Living in Survival Mode & Stuck in Freeze Mode (Healing from Trauma)

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  • Опубликовано: 6 июл 2024
  • Living in Survival Mode on The Road (Healing from Trauma while Living in a Van) Get your ⚡️ AstroAI S8 Ultra Jumper Starter: amzn.to/3KwzfzP // Website: bit.ly/45tcdnr I am feeling safer living full time on the road in my van since I have this portable jump starter. It's essential for me to feel in control, creating new routines and focusing on healing. I had a challenging period of time, navigating challenges and learning how to get out of survival mode. I am trying to focus on what I can control and working on my traumas on a daily basis.
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Комментарии • 655

  • @LidiaRico
    @LidiaRico  20 дней назад +97

    Living in survival mode is a natural reaction after experiencing trauma. I was scared, depressed and I didn’t know how to get out of bed without crying for hours. Everything was a big challenge and I thought that I was never going to be able to live life again. I am still healing, and I know I have a long journey ahead until I feel like my happy self again. For now I try to focus in what I can control. I am trying to skate more, enjoying nature more and try not to stress out too much when life is not going my way. Have you ever experienced anxiety or panic attacks!? If so, how did you get out of that emotional state?

    • @Mikefngarage
      @Mikefngarage 19 дней назад +3

      Next weekend Free EVENT.....need to get there early Capistrano Volkswagen dealership takeover. not too far from SD area They give you a T shirt Lunch ticket and the event is totally free. All Classic VWs take over the whole parking lot.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +5

      @@Mikefngaragethat could be nice! I should look into it!

    • @Mikefngarage
      @Mikefngarage 19 дней назад +1

      @@LidiaRico check the website info all there. will be fun to meet some more VW folk. Lots come from the SD clubs.

    • @alexeatonexploresamerica5511
      @alexeatonexploresamerica5511 19 дней назад

      Hi I hade a skate board's year's and I sold it but now in Florida's toughest swimmer🏊‍♂️

    • @alexeatonexploresamerica5511
      @alexeatonexploresamerica5511 19 дней назад +1

      The heat can be awful it was 160° in my van once I just drink lots of water and have a fan blowing me

  • @donalanseo310
    @donalanseo310 14 часов назад +1

    Grief is a heart ache. The human is so resilient, you have experienced tragic life events, but you will laugh and have fun again, and be happy. You'd never think it, but you will, 100%.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  2 часа назад

      I AGREE WITH YOU! THANKS

  • @bobs1648
    @bobs1648 19 дней назад +46

    Lidia, well here I am again. As a guy who has experienced trauma on many different levels, from my fiancé, to family members, to guys in the Army that I considered my brothers. My point is, the key to healing is acceptance and not blaming yourself. As I have said before, thanks to my PTSD, I know what a lot of them go through. I fight the same monsters in my head. Lidia, you are a strong woman and a fighter. You have monsters of your own as well as the monsters that have been projected on to you, but they CAN be beaten. Just stay the course, be strong, and keep being the amazing young lady you are. As always, BIG HUGS from Tennessee! 😁

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +17

      Thanks for always sharing here in the comments! It’s a constant mental battle but I’m here to never give up!

    • @bobs1648
      @bobs1648 19 дней назад +5

      @@LidiaRico You just keep being you. Because you cannot be beat!

    • @Mikemonoa-hz2rz
      @Mikemonoa-hz2rz 19 дней назад +3

      My self with depression and anxiety thee only thing that keeps me strong is my family, my gym and my gym buddy's and motivation

    • @cindyeyler
      @cindyeyler 18 дней назад

      Solid ❤

    • @angeldon731
      @angeldon731 17 дней назад

      Nicely said, I can relate with both, saludos desde Puerto Rico

  • @silvanus1983
    @silvanus1983 19 дней назад +24

    Loss and grief is so very hard to get over. May you heal and find joy again.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +4

      Amen 🙏🏽 thank you so much for your kindness

  • @unite-royale889
    @unite-royale889 5 дней назад +4

    Pain allows us to evolve and be reborn. Over time the scars close, it's a painful moment to go through. God Bless You.

