Ok when I was 7 I was hospitalized and my kidneys were failing. I had a cousin who had the same condition and had passed away of it 10 years earlier. I got lucky and an experimental surgery saved my life. My parents had to be with me in the hospital a lot. But they made sure that my older brother was showed love too. He would come visit me and we would just hang out in the hospital playing games. My grandparents took him for a few weeks and spoiled him while I had my surgery. My parents made sure he knew he was loved and was a great kid. When he got to visit me after staying with our grandparents he would tell me the places he got to go and the fun activities. He started to make a list of everything so once I was better I could do it too when we went on vacation. When parents concentrate on one child and ignore the rest you are just setting up for your family to be broken.
I’m truly glad that surgery worked do you remember what it’s called? I have a close childhood friend whose little brother has kidney problems since he was born and so it might be something for them to look into depending on a variety of things. I’m so glad your family was so amazing to you and your brother. They did the right things every step of the way. I do feel like they all probably worried so much about both of you. A good parent always worry’s about all their kids for a variety of reasons. I hope you and your wonderful family keep living fabulously blessed lives.
It was called a mega ureter repair. They took the tubes attached to the kidneys out reshaped them and put them back in. I went into shock on the right one was dead for about a minuet they brought me back and finished.
Same! I had cancer as a child. My little brother would stay with my grandparents and my aunt most of the time. They would spoil him and dote on him. Make sure he was well loved.
I hope op from the first story sees this. This is parenting done right! Good job to your parents and grandparents, they are awesome for making sure both kids were taken care of. I hope you're doing better now! 😊
Story one: everyone sucks but OP. Thats ridiculous. Of course it’s terrible her sister had cancer but that’s not an excuse to be a terrible person to your sister. The whole family thinks because she had cancer that she can do whatever she wants. Not the case
If I were the OP’s cousin/family, I would legit lose my shit that they treated her like that. I would not be able to keep quiet about if I heard that shit.
@@srose1088 6:06 i’m married to an identical twin. Once you know them they’re completely different. And super easy for me to tell apart I do know people who are related to them that have a hard time telling them apart. I think it was probably harder to tell them apart when they were children judging by their pictures but in videos I can tell which one my husband is by certain identifying characteristics but as they get older and now that they’re grown-ups it’s probably much easier to tell them apart. I have absolutely no attraction to my husband‘s identical, twin brother. I think my husband is the sexiest man alive and his twin brother is literally a little brother to me. they have a lot of similar features, but they’re both very different and a lot of ways. I could tell them both apart a week after meeting them. We were coworkers and my brother in law actually worked there maybe a year before my husband got a job with us.
The first story: the sister dating Ben now is clearly very jealous and envious of her step sister… for the family to gaslight her into think she’s the problem! F&ck that shit! Delete and be gone!
I knew someone who faked cancer and dated a friend of mine. Turns out he was going to jail and just told people he was dying because he knew he'd be going away for a while. Turned out he was charged for SAing a minor. Freaking traumatized me and our friend group.
Health issues are not an excuse for cheating, let alone with your sister's boyfriend. My mom was the sick kid. She had to wait for science to catch up. She was 8 when she got the surgery that they now preform on newborns. My mom was also disgusted with this story when I told her. Being sick is no excuse for parents to not be parents.
Story 1: This is a heartbreaking story for OP. If the tables turned and OP took the sisters boyfriend of many years, then the family would ha e disowned OP. This is the worst family/boyfriend that have ever lived. KARMA WILL MAKE THEM PAY
Sick sister is used to everyone just letting her get away with murder. Absolute insanity, with OP having parents like that who needs enemies, they've sidelined her her whole life and treated her like a second class citizen
I cackled soooooo fcking loudly, we just lost my grandfather and even he would have been on the floor laughing with the awkward silence. It's amazing, and yes, we absolutely will do dark humor and Gallows jokes to deal with losing family. 🩷🩷🩷🩷
I am glad that OP is getting therapy focusing on how family interaction affects her behavior. This comes from someone who studies psychology and only works with people dealing with addiction. I have to agree that while cognitive psychology can help many people, it will not be a good fit for her. She needed to find out how she was outside of her family. As such, meeting with someone who showed her the different roles that family had for her. Showing that it is not her fault that the family just saw her as a part of the family unit so much that they forgot her as an individual will help her gain the right tools to see herself and learn she has the right to take care of herself. The sad thing is that the very reason that the parents are so overprotective of the step-sister is just that they are so entangled with the sister's needs while she was going through cancer. They never saw this as a bad thing to learn to not teach her independence. As such, she understands the idea of taking accountability for her actions.
