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God is creating platforms and conversations for women in a beautiful way❤ I got married at 37 and I am so thankful for my single time. Solo dates, treating myself to nice gifts, keeping my home clean with pretty flowers and decor prepared me for marriage. If you are single, enjoy YOURSELF and love GOD through the journey.
Why haven't u started a platform for us single women. I am 23 and in my final year at university everyday God tells me to not awaken love b4 time. We need advice from u what are we to do to enjoy our single season. I don't wanna be single and thinking of marriage,i don't wanna be single and miss the moment surely it's great but how do we make it be great?
I met my husband less than 2 weeks before my 36th birthday. I was not sure if it would happen up to that point and did deal with frustration towards God about the very long wait. Some family/friends recommended that I even freeze my eggs, but I felt convicted to wait. I will just say that waiting on God was worth every second of what I perceived as delay. He was working throughout that time to prepare both myself and my husband for one another. I also did not have to “settle” at all and I got everything important that I prayed for and more that I did not know I needed. God even gave my mom a vision about my future child when I was still single, which encouraged me to wait. I will be giving birth in a few months to that child. I hope that this encourages anyone in their 30’s that is contending with God about their future marriage. Pray, watch and wait.
This gave me so much hope recently ending my engagement at the age of 34 to a manipulative abuser. I stayed longer than I should've out of fear and just wanting to settle down and start a family. Thank You!
I love these kinda of conversations. The struggle is soo intense sometimes, I'm 32 and I honestly feel my body wanting to make a baby. My hormones are all over the place, you just want that hug, that cuddle and when you are married you just that loving. It's sooo real. My thoughts sometimes are often unclean and it's hard. But I'm trying, and praying every night for God to help me.
You don’t want kids? No offense I believe the pressure for most of us is that part. I will be 33 in a few months If it wasn’t for that, I really wouldn’t care
@@Vavavoum-gr8 but now you are already falling into the pressure of having children, so you will settle for a man and have a baby so you need to be careful and stop letting society pressure you, woman are allowed to have children later, men will always seek woman who are desperate and not to be rude, you sound desperate
I just got married last month and I’m 32. I wanted to be married a while ago but I needed to work on myself. I lost 60 lbs, did some therapy, and my mother kept telling me start praying for a spouse. She was praying too unbeknownst to me. I moved back to Las Vegas (I’m from Atlanta), I got on the apps and met my husband by the end of the week. Prayer changes things. Gods timeline of writing my love story Moved back to Vegas: April 2022 Met my now husband: May 2022 Became official: August 2022 Met each others families: Dec 2022 He preposed: July 2023 We got married: Sept 2023 Please stay encouraged, I met my husband after 30. After watching others get married, instead of being envious I always said to myself “I’m next”. I just kept saying that. God changed my life in the blink of an eye. God bless everyone. ❤
I have stopped using social media because it triggers me so much I can’t watch people be happy in relationships when it’s something I desperately want 😢
Have you thought about about getting a cat? I've seen some of these types of videos where the women say they have a pet cat which helped them. It may help you as well.
Been avoiding this video for 7days thinking its same old story but after watching, it resonates with me. In my 30's, re-dedicated my life to Christ 3years ago, single and waiting on God for marriage. 2years praying for my future husband but sometimes the hormones are something else as I go older. I just want to feel loved, serve the Lord with him and carry his babies.
Just turned 30 this year! I’ve been praying for my husband since I was 16 years old. I always thought I was going to be married before 30, this year I was able to let that go and realize that God’s plan is not what I expected it to be. Waiting is hard, but having that little mustard seed of hope of knowing that he will do it for me one day and that it will be good! ❤️🙏🏽
I'm 32, single and celibate since 2016 and it's been hard... I resonated with: - knowing your identity and self worth in God - being excited to go on a date instead of scared, desperate and in a hurry to get married - sometimes the guy is good on paper but there's no spark/attraction/fun. - "just get on the dancefloor of life" : this is for me - your passion/purpose keeps you busy and joyful and this joy is attractive for a man - being open to being surprised and flexible with standards These are good reminders And I wasn't expecting Joy to be 47!
Celibate since 2015. I thought I was the only one also in my 30s. Sometimes I feel so left out and alone. I been trying dating but it's been alot of love bombing then ghosting and just disappointment. Trying to hold on to what I know is right. While trying to not be jealous of everyone who is just living their life. This seems like such a burden sometimes.
@@caribbeanflora2119 I defo feel the same sometimes especially when I meet a good guy I want to compromise but I think about Isaac and Ishmael and the consequences of doing things my own way, it's not worth it. Plus my mom and sis are single moms so I gotta do something different to have a different outcome. Felt very good to read your comment sis 💜let's hang on to God 🙏🏾
I'm a Muslim woman who's nearing 30, and I resonate with this so much! It gets easier to deal with societal pressures once you realize that it's always been you and God -- everything else is secondary. God will take care of you and guide you to what's best for you, so "get on the dance floor of Life" (as Joy says) and keep doing you! Everything's gonna work out for the best ❤
I LOVED this episode. People really don't talk about the challenges of being a single Christian in your 30s, it is very hard. I just want to encourage everyone to stay in the will of God and trust that he listens and he cares. This year I have been in a relationship with a non believer, I know for a fact this man is not for me yet I compromised alot out of comfortability and loneliness. I also broke my 3 year celibacy ( if I'm being transparent). My soul was genuinely conflicted each time I saw him cause I knew this man was not for me yet I kept forcing it and forcing it, I was warned multiple times and ignored. This ended up in such a horrible heart break and having to rebuild myself once again. Ladies it's not worth ! Stay in prayer, seek God and trust that he loves you enough not to let you settle. X
As a 44-year-old woman, I resonated with and appreciated this conversation. Yes, my identity is in Christ and my maker is my husband. Being both single and married is a blessing with different priorities. Maximize the season God has you in! Tfs
I am single for life. Not my choice. I am a literal eunuch and I will never marry. But I am sad that I am unable to marry when I see my brothers and sisters with their families and I will never experience this. I accept my condition, but I am not happy about it. My poor health prohibits me from being very active in outreach and other ministries.
