Attract Great Guys Thank you for sharing your experience when you met your wife you were working in a cubicle & she encouraged you to do this!!! ♥️♥️ Quality material, thank you!
nick smith Well, SHE definitely wants sex too! I think a lot of people forget that feminine energy is sexuality. The right hemisphere or feminine energy is creativity, emotion, spirituality and sexuality. The left hemisphere or masculine energy is structure, arithmetic, reason, and ego. If we look back at matriarchal history, there’s evidence of this everywhere.
1 higher standards no immaturity 2 inner warrior 3 respect and lift up 4 appreciate and ego 5 his own space And i will also write down what most women want: 1 to be Loved, respected, and appreciated 2 Protected physically and emotionally 3 Provided 4 Loyal to her (she's your only Queen) 5 Commitment
for women, 4 and 5 are the same.. 2 and 3 are the same. I'd do: 1. To be loved, respected and appreciated 2. To feel protected physically, emotionally and financially 3. To be truly admired for something: compassion, business skills, art, beauty, etc 4. To be listened to and obeyed by her man, yes. She wants to know she has power over her man and can influence him, she wants to have a say. 5. To be challenged and dominated by her man, yes. A man that always follows what she says is weak, she wants to have power over him but she yearns someone strong enough to put her in her place when is needed. She will probably have bad and unstable days, she NEEDS a rock to rely on or to be humbled by.
Speak for yourself personally I don't really care about being provided for, nor do I want a parasite expecting me to do all the housework I pride myself in self sufficiency and being grounded I just need companionship, genuine friendship, someone to explore life with but mostly a person that doesn't restrict me from reaching my full potential in life and accomplishing my goals (I'm willing to offer the same) I'm not necessarily a fan of codependency in relationships too much of it isn't healthy
I am happy you stated "high quality men". Men need to start coaching other men to be high quality. A man can marry you and not have high standards but is drawn to the woman because she's a leader with high standards. Getting a ring is the least. Men need to be taught how to treat women. Most men cant handle queens. Queen: I'm all of these, getting a commitment and even talking about the future, building a life was never my problem. I was raised by a queen, whose happily married for 20 years now. My brother was raised by a King, treats his partner as a lady should be treated.
And lets not forget there are "high quality" women. Women should start coaching other women how to be high quality. A woman can marry you and not have high standards but is drawn to the man because he's a leader with high standards. Women need to be taught how to treat men. Most women cant handle kings. Too much immaturity, self centeredness and feminazi BS.
@@gr8-fun162 Always one dude that reverses the comment aimed towards men on a video about high quality men. Most women CAN handle kings. That's why theres so many single independent women nowadays. Not enough kings for the queens out there.
Am single and I love it! Relationships are hard, a lot of work and effort goes into it and sometimes all for nothing! Some still end up cheating, divorced.
I was ready to just be single after my divorce. Was so ready to just focus on my kids and get another cat. Then love found me. Still going strong after 5 years! I'm not that young anymore. Never give up!
Agree! It's also dangerous to invest too much into a relationship when you're highly ambitious in other ways only to find the guy wants kids and you don't or he is happy with mediocrity but you want to be a multimillionaire power couple . You could have put that energy into your goals and other things that won't leave you. Made the mistake before and never again. Even if eternally single - at least ill have the lifestyle I want more than anything or anyone. ✌
After 40 years of marriage, I'm thinking that all men are just game players and when old, want a mother. Happy to be single now after his passing. Freedom!
All men are game players unless there’s one that don’t & he must be under a rock!! When I’ve went by these rules I wasn’t appreciated! The man got the big head thinking I cared more than I actually did (loved him more than anything) in other words it just made him cocky! When I have acted as if I didn’t care, didn’t make them feel special or important, they treated me like a queen! The true part of the video is that men do love a challenge therefore it’s always a game & who plays it the best! Don’t kid yourself either....looks matter to a man, always!!
It's worth noting that with the WRONG man, even if you actually DO all of that (which is great advice by the way), he will not transform into someone worth forming a healthy relationship with. I've experienced this beforehand. I found myself that I was doing MOST of the things mentioned in this video (not all, but most), yet he was still distant and a "jerk". Choose your partner wisely, then invest in your relationship accordingly. Good luck ladies! And thank you for posting this video :)
That's where self-respect comes in. Knowing your worth, not tolerating the BS, and showing him the door when it comes to that. I've had to do this a few times, which freed up the opportunity to find the one I ended up marrying.
The reason he was being distant and a jerk was because as men we've been led to believe that's one of the ways to need to keep you interested and not wander off silly as it sounds. Plus you'll never change a guy, why in God's name are you always trying to change men, this goes on and on. Men go into relationships hoping they won't change women the opposite it's seen time and time again. Trust issues just seem to persist between us.
@@jaymcd8577 Usually the men nagging how women are trying to change them, are the mama's boys who refuse to grow up and adapt, because it's just easier to stay in the comfort zone and wait for good things to happen to them. Your habits and behaviours are not who you are, but what you choose to repeat, this should be subject to change, if you're mature enough to see what's not doing you any good in the long run. Trust issues persist because people get stuck in the past and act out of fear and insecurity. The evolutionary role of females is to adapt faster and anticipate change (which is constant and inevitable like gravity, so why fear it?), to drive progress and encourage competition among men, so the species can survive and evolve. That is the reason why women are naturally picky and demanding improvement. It's not because we are all irrational cruel bitches, boys. Everyone, man or woman, has flaws, and the only way up is to be open to change. Not easy, but worth it.
There's an old saying when training horses - "reward the try.'" every time they make an attempt to respond to the ask, a little reward is given. Doesn't take long before things click. I think the same thing goes for people/men. A "thank you" or peck on the cheek, bringing a cup of coffee, little things but huge in showing appreciation.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx Kindness begets kindness. "Reward the try" simply means to appreciate an effort. The appreciation of a kind word,, a chore done, etc. (and I don't mean a material gift, this is above that), should be everyday behavior. I have friends married 28 years, and it's a pleasure to be around them. All because they appreciate the little (and big) things they do for each other, from making coffee to remodeling the bathroom! Nowadays, many people don't know how to respond to, or show kindness. It has to be taught. We DO teach others how to treat us, define boundaries, express needs and desires, but not by manipulation. That implies selfishness. Kindness implies selflessness. And that's what love is about.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx no, not manipulation. It's teaching how you want to be treated. I can either dig in the spurs, or give loving pats. The ultimate goal is to create NOT a push-button machine, but a relationship. And trust me, those critters have big personalities, and they don't change - but you adapt to create the relationship. It's not changing a person, I know better than that. But I will definitely set boundaries in a relationship, and that is done with respect and kindness. I'm sorry my point isn't getting through. It sounds like someone really put you through the wringer.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx I don't understand you. Do you say "yes, please" or "thank you?". Or is being kind considered manipulation in your book? The ultimate goal is the relationship thriving. That means both benefit. Manipulation is where only one benefits, and not for long. Relationship growth is done with respect, kindness, boundaries. No dating coach told me this. It comes from 59 years on this Rock, and lots of bumps and bruises along the way. What's wrong with being kind, with responding in a sweet way when someone does something? It makes them feel good as well. That's neither control nor manipulation. And I never "manipulated" my horses. I'm really sorry you can't see kindness for what it is.
What I want in a man One who is sensitive , empathetic , respectful, and kind. A man who is honest, and is willing and able to work on dissolving conflicts and to keep growing. Someone who is intelligent and has a good sense of humour A man who loves children and animals A man who is moral, loyal and who has good manners.
What do you mean by independent? It's quite a vague term. Like, financially ? No matter how independent you are, you're gonna need protection when walking at night and a criminal comes up to you (man or woman)
I haven't even watched the Video to the end. But, as a man, I feel the obligation to make something crystal clear. There is absolutely nothing that men "secretly" want from women. Here is what we want: - being treated decently (as human beings, just like you expect us to treat you from the beginning on; *with respect* ) - sex (before any commitments it is) Why? Because most men don't yet feel ready and need some time to get into something more serious (relationships rely on trust and both partners need to get to know each other better first) and last but not least - be honest ( *no mindgames* , no matter how difficult that seems.) If a man likes a woman in a certain way and he has the option, he will be straight forward and honest with her about his motives, so she knows what's going on. Please, try the same. Who knows and maybe you (girls) will be quite successfull. That's it. Maybe it does not apply to everyone ever, but I guess it does to most people and (especially) men. Btw. There is a gigantic difference between MEN and manlets, because the latter are full of shit. 💩 So beware of them. P.d. independance is important to have (for both genders it is) You know, it makes life generally (including dating/hooking up) easier and therefore more enjoyable. That would be all for today. 🎩👌
what should the woman do when a man and woman have been married for awhile and the man starts to get complacent (not complimenting her, not making plans for dates, not doing the things he did in the beginning of the relationship)?
@@Mereship she has 3 options: 1. She does those things for him and wins him over (and convices him to do the same for her by doing so) 2. She yells at him (or confronts him anyhow) about it, but only after trying the polite/civilized way at first 3. She leaves him for good and tries a new one (even if not immediately) Yes, in this particular order Btw. women also get complacent (possibly more so but feel free to correct me if I am wrong) However, if a relationship goes for long enough, then prople get used to each other, and over time get bored easily and therefore need to find creative solutions about it anyway.
I can give you a sixth "thing": occasionally, when both of you are sitting on a couch, put his head on your lap, caress his hair and tell him that you are proud of him. It's very likely no one has ever done this to him. Expect a smile and a couple of tears.
Being a man here is what I think.. Point no 1. That's actually true. Never thought that way. Thanks for teaching women what we men want. It's really essential. 2. Spot on! Spot on!
Why do we have to be told over and over what men want so we can satisfy them , so they can want us. Men should grow up and stop playing the stupid game.
There are videos about men treating women right. You just have to search for them. We are looking at these because we are women. I think the men are looking at the ones telling them how to treat us.
"A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings". So please spend time to love yourself and build yourself so the right guys will follow
This is so enlightening.....am starting to like these sessions. Caution* Don’t do any of these with a narcissistic man,you will be drained of your efforts and it still won’t be good enough.
Never invest more than you are willing to lose . I am married for close to 34 years to the same man. It's not all about what men want. its what works in the season's of your relationship ever changing and growing and you have to apply your mind , communicate and respect goes both ways.
As a man, I already know the first one is not entirely true, ambition is surely attractive, but not all guys will prefer this. Some men prefer to have a housewife. As long as both of the partners are equals in the relationship, it doesn't matter. This topic is completely subjective, not objective. Don't be fooled into thinking that all men are the same.
Also let me add that just because men weren’t raised to articulate their emotions properly doesn’t mean they haven’t had plenty of time to learn. That’s a poor excuse. Some kids are raised by parents who never teach them about health, education, manners, or sobriety even.,... but at one point kids become young adults, who then learn about taking responsibility, whether their parents raised them to be responsible or not. Most of us eventually learn that we can’t keep blaming what we don’t currently know on our parents... especially NOW with the luxury of free education literally at our fingertips, there’s REALLY no excuse, at least for most of us.. Look - women could be saying the same nonsense, and say that because their parents didn’t raise them to embrace their sexuality, let alone so liberally, then they shouldn’t be expected to be by the men they’re dating... but THAT wouldn’t fly with men. If a man is able to go online or attend a seminar on how to pick up and seduce women, the he can just as easily learn to articulate his feelings. It would be a different argument altogether if men have never heard about women wanting them to articulate their emotions... Does anyone know a man in their life who’s never once heard that women desire emotional transparency and reciprocity?!? No. One could argue that if a man hasn’t taken it upon himself to not only learn about what women desire but also what they need from him and other men, then it’s likely he doesn’t care enough to, and that’s probably a fact that many women are in denial about accepting. I say, if your man says “nothing” when you ask him what he’s thinking find a man with basic communication skills. Because he didn’t have to be perfect to be able to convey his thoughts or feelings.. I dated a guy who was 23 at the time and he had no issues whatsoever with crying in front of me and telling me how he felt at any given moment. It’s not rocket science..
