
Male here. Already married to traditional wife and wouldn't replace it for the world.
Instead of both of us juggling between home duties and work duties, I do double the 'outside' work and she does double the 'inside' work and we both became experienced in them. Also, we help each other whenever the inside work is too much and vice versa
may Allah keep you all sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous children.
@@ibnamanot ameen
Ameen
What’s clear to me is that we are allowing our values to become eroded with time. First it was giving women the right to own property, then it was getting the right to vote, and now, gradually it’s gotten worse and worse. Especially in the last few decades.
From talking to you I’ve gathered that you’re anti- feminist. Trust me, if we existed back then during the suffragette movement or even before, you would be totally against women getting the right to vote, like me. Even the notion would be absurd.
But now it’s been normalised. You have to draw the line somewhere.
@ابو أسلم البربري I didn’t say anything about inheritance though.
I’m a woman and I long for the lifestyle of the traditional wife. Entering into the workforce and having expectations set on me to live the way the traditional man has lived really feels unnatural to me. To go to work everyday, work along side men, especially as a hijabi in a western country, repulses me. It’s an unfulfilling environment. I’d love to have a way to make a side income and I have ideas for what I would do (primarily work from home, target market is only women), but being expected to be able to work 9-5 with the male boss and coworkers is repulsive and uncomfortable to me.
And I’d like to mention, I converted to Islam and I felt this way naturally before I was even aware of Islam and traditional gender roles. Even non-Muslim women I’ve talked to have a similar feeling naturally.
working from home with women as target audience is a great idea, and women are naturally more creative and can come up with many new ideas. May Allaah aid us and ease our affairs for us.
Find a work that is with women .. this would be the best .
Or u could stay at home and learn about many things .. youtube has many courses of everything in life .. and ur husband is obligated to provide for u ,, the problem of muslim men are following the west and making thier wives work to help in income .. this is totally wrong . The woman wife money is for her ..
Also if u stay at home you will have money opportunities to visit people and places you would love with ur husband ..
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband, who wont want and need you to work, and righteous children.
@@studio_anaelle If you're living in the West and want to be a trad wife, I don't think you can sign a secular marriage contract because they split the wealth after divorce and men wouldn't want to risk losing 50% of their wealth.
So, you may have to do nikah only (islamic) marriage.
Yes, I want to be a traditional wife. This is obligatory upon Muslimaat. This is something Allah made a right of the husband out of His wisdom, and the benefits are clear.
True
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband and children.
SubhanAllah. You do speak truth.
Preach sister!
And what are your right as a wife?
I am a woman and agree that we should be traditional wives. I was made to work outside my home when my second baby was 6 months old and I hated working and being away from my babies and having weird men flirt with me. I love the rules and protection women have in Islam.
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
-Male
-Would definitely want a traditional wife
-Even if i had to work 12hrs a day 7days a week if i come home to a woman that was the 'coolness of my eyes' and be 100% there for me (not just to be a slave but a partner, companion, helper etc) with the little time i spend in the house and be serious with giving our children the best tarbiyah( education and manners) that would honestly be an extra driving factor to provide for my family (deen +dunya ofcourse). I say extra driving factor because Allah has already made providing for the family the mans obligation.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous wife and children.
@@ibnamanot آمين، وإياك
@@ibnamanot found you again on RUclips lol
@@2eioia my arabic isn't that good ان شاء الله soon ill come back and reply to that
I wish I could be a traditional wife. I am a revert, and Allah gave us specific roles that we naturally would go to without outside influence. I wholeheartedly believe that the idea of being free of the role is to break up the family nucleus. When there is no close family ties it’s very easy to stray off and do things we aren’t supposed to do, but when you have a family that nurtures each other, it becomes harder. I am completely against “feminism”, it is hateful and if a feminist has a problem with my choice than she also has a problem with feminism.
Sis nunnya, reverts understand this better than us born and raised American Muslims , in most cases
Allahuakbar
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
What’s clear to me is that we are allowing our values to become eroded with time. First it was giving women the right to own property, then it was getting the right to vote, and now, gradually it’s gotten worse and worse. Especially in the last few decades.
From talking to you I’ve gathered that you’re anti- feminist. Trust me, if we existed back then during the suffragette movement or even before, you would be totally against women getting the right to vote, like me. Even the notion would be absurd.
But now it’s been normalised. You have to draw the line somewhere.
Nunnya Byzz then you should be happy to let your husband cream 🥧 you whenever he wants. Do you want a medal
@@askeladd6115 Lmao wow you got some serious issues with women. I suggest you get a psychiatrist to help you work through that. You clearly have had some bad luck and probably don’t have a wife, I apologize on behalf of who ever hurt you. I wish you luck in finding a women who can agree with your ideals. God bless ✌🏻
I am a female and would love to be a traditional wife because I want to see my husband and children eat my cooked meals wholeheartedly!
A lot of woman hate those roles, Feminism is a disease.A woman like you`re self is rare to come by,And hard to find.
Now that's wholesome
@@Emeth-777 not rare at all.
The "money" side of the equation is a key element in the feminism narrative.
For a woman, be able to spend money freely without having to ask for money every time is liberating.
So my advice for the men is to give they wife's a certain amount of money on a monthly basis just to give them this freedom without having to work outside the house.
Sorry for my bed English.
Your English is great :)
Agreed but in the west , soon some women will say it’s still not enough as college and the western civilization teaches this
We are ignoring the benefit of marriage as it’s defined not the people here but the people looking in , after you get passed 15 years of marriage then that’s a marriage and you see money problems begin to come. I see that polygamy is another solution in this issue as Islam whenever there’s an issue the solution is there , also leaving one city for another city or one state for another state as well. We are a product of our environment as well. So move as much as u can when possible . So what’s not in one the other wife will have it. I’m married for 32 years mashallah and it’s a blessing but a test. The one advice I give is move and move
I'm a working woman but still I consider myself to be a traditional wife. I don't disobey or disrespect my husband. Part of the reason I'm doing job is because my husband encouraged me to do. Plus, we don't have children yet.
@Win Everything HOW IS THE FIRST COMMENT ALREADY TRYING TO SEPARATE A HUSBAND AND WIFE?
Well, but it isn't ideal
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you both with righteous children. May Allah Al-Ghaniy Al-Mughniy make your husband super wealthy and take care of you all well so you don't have to work anymore.
@@randombite7411 Wow talk about ignorance.
@@muslimummahofbaboons7115 what ignorance?