Turning 30 next week, still single and my ever thoughtful big sis decided to share this video with me 😊 trusting GOD on this journey. GOD’S best is worth waiting for. It’s not easy waiting, but I’d rather wait than regret. Grateful to be surrounded by those who understand how it is to be single in one’s 30s especially as a Believer who’s trying to please GOD.
Happy birthday to you! I too was single for many many years and did a whole bunch of inner work before meeting my now boyfriend (and father of our two children) at 30. Keep believing and trusting, and allow God to do his magic :D
Saaaamme I’m 30 on the 12th and I feel this video was from God I’ve been really struggling the last two months of who I am but I am now praying more so for peace and to trust in God! Not to idolise a relationship but to find joy in everything praying without giving up but also asking God to reveal more of me to me so I can change and grow for my husband! We got this!
I love Delphine's responses. I could relate when she talked about her pressure... having lots of weddings to attend and then engagements etc. Currently in that phase. I am glad I listened to this. Thank you!
What a beautiful talk ❤ thanks so much for encouraging! I am 34, single lady and so far I have been trying to enjoy my singleness. There are ups and downs; I want to grow more in knowing Jesus and knowing His heart towards me ❤
Joy married at 39 is so inspiring. She seems God really made her in her singleness, just like he made eve.. The way she speaks, carries herself and matures is so MARRIAGE.
I’m crying ladies,, this is soo timely😢 you just spoke to a sister from across the world…. God has been soo good to me, financial stability, good academic achievements, loving family BUT my personal life took on a life of its own. Left pregnant by a man I was hoping to marry me. 3 years later, grew my faith, single mom with my boy who’s suspected of autism… been celibate for 3 years. Overall God me peace as I’m still navigating my healing journey
As a 32 year old single. Delphine has said everything I am feeling and currently going through. I could not understand for the longest time is why my secular friends were thriving and receiving everything that I’ve been praying God for for years.
I hear you! I think as Christians we sometimes feel entitled to marriage and struggle to understand why non-Christians get good things as well. God has convicted me of this and realised my ego makes me feel more “deserving” than others cause I try so hard
This episode just came at the right time! LOVED every second of this conversation. I'm 39 & single and I trust that God is navigating me in this modern dating era to find the perfect man for me 🙏
Women had evolved, but this crucial period has just been postponed from the 20’s to 30’s. I doubt it will go further to the 40´s as event if we improve fertility process, reducing a pregnancy risk is always better. I’m 45, happy in my coupe and had a beautiful son. We deal with 7 years of fertility issue, our journey to have a family wasn’t easy. But i have a beautiful family now. Our friends becomes parents way before us even if we were the oldest couple among our friends. That being said, our friends reach their mid-40 as well and they are mostly divorced and dealing with kids custody. Relationship is never easy. All I can say is, with the time I become more comprehensive and empathetic towards peoples as life is really 50 shades of grey…nothing is black or white.
1.When Eve met Adam, she was "whole" That's an intense truth. Our period of singlehood is actually a preparation stage for you to be who God wants you to be before He presents you to your partner. 2. The intentionality about dating. Wow 3. I can totally relate with the faith of the person being an important factor. I tell my friends my first look out is to know if my partner has the fear of God and a relationship. Because i strongly believe that anyone with the fear of God will treat his partner like Christ loved the church. Funny enough, most people don't agree completely with this and make it seem i will wait forever.
I resonate with Delphine so much, I am 31 years old I often feel so alone because I've been single and waiting for so long and it definitely is a struggle. I often ask God why I'm in the situation that I'm in because I've been faithful and waiting on him.
I absolutely loved this whole thing. This rush for women to be wives and not have identity or a life beforehand on their own is so common. Seems like we spend our singleness focused on marriage and then when women get married, they don’t even know who they are and can’t live without their husbands. It’s okay to be your own person while experiencing life with someone else. These conversations spark the new ideas🩷
Going to be 34 in another week, still single, still unmarried and no kids. No prospects. I have been praying and asking God to please bring me a mate. A companion, life partner and a husband. I also ask god to send me friends. The lord isn’t budging but it is okay because I am trying to grow in him everyday. I joined my churches praise and worship team so that I can apart of ministry. It feels awkward sometimes because there is not many single men and women at this church. And I mean completely single without children. I feel like some of the women do not want to get close to me because I’m single and they are married. No I’m not out for your husband. I am here for God. It is truly hard to be a single woman at this time. They are looking at me like you’re 30 with no kids or husband😮. I can feel it.