Wow thank you for being so articulate! We just need more women that have self respect and value who they are and stop thinking that they need a man vs wanting a man and looking for the qualities for a healthy mentally stable relationship. I have an ex-boyfriend who blamed his parents for the way he turned out as an adult. I told him the first step is in acknowledging that and you have two choices you can either continue to play the victim and make everybody pay which is very narcissistic or you can put your big boy pants on and she used to be a mentally emotionally stable adult and get some therapy. He chose to continue to be the victim.
@@dagda3000 It's both true and false. In the beginning women want men to appear strong and dependable so showing weakness is a bad move, including being too emotional. But later on it is healthier to show some emotion in order to bond with your partner. Not all emotions show weakness either, if you are in difficulty and show that emotionally but then you work to overcome it it actually shows strength and women will respect you more. It's only if you do nothing but sit around and mope and complain that women (or honestly anyone) will lose respect for you.
He is speaking to women to help them, not to men to help them, for context. You're right: sometimes women are doing all the right stuff, but are still betrayed. Does that sound like a quality man? No. Who we choose makes a big difference in how far our efforts go. This coach has many other great videos. I have been following him for awhile and have taken a lot of his advice. I am now in the ONLY truly great relationship I've ever had and his advice checks out. I know you've been disappointed, but watch his other videos and really keep an open mind. One thing he repeats a lot is something I needed to hear: I deserve a quality man. He has excellent advice on how to tell the difference, and once you've found him, how to put in the right effort that will help you boost your partner's self esteem AND reinforce positive, loving behavior that you need and want. Hang in there, woman! You will find someone quality!
@@princessunicorn4321 No you don't. Not in general. W0men in general divorce men that give them love, trust, honesty and are "always there", because w0men don't respect such men.
I'd add, a woman IS the table. What does that man bring to YOU? This is the mindset women need to start adopting instead of burning the candle at both ends (wanting to be a good housewife, plan on having kids, AND working our asses off to have a full time career.....No way). All that work is 80/20 for a woman who cannot rest in her femininity and will never be taken care of. The MAN needs to be the one putting in more effort.
So, a lot of the comments sound like people expressing some frustration over the inequalities that exist between men getting their needs met and women getting theirs met. I feel that this video was not designed to exacerbate that, but really to contemplate that dynamic. Why is it men have their needs met more than women as a whole? Men will straight up ask for more and they don't always over deliver. This video was filmed to let everyone in on what goes through a man's head and he delivered the information honestly, meaning he didn't hold back the truth because he's afraid how women would take it. I appreciate the honesty and have learned that when I swallow what felt like my pride and opened up to my spouse and appreciated and respected him, what I got back from him made it all totally worth it. He started treating me like his queen and made successful efforts to live up to the respect and appreciation I was giving him. Today, he literally lives to support and make me happy. I and our daughters are his entire life and as long as I continue to put him in his "king" chair he will continue to put me in my queen and goddess throne. I know to us women some of the things he said make us cringe, but if we can let go of what we make those things mean and treat him like the king we want to be married to, he will give back 10 fold what we put in. I went from working toward a separation with my spouse to being more in love with him than I ever thought I could be. Literally, all he wants is to serve me perfectly because when he succeeds at that it makes him feel like a real man, strong and capable. When he feels strong and capable he actually becomes those things, so it's a feedback loop that's addicting and amazing and wonderful. I had to get past the resentment of, "why am I the one that has to learn how he works." On the other side of that resentment is total happiness with your partner. On the other side of that is also him reaching to understand you too. In fact that's what he's been trying to do the whole time. We just didn't see it. Disclaimer: This is all contingent on him being a healthy masculine man.
Because this is a channel that explores understanding what men really want. Search for "dating advice for men" and you'll find a ton of channels dedicated to understanding women.
Acyuallyy, There isn't a Ton of channels dedicated to means needs. There is one he s called CHAZZ ELLIS. He Tells it all.CHAZZ tells things that Men would never admit to. Check out CHAZZ Ellis on You Tube. He s great.
Maybe not puting enough energy on your own life, goals or personal development and focusimg to much on geting validatiom by man. I dont know... I have no idea. Just ocured me maybe you are trying to hard, and forgeting about first starting on you, on your own happiness, to then be able to share it.
There are some good points but you first have to find that quality man that you want to put forth the effort and hopefully they will reciprocate. So far there have been zilch zero nada that I would go out of my way for.
@Cindy Lou with holding sex from guys is worse. Sex to us tells us you like us it breaks down the barriers, from there we're open to further bonding. I know some guys just want sex, but that's up to you to be able to get know the guy well enough before hand on a few dates or whatever to know what his intentions are, but once you've given him the signs that your seriously into him do not I repeat do not dangle him on a hook, or he'll walk. We have feelings too.
@Cindy Lou and can I just add to that, I'm sorry I'm just gonna be a straight up guy about this. Say he ends up not being into you...you still got laid? I try to understand that sex is different for you ladies, I genuinely do, and I have to say I'm firmly convinced that the average woman can get more action that the average guy, so what's the problem here in a way? You're still getting laid..and that is how a guy thinks about it..because for a lot've average guys...news flash...we don't get it that often..contrary to popular belief, the guy who isn't like the latest hunk you drool over are invisible to you gals and don't see action for months even years on end, so when we get some..yay us!! and that further still sounds like you're typical nice guy right? not a player..so I return the question to you..are you perhaps being too picky, ignoring the 'nice guys' and going for the good looking jerks who just want to shag you and run leaving you with hurt feelings?..you know what i'm getting at here and you know I'm right..I await your response
pk pk I once rejected a guy in high school, and he spread with his friends the rumor that the reason why I never had a bf, is because I’m a lesbian, while I’m 100%. I wasn’t just ready to date but he kept telling everyone that I’m gay, ( nothing against gay peoples but my school was conservative, so it wasn’t a good thing) and everytime i talk with a girl he would whisper to his friend’s ears things like siccoring, or lesbo kisses. I never gave a fuck about it, but the rumor was so wide that a teacher believed that! No girl was a part of this rumor, most of them even defended me.
But some type of weak man lately love to rely on woman financial help to pay bills or even for a hamburguer..but when they should help her they say woman want money. Ridiculous...
My ex wanted a strong women until the strong women disagreed with him. Lol Men want strong women because she does what he could or should do, less work for him.
@Yvonne Terran I don't want to be rude, but I read some of your answers and it feels like you came from a time machine set in 1960. What is that thing about the beer and the sandwich that you post? I don't want to be a mom for a men and I don't expect he become my dad, I want an adult who respect me as an equal.
@@susanyeadon6657 Noting wrong with a little sass, but if you're both going to act the man in the relationship, then it's no longer a relationship. What if he was to constantly act 'feminine' toward you, how would you be attracted to him then?
@Ms. Elite exactly, but hey it's ok for the guy to be giving you foot and back rubs right, to cook dinner and god forbid I mention sex, surely that all merits him been treated to lousy sandwich and a drink?! Plus y'know all the hours he works in his dirty hard labour job probably been out all day in the rain or cold..just sayin ; )
FOR EVERY ONE ASKING WHY IS IT ABOUT WHAT MEN WANT, NOT WHAT WOMEN WANT.. IT'S REALLY ABOUT LEARNING IN FINDING YOURSELF, YOUR VALUE, BOUNDERIES, WHAT YOU CAN DO BETTER, WHAT YOU OFFER BECAUSE YOUR PARTNER IS YOUR MIRROR. BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE AND YOU'LL ATTRACT LIKEWISE.
I have found that there's a lot of men that don't like strong independent woman. And when I say I really need decompression time they don't get it. Cuz they can go from work to hanging out with a buddy when I get off work I just want to go home and be left alone for a little while. They're completely floored by that. And then I like being by myself sometimes there's plenty of things I can do to keep myself busy and from being bored LOL
This was so helpful, but I’m wondering about something. I went into my little relationship 23 years ago, and independent woman, very strong but also very kind, and very generous and he said about to destroy me piece by piece. Now I’m in the middle of a divorce, and I’m trying to figure out what happened. It seems like maybe he was a small minded man.Because the weirdest thing for me was that, why wouldn’t you want a strong woman on your side? Why wouldn’t you want someone who is independent who, if you lost your job suddenly for some reason, could support you or the family, while you figured out what you wanted to do next, why wouldn’t that be valuable to a man? I feel like I’ve been fucked up by probably the stupidest man in the world
Which means move on quickly. Se la vi. Sometimes we pick the wrong people. Sometimes we are the wrong people with them. One thing for sure, stay true to yourself. Don't let anyone take from you your strength, kindness and generosity. Those are awesome qualities. It may be that you pilfered them on the wrong person. But take them back for yourself. You don't have to give them up along with your marriage.
I'm sorry you went through this.. Just know that you're not alone.. It doesn't matter how Awesome of a woman you are. If you are with the WRONG man, he'll bring you down. RUN from bad matches and partners. And don't be fooled that men who view you as "too strong" would be much better with a "weaker" and less independent woman. Wrong. They want an easy, vulnerable and very soft-spoken woman with whom they would wipe the floor with and do what they want, destroy her life and psyche because they ENJOYY the torture. They enjoy seeing someone completely floored by them, they take pleasure in that.. BEWARE! As he said in the video, the Goal is to be a High Value woman. Best of Luck.
Dr Suarez I don’t think of him as a bad person He’s a lovely person. I fell in love with him over his art. He comes alive when he plays music. He’s a gorgeous man. But I think he lost interest in me when I refused to let him control my life. I started taking part of my life back and once he lost control over me he lost interest. He made it impossible to trust him. You can’t trust a moody, angry man. And Without trust,our relationship started breaking down. I finally gave up on him Cut my losses. I’ve had enough verbal abuse to last a lifetime. our love was incredibly beautiful for about the first decade. But he had no idea how to step outside himself and be with someone else. very sad, as the rewards for being in an intimate relationship with a woman are so great. many men are on the same path that he is. Selfish and self-centered to the end. When you get too old to start something new, you might regret the selfishness that kept you from experiencing the worlds most amazing thing. I wanted to be a grandma and grandpa with him. I wanted to be his Best friend for life. That’s worth something. I’m done with control freaks. I’m ready to be alone for as long as it takes until I find something real again
Why do we have to make them feel manly, they should already feel that way..!! That's like saying " they should make us feel confident " ..a women should already feel confident they might be lacking some but that's okay. But I do agree with praising and appreciating thing. You're basically thanking them but the thing is will they give you appreciation back when do something for them. Some men will not say " Thank you or I appreciate it/that " .....a thank you goes a long way w/some women. I hate when we have to pull that outta them. I truly hate it. I actually start a argument with them.