The last story has me LIVID! It’s one thing to be distraught at the pending loss of your child…but you’re literally TAKING AWAY the time OP has to also spend with her brother. How do rationally explain not inviting your other child to movie nights? Especially if OP is in college, they CANT come over for innocent movie night, but you as a parent CAN trauma dump on her? WTF
Story 1: after EVERYTHING OP has done for her sister, sister steals her man, too?! Its absokutely ridiculous OPs parents expected her to drop everything and pay for medical bills
I discovered the word niblings this passed year. I have 6 nieces and nephews but its so much easier typing my niblings instead. I use it a lot now. Also I have a disability and have two sisters. We are very close. They're the best. I was sick a lot growin up as a result monopolized my parents attention. But they always made it up to them. They raised us as equals. I am so glad I had my parents. On the flip side my mom's parents tended to do the opposite. I was treating better by my maternal grandmother than my sister's were and they don't have a relationship now because of that. At a certain age it became apparent to me and I tried to fix it but it never really worked.
I just love it - so cute too! tired of using words nieces and nephews. Too many words and noninclusive anyway, and niblings just sounds like TINY LITTLE CORN NIBLETS. Just the cutest.
Lost_Papaya9278 is such an iconic Redditor who I’ve been following from the very start of her heartbreaking saga. Her posts and updates are incredibly saddening to read. I truly wish that karmic retribution was a real thing so that OP’s emotional abusive cheating ex, her pos selfish stepsister, and all their flying monkeys got their comeuppance. The cheaters and family get their happily ever after, whilst OP has been left trying to pick up the pieces of her shattered life, abandoned and alone. It breaks my heart every time I listen to OP’s story.
So I have a medically complex child, I've made it a MISSION to make sure ALL my kids get equal time, opportunity, etc! It's not my children's fault one of them is medically complex... The parents in story #1 are wrong in SOOOO many ways!!!
I cried, I laughed... 1.) Papaya's story was so gut wrenching - her boyfriend and sister betrayed her and then her dad totally failed her! 😭😭 2.) Nibbling? Nemesis sibling! 🤣🤣
Jesus Christ, how can the family in story no. 1 ALL BE ON THE CHEATER SISTER'S SIDE??? Like, yeah, she had cancer. But how bad of a thing would she have to do for them to NOT stick up for and defend her actions? Shoot someone? Abuse the husband she cheated with? Abuse a child? Gaslight the whole family? Like, the situation is SO FUCKING CLEAR that she is in the wrong...but not a SINGLE PERSON except for MAYBE ONE, admits she did a bad thing. A very very bad thing. Not only that, but they also are MAD at the girl who LOST HER LONGTERM PARTNER TO HER BACKSTABBING SISTER for even being UPSET AT ALL?
Glass child fits me omg. It was how i grew up and my parents knowt they did it and have apologized but i felt left out and became so introverted i just didnt talk about it until i was in a hospital bed almost dying. And yeah i always though my brother needed more attention so i willingly faded into the background and nobody really noticed until my brother threw a fit about it. My brother is a well adjusted adult now and fully independent despite it all. Im here learning how to talk with people and extending my social battery and trying to figure out how to be a functioning person
I feel so bad for OP in that last story. My brothers were diagnosed with adhd and autism (respectively) and growing up I had to step up to take care of them both while my emotional needs weren't met. It's not fair to have to deal with that much neglect from your parents. Yes, it's really unfortunate that OP's brother is dying, but the mom's comment calling her selfish and jealous when she mentioned she felt neglected was uncalled for.
28:06 NOOO!! Riley! YOU ARE THE BEST!! Without you, we wouldn't have finally started a live on time. Without you we wouldn't have a cool discord. Without you and your mad internet sluthing skills, we wouldn't have all these cool stories and updates. Without you the OKOP Show would be a sadder and less dynamic place! ❤
29:07 YESSSS!!!!! IFS IS THE BEST!! High efficacy, over 4 decades researched and scrutinized and grown through many, many amazing professionals…if you want healing, this is the route to go. I literally clapped SO LOUD when OP said IFS. THERE’S HOPE FOR HUMANITY! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Her sister will forever be the worst sister ever...and am glad she decided to move on instead of hoping for karma to come their way cause it won't do no good..home She's enjoying her life and having the best time ever
I can not believe I just witnessed someone say you need to spend FIFTEEN MINUTES of intentional time a day with your children 💀💀💀💀 dude are you INSANE??? My dad is a surgeon, super long hours and we spent at least 1 hour in the morning and 3 hours in the evening together real quality time
Well idk if you know this but your dad has Fridays off & rarely works on Mondays so he has LOTS of energy to impart to you bc of his education. I hope you’re listening to him & are a mentor to other kids who might not have the same resources as you. I was lucky to get 15 minutes of FaceTime from my parents weekly so please try to be sensitive
@@2okaycolai'm not based in the us my dad has never had fridays off, he has consistently worked 70-80 hours a week for the last 26 years. I meant when I was growing up we used to spend that much time together. Also english is not my first language so excuse my mistakes :) But yes I know I am lucky, and I am indeed sharing all his guidance and love with my friends who had shitty dads! I just thought it was insanely fucked up for someone to just claim 15 minutes a day are enough, I do know that many dads do in fact only spend that little time with their kids (or none at all). I just think doing it is shitty, yes, but voicing it as some kind of rule or advice to dads is INSANE
Story 1: So after the cousin sees the Redit post how do we not get to know what the family was told that all the family support the step sister. Or is it just because the step sister is pregnant that they all ignore it.