A traditional wife and a traditional mother here. I’m almost 10 years into it and people wonder why I’m always happy and settled. Alhamdulillah❤️❤️❤️
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
Question, what will you do when kids have moved out and you're home alone? I've always wondered this
@@sweettea1193 nothing. You’ll serve your husband but otherwise you’ll be redundant, since you’ve fulfilled your purpose of being a child bearer
@@askeladd6115 in other words, sit on the couch and watch TV and get fat, that's probably what would happen to Me if I had no kids to look after. At that point I'd personally get a job to keep busy so I don't turn into a greasy couch potato
@@sweettea1193 lol that’s just pathetic of you.
Female I will hope that I can be a traditional wife.
The reason: Because it is in line with what Allah commanded us. And the description you read is so beautiful who wouldn't want to be that way?
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
I am a female, and yes Inshaa Allah I will love to be a Tradwife. It seems so fulfilling and feminine!
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous children.
I think with her description of a traditional wife I would say yes I would like to be one because I know I would be happier and because I am designed by Allah to fulfill this role.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband and children.
@@ibnamanot Ameen.
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
I am female, and Alhamdulilah I am a traditional wife. I stay home, homeschool my children, and strive to make our home a peaceful environment 😌. It is a 24-7 job, there is no time off, and you work much more than in a 9-5 job, but it is rewarding, and being there to watch your children grow is priceless. ❤❤
Allahuma barik
May Allah bless you my sister and protect you and your family from the evil of shayaatween... Ameen
Indeed mashallah
U are a powerful muslimah Allah bless your family
It’s a sacrifice indeed which most of the west doesn’t appreciate at all
But the Muslims do and should especially in America
Allahumma barik may Allah accept your effort.
You are a hero.
As a male, I absolutely want and need a traditional wife. Such a blessing would bring huge happiness in my life
There’s is so much in common between a trad wife and what Islam promotes for the Muslimaat. I felt like the author was describing the Sahabiyat .. Subhanallah
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families & inflating the same dollar removing freedom while claiming its freedom - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
I am a female and would love to be a traditional wife, inshallah. Before my conversion to Islam and shortly after (notably, too, while I still held a lot of feminist views) I "wanted it all" I guess. I wanted the husband, house, kids, job, and no one to tell me what to do. Eventually I got the husband, job, and the "no on telling me what to do", but I quickly realized that this brought on way more responsibility, sadness, and frustration than what I'd signed up for. I found myself in a situation where I was taking on both gender roles and even reprimanded by my ex for wanting to change once I truly began to understand what Allah has ordained as the roles for men and women. (My ex, in retrospect, did not want to take on his responsibilities as a husband in the first place. He would often taunt me by saying "Well, isn't this what you wanted?!" May Allah protect us all from the deviance of western/secular societal norms.) In the end it was not at all what I wanted. These circumstance lasted for about 2 years and ended in divorce and me leaving that previous job, but I felt so much relief and thanked Allah because I finally felt I could move forward with a better, healthier, and more Islamic perspective.
May Allah keep us steadfast and reward you for your patience, ameen.
Assalamualaikum brother Saajid!
I'm an 18-year-old sister from the UK and I'm glad you made this video. When I was younger I was completely against the idea of being a traditional wife, because as you stated at the beginning some people view it as oppressive and as this woman puts well in the article that she is "under a man's foot." I didn't want that for myself, so I strived to have a career and make that my priority, and a family a second priority. Note at this point in my life I was like 13-16, and not very practicing at all. You could say, I was just Muslim in name and I believed but I didn't practice and implement Islam into my daily as much as I should have.
At 17, I became more practicing and began to open my mind to more than just feminism, but see the traditional side of things too, gender roles, I began to look at feminist arguments and more traditional arguments- and I noticed that both had extremes. The feminist side in that we should ignore our biological differences completely and be literal equals, and traditional in the sense that a woman must not speak and she should obey her husband and submit to him regardless of her thoughts and feelings. I think when it comes to Islam, we should reject the extremes of both "sides", and understand that we have biological differences and therefore we need to have different roles in order to complement each other, and that a wife's voice does matter and if she feels a certain way about something she should have every right to voice her opinion and what she says should be respected and taken into consideration also.
That being said, so do I want to be traditional wife? Yes and no.
Yes in the sense that I want to prioritize my family, and I don't want to define myself by my bank account- and I would much rather show kindness to my husband and make him a coffee, than my employer.
But no in the sense that I still want to work. And I will explain why. I come from a lower-class background where now I'm at a certain stage in life where I sort of have to worry about certain things such as going to Hajj in the future and my education- because my parents can't afford those things right now so I can't just have it given to me.
And when I get married I know that my husband is obligated to be a provider and all the finances are his responsibility and it's my Islamic right to be provided for. That being said, we don't live in an ideal Islamic world where if my husband gets sick or dies, that the state will provide for me and my children. They won't, so I need to become educated and work as a means of securing my family, if my husband can't provide for us one day for whatever reason. Moreover, I feel like in this day and age everything is so expensive if you want to provide the best opportunities for your children- you need more than one source of income. Perhaps my husband can take care off all the utilities and stuff, and I can use my money to save up for my children's education, contribute towards Hajj etc. so that they won't have to worry about the same things that I am now. It's worth noting that Khadija used her wealth to help the Prophet Muhammad (saw) in his times of need, and I want to be able to do the same for my family.
But don't get me wrong, I don't want to dedicate all my time to my career that I neglect my family and cart them off to childminders, and daycare centers, 24/7. My family will be my priority and my career will be come second. But in this day and age, some women won't get careers because they want to "take the role of men" but as a means of security for herself and her family.
Moreover, I want a career that will allow me to do good in this world for the sake of Allah, so when Allah asks me on the Day of Judgement how I spent my life- I can say I tried to contribute to this world both by fulfilling my Islamic duties as a wife and mother, and I tried to good for others, through my career too.
To conclude, this was a very eye-opening video Saajid I'm glad you shared the article- it did really open my mind! So Jazakallah khairan and may Allah bless and guide you and accept all of your duas. I hope my comment helped you in understanding why some women also want a career and it's not necessarily feminism that pushes them, but security. :)
I completely agree with what you are saying sister.
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Well, depends upon the type of career too. If you're choosing career just for the sake of career "high ambitions etc." and the type of work environment is potentially damaging (free-mixing along-with being obliged to support & participate in LGBT events), then you are better off. It is better to trust Allaah that He can take care of your financial affairs (with your husband's help ofc) than adopting this career path where it can very easily and potentially mess up your priorities.
