I have been using this video every night with different stressful/traumatic memories from my past. I'm finding it very helpful. Best EMDR self-therapy video I've found.
I received EMDR for medication phobia back in the 90’s. The phobia was caused by an allergic reaction. The EMDR worked. I have no problem taking needed medications.
Just finished my first session with you. Much love brother thank you for doing this, there are not many videos like this and I truly appreciated your efforts.
P.S. I just realized this was posted 4 years ago! Still so helpful for so many of us today! Looking forward to scrolling your videos. I’ve subscribed and will be sharing your subscription and information with others!
Today was my first try ever. I stoped at 13.47 because my hands were hurting and Icouldn't keep up with the rhythm. I'll try again later. So much rage! Update. I did it with my third try. It worked ! I'm ready for my meditation now. I'm thinking about making a list of stressful situation to work with. Thank you very much. I apprieciate your service . Thank you.
I have been tremendously helped with the EMDR therapy, what a relief... Thank you! I really recommend it to everyone. I had exam anxiety, but after attending the session, I feel truly confident and no longer anxious.
I found this video just today. And honestly, I practised it like 4 times in just a moment. It really helped me a lot to think differently as I used to Judge the scenarios,(those traumas).
I was in an ocean of paper work. Lot of fear. 😰. As I tapped the ocean started to recede. Where the ocean water was only around my ankles. I was able to tiptoe out of the ankle deep ocean to dry land. To no longer in fear of paperwork😊. 🦋🙏🦋KCMary. The butterfly method works so fast. Many thanks. 🙏
You have helped me tremendously. I have been using this EMDR session for the last two weeks, and I already notice and feel a difference in my life. I feel your caring, compassion and sincerity. Thank you so much for creating this resource.
thank you so much for posting this. desperately was searching for smth for comfort in a very intense flashback (my sister does emdr) and it helped wonders
I just subscribed in you chanel is amazing😊! I had a question? When I close my eyes, I remember several episodes from the past, they come to me one after another. And when I remember, I feel sadness and despair inside me, especially when I was in school and when someone I knew teased me and had a lot of anger. every time I think about it now I regret why I didn't react, I feel disappointed and sad why it happened?
I am coming back to the butterfly method. It really helps and so quickly changes angry 😡 emotions of a iPad pillow I ordered that didn’t work…to being able to let it go and had Son toss it. Thanks so much. No longer angry. 🦋🙏🦋. KCMary
This was an amazing introduction to EMDR! I found I couldn't see the 'screen' when I started tapping. My brain focused on the sound of your tapping. I also started worrying that I would go out of sync with your tapping. I always had a problem with rhythm/beats in music lessons. I wonder if I would do better with visually following the hand movements since I wouldn't have to worry about maintaining the beat. With that being said, I still brought my number down from 7 to a 3. It encourages me that when I find a therapist this might actually work for me.
Very helpful indeed. This helped me a lot with latest event and I am going to use it for previous traumatic experiences. Do you have some kind of platform with online guidance technics videos like this one, where I can continue working on my traumatic events in my life?
The butterfly method is very soothing, much nicer than eye movement. For someone with Vertigo, side-to-side eye movement is a source of stress in itself, but I noticed when trying this guided session for the first time, my closed eyes started to move rapidly at times, similar to REM sleep. I cry easily, and there were a lot of tears as I tried this technique. Are tears okay if I don't feel too overwhelmed? I feel better after crying but not sure if it's okay during session.
