Every Man Dating A Woman In Her 30s Must Watch This (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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I never talk about this, so don’t get mad at me for mentioning it.
But in this week’s video, I’ve decided it’s time to have an honest conversation about one of the most controversial topics in dating.
I’m talking, of course, about a woman’s biological clock.
Maybe you’ve recently hit your early 30s and are starting to think about a family. Or you’re approaching your late 30s and wondering when it’s going to happen. Maybe you’re 40 and are thinking you’ve been ready for a long time to settle down and have children.
If any of these is you, I need you to watch this. It’s really, REALLY important. I don’t want you or a guy you’re dating to make a mistake that you both regret later down the road.
This is one of the most important videos I’ve ever made for BOTH men and women, one that I hope you’ll truly take on board if you’re currently dating a guy and aren’t sure where things are going in your relationship.
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After living 30 years on this earth, my final conclusion after all my phases in life is like this...... You have to follow your heart and be true to yourself. There is no greater blessing in life than self fulfillment. If somebody comes along who likes you for it, it is better to take the journey of life with them. But never compromise yourself to make someone else happy. That is when everything falls apart.
Val: I'll add to this that compromise is good when both partners actually care about each other. Compromise is borne of empathy. So are relationships (the good ones). If both partners have a common goal that's greater than themselves individually, compromising is logical and they can work out anything together. Gotta have empathy though.
My parents never divorced and told me that it was a common decision that my mother would stay at home and look after their kids. It was hard for both; they had three kids to raise and my father didn't always find work. But they believed in family and marriage and now all their kids are stable adults.
Dude, I'm living that right now, its just a shame she wouldn't come with me, although I walked with hers for a good length of time. Parting is such sweet sorrow.
“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
Love that saying.
Is being selfish a bad thing?
“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
Curiousnessify, absolutely! I agree with that 100%.
I'm alone 😭
Elephants actually live in herds. They can die of loneliness if they are deprived of the company of other elephants. So, maybe not the best example...
@@cyantulip It's actually a great example. It means If women don't get their priorities in line, the human species will die off.
cyantulip thats bullshit, where do you get your facts from? Elephants can survive alone after 12-15 years after puberty they leave the heard, most elephants live solitary lives alone or with another. But they don’t die of lonliness (emotion). They have been shown to show emotion and ‘heart break’ like symptoms such as tears and crying but it has never killed them. One possible article you may be referring to was a biased news feed they titled using the work ‘lonely elephant’ but it had died after 43 years in solitary environment. A younger elphant died when it got lost but the news also labelled it died of ‘lonliness’ not STARVATION and stress.
I've done it once before, many years ago: realized it, and said "I am not what you want." I could keep going without a hitch, but I knew her goals laid beyond me and beyond the relationship I saw for the future. So I sat her down, explained it, and forced myself to part ways. Loved her? Yes. Did she love me? Briefly afterward until the anger caught up with her. But she's married now and happier with someone more her speed, with more common goals in life. She may not think highly of me, bu I know I took the right path so she could find hers.
I don't know wether you're a good person or not, but at least you did the right thing.
@@MsSusiePan how long did you string her on?
And here is my message don't believe when they say they are on the pill they are not ! You have been warned !!
You can't make a blanket statement like that. It's not necessarily true. I can't say that all men are jerks because I know that's not true. It just feels like most of the ones who are "left over" for me to choose from are jerks! Most....but not all!
+Eponine Thenardier - do you know how many kids are born with out the consent of the man ?? No off course cause you don't care !! Better to be safe then Sorry !!
+All Total Coaching You don't know me at all. I believe children need a mother and a father. If a woman wants a baby so badly that she'd lie and say she's on the pill, and the man does not want to be a father, she should be ready to carry the load herself. They should have this conversation *before* they get naked. " *Of* course....better safe *than* sorry."
+fake name - spot on
+Sari Na exactly what the first guy said
Men you don’t have to marry. If your happier single be single. Same with women.
Thank u sam. Its nice to hear a man say that.
Thanks for the mansplaining. Such wisdom. Never heard of such novelty before. So just go on with the non thinking behaviour then. Live only for your own pleasure and die alone and happy
@@Babesinthewood97 read one of Paul’s epistles. He even said it, you don’t have to marry.
But women aren’t happier being single
@@longydongy1004 Speak for yourself
My dad married a younger woman. He was 50 when he had me. I'm 20 now. Know how old my dad is today? Dead. He is dead. My mom has been widowed for over 10 years now and she doesn't deserve that. Woman really shouldn't date too much older. Only 20 and 30 somethings should be having kids.
Your father was a very wise man .
Aww. I'm sorry. That's sad!
I'm sorry about that and my youngest brother says similar things about old parents. My parents were close but I'm the eldest of 7 and my youngest brother is 17 and I'm 33. Dad is 69, mum is 57...dad had a heart attack a few years ago but survived. Thing is... Us 4 older kids can't imagine life without the young two "accidents." We try to do what mum and dad can't anymore. Every day my youngest siblings are amazing, I'm a better person for them and if you lived near us, mum would have you all over a lot. You were v unlucky. Love.
That's women for you though, obviously your mother still wanted to reproduce but picked an older man..
Me Two: your thought process about longevity is screwed up. People die @ any age 20s, 30s,40s.... you can be 24 marred to a 24 and by 35 you could be a widow. It happens all the time. Anyway, you’ve got a little growing up to do. Maybe aging will give you a better perspective on this. Good luck.
Matthew Hussey - "Men, be brave and leave her".
Tom Leykis - "Pump her and dump her".
@shakhir r sadly thats the sad truth... hahahahaha. If he looked like this guy in the video he wouldnt have been divorced. And if he married a woman outside the country he wouldnt either.
@shakhir r I see your point. However, a good number of men "prefer(ed)" to be married with or without knowing the consequences.
Warning men in the West about marriage is a relatively recent phenomenon.
I was thinking the same thing too! LMAO
Majority of women had too much fun in their 20's and neglected their future life but age caught with them finally.
Women in her 30's: "Time to settle with that unattractive guy with attractive resources and slowly develop feelings for him. How did my love life become a nightmare?! At least I'm good at faking'O."
@@NNWillieProject men think they don't age. Hell yeah they do. Way faster than women.
@@saffyaaffy826 ha...keep telling yourself that.
Years ago a woman told me she didn't want kids. She kept telling me repeatedly. I told her I was neither new or slow so why was she continuously bringing it up and she responded saying maybe she was wasting my time. A gear kicked down in my head and I responded that hmm maybe she was. End of relationship, but it allowed me to go on and meet my daughters Mother and though we are no longer together I have an amazing daughter and a great respectful relationship with her Mum as well. Now recently I stopped dating a Woman and then met a new Woman a few days after. Turns out she's 39 and a few dates in told me she wanted kids and I said I was not in that mind frame and told her the story above and told her I don't want to waste your time because if you're set on that then you need to be free to pursue what you desire. It was as difficult as it was necessary. So guys, take responsibility for not only what you want and ladies too! 🙏👍😃 Thanks Matthew
Well done Simon
As men age especially after 40 the risk of having defective sperm rises, autism and chromosome mishaps. It is not solely on the woman's age. It is the man's age as well that can cause birth defects.
Honestly with a man's life expectancy to be usually shorter than women's, men have a biological ticking clock as well. Just because he can make a baby doesn't mean or guarantee it will be healthy.
@ J Romeo Please post where you got this information. I've read a little about this and nowhere do i see the age of "40" if anything it's more about the of "55"
Men and women are not on the same time frame when it comes to having children.
www.verywellfamily.com/does-age-affect-male-fertility-1959934
and he can't live enough to see his grandchildren
@@vAndres49erz It's actually the age of 35 when sperm quality decreases, the risk of autism and schizophrenia (because of the father) increases, as does the risk of miscarriage (again, because of older fathers - regardless of the mothers age) and rates of conception decrease (regardless of the mother's age). About 50% of all IVF is because of the male partner only. Do not be conned into thinking you'll find someone who wants to start a family with you at 55 - it's highly, highly unlikely. It's also unlikely you'll be able to, as well as unlikely you'll live to see the kid grow up. Men and women ARE on the same time frame when it comes to having children. Older women even have much higher fertility rates with younger partners - because sperm quality is a critical factor.
@@kp361 If I'm in shape, got my shit together, and at the age of 55 I can still date down and get a woman in her 30's. Let's no be foolish into thinking that's not possible. But, I agree with you on the idea of having kids at an old age is not a good idea, because I won't be around too long. (I personally think once passed 45 it's too old.)
@@vAndres49erz You can find an ugly girl with daddy issues or a golddigger, yeah. Just like a woman can find some strange young boy who has a thing about MILFs. Let's be real here, dude. Hardly a win. And as your fertility starts to decline in your 30s (just like it does for women) if that 30-something wants kids, you're a really bad bet unless she wants those kids to have autism or schizophrenia (which are attributed overwhelmingly to older fathers). Also much higher rates of miscarriage and infertility with older fathers (50% of all IVF is male factor only) because sperm degrades with age, no matter how young the woman is. Better to just plan like women do - if you want kids, as you say, do it before 45, instead of pretending you have all the time in the world. You don't.
She had a good amount of time up to age 35 to find a man and settle down. She CHOSE to play the field. She CHOSE to reject guys who wanted her when she was more fertile. So guess what? She CHOSE to create stress for herself in her 30's.
That's not any man's fault neither is it his problem. Actions have consequences.
Why should he change his behavior to suit women's desires?
Isn't that exactly what feminists have been going on and on about since the 60's? More personal choices?