But nevertheless, yes we are commanded to fear Allaah as much as we are able to and what our capacity is, and Allaah will not burden us more than what we can bear, so your plan can work for you if you are committed to it.
Women are recommended/mustahhab to stay home and I personally won't marry a working woman
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband and children.
I am a traditional wife and really happy with my role in my family.
I've done two post grad degrees and have worked too. However, despite loving my job, I realised I wasn't able to give my children, husband or my home the time I wanted to give them. After much deliberation, I decided to leave work and become a full time house wife. Alhamdolillah, it's been one of the best decisions of my life. I mended my connection with Allah, first and foremost. I also gave my children quality time and my husband is happier too. I have time for my own hobbies and sister groups too.
I'm definitely not a doormat and by no means feel oppressed. In fact, I feel like a queen in my home. I don't earn a penny but I rule the roost. What more could I ask for?
As a woman in her 30's who's been forced to be a careerist (in order to support parents/family), being a housewife has always been the dream. At the same time, I confess I do have rampant anxieties around marriage because I know my personality type is one that's easily abused, and that's not something I will tolerate. Unfortunately, a lot of the brothers who comment about wanting traditional wives fantasize about their level of submission in the face of mild injustice, never about how they would never commit such in the first place. (As an example. I remember someone posted once that he dreams of a wife who, even if he's angry or unjust with her, and he demands a cup of tea, she doesn't say anything and goes and makes it for him. This is so off-putting and bizarre.)
My family's from the subcontinent but raised Stateside. A big problem with men from the region is their fixation on food and the wife cooking. The art of zuhd in mealtimes is lost on them and they expect their wives to do what their mothers did, even though they saw that their mothers were being abused in the process.
Ultimately, for the right brother, I'd be happy to marry and be a stay at home wife/mom (inshallah) in a heartbeat. The hard part is finding the right man.
I appreciate what you're saying and where you're coming from. I do believe such man are hard to find now. As a man myself, we should also emphasise on raising boys who truly honour and respect woman (this starts at home where father treats wife justly and respectfully because kids learn best by observation). So there'll be more respectable man out there to marry, not just expecting woman to become submissive unconditionally.
@@raushanyuzer9705 Yes, that's vitally important as well. Thanks for doing your part! May Allah (swt) bless your marriage with good. Ameen.
@@sb_1389 thank for the dua. May Allah grant you the best partner for you. Amin.
Wow and you got only 16 likes for this common sense?Wow.i guess you must have been right.
@@purplelove3666 Maybe others have just had different experiences. It's all good. 🤗
I've worked outside the house from the age of 16 till I was married at 24. That experience made me long to be a traditional wife and mother. Alhamdulillah I've been enjoying my traditional role now for almost the same amount of time I spent working and there is no comparison. Ladies liberate yourselves from the male workforce if you can, may Allah bless you all with righteous spouses.
Alhamdulillah My beloved Wife is a well educated traditional wife , She firmly believes that this is the way a muslim wife should be... May ALLAH bless her and grant all muslim men a true muslim traditional wife ...
Male and married to a traditional wife الحمد لله and will not hesitate to marry a second traditional wife إن شاء الله
i really hope, i dont have to read something like this written by my future husband. that would definitely hurt.
I am a female, and I am a traditional wife. I strive daily to fulfill that role to the very best of my ability. Alhamdoulilah for the honour of being a traditional wife.
Male, I would want a traditional wife, reason being it’s closer to sharia and what a Muslim family is. That being said I’m very open minded and and able to work with other things that’s not considered traditional, as long as it’s within Allah’s boundaries.
I'm a Muslim male. And ofcourse, I prefer a traditional wife. Why? Because, she's easier to live with, and that leads to happiness.
Lol its not about just be a traditional wife it's about communication a woman is a woman. I can communicate fine with my cat 🐈 how hard can it be use your brain 🤔 🧠 😊
I want a traditional wife(ves) because it’s a better option if you want to have an Islamic family. Other minor reasons could be - a traditional wife is more feminine, less stressed, children get more care and valuable time from their mother, possibility of having more children, maintaining hijab is easier last but not the least she sacrifices for family. Who won't want such a wife?
I confirm. But the fact that you marqued "ves" after wi, i presumed that it's not impossible that you will have 2, 3 or 4 wives. And i says you, the choice is yours, but be careful, because having more than one wife required a certain strength physical and mental, may Allah help you akhy and keep you on the sirat al mustaqeem.
@@jundullah9869 Thanks for the advice. Everyone should be careful before marriage wheather its 1st or 4th. I personally don't like how polygamy is treated as a taboo even within Muslims while it’s a halal and beautiful practice. I might never have multiple wifes but there are brothers and sisters in the ummah for whom polygamy is great solution. But they can't because of this taboo mentality which should never be in the first place.
As-salamu alaikum brother. As a very ignorant muslim I'd like to ask why are some muslims really excited about having more kids? When you have more isn't it more of a burden for the couple? E.g if a wife has 16 hours to dedicate in the day to 2 children she can dedicate 8 each. But when it's 4 children the time spent per child is halved to 4 which definitely impacts the quality of their upbringing by a 50% drop. Same for the husband. If he earns say $100 per month he can spend 50 per child for 2 kids and give them better quality food, education, a better house to live etc. But if it's 4 kids then it's $25 per child and the living stds are reduced by 50% again.
I want a traditional housewife. I am a male. The reason is that I can focus on my role as provider and protector. There can not be two captains in a ship. The house is her natural habitat for a woman.
When I was 19 the idea of being a traditional wife was very distressing.
Now I’m 29 and I would love to be a traditional wife.
I really liked the quote from the article where the author says the future is family.
Same story here
I just have one question about being a traditional wife. What would happen to her if she ever gets divorced with no job nor saved up money nor a living place of her own. It is not easy to get a job in your forties or fifties. I’m asking this because a lot of women choose to work- despite the heavy burden of both being a housewife and a career woman- to feel financially secure. This idea haunts many women. Could you kindly make a video addressing this issue please.
Goes back to her parents or other family take care of her
Most will get a job no matter what. Security is with Allah AWJ. Oh and, she can always remarry as well.