This is true story that happen in one of family in my country. They have 2 children and one is very sick ,the parents only focused on on the sick child. Then one day while walking home alone on street the forgotten child got hit by a car and die.
50:41 the thing is, your other child is not your therapist. If you're trying to work through everything you're dealing with, save it for councelling and reserve the time you allocate for kid 2 to be there for them.
Holdup, people complain about your yapping ? That's wild. You want me to beat them up for you? 😂 You guys are so fun and entertaining! I love your banter :) Don't listen to those punks. 🚩
In 2012, my oldest daughter passed away. Needless to say, I was a zombie--blind to the world and to anyone else's feelings about it. My best friend sat me down about 3 or 4 weeks into that state. She said if I didn't snap out of it, I was going to lose BOTH daughters. My youngest had been invisible to me in my pain. Looking back on that time fills me with shame. I am ashamed to say that I relate to many of these terrible parent stories because, for a while, I was one. I am not excusing them or myself. I will say that so many things about grief are fucked up. I went through a time where even giving in to happy thoughts felt like a betrayal because my oldest daughter couldn't ever experience them and I allowed my youngest to feel that from me. I had always been "the string one" and resisted therapy for a long time because "strong people don't " was something my parents said to me during that time. It's gross. I was gross. My relationship with my daughter is so good now. Therapy is necessary, and truly, I hope everyone in those stories gets the help they need.
Dude if I was op in the first story and I was disconnected from basically all of my family I would just move away to somewhere I’ve always wanted to live. I’ve never thought about moving away from Oregon because almost my entire family is here. They are the only thing that truly ties me here.
The second story reminds me of my college days, had a classmate who during a presentation asked to pay homage to his mother that recently died of cancer, he told a sad story, the whole class cried and prayed for her soul and than on the next week we found out his mother was very much alive and well and picking him up from school, and he stopped coming to class until we had someone from the school administration come and tell us that he has a psychological problem that makes him need peoples pity, so he tells lies like this, including pretend he had cancer in his high school, it was so weird, after graduation I see him at church, and his mother doesn't seems normal either because she tried to take my baby from my arms at church and I don't even know her besides saying hello at church sometimes...
30mins to an hour of quality time (no electronics). i do this as part of my two year olds bedtime routine. i plan to do it after school when she’s older help with homework etc. not every night we get to it. sometimes she’s too tired and sometimes i am. it is always a goal though and something we both look forward to. i can say for certain though it was soooo hard for me to keep my commitment to it when i had two miscarriages back to back. lots of nights it was just brush teeth together and making her bed together before i headed to my room. it’s easier again now and we are back to playing dino’s and “shopping“ most nights. as a parent you always want to give everything you have and not every night you have a lot to give.
My ex boyfriends cousin pretended to have cancer so he could move in and mooch off of him and get sympathy and a free place to live. My best friend of 20 years and many of my family members were avid hard drug users and I saw signs of herione and meth abuse. I tried to tell Andy (my ex) but he wouldn't listen to me. We were engaged when his cousin came back into his life. The whole thing ended our relationship because Andy was convinced I was a crazy jealous bitch for having to share him with his cousin and told me as much. Years later I found out I was right. Andy never reached out to confirm or apoligize. Which was crazy because we were friends for 5 years before we even dated.
You lose them how you get them. Her sister wil learn this the hard way and come crawling back. Don't let her. My family would be dead to me after this.
I love y’all yapping it’s makes it entertaining and not just another podcast reading stories y’all are funny we love y’all insight we get to see the your personality and ways of thinking keep up the yapping makes me feel like I’m hanging out with y’all and the yapping gives us so much room to run down rabbit holes with y’all 😂😂😂
Health issues with one child are not a reason to completely neglect another especially going through something like cancer. Yes the parents are losing a child but their other child is losing a sibling. They need to check in. This is so heavy I’d be worried I’d lose both of my children focusing only on one 😔
I'm partial remission of my cancer if I did this no way would anyone talk to me . Post Cancer kid choice a stranger over her sister. Just wait till the ex Ben leaves her for another women
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is a form of therapy that works on changing behavior in reaction to feelings rather than directly on feelings. Most experienced therapists use some form of it within regular old talk therapy and don't tell you because you don't really need to know what it is for it to help you.
This happened to me except she didn’t have cancer and she was “like a sister” aka a friend that looked like me. She took my ex, some friends, and some of my family too. It’s creepy. Then gas lights me and acts like I am immature for being upset with her, not wanting to be her friend anymore.
The parents need to remind themselves that the last OP is also los9mg het brother. She needs to be included in the stuff that they do with their sick child
I never had more than two friends maybe a few acquaintances that come and go. Unfortunately I had to make the hard choice to let those two friends go one being a childhood friend of mine for 17 years. It hurts because i sent her a message of why i was hurting and why I think it's best to step away and she was ok with dropping me so quickly. Its also quite clear they see me as the bad guy and I don't understand why. I wish I had some closer on the things they've been hiding from me and what they actually thought of me as friend but I'll just have to deal with it and move on. 17 years is just a long time to heal from.