  • @ChevyK5blazer
    @ChevyK5blazer 18 дней назад +5

    Sounds like you’re in the right track. Keep that chin up. Time heals.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад

      Thank you! I am trying :)

  • @tubehound8
    @tubehound8 19 дней назад +12

    It wouldn't be real life if there were no disappointment and pain. Stay safe and positive. Hugs for Lidia Rico

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +2

      Yes, we have good and bad things happening to us

  • @MetricMod
    @MetricMod 12 дней назад +3

    Hello from Vancouver Island, British Columbia, Canada. I love how real this is. I used to live in Cali. I was in Chula Vista for 3 years, then LA and then San Luis Obispo, before I moved up here for total peace and quiet. I’ve only watched two of your videos so far, but I love your content and your attitude of gratitude, or as I call it; GRATTITUDE!! Thanks for being here.😊🙌🏾❤️

  • @miaochs7716
    @miaochs7716 18 дней назад +7

    Lost my mom 2017 old age then my son 2019 to seizure in bath tub < 30 years old. I gained 30 lbs., I had big sobbing grief at work, while driving to work, doing anything. I had to go back to work 4 days post so my family didn’t go into financial ruin. I still have breakdowns. Site of things that remind me of my son just make me breakdown. We find our way to sometimes we don’t. Loss and grief is personal to each of us. Don’t let someone’s coping mechanism make you feel guilty for your grief mechanism You do you. Sending Love from one human to another❤

  • @nightfall22
    @nightfall22 16 дней назад +8

    Stumbled upon this channel. i know loss, seen loss… I’m also in Southern California… after 20 years divorced after my wife forgot what vows meant, one of my 12 year old twin sons died 4 years ago, mom died 3 years ago, uncle, brother and grandmother died within the last 2 years… worked in pediatric advanced life support and advanced cardiac life support ambulance for many years… so when I say I’ve seen loss and experienced much loss that’s what I meant.. after my kiddo died I went through a period where I’d stare at the wall for 18 hours a day… went through a bunch of dark stuff.. finally pulling myself out of the hole and getting back to myself… to be able to smile or experience joy sometimes is hard. I can easily go a couple of days without smiling. Without turning this into a seminar I just wanted to say I enjoyed the few videos of yours I’ve seen. Stay strong sis and continue to push forward. 👊🏾🤘🏾

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  16 дней назад +3

      YOU ARE MY INSPIRATION! KEEP GOING! Thank you so much for sharing all the hardships you have endured and you are still here fighting like a Roman Soldier! I know it's hard but we are fighters, we will survive the darkest days and life one day will make sense. I love you thank you so much for sharing your story wit all of us and for being an example of resilience

  • @johnfranklin5
    @johnfranklin5 2 часа назад +1

    What you said at the end is so freaking true. I know how you feel and it just brought tears to my eyes. Life is not easy. We all have our own story. Those words hit so good. Thanks. Happy Friday.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  2 часа назад +1

      Absolutely!! Thanks for listening!

  • @pchor125
    @pchor125 5 часов назад +1

    Thank you for your video and your message. You are not alone. That's the magic of social media.

  • @jeanniekartis5916
    @jeanniekartis5916 19 дней назад +6

    Loss and grief is so hard...it never stops you just make room for it in your heart....
    Sending much ❤..

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +4

      Thank you so much for understanding ❤I hope you had a great weekend

  • @Oliveirafarmer
    @Oliveirafarmer 19 дней назад +2

    I admire you Lidia, you're a real badass, I can't do most of the things you do alone, so hold on and keep doing your thing. Cheers from Venezuela. 🤓👏🏻❤✌🏻

  • @keithwilson8235
    @keithwilson8235 18 дней назад +3

    I’ve followed you for years with no judgement. I’ve met you and you’re truly genuine. You’re doing well.

  • @doncunningham3124
    @doncunningham3124 19 дней назад +6

    Lidia, sometimes the worst things that happen to us can actually be life's greatest gifts. I know that's hard to understand right now. But we all go through our own challenges as well. Some even worse. You WILL get through this! As long as you take your followers through your recovery process your support will grow tremendously! Your channel will thrive because you're providing a gift to humanity. The world needs a lot more people like you. Maybe you can create episodes explaining how you deal with each challenge? You don't have to offer solutions. Other people just like to know they're not alone while dealing with their own challenges. This is just a friendly suggestion. Only YOU know what's best for yourself. I just subscribed and looking forward to your next video. ✌️👍

  • @nicholasrush4060
    @nicholasrush4060 19 дней назад +5

    I lost the love of my life the same way too recently 😢 You're very brave to share as I'm sure like me my life has now forever changed. Grief is now a daily part of my life and I don't want to move on as my grief shows the just how much I love her and I don't ever want to forget but I will forever cherish my memories ❤

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +5

      That’s very beautiful what you said. I understand completely we are learning how to navigate our pain but it’s a reminder of how much we love them still. It’s okay to feel this way we just don’t have to let it consume us