Funny, hahahaha men hate women who are divorced and have children, women are forced to be remarried again because a divorced woman cannot live alone. And most of them don't get a job. Who the hell hires one who wears the hijap, nobody does it. Nobody. She doesn't get any help either from Muslim people, women who are divorced have bad reputations, nobody cares about you or your children, not the city or Muslim people. .... has no degree, no experience in non-Muslims, most of them also have no family, who simply suffer, become homeless, depressed, do jobs that no one would do. Do you not see enough women who are abused in Muslim countries who cannot divorce because they have no job. There is no way to get one at all, the parents did not support their daughters either. And in a non-Muslim country where you have the opportunity, you are soo lazy, invent your excuses ... Put the women down. Money is important, so that you enlighten your life or the life of your children, why are you here at all ... I don't understand, you can stay perfectly in your Muslim countries ..
Female. 55 years. Married. 2 adult sons. I have been working since I left University. As I am the elder child in my family, I want to relieve my parents from working as soon as possible and provide something for them even after I have my own family. I also want to help my husband financially and give the family the economy stability. My parents help take care of my children till around 12 years as they go to school near their home. There are a few times in my life I agonise not being at home, monitoring my children well being and getting to know them. There were occasions I think I did not make the right decisions to work. I would encourage young couple if the wife decides to be stay at home mom. Both need to act as one, letting go of their ego and worldliness, truly a happy family is where every member is an obedient slave to Allah and Allah alone.
I am a male, and I want a traditional wife because of the upbringing of my children.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous wife and children.
@@ibnamanot ameen bro, same to you.
You are not going to raise your children at all?.
@@purplelove3666 the children spend more time with their mothers than with their fathers, because the father will be at the workplace. So, the mum has more influence on the children than the dad.
I am a female and i want to be a traditional muslim wife, because i hate how the non-muslim society wants be to be. I am naturally quite feminine and hate working outside my home
I was raised by a super feminist type mom who hated housewives openly. Now I am a traditional wife, if u want to call it that. However when the kids go to school full time, I think I might do something bc when my brain is bored I get very depressed. I don’t know what I will do when they are at school during daytime. Funny enough, my brother also wants a housewife when he gets married one day. Being raised by babysitters was a HORRIBLE and sad and stressful childhood for us. However if you need a topic to discuss, you should discuss how difficult it is for Muslim wives in America where communities are spread apart etc and there is no social support at all (my mother literally thinks I’m less than dirt bc I’m a sahm and may write me out of the will)
Ignoranz lässt selbst die besten Menschen in ein schlechtes Licht sehen. Inschallah du bleibst glücklich im diesseits und im Jenseits.
One aspect I think people don't talk about - and that is, how feasible is it to be a "traditional wife" in today's society? Many cities are very expensive, and a man (in some places) would have to make over six figures in order to provide for his wife and kids and live comfortably. I would prefer a "traditional wife" but I also want to be financially stable and comfortable, and I feel like this is easier with two incomes.
@T A Everyone’s situation is different. If you can still be financially comfortable with only your husband working, I think that’s a big blessing Alhamdulilah. I just think the decision is harder if the husbands income isn’t enough. But you are right about the point about living above your means.
With regards to your second shift of being a wife, mom, chef etc then I think that’s where some are choosing culture over deen. Why can’t the husband and wife split some of the chores at home if the wife is also working? I get women typically have more practice cooking, but things like cleaning and other chores can equally be done by both
@T A a simple 3 vedroom house is expensive in my city. When you have kids, they need their own rooms eventually. Y'all can't just cram into a 1 bedroom apartment, I mean, you could, but you and your kids will suffer. Most women want a decent 3 or 4 bedroom home if they have lots of kids so there's enough room for all the kids. You need to think realistically if you want lots of children
I'm a female and I'm fine being a traditional wife to the best of my ability. Though I'm also fine with being otherwise. Whatever my husband desires as he is the head of the household.
I don't agree with feminism. I do have more traditional values now that I've been exposed to the Truth. I do really like the idea of being a traditional wife. I think it would suit me quite well as I am kind of one now.
I do head my household. I don't earn money. I handle the savings. I take care of the neighbours when I can. In sha Allah I protect my family from harm and try to steer them from haram. As a revert, (ma sha Allah), I'm trying to set an example to my family, in the hopes that Allah wills their guidance. I cook and clean. I dote upon my only child. I handle all the financial matters and make sure that the fridge stays full. I embrace my femininity, always wear dresses, staying fully covered (except I remove my actual hijab). And if my 2 family members also reverted, for now id have to lead the daily prayers. But, I'm hoping to find a husband to do that for me. (In sha Allah)
SubhanAllah I am tolerant of all people but, I do stand up for what's right and reject openly what is wrong. In an effort to instill in my family the Islamic values as I learn them. In sha Allah .
mashaAllah. May Allah swt grant you a great husband who takes care of you and your children inshaAllah.
@@marcelolb1221 Thank you.
Asalamu Alaikum
Why you remove your actual hijab?
@@hasansaleem4983 Only when I'm home with my female roommate and son. I still stay covered all the time, long sleeves, long pants, loose dress over top. I don't show anything at home. That way no matter what I'm doing I'm being as modest as I can. I also feel like it's a way for Allah to see that I'm always worshipping. Any time I mention Him, or make a reference to Him, like saying "SubhanAllah," or "Alhamdulillah," etc.. I'm always in a modest dress.
But, why wear my hijab in my house?
@@HabrenOdinsdottir May Allah bless you, guide your loved ones and keep you all steadfast
Iam a female, yes of course, I want to be a traditional wife, because I want to be the stewardship of the family home, which covers several different responsibilities.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous husband and children.
mashaAllah
Do you truly want that, or do you feel forced to?
@@zkatom3773 no someone put a gun to her head and forced her to type the comment. 😒🙄
I would describe myself as a traditional wife even though I work part-time in my professional field. My mum is a traditional stay-at-home mum and I grew up admiring everything she did both as a mother and as a wife. Even though I contribute to finances, I still love to take on the traditional house wife role. My husband is very respectful, hard working and strives to give me the best life so serving him is my absolute pleasure. Besides, doing so also pleases Allah swt
I defos want a traditional wife. Not a feminist who thinks she is equal to me.
every human is equal but they don't have the same roles.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous wife and children.
@Win Everything that what I meant. Not lower.
I'm a tradition wife, im loving and caring. I love my home and everyone in it. Nothing pleases me more than to prepare meals for my husband. I love to have a clean house because being clean is part of the deen. Being a traditional muslim wife makes me feel alive and real. I'm not here to argue to be something I'm not. I leave my worries if I have any to Allah to look after me in them.