Are women always the victims of things they CHOOSE?
What say you, Matthew?
And at the end you see howtogettheguy.net ...smh. Dude did not say this to appeal to all humanity. Dude said this to appeal to one half of humanity and make $$$$$$.
Was hoping Mathew would reply to your comment because its true. And his sales pitch to women who are stuck by their own choice have to contend with this.
Come on Matthew, answer the question.....
For the love of fuck, all he's saying is don't fucking lie to people. Don't lead them on.
If you know that the person you are with wants [thing that they want] out of a relationship and you lead them to believe that you will give them [thing that they want] in order to get what _you_ want while actually having zero intention of giving them [thing that they want], then you are a manipulative piece of shit.
Don't be a manipulative piece of shit.
Nick Williams Which could easily be a message directed towards women who ride the cock-carousel, with no intentions of actually being loyal to a man… But no one holds women accountable for their actions.
It is not uncommon for women to go on hundreds of dates, getting courted around for free food, drinks, services, presents, rides, and attention with zero intentions of actually being in a relationship. Or specifically staying in a relationship to extract resources out of a man until she’s done with him. And these are more often than not, the women who finally want to settle down in their 30s. But no one is telling women they need to change their behavior…
This is the worst thing about dating. The pressure of time. I'd love to be able to enjoy dating without wondering if I'm wasting time. It's so unfair.
Biology is "unfair"? lol. Wow, we've reached a new benchmark in entitlement.
Women want to settle in the end too. Being insencere with her and wasting her time makes you a societal jerk and a blight. Stop wasting womens lives. Also for the girls, stop whoring around and get married in your 20's.
Don't stress yourself what is already over. You had your time.
Now accept what you can not change anymore. Life is also great without kids.
And you can do also social work with kids and younger people.
I know this is painful but don't be sadden by the things you cannot change.
@@firstnamelastname2111 Girls who aren't married in their 20s aren't all 'whoring around'. This is largely a male fantasy.
@@firstnamelastname2111 no, tonight i will hook up with my f buddy🤗🤪
"men need to be brave enough to leave..." Next video: "What to do when the coward leaves you..."
Ladies you realize this guy makes his money by staring doe-eyed into a camera and spouting fortune cookie style advise, right? He's not your friend, you're his consumers.
Best analysis about the video, straight to the point of what really he want to say.
@Hello It's K It's true though he's just a panderer, and he's not the only one. These guys do more damage than good. There's no right or wrong or a single cookie cutter solution to relationships, but, I will say there are basic biological drives that make men and women differ. These inner demons for men are to want to sleep around as much as they can, again not every guy does apart from the top % so get that myth out've your head straight away, the reason these top % get the most action..is because you ladies are naturally picking these top %..and that's because you're hypergamous naturally, it's a cruel but basic fact we as guys have to live with. In fact I'm firmly convinced the average woman gets more action than the average guy, easily! All you guys have to do is show up, men naturally have to chase you and work for it, it's always been that way, and you guy's in turn put on you're picky meter.
Have t'say also..you guys get to have multiple orgasms but appear to want sex less!? that just baffles me and a lot've guys..but again you're picky is all.
For guy's becoming aware of this we call being red pilled, like Neo in the Matrix, once we become aware there's no going back, we never look at women or relationships the same way again, and I've bad news for you ladies, it's catching on..and maybe a factor as to why so many guys are just casually dating and not settling, they don't want to get caught out with your hypergamy in the long run.
The modern relationship and dating scene with dating apps is making it too easy to just throw someone away like a tissue the minute they do something you don't like. Both sexes are guilty of this, but, and it has to be said, the relationship always seems in trouble when the gal isn't happy, you make your mind up to end it 6 weeks in advance..don't tell me this isn't true, I've lived it. Don't tell me either you haven't looked at other guys while in a relationship or know guys wealthier, taller and good looking and yearned or fantasised of getting with them instead of the guy your with, that's hypergamy, your natural drive kicking in. Yes men look at other women too, say passing in the street or out in public but that's purely on physical attraction, obviously then if he got to know another woman at close quarters and they start to chime he might develop feelings, and that's up to the integrity of the guy to control that if he's already committed. How do you keep a guy committed? easy, as blunt as this..feed him f*ck him love him.
You guy's on the other hand want material comfort and security and that's what drives your hypergamy, depending on age, but usually the older you get, the younger you are it's more attraction and lust as to why you won't settle like guys you're in your sexual prime and will want to sleep around. but also women unlike men have a hard choice to face, keep playing the field or plan for kids, but we're back to the modern dating scene, everything's casual, everything's a fling..people are marrying less and settling later and later. Men especially are I should say because the juice isn't worth the squeeze, if it ever came to divorce the laws aren't even and we get our balls cut off. Even if you tie a guy down then there's the whole other situation of the guy keeping you happy, and you'll gradually most like get bored of him once he's made you comfortable and yearn to look outside of the relationship again and the whole thing starts all over again
You know I'm right ; )
So what am I getting at? both sexes need to keep their shit in check, grow up, and realise when they've got someone special on their arm even though they may not be 100% perfect if there's enough there for a commitment put the damn work in, cause we're making the modern dating scene a nightmare and life's short, both sexes pickiness to settle becomes their downfall. Looks fade, passion will subside, but unconditional love lasts , and do expect to make compromises, I'm sorry to tell you but a guy's job isn't constantly making the woman happy in fear of her leaving him, that's childish. So yea no one answer to all this. Is there hope for love, does love even exist? that's up to us.
Sorry for making this long winded, but if you're looking for long term commitment but can't seem to get it this might help shed some light, or if you know someone share it with them. Or if you already know all this, I'll shut up talking and go away now.
@@jaymcd8577 Put very well indeed
@@jaymcd8577 i didn't like the 1st half of your post, but then came the 2nd half.. Wewt!
@@alsillman7049 My post?
Why should men care? women don't care that we have to risk rejection or pay for dates they truly don't, in fact they demand these things of men.
gone with the wind fabulous lol unfortunately we have to spend on the ladies if we don't then men don't get what they want. It's just that simple
Women want good dick, fuck a man time for all his attention.
Men want money and pussy so we have to give in order to get.
Man up = femspeak for "shut up and do as we say."
You stupid ass. Women pay for their fucking makeup (+ nails, hair) and clothes (accessories, lingerie, perfume, shoes, purse) just to be presentable. Why do you take so much pride in paying a meal? You think we - women can't pay our own meal and just solely rely on you to fill our stomach? Seriously, the makeup we put on our faces properly equal or even more than the bill you paid.
Ayanokoji Oi, Tofu brain. Do you realize how stupid you sound right now?
Ayanokoji Not gonna argue with you, piece of trash.
My ex didn't want kids but a Mortgage...no thanks, bye.
Good for you. You're a smart boy
@shakhir r hah! nope other way round actually, bye!
@shakhir r contrary to popular belief, it's possible for men to leave women I assure you, especially when they try shit test you into not doing so, and you don't fall for it
@Brutus Tan sounds like buddy ; )
@@jaymcd8577 Yeah he’s here condoning the excess of the hubris and outrageousness of too many of the opposite sex and allowing and perpetuating society condoning excusing and enabling it against men. He thinks it’ll get him some or that he won’t be targeted next.
I see a lot of woman hating here and it is disheartening. Were you men not brought up by your mothers???!?! My mother did a lot more for the family and for us than my useless father ever did. And the reason why I am still a single woman at the age of 39 is because I am so afraid of meeting a man like my father that I never wanted to date. And when I finally dated, i met the wrong guys. It so easy for men coming here just to blame the women for being used cars and all that. Like guys can sleep around all he wants and nobody says a damn thing or bats an eyelid. But girls can't have that right? Jeebus, you guys make me laugh, so much hypocrisy.
vedwyr aw u poor thing, what were u doing during your 20s. So at 39 you've been living a pretty long time. What have you been doing all your life. Sweet princess or are you lying like most females and have finished riding the cock train and is on verge of becoming invincible, walking zombie looking for young sweet guys like me, To have kids with sorry but lots of men have taken advantaged of, don't assume all men are players and bad boys.
Women have all the power in dating game so the set up is not equal so why there should be equal results - its easy for women to get men and for men its hard to get women so using your privileged position should be same thing than others hard work?
@@Arandomuser3662 omg you are fucked up troll
Don't get caught because she wants a child. Both man and woman must be ready to have kids, simple
your life wud be ruined if u get caught
As a single man in his 30’s who does want children...if we say we don’t want children yet at this age, it’s not ever going to happen. Same with getting married. Whether divorced or never have found that person, ANY male by age 30 that is still “playing the game” will never ever change. It’s just male cognition and behavior, ladies, hopefully that saves you time and effort in finding what you want...
What's wrong with saying.. i don't know.. or not sure, everybody has their valid reasons
@@YardenZada
I want a family. But, I want to do it correctly.
Totally wrong! If you're in a relationship you have to respect and ensure that it will happen...and not walk away... childs are not oets whom you can bring back to the grossery store
@@charlesdc1233 by what decree in a Democracy does it say any person, male or female, has to “ensure it happens!?” If someone does not want to be married or ever have kids, that is their HUMAN RIGHT.
I don’t know where you came up with the metaphor of what I said being compared to taking kids back to a store like they are pets, though 🤦🏼♂️
@@collegebro85 THANK YOU.
I only date women below 30, i'm 34. That doesn't mean that I don't find them attractive, but for women in their 30s kids are a "now or never" thing, so it leaves you no time to develop a deep relationship with them before having kids. This really increases the chances of divorce while kids are young and just a lot of pain for everyone involved. So that is why I date younger women, because we have more time to figure out if we are suited for each other.