  • @mirontefishing
    @mirontefishing 10 дней назад +2

    You have chosen the best way to deal with all the problems and negative things in life .. keep it up , you’re gorgeous 🤘😎

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  10 дней назад +1

      I don't know if the best why but I am trying to be positive

  • @withdrawndesign
    @withdrawndesign 4 дня назад

    I lost my first son and my father and my love and now I’m living in a tent in the woods because I couldn’t get it together I’ve been frozen in my life and i wish people would smile back at me when I put my best self forward, I’m happy to find your channel and hear your story and see your smile

  • @warmbreeze43
    @warmbreeze43 19 дней назад +6

    Lidia, I’m so happy and proud of you. You represent what a kind human being you are. You are blessed. And I will continue to pray for you that you get many beautiful blessings coming your way. Life can hurt but it also can be very wonderful. Hugs my sweet girl💕🙏🏼🫶🏼

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +5

      Thank you so much dear online friend ❤ I am blessed to have people like you in my life. Your prayers are powerful and I can feel them in my heart ❤ I hope you have a happy 4th of July weekend! 🇺🇸 🎉

    • @warmbreeze43
      @warmbreeze43 19 дней назад +4

      @@LidiaRico thank you. You as well

  • @glacierblue1334
    @glacierblue1334 День назад

    YOU SEEM TO BE A WELL ROUNDED PERSON, VERY NICE AND RESPECTFUL TO OTHER PEOPLE, YOU MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS, AND YOUR COMMENTS ARE GENUINE. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOUR LIFE WITH GOOD LUCK AND HAPPINESS!

  • @IsisLiberato3311
    @IsisLiberato3311 4 дня назад

    Thank you! I'm not in your shoes, but I'm passing through many losses and changes in my life in the past two years as well and I really got inspired for your strenght to say what you said. It is not easy to respect our time to heal when everybody is saying for us to move on. Just do what your heart says so. You are brave.

  • @mattconaway6532
    @mattconaway6532 19 дней назад +3

    As someone who is stuck in survival mode and always waiting for the next bad thing to happen I appreciate the realness of your videos.❤ Those skateboards are beautiful pieces of art! Love your videos Lidia and thank you for sharing your journey!🫂

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +2

      🫂 thank YOU for always being respectful and supportive ❤

  • @iandrackert7838
    @iandrackert7838 9 дней назад +1

    You got this. We all experience life differently and that's what makes us unique. As a diehard VW enthusiast I clicked on your videos for the van =)

  • @JesseDryden
    @JesseDryden 13 дней назад +5

    Grief is crippling. Be gentle with yourself.
    “Kick at the darkness until it bleeds daylight.”

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  13 дней назад

      🙏

    • @SailorGerry
      @SailorGerry 8 дней назад +1

      Is not that from a Bruce Cockburn song?

  • @ZachAttack313
    @ZachAttack313 16 дней назад +3

    I’m 33 years old too, whenever I get anxiety I close my eyes and take the deepest breath I can. You seem chill and your van is the coolest van I ever have seen 💯

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  16 дней назад +2

      Thank you os much fro sharing, deep breathing helps me too!

    • @trashmail8
      @trashmail8 12 дней назад

      @@LidiaRico I've experienced hundreds of panic attacks and suffered from them for 10-15 years. Then I stumbled upon the Buteyko breathing method and finally I learned that I was chronically over breathing and often breathing through my mouth. Started retraining my breathing patterns, slowly moved to nose breathing 24/7 and my panic attacks are gone. I can still get anxious or very anxious given circumstances, but nose breathing is your "always with you safety net" that prevents you from spiralling into more and more panic and loss of control.
      You can go a few weeks without food. A few days without water. A few minutes without breathing. Still when we work on our health, we tend to spend so little time on the thing that we need the most and most frequently for our physical and mental well-being: proper breathing.

  • @douglassahr3718
    @douglassahr3718 14 дней назад +2

    Your editing is outstanding I can’t stop watching your videos

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  13 дней назад

      Thank yo so much! I am so happy that you like my work! It's part of my therapy

  • @fa7842
    @fa7842 9 дней назад

    I saw before another person on a thumbnail who wants to get views, but after reading the title and listen to you, i think i have understand your message.
    Thank you !