@@SelfHealingnow thank you but do we need to move eyes while they are open? Then a small screen would be enough or we need to be in person? Also as I asked earlier do we need to imagine opposite better scenarios to lie and feel better? How are we supposed to feel in the end to know that we have done the excercuse correctly? I also want to know how to forgive someone who isn't sorry and has hurt us both emotionally and physically? Please help in releasing trauma and guide in the matter of possible- Thankyou very much Dr
You're welcome. If you have a small screen, you can perhaps choose two points on a wall or in a safe place and move your eyes left and right from one point to another. There is no right or wrong to feel in the end. It's about noticing your internal world as opposed to "achieving something." I believe healing should be natural, not forced. The first step is noticing your internal worlds (feelings, thoughts, bodily sensations, etc.) Then, we can explore ways to release old trauma/feelings/patterns/beliefs. I wish you all the best on your healing process. Thank you. @@Thankyou_world
I’ve had two events I think were tempting suicide. One I was driving home from work, dark, rainy. I saw the van behind me was getting closer until it hit me. I don’t remember accelerating to avoid getting hit. I was entranced watching it. Another time, going to work at night. I get to railroad tracks. The light came on and I stopped. The bar came down on the top of my small hatchback. The train blew its whistle more than usual. I noticed the cars were bigger than usual. I told a co-worker about it. He looked serious. I didn’t get it but the next day he brought me a CD of gospel music that resonated with me. As I thought about it I suspected it was near to suicide. It wasn’t until much later I saw it in terms of dissociation, the destructive, protective parts.
Yes, it can be confusing at times. I'd encourage you to practice it with a mildly stressful event. So you can slowly build tolerance and self-awareness with this approach. Thank you for your feedback.
@@SelfHealingnow Thank you for your help! & this video, I guess the situation was more stressful than I thought hehe! I'm back to try again on a different situation! :) update: this second less stressful situation was WAY more helpful I went from 5/10 stress to 6/10 to 4/10 to 1/10. I felt it in various parts of my body where I've normally had pain in the past. the pain moved from one body part to the next during the video. The only thing standing in my way is to try again with this situation. Fabulous job! Thank you so much for facilitating Hong Jeong!
I has friend who need help with therapy and I try to contact you by the website you gave out on RUclips but it doesn’t work Is there any other way to contact you ?
The speed of tapping or bilateral stimulations is to help move past the disturbance of trauma. With slow tapping or bilateral stimulation, individuals can get stuck in their trauma. However, when I notice positive changes in my clients, I often slow down the speed of tapping. I hope you find it helpful.
Picture yourself listening to the sound whereever you heard it. What was your reacting when you heard it? Make a photo in your head of that exact moment
Hello thanks for this amazing video..but jus wanna ask how to go about when the person at present is not bothered about the past events atleast he believes so but when he faces similar situations again it triggers him so bad and it is so intense and exhausting like 9/10 and he nearly loses complete control of body and behaviour and the behaviour become abnormal like similing without reason although he knows it is making people around think he is mad or something and he feels like crying from inside but he can't control and even have trembling hands and legs and he knows people think he is uncomfortable which makes it more intense all this occur in social situations. BTW he sometimes smiles uncontrollably alone too due to mentally racing thoughts or stuff all this he believes is due to childhood trauma from an abusive gaurdian who was emotionally abusive for a long time and judgemental about his looks but today when he looks normal and handsome his behaviour is not normal..what do you suggest is best for such a person emdr or something else?
Hello, I appreciate your feedback. EMDR sometimes takes a lot of preparation work. This is an EMDR demonstration video. If that person is interested in self-healing and processing unresolved feelings, it'd be more effective to speak with a therapist. Therefore, he can set goals for his healing process and devise a concrete plan by using EMDR or other approaches. In the preparation phase, he will be able to find tools for self-regulation and self-awareness. Thank you and Happy New Year!
@@SelfHealingnow can emdr help him let go being hyper vigilant around people and thinking about how they are judging him and his behaviour and the cycle which triggers abnormal behaviours? Is emdr best option or something else ?
@tanyawieczorek6603 no he has no history of autism he used to be extremely confident about himself until age 16-17 almost over confident before this emotional abuse by a guardian about his appearance started and lasted a decade and made him so traumatised that he had extreme social anxiety and now when he looks good and knows it he still fears being judged for his behaviour and this fear triggers abnormal behaviours he thinks he is similing without reason and in the quest to control it he feels he either has a frowny face or a non serious laughing face all the time and people judge him for this and it triggers body tremors for fear of being judged...