How long do you need to “figure it out”? Plenty of men date a woman for 4-5 years, only for it to be “ops, not the one. Bye.”
If you’re dating a 28 year old, she would be 33 by the time you decide you don’t love her.
Then you go back happily into the market, and she’s there starting over again.
Please don’t waste your woman’s time “figuring it out.” There are very specific characteristics you should look for in finding a partner. Most can be identified in 2 years or less if you pay attention.
Consistency of character, how she deals with certain situations, her core principles and values, etc
When a divorce bill comes through, let's see how kind each sexes will be to each other, mate, that was a beautiful Oscar nominated speech right there!
haha these comments cracking me up a bit. Thanks for the laugh
LOL
Your bad divorce has nothing to do with this video.
Ask about her college years. I bet there's plenty of Chad and Tyrones.
What do Chads and Tyrones have to do with the video man?
Ask him about his college years, bet there's plenty of thots. 😂 silly argument. People love and are prone to mistakes
You’re self conscious and it’s smelly.
@@whathappenedwas7083 no it isn’t. Men are valuable if they can get sex because it’s an accomplishment. For women it is precisely the opposite because literally almost any woman can get a line up of guys willing to have sex with her
@@ianoua3161 Are you a black woman?
Matthew is pandering to women in their 30s obviously. Did these same women give any sympathy or compassion to the men they rejected while in their 20s or prime years? I seriously doubt it. Women live through their 20s like a hot flash -- on top of the world dating bad boys for sex and fun because they have beauty, youth, and fertility to offer and when they're on the decline in their 30s suddenly they will try to lock down a stable, hard-working, provider type. I advise all men dating women in their 30s to ask yourself this, "Would this same woman in her prime even give you the time of day?" If the answer is "maybe" or "no" then walk away. Don't settle for being someone's cuckold in a long line of sexual partners. If you cannot find yourself a youthful 20-25 year old attractive woman in the US, then spend your fortune traveling abroad to different countries throughout the world, learning new cultures, languages, music, and be adventurous while meeting beautiful women who will be willing to build lasting memories with you while they're in their prime so you'll value them when they're on the decline.
amen
I was seeing a girl and she just avoided properly dating so she could sleep with loads of guys. We got on and could of been a decent couple but that ruined it.
She said if we are still single when we are 30 or something we should get together. I agreed, knowing full well she would never have my respect again.
@@oscarshanagher1536 bro id get my dick checked.... stds
Why don't we just take care of our own dreams and let her take care of her own. If she really wants kids, she has them with that drunken guy with anger issues and then complains about him. Let it happen and just eat the cake.
@@oscarshanagher1536 it's "could have".. Not "could of"
Video title "How to make money off appealing women"
If there is a market for it, why not? Psychotherapists profiting off mental ilness, doesn't make it any less needed. And he seems genuine enough.
But he’s making money off of giving them what they want to hear instead of the truth.
@@todoldtrafford hahhahaah damn truth
@@todoldtrafford women want to be lied to, not told the truth. If he told the truth he wouldnt make money... so which one u wanna pick? Tell the truth and nobody listens or tell a lie and get millions of views.
Tri Le I tell the truth. I see it for what it is. Hussey is pandering to his audience and is giving women a false sense comfort. He knows that women in their 30s and up have bitten more than they can chew. He knows men have no obligation to commit just like women have no obligation to give away attention. Heck he’s dated women in their 20s and not the older women that he preaches to.
It is not even sane to bring a kid into this messed up world right now
The world's messed up? How exactly?
Yes there's a lot of suffering, but there is so much more progress.
Vanilla Guerilla, I agree.
@@LucidTrading lol, progress? With Trump in the white house?
So let's not bring any child in the world for another 100 years. See what happens. Extinction.... modern first world human are so delusional.
@@mdruhulaminshikder9295 not delusional, they are retards.
To the men dating women in their 30s..... Don’t. Save yourself the toxic hypergamy.
Brilliant!!!! I wish I could thumbs up your comment 1000 times over.
30s women don't get the luxury of being hypergamous. They have to get a hubby very soon before their ovaries are dried up . They'll go with the first half-decent beta who says he wants kids.
Naru , I get what you're saying but women have an insane ego. They all believe they are worthy of Leo dicapiro. They have filters on instagram and stored pics of them when they were younger. They can use these pics on dating apps and sites to get attention which will stir up their hypergamous nature. I'm glad men are taking the red pill.
Indeed. I was referring to the ones who swallow up their ego in my previous comment. The ones who don't end up being one of those 50 year old lonely ladies with too many cats and too many colors in their hair.
ronny slams I've wanted to do a video of real profiles on dating apps, to show how entitled women of all ages are. But unfortunately I still have some ethical bones in my body. Can't bring myself to call out real women. But for all those white knights and delusional fems, just know that words may mean one thing, but actions are louder and show more of who you are.
1. Vasectomy 2. Women get PAID with LOTS of your money to break up. 3. Women want to be the boss, and if you don't agree, YOU PAY. 3. If you stay together, YOU PAY.
4. You pay.
Laughing.
True shit
My girlfriend is in her mid 30's now and I'm mid 20's but neither of us are even thinking about kids. She's never mentioned it and when I asked her she says she's not interested at the moment. So I don't know what to make of it in the long term. She's a career woman and completely independent and I've recently gone back to school with her help so I can finish my master's. I live with her by the way and we've been dating for 2 years and we're getting along fine without kids and I don't think she feels any pressure at all to have them. But if she ever does I don't have a problem giving her kids if it's what she really wants.
You sound like such a good and kind man 😊
If women want kids it's up to them to ask the man well before they get to their 30's.
Too many women chase bad boys in their 20's then want to find a good provider in their 30's
Haha grow up! That's not true! I did not WHORE around in my 20s! Ugh this is such a tired arguement!
Then you could be the kind that does it once married.
Enigmatic Spirit, you have an avatar of a woman but quite clearly you are a man. Us women are not gullible.
+Liz: look more closely. I'm just a guy... who is easy on the eye.
Women like to ride the cock carousel in their 20's with broke beta Chad's and look for beta cucks with money in their 30's.
What if is the other way around? If the guy wants kids and you don't? Not everyone is a 'ticking clock woman'.
Maria Cristina Pedroza i was just gonna ask this!!! he needs to make a video about this
Isn't that obvious? The same as he said in the video: the guy should leave the relationship.
And this is even if he deeply loves her (unless he really wants her more than ever having children).
Well, do the same shit a guy should do. Leave.
Maria Cristina Pedroza
Then go away and live alone. What is your purpose in man's life as a woman if you don't want kids?
Love, companionship, a best friend, a lover, a supporter, a mother IF they adopt children! A partner in crime!.. What if your best bud that's a guy has his own life with a wife and kids? THEN where will you be??
"We play paintball, they play with live ammunition."
Good one.
I don't normally comment but, Matthew, thank you so much for saying this. It feels really good to hear it said out loud - for both men and women.
I'm a woman, and had to leave a man I dated for 7 years and another for 2 years because they wanted kids. I don't want them. I'm a career woman, and want that to be my only focus. I've remained single for 7 years because every single guy I met either has kids or wants them. It is quite a sacrifice to let someone go, instead of try to persuade them to follow what you want, but, it's worth it for them. Both are married and have beautiful kids. I'm happy for them, and don't feel I missed out on a thing. :)
Do you not think that you were being rather selfish, in being with them at all and wasting their time?
You see how she strung along these dudes and catches no flak
Delainey Johnson
You will once you'll be a dry fish inside and outside and no men will be looking at you with admiring eyes.
Except geriatrics.
Well she doesn't need men's approval. And she seems very happy and confident with the way things are in her life. I don't think I can say that with the majority of MGTOW or commenters on here.
You'll be a crazy cat lady
i have no interest in kids and never have at and now at 33 im in a spot where why do i wanted to ruin my mid 30s and 40's hell even 50s with a child
Kids esrly is good if you are lucky to have a virgin that treasures a good man. If not then having older kids is another thing.
@Awhol Lotta Whoopass
I'm 35. I'm on my own 2 feet. No dependants. Just enjoying what I turned into.
@Awhol Lotta Whoopass
😎👍
If she wants kids she should date someone who wants the same, she can make the decision to leave she shouldn't let her future to be in her partner hands. When im 35 im going to have kids, if im lucky to be in love with someone who wants same that would be great but if not i will adopt on my own, both women and men have no reason to not live de life they want.
That's easier said than done, I dated a guy first he didn't want a kid then he did. He said he wanted to be married for years and have a few kid's we did this for 11yrs to then find out he don't know what wanted. We broke up I loved him
I had my 4 kids in my 20 s and early 30 s. the joy of being young and strong when my kids wanted to be active and play sports was priceless. we can biologically reproduce into our 80 s but it is less rewarding when slowed by age.
That’s not true men’s fertility starts to go down after 40
@I Was Here Look at Arnold Schwartzenneger(used steroids and fucked himself up and still had kids at old age), and look at Harrison Ford. Each had children long after 40 and 50. The younger woman with the older man still produced quality, non-handicapped children who are studs. Furthermore, encouraging men to become fathers as soon as they can is a bit irresponsible, especially since they can almost never provide until their 30s or sometimes 40s--MEN BECOME FATHERS EARLY IN THE GHETTO ALL THE TIME.