Y’all are taking this the wrong way. This video is about what men secretly like. If he’s a high quality man, he should respect you enough to give you the same treatment but that’s not the point of this video.
if a man truely loves u u will not need all dis to mk him attached to u a relationship is not a course u study gush i rather stay single dan go through dis hell
The Capricorn man that I spent nine years with was very generous and quiet. Having a conversation with him was like pulling teeth. I always felt like he was hiding something. He had been married in the past. His wife sadly died. From the few things that he shared about her, I felt like she was a diamond to him. I also felt that he never felt that way about me. Whenever he did get upset about something, he never made up first. He would stay angry abd not speak for days. If I went to him first, he would immediately say want to go out for doinner, just like nothing had happened. He also NEVER took responsibility for any of our misunderstandings. The last misunderstanding was too much for me. He didnt speak to me for almost two months. That is when I decided to leave. He was wasting too much of my life with his stupidity.
@@mrhollandsopus418 thank you for this. It's a long history here, and with time I'm getting better at reading his silence 🙃😌Its very difficult. I see your perspective we don't have any real issue, drama or struggle it's just the aloof ways. His demeanor could be more welcoming I need attention affection and words lol . We shall see 💔🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🌷😬
Men want a young beautiful girl. They care only about looks and will settle below what he wants if need be but if that young sweet thing crosses his path he will pounce.
@@allnotathome there are women that are not a all like you describe. I do believe there are people, men and women. that have mood disorders and age has nothing to do with it. Women work and are also tired after getting home to their second job taking of the family if there are kids. I think men and women need to rethink the ole school of marriage and go their own way. The idea of love, romance, Prince Charming, wedding day is a fantasy and a fairy tale with a unhappy ending. People need to get over these notions as believing in happy ever happy brings a lot of disappointment and unhappiness. Best to value yourself, live your life and avoid toxic people at all cost.
allnotathome I am 50 and I am certainly not bitchy. It maybe the way you are treating her that makes her upset and that becomes your reason to cheat . And most of those young girls are not because they need you financially? Not because they are attracted to you. Maybe you need to look at yourself before you blame her for being bitchy. My man is also 50 and he thinks he doesn’t deserve me because I take care of him and myself and when I get home tired, he rubs my feet and have dinner ready (usually take out) but I am very appreciative. So you need to check yourself before using us as your excuse to cheat,
@@allnotathome actually, now that women are financially independent, we've figured out younger men are better and more vigorous in bed and better than men over 35...stronger backs. Women have figured out that being single isnt so bad.
this one guy i was dating many years ago, his narcissistic brother in law started testing immediately. he asked me to do all the families dishes the first time i ever ate dinner with them. i thought it was a weird request, but i figured "well all families do things different and maybe they want me to be part of their family". nope, they did not want this. it was just a form of passive aggressive abuse, seeing how much they could walk all over me and what kind of weird shit they could get me to do for them. i think its common knowledge that you don't treat a guest like this the first time they ever come over to your house. always follow your intuition, because i didn't. i did their dishes for them... that moment on they knew they could talk shit about me and that i would just take all their bullshit and that they could gaslight me about it and call me a bad guest if i didn't serve them.
Ha I had a boyfriend and he invited to see his mum . His mother right away seeing me for first time said she hates Russians ( I am Easter European and have a tiny bit of Russian blood ) . After She was nice to me and showed me photos of herself and remembering times when she was young .... it was all about her ... anyways later I realized what kind of family it is . Glad I am out .
The first time I ever met my mother-in-law (MIL), she sat their with her daughter gossiping all about one of my husband's oldest school friends. The school friend had a fairly new girlfriend (of 1 year) that just had a baby... well the MIL went on and on and on and on about this girlfriend just being a gold digger and the rest of it. I was shocked to m core, because this was absolutely none of her business, it had no impact whatsoever on her life. And you guessed it - the MIL went on to make my life a living hell because she's a meddling old bitch. She spent years walking all over me and doing all she could to stress and intimidate me. I had to cut her out of my life and have zero relationship with her because she is so damn toxic.
You shouldn't have washed their dishes at all. The mother of my ex was a disrespectful piece of shit who used to challenge me every time. She would invite me for dinner and then try to get me to wash dishes and clean the house. She even spread rumours about me that I was desperate to marry her son when in fact he was the one always talking about marriage. When I moved out of the country from the Netherlands to London UK, he quickly came after me and moved as well. Everybody at that point knew he was doing the chasing and wanted to get married, lol.
@HR You must be an incel because you're waiting for the sex robot, lol. I could care less that a sex robot will be out soon for you creepy incels. Hopefully you weirdos will leave us women in peace when that sex robot hit the market.
I couldn’t imagine not thanking someone fir doing something for me! It’s called manners and common sense. I can honestly say I have been everything in this video my ex used to say he lived that I gently called him out but when he started acting like a player I was out. Engaged and all. I was apauled he could treat me like that and think he could get away with it. He stopped talking about and planning our wedding. I was devestaed. I sold my dress and dumped him. I tried to talk to him several times it’s not my nature to yell or be nasty, I was calm and I know my value. Too bad he didn’t.
You are so fortunate he showed himself to you before you were a couple years into the marriage and a baby on the way. One tends to put up with a lot more bs when they are consumed with caring for another life and exhausted. One will reason all the good and forget the bad, willful blindness when your family goes from 2 to 3 your choices get a bit more blurred.
My late ex couldn't stand my sassiness , he couldn't stand me standing up for myself !!! He was a narssicistic butthole !!! Im telling you he hated my self respect !!!!
We're not taught to be open about our emotions???? we're told we overreact and are over emotional and borderline neurotic. Men laugh at us. I'm so fortunate I don't have to be anything but who I am with my wonderful husband. I don't have to play games. I've been married for 30 years. Not always been easy but always been developing and growing. This encourages us to believe it's all about doing the right thing for him. It's about doing the right thing for both in the relationship. This doesn't encourage men to grow up.
I am in love with someone's mind. I don't love him but his mind blew me. I can listen to him talk about anything all day. I just miss his mind. I just love his mind. What is this? Please, help me.
Hi Legacy! :) I guess it could be one of a few things. But one that comes to mind is this: . It could be kind of like a natural love. The mind is a part of the natural world, and there's something really beautiful about exceptional parts of the natural world -- the moon, huge mountains, volcanic lakes, cheetah's running, etc. The human mind is one of the most exceptional parts of the natural world due to its intricacy, capacities, etc. And, if this guy's mind is really exceptional even among minds, it may be the sort of thing that you find stunningly beautiful and love. Sort of like someone who falls in love with a beautiful lake and wants to spend time there, fishing, camping, etc. . Romantic love for a person includes love for _the whole person_. So, loving just the mind while not loving the person seems completely reasonable to me. You may find a person physically unattractive, his scent unpleasant, or his behavior strange and erratic, etc. These sorts of things can make it hard to 'love' them romantically. But you can still love the mind of that person. In fact, even the the beauty of that mind may be the sort of thing that prevents you from loving them romantically. If you find the mind so amazing that the person is intimidating, or if that person's exceptional mind renders them sort of emotionally oblivious and awkward, etc., then the same mind that you love may be a powerful reason for not wanting a relationship with the person. . :) Really interesting question. I'm glad you asked it! Blessings!
Seriously ,, from my own experiences I know that men LOVE it when you can flirt a little . They love it when you can pay them a few compliments. DONT BE AFRAID TO TELL THEM THEY LOOK GREAT ! They'll lap this up ! . And LISTEN to them with interest . They need someone who they can really talk to .. .
I was always taught to play hard to get and be attractive but cold around them . But it's the opposite .Be attractive yes , but be friendly and warm too .
This guy has some good points but I feel like these videos are how relationships go if the world was perfect. Real life is messy-what happens when you meet an incredibly sensitive and wonderful man but has behavioral issues because his dad was an abusive alcoholic or there's a woman who is very attractive and intelligent but finds relationships difficult because she's been raped. There's some helpful things here but also a little simp.
My man who is now my ex hated when I made the first move - after five years of this I was never allowed to touch him, How do you think that made me feel? It made me feel he was cheating on me because his job was a long haul truck driver. It made me feel he was getting it on the road because he didn't want me. I couldn't initiate the wild side he said it made me look bad for wanting to be intimate with him so I got tired of waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting and when I did try and touch him. He rejected me and made me feel bad for wanting to be intimate with him. I was lucky to see him once a week because of his job. I got tired of getting rejected over and over and over again. I kicked him out of the house.
This man says we have to CALL A MAN OUT! So in other words babysit ! I guess we often hear they have to make the first move .. Pressure to be the man but have no role models okay so, now I have to stroke ego, encourage, be thankful... make him feel manly .. but yet I have to live without no appreciation .. That’s life sometimes there’s no appreciation I understand that! Okay I give C - I prefer to be alone because men just aren’t interested in really dating anymore unless a woman is 18 - 25 so, I Pass on trying
Men do not want dumb bimbos. But they want to have the better career, earn more money and generally be the dominant part. And most women want a man to be like that.
My husband controls me in everyway.even sitting in the car I can't look left or right I'm not aloud to smile or laugh. Basically I should not have any feelings at all I am so scared that I'm actually typing this while I'm crying.
I don't really know what a "high quality" man is. I think quality is in the eye of the beholder. To me high quality is a man that goes to work , is kind and acts like an adult, has good values and tells the truth.
Women who is beautiful independent and self sufficient will choose to stay alone ....... cause nobody independent likes a waste fellow who can't provide family financial support without her... because men can't multitask..
Not true. Why do businesses make partnerships. Its not because they are struggling by themselves? Its because they realize with a partner you can get something more thanwhat you can do by yourselves. Its not about him supporting you but about two people supporting eachother.
@Saad Bin Masud Why u think she has to do sth in return? Man did nothing good to ANY woman but yet they say they want things from her. But gives nothing in return. Dont believe me? Probably your mother cooked 4 u, washed your clothes etc. and how many times did u say ,, thank u,, to her? Not to mention gave her sth ,,in return,, ( using your own words). You men think its we, woman who needs to do ,,sth,, in return or to ,,deserve,, to be loved or treated right but.... Reality is... Its the woman who can give birth, not Man so u better dont make us angry. Otherwise its game over for entire humanity. And if u dont like it? I dont care. Im just saying how REALITY looks.
Wow, lots of negitive comments here surprises me. These are great points for us girls. I love the advise and think they are spot on with the guy I'm seeing. Number one is a very good reminder for me. It's hard to stand up for myself and say I dont feel treated properly because I'm afraid of walking away from a great relationship. But on a couple of occasions this guy had me waiting for him and I was upset. I do express that I'm upset but I dont call off the date.. we live 4.5 hrs from each other so I can understand some lateness, but this guy would be more than an hour late without a call.. not acceptable.
This man says we have to CALL A MAN OUT! So in other words babysit ! I guess we often hear they have to make the first move .. Pressure to be the man but have no role models okay so, now I have to stroke ego, encourage, be thankful... make him feel manly .. but yet I have to live without no appreciation .. That’s life sometimes there’s no appreciation I understand that! Okay I give the video C - I prefer to be alone because men just aren’t interested in really dating anymore unless a woman is 18 - 25 so, I Pass on trying.