  • @henryharvel5120
    @henryharvel5120 19 дней назад +2

    I am impressed about how you manage your life. It takes a great amount of strength to display an upbeat mood here, even when you aren’t truly feeling it.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +3

      Thank you, I understand my calling now! I am meant to show others that anything is possible

  • @str3098
    @str3098 18 дней назад +1

    Sweet Lidia it is so important that even though you are going through challenges you have dignity and that beautiful smile. I really pray for people with good quality souls like yours to be protected from darkness and find same quality souls to surround yourself.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much for your kindness

  • @JonnyDIY
    @JonnyDIY 11 дней назад +1

    3:07 omg what a cutie!!! 😻💕 Glad you're healing little by little. Takes a long time. Been years for me after similar situation I found myself in. I had to take medication to snap out of deep depression, and after that staying busy and exercise helps me stay away from the darkness

  • @___Tom
    @___Tom 5 дней назад

    Thank you for speaking so openly. It is great that you share your struggle with us and in that way take a little more of that taboo away from these mental challenges.
    I wish you all the best, you are doing great!

  • @Erica-wy8zx
    @Erica-wy8zx 17 дней назад +1

    It’s hard to move on. I totally get it. It took me a while to realize that I can’t be on others’ expected grief timeline.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад +1

      Exactly, people is self centered the majority of the time

  • @brandonkeller5765
    @brandonkeller5765 19 дней назад +1

    I really genuinely have a lot of respect for Lidia. She's tough and despite the hard times she's suffering through she seems to have found the bright side of life. We have all been through our trials but it's how we carry on that counts. The future is bright for you Lidia.

  • @alexthagreat310
    @alexthagreat310 16 часов назад

    Hoping the best for you and your journey. I know how hard it gets Lidia. Stay positive & keep a pure heart!

  • @jclements65
    @jclements65 19 дней назад +2

    You are doing amazing. Deep breath, one foot in front of the other, your making it look easy

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      That’s exactly right ❤

  • @joedusterhoft4874
    @joedusterhoft4874 19 дней назад +2

    Thank you for sharing your healing journey. I think you help more people than you may realize. You are truly a beautiful soul.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much! It’s my goal to hopefully help others while I entertain them as well ❤

  • @Leilaniiiiiii
    @Leilaniiiiiii 19 дней назад +1

    It's always so good to see a new Lidia video! ❤I LOVE those little Jump Starters - one of my brothers gave me one a couple of years ago, and I always keep it charged and in my car now; I got one for my kid and my other brother too. Your honesty in showing and telling us all about your journey of the past couple of years helps all of us to remember it is normal to feel lost and in pain. I can identify with you so much because you are always grateful for what you have, but also open about your worries and those days when it's just hard to get out of bed. So many people on social media pretend they and their lives are perfect; and we all know that's not the truth. Thank you so much; sending you good vibes and love always! ❤😘

  • @SparklingMyLife
    @SparklingMyLife 8 дней назад

    I'm sorry for your loss. You look so happy in all the videos I've watched, so I didn't expect such pain behind it. Survival mode sucks. Hope you'll find the things that make you feel safe and happy soon!

  • @MarinaCordobaGarcia
    @MarinaCordobaGarcia 8 дней назад

    tía eres mucho!! estás haciendo un trabajazo manteniendo esa actitud positiva mientras sientes que tu mundo se derrumba y vas a salir muy reforzada de esto! Ánimo, fuerza y sigue así :)

  • @Van-Wolff
    @Van-Wolff 18 дней назад +3

    I’ve just stumbled upon your channel and have subscribed almost straight away. It’s probably the first van based video I’ve seen in a long time that has some weight to it which gives it meaning. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through so much in such a short space of time but I think there’s a therapy to be had from making videos and documenting your journey through it. I’ve been in survival mode for about 45 years. It’s just me now I guess but I’m about to start down a similar path to yourself on RUclips. Thanks for the inspiration. Oh, and the skateboarding helps keep it fun too so I’m all in. Van

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much fro leaving a nice comment! You are so kind and I appreciate you taking the time to write me a message! Skateboarding is my therapy atm

  • @gungirlprepper
    @gungirlprepper 13 дней назад +2

    I stumbled across your channel. I know the feeling of loss back to back. Sending you big hugs from So Cal.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  13 дней назад +1

      Thanks for sharing ❤️

  • @MrStingraybernard
    @MrStingraybernard 19 дней назад +2

    Your a strong woman ,time will heal

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      Thank you ❤ we’ll see

  • @larsstougaard7097
    @larsstougaard7097 19 дней назад +4

    Love the classic skateboards 🛹.
    Hope you have some support or groups you have joined online , trauma and PTSD can be a hell and you can tend to isolate and be in dark loops. Much love and hugs 🫂

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +2

      Thank you and yes I am using my videos as therapy and people in the comments as my support group

    • @larsstougaard7097
      @larsstougaard7097 19 дней назад +1

      @LidiaRico ok good to hear 💚

  • @garyabell3456
    @garyabell3456 2 дня назад

    Well first off I've been watching your videos for a while now and you are awesome! Always remember that! I'm so sorry for what you have gone through! I lost my Dad also he was 56..It was the hardest thing I had ever dealt with! People that say just move on perhaps weren't as close to their Dad I don't know, but I was very close to mine! I miss him still and it's been years.. God bless you and all your endeavors! I will keep you in my prayers!❤️

  • @SunSunny71
    @SunSunny71 19 дней назад +9

    May we pray for sweet Lidia. May we surround her with protection. We rebuke all that is not of the highest good. We surround Lidia with love. Thank you.