PLUS men have a harder time getting dates, even if they are very attractive, because women don't have the thirst to bother men for sex all the time. Hell, I see 39 year old hotties cheat on their husbands with legit fat druggy dudes(who supply drugs). Come on.
@I Was Here Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger(used steroids and fucked himself up and still had kids at old age), and look at Harrison Ford. Each had children long after 40 and 50. The younger woman with the older man still produced quality, non-handicapped children who are studs. Furthermore, encouraging men to become fathers as soon as they can is a bit irresponsible, especially since they can almost never provide until their 30s or sometimes 40.
Try finding as many female examples of having kids at older ages. On the other hand, MEN BECOME FATHERS EARLY IN THE GHETTO ALL THE TIME, so having kids super early for men is not necessarily or naturally better. Really, there is less than half the pressure on men to have kids early than there is women, IF you defer to the study of nature and not politics.
The quality of sperm produced after a man is 40 being bad in any truly concerning way is played up due to some political beliefs of certain folks wanting an impossible equality. A man in his 40s who fathers children is similar to a woman in her 30s producing children. PLUS men have a harder time getting dates, even if they are very attractive, because women don't have the thirst to bother men for sex all the time, plus women have more to lose if they screw up.
. But yes, men have to compete harder to even date women, even if they are attractive, even with low-quality women who often demand more for the long-term than their worth. On the other hand, I see 39 year old "hotties" cheat on their husbands with legit fat druggy dudes(who supply drugs).
@@robotgirl552 it's basic science unless you are an uncultured swine
your sperm deteriorates. Sperm banks dont take sperm over 39. Sperm over 45 is 3 x more likely to cause schizophrenia
Soooo moral of the story is only date chicks in their 20's?
Hey guys, I stumbled on this video as well. Good to see ya
Naarh , just show empathy , sensitivity , understanding & responsibility ~ BOTH parts ! 👌 O:-) 😊 😀
@muhammad irpan " Men Going Their Own Way "... SERIOUSLY ?
Is THAT your best Communication form , Mr. Muhammad Ipan ? 😀
Think you kind of wanna work on it ~ before goin' ANY where Mr. Ipan👍 😏 😇
@muhammad irpan I feel sorry for you... Have a nice day Muhammad 👌😊
@@scottytaco not necessarily.
Many women were just studying, moving around either for studies or for work and barely dated one or two guys,some didn't even date.
Vasectomy without her knowing! Don't let her ruin your life!
She's going to be a future single mom anyway. You don't want that life guys. Child support, told when you can see your kids, and being denied the tiniest bit of respect.
So MGTOW is for men who have been burned by women, and are now bitter? And choose to ve alone? I'm murky on the details here.
@@biffii5568 No. Maybe I can explain it with another example.
Being lesbian is not about hating men or being bitter about men. It's about being with a women. MGTOW is about men going their own way.
Bitterness is feeling when you want something but you feel helpless.
MGTOW is about accepting/choosing that you are going your own way. So you couldn't be bitter. Otherwise you didn't accept/choose to go your own way.You wouldn't be in the state of mgtow yet.
There are just as many good women out there. We too have been burned by little boy men. I however chose to be sterilized because I actually want to live a life with a good man without the pressure of building anymore family members. Where ever I can find him idk. Only time will tell. Until then I attract what I think I deserve. I gotta work on me inside and out❤️
@Brutus Tan Brutus being brutally honest. Tu-Shay sir... Best Way to be! :)
@@down2earth136 right but the good ladies never gave good guys a chance. They wanna be part of the bad bois play list. Not our fault. You women had the choice, we men didnt. Theres a difference.
We gotta 'man up' for women who didn't want to settle/mess around in her 20s? and now she's missing out on her chance for something special. Come on, bro.
Props for not disabling comments on this video though.
I'll be blunt, the world doesn't need you if you think your job is to place others in a situation/life-situation of pain and suffering.
If your desires call for you to do those things, there is no doubt that there is something deeper within you that is corrupt.
If your goal is to hurt people, there is definitely something wrong... Not with the world. But with you.
Dreams don't have to be destroyed because of mental scumbags. Whether you're a guy or a lady, be prepared for the possibility that your significant other will stab you in the back. Keep that expectation just to be safe. We're all human, and there is no sexism against the cruel intents of human nature.
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To women, all power.
To men, all consequence.
MGTOW Red Pill will free you.
We ladies hit the wall much sooner. I don't think the power is on my side, lol. 💜🍺 cheers.
Everyone suffers the consequences
@@lauragraves4342 wrong, not only You have all the legal and social biases in your favour, but you fail to realize your power because as the liberals love to say, privilege is invisible to those born with it. Women are born rich and at her prime at 19 with the masses of men climbing over each other to get with her at your most sexual market value valuable, all UNEARNED. Men have never had that and always had to work and earn and that’s why we are born poor but (if we play our cards right and achieve and continue to achieve) die rich, as the expression goes. Women are ‘born’ with it without effort or work so that’s why she loses it inevitably. Men have to work for it and maintain for the rest of our lives, BUT OUR advantage is that it isn’t age or youth dependant. Late bloomers are always a thing because our status can be built and the high status male at 50 can get with (without commitment) the best 20 something women at their prime. Think it over
It's not about color or gender it about class. We live in a classist society.
Nice one Matt. I got out of a relationship in my 20s with a guy who wanted kids and I didn't, it wasn't fair of me to stop him from having what he wanted and it was the kindest thing I could do. I'd do it again. Last time I got into an LTR I asked him early on if he wanted kids just so I didn't waste his time, life's too short.
If a man loves a woman to this overbearing extent which he is describing, why on earth would he not want to have a child with her? Makes no sense
Because not everybody wants to have Kids, its that easy
“Men” today don’t make any sense. All they care about is their money which they’ll never enjoy anyway because they’re too busy making more of it. They’ll regret being 70 old sick and alone with no kids to visit them, no grandkids to love, no wife to take care of him. Just a old waste of life with lots of money in the bank.
Maybe he ain’t ready
@@Butterfly-fd6pr Trust me lol you do not want to go there. Men can be fine being alone when women were 18 ir in college they wasted their 20s on the wrong guys. 80% of the male population from ages to 18-25 are not sexually active. There are 80% of men who feel unwanted not only by women but by society because he has no value at age 18 to 25 he was alone. Now you expect a man to be with you when you wasted and ignore him in your good years hell no your not worth it. We are fine alone or dating younger brad pitt is 50 and dating 28 year old you dont want to play the long game women lol we are used to loneliness
@@doingsomething5084 Most men are not Brad Pitt, so do not plan your life around them. I highly doubt Brad Pitt was celibate between 18-25 - and the men who are, are, as I say, not going to suddenly turn into Brad Pitt. What a ridiculous example!
Man, it's guys like this that are the real problem. These are the guys that will stick up for women no matter what so they are not accountable for their irresponsible behavior. This is how third wave, modern, nazi feminism came about - cause of guys like him allowing it.
Dude... look at what he does. His entire business is making money off of desperate women, he can't talk bad about women, they're his customers!
The problem here is that women on their 20's (well...on almost every age but specially in the 20's, 30's) thought that the douches that they dated were the "partners for a lifetime" meanwhile giving a shit for the "nice guys" that could have been a better bet. I am not saying that a "nice guy" is synonym of a nice person, it could be a jerk too, but the characteristics of their behaviour tend to be the ones that you search so much: loyalty, security, sweetness, etc. So, women, think about this: "nice guys" also have a dick that can give you pleasure, and having a dick they have semen too that can give you descendents. ;)
Spider man, quite right! All women are queens after all. It's a good thing women have a brave man like you to protect their honor. ;)
jvam16 what about men, they treat good women like crap and treat the ones that use them good.
Mila only assholes treat women like crap which you sleep with. Many nice guys in your 20s fell in Love with you but you labeled him needy and friendzoned him. Then you f'ed the guy who treat you like crap
1:00 as a man in my 30s, I do feel the pressure too. But it is less physiological. It is psychological. I don't want to have teenage kids when I am in my 50s. I want to be healthy to be able to be around them.
My dad had me at 58 😅
@@Brenda-ny1gw Wow dad was a late bloomer. We are grateful to him to have you in this world, though anyways
These people in the comments are super petty. It's about maturity and respect, good message.
I think r/incels linked to this video or something 😂
Super pretty
@anon2k10 Exactly. Do the opposite of what this guy says. Eye for an eye.
MrNightpwner yeah like family law respect equal men and women, right?
They're part of the red pill/MGTOW cult. They spend hours in online communities where they are constantly brainwashed and anyone who strays from the dogma is quickly brought back into line. Where bitterness and malice constantly fed. Often, they are encouraged to cut themselves off from anyone who isn't "red pulled". They've bought into a ridiculous narrative that flies in the face of facts and reason and rationality. They cling to it even though it makes them lonely and miserable. I know a few men who got out of it (and now have much happier lives as a result). However, people still caught up in it can't be reached through reason, any more than a flat earther or a cult member or a neo-Nazi can, because by becoming a part of this cult and buying into an irrational worldview, they're thinking has become so distorted that they no longer have normal functioning and anything you say is taken as confirmation of their worldview. In the past, I've tried to reach out but I gave up a few years ago because I learnt that it was pointless, especially if you're a woman. Even if you get through to them somewhat, if their fellow red pillers / MGTOWs find out, they tell him that, no, red pill is The Truth, and she is just lying and manipulating and/or is delusional.