In my experience I have found quite the opposite to the wanting a 'Queen' theory, being strong minded and career driven seems to have emasculated my past partners. I would have to agree with some of the comments below, it's not a doting wife that men seem to want but a replacement mother, unconditional love on tap as and when it pleases, with ways and means to support an often volatile ego without taking up any challenging emotional space. Unfortunately I have never been up to the task , part of my issue is i'd like to be and the failure to do so often manifests in displaced resentment and an inability to recognise or vocalise my needs or wants.
My experience also. First point is to be a Queen. Then later states for you to act like you can't even climb up a ladder. I can understand thanking him for doing something to help you but acting like you can't do it yourself is ridiculous. The story about the man that was upset that the woman didn't like the color of the desk and took it to mean he didn't think he did a good job ridiculous. Sick of these infantile men.
I have spent too much of my life just trying to give women what they say they want. But it took me way too long to figure out the large gap between what they say they want and what they really want. But then I came to realize that men really don't say what they want either. Us men will say something like I want a quiet mousy woman who is totally passive and just never challenges us. This is not what we really want. Yes we want to be the King, the head of the house. But we want a woman with some spunk, sense of humor, confidence, able to articulate what she wants or just how she feels or sees things. Someone with an outgoing personality. I'm not saying someone pushy or bossy. But rather someone somewhat extroverted and smart and fully alive. Who can call us out when it is needed but do it in a respectful way.
This is perfect. I have been an anti-feminist for years. No wonder guys don't know what the heck to do when women mistreat them constantly. Good video... :)
i couldn't listen to this. Although I get it that this may be accurate in like 2/50 cases, all I kept hearing this guy say (hidden underneath what i actually heard him saying) was...." you may be in a relationship with a Narcissist." ........... To the woman and men, if you believe this guy as he's talking about men wanting their partners to look at them, or make them feel like, a king (or with woman wanting to be their queen), may I suggest reading up on Narcissistic traits/beliefs/relationships and so on. i only say this through experience. I prefer to listen and learn with DR. RAMANI. I apologise if I have offended some people, that was not my intention,
You're right Deena, male or female, narcissists are who we need to look out for. My attractions are different since I married and ultimately was divorced by a narcissist. So I am guilty of being taken in by one. Now I can see them coming a mile away! Keep your chin up, there are a lot of normal men and women out there that aren't still single dating experts.
U say men like a woman who expect n demands respect I've bn doing thatfor 15 years n men don't like that in my experience they all like the subsurvient yes girl who takes their crap n disrespect n expect physical relations from date 1 when u don't even know the guy. It can't be coincidence or just bad luck most men in all these years don't care about self respect or a straightforward honest woman just robots yes girls who they date n marry. Not trying to be negative bit I've seen it again n again.
Some weak men feel stronger by having a woman serve them and take their abuse, usually spending her money, while hiding theirs. These kinds of men have found their ideal woman, although they treat her like crap. Trouble is they come off as so sweet, and we do what we can to keep them happy. Easier to get into this mess, than to get out of it.
True reality here, I had two men that I met on an online dating site we spoke on and off however, both eventually, gave me their phone number while in convo on the dating site.. one saying, I'd like us to get to know each other better sending me his number because I definitely, was not going to send my number floating around on a dating site; the other one also, did thee exact same thing saying here's my number... you can call me anytime. I recorded (both) numbers in my phone and text each one saying, here's my number..when time permits give me a call. I'm old school🏫 I don't do the pursuing; if they both initially came across as (being interested) when I texted them back my number, for (them to call me...) and they both did not, that immediately signal out a 'Red Flag' that both were full of it.
These are all just principles for any human being to practice... gratitude, respect, supporting each other & behaving like a decent friend, manners... y'know? All these principles are listed in the bible for all ppl to aim to model, & it gives men & women different assignments... men LOVE your wives, women RESPECT ur husbands... Why? Coz men understand respect but struggle with love & women understand love but struggle with respect. And women need love and men need respect... Good human relations advice for anyone i think...
I wish i could give you 1 million likes for this video. Thank you so so much for giving us these honest opinions and information, so we can have better relationship with our partners. Thank you so much.
I really don't think women should have to be the perfect woman for any man. All this means is the woman doesn't get to be herself while she figures out how to please her man, Woman are tired of that. If there is any such thing as real love, then both partners have to be real and love each other for who they are, good, bad, and the ugly. I don't think a woman should be a sex goddess for any man. It doesn't sound spontaneous or real.
I totally agree with you. When the woman is always coddling a man, he comes to expect it and waits for it. Love is an adult game and both people need to enter it with maturity.
How ya like the part stroke his Ego and answer the door naked! Sorry. I’m Not a sex tool! How about men don’t even wanna go out on dates anymore I get asked out about once every 10 years, and I consider myself Attractive. I honestly will just be alone because that seems to be less aggravating!
It’s impossible for women to be perfect for any man because all human beings are flawed. That said, it’s not bad to cater to a loving, respectful, and appreciative man who meets your needs. You don’t want to be a sex goddess, you want to be a love goddess.
If a man thinks he needs being satisfied he must know that lots of men are out there . Ladies keep change your man .. get fresh new one for your enjoyment. Life is all about you because it is only your life ... you deserve to be happy. Remember man can not make you happy. Why would you go to make him happy?
Just have to put this for both men, women (or i guess whichever you class yourself as) reading. Regardless of what others think or you I hope you know how precious you are, and I really hope the dating scene doesn't cause you to undermine that you are more than enough, just as you are now.
The only really true and very valuable advice for women on youtube! I was amazed how much what you said fits with what I observed in my life. Congrats!!!
Wow, you said, "Men often condition women to receive LESS than she Deserves !" Shocking manipulation... Long term abuse and control over a woman in relationships ! How desperately SAD 😭
Thank You for your videos, you are a complete gentleman, and your wife is awesome for pushing you to coach, Godbless!!! Always! Looking forward to more videos!👍👍👍
Coming from a dooting house wife I know some men want a woman who is needy ! Let me explain some men not all men want to feel needed they want to be your knight in shining armor . They love to feel needed like they can fix everything .Iam a woman married for almost 30 years and my husband loves to be my knight in shining armor.I do agree with almost everything in this video but just thought I would add my 2 cents 🌝
This is ALL common sense if a woman really wants a man! IF he’s the cheating type it doesn’t matter how a woman treats him or “builds that emotional bridge!” This info that you are charging for, only desperate women that think it’s the only way they can get a man will be your buyers which I’m sure you already know this! Ladies, this guy talks a good game, but we are women & we don’t need someone telling us what we should do & not do! We know exactly what men want & need IF we are a real woman & not a girl. Although now days that is what these quality men want, a young girl that could be the age of his daughter! We have to look the best we can to attract the right kind of man & then we have to compete w the young gold-diggers wanting a sugar-daddy. A man wants a strong independent woman & a submissive woman that lets him have his tantrums & to do whatever he wants! The only reason a man would want a woman to leave if he did something she didn’t like is so “he” wouldn’t have to break it off w her & blame her for the relationship not working out. True love is hard to find as we get older toward middle age if not impossible. That’s just reality unless a person has no standards. Ladies don’t waste your money on this.
What do you think high-quality men REALLY want? Let's discuss in the comments!
Real women, trust seekers
Attract Great Guys Thank you for sharing your experience when you met your wife you were working in a cubicle & she encouraged you to do this!!! ♥️♥️ Quality material, thank you!
independent but not dominating
caring but not interfering
nick smith Well, SHE definitely wants sex too!
I think a lot of people forget that feminine energy is sexuality.
The right hemisphere or feminine energy is creativity, emotion, spirituality and sexuality.
The left hemisphere or masculine energy is structure, arithmetic, reason, and ego.
If we look back at matriarchal history, there’s evidence of this everywhere.
Let's start by what you mean by 'high quality man'
1 higher standards no immaturity
2 inner warrior
3 respect and lift up
4 appreciate and ego
5 his own space
And i will also write down what most women want:
1 to be Loved, respected, and appreciated
2 Protected physically and emotionally
3 Provided
4 Loyal to her (she's your only Queen)
5 Commitment
2nd Priority to urself
for women, 4 and 5 are the same.. 2 and 3 are the same. I'd do:
1. To be loved, respected and appreciated
2. To feel protected physically, emotionally and financially
3. To be truly admired for something: compassion, business skills, art, beauty, etc
4. To be listened to and obeyed by her man, yes. She wants to know she has power over her man and can influence him, she wants to have a say.
5. To be challenged and dominated by her man, yes. A man that always follows what she says is weak, she wants to have power over him but she yearns someone strong enough to put her in her place when is needed. She will probably have bad and unstable days, she NEEDS a rock to rely on or to be humbled by.
@@anagomes4422 yes That's true
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Speak for yourself personally I don't really care about being provided for, nor do I want a parasite expecting me to do all the housework I pride myself in self sufficiency and being grounded I just need companionship, genuine friendship, someone to explore life with but mostly a person that doesn't restrict me from reaching my full potential in life and accomplishing my goals (I'm willing to offer the same) I'm not necessarily a fan of codependency in relationships too much of it isn't healthy
I am happy you stated "high quality men". Men need to start coaching other men to be high quality. A man can marry you and not have high standards but is drawn to the woman because she's a leader with high standards. Getting a ring is the least. Men need to be taught how to treat women. Most men cant handle queens.
Queen: I'm all of these, getting a commitment and even talking about the future, building a life was never my problem. I was raised by a queen, whose happily married for 20 years now. My brother was raised by a King, treats his partner as a lady should be treated.
And lets not forget there are "high quality" women. Women should start coaching other women how to be high quality. A woman can marry you and not have high standards but is drawn to the man because he's a leader with high standards. Women need to be taught how to treat men. Most women cant handle kings. Too much immaturity, self centeredness and feminazi BS.
Wow...true
I agree
Men cant handle real Queens...
@@gr8-fun162 Always one dude that reverses the comment aimed towards men on a video about high quality men. Most women CAN handle kings. That's why theres so many single independent women nowadays. Not enough kings for the queens out there.
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I chose high quality cat over men. I am very happy now
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What i am in the process of doing.
🥰😂😂😂love it but at same time that's what's important for toy right now while your healing or working towards self goals. Stay you. Stay strong
Am single and I love it! Relationships are hard, a lot of work and effort goes into it and sometimes all for nothing! Some still end up cheating, divorced.
I was ready to just be single after my divorce. Was so ready to just focus on my kids and get another cat. Then love found me. Still going strong after 5 years! I'm not that young anymore. Never give up!
Just play their games right back. Use them and lose them :)
So true!!!!
Agree! It's also dangerous to invest too much into a relationship when you're highly ambitious in other ways only to find the guy wants kids and you don't or he is happy with mediocrity but you want to be a multimillionaire power couple . You could have put that energy into your goals and other things that won't leave you. Made the mistake before and never again. Even if eternally single - at least ill have the lifestyle I want more than anything or anyone. ✌
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After 40 years of marriage, I'm thinking that all men are just game players and when old, want a mother. Happy to be single now after his passing. Freedom!
Aaaaaaaah...you wicked....
Amen sister!! Well said!
All men are game players unless there’s one that don’t & he must be under a rock!! When I’ve went by these rules I wasn’t appreciated! The man got the big head thinking I cared more than I actually did (loved him more than anything) in other words it just made him cocky! When I have acted as if I didn’t care, didn’t make them feel special or important, they treated me like a queen! The true part of the video is that men do love a challenge therefore it’s always a game & who plays it the best! Don’t kid yourself either....looks matter to a man, always!!
oh my goodness,these men make us mean
Very wicked saying.