What can I do if I'm unable to feel the physical sensations/emotions when picturing the traumatic event? I'm able to imagine the scene in my head in all details, but I don't feel anything/no anxiety which I would immediately feel if I get into the situation today in real life. So I'm not able to give a score from 0-10 since I always feel 0 when only imagining it. What should I do? Is EMDR useless then if I cant bring up those feelings during the session?
I appreciate you sharing this with me. It's important to notice and feel the whole range of our feelings on a scale of 0 to 10. I suggest you find the spots in the body where you feel your feelings. For example, I can notice slower breathing when I feel calm whereas I can feel faster breathing when I get excited or nervous. It's important to expand our bodily awareness from certain spots in the body. EMDR is designed to help you become more self-aware. So let's start somewhere and increase your self-awareness gradually. I hope this helps. Thank you.
Is there a a way to remember and focus positive feelings or moments and bring them up higher or will doing the tapping remove thow that feels in the body?
It's important to find your own ways to embrace both positive and negative feelings. Our nervous system is always active in detecting possible danger and safety. Tapping can help regulate or moderate intense feelings so that we can restore safety and regulation in the body and mind.
Yes, EMDR can be done with eyes (Bilateral Stimulation). Bilateral stimulation is stimuli (visual, auditory, or tactile) that occur in a rhythmic left-right pattern. Tapping is another way to stimulate the brain bilaterally.
1/2 a 👍 I like your video, except for the tapping technique, I don’t think you took women who have considerable sized breast into consideration. Otherwise, I thought it was good.😊
I have been using this video every night with different stressful/traumatic memories from my past. I'm finding it very helpful. Best EMDR self-therapy video I've found.
I'm gald that you find it helpful. =)
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Katie how are you doing now?
I wuld love to hear an update on how things are going now.
I lost my son . It was and is an eternal tragedy. Hopefully your therapy will help me day by day 😢
I'm sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself.
I received EMDR for medication phobia back in the 90’s. The phobia was caused by an allergic reaction. The EMDR worked. I have no problem taking needed medications.
Just finished my first session with you. Much love brother thank you for doing this, there are not many videos like this and I truly appreciated your efforts.
After tapping with the butterfly technique, on different items, I no longer feel hopeless🦋🙏🦋KCMary.
I'm glad that you found it helpful. Take good care,
P.S. I just realized this was posted 4 years ago! Still so helpful for so many of us today! Looking forward to scrolling your videos. I’ve subscribed and will be sharing your subscription and information with others!
This means a lot! Thank you.
Today was my first try ever. I stoped at 13.47 because my hands were hurting and Icouldn't keep up with the rhythm. I'll try again later. So much rage! Update. I did it with my third try. It worked ! I'm ready for my meditation now. I'm thinking about making a list of stressful situation to work with. Thank you very much. I apprieciate your service . Thank you.
I'm glad to hear that. Please take good care of yourself.
Thank you that is a valuable contribution for anybody who does not have access to therapists and who wants to do it by themselves
How are you doing now?
This completely transformed my emotions around the situation. WOW
Thank you. I'm glad that it helped you.
I have been tremendously helped with the EMDR therapy, what a relief... Thank you! I really recommend it to everyone. I had exam anxiety, but after attending the session, I feel truly confident and no longer anxious.
I appreciate your feedback. Take good care,
So kind a person to upload something like this, thank you :-)
Who are you, I donno but you are really for us.----- Thank you from all of us for being you for us(like me in this world). ❤❤❤❤
I found this video just today. And honestly, I practised it like 4 times in just a moment.
It really helped me a lot to think differently as I used to Judge the scenarios,(those traumas).
Thank you for putting this video out there.
this was nice of you. I’ve never done EMDR like this before.