Who are these horrible parents? How does anyone get such a warped view of the their children. It's so lopsided and sounds like it always was. Also, the sister is just as horrible as her parents and relatives. OP seems to not matter at all to the family while cancer girl gets to be villain they defend for being horrible. I'm appalled. I can't believe this is real.
FYI you can lose weight when pregnant due to HG severe morning sickness I had it in both my pregnancy’s and I vomited every day all day until the day both my babies were born. I lost 10kg in the first trimester with my daughter and 13kg in the first 4 weeks of pregnancy with my son.
Bruh I heard CBT and I thought, “cock and ball torture.” 😆😆😂😂 The BDSM people know about that, it’s not my thing, but I can’t lie when it was first thought, I’m just like, “damn….such unique therapy.” 😆😂
I'm before the update, but my conspiracy theory is that the sister put a hole in the rubber and planned to do this. If not, I don't want to scare anyone, but there is still a chance to get pregnant while using condoms. XD We have a friend who was on birth control pills, and her and her partner were using condoms. They STILL got pregnant. It can happen, just a veeeeeery low chance.
Very true all my niblings were conceived while their parents were using birth control. Everything from the pill with condoms to the bc ring. My oldest niece got pregnant at 20 while on the pill also. So 3 niblings and a grand nephew all bc fails. Meanwhile I've wanted kids since I was 2 and my sis was born and have been in 2 long term relationships in the past 22 years with a total of 3 years on depo rest of the time no bc and have no children.
CBT sucks because they basically give you homework to do. And when you are so depressed that even basic things take up so much energy, it doesn't help you at all 😂. It probably does work for some people.
It taken me a long time but family is the people you choose . Step away from these damaging people concentrate on your education and yourself . Your step mother and sister are narcs your dad’s an enabler . It’s all about boundaries
So in story one what is OPs sister going to say to her kid with ben once they are old enough to understand the circumstances under which they were conceived like how do you explain that to your kid and not be concerned about how they view you and your morals
Story 1: They weren’t dating for 3 years; they were LIVING TOGETHER for 3 years, and dating since college. So, yeah, it’s even worse.
Yeah, I caught that and it irked me through the whole story. What a couple of douche bags.
Omg! I didn’t even think about that! I thought the three years was calculating ALL of the years together!
Ouch yeah I missed that too.
Yes! They got together junior year, which means they were already dating 1-2 years BEFORE moving in together after graduation.
Yeah this was driving me nuts every time she said 3 years
Ok when I was 7 I was hospitalized and my kidneys were failing. I had a cousin who had the same condition and had passed away of it 10 years earlier. I got lucky and an experimental surgery saved my life. My parents had to be with me in the hospital a lot. But they made sure that my older brother was showed love too. He would come visit me and we would just hang out in the hospital playing games. My grandparents took him for a few weeks and spoiled him while I had my surgery. My parents made sure he knew he was loved and was a great kid. When he got to visit me after staying with our grandparents he would tell me the places he got to go and the fun activities. He started to make a list of everything so once I was better I could do it too when we went on vacation. When parents concentrate on one child and ignore the rest you are just setting up for your family to be broken.
I'm glad you are alright and your family is Amazing
I’m truly glad that surgery worked do you remember what it’s called? I have a close childhood friend whose little brother has kidney problems since he was born and so it might be something for them to look into depending on a variety of things.
I’m so glad your family was so amazing to you and your brother. They did the right things every step of the way. I do feel like they all probably worried so much about both of you. A good parent always worry’s about all their kids for a variety of reasons. I hope you and your wonderful family keep living fabulously blessed lives.
It was called a mega ureter repair. They took the tubes attached to the kidneys out reshaped them and put them back in. I went into shock on the right one was dead for about a minuet they brought me back and finished.
Same! I had cancer as a child. My little brother would stay with my grandparents and my aunt most of the time. They would spoil him and dote on him. Make sure he was well loved.
I hope op from the first story sees this. This is parenting done right! Good job to your parents and grandparents, they are awesome for making sure both kids were taken care of. I hope you're doing better now! 😊
I'm sorry but no. As a childhood cancer survivor, I call BS. NO WAY should the stepsister get a pass. This is horrible
Story 1: Ben sucks. Step sister sucks. The family sucks. OP needs to go no contact with these horrible people.
This
I feel so bad for her
Can we just give OP a massive hug? 🫂
I would venmo sis/parents for all the medical costs she footed as a teen
100% agree. Well Ben got the worst sister and that’s his punishment. The parents don’t deserve such a good daughter.
the useless father is a lost cause. what a waste of a man selling his own daughter for a worthless wife.
Absolutely.
Story one: everyone sucks but OP. Thats ridiculous. Of course it’s terrible her sister had cancer but that’s not an excuse to be a terrible person to your sister. The whole family thinks because she had cancer that she can do whatever she wants. Not the case
If I were the OP’s cousin/family, I would legit lose my shit that they treated her like that. I would not be able to keep quiet about if I heard that shit.
I hope her cousin who saw the Reddit kept up with the story, and I hope her family knows how they appear to the rest of the world. Bunch of a-holes.