It's worth noting that with the WRONG man, even if you actually DO all of that (which is great advice by the way), he will not transform into someone worth forming a healthy relationship with. I've experienced this beforehand. I found myself that I was doing MOST of the things mentioned in this video (not all, but most), yet he was still distant and a "jerk". Choose your partner wisely, then invest in your relationship accordingly. Good luck ladies! And thank you for posting this video :)
@Sara E I totally agree.
From experience as well
That's where self-respect comes in. Knowing your worth, not tolerating the BS, and showing him the door when it comes to that. I've had to do this a few times, which freed up the opportunity to find the one I ended up marrying.
The reason he was being distant and a jerk was because as men we've been led to believe that's one of the ways to need to keep you interested and not wander off silly as it sounds. Plus you'll never change a guy, why in God's name are you always trying to change men, this goes on and on. Men go into relationships hoping they won't change women the opposite it's seen time and time again. Trust issues just seem to persist between us.
@@jaymcd8577 Usually the men nagging how women are trying to change them, are the mama's boys who refuse to grow up and adapt, because it's just easier to stay in the comfort zone and wait for good things to happen to them. Your habits and behaviours are not who you are, but what you choose to repeat, this should be subject to change, if you're mature enough to see what's not doing you any good in the long run. Trust issues persist because people get stuck in the past and act out of fear and insecurity. The evolutionary role of females is to adapt faster and anticipate change (which is constant and inevitable like gravity, so why fear it?), to drive progress and encourage competition among men, so the species can survive and evolve. That is the reason why women are naturally picky and demanding improvement. It's not because we are all irrational cruel bitches, boys. Everyone, man or woman, has flaws, and the only way up is to be open to change. Not easy, but worth it.
Sara E Same experiences here.
There's an old saying when training horses - "reward the try.'" every time they make an attempt to respond to the ask, a little reward is given. Doesn't take long before things click. I think the same thing goes for people/men. A "thank you" or peck on the cheek, bringing a cup of coffee, little things but huge in showing appreciation.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx Kindness begets kindness. "Reward the try" simply means to appreciate an effort. The appreciation of a kind word,, a chore done, etc. (and I don't mean a material gift, this is above that), should be everyday behavior. I have friends married 28 years, and it's a pleasure to be around them. All because they appreciate the little (and big) things they do for each other, from making coffee to remodeling the bathroom! Nowadays, many people don't know how to respond to, or show kindness. It has to be taught. We DO teach others how to treat us, define boundaries, express needs and desires, but not by manipulation. That implies selfishness. Kindness implies selflessness. And that's what love is about.
smith totally agrees with you.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx no, not manipulation. It's teaching how you want to be treated. I can either dig in the spurs, or give loving pats. The ultimate goal is to create NOT a push-button machine, but a relationship. And trust me, those critters have big personalities, and they don't change - but you adapt to create the relationship. It's not changing a person, I know better than that. But I will definitely set boundaries in a relationship, and that is done with respect and kindness. I'm sorry my point isn't getting through. It sounds like someone really put you through the wringer.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx I don't understand you. Do you say "yes, please" or "thank you?". Or is being kind considered manipulation in your book? The ultimate goal is the relationship thriving. That means both benefit. Manipulation is where only one benefits, and not for long. Relationship growth is done with respect, kindness, boundaries. No dating coach told me this. It comes from 59 years on this Rock, and lots of bumps and bruises along the way. What's wrong with being kind, with responding in a sweet way when someone does something? It makes them feel good as well. That's neither control nor manipulation. And I never "manipulated" my horses. I'm really sorry you can't see kindness for what it is.
@@fromflabtofourteener9596 To summarize: show appreciation.
What I want in a man
One who is sensitive , empathetic , respectful, and kind.
A man who is honest, and is willing and able to work on dissolving
conflicts and to keep growing.
Someone who is intelligent and has a good sense of humour
A man who loves children and animals
A man who is moral, loyal and who has good manners.
Does not exist
This really works out for me
I got my ex back to me within 48hours
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1. Sense of humor
2. Thoughtful
3. Sense of understanding
4. Adventure
5. Positive attitude
What really confuses me is this: Men want an INDEPENDENT woman, but also want to feel needed and 'protect' her - so...which one is it?
They want one that is willing to take care of thier needs is caring and motherly but wont allow themselves to be disrespected.
A good balance of both
Sort out your own life, and I will be there with love and support if I feel you are worth the time. That's what it means.
They DONT want an independent woman that’s a lie they just don’t want an incompetent woman
What do you mean by independent? It's quite a vague term. Like, financially ? No matter how independent you are, you're gonna need protection when walking at night and a criminal comes up to you (man or woman)
While i'm watching this i realized that i already know all of that , no one told me those informations but just by observing my parents together 💙
You are lucky then.
You're awesome Roua! :)
I haven't even watched the Video to the end. But, as a man, I feel the obligation to make something crystal clear.
There is absolutely nothing that men "secretly" want from women.
Here is what we want:
- being treated decently (as human beings, just like you expect us to treat you from the beginning on; *with respect* )
- sex (before any commitments it is)
Why? Because most men don't yet feel ready and need some time to get into something more serious (relationships rely on trust and both partners need to get to know each other better first)
and last but not least
- be honest ( *no mindgames* , no matter how difficult that seems.)
If a man likes a woman in a certain way and he has the option, he will be straight forward and honest with her about his motives, so she knows what's going on. Please, try the same. Who knows and maybe you (girls) will be quite successfull.
That's it.
Maybe it does not apply to everyone ever, but I guess it does to most people and (especially) men.
Btw. There is a gigantic difference between MEN and manlets, because the latter are full of shit. 💩
So beware of them.
P.d. independance is important to have (for both genders it is)
You know, it makes life generally (including dating/hooking up) easier and therefore more enjoyable.
That would be all for today.
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what should the woman do when a man and woman have been married for awhile and the man starts to get complacent (not complimenting her, not making plans for dates, not doing the things he did in the beginning of the relationship)?
@@Mereship she has 3 options:
1. She does those things for him and wins him over (and convices him to do the same for her by doing so)
2. She yells at him (or confronts him anyhow) about it, but only after trying the polite/civilized way at first
3. She leaves him for good and tries a new one (even if not immediately)
Yes, in this particular order
Btw. women also get complacent (possibly more so but feel free to correct me if I am wrong)
However, if a relationship goes for long enough, then prople get used to each other, and over time get bored easily and therefore need to find creative solutions about it anyway.
I can give you a sixth "thing": occasionally, when both of you are sitting on a couch, put his head on your lap, caress his hair and tell him that you are proud of him. It's very likely no one has ever done this to him. Expect a smile and a couple of tears.
I'm married for 10years now, and what you share in this video are all true.👌👌
Being a man here is what I think..
Point no 1. That's actually true. Never thought that way. Thanks for teaching women what we men want. It's really essential.
2. Spot on! Spot on!
Why do we have to be told over and over what men want so we can satisfy them , so they can want us. Men should grow up and stop playing the stupid game.
Dela Obimpe right on!
You should understand what they want if you want to build a good relationship. Of course, he should be learning how to please you as well.
I love ur comment, i thought as much. I will be myself and haunt no one ....i single and happy ...
Dela Obimpe I agreed
There are videos about men treating women right. You just have to search for them. We are looking at these because we are women. I think the men are looking at the ones telling them how to treat us.
Women need space too!! 🎯💫😃🌟
What are the five things women desire in a relationship? Don't be one sided always, we give men respect but we receive betrayals
"A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings".
So please spend time to love yourself and build yourself so the right guys will follow
Dido
Beautifully said Amen!
Wonderful saying thank you.
This is so enlightening.....am starting to like these sessions.
Caution* Don’t do any of these with a narcissistic man,you will be drained of your efforts and it still won’t be good enough.
Never invest more than you are willing to lose . I am married for close to 34 years to the same man. It's not all about what men want. its what works in the season's of your relationship ever changing and growing and you have to apply your mind , communicate and respect goes both ways.
As a man, I already know the first one is not entirely true, ambition is surely attractive, but not all guys will prefer this. Some men prefer to have a housewife. As long as both of the partners are equals in the relationship, it doesn't matter. This topic is completely subjective, not objective. Don't be fooled into thinking that all men are the same.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash.
Fax
there will be no one left 😅
Also let me add that just because men weren’t raised to articulate their emotions properly doesn’t mean they haven’t had plenty of time to learn. That’s a poor excuse. Some kids are raised by parents who never teach them about health, education, manners, or sobriety even.,... but at one point kids become young adults, who then learn about taking responsibility, whether their parents raised them to be responsible or not. Most of us eventually learn that we can’t keep blaming what we don’t currently know on our parents... especially NOW with the luxury of free education literally at our fingertips, there’s REALLY no excuse, at least for most of us..
Look - women could be saying the same nonsense, and say that because their parents didn’t raise them to embrace their sexuality, let alone so liberally, then they shouldn’t be expected to be by the men they’re dating... but THAT wouldn’t fly with men.
If a man is able to go online or attend a seminar on how to pick up and seduce women, the he can just as easily learn to articulate his feelings.
It would be a different argument altogether if men have never heard about women wanting them to articulate their emotions... Does anyone know a man in their life who’s never once heard that women desire emotional transparency and reciprocity?!? No.
One could argue that if a man hasn’t taken it upon himself to not only learn about what women desire but also what they need from him and other men, then it’s likely he doesn’t care enough to, and that’s probably a fact that many women are in denial about accepting.
I say, if your man says “nothing” when you ask him what he’s thinking find a man with basic communication skills. Because he didn’t have to be perfect to be able to convey his thoughts or feelings.. I dated a guy who was 23 at the time and he had no issues whatsoever with crying in front of me and telling me how he felt at any given moment. It’s not rocket science..
Wow thank you for being so articulate! We just need more women that have self respect and value who they are and stop thinking that they need a man vs wanting a man and looking for the qualities for a healthy mentally stable relationship. I have an ex-boyfriend who blamed his parents for the way he turned out as an adult. I told him the first step is in acknowledging that and you have two choices you can either continue to play the victim and make everybody pay which is very narcissistic or you can put your big boy pants on and she used to be a mentally emotionally stable adult and get some therapy. He chose to continue to be the victim.
Women do not want men to articulate their emotions. The moment he shows to many weaknesses, she loses attraction.
What happened with your relationship to that guy?
@@dagda3000 It's both true and false. In the beginning women want men to appear strong and dependable so showing weakness is a bad move, including being too emotional. But later on it is healthier to show some emotion in order to bond with your partner. Not all emotions show weakness either, if you are in difficulty and show that emotionally but then you work to overcome it it actually shows strength and women will respect you more. It's only if you do nothing but sit around and mope and complain that women (or honestly anyone) will lose respect for you.
Wise words, sister, good points.
What are the five things women desire in a relationship? Don't be one sided always, we give men respect but we receive betrayals
Such as..?
We woman want love, trust, honesty , respect, be spoiled now and then be ourselves, want our men to be always there for us
And men who give women respect don't get betrayed? Don't be one sided.....