Female, I want to be a traditional wife because I am attracted to a traditional man and I would want to raise my children and keep a peaceful loving home. I come from a traditional family where my father is the breadwinner and the guardian of the family and my mother is the supporter of my father and nurturer of me and my siblings. It is normal to see this dynamic working because my parents are in their natural state and InshaAllah my father will look for a suitable prospect for me that is similar to him.
Superb... Respectful comment
I pray to be a traditional husband to a traditional wife. Maybe do Info-Tech, work from home so I can pray in masjid and even help from home. I love a womwn who loves her familyt as an act of worship and acts as a eam, she could also work from home and I can go outside as well.
Male here. I believe both men and women should be traditional but at the same time educated. If the husband passes away the wife will need to learn how to deal with other aspects of life.
Reciprocation is very important in a relationship just the way it is with your parents, siblings friends and etc.
AS LONG AS YOU DO YOUR OBLIGATIONS OUT OF LOVE THEN YOU WILL SEE YOUR LIFE BEING MORE FRUITFUL!
Allah ist der Größte. Du sprichst mir aus der Seele.
I’m probably late for this but I recently discovered your channel may Allah bless you, I’m a female and a student at medical university, I have 3 more years to graduate if God wills, but I really struggle with this matter cuz I don’t even like being a doctor, I wanna be home I wanna learn things from home, i wanna work on my deen and get as much knowledge as possible on Islam, currently I’m taking a year off cuz I couldn’t continue it really affected my mental health and I got diagnosed with GAD and depression, I don’t even wanna go back to that place, but everyone around me is forcing me and telling me that I am crazy for wanting to quit such high level university, but I just can’t with it, everyday at my 3rd stage felt like dying i got panic attacks during lectures so many times that i had to leave the lecture and rush to the toilet and crying alone, I had no such friends who could understand me, my grades started falling, I would skip classes so often that people always asked about me, I don’t know what to do brother, my parents have such a high hope for me I told them that I didn’t wanna go and continue they let me take a year off only and go back after that, 3 months left to start again and I’m terrified it costs me my mental health, I don’t even know anymore
Allah ist der Größte. Liebe Schwester bette mit offenem Herz zu Allah das er dir hilft in deiner schweren Lage, Allah bürdet dir nix auf was du nicht überwältigen kannst. Ich wurde mehrfach nicht in eine Arbeitsstelle angenommen, nur weil ich Muslim bin. Aber das waren nur Test von Allah. Jedes Mal wenn ich Seines Willen meinen Chef wieder setzt habe bekam ich eine Bessere Stelle. Ich bin jetzt richtig glücklich das ich mich dazu entschieden habe. Meine liebe Schwester bette Allah dir eine Tür zu öffnen
Male here. I just want a woman who follows the deen from A to Z upon the manhaj of assalaf assalih, and the rest will follow with the help of Allah.
"الـمـرأة الـصـالـحـة إذا سَكَنتِ البيتَ سَكَنَ البَيتُ"
📚الشيخ سليمان الرحيلي
أسباب نجاح الأسرة
My heart is saying to me that I should become a „traditional wife“ but on the other side it says that my family would be disappointed. My female cousins are all in their „business-mode“ and when I come and say that I don’t want to work they would all freak out. I‘m still thinking of that please give me advices and make Du‘a for me. Barakallahu feekum and salam from Germany.
Ist bei mir genauso ...
God says you don't have to work. So who will you listen to? God Almighty or your family?
Female. I'm a little bit of both, but being a traditional wife is most important to me. The other side of me is pursuing medicine solely for the sake of my Muslim sisters who want female physicians taking care of them. But I don't want medicine to take away from my life at home. Inshallah when I snatch that degree I'll be a part-time practitioner and an asset to my community
Male, traditional wife. Who else will raise the next generation of Muslims if not for the mother and father? If they're both working, the kids will be delegated to either the government school, or some stranger babysitter.
May Allah grant all of us traditional spouses and children who will be the coolness of our eyes and who will be best for our aakhirah and dunyaa. (Don't like my comment, but rather reply aameen please)
آمين
Ameen
I want to be a traditional wife cause of many reasons 1. I don't want to worry about work and potentially being hate crimed on my way to my car. 2. I want to be able to be in my children's lives a ton more than my mother has been. 3. I don't like working I don't want to go through unnecessary extra schooling I'd rather stay home take care of the kids, teach them the stuff that school doesn't (if I don't already have them home schooled) and 4. I don't wanna go out when I'm on my cycle ☹️
I’m a man and I would like a traditional wife as I believe Allah has given us the best way to live our lives and that was a great quote in the video that a woman should be under the wing of her husband by his side and not under his feet
Great video!
A traditional wife isn't slavery Its family values.
even without the Bible or Quran its just common logical sense,
Husband and woman have diff roles in life,
lets just use common sense,
I want a traditional wife. Because I want peace, I want to be treated with respect, I want a spouse willing to put the family first. Yet I have come to the stark realization that she is a rare breed today, especially in modern society. I have been "red pilled", it's better to stay unmarried than to be manipulated and used as a tool and nothing more. Allah is sufficient for us.
This is also how women fill who have no education or job.
“The Future is Family” great line!!!
Female here, i would want to be a traditional wife because I would rather be soul bound to my husband and spend my life raising my children in the best way I can so one day I can be proud of them. I take pride in my femininity and I wouldn’t trade it for the world, I choose to behave and be a strong woman than turn myself into a man in order to gain power.
No woman is more dearer to Allah than the best of mothers
What if I want to work just for the fun of earning some money to treat myself?
@@lisamaryam6176 you are allowed to do that too ☺️ just so you know, Muslim women are allowed to work (prophet Muhammad’s wife, Khadija, was a business woman and she was also very wealthy) the only time where work for a woman may not be recommended is if she starts neglecting her family in the process
@@luthientinuviel7058 Khadija inherited the wealth. She did not start from the bottom, and also she didn't work. What if I work the whole day and then I'm physically and mentally tired so I'm only able to give a little bit of energy to serve my husband and my kids? It's ok, right?
@@lisamaryam6176 that’s usually where the problem starts, to be honest I’m not sure about that one so I cannot give you a definite answer. In Islam, the money that a woman makes is for her only, so she doesn’t have to spend it one anyone but herself because women often make less money than men. So even if she got a part time job, her penny she makes is hers and the man has no right over her money. But whatever money a man makes, he is obligated to distribute it among his family and spend it on them. This is usually the reason why it’s compulsory for the men to work but it’s optional for the females. Hence your question, once again I’m not sure, you might want to ask a scholar if you know one
@@luthientinuviel7058 If I'm allowed to work and I'm excused from serving my husband because I'm tired from work, omg that's great! I can work on getting money for myself and I don't have to worry about giving time to my husband since I'm excused for being physically exhausted from work. You can't force a woman to serve her husband if she's tired, right?