  • @larrydavid1132
    @larrydavid1132 5 дней назад

    Lidia, take your time on your grieving process everybody is different on how long it takes. Do the little things that makes you happy and enjoy life. Over time things will jet better and better. I feel your pain and my heart go's out to you. Be safe and be well. Awesome videos. Love u. ❤❤

  • @alfaahora.978
    @alfaahora.978 19 дней назад +3

    Hello, hang in there everything's going to get better.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +2

      Thank you 🙏🏽 I hope so! I’m trying to be positive

  • @mitzieat307junkjournals4
    @mitzieat307junkjournals4 19 дней назад +2

    I completely understand, loss is such a heavy burden on the soul. I’ve gone through two episodes and I’m entering another one now. It is SO hard so days. I’m loving your channel just for the realness of it. Thank you so very much for sharing your story with all of us. 💕🥰💕

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +2

      You got this! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽❤️ I hope to help people hopefully when I share my story that’s my goal here

    • @mitzieat307junkjournals4
      @mitzieat307junkjournals4 19 дней назад +1

      @@LidiaRico you’re so very brave and amazing! You’re doing great. Karma will definitely bless you.

  • @romeladriano1441
    @romeladriano1441 12 дней назад

    Just keep moving , always take care , keep healthy, life goes on.

  • @jeffdible8171
    @jeffdible8171 18 дней назад

    You are doing a great job! You are still going through the process of a lot of personal life trauma and its not a weeks or months process. Clearly you are moving in the right direction. Keep up the good work.

  • @delfinevenson9594
    @delfinevenson9594 5 дней назад

    stay safe young lady....sometimes this world is not so nice...but keep smiling and enjoy life. life is short so keep up the great work!

  • @marioforget2773
    @marioforget2773 8 дней назад +1

    Hang in there. You can do it. Mario from Canada.

  • @mariatorrini2293
    @mariatorrini2293 10 дней назад

    I get it. I went thru something similar, losing both of my parents within a 3 yr period 2018, 2021. Then I lost 2 close friends. It was rough. You are doing you. You look good. just stay your course. It takes time. Have fun. Ignore the critics. Sending hugs.

  • @samdove8929
    @samdove8929 18 дней назад +1

    What a beautiful person you are, Lidia! Thanks for the reminder to stay grateful 😊

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад

      As beautiful as you are!

  • @ladyhangaku2072
    @ladyhangaku2072 5 дней назад

    What happened to you is insane. I'm probably not able to understand how you may possibly feel. You deserve all the love. And I am really looking forward to follow your journey.

  • @MarkLindelien
    @MarkLindelien 19 дней назад +1

    Thanks! Lidia, I want to just send you some peace and joy, and praying for you too.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад

      Thank you so much for being the kind of person making a difference ❤ YOU ARE AMAZING THANKS FOR YOUR PRAYERS

  • @elpatudo3670
    @elpatudo3670 19 дней назад +2

    Hola Lidia ❤!
    You're an inspiration for sooo many people.
    It sounds/looks like you've turned a corner (in a good way) on your journey/fight towards being "happier" again.
    PLEASE Stay strong, keep skating & know that you are loved. 🤙🏽💕🦸

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much!! ☺️ I’m trying had to stay positive

  • @JoseVazquez-lj6eo
    @JoseVazquez-lj6eo 17 дней назад +1

    Mucha fuerza, lidia tranquila, a no aflojar un tropezón no es caída.!!! Paso a paso, Todo se va a mejorar !!! Salu2 desde ARGENTINA.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад +1

      Muchas gracias! Un beso enorme!

  • @DavidMorrissey1978
    @DavidMorrissey1978 14 дней назад +2

    Thanks! Lidia-you’re a shining light!