This for me has been one of the best episodes so far. I love how both women articulated and executed themselves during this conversation. So authentic and something many of us can relate to ❤👏🏾
I pray for healing🙏🏽. The fact that I’m still so upset right now whilst listening to this means I haven’t fully healed. Was with him through out my late 20s. I’m 30 now.. This video feels so real and therapeutic. Thank You ☺️
I am grateful to God for this community...to know I'm definitely not alone and that it's pretty OK to be content in one's single season and really just focus on God and oneself. I've learned so much and I thank you all for being transparent and honest ❤
I’m so glad this was such a POSITIVE conversation. Folks out there, I’m 31 as a Christian woman looking to jump back into dating. I went through a tough breakup and took time to heal and fall into God’s arms. He has filled my life so abundantly that I don’t feel dissatisfied. God blesses singleness and relationships. Make the most of what God brings, and fill your life with great community and fulfilling activities (all while pursuing God). If I end up never marrying I’ll be fine 😌 I trust God to provide through it all!!
I just turned 28! And oh wow I was greeted with,” you’re becoming older” by my mom and turning a year old made me go through a little downtime I should add but looking at women that walked this path is so empowering and motivating. Indeed God has a plan for all of us.
Thank you so much for this video! It’s really not talked about enough (most of the conversation is around just generally meeting people/dating, but not specifically about being in 30s). I am 34, run my own business, have always followed my heart, and travelled and lived heaps. Right now Im just taking a 15 day solo trip to spend a few days with my sister and niece, and also two close friends. However, when nights are quiet I also feel like I really want to have that person, and fear being old and alone. But this video gave me great energy - I love the black woman and her mentality - having the confidence and just living life on her own terms.
Joys name was divinely inspired! Her words brought me so much clarity, hope and joy! I was in tears through most this conversation, it really brought my emotions to the front and i finally feel seen and its very healing.
This was SO good. I love that you asked how you reconcile with God amid the frustration that comes with the waiting period. Such insightful, relatable stories that I needed more than you all know. Can we do a part 2!?!
I just turned 31 few days ago.. oh yes, being single in your 30s is challenging. The pressure is real. Looks like you have a terminal illness when you dont have a husband and child at this age. Same as Joy, I also loss 5yrs of my life trying to move on from a long term relationship
Sharing powerful stories in these conversations help women to feel seen and understood. Some seasons in life are gruelling. I loved listening to Joy and Delphine's lived experience is powerful. Great authentic episode.
I loved the optimism from Joy. However what I would say is, how a person deals with singleness also depends a lot on what else is going on in their life. It sounds like Joy’s life was already very full and successful which is perhaps why singleness was a positive time for her. It should be borne in mind that some people have a very different experience in terms of what else is going on in their life
@newid10 SO TRUE! Sounds like she was able to travel and “live her best life”. But for some of us there are financial, health, or other challenges that make the season even more difficult, frustrating, and lonely. When You don’t have the “distraction” of fun trips, a successful business, and a solid community, etc.- it can get really rough some days. There’s beauty in the solitude with God, but it’s not always a “fun” season.
But people have had the things she had and still been empty... I think no matter your position, pray to be content. Cause like she said if she begins to look down on her life and compare. It's equivalent to her not believing God has done right by her. And just cause someone carries something well doesn't mean it's not heavy you know.
Financial pressures and health issues don’t go away when you get married lol. Let’s not forget that you’ll bring those same issues with you into a marriage
@@flexster5385 you’re absolutely right. My point was that facing those things in a single season vs not facing those things in a single season can make the season more difficult. When you’re able to live your best life as a single (having successful entrepreneurial pursuits, a community of believers, finances, travel, etc.), you’re going to have a very different experience than a single who isn’t able to do those things (someone in an isolated season, financial difficulties, health challenges, wilderness experience, etc.). I agree with @newid10 that it’s important to acknowledge this. Some singles don’t have a season of “contentment” and fun, and that’s okay too. For some singles- the season is much more challenging and full of spiritual battles (just like for some people, their marriage season is much more difficult).
Thank you for an enriching and uplifting conversation around this. I so identified with so much of what you ladies shared, they're conversations that I have with my friends a lot. What we come to the conclusion is, that as you say, we are all wonderfully and fearfully made, and God has a purpose for each one of us. Our job is to live that purpose well. Of course, there are times when we can feel frustrated when our 'dreams' don't seem to come about, and have so many questions about it, but God always has better. I look on my 30s so far (I'm 37), and I can honestly say that God's plans are so much better than mine. He has given me so many opportunities to understand my identity in Him, to serve Him, to do so much travel and adventures, make wonderful friends, grow in my confidence in myself and who I am (my faith, passions, joys, friends, family, character), that I really do love my life, and realising also what I don't want to compromise on. I love what you say, about "operating from a place of abundance, not scarcity", because when I look at my life, I am blessed to have so so so much, all because of what Jesus has done for me, us all... I also identify about dating with intentionality when older. And it really is hard to say 'no' when a 'potential' relationship seems good on paper, but deep down, something in your soul doesn't quite sit right. Keep immersing ourselves in God's mighty Word, lean on His truth, obey it, get used to hearing His voice, and see where God leads. Then we will know that what is here right now in front of us, is right where we're supposed to be. God bless this ministry and all who listen, watch and read this channel! :)
I’m 33 and still single. Living with 5 dogs and I love my life, but there’s always this nagging feeling about me still being single at this age. All my cousins and siblings are already married, except for me. I also feel the pressure to have a baby as the “clock ticks away” 🙄 ugh. 😣
I'm also in my 20s and I'm grateful to have come across this episode. I've chosen to date with intentionality and put God first. It's not easy dating in this day and age.