The most tragic part is that underneath the bravado they're quite sad and lonely and frightened but instead of improving their life they've gone down a path that makes their life worse and might actually ruin it. Some of them have been in abusive relationships and have gone this way instead of learning to be more assertive, have better boundaries, make healthier choices and understand that while there are abusive women out there most women are not abusive. In the end, they either have to get out by themselves or someone they know (e.g. family) have to help them get out. Until then, you're not going to get much sense out of them because they've been rendered incapable.
So it's men's responsibility to leave because a woman can't make that decision? Lemme ask you this: *what are women responsible for?*
Exactly is she incapable of leaving?
It's not because other people (including a lot of women) are irresponsible that you should be irresponsible too. Always be the best you can be!! Which is very different from being "nice" "pushover" etc. True kindness comes from strength and power.
Nothing, obviously.
Nothing, obviously.
+MrTresto
this isn't an issue of "tit for tat." it's an issue that, no matter what, the MAN is responsible (for whatever)
Thank Matthew! That's what I wished my male friends in college to understand. They told me to relax, enjoy life and focus one thing at a time, like job, habit or sport. I tried but it's hard. I realize I can't live the same lifestyle as them.
Well, it’s obvious! If you are not a man you can’t live as a man!!!
I'm a man in my 40s and done having kids, and that's why I date post-menopausal women in their 50s, so that women in their 30s can do their thing and have kids.
nico3641 their awesome raw dogg no unexpected pregnancy
That's disgusting bro
@Abel B. Women in their 20's don't want men in their 40's unless they're rich , don't fool yourself bro !
@@TheLindaDZ What do you mean by being rich ? The man Just need to stable financially, and be in shape
Your banging old blood, taste some fresh meat
a woman in her 30's is settling (out of desperation) for u ... she won't ever be happy with u and she won't ever make u happy (and she won't even try to make u happy). guys u deserve better
God damn fuckin true
It takes several years to get to know a girl... at 30+ does she have time to get to know you?
Both of you selling yourselves short than. B/c my man is 24 but grounded and mature. Honest n got that 24 yr old libido! He’s a man! That was raised right. Too many allegations. If you love, you love!
I’m 37! My bf is 25! We are sooooo happy
@@aleksandrat9184 that's really great for u, u are really lucky and I hope it continues to work out well for u.
But in my opinion/experience of all the women I've dated the ones in their 30's have been the worst... most neurotic, most baggage, least attractive, least attentive etc
there's always exceptions to rules but the general rule stays the same
Don't just assume all women want kids. Talk to her first instead of taking this advice and running away and ghosting her because you think she might want kids.
Perfectly fine if shes 30 but not if she's been sexually experimenting with men freely then suddenly wants to impose standards on good men. Like a low value stock that wants to be sold for double the price. Good men aren't stupid and naive.
@Kirsty Birsty 1st what constitutes a good man?..he can't have political science degree and work at home Depot and live one bedroom apartment...the basics doesn't cut it, he needs more money or a higher income. 2nd he needs to be a leader that other men respect an alpha that other woman wants, so he has to develope himself well enough...I think you need at least that to be a good men...if he is missing one of those two she wouldn't settle with him while in her 20s cause he wasn't yet made... Now after more then a decade of screwing around with different guys from her teens and 20s coming to him saying she wants kids and marriage maybe unacceptable to him. Go tell it to one of those 60 guys you sleep
Slept with... Now It's his choice if he doesn't care about that and just want to build a future with you.. Now again 30 is not the problem, but most girls in their 30s not married has just been hoping from Dick to dick and a lot of guys care about your past...a lot don't care though nowadays ie: male feminist so these woman still stand a fair chance
@Mortal Silence I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. The people who judge you based on age when you've been caring for her are stupid ignorant, ignore them. The only problem men have is with toxic females. It's never your age that's an issue but rather what you've been doing with yourself in your youth. A good man will know this. Too few women these days display good character like you have, and that's the problem.
Qui3t Storm Really ? Like men don’t subject women to domestic violence, stalking, rape or misogyny?
@@MelaniaRose Of course there are toxic men out there as well as women. The problem is there are too many women who are willing to actively date them. Do you honestly think there would be men who displayed toxic traits if no women wanted to deal with them? No way, those men would be societally forced to be better.
@@MelaniaRose nice try women have always been protected and cared for by almost all societies when compared to men. And women have never had it better now. You sound like you’re guilting or trying to guilt society today just looking for special treatment because of your sex
I'm 22 and lost the only man I've ever loved to this. I was hurt, but grateful. He was older, had kids already and knew he didn't want more. And I do. I am thankful he left, I don't think I'd be strong enough to do so.
Uh plenty of.older guys without kids why him?
I left my ex fiance for this very reason. He didn't want to settle but wasn't even breaking up. He microcheated on me over the last 6 years and then one of our best friends told me that he asked her on a date. So that was the last straw. I called him up and broke off. I do feel lonely and I have not been able to meet men but I have a high hope.
I experience the opposite situation. I'm a (nearly) 34 years old woman, and know I don't want children. I always discuss it in, as no need to go deeper in the relation if we don't have the same views. The main reaction that comes back EACH time: "I'll be the one to make you change your mind." Instant red alarm that moves you from the potential case to the jerk case. I don't want to change my mind. It's not a game, nor a car purchase. I made my decision very carefully and never been so happy since.
I completely agree with everything you said.
Its been 5 yrs since this comment. You're 39 now. Do you regret your decision?
@@sonicjetson6253 Nope 😊
@@melilondon I'm curious how you're going to manage when you're old and frail. Eg. In case of an unfortunate hospital stay.
@@sonicjetson6253 Well, seeing as nearly 40% of people in care homes & hospitals barely have visits from family and friends or no visits at all, I don't think this is a valid reason to have children
This is a great topic Matthew! Both sexes have to be aware of what they truly want when it comes to children. Assuming it will naturally lead there is not a smart thing to do. You need to have the discussion in the earlier stages of a relationship. I don't mean the first few dates but you both need to be on the same page for the future. I know many 30+year old women who want children but only date younger guys who aren't even thinking about kids. Knowing that your partner is sincerely on the same path as you is very important!
I guess a big problem is alot of women think they don't want kids until they hit around 30 and then a switch is turned and they start looking for a man to settle down with. The problem is most men in her age range are going to want to date and settle down with younger women. Women who will have less relationship trauma and less fertility complications with having a child.
I think alot of women are lied to about pursuing careers. Sometimes I can't tell if this was actually the freedom women wanted or if they were just used and abused by the capitalist system to extract the most labour from women while they are still in their prime. I don't know, maybe i'm off base :/
na i whipe my a** with what women want. I keep wasting your time
I adore you for saying this. So many men KNOW they don't want a future with a woman but out of ego and selfishness - will keep her to themselves - thinking they have all the time in the world to play. But in actuality, they are keeping her from having the thing she desires most... motherhood and a family of her own. I'm not blaming anyone but I am saying, at the moment a man knows he doesn't want that with her, he should let her go, in HUMAN DECENCY so she can at least have that for herself with someone else. There is a time limit for women. Human Decency...
amen!
hold up hun. I know alot of women that refuse to accept the red flags. whether it's because of ego or time..idk..truth is she shouldn't let it get that far. she ignored her gut and let the resentment build. then the guy knows it's a matter of time before he gets dumped so he starts off new applicants for a a new gf while cheating on the old one. women need to start holding themselves accountable for their bad choices.
yeah...." the wife material women" you speak of is according to YOUR standards. Have you ever considered that maybe men have a different idea of "wife material" or if they want it at all?....
ATTAGIRL1814 This is why men don't want to date women in their thirties. They try to pressure guys into marriage and kids right away, with no time to build or enjoy the relationship. They want to be married and have kids as soon as possible. They wasted their twenties, their youth, on bad boys and thugs, and are now expecting these successful men to take a raw deal and pay double for another guys sloppy seconds and fucked up thirds. Stick to women in their twenties if you want to enjoy being with women in their peak years, without being pressured by their clocks. Its not the guys fault that they waited so long, don't put the blame on them. Fellas, avoid these women that have already hit the wall.
@JohnSmith 1. Lots of men date women in their 30's. You and your friends don't make up the majority of "men." 2. Women in their 30's do well dating men in their 40's who ARE ready to have families. Oh my goodness there is a whol entire age group of people who actually are "past the playboy phase" and want a family. Who knew??? 3. Just becuase a woman is ready to have children doesnt mean she is going to pressure someone she doesnt know in order to do so. I don't know where you're getting your information from, but that is NOT what Matthew said and its not the truth. You have a chip on your shoulder and you're assuming you're more important than you are. There are sperm banks for women who want to have a child. She doesnt have to resort to being knocked up by a stranger. 5. Matthew's point was "consider othrs and where thy are at in life when dating them. He is calling on men to b decent. And you're rejecting it. That is comical to me. 6. If someone you dated wanted to marry you and have children, that's called "falling in love and wanting a future." Its normal. If you don't want the same thing, keep it pushing. But your negative attitude suggests you have your own mysoginistic thoughts and ideals on women and not an ounce of empathy for what someone who is 30 and unmarried might be feeling. So here is a clue. A woman who DIDN'T "waste her 20's whoring with bad boys" as your one dimensional characterization suggested, but rather spent it "traveling the world, obtaining several degrees, bettering herself, achieving career goals, developing a business and a personal brand and experiencing and enjoying life, is ready to settle down and have a family. Why you chose to demonize that and make it a bad thing, tells me more about your personal experience and your personal resentments toward women, then anything else. Bitter much? By the way, it sounds as if you think you're a catch. Your attiude suggests different. Men with empathy are desirable, not men who are the center of their own world, have negative, angry, chips on their shoulder, and assume that every woman who is NOW interested them was someone who previously encountered a bad boy or would have rejcted them. You need to heal from whoever rejected you. No woman wants a man who just wants to use younger women to have sex with, because he needs to work out his past rejections by using someone so he can feel superior.. Yeah you're right. You're just what a woman in her 30's is missing out on and dreaming about. Shoot... what a catch!
in the #MeToo Era - who is still dating women? - much less in the 30 year old range
SeeBoris Go! Are you gay? Is that what you're telling us?