  • @tamiami41
    @tamiami41 19 дней назад

    I appreciate the honesty in your videos so much. I also have lost so many people close to me in a short period of time. I'm trying not to judge myself too harshly for being in freeze mode. You give me inspiration that things can get better and we can start to move forward again. Just the energy it requires to film yourself and put out videos I know is enormous and I admire you for your consistency. Looking forward to seeing how things progress with you. ❤️

  • @sidrialgr
    @sidrialgr 18 дней назад

    You get better at your own pace, every person is different and responds different to grief, sorrow, shock etc. I believe that simply the fact that you are able to talk about the events that shocked you indicates that your healing process has begun. Maybe making videos, travelling and talking about it is what you need right now. You are awesome! Greetings from Greece!

  • @thetinkercook5430
    @thetinkercook5430 19 дней назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your pain. You’re an amazing person

  • @CheynesCoolCreations
    @CheynesCoolCreations 3 дня назад

    Your story resonates with me. I too am going through a near to identical problems. Your videos are amazing and you're such a genuine person from what I've seen. Keep it up because you're motivating me to keep getting at it! I wish you all the best and you have a friend if you are ever in Australia. Vamos!!

  • @davidwaldron5312
    @davidwaldron5312 4 дня назад

    You are an inspiration, your doing the right thing by taking your time and figuring all of it out , I wish you the best in life n in travels

  • @christopherharris6005
    @christopherharris6005 День назад +1

    Awesome video as always Lidia Rico. You are such an inspiration and a wonderful and amazing person keep your head up and keep your faith in God strong. Keep up the great work.

  • @Hahahahe
    @Hahahahe 18 дней назад +2

    I remember seeing you on an Alva board way back when u you did the videos during the coronavirus. Thats dope that you actually ride for Alva…

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  17 дней назад +1

      Yes I ride for Alva for the past 4 years

  • @Joe-Frost
    @Joe-Frost 7 часов назад +1

    You're such an inspiration, keep on truckin!

  • @pedrojuan7407
    @pedrojuan7407 13 дней назад +2

    Hello Lidia, I appreciate you. I am also divorced and I lost my mother and father, unfortunately they passed away and I perfectly understand your grief and what you may have gone through. I believe that since you are a strong and positive person, you are overcoming everything and you will once again have the partner you deserve, as strong and happy as you, and you will live a full and happy life for all time.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  13 дней назад +1

      My heart is with you, sorry for your losses as well. Thank you for sharing in the comments, it helps me and many others to hear everyones stories

    • @pedrojuan7407
      @pedrojuan7407 13 дней назад +1

      @@LidiaRico 🥰🥰🥰

  • @user-xy6ey7fc6f
    @user-xy6ey7fc6f 9 дней назад

    This girl is selling it all 👍

  • @TheRoseofSharon-jq9mx
    @TheRoseofSharon-jq9mx 9 дней назад

    Lydia, I too have been through a divorce, and lost almost everything. It is so so scary; your mind does not work the same and you scare your own self. Especially when you are alone with anxiety, freeze -fear . I once thought that I was so lost in the dark, that my brain could not hold a job, because of the fear. I even once tried to commit myself in a mental ward, when my anxiety felt crazy and was turned away because of my lack of money.
    You are the first person I feel I can relate to, so thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your soul. It is really hard to explain what this feels like and not wanting to date. OMG my heart is pounding as I type this.
    I wish you to transform into the most benevolent version of Lydia with all your understanding. p e a c e.

  • @mdphotoworks2010
    @mdphotoworks2010 9 дней назад

    Your openness is admirable and I really believe this van life and your channel is life support for you. You are truly a survivor a wonderful example!!

  • @divinathetruth3575
    @divinathetruth3575 5 дней назад

    The realest video I’ve seen in a very long time

  • @valeriesanpedro7546
    @valeriesanpedro7546 15 дней назад

    Praying for your continuous healing...Love and Light XOXO

  • @erdor
    @erdor 19 дней назад +2

    You are so beautiful, not only your appearance but also your thoughts and feelings. You have a very deep personality. I'm sorry you experienced the pain of life at an early age. but it taught you about life. It made you realize life earlier. I love your videos and your conversations with deep feelings and thoughts. Life is temporary and I wish you a beautiful life for the rest. Hope to see you if you come to Istanbul, Turkey...🍀

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад

      Thank you so much for listening until the end. Life is not perfect but we need to be strong and chose to smile

  • @detail123jim
    @detail123jim 19 дней назад

    I love how honest real and courageous you are such a rare quality but one you exhibit consistently such an amazing lady inside and out hugs and love your way❤