As a twin, I appreciate Sophia remembering that twins are real separate entities 🎉🙏 thank youuuuuuu Sophia!
Ntm, if you've been in a 3 year relationship with someone who LIVES with you, and you STILL can't tell?? You are the problem, lol.
@@srose1088 6:06 i’m married to an identical twin. Once you know them they’re completely different. And super easy for me to tell apart I do know people who are related to them that have a hard time telling them apart. I think it was probably harder to tell them apart when they were children judging by their pictures but in videos I can tell which one my husband is by certain identifying characteristics but as they get older and now that they’re grown-ups it’s probably much easier to tell them apart. I have absolutely no attraction to my husband‘s identical, twin brother. I think my husband is the sexiest man alive and his twin brother is literally a little brother to me. they have a lot of similar features, but they’re both very different and a lot of ways. I could tell them both apart a week after meeting them. We were coworkers and my brother in law actually worked there maybe a year before my husband got a job with us.
I instantly felt she needs to fire the dude, what the hell, super terrible comment
@srose1088 According to another comment, they were living together for 3 years. They were dating since college
The first story: the sister dating Ben now is clearly very jealous and envious of her step sister… for the family to gaslight her into think she’s the problem! F&ck that shit! Delete and be gone!
I knew someone who faked cancer and dated a friend of mine. Turns out he was going to jail and just told people he was dying because he knew he'd be going away for a while.
Turned out he was charged for SAing a minor. Freaking traumatized me and our friend group.
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WOAH WHAT?
I feel like not enough ppl have seen this. This is messed up. Someone ping this
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I need to hear both sides. This is her version....how do we know she didn't make this up
Health issues are not an excuse for cheating, let alone with your sister's boyfriend.
My mom was the sick kid. She had to wait for science to catch up. She was 8 when she got the surgery that they now preform on newborns.
My mom was also disgusted with this story when I told her.
Being sick is no excuse for parents to not be parents.
Story 1: This is a heartbreaking story for OP. If the tables turned and OP took the sisters boyfriend of many years, then the family would ha e disowned OP. This is the worst family/boyfriend that have ever lived. KARMA WILL MAKE THEM PAY
Sick sister is used to everyone just letting her get away with murder. Absolute insanity, with OP having parents like that who needs enemies, they've sidelined her her whole life and treated her like a second class citizen
I am a psychologist and listening to you all google therapy terms made my heart happy 🖤🖤🖤🖤
Riley: He’s a canc-
Afterwards, that silence was *DEAFENING* 😆😂
I cackled soooooo fcking loudly, we just lost my grandfather and even he would have been on the floor laughing with the awkward silence.
It's amazing, and yes, we absolutely will do dark humor and Gallows jokes to deal with losing family. 🩷🩷🩷🩷
Petition for Sophia to bring in her dog for an OKOPup episode! 🐶🙏
YES!!!!
OKOPup episode!!!!!!!! ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
I'd watch that
I am glad that OP is getting therapy focusing on how family interaction affects her behavior. This comes from someone who studies psychology and only works with people dealing with addiction. I have to agree that while cognitive psychology can help many people, it will not be a good fit for her. She needed to find out how she was outside of her family. As such, meeting with someone who showed her the different roles that family had for her. Showing that it is not her fault that the family just saw her as a part of the family unit so much that they forgot her as an individual will help her gain the right tools to see herself and learn she has the right to take care of herself.
The sad thing is that the very reason that the parents are so overprotective of the step-sister is just that they are so entangled with the sister's needs while she was going through cancer. They never saw this as a bad thing to learn to not teach her independence. As such, she understands the idea of taking accountability for her actions.
I like when Sophia and Riley are hosting just the two of them. They have well balanced banter and a good vibe.
What??? Riley is constantly making her uncomfortable, what do you mean.
Always making sexual jokes too, even im sick of it.
The original hosts have waaay too much side banter for me. I prefer Riley and Sophia too
The last story has me LIVID! It’s one thing to be distraught at the pending loss of your child…but you’re literally TAKING AWAY the time OP has to also spend with her brother. How do rationally explain not inviting your other child to movie nights? Especially if OP is in college, they CANT come over for innocent movie night, but you as a parent CAN trauma dump on her? WTF
Story 1: after EVERYTHING OP has done for her sister, sister steals her man, too?! Its absokutely ridiculous OPs parents expected her to drop everything and pay for medical bills
I discovered the word niblings this passed year. I have 6 nieces and nephews but its so much easier typing my niblings instead. I use it a lot now.
Also I have a disability and have two sisters. We are very close. They're the best. I was sick a lot growin up as a result monopolized my parents attention. But they always made it up to them. They raised us as equals. I am so glad I had my parents. On the flip side my mom's parents tended to do the opposite. I was treating better by my maternal grandmother than my sister's were and they don't have a relationship now because of that. At a certain age it became apparent to me and I tried to fix it but it never really worked.
I just love it - so cute too! tired of using words nieces and nephews. Too many words and noninclusive anyway, and niblings just sounds like TINY LITTLE CORN NIBLETS. Just the cutest.