Do you buy every car you test drive, rent or Uber ? Grow up.
SeeBoris Go! Many woman are going their own way too, in droves.
I think it's clear that sexuality is not a choice because otherwise nobody after #metoo would fuck with men.
Dude that's a vocal minority.
I once had the reverse. When I was a lot younger my first bf was 5 years older than me, we were really happy, together for over 2 years. Then he started to talk about getting a house and children and I wanted to go to university at that time. In the end we parted ways, shortly after he married and had 3 kids. It was hard but in the long run the best decision because I could not at that age, give him what he wanted.
and where are you now. single, childless, older and maybe on some type of anti-depressant. Now your older its harder to get a suitable partner that wont lead u on. Society has lied to you and your a product of that lie thats why your watching this video
@@doingsomething5084 dude, what's your problem? Learn how to spell before you comment on another's person's life.
@@doingsomething5084 Your comment is pure projection. Women are people, just like men. They do not all want to marry and have kids by the time they turn 21. Nor do they need to. Society has lied to YOU and YOU'RE a product of that lie, that's why YOU'RE watching this video. Get a grip and get a life.
@@doingsomething5084 after your comment it seems like you re on anti depresants. Women dont owe you sh*t but babies? Get a life pos
@@doingsomething5084 Dude, what's wrong with you?
I love this video 😍 I actually asked my man if he wanted kids the first time we went out. I found the right moment and took it. I didn't put words in his mouth... he told me... yes I do, I want 3 kids... now... we have been together for 9 years and have 3 beautiful kids together ❤❤❤ If I had never asked him that, then maybe, just maybe, we wouldn't have been here today ❤
Nice story! But I would have run away if a woman asked me about having kids on the first date even though I may want to become a father one day. XD
Senia, thank you. Thank you for replenishing the population some more. You probably made beatuiful kids. You have beautiful dark hair and eyes like me?
All the 'alpha males' over here in the comments section are really proving their level of maturity. I love it when some 28 year old guy, who would be terrified of raising children is saying something like "Well women should just have 'worked it out' in their early 20s" Yeah dude. It's that simple. I love when people who have no idea about what this problem is like start lecturing people who do have the problem about how they "should've handled it".
Ohhh boy... ok let's break this down.
So you're telling me - little ol' me (?!?!?!) - that I could go out there right now and "score a decent man"? Golly gosh, I am flattered sir! I was certainly not aware of that fact before you so graciously informed me. Shockingly though, I have heard from several sources, that when looking for a man with whom one plans to spend their entire life, with whom one intends to raise a family and do pretty much EVERYTHING with, one should look for more than someone who is simply "decent". Just a thought. But wow, I sure am excited to know that I can go out there and randomly find a man who would deign to consider dating or even marrying me.
Secondly you're saying women hit the wall age 28 and I've seen thousands of men who speak the way you do; so basically what you're explaining is that within a couple of years of having her first child, a woman will "hit the wall" and, driven to horror by her waning beauty, her husband will either find a younger, more naïve girl privately or seek a divorce in order to do that, OR (even more fun) spend the rest of his time with her regretting and resenting her very presence, fantasising about his secretary and having sex with her as rarely as possible. What gal wouldn't be enticed by that opportunity? I know right? I find especially appealing, the idea of meeting a man who talks about me the way men like you discuss women. I can clearly see their capacity to actually treat a woman as a person and to love her as opposed to seeing her as a car doomed to crash into a wall before a third of her life is over.
Thirdly have you met a 25 year old man? I have, I've met many in fact and I can say with perfect certainty that the vast majority of them are not ready to have children. Some of them may even *have* children but they certainly aren't ready for them which causes huge distress in their lives and the lives of everyone around them and most importantly affects their children's lives and upbringings. I hate to throw out crazy theories like this but did it ever cross your mind that perhaps a 25 year old woman may be just as ill-prepared, feel just as nervous, be just as incapable as the vast majority of 25 year old men in our society today? I know, I know, what a crazy thought.
The carousel metaphor is really cute, I thought it had died out years ago though. Boy is it completely idiotic. You see, generally speaking a carousel is a ride upon which one embarks voluntarily, which moves rather slowly, which is pleasant, and which does not generally irrevocably alter one's entire life within a very short, confusing span of time.
See this is what happens when a woman is around 20 nowadays. She has to frantically cobble together a life plan. This is because she knows that if she fucks anything up too badly, one of two things may happen: Either she ends up missing out on the one thing that may possibly have been the thing that would have given her the most joy and meaning in her life OR she ends up saddled with a child (or children), a husband who thinks about women the way you do and no serious capacity to earn money.
So you know what, sweetheart the next time you discuss the things you see as "simple" in life how about you just stick to things you actually experience, and shut the fuck about the things that you don't? Great.
Sara Tansey, perfectly put! Thanks for putting the idiot well and truly in his place 😂.
It's not passive aggressive, it's explicitly aggressive, much like the response I replied to, and your response is actually the one "depleted of any arguments", quite overtly. In my response one sees quite clearly that there are several arguments, none of which anyone responded to, especially you. I never said it "wasn't possible"... It's like you didn't read what I wrote or don't have the capacity to respond to it...
@BigLBA1 so a woman shouldn' t think abot her work and her fun, should only think about marrying? what a fool!
If you really want to have kids by 35 then stop wasting time and only start looking for marriage at 30. Don’t procrastinate! Simple as that
I dated the same man for 16 years starting at the age of 20. He was 10 years older than me. He kept telling me he wanted kids and marriage “someday.” I would have done anything for him. I wanted a life with him. I loved him. Before you go thinking that I’m a dog, I’ll clear that up right now... I get my share of positive comments from men. I stay in great shape, too. Almost a year ago now, it finally dawned on me that he didn’t want anything more than to live in Neverland. At the ripe old age of 36, I realized I deserved better than to be put off. I’d rather go out and live my life on my own than scramble around for the crumbs someone throws my way. He was the one who got shocked and upset at the fact that his “piece” finally grew a pair to leave him. He is the only man I’ve ever been with and I’m perfectly content with the idea that he will be the last!
Wow, there's a lot of very bitter, angry men on this comment thread- just because you're being told be be decent human beings. No one cares what you think of older women, no one cares that you only feel able to date women you can have some control over. Keep it to yourself.
Oh yes, I was quite forgetting - women should just be quiet when being insulted by dirt bags who can't get any women and have to make up spurious reasons as to why that is X-D sure, pet.
Never date women older than 22, research microchimerism.
I know I'm lol'ing so hard damn
Have you thought that maybe women who are in this predicament weren’t decent human beings and that’s why there in this situation ?
Matthew is skirting around THE REAL issue here, and we all know what it is. It's not men's responsibilities to enable women, because that would mean we have to treat them like children. Women alone are responsible for their child bearing decisions. In fact, SOCIETY has enabled women to delay that decision, not men. With liberation comes responsibilities.
When women are at their BEST childbearing years, early to mid 20s, they spend those years partying, drinking, screwing bad boys and wrecking their body with birth control.
Then in their 30s they suddenly realize they are about to get barren and want "the nice guy"
Any smart man won't settle to be some girl's sloppy 2nd, 3rd 4th 5th...50th. When he approached her in her prime years, she rejected him in favor of the cool boys, but now she wants him, after she's been wrecked, her soul is crushed and her plumbing is a Chernobyl.
Walk away men!
Funny thing is, when the woman is "barren" that's the only time the "nice guy" has a real chance with her😂 you prove yourself in your comments lol
No decent woman would ever be interested in you guys, trust me on that. You make us sick!
As a former PUA and a current MGTOW who is working towards enlightenment in all aspects of life, I approve this message. Don't mess with another human being's feelings. So many men are bitter and are no better than feminazis. They say "eye for an eye" yet no one wins with that attitude. There is so much good you can do in the world with a better attitude that it's beyond sad to waste it complaing about the opposite sex.
Conrad Helix, very well said! 👏 Only why are you still a part of MGTOW?
Because I am still going my own way. I don’t hate women and I get along with them but I just don’t have a desire to be in a relationship with them or sleep with them. If I found someone that just wanted to be FWB then maybe. However, I feel like, eventually, someone gets hurt and I don’t want that to happen.
An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.
I used to be a migtow but now in a long term relationship and I 👍 Conrad helixs message
Good for you for being reasonable. It's hard to find people who are not extreme on one side or another.
I actually cried when u said "lets be kind to eachother" its so difficult these days and its sad that we have to learn about relationships through internet.
It's becz that the kind of world we are living inn. Chasing over materialistic thingss. But, do u really cried for what he saidd?? Literally
keep crying. karma is a Mother Effer. you all want to be "kind" after you´ve been unkind to others. your punishment of misery is just starting
Good message you share here! No one will give you back the time you lost in a relationship that Leads nowhere. If you don’t have common goals then don’t drag things on forever just because of convenience.
Women are alone, and childless because of their own actions. It's called "consequences".
Here's an example "if you do 90 in a 45, you're going to get a ticket".
The action is doing 90 in a 45.