He is speaking to women to help them, not to men to help them, for context. You're right: sometimes women are doing all the right stuff, but are still betrayed. Does that sound like a quality man? No. Who we choose makes a big difference in how far our efforts go. This coach has many other great videos. I have been following him for awhile and have taken a lot of his advice. I am now in the ONLY truly great relationship I've ever had and his advice checks out. I know you've been disappointed, but watch his other videos and really keep an open mind. One thing he repeats a lot is something I needed to hear: I deserve a quality man. He has excellent advice on how to tell the difference, and once you've found him, how to put in the right effort that will help you boost your partner's self esteem AND reinforce positive, loving behavior that you need and want. Hang in there, woman! You will find someone quality!
@@princessunicorn4321 No you don't. Not in general. W0men in general divorce men that give them love, trust, honesty and are "always there", because w0men don't respect such men.
Doting housewives are bringing more to the table. A man that thinks less of a woman that cleans the kitchen and cooks his dinner is a loser!
I'd add, a woman IS the table. What does that man bring to YOU? This is the mindset women need to start adopting instead of burning the candle at both ends (wanting to be a good housewife, plan on having kids, AND working our asses off to have a full time career.....No way). All that work is 80/20 for a woman who cannot rest in her femininity and will never be taken care of. The MAN needs to be the one putting in more effort.
So, a lot of the comments sound like people expressing some frustration over the inequalities that exist between men getting their needs met and women getting theirs met. I feel that this video was not designed to exacerbate that, but really to contemplate that dynamic. Why is it men have their needs met more than women as a whole? Men will straight up ask for more and they don't always over deliver. This video was filmed to let everyone in on what goes through a man's head and he delivered the information honestly, meaning he didn't hold back the truth because he's afraid how women would take it. I appreciate the honesty and have learned that when I swallow what felt like my pride and opened up to my spouse and appreciated and respected him, what I got back from him made it all totally worth it. He started treating me like his queen and made successful efforts to live up to the respect and appreciation I was giving him. Today, he literally lives to support and make me happy. I and our daughters are his entire life and as long as I continue to put him in his "king" chair he will continue to put me in my queen and goddess throne. I know to us women some of the things he said make us cringe, but if we can let go of what we make those things mean and treat him like the king we want to be married to, he will give back 10 fold what we put in. I went from working toward a separation with my spouse to being more in love with him than I ever thought I could be. Literally, all he wants is to serve me perfectly because when he succeeds at that it makes him feel like a real man, strong and capable. When he feels strong and capable he actually becomes those things, so it's a feedback loop that's addicting and amazing and wonderful. I had to get past the resentment of, "why am I the one that has to learn how he works." On the other side of that resentment is total happiness with your partner. On the other side of that is also him reaching to understand you too. In fact that's what he's been trying to do the whole time. We just didn't see it.
Disclaimer: This is all contingent on him being a healthy masculine man.
Why is it always about what MEN want. What about what WOMEN want and need.
Because this is a channel that explores understanding what men really want. Search for "dating advice for men" and you'll find a ton of channels dedicated to understanding women.
mr hollands opus Why dont you search for a video about what WOMEN want?
@@ImRyll hi thanks. I did and I am learning quite a bit. Thank you
@@mrhollandsopus418 Thank you for being so curious. It gives me hope if you are a man.
Acyuallyy,
There isn't a Ton of channels dedicated to means needs.
There is one he s called CHAZZ ELLIS.
He Tells it all.CHAZZ tells things that Men would never admit to.
Check out CHAZZ Ellis on You Tube.
He s great.
By the way I've been practicing those rules for years and they've got me absolutely nowhere. So I don't know what I'm doing wrong
Maybe not puting enough energy on your own life, goals or personal development and focusimg to much on geting validatiom by man. I dont know... I have no idea. Just ocured me maybe you are trying to hard, and forgeting about first starting on you, on your own happiness, to then be able to share it.
There are some good points but you first have to find that quality man that you want to put forth the effort and hopefully they will reciprocate. So far there have been zilch zero nada that I would go out of my way for.
Yes exactly for a genuine man. A match up is the issue
Well the your dating the wrong men
@Cindy Lou with holding sex from guys is worse. Sex to us tells us you like us it breaks down the barriers, from there we're open to further bonding. I know some guys just want sex, but that's up to you to be able to get know the guy well enough before hand on a few dates or whatever to know what his intentions are, but once you've given him the signs that your seriously into him do not I repeat do not dangle him on a hook, or he'll walk. We have feelings too.
@Cindy Lou and can I just add to that, I'm sorry I'm just gonna be a straight up guy about this. Say he ends up not being into you...you still got laid? I try to understand that sex is different for you ladies, I genuinely do, and I have to say I'm firmly convinced that the average woman can get more action that the average guy, so what's the problem here in a way? You're still getting laid..and that is how a guy thinks about it..because for a lot've average guys...news flash...we don't get it that often..contrary to popular belief, the guy who isn't like the latest hunk you drool over are invisible to you gals and don't see action for months even years on end, so when we get some..yay us!! and that further still sounds like you're typical nice guy right? not a player..so I return the question to you..are you perhaps being too picky, ignoring the 'nice guys' and going for the good looking jerks who just want to shag you and run leaving you with hurt feelings?..you know what i'm getting at here and you know I'm right..I await your response
and they say ‘women’ play games, lol
So true...women lay it all out for men. They’re the ones who can’t communicate, which they’re known for.
LINDA CAMARA men are the masters of psychological projection
Hahaha this makes me laugh
pk pk I once rejected a guy in high school, and he spread with his friends the rumor that the reason why I never had a bf, is because I’m a lesbian, while I’m 100%. I wasn’t just ready to date but he kept telling everyone that I’m gay, ( nothing against gay peoples but my school was conservative, so it wasn’t a good thing) and everytime i talk with a girl he would whisper to his friend’s ears things like siccoring, or lesbo kisses. I never gave a fuck about it, but the rumor was so wide that a teacher believed that! No girl was a part of this rumor, most of them even defended me.
😀yeAh!
I love this coach he is so classy
Who needs a high Quality’s and attractive man and work hard to keep him happy. NEVER...
Build yourself lady’s don’t rely on anyone .
Ladies* you do not need an apostrophe unless it owns something.
Amen!!! I wish more women felt that way
But some type of weak man lately love to rely on woman financial help to pay bills or even for a hamburguer..but when they should help her they say woman want money. Ridiculous...
Exactly.
Over my dead body
@Tb Tb Spoken like a true spinster. LOL
My ex wanted a strong women until the strong women disagreed with him. Lol
Men want strong women because she does what he could or should do, less work for him.
jane beerverhausen I’ve said this for ever, they love spunk and sass until they are on the receiving end lol
@Yvonne Terran I don't want to be rude, but I read some of your answers and it feels like you came from a time machine set in 1960. What is that thing about the beer and the sandwich that you post? I don't want to be a mom for a men and I don't expect he become my dad, I want an adult who respect me as an equal.
there's a difference between being strong and disagreeable in a relationship no?
@@susanyeadon6657 Noting wrong with a little sass, but if you're both going to act the man in the relationship, then it's no longer a relationship. What if he was to constantly act 'feminine' toward you, how would you be attracted to him then?
@Ms. Elite exactly, but hey it's ok for the guy to be giving you foot and back rubs right, to cook dinner and god forbid I mention sex, surely that all merits him been treated to lousy sandwich and a drink?! Plus y'know all the hours he works in his dirty hard labour job probably been out all day in the rain or cold..just sayin ; )
FOR EVERY ONE ASKING WHY IS IT ABOUT WHAT MEN WANT, NOT WHAT WOMEN WANT.. IT'S REALLY ABOUT LEARNING IN FINDING YOURSELF, YOUR VALUE, BOUNDERIES, WHAT YOU CAN DO BETTER, WHAT YOU OFFER BECAUSE YOUR PARTNER IS YOUR MIRROR. BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE AND YOU'LL ATTRACT LIKEWISE.
Is it just me who loves hearing about and seeing his family?☺️ so cute
It's simple: respect and fairness, no manipulation
I have found that there's a lot of men that don't like strong independent woman. And when I say I really need decompression time they don't get it. Cuz they can go from work to hanging out with a buddy when I get off work I just want to go home and be left alone for a little while. They're completely floored by that. And then I like being by myself sometimes there's plenty of things I can do to keep myself busy and from being bored LOL
This was so helpful, but I’m wondering about something. I went into my little relationship 23 years ago, and independent woman, very strong but also very kind, and very generous and he said about to destroy me piece by piece. Now I’m in the middle of a divorce, and I’m trying to figure out what happened. It seems like maybe he was a small minded man.Because the weirdest thing for me was that, why wouldn’t you want a strong woman on your side? Why wouldn’t you want someone who is independent who, if you lost your job suddenly for some reason, could support you or the family, while you figured out what you wanted to do next, why wouldn’t that be valuable to a man? I feel like I’ve been fucked up by probably the stupidest man in the world
Which means move on quickly. Se la vi. Sometimes we pick the wrong people. Sometimes we are the wrong people with them. One thing for sure, stay true to yourself. Don't let anyone take from you your strength, kindness and generosity. Those are awesome qualities. It may be that you pilfered them on the wrong person. But take them back for yourself. You don't have to give them up along with your marriage.
I'm sorry you went through this.. Just know that you're not alone.. It doesn't matter how Awesome of a woman you are. If you are with the WRONG man, he'll bring you down. RUN from bad matches and partners. And don't be fooled that men who view you as "too strong" would be much better with a "weaker" and less independent woman. Wrong. They want an easy, vulnerable and very soft-spoken woman with whom they would wipe the floor with and do what they want, destroy her life and psyche because they ENJOYY the torture. They enjoy seeing someone completely floored by them, they take pleasure in that.. BEWARE! As he said in the video, the Goal is to be a High Value woman. Best of Luck.
Men are intimidated by strong women, but claim that's what they want
Dr Suarez I don’t think of him as a bad person He’s a lovely person. I fell in love with him over his art. He comes alive when he plays music. He’s a gorgeous man.
But I think he lost interest in me when I refused to let him control my life. I started taking part of my life back and once he lost control over me he lost interest. He made it impossible to trust him. You can’t trust a moody, angry man. And Without trust,our relationship started breaking down. I finally gave up on him Cut my losses. I’ve had enough verbal abuse to last a lifetime. our love was incredibly beautiful for about the first decade. But he had no idea how to step outside himself and be with someone else. very sad, as the rewards for being in an intimate relationship with a woman are so great. many men are on the same path that he is. Selfish and self-centered to the end. When you get too old to start something new, you might regret the selfishness that kept you from experiencing the worlds most amazing thing. I wanted to be a grandma and grandpa with him. I wanted to be his Best friend for life. That’s worth something. I’m done with control freaks. I’m ready to be alone for as long as it takes until I find something real again
Emma, have a look at covert narcissists. You would be surprised. May be he was one of them.
Why do we have to make them feel manly, they should already feel that way..!! That's like saying " they should make us feel confident "
..a women should already feel confident they might be lacking some but that's okay. But I do agree with praising and appreciating thing. You're basically thanking them but the thing is will they give you appreciation back when do something for them. Some men will not say " Thank you or I appreciate it/that " .....a thank you goes a long way w/some women. I hate when we have to pull that outta them. I truly hate it. I actually start a argument with them.
Y’all are taking this the wrong way. This video is about what men secretly like. If he’s a high quality man, he should respect you enough to give you the same treatment but that’s not the point of this video.