  • @kimmonette1004
    @kimmonette1004 19 дней назад +1

    Take one day at a time and you do what's best for you. Everyone heals differently and it's not easy to get back up but eating healthy and taking your walks and skateboarding is a great way to start. I lost one of my best friends and went thru a divorce of 21yrs and my father passing all in one year and it was the hardest year of my life. It took me a long time to heal and focus on myself.
    I too took 1 day at a time❤
    I know its not easy but you have so many followers who love to watch your videos and see all the beautiful places you go and the sunsets and you meeting new friends.
    I feel you encourage so many people Including me😊

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much for sharing ❤I’m sure it has a hard time to navigate through life back then… I agree with you eating right and staying active helps a lot

    • @kimmonette1004
      @kimmonette1004 19 дней назад

      @@LidiaRico ❤️

  • @frankt6906
    @frankt6906 9 дней назад +3

    70 y.o. and not a creepy old man, just RUclips algorithm. I get the deeper meaning in channels like yours. I bet you made your dad happy and he wishes the same for you. Your ex has his own problems and you can’t save him. Maybe right now you just bring smiles to the universe and the little surprises are conversations with your loved ones. Or not, just a thought.

  • @TuanLe-ko5rm
    @TuanLe-ko5rm 10 дней назад +1

    This is just the second video that I watch from you and already I have good feeling about your content. Very real and interesting. Thanks for sharing.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  10 дней назад

      Thank you so much for watching! Make sure to subscribe so you won't miss any of my videos! God bless!

  • @Oshua616
    @Oshua616 7 дней назад

    Sorry for the loss of your father. My aunt just passed away last night at 11 pm. She had rare cancer.

  • @UpTheRa007
    @UpTheRa007 19 дней назад +2

    Keep smiling ❤keep shining

  • @DavidMorrissey1978
    @DavidMorrissey1978 14 дней назад

    Lidia-you move me, and my heart breaks as I experience my own pain as you share yours. Our humanity is one. Nobody on RUclips shares from the depths. I’m a 63 year old retired vet. I’ve been homeless and penniless. Both of my little brothers died in accidents many years ago. My Godfather, Uncle, and cousin took their own lives with guns. I attempted to end it twice. It seems God wouldn’t have-yet. My wife left me 33 years ago and I just couldn’t find that again. She’s gone too. However there’s Grace. Our two children and grandson are close (daughter is your age😀) I’m finally at peace and comfortable and in Love my fellow travelers. Your smile and optimism and the way you treat people is lovely-your energy is precious-not new age bs-Truth. You hang tight girl-the Universe is conspiring for Lidia. Oh-all 4 of my grandparents were immigrants. Irish and Italian. The northeast is loaded with us lol! I’m grateful that you appeared on my feed🙏🎸😎

  • @erinlea9229
    @erinlea9229 18 дней назад

    Lidia thank you for sharing. Sending good healing vibes. Keep going girl✌️❤

  • @louk231
    @louk231 16 дней назад +1

    I know that knowing that others too are battling tough obstacles help those of us who feel as though it is only us. Your videos, I've only see this one and the one before it, helps to show that I am not the only one. Keep pushing on .

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  16 дней назад

      Thank you so much for sharing this with me because it's the only reason why I am making these kind of videos! I am happy to hear that it helps others. Stay strong

  • @DonkeyWalloper
    @DonkeyWalloper 9 дней назад

    I respect the fact that you know exactly what you're doing. Hats off. Genius. ❤

  • @Maggie-to9vv
    @Maggie-to9vv 7 дней назад

    Lidia..forever comfort 🥹🌹💕🦋

  • @maggiepena2067
    @maggiepena2067 18 дней назад

    Hey Lidia I just started following you because I’m going thru a lot of similar issues with life such as divorce and death. Your story is helping me cope and seeing the real struggles of a woman helps me realize I’m not alone. I do all the same activities as you and sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesn’t. I wonder if I will ever get past this trauma. I look happy but I’m sad inside. I see your truths and I support you Lidia. Don’t ever give up because I think you’re doing such a beautiful job with your trauma by sharing your story with the world. Thank you Lidia your a amazing woman❤

  • @Stompervi
    @Stompervi 19 дней назад +1

    I See the message in your video's and i appreciate you sharing them with all of us. i lost a friend that was pretty much my brother. all my old hobbies don't seem to bring me much happiness and enjoyment anymore. i've always had friends, but now a days i'm a loner mostly. most of my friends are back home where i grew up. but the ones i made where i live now, i have started going out with them more. to the lake to go swimming, kayaking, fishing. and just randomly stopping by their house has put me into a better mental state. just bought a mini moto motorcycle and seeing life in a new way is helping a lot. i will never forget my brother, but i know the time i have left here he wouldn't want me to struggle. so i'm gonna live my life for him. I thank you for your videos and I hope you can find your peace and total happiness.