The consequence is getting a ticket.
Get it?
It is crazy that a man telling a hard truth is considered courageous these days, but it is. Great video, it is time we wave the white flag and stop the war between the sexes. It is nothing that we want more than each other so we must find a way to get along in a healthy and honest way.
Totally! It's not about which sex is better than the other - we're meant to cohabitate. We're sharing this earth and both sexes have pros & cons - let's just live this life as joyfully and truthfully as we can 💚💜
It goes both ways with telling the truth. People are afraid to tell the truth or want the short term gain of lying.
It is not a personal point when so many men have shared same experiences to the point that there are hundreds of thousands of online social media talking about this issue of women having fun then "wanting to settle/grow up" with a dude that experienced rejection his whole life. What, NOW you want to settle and be mature? There's a real imbalance currently going on where the women get to have fun in their younger years, having sex or validation with whomever they want, then they also get the privilege (gasp i know right) of settling with a male that has been working hard to provide for a possible family. The men these days know this and, because they respect themselves, refuse to be 'settled on'. This is why a lot of women are getting pissed off because they can't have their cake and eat it too anymore.
wow what a generalization of men and women. It's as if you've encountered every woman on the planet who put themselves in that predicament. Fact is: women have a biological ticking clock and they know it. Men don't and they know it... or do they?
Christy Reserva Absurd how moral posturing and attempts to disguise truths as "generalizing" is so prevalent at censoring reality. Sad.
Men and woman need to be honest and realistic with their current goals in life and understand that sometimes you will meet someone who will not be on the same page with you.
BUT that's ok.
Exactly. Honesty in the beginning is the key. If they don't want children or a family they should make the things clear. It is unfair for us. It's not right for me, when they make the women "waste her time" in a relationship that will never go to a next level. It is a pity that the majority of guys on nowdays think in the same way that many guys on this comment chart. It seems that they expect that we accept things with our mouth and eyes shut. It seems that they don't see us like human, just like a object.
Jéssica PS you know why they think this way?
@@Jessica_BR Women in their 20s play games with men, are always indecisive and make things difficult for men, so why should men make things easier to them once they are in their 30s?
@@__a6290 You said it.
@@Jessica_BR Why should we have any mercy or consideration? We as a whole, never received any back in the day before we had hit our stride and prime, from your side, who were at the peak of your feminine looks and used it to manipulate, lie, cheat, and take advantage of us while your side (majority not all) chased the bad boys: irresponsible deadbeats, neck tattoos, gangbangers, married cads, drug dealers. And now that we are hitting our stride you expect us to NOT return the favour, and TAKE OUR TIME? We gotta work on YOUR Schedule. Hence why I encourage eligible straight modern men of today to NOT settle with our counterparts. The exceptions to the rule are too statistically insignificant in number to try anymore, at least as it stands now. Maybe Gen Z can turn it around
Really good point. When men are dating women in their 30s, they should be aware that women are heading/looking to a more serious relationship. And thinking about kids is one of them.
Connie Zabala that sounds npble but do you think women should have men's interests at their heart as well? Or faq what they want!!
I am a broken heart, rejected, too nice, a good friend always only. She knew my feelings for her, I confessed that, unfortunately at the time she was struggling to force herself to stay with a manipulative thuggish criminal boyfriend who was serving time. Then they broke up, and she still knew my feelings while she dated several other narcissists, my heart in pieces, yet I never pressured or pushed or hated, to remain her friend always, her rock whenever she needed. Some would say a loser, a weak fool, probably right, but the turmoil my heart and soul have been through, is that weak? I love her so bloody much, I still desire to be a father and lifelong partner, to have a purpose for living, I'm 36. My point I guess is that I've always been honest about that desire and yet noone wanted me, and now I don't want myself, I just want to sleep and never wake up
Negative One you are a human being. I like your honesty. But you should try moving on to better women, you only get one life so don't waste it.
Man, the MRA incels are really pissed off at women.
Have you tried *being a good person* and not blaming women for all your problems? That might help.
i'm 32 and i knew i didn't want kids since i was 8... i enjoy being a student of life more than anything.. ironically I keep meeting men who want kids...?
cord-so is there a committed relationship with actual intimacy in your plans-or is your life going to be an endless series of men seeking offspring?
bademoxy i am in a committed relationship with someone who doesn’t want kids too, thankfully i found him a year ago :) but before things sucked a bit
I am single and dont want kids.. We should chat...
Try being told your "dream" is unrealizable unless you give someone the right to at any point walk away with half your property, income and custody of your children, you have a biological timespan, for us is not even an alternative anymore, and now you want empathy? LOL
thats what i did i left the guy , maybe i wont meet right one who would want to have kids and family with me - thats ok , but staying with him would deny me opportunity to meet that person. that is being honest and mature .
Curious if you met the one yet?
This video should be a PSA to all dating apps. Saves a lot of time and heartache for both sides.
Thank you, Matthew. I hope more men think like you 🥹
So many insecure men lately. If you had a bad relationship it's because that woman wasn't for you. Some men disappointed me but I just learned from each relationship. Sometimes we look for things that were never there in the first place.
Leeloo Dallas if there is insecure men I bet the crew up with a single mom.suck it up buttercup
Leeloo It’s not worth it for eligible straight guys to even try to settle and build with our dating pool. The good ones are exceptions too statistically insignificant in number to try. Because most are so enabled to be self centred and absorbed they are unfit.
Bravo, well said Matthew, Some people don't see this at all... I am so glad you have posted this....
mhaa...im a female i could have had a kid before 35 and i didnt....oh well...less money to spend and stress
Ok, but sperm isn't immune to aging. Just as a man can have a child in his 50, A woman can still too as long as she hasn't gone through menopause. Doesn't mean either is good or healthy for the child or parent.
The figures about men, age and fertility
The average time to pregnancy if a man is under 25 is just over 4.5 months but nearly two years if a man is over 40 (if the woman is under 25).
There is a five-fold increase in time to pregnancy if the male partner is aged over 45 years.
For couples having IVF, the risk of not having a baby is more than five times higher if the male partner is aged 41 or older.
The volume of a man’s semen and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80.
The risk of miscarriage is twice as high for women whose male partner is aged over 45 than for those whose partners are under 25.
Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.
...& what's the time for 45 yr olds when trying to make mouth babies?
The kid need a father not mistakin for a grandfather yes it's not good to have a kid when you are too old man have limits as woman do
Iono where she got her numbers... but its the womans job to.carry.the baby... the older she gets the higher the chance of miscarriage... not because of the mans sperm. Lols where the hell did you get this study? Medical field btw.
@@TriLe-nz4oq older the man's sperm the higher chance she can't even get pregnant. You can Google any of the facts I listed. Copy paste.
@dcosb09 2014...
Thank you Matthew. I’m really struggling with this. I have wanted to be a mother since I remember and think about it every day. I have had really difficult relationships in the past but I have finally found a good and kind man. I turned 30 last year. However, the pace this relationship is going is frustrating me. We started dating in July 2022 and officially became a couple in January 2023. We do not live together, he said it was too early for him. He is 33 yo and still doing his phD. This is his first real relationship. I have committed in a lease by myself for another year. Literally all my friends have children or are married now. At times I feel lonely. I would not want to rush him, but my biological clock is ticking louder than ever.
I left my marriage because I was under so much pressure from my husband to have a baby. Totally heart breaking but it was the right thing to do x
@@joys8634 yeah, do guys really want to have kids......I thought it was more the women and going along with what society expects. When there are so many men in their 40's/50's on online dating divorced with 3 kids....
Emma Garbutt Yeah the thing is relationship are betab procreation is Alfa why would men invest so much time in. A woman if she doesn’t whant to give kids
Emma Garbutt Was having your husband’s baby too much to ask though?
@@rafaelgarcia6072 because they are attracted to her and have a good relationship with that particular human being instead of only thinking of her as a baby making machine
@@kc201310 the porpouse of marriage is to create a family husband wife kids !!!! there is no point in getting married if tgere are no plans to have a family you can live togueter and safe the problem ,
🚨 BLUE PILL ALERT 🚨
Bad advice...people are responsible for their own relationships and happiness in life. If she wants kids and you do not..she breaks up...you don't go being all mangina and leave her so she can be free to hook up with other men who might not be interested in kids either...
Then again...if she really really loves you...she might decide not to have kids because you are the love of her life and that is the sacrifice she is willing to make instead of you premature sacrifying your loving relationship.
you like playing russian roulette
Women don’t love men like that. If she can’t get the resource i.e. babies, then she will fall out of love for him and “fall in love” with the next opportunity.
THANK YOU
@@mwloos1 that’s is true
I am very open and understanding when it comes to relationship. The problem is man cannot live without another woman. I don't mean to generalized them but i am only telling based on my experience. Some men that when you give them their freedom they become abusive. So i chose to be single rather than staying on that toxic relationship. No matter how strong the woman is when that man is a fucking shit you would likely want to live alone.
That street goes both ways...
What do you mean he can’t live without another woman? You mean they want two woman?
Matt, I broke it off with my husband to pursue a career and stability in my life... We were alway pursuing his dream never mine or my happiness... I was the giver he was the taker... I wanted more!!!
I don't know why ANYONE would give the thumbs down to this video. He speaks total sense. It is the responsibility of BOTH to use contraception.
Also, prevent against pregnancy and STD's by using a Condom. Always!
The man I love with all my heart has done this. He told me he loves me, but it’s unfair to me if he can’t give me everything he thinks “I deserve”. (i.e. a family).