Women want for men..are....loyal...respect...honest....thoughtful...faithful...care equals = love♡♡♡
Thank you so much. I'm going to call my boyfriend now and break up with him.
😅😅 you go girl...!
What the f!! How come this is having an adverse effect on u?😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
@Linda Henderson, you are the best. 🤣
if a man truely loves u
u will not need all dis to mk him attached to u a relationship is not a course u study gush i rather stay single dan go through dis hell
Capricorn man never opens up. They are stubborn but extremely sensitive and patient. I love him so much. 💖💖💖I wish I could understand him better.
This comment got me terrified af.
I know I am Capricorn.
The Capricorn man that I spent nine years with was very generous and quiet. Having a conversation with him was like pulling teeth. I always felt like he was hiding something. He had been married in the past. His wife sadly died. From the few things that he shared about her, I felt like she was a diamond to him. I also felt that he never felt that way about me. Whenever he did get upset about something, he never made up first. He would stay angry abd not speak for days. If I went to him first, he would immediately say want to go out for doinner, just like nothing had happened. He also NEVER took responsibility for any of our misunderstandings. The last misunderstanding was too much for me. He didnt speak to me for almost two months. That is when I decided to leave. He was wasting too much of my life with his stupidity.
@@mrhollandsopus418 thank you for this. It's a long history here, and with time I'm getting better at reading his silence 🙃😌Its very difficult. I see your perspective we don't have any real issue, drama or struggle it's just the aloof ways. His demeanor could be more welcoming I need attention affection and words lol . We shall see 💔🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🌷😬
Men want a young beautiful girl. They care only about looks and will settle below what he wants if need be but if that young sweet thing crosses his path he will pounce.
@@allnotathome there are women that are not a all like you describe. I do believe there are people, men and women. that have mood disorders and age has nothing to do with it. Women work and are also tired after getting home to their second job taking of the family if there are kids. I think men and women need to rethink the ole school of marriage and go their own way. The idea of love, romance, Prince Charming, wedding day is a fantasy and a fairy tale with a unhappy ending. People need to get over these notions as believing in happy ever happy brings a lot of disappointment and unhappiness. Best to value yourself, live your life and avoid toxic people at all cost.
@@allnotathome Touche :)
allnotathome I am 50 and I am certainly not bitchy. It maybe the way you are treating her that makes her upset and that becomes your reason to cheat . And most of those young girls are not because they need you financially? Not because they are attracted to you. Maybe you need to look at yourself before you blame her for being bitchy. My man is also 50
and he thinks he doesn’t deserve me because I take care of him and myself and when I get home tired, he rubs my feet and have dinner ready (usually take out) but I am very appreciative. So you need to check yourself before using us as your excuse to cheat,
allnotathome who hurt you sweetie?
@@allnotathome actually, now that women are financially independent, we've figured out younger men are better and more vigorous in bed and better than men over 35...stronger backs. Women have figured out that being single isnt so bad.
Honestly this is some of the best, most intelligent advice about men I've ever seen. Well done!
Colette Fackrell,hope you are with a better man!
this one guy i was dating many years ago, his narcissistic brother in law started testing immediately. he asked me to do all the families dishes the first time i ever ate dinner with them. i thought it was a weird request, but i figured "well all families do things different and maybe they want me to be part of their family". nope, they did not want this. it was just a form of passive aggressive abuse, seeing how much they could walk all over me and what kind of weird shit they could get me to do for them. i think its common knowledge that you don't treat a guest like this the first time they ever come over to your house. always follow your intuition, because i didn't. i did their dishes for them... that moment on they knew they could talk shit about me and that i would just take all their bullshit and that they could gaslight me about it and call me a bad guest if i didn't serve them.
Ha I had a boyfriend and he invited to see his mum . His mother right away seeing me for first time said she hates Russians ( I am Easter European and have a tiny bit of Russian blood ) . After She was nice to me and showed me photos of herself and remembering times when she was young .... it was all about her ... anyways later I realized what kind of family it is . Glad I am out .
The first time I ever met my mother-in-law (MIL), she sat their with her daughter gossiping all about one of my husband's oldest school friends. The school friend had a fairly new girlfriend (of 1 year) that just had a baby... well the MIL went on and on and on and on about this girlfriend just being a gold digger and the rest of it. I was shocked to m core, because this was absolutely none of her business, it had no impact whatsoever on her life.
And you guessed it - the MIL went on to make my life a living hell because she's a meddling old bitch. She spent years walking all over me and doing all she could to stress and intimidate me. I had to cut her out of my life and have zero relationship with her because she is so damn toxic.
@HR hello incel.
You shouldn't have washed their dishes at all. The mother of my ex was a disrespectful piece of shit who used to challenge me every time. She would invite me for dinner and then try to get me to wash dishes and clean the house. She even spread rumours about me that I was desperate to marry her son when in fact he was the one always talking about marriage. When I moved out of the country from the Netherlands to London UK, he quickly came after me and moved as well. Everybody at that point knew he was doing the chasing and wanted to get married, lol.
@HR You must be an incel because you're waiting for the sex robot, lol. I could care less that a sex robot will be out soon for you creepy incels. Hopefully you weirdos will leave us women in peace when that sex robot hit the market.
I couldn’t imagine not thanking someone fir doing something for me! It’s called manners and common sense. I can honestly say I have been everything in this video my ex used to say he lived that I gently called him out but when he started acting like a player I was out. Engaged and all. I was apauled he could treat me like that and think he could get away with it. He stopped talking about and planning our wedding. I was devestaed. I sold my dress and dumped him. I tried to talk to him several times it’s not my nature to yell or be nasty, I was calm and I know my value. Too bad he didn’t.
Yea we have to value ourselves. Thank you for sharing and valuing yourself. I am going through similarities to you right now.
You are so fortunate he showed himself to you before you were a couple years into the marriage and a baby on the way. One tends to put up with a lot more bs when they are consumed with caring for another life and exhausted. One will reason all the good and forget the bad, willful blindness when your family goes from 2 to 3 your choices get a bit more blurred.
My late ex couldn't stand my sassiness , he couldn't stand me standing up for myself !!! He was a narssicistic butthole !!! Im telling you he hated my self respect !!!!
Are you sure _you_ weren't the narcissist in that relationship?
If I can bring something to the table...why do I need a man?I rather be alone and have fun dating many man🤣
Agreed 🤣🤣🤣🤣
We're not taught to be open about our emotions???? we're told we overreact and are over emotional and borderline neurotic. Men laugh at us. I'm so fortunate I don't have to be anything but who I am with my wonderful husband. I don't have to play games. I've been married for 30 years. Not always been easy but always been developing and growing.
This encourages us to believe it's all about doing the right thing for him. It's about doing the right thing for both in the relationship. This doesn't encourage men to grow up.
Would LOVE more videos on how we as women can be our best selves and how to improve self-confidence/-esteem
I am in love with someone's mind. I don't love him but his mind blew me.
I can listen to him talk about anything all day. I just miss his mind. I just love his mind.
What is this? Please, help me.
Hi Legacy! :) I guess it could be one of a few things. But one that comes to mind is this:
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It could be kind of like a natural love. The mind is a part of the natural world, and there's something really beautiful about exceptional parts of the natural world -- the moon, huge mountains, volcanic lakes, cheetah's running, etc. The human mind is one of the most exceptional parts of the natural world due to its intricacy, capacities, etc. And, if this guy's mind is really exceptional even among minds, it may be the sort of thing that you find stunningly beautiful and love. Sort of like someone who falls in love with a beautiful lake and wants to spend time there, fishing, camping, etc.
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Romantic love for a person includes love for _the whole person_. So, loving just the mind while not loving the person seems completely reasonable to me. You may find a person physically unattractive, his scent unpleasant, or his behavior strange and erratic, etc. These sorts of things can make it hard to 'love' them romantically. But you can still love the mind of that person. In fact, even the the beauty of that mind may be the sort of thing that prevents you from loving them romantically. If you find the mind so amazing that the person is intimidating, or if that person's exceptional mind renders them sort of emotionally oblivious and awkward, etc., then the same mind that you love may be a powerful reason for not wanting a relationship with the person.
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:) Really interesting question. I'm glad you asked it! Blessings!
I’m impressed. Why is this such an uncomfortable topic for most? It goes both ways so You’ve nailed it!
Seriously ,, from my own experiences I know that men LOVE it when you can flirt a little . They love it when you can pay them a few compliments. DONT BE AFRAID TO TELL THEM THEY LOOK GREAT ! They'll lap this up ! .
And LISTEN to them with interest . They need someone who they can really talk to .. .
I was always taught to play hard to get and be attractive but cold around them . But it's the opposite .Be attractive yes , but be friendly and warm too .
"Try something different"
Me: Googles viking helm and viking warrior costumes
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This guy has some good points but I feel like these videos are how relationships go if the world was perfect. Real life is messy-what happens when you meet an incredibly sensitive and wonderful man but has behavioral issues because his dad was an abusive alcoholic or there's a woman who is very attractive and intelligent but finds relationships difficult because she's been raped. There's some helpful things here but also a little simp.
Yall need therapy.
Lmaooo you had me at “nothing” I’ve never understood why a man says he’s thinking about nothing
My man who is now my ex hated when I made the first move - after five years of this I was never allowed to touch him, How do you think that made me feel? It made me feel he was cheating on me because his job was a long haul truck driver. It made me feel he was getting it on the road because he didn't want me. I couldn't initiate the wild side he said it made me look bad for wanting to be intimate with him so I got tired of waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting and when I did try and touch him. He rejected me and made me feel bad for wanting to be intimate with him. I was lucky to see him once a week because of his job. I got tired of getting rejected over and over and over again. I kicked him out of the house.
I'm a guy. He was a dick. He's gone. Don't change because of him, you sounds great to me!
I just recently found your channel and love it! You are so easy to listen to thank you so glad that I found your Channel and subscribed.
Are you sure that men are looking for an equal partner? I am not totally sure of that 🤔
Genuine men are that are mature and intelligent
@@mrp8173 never met one lol
@@mrp8173 yes, you are right😊
This man says we have to
CALL A MAN OUT!
So in other words babysit !
I guess we often hear they have to make the first move ..
Pressure to be the man but have no role models okay so, now I have to stroke ego, encourage, be thankful... make him feel manly .. but yet
I have to live without no appreciation ..
That’s life sometimes there’s no appreciation I understand that!
Okay I give C -
I prefer to be alone because men just aren’t interested in really dating anymore unless a woman is 18 - 25 so, I Pass on trying
Men do not want dumb bimbos. But they want to have the better career, earn more money and generally be the dominant part. And most women want a man to be like that.
My husband controls me in everyway.even sitting in the car I can't look left or right
I'm not aloud to smile or laugh.
Basically I should not have any feelings at all
I am so scared that I'm actually typing this while I'm crying.
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@@kathkeplerberry8621 but my husband is always right
No one can change him . He won't listen to anyone.
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Thank you Jason, this is great! I sent this to my guy and I am sure he will love this when he watches it!
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I don't really know what a "high quality" man is. I think quality is in the eye of the beholder. To me high quality is a man that goes to work , is kind and acts like an adult, has good values and tells the truth.
Women who is beautiful independent and self sufficient will choose to stay alone ....... cause nobody independent likes a waste fellow who can't provide family financial support without her... because men can't multitask..