To be honest I really don’t even know much about this whole “traditional” wife thing. I just want a wife who is pious, cares for me, is always there for me in times of need and an amazing parent to my kids. Call that traditional or whatever term u wanna use idc, to me that’s a perfect wife
yeah. that's a traditional wife.
@@documentariesinchd3070 In what way is this “beta male” talk? Moreover what is a “beta male?”
@@documentariesinchd3070 How am I arguing by asking a simple question?
@@documentariesinchd3070 bro calm down, she just asked😂
Feminists are bigots who switch farm to c. bank debt slavery after industrial revolt and break up minority families - this also lead to the corrupt lobby class & upholds tyranny. Feminism is free to serve boss and not family.
Please note: I’m speaking purely off of my opinion and experiences and nothing more and do not have any intent to blame men or Saajid (I’m a subscriber lol) nor victimize myself within what I wrote, nor have the intent to quarrel with anyone, this is again just my opinion.
I am a female and I feel like the role of a wife is defined by and between the husband and wife within sharia law. I would want to be a traditional wife for a good Muslim man that I can trust but after my first marriage failed because I married someone that I thought I could trust and expected me to be “traditional” while he went in and out as he pleased and always cared more about his rights rather than his responsibilities and could not be trusted after sometime. I will not pretend that there is also a big problem amongst men who don’t fulfill their responsibilities as husbands the play an important part to women wanting/not wanting to be traditional wives. So while you ask about that topic please follow up with a video about the traditional husband because I don’t like that there is no acknowledgement of the narrative that male ego and toxicity contributes to the issue of feminism. Which is why I’m glad Allah did not make marriage compulsory, because I don’t feel that there are enough trustworthy good Muslim men that will do what they need to do to be respected the way they deserve which is something that should be taught. This is just hypothetical, but to me you get what you put out. If you acted oppressive towards your wife (which does happen more often than not) why do you think you will get respect in return (because some woman will fight back). I am not speaking about how things should be nor am I defending feminism because I believe it is definitely poisoning the women in this ummah today, but this topic seems to solely focus on a specific circumstance that implies that the husband is doing everything right and the wife’s behavior is always picked apart and criticized as if she is always in the wrong (and should be but to an extent, but please correct me if I am wrong). While I agree it should be addressed, I question this topic a little bit because this cannot be applied to everyone’s circumstances or experiences. For example, I was expected to work and develop my career in my last marriage, but also to have qualities of a traditional wife and then deal with my ex husband’s dishonesty and pain that he caused me in silence (which I will not go into detail about but let’s just say I didn’t have the skills to handle it well and therefore it did not end well because I have no tolerance for dishonesty) which was impossible to deal with all at once. If I was treated differently, with love and respect from my husband at the time I would probably still be married and would have been one of the first to thumbs up’d this video.
I don’t feel enough conversation around men being taught how to be good husbands to bring hope to women like me who wants a trusting, loving and faithful Muslim man is being had because the men of this ummah would take one good look at my situation and say Oh! You should be a co-wife, (and that is nothing against polygamy as it is the sunnah, I just know it wouldn’t work out if I’m going to be myself), so I’d rather be alone. Slightly off topic: But if I get a good spouse in Jannah I will continue to keep to myself and aim for Jannah because I know at least a good relationship with a spouse is guaranteed there with no pain and suffering (which will happen in a marriage but it shouldn’t last throughout the whole marriage if both people have the intent to make it a good relationship and remember Allah SWT). I don’t want to discourage anyone from marriage or think I’m defending feminism or that I am anti men because I am not I pray for the very best for our Muslim men in this Ummah but I just believe that there’s more to it than that because not every woman being themselves will achieve that level of “traditional wife” as described in the video, not when you have so many different personalities, expectations and circumstances involved. And I don’t feel men get that same label “traditional husband” (correct me if I am wrong, please) I feel like it is always implied that men are doing the right thing. and I don’t feel that is entirely true, and sometimes I feel like problems amongst Muslim male behavior gets brushed under the rug.
I feel we should all strive to be good individuals and trustworthy first before striving to be a good spouse. Because you can’t be a horrible man or woman outside of your marriage but then be a good wife/husband inside of it, those bad characteristic traits will carried over, and can be displayed by men and women. I am a bit discouraged from getting married and will continue to work hard for my deen and those I love around me to keep my peace which is very important to me.
While I know the intent behind this very important topic is good, I feel like it is multi layered and that one aspect (as explained in this video) cannot be discussed without the other.
If I said anything to offend anyone I apologize in advance, again it is not my intent. Thank you Saajid for opening up this discussion, May Allah bless you.
Allah knows best. Jhazakallahu Khairyn
May Allah give you paradise but I hope you find a good spouse in this Dunya sister. “Our Lord, grant us delight in our spouses and our children, and make us a good example for the righteous.”
Salam meine liebe Schwester. Ich bedanke mich für deinen Lehrreichen Kommentar und wünsche dir Inschallah die 8 Tore des Paradies. Ich persönlich bin auch auf der Suche nach einer Frau, habe aber Angst das ich eine hinterhältige Frau heirate und bin deswegen sehr vorsichtig. Deswegen glaube ich das ich einiger maßen verstehe weshalb du deinen Kommentar geschrieben hast. Inschallah du findest dein Glück im diesseits und im Jenseits.
Alhamdulillah am a proud traditional wife😊. In my African culture women are always traditional wether Muslim or Christian. This is our culture 🤷🏾♀️.
Jazakum Allah Khairan
Assalamualaikum, I'm a female.
Although I really respect the roles of a traditional wife, I don't think it'd work for me because I have a great passion for medicine and would like to be a surgeon when I'm older. However, I also want to take good care of my children, be obedient to my husband, and overall just be as good as a wife as I can be when I'm at home.
I also think having the skills for a job for times of necessity would be helpful.
It's impossible to be a surgeon and take good care of children well, especially if you have multiple ones. A surgeon has to do sometimes 12hrs+ operations and is extremely hard to balance work-life because lives literally depend on you and you could be called at any time for an emergency.