What an inspiring conversation. I am really encouraged to start living my life and enjoying it as opposed to holding back on things because I think I could be married in the next X years. Thank you ladies for the gift of your vulnerability.
All the talks offer amazing insights, but I have to say this conversation resonated greatly with me. May God’s grace us with the capacity to maintain our integrity, dignity and faith as we wait for Him to transition us in any area of lives 🙏
Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences with us! it feels so good hearing you speak about similar experiences to me. I feel a lot less lonely and more hopeful and ultimately ready to live a joyful life as a single woman!! THANK YOU!!
i am glad to watch this conversation, 32 and still single. this and i also ask god "what about me?" especially now i am stuggling get a job and also wanting to fulfill my dream to become a wife and to be a mother. and it this conversation feels like an assurance to from god as a reminder for me. so thank you. this really means alot. ❤
Absolutely, Sis,"Just because someone goes to church, it does not mean the church is in them"! Actually, some men go to church to find women, but DO NOT have good intentions.
This channel was divinely sent to me.Learning a whole lot though we are miles apart.I love how basic yet real the topics are and so relatable. GOD BLESS YOU
This is so so good So so relatable Thank you for having this conversation You have no idea how this has blessed me, not to talk of the many others blessed too God bless you
Thank you! Delphine you pretty much nailed every experience and the healing journey I have been going through these past few years. Grateful to you & Joy for sharing your stories and learning lessons. All the best on your journey!✨
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. The Book of Corinthians, KJV.
Hearing this conversation is really so helpful to me. Im in very difficult situation now and I'm trying to figure out what im doing and whitch step im going to take... i really appreciate. It came in right time. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. God bless you all.
Wow this is beautiful am really glad I watched to the end of this video, have learned so much and I'm so Grateful for everything you guys talked about. You've given me a big picture to always appreciate God in every season am in.. Indeed is time is the best. God bless you thank you so much.
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“Just because someone goes to Church, doesn’t mean the Church is in them!” TRUTH!!!
Love this line
Hmm
this resonated powerfully in my life
God is creating platforms and conversations for women in a beautiful way❤ I got married at 37 and I am so thankful for my single time. Solo dates, treating myself to nice gifts, keeping my home clean with pretty flowers and decor prepared me for marriage. If you are single, enjoy YOURSELF and love GOD through the journey.
Congratulations ❤Thank you for the words if encouragement
Thank you for this encouragement ❤
Why haven't u started a platform for us single women. I am 23 and in my final year at university everyday God tells me to not awaken love b4 time. We need advice from u what are we to do to enjoy our single season. I don't wanna be single and thinking of marriage,i don't wanna be single and miss the moment surely it's great but how do we make it be great?
Great advice! That's how I live my life!
Thank you! I love love love love being single for the exact things you mention!
I met my husband less than 2 weeks before my 36th birthday. I was not sure if it would happen up to that point and did deal with frustration towards God about the very long wait. Some family/friends recommended that I even freeze my eggs, but I felt convicted to wait. I will just say that waiting on God was worth every second of what I perceived as delay. He was working throughout that time to prepare both myself and my husband for one another. I also did not have to “settle” at all and I got everything important that I prayed for and more that I did not know I needed. God even gave my mom a vision about my future child when I was still single, which encouraged me to wait. I will be giving birth in a few months to that child. I hope that this encourages anyone in their 30’s that is contending with God about their future marriage. Pray, watch and wait.
This gave me so much hope recently ending my engagement at the age of 34 to a manipulative abuser. I stayed longer than I should've out of fear and just wanting to settle down and start a family. Thank You!
Thank you for sharing!
@@freework768Sending you sisterly love and a big hugs.
GBU for sharing your story. As a single woman who is about to turn 36 in about a week, hearing this is encouraging.
Thank You! @@mashudumunyai931 ❤
I love these kinda of conversations. The struggle is soo intense sometimes, I'm 32 and I honestly feel my body wanting to make a baby. My hormones are all over the place, you just want that hug, that cuddle and when you are married you just that loving. It's sooo real. My thoughts sometimes are often unclean and it's hard. But I'm trying, and praying every night for God to help me.
Same sis, except I'm 31. The struggle is definitely real and my hormones are on another level the older I get 🥴
It's a relief to know I am not the only one. I am going through the exact thing.
Same thing with me and I’m 35
We love the honesty in your comment - if we're being transparent, that's how a lot of us feel
I'm honestly so blessed by the raw conversations. Normally these are things we are all struggling with and yet we feel so shameful to even share
33 and single. The only pressure I am feeling is to create more peace and order in my life and also to be more financially stable.
Amen to this.
You tell them 👏🏾
You don’t want kids? No offense
I believe the pressure for most of us is that part. I will be 33 in a few months
If it wasn’t for that, I really wouldn’t care
@@Vavavoum-gr8 but now you are already falling into the pressure of having children, so you will settle for a man and have a baby so you need to be careful and stop letting society pressure you, woman are allowed to have children later, men will always seek woman who are desperate and not to be rude, you sound desperate
I just got married last month and I’m 32. I wanted to be married a while ago but I needed to work on myself. I lost 60 lbs, did some therapy, and my mother kept telling me start praying for a spouse. She was praying too unbeknownst to me. I moved back to Las Vegas (I’m from Atlanta), I got on the apps and met my husband by the end of the week. Prayer changes things.