I feel so much better… thank you ❤
God bless you!!! 🙏❤️❤️❤️
Thank you and take good care,
I was in an ocean of paper work. Lot of fear. 😰. As I tapped the ocean started to recede. Where the ocean water was only around my ankles. I was able to tiptoe out of the ankle deep ocean to dry land. To no longer in fear of paperwork😊. 🦋🙏🦋KCMary. The butterfly method works so fast. Many thanks. 🙏
Thank you for the feedback. I'd encourage you to continue using coping skills that are effective for you.
I appreciate you so much. 😊
You're welcome.
Thank you so much for sharing this!
I'm glad to hear that. Please take good care of yourself.
You have helped me tremendously. I have been using this EMDR session for the last two weeks, and I already notice and feel a difference in my life. I feel your caring, compassion and sincerity. Thank you so much for creating this resource.
I'm glad to hear that. Thank you!
thank you so much for posting this. desperately was searching for smth for comfort in a very intense flashback (my sister does emdr) and it helped wonders
Thank you for sharing this.. for free. Very helpful 🙏🏼
Thank you and take good care,
I just subscribed in you chanel is amazing😊! I had a question? When I close my eyes, I remember several episodes from the past, they come to me one after another. And when I remember, I feel sadness and despair inside me, especially when I was in school and when someone I knew teased me and had a lot of anger. every time I think about it now I regret why I didn't react, I feel disappointed and sad why it happened?
Wow. Thank you for this so powerful and helpful.
Wounderful video u made. Thanks
congrats drom Brazil. You are Angel. More people need know u. Continue your good work.
I am coming back to the butterfly method. It really helps and so quickly changes angry 😡 emotions of a iPad pillow I ordered that didn’t work…to being able to let it go and had Son toss it. Thanks so much. No longer angry. 🦋🙏🦋. KCMary
Thank you 😀
This was an amazing introduction to EMDR! I found I couldn't see the 'screen' when I started tapping. My brain focused on the sound of your tapping. I also started worrying that I would go out of sync with your tapping. I always had a problem with rhythm/beats in music lessons. I wonder if I would do better with visually following the hand movements since I wouldn't have to worry about maintaining the beat.
With that being said, I still brought my number down from 7 to a 3. It encourages me that when I find a therapist this might actually work for me.
I can't see a screen either 😕
Did you find a therapist?
How are you doing now?
Thanks ❤ Thanks ❤ Thanks❤
Wow,that was amazing
I am in control…..KCMary..🦋😊🦋…..
Thank you so much for your kind heart sir. For making these videos. You are making a huge difference for many! ❤
Thank you for the feedback. It means a lot to me.
🦋Thank you🦋,so much🦋. Very helpful🦋KCMary…😊
Amazing
God send for me feeling
Thankyou with all my heart
Very helpful indeed. This helped me a lot with latest event and I am going to use it for previous traumatic experiences. Do you have some kind of platform with online guidance technics videos like this one, where I can continue working on my traumatic events in my life?
Yes, we have a few other videos on trauma processing and healing. Feel free to check my channel.
Thankyou So much for making this video hey ☺️ - it is So good! 😊 thankyou
You're welcome. I hope you find it helpful. 😃
Amazing, thank you 🖤
🦋🍁🦋…..thank you…KCMary….
Thank you!!!!!!! This was great!
Just found this. It’s amazing. Please do more
Thank you. I hope you take good care of yourself.
❤❤❤ such a gift 🎁
Thank you! Been doing EMDR with a therapist. I've been confused of how to do it. How you explained it. I understand know. Bless you.
You're welcome. I hope you find ways to process your feelings and thoughts.
The butterfly method is very soothing, much nicer than eye movement. For someone with Vertigo, side-to-side eye movement is a source of stress in itself, but I noticed when trying this guided session for the first time, my closed eyes started to move rapidly at times, similar to REM sleep. I cry easily, and there were a lot of tears as I tried this technique. Are tears okay if I don't feel too overwhelmed? I feel better after crying but not sure if it's okay during session.
thank you so much
🌱🦋🌱 KCMary…I am Calm🦋
🦋🌻🦋….thanks so much…KCMary…..
Love this!
Thank you.
Thank you very much!
This is very helpful!