There will have to be a part-time mother substitute for the kids when you inevitably aren't there. Often parents will neglect being present in their children's childhood years (physically and emotionally), always focused on careers etc, and then when they become teenagers they surprisingly say "where did I go wrong" once they see their children not turn out how they expected. It's because you don't notice the issues your child face and they will learn from someone else if you're not there, especially in this generation when there are so, so many fitnahs around and being promoted to children.
But at the end of the day it's your choice to make and you have to prioritise what you feel is most important to you and may Allah aid you to what is best for you.
Walykum Salam. I hope you are well. Its really good that you would like to become a surgeon and I ask that Allah will make it easy for you to attain that goal. We need more female surgeons to operate on muslim women so that their awrah is not exposed in front of non mahram men. Go ahead and become a surgeon. You will benefit with the persimmon of Allah many muslim women. Asalamu Alykum
Feminism is brainwashing you to believe that you can have everything. Trust me, no one likes having a career. No one. I don't understand why you would want to purposely sign up for a miserable life.
@@moombapoomba6036 Ok. If a female surgeon is something wrong then let's have male doctors operate on the women of your family. Don't be stupid. Female doctors and teachers are a need of the ummah
I’m a female, and I believe being a traditional wife is something that benefits a woman a lot, especially when she has some help , such as daycare or school or relatives (for help with little kids). I tried both, a career and a life of a traditional wife, both have pros and cons , I personally think it is better for a woman and society when moms take care of their kids and when women don’t have to stress out about schedules, deadlines and relations at work place. Right now I’m actually a working mom of 3, and it’s not easy, but when kids are older, I think it’s fine for a woman to be involved in some activities (career) that she like, and if she can make good money, it’s even better.
May Allah bless all of the traditional wives. May Allah continue to bless your family. May He grant you righteous children.
I’m a blessed and proud traditional wife because I believe that its my job to make my husband happy at home. Give him a peaceful environment especially what he does for our family.
male: tradition wife's are a important thing that is needed in order to uphold the fabric of society.
Female. I do want to be a traditional wife. In Shaa Allah. But I feel like there is a lot of stigma I'll have to overcome for that, at least in my family. If I dare say this in my circle of friends I'll be ostracized. Even if I say this to my sister. She said if I marry a guy and become a 'traditional kind of wife' she'll stop talking to me. I don't identify as a feminist and am already labelled an 'extremist', 'conservative' and 'maulvi' by my friends (only because I don't do freemixing).
May Allah keep you steadfast sister. It isn't easy what you're doing big up
Good fortunate to you sister; may Allah help and reward you. I think with your positive Islamic attitude you will have many men to choose from.
we need the Muslim Traditional wife's back it was a good with the barakah
I am a female and I want to be a traditional wife as well in sha Allah as it is a form of charity and helping out the family will earn the pleasure of Allah
Being submissive to your husband is a beautiful thing. She has honour respect and comfort and thats important to a womans "wellbeing ". A womans well being is important for herself and her family and friends. When she is comfortable she is able to look after others. A woman who puts her career above everything else will not have the time nor energy to nurture others and this goes against her nature leaving her and the people who depend on her unfulfilled in some shape or form.
I mean... I'd love a traditional wife. But in my generation (z) it just seems impossible to find a feminine woman. It's a vast sea a theys and thems, diet women, and complete trainwrecks
Male, want a traditional woman. She knows her priorities as a woman, a wife an a future mother for the generation to come. A non traditional woman in most cases think they are clever an modern when their behaviour an mindset is very unstable. Its like the wind 🍃 whatever the modern women say, they go. Left or right. Specially when they say, career minded. How about being akhira minded.
may Allah keep you sincere, steadfast and bless you with righteous wife and children.
Mashallah excellent talk and good comments.
Let’s not forget that women doctors, nurses and teachers are needed in society. If a husband permits his wife to pursue these career options (assuming no children) then no one else has the right to condemn her as these professions do benefit society.
We must not neglect the need for legal reform in the west, laws which protect the traditional husband and wife, and which deter and penalize immorality that undermines the traditional family. Those who work in the dark to destroy the morality of society need to be caught out and prevented from working their mischief.
I’m a female. I love the traditional wife definition given by Islam. The problem I see often is that people redefine and twist what being a traditional wife means. I see it from many women and men alike. I think a woman who wants to be a traditional wife needs to be very careful, now more than ever, when picking a husband. There are men who believe a “traditional” wife means a slave, those men are adding fuel to the fire for those who are anti-family.
Totally agree. Those men are usually so embedded into their toxic culture of making women second-class citizens. This culture usually exists in Asian countries. That's why women have to vet men in order to determine if they are culture-oriented or Islam-oriented men.
I am a traditional wife and a mother Alhamdulillah,as this is the natural and Islamic way .
Woman speaking.
It’s not about which lifestyle is better, it’s about choice.
As this said, here is my answer to your question :
I do not see myself as a « trad wife » nor as a « modern wife ». I’m a political journalist/writer student and I think that as much as family and children education is important it is also important for the women to be socially involved because just as a man she has a brain and she thrives to learn, to debate, to fight for Muslims rights, especially women who are forced to take off their hijab.
Mothers and Fathers have a huge responsibility toward their children, and their is no way they should be neglected.
For myself I know I will be a house wife (and my husband and I will be helping each other for every task there is to be done, mariage is partnering up and team building not one spouse being the other’s servant) for the 6 first years of my child because those are the years of character and personality building then they’ll go to private school and I’ll be working for a better world for them.
I don’t like the idea of someone else raising my kid. But I also don’t like the idea of restraining myself from making and leaving the world a tinier better than how I found it.
I am a Male.
I want my wife to be traditional and homely.
Why? I want a Women, not a second-class feminist Man.
Im female and im traditional wife who proudly loves to be one for life 💕💓
Both are respectable and should be respected.My wife is traditional wife and i am proud of her in every aspect of life.Equally would been my stance if my wife be a career opting one.In my opinion a wife deserves to be cared and husband should create such a ground that she could happily with all morale and chastity within their resources lead a happy life and prepares herself for the life hereafter too.
I am a woman and I would love nothing more in this life to be a traditional wife. To be protected and provided for by my husband and to love and nuture my husband and children and to be obedient to my Qawaam. These are my strongest qualities and the essence of life other than worship that makes me the happiest.
With God as my witness, it truly baffles me that I often bump into gems like you online but they're nowhere to be found in real life. May I know where the creatures of your species congregate at in real life?