Lost_Papaya9278 is such an iconic Redditor who I’ve been following from the very start of her heartbreaking saga. Her posts and updates are incredibly saddening to read. I truly wish that karmic retribution was a real thing so that OP’s emotional abusive cheating ex, her pos selfish stepsister, and all their flying monkeys got their comeuppance.
The cheaters and family get their happily ever after, whilst OP has been left trying to pick up the pieces of her shattered life, abandoned and alone. It breaks my heart every time I listen to OP’s story.
Papaya is my hero! She turned her life around after the unimaginable happened to her and its inspiring ❤
I realllyyyyy wish she’d read the emails and messages from her family. My curiosity is too much lol
Poor OP, such a horrible situation 🥺
So I have a medically complex child, I've made it a MISSION to make sure ALL my kids get equal time, opportunity, etc! It's not my children's fault one of them is medically complex... The parents in story #1 are wrong in SOOOO many ways!!!
What i ve been saying. Spoiled kids are the parents fault.
I cried, I laughed...
1.) Papaya's story was so gut wrenching - her boyfriend and sister betrayed her and then her dad totally failed her! 😭😭
2.) Nibbling? Nemesis sibling! 🤣🤣
I thought nibbling no contact sibling
Jesus Christ, how can the family in story no. 1 ALL BE ON THE CHEATER SISTER'S SIDE???
Like, yeah, she had cancer. But how bad of a thing would she have to do for them to NOT stick up for and defend her actions? Shoot someone? Abuse the husband she cheated with? Abuse a child? Gaslight the whole family? Like, the situation is SO FUCKING CLEAR that she is in the wrong...but not a SINGLE PERSON except for MAYBE ONE, admits she did a bad thing. A very very bad thing. Not only that, but they also are MAD at the girl who LOST HER LONGTERM PARTNER TO HER BACKSTABBING SISTER for even being UPSET AT ALL?
Lies were probably told by the sister and Ben.
Glass child fits me omg. It was how i grew up and my parents knowt they did it and have apologized but i felt left out and became so introverted i just didnt talk about it until i was in a hospital bed almost dying. And yeah i always though my brother needed more attention so i willingly faded into the background and nobody really noticed until my brother threw a fit about it. My brother is a well adjusted adult now and fully independent despite it all. Im here learning how to talk with people and extending my social battery and trying to figure out how to be a functioning person
I feel so bad for OP in that last story. My brothers were diagnosed with adhd and autism (respectively) and growing up I had to step up to take care of them both while my emotional needs weren't met. It's not fair to have to deal with that much neglect from your parents. Yes, it's really unfortunate that OP's brother is dying, but the mom's comment calling her selfish and jealous when she mentioned she felt neglected was uncalled for.
Practice makes perfect, let papaya date until she nails the art!
Loool I guess so
Some people have to date around to figure out what they really want in a partner, the exes are lessons
28:06 NOOO!! Riley! YOU ARE THE BEST!! Without you, we wouldn't have finally started a live on time. Without you we wouldn't have a cool discord. Without you and your mad internet sluthing skills, we wouldn't have all these cool stories and updates. Without you the OKOP Show would be a sadder and less dynamic place! ❤
I didn’t think any story could be crazier than the first one, but DAMN.
29:07 YESSSS!!!!! IFS IS THE BEST!! High efficacy, over 4 decades researched and scrutinized and grown through many, many amazing professionals…if you want healing, this is the route to go. I literally clapped SO LOUD when OP said IFS. THERE’S HOPE FOR HUMANITY! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I would go no contact with EVERYONE! Her family is horrible.
Her sister will forever be the worst sister ever...and am glad she decided to move on instead of hoping for karma to come their way cause it won't do no good..home She's enjoying her life and having the best time ever
Idk why anyone would complain about the banter between hosts. I think you all are hilarious and so so sweet. 🥰✌🏽
I can not believe I just witnessed someone say you need to spend FIFTEEN MINUTES of intentional time a day with your children 💀💀💀💀 dude are you INSANE???
My dad is a surgeon, super long hours and we spent at least 1 hour in the morning and 3 hours in the evening together real quality time
Well idk if you know this but your dad has Fridays off & rarely works on Mondays so he has LOTS of energy to impart to you bc of his education. I hope you’re listening to him & are a mentor to other kids who might not have the same resources as you. I was lucky to get 15 minutes of FaceTime from my parents weekly so please try to be sensitive
Also going between passive voice & present tense doesn’t make sense. We SPEND time together; spent implies it was a recent action.
@@2okaycolai'm not based in the us my dad has never had fridays off, he has consistently worked 70-80 hours a week for the last 26 years. I meant when I was growing up we used to spend that much time together. Also english is not my first language so excuse my mistakes :)
But yes I know I am lucky, and I am indeed sharing all his guidance and love with my friends who had shitty dads! I just thought it was insanely fucked up for someone to just claim 15 minutes a day are enough, I do know that many dads do in fact only spend that little time with their kids (or none at all). I just think doing it is shitty, yes, but voicing it as some kind of rule or advice to dads is INSANE
I like the Reilly/Sophia dynamic best. I think they'd make a good couple also because they both have compatible energy and compassion.