Gods timeline of writing my love story
Moved back to Vegas: April 2022
Met my now husband: May 2022
Became official: August 2022
Met each others families: Dec 2022
He preposed: July 2023
We got married: Sept 2023
Please stay encouraged, I met my husband after 30. After watching others get married, instead of being envious I always said to myself “I’m next”. I just kept saying that. God changed my life in the blink of an eye. God bless everyone. ❤
Thankyou for this, so encouraging. X
Which app was that :)
@@leeche87 Hi, we matched on two apps. Bumble and Upward
thats beautiful!
prayer didnt do shit lol
These women dress so well omg. The green striped dress and then the pearl earrings with black shirt wow absolutely gorgeous!
Like 💯💯💯
I have stopped using social media because it triggers me so much
I can’t watch people be happy in relationships when it’s something I desperately want 😢
Just have a one-on-one chat with the Holy Spirit and tell him exactly how you feel.
That has helped me and it's still helping
Have you thought about about getting a cat? I've seen some of these types of videos where the women say they have a pet cat which helped them. It may help you as well.
Delphine’s transparency and responses are so commendable
Been avoiding this video for 7days thinking its same old story but after watching, it resonates with me.
In my 30's, re-dedicated my life to Christ 3years ago, single and waiting on God for marriage. 2years praying for my future husband but sometimes the hormones are something else as I go older. I just want to feel loved, serve the Lord with him and carry his babies.
Just turned 30 this year! I’ve been praying for my husband since I was 16 years old. I always thought I was going to be married before 30, this year I was able to let that go and realize that God’s plan is not what I expected it to be. Waiting is hard, but having that little mustard seed of hope of knowing that he will do it for me one day and that it will be good! ❤️🙏🏽
Amen
Amen May it happen for all of us
I'm 32, single and celibate since 2016 and it's been hard...
I resonated with:
- knowing your identity and self worth in God
- being excited to go on a date instead of scared, desperate and in a hurry to get married
- sometimes the guy is good on paper but there's no spark/attraction/fun.
- "just get on the dancefloor of life" : this is for me
- your passion/purpose keeps you busy and joyful and this joy is attractive for a man
- being open to being surprised and flexible with standards
These are good reminders
And I wasn't expecting Joy to be 47!
Omggg this is me 32..single and holding on to God.
@@gigi4143 ikr the struggle is real... But God is faithful 🙏🏾
We need a daily reminder to get on the dance floor of life 💃
Celibate since 2015. I thought I was the only one also in my 30s. Sometimes I feel so left out and alone. I been trying dating but it's been alot of love bombing then ghosting and just disappointment. Trying to hold on to what I know is right. While trying to not be jealous of everyone who is just living their life. This seems like such a burden sometimes.
@@caribbeanflora2119 I defo feel the same sometimes especially when I meet a good guy I want to compromise but I think about Isaac and Ishmael and the consequences of doing things my own way, it's not worth it. Plus my mom and sis are single moms so I gotta do something different to have a different outcome. Felt very good to read your comment sis 💜let's hang on to God 🙏🏾
I said WOW too! Joy does not look 47! She looks to be in her early 30s. Very beautiful and confident
47?!
It’s shocking hey? She looks way younger than 47
😂😅really
I'm a Muslim woman who's nearing 30, and I resonate with this so much! It gets easier to deal with societal pressures once you realize that it's always been you and God -- everything else is secondary. God will take care of you and guide you to what's best for you, so "get on the dance floor of Life" (as Joy says) and keep doing you! Everything's gonna work out for the best ❤
Wish you well
I LOVED this episode. People really don't talk about the challenges of being a single Christian in your 30s, it is very hard.
I just want to encourage everyone to stay in the will of God and trust that he listens and he cares.
This year I have been in a relationship with a non believer, I know for a fact this man is not for me yet I compromised alot out of comfortability and loneliness. I also broke my 3 year celibacy ( if I'm being transparent).
My soul was genuinely conflicted each time I saw him cause I knew this man was not for me yet I kept forcing it and forcing it, I was warned multiple times and ignored.
This ended up in such a horrible heart break and having to rebuild myself once again.
Ladies it's not worth !
Stay in prayer, seek God and trust that he loves you enough not to let you settle. X
Thank u sis❤
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@@raylule6990 love x
@@nthabelengntsane love x
Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤
As a 44-year-old woman, I resonated with and appreciated this conversation. Yes, my identity is in Christ and my maker is my husband. Being both single and married is a blessing with different priorities. Maximize the season God has you in! Tfs
"Maximize the season God has you in!' Absolutely!
I am single for life. Not my choice. I am a literal eunuch and I will never marry. But I am sad that I am unable to marry when I see my brothers and sisters with their families and I will never experience this. I accept my condition, but I am not happy about it. My poor health prohibits me from being very active in outreach and other ministries.
Turning 30 next week, still single and my ever thoughtful big sis decided to share this video with me 😊 trusting GOD on this journey. GOD’S best is worth waiting for. It’s not easy waiting, but I’d rather wait than regret. Grateful to be surrounded by those who understand how it is to be single in one’s 30s especially as a Believer who’s trying to please GOD.
Happy birthday to you! I too was single for many many years and did a whole bunch of inner work before meeting my now boyfriend (and father of our two children) at 30. Keep believing and trusting, and allow God to do his magic :D
Saaaamme I’m 30 on the 12th and I feel this video was from God I’ve been really struggling the last two months of who I am but I am now praying more so for peace and to trust in God! Not to idolise a relationship but to find joy in everything praying without giving up but also asking God to reveal more of me to me so I can change and grow for my husband! We got this!