Im a female, really enjoyed the video. I want to be a traditional wife, bit that Is often looked down upon by people my age, family etc. By the same people who preach freedom and liberty lol. But I would love to nurture and raise my children on the deen, homeschool them an protect them from the harms of this world. I want to fulfill my rights to my husband and children to ensure I am fulfilling the rights of Allah. And I can also do what I wnat on the side, read and educate myself. And since Allah and his rasool ﷺ told woman to do this, It is best for women, and so I encourage everyone to hear and obey.
You, ma'am, are a champion. May Allah reward you with a godly husband and children, ameen.
(Male) After the description given in the video, who wouldn't want to marry a woman like that?
Female and a traditional wife alhamdulillah, simply because it goes with my fitra, it is much more easier to play this role, and the most important is that it satisfies or pleases my lord,Allah
I’m a woman I would love to be a traditional wife because I love to take care of the home husband and my children and i believe that women are much happier doing that btw I’m from q feminist country and I believe the agenda is ruining families
What if I want to work just for the fun of earning some money to treat myself? Do you think doing so will bring women happiness? If not, why?
@@lisamaryam6176 because material things will not bring you happiness you get happy for the first day or few than your bored and want more and most business women realise they are not happy and want children way too late
@@alexandrab5904 What if while I'm married, I want to get a job just to earn money to give to my parents?
@@lisamaryam6176 Really, not everyone can marry a man who earns normally, unfortunately some men cannot fulfill their duties, have seen enough in my home country, a Muslim country, women should just be grateful because they get food. If you are abused, say you cannot divorce, have no job, if his parents hate you, you will seldom see your marriage happy, if he is not religious, does not pray, but you do not live with him, you cannot divorce. If you marry a man who fears Allah, then you are not afraid of your future, but if you marry the opposite, you can never divorce because you have no one, no job, no money.
@@jinfightingjin2758 What's your point, really? I don't get what you're trying to say.
A traditional wife yes but I wouldn't mind her working a job that is suitable for her Islamically (by which I mean she can prioritize the family and quit whenever necessary) and that is if she likes to work not that I will ask her to do so.
+ the job has to be free from being alone with the opposite gender ofc.
Would you take her money ?
@@ln3165 In Islam marriage, the husband DON’T HAVE the right to take their own’s wife money that she worked because all of that belong only to her and it’s up to her to spend it, that’s what i have heard from what Islam gave women’s in terms of marriage, correct me if I’m wrong!
@@hazel_mvedits9082 I know that but unfortunately most men forget it
@@ln3165 No, I would encourage her to give it in sadaqah though (especially to her family and relatives)
It's not just being alone
The job has to be completely segregated
I'm female. And I'm not a "traditional" wife nor a "modern" wife .
I am a mixture of bit. I'm willing to marry a man who is who is respectful of me. But I don't think I need to leave my job and dreams to compensate with this ideology.
I believe women can work, have children a husband and pursue their dreams with this.
@TheReal Deal I agree ! But I also believe women CAN work. Women also NEED to work in this day and age. Ain't nobody so considerate and thoughtful of you these days anymore. The traditional wife and man role works ONLY if the man also is willing to do his utter best for the wife : go out , take her out , fullfil her needs, work , take the children and her out , earn enough to furnish them well etc. And many men these days don't live up to these standards tbh. And nowhere it says that women can't work. Contray Allah says women CAN work. But their money earned from them is theirs. And whatever they bring forth is also theirs.
Khadijah RA was a business woman , she worked and supported her husband and family. There's nothing wrong with work to work as long as they can follow the islamic guidelines. Women aren't dolls, we have dreams and ambitions too. It's not like my only wish is to get married and have kids and sir at home. There's nothing worng with that, but I want to do more for my dunya and my akhira and find a way to serve my deen
Female, not married.
I have been working since my mother died to take care of my siblings. I love my job, I am a midwife and my job is to help mothers and babies during birth.
To be a traditional wife would be the most natural and easiest thing to do in my opinion. But right now I really don´t know what I would do. I have plans of going back to my poor country, and being a midwife who understands anatomy and birth giving, especially in rural areas is a necessity. But then would that take all my time? Would my family life become more difficult? Will my children be alone all the time? . I really don´t know.....
I don´t agree with feminism, if they were really about women´s right and what is beneficial to women, they would start by taking down the ads for yoghurt, ice cream, cars, houses, supermarket, etc. which has women without clothes. As if those buying the aforementioned things would also be buying the woman in the picture. Yack.
Subhan’Allah Don’t forget to fast tomorrow Monday in sha Allah it’s Sunnah May Allah grant us the gate of Raiyan Aameen.
Just a Reminder✨.
Jazak’Allahu Khair
I am male.
I agree with tradition wife.
Why?
So from observing close relatives and friends. I saw that the males that were working and they had a traditional wife had happier lives, healthier children and the women never felt the need to express her worth in the job she does or the amount she earns. The mothers main concern was their children. On the other hand the families that the women worked, they made way more money than the traditional wife families but I always see that they have some or the other conflict or unnecessary drama in their homes, their children are less healthy (mainly mentally) and those women always express their value in terms of their work or income and how they are better than the traditional wives. Don’t wana explain more but it is what it is.
Female. Traditional wife. Peaceful.
I am a man ,I want a traditional wife
im a female - and honestly I would love to be a 'trad wife'. I can't expect to do whatever I want if im not looking for a 'trad husband'.
Im a man and i want and alhamdulillah has a traditional women. The reason is families are extremely important in a community. Houses create village, villages create town, towns create state and states create a country. If the houses crumble the whole country will crumble. Although man are born leader yet women in their house are those who create great man.
"Houses who do not took refuge in Allah are like the house of spider" Fact -
1. female spider is dominant in spider house
2. Female spider eat male spider after having intimate relationship
3. Spider house is not meant to protect the spider but to trap other insects
Male
Traditional Wives in every community/area should establish businesses which are Islamic and have a free hand so there won't be the domination of Male leading to same divorces like in other parts of world or oppression
Hope some sisters follow my idea 💡
im a female and like being a traditional wife. because im muslim alhamdulillaah.. and thats what islam teaches us. and i love Allaah and islam and prophet muhammad sallallaahu alaihi wasallam.
BUT DOESN'T THE SHARIA LAW ENCOURAGE WOMEN TO DO CERTAIN JOBS LIKE BECOMING A GYNAECOLOGIST OR ANY KIND OF DOCTOR TO HELP PROTECT OTHER WOMEN'S CHASTITY?
@@alexathecanadianconvert
Allahumma barik🙂