Thank you 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Where was the "Eye Movement"?
The title should say "Tapping".
Gracias
Peace and Calm….🦋🌱🦋…KCMary
🦋🍁🦋…….thank you……..KCMary…
Thank you I was wondering don't we have to move eyes from left to right and also imagine the better scenarios?
Tapping left and right is another bilateral stimulation. You want to try different bilateral stimulation methods and see which one you prefer.
@@SelfHealingnow thank you but do we need to move eyes while they are open? Then a small screen would be enough or we need to be in person? Also as I asked earlier do we need to imagine opposite better scenarios to lie and feel better? How are we supposed to feel in the end to know that we have done the excercuse correctly? I also want to know how to forgive someone who isn't sorry and has hurt us both emotionally and physically? Please help in releasing trauma and guide in the matter of possible- Thankyou very much Dr
You're welcome. If you have a small screen, you can perhaps choose two points on a wall or in a safe place and move your eyes left and right from one point to another. There is no right or wrong to feel in the end. It's about noticing your internal world as opposed to "achieving something." I believe healing should be natural, not forced. The first step is noticing your internal worlds (feelings, thoughts, bodily sensations, etc.) Then, we can explore ways to release old trauma/feelings/patterns/beliefs. I wish you all the best on your healing process. Thank you.
@@Thankyou_world
@@SelfHealingnow thank you for your reply and suggestions Dr
How are you doing now?
I’ve had two events I think were tempting suicide. One I was driving home from work, dark, rainy. I saw the van behind me was getting closer until it hit me. I don’t remember accelerating to avoid getting hit. I was entranced watching it.
Another time, going to work at night. I get to railroad tracks. The light came on and I stopped. The bar came down on the top of my small hatchback. The train blew its whistle more than usual. I noticed the cars were bigger than usual.
I told a co-worker about it. He looked serious. I didn’t get it but the next day he brought me a CD of gospel music that resonated with me.
As I thought about it I suspected it was near to suicide. It wasn’t until much later I saw it in terms of dissociation, the destructive, protective parts.
Is tnere have any emdr therapy in korea??
I have Aphantasia, how can I utilise EMDR without a minds eye screen?
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There's a reply to this but I don't see it..
Did you ever find the answer to this?
I keep trying to imagine it in a funny way and then I felt confusion like why does this stress me out.
Yes, it can be confusing at times. I'd encourage you to practice it with a mildly stressful event. So you can slowly build tolerance and self-awareness with this approach. Thank you for your feedback.
@@SelfHealingnow Thank you for your help! & this video, I guess the situation was more stressful than I thought hehe! I'm back to try again on a different situation! :)
update: this second less stressful situation was WAY more helpful I went from 5/10 stress to 6/10 to 4/10 to 1/10. I felt it in various parts of my body where I've normally had pain in the past. the pain moved from one body part to the next during the video. The only thing standing in my way is to try again with this situation. Fabulous job! Thank you so much for facilitating Hong Jeong!
@@Mindsetolympics I appreciate your feedback. I hope everything goes well with your situation. Take good care of yourself.
I has friend who need help with therapy and I try to contact you by the website you gave out on RUclips but it doesn’t work
Is there any other way to contact you ?
Hello, I hope your day is going well. My website is jeongtherapy.com. I can be also reached at jeongtherapy@gmail.com. Thank you.
Exactly *why* does the tapping have to be so fast?
Is it proven that this speed is more effective than a slower speed?
The speed of tapping or bilateral stimulations is to help move past the disturbance of trauma. With slow tapping or bilateral stimulation, individuals can get stuck in their trauma. However, when I notice positive changes in my clients, I often slow down the speed of tapping. I hope you find it helpful.
What if I can't come up with a picture?
My trauma was a sound, its not associated with a picture..