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      I think you found your a new hobby wish that motorcycle ❤ thank you so much for sharing

  • @sparksessence
    @sparksessence 10 дней назад

    I resonate with your reality. I understand 'frozen' & 'numb', grief, fear. I continue to search for unconditional support. I can't stop. I push forward when can. I seek courage, every day.

  • @wynniiiet5080
    @wynniiiet5080 16 дней назад +1

    Hi Lidia, I found your channel a while back when you started again. I don’t know your other channel or ex relationship details, but I know your story. I lost my dad to suicide and left my boyfriend I was going to marry within four months of each other. I was devastated and it was difficult to get out of bed. I know what you are going through. It does get better and you have to try to meditate and get out of your head replaying the “stories.” You will overcome this battle, and I’m sorry it happened in the middle of a pandemic. Mine was in my 30’s and older now. You will be fine, I am just glad you are taking time in nature! Being by the beach is healthy for you! Negative ions are taking your pain away. Sending you healing vibes!! 🥰🥰🥰 Block all negativity from your life and even if they are bots 🤖 or actual people….STAY in your ❤️

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  16 дней назад

      Thank you so mucho fro sharing your story with me, I am sure you understand me; I am trying hard to cut out every negative person and thing around me :) hopefully soon things look brighter

  • @xrpcit.y1288
    @xrpcit.y1288 4 дня назад

    Your channel is awesome...I remember Tony Alva from the 80's, when we would skate....wasn't he a part of DOG TOWN?.. What you said about stress is so true. That is how I'm now disabled...it breaks down neurons...You're doing awesome...you got this.😊

  • @1Roadroamer
    @1Roadroamer 19 дней назад

    Hi Lydia, I was so sorry when you revealed what had happened in your life before you left here. I am so glad that you have returned. You have been through such a terrible ordeal and even though you still are going through it, your resilience shines bright. You are strong and I know you will find peace. Keep pushing forward...

  • @Valerygallery
    @Valerygallery 19 дней назад

    Considering what you've been through, I think that you're a very strong individual. You didn't cave. You came back to your channel, which is a very good sign. You will have a lot of support from your fans. You gave yourself a year to go through the grieving process. I know it won't go away, but it gets better over time.
    Love and hugs.❤

  • @chill543
    @chill543 7 дней назад

    Really appreciate your videos. And how honest and vulnerable you are. It's refreshing to see someone be so authentic. I too have experienced a loss like alot of others here in the comments. Lost my mum 7 years ago to cancer. It was really difficult. It does take time to heal. And eventually joy will return more frequently. I think you find acceptance. In the way that part of you will always miss that person. And sometimes feel sad about what happened. But that's ok. You can enjoy life and be happy. But sometimes you'll feel sad about them not being here and that's ok. You can life live. No one is happy all the time. Little things can definitely help. Like finding time for the simple things that cheer you up when you're feeling down. Self care. Connection with people. Stay well. Much love ❤️

  • @extraordinaire78
    @extraordinaire78 18 дней назад

    I think that what you are doing is authentic and brave. That you are working through your pain. It’s okay to be sad eventually it won’t hurt like it does now. The time it takes is unknown you will wake up one day and realize you aren’t sad anymore.

  • @S_a_g_r_a
    @S_a_g_r_a 19 дней назад

    Recién te conozco porque me salió recomendado tu video. Que valiente y gran creadora de contenido sos Lidia. Gracias por compartir. Un abrazo y mucha fuerza

  • @David-jd5lp
    @David-jd5lp 11 дней назад

    Proud of your approach! You will come out even stronger!

  • @kirkcrosby168
    @kirkcrosby168 День назад

    God bless this beautiful woman 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @corileah2106
    @corileah2106 19 дней назад +1

    Im really sorry for your losses. Sending you strength and love. Thank you for your honesty and realness. Life is so hard and I relate to what you said about being stuck in survival mode and always thinking about worst case scenario's. Its stressful

    • @LidiaRico
      @LidiaRico  19 дней назад +1

      Thank you for your support ❤ it’s important to acknowledge our emotions and move forward

  • @tyson1fan487
    @tyson1fan487 15 дней назад

    I remember you and your Ex always building amazing vehicles and showing your life and I don't watch much social media daily but He always seemed so cool and had it together and was truly talented. I'm sorry you have dealt with so much and I'm truly sorry to hear about him 🙏 You are a strong woman and you're likely a role model for so many young women. Take Care and Stay Safe.