30:07 I can't even tell y'all how much I needed to hear OP's story, so thank you
"Look at your 5 closest friends, and you will see who you are" ....looks at boyfriend, best friend and.... 3 dogs. Yup, that explains a lot.
Story 1: So after the cousin sees the Redit post how do we not get to know what the family was told that all the family support the step sister. Or is it just because the step sister is pregnant that they all ignore it.
I wanna play dnd with Sophia! 😭
This is true story that happen in one of family in my country. They have 2 children and one is very sick ,the parents only focused on on the sick child. Then one day while walking home alone on street the forgotten child got hit by a car and die.
Sophias "I'm so angry" face made me lol
Hey big Protein! Nibling is Niece/Nephew + Sibling. It's the gender neutral term my family uses
Why would she be f-ing the doctor lmao 🤣 like. How is that the tin foil hat conclusion 😂
Need to chime in and say… I personally LOVE the “yapping”!!! I enjoy it as much as much as the content you read 😘🥰
50:41 the thing is, your other child is not your therapist. If you're trying to work through everything you're dealing with, save it for councelling and reserve the time you allocate for kid 2 to be there for them.
This is what I was thinking! I have a disabled child and I would never dump my heavy thoughts on my other kids. That’s insane!
Holdup, people complain about your yapping ? That's wild. You want me to beat them up for you? 😂 You guys are so fun and entertaining! I love your banter :) Don't listen to those punks. 🚩
In 2012, my oldest daughter passed away. Needless to say, I was a zombie--blind to the world and to anyone else's feelings about it. My best friend sat me down about 3 or 4 weeks into that state. She said if I didn't snap out of it, I was going to lose BOTH daughters. My youngest had been invisible to me in my pain. Looking back on that time fills me with shame. I am ashamed to say that I relate to many of these terrible parent stories because, for a while, I was one. I am not excusing them or myself. I will say that so many things about grief are fucked up. I went through a time where even giving in to happy thoughts felt like a betrayal because my oldest daughter couldn't ever experience them and I allowed my youngest to feel that from me. I had always been "the string one" and resisted therapy for a long time because "strong people don't " was something my parents said to me during that time. It's gross. I was gross. My relationship with my daughter is so good now. Therapy is necessary, and truly, I hope everyone in those stories gets the help they need.
Dude if I was op in the first story and I was disconnected from basically all of my family I would just move away to somewhere I’ve always wanted to live. I’ve never thought about moving away from Oregon because almost my entire family is here. They are the only thing that truly ties me here.
Big protein lookin good 😍 been playing with your lighting again? 😂
Sophia!!!! Came up to Oregon and go to the renisaunce fair with me this year!!! And we can do a short DnD campaign while you're here!!! Lol
The second story reminds me of my college days, had a classmate who during a presentation asked to pay homage to his mother that recently died of cancer, he told a sad story, the whole class cried and prayed for her soul and than on the next week we found out his mother was very much alive and well and picking him up from school, and he stopped coming to class until we had someone from the school administration come and tell us that he has a psychological problem that makes him need peoples pity, so he tells lies like this, including pretend he had cancer in his high school, it was so weird, after graduation I see him at church, and his mother doesn't seems normal either because she tried to take my baby from my arms at church and I don't even know her besides saying hello at church sometimes...
The dogs helped like crazy. Currently sick so thank you!
IFS has helped me a lot alongside EMDR. Processing stuff is hard
30mins to an hour of quality time (no electronics). i do this as part of my two year olds bedtime routine. i plan to do it after school when she’s older help with homework etc. not every night we get to it. sometimes she’s too tired and sometimes i am. it is always a goal though and something we both look forward to. i can say for certain though it was soooo hard for me to keep my commitment to it when i had two miscarriages back to back. lots of nights it was just brush teeth together and making her bed together before i headed to my room. it’s easier again now and we are back to playing dino’s and “shopping“ most nights. as a parent you always want to give everything you have and not every night you have a lot to give.
Papaya!!! I wish you all good in life! You’re amazing and deserve the best🥰 So do YOU!!!❤️
Love the doggo pics after the sad story ❤😄
I love the 1st one. Op keep on updating & move on....have a happy & healthy life op. Hope you may found someone put that contentment & happiness.
My ex boyfriends cousin pretended to have cancer so he could move in and mooch off of him and get sympathy and a free place to live.
My best friend of 20 years and many of my family members were avid hard drug users and I saw signs of herione and meth abuse. I tried to tell Andy (my ex) but he wouldn't listen to me.
We were engaged when his cousin came back into his life. The whole thing ended our relationship because Andy was convinced I was a crazy jealous bitch for having to share him with his cousin and told me as much.
Years later I found out I was right. Andy never reached out to confirm or apoligize. Which was crazy because we were friends for 5 years before we even dated.
You lose them how you get them. Her sister wil learn this the hard way and come crawling back. Don't let her. My family would be dead to me after this.