@Biggus Dickus- You don't think the man should provide some financial support for wife and children. She just made her point.
Not true. Why do businesses make partnerships. Its not because they are struggling by themselves? Its because they realize with a partner you can get something more thanwhat you can do by yourselves. Its not about him supporting you but about two people supporting eachother.
U got the point girl.
@Saad Bin Masud Why u think she has to do sth in return? Man did nothing good to ANY woman but yet they say they want things from her. But gives nothing in return. Dont believe me? Probably your mother cooked 4 u, washed your clothes etc. and how many times did u say ,, thank u,, to her? Not to mention gave her sth ,,in return,, ( using your own words). You men think its we, woman who needs to do ,,sth,, in return or to ,,deserve,, to be loved or treated right but.... Reality is... Its the woman who can give birth, not Man so u better dont make us angry. Otherwise its game over for entire humanity. And if u dont like it? I dont care. Im just saying how REALITY looks.
This man speaks the truth! He went through all the obstacles to get his queen.
Thanks for the reminder that high quality men need time for themselves. Great video overall too.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash.
Kristel Walton,you got a pretty smile ☺️😍🤙
Wow, lots of negitive comments here surprises me. These are great points for us girls. I love the advise and think they are spot on with the guy I'm seeing. Number one is a very good reminder for me. It's hard to stand up for myself and say I dont feel treated properly because I'm afraid of walking away from a great relationship. But on a couple of occasions this guy had me waiting for him and I was upset. I do express that I'm upset but I dont call off the date.. we live 4.5 hrs from each other so I can understand some lateness, but this guy would be more than an hour late without a call.. not acceptable.
He's a rude person. Beware!
This man says we have to
CALL A MAN OUT!
So in other words babysit !
I guess we often hear they have to make the first move ..
Pressure to be the man but have no role models okay so, now I have to stroke ego, encourage, be thankful... make him feel manly .. but yet
I have to live without no appreciation ..
That’s life sometimes there’s no appreciation I understand that!
Okay I give the video C -
I prefer to be alone because men just aren’t interested in really dating anymore unless a woman is 18 - 25 so, I Pass on trying.
HS you go girl! The way I feel at the moment it's just too damm draining to be around a man at times.peace and love 💛
My new boyfriend supports me working on my GED and tells me if I put my mind to my GED I could pass my test
In my experience I have found quite the opposite to the wanting a 'Queen' theory, being strong minded and career driven seems to have emasculated my past partners. I would have to agree with some of the comments below, it's not a doting wife that men seem to want but a replacement mother, unconditional love on tap as and when it pleases, with ways and means to support an often volatile ego without taking up any challenging emotional space. Unfortunately I have never been up to the task , part of my issue is i'd like to be and the failure to do so often manifests in displaced resentment and an inability to recognise or vocalise my needs or wants.
My experience also. First point is to be a Queen. Then later states for you to act like you can't even climb up a ladder. I can understand thanking him for doing something to help you but acting like you can't do it yourself is ridiculous. The story about the man that was upset that the woman didn't like the color of the desk and took it to mean he didn't think he did a good job ridiculous. Sick of these infantile men.
How come I never see these types of vids addressing to men about what women want and need? Why is it all on us yo fix men? We're not their shrink!
Easy, just watch some video's on dating advice for men. It's just as ridiculous. :)
I have spent too much of my life just trying to give women what they say they want. But it took me way too long to figure out the large gap between what they say they want and what they really want. But then I came to realize that men really don't say what they want either. Us men will say something like I want a quiet mousy woman who is totally passive and just never challenges us. This is not what we really want. Yes we want to be the King, the head of the house. But we want a woman with some spunk, sense of humor, confidence, able to articulate what she wants or just how she feels or sees things. Someone with an outgoing personality. I'm not saying someone pushy or bossy. But rather someone somewhat extroverted and smart and fully alive. Who can call us out when it is needed but do it in a respectful way.
@Jack Walker
Beautifully balanced. Spot on.
I thank you for sharing!
Namaste
I don't know but for me these 5 are more like what I secretly want from my man 😞😞😞
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I have been married to two men who says I was too independent!
Great video, Jason! You make really solid, well thought out points. Really resonated with me!
This is perfect. I have been an anti-feminist for years. No wonder guys don't know what the heck to do when women mistreat them constantly. Good video... :)
i couldn't listen to this. Although I get it that this may be accurate in like 2/50 cases, all I kept hearing this guy say (hidden underneath what i actually heard him saying) was...." you may be in a relationship with a Narcissist." ........... To the woman and men, if you believe this guy as he's talking about men wanting their partners to look at them, or make them feel like, a king (or with woman wanting to be their queen), may I suggest reading up on Narcissistic traits/beliefs/relationships and so on. i only say this through experience. I prefer to listen and learn with DR. RAMANI. I apologise if I have offended some people, that was not my intention,
You're right Deena, male or female, narcissists are who we need to look out for. My attractions are different since I married and ultimately was divorced by a narcissist. So I am guilty of being taken in by one. Now I can see them coming a mile away! Keep your chin up, there are a lot of normal men and women out there that aren't still single dating experts.
Never apologize for 'offending' people. If they feel offended, they deserved it.
Yes a strong woman needs her king and treat him with respect and appreciation and patience treat each other with love and respect loyalty.thanks
Thank You so much for this...now I know some of the things to do already I knew some.....You a genius Jason
How about what I want ?
Jason, I always like listening to your advice. You are a true expert on relationships.
I think the same could be said for me (a female) in terms of wanting someone who will call me out when I’m not being my best
U say men like a woman who expect n demands respect I've bn doing thatfor 15 years n men don't like that in my experience they all like the subsurvient yes girl who takes their crap n disrespect n expect physical relations from date 1 when u don't even know the guy. It can't be coincidence or just bad luck most men in all these years don't care about self respect or a straightforward honest woman just robots yes girls who they date n marry. Not trying to be negative bit I've seen it again n again.
Nailed It!!! 👊
Some weak men feel stronger by having a woman serve them and take their abuse, usually spending her money, while hiding theirs. These kinds of men have found their ideal woman, although they treat her like crap. Trouble is they come off as so sweet, and we do what we can to keep them happy. Easier to get into this mess, than to get out of it.
3,4,5 are really important to me
This is pure gold, Jason. I LOVE IT!!! ♥️♥️♥️
True reality here,
I had two men that I met on an online dating site we spoke on and off however, both eventually, gave me their phone number while in convo on the dating site..
one saying, I'd like us to get to know each other better sending me his number because I definitely, was not going to send my number floating around on a dating site;
the other one also,
did thee exact same thing saying here's my number...
you can call me anytime.
I recorded (both) numbers in my phone and text each one saying,
here's my number..when time permits give me a call.
I'm old school🏫 I don't
do the pursuing; if they both initially came across as
(being interested) when I texted
them back my number, for
(them to call me...) and they both did not, that immediately signal out a 'Red Flag' that both were full of it.
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These are all just principles for any human being to practice... gratitude, respect, supporting each other & behaving like a decent friend, manners... y'know?
All these principles are listed in the bible for all ppl to aim to model, & it gives men & women different assignments... men LOVE your wives, women RESPECT ur husbands...
Why? Coz men understand respect but struggle with love & women understand love but struggle with respect. And women need love and men need respect...
Good human relations advice for anyone i think...
I wish i could give you 1 million likes for this video. Thank you so so much for giving us these honest opinions and information, so we can have better relationship with our partners. Thank you so much.
I really don't think women should have to be the perfect woman for any man. All this means is the woman doesn't get to be herself while she figures out how to please her man, Woman are tired of that. If there is any such thing as real love, then both partners have to be real and love each other for who they are, good, bad, and the ugly. I don't think a woman should be a sex goddess for any man. It doesn't sound spontaneous or real.
I totally agree with you. When the woman is always coddling a man, he comes to expect it and waits for it. Love is an adult game and both people need to enter it with maturity.
How ya like the part stroke his Ego and answer the door naked!
Sorry. I’m Not a sex tool!
How about men don’t even wanna go out on dates anymore
I get asked out about once every 10 years, and I consider myself Attractive. I honestly will just be alone because that seems to be less aggravating!
It’s impossible for women to be perfect for any man because all human beings are flawed. That said, it’s not bad to cater to a loving, respectful, and appreciative man who meets your needs. You don’t want to be a sex goddess, you want to be a love goddess.
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You are a good woman Ellie, I'm with you on this. :) Most of the dating advice by experts who are probably still single isn't real.
If a man thinks he needs being satisfied he must know that lots of men are out there . Ladies keep change your man .. get fresh new one for your enjoyment. Life is all about you because it is only your life ... you deserve to be happy. Remember man can not make you happy. Why would you go to make him happy?
Just have to put this for both men, women (or i guess whichever you class yourself as) reading. Regardless of what others think or you I hope you know how precious you are, and I really hope the dating scene doesn't cause you to undermine that you are more than enough, just as you are now.
The only really true and very valuable advice for women on youtube! I was amazed how much what you said fits with what I observed in my life. Congrats!!!
A relationship, maybe I want that! Sounds romantic!
*watches this video*
Nevermind.
This video tells me ..U love your wife so much!😇 In every point u remember n appreciate her .. keep it up thats so nice❤👏👍
Wow, you said, "Men often condition women to receive LESS than she Deserves !" Shocking manipulation... Long term abuse and control over a woman in relationships ! How desperately SAD 😭
That's the only option to avoid divorce though. Since divorce results in loss of 50%+ of a man's wealth, yes, manipulation is needed.
Thank You for your videos, you are a complete gentleman, and your wife is awesome for pushing you to coach, Godbless!!! Always! Looking forward to more videos!👍👍👍
this makes me want to become a lesbian
Better learn how to munch some carpet of you'll get dumped by a lesbian as well. LOL
😂😂😂😂 agreed!
Hahaha I love your point
Jude: My thoughts too XD
They aren't any better either! They love playing games too lol better to be a nun or wait on Jesus
Coming from a dooting house wife I know some men want a woman who is needy ! Let me explain some men not all men want to feel needed they want to be your knight in shining armor . They love to feel needed like they can fix everything .Iam a woman married for almost 30 years and my husband loves to be my knight in shining armor.I do agree with almost everything in this video but just thought I would add my 2 cents 🌝
This is ALL common sense if a woman really wants a man! IF he’s the cheating type it doesn’t matter how a woman treats him or “builds that emotional bridge!” This info that you are charging for, only desperate women that think it’s the only way they can get a man will be your buyers which I’m sure you already know this! Ladies, this guy talks a good game, but we are women & we don’t need someone telling us what we should do & not do! We know exactly what men want & need IF we are a real woman & not a girl. Although now days that is what these quality men want, a young girl that could be the age of his daughter! We have to look the best we can to attract the right kind of man & then we have to compete w the young gold-diggers wanting a sugar-daddy. A man wants a strong independent woman & a submissive woman that lets him have his tantrums & to do whatever he wants! The only reason a man would want a woman to leave if he did something she didn’t like is so “he” wouldn’t have to break it off w her & blame her for the relationship not working out. True love is hard to find as we get older toward middle age if not impossible. That’s just reality unless a person has no standards. Ladies don’t waste your money on this.
Then don't give him a reason to cheat, and don't stay with men that cheat. Easy.