“Use Gods mirror to see yourself” an important line to embed in your everybeing 🥰🙏🏾
It was the line for me “you’re golden, get out on the dance floor of life - just keep living”
Many need to hear this 🙏🙏🙏
I love Delphine's responses. I could relate when she talked about her pressure... having lots of weddings to attend and then engagements etc. Currently in that phase. I am glad I listened to this. Thank you!
The same here
Thank you for tuning in! 📺
What a beautiful talk ❤ thanks so much for encouraging! I am 34, single lady and so far I have been trying to enjoy my singleness. There are ups and downs; I want to grow more in knowing Jesus and knowing His heart towards me ❤
Give a raise to your sound person, they do a fantastic job - sound is always on point! Keep it coming
Right now, I know this isn't my season to date but establishing my identity after my divorce. I am actually liking this season of being single.
Contentment is 🔑
Joy married at 39 is so inspiring. She seems God really made her in her singleness, just like he made eve.. The way she speaks, carries herself and matures is so MARRIAGE.
I’m crying ladies,, this is soo timely😢 you just spoke to a sister from across the world…. God has been soo good to me, financial stability, good academic achievements, loving family BUT my personal life took on a life of its own. Left pregnant by a man I was hoping to marry me. 3 years later, grew my faith, single mom with my boy who’s suspected of autism… been celibate for 3 years. Overall God me peace as I’m still navigating my healing journey
As a 32 year old single. Delphine has said everything I am feeling and currently going through. I could not understand for the longest time is why my secular friends were thriving and receiving everything that I’ve been praying God for for years.
I hear you! I think as Christians we sometimes feel entitled to marriage and struggle to understand why non-Christians get good things as well. God has convicted me of this and realised my ego makes me feel more “deserving” than others cause I try so hard
This episode just came at the right time! LOVED every second of this conversation. I'm 39 & single and I trust that God is navigating me in this modern dating era to find the perfect man for me 🙏
Women had evolved, but this crucial period has just been postponed from the 20’s to 30’s. I doubt it will go further to the 40´s as event if we improve fertility process, reducing a pregnancy risk is always better. I’m 45, happy in my coupe and had a beautiful son. We deal with 7 years of fertility issue, our journey to have a family wasn’t easy. But i have a beautiful family now. Our friends becomes parents way before us even if we were the oldest couple among our friends. That being said, our friends reach their mid-40 as well and they are mostly divorced and dealing with kids custody. Relationship is never easy. All I can say is, with the time I become more comprehensive and empathetic towards peoples as life is really 50 shades of grey…nothing is black or white.
1.When Eve met Adam, she was "whole"
That's an intense truth.
Our period of singlehood is actually a preparation stage for you to be who God wants you to be before He presents you to your partner.
2. The intentionality about dating. Wow
3. I can totally relate with the faith of the person being an important factor. I tell my friends my first look out is to know if my partner has the fear of God and a relationship. Because i strongly believe that anyone with the fear of God will treat his partner like Christ loved the church.
Funny enough, most people don't agree completely with this and make it seem i will wait forever.
This episode is so relatable...The pressure is too much
The pressure is getting worser
I really appreciate Delphine's transparency. Thank you ladies for this
Breathe of fresh air
Delphine truly inspired me because of her transparency. So beautifully bold!❤
I resonate with Delphine so much, I am 31 years old I often feel so alone because I've been single and waiting for so long and it definitely is a struggle. I often ask God why I'm in the situation that I'm in because I've been faithful and waiting on him.
Wya
This is beautiful and encouraging to watch. Watching from Uganda.
"Comparison is the thief of joy." And the Lord is our joy in all seasons.
Watching from Uganda too❤
I absolutely loved this whole thing. This rush for women to be wives and not have identity or a life beforehand on their own is so common. Seems like we spend our singleness focused on marriage and then when women get married, they don’t even know who they are and can’t live without their husbands. It’s okay to be your own person while experiencing life with someone else. These conversations spark the new ideas🩷
Going to be 34 in another week, still single, still unmarried and no kids. No prospects. I have been praying and asking God to please bring me a mate. A companion, life partner and a husband. I also ask god to send me friends. The lord isn’t budging but it is okay because I am trying to grow in him everyday. I joined my churches praise and worship team so that I can apart of ministry. It feels awkward sometimes because there is not many single men and women at this church. And I mean completely single without children. I feel like some of the women do not want to get close to me because I’m single and they are married. No I’m not out for your husband. I am here for God. It is truly hard to be a single woman at this time. They are looking at me like you’re 30 with no kids or husband😮. I can feel it.
This for me has been one of the best episodes so far. I love how both women articulated and executed themselves during this conversation. So authentic and something many of us can relate to ❤👏🏾
Too relatable for a lot of us!
I pray for healing🙏🏽. The fact that I’m still so upset right now whilst listening to this means I haven’t fully healed. Was with him through out my late 20s. I’m 30 now.. This video feels so real and therapeutic.
Thank You ☺️
So many golden nuggets in this conversation, Joy gave us a word about the dance floor of life. Love it ❤
Please address the topic of sexual purity in the next "Being Single in your 20s, 30s or older" - love your content - so helpful
27 here and I felt this sm!!! Life can be so foggy & these kinds of conversations give me some sense of self worth and clarity! Amazing job ladies.