The dog pics idea is genius after a short story
I love y’all yapping it’s makes it entertaining and not just another podcast reading stories y’all are funny we love y’all insight we get to see the your personality and ways of thinking keep up the yapping makes me feel like I’m hanging out with y’all and the yapping gives us so much room to run down rabbit holes with y’all 😂😂😂
Sickness is very hard to handle with your kids, but I hope parents don't lose all their children along the way.
Health issues with one child are not a reason to completely neglect another especially going through something like cancer. Yes the parents are losing a child but their other child is losing a sibling. They need to check in. This is so heavy I’d be worried I’d lose both of my children focusing only on one 😔
I'm partial remission of my cancer if I did this no way would anyone talk to me . Post Cancer kid choice a stranger over her sister.
Just wait till the ex Ben leaves her for another women
Love listening to Sophia and Rylie together
I love that y’all look up words 😂😂😂 my terminology is growing watching this channel
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is a form of therapy that works on changing behavior in reaction to feelings rather than directly on feelings.
Most experienced therapists use some form of it within regular old talk therapy and don't tell you because you don't really need to know what it is for it to help you.
This first story reminds me of the movie "my sister's keeper."
We love you Riley. You don't suck.
17:06 I think X one lied to X2 and said that you both slept together and so that he can ruin your relationship
This happened to me except she didn’t have cancer and she was “like a sister” aka a friend that looked like me. She took my ex, some friends, and some of my family too. It’s creepy. Then gas lights me and acts like I am immature for being upset with her, not wanting to be her friend anymore.
The parents need to remind themselves that the last OP is also los9mg het brother. She needs to be included in the stuff that they do with their sick child
Going no-contact with this family is more of a pro than it is a con
Showing dog pics at the end was so real
Love the editor's cheeky little "but i do" 😂
"Nemesis sibling" 😂
Op in story 1 as of 2 months ago is now engaged!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉
I would’ve cried reading this out loud
I never had more than two friends maybe a few acquaintances that come and go. Unfortunately I had to make the hard choice to let those two friends go one being a childhood friend of mine for 17 years. It hurts because i sent her a message of why i was hurting and why I think it's best to step away and she was ok with dropping me so quickly. Its also quite clear they see me as the bad guy and I don't understand why. I wish I had some closer on the things they've been hiding from me and what they actually thought of me as friend but I'll just have to deal with it and move on. 17 years is just a long time to heal from.
Who are these horrible parents? How does anyone get such a warped view of the their children. It's so lopsided and sounds like it always was. Also, the sister is just as horrible as her parents and relatives. OP seems to not matter at all to the family while cancer girl gets to be villain they defend for being horrible. I'm appalled. I can't believe this is real.
I feel so sorry for the girl in the first story
I moved to the arctic last year. First time living in a non white community. It really broadens perspective
FYI you can lose weight when pregnant due to HG severe morning sickness I had it in both my pregnancy’s and I vomited every day all day until the day both my babies were born. I lost 10kg in the first trimester with my daughter and 13kg in the first 4 weeks of pregnancy with my son.
So did I. Morning sickness is brutal.
The way Sofia just let out a breath of sorrow....
Bruh I heard CBT and I thought, “cock and ball torture.” 😆😆😂😂 The BDSM people know about that, it’s not my thing, but I can’t lie when it was first thought, I’m just like, “damn….such unique therapy.” 😆😂
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I call my nieces and nephews "niephlings" personally
I'm before the update, but my conspiracy theory is that the sister put a hole in the rubber and planned to do this.
If not, I don't want to scare anyone, but there is still a chance to get pregnant while using condoms. XD We have a friend who was on birth control pills, and her and her partner were using condoms. They STILL got pregnant. It can happen, just a veeeeeery low chance.
Very true all my niblings were conceived while their parents were using birth control. Everything from the pill with condoms to the bc ring. My oldest niece got pregnant at 20 while on the pill also. So 3 niblings and a grand nephew all bc fails. Meanwhile I've wanted kids since I was 2 and my sis was born and have been in 2 long term relationships in the past 22 years with a total of 3 years on depo rest of the time no bc and have no children.
It's a very low chance of 1%, but I think covid showed what 1% looks like if applied to a fuckton of people.
Ooh new vid. Yay! ❤
CBT sucks because they basically give you homework to do. And when you are so depressed that even basic things take up so much energy, it doesn't help you at all 😂.
It probably does work for some people.
CPT is cognitive processing therapy where you process trauma
This is why not everyone deserve to be parents.
The first story is like theme per theme the same as the beginning of ‘Grumpy Romance’ by Nia Aurthurs lol (for the first few updates at least)
It taken me a long time but family is the people you choose . Step away from these damaging people concentrate on your education and yourself . Your step mother and sister are narcs your dad’s an enabler . It’s all about boundaries
Dont stop japping. I love a Sophia Riley storytime. You guys. Back and forth really nice
Ren faires are fun
So in story one what is OPs sister going to say to her kid with ben once they are old enough to understand the circumstances under which they were conceived like how do you explain that to your kid and not be concerned about how they view you and your morals