Picture yourself listening to the sound whereever you heard it. What was your reacting when you heard it? Make a photo in your head of that exact moment
Hello thanks for this amazing video..but jus wanna ask how to go about when the person at present is not bothered about the past events atleast he believes so but when he faces similar situations again it triggers him so bad and it is so intense and exhausting like 9/10 and he nearly loses complete control of body and behaviour and the behaviour become abnormal like similing without reason although he knows it is making people around think he is mad or something and he feels like crying from inside but he can't control and even have trembling hands and legs and he knows people think he is uncomfortable which makes it more intense all this occur in social situations. BTW he sometimes smiles uncontrollably alone too due to mentally racing thoughts or stuff all this he believes is due to childhood trauma from an abusive gaurdian who was emotionally abusive for a long time and judgemental about his looks but today when he looks normal and handsome his behaviour is not normal..what do you suggest is best for such a person emdr or something else?
Is he on the autism spectrum?
Hello, I appreciate your feedback. EMDR sometimes takes a lot of preparation work. This is an EMDR demonstration video. If that person is interested in self-healing and processing unresolved feelings, it'd be more effective to speak with a therapist. Therefore, he can set goals for his healing process and devise a concrete plan by using EMDR or other approaches. In the preparation phase, he will be able to find tools for self-regulation and self-awareness. Thank you and Happy New Year!
@@SelfHealingnow can emdr help him let go being hyper vigilant around people and thinking about how they are judging him and his behaviour and the cycle which triggers abnormal behaviours? Is emdr best option or something else ?
@tanyawieczorek6603 no he has no history of autism he used to be extremely confident about himself until age 16-17 almost over confident before this emotional abuse by a guardian about his appearance started and lasted a decade and made him so traumatised that he had extreme social anxiety and now when he looks good and knows it he still fears being judged for his behaviour and this fear triggers abnormal behaviours he thinks he is similing without reason and in the quest to control it he feels he either has a frowny face or a non serious laughing face all the time and people judge him for this and it triggers body tremors for fear of being judged...
What can I do if I'm unable to feel the physical sensations/emotions when picturing the traumatic event? I'm able to imagine the scene in my head in all details, but I don't feel anything/no anxiety which I would immediately feel if I get into the situation today in real life. So I'm not able to give a score from 0-10 since I always feel 0 when only imagining it. What should I do? Is EMDR useless then if I cant bring up those feelings during the session?
I appreciate you sharing this with me. It's important to notice and feel the whole range of our feelings on a scale of 0 to 10. I suggest you find the spots in the body where you feel your feelings. For example, I can notice slower breathing when I feel calm whereas I can feel faster breathing when I get excited or nervous. It's important to expand our bodily awareness from certain spots in the body. EMDR is designed to help you become more self-aware. So let's start somewhere and increase your self-awareness gradually. I hope this helps. Thank you.
Is there a a way to remember and focus positive feelings or moments and bring them up higher or will doing the tapping remove thow that feels in the body?
It's important to find your own ways to embrace both positive and negative feelings. Our nervous system is always active in detecting possible danger and safety. Tapping can help regulate or moderate intense feelings so that we can restore safety and regulation in the body and mind.
@@SelfHealingnow Right but is there a different technique. Someone said on Reddit to do tapping slower on a 2 and 4 count.
@@LalondeFilmsdid you figure this out? How are you doing now?
@@tanyawieczorek6603 No sorry forgot about this.
This is not emdr. Isn't emdr done with fingers in front of eye's. What is this technique specifically called please reply.
Yes, EMDR can be done with eyes (Bilateral Stimulation). Bilateral stimulation is stimuli (visual, auditory, or tactile) that occur in a rhythmic left-right pattern. Tapping is another way to stimulate the brain bilaterally.
Why 1-7 ?
That I do not know. According to the EMDR protocol, they measure a positive statement on a scale of 0 to 7. I appreciate your curiosity
1/2 a 👍 I like your video, except for the tapping technique, I don’t think you took women who have considerable sized breast into consideration. Otherwise, I thought it was good.😊
Can't your arms go over your breasts? (Honest question 😊)
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Thanks so much…so helpful…so thankful for this tapping session🦋🙏🦋KCMary.
Thank you so much!!