I am grateful to God for this community...to know I'm definitely not alone and that it's pretty OK to be content in one's single season and really just focus on God and oneself. I've learned so much and I thank you all for being transparent and honest ❤
I’m so glad this was such a POSITIVE conversation. Folks out there, I’m 31 as a Christian woman looking to jump back into dating. I went through a tough breakup and took time to heal and fall into God’s arms. He has filled my life so abundantly that I don’t feel dissatisfied. God blesses singleness and relationships. Make the most of what God brings, and fill your life with great community and fulfilling activities (all while pursuing God). If I end up never marrying I’ll be fine 😌 I trust God to provide through it all!!
wow please never stop making videos thank you for this.
Im Muslim and I really could resonate with all of you! Thank you for covering that topic! The pressure is real 😂
Same!!
Thank u, delphine, for sharing n reflecting in the midst of ongoing singleness! It makes her words more relatable.
I just turned 28! And oh wow I was greeted with,” you’re becoming older” by my mom and turning a year old made me go through a little downtime I should add but looking at women that walked this path is so empowering and motivating. Indeed God has a plan for all of us.
Just because Somme one goes to church doesn’t mean the church is in them 💥. Thanks Joy!
Thank you for the timely word ..the posture of my heart was challenged today and exposed to do better
Thank you so much for this video! It’s really not talked about enough (most of the conversation is around just generally meeting people/dating, but not specifically about being in 30s).
I am 34, run my own business, have always followed my heart, and travelled and lived heaps. Right now Im just taking a 15 day solo trip to spend a few days with my sister and niece, and also two close friends. However, when nights are quiet I also feel like I really want to have that person, and fear being old and alone.
But this video gave me great energy - I love the black woman and her mentality - having the confidence and just living life on her own terms.
It's so refreshing seeing women of faith talking about this with so much dignity and wisdom. You are all gems.
This channel is pure gold. Thank you 💖
Joys name was divinely inspired! Her words brought me so much clarity, hope and joy! I was in tears through most this conversation, it really brought my emotions to the front and i finally feel seen and its very healing.
This was SO good. I love that you asked how you reconcile with God amid the frustration that comes with the waiting period. Such insightful, relatable stories that I needed more than you all know. Can we do a part 2!?!
I truly needed this. It's difficult to accept that sometimes everything about a person is right but its just not God's will or His best
Am currently at that place where this is a good person but something in my heart is saying this ain't it😁
Yes don’t hold back someone else’s husband let him go and let God lead.
This was so worthwhile, such graceful, wise women, thank you so much Magnify for this episode
I just turned 31 few days ago.. oh yes, being single in your 30s is challenging. The pressure is real. Looks like you have a terminal illness when you dont have a husband and child at this age. Same as Joy, I also loss 5yrs of my life trying to move on from a long term relationship
Sharing powerful stories in these conversations help women to feel seen and understood. Some seasons in life are gruelling. I loved listening to Joy and Delphine's lived experience is powerful. Great authentic episode.
Do not be a Christian on paper. Be a Christian in Action
🙏🏽👌🏽🙏🏽
It's SO important 🔥
Watching from Africa .. Nairobi Kenya I'm exited n waiting for the impacting information.. God bless 🙏
Let us know your favourite nugget of wisdom after you've finished watching 💭
I loved the optimism from
Joy.
However what I would say is, how a person deals with singleness also depends a lot on what else is going on in their life.
It sounds like Joy’s life was already very full and successful which is perhaps why singleness was a positive time for her.
It should be borne in mind that some people have a very different experience in terms of what else is going on in their life
@newid10 SO TRUE! Sounds like she was able to travel and “live her best life”. But for some of us there are financial, health, or other challenges that make the season even more difficult, frustrating, and lonely. When You don’t have the “distraction” of fun trips, a successful business, and a solid community, etc.- it can get really rough some days. There’s beauty in the solitude with God, but it’s not always a “fun” season.
But people have had the things she had and still been empty... I think no matter your position, pray to be content. Cause like she said if she begins to look down on her life and compare. It's equivalent to her not believing God has done right by her.
And just cause someone carries something well doesn't mean it's not heavy you know.
Financial pressures and health issues don’t go away when you get married lol. Let’s not forget that you’ll bring those same issues with you into a marriage
@@flexster5385 you’re absolutely right. My point was that facing those things in a single season vs not facing those things in a single season can make the season more difficult. When you’re able to live your best life as a single (having successful entrepreneurial pursuits, a community of believers, finances, travel, etc.), you’re going to have a very different experience than a single who isn’t able to do those things (someone in an isolated season, financial difficulties, health challenges, wilderness experience, etc.). I agree with @newid10 that it’s important to acknowledge this. Some singles don’t have a season of “contentment” and fun, and that’s okay too. For some singles- the season is much more challenging and full of spiritual battles (just like for some people, their marriage season is much more difficult).