As shitty as this might sound, this is part of the reason why I don't date women past the age of 35. I do want children, but women past their mid 30s have pressure to pump out kids ASAP because the longer they wait, the higher the chance of complications. Meanwhile, I want to not only have kids, but also a marriage that will last a life time. Good decisions rarely are made under pressure, so I just don't date in that age group anymore.
Why would you even dating women in their late 20s and 30s
Don't waste the time of women under 35 either. I'm not suggesting you just leap to starting a family within a few months, but don't date a woman for years then realize she's 35 and you're now feeling pressured. If the thought of finding someone who wants kids is that frightening, you might not actually want them as much as you think you do - and you could be doing a lot of damage to a lot of women while you deliberate.
It must be nice to have that extra 10 years. Thank you for the empathy for women! :)
I'm surprised this comment doesn't have 10 thousand likes
Rassia Melo, let me ask you, do the majority of those deserve any of that empathy? Men are asking themselves whether the same woman would give us same men the time day back in their physical prime (20s) back before we had reached our social and financial prime potential (our 20s). Because if women didn’t want us in their prime, why should we pity the same women in their (biological clock) decline. If the answer is maybe, then it isn’t worth it being 2nd best option. If the answer is no then we just want you to move on. If the answer is yes then we still have a right to be suspicious.
Don’t get mad at us for being just as harsh to older women now as they were when we all were young.
Edit: Grammar
@@brutustantheiii8477 Many women are with the same man since their teens. High school sweethearts still exist. Do some women mess around until their 30s? Increasingly yes, but I believe this is because society tells them that is what they should do. There is a stigma against settling down in your early 20s for both men and women. I actually believe that the best option is for women and men to commit earlier to one another. That doesn't mean I can't empathize with people who make the opposite choice. No one "deserves" empathy, but it is a nice thing to feel. The world is a hard enough place without looking at everyone with bitterness. And dating someone you actively feel negatively towards cannot be healthy for you as a man. If you don't like older women because you believe they have made poor choices, don't date them. That would be my suggestion for the sake of everyone's mental health. Casual sexual relationships should still be healthy and ultimately positive.
Edited for grammar and clarity*
@@rassiamelo6076 Not sure if you are a man or a woman, but the point is that I tell modern eligible straight men not to bother with our dating pool, because of the terrible non benefits that are unique just to that pool. The exceptions or the ‘good ones’ are too statistically insignificant in number to try, and its numbers are vanishing with ever passing month, and even then can turn on you after the fact. Vanishingly small amount of people are willingly and happily and truly with their high school sweethearts for the duration that it isn’t even statistically significant in number. And sorry not sorry, IDGAF and NO ONE should care about empathy, least of all us modern eligible straight men since we never ever got any of it growing up until now. It’s not bitterness it is realization. NO modern eligible straight man can BOTH Understand and Love our counterparts at the same time. If you understand them, AND you understand the realities of our misandrist society and attitudes in society. you KNOW you can’t take a chance anymore.
And that’s the problem isn’t? Too many have the wrong head notion that men and women are identical and must be or else its oppression and inequality. And they prize women to Sleep around and chase the bad boys and let themselves be used up by the neck tatoo biker, felon, irresponsible ski instructor, yoga instructor, personal trainer, pool boy etc. achieve like men despite it being the EXACT OPPOSITE of what we want or what our dating pool should be. NO Man Cares about a woman’s status and career and earning potential, THAT is a woman thing. NO Man EVER WANTS an ‘experienced’ women, because sex is an achievement ONLY for MEN (a woman’s value is to LIMIT Sex to only the best, the precise opposite), NO man want a “power coupling”, we want PEACE and FEMININITY.
So my point is that for opposite sex are not being what they should be, and are wasting their 20s thinking they are building careers because that makes them high value. WRONG that is what makes Men high value to women. So they get ‘baby rabies’ when they realize they have a clock and are inherently unfulfilled working, in otherwords being something that MEN should be and are naturally suited to.
My point is, that there is NOTHING BUT Older past their expiration date in our pool. The others are being giving themselves up to be let down and think they can GUILT AND SHAME US, when we are both in our 30s and our side are achieving in status but their side are declining in looks and fertility, to settle for the mutton when what we want and can actually have a shot at getting is lamb (although maybe not the current pool) Gen Z is our soonest hope, hoping, that like the homeless Vietnam vet that dispels any recruitment propaganda otherwise, Gen Z can see past the female woke agenda (like army propaganda) and see the lamenting Bolde Article writers of all the wine aunts and cat ladies and their despair that will lead to depression and suffering (like the homeless Vietnam Veteran). And turn it around, if it isn’t too late for our society.
Thanks for reply back to me and have a good night, btw.
Edit: Clarification
@@brutustantheiii8477 I disagree with the part where you say that just because it is statistically less and less likely to have success with dating over time, that people cannot make the choice to take that chance. I believe there are still feminine women out there at every age, although it may be increasingly difficult to find over time. I also don't agree that women should be judged for doing what everyone pushes them to do. I also disagree that single men over 30 are much better. Most of the high value men are married by that point as well. Matthew Hussey is being generous with men when he says they have an extra 10 years, in my opinion. Taking those extra 10 years narrows a man's options significantly. I do agree that earlier coupling up is better for everyone. I also agree that society's priorities are completely off-base.
Yes. Guys can have children later but will they get a woman to give them a child much later? They still have to be able to get a woman to have a child. Most can’t even get past the first date so it’s not really a luxury. Each side has advantages and disadvantages. A woman that truly wants kids will know how to get them. The ones who did not, is usually because they are waiting for the right circumstances such as money or maybe they want marriage first or are extremely picky etc. but any woman that truly wants to be knocked up (and is healthy). Almost can easily do so.
The white Derrick Jaxn
Lmao
she should have thought about that in her early to mid 20s when she was best able to have kids anyway.
Exactly, women need to start taking responsibility for their actions and decisions.
Message to women: Instead of sleeping with bad boys and getting a career, get yourself a nice guy at an early age that will want a family and be a slave for you while your value as a female is still high.
Well BOTH people need to start learning to afford what they created!
+carlosb1 they need to bring some money to home...im a guy, i dont like being treated as a bank account
TENNSUMITSUMA stereotypical se ist. Like we don't have a choice n career n do as per losers like you do
That's not a reasonable statement. There are infinitesimal amounts of reasons that can interrupt a woman from having children at a younger age. Many of those reasons are typically not a choice at all.
I had to let go of two separate serious relationships because the guy wanted to have a family and I have always known I wasn't going to have children.
That's pretty bad because what are you going to do from your 40's to 80's?
@@fergoka she’s probably going to tell people like you to fuck off
@@fergoka live her life?? Wtf not having children doesn’t mean your life is over?
@@fergoka ask you to mind your own business ofc
@@fergoka if she doesn't have a kid, she has to work at least. That's sth to do. I have seen more women nowadays earns their own money foe retirement.
I am 28 years old women and I don't know why I get irritated when a man approach me. I don't know why I don't want to date someone. Why I fear relationship. Can u have any answer about this
I don't agree with putting this all at the man's feet. Neither men or women are responsible for the choices or the destiny of the other. Each has the free will to choose for themselves. If she want's kids and he doesn't, well, no one is forcing her to stay. Especially these days.
This is a very nice message for men who don't realize that women want children and their biological clock starts ticking after 35, so men should be more considerate to their girlfriends and put her needs before them if they really love a woman.
woman get used by (minority) hyper attractive men
blames all men for Everything
nature gifts for Men ( time)
(majority)average men start to date till 18 years, 21, 25 years...
nature bless men with TIME So that they can grow....
bulid financial stability, personality, Accomplishment , Confidence...
Thank you! I feel my boyfriend feels I pressure him but in reality I just want to feel re-assured that my timeline aligns with his & this includes marriage. At 31, yes am still young but I’m cognisant I have at least 4 years before 35 so I don’t want to waste time.
Me: 30 years old and single 😬
All I can read here is tons of bitter men 🤔🤔😅😅😅😅😅
More like freed men
More like warning others the trap that they are more and more likely to entail. Straight eligible men nowadays have no more real incentive since the other side have never been held to standards while we have nothing but. The ‘good ones’ are statistically insignificant in number because unlike men they are allowed to be
I like Matt's empathy in this video but...Why is there always an assumption that every woman 30 and older is obsessed with babies? Some women don't want to be mothers.
Why does a baby have to be involved for a man to want to marry? Who wants to die old and alone? Who wants to put off romance and growing with someone until their middle age? I don't have a biological clock or urge to push out a baby, I just don't want to get married during menopause and a fat saggy body. I prefer to age with someone starting in whatever "young" years I have left.
Dating Marraige and Children is a young girls game.
I have encountered the other side of this issue. 6 months ago my husband left me after 12 years of marriage as he wants his own family. I am 56 and he is 39. I am unable to have more children (I have 2 from a previous marriage) as I have gone through menopause. He started feeling that he wanted children of his own after my daughter had a baby in September 2016. He realised that being a step grandfather was not enough for him. I totally understand his feelings as I had 2 children of my own and know the pleasure and pain they can bring to your life. However, he left without even discussing the children issue with me and I found out a couple of weeks later. I have been left heartbroken and trying to move on. 6 months on I still have days of depression but on the whole I have made new friends and joined various groups to help me through this. Family and friends have been amazing and I know that in time the pain will diminish so that I can fully enjoy my life again and not look back with bitterness and regret as to how my life would have been with him. I can now see a better future. I have my own home, full time job and a two lovely children and of course a gorgeous grandson to look after.