@@flexster5385 sorry but it is much easier dealing with health and financial issues when you have someone walking beside you to help you
Thank you for an enriching and uplifting conversation around this. I so identified with so much of what you ladies shared, they're conversations that I have with my friends a lot. What we come to the conclusion is, that as you say, we are all wonderfully and fearfully made, and God has a purpose for each one of us. Our job is to live that purpose well. Of course, there are times when we can feel frustrated when our 'dreams' don't seem to come about, and have so many questions about it, but God always has better. I look on my 30s so far (I'm 37), and I can honestly say that God's plans are so much better than mine. He has given me so many opportunities to understand my identity in Him, to serve Him, to do so much travel and adventures, make wonderful friends, grow in my confidence in myself and who I am (my faith, passions, joys, friends, family, character), that I really do love my life, and realising also what I don't want to compromise on. I love what you say, about "operating from a place of abundance, not scarcity", because when I look at my life, I am blessed to have so so so much, all because of what Jesus has done for me, us all... I also identify about dating with intentionality when older. And it really is hard to say 'no' when a 'potential' relationship seems good on paper, but deep down, something in your soul doesn't quite sit right. Keep immersing ourselves in God's mighty Word, lean on His truth, obey it, get used to hearing His voice, and see where God leads. Then we will know that what is here right now in front of us, is right where we're supposed to be. God bless this ministry and all who listen, watch and read this channel! :)
I’m 33 and still single. Living with 5 dogs and I love my life, but there’s always this nagging feeling about me still being single at this age. All my cousins and siblings are already married, except for me. I also feel the pressure to have a baby as the “clock ticks away” 🙄 ugh. 😣
God carries your biological clock
@@shaznewa752so true. I love this❤
same age, same here... I feel you 💜
I love the honesty, integrity and values of these fabulous women! Thank you ladies for your insight and honesty.
Authentic, beautiful, lovely, relatable. Thank you so much Joy, Delphine and Team Maginfy. GOD bless you all❤
From Uganda, thank you ladies I enjoy your channel, always refreshing to feed my soul. Thank you
Passion, emotional attraction, conviction and suitability
Amazing episode. Thank you Joy and Delphine, really learnt a lot as someone still in their 20s. God bless you ladies and grateful for this platform ❤
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I'm also in my 20s and I'm grateful to have come across this episode. I've chosen to date with intentionality and put God first. It's not easy dating in this day and age.
What an inspiring conversation. I am really encouraged to start living my life and enjoying it as opposed to holding back on things because I think I could be married in the next X years. Thank you ladies for the gift of your vulnerability.
All the talks offer amazing insights, but I have to say this conversation resonated greatly with me. May God’s grace us with the capacity to maintain our integrity, dignity and faith as we wait for Him to transition us in any area of lives 🙏
Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences with us! it feels so good hearing you speak about similar experiences to me. I feel a lot less lonely and more hopeful and ultimately ready to live a joyful life as a single woman!! THANK YOU!!
I am so thankful for the very first day I was led to your channel. God bless y'all for impacting lives. Love you Magnify❤
i am glad to watch this conversation, 32 and still single. this and i also ask god "what about me?" especially now i am stuggling get a job and also wanting to fulfill my dream to become a wife and to be a mother. and it this conversation feels like an assurance to from god as a reminder for me. so thank you. this really means alot. ❤
Absolutely, Sis,"Just because someone goes to church, it does not mean the church is in them"! Actually, some men go to church to find women, but DO NOT have good intentions.
I love this episode. Thank you for encouraging me. From Japan.
This channel was divinely sent to me.Learning a whole lot though we are miles apart.I love how basic yet real the topics are and so relatable. GOD BLESS YOU
This is so so good
So so relatable
Thank you for having this conversation
You have no idea how this has blessed me, not to talk of the many others blessed too
God bless you
Thank you! Delphine you pretty much nailed every experience and the healing journey I have been going through these past few years. Grateful to you & Joy for sharing your stories and learning lessons. All the best on your journey!✨
I love these converations, navigated from a Christian perspective. Glad I came across this channel. It's very needed.
I really enjoyed listening to this conversation. Well done Joy! 🙌🏾💖
Can’t believe I watched this video 3 times already. Very lovely conversation.
Too good to only watch once!
Thank you. I love this beautiful interview! two different perspectives. 🥰
I love Joy! Thank you for this episode 🤎
I'm turning 25, never been pursued by a guy. It does make me wonder if I'll ever get married but also I do want someone who has relationship with God.
Men will come it's just a matter of time.
I’m about to be 24 no guy has pursued me either but if God has not said that you will not marry then know that a guy will come who is from him.
Bring Back JOY! Love her and her words
“Get on with life “… great advice
This was a healing conversation. Thank you ladies.
you cant let how people treat you to see yourself , use Gods mirror to see yourself❤
dont be a christian on paper and not in action
This has been so encouraging. Single @ 40 in these hard dating streets hasnt been a good walk😅
I stumbled across this video. And wow. I’m only half way through it and you guys have dropped so many gems!!
Get on the dance floor of life
Live boldly
Live purposefully 📌
I’m grateful for this conversation ❤
We're grateful for you leaving your top 3 takeaways from this episode 🤍📝
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. The Book of Corinthians, KJV.
I can so much relate to Delphine experiences, wow I'm not alone. This is inspirational thanks you ladies
Joy you look stunning (as always). Hair and dress combo is 💥
This was a refreshing conversation on being authentic to your journey and listening to that still small voice. Thank you for a great convo!! Subbed ❤
Hearing this conversation is really so helpful to me. Im in very difficult situation now and I'm trying to figure out what im doing and whitch step im going to take... i really appreciate. It came in right time. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. God bless you all.
Delphine, not only do we share the same name but our stories are very similar. I thank God for this video. Stay blessed. 💛🙏🏼
Wow this is beautiful am really glad I watched to the end of this video, have learned so much and I'm so Grateful for everything you guys talked about. You've given me a big picture to always appreciate God in every season am in.. Indeed is time is the best. God bless you thank you so much.
I love the vulnerability the are all sharing their story so openly
Oh I loved this conversation. I resonated with so much and gained insight from both ladies.
This